Never try too hard to make people like you. In fact, it doesn't matter if people like you or not. Be your best self and you'll attract the best people for you. This is the power of authenticity.
a summary: 1. you spend too much time together; you may end up neglecting other important relationships and your own individuality 2. you lack an openness to new experiences; may keep you in rigid structures 3. lack of open communication 4. you lie to keep the peace; no emotional intimacy without honesty 5. you run away from fights; conflicts show that you can be honest and open with each other, when handled healthily and respectfully 6. passive aggressiveness; shows emotional immaturity 7. nagging or criticism; shows lack of support and freedom 8. you're no longer affectionate; neglects your and your partner's needs
@Ur Step Daddy You're one out of how many? People need to time to theirselves to take care of their mental, hobbies, other relationships, etc. It should be a gift to meet with your significant other not a given.
I love commentors who summarize the video points so I don't have to watch the entire video.......especially when they comment early so the list is at the top! 😎
I had sort of a “wow” moment for myself recently. I thought my relationship was having bumps because of my boyfriend, but I now believe I’m the one causing more problems for myself, for him, and for the relationship. So I want to do my best to be better. Watching this video helps!
Did u know why? If its not to personal. I hope that I might learn something because I fear that so much! Thinking it's the other but not seeing it's myself
@@TheSowfii If gleamer is anything like me, I find myself with this traits and I'm 100% sure it's because of the toxic relationships I stayed in. Honestly, I think if a date insults you in anyway, thats not the right partner. My husband has insulted me once in my life and never did it again after I told him not to. Only one insult from him in the entire four years I've known him. I could lose count with how many insults I had from my exes. That's just my experience. Emotional abuse causes bad traits, traumas legit rewire brains. Sad.
@@mir4138 thanks for sharing and responding! I’ve had some ups and downs relationship but also great a lot of the time. But yeah that can create some bad patterns that you gotta unwire. It can be difficult to unlearn and see about urself! Since my comment I actually had a really healthy relationship. He thought me a lot!
Try to avoid it, routine isn't exciting, if you don't communicate honestly, resentment from jealously, emotional immaturity, if there is no respect, expect to ruin any relationship 💥💲🚩✅
My man and I have been together over 2 years now, and I can agree that doing the same things over and over again can cause a strain in the relationship. Because of this, we make sure to keep things spontaneous. Of course there's always the mundane school/work/gym life, but we choose different study areas, nature walks, beaches, foods, trips, etc. even if it means a longer drive, because at the end it's worth it! You're gonna want to remember all the cool experiences you and your partner have, not all the times you've sat in a car together not knowing what to do. So all in all, make sure you keep the spark alive! Recognize your bad habit patterns! Don't always expect your partner to know what to do. Speak your feelings, and if they don't recognize, then that person just isn't for you.
Yeah is good to speak your feelings and changing the pattern but what if ur partner is not in support of the pattern changing and u really what it to change so badly or what it takes to change the pattern requires money and u don't have how can the change be possible and doing it in ur own little possible way you can still no support from the partner how can it change then 😊
This is amazing advice. I am in an LDR and due to covid its just going on LDR longer than we initially thought, we still are pretty keen on going ahead and this helps me to remember to keep it fun as much as I can even under the sorta 'indefinite' circumstances
Great Video Psych2go do you have a video about involuntary celibacy. I am nearly 30 and all women have rejected me since. So I never experience Love or a relationship. I am lonely all the time. I feel there is no support for people like me.
@@musiclover162702 Not really since in online dating you dont recive the answer obviously. In Real Life I got the generic anserws like you are not my type... Also never a woman showed interest in me.
Wow. I just realised I nag and critisize my partner. More than he ever did. I'll try to be more relaxed for him. These videos are so great for self reflections.
HERE! Psych2go do you have a video about involuntary celibacy. I am nearly 30 and all women have rejected me since. So I never experience Love or a relationship. I am lonely all the time. I feel there is no support for people like me.
@@dr.strangelove5320 He wants a girlfriend you idiot. I hate this dismissive bullshit, guy is opening up about his true situation and feelings and all you can come up with is some stupid empty cliches?
I strongly agree. “You spend too much time together.” We're not in relationship, hmm kinda, a long way to go. But it happened to us. We spend too much time that instead of being an inspiration to achieve our goals, we became a distraction to each other. Overtime our conversations went spontaneous slowly losing interest. I relate to half of relationship behaviors here too but thats all I wanted to mention. I've lost her. I think I'm the one who failed to maintain the relationship not realizing these behaviors mentioned in your video are actually the reasons why it ended that way. Thank you so much for this video, it helped a lot! Watching this type of videos really helps us realize things and be prepared next time.
Fun fact: for friendship as well. I feel like I'm loosing someone because of our actions. They're passive aggressive, and I'm aways running away from fights. Anyways, I can't stand this friendship anymore it's been a while already.
I want to end a friendship, which has turned toxic, but I just can't. I've been their friend for 8 years and it seems so hard to say goodbye, but its draining me emotionally
LEAVE THE FRIENDSHIP AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!! this is only gonna get worse if you dont. ive been in your shoes and leaving was the best decision i could make. i hope everything gets better :)
I lied and lied, never spoke my mind, took my relationship for granted and kept doing the same things over and over with her. It crushed the attraction and someone who was head over heels in love with me ended up falling out of love. That said it takes two to tango. Emotional maturity and honesty is the core to a healthy and happy dynamic.
Been married for 22 years, he’s my best friend and I his, and only spend time together, playing video games, watching tv, fun times ☺️, hike/walk etc, unless he has to work. We’ve never been more in love than we are now, so take #1 with some thought *if* it’s harmful, cuz it may not be ❤️
@@catlemasters9037 Dude, she says they're happy....there's nothing wrong with enjoying themselves. Not every couple works the same and that "rule" doesn't apply to every single couple ever
I completely agree with you. Me and my partner absolutely love spending time together, and we have never been happier in our lives. We cook together, we watch tv together, play games together ... exercise together, and everything. It's so relaxing and endearing, knowing that you have a forever best friend, team mate, lover that you can share all the wonderful moments in life together with.
One of the things that ended my parents' relationship was the lack of affection. I don't think I saw them hug, kiss, or even heard them say they loved each other for the last five years before they broke up. I told my partner about that and we have had a lot of conversations about needs and wants that have really helped us both grow. It's amazing what you can learn from just watching the good and not so good from your parents and choosing to do what is best for you and your partner gets so much easier after you have a few talks about needs.
Thank you so much for showing up in my feed. I've just realised that I've been experiencing narcissistic abuse by an ex friend. You've helped my health so much. I honestly can't thank you enough, you're a gift from the heavens.
Sad part is when things end up going so very well, then to slowly just die down at the end. Saddest part is when it ends suddenly & makes you think if the relationship even meant anything to the other person. I had wished we worked it out together, but it just wasn't reciprocated. A few failures I've done was not engage in all arguments/fights. I just brushed it off because I didn't want to fight & make things worse, but I learned it's something that's quite a regular in relationships. Mentally, I was getting put down a lot & was misunderstood from the things I said that twisted the outcome. One advice I would give to people is to make sure the other partner is on the same page with you. Get to know each other sides of the story or else one is left with their conclusion. But one thing is if it starts to mentally hurt you, then don't stick around. It affects me still to this day (almost 2 years), and it changed my viewpoint on men & afraid to be in a relationship again. I still get thoughts of love for my ex-boyfriend, and I would think I would heal after a year but it's surely a challenge to get healed. It surely affects my friendships & relationships with my family members, but it teaches me to not fall deeply in love without getting to know the person deep down & if they are committed to be your one & only. Do not take the steps I did. It's very hard to be the person I once was.
Never, ever betray a confidence that your partner has shared with you. Remember: Trust can take years to build, but only seconds to destroy. Once you betray someone's trust, you will probably never get it back. At best, you'll have a limited, conditional trust. And that relationship is unlikely to endure.
This is also important in friendships AND familial relationships. Relationships aren't just romantic, so these tips can be applied in any place where you share a bond with someone :)
I broke up with my boyfriend like 3 weeks ago but I really regret it. I just felt really bad because I felt like I had to do 90 % of the work in the relationship. I kept on asking him if everything is okay or if something is wrong etc. But in the end I would be the one who had to do almost everything. It hurts that he's gone
Same here Psych2go do you have a video about involuntary celibacy. I am nearly 30 and all women have rejected me since. So I never experience Love or a relationship. I am lonely all the time. I feel there is no support for people like me.
I did a lot of these in a relationship where I thought I'd marry her. I would lie to avoid fights. And was passive aggressive. I am difficult but am working on it. Gotta forgive myself for my mistakes.
Even thought I’m not in a relationship right now, some of these things can also go to platonic relationships: with friends and family. I actually developed a toxic relationship with my mom and she always makes sure that she’s the one in charge and criticizes me to the point where I feel like every decision I make on my own is a mistake. Please, please, please do not allow people to hurt you this bad. Of course I have said mean things to her too and I’m trying to hold in my anger(I have anger issues), but it’s hard when you’re living with a person that tries to control your every move and judges more than critiques your look, what you do, what you think...I’m tired of her and this quarantine time together has made it worse😔
so sorry to hear that. It hurts the most when sb you love criticizes you. Have you tried telling her how you feel calmly, when you are not angry or fighting? You could say her comments are hurtful and that she could sometimes try to say positive things about you, for a change
you can still take time apart, for example going on walks alone, doing hobbies in different rooms, visting friends and family (if you dont have restrictions)..stuff like that
Watching these videos helps a little but I can't shake the feeling of not deserving love. I have a lot of issues and it's why I feel that way. Thinking about love scares me and makes me depressed. It seems better to be alone.
I’ve learned so much with all these channel’s videos on toxic relationships I was actually able to spot many on mine and communicate my concern with my partner, because of all the patterns that called my attention. He got defensive, blamed it all on me, dismissed everything I said as something ridiculous and is now giving me the silent treatment relying on that he needs to heal all the damage I’ve caused him. After I spoke about manipulation he deduced it wasn’t something he did, but something I was an expert at. No... this relationship won’t go far. As hard as it is and will be, I’m thankful. Thanks Psych2go, I think you really might’ve saved me.
You'll bump into your person. You might already have been around him and seen him. But when the time is right he will be there. But for now you should focus on what you want by what's making you feel good and happy plus brings you somewhere in life ^^
These videos are great material to know how love works. We have to pass tests in every area of life: school, driving licence,... but not when it comes to the most important one: love. Everyone thinks love is just an instinct, but it's not. Love is a decision to hold on a person and to work on onesself. This is hard stuff. Everyone should prepare for that.
oh my...Girl... I wanna thank you for this video, because it showed me that I was the one who cared about the person and I was the one who tried.. my relationship ended 4 days ago and I felt like a crap, because he was telling me that I want a lot of things or I'm the one who messes up. All I wanted was a little attention and I got nearly none of that. So I want to thank you very much for this video, because I relized I was doing my best and I'm not the worst...love you
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem >>>!!
It's been 5 months and I truly hope u're feeling better now :) I'm in the same situation you were, I did everything I could to show him how much I was willing to try, to change, to show how much I love him. He broke up with me 2 weeks ago and told me, only then, that I deserve better but it still hurts and I miss him a lot
My husband and I are currently having all these problems. And it's scary to tell him how i feel most of the time because i don't want to nag or anything. I honestly feel like he's already checked out of the relationship, but is just "trying" because of our daughter. He'd rather spend time with his friends. He says it's not the case, but i have a hard time believing him. And it hurts a lot trying to figure this out to where i lose sleep. I've been giving him space to be himself, but i honestly feel he wants to leave me, but doesn't want to leave because of our daughter
Timeline Summary 1.You spend too much time together----00:38 2. You lack openness to experience----1:07 3. You lack open communication----1:36 4. You lie to keep the peace----2:07 5. You run away from fights----2:35 6. You act passive aggressive----3:03 7. You nag and criticize-----3:32 8. You're no longer affectionate----3:57 Watch the full video for more details👍👍👍👍
I moved to another country for my relationship and I often resent my partner for the distance between my family and friends as well as the struggles of loneliness in a foreign country where I cannot communicate with everyone or hold the same social status I could in my home country. Also, spending too much time together (also due to lockdowns) made us a bit rigid and unmotivated to go places. However, we have worked on that. We plan camping trips, date nights, and BBQs with friends and family. My biggest thing will be working on my own mental health in a place where I am a foreigner who is far from my parents/ siblings and childhood friends.
Lack of affection from my wife, nagging, criticizing, demeaning, insulting, and her being unfaithful have all been things that I have suffered through in my relationship. I have only recently come to realize that our 21 year marriage has been mostly toxic and that my physical and mental health and happiness have suffered tremendously over the years. I tried to forgive the affair, thinking that we could work it out. I am no longer sure of that. She has been very nice and polite lately because I have been very distant and cold. However, I know that if I give in, it will be just a matter of time before she goes back to her ways. Debating whether to stay for the sake of the kids, who also notice the verbal abuse I go through and the lack of affection, or if I should just stick a fork in it.
next month on 11th would be our first 1 year anniversarry. all i can say is i'm so grateful for both of us, so thankful that i found him. we've been through so much together but still manage to stay and fight for our relationship. it's all because we both love each other so much. plus this is actually our first time of being in a comitted relationship ❤️❤️❤️
The first 6 behaviors were present in one or both of us at the end of my previous long-term relationship... We were so young and didn't have the emotional intelligence to look deep enough within ourselves to come out and fix our problems. It took a long time to let go but now I see what was wrong, and it wasn't just one of us but both were to blame for the slow decline. Just glad I was able to learn from it.
this was actually good for me, as my best friend has just been through a breakup and i worried that she was getting too attached to him and forgetting that i was there. i sent her this video just now so hopefully she will learn something in the future
This is that simple! Be in the moment live in it; and move forward. Remember 3 things. Benefit of the Doubt, Pick Your battles, and Mind Your own Business.
I used to love the idea of seeing my bf everyday. But I realize I'm not giving him enough space for himself. I'm not giving enough space and time for myself too. It's actually healthy to give you and your partner some space and time. And you'll miss your partner more, it's a good thing cus you'll get more excited when you meet them. I'm on my 7th month with my bf. Really hope our relationship works!
I got out of a bad narcissistic relationship and I took the time like a year and a half two years to heal even with distractions and all and I come here because I'm internally and I want to make sure it goes right and I don't bring toxicity into it
This helped me a lot. Me and my boyfriend are going through something rn and I'm gonna keep what this video said in mind and try to change and help heal what has happened between us. Wish me good luck :)
The four things that will kill a relationship 👍 1) Criticism. All partners moan about each other - from leaving the washing up to being late for dinner - but corrosive criticism (when you criticise their personality) is detrimental to a relationship, 2) Contempt. 3) Defensiveness. 4) Stonewalling.
Thank you thank you thank you. My relationship ended in August and even though he was kind I felt like dirt being with him. I have had such a hard time articulating what went wrong. Now I can say in the last 4 months nearly ALL of these things happened. It destroyed me, and then ended us. Thank you for the clarity. Also I am in a better place after the relationship ended
This can't be coincidence...do you really guys know what's happening in my life...holy shittt all the videos are according to my life!!!!!...btw love you content!
Married 21 yrs..it's so hard but I love him alot but alot of psychological work...I try to be a good helpful wife filled with empathy...I also pray alot because life is difficult..I just want to be 😊 happy in my marriage with the lord also..I wish everyone the best on here!
You can't control what's happening to you or what your mind makes you feel things but you can control what you want and you should go for that goal cuz what do you have to lose?
I used to think that way too, but then I got involved with a guy and even though I wouldn't call it a relationship (we never made it to official status), I grew and learned so much as a result of it. It's worth it.
Sadly i'm starting to see two of these behaviours from my partner and one from me....today i need to talk to him and see how he wants this relationship to evolve....Thanks for this video.
After talking and clarifying everything i found the problem wasn't due to me or him but the circumstances. I'm happy because this means nothing wrong was in ourselves. My suggestion is to always be clear with the communication and honest with your feelings.
I can relate to this video. At first I thought it was me who ruined the good friendship with my friend. But after watching this, I can feel like my friend became the "you" in the video. I still don't mind and wanna resolve our relationship problem but she's run away.
I agree! This is why I’m breaking up with my girlfriend🤷🏽♀️ in addition to her holding on to her past and accusing me of things her ex’s did to her when I’ve been the COMPLETE opposite of her ex’s. The “relationship PTSD” has has become too much for me.
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem >>>!!
I really love the relationship me and my girlfriend have but sometimes I wonder if what I'm doing is right in the relationship. Currently I'm going to therapy to resolve my issues as well as researching ways I can be a better partner to her. This video helps alot :) this will help me not just better myself but better my relationship
My last relationship was very toxic but we also spend to much time together, had a lack of open communication - becaue he got angry fast, i also lied to ceep the peace and run away from fights. He praised me, when i wasn't near but didn't treated me that well. Now i try to be more open in communication with my current partner, cause i don't have to fear, that he will insult me or shout at me like my ex. I told him everything what went wrong and why i struggle a bit with communication. He is patient, but says what he thinks and that's what i needed and wanted all the time. I feel more and more safe to speak about problems and my own opinion. I can be myself and that's such an amazing feeling
This is such a great video, I feel we should get more education about these topics in school, it's hard to unlearn bad habits and learn better ones when we don't know about it....
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem >>>!!
lying or hiding things to keep the peace is one of my biggesttt annoyances. 1) If you’re upset just say that, let’s talk about it. Hiding your anger will just lead to resentment. 2) If you’re doing something you know you shouldn’t be, respect the other person enough to tell them, so that they have a choice to stay or leave. Hiding info takes away their choice.
I really love this video because it shows that keeping a relationship is effort but it’s worth it. Today many people think that you don’t have to do anything to keep the relationship up.
1. You spend too much time together. 2. You lack an openness to experience. 3. You lack open communication. 4. You lie to keep the peace. 5. You run away from fights. 6. You act passive aggressive. 7. You nag and criticise. 8. You are no longer affectionate.
Dang you’re emotions and my emotions are valid wanna date? Lolololol And the animations were so cute and smooth while displaying so much emotion it was awesome but sad at the same time 😔🥺
I do agree with most of the points, great video! The problem is every goddamn time I get into the new relationship these things just repeat over and over again.
Letting your insecurities get the best of you should definitely be in there! If you're very insecure and constantly dropping that on your partner it can for sure ruin a relationship! There are quite a few things that can ruin a relationship that weren't mentioned here.
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem >>>!!!
Most of this is what lead to my recent divorce. While most of this was result of my ex action, there was some of it on me. It's good to have videos like to to help people realize any faults or issues they may have, but not realize. Live and learn people and don't make the same mistakes again. I definitely won't!
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem >>>!!!
Great advice; thanks for the video. Sometimes it's easy to let stuff slip through the cracks, and you don't even realize it. I can relate to every point made in this video. Sometimes it can get to the point where it feels too late to correct any mistakes, making it harder to communicate
What bad habits do you have in your potential relationship?
*Uhhhh*
*Having one in the first place*
Caring too much
we always stop talking to eachother the moment we start dating :(
Being clingy 😅
Being confused😧😂😢
Never try too hard to make people like you. In fact, it doesn't matter if people like you or not. Be your best self and you'll attract the best people for you. This is the power of authenticity.
Am autistic, tried to be me, kind.
Am alone now...
What now?
That's the best thing to do❤️
I'm a teenager and most of my school mates wants and have boyfriends already.
@Reddit tea Mine is also extremely awful, but oh well, life doesn't have a reset button.
I have been doing that my whole life
Phoenix the II I also have autism. The “being yourself” thing never got me any guys, even tho I’m lower on the spectrum.
a summary:
1. you spend too much time together; you may end up neglecting other important relationships and your own individuality
2. you lack an openness to new experiences; may keep you in rigid structures
3. lack of open communication
4. you lie to keep the peace; no emotional intimacy without honesty
5. you run away from fights; conflicts show that you can be honest and open with each other, when handled healthily and respectfully
6. passive aggressiveness; shows emotional immaturity
7. nagging or criticism; shows lack of support and freedom
8. you're no longer affectionate; neglects your and your partner's needs
This helps me a lot, thank you
@Ur Step Daddy You're one out of how many? People need to time to theirselves to take care of their mental, hobbies, other relationships, etc. It should be a gift to meet with your significant other not a given.
I love commentors who summarize the video points so I don't have to watch the entire video.......especially when they comment early so the list is at the top! 😎
@@remyislost2655 you are welcome! 🤗
@@fronttowardenemy7972 glad to help! 💪🏼💖
Let's admit it: most of us aren't in a relationship, but we come here to prepare, just in case.
Who are you, who are so wise in the ways of the internet
All jokes aside, you are absolutely right. Underrated comment right here.
I just decided a little preparation like this might be better than lighting myself on fire and throwing myself out of another window. ;o)
How are you so wise?
don’t call me out like that sob
Yessir
I had sort of a “wow” moment for myself recently. I thought my relationship was having bumps because of my boyfriend, but I now believe I’m the one causing more problems for myself, for him, and for the relationship. So I want to do my best to be better. Watching this video helps!
Did u know why? If its not to personal. I hope that I might learn something because I fear that so much! Thinking it's the other but not seeing it's myself
@@TheSowfii If gleamer is anything like me, I find myself with this traits and I'm 100% sure it's because of the toxic relationships I stayed in. Honestly, I think if a date insults you in anyway, thats not the right partner. My husband has insulted me once in my life and never did it again after I told him not to. Only one insult from him in the entire four years I've known him. I could lose count with how many insults I had from my exes.
That's just my experience. Emotional abuse causes bad traits, traumas legit rewire brains. Sad.
@@mir4138 thanks for sharing and responding! I’ve had some ups and downs relationship but also great a lot of the time. But yeah that can create some bad patterns that you gotta unwire. It can be difficult to unlearn and see about urself!
Since my comment I actually had a really healthy relationship. He thought me a lot!
U are the first woman i hear to admit that you were on the wrong side... Wow
Now u can start changing it for the better for both of you
Try to avoid it, routine isn't exciting, if you don't communicate honestly, resentment from jealously, emotional immaturity, if there is no respect, expect to ruin any relationship 💥💲🚩✅
Passive aggressiveness is something I've noticed I'm guilty of at times
Yeaaah, me too with friends when there's something I don't have the energy to talk about with them 😅
This was my old nick name when I used rip to verbal shredds my old AMC THEATERS manager.
Yeah it's not uncommon as we want to love but also resent them at the same time..
ya i lost a frnd bcuz of it
mayb our friendship wud've ended up anyways but bcuz of passive aggressiveness it ended unsolved i regret it
Hey me too.
It's something to definitely work on, but many people do it unconsciously. So hey, you recognized it! That's a big step already
Behaviour 9: They're fictional
Bow that’s a lot of damage
💀
**is with anime pillow**
Wait.
They're not real?
*dies*
HAHA OH DAMN
🤣🤣
My man and I have been together over 2 years now, and I can agree that doing the same things over and over again can cause a strain in the relationship. Because of this, we make sure to keep things spontaneous. Of course there's always the mundane school/work/gym life, but we choose different study areas, nature walks, beaches, foods, trips, etc. even if it means a longer drive, because at the end it's worth it! You're gonna want to remember all the cool experiences you and your partner have, not all the times you've sat in a car together not knowing what to do.
So all in all, make sure you keep the spark alive! Recognize your bad habit patterns! Don't always expect your partner to know what to do. Speak your feelings, and if they don't recognize, then that person just isn't for you.
Yeah is good to speak your feelings and changing the pattern but what if ur partner is not in support of the pattern changing and u really what it to change so badly or what it takes to change the pattern requires money and u don't have how can the change be possible and doing it in ur own little possible way you can still no support from the partner how can it change then 😊
This is amazing advice. I am in an LDR and due to covid its just going on LDR longer than we initially thought, we still are pretty keen on going ahead and this helps me to remember to keep it fun as much as I can even under the sorta 'indefinite' circumstances
You guys are psychic, I swear. My sister was just telling me that her bf might possibly break up with her
Edit: Yeah, they broke up
Keep us posted!
Great Video
Psych2go do you have a video about involuntary celibacy.
I am nearly 30 and all women have rejected me since. So I never experience Love or a relationship. I am lonely all the time.
I feel there is no support for people like me.
@@ceooflonelinessinc.267 Have they ever mentioned anything about why they reject your advances?
@@musiclover162702 Not really since in online dating you dont recive the answer obviously.
In Real Life I got the generic anserws like you are not my type...
Also never a woman showed interest in me.
@@ceooflonelinessinc.267 Well, what's your type of woman?
Wow. I just realised I nag and critisize my partner. More than he ever did. I'll try to be more relaxed for him. These videos are so great for self reflections.
I did too. Now he left forever :( But also he had issues being honest with me or even himself.
Me too I have to do some progress in that area. The fact that I can admit it is the first step to a personnal evolution💖
@Jennifer Brown Jennifer, I love that quote. Will remember that next time my partner drives me bananas! Lol
Me who’s single and probably will be for a long time: Write that down! WRITE THAT DOWN!
charles the french reference
HERE!
Psych2go do you have a video about involuntary celibacy.
I am nearly 30 and all women have rejected me since. So I never experience Love or a relationship. I am lonely all the time.
I feel there is no support for people like me.
There are many happy single people. You just never hear about it.
@@dr.strangelove5320 He wants a girlfriend you idiot. I hate this dismissive bullshit, guy is opening up about his true situation and feelings and all you can come up with is some stupid empty cliches?
@@LightWolf_91 I don't fight with every dog that barks.
I strongly agree. “You spend too much time together.” We're not in relationship, hmm kinda, a long way to go. But it happened to us. We spend too much time that instead of being an inspiration to achieve our goals, we became a distraction to each other. Overtime our conversations went spontaneous slowly losing interest. I relate to half of relationship behaviors here too but thats all I wanted to mention. I've lost her. I think I'm the one who failed to maintain the relationship not realizing these behaviors mentioned in your video are actually the reasons why it ended that way. Thank you so much for this video, it helped a lot! Watching this type of videos really helps us realize things and be prepared next time.
Fun fact: for friendship as well. I feel like I'm loosing someone because of our actions. They're passive aggressive, and I'm aways running away from fights. Anyways, I can't stand this friendship anymore it's been a while already.
Yo dude tell me about it lmao. Heard my friend wanted to cut me off. Things aren't even going so well right now lol. Any tips?
It's valid for every personal relationship
I want to end a friendship, which has turned toxic, but I just can't. I've been their friend for 8 years and it seems so hard to say goodbye, but its draining me emotionally
@@marlenacherry1450 same with me but I've known this person for 3 years
LEAVE THE FRIENDSHIP AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!! this is only gonna get worse if you dont. ive been in your shoes and leaving was the best decision i could make. i hope everything gets better :)
I lied and lied, never spoke my mind, took my relationship for granted and kept doing the same things over and over with her. It crushed the attraction and someone who was head over heels in love with me ended up falling out of love. That said it takes two to tango. Emotional maturity and honesty is the core to a healthy and happy dynamic.
Been married for 22 years, he’s my best friend and I his, and only spend time together, playing video games, watching tv, fun times ☺️, hike/walk etc, unless he has to work. We’ve never been more in love than we are now, so take #1 with some thought *if* it’s harmful, cuz it may not be ❤️
not to break it to you babe... but sounds very codependent
@@catlemasters9037 Dude, she says they're happy....there's nothing wrong with enjoying themselves. Not every couple works the same and that "rule" doesn't apply to every single couple ever
@@catlemasters9037 bruh
I completely agree with you. Me and my partner absolutely love spending time together, and we have never been happier in our lives. We cook together, we watch tv together, play games together ... exercise together, and everything. It's so relaxing and endearing, knowing that you have a forever best friend, team mate, lover that you can share all the wonderful moments in life together with.
@@catlemasters9037 they are together for 22 years and you say they are not healthy... wtf is wrong with your view on relationships? lol
Me, who knows that I’ll never get in a relationship: you know what? Just in case...
ME TOO IMAO
Relatable
How does it say 2 days ago?? M
How is the comment 2 days ago while the video is just out-
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One of the things that ended my parents' relationship was the lack of affection. I don't think I saw them hug, kiss, or even heard them say they loved each other for the last five years before they broke up. I told my partner about that and we have had a lot of conversations about needs and wants that have really helped us both grow.
It's amazing what you can learn from just watching the good and not so good from your parents and choosing to do what is best for you and your partner gets so much easier after you have a few talks about needs.
Behaviour 1: Not sharing your items with your partner in Minecraft
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That's a good one
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Thank you so much for showing up in my feed. I've just realised that I've been experiencing narcissistic abuse by an ex friend. You've helped my health so much. I honestly can't thank you enough, you're a gift from the heavens.
Yes.. these videos made me realize the same thing.. I'm grateful that I'm now being able to understand my life..
All the best to u 😊
Sad part is when things end up going so very well, then to slowly just die down at the end. Saddest part is when it ends suddenly & makes you think if the relationship even meant anything to the other person. I had wished we worked it out together, but it just wasn't reciprocated. A few failures I've done was not engage in all arguments/fights. I just brushed it off because I didn't want to fight & make things worse, but I learned it's something that's quite a regular in relationships. Mentally, I was getting put down a lot & was misunderstood from the things I said that twisted the outcome. One advice I would give to people is to make sure the other partner is on the same page with you. Get to know each other sides of the story or else one is left with their conclusion. But one thing is if it starts to mentally hurt you, then don't stick around. It affects me still to this day (almost 2 years), and it changed my viewpoint on men & afraid to be in a relationship again. I still get thoughts of love for my ex-boyfriend, and I would think I would heal after a year but it's surely a challenge to get healed. It surely affects my friendships & relationships with my family members, but it teaches me to not fall deeply in love without getting to know the person deep down & if they are committed to be your one & only. Do not take the steps I did. It's very hard to be the person I once was.
Never, ever betray a confidence that your partner has shared with you. Remember: Trust can take years to build, but only seconds to destroy. Once you betray someone's trust, you will probably never get it back. At best, you'll have a limited, conditional trust. And that relationship is unlikely to endure.
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Thanks for the amazing efforts u put in
I was lovesick, will that be a bad habbit? (real life)
@@Khushi-zf6yg No worries!
@@julesgarcia7406 Yeah, it can become an obsession.
Who’s watching this even though you’re not in a relationship?
@Yuki Murakami same
I'm in a friendship relationship and this video is still very useful!
@Yuki Murakami lmao I'm watching for a friend
getting ready bro! 😂💪
Me! Never been in one lol😂
Lack of open communication is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT AND ALWAYS BE HONEST!!!!
This is also important in friendships AND familial relationships. Relationships aren't just romantic, so these tips can be applied in any place where you share a bond with someone :)
I won't ever have to worry about those mistakes I won't ever take a chance on relationships being single is the best for me
Same ugh
Lol I agree, I tell myself all the time, "U only need u" but yet I always feel I need somebody, but who knows? Most of the time I'm confused
@@user-xy3rz9hc7b me don't need or want anyone else
Same here, All my life being by myself felt right and good, not wrong.
I broke up with my boyfriend like 3 weeks ago but I really regret it. I just felt really bad because I felt like I had to do 90 % of the work in the relationship. I kept on asking him if everything is okay or if something is wrong etc. But in the end I would be the one who had to do almost everything. It hurts that he's gone
That pain will pass. You deserve an equal partnership. Expect nothing less & that's what you'll get. Trust in yourself. Love & light.
Yeah it hurts all the time but know that you made the right choice. One day you will find the right person.
Psych2go: 8 behaviors that ruin relationships
Me: what relationship?
Same here
Psych2go do you have a video about involuntary celibacy.
I am nearly 30 and all women have rejected me since. So I never experience Love or a relationship. I am lonely all the time.
I feel there is no support for people like me.
I did a lot of these in a relationship where I thought I'd marry her. I would lie to avoid fights. And was passive aggressive. I am difficult but am working on it. Gotta forgive myself for my mistakes.
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I'm watching to prepare myself to not ruin the relationship that I'm not going to have
Same
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I'm really proud of myself watching this and knowing I no longer relate to any of these behaviours. It shows how much I've grown.
commenting so i can one day reflect back on this comment and know i too made it here ...
Even thought I’m not in a relationship right now, some of these things can also go to platonic relationships: with friends and family. I actually developed a toxic relationship with my mom and she always makes sure that she’s the one in charge and criticizes me to the point where I feel like every decision I make on my own is a mistake. Please, please, please do not allow people to hurt you this bad. Of course I have said mean things to her too and I’m trying to hold in my anger(I have anger issues), but it’s hard when you’re living with a person that tries to control your every move and judges more than critiques your look, what you do, what you think...I’m tired of her and this quarantine time together has made it worse😔
so sorry to hear that. It hurts the most when sb you love criticizes you. Have you tried telling her how you feel calmly, when you are not angry or fighting? You could say her comments are hurtful and that she could sometimes try to say positive things about you, for a change
im so sorry. please dont let her shatter ur confidence. i feel you a lot. please dont allow her to do it, pls
Don't expect perfection in your partner and other relationships.Instead v should constantly strive for perfection
“You spend too much time together.” Well there’s a pandemic and we are in quarantine together lmao
yo, same.... i lived with him almost nonstop for 6 months.
Lmao 😂😂😂
you can still take time apart, for example going on walks alone, doing hobbies in different rooms, visting friends and family (if you dont have restrictions)..stuff like that
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Watching these videos helps a little but I can't shake the feeling of not deserving love. I have a lot of issues and it's why I feel that way. Thinking about love scares me and makes me depressed. It seems better to be alone.
I’ve learned so much with all these channel’s videos on toxic relationships I was actually able to spot many on mine and communicate my concern with my partner, because of all the patterns that called my attention. He got defensive, blamed it all on me, dismissed everything I said as something ridiculous and is now giving me the silent treatment relying on that he needs to heal all the damage I’ve caused him. After I spoke about manipulation he deduced it wasn’t something he did, but something I was an expert at. No... this relationship won’t go far. As hard as it is and will be, I’m thankful. Thanks Psych2go, I think you really might’ve saved me.
I just don't get into relationships now since I've mistrusted too many in the past I don't want to get hurt again
You'll bump into your person. You might already have been around him and seen him. But when the time is right he will be there. But for now you should focus on what you want by what's making you feel good and happy plus brings you somewhere in life ^^
I hear ya.... Maybe don't give Satan a 2nd chance though.
Thank you, you guys
If you don’t have a relationship you still have friends and family
@@dv99. that's a lot.
@Taylor_the_confused_potato Bold indeed 😂
One hundred percent correct . Those who ignore these warnings their relationship is doomed to fail !
These videos are great material to know how love works. We have to pass tests in every area of life: school, driving licence,... but not when it comes to the most important one: love. Everyone thinks love is just an instinct, but it's not. Love is a decision to hold on a person and to work on onesself. This is hard stuff.
Everyone should prepare for that.
My brain : U're not even in a relationship, don't waste ur time watching this video
Me : *clicks video* Just in case God decided to give me a partner
Same 😂
@Alec Alberti too bad I'm gay
@Alec Alberti okay, I'll try my best, thank u God
@@christianleoo_ B-BUT THE PROPHECY
oh my...Girl... I wanna thank you for this video, because it showed me that I was the one who cared about the person and I was the one who tried.. my relationship ended 4 days ago and I felt like a crap, because he was telling me that I want a lot of things or I'm the one who messes up. All I wanted was a little attention and I got nearly none of that. So I want to thank you very much for this video, because I relized I was doing my best and I'm not the worst...love you
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It's been 5 months and I truly hope u're feeling better now :)
I'm in the same situation you were, I did everything I could to show him how much I was willing to try, to change, to show how much I love him. He broke up with me 2 weeks ago and told me, only then, that I deserve better but it still hurts and I miss him a lot
I really do hope more people find this channel because it helps alot!
My husband and I are currently having all these problems. And it's scary to tell him how i feel most of the time because i don't want to nag or anything. I honestly feel like he's already checked out of the relationship, but is just "trying" because of our daughter. He'd rather spend time with his friends. He says it's not the case, but i have a hard time believing him. And it hurts a lot trying to figure this out to where i lose sleep. I've been giving him space to be himself, but i honestly feel he wants to leave me, but doesn't want to leave because of our daughter
When you're here because you're terrified that your anxiety and depression is gonna ruin your current relationship
Timeline Summary
1.You spend too much time together----00:38
2. You lack openness to experience----1:07
3. You lack open communication----1:36
4. You lie to keep the peace----2:07
5. You run away from fights----2:35
6. You act passive aggressive----3:03
7. You nag and criticize-----3:32
8. You're no longer affectionate----3:57
Watch the full video for more details👍👍👍👍
I moved to another country for my relationship and I often resent my partner for the distance between my family and friends as well as the struggles of loneliness in a foreign country where I cannot communicate with everyone or hold the same social status I could in my home country. Also, spending too much time together (also due to lockdowns) made us a bit rigid and unmotivated to go places. However, we have worked on that. We plan camping trips, date nights, and BBQs with friends and family. My biggest thing will be working on my own mental health in a place where I am a foreigner who is far from my parents/ siblings and childhood friends.
I’m in relationships with fictional characters and I love your videos! They help me with self care!
When the relationship u r in is not going well and u aren't really able to pinpoint on anything and r messed up in ur mind these videos help a lot.
Lack of affection from my wife, nagging, criticizing, demeaning, insulting, and her being unfaithful have all been things that I have suffered through in my relationship. I have only recently come to realize that our 21 year marriage has been mostly toxic and that my physical and mental health and happiness have suffered tremendously over the years. I tried to forgive the affair, thinking that we could work it out. I am no longer sure of that. She has been very nice and polite lately because I have been very distant and cold. However, I know that if I give in, it will be just a matter of time before she goes back to her ways. Debating whether to stay for the sake of the kids, who also notice the verbal abuse I go through and the lack of affection, or if I should just stick a fork in it.
next month on 11th would be our first 1 year anniversarry. all i can say is i'm so grateful for both of us, so thankful that i found him. we've been through so much together but still manage to stay and fight for our relationship. it's all because we both love each other so much. plus this is actually our first time of being in a comitted relationship ❤️❤️❤️
Well now i know why my last relationship ended. Atleast i can learn from my mistakes. Thank you.
The timing man... y'all post a video on the needed topic EVERY TIME
"They were a lesson. Not a love"
The first 6 behaviors were present in one or both of us at the end of my previous long-term relationship... We were so young and didn't have the emotional intelligence to look deep enough within ourselves to come out and fix our problems. It took a long time to let go but now I see what was wrong, and it wasn't just one of us but both were to blame for the slow decline. Just glad I was able to learn from it.
this was actually good for me, as my best friend has just been through a breakup and i worried that she was getting too attached to him and forgetting that i was there. i sent her this video just now so hopefully she will learn something in the future
You are a great friend :)
Miss Relaxed aww thankyou x
This is that simple! Be in the moment live in it; and move forward. Remember 3 things. Benefit of the Doubt, Pick Your battles, and Mind Your own Business.
I used to love the idea of seeing my bf everyday. But I realize I'm not giving him enough space for himself. I'm not giving enough space and time for myself too.
It's actually healthy to give you and your partner some space and time. And you'll miss your partner more, it's a good thing cus you'll get more excited when you meet them.
I'm on my 7th month with my bf. Really hope our relationship works!
proud of u!
I got out of a bad narcissistic relationship and I took the time like a year and a half two years to heal even with distractions and all and I come here because I'm internally and I want to make sure it goes right and I don't bring toxicity into it
*me sees this video*
*also me*
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I don’t want to lose my partner. I love her so much 🥺
I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost two years :)
kodiak Is that comment under ur video?? lmao
Thats good... i wish yall peace for the future☺️
Me too.. But now I'm realizing this.. 'Aggressive narcissistic abuse'.. 😭
Priti Gupta this is a major red flag if you ask me :/
@@soIve_et_coagula how?
This helped me a lot. Me and my boyfriend are going through something rn and I'm gonna keep what this video said in mind and try to change and help heal what has happened between us. Wish me good luck :)
The four things that will kill a relationship
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1) Criticism. All partners moan about each other - from leaving the washing up to being late for dinner - but corrosive criticism (when you criticise their personality) is detrimental to a relationship,
2) Contempt.
3) Defensiveness.
4) Stonewalling.
Thank you thank you thank you.
My relationship ended in August and even though he was kind I felt like dirt being with him. I have had such a hard time articulating what went wrong. Now I can say in the last 4 months nearly ALL of these things happened. It destroyed me, and then ended us. Thank you for the clarity.
Also I am in a better place after the relationship ended
Shayna pilc . Don't disappointed.God will do better . Never leave hope .
There should be also "you spend too much time apart" or too little contact. That can be also detrimental to the relationship.
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My poor communication definitely sabotaged my relationship. Especially going back to the same person. It hurts but we all learn new things
This can't be coincidence...do you really guys know what's happening in my life...holy shittt all the videos are according to my life!!!!!...btw love you content!
@@kat-ekyoie7907 please, leave.
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Married 21 yrs..it's so hard but I love him alot but alot of psychological work...I try to be a good helpful wife filled with empathy...I also pray alot because life is difficult..I just want to be 😊 happy in my marriage with the lord also..I wish everyone the best on here!
I feel being single is better than having the risk of getting hurt.
You can't control what's happening to you or what your mind makes you feel things but you can control what you want and you should go for that goal cuz what do you have to lose?
britt 8baanrit the safety that comes with knowing that a certain something something won’t hurt you
It help you grow...
I used to think that way too, but then I got involved with a guy and even though I wouldn't call it a relationship (we never made it to official status), I grew and learned so much as a result of it. It's worth it.
If you afraidof getting hurt, you end up hurt anyway. That's just how it is. Let that hurt be your manuare/ dung for your life
Some of these videos give me hope and faith about my crush and some just crush that
She's avoidant, I'm clingy - a recipe for disaster.
:'(
Felttt, he’s avoidant and I’m clingy so it just goes in a circle. Sadly think I’m gonna have to move on
Why did your comment sound like a wattpad summary...?
@@Rain_drops1004 Yeah, that's what I did, it's exhausting chasing someone.
@@academicfailure8182 I noticed when I read it again 😂 unfortunately it's reality.
Sadly i'm starting to see two of these behaviours from my partner and one from me....today i need to talk to him and see how he wants this relationship to evolve....Thanks for this video.
After talking and clarifying everything i found the problem wasn't due to me or him but the circumstances. I'm happy because this means nothing wrong was in ourselves. My suggestion is to always be clear with the communication and honest with your feelings.
Im in my 30s and married and still watches these videos. It seems more difficult than it should be.
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I can relate to this video. At first I thought it was me who ruined the good friendship with my friend. But after watching this, I can feel like my friend became the "you" in the video. I still don't mind and wanna resolve our relationship problem but she's run away.
I agree! This is why I’m breaking up with my girlfriend🤷🏽♀️ in addition to her holding on to her past and accusing me of things her ex’s did to her when I’ve been the COMPLETE opposite of her ex’s. The “relationship PTSD” has has become too much for me.
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Conflict is something that MANY lack!
I was struggling with this now
Im glad this appeared~
I like how I know exactly not to do these things.. too scared to lose people important to me, so I'm always careful.
I really love the relationship me and my girlfriend have but sometimes I wonder if what I'm doing is right in the relationship. Currently I'm going to therapy to resolve my issues as well as researching ways I can be a better partner to her. This video helps alot :) this will help me not just better myself but better my relationship
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My last relationship was very toxic but we also spend to much time together, had a lack of open communication - becaue he got angry fast, i also lied to ceep the peace and run away from fights. He praised me, when i wasn't near but didn't treated me that well.
Now i try to be more open in communication with my current partner, cause i don't have to fear, that he will insult me or shout at me like my ex. I told him everything what went wrong and why i struggle a bit with communication. He is patient, but says what he thinks and that's what i needed and wanted all the time. I feel more and more safe to speak about problems and my own opinion. I can be myself and that's such an amazing feeling
This is such a great video, I feel we should get more education about these topics in school, it's hard to unlearn bad habits and learn better ones when we don't know about it....
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All 8 points are applicable to my marriage. I can see the toxicity between us. It’s been miserable.
I hope you two are able to sort it out dude!!
The animation is so nice in this one.
Glad you like it! :)
lying or hiding things to keep the peace is one of my biggesttt annoyances.
1) If you’re upset just say that, let’s talk about it. Hiding your anger will just lead to resentment.
2) If you’re doing something you know you shouldn’t be, respect the other person enough to tell them, so that they have a choice to stay or leave. Hiding info takes away their choice.
Relationships are everywhere, so this might be useful for me later down the line. Or not. Still interesting though.
I really love this video because it shows that keeping a relationship is effort but it’s worth it. Today many people think that you don’t have to do anything to keep the relationship up.
1. You spend too much time together.
2. You lack an openness to experience.
3. You lack open communication.
4. You lie to keep the peace.
5. You run away from fights.
6. You act passive aggressive.
7. You nag and criticise.
8. You are no longer affectionate.
Thanks!
Dang you’re emotions and my emotions are valid wanna date? Lolololol
And the animations were so cute and smooth while displaying so much emotion it was awesome but sad at the same time 😔🥺
I do agree with most of the points, great video! The problem is every goddamn time I get into the new relationship these things just repeat over and over again.
:"passive aggressiveness"
Me remembering how I acted yesterday: oh
Like the way you got straight to the point. Thank you
Me: spends literally every moment with my boyfriend
Oop
Letting your insecurities get the best of you should definitely be in there! If you're very insecure and constantly dropping that on your partner it can for sure ruin a relationship! There are quite a few things that can ruin a relationship that weren't mentioned here.
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Watching this vid even though I'm too smart for it.
Most of this is what lead to my recent divorce. While most of this was result of my ex action, there was some of it on me. It's good to have videos like to to help people realize any faults or issues they may have, but not realize. Live and learn people and don't make the same mistakes again. I definitely won't!
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@@laurajames2308 No desire to bring back my ex. Learning to understand my own faults and move on, but thanks for the reply.
Just when i was crying last night i see this the next morning lmao psych2go really knows...
you just described my whole past relationship, now that explains
Doesn't this apply to friendships too? I think so
Great advice; thanks for the video. Sometimes it's easy to let stuff slip through the cracks, and you don't even realize it. I can relate to every point made in this video. Sometimes it can get to the point where it feels too late to correct any mistakes, making it harder to communicate