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You are not alone my friend.. Let's meet in Belgium

I have known at least over 50 people in the last year leave the UK for south east asia or china. Spain is nice but the EU is expensive and its economy crashing, south east asia is the best place to live, cheap to run, nice weather

I understand that feeling lonely is a bad feeling for many, but let's face it. If you don't embrace yourself in the beginning, how do you want people to embrace you? My point is: Find your own meanings in this life and work on them, projects, goals and plans that will serve as your anchor on this planet as long as you live. No one will be your friend unless you befriend yourself and avoid relying on others, whether in your feelings or life affairs. Are friends important? Yes Should not having them make your life hell? Absolutely not If you help yourself and help the people you can, trust that happiness will come to you and your friends as well on a golden platter. I wish everyone all the happiness 💫

Exposure to uncomfortable situations is proportionate to overcoming them. The more you expose yourself to social situations, the more comfortable it becomes and the thoughts of inadequacy go away as we get better in interactions. It works both ways - you reduce exposure and become more awkward. This applies to everything in life. The more we do it, the better we become. It just takes a little courage and determination to put some effort and not run away. Also lower your expectations - expect the worse case - to be rejected, even better do not expect anything. If you expect much from the interaction that expectation and a fear of failure usually hold us back from showing our genuine personality. Just empty your head and mingle until things get easy and become your second nature. You are lonely but not alone! Cheers!

I’m glad you decided to film this… it’s courageous… many of us feel the same, but isolate ourselves even further.

Asean women n gays love white people as they see their future life these white people will bring them back to UK and have a good life as well as british citizenship.Please dont fall into this trap!!!

Dot get married w asean woman u ll be their atm...

Keep us updated. And do the traveling. Open up a blank, new page in your life and become the person you always wanted to be. I wish you peace.

Thanks for sharing. As someone who moved out of US at 23 and built a teaching career in Hong Kong, even more lonely at 35. Wish there was a community where women who are single don’t feel so…left behind.

The fact that it makes you happy to help others shows what a decent guy you are.

Thia video inspired me and hurt my feelings all at the same time. The accuracy in which you described me was too spot on

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I know how you feel I'm 38 single live on my own with no friends and no family support I don't work i have autism im just surviving its so depressing

Almost 31, don't know how it feels to have friends, never had one, nor a girlfriend for that matter. However, having faith in God and trying to be a good christian, I had learned to love myself and embrance my solitude. A wise man once told me " God protects his chosen ones by isolating them from evil so they won't get tempted". I do believe that God is protecting me from people who might harm me. So, if you ever feel lonely, even though you have what it takes to make friends. I know, I do. Don't ever feel discouraged, because it happens for a reason. The reason is that, you're not the problem, you are good enough for everyone. The bad people around you, think they have acomplished something by having fake friends and fake girlfriends/boyfriends, but in reality, they are envious of you for embracing solitude as a king, thus, with all their power, want you to feel bad. Don't let them win. They aren't strong enough as you. They have a weak mindset. Trust me, you are special. I hope, someday, I will have the privilige of meeting you and be friends. God protects his people. If you don't have any reasons to not make friends or a girlfriend/boyfriend, but you still can't. Then we are indeed living the End TImes, from which the Bible predicts. I don't feel lonely, I feel protected. I don't care about having a girlfriend. The wise man also told me" The Man who conquers his earthly temptations, will be the most Powerful and Succesful Man in the World" So my main mission is to be part of that category.

Dont go….

Never related to a video more.

Thanks for posting this and your last video! Thanks for sharing and I hope some new adventures crop up in the future for you. It almost seems taboo to say you're/we're lonely these days, so many FB groups desperately make it out to be 100% amazeballs, which I always think is odd. Loneliness isn't some blanket emotion for secluded saddos (which society I think errs on assuming), it's often something that comes and goes, even to busy/popular people at times. It's also not something people can solve just be mastering hobbies or becoming more outgoing or embracing being alone (which is a particularly weird type of toxic positivity as it's trying to force yourself to appreciate being alone), that's not how it works. It's a dynamic situation and series of emotions, different to each person. Like, you can be happy doing you're own thing for ages and then feel lonely if you've made a great meal but there's no one else to appreciate it or make it for. It can be a fleeting emotion or be something felt all the time.

Same thing here. Im turning 30 this year. Ive been losing friends left and right, from distance because i moved cities, a long relationship that made me distance from them. Family is out of picture as well, for my decision and my mental health. Now i just have contact with my coworkers wich are just plain fucking awful and a nigtmare to work with. Ive been thinking of unsubscribing for a while now, hanging by a thread to test if its even worth keep fighting. I play on PC but if you wanna play some games, let me know.

Come to Brasil, I'll make happy

Man, I have nothing to say, but you are very young and so very much handsome. So, try to enjoy that. Find someone to love brow! Forgive me if I am not so delicated.

I feel the same way… I’m Irish living in Barcelona… love every minute of it and I couldn’t move back because I do love open nature, landscape, mountains, and cultures… also I had lived in Canada for 2 years…. I do worry about the EU if it did collapse (I really hope it doesn’t) I would leave Europe all together… great video btw :)

Honestly I hope technology keeps getting worse and worse for us (to a degree ofcourse). But now with AI, and the fear how it will replace us in so many areas of life, people are finally being fed up with being *connected* through technology. I think, and hope, that we are at a 'darkest before the dawn' type of place in history regarding technology.

Man, I am 38 and always felt the exact same way. People don't realize that after school, your social life starts declining, you meet people either through work or others. you can't meet people through others if they either moved away because of relocating or a job. Let's be realistic, work is sometimes not the best place to meet friends because it's prone to drama. I work from home, which makes it impossible to meet people through others, and everybody I know moved out of state, which means they have to visit me or I have to fly to them. It becomes also sociably awkward to toss your number at somebody who you just met without coming across is weird. You're no longer a kid that you could just say: "my names so and so" I live two blocks away. Here's my number without looking like a psycho. Keep in mind that I am Social but I'm limited because I meet people rapidly when I go out shopping or buying things for the house. It's not exactly a place to meet friends. Loneliness isn't just about people that are antisocial or don't try. It also hits people who are social but just stuck in situations where they can't meet people. I've been fortunate enough that my friend stay in contact on the phone, maybe jumping a multiplayer game which I'm grateful for but they're not physically present. And what's weird is that the loneliness starts making you anxious, and making you think there's something wrong with you when there isn't. For example, I've had a couple neighbors in front of me and nearby, up the street move in same age younger home owners and no matter how hard I try to reach out to them, social, etc. they seem content with their circle friends and don't need anymore that after a while starts making you think there's something wrong with you?

I’m 30 yr old woman, also single live with my parents. But have a job and pay my own bills. I don’t care about making friends I just want to get married and have kids 😅 best of luck to you ❤ don’t give up go dating

dont forget to keep up with your stamps for your pension if you pay state pension but whilst the laws are changing you will not get a state pension instead you will have to pay into a private pension

I feel this because it’s really hard to find friends without kids and I’m getting really tired of that. Specially when I’m told that 55 percent of millennials not just millennials, but also GenZ now aren’t having kids and it was a 2% decrease of people who had kids last year versus this year so why can’t I find any non-kid friends

it's not about solving all our problems or running away from yourself, it's about feeling something great, sharing your experiences with someone else, holding and kissing someone, the potential having a great romance, loving someone, having a family, doing something we're biologically hardwired to do. also just imagine giving this same exact advice to someone like yourself that says they want friends, "friends aren't going to fix all your problems, you shouldn't depend on others for your happiness, you should become comfortable being alone".

Is the GF hoing with you?

Similar age to you. Really resonate with your experience at boxing. Have done MMA, BJJ etc over the years and never really formed any deeper bonds during it. Always found myself on the outside of things. People act like they are an easy way to make new friends but I’ve never found it to be like that (having been to many gyms). Unless you are in the inner circle who trains twice a day, you are just a random face

I did this with Brazil. Went for 3 months. Not sure it really fixed anything, but it was fun.

Hypergamy

Don't worry about it one day you will fine the right person

You nice

Most English people leave the UK and immigrate to Australia 🦘 first destination.

Hey im 31 and have like...one or two friends apart from my brother and my mrs of 12 years. But, im totally fine living in solitude - going to work, punching out, gaming, working out in my garage gym, playing bass, jamming in my band, spending time with my mrs and my dogs. Infact, if i had no outside connection apart from my mrs id be indifferent. Still fulfilled.

Hey bro how are you doing now?😍

It’s not easy making friends, especially when you have been hurt so much. It’s not easy to find genuine and honest people anymore.

Hey Jay have you considered leading a group of like minded people? I'm sure others could benefit from meeting once a week over zoom to share similar stories. Maybe this could turn into a huge thing and more people would want to join and connect together.

bro how's thailand?

F##k your social life beer,drugs and chatting shyte to strangers random one nighters numerous sti's.naaa ! Concentrate on you ! Make lots of money ,secure yourself financially and go with it.... You don't need friends, do it solo.... I am and I'm 44 ! Was like this in my 20's. Social life , was a complete waste of my time and money. If I concentrated on what I was doing from earlier, I would be made..and happy.

I live alone but i do exercise daily walking, cycling, walking group many dont go out at night but can chat on video I livr in terrace but go 5 star many are pretty wealthy around here so comfortable and most free, Scotland highlands, but Glasgow. Leith. Edinburgh not isolated i been 65 countries I red 600 books i saw 120 live music acts, plus volunteer film extra. Etcv

Even Ryan Gosling is lonely :(

I left the UK 18 years ago, it was an obvious choice the writing was on the wall. Singapore, UAE, Russia, Malaysia and Georgia are all fantastic compared to the UK/US/EU. Singapore is virtually impossible to live full time now and UAE requires 2,000,000 AED investment for 10 year golden visa. Golden rule stay away from western countries - due to uncontrolled immigration, degeneracy, taxes, lgbt, feminism, poverty etc

I find that a sense of purpose or having long term goals that inspire and push me is as important than how much time I'm spending with people. I think the best thing for someone struggling with loneliness is strive to create a path in life and develop a strong sense of identity in addition to having a regular social group. For example, I have recently dedicated myself to really trying to get as good at running as possible, doing 6 days a week with lots of very hard workouts with planned races coming up. I have made a huge amount of progress and the difficulty of what I am doing has made me far more confident and feel a much stronger sense of identity. I also feel like I am capable and the world is full opportunity rather than being a nihilistic place. I would recommend committing to do some hard physical things and then see how you feel about life.

Ironically most people your age with a family & friends are way more lonier and insecure inside

U wanna go to canada??? U must love being lonely then. Good luck

Arrive in 1999 ... left UK in 2019 I undertand you .. and im even foreigh good luck to you mate

You articulated eloquently all these points that are actually prevalent in all those self developmenty videos.....but from my experience it is all about biology....the timing...the circumstances....those inner little feelings...all an expression of biological hetiocracy....One last thing...nobody wants a girl to fix sth....they just want what is naturally supposed to be wanted....being deprived from that natural fix is actually equivalent to slow decay and resentment....we are ment to be +- either we like or not...the problem is that big nature MAMA doesnt want all the genes to survive...otherwise the world population would be 16 billions....cold but who knows maybe true....you would really understand...unless you have endured constant rejection throughout your whole life......

What was the nick name ? I know, dont sweat it....such experiences can be crushing at those ages.....been there...