Only 3 minutes into your video so I apologize if you state this later and I’m just being redundant, but I think society loves to posit adults as if they are naturally better than children, that adults are superior to children, etc. however, the reality is that children are in many ways miles ahead of adults, being that children, prior to being “tainted” by the hands of their parents, of their peers, of society, are actually much more emotionally open, their attachment to their “spirit” or to their inner self is very much still intact- and as for adults, not so much. Adults in many ways have regressed, they are the living manifestation, the breathing outcomes of societal pressures, of societal conformity, of society robbing them of their emotionality. Children are so much more naturally in touch with themselves, so spiritually free, and so I think in many ways we should never truly feel like an “adult” if being an adult means to have lost touch with these invaluable, beautiful aspects of what it means to be a child, to be a child in spirit and to be connected with oneself in the way that children naturally are.
Unfortunately far too many parents aren’t concerned about what’s going on inside their child’s emotional reality. Only those that are as honest with themselves as this gentleman can heal all the buried trauma
The hardest part of becoming an adult is that no matter how much you age, get a job, get a car, get a bank account, get a house, have a passport, have a wife and kids, their is always that one person who will never acknowledge you as an adult.
Ultimately the concept of childhood, teenage and adults are socially constructed. It's humanhood showing at varying stages of physical growth. I felt overly mature through parentification and simultaneously immature through a lack of guidance from my narcissistic parents. This was a very interesting and informative video.
An adult should be reasonable,honest in every situation,good at solving problems,empathetic,understanding,assertive,know when to say yes or no,give truthful comments not to hurt a person but build a person,know how to keep some things to themselves,forgiving,
My narcissistic and sadistic mother liked it when I rebelled as a teenager because 1) she was secretly hoping someone would kill me on one of my run aways from home 2) she would set my father against me when the police brought me back home, and enjoyed it when he beat the hell out of me (which he did whenever he was angry) 3) she wanted me to come back home in tears because she always claimed I absolutely couldn't make it in life without her. I suppose she was right. I got really beaten by life whenever I tried to free myself from her. And I came to conclusion that life outside is extremely dangerous (her words) and I am safe only at home. I hate her but I can't free myself from her, we partially depend on her financially with my son. My fear of going out and finding a job that would actually give me better money is much greater than the desire to be free (I work from home but earn too little to move out). I don't recognize myself anymore. I keep myself alive for my son, otherwise I'm like a robot. I don't know how I could conquer this fear, it is extreme. I even find it hard to be outside seeing a friend or doing shopping for longer than necessary because I just want to be back home and feel safe again which is just an illusion because it's her house in which me and my son are just intruders.
Very true stuff. Anyone who tries to stamp out, punish, oppress you for being in touch emotionally, letting your true self to the surface; is confused, disturbed, oppressive, and cruel. Not to mention brainwashed by a very broken society and an expectation to conform to in an unhealthy way, roles which are usually cartoonish and 1- dimensional , and result in emotional deformities.
Someone who used to be my best friend started to go to therapy. She got wrapped up on "fake it until you make it". So her approach to being an adult is faking it, same thing with being happy. She doesnt accept it that Im trying to grief and talk about what happened to me in the past. We no longer have contact but this video helped me a lot. To know that Im being true to myself. Thank you for another wonderful video!
I was parentified, now this confuses me as I am very mature in some ways (too old) yet so childish in my emotions. I belong nowhere and have no idea who I am. Even my typing this I feel selfish I'm even talking about myself. Thankyou for this 😊
The comments in this video sum up very well how I’ve felt for decades. I’m 48 now and yet in many respects still feel absolutely stuck in my teen years where I had to endure many years of abuse and bullying by peers and faculty at school (best measured as incidents per hour exile at school) in addition to the isolation of being at a rural school where I was never accepted and thus left isolated (I had exactly one real friend who was also largely ostracized) for the entirety of my teen years, abuse that ultimately cost me my physical health (Fibromyalgia, myofascial pain syndrome, IBS, and severe chronic pain, to name just a few, in addition to episodes of depression) as well by the time I graduated at 18. I’ve long reflected on the fact that I have
The way you describe the world being run by emotionally stunted traumatized people resonated with me. In my 20s and 30s I Felt like I was screwing people over at work for some corporate directions and my personal financial enrichment, because I was confused about my feelings and acted like everybody else at work (adults). I felt a great deal of stress and anxiety at that time but figured thats just how it was. After I’ve done my work on myself and heal much of the trauma, I care less about corporate profits and stress. I care more about my well being, coworkers and clients now. Thank you for the message.
Only 3 minutes into your video so I apologize if you state this later and I’m just being redundant, but I think society loves to posit adults as if they are naturally better than children, that adults are superior to children, etc. however, the reality is that children are in many ways miles ahead of adults, being that children, prior to being “tainted” by the hands of their parents, of their peers, of society, are actually much more emotionally open, their attachment to their “spirit” or to their inner self is very much still intact- and as for adults, not so much. Adults in many ways have regressed, they are the living manifestation, the breathing outcomes of societal pressures, of societal conformity, of society robbing them of their emotionality. Children are so much more naturally in touch with themselves, so spiritually free, and so I think in many ways we should never truly feel like an “adult” if being an adult means to have lost touch with these invaluable, beautiful aspects of what it means to be a child, to be a child in spirit and to be connected with oneself in the way that children naturally are.
Yes! The world rewards the suppression of emotions! So sad. I considers feelings the "taste buds" of the soul.
It is a weird dishonest world. It’s so hard to be more awake/wake up but I’m not going back to sleep. It’s like you have to keep being reborn
I think you hit on a trait of Narc parents. Refusing to take responsibility and projecting adulthood, blame and guilt onto their children.
Unfortunately far too many parents aren’t concerned about what’s going on inside their child’s emotional reality. Only those that are as honest with themselves as this gentleman can heal all the buried trauma
The hardest part of becoming an adult is that no matter how much you age, get a job, get a car, get a bank account, get a house, have a passport, have a wife and kids, their is always that one person who will never acknowledge you as an adult.
Ultimately the concept of childhood, teenage and adults are socially constructed. It's humanhood showing at varying stages of physical growth. I felt overly mature through parentification and simultaneously immature through a lack of guidance from my narcissistic parents. This was a very interesting and informative video.
No wonder Joker went insane. A bunch of over grown children in adult bodies constantly bullying him and taking him to the brink of his sanity.
An adult should be reasonable,honest in every situation,good at solving problems,empathetic,understanding,assertive,know when to say yes or no,give truthful comments not to hurt a person but build a person,know how to keep some things to themselves,forgiving,
My narcissistic and sadistic mother liked it when I rebelled as a teenager because 1) she was secretly hoping someone would kill me on one of my run aways from home 2) she would set my father against me when the police brought me back home, and enjoyed it when he beat the hell out of me (which he did whenever he was angry) 3) she wanted me to come back home in tears because she always claimed I absolutely couldn't make it in life without her. I suppose she was right. I got really beaten by life whenever I tried to free myself from her. And I came to conclusion that life outside is extremely dangerous (her words) and I am safe only at home. I hate her but I can't free myself from her, we partially depend on her financially with my son. My fear of going out and finding a job that would actually give me better money is much greater than the desire to be free (I work from home but earn too little to move out). I don't recognize myself anymore. I keep myself alive for my son, otherwise I'm like a robot. I don't know how I could conquer this fear, it is extreme. I even find it hard to be outside seeing a friend or doing shopping for longer than necessary because I just want to be back home and feel safe again which is just an illusion because it's her house in which me and my son are just intruders.
My experience of the world is that there are very few actual adults.
I came to the same conclusion about "society being run largely by emotionally stunted people."
Very true stuff. Anyone who tries to stamp out, punish, oppress you for being in touch emotionally, letting your true self to the surface; is confused, disturbed, oppressive, and cruel. Not to mention brainwashed by a very broken society and an expectation to conform to in an unhealthy way, roles which are usually cartoonish and 1- dimensional , and result in emotional deformities.
I remember many years ago feeling like a child in my late twenties. A little later began thinking that because I was neglected my whole life.
Some people erroneously think, that being an adult, is about being serious and somber all the time.
Someone who used to be my best friend started to go to therapy. She got wrapped up on "fake it until you make it". So her approach to being an adult is faking it, same thing with being happy. She doesnt accept it that Im trying to grief and talk about what happened to me in the past. We no longer have contact but this video helped me a lot. To know that Im being true to myself. Thank you for another wonderful video!
I was parentified, now this confuses me as I am very mature in some ways (too old) yet so childish in my emotions. I belong nowhere and have no idea who I am. Even my typing this I feel selfish I'm even talking about myself. Thankyou for this 😊
The comments in this video sum up very well how I’ve felt for decades. I’m 48 now and yet in many respects still feel absolutely stuck in my teen years where I had to endure many years of abuse and bullying by peers and faculty at school (best measured as incidents per hour exile at school) in addition to the isolation of being at a rural school where I was never accepted and thus left isolated (I had exactly one real friend who was also largely ostracized) for the entirety of my teen years, abuse that ultimately cost me my physical health (Fibromyalgia, myofascial pain syndrome, IBS, and severe chronic pain, to name just a few, in addition to episodes of depression) as well by the time I graduated at 18. I’ve long reflected on the fact that I have
The way you describe the world being run by emotionally stunted traumatized people resonated with me. In my 20s and 30s I Felt like I was screwing people over at work for some corporate directions and my personal financial enrichment, because I was confused about my feelings and acted like everybody else at work (adults). I felt a great deal of stress and anxiety at that time but figured thats just how it was. After I’ve done my work on myself and heal much of the trauma, I care less about corporate profits and stress. I care more about my well being, coworkers and clients now. Thank you for the message.
"No sensible child wants to be an incomplete human being." -- John Taylor Gatto