it somewhat is, but also no. I find it really exhausting to work and contemporanely research and prepare for job interviews. It costs a lot of energy and I'm at a point were tjis energy is lacking
I did this and ending up in the same job I hated 7 years too long. I then one day went in realised I hated getting up and going in and decided that was the day to quit. I then had no job and went looking and instantly found one that paid me more with better hours and better people.
Im 52 and have life experience. I would tell anyone never quit your job unless you have something else to go to. The stress of being unemployed...wondering if you will get another job....worrying about money...being displaced etc etc is far worse than going to a shitty job everyday. Have something else to go to first!
Absolutely 💯 agree with you ....definitely have a few things lined up before you quit...I've quit jobs and the stress of NOT working is horrendous especially trying to pay a mortgage and bill....so many Sleepless nights x
So true. I have worked many jobs, and some I was not happy with, however, I was making money so that I could pay the bills. Not having a job, and having to look for a job, and keeping the bills paid is very stressful. In a perfect world, we would all be able to pursue our dreams, however, reality is that the bills have to be paid, keep a roof over one's head, and food on the table.
I’ve quit my stable well-paying job as a doctor a year ago to work in a cool hyped startup. Three months later, I was emailing my former boss to take me back. (which he fortunatelly did)
I guess people I just not aware of the fact that 40% of start ups goes bankrupt within 1 year of existence and 60% those that survive after 4-5 years ends up being taken over by international corporations.
Too bad what we call money doesn't have any worth to it beyond perception. Real money holds actual value, but fiat currency is pure perception. And how fickle is perception? Today an idea is in vogue, tomorrow it is the villian. That's our "money", hope you're not sitting on much of it when the cows come home to roost. Obviously you keep a roof over your head for cash, at least yesterday, but today isn't over yet, so who knows.
Couldn't agree more and definitely learned this the hard way this year. A job can be boring, but I'll take boredom over the fear of not knowing how you're going to pay your bills.
I was a teacher. Hated it. Began an accidental side hustle and decided to leave my teaching job as it was taking time away from my side hustle. It worked. Ten years later and it’s my core income. There is no set rule or answer. Find your own.
I'm currently working as a TA and thinking about getting into teaching in the future, so for me watching this thinking if that job will be right for me, then scrolling down and the first thing I read is, "I was a teacher. Hated it." - that doesn't bode well 😂😂
It’s frustrating how jobs can make us feel this way 😔. I know we need money to survive, but as a community, especially as Americans, we need to come together 🤝. This isn’t our fault - these corporations are being greedy, and they’re only hurting the economy 💸. The government doesn’t seem to be doing enough about it, but don’t lose hope. Keep pushing forward 💪!
Every time I quit a job, I have had something better already locked in. And that means not juat a job offer, but a date that I am starting the new job. I 100% agree that if you're quitting, you need something lined up or 6-12 months of savings.
@HouseofVenesianberg If you're quitting, you're doing it on your terms, so yes, the job better be there or you shouldn't quit. And we're not talking about Hollywood, we're talking about real people.
@HouseofVenesianberg I'm aware it's an allegory. But what you're suggesting is that he should let go of the cliff and hope he hits something soft on the way down. I'm saying there's not always going to be a job after 2 weeks. What if it would have taken you a month or 3? Would you have kept your car and a place to live? I'm suggesting that people be smart with it. And that's the entire point of the video, but I guess you must have missed that
@HouseofVenesianberg Because your advice is bad. Thanks for the nihilism, I choose to live my life smartly, not make rash decisions, and hope I get lucky and find a job in two weeks.
@@The-Khatalyst Even 6-12 months of savings could be not enough. Remember! Having a job when you speak with your next potential employer gives you an additional leverage to get a better salary conditions, than speaking with him without having a job. If you don't have a job at all, the employer will look at you as a candidate without a negotiation possibility.
@HouseofVenesianberg You remind me of my sister-in-law. She chases "opportunity" and claims to "make her own luck." Every 3 months she has a new job. No car, no home, still lives in my mother-in-law's basement and always broke. But whatever, you do you.
Hope things improve for you. Haven't seen your videos before but two comments: 1. The algorithm recommended you, so perhaps that's a good sign for your channel 2. You speak clearly, calmly and logically, and have a very authentic manner. Hopefully that will appeal to a lot of people.
Prison Officer in the UK for 12 years. I resigned 4 years ago as the stress levels got so high, and the lack of support was slowly killing me. My only mistake was leaving without new employment as I lost a lot of savings, but I got there in the end. I don't get paid as well now, but I don't do shifts anymore, I have every evening and weekendto relax, and best of all I don't have all that stress running through my body everyday. So I'd say try to have a new job before you leave, but if you need to get out, get out! Listen to your body and mind, stress isn't healthy!
I’m in that position, good job but 7 yr stress is a lot. So on the side been polishing my skills and thinking about where to go for a less paying but better work life job. Stress can cause real damage physically, my blood pressure is up, I gotten more sick than ever before, immune system down, not to mention cause to mental health
Most people aren’t talented or organized enough to work for themselves. They need to work for someone else or else they will starve. Chasing your dream can end up in bankruptcy if you’re not hyper motivated.
It has nothing to do with talent or being organized. You can be very good at your job but have no clue how to run a company. Example: you can be a great software engineer, make super high quality code, customers are super happy, do overtime to make things run like clockwork, etc. How does that help you run a business tho? You can find out on the internet the paperwork needed, ok. But then? What can you provide that other bigger companies cannot? Where do you go from there? These are questions that make or break a business. People don't automagically invent Facebook 2.0 or the future next Tweeter. You will probably become yet another outsourcing company at most.
@@dacat8171 If you hate your job find another? If you hate working in general then I have no solutions for you. Your own business is probably 10x more work so that wouldn't help you in that regard.
I learned early, 16 in high school. I quit my job as a bagger at a local grocery store, before getting another job. I assumed I’d get another one easily by the beginning of that summer. Didn’t happen. My savings went bust in a few weeks. I was without gas money, hangout with friends money and was home bound and broke for weeks. My folks weren’t happy with me. I finally got a job after summer working at my buddy’s wind surfing shop, taking tourists out to the waves. Never again did I ever take work for granted. Now Im 61. Many jobs under my belt. I hope to stay employed for as long as I’m needed. Being broke and without savings is not a place I want to revisit. Be well and stay blessed.
great story and good for you!!! " being broke and without savings is not a place i want to revisit " .. but the sad reality of usa living is most people ( even if they have multiple full time jobs ) cant even save anything for savings and even people making 6 figures a year are living paycheck to paycheck! also be glad your not in chicago, ny or L.A.
@ Thanks, and I hear you. Im in L.A. It’s my home. Everything has changed. Even our culture. We seem to have lass shared values today. My kids have had to move away. One to Phoenix 10 years ago and one to Vegas 15 years ago in order to save and buy a home to start their families. L.A is mainly a lot of hyper wealthy folks and destitute living side by side now. A shame. The middle class left a long time ago. I was taught by my dad to always, no matter if it’s a few coins. Pay yourself first! Save a little out of your pay each week, even if you think you can’t afford to. You can do without. He came from a time when a ‘one income’ was the norm. People tend to think it was easier and more affordable back then. But it wasn’t. Nothing has ever been easy or affordable, especially when the economy is based on current trends. Today it’s a 2 income economy because women are part of the work force. So if you’re single, you’ll most likely have a harder time than those who are married or have roommates. Today lots of people live beyond their means (especially the single ladies), and I’ll never understand why they do. Maybe it’s just the times. Lots more credit and temptations to spend and waste money. I never had my own place before I married. Roommates. I drove beater cars so I could save on insurance and learned to fix them myself. I know things are more expensive now, especially during this inflation. But do yourself a favor and pay you’re self first. It adds up. In a few years you’ll be surprised how much you saved and you won’t likely want to spend it, but save even more. It’s a good habit to have. Living paycheck to paycheck is what a lot of folks do, even back in my day. But there is no excuse to take a little out and pay yourself first before you pay the bills. That way if you’re ever in a bind or need to buy something. You’ll have the cash, and not have to use credit to pay. Interest payments keep you from wealth. A wealthy man has no bills. I wish you well and have a Happy New Year!
@@Z3N_P1AYZ People making 6 figs who can't save anything are stupid. I make that, I rent an apartment in the SF Bay, the most expensive housing market in the nation, and I save plenty. I bought a new car two years ago, the payments aren't a problem. Anyone SPENDING six figures has a problem.
@@larkatmicThanks for sharing an insight of your life. Regarding L.A - can draw some parallels to here in Sydney Australia. I'm 36 now and only starting to take money more seriously - I have a good job but I have nothing. WIll take on your advice. Cheers.
Happily quit my job after saving up enough to continue living normally for a year. Decided to quit and change career, after 6 months did exactly that and best thing I've ever done
@@JayWallace Yeah, anyone quitting with no plan and commitments would be a wild decision in my book. Helped that I got an autism diagnosis a few months in too while also doing therapy.
I couldn't agree more. The moment of walking out and feeling empowered is very short lived when you then realize you are unemployed and finding a job is miserable. Sticking it out helps us learn and grow and if you are interested in leaving your job....always FIND ANOTHER JOB FIRST. It is very true that employers are much more interested in someone currently working than someone who is sitting at home unemployed. The longer you're unemployed the less attractive you are and the harder it becomes. Find another job first and never burn bridges at the job you're leaving. It will reward you later.
Finally, someone being really honest about this topic. So many others online either faking or have some other means of support that they are not disclosing. I also blame what I call the "wishful thinking gurus" who write things like if you just dream hard enough it will all come true. "Do what you love and the money will follow" thinking--well not always.
Thank you for this very insightful analysis. I, too, have always thought that people have a support system in order to quit a job, and pursue their dream job.
I had my own business from my mid 20's to mid 30's. The hours were long and the money wasn't steady but I enjoyed what I did. However, the business kept getting more competitive each year and it was getting harder to make money. I decided to take a goverment job. I didn't like the job, but the pay was steady and I had weekends, all the holidays paid, health insurance and a pension. I've been there now 20 years and am now sitting pretty. I have 3 more years to go and then I can retire with plenty of money to last me 30 years. Sometimes we gotta do what we don't like to pay the bills and have a future.
That sounds conformable. But to someone like me I couldn't imagine working a single job for my whole life and it being all over. Unless I absolutely adored the job.
@@Dabloodyblondie Yeah, to tell you the truth it sucks, but it beats being broke. Luckily I had a great childhood and had alot of fun and also traveled alot in my 20's and 30's. Now I get weekends and get to take one long vacation per year. I actually envy the people that make $100k per year and more on TH-cam, but I take what I have and make the best of it.
@@Dabloodyblondie Crappy, mundane and boring jobs are normally the ones that pay well, and continue to do so over the course of years. I repair forklifts, and I hate it. Every customer thinks they're the top priority, everything is always "an emergency" and I'm getting older and sore, and everything on a forklift is either sharp or heavy. HOWEVER, I get good benefits and my pay is enough to where my wife can be a stay at home mother (by choice).
22 years ago I was an employee of a business where I was treated like a manager whilst earning grunt money . I walked out of it, as I had an idea to set up my own gardening business. I sub contracted to a roofing company, while I built my own business. I’ve been self employed ever since, my gardening business is successful and the only thing I would do differently is I would’ve set my business up earlier. The message I would send to anyone who thinks having your own business is easy, is it’s not. It’s constant graft, both physically and mentally and if that doesn’t sound palatable don’t do it.
I can't believe this timing! I was all set to quit my job this weekend due to health issues. My work is labour-intensive, so aches and pains are the norm. This morning, I had decided that if I was feeling physical pain when I finished work, then I would submit a letter of resignation this weekend. I just got home from work not long ago, turned on YT, and immediately saw your video! I have never seen any of your videos before! I don't know who you are!! But thank you for this video!! Thank you for sharing your situation with us!! I appreciate this so much!! You have a new subscriber from Canada!! ✌🏾
Hi. I'm an acupuncturist. Pain is easy to resolve. You can also take simple things like ginger root and bromelain enzymes. I wish more people knew this.
I almost quitted my current job because of so many reasons but my bf said, "Bad job is better than no job", so i finally followed his words that kept me safe afterwards. And i got a lesson that, "Being realistic is better than only following your feelings".😊
Thank you so much for your video, i've been in the same career for 18 yrs and I've thought of leaving but I've built seniority and it's stable. Honestly what helps me with my wandering eye is being off social media, and understanding that the grass isnt always greener.
I was working a job that I didn't like. Then the virus came and it made the job even worse and had to stay home. So I quit my job and I went back to school for an entire year, 5 days a week to get my certificate in logistics. So I went from call-center to logistics. So happy now and doing much better!
Can you elaborate what exactly you do in logistics, like what is your official job title and tasks now? I‘m currently also working at a call center, looking for inspirations for my next steps.
@solarsmile9990 I am a coordinator logistics. My company buys steel and then produces steel plates. I organise the transport to the customer and also the transport from the port to our warehouse. Also guiding drivers and making sure safety regulations are being respected. Logistics is a very good choice if you are looking for something new. Almost every company has a logistics department. But I would advise you pick a company that produces goods in a well paying sector.
I had to pause the video just five minutes in. It’s uncanny how timely this video is-today marks exactly one year since I left my high-paying sales job with great benefits in search of "greener pastures." The mantra you’re sharing, “Don’t quit your job; life isn’t a game,” resonates deeply with me. I've been urging people online to reject the misguided advice from influencers who promote quitting stable jobs because a workplace feels "toxic" or a boss made an offhand comment. In this economy, leaving a secure position is a risky move, and I can say from personal experience: the grass is *not* greener on the other side. Think carefully and critically before making such a life-altering decision. Stability is undervalued, and those advocating for impulsive exits often underestimate the consequences.
Stability is important for building career. One may quit job on matter of good reasons related to health, personal-well-being. I think it is important to have some fund as backup (assume 1 year or 2 years minimum) to sustain, then one may take some risk and explore other options.
Wise words that I have found to be true over my 60 years. Started teaching school 8 years ago and still at it though many have quit claiming they couldn't stand it. It seems these days, workers are experts at finding a workplace "toxic"- when for us, it was just part of life. Every job has something unpleasant. The reaction to it seems to be the difference today. At every job I've had, there have always been fellow employees that complain about something all of us were experiencing- just going on and on about how we were all being mistreated. Funny, I was experiencing the same thing and never noticed I was mistreated. I swear, when I was driving a tractor trailer for foodservice (did it 13 years), we got a bonus and a raise and the drivers complained about taxes being taken out. I asked them: would you rather not have the bonus? In a related story: almost all of those complainers went from job to job and were never happy. Many had to end up taking a worst position than they had to begin with just to keep a roof over their heads.
Not saying it's not the right choice, just saying there's a lot of content out there irresponsibly suggesting that everyone should do it. I just wanted to give a more balanced view and get people thinking before making sure a bold move. Glad the video helped.
I realized that I could quit my job but, why? What was I running from, and more importantly, where would I be running to? Sometimes the grass is greener on the other side because we are set in routine and think we need excitement. But like Jay said, you can have a cushy job that is routine and not know it before it's too late. Keep up the grind bro and lock in.
I quit my cushy job in 2017… within 18 months, I was sleeping in my car. It took years of daily work to get a career going again. I did spend pretty much the entire time working on my skills to change roles. However, I definitely could have changed some stuff in my personal life to accommodate my career change without losing income from my job
It's because you're sold this lie that work consumes your entire life and you can never improve and move into better positions if you're still working. What it actually is, is most people don't know how to manage time or they lack the initiative to continue towards a goal AFTER they're clocked out for the day. I get it. Most people want to relax when they get off work, not take additional classes, fill out more applications, and so on. But I never recommend cutting loose until you've secured a new position.
This video came at the perfect time. You’re absolutely right, and I know everything you’re saying is true. When I play the long game, I often self-sabotage because I’m eager to move on to new things. It’ll take a lot of willpower to hold my tongue in my cushy, well-paying job like yours was, but this video feels like a clear sign that it’s the right move. 100% - work on your side hustle/career move while keeping job. Thank you!
I left a software job without a new one lined up back in the summer. I left due to stress, living in crap rented accommodation where it was hard to sleep, and also a lack of direction about what I was supposed to be doing. Struggled in the office environment as well. Money was quite good though and there was flexible work where I could work from home which was 2 hours away from the office and rental. I woke up one morning in the rental accommodation after getting no sleep the night before and I said fuck it, I'm handing in my notice. Since then I haven't had a job. Pros are that Im getting good sleep, less fatigue, have been going to the gym for the first time, can study what I want in my own time. The cons are a lack of freedom from living back at home, and a lot of free time is actually spent looking for a new job! It's annoying also when people are always asking you what you are doing etc. Looking back, I probably would have stayed in job. I should have moved to more exclusive rental accommodation to be getting better sleep. Asked boss to work from home longer too to de-stress. But that's the benefit of hindsight! Hopefully something comes up in 2025.
Left my job without anything lined up due to a horrible boss. Well, not directly, I told them I would not go to their mandatory gossiping sessions. Took me about half a year to find something new. Wish you best luck for the new year.
you could go back to your old job since you gave notice and you can tell them you left for personal reasons but those personal issues have been resolved.
I have a similar story with the not being able to sleep from neighbors. Left my job in automotive but I found that isn't what I want to do with my life.
I think you’re a good man to admit you screwed up and are warning others about making the same mistake. I think that takes a lot of humility and character. Thanks for showing care for your fellow man in a world that doesn’t give a shit anymore about others.
I have children. Grown, adult children. I didn't pass on much wisdom; I did what I could. But there were a few recurring ones I harped on over the years. My most steady offering was, "take chances when you are young. Risk is your friend, or at least not entirely your enemy... when you are young. Even some of the worst outcomes can be recovered from simply because you'll have the time to do so. However, once your responsibilities begin to multiply, you'll just have less space, you'll have more to lose and less to gain. Take chances when you are young." Young, in my mind, is probably sub-25. This obviously carries some implicit notions: you won't be as experienced in life so losses will feel worse, but they will be more quickly forgotten. Risk is a tolerance, and your tolerances just get more rigid as you age; can't be helped.
Unfortunately, unless you have some great support behind you, your decision-making and forward-planning skills in your early 20s are crap until your frontal lobe grows in at 25, and any risks you take will ultimately return a whole handful of nothing at best, or leave you worse off in less tangible ways than monetarily (you can bounce back from stuff like substance abuse to an extent, but it still leaves a mark).
Yeah I don’t agree with this at all. When you’re young, it’s the best time to work for others and actually gain skills and knowledge and networks to eventually work on your own if that’s what you want to do. You’ll also have more savings to give you a cushion. There are tons of videos on TH-cam of 21 yr olds wanting to stay home and be day traders and losing everything. Then they end up years behind everyone else. Start saving money as young as you can and learn as much as you can and then when you’re older you can easily take whatever risks you want because it won’t make any difference in your lifestyle and you’ll have enough connections to get a job if you need to.
@@janice23847 just like the OP, I think y’all both have over generalized this idea. It’s prioritizing what is important to you, and recognizing there are pros and cons to any decision. Not everyone has the same goal in mind and that changes how decisions are made. I think the goal is to truly have an understanding of what those specific goals are to you and how to be successful in them.
Watching these types of videos has good advice in them. But you can never compare yourself to someone else. I worked at Walmart for 7 years. Hated my job. Started following my dream to become a filmmaker in 2020. Last year I shot 3 videos for Sony and have been shooting weddings and other freelance work consistently since I left my job Oct 19th 2020. I wake up and have all my time to myself. People laughed when I told them I wanted to be a filmmaker. You can truly achieve anything in life. You just have to be smart about it and have a solid plan, and an unwavering faith you are going to pull it off. If you want it bad enough I believe many people can have a life they are fulfilled with. You can spend your entire life doing what you don't love, take a chance on doing something you love. Thanks for reading.
It’s easier to take chances in ur 20’s I quit my job and moved hours away to attended nursing school … I am glad it panned out but that’s what the 20’s are for
100% agree. Unless you have something lined up, don't do it. Job hunting is basically just as stressful and demanding as a job except you don't get paid for it, plus people look down on you for being unemployed. There is so much bias in the job process against people who are not currently employed it's crazy, and of course every month you have a gap in your resume the bias just gets worse. Everytime I think I can't stand my current job, I think back to how I felt when I was last unemployed (it turned out to be longer than a year) and I decide some forms of suffering are better than others.
Lie. Make up something. Say your were trying to start up a buissiness but it didn't work out. Say you went travelling. Whatever. Just say something that sounds reasonable and they cannot check.
I keep hearing about people leaving the UK and becomung tech 'entrepreneurs' and having digital businesses. I'd like to know how many of these businesses actually survive. In order for society to function there needs to be people prepared to do proper, hands-on, skilled jobs. Politicians especially need to realise this and fast.
@@gmc9451 yes. That’s why hospitality and other jobs within the service industry, should be seen as ‘good hard honest work’ that should be respected, and not frowned upon. It’s all too easy for the folk who have cushy remote positions, or work in an office 3 days a week, to slag off the people who have to work in Greggs, Macdonald’s, work in post rooms, work as a carer, security officer, bin man, street sweeper etc, because those jobs are seen as lowly, poorly paid, or for people who have a poor education. Some people will find themselves(through no fault of their own) having to work those jobs, which involves getting up early, and working long days, and having very little time to spend with family, friends or some much needed downtime. And on top of that, have very little to show for the hard work they put in.
Very easy to become complacent and dissatisfied with what you have. Of course this is part of a larger picture. Always good to stay humble and count blessings. Having said that if you want to do something do it but be wise about it.
Your willingness to be so honest to both yourself and the world is incredible. I’m sitting here thinking, ‘Would I admit this to the world?’, and then I realize that it’s my inability to admit my shortcomings that are holding me back. Thanks for this.
I made the same mistake exactly 1 year ago…Had at least 6 months living costs saved up but it took 3 months longer than anticipated to find another job, I am now paying the price unfortunately 😩
I quit my job many times and it has messed up my life, thank you for reaffirming that I should keep a job and work on my dream job. I just have to find a better job and one that suits me more. thank you!
I have been a “victim” of certain type of content where the creators shared content highlighting how having a job is a bad thing , how our life is supposed to suck unless we quit our job and do something crazy. Next thing you know TH-cam algorithm starts suggesting all similar content. You then get bombarded with content that make your life look miserable and you feel more and more depressed . I truly admire your honesty- not easy to share this story online , it’s hard to find people like you nowadays. All we see online are people bragging , baiting , and providing unreasonable and dangerous advice but never talk about their mistakes. Big up for you - new subscriber. I wish you the very best for your life ❤
Really refreshing to see somebody from the other side of this "hustle culture" we live in. I always see these videos about the success people have had by quitting their jobs and focusing on their dreams but people never understand that these are one in a million cases. I think the young generation would benefit from more videos like these that explain the unfortunate reality that most of us will find ourselves in if we take such a drastic leap. Thank you for your transparency
I recently left my job not too long ago for various reasons but mainly just for my own well-being. The truth is the money was quite good, but I was quite thankful that I'd had a direction in mind and I knew where I wanted to go. I'm also quite blessed that I don't have that much upkeep and I'm happy to scale back my needs massively. All I will say is, I'm quite proud that you gambled on yourself and keep the faith. You never know what's around the corner and maybe things will turn around for you as well.
True, you may not hate your job, you may just have to tweak it. It's natural for men to think they need to make a drastic change. Recognize it, analyze it, think slow, change slow.
I essentially did what you did. I have been all the way through the process you’re currently in the middle of. I think the perspective you’re gaining is value beyond what you’re currently aware of and will be realized when you find the thing you’re seeking. It’s the process that matters and is the best teacher. Feel the feelings Make decisions based on love and never out of fear Your true passion and joy lies inside of the scariest cave your fear most to explore
Thanks for the honest video. When seeing videos on quitting its always important to consider the agenda of the person making the video. Many may be trying to sell a product or service and others may be seeking validation for their choices. Lovely scenery by the way.
Thanks for the great video! I love how genuine and well-reflected you are and that you show vulnerability. If you keep it this way, you will help more people.
We need more videos like this. There is a lot of dangerous content out there about quitting your job and following your dreams. While I feel there is some merit to that argument, this is a very serious decision to make and one that can and will have massive implications. It really annoys me when influencers come out with such bold statements to a broad audience when they know right well that advice like that should only ever be given on a cases by case basis. Thanks Jay, great video 👍
Thank you, I'm glad you agree. Noticed a lot of dangerous content out there trending at the moment and just wanted to put out a more balanced perspective.
It's kinda hard for me to fathom that someone would quit their job without a solid plan. My wife would lose her mind if I did that without a very solid plan lol.
I quit a well paying job in 2016. Partially because I didn't want to be working away from my family in the week. But then went wholly self employed. What I've discovered since is that having a job as well as being self employed works best (for me personally anyway). Having to constantly juggle both business and personal finance, was stressful. By having a part time job, which pays the bills, makes building a Business so much less stressful.
What we need is simply educating people that what they see on mass media is not 100% what reality is. When I was a kid and tv was most common visual mass media we were reminded all the time " don't believe all they say and show on tv". Nowadays for some reason people fail to comprehend that they cannot believe everything they see or hear on Internet or in social media. Another tactic would be to teach people about what stats say about various things. And as fr chasing dreams and your own business less than 10% of population succeeds in it. So unless someone was born into wealthy family odds of passing exam to become a medical doctor or a decent lawyer are higher than this since 15% of graduates are capable of this. So yeah, pick your hard wisely.
That’s great for your 20’s I did it in my 20’s and it panned out now 39 I am drained from doing the same thing over and over decade but I will stay till I find a federal job or better benefits this is not the time to switch jobs it’s slim Pickens
When I am not enjoying my job, and it happens from time to time, I set a date 6 months in advance on my calendar. I do this because I am aware that there are likely to be contributing factors to my current feelings. For example I can have relationship problems, worries about money, everyday family life, or I am just bored. Sometimes you just can't put your finger on it. On most occasions , when I reach the 6 months, those feelings have faded. We all want the dream job and we all want better, but I think Jay's right - the grass is not always greener on the other side. If you really hate your job, ask yourself if you are truly dedicating all your time to follow your dreams. Be honest to yourself - which is easier said than done. have you have got the finances or the dedication to follow your dreams? I know you might not read this but nice video Jay! Thank you for your transparency, honesty and authenticity.
I still encourage you to leave your job if there’s something you truly want to do, because with each passing day, your life is one day shorter. So many people spend their entire lives in regret.
It’s frustrating how jobs can make us feel this way 😔. I know we need money to survive, but as a community, especially as Americans, we need to come together 🤝. This isn’t our fault - these corporations are being greedy, and they’re only hurting the economy 💸. The government doesn’t seem to be doing enough about it, but don’t lose hope. Keep pushing forward 💪!
I’m glad you are telling this story. It’s so unwise to go with these online trends. A lot of nonsense on the internet has people driving trucks into crowds and quitting their jobs and getting BBLs. This is the real pandemic of unwise leading the unwise. Thanks at least for having the courage to impart this wisdom as someone who discovered this from experience. I wish you well.
Good on you for the honesty and push back against the trend. It is a good idea to be grounded and not emotional when making financial choices. Thanks again for the caution, it is well advised.
I feel like the 'trend' is more of a larping fantasy than a real situation (except for maybe in China). I fantasise about quitting all the time, I watch people discuss it on youtube, etc, but I'm not stupid and most people know it would create even bigger problems. We're all just so sick of the grind. We feel like cogs in a machine that doesn't care about us so we all come to the Internet to vent and imagine the possibilities together
@@Sean-ll5cm I get you. We all have had a longing to not be bound by so much time invested in building income. We tend to move toward what we focus on so be cautious how long you keep your focus on Larping and fantasy. Unfortunately if not content now, it is unlikely we would be content once the next step is achieved. (just look at music & movie stars who "have it all" and are still not content) Best wishes
Thank you for your transparency. This video has really put things into perspective for me and has made me realize that I need to reevaluate my priorities.
There should be more cautionary tales like this from people on TH-cam. I have a similar one myself so I feel your pain. 2.5 years ago I left a job that was alright (but was starting to annoy me a bit) to pursue a Masters in cybersecurity, because I noticed there were lots of cyber jobs/adverts asking for people to go and do it. I finished the course recently and discovered that actually there aren't that many jobs in that sector as they made out, and now I'm working in a minimum wage job WORSE than the one I had before (doing LONGER hours too) because the dream cyber job I hoped to get seems out of reach, whilst going back to my old job is no longer an option. So yeah - sometimes you can leave your job hoping for something better and end up with something way worse than what you had even before. It's depressing.
@@dacat8171 But the recent stress levels I’ve had to endure to get the course done has almost entirely put me off wanting to work in the industry! If I’d known it would make me feel so shitty I wouldn’t have left my job to go study it at all. And I’d have had 2 pay rises in my old job since the time I left due to annual increases. I’m down about 20k and a ton of stress because of my decision.
@@abdelazizsaafane190 thanks. I think the stress and the money wasn’t worth it. Probably should have just stayed where I was, I’d be better off for it in both income and savings and mental well being too.
That's right, appreciate what you have now. On top of that build up your success. Throwing everything away without careful planning will highly likely mess things up.
I regret doing it because now its two months later and I can't find one in my area. I should have just slacked off like everybody else there instead of getting frustrated at having to pick up after people. It just was burning me out and this is the first time I quit a job with no backup before, usually I have another lined up, and I regret being that impulsive.
@dmichael100 I don't mind. I honestly don't miss the hassle of the job and I think if the job is really stressing you or unfulfilling, by all means find another, but wait till you have another job for certain and then put your two weeks in. I didn't and it honestly didn't even feel great the day I quit because in the end I was replaceable, they could manage without me and you aren't as vital as you think.
It is experience You never know how thing would have gone if you didn’t Don’t worry, everything gonna work out the best way you may not thought off Wish you all best
Step 1: Cut your costs 70%, get flat mates, get rid of your car etc Step 2: Pay off all debts Step 3: Maximize your income Step 4: Save up 1 year of pay Step 5: Do your dream as a side hustle Step 6: Focus on it when it's making at least 50% of your day job. Do not skip steps.
It is 100% OK to interview, update your resume, job search, and explore your other interests while you have a job. That's how ive done it ever since I started. Being on job boards that often has helped me to explore other careers that my skills would be relevant to. Never been without a job though except once when they had layoffs so that lasted for 3 months, but in 13 years that's how it's gone. Continue finding yourself and your passions, even if it means switching industries, but keep making yourself stronger in the process personally, professionally, financially - you can do these things together.
Worked at the same company for 20 years covering Essex and Herts. Currently on £30k a year for quite a high skilled job. They just told me I’m now covering London. No payrise, no consultation because they can’t hire anyone in London on the money they pay. This is top 100 employer in the UK, multinational corporation. Told them I’m looking for a new job asap, absolute pisstakers. They dont value staff or anyone so why show any loyalty.
Sorry to hear that. The good thing is that working for a large company will look great on your CV and if your work is high-skilled, you'll have no problem finding another role. Best of luck with the search
Thats only $37,644.70 usd about $19 an hr. What do you do? because that is peanuts these days. especially after working for the same company for 20 yrs.
In same in my job in social care . They can’t hire anyone and because i was doing my some of the side work well they won’t even pay me proper salary after had my leavel 7 now saying need need the level 8 to get the little rise - decided that I’m gonna look for another job and leave as my sanity and mental health is worth more than that plus being under paid by €10-12k a year for €32k I’m asking as a trainee even , lower myself , so said nah F that. If can’t hire someone for the longest time what’s the point ? Why should I do double the work for a job they advertised then change it last minute .nahhhh it’s more work less pay . Not a hope on 20k!
I'm at an off season point as a construction worker. I went to the UK (Scotland) and took my mind off the panic of not working. Here in the US there is no medical insurance if you are not working, and you get fined by the government if you do not have it. Which adds extra pressure on the already stressful situation of not working. Your time off is spent looking for the next job, not enjoying the moment of peace. Times have gotten worse with companies demanding you work the hours of two people, because they only want to pay benefits for one. And you are disposable if you don't comply. I don't want to go back.
It’s frustrating how jobs can make us feel this way 😔. I know we need money to survive, but as a community, especially as Americans, we need to come together 🤝. This isn’t our fault - these corporations are being greedy, and they’re only hurting the economy 💸. The government doesn’t seem to be doing enough about it, but don’t lose hope. Keep pushing forward 💪!
Great video! I appreciate you sharing your life experience from a low point in your life as I think that's a very difficult thing to do however is priceless for a viewer like me gaining the knowledge from your experience. I feel the internet is constantly flooded with people sharing a romanticised vision of how to be successful in life which is unrealistic so it is very refreshing hearing someone speak honestly on their life experience. You have a great attitude and I'm sure with the success of this video if you keep at it you will achieve your dreams!
I quit my teaching job in April '24. No job to go to but I had 3 months of bill money saved and a supportive family. I was lucky and managed to find a job out of education but still using my skills before my contract expired. Every day I try and 'repay' that luck by working hard in my new role.
Thanks Jay for your timely and insightful video. It is a refreshing antidote to all the 'follow your dream' stuff on TH-cam atm. The salient point here is that having a job PAYS THE BILLS, even if it is an unsatisfying job. It has made me re-consider my own thinking as I wind up my holidays and head back to the mill next Monday.
Look at this way . Your journey made u wiser and stronger . People get so bent over if they made the right decision . There's is not right decision . Life is a journey . Get up dust off and grow .
Good story. Truthful insight. Let's check in on the first of each month to see the results of your efforts. Pretty sure you're showing up and doing the work, and will see your progress over time. 👍
So true, 99 out of 100 people fail at achieving their dreams but this never gets talked about, just the sucesses for obvious reasons. It's an interesting dichotomy as if you never try you never win.
You can try but one needs to set limits for themselves. How many times should you fail before you realize your dream isn't attainable, and settle into mundane life like everyone else?
I was made redundant from a job I really loved, during Covid. Since then I haven't done much work at all, and now find myself at the age of 57 and virtually unemployable (I'm a writer, content provider, blogger etc and AI now seems to be making people like me completely redundant!). Anyway, ho hum. Thanks for the video, mate. I really hope things work out for you.
I started freelancing (creating educational content, running professional trainings, quality assure projects, etc) as a side gig to my 9-5 when I was 25. It grew into a really sizeable income over 4 years (about 3 times the national average income), so I quit and started my PhD in parallel. At 33, I turned my PhD research into one business together with colleagues, and my freelancing into another business that I'm sole owner and director of. Three years later one has 4, other has 5 employees, and is quite steady, embedded in the area we wish to cover, making decent money for all. In the research-based business we also have technology and IP that might be worth a lot someday. You should definitely not rush into this thing. It takes years to grow anything into a steady state. And I have to say, most people are not cut out to be entrepreneurs. If the best you can do is some kind of copy-pasta MLM crap or dropshipping that you learnt from an online course, you should just find a job, because you are following a protocol on an oversaturated market, and not generating any actual value. Nice video. Reality check is needed, especially for under 30s.
this is very good advice to be giving people. good on you for making this video. i did something similar to you. traveled asia for a while, assuming i'd just figure it out. i didn't. tried to start something with a friend that didn't go anywhere. was really hard finding another normal job again. people also need to be aware that influencers out there promoting these lifestyles are usually doing it because they're trying to sell you something. they make their money on the fantasy of living like them. and you're right that the vast majority of people who try to do it won't succeed. this is a bad game to play. go with the stable option in 99% of cases.
It’s frustrating how jobs can make us feel this way 😔. I know we need money to survive, but as a community, especially as Americans, we need to come together 🤝. This isn’t our fault - these corporations are being greedy, and they’re only hurting the economy 💸. The government doesn’t seem to be doing enough about it, but don’t lose hope. Keep pushing forward 💪!
I could live off my savings for 4 years atm. But I keep them in shares, and I pursue my "real goal" in my spare time. Which means almost no spare time / social life. But no gun pointed at my head .
I love your explanations, great video mate. I'm watching this as a Romanian from Romania even though its a clip in english so i guess yt does a good job at recommending you across the globe and cheers for that 🎉🎉
I havent worked in the last 5 years i saved funds at my job 2016-2021 as much as i could and it paid off big time. I also started a 401k that has 60 k in it now i am 30.
Lol. They let you come back that easily? Either you have a cool boss and you are the issue or your job sucked so bad they knew they couldn't find anyone else to do it lol. If it's the job that sucks then you may be able to ask for higher pay at least.
Very good video! A good lesson for who want to make a bold move. Better to plan this alongside your job! Even though if you are on a desperate enviornment, better to plan for a safety budjet and make a bold move to find another job. Mental health is important too!
Just imagine if you were living 200 years ago as a subsistence farmer. Either you worked from sunup until sundown or you died. Always hoping you could survive the winter, always worrying about the weather.
@@geocam2 capitalism hasn't existed for decades. too big to fail isn't capitalism, nor are bail-outs or any other tax payer funded nonsense corps get these days. You blaming capitalism for everything is just exposing your ignorance.
That is exactly right. There is some perspective missing among many today. All of this introspection about "Is this job really me? Do I have enough leisure time? When am I going to be promoted?" For most of human history, no one had the luxury to even consider such questions. Humans have always had to survive and not too long ago. it took all day, every day to do that.
200 years ago was 1824 at least I could afford to have 4-6 children. To have 4-6 children now I would have to make and I'm not kidding like 150K-250K a year which is ludicrous. I rather be the American 1820's cattle rancher
The difference back then was that there was nothing else, so people had no higher ambitions. People nowadays want to live, not just survive, because that's what we've been raised to expect by the cushy society in which we've lived our entire lives.
I totally agree! Build your business while you work your job! I quit my multiple six figure engineering job to “do more fulfilling work” and quickly realized how different the required skillset for running a coaching business was from working for a business. (I actually have a feeling we had the same teacher/coach lol.) A year and over $100k spent later, I went back to work, making less than I before I quit, plus the addition of a terrible commute. Thankfully a year after that I landed a remote position making more than I did before I originally quit and am now able to work on my passion while still working my job. It was all a great learning experience. But take it from me… don’t quit your job until the next venture is solid!
I've worked in the NHS since my early 20's (40 next month) honestly it's not been a bad 17 years, been patient facing and in the office and now I've worked my way up to middle management. Currently working shifts 4 on 4 off, managing a small team in a security control room. It does ruin the sleep pattern a bit and when I work weekends / nights / bank holidays (was on for Christmas this year) it is a bit rubbish for the other half. But the money is great, bills are getting paid, I can afford some luxuries and I get to save some money each month. Plus the pension is good when you get it and I get about 7 weeks of A/L a year. I've not lead a jet setting life "chasing my dreams" and it is a bit mundane, but I'm a lot better off than most right now, certainly no plan to quit; you just gotta turn up and grind it out. Though a big lotto / premium bond win may change that!
I am a nurse, and I work in a carehome. I have always wanted admin stuffs and organizing, and I feel like I wanted to try this new side of nursing, virtual or digital as they say. I hope to make it happen in 2025.
Your honesty and clarity and authencity is all valid. I stuck a self employed business for many years, but I was good at it, so stuck it to the bitter end, as I had bills. Still have bills, but was glad I stuck at it. Mainly to contribute with bills, didnt have holidays or treats. Didn't want to let my husband down. We both worked from 16 years old. Both stopped due to ill health. But, had I quit because I ended up hating my job, God knows where we would be now.
My dad has always said to me that it is easier to look for a job while in a job.
it somewhat is, but also no. I find it really exhausting to work and contemporanely research and prepare for job interviews. It costs a lot of energy and I'm at a point were tjis energy is lacking
This
I did this and ending up in the same job I hated 7 years too long. I then one day went in realised I hated getting up and going in and decided that was the day to quit. I then had no job and went looking and instantly found one that paid me more with better hours and better people.
Yeah I wish I had such advice 2 years ago. Finding a job in the 2020's is like playing on survival difficulty.
Just understand the grass isn't always greener.
Im 52 and have life experience. I would tell anyone never quit your job unless you have something else to go to. The stress of being unemployed...wondering if you will get another job....worrying about money...being displaced etc etc is far worse than going to a shitty job everyday. Have something else to go to first!
True sir
Absolutely 💯 agree with you ....definitely have a few things lined up before you quit...I've quit jobs and the stress of NOT working is horrendous especially trying to pay a mortgage and bill....so many Sleepless nights x
In addition to the finances, it affects your psychology and your self-image. Which affects everything in your life.
So true. I have worked many jobs, and some I was not happy with, however, I was making money so that I could pay the bills. Not having a job, and having to look for a job, and keeping the bills paid is very stressful. In a perfect world, we would all be able to pursue our dreams, however, reality is that the bills have to be paid, keep a roof over one's head, and food on the table.
What if your boss is beating you with a wrench?
I’ve quit my stable well-paying job as a doctor a year ago to work in a cool hyped startup. Three months later, I was emailing my former boss to take me back. (which he fortunatelly did)
It's so easy to get caught up in the excitement of change, glad things worked out for you.
What put you off in the end and made you want to go back?
Luckily, as a doctor, you'll always find work.
I guess people I just not aware of the fact that 40% of start ups goes bankrupt within 1 year of existence and 60% those that survive after 4-5 years ends up being taken over by international corporations.
@@Boababa-fn3mr it actually has almost nothing to do with luck and everything to do with hard work and dedication. fortunately is more appropriate.
This is how I think about it: however pointless and futile one's life is, it doesn't mean that it can't be made appreciably worse by having no money.
Too bad what we call money doesn't have any worth to it beyond perception. Real money holds actual value, but fiat currency is pure perception. And how fickle is perception? Today an idea is in vogue, tomorrow it is the villian. That's our "money", hope you're not sitting on much of it when the cows come home to roost.
Obviously you keep a roof over your head for cash, at least yesterday, but today isn't over yet, so who knows.
Couldn't agree more and definitely learned this the hard way this year. A job can be boring, but I'll take boredom over the fear of not knowing how you're going to pay your bills.
I value time over money if I had to choose more of one or the other not that I have to as I can freely have both it would be more time! 🎉
@@mpclepto182you can still buy land with USD. Lots of it.
What’s your definition of “real money”?
100%
Well as Soeren Kierkegaard said ..... Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards!
Very insightful
Smart dude
nice quote
That’s a good one
😮 Nice one!
I was a teacher. Hated it. Began an accidental side hustle and decided to leave my teaching job as it was taking time away from my side hustle. It worked. Ten years later and it’s my core income. There is no set rule or answer. Find your own.
Yeah "fear of man is a snare" others can give advice, though ultimately you have to learn a bit on your own.
What was your side hustle?
I'm currently working as a TA and thinking about getting into teaching in the future, so for me watching this thinking if that job will be right for me, then scrolling down and the first thing I read is, "I was a teacher. Hated it." - that doesn't bode well 😂😂
What's the OnlyFans then?
It’s frustrating how jobs can make us feel this way 😔. I know we need money to survive, but as a community, especially as Americans, we need to come together 🤝. This isn’t our fault - these corporations are being greedy, and they’re only hurting the economy 💸. The government doesn’t seem to be doing enough about it, but don’t lose hope. Keep pushing forward 💪!
Every time I quit a job, I have had something better already locked in. And that means not juat a job offer, but a date that I am starting the new job. I 100% agree that if you're quitting, you need something lined up or 6-12 months of savings.
@HouseofVenesianberg If you're quitting, you're doing it on your terms, so yes, the job better be there or you shouldn't quit. And we're not talking about Hollywood, we're talking about real people.
@HouseofVenesianberg I'm aware it's an allegory. But what you're suggesting is that he should let go of the cliff and hope he hits something soft on the way down. I'm saying there's not always going to be a job after 2 weeks. What if it would have taken you a month or 3? Would you have kept your car and a place to live? I'm suggesting that people be smart with it. And that's the entire point of the video, but I guess you must have missed that
@HouseofVenesianberg Because your advice is bad. Thanks for the nihilism, I choose to live my life smartly, not make rash decisions, and hope I get lucky and find a job in two weeks.
@@The-Khatalyst Even 6-12 months of savings could be not enough. Remember! Having a job when you speak with your next potential employer gives you an additional leverage to get a better salary conditions, than speaking with him without having a job. If you don't have a job at all, the employer will look at you as a candidate without a negotiation possibility.
@HouseofVenesianberg You remind me of my sister-in-law. She chases "opportunity" and claims to "make her own luck." Every 3 months she has a new job. No car, no home, still lives in my mother-in-law's basement and always broke. But whatever, you do you.
Hope things improve for you. Haven't seen your videos before but two comments:
1. The algorithm recommended you, so perhaps that's a good sign for your channel
2. You speak clearly, calmly and logically, and have a very authentic manner. Hopefully that will appeal to a lot of people.
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Prison Officer in the UK for 12 years. I resigned 4 years ago as the stress levels got so high, and the lack of support was slowly killing me. My only mistake was leaving without new employment as I lost a lot of savings, but I got there in the end. I don't get paid as well now, but I don't do shifts anymore, I have every evening and weekendto relax, and best of all I don't have all that stress running through my body everyday. So I'd say try to have a new job before you leave, but if you need to get out, get out! Listen to your body and mind, stress isn't healthy!
I’m in that position, good job but 7 yr stress is a lot. So on the side been polishing my skills and thinking about where to go for a less paying but better work life job. Stress can cause real damage physically, my blood pressure is up, I gotten more sick than ever before, immune system down, not to mention cause to mental health
@@Dave-wh3hw Solid advice mate
Most people aren’t talented or organized enough to work for themselves. They need to work for someone else or else they will starve. Chasing your dream can end up in bankruptcy if you’re not hyper motivated.
Your comment does not justify sticking with a hated job.
Life is filled with crises.
@dacat8171 true. Just motivate the normies to jump with no chute. Yayyyy
It has nothing to do with talent or being organized. You can be very good at your job but have no clue how to run a company. Example: you can be a great software engineer, make super high quality code, customers are super happy, do overtime to make things run like clockwork, etc. How does that help you run a business tho? You can find out on the internet the paperwork needed, ok. But then? What can you provide that other bigger companies cannot? Where do you go from there? These are questions that make or break a business. People don't automagically invent Facebook 2.0 or the future next Tweeter. You will probably become yet another outsourcing company at most.
@@dacat8171 If you hate your job find another? If you hate working in general then I have no solutions for you. Your own business is probably 10x more work so that wouldn't help you in that regard.
@@Ragnar452 The thing im learning is you can have all the skills and equipment but its useless if you cant get the phone to ring.
I learned early, 16 in high school. I quit my job as a bagger at a local grocery store, before getting another job. I assumed I’d get another one easily by the beginning of that summer. Didn’t happen. My savings went bust in a few weeks. I was without gas money, hangout with friends money and was home bound and broke for weeks. My folks weren’t happy with me. I finally got a job after summer working at my buddy’s wind surfing shop, taking tourists out to the waves. Never again did I ever take work for granted. Now Im 61. Many jobs under my belt. I hope to stay employed for as long as I’m needed. Being broke and without savings is not a place I want to revisit. Be well and stay blessed.
great story and good for you!!!
" being broke and without savings is not a place i want to revisit " .. but the sad reality of usa living is most people ( even if they have multiple full time jobs ) cant even save anything for savings and even people making 6 figures a year are living paycheck to paycheck! also be glad your not in chicago, ny or L.A.
@ Thanks, and I hear you. Im in L.A. It’s my home. Everything has changed. Even our culture. We seem to have lass shared values today. My kids have had to move away. One to Phoenix 10 years ago and one to Vegas 15 years ago in order to save and buy a home to start their families. L.A is mainly a lot of hyper wealthy folks and destitute living side by side now. A shame. The middle class left a long time ago. I was taught by my dad to always, no matter if it’s a few coins. Pay yourself first! Save a little out of your pay each week, even if you think you can’t afford to. You can do without. He came from a time when a ‘one income’ was the norm. People tend to think it was easier and more affordable back then. But it wasn’t. Nothing has ever been easy or affordable, especially when the economy is based on current trends. Today it’s a 2 income economy because women are part of the work force. So if you’re single, you’ll most likely have a harder time than those who are married or have roommates. Today lots of people live beyond their means (especially the single ladies), and I’ll never understand why they do. Maybe it’s just the times. Lots more credit and temptations to spend and waste money. I never had my own place before I married. Roommates. I drove beater cars so I could save on insurance and learned to fix them myself. I know things are more expensive now, especially during this inflation. But do yourself a favor and pay you’re self first. It adds up. In a few years you’ll be surprised how much you saved and you won’t likely want to spend it, but save even more. It’s a good habit to have. Living paycheck to paycheck is what a lot of folks do, even back in my day. But there is no excuse to take a little out and pay yourself first before you pay the bills. That way if you’re ever in a bind or need to buy something. You’ll have the cash, and not have to use credit to pay. Interest payments keep you from wealth. A wealthy man has no bills. I wish you well and have a Happy New Year!
I hope to stay employed until I have enough money saved where I don't need the job anymore.
@@Z3N_P1AYZ People making 6 figs who can't save anything are stupid. I make that, I rent an apartment in the SF Bay, the most expensive housing market in the nation, and I save plenty. I bought a new car two years ago, the payments aren't a problem.
Anyone SPENDING six figures has a problem.
@@larkatmicThanks for sharing an insight of your life. Regarding L.A - can draw some parallels to here in Sydney Australia. I'm 36 now and only starting to take money more seriously - I have a good job but I have nothing. WIll take on your advice. Cheers.
Happily quit my job after saving up enough to continue living normally for a year. Decided to quit and change career, after 6 months did exactly that and best thing I've ever done
You did this exactly the right way. Just having that cushion behind you can really help.
@@JayWallace Yeah, anyone quitting with no plan and commitments would be a wild decision in my book. Helped that I got an autism diagnosis a few months in too while also doing therapy.
That's great, however, that doesn't happen for everyone. All the best.
I couldn't agree more. The moment of walking out and feeling empowered is very short lived when you then realize you are unemployed and finding a job is miserable. Sticking it out helps us learn and grow and if you are interested in leaving your job....always FIND ANOTHER JOB FIRST. It is very true that employers are much more interested in someone currently working than someone who is sitting at home unemployed. The longer you're unemployed the less attractive you are and the harder it becomes. Find another job first and never burn bridges at the job you're leaving. It will reward you later.
Very sensible advice, learned this lesson the hard way
Finally, someone being really honest about this topic. So many others online either faking or have some other means of support that they are not disclosing. I also blame what I call the "wishful thinking gurus" who write things like if you just dream hard enough it will all come true. "Do what you love and the money will follow" thinking--well not always.
Yes - statistics speak a different language than "social" media.
Thank you for this very insightful analysis. I, too, have always thought that people have a support system in order to quit a job, and pursue their dream job.
I had my own business from my mid 20's to mid 30's. The hours were long and the money wasn't steady but I enjoyed what I did. However, the business kept getting more competitive each year and it was getting harder to make money. I decided to take a goverment job. I didn't like the job, but the pay was steady and I had weekends, all the holidays paid, health insurance and a pension. I've been there now 20 years and am now sitting pretty. I have 3 more years to go and then I can retire with plenty of money to last me 30 years. Sometimes we gotta do what we don't like to pay the bills and have a future.
This is the reality of most but without the fat benefits.
well you had to. there's always a cost.
That sounds conformable. But to someone like me I couldn't imagine working a single job for my whole life and it being all over. Unless I absolutely adored the job.
@@Dabloodyblondie Yeah, to tell you the truth it sucks, but it beats being broke. Luckily I had a great childhood and had alot of fun and also traveled alot in my 20's and 30's. Now I get weekends and get to take one long vacation per year. I actually envy the people that make $100k per year and more on TH-cam, but I take what I have and make the best of it.
@@Dabloodyblondie Crappy, mundane and boring jobs are normally the ones that pay well, and continue to do so over the course of years. I repair forklifts, and I hate it. Every customer thinks they're the top priority, everything is always "an emergency" and I'm getting older and sore, and everything on a forklift is either sharp or heavy. HOWEVER, I get good benefits and my pay is enough to where my wife can be a stay at home mother (by choice).
22 years ago I was an employee of a business where I was treated like a manager whilst earning grunt money . I walked out of it, as I had an idea to set up my own gardening business. I sub contracted to a roofing company, while I built my own business. I’ve been self employed ever since, my gardening business is successful and the only thing I would do differently is I would’ve set my business up earlier. The message I would send to anyone who thinks having your own business is easy, is it’s not. It’s constant graft, both physically and mentally and if that doesn’t sound palatable don’t do it.
As long as you aren't living above your means, quitting a toxic job was the best thing I have ever done.
I can't believe this timing! I was all set to quit my job this weekend due to health issues. My work is labour-intensive, so aches and pains are the norm. This morning, I had decided that if I was feeling physical pain when I finished work, then I would submit a letter of resignation this weekend. I just got home from work not long ago, turned on YT, and immediately saw your video! I have never seen any of your videos before! I don't know who you are!! But thank you for this video!! Thank you for sharing your situation with us!! I appreciate this so much!! You have a new subscriber from Canada!! ✌🏾
Hi. I'm an acupuncturist. Pain is easy to resolve. You can also take simple things like ginger root and bromelain enzymes. I wish more people knew this.
I hope you find a job that doesn't hurt your body. You only have one body.
Thanks for that ! I also have a lot of aches and pains.@CroisMoi
@@CroisMoi je ne vous crois pas 😉
I'm right there with you, I'm 58 & probably need to work til I'm 70 ( pension here will not keep me alive) but omg my arthritis is so bad ......
Life is a joke... A cruel joke
Life is a paradox, a mirror of confusion.
Correct, and the punch line usually lands on your face. Sometimes it's more like a kick in the balls.
Victim mentality gets you nowhere. Stop putting blame on the world and take responsibility.
@@thomasjames24306This
I almost quitted my current job because of so many reasons but my bf said, "Bad job is better than no job", so i finally followed his words that kept me safe afterwards. And i got a lesson that, "Being realistic is better than only following your feelings".😊
women make decisions based on feelings. Always use your brain
Thank you so much for your video, i've been in the same career for 18 yrs and I've thought of leaving but I've built seniority and it's stable. Honestly what helps me with my wandering eye is being off social media, and understanding that the grass isnt always greener.
I was working a job that I didn't like. Then the virus came and it made the job even worse and had to stay home. So I quit my job and I went back to school for an entire year, 5 days a week to get my certificate in logistics. So I went from call-center to logistics. So happy now and doing much better!
Well done :)
Can you elaborate what exactly you do in logistics, like what is your official job title and tasks now? I‘m currently also working at a call center, looking for inspirations for my next steps.
@solarsmile9990 I am a coordinator logistics. My company buys steel and then produces steel plates. I organise the transport to the customer and also the transport from the port to our warehouse. Also guiding drivers and making sure safety regulations are being respected. Logistics is a very good choice if you are looking for something new. Almost every company has a logistics department. But I would advise you pick a company that produces goods in a well paying sector.
@gansgevtekked1917 - you based in England? :)
@@franciscofredericci4081 Belgium
I had to pause the video just five minutes in. It’s uncanny how timely this video is-today marks exactly one year since I left my high-paying sales job with great benefits in search of "greener pastures." The mantra you’re sharing, “Don’t quit your job; life isn’t a game,” resonates deeply with me. I've been urging people online to reject the misguided advice from influencers who promote quitting stable jobs because a workplace feels "toxic" or a boss made an offhand comment.
In this economy, leaving a secure position is a risky move, and I can say from personal experience: the grass is *not* greener on the other side. Think carefully and critically before making such a life-altering decision. Stability is undervalued, and those advocating for impulsive exits often underestimate the consequences.
'the universe' will provide . . yeah, right but that's what many today believe (it's used to be a girly thing but now it's across the board)
Stability is important for building career.
One may quit job on matter of good reasons related to health, personal-well-being. I think it is important to have some fund as backup (assume 1 year or 2 years minimum) to sustain, then one may take some risk and explore other options.
Wise, wise words.
Wise words that I have found to be true over my 60 years. Started teaching school 8 years ago and still at it though many have quit claiming they couldn't stand it. It seems these days, workers are experts at finding a workplace "toxic"- when for us, it was just part of life. Every job has something unpleasant. The reaction to it seems to be the difference today.
At every job I've had, there have always been fellow employees that complain about something all of us were experiencing- just going on and on about how we were all being mistreated. Funny, I was experiencing the same thing and never noticed I was mistreated.
I swear, when I was driving a tractor trailer for foodservice (did it 13 years), we got a bonus and a raise and the drivers complained about taxes being taken out. I asked them: would you rather not have the bonus?
In a related story: almost all of those complainers went from job to job and were never happy. Many had to end up taking a worst position than they had to begin with just to keep a roof over their heads.
Thanks for this. Really needed this. Ive been mulling over quitting after being gaslit and bypassed for over 6 years. Guess i need to plan harder
I was honestly thinking about quitting my job for the new year.. This video really made me reconsider things.. Thanks Jay
Not saying it's not the right choice, just saying there's a lot of content out there irresponsibly suggesting that everyone should do it. I just wanted to give a more balanced view and get people thinking before making sure a bold move. Glad the video helped.
I realized that I could quit my job but, why? What was I running from, and more importantly, where would I be running to? Sometimes the grass is greener on the other side because we are set in routine and think we need excitement.
But like Jay said, you can have a cushy job that is routine and not know it before it's too late.
Keep up the grind bro and lock in.
You absolutely must have a very solid plan if you do.
Same here... the algorithm actually did a good thing for once.
I quit my cushy job in 2017… within 18 months, I was sleeping in my car. It took years of daily work to get a career going again. I did spend pretty much the entire time working on my skills to change roles. However, I definitely could have changed some stuff in my personal life to accommodate my career change without losing income from my job
:DDDD lol
It's because you're sold this lie that work consumes your entire life and you can never improve and move into better positions if you're still working. What it actually is, is most people don't know how to manage time or they lack the initiative to continue towards a goal AFTER they're clocked out for the day. I get it. Most people want to relax when they get off work, not take additional classes, fill out more applications, and so on. But I never recommend cutting loose until you've secured a new position.
I truly appreciate your HUMILITY!!! THANKS for saving us from ourselves ( or stopped me from grumbling and complaining). Dont give up !!! New subby!
This video came at the perfect time. You’re absolutely right, and I know everything you’re saying is true. When I play the long game, I often self-sabotage because I’m eager to move on to new things. It’ll take a lot of willpower to hold my tongue in my cushy, well-paying job like yours was, but this video feels like a clear sign that it’s the right move. 100% - work on your side hustle/career move while keeping job. Thank you!
I left a software job without a new one lined up back in the summer. I left due to stress, living in crap rented accommodation where it was hard to sleep, and also a lack of direction about what I was supposed to be doing. Struggled in the office environment as well. Money was quite good though and there was flexible work where I could work from home which was 2 hours away from the office and rental. I woke up one morning in the rental accommodation after getting no sleep the night before and I said fuck it, I'm handing in my notice.
Since then I haven't had a job. Pros are that Im getting good sleep, less fatigue, have been going to the gym for the first time, can study what I want in my own time.
The cons are a lack of freedom from living back at home, and a lot of free time is actually spent looking for a new job! It's annoying also when people are always asking you what you are doing etc.
Looking back, I probably would have stayed in job. I should have moved to more exclusive rental accommodation to be getting better sleep. Asked boss to work from home longer too to de-stress. But that's the benefit of hindsight!
Hopefully something comes up in 2025.
Left my job without anything lined up due to a horrible boss. Well, not directly, I told them I would not go to their mandatory gossiping sessions. Took me about half a year to find something new. Wish you best luck for the new year.
you could go back to your old job since you gave notice and you can tell them you left for personal reasons but those personal issues have been resolved.
I have a similar story with the not being able to sleep from neighbors. Left my job in automotive but I found that isn't what I want to do with my life.
You don't have to sugar coat this. You lived next to annoying trash who were loud all the time and couldn't get sleep as a result.
I think you’re a good man to admit you screwed up and are warning others about making the same mistake. I think that takes a lot of humility and character. Thanks for showing care for your fellow man in a world that doesn’t give a shit anymore about others.
I have children. Grown, adult children. I didn't pass on much wisdom; I did what I could. But there were a few recurring ones I harped on over the years. My most steady offering was, "take chances when you are young. Risk is your friend, or at least not entirely your enemy... when you are young. Even some of the worst outcomes can be recovered from simply because you'll have the time to do so. However, once your responsibilities begin to multiply, you'll just have less space, you'll have more to lose and less to gain. Take chances when you are young."
Young, in my mind, is probably sub-25. This obviously carries some implicit notions: you won't be as experienced in life so losses will feel worse, but they will be more quickly forgotten. Risk is a tolerance, and your tolerances just get more rigid as you age; can't be helped.
Unfortunately, unless you have some great support behind you, your decision-making and forward-planning skills in your early 20s are crap until your frontal lobe grows in at 25, and any risks you take will ultimately return a whole handful of nothing at best, or leave you worse off in less tangible ways than monetarily (you can bounce back from stuff like substance abuse to an extent, but it still leaves a mark).
Yeah I don’t agree with this at all. When you’re young, it’s the best time to work for others and actually gain skills and knowledge and networks to eventually work on your own if that’s what you want to do. You’ll also have more savings to give you a cushion. There are tons of videos on TH-cam of 21 yr olds wanting to stay home and be day traders and losing everything. Then they end up years behind everyone else. Start saving money as young as you can and learn as much as you can and then when you’re older you can easily take whatever risks you want because it won’t make any difference in your lifestyle and you’ll have enough connections to get a job if you need to.
@@janice23847 just like the OP, I think y’all both have over generalized this idea. It’s prioritizing what is important to you, and recognizing there are pros and cons to any decision. Not everyone has the same goal in mind and that changes how decisions are made. I think the goal is to truly have an understanding of what those specific goals are to you and how to be successful in them.
Watching these types of videos has good advice in them. But you can never compare yourself to someone else. I worked at Walmart for 7 years. Hated my job. Started following my dream to become a filmmaker in 2020. Last year I shot 3 videos for Sony and have been shooting weddings and other freelance work consistently since I left my job Oct 19th 2020. I wake up and have all my time to myself. People laughed when I told them I wanted to be a filmmaker. You can truly achieve anything in life. You just have to be smart about it and have a solid plan, and an unwavering faith you are going to pull it off. If you want it bad enough I believe many people can have a life they are fulfilled with. You can spend your entire life doing what you don't love, take a chance on doing something you love. Thanks for reading.
thanks for sharing your story
@shigermuleye5203 of course! Thank you for reading it. I make videos about it sometimes. Have a good day and be kind to yourself.
It’s easier to take chances in ur 20’s I quit my job and moved hours away to attended nursing school … I am glad it panned out but that’s what the 20’s are for
Survivorship bias lol
100% agree. Unless you have something lined up, don't do it. Job hunting is basically just as stressful and demanding as a job except you don't get paid for it, plus people look down on you for being unemployed. There is so much bias in the job process against people who are not currently employed it's crazy, and of course every month you have a gap in your resume the bias just gets worse. Everytime I think I can't stand my current job, I think back to how I felt when I was last unemployed (it turned out to be longer than a year) and I decide some forms of suffering are better than others.
Lie. Make up something. Say your were trying to start up a buissiness but it didn't work out. Say you went travelling. Whatever. Just say something that sounds reasonable and they cannot check.
Some money is better than no money
I love the honesty here.
Moving abroad and the whole ‘I’m leaving the U.K., USA, Canada’ etc, doesn’t necessarily work for everyone
It's intentionally being said to get people out of the country
And even if it works out, it oftentimes requires the amount of stress and effort that could bring you to success in your home country.
I keep hearing about people leaving the UK and becomung tech 'entrepreneurs' and having digital businesses. I'd like to know how many of these businesses actually survive. In order for society to function there needs to be people prepared to do proper, hands-on, skilled jobs. Politicians especially need to realise this and fast.
@@gmc9451 yes. That’s why hospitality and other jobs within the service industry, should be seen as ‘good hard honest work’ that should be respected, and not frowned upon.
It’s all too easy for the folk who have cushy remote positions, or work in an office 3 days a week, to slag off the people who have to work in Greggs, Macdonald’s, work in post rooms, work as a carer, security officer, bin man, street sweeper etc, because those jobs are seen as lowly, poorly paid, or for people who have a poor education. Some people will find themselves(through no fault of their own) having to work those jobs, which involves getting up early, and working long days, and having very little time to spend with family, friends or some much needed downtime. And on top of that, have very little to show for the hard work they put in.
Keep fighting bro, good to see someone being real and not just going on about how great they are and how great their lifestyle is
Very easy to become complacent and dissatisfied with what you have. Of course this is part of a larger picture. Always good to stay humble and count blessings. Having said that if you want to do something do it but be wise about it.
Your willingness to be so honest to both yourself and the world is incredible. I’m sitting here thinking, ‘Would I admit this to the world?’, and then I realize that it’s my inability to admit my shortcomings that are holding me back. Thanks for this.
I made the same mistake exactly 1 year ago…Had at least 6 months living costs saved up but it took 3 months longer than anticipated to find another job, I am now paying the price unfortunately 😩
Thanks for the video. Adds reality/balance to the other "follow your dream" type videos
No matter where you go, there you are
I quit my job many times and it has messed up my life, thank you for reaffirming that I should keep a job and work on my dream job. I just have to find a better job and one that suits me more. thank you!
I have been a “victim” of certain type of content where the creators shared content highlighting how having a job is a bad thing , how our life is supposed to suck unless we quit our job and do something crazy.
Next thing you know TH-cam algorithm starts suggesting all similar content.
You then get bombarded with content that make your life look miserable and you feel more and more depressed .
I truly admire your honesty- not easy to share this story online , it’s hard to find people like you nowadays.
All we see online are people bragging , baiting , and providing unreasonable and dangerous advice but never talk about their mistakes.
Big up for you - new subscriber.
I wish you the very best for your life ❤
Really refreshing to see somebody from the other side of this "hustle culture" we live in. I always see these videos about the success people have had by quitting their jobs and focusing on their dreams but people never understand that these are one in a million cases. I think the young generation would benefit from more videos like these that explain the unfortunate reality that most of us will find ourselves in if we take such a drastic leap. Thank you for your transparency
Great take, man. Appreciate you being genuine about it. The pursuit of one's dreams is necessary, but so is balance. Thank you.
I recently left my job not too long ago for various reasons but mainly just for my own well-being. The truth is the money was quite good, but I was quite thankful that I'd had a direction in mind and I knew where I wanted to go. I'm also quite blessed that I don't have that much upkeep and I'm happy to scale back my needs massively. All I will say is, I'm quite proud that you gambled on yourself and keep the faith. You never know what's around the corner and maybe things will turn around for you as well.
True, you may not hate your job, you may just have to tweak it. It's natural for men to think they need to make a drastic change. Recognize it, analyze it, think slow, change slow.
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I essentially did what you did.
I have been all the way through the process you’re currently in the middle of.
I think the perspective you’re gaining is value beyond what you’re currently aware of and will be realized when you find the thing you’re seeking.
It’s the process that matters and is the best teacher.
Feel the feelings
Make decisions based on love and never out of fear
Your true passion and joy lies inside of the scariest cave your fear most to explore
DO NOT QUIT YER JOBS. believe me friends you will face the sh1ts once the bills start mounting up..
Just stop ✋️ paying them.
@@daisylavender5275 yeh ya eventually get one that says FINAL NOTICE and that's that.
This is good advice and I’m speaking from experience . If you are watching, listen to this man
Never run from something, only ever run towards something 👍
Depends.. run toward the light of an explosion and you will then need to go towards the light
Wow! This must be from Confucius.
@ Nah, he’s too busy chasing rabbits or something 🤣
I agree.
I'll run from a toxic relationship. 😂
Great video. Really applies to my current situation and this helps. Great advice man. Good luck with your endeavors!
Thanks for the honest video. When seeing videos on quitting its always important to consider the agenda of the person making the video. Many may be trying to sell a product or service and others may be seeking validation for their choices. Lovely scenery by the way.
Thanks for the great video! I love how genuine and well-reflected you are and that you show vulnerability. If you keep it this way, you will help more people.
We need more videos like this. There is a lot of dangerous content out there about quitting your job and following your dreams. While I feel there is some merit to that argument, this is a very serious decision to make and one that can and will have massive implications. It really annoys me when influencers come out with such bold statements to a broad audience when they know right well that advice like that should only ever be given on a cases by case basis.
Thanks Jay, great video 👍
Thank you, I'm glad you agree. Noticed a lot of dangerous content out there trending at the moment and just wanted to put out a more balanced perspective.
It's kinda hard for me to fathom that someone would quit their job without a solid plan. My wife would lose her mind if I did that without a very solid plan lol.
I quit a well paying job in 2016. Partially because I didn't want to be working away from my family in the week.
But then went wholly self employed.
What I've discovered since is that having a job as well as being self employed works best (for me personally anyway).
Having to constantly juggle both business and personal finance, was stressful.
By having a part time job, which pays the bills, makes building a Business so much less stressful.
What we need is simply educating people that what they see on mass media is not 100% what reality is. When I was a kid and tv was most common visual mass media we were reminded all the time " don't believe all they say and show on tv". Nowadays for some reason people fail to comprehend that they cannot believe everything they see or hear on Internet or in social media. Another tactic would be to teach people about what stats say about various things. And as fr chasing dreams and your own business less than 10% of population succeeds in it. So unless someone was born into wealthy family odds of passing exam to become a medical doctor or a decent lawyer are higher than this since 15% of graduates are capable of this. So yeah, pick your hard wisely.
That’s great for your 20’s I did it in my 20’s and it panned out now 39 I am drained from doing the same thing over and over decade but I will stay till I find a federal job or better benefits this is not the time to switch jobs it’s slim Pickens
When I am not enjoying my job, and it happens from time to time, I set a date 6 months in advance on my calendar. I do this because I am aware that there are likely to be contributing factors to my current feelings. For example I can have relationship problems, worries about money, everyday family life, or I am just bored. Sometimes you just can't put your finger on it. On most occasions , when I reach the 6 months, those feelings have faded. We all want the dream job and we all want better, but I think Jay's right - the grass is not always greener on the other side. If you really hate your job, ask yourself if you are truly dedicating all your time to follow your dreams. Be honest to yourself - which is easier said than done. have you have got the finances or the dedication to follow your dreams? I know you might not read this but nice video Jay! Thank you for your transparency, honesty and authenticity.
I still encourage you to leave your job if there’s something you truly want to do, because with each passing day, your life is one day shorter. So many people spend their entire lives in regret.
It’s frustrating how jobs can make us feel this way 😔. I know we need money to survive, but as a community, especially as Americans, we need to come together 🤝. This isn’t our fault - these corporations are being greedy, and they’re only hurting the economy 💸. The government doesn’t seem to be doing enough about it, but don’t lose hope. Keep pushing forward 💪!
Terrible advice. Just remember, Kixoo isn't paying your bills. It costs him nothing to advise you from his keyboard.
Been there brother, took me a very long time to recover. A career change in your 30s is no joke.
I’m glad you are telling this story. It’s so unwise to go with these online trends. A lot of nonsense on the internet has people driving trucks into crowds and quitting their jobs and getting BBLs. This is the real pandemic of unwise leading the unwise. Thanks at least for having the courage to impart this wisdom as someone who discovered this from experience. I wish you well.
Great video I really needed to hear this. I can’t really close to quitting my job two weeks ago.
Good on you for the honesty and push back against the trend. It is a good idea to be grounded and not emotional when making financial choices. Thanks again for the caution, it is well advised.
I feel like the 'trend' is more of a larping fantasy than a real situation (except for maybe in China). I fantasise about quitting all the time, I watch people discuss it on youtube, etc, but I'm not stupid and most people know it would create even bigger problems. We're all just so sick of the grind. We feel like cogs in a machine that doesn't care about us so we all come to the Internet to vent and imagine the possibilities together
@@Sean-ll5cm I get you. We all have had a longing to not be bound by so much time invested in building income. We tend to move toward what we focus on so be cautious how long you keep your focus on Larping and fantasy. Unfortunately if not content now, it is unlikely we would be content once the next step is achieved. (just look at music & movie stars who "have it all" and are still not content) Best wishes
Thank you for your transparency. This video has really put things into perspective for me and has made me realize that I need to reevaluate my priorities.
There should be more cautionary tales like this from people on TH-cam. I have a similar one myself so I feel your pain. 2.5 years ago I left a job that was alright (but was starting to annoy me a bit) to pursue a Masters in cybersecurity, because I noticed there were lots of cyber jobs/adverts asking for people to go and do it. I finished the course recently and discovered that actually there aren't that many jobs in that sector as they made out, and now I'm working in a minimum wage job WORSE than the one I had before (doing LONGER hours too) because the dream cyber job I hoped to get seems out of reach, whilst going back to my old job is no longer an option. So yeah - sometimes you can leave your job hoping for something better and end up with something way worse than what you had even before. It's depressing.
Wrong approach!
Why is your Cyber Security job out of reach?
Find out what is missing, get the missing brick and get into your new position.
I wish you find a decent job, don't give up !
@@dacat8171 But the recent stress levels I’ve had to endure to get the course done has almost entirely put me off wanting to work in the industry! If I’d known it would make me feel so shitty I wouldn’t have left my job to go study it at all. And I’d have had 2 pay rises in my old job since the time I left due to annual increases. I’m down about 20k and a ton of stress because of my decision.
@@abdelazizsaafane190 thanks. I think the stress and the money wasn’t worth it. Probably should have just stayed where I was, I’d be better off for it in both income and savings and mental well being too.
@@TH-camr1303 It is always better to have good higher education on your resume. Things will work out for you in the end.
That's right, appreciate what you have now. On top of that build up your success. Throwing everything away without careful planning will highly likely mess things up.
I regret doing it because now its two months later and I can't find one in my area. I should have just slacked off like everybody else there instead of getting frustrated at having to pick up after people. It just was burning me out and this is the first time I quit a job with no backup before, usually I have another lined up, and I regret being that impulsive.
Thanks for your honesty. A lot of people on here need to hear that.
@dmichael100 I don't mind. I honestly don't miss the hassle of the job and I think if the job is really stressing you or unfulfilling, by all means find another, but wait till you have another job for certain and then put your two weeks in. I didn't and it honestly didn't even feel great the day I quit because in the end I was replaceable, they could manage without me and you aren't as vital as you think.
I appreciate you sharing this. I almost raged quit for the same reason but I’m waiting until I get something else this time…
@@corbinmiles5677 please do in this economy its crazy how many people in my small town I am competing with for a job.
It is experience
You never know how thing would have gone if you didn’t
Don’t worry, everything gonna work out the best way you may not thought off
Wish you all best
Step 1: Cut your costs 70%, get flat mates, get rid of your car etc
Step 2: Pay off all debts
Step 3: Maximize your income
Step 4: Save up 1 year of pay
Step 5: Do your dream as a side hustle
Step 6: Focus on it when it's making at least 50% of your day job.
Do not skip steps.
Ug step 1 I'm there but I think I have to cut it another 70% now. Or get more work.
It is 100% OK to interview, update your resume, job search, and explore your other interests while you have a job. That's how ive done it ever since I started. Being on job boards that often has helped me to explore other careers that my skills would be relevant to. Never been without a job though except once when they had layoffs so that lasted for 3 months, but in 13 years that's how it's gone. Continue finding yourself and your passions, even if it means switching industries, but keep making yourself stronger in the process personally, professionally, financially - you can do these things together.
Much needed message mate. Appreciate it.
Worked at the same company for 20 years covering Essex and Herts. Currently on £30k a year for quite a high skilled job. They just told me I’m now covering London. No payrise, no consultation because they can’t hire anyone in London on the money they pay. This is top 100 employer in the UK, multinational corporation. Told them I’m looking for a new job asap, absolute pisstakers. They dont value staff or anyone so why show any loyalty.
@@Desi_Gosi contract says they can unfortunately, “within a reasonable distance”. Already speaking to the union about it
Sorry to hear that. The good thing is that working for a large company will look great on your CV and if your work is high-skilled, you'll have no problem finding another role. Best of luck with the search
Thats only $37,644.70 usd about $19 an hr. What do you do? because that is peanuts these days. especially after working for the same company for 20 yrs.
In same in my job in social care . They can’t hire anyone and because i was doing my some of the side work well they won’t even pay me proper salary after had my leavel 7 now saying need need the level 8 to get the little rise - decided that I’m gonna look for another job and leave as my sanity and mental health is worth more than that plus being under paid by €10-12k a year for €32k I’m asking as a trainee even , lower myself , so said nah F that. If can’t hire someone for the longest time what’s the point ? Why should I do double the work for a job they advertised then change it last minute .nahhhh it’s more work less pay . Not a hope on 20k!
£30k and its high skilled? you are severely underpaid.
I'm at an off season point as a construction worker. I went to the UK (Scotland) and took my mind off the panic of not working. Here in the US there is no medical insurance if you are not working, and you get fined by the government if you do not have it. Which adds extra pressure on the already stressful situation of not working. Your time off is spent looking for the next job, not enjoying the moment of peace. Times have gotten worse with companies demanding you work the hours of two people, because they only want to pay benefits for one. And you are disposable if you don't comply. I don't want to go back.
It’s frustrating how jobs can make us feel this way 😔. I know we need money to survive, but as a community, especially as Americans, we need to come together 🤝. This isn’t our fault - these corporations are being greedy, and they’re only hurting the economy 💸. The government doesn’t seem to be doing enough about it, but don’t lose hope. Keep pushing forward 💪!
honestly i cant believe the sucicide rate isnt higher in your country its shit in the uk id kill myself if lived in usa
Great video! I appreciate you sharing your life experience from a low point in your life as I think that's a very difficult thing to do however is priceless for a viewer like me gaining the knowledge from your experience. I feel the internet is constantly flooded with people sharing a romanticised vision of how to be successful in life which is unrealistic so it is very refreshing hearing someone speak honestly on their life experience. You have a great attitude and I'm sure with the success of this video if you keep at it you will achieve your dreams!
I quit my teaching job in April '24. No job to go to but I had 3 months of bill money saved and a supportive family. I was lucky and managed to find a job out of education but still using my skills before my contract expired. Every day I try and 'repay' that luck by working hard in my new role.
Thanks Jay for your timely and insightful video. It is a refreshing antidote to all the 'follow your dream' stuff on TH-cam atm.
The salient point here is that having a job PAYS THE BILLS, even if it is an unsatisfying job. It has made me re-consider my own thinking as I wind up my holidays and head back to the mill next Monday.
dont quit youre life.
sometimes its way better to quit and fail.
You speak very well and structured . Subscribed .
Planning your transition is the key! Build a financial buffer, time it, have a plan!
I wish i would see it before i jumped to my private company and failed! Well done man, not many ppl have balls to talk truly about rhe reality !
Look at this way . Your journey made u wiser and stronger . People get so bent over if they made the right decision . There's is not right decision . Life is a journey . Get up dust off and grow .
Just accept that you didn't know better, that's why you made a bad decision. You didn't know any better
Good story. Truthful insight. Let's check in on the first of each month to see the results of your efforts. Pretty sure you're showing up and doing the work, and will see your progress over time. 👍
So true, 99 out of 100 people fail at achieving their dreams but this never gets talked about, just the sucesses for obvious reasons. It's an interesting dichotomy as if you never try you never win.
You can try but one needs to set limits for themselves. How many times should you fail before you realize your dream isn't attainable, and settle into mundane life like everyone else?
I was made redundant from a job I really loved, during Covid. Since then I haven't done much work at all, and now find myself at the age of 57 and virtually unemployable (I'm a writer, content provider, blogger etc and AI now seems to be making people like me completely redundant!). Anyway, ho hum. Thanks for the video, mate. I really hope things work out for you.
I started freelancing (creating educational content, running professional trainings, quality assure projects, etc) as a side gig to my 9-5 when I was 25. It grew into a really sizeable income over 4 years (about 3 times the national average income), so I quit and started my PhD in parallel. At 33, I turned my PhD research into one business together with colleagues, and my freelancing into another business that I'm sole owner and director of. Three years later one has 4, other has 5 employees, and is quite steady, embedded in the area we wish to cover, making decent money for all. In the research-based business we also have technology and IP that might be worth a lot someday.
You should definitely not rush into this thing. It takes years to grow anything into a steady state.
And I have to say, most people are not cut out to be entrepreneurs. If the best you can do is some kind of copy-pasta MLM crap or dropshipping that you learnt from an online course, you should just find a job, because you are following a protocol on an oversaturated market, and not generating any actual value. Nice video. Reality check is needed, especially for under 30s.
this is very good advice to be giving people. good on you for making this video. i did something similar to you. traveled asia for a while, assuming i'd just figure it out. i didn't. tried to start something with a friend that didn't go anywhere. was really hard finding another normal job again. people also need to be aware that influencers out there promoting these lifestyles are usually doing it because they're trying to sell you something. they make their money on the fantasy of living like them. and you're right that the vast majority of people who try to do it won't succeed. this is a bad game to play. go with the stable option in 99% of cases.
Its unbelievable how many unremarkable dudes are into "coaching" now.
Good advise Jay. Good luck in moving forward.
It’s frustrating how jobs can make us feel this way 😔. I know we need money to survive, but as a community, especially as Americans, we need to come together 🤝. This isn’t our fault - these corporations are being greedy, and they’re only hurting the economy 💸. The government doesn’t seem to be doing enough about it, but don’t lose hope. Keep pushing forward 💪!
I could live off my savings for 4 years atm. But I keep them in shares, and I pursue my "real goal" in my spare time. Which means almost no spare time / social life. But no gun pointed at my head .
I love your explanations, great video mate. I'm watching this as a Romanian from Romania even though its a clip in english so i guess yt does a good job at recommending you across the globe and cheers for that 🎉🎉
I havent worked in the last 5 years i saved funds at my job 2016-2021 as much as i could and it paid off big time. I also started a 401k that has 60 k in it now i am 30.
This video is so good. Thank you for that.
I impulsively quit my job a week ago and came back a few days later 😂 I realized I didn’t have a back-up plan
Yeah there's an excitement to just saying f#ck it but that excitement soon wears off when the bills come in
Did you actually tell them you'd quit? 🤣
you quit with no plan? are you mentally ill?
Lol. They let you come back that easily? Either you have a cool boss and you are the issue or your job sucked so bad they knew they couldn't find anyone else to do it lol. If it's the job that sucks then you may be able to ask for higher pay at least.
What are u doin here ?
Nothin. Why?
I thought u quit …
Huh? 😂
Just pretend u didn’t quit, huh?
Brilliant!
Very good video! A good lesson for who want to make a bold move. Better to plan this alongside your job! Even though if you are on a desperate enviornment, better to plan for a safety budjet and make a bold move to find another job. Mental health is important too!
Thank you for the video I appreciate the honesty and insight have. A Good Christmas and a happy new year 🎉
Thanks for sharing your story mate. Your testimony helped a guy down here in Brasil.
Just imagine if you were living 200 years ago as a subsistence farmer. Either you worked from sunup until sundown or you died. Always hoping you could survive the winter, always worrying about the weather.
@@geocam2 i agree... they want you to be happy with $20-$50 an hour so they can buy 3 more vacation houses n a couple more yachts
@@geocam2 capitalism hasn't existed for decades. too big to fail isn't capitalism, nor are bail-outs or any other tax payer funded nonsense corps get these days. You blaming capitalism for everything is just exposing your ignorance.
That is exactly right. There is some perspective missing among many today. All of this introspection about "Is this job really me? Do I have enough leisure time? When am I going to be promoted?"
For most of human history, no one had the luxury to even consider such questions. Humans have always had to survive and not too long ago. it took all day, every day to do that.
200 years ago was 1824 at least I could afford to have 4-6 children. To have 4-6 children now I would have to make and I'm not kidding like 150K-250K a year which is ludicrous. I rather be the American 1820's cattle rancher
The difference back then was that there was nothing else, so people had no higher ambitions. People nowadays want to live, not just survive, because that's what we've been raised to expect by the cushy society in which we've lived our entire lives.
Outstanding advice. I’d never dream of quitting my job, absolutely love what I do. Totally understand this isn’t the normal experience though.
why u watching this vid then lol
I totally agree! Build your business while you work your job!
I quit my multiple six figure engineering job to “do more fulfilling work” and quickly realized how different the required skillset for running a coaching business was from working for a business. (I actually have a feeling we had the same teacher/coach lol.) A year and over $100k spent later, I went back to work, making less than I before I quit, plus the addition of a terrible commute. Thankfully a year after that I landed a remote position making more than I did before I originally quit and am now able to work on my passion while still working my job.
It was all a great learning experience. But take it from me… don’t quit your job until the next venture is solid!
@HouseofVenesianberg lol it’s very true, but now I’m curious… which part do you think is a lie? And why? 🤔
Timely with first day back at the office tomorrow. I needed to hear this tonight cheers mate.
I've worked in the NHS since my early 20's (40 next month) honestly it's not been a bad 17 years, been patient facing and in the office and now I've worked my way up to middle management. Currently working shifts 4 on 4 off, managing a small team in a security control room. It does ruin the sleep pattern a bit and when I work weekends / nights / bank holidays (was on for Christmas this year) it is a bit rubbish for the other half. But the money is great, bills are getting paid, I can afford some luxuries and I get to save some money each month. Plus the pension is good when you get it and I get about 7 weeks of A/L a year. I've not lead a jet setting life "chasing my dreams" and it is a bit mundane, but I'm a lot better off than most right now, certainly no plan to quit; you just gotta turn up and grind it out. Though a big lotto / premium bond win may change that!
Same position here in the USA I will ride it out I have 5 years in slow and steady wins
Loved this video, you have a really nice genuine style
I am a nurse, and I work in a carehome. I have always wanted admin stuffs and organizing, and I feel like I wanted to try this new side of nursing, virtual or digital as they say. I hope to make it happen in 2025.
Your honesty and clarity and authencity is all valid. I stuck a self employed business for many years, but I was good at it, so stuck it to the bitter end, as I had bills. Still have bills, but was glad I stuck at it. Mainly to contribute with bills, didnt have holidays or treats. Didn't want to let my husband down. We both worked from 16 years old. Both stopped due to ill health. But, had I quit because I ended up hating my job, God knows where we would be now.