Literally remember telling myself, 'I want to be normal, I want to be like other people' not knowing that what made me different was going to pay off later in life.
The neurotypically constructed world likes to put everything in an easy to understand and manage box, but those of us with complex neurodiversity challenges - can actually see how bad the construct is, and can offer the wider world so much more. The sooner the masses wake up to the benefits of neurodiverse people and the wonderful insights they bring - the better for all the human race.
@@chrissiew3 Yah bro, i get that. My mom and sister were also diagnosed late and it was like an apiphany for them, they finally could understand how or why their lives are so mis-managed. Although my mother was very structured in her life because of how she grew up in Northern ireland in the 40s, 50s and 60s.
@@CR-zx3vp yah its also like an apiphany at the same time when you learn about yourself and why you may struggle at some things when it seems so easy for others.
Self care is good but you are right, so irritating to hear from others it's the cure for everything. I prefer to be kind and gentle to myself as self care is not the cause of my special needs but it definitely helps to do good self care.
I'm literally crying my eyes out. The internalization of criticism that was meant to be constructive....that's why compliments never reach me and criticism is a stab in the heart....
I really loved this video. The information is so well presented. My favorite take away was the simple and effective explanation that an ADHD brain is "a brain wired for interest." That really resonates with me as a person with ADHD who got diagnosed in my mid-forties and always wondered why I could voraciously work on some projects/tasks and totally negelct others. Other top take-aways: ADHDers have spiky strength and spiky challenges and "I was a specialist thinker struggling to be an all-arounder." I have been extremely successful in some professional roles and really struggled in others. It depended on wether the role allowed me to use my super power of hyper-focus and lead with my exceptional strengths or required me to try to be an all arounder and switch my attention quickly between tasks/projects/thought trains.
@@cor-z8m I went from the bottom to the top of an organisation and was untouchable, and then I broke. Got a diagnosis, understand who I really am, understand what my best suit is - I started flying again, but now with the power of understanding - and I am taking further strides. Understanding who I am, has made a significant difference to me.
Anyone who quotes Dolly Parton has my support. you just described most of my life. The systems and structures in place in society assume a homogenous heteronormative, neurotypical mindset. If you are outside that box, the normal response is to try to force you into that box. I'm 59, recently diagnosed, and could not be happier, forward movement and improvement are so much better than simply giving up on being any sort of success.
I’ve been a salesman for years i to have crazy social power. But I’m terrible at spelling and writing. I really understand how important it’s is to focus on your strengths. And understand your weaknesses. Thanks adhd is a gift if you learn how you are.
Can we all get together and start helping the educational system. I would love for all school staff to be properly trained on ADHD and other disabilities. I feel the word would be a better place if kids were also educated about all types of disabilities people face in life. We need this world to be more accepting. Thank you for this video.
Amazing just amazing, let’s all help each other to embrace our gold adhd lovelies 💗 so SO much gratitude for these talks and brave wonderful adhd leaders xxxx
Ha! This caught my attention And I finally made it my intention! As watched I suddenly became enthralled. Usually I'd watch a docu but would be constantly watching the red youtube bar to indicate when it would finally be over. But not this docu as I was observing the red bar hoping it wouldn't finish! I'm nearly 50 and only just discovering my heart felt skill ... thank you all 😻
LOVED how she notes the relationship struggles. This explains so much about the SERIOUS repricutions these people might have in life. I always looked out adventure and change. Could not stay in one relationship long if there was not drama and turbulence. The consequences are GREAT! :(
12:17 or people will straight up think you're lying or something. I have a close friend who was diagnosed with adhd as a kid because he displayed more typical symptoms. I got missed because I didn't display many hyperactive behaviors, it took 20+ years of my life to finally get diagnosed. Upon sharing this with my friend, he just kinda says in a unimpressed tone "hmm seems they give that diagnosis to anyone these days". Made me very sad, ADHD like any mental illness, looks different from person to person!
Katie, Thank you so much for this speech. I was on one of your ADHD UK support group last week and thought I would come check out your Ted Talk. I absolutely loved it and have taken some really useful notes to take with me to a talk I’m doing with Mencap next week. It’s my first ever talk 😮 I will let you know how I get on. Thank you again 😊
Litreally just ordered my new bank card and was looking for my keys as she mentined she would do this often had me on the floor crying with laughter. Get out my head!!!
ADHD is a real and we all know that kids are struggling and so do parents. This talk sounds more like complaining rather than working collaboratively to figure out a solution. Please note that parents and teachers don’t have all the solutions either. Rather than focusing on how the world treated you, I would encourage you to use your voice and your experience to help find solutions for parents, teachers, and for all those who are suffering!!!
I am ADHD and I prepared for the pakistan's toughest exams 3 years before the start of the actual preparation ; but , I failed in one subject which I did not prepare during university . I am still whirling in the cycle. When I take exam and am unable to clear , I write 56 hours in 10 days but then little progress makes be lethargic ..it is problm
Yeah maybe more discriminatory or misanthropic than precisely misogynistic. However, when a woman hears it repeatedly (and only) from men (in power), quite acceptable for her to characterise it as misogyny. The patronising patriarchy ?!
It's sort of funny, she says the problem is x, and the solution she suggests is also x. I don't disagree to what she wants to achieve. I'm saying the logics don't add up somehow. ❤
@always2bfaithful personally I can think of way more men that i would say that too than women. Like dam it's nice you have a sparkling personally, but can we actually do our jobs now?
Dude I had the exact same thought, especially because this has literally been said to me because I tend to go on tangents and be all over the place in general. This talk said a whole lot of nothing.
Rein her in... I'm not sure that was a gender specific, masiongnist comment. I'm one of those pesky white males and I've had the same leveled at me. Rein him in, keep him in his swim lane. Maybe I should blame toxic femininity, that a thing? Comments like those on misogyny are often used to charge statements/arguments. As a male awaiting ADHD diagnosis trying to keep me in a box is really difficult. Anyway, good presentation!
Literally remember telling myself, 'I want to be normal, I want to be like other people' not knowing that what made me different was going to pay off later in life.
Love my brain, but still waiting for the pay off for being Most Likely to Succeed in 7th grade. So many "so closes. "
I was always telling myself this too, feeling like I was different from anyone around me.
love this comment! Can I ask what you do now? :-)
I am 32 now and I just found out ...I don't know what to do.
The neurotypically constructed world likes to put everything in an easy to understand and manage box, but those of us with complex neurodiversity challenges - can actually see how bad the construct is, and can offer the wider world so much more.
The sooner the masses wake up to the benefits of neurodiverse people and the wonderful insights they bring - the better for all the human race.
Writer Glennon Doyle once wrote this “On my gravestone I want it to read ‘Here lies a woman who can finally stop looking for her keys’” Says it ALL. ❤
Man, i always cry when i watch these vids cause i know what it feels like. 😢
❤me too🥰Diagnosed at 52…. A lot of criticism past still swims around my mind constantly 😢
@@chrissiew3 Yah bro, i get that. My mom and sister were also diagnosed late and it was like an apiphany for them, they finally could understand how or why their lives are so mis-managed. Although my mother was very structured in her life because of how she grew up in Northern ireland in the 40s, 50s and 60s.
Same! I just got diagnosed at 32 and every time I see this videos I get this feeling in my throat...
@@CR-zx3vp yah its also like an apiphany at the same time when you learn about yourself and why you may struggle at some things when it seems so easy for others.
Me too bro me too. Especially the schooling parts. 😢
I’m NOT even HALF way and I’m already in tears 😭 she KNOWS exactly how I FEEL 💯
Self care is good but you are right, so irritating to hear from others it's the cure for everything. I prefer to be kind and gentle to myself as self care is not the cause of my special needs but it definitely helps to do good self care.
I'm literally crying my eyes out. The internalization of criticism that was meant to be constructive....that's why compliments never reach me and criticism is a stab in the heart....
I really loved this video. The information is so well presented. My favorite take away was the simple and effective explanation that an ADHD brain is "a brain wired for interest." That really resonates with me as a person with ADHD who got diagnosed in my mid-forties and always wondered why I could voraciously work on some projects/tasks and totally negelct others. Other top take-aways: ADHDers have spiky strength and spiky challenges and "I was a specialist thinker struggling to be an all-arounder." I have been extremely successful in some professional roles and really struggled in others. It depended on wether the role allowed me to use my super power of hyper-focus and lead with my exceptional strengths or required me to try to be an all arounder and switch my attention quickly between tasks/projects/thought trains.
I had a 34 professional career without writing a daily plan ? Amazed! Just think of what I could have accomplished if I was diagnosed and medicated?
@@cor-z8m I went from the bottom to the top of an organisation and was untouchable, and then I broke.
Got a diagnosis, understand who I really am, understand what my best suit is - I started flying again, but now with the power of understanding - and I am taking further strides.
Understanding who I am, has made a significant difference to me.
"Brain wired for interest!" That's my gold from this video!
Puts the saying, "digging for gold" in a completely new context.
Awesome talk, by the way.
Excellent talk on ADHD - Katie is inspiring and informative in equal measure.
Anyone who quotes Dolly Parton has my support.
you just described most of my life.
The systems and structures in place in society assume a homogenous heteronormative, neurotypical mindset.
If you are outside that box, the normal response is to try to force you into that box.
I'm 59, recently diagnosed, and could not be happier, forward movement and improvement are so much better than simply giving up on being any sort of success.
Amazing to be diagnosed at this age! I'm almost 40, not yet diagnosed but I'm sure I have adhd
I’ve been a salesman for years i to have crazy social power. But I’m terrible at spelling and writing. I really understand how important it’s is to focus on your strengths. And understand your weaknesses. Thanks adhd is a gift if you learn how you are.
Can we all get together and start helping the educational system. I would love for all school staff to be properly trained on ADHD and other disabilities. I feel the word would be a better place if kids were also educated about all types of disabilities people face in life. We need this world to be more accepting. Thank you for this video.
Amazing just amazing, let’s all help each other to embrace our gold adhd lovelies 💗 so SO much gratitude for these talks and brave wonderful adhd leaders xxxx
Ha!
This caught my attention And I finally made it my intention!
As watched I suddenly became enthralled.
Usually I'd watch a docu but would be constantly watching the red youtube bar to indicate when it would finally be over.
But not this docu as I was observing the red bar hoping it wouldn't finish!
I'm nearly 50 and only just discovering my heart felt skill ... thank you all 😻
So brilliant Katie - all teachers and coaches need to hear this and be in the glow of your GOLD!
LOVED how she notes the relationship struggles. This explains so much about the SERIOUS repricutions these people might have in life. I always looked out adventure and change. Could not stay in one relationship long if there was not drama and turbulence. The consequences are GREAT! :(
Wonderful talk. Thank you so much for sharing and inspiring.
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Very well said!! I think they need to rename this kind of neuro diversity.
❤🎉🎉🎉
Absolutely love your strong multi-modal communication-personal grit, your intonation stunning timing😮!
Biggest salute from Denmark!
12:17
or people will straight up think you're lying or something. I have a close friend who was diagnosed with adhd as a kid because he displayed more typical symptoms. I got missed because I didn't display many hyperactive behaviors, it took 20+ years of my life to finally get diagnosed. Upon sharing this with my friend, he just kinda says in a unimpressed tone "hmm seems they give that diagnosis to anyone these days". Made me very sad, ADHD like any mental illness, looks different from person to person!
Omg. The back card!!! I can’t believe how many times!!
I saw a Lot of videos....but this one, feel like muy adhd. Thank you! So much
Katie,
Thank you so much for this speech.
I was on one of your ADHD UK support group last week and thought I would come check out your Ted Talk.
I absolutely loved it and have taken some really useful notes to take with me to a talk I’m doing with Mencap next week.
It’s my first ever talk 😮 I will let you know how I get on.
Thank you again 😊
Litreally just ordered my new bank card and was looking for my keys as she mentined she would do this often had me on the floor crying with laughter.
Get out my head!!!
THIS Ted Talk is Gold! Thanks 👏
Powerful talk! Thank you so much. ❤
A lovely and brilliant talk, I felt so seen by your words!! Thank you!
ugh this was so helpful. love her.
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Humberto Plaza
ADHD is a real and we all know that kids are struggling and so do parents. This talk sounds more like complaining rather than working collaboratively to figure out a solution. Please note that parents and teachers don’t have all the solutions either. Rather than focusing on how the world treated you, I would encourage you to use your voice and your experience to help find solutions for parents, teachers, and for all those who are suffering!!!
What if there isn’t anything that I’m good at? 😢
Wow that bank card bit really called me out. I've had about 9 cards this year 😭
I don’t even have a wallet anymore, my ID & bank cards are in my man’s wallet, incapable of not losing them
I am ADHD and I prepared for the pakistan's toughest exams 3 years before the start of the actual preparation ; but , I failed in one subject which I did not prepare during university . I am still whirling in the cycle.
When I take exam and am unable to clear , I write 56 hours in 10 days but then little progress makes be lethargic ..it is problm
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I found it out at 40 & found how to deal with it at 50
Welch Harbor
why is "reign her in " misogynistic? Im a super ADHD male and this is said to me often
It's said differently when it comes to women but it's not inherently misogynistic.
Yeah maybe more discriminatory or misanthropic than precisely misogynistic. However, when a woman hears it repeatedly (and only) from men (in power), quite acceptable for her to characterise it as misogyny. The patronising patriarchy ?!
@@clionab7704 ole scatter brain jane!
It's sort of funny, she says the problem is x, and the solution she suggests is also x. I don't disagree to what she wants to achieve. I'm saying the logics don't add up somehow. ❤
“Get clear on our strengths” - but hat if I have no strengths?
7:18 "Reign her in"
Maybe I'm missing context but why is that criticism misogynistic?
It wouldn’t be said about an energetic and enthusiastic, inventive male. He’d be a leader.
@always2bfaithful personally I can think of way more men that i would say that too than women. Like dam it's nice you have a sparkling personally, but can we actually do our jobs now?
It implies a woman being “ out of control” or out of her “lane” , similar to how women who have emotions are called “hysterical”
Dude I had the exact same thought, especially because this has literally been said to me because I tend to go on tangents and be all over the place in general. This talk said a whole lot of nothing.
I was called the same by my university teacher. Lol ...
Rein her in... I'm not sure that was a gender specific, masiongnist comment. I'm one of those pesky white males and I've had the same leveled at me. Rein him in, keep him in his swim lane. Maybe I should blame toxic femininity, that a thing? Comments like those on misogyny are often used to charge statements/arguments. As a male awaiting ADHD diagnosis trying to keep me in a box is really difficult. Anyway, good presentation!
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Neurodistinct 😅
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This talk said a whole lot of nothing.