The Secret to Becoming Yourself? Look For Unlikely Mentors | Chris Roberts | TEDxSpokane
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- Join thought leader Chris Roberts in this insightful talk as he unravels the profound impact of seeking unlikely mentors in the journey of self-discovery. Roberts explores the transformative power of mentorship, shedding light on the often-overlooked individuals who can guide us toward becoming our authentic selves.
Drawing from personal experiences and professional insights, Roberts shares the dynamic life cycle of mentorships and the pivotal role they play in personal and professional growth. He emphasizes the need to look beyond traditional mentorship models, advocating for the value of learning from unexpected sources-individuals who challenge our perspectives and offer unique insights.
Throughout the talk, Roberts identifies key factors that contribute to successful mentorship relationships. From mutual respect and shared values to the importance of diversity in mentorship circles, he paints a comprehensive picture of how these connections can shape our identity and unlock untapped potential.
Roberts delves into the reciprocity of mentorship, highlighting how both mentor and mentee can benefit from the exchange of knowledge and experiences. By encouraging the audience to be open to guidance from unexpected quarters, he challenges preconceived notions about mentorship, illustrating how unconventional mentors can often provide the most valuable lessons. Chris was born and raised in Orange County, California, and now lives in Tacoma, Washington. He went from standing in food lines as a kid to feeding over 1,000,000 people today. He’s a full-time entrepreneur, real estate investor, and the Founder and CEO of Sterling Rhino Capital. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
His story about Ron at the hot dog cart is so wholesome. Having other people see the potential in us when we're blind to it is such a blessing 🙏🏼💙
Glad you liked the hotdog cart story, there are so many more. The people just out side our circle can be the key to our success, we just have to be open to their influence.
I think it's such a cool dynamic because there's a level of admitting that you're not an expert, which can make some people feel a bit vulnerable.
Thank you
I like how much his experiences speak to the importance of being OPEN and AWARE so that you're able to make the most out of things as they are happening.
Thanks for your comment!
Yeah definitely an important mindset to have
Mauricio's story is a testament to the ripple effect of mentorship. It's heartening to see how you paid it forward.
Thank you!
Feeding over a million people is such an incredible achievement and so worth celebrating.
Thank You!
The idea that mentorship doesn't have to come from traditional sources is so refreshing! It's like everyone has something valuable to offer, we just have to take the time to listen to them
Great comment and yes so true! Thanks
his perspective on mentorship is refreshing. It's a reminder to look beyond the usual sources and be open to learning from everyone around us.
Thank you for your connect! The goal was to open people up to the influence of people around them they may not even notice or to seek out those who inspire them and transform into the kind of person they may gravitate toward so they can learn from them. Make it a great day.
Your journey from couch surfing to feeding a million people is nothing short of incredible. If that's the power of mentorship then I'm all for it!
Thank you.
“If you are uncomfortable , you are on on the right track” is sage advice for those wanting to learn and grow. Chris is a model for so many of us looking for ways to make more meaning with the help of others. He shares his wisdom on how to doing this with intention can make all the difference in life and lead to making the impossible possible. Well worth the time to watch his TEDx video here. I am already thinking about who some of my unlikely mentors might be. Thank you Chris!
Much appreciated, thank you for the kind words.
I agree, this made me think of so many people who have become my loved ones, and just having something to make me realize how special all of that is was really wonderful and worth the watch!
Never considered the concept of unlikely mentors before this talk. Life's challenges and how different people stepped in to guide him was genuinely heartwarming. It goes to show the importance of keeping an open mind and heart.
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I loved this! Chris has inspired me in many ways in the 15 year business relationship with him. He has taught me how to be a Professional and have a incredible work ethic. Loved hearing this!
Jeff I really appreciate your comments! You are a true professional and it’s been amazing to watch you grow! Spread the word.. unlikely mentors are changing the world…
his advice on identifying, adopting, and engaging with mentors is gold.
Thank you!
Listening to him talk about his past makes me appreciate what I have. It was like a reminder to never take anything for granted.
Yes, thank for your comment.
Love that there's a ripple effect to mentorship. It makes a lot of sense that after experiencing it you'd want to pass it on!
Yes, thank you. Spread the word to increase the ripple, love it.
This makes sense to me... a mentor is someone you trust to push you more then you would push yourself, sometimes into uncomfortable places and that's where personal growth happens
Thanks for your comment. Sometimes it takes someone to hold us accountable. The key is drawing in the right people.
Engaging with mentors is key. Your experience with Miguel shows how impactful it can be to seek guidance from those who've been there.
Yes, thank you!
I agree, I think the talk also shows how whether or not you're seeking them people will impact and guide your life in wonderful ways
I like how he breaks down the steps to finding unlikely mentors. It's a practical approach to personal growth
Thank you for your comment! I hop the video can help someone in your network.
No matter what you think about the message, you gotta admit he has a truly inspiring personal story of never giving up and beating tough times. Big respect for that, seriously.
Thank you for the comment, I appreciate the kind worlds!
The call to be on the lookout for people who need an unlikely mentor is powerful. We all have the capacity to positively impact someone's life.
Yes, thank you!
Oh this is a really good point. I hadn't been thinking about who I might be influencing
My mentor was a dude I worked construction with. I worked with him for about 6 years before he hung himself, no warning. Made me get out of the industry and I'll always be thankful to him because it's not the best industry in terms of your mental health.
Sorry to hear of your loss but it sounds like he inspired you while you knew him. Keep pushing, thank you for sharing.
Loved the story about Mauricio, the fact that his support led to such a life-changing opportunity is so powerful and also to me it speaks to the impact we can have on others by just being supportive and showing up for them, that's something really beautiful.
Thank you for your comment!
"The only way to start solving a problem, is to start solving the problem". In the tradition of Keep it simple, stvpid, love it.
Agreed, thank you!
Lol yes very straightforward
For real sometimes you just have to jump in and start doing it
Your wife sounds like such a gem! I think it's lovely for you to have included how your relationships can also be a source of unexpected mentorship.
Thank you, she is a gem.
Yes!! I think this was such a wonderful part of the talk and made me reflect on the ways my husband has guided me
Great talk. Believe in yourself, find your unlikely mentors and great things happen
easy advice to follow!
Chris, you are now the Internet's unlikely mentor. This talk will ripple across the world. Amazing man.
Thank you Brian, so excited to share an ideal worth spreading!
Hahaha yes!! Agreed.
That story about having to push the car to start it was crazy, haha! I can't even imagine dealing with that kind of struggle. Major respect to him for pushing through all that adversity.
Thank you for your comment. I was told only the Mazda RX7 could be started by pushing it backwards because of the rotary motor. I was the unfortunate one that owned a lemon. It happens, but it built character for sure. Nothing like pushing your car backward to get it to start. Talk about getting out of your comfort zone.
I think this talk is a great reminder that mentorship is not always a formal program, it's about connecting with those who inspire us.
Thank you!
Yes! This is something I took away from it as well, it's an everyday thing that is happening whether you're aware of it at the time or not
This talk made me reflect on the 'Miguels' and 'Rons' in my own life. People who came from the periphery but had a significant impact on my growth. It's a beautiful reminder to cherish and seek out these connections.
Thank you for the thoughtful comment
I love how this video emphasizes the importance of giving back once you've found success. We all have the power to be unlikely mentors to someone else who's struggling.
yeah that is cool
We should always pay it forward, wherever we can
I have had the pleasure of meeting Chris a year ago. Chris is a great speaker & motivator! His passion is uplifting. Keep making a difference Chris!
Thank you 🙏 let’s make a difference together by spreading the word!!
He really highlighted something we often overlook-the value of mentors from unexpected places. It's a powerful reminder to be open to learning from everyone around us. Loved how he intertwined personal stories with practical advice.
Thank you for your comment!
That is a good point and observation. The opportunity to find a mentor isn't so ingrained in our society anymore so to be vigilant and seek out that guidance is well worth doing
There is so much we can learn from others if we're open to it. Some are lucky enough to get a proper mentorship, others have to just find it where we can.
Great point and yes, unlikely mentors are everywhere we just need to be open to their influence.
Having mentors is so important. What an incredibly timely message!
Thanks Mike for your comment! Unlikely Mentors are all around us we just need to be open to their influence.
this talk is a must-watch for anyone feeling lost or stuck! his story is proof that with the right mentors, you can achieve amazing things ✨
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Thank you for the kind words.
I got kinda emotional when he talked about his wife helping him reconnect with the idea of family and relationships. It's a reminder that our "unlikely mentors" can be the people closest to us as well.
You’re so kind, thanks for your comment. Unlikely Mentors are all around us. I find it interesting how sometimes they can be right in front of us, but we are not open to their positive influence.
I feel it’s important to constantly learn and reframe the way we see things so we can live our best life.
Truth! My mentors inspired me to step out of my comfort zone and not be afraid to ask for help or ask questions. I was shocked how willing successful people were to schedule calls with me or meet up for coffee. I hope one day I can pass on the favor. Great speech!
Thank you for your comment! Love to hear Unlikley Mentors inspired you.
I appreciate the emphasis on engaging with mentors. It's not just about finding them; it's about being open enough within yourself that you're able to actively learning and growing.
Yes, thank you!
This is a really great point! I know too many people who have so much pride they wouldn't be able to accept help from people
After years of not being in touch, you somehow popped on my feed. I listened to your talk and am highly impressed - you even gave a shout out to Miguel … hope he has listened as well. Very inspiring, and I wish you the best. I think you’ve got many more talks headed your way. Love your message. Thank you for sharing it. Way to go Chris! Glad to have worked with ya at LPD.
Thank you Heather. I hope you’re well and yes he did.
The mix of personal and professional growth is pretty cool to hear about! Goes to show that when you start changing your life it's your _whole_ life that changes.
Yes, thank you!
Ohhh wow that's powerful!
This is awesome. I always thought mentors were like distinguished older people with decades of experience in their field who maybe decide they want a protege and there are a few people lucky enough to be those proteges... but the way this framed that mentor/mentee relationship is a lot more realistic and hopeful
It seems like such an important relationship! I wish there was a way for someone like me who is quite isolated to find a mentor
mentorship coming from unexpected places is such a cool concept! I think mentally it makes us open to seeing the possibilities within people and experiences
Well said, thanks for your comment.
Thank you, Chris, for sharing your stories, your highs, and your lows. We touch so many people throughout our lives, in so many different ways and most of us will never know that we were a positive influence on family, friends, students we teach or colleagues we work with, until someone tells us "Thank you" and then shares how we impacted their lives. Continued Success!
Thank you!!
the 7:30 mark! Nothing is truer than this. Growth often comes from stepping outside our comfort zones.
Yes, thank you
Absolutely, nothing's going to happen to you unless you let things happen to you!
The emphasis on adopting behaviors before they feel natural is so helpful. I know personal growth means stepping outside our comfort zone but I never thought about how that can be applied to habits
Thanks for your comment. I believe we are at our best when we are pushing and challenging ourselves.
@@chrisdroberts8630 I think so too. Thanks for taking the time to respond! Enjoyed your talk very much
@@kinsleydanton your welcome 🙏
Couldn't agree more. As important as it is to have a strong sense of self, we really learn so much about ourselves by what is reflected in other people and if you have someone you trust and respect to guide you through it makes such a difference.
Thank you for your comment. Just think of how we also make an impact as unlikely mentors to those who could use the guidance. We learn, we give and we encourage growth.
His advice about adopting the habits of those you admire is spot on. Sometimes you just have to learn by example
Thanks for your comment Babs! It’s funny sometimes we just overthink how we will achieve our goals. Often someone else has done the same thing before you and it may just take a little effort to see them right in front of you.
Unlikely Mentors are all around us changing lives everyday.
This advice is truly priceless for anyone aiming to step up in life. I've been there-knowing I needed a mentor but feeling unsure about how to approach it. The idea of asking someone I admired for their time felt like a big hurdle, but let me tell you, it was mostly in my head. If you're genuine, a mentor will see that and be more than happy to help you in ways that go beyond your imagination.
Thank you so much!
The story about Ron is touching. It's true, sometimes all it takes is one person to see our potential and it changes our trajectory
Yes, thank you!
The transition from short-term survival thinking to long-term planning is interesting, to me at least, to think that mentorship can shift our entire perspective on life.
Thank you for your comment, It shifted mine for sure.
It must be amazing to be so open that you can just connect with a stranger to the point they're inspiring and mentoring you.
Thank you, yes you must be open even if it's scary.
To me this says you're someone who is not and I hope you're able to step out of yourself and open up a bit more to people 💜
The story about feeding a million people was so powerful! What a journey, loved it
Thank you!
yeah I thought this was really great!
His concept of "unlikely mentors" is awesome, a little unconventional but maybe that's why it's so good. I think we often have an idea of what a mentor should look like, and it makes sense how that can be so limiting
Thank you for your comment!
I never thought a hot dog cart job could lead to such profound mentorship. Life's surprises can be incredible teachers!
Yes they can, thank you.
Absolutely, you never know where you'll find that person
Realizing that mentors don't always come with a title or expectation has rocked my world
Thanks!
The key is to transform into the kind of person unlikely mentors may be drawn to so they can influence in a posative way. Sometime they are employers, sometimes people we indirectly engage with but never pay attention too. Sometimes they are right in front of us be we are not open to thier guidence yet. I hope you not only find or identify your unlikely menotrs, but that you may also become one as well to guide others. Good luck!
@@chrisdroberts8630 thanks!!!!!
Yes, mentors are paramount in helping to fulfill your potential. Not just because they guide you but because of the example they set as successful people, real and in reach. Once you see and know that greatness is achievable it allows you to strive for it in a tangible way.
Thank you
My first mentor was my English/Drama teacher. I was 13 when I first had her and I was in her class all the way to the end of high school. I adored her because she was so weird haha and got to see this different side of her in drama class. When I started outside of school I always showed her my stuff and asked her to critique it and when I was the only one who get full marks on the creative writing task in our final exams I could seriously feel the pride radiating from her. It was such an incredible experience that I will be eternally grateful for.
Lvve the story and this is a great example of an Unlikely Mentor who understood you. Thanks for sharing..
That's awesome haha drama teachers are so weird I'm surprised they were also your English teacher!
What a beautiful story, I wouldn't have considered a relationship like that as counting as a mentor but that's lovely
I wish this story wasn't cut off!
@@TheLaidbackSquirrel it isn't. Just click "read more" not a lot more to it though
Great job Chris!
I’ve known this guy for Probably about 15 years now he’s always trying to do better! And does every year that’s the thing the more you live like this the more you will achieve!
Thank you for your comment! I appreciate your kind words Dustin.
At the end of the day, the core message of keeping an open mindset and learning from unexpected sources is just solid life advice, no notes. Talk was simple but impactful for sure
Thank you for your comment.
Love the reminder to stay open to unexpected influence... if we're open and curious we can learn lessons from pretty much anyone that guide us towards growth
Yes, thanks for your comment. Keep an open mind and great things can happen.
@@chrisdroberts8630 Absolutely, being present goes so far
I love the story about writing the go-kart manual! I think it does a great job of demonstrating the value of being thrown into challenging situations and how we discover new capabilities through those experiences.
There are so many of these stories to share. Glad you enjoyed the talk, please share it so we can inspire others.
Make it a great day!
Going from standing in food lines to feeding over a million people is amazing. I can't imagine what an achievement like that would feel like
Thanks!
Congrats Chris. You are an inspiration and are paying it forward. Super happy for you. Thanks for what you do
Thank you!
I think part of why mentorship is so valuable is because it allows us to see new perspectives. Sometimes all it takes is a different viewpoint to unlock our hidden potential.
Yes, this is so true, thanks for the comment!
This is so true! There's been heaps of things I wouldn't have realized without someone just pointing out a different way of seeing it
That's wonderful to think about.
absolutely, and also sharing experiences in a way there open for constructive criticism opens up new perspectives too
@@ivanahelenka same!
I think it's so special because it's this acknowledging of like, you're important enough to me to put this time and effort into and that's a really wonderful feeling to get from someone
Thanks for your comment!
I totally felt that point about picking up habits before your mindset catches up. Changing your lifestyle isn't a walk in the park, but that's some seriously practical advice.
Thank you for your comment! We are always evolving it’s my belief that sometime these unlikely mentors can show us how to identify strengths/skill in ourselves we may not see.
Building good habits is life changing and following others that have already adopted this process can propel you in your personal and professional life, no doubt!
There is not enough emphasis put on how brilliant having a mentor in one's life can be, I hope that we can see more
Yes, thank you
I agree, I think it's the kind of relationship that's sort of fallen by the wayside
say what you want, but the simple fact that this guy went from being homeless as a kid to running successful businesses and feeding literal millions is pure inspiration!
Thank you for your coment, I appreciate that.
It probably feels really satisfying the mentor as well, to watch someone they've taken under their wing flourish and become more and more themselves. Sounds like a pretty great experience all in all!
Yes it was and can be for anyone, thanks for your comment!
thanks for doing the talk...@@sterlingrhinocapital2notfo920
whatever your thoughts on the content, you gotta respect how engaging and charismatic this dude is as a speaker. kept me hooked the whole time.
Thank you for the comment. I appreciate the honest feedback.
A lot of thought went into this talk with the goal of inspiring others to make positive change in their lives by being open to the concept of unlikely mentors.
Make it a great day!
Identifying mentors outside our immediate circle can open doors we never knew existed. It's about expanding horizons and embracing diverse influences!
Yes, thank you for watching.
Yes this is so true!! Like it doesn't go from friends to besties to mentors. You can just have that relationship from the get go
real estate to philanthropy is a big transition... shows the power of guidance on our souls
Thanks!
We all need more unlikely mentors in our lives. Here's to a future where mentorship is for everyone!
Yes, the future is bright.
Yeah I don't know about that. Sometimes we need to figure stuff out on our own
@@tommyruk Sure, but not everything. That's a very singular attitude that can make for a really lonely and isolated life
Chris, yours is a great story and potent message. Anyone who is skeptical and doesn’t follow your advice will miss out on measures of success and immensely meaningful relationships.
Thank you
It's amazing how other people can see things in us that we can't see in ourselves.
I agree, thanks for the comment
Loved hearing about his journey, and I think that kind of resilience is a testament to the power of staying open, curious and trusting even while facing adversity. Really wonderful stuff.
Thanks you. The goal of the talk was to inspire others to do the same. Draw in those people that can change your life. We do need to shop up with openness though.
Please share the talk so we can change lives together.
Make it a great day!
@@chrisdroberts8630 I have, thank you
He is pretty inspiring, gotta admit. The way he recognized his own skills and potential, even when others didn't, is like a superpower. We could all benefit from having that level of self-belief.
Thank you for your comment. Unlikely Mentors guided me through some challenging times. We can all benefit from being open to the influence of others around us. I did have a good work thing and grind but it needed to be polished.
Make it a great day!
Lol that's an interesting thing to take away from a talk about how others helped guide him
@@chrisdroberts8630 thanks you too, very cool talk man..
@@mikethesailor appreciate that Mike!
What a boost to my day! This is a refreshing and compelling bit of advocacy for productivity, proactivity, and prosperity overlapping with kindness. I love Chris’s attitude and outlook. Aspirational stuff!
Thanks for the great feedback! Have a great evening and keep pushing positive vibes.
It's kind of amazing to think that there is wisdom all around us... like probably everyone you come across could teach you everything there was to know about that weird little niche interest of theirs.
Thank you for your comment. There is so much to be gained from drawing in unlikely mentors. These people you engage with have done the things you want to do and can be a wealth of knowledge to help you achieve.
The benefits of having a mentor sound incredible. Hopefully more people can develop this kind of relationship and experience something so empowering!
Yes, thank you for your thoughts!
welcome @@sterlingrhinocapital
I think it says a lot about his character that he understands the importance of paying it forward in regards to having time for others he can also help grow. Important stuff for progress!
Thank you!
Yess!! Same. That was my favorite part
Chris’s words are inspirational, the wisdom he shares we should all be grateful for. Very impactful for anyone regardless of age or status to learn from and grow! Amazing work Chris💯
SO kind, thank you for your thoughts!
This is so inspiring - and palpable! I can just feel it. Seems like I have done some of these steps without even recognizing it or being able to put it into words! I love this talk! Well done!
So thoughtful, thank you
Great job Chris!
Thank you for rising above and
becoming an unlikely mentor
yourself. You’re an inspiration!!!
Thank you Maylen I appreciate the compliment. We’re trying to fire up the world let’s keep spreading the word there are so many that are in need of unlikely mentors. I appreciate your kind words.
Nice job Chris. I remember you talking about your early life and the journey you were on. Many positive changes took place to get you where you are today. Not an easy journey with many difficult choices needed to right your life and keep you on that right path. Most take the easy path. You made difficult choices that yield much positive in your life including business success above what was most important....your family success. All the best, Bill Herrmann
Wow, thank you, Bill, I really appreciate that. We are so much more than the moments we live through, and I'm grateful to have learned from you throughout the years in our past lives. Be well.
Loved how his mentor, Ron got him to write a go kart manual by just figuring it out! An empowering vote of confidence.
Thank you!
I think so too! It's wonderful what can happen when you're given that kind of encouragement
Awesome message, Chris! Super proud of you!! Love you brother!!
Thank you Jimmy! I hope your well and please spread the word so we can impact 1,000,000 people!!
Well old friend, I thought your presentation was excellent. You were measured, impactful, clear and dynamic. Your humble approach and charasmatic delivery was very well done. After a lot of years of knowing you, it is great to see the your core foundations of honesty, humblenss, passion and hard work still win the day! High kudos, my man.
Thank you so much! I’m so grateful to be able to share my thoughts and experiences with the work. My hope is to impact 1,000,000 lives with the talk.
This is priceless!! Very powerful message for anyone looking to grow in their personal or professional life. I can already see how this message will make a positive impact, no matter where someone is on their journey. Thank you Chris
Thank you. Lets start sharing what it is to be an Unlikely Mentor and how we can transform into the kind of people that can draw them in...
great talk! he has a unique way of making mentorship sound accessible and not something that only happens in corporate settings, very cool
Thank you for your comment!
Had the privilege to meet Chris a little bit. What an incredible person.
Thank you Pauly, please share the talk so we can inspire others. Hope your well and I think a congrats is in order on your success👍
He seems so cool, the fact that he's taking the time to reply to all these comments is huge
Chris unlikely opportunities may be uncomfortable and awkward. But I love and respect your point that they also hold the potential for new growth. And thanks for bringing a smile along with inspiration. Great job.
So good Dr. I appreciate that you found something in the talk to relate to. Can't wait to impackt more lives!
This is interesting because usually mentors are for a specific field or industry. The context of "being yourself" sort of takes it to another place entirely, to the point where yeah, you could find a mentor in anyone, even if it's just to show you what you _don't_ want to be like
I found my unlikely mentors in books and podcasts. They might not know the impact but I think it proves that mentorship can come from anywhere - if you're open to it
Yes, thank you
No, you're getting guidance and influence from those things. A mentor is someone you have an actual personal connection with
Chris, this is amazing. So moving, inspiring and instructive. I’m feeling proud and lucky to call you a trusted colleague and friend. Thank you for the impact that you’re making.
Thank you for the kind words Tate!
this talk really highlights the beauty of human connection and growth.
Thank you for your thoughts! There is definitely something to be said about the power of connection and real communication between one another.
Thank you for commenting. Unlikely Mentors are all around us. Connection is key, building real relationships and learning from them.
This is awesome! You are who your people are and finding those who will guide you is everything 🙌🏼
Thanks for your comment.
That's a nice sentiment, "you are who your people are"
Well if you're people are good people that is 😂
What a great story, Chris. So heartfelt and meaningful. Makes me happy that you were able to turn your life around in such a positive and giving way. The world needs more people like you ❤
Thank you!
what an inspiring journey! It's amazing how unlikely mentors can shape our lives. Thanks for sharing your story!
Thank you!
the impact of mentorship on both personal and professional growth can't be overstated.
Thank you