One thing all of us with ADHD can do is convince the other person we heard every word they said by nodding and staring into their eyes but really we’re wondering how to build a pond and a house in the middle of no where and also wondering how we would get electricity.. and then the conversation ends.
This is low-key my specialty. Doesn't help my job in sales though, sometimes a costumer tells a 3 minuten story and before I know it I'm picturing how to repair my bike or what was the name of that song that goes like la la la la, after that I think to myself I need to pick up some food later. When I'm back on earth and the customer is still going I will smile and nod. Welcome to my life haha
as a toadler I used to stare at the wall for half an hour (or maybe more IDK) and either hyperfocus on the texture of the wall or be so in thoughts. I could probably spent the rest of my life in my room without getting bored...the only time I get bored is when I'm "forced" to do things I don't feel like doing... like... studying... I'm someone who is always "happy" but not being able to meet the expectations people have for me makes me sad... and really had a negative effect on my self-confidence...
funny cos my mom always brings me along when she meet her friends because Im quiet and never get bored and give her a tantrum. I spent my years as a kid being lost in my mind in another world.
Wow, that is exactly what I've been doing. I think is the 4th talk I've listened to on ADHD. The amount of homework I could've done by now if I knew how to control my dang brain.
It's not like every ADHD share all traits. I have ADHD and I have not had this problem. ADHD doesn't men that you do not pay attention but you pay attention to what you like otherwise your attention may jump to something else.
XD true! When I sued to have to make eye contact I wouldn't look at there eyes if look at there for head,ears,eyebrows,mouth, just cuz I didn't wanna listen to my mom 🤣
I feel it all. Yeah we just feel the vibration yeh most. But we want to help you decode. Because that’s what it is. We’re always meant to decode our very being. It’s so deeeeeep. so deeep. There is hope for all us none the less keep programming your brain the way you want to. It’s a human experience, why not?
For me the hardest thing to manage is my obsess hyper focus at somthing that my mind chose randomly especially if its negative and I feel exhausted after 😑.
Adnan Rifai one time I spent all night writing down every possible Starbucks order I would like and their customizations and just wouldn’t stop. Like whyyyy haha
When she said, "And those with ADHD probably aren't even listening to me anymore because they're distracted." And I'm over here in another tab scrolling with my phone in my other hand. Yeah...
Dustin Diamond I work at a medtech facility building and calibrating ventilators for 12 hour shifts, while trying to learn to play guitar during my free time and trying to work out again too
Dustin Diamond thanks for the words of confidence. I’m still struggling with vices and poor habits that are holding me back from being happy with myself. Such as PMO, and drive/motivation/willpower. Like you know something is bad for you, and you tell yourself you need to stop, but you can never really kick it to the curb
@@TheNucaKolaplease search iml academy. I'm 19 with severe adhd and up until i found this forex learning academy i started learning how to make money my phone and have people motivate me on another level all the time throughout the day and they encourage me to break through my bad habits and do what i want
Just wanted to say this. Success can mean different things to different people. Don't measure your own life's success with how society as a whole measure's success. I love the message here that ADHD is not a disorder and it's just that our brain works differently. However, not everyone with ADHD will be successful or means that they should be "successful". Embrace your difference and just be happy and take care of yourself!
It’s only a superpower when you learn how to properly focus with love for what your doing especially for innovation and daily life... at least that’s what I’ve personally noticed and therefore trying to incorporate that into my daily life to become a more well rounded individual
You summed it up completely! Only when I'm doing what I'm interested in/passionate about do I thrive. I can't conform or take orders ( unless I deeply respect someone and then I'll listen to them lol). I also have to work in a quiet space where I can be left alone to relax and hyperfocus.
Kudos to you Nikki. Well presented, and not in your first language. I wasn't diagnosed until age 51. It explained a lot, and I'm still growing into it.
@@RussBlake80Let your heart be at peace . everything will be fine. Just help yourselves focus on your strengths and the positive side of what you carry. ADHD is beautiful live with when you understand it.
I have ADHD I feel like I have anxiety sometimes I wonder what I'm doing here i would have a conversation with somebody and I just couldn't get my point across like I start stuttering or I couldn't pronounce the word properly I have short term memory loss I don't know if I don't get enough sleep or I'm not eating well or I just need to right vitamin I often forget things I will have a conversation with somebody and just forget what I was about to say and I hate that I really do I'm also constantly in my head or inside my head I was searching through TH-cam and then they said if your forget something is completely normal I know nobody's probably going to read my comment but i just wanted to let someone know how i feel
Look up Working Memory and Executive Functioning skills. What your describing is a deficit in EF skills related to working memory. It’s a primary issue for many people with ADHD. And of course struggling with memory issues it’s going to cause you anxiety! There are ways to help you build and exercise your working memory. Do your research. Look up Dr Russell Barkley
Haha I started watching this having flipped from 2 other videos whilst changing the bed linen and getting ready for bed. About 6 mins in I started on the comments, now I'm adding a comment.... Got distracted mid way through by a text, am now back 15 mins later... It's ok folks, it's all in hand. Im just not sure what it is, or whose hand! So many things to cram into this exact moment.... Happy ADHD moment peeps.
I honestly think my ADHD makes me very extroverted in sociable due to having a ton of energy, getting very excited, and always being able to get an interesting convo going with my crazy mind bouncing around it's one of the things that the people who love me love most about me but it also annoys certain types of people and when I learned to keep the ones that love me for it and not sweat the ones that don't I became much happier
Yea I’ve had to accept some people just won’t understand me or like me for who I am. But the ones that do love me for me keep them close they take the time to understand you
concentration is a mental skill that is expected increasingly from anybody. people in the past would not have had these issues because there were different expectations and not everybody had to do mental work. now on the other hand if you are not wired biologically in a way that is usable in work environments, you become "dysfunctional". brave new worldey.
I relate to this hard. I was always in the top 3 students in elementary school. All with very little/minimal effort. My classmates always thought I was lying when I told them I didn't study. It started getting bad in high school and became a struggling student in college (even though I aced subjects I was interested in with ease). In the professional world I am still struggling with attention and focus. The extreme boredom when I am not challenged and feeling of being overwhelmed and depressed when I can't accomplish a task in time. I think I have ADHD.
This definitely describes me. I struggle with I'm not challenged professionally. I'm always looking for adventure in my job and if I don't get it, the environment tends to depress me. I haven't gotten a diagnosis though.
in my case: One Moment Peaple say to Me I'm a genius But Anather Moment theY are LIke Are You Kidding ....Us ....did You Just Forget to that simple thing and i feel like where i was wrong.....I am just Fed Up of these things and I will start Taking a Medecine Which Activates the Beast Mode In Me...i Khow it is Bad for us....But at least i will live a good life
similar story but i dropped out of college after 2.5 years, my life felt like it was falling apart and i just thought it was because i wasn't trying hard enough, but the more i looked into it, eventually i had an aha moment or like a existential experience where everything kind of made sense. I'm now 22 on my way to a diagnosis:)
I am 60 years old & I can relate to your lifetime story. In my case, I eventually found a subject that relates to everything - “economics” (with never ending angles). It became a life time passion. Though, it does not directly relate to my job, it helped in my investment portfolio. I also want to add that I don’t recommend taking medication. There are other ways to cope with the symptoms. Maybe it would be a harder journey. Maybe it will need a lot of emotional support (also need to express your feelings in a communicable way). Maybe all it needs is a huge commitment. (I read through a ton of self-help and psychology books).
Ted talks really giving opportunity to share individual "specialities" and helping us to understand them. Which will help to make a better place to live for everyone.
In these 18 minutes, you just CHANGED MY LIFE! Here's how: I've got a name for the last 30 years I have been in a state of discovery, and through all the trials and tragedies and tribulations of my life I could not put it all togetheruntil just recently and this tedtalk just confirmed many things that have gone through my mind and I've also heard other say about me. the reason why I am going to say that this tedtalk has changed my life is because I am watching it consecutively and I've watched it four times and now I have a desire to watch it five more? as I exercise the lot of repetition I believe that something is going to crack where I really activate my ADHD as the superpower it is? & Boy oh boy.... Look out world, cause here she comes! 🔥🔥🔥
i understand the light going off when you stop reading and say, this is me and this is why. Congratulations for you have just won the lottery. All of the time you have spent wondering why, can now be spent on making Tracy even better. When I was 27 a friend talked me into a weekend training of "self development". I did not find a diagnosis but I did learn positive activities and thinking will produce positive results. Then there was the anything one can believe, one can achieve. I never set the world on fire (figuratively), however, I did start a coffee shop with my wife, and ran an investigation business for 25+ years. All before I was diagnosed and learned that key which explained me. Never, NEVER GIVE UP. I made it through life without ever having a diagnosis. Life is what you make it.
Am I the only one that have to listen to a book while having something else， a game or a picture book aside so that I could keep listening to the book？
I’m actually writing a rhetorical analysis rough draft about this TED talk and I plan to write about how maybe she inappropriately handled this subject by acting like adhd could be a superpower. I’ll be 19 in May and I was diagnosed at 17 and I don’t see my adhd as doom and gloom or a sentence necessarily. It is a disorder, it doesn’t mean you’re less than, not at all, but it is a disorder. Don’t beat yourself up for not finding the positive side of a literal disorder that affects basic functions of day to day life such as paying attention and impulse control. You don’t even need to love it or hate it. I’ve struggled enough being diagnosed later in childhood or adolescence when I was 17, I’m so sorry you had to be undiagnosed and unnoticed for so long.
i always loved being alone!!! i never liked school nd my college attendence is also very low. i just blackout from a group conversation. sometimes I speak on completely different topic
Emotions really start to flow and I love so much, I focus on 1 think too much and worry about things that I can’t control anyway. I’m just ask Christ to help and forgive me, that makes me so happy
I came here for my boyfriend because he has ADHD but I honestly think I have it. I can’t even pay attention to this video. I clean houses for a living also and I take forever because each room has to look perfect. Idk 🤷♀️😢
this woman couldnt follow a single thought to the end. haha her brain was jumping from channel to channel even tho she sounded monotonous. ADHD at its finest
The differences in later life of those with ADHD involve severity, but also age when diagnosed, if and when treated, how much + or - events happened prior to the diagnosis, the family of origin’s level of structure or chaos, whether your parents had undiagnosed ADHD or not, the level of fit between your strengths and your career, the level of acceptance by your spouse/parents, presence and severity of co-existing MH diagnoses, the level of stress and ability to handle the stress, financial considerations, the amount of science based knowledge your dr/psychiatrist understands and how that leads to proper amount or type of meds if meds used, and also the level of hormones still pumping through the body (40+ age women primarily). The more of these factors we can get a handle on, the better the chance we have to be in or at least improve our ADHD related situation. It takes outside scaffolding sometimes to get there as well. ADHD Coaching, timer apps, body doubling to clean, these really help us as well. But we have to be open to asking for help and investing in ourselves. Learn about your own brain and how adhd affects you! But evaluate your habits with nonjudgmental attitude and Shame-FREE manner. Like as a scientist evaluating what works and what doesnt. That is the best advice i can give. Coaching helps with this as well.
I can not tolerate fictional books or entertainment. I need to be reading something educational or listening to something informative, or both at the same time. I get obsessed with new topics. I have to look up the answers to dozens of questions every day. I only need 3 hours of sleep each night.
I started watching this video a few weeks ago--- while flipping thru all the pages I have open- oh I never this video-- watched about 1 min of it and moved on to other things-- 3, 4 hrs later- let me just finish once and for all-- finally done...
It took me two days to finish this video because I kept getting distracted by how attractive I find the Good Madam Doctor. I kept ending up on Google images and a few obscure medical journal sites. I now have multiple annual subscriptions and the only things I've learned are: 1) fluent Arabic, and 2) Mediocre Farsi, because after I learned Arabic I remembered that Farsi is the predominant language of Iran. So all in all, pretty good weekend....
I have ADHD I think I have anxiety sometimes i wonder what im doing here i would have a conversation with someone and i couldn't get my thoughts/point across or i didn't know what to say i would start stuttering or i couldn't pronounce the word properly i have short term memory loss i don't know if I don't get enough sleep or im not eating well or i just need the right vitamins i often forget things i would have a conversation with someone and I would forget what i was about to say or what to say i hate that i really do im also constantly thinking inside my head i was searching through TH-cam and then they said if you forget something is completely normal i just wanted to let someone know how I feel
I never thought someone else would be like me. Wow. I will say there is some light at the end of the tunnel for you no matter how hopeless the feeling of not being able to communicate properly with someone might be. I still ALWAYS mix up words that I don’t mean to say. Sometimes they’re even the complete opposite of what I’m intending on saying! But I try to put intention behind my words, knowing that what I’m saying is what I feel. It comes with being confident in what you’re saying and not second guessing your stream of thoughts. Even being overly enthusiastic about what your saying helps (bc with the natural lack of dopamine in our brains we have to always try harder to be positive about things that don’t peak our interests🥴)
11:43 YES!!!! I always forget that I want/need sleep And about wanting to flip tables, when I would work on something that was making me mad, I would focus on a spot in front of me, hold out my hands and breath. Then I felt like I could never again, the first thing I did is grab that paper (instantly crumpling it). Not even a moment later I would feel so bad that all anger would leave, I would put down the paper and burst into tears.
I really like this talk. I had a hard time keeping focus on my TEDx talk. Forgot some of it. Funny you mentioned that as a thing. I have been reading a lot about this lately. Happy to hear it explained simply.
For so long I blamed this behavior on being an only child. lol "I want it now!" oh. People always thought I was so lucky because I always got what I wanted. Well, it's called, uncontrollable determination. lol
It's not even close to success, people laughing at you in school, teachers mocking you for not learning anything, parents blame you for your scores and forgetting things. there is nothing good about having ADHD
its not necessarily about forgetting the class. it can also be about a lack of time comprehension. If you are focused on something "now" you only know the class is "not now". so it is very easy to forget about the Not Now when you are focused on Now and then suddenly "class started 20 minutes ago"
All I am wishing right now is that the doctor will help me through. Sudden anger and procrastination as well as fear of unknown is killing my life for now.
@@vishvajeetsinh_solanki , try the different medications that the doctors prescribe, maybe they work, maybe they don't At the end of the day you have to ACCEPT who you are and your ABILITIES ! also intense exercising helps several times a day just remember nobody is born PERFECT....deal with it ! Find strategies that work for you...no, you'll never be Normal, but try and love the life you have !
Came out of iran age 17 than moved in Europe few years later to Canada and now I am 53 just find out after a failed relationships and lots of hardship… I am just crying how I lost so many years of my life 😭
While watching this video, I have 3 notebooks open and I am writing in all of them, while trying to watch this video. Now I am f’ng off in the comment section and I am really supposed to be organizing my basement bc I still haven’t decorated my tree, bc I can’t find all of my decorations. And I have 10 other things on my mind right now and 29 things I need to do. O.M.G. 😳🤦🏻♀️🤯...
I've not been very distracted since I'm really relating to this. But I'm typing this in the middle of the video because I'll have forgotten by the time I finish watching the video.
I'd say bubbling over with it rather than oozing. I much prefer to attempt innovative or creative tasks because I find doing something menial to be a pointless waste of my time. If it's creative, then there will be something to show for it afterwards, and people may give good feedback as a reward.
2:21 When describing ADHD subtypes... "Those who are predominantly hyperactive, thank god I'm not that." Language like that is not supportive nor inclusive, even if it is coming from someone who has ADHD. Passive comments like this shouldn't be supported.
How can I not be ashamed when my field of study has so much group work to do and I need to keep up with others and they get mad when I'm not paying attention or when I didn't understand what professor said?
I am creative and very talented in anything I put my mind to, and yet, people far less talented than me have accomplished more and are more successful. Which led me conclude they happened because of my lack of focus and consistency, impulsiveness, laziness and procrastination. It feels like I have squandered my gifts. I know now its ADHD, is it really a superpower? Its been a lifetime of pain.
Thank you Negar aziz, I am 53 and I just found out this is what I have 😭 thank you for talking about it I need to know more and even maybe OVD even or something even more… ❤️🙏
Skipping oral com in college because it was much more interesting to talk to my philosophy professor than listen to a bunch of college students who can't give a captivating speech.
My super power is that im an empath ,we wouldn't get along . You would tell me how good you are at everything i would try and agree , you wouldnt listen , I would reel to concerve energy , you would take it personally and burn me to all of our friends.
Why are you proud? Maybe you don't have ADHD because it's a pain to be an underachiever despite ability, asocial despite liking people, failing at relationships despite being kind and loving. ADHD is a torture and I am not deluding myself with such a pep talk.
ADHD is trauma Response. There are so many in children from abusive violent homes who dissociate day dream as a coping mechanism to survive and grow up as adults who suffer due to childhood emotional neglect or emotional invalidation. Labels are disempowering.
Thanks for sharing, this has been the most power video I’ve found on TH-cam and I can relate, now I have a better understanding to help myself for my life and my family 🌹 shoot for the moon and at least you’ll land on a ⭐️
Fantastic to call it a superpower, My question is how do you deal with your challenges in performing academically, especially as a young child, because of the difficulties to concentrate on teachers etcetera. I mean it causes one to fail grades and be in trouble all the time. Positive feedback on the question will be appreciated
fleexseed cold press oil/fish oil is a miracle i heard, exercising daily also help. some music helps too. In school they have support for kids I am getting for my son.
I’m watching this to feel better about myself procrastinating doing schoolwork that’s due tonight. Sitting down to read and comprehend and remember and actually getting it done is a whole struggle.
All of this! Funny personal story: I impulsively bought concert tickets last summer for a concert the next week then forgot that I bought the tickets...ADHD.
Lol it's cool to me but my mom always try to come up with bad lies with my adhd so I can feel more bad about myself in then till I showed her this video she got mad 😂🤣
whenever I decide to be focused or to do not think to sleep, after 10 min I see myself overwhelmed with thinks, again I say hey stay focus!! then again I found myself thinking about another subject....
One thing all of us with ADHD can do is convince the other person we heard every word they said by nodding and staring into their eyes but really we’re wondering how to build a pond and a house in the middle of no where and also wondering how we would get electricity.. and then the conversation ends.
I agree😂
This is low-key my specialty. Doesn't help my job in sales though, sometimes a costumer tells a 3 minuten story and before I know it I'm picturing how to repair my bike or what was the name of that song that goes like la la la la, after that I think to myself I need to pick up some food later. When I'm back on earth and the customer is still going I will smile and nod.
Welcome to my life haha
LOL... That's exactly one of the things I was thinking about during the lecture.
🤣🤣🤣
Yess! Sucks when your boss is asking you to do something though then you have to play it off and have them repeat it 😂
ADHD people, distracted from video, reading comments.
@Rasika Vijay me too ✋
saaaame
That's multitasking
Here!!
yup!
So true!! Omg when I’m alone I’m NEVER bored. Small talk in a group of “normal” ppl... makes me wanna go run a marathon.
Jenni Highlander same! I never get bored when I’m alone, and as a toddler I used to sit in the corner and talk to myself, but I don’t mind small talk
as a toadler I used to stare at the wall for half an hour (or maybe more IDK) and either hyperfocus on the texture of the wall or be so in thoughts. I could probably spent the rest of my life in my room without getting bored...the only time I get bored is when I'm "forced" to do things I don't feel like doing... like... studying...
I'm someone who is always "happy" but not being able to meet the expectations people have for me makes me sad... and really had a negative effect on my self-confidence...
yessss i actually am forever laughing and talking to myself and its never boring
Same 🤣
funny cos my mom always brings me along when she meet her friends because Im quiet and never get bored and give her a tantrum. I spent my years as a kid being lost in my mind in another world.
When your ADHD is awry and you are watching this instead of doing homework😂
when you make adhd your homework :D
Wow, that is exactly what I've been doing. I think is the 4th talk I've listened to on ADHD. The amount of homework I could've done by now if I knew how to control my dang brain.
LOL🤣
Gotta get that ADHD hyperfocus going!
@Rasika Vijay because we are always trying to find the explanation and solution to being able to do homework like "normal" people.
It’s hard to keep friends, I get bored with people so fast, the conversations become predicable and small talk kills me.
small talk KILLS ME, hurts my soul- i hate bs
Same
That’s introvert
Omg felt....
Not alone bud
When someone’s talking to you looking directly into your eyes and you’re somewhere else... ahhh
It's not like every ADHD share all traits. I have ADHD and I have not had this problem. ADHD doesn't men that you do not pay attention but you pay attention to what you like otherwise your attention may jump to something else.
@@mogbaba depends on amount of practice, if socializing is something you enjoy etc
C it’s sooooo meeeeee
true......
XD true! When I sued to have to make eye contact I wouldn't look at there eyes if look at there for head,ears,eyebrows,mouth, just cuz I didn't wanna listen to my mom 🤣
I love her energy and her realness. "Do you ever get so mad you want to flip over a table and slap the person who didn't give you what you want?"
Hillary Frew my life
Yep- done that too
Hilary Haines yeah
it makes me feel funny and something els comes up 😂 I feel so free.
I feel it all. Yeah we just feel the vibration yeh most. But we want to help you decode. Because that’s what it is. We’re always meant to decode our very being. It’s so deeeeeep. so deeep.
There is hope for all us none the less keep programming your brain the way you want to. It’s a human experience, why not?
oh my gosh HAHAHA i havent gotten to that part but sounds funny to read in my head with an imaginary inspiring voice 🤣🤣
For me the hardest thing to manage is my obsess hyper focus at somthing that my mind chose randomly especially if its negative and I feel exhausted after 😑.
Adnan Rifai one time I spent all night writing down every possible Starbucks order I would like and their customizations and just wouldn’t stop. Like whyyyy haha
@@marinacover8699been there done that.thats why I don't choose anymore I walk and tell them to make their favorite
I'm on an Adhd Hyperfocus rn lol
same, my latest was to paint a car wreck. dont know why but i just had to paint it
I spent the whole day researching ADHD after a particularly hard dance practice yesterday. I didn't eat or drink anything until about 7pm.
When she said, "And those with ADHD probably aren't even listening to me anymore because they're distracted." And I'm over here in another tab scrolling with my phone in my other hand. Yeah...
but you were listening then...
Doesn’t feel like a superpower to me, I feel completely handicapped and unable to accomplish anything of significance
What are you interested in? Computers, get a tech job, learn how to code a game. Humans, some psychology, or doctor, use that hyper-focus!
Dustin Diamond I work at a medtech facility building and calibrating ventilators for 12 hour shifts, while trying to learn to play guitar during my free time and trying to work out again too
@@TheNucaKola seems like you got a hang of things. I just fix computers and do ALOT of camping :D
Dustin Diamond thanks for the words of confidence. I’m still struggling with vices and poor habits that are holding me back from being happy with myself. Such as PMO, and drive/motivation/willpower. Like you know something is bad for you, and you tell yourself you need to stop, but you can never really kick it to the curb
@@TheNucaKolaplease search iml academy. I'm 19 with severe adhd and up until i found this forex learning academy i started learning how to make money my phone and have people motivate me on another level all the time throughout the day and they encourage me to break through my bad habits and do what i want
Just wanted to say this. Success can mean different things to different people. Don't measure your own life's success with how society as a whole measure's success. I love the message here that ADHD is not a disorder and it's just that our brain works differently. However, not everyone with ADHD will be successful or means that they should be "successful". Embrace your difference and just be happy and take care of yourself!
It’s only a superpower when you learn how to properly focus with love for what your doing especially for innovation and daily life... at least that’s what I’ve personally noticed and therefore trying to incorporate that into my daily life to become a more well rounded individual
delegation is key. Employers need to realize we were made to be leaders, not workers bees
Perfect explanation
@@Saice2002 You're absolutely right!
You summed it up completely! Only when I'm doing what I'm interested in/passionate about do I thrive. I can't conform or take orders ( unless I deeply respect someone and then I'll listen to them lol). I also have to work in a quiet space where I can be left alone to relax and hyperfocus.
Cannot agree more!
Kudos to you Nikki. Well presented, and not in your first language. I wasn't diagnosed until age 51. It explained a lot, and I'm still growing into it.
I just found out at age 55. Trying to figure out what to do with the rest of my life that fits with ADHD.
ADHD people scrolling comments as soon as the vid starts then realizing they haven’t heard a word this chic said.
so true! here with you
literally, and whilst reading them also thinking "I wonder what she's saying"
I haven’t turned her voice on yet. I find people in the comments more real.
“Did I say aggressiveness?” STORY OF MY LIFE, I’m always switching up my words
I just finished crying my eyes out. I admire how cool and understanding you are with having ADHD. I hope to be like that one day.
i have learned to love my adhd! :) it has its positive sides!
@@RussBlake80Let your heart be at peace . everything will be fine. Just help yourselves focus on your strengths and the positive side of what you carry. ADHD is beautiful live with when you understand it.
I have ADHD I feel like I have anxiety sometimes I wonder what I'm doing here i would have a conversation with somebody and I just couldn't get my point across like I start stuttering or I couldn't pronounce the word properly I have short term memory loss I don't know if I don't get enough sleep or I'm not eating well or I just need to right vitamin I often forget things I will have a conversation with somebody and just forget what I was about to say and I hate that I really do I'm also constantly in my head or inside my head I was searching through TH-cam and then they said if your forget something is completely normal I know nobody's probably going to read my comment but i just wanted to let someone know how i feel
sayco79 iTz you know her name sounds like the n word
Am I you?
Dillon & Levi be nice😂
Look up Working Memory and Executive Functioning skills. What your describing is a deficit in EF skills related to working memory. It’s a primary issue for many people with ADHD. And of course struggling with memory issues it’s going to cause you anxiety! There are ways to help you build and exercise your working memory. Do your research. Look up Dr Russell Barkley
Hey, how are you? Are you still struggling? Let me know if you want to chat, I recently have been diagnosed.
Haha I started watching this having flipped from 2 other videos whilst changing the bed linen and getting ready for bed. About 6 mins in I started on the comments, now I'm adding a comment....
Got distracted mid way through by a text, am now back 15 mins later...
It's ok folks, it's all in hand. Im just not sure what it is, or whose hand!
So many things to cram into this exact moment....
Happy ADHD moment peeps.
I honestly think my ADHD makes me very extroverted in sociable due to having a ton of energy, getting very excited, and always being able to get an interesting convo going with my crazy mind bouncing around it's one of the things that the people who love me love most about me but it also annoys certain types of people and when I learned to keep the ones that love me for it and not sweat the ones that don't I became much happier
Yea I’ve had to accept some people just won’t understand me or like me for who I am. But the ones that do love me for me keep them close they take the time to understand you
when you are supposed to be doing homework but you end up on here
im suppos to go to school ahaha
lmaooo im doing both
@Rasika Vijay this is not adhd... just lack oc interest lmao
concentration is a mental skill that is expected increasingly from anybody. people in the past would not have had these issues because there were different expectations and not everybody had to do mental work. now on the other hand if you are not wired biologically in a way that is usable in work environments, you become "dysfunctional". brave new worldey.
It's a unique TEDx Talk. Because, the speaker perfectly uses the technique of PAUSES to make her ideas more dramatic and appealing.... Bravo.
I have to repeat the video,just zoned off for the past 10 minutes
I relate to this hard. I was always in the top 3 students in elementary school. All with very little/minimal effort. My classmates always thought I was lying when I told them I didn't study. It started getting bad in high school and became a struggling student in college (even though I aced subjects I was interested in with ease). In the professional world I am still struggling with attention and focus. The extreme boredom when I am not challenged and feeling of being overwhelmed and depressed when I can't accomplish a task in time. I think I have ADHD.
This definitely describes me. I struggle with I'm not challenged professionally. I'm always looking for adventure in my job and if I don't get it, the environment tends to depress me. I haven't gotten a diagnosis though.
in my case: One Moment Peaple say to Me I'm a genius But Anather Moment theY are LIke Are You Kidding ....Us ....did You Just Forget to that simple thing and i feel like where i was wrong.....I am just Fed Up of these things and I will start Taking a Medecine Which Activates the Beast Mode In Me...i Khow it is Bad for us....But at least i will live a good life
similar story but i dropped out of college after 2.5 years, my life felt like it was falling apart and i just thought it was because i wasn't trying hard enough, but the more i looked into it, eventually i had an aha moment or like a existential experience where everything kind of made sense. I'm now 22 on my way to a diagnosis:)
Same happebed wirh me. I got diagnosed 2 days ago
I am 60 years old & I can relate to your lifetime story. In my case, I eventually found a subject that relates to everything - “economics” (with never ending angles). It became a life time passion. Though, it does not directly relate to my job, it helped in my investment portfolio.
I also want to add that I don’t recommend taking medication. There are other ways to cope with the symptoms. Maybe it would be a harder journey. Maybe it will need a lot of emotional support (also need to express your feelings in a communicable way). Maybe all it needs is a huge commitment. (I read through a ton of self-help and psychology books).
Oops i paused the video for 31 minutes to read the comments. Oh well time to watch it 😁
Ted talks really giving opportunity to share individual "specialities" and helping us to understand them. Which will help to make a better place to live for everyone.
In these 18 minutes, you just CHANGED MY LIFE! Here's how:
I've got a name for the last 30 years I have been in a state of discovery, and through all the trials and tragedies and tribulations of my life I could not put it all togetheruntil just recently and this tedtalk just confirmed many things that have gone through my mind and I've also heard other say about me. the reason why I am going to say that this tedtalk has changed my life is because I am watching it consecutively and I've watched it four times and now I have a desire to watch it five more? as I exercise the lot of repetition I believe that something is going to crack where I really activate my ADHD as the superpower it is? & Boy oh boy.... Look out world, cause here she comes! 🔥🔥🔥
Really !...............hows that working for you ?
i understand the light going off when you stop reading and say, this is me and this is why. Congratulations for you have just won the lottery. All of the time you have spent wondering why, can now be spent on making Tracy even better. When I was 27 a friend talked me into a weekend training of "self development". I did not find a diagnosis but I did learn positive activities and thinking will produce positive results. Then there was the anything one can believe, one can achieve. I never set the world on fire (figuratively), however, I did start a coffee shop with my wife, and ran an investigation business for 25+ years. All before I was diagnosed and learned that key which explained me. Never, NEVER GIVE UP. I made it through life without ever having a diagnosis. Life is what you make it.
When we re alone we never get bored. This is so true.
Am I the only one that have to listen to a book while having something else， a game or a picture book aside so that I could keep listening to the book？
I relate to every single point she made. Never knew that's what it was despite having that suggestion thrown out a few times growing up. Thank you!
I love this woman, she gets it.
when I’m alone I’m NEVER bored.................
That’s the only bit I didn’t agree with. I’m permanently bored/under-stimulated
Diagnosed with ADHD 3 months ago at 44 and really struggling to find the superpower side of it. It had ruined parts of my life and still is.
I’m actually writing a rhetorical analysis rough draft about this TED talk and I plan to write about how maybe she inappropriately handled this subject by acting like adhd could be a superpower. I’ll be 19 in May and I was diagnosed at 17 and I don’t see my adhd as doom and gloom or a sentence necessarily.
It is a disorder, it doesn’t mean you’re less than, not at all, but it is a disorder. Don’t beat yourself up for not finding the positive side of a literal disorder that affects basic functions of day to day life such as paying attention and impulse control. You don’t even need to love it or hate it. I’ve struggled enough being diagnosed later in childhood or adolescence when I was 17, I’m so sorry you had to be undiagnosed and unnoticed for so long.
I have adhd and my mind wondered at 10 min. 🤷♀️ Now I have to go back and watch again.... Grrrrr🤦♀️
took me 10 trys to finish the video.
Great talk! Of course, I am writing this half-way through the video :)))
im reading comments half way through the video :'D
Reading comments before the video 🤦♂️
Lol I'm not the only one that does this 🙌🏿
Replying halfway through the video LOL
i always loved being alone!!! i never liked school nd my college attendence is also very low. i just blackout from a group conversation. sometimes I speak on completely different topic
How's college life ??
Gal Gadot giving a talk about ADHD?
Yes please.
i zoned out for the first 4 minutes and tuned in when she said "2 other people in this room probably aren't listening to me" or whatever she said
Emotions really start to flow and I love so much, I focus on 1 think too much and worry about things that I can’t control anyway. I’m just ask Christ to help and forgive me, that makes me so happy
Dude me and my brother both have it and our conversation are all over the place 😂we noticed it couple days ago and couldn’t stop laughing at ourselves
I came here for my boyfriend because he has ADHD but I honestly think I have it. I can’t even pay attention to this video. I clean houses for a living also and I take forever because each room has to look perfect. Idk 🤷♀️😢
I am the same way. I was cleaning houses with my sis and it took me forever to do one room. I was so worried about how long I took.
this woman couldnt follow a single thought to the end. haha her brain was jumping from channel to channel even tho she sounded monotonous. ADHD at its finest
Yet it was all so clear 🙌🏽
..... I didn't even notice
The differences in later life of those with ADHD involve severity, but also age when diagnosed, if and when treated, how much + or - events happened prior to the diagnosis, the family of origin’s level of structure or chaos, whether your parents had undiagnosed ADHD or not, the level of fit between your strengths and your career, the level of acceptance by your spouse/parents, presence and severity of co-existing MH diagnoses, the level of stress and ability to handle the stress, financial considerations, the amount of science based knowledge your dr/psychiatrist understands and how that leads to proper amount or type of meds if meds used, and also the level of hormones still pumping through the body (40+ age women primarily).
The more of these factors we can get a handle on, the better the chance we have to be in or at least improve our ADHD related situation. It takes outside scaffolding sometimes to get there as well. ADHD Coaching, timer apps, body doubling to clean, these really help us as well. But we have to be open to asking for help and investing in ourselves.
Learn about your own brain and how adhd affects you! But evaluate your habits with nonjudgmental attitude and Shame-FREE manner. Like as a scientist evaluating what works and what doesnt. That is the best advice i can give. Coaching helps with this as well.
I can not tolerate fictional books or entertainment. I need to be reading something educational or listening to something informative, or both at the same time.
I get obsessed with new topics. I have to look up the answers to dozens of questions every day. I only need 3 hours of sleep each night.
I am the same way! I always have to be learning because it makes my brain stimulated enough.
Brain works differently... this words will help me to do something I face to in future
Is 4AM and I’m supposed to wake up at 7AM😅
Me too😅
Yikes😬
Spot on with what goes on in my life!
I started watching this video a few weeks ago--- while flipping thru all the pages I have open- oh I never this video-- watched about 1 min of it and moved on to other things-- 3, 4 hrs later- let me just finish once and for all-- finally done...
Best video ever on ADHD♥️
The payment methods on the phone hahaha
So relatable!
I had lost toooo many cards, they bank guys already know me
I just lost a $300 coat. How the F did I do that?
It took me two days to finish this video because I kept getting distracted by how attractive I find the Good Madam Doctor. I kept ending up on Google images and a few obscure medical journal sites. I now have multiple annual subscriptions and the only things I've learned are: 1) fluent Arabic, and 2) Mediocre Farsi, because after I learned Arabic I remembered that Farsi is the predominant language of Iran.
So all in all, pretty good weekend....
WHEN SHE SAID THAT TALKING TO MUCH BORES PEOPLE BUT WHEN OTHER PEOPLE TALK IT BORES ME OMGGG
I have ADHD I think I have anxiety sometimes i wonder what im doing here i would have a conversation with someone and i couldn't get my thoughts/point across or i didn't know what to say i would start stuttering or i couldn't pronounce the word properly i have short term memory loss i don't know if I don't get enough sleep or im not eating well or i just need the right vitamins i often forget things i would have a conversation with someone and I would forget what i was about to say or what to say i hate that i really do im also constantly thinking inside my head i was searching through TH-cam and then they said if you forget something is completely normal i just wanted to let someone know how I feel
I never thought someone else would be like me.
Wow.
I will say there is some light at the end of the tunnel for you no matter how hopeless the feeling of not being able to communicate properly with someone might be. I still ALWAYS mix up words that I don’t mean to say. Sometimes they’re even the complete opposite of what I’m intending on saying! But I try to put intention behind my words, knowing that what I’m saying is what I feel. It comes with being confident in what you’re saying and not second guessing your stream of thoughts. Even being overly enthusiastic about what your saying helps (bc with the natural lack of dopamine in our brains we have to always try harder to be positive about things that don’t peak our interests🥴)
11:43 YES!!!! I always forget that I want/need sleep
And about wanting to flip tables, when I would work on something that was making me mad, I would focus on a spot in front of me, hold out my hands and breath. Then I felt like I could never again, the first thing I did is grab that paper (instantly crumpling it). Not even a moment later I would feel so bad that all anger would leave, I would put down the paper and burst into tears.
I really like this talk. I had a hard time keeping focus on my TEDx talk. Forgot some of it. Funny you mentioned that as a thing. I have been reading a lot about this lately. Happy to hear it explained simply.
For so long I blamed this behavior on being an only child. lol "I want it now!" oh. People always thought I was so lucky because I always got what I wanted. Well, it's called, uncontrollable determination. lol
It's not even close to success, people laughing at you in school, teachers mocking you for not learning anything, parents blame you for your scores and forgetting things. there is nothing good about having ADHD
No one with ADHD would forget their class DAILY. or am I wrong? Is forgetting is must? Because I don't forget. I just can't take a step.
its not necessarily about forgetting the class. it can also be about a lack of time comprehension. If you are focused on something "now" you only know the class is "not now". so it is very easy to forget about the Not Now when you are focused on Now and then suddenly "class started 20 minutes ago"
All I am wishing right now is that the doctor will help me through. Sudden anger and procrastination as well as fear of unknown is killing my life for now.
I didn’t (always) forgot my classes, but the rooms. When I didn’t found it, I went home and next time had problems with the teacher.
I’ve never forgotten that I had a class... I’m 24 and was diagnosed with adhd at 6
@@vishvajeetsinh_solanki , try the different medications that the doctors prescribe, maybe they work, maybe they don't
At the end of the day you have to ACCEPT who you are and your ABILITIES !
also intense exercising helps several times a day
just remember nobody is born PERFECT....deal with it !
Find strategies that work for you...no, you'll never be Normal, but try and love the life you have !
My adhd brain: MAKE A RANDOM LOUD NOISE dooo itttt now and go out off a vid in the middle of it and read something over and over
Thank you!
Came out of iran age 17 than moved in Europe few years later to Canada and now I am 53 just find out after a failed relationships and lots of hardship… I am just crying how I lost so many years of my life 😭
I’m shaking my feet while watching this
This talk is spot-on. She really is right that ADHD is basically a superpower.🧠
i cant even watch the whole video,i got distracted and started thinking something else
Always i will be like this
Thnx🖤.
Light
How many of us were supposed to be doing something else instead of watching this ;-)
I've always used it as an excuse
7:30 Exactly That is me......I would Text People But the Moment they come in front of me it feels like the World is Burning
as someone with adhd i didnt even notice when the video ended cause i was too distracted by my phone to notice the sudden silence LMAO
Soo true,thanks)
GOD, These are sooooo accurate!!!
While watching this video, I have 3 notebooks open and I am writing in all of them, while trying to watch this video. Now I am f’ng off in the comment section and I am really supposed to be organizing my basement bc I still haven’t decorated my tree, bc I can’t find all of my decorations. And I have 10 other things on my mind right now and 29 things I need to do. O.M.G. 😳🤦🏻♀️🤯...
I've not been very distracted since I'm really relating to this. But I'm typing this in the middle of the video because I'll have forgotten by the time I finish watching the video.
So if you have adhd you're also oozing with creativity?
I'd say bubbling over with it rather than oozing. I much prefer to attempt innovative or creative tasks because I find doing something menial to be a pointless waste of my time.
If it's creative, then there will be something to show for it afterwards, and people may give good feedback as a reward.
Eli Rodriguez YES
Ace Adventura so do I ！
Ace Adventura I love your response
Eli Rodriguez you have been the world creativty manifested. You have to express you true meaning of your being. And only you can do it.
2:21 When describing ADHD subtypes... "Those who are predominantly hyperactive, thank god I'm not that." Language like that is not supportive nor inclusive, even if it is coming from someone who has ADHD. Passive comments like this shouldn't be supported.
Yeah I noticed that
Jeez, I almost unlocked my superpower when I heard you pronounce your name before seeing the spelling.
4:43 others are probably laughing but damm it hits inside to people with ADHD
How can I not be ashamed when my field of study has so much group work to do and I need to keep up with others and they get mad when I'm not paying attention or when I didn't understand what professor said?
THE STORY OF MY LIFE TOO....
I am creative and very talented in anything I put my mind to, and yet, people far less talented than me have accomplished more and are more successful. Which led me conclude they happened because of my lack of focus and consistency, impulsiveness, laziness and procrastination. It feels like I have squandered my gifts. I know now its ADHD, is it really a superpower? Its been a lifetime of pain.
Thank you Negar aziz, I am 53 and I just found out this is what I have 😭 thank you for talking about it I need to know more and even maybe OVD even or something even more… ❤️🙏
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Skipping oral com in college because it was much more interesting to talk to my philosophy professor than listen to a bunch of college students who can't give a captivating speech.
My super power is that im an empath ,we wouldn't get along .
You would tell me how good you are at everything i would try and agree , you wouldnt listen , I would reel to concerve energy , you would take it personally and burn me to all of our friends.
I'm proud myself to have ADHD
Why are you proud? Maybe you don't have ADHD because it's a pain to be an underachiever despite ability, asocial despite liking people, failing at relationships despite being kind and loving. ADHD is a torture and I am not deluding myself with such a pep talk.
ADHD is trauma Response. There are so many in children from abusive violent homes who dissociate day dream as a coping mechanism to survive and grow up as adults who suffer due to childhood emotional neglect or emotional invalidation. Labels are disempowering.
Hey,same here!
Thanks for sharing, this has been the most power video I’ve found on TH-cam and I can relate, now I have a better understanding to help myself for my life and my family 🌹 shoot for the moon and at least you’ll land on a ⭐️
Fantastic to call it a superpower, My question is how do you deal with your challenges in performing academically, especially as a young child, because of the difficulties to concentrate on teachers etcetera. I mean it causes one to fail grades and be in trouble all the time. Positive feedback on the question will be appreciated
fleexseed cold press oil/fish oil is a miracle i heard, exercising daily also help. some music helps too. In school they have support for kids I am getting for my son.
I need help too
Love this video
I’m watching this to feel better about myself procrastinating doing schoolwork that’s due tonight. Sitting down to read and comprehend and remember and actually getting it done is a whole struggle.
When she said u have a nice tie i laugh
I have a hard time making decisions because I'm afraid I'll regret it. So I never know what to choose because there is too much.
*goes straight to comments*
*Remembers I'm watching a video*
All of this! Funny personal story: I impulsively bought concert tickets last summer for a concert the next week then forgot that I bought the tickets...ADHD.
Lol it's cool to me but my mom always try to come up with bad lies with my adhd so I can feel more bad about myself in then till I showed her this video she got mad 😂🤣
whenever I decide to be focused or to do not think to sleep, after 10 min I see myself overwhelmed with thinks,
again I say hey stay focus!!
then again I found myself thinking about another subject....
ADHD is not a superpower, it's a curse!
Agreed.