A Fantasy I Use To Help Myself Grow and Heal

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  • @mysnackr
    @mysnackr ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I do this too. I imagine an all-good version of my mom exists in a parallel universe and she can comfort me about this world's version of her. I had to go no-contact due to abuse and it does help.

  • @charlesdaubner1017
    @charlesdaubner1017 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    "I have myself, I have my true self, I have my self reflective relationship with me. That's my #1 ally and has been for decades"
    So well articulated, Daniel, and the most important ally to have. Thanks Daniel

  • @Olmonolo1
    @Olmonolo1 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    We are your community Daniel. You are our north star. Please continue this important work Daniel

    • @pod9363
      @pod9363 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Damn that a lotta pressure lol

  • @BhavanaShivu
    @BhavanaShivu ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Daniel, We your listeners are your community. We do not always tell you how much we love you. Your words are soothing and healing.

  • @whiterunguard1434
    @whiterunguard1434 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Thank you so much for your videos. I'll easily listen to them for around 8 hours at work. I've got so many problems no one understands and I don't want to bother anyone with and genuinely everything you say resonates with me and helps me. Thanks

    • @allthe1
      @allthe1 ปีที่แล้ว

      You can ne certain a lot of us watching truly have found someone who seems to read our minds... If only more ppl were honest more often we could have these conversations irl and feel understood

  • @CristinaAcosta
    @CristinaAcosta ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I saw this fantasy come true when my late father developed dementia. There was a sweet spot in the progression of the disease when his ego dissolved and his loving self shone forth. It was remarkable. What a gift.

    • @enlightenedinterstellarbei8020
      @enlightenedinterstellarbei8020 ปีที่แล้ว

      That’s amazing!

    • @AuroCords
      @AuroCords ปีที่แล้ว

      At the core of each human this fantasy is the only truth.

    • @allthe1
      @allthe1 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same with my grandfather. I was too young to realize it when He died. All I had to work with was that he had Alzheimer's, he had always been a scary selfish asshole, but the last things I remember is he was just clueless, he hummed and laughed and cried like a little boy in his hospital bed. Everybody was just sad and scared so I felt uneasy. Now I feel he was just finally free from all of his inhibitions, having forgotten them at the same time he forgot the people he had hurt all his life, his wife, his children. I was scared pretty much all my life to end up like him because his family is so traumatized noone ever bothered to actually face their own past and heal, or even research or ask serious questions on the matter. I was left with the few fearmongering tidbits of info my mother and her siblings were able to bear sharing. Now that I've taken up the courage to face my past I no longer have that fear. Honesty towards others prevent me from bottling up and hurting my brain. Daniel and commenters like you have helped a lot on this process so thank you so much for sharing

    • @EdzioListonosz-rz5yy
      @EdzioListonosz-rz5yy หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @pastry111
    @pastry111 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Daniel, I hope you know you're saving lives. You are a blessing that the universe sent to me. You are proof and evidence of the right person, right time for me, thank you for your wisdom. You are loved for what you do.

  • @Faeriefungus
    @Faeriefungus ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you for sharing your heart

  • @not2tees
    @not2tees ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I think it was Bob Dylan in Talkin' World War 3 Blues who said "I'll let you be in my dream if you'll let me be in yours." We all need some good fantasies to encourage ourselves, and our soul mates, to make it through the world as real as we can be

  • @michasosnowski5918
    @michasosnowski5918 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Once I confronted my mother about beatings in my childhood. It was over the phone. First she denied, but then I got a message with like 10x capital SORRY! I didnt responded to this message and I regret it, becouse the next day she wrote me few cold messages denying everything. She told me that nobody was beating me, that I was loved unconditionally and that everything was normal, and I have some imaginative beef with her that she doesnt understand. So basically she denied and put the blame on me, like I am hurting her.
    This confirms your theory. Yes, my mother had True Self that acknowledged the harm done to me, but she didnt had enough of it to keep it going, so she returned to denial and lies.

    • @yvonneshanson1525
      @yvonneshanson1525 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      It's their stance.. too hard to change. They are immature. You know she knows tho. And that's what matters. You're not alone in this. Take care 🙂

    • @3nrika
      @3nrika ปีที่แล้ว +8

      There is a word for this in an investigative setting like you spoke of, namely 'corroborate'. I have no quarrels with what you had to say but it can help ourselves and others to be descriptive. 'Confirm' refers to a conclusion that we're able to make. 'Corroborate' refers to our ability to contribute to an emerging picture. Sorry to potentially ruffle some feathers.
      I have had the same experience with my own mother on some different terms. She would occasionally through my childhood come to me and let me know that she is sorry for having made so many mistakes, but it wasn't a complete apology detailing what she had done wrong and how she had learned something about herself from introspection and finally how it would lead to a change. In the case of my mother and when it became apparent that I was catching on, my interpretation is that she only wanted to reveal as little of her inner workings as possible in order to preserve plausible deniability of abuse. I am certain she would not accept the label 'child abuser' to this day, in spite of it being unquestionably true.

    • @caitybug.
      @caitybug. ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@youssefdiraniwhy?

    • @caitybug.
      @caitybug. ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@3nrikasame situation with me. I think at some point it’s healthier to just move on without them ;(

    • @3nrika
      @3nrika ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@caitybug. Yep, you're right about that. Sorry you had to go through it too.

  • @roxydina7615
    @roxydina7615 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    You are my hero. Thank you, thank you, thank you

  • @AuroCords
    @AuroCords ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Daniel!
    I believe you are attracting a very healthy, honest and loving community.

  • @bluemoony102
    @bluemoony102 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    8:35
    Thank YOU🙏🏼 for existing Daniel ♥️

  • @bernadettebockis4120
    @bernadettebockis4120 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Families carry trauma down through the generations. You are clearly working on breaking the chain.
    When people share the most truth, they are seen as dangers to the lies others uphold; or seen as sages, swamis.
    This is the false world, the stage where we act out our lessons with others most appropriate to our needed counterpart. How could you have suffered and learned what you needed if you didn't have trauma and lack of support. You got exactly what you needed in this life to learn the brilliance of understanding. When we release from this body, we return to our true selves, and no time, communication with all or any at will. "All?" becomes clear, and life is filled with love - or maybe a bit of 'hell' to pay. You can return to learn more in another life here or in other worlds.
    I enjoy listening to your struggle to truth. I wish you truth and the knowledge of divine love.

  • @LMc-l7h
    @LMc-l7h ปีที่แล้ว +11

    What a beautiful fantasy, thank you for sharing.

  • @carolineprenoveau7655
    @carolineprenoveau7655 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    What I found after years and years of purposeless suffering is that you inherit the traumas of your ancestors, big and small. The traumas don't go anywhere. You either bear them, or you pass them on to the next generation. I used to see it as injustice, I see it now as a call to courage, to change the course of time.
    Maybe what you see in your fantasy is the world as it will be if everybody bears their own pain, their cross, even if it's unfair, with dignity and courage. That's where truth can emerge. Otherwise, we're all just hiding.

  • @bartosik321
    @bartosik321 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    holy fucking shit dude, i cannot even believe that a person like you exist, a true hidden gem. I can relate so much to what you are saying in most of the videos. Even though I have never spoken a single word to you, i feel so heard, and like i am listened to and understood for the first time in my life just by watching those videos.

  • @TomeRodrigo
    @TomeRodrigo ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I imagine two lovely, kind and supportive parents that are different from my actual parents, and it gives me some form of weird comfort and peace for a moment, but this image can only go for a little while, unfortunately. Also, the link you have provided to a video of that Jeffrey Dahmer doesn't work, it says that "Video unavailable - This video is no longer available due to a copyright claim by CNN".

  • @spinningwheels-bu8jn
    @spinningwheels-bu8jn ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Damn, Daniel's back with another banger! Big ups, my G.

  • @charlottem6065
    @charlottem6065 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you Daniel ❤️🕊️🙏🏼🌞🌻

  • @Vanillababe7
    @Vanillababe7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You dont know me. But I feel so much love towards you Daniel! You are such a positive coscious light in this world. Blessed be your soul!

  • @ruth_gordon
    @ruth_gordon ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Wow, what a healing exercise this is. Thank you for sharing this fantasy. (Side note: I would faint if my abuser apologized so genuinely.)

  • @chrisdryer
    @chrisdryer ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Great video. Wow. I am always surprised at where you go with what you are saying. Thanks for the valuable perspective.

  • @loutfchihneh
    @loutfchihneh ปีที่แล้ว +16

    You're a gift to humanity Daniel! thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. Your authenticity is such an inspiration to those who are going through similar experiences in life.
    I personally believe that there's a spiritual side to all of the challenges truth seekers face with those who only want to live in their fantasy and not be held responsible for their actions (aka narcissists).. Bless you ❤️

  • @tiab4697
    @tiab4697 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I'm realizing the value of a fantasy self where I'm healed. I do long for connection, but only authentic and respectful, because I've paid the price for engaging with others. My part in failed relationships is that I have low self esteem, always less than and being vulnerable without boundaries. I don't have anyone who really 'see's me but I am utilizing the fantasy self where I am whole and accepted.

    • @pod9363
      @pod9363 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I have the same fantasy where I am healed and confident and assertive and happy all the time, and just totally in love with existence. I hope that's what lies at the end of this process.

    • @alvodin6197
      @alvodin6197 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      What if you start seeing yourself that way? It's a good start.

    • @JulianLancia
      @JulianLancia ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@alvodin6197 my first thought. This is a really good strategy, especially in letting go bad/unhealthy/wrong perceptions of ourselves.

  • @sidhreji
    @sidhreji ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you Daniel. Your videos have helped me so much ❤

  • @intolerandus
    @intolerandus ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you so much for sharing this.

  • @rihannagirl556
    @rihannagirl556 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    A pure genuine fantasy. I use maladaptive daydreaming and its quite the opposite. Escapism from the truth and the pain...for me, grieving and journalling is hard but implementing it and being honest and not putting up a false self with people feels extremely difficult.

    • @pod9363
      @pod9363 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I think you’d benefit from reading thru daniels essays if u haven’t already. He says if it’s overwhelmingly difficult to try to grieve that maybe your subconscious doesn’t feel safe to do so given your situation, and that may be something to try if things feel a little too much.

    • @flyingfig12
      @flyingfig12 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@pod9363 There's IFS that can help ~ Internal Family System by Dr Richard Schwartz edit: as well, along with Daniels essays.

  • @caitybug.
    @caitybug. ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The whole thing you talked about with your grandmother and your family system is exactly how my situation is and It’s so frustrating having these people who are supposed to be the ones who genuinely love you and you’re supposed to be able to trust them but it’s like they just shake you off for speaking out about these things that they’ve normalized for their own selfish needs. I’m that one in my family that has always been the one to speak out and the one everyone shames for doing so and been shut out, called crazy, a liar, and wrong. It’s like sometimes I really do believe I might be crazy or just imagining all these terrible things that go on and I just want to scream and shout at them to wake up or something and to just let go of all that covering up and take responsibility and just be REAL. It deeply pains me and it feels so lonely because I’ve always been honest with my feelings and the things I do. They’d rather shut me out from the family than just admit theirs a problem and try to change. It’s like they’re literally not able to ever really change anything in their lives. I find comfort in knowing other people are in this situation. Love ur videos

  • @pinksparkle6891
    @pinksparkle6891 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for creating this channel and thank you for all the videos!

  • @joannasu39
    @joannasu39 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for the sharing.

  • @RKTGX95
    @RKTGX95 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    i can really relate to what you've described with peoples eyes. If one is connected enough to themselves, then it almost easy to see so much just from the person's eyes and face. you can see either a spark or emptiness in one's eys, usually though it's a mix. Also, maybe it's one of my survival abilities i've gained in childhood, but a person's face says almost everything about their earliest and strongest trauma. it almost screams outside like a relic or geological fossil of the soul that was and maybe still is. Actually i see some right now in you Daniel. really little though since with every word action and expression the aura of authenticity and strong balance comes through, in the way that the facial features are almost touching the core of your truth. in most other people you see layers of pain with more layers of falseness of various dissociations. Still, i can see the imprint of pain, probably from the earliest times. my guess is pain of abandonment or hurt.
    Thank you Daniel for your authenticity, you are part of a stupidly rare group of people.

  • @bartjohnston
    @bartjohnston ปีที่แล้ว +4

    yup, the truth sets us free; peace

  • @ninax23
    @ninax23 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Another hit, Daniel! I also do this sort of final reckoning fantasy. And I am glad you have a couple of real allies. I don't know that we get more than just a few. I suppose that is why denial is so popular. People can stay lonely in groups.

  • @yvonneshanson1525
    @yvonneshanson1525 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is brilliant Daniel !!!.. all so true ! Your words I will be using in my head too..! Once again thank you for being so transparent and brave. We all here are your allies and you've helped me so much with your sharing all these years. Your mother definitely knows what she's done, she just won't admit it in words, cause then it'll become concrete and real and she can't face that. She's like a child that won't admit to a mischief by pretendingit never happened. Their eyes as they get old are windows to their Personal Hell.. It's really hard to accept that our parents are so messed up and they've caused so much pain in our lives. Wishing you a peaceful and comforting week and sending love your way✨️🩷

  • @Jhawk_2k
    @Jhawk_2k ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is beautiful, thank you for sharing. This resonated so deeply with how I want to live my life but didn't have the words to describe it until now. Now for the process of learning how to live this every day

  • @1981Elpbaba1981
    @1981Elpbaba1981 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Bravo Daniel! I consider myself your ally.

  • @shyvenyx
    @shyvenyx ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your videos are very helpful, thank you!

  • @bobvillanueva712
    @bobvillanueva712 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    BUDDHISM; If you die before you die, then when you die you won't die... ME; "Telling the truth in a liar's world is dangerous", yea? I can really relate to all your videos, yea? living in a toxic Christian CULTure made my life a living hell, converting to the teachings of the BUDDHA gave me peace of mind, yea? I'm grateful for being able to finish my tour here on planet earth as an invisible nobody, yea? "EVERY WISH FULFILLED" E.T.

  • @alejandro1979x
    @alejandro1979x ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Did you have a vasectomy? Because I did and that helped me to understand that I will never hurt a a son or daughter, since I never had one. And this makes me really happy .

  • @lucagethmann7682
    @lucagethmann7682 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Here's a simple thought/feeling experiment that will give you some insight: We all know what it's like to not be conscious. We all know what it's like to hurt people. We all know what it's like to lie to people. Something inside of us was always listening through all the lying and harming and suffering. Just listening in silent, enduring what was happening without judgment. And this isn't JUST you trying to imagine the past through your now eyes. I know that you know that this is more. So I think that sums it up.

  • @FernandoGonzalez-jy3tq
    @FernandoGonzalez-jy3tq ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are so Healthy Daniel!

  • @maryfisher6569
    @maryfisher6569 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My Nana always stuck up for me. I took after the best of my grandparents. When my mother and sister would brow beat me, be mean to me she would aways love me just a little more, she knew what was going on. My mother and sister would get so mad. Finally, one person in the family who loved me despite me being my family's scapegoat. I will NEVER forget her.

  • @KELSEYYYYY
    @KELSEYYYYY ปีที่แล้ว +55

    Truth isn't welcomed in this world

    • @pod9363
      @pod9363 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      But it is desperately craved in each person :)

    • @Wingedmagician
      @Wingedmagician ปีที่แล้ว +6

      We do it to each other. No one tells the truth because no one wants the truth. So we overcorrect into lies and neglect.

    • @TheSapphireLeo
      @TheSapphireLeo ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@pod9363 100%, agree!

    • @michaelboulos3272
      @michaelboulos3272 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The king of love came to the world to save it and we crucified him for it

    • @pod9363
      @pod9363 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@TheSapphireLeo optimism gang 😎

  • @RobbiePfunder
    @RobbiePfunder ปีที่แล้ว +4

    there are no bad parts :) just, as you said, traumatized parts… that want us to listen

  • @Amy-E.-Jones
    @Amy-E.-Jones ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much Daniel,
    I feel like you understand me, hearing your honesty when I'm in a dark place gives me courage and strength.
    Your work is really valuable.
    Keep going. 🌸

  • @Maaraujo7
    @Maaraujo7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Nice fantasy, thank you for sharing !

  • @karenkarinaxoxo
    @karenkarinaxoxo ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for your vulnerability here and sharing your thoughts and feelings, new perspectives, your open heart. Know that it has touched my heart deeply. I think it’s an act of true love for others to share how and what you’re sharing, as for me, I feel so seen. Thank you.

  • @jonathanalcantara3385
    @jonathanalcantara3385 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Daniel, I hope you find community for your healing process. There must be others like you in similar circumstances, but in their own paths, that I hope the universe presents to you soon. Know you've attracted a base on this channel and your process has been integral to others' processes. I've been trying to facilitate safe space for my groups of friends in recent years so that they feel safe and heal. I am making it my life mission to make this the new norm in society.

  • @russellm7530
    @russellm7530 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Wow I've had some similar fantasy or thoughts many times.
    I wish I'd known way sooner what my mother and others relatives were, (psychopaths) and told my grandmothers about them.
    I didn't start realizing it till my last grandma was going down hill, dying.

  • @annmarie6870
    @annmarie6870 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Been wanting you to mention Dahmer forever I felt like I was invisible on here lol

  • @marklawson2871
    @marklawson2871 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Daniel, you're like the George Carlin of psychotherapy. Thank you

  • @frankstared
    @frankstared ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Remember, Daniel, that your family does not exist in a vacuum...and neither do you. Make healthy connection that effect authentic equity to balance the recovery and
    rumination.

  • @yakorolevka3806
    @yakorolevka3806 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is amazing! Thank you so much for sharing it

  • @JL-re1rx
    @JL-re1rx ปีที่แล้ว

    Bless you and thank you so much for sharing
    Namaste

  • @christinebadostain6887
    @christinebadostain6887 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I do inner work precisely because I "know" that I am in physical space to prepare for spiritual "space." Otherwise, what is the point of gueling it out? The purpose of humanity's existence is physical space is to acquire spiritual attributes to take with us when we transition.

  • @rapperstyle-jj1yf
    @rapperstyle-jj1yf ปีที่แล้ว

    I agree with the comment below "You're a gift to humanity Daniel! thank you for sharing your knowledge with us"

  • @Thesisinxumaloblog
    @Thesisinxumaloblog ปีที่แล้ว +59

    I'm a psychic medium, and one of the things I've noticed is how people become themselves when they're dead and their families don't recognize them or know them because what they think, feel and say when they're dead is completely different to what they thought, felt and said when they were alive. The loss of the body means a loss of the ego, and the soul's truth comes through.

    • @ericcrites3389
      @ericcrites3389 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm also a medium and I've seen this too in the other side. We don't have the same worries we once did, or feelings. Our soul isn't something that really suffers.

    • @미미-t2r
      @미미-t2r ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I need some help on something that's is abt living my life or ending it but unfortunately I can't pay. Can you help me?

    • @enlightenedinterstellarbei8020
      @enlightenedinterstellarbei8020 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ending your life isn’t the answer.

    • @미미-t2r
      @미미-t2r ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@enlightenedinterstellarbei8020 not everything we do is to find an answer

    • @mikeexits
      @mikeexits ปีที่แล้ว +1

      A lot of people report and believe we go through a life review basically immediately after death. Everything you haven't integrated or come to terms with, you are required to integrate and come to terms with before you can move on with your existence, including all your experiences, all the ways you've impacted others and your environment, and all the ways others and your environment impacted you. So in a way, Daniel's fantasy could be basic to the reality of life and death. I believe this work is a large part of the reason or purpose for us to come here, to become educated in our souls on how to lose yourself to the maximum degree and still come back to yourself, keeping all the wisdom and insight you learn along the way.

  • @alcosmic
    @alcosmic ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That would be nice

  • @GlobalistGazette
    @GlobalistGazette 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thanks for this excellent video. Ive started to really progress thanks mostly to influences such as yours. Im going to write it all down. Thats going to be my means for healing.

  • @Gypsywandering400
    @Gypsywandering400 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I don’t agree that it’s hell to be honest, with yourself or with others. It’s difficult and painful, but you feel liberated, free, and real for it. And it gets easier and easier with practise. I think hell is when you can’t look at parts of yourself and have to build walls inside yourself to hide from yourself, which, of course, is not possible. It’s hell to try to drown out the voice of your conscience, but never quite succeed.

  • @BozhidarKurtev
    @BozhidarKurtev ปีที่แล้ว

    Good bless you Daniel. I've been listening to several of your videos. It's very sad that there is almost nothing out there to help us young males. The sources are limited. Thank you for what you are doing. The perspective helps. I do hope you eventually find it in yourself to have a family of your own.❤

  • @thehumbleofsoul2256
    @thehumbleofsoul2256 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I am so curious about your thoughts and feelings on Divine Truth 😄

  • @NightinGal89
    @NightinGal89 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Your posts always make me feel better, thank you 😊 🙏🏻. Just had like 3 anxiety attacks in the past 24 hours and felt horrible. By the way, do you have any opinion on them and treatments? Scariest thing I've ever gone through and I am seriously considering medication. I had one in 2017 for the first time, thought I was dying. Then didn't have any until this year..and I have no idea what triggers them

    • @Earl_E_Burd
      @Earl_E_Burd ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wishing you well. That sounds like a tough experience. It sucks that you went so long and then the empire strikes back out of nowhere! With the whole trilogy. I just had a really embarrassing one yesterday 😰 I'm rooting for you. Knowing is half the battle and this is the right channel for continuing our healing journey. May you find answers to your questions. ☮

    • @Earl_E_Burd
      @Earl_E_Burd ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I recommend MadInAmerica as a resource on psychotropic drugs. I've been on a lot of meds through the years, but not for the last three years. They didn't help my anxiety but everybody is different. I could expand on these stories if you want but just keeping it succinct for now, for etiquette.

    • @NightinGal89
      @NightinGal89 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Earl_E_Burd thank you. It's funny you said "embarrassing one". I feel the same even though they're not something I can control. Yeah but they were not as bad as the one I had in 2017. I still felt like I might die, chest pressure, difficulty breathing, this time I cried each time, it's probably stress build-up. First time I was in a public place and threw up and almost fainted. Someone called an ambulance. I would've felt embarrassed but I was busy trying to not die. They just took my vitals in the ambulance and let me go, asked if I wanted to go to hospital and I said no. Later my gp said it was an anxiety attack.

    • @NightinGal89
      @NightinGal89 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Earl_E_Burd ok, thank you for your story..kind of annoying that meds don't work for everyone.

    • @Earl_E_Burd
      @Earl_E_Burd ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@NightinGal89 Up until a few years ago I had been rotating various psychotropic meds, one at a time, through the years ('99-'19) like sertraline, escitalopram, bupropion, lamotrigine, amphetamine salts. You may have heard of most of these by their brand names on commercials.
      It started in high school when my mother took me to our family doctor to help with my seasonal depression. At the time we all believed in the since-debunked "brain chemical imbalance" theory that was a drug sales campaign. Doc obliged us with Big Pharma. Drugs served as an external band-aid to numb out from difficult feelings so that everybody was happy and no one had to discuss the underlying trauma that I was unaware of. I didn't figure that out for a long time. I guess the drugs worked in that regard.
      I'm still eliminating other substances. Caffeine was really easy, weed has been off and on, and sugar/carbs is proving extremely difficult. Twice now after I've taken extended breaks from weed, smoking it again (both times I was excessive with it) has triggered an anxiety attack. D'oh. Time will tell if I've learned my lesson there. Just my experience, I know it's different for everyone.

  • @pod9363
    @pod9363 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My big fantasy is that when we die we just wake up in the time in the future where humanity has figured out how to bring back or resurrect consciousness. Idk if that’s 10k years in the future or 10 million but whatever existence is, I’m glad you and others are trying to make the best of it.
    Even if everything just ends and the universe collapses back in on itself and starts back over, I’m glad you’re here. 😄

    • @G.Man-
      @G.Man- ปีที่แล้ว

      I think you will find the following two channels of interest...:
      - Inspired
      - Jason Shurka (Much of the stuff is very very out there, but i'm keeping an open mind...)

    • @pod9363
      @pod9363 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@G.Man- I shall take a peak

    • @pod9363
      @pod9363 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@G.Man- I took a peek at Jason and glanced at inspired and it all seems like hokey stuff used to prey on older people. Very out there and not down to earth and real like what Daniel does. 😣
      If there was a certain video that proved this wrong tho pls tell me. It’s hard to find people on this site like Daniel.

    • @G.Man-
      @G.Man- ปีที่แล้ว

      @@pod9363 Are you aware of Klaus Schwab & the 'World Economic Forum' agenda in cahoots with the world's authorities..? If not, then you are probably not ready to go down that rabbit hole, yet (which 'Inspired' & 'Jason Shurka' address & try to inform the 'Collective Conciousness' about), especially if you are trying to work on yourself & deal with personal issues...

    • @G.Man-
      @G.Man- ปีที่แล้ว

      @@pod9363 Instead, here's some great people who deal with personal development, trauma, healing, health, etc:
      - Todd Perelmuter
      - Gabor Mate
      - Dr. Rangan Chatterjee
      - Timothy Ward
      - Vex King
      - Stephen Guise
      - Mark Manson
      - James Clear
      - Green Renaissance

  • @rosaspagnola222
    @rosaspagnola222 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I've heard that after death we see the truth clearly and the evil we have caused will be our torment, unless we repented of it in this life and tried to make it right.
    I so appreciate everything you share, Daniel... thank you very much ❤.

  • @lizafield9002
    @lizafield9002 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    When you get well, & can feel deep grief for your forebears' pitiable suffering & bravery, you'll actually hear from the departed & God. Your brain will no longer be a blockade, or a bulldozer, or a hard nonporous exoskeleton. Aim for that.

  • @joshepherd9095
    @joshepherd9095 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Not a fantasy for me. Thirty years ago, and three years after my father died, I had a message via a spiritual healer. He said that he didn't normally channel but there was someone close to me who had a message. I told him my father had passed and I immediately felt his presence. The message was that after he died, he saw what he did and he cried buckets of tears. He came back to apologise. This took me by surprise.

  • @liiastarckenko3757
    @liiastarckenko3757 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Спасибо за эту фантазию, за эту идею. Привет вам из Севастополя! Удивительно, как мы далеко друг от друга физически, но как близки бывают чувства и ощущения отдельно взятых людей.

    • @dmackler58
      @dmackler58  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Пожалуйста! В 2021 году я проплыл на корабле по Черному морю из Украины в Батуми и увидел вдалеке Крым и Севастополь!! Горячий привет из Нью-Йорка. Даниэль. (P.S. Извините, если это не имеет смысла. Я использовал Google Translate.)

  • @dianacano780
    @dianacano780 ปีที่แล้ว

    As always, appreciating your content.. ❤ thank you for sharing, I like to fantasize about a newly created reality as well, it’s ironic how in our process of self-healing we actually develop empathy for our abusers, even rationalizing their behavior at times, in our effort to understand their actions and their why’s

  • @idan4989
    @idan4989 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    can you make a video about psychopathy caused by trauma ?

  • @stephenfiore9960
    @stephenfiore9960 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    …Cool, but it could be kind of incomplete. You are a very compelling speaker

  • @AuroCords
    @AuroCords ปีที่แล้ว

    I believe this fantasy to be the ultimate truth: we all share the same being which is pure conciousness and peace, and that part of us always knows the truth.
    That being said, it is rarely realized by humans, so each one has to do the work to heal their own self.

  • @ShinyaKyo
    @ShinyaKyo ปีที่แล้ว

    I've been watching many of your videos and I'm always surprised how you speak from the "spirituality point of view" yet say here you don't believe there is a soul beyond death (man will you be pleasantly surprised once you cross over :P) . Also you seem to have arrived at these views by reflecting on yourself and looking inwardly, which is very impressive to me, and inspiring.

  • @SlimShady51
    @SlimShady51 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Fellow fantasist, call me crazy if you wish to. But in the glare of greater future science, I see, in the fusion of time travel and after life, a school for the reptiles among us to hibridize with humanity, redeem themselves, repay all the harm done and maybe drenched in good deeds hit the shores of forgiveness.

  • @Thenew104
    @Thenew104 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Im from saudi and I like your content and pure soul a lot, i got upset a little when i heard you say you don’t believe that our souls just stop existing after death, in islam we believe that the soul is from god and it’s infinite, no one can escape thier fate in the day of judgement. I really like your mentality to the point i pray for you to become a muslim, please please please try reading the Quran and learn about islam FROM muslims. Thank you❤️

    • @Thenew104
      @Thenew104 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Ive been watching your content for more than a year now and i love how honest you are, Every thing you realised about people after those years is exactly what we learned from islam, im sure youre gonna find a new, better wisdom within the Quran.

  • @SArthur221
    @SArthur221 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    people's wish to live after they die is something i've seen often that i still can not wrap my head around. can you please help me?

    • @pod9363
      @pod9363 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think it’s peoples wish to have some guarantee that they will live in a world where they and everyone else could live in a truthful world.

    • @SArthur221
      @SArthur221 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@pod9363 that's only possible while alive

    • @jubileej1629
      @jubileej1629 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Can you explain further what you mean by that

    • @SArthur221
      @SArthur221 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jubileej1629 it's only possible to wish while alive. as in before dying. It doesn't make a difference to you whether or not your wish comes true or not. You won't be able to live it.

  • @mariekejansen7658
    @mariekejansen7658 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ❤️🙏

  • @peaceuponthesoul
    @peaceuponthesoul ปีที่แล้ว

    nailed it

  • @juankgonzalez6230
    @juankgonzalez6230 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    And, through time's sands and rivers, Plato endures (metempsychosis is a really nice thing, I mean)

  • @ginaroberts4355
    @ginaroberts4355 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Haha the eyes like coralline. It’s not really funny just reminded me of how movies are so real.

  • @JordanDuffie
    @JordanDuffie ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i love the videos and for a smart man as yourself don't make up your mind on the death thing that quickly if you can study real science that shows us are consciousness is fundamental maybe u can further help the world thanks for the videos

  • @QuixEnd
    @QuixEnd ปีที่แล้ว

    I think by acknowledging the inner best self of others you're subtly reinforcing your own goodness. By admitting that even THEY are good people, that deep down so are you. Empathy for both

  • @CompassionIsPower
    @CompassionIsPower 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yes! My parents have a glaze of dishonesty in their eyes. Exactly! Let's not diss reptiles, tho. Let's not be speciesist. Thanks!!!

  • @Rose_Ou
    @Rose_Ou ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I can only imagine how traumatized Jeffrey Dahmer must have been when he was a child. I can't even look at or listen to his father because I'm 100% sure he is the one to blame for what happened to his son.

    • @alvodin6197
      @alvodin6197 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Forget about blame, because we can blame the people who raised the father, and their parents and so. But, yes, it's obvious when you hear his father, he's a charlatan, a liar, dishonest. Dahmer defended his parents because that's what even children who have been abused do.

  • @le_th_
    @le_th_ ปีที่แล้ว

    I speak the truth a whole lotta the time, and let me tell you, people do NOT like it. Wow, do they not like it.

  • @JesusSaves77799
    @JesusSaves77799 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hello,
    Thank you very much for your very insightful and open videos. When you speak about your past and pose questions about your future way of being, I keep thinking about Jesus and His life and His teachings. He, too, was mocked, beaten and scorned for doing absolutely nothing wrong.
    Regarding someone stealing something from another (as when you were mugged and contemplating if you could have gone even further in your sensitivity to another), Jesus said the following in the Book of Matthew in the New Testament:
    ““You have heard the law that says the punishment must match the injury: ‘An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I say, do not resist an evil person! If someone slaps you on the right cheek, offer the other cheek also. If you are sued in court and your shirt is taken from you, give your coat, too. If a soldier demands that you carry his gear for a mile, carry it two miles. Give to those who ask, and don’t turn away from those who want to borrow. “You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy. But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and the unjust alike. If you love only those who love you, what reward is there for that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much. If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even pagans do that. But you are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect.”
    ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5‬:‭38‬-‭48‬ ‭NLT‬‬
    bible.com/bible/116/mat.5.38-48.NLT
    This verse is a challenge for me too regarding loving others who have been abusive to us. I think we can be loving with extreme boundaries. Sometimes boundaries and no contact for a period of time is actually the most loving thing we can do. In my belief, in doing this and protecting myself and following the Lord, maybe with my non-judgmental, extreme boundary, maybe this action can actually cause the person who has hurt me to reflect in time about his or her behaviors or actions. I think this is actually the ultimate goal - to be lead to become a born-again follower of Christ. (To die to our original spirit and to become a new creation in Christ when accepting the Holy Spirit into our hearts.)
    Regarding your inspirational fantasy for yourself, I think you fantasize about ultimate truth becoming a reality. That is not a fantasy at all. This is exactly what Jesus teaches. That there is a universal truth and we will all know it soon.
    The Bible also shows these very important passages about Jesus in the Book of John:
    “In the beginning the Word [Jesus] already existed. The Word was with God, and the Word was God. He existed in the beginning with God. God created everything through him, and nothing was created except through him. The Word gave life to everything that was created, and his life brought light to everyone. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness can never extinguish it. He came into the very world he created, but the world didn’t recognize him. He came to his own people, and even they rejected him. But to all who believed him and accepted him, he gave the right to become children of God. They are reborn-not with a physical birth resulting from human passion or plan, but a birth that comes from God. So the Word became human and made his home among us. He was full of unfailing love and faithfulness. And we have seen his glory, the glory of the Father’s one and only Son.”
    ‭‭John‬ ‭1‬:‭1‬-‭5‬, ‭10‬-‭14‬ ‭NLT‬‬
    And,
    “Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. “If you had known Me, you would have known My Father also; and from now on you know Him and have seen Him.””
    ‭‭John‬ ‭14‬:‭6‬-‭7‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
    bible.com/bible/114/jhn.14.6-7.NKJV

  • @Earl_E_Burd
    @Earl_E_Burd ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Daniel, if you ever do a Q&A - I wonder what's okay for us to put in our private journal? For example, prejudice thoughts (i.e. gender, etc.)? Or are some of our worst thoughts just best kept to ourselves.

    • @Earl_E_Burd
      @Earl_E_Burd ปีที่แล้ว

      Also, are there societies less sick than the western world?

  • @eliseuhackbarth7003
    @eliseuhackbarth7003 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am sorry for you when you were a boy and didn´t have a mother to nurture you as you were. Don´t blame her. I know it is difficult to not blame. Well, at least she gave you a shelter, some milk when you were a baby, didn´t let you froze, etc. I also wanted to have a close relationship with my mother... I see others that are very close to their mothers and it seems so wonderful. But anyway, we must endure the path we got into and live up to it. As we grow older it becomes easier and easier to live alone, our brain adapts and we become what we have been in the past and so it goes.
    Edit. I hope that you can publish your book before you are gone forever from this world.

  • @dualshock3
    @dualshock3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hey man, sorry for changing the topic but what do you think about the Blackpill? I've been observing this "ideology" for a while and thought it would be interesting to hear your point of view on it :)

    • @dmackler58
      @dmackler58  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hmm, I don't know much about it. I just read a little on the web about it, but I've never spoken directly with anyone on it... So I guess I don't have much to add -- except that it sounds very sad... Daniel

  • @SDHT1111
    @SDHT1111 ปีที่แล้ว

    How ironic that after you stopped being a therapist, you continued being a therapist 😊

  • @caliblue2
    @caliblue2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Jeffrey Dahmer was more honest than my parents 😆 Brother I feel you. I guess they call that reparenting In what you would have liked to of heard, how you would like to have been treated. I actually came to believe in the reincarnate soul about age 50 after a life long ponderance And even the fact that we may choose our families/situation for our soul’s highest ascension. But I think each expansion is a continuation of the character You developed in your past lives. Both my parents are deceased but I don’t picture them having 1 ounce of remorse for who they were. When you create the positive image of them I feel like it does complete the circle and balance your psyche into the middle way where true peace exists. And when I walk to the park I’ll take myself as a child and say all the things that I wanted a parent to say to me. But if our souls are eternal that means we’re ancient and this isn’t our first rodeo. I’m like you in the singularity of existence- If this is my first time to accomplish it it’s awesome because I’ll start out even stronger next time. That’s a conversation you can have with your future/higher self😘

  • @davidcawrowl3865
    @davidcawrowl3865 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Re. Dahmer, yes, he had nothing to lose in just being himself when he was imprisoned. No walls, no defenses. In fact, it was reported that he was baptized into Christ. Where his soul resides now is not mine nor anyone else to speculate.

  • @antiochiaadtaurum3786
    @antiochiaadtaurum3786 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think to the degree that you remain angry with your parents to more you are not going to move into your own adulthood. As you know, what they did to you was done to them. Looking for apologies from the next world is a waste of time. Move into your own power, move on.

  • @LisaMQuinn
    @LisaMQuinn ปีที่แล้ว

    There are no perfect parents, taking responsibility for your own growth is the only way through, and understanding Biblical principles (which are not part of this guy's worldview), which may explain why the blame game is his favorite passtime on many videos. Can't he set his healthy boundaries and wax strong and creative without scapegoating parents who of course had issues? How does that help anyone? I liked reading Carol Dweck's book Mindset. It talks about tunnelers who had way worse childhood than DM, and became contributing adults. Might be beneficial to understand who opened the door to Satan in the family system, psychosis, mental illness is nearly always witchcraft, occult or masonic ancestry. No, easier and better to blame mom and dad.(Not). Social workers can be so smart, but unless they understand the unseen spritual roots of disease, they're kinda dumb.

  • @AgeofReason
    @AgeofReason ปีที่แล้ว +6

    THE POWER OF FORGIVENESS!!!!!!!!!

  • @thehumbleofsoul2256
    @thehumbleofsoul2256 ปีที่แล้ว

    The Jeffrey Dahmer Video link is not working unfortunately

    • @dmackler58
      @dmackler58  ปีที่แล้ว

      Sorry about that! I will remove the link. I don’t know what happened

  • @Misses-Hippy
    @Misses-Hippy 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have no idea what you're talking about.

  • @maquantotempo
    @maquantotempo ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much Daniel for sharing your light. I feel reassured I have found someone else that feels similarly to me and has a found a way through the darkness. After seeing your videos I know I want to become my biggest friend and ally. Sometimes we waste a lot of time in life in fruitless relationships, giving more and more and getting less and less. I want to look inward and find in me what others could not provide/chose not to provide. I want to have in me all I need to have a rich existence in this world. I think I am almost there, at least 95% of the times. I have an incredible respect and admiration for your courage and honesty. Speaking against some institutions or societal taboos takes a lot of strength, courage and energy. You are serving the world with your wisdom and hard learned lessons and I want you to know that your energy was felt that on the other side of the ocean (Europe) and that my days have considerably been lighter after finding your channel. I can still see and hear a vulnerable child in your speech and body language; keep that purity and lightness with you please. It's the most amazing thing that we survivors learned to preserve. Please keep giving us your contribution and much needed life experience. You have another ally here in case you ever feel like it. 🙏🤍

  • @Typhoon792
    @Typhoon792 ปีที่แล้ว

    "Why is there death in the world?
    So that evil will not live forever.
    Because, since we ate of the Tree of Knowledge, no one walks forward without stumbling, no one climbs without falling, no one does good all his life without causing some damage along the way.
    Until, at the end, our lives are an absurd muddle of good and evil, inextricably bound.
    With death, evil dies as well. The failures, the ugly acts and the damage done-all these wither and eventually perish. But the good we have accomplished-and that we truly are-this lives forever."
    ~ Rabbi Tzvi Freeman
    Regarding everyone having a True Self, yeah; that's what I also thought... It's what allowed me to have faith (in humanity) and keep on fighting. Then I got deep into Personality Disorders (and came to realize how widespread they are). No more hope.