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The incompetent, dishonest "worker" who claimed the children had bonded with these monsters should be in jail too.
YEP!
That was a DOCTOR who was said to sometimes go through a child entire file in 10 minutes and then testify in court based on her understanding, after skimming a file in ten minutes. I hope she personally realizes that her laziness directly led to the torture and death of children. She couldn't be asked to do her job right, and children were TORTURED TO DEATH as a direct result of her words. Someone should look her up and write her a letter. Shit, I will. What's her name again?
@@buttlord4204Dr Vanessa Archer
@@buttlord4204im with you on that! 🤬🤬🤬
@@buttlord4204if you do find out can you tell me so I can write to her too.. And any of those other workers 😶
DCF: ''We don't do investigations on weekends''
That makes sense. Abusers are known to take the weekends off.
I audibly guffawed at that ludicrous statement. Like does CA take the weekend off? DO children not get unalived over weekends? Wtf kind of logic is that?
@@elietahari7290 I'M THE ONE WHO COMMENTED ON YOUR OTHER POST. SEE, THIS IS WHAT I'M SAYING! CPS/DHS OVERWORKED? WHEN? THEY MAKE SURE THEY GO HOME AT 4:30PM & HAVE THEIR WEEKENDS OFF! THIS IS A 24/7 JOB! YOU GO GET THAT CHILD OUT OF THAT SITUATION THE MOMENT YOU FIND OUT ABOUT ABUSE! ESPECIALLY ABOUT SA & CA! IF IT'S BECAUSE THE HOME IS DIRTY, OKAY WAIT UNTIL THE NEXT DAY. BUT DON'T YOU DARE WAIT THE WEEKEND FOR THESE INNOCENT CHILDREN TO BE REMOVED WHEN THEY'RE IN IMMINENT DANGER OR COULD BE KILLED 😢😢💔
@@elietahari7290it's sarcasm. 😅
Your spot on. Did she think that abusers only work nine to five, Monday to Friday, and vacation for four weeks a year?
@@GypsyGirl317 I don't think they were meaning that for the OP, I think they were musing on the actions (or lack thereof) of CPS.
Thank you to the 5 inmates who gave her some justice.
But why couldn’t the justice system give her the justice she deserved??? Something is very wrong with our system
Yes
@@08jerrilyn usually frowned upon for the justice system to torture the perpetrators the same way they did those children. I bet if they did, we'd have a lot less crime.
@madammercury3563 usually frowned upon? Cruel and unusual punishment is unconstitutional. It's the 8th amendment dude. Even for a piece of shit like these parents, the highest law in the land will never allow you to inflict the same kind of torture they did on those kids
DAMN 5 BIG BLACK 🍆
How can you deny blood relatives custody, and farm the children out to irresponsible foster parents.
Exactly
Supposed to go to kin first in a lot of states. Trouble is, family members turn out to be similar..not all the time but it happens.
It happened to me as a kid my mum had terrible depression my aunt and grandma came forward to take me but the social services put me with strangers I was old enough to understand what was happening I was 7 I wouldn't eat or engage with the strangers untill it came to a point where they had too wonder if they made a mistake and give me back to my family as that's where I said I wanted to be and eventually they gave me back
@@rosiemaughan2996 In the 70's, a social worker came to my aunt's home to tell her that our new step father was a pedophile. She instantly offered to adopt us & he told her it didn't work that way. First, they didn't know if he was molesting us & second, children are placed in foster care during an assessment period & there's no guarantee that my aunt could adopt us. That was the end of it, no follow up.
Within months, we were moved miles away from her & the molestations began along with other mental & physical trauma done by both adults. As far as I know, there was never any attempt by social work to step directly into the fray. My aunt worried her whole life until we escaped years later.
Huge respect to the 5 inmates that cared enough to get justice for Nubia. From New Zealand 🇳🇿
I agree totally suefairbrothe👏🏻👏🏻👍👍. From Adelaide.
The saddest thing is that MANY people tried to help Nubia (even a six year old girl!), but the authorities ignored every single one of them.
Double WTF ?!?
Exactly ignored by all of them
Disgraceful
Maybe if these CPS workers would be held responsible and serve some time, they may take their jobs more seriously.
maybe if all the adults who claimed to care about the kid did more than make a phone call it wouldn't have happened. Its almost like both sides are stupid and equally responsible. Too stupid to contact police or make a formal report. Calling a hotline doesn't do shit, its like prayer, it doesn't do anything for anyone but the one doing it.
@@mikeespinoza5733 nope, they have a job to do and they chose to be complacent, and disregard all the calls for help, what else do you want those people that reported it to do? They did their part, and as we are starting to see, DSS is working with the government to traffic these kids..lock em up
WORD
EXACTLY
@@mikeespinoza5733 Did we watch the same video? Cause all the family and teachers of these kids DID call the police and report to DCS. What more were they supposed to do?
There's absolutely no hope for children, if adults keep allowing this
Very well put. Yes!
Agreed
Damn right. I cannot fathom seeing a beautiful little girl sick, dirty, starving and covered with injuries w/a horrible odor and being totally dismissive about it. Damn them
@@taebundy658 exactly it's bad enough these children are out through this by their own parents then to be overlooked and not to have anyone help them is just sad, thats one thing about our country, if one call goes in about s a childs safety, even been left alone for an hour or so its fully looked into and social workers are involved for months, we have a good system in that regard
The twins had loving family members in Texas wanting to adopt them. Florida officials prevented it, they should all be jailed. This is the worst case of abuse I've ever seen. Fly with the angels, sweet Nubia❤
She said she wanted to unalive herself and the hospital let her go? She should have been held and evaluated by a therapist
Nubia was literally screaming for help. My God she must it felt so helpless. Poor angel 🙏🏼
I want to talk to the people that lowered that SA on a little girl to a misdemeanor
I'd like to "talk" to them too...
Yeah alot of us want to "talk" about that too... With our fists. And feet.. and belts.
Yup.
Sick. We vote these pedos in. That's why local elections are so important!
They do that when they don't have enough evidence and the abuser may walk they offer to lower it if They plead guilty
CPS, DCF, whatever the name is in one's jurisdiction, it's an organization that shouldn't exist if it's going to consistently fail children like this.
They really are a joke for the most part. They refuse to help children being abused but then take kids away from homes that are safe. It's insanity.
It might could help if it were anywhere near adequately funded, staffed and authority to do more without jumping through 10 hoops was given to those workers who actually have contact with the children. Every recommendation, any action a case worker thinks should be taken has to go through several layers of signatures, supervisors and even judges, in some cases. They're also given next to no authority while conducting basic interviews. Like in this video, they mention the case worker never insisted on checking on the kids. They're not allowed to demand anything. If the parents refuse to let them in, they can't force their way in. If the parent insists on being present during interviews, they can't say no, they can just ask to talk to them alone. They can't demand the parent or foster parent produce a child, like if they say they're out with someone. At least not at first, though they can, after much paperwork and with several approvals, get a court order if the parent consistently refuses to let them physically see the child. They are allowed- and are supposed to- do home checks but that doesn't necessarily give them access to every room in the house, nor can they do an in depth search.
The sad thing is that most of these workers actually care about the children and making sure they're OK, at least at first. No one takes a job at family services for the paycheck. You can make more doing a number of jobs that require much less education and that are definitely less emotionally and mentally taxing. But they tend to either quit due to no longer being able to sit by and watch while they're not allowed to actually do anything or, if they stay with it, become kind of numb to it because they see tons of these cases every day and realize it's futile.
poor kids...
@@mommy2libras So then why are there several stories on this channel alone of services like this... taking the children of decent parents that made some mistakes, harassing the parents, ensuring they never get to see their kids again. Only to then put the kids in a foster home where the kids are essentially tortured to death?
So normal people get shafted... but the psychopaths are protected?
Yeah, I don't buy it. Nothing worse than dealing with a civil servant. The only thing they care about... is making sure they don't get fired so they can keep their pension.
@@mommy2libras I disagree sorry. I had cps called on me because I wouldn’t take my neighbor to the bar. They said my kids were abused. Cps showed up and if I refused to let them in to see the kids the police would be called for a welfare check on them. I didn’t mind them coming in though cause I was a good mom. When inside doing the interview they had to speak to my kids without me present. Or they would get cops involved. It was proven the call was bogus and they left. My mom owned a daycare and knew cps very well because of this. Several times cps failed the kids because they knew the family or politics. Sometimes they took kids that didn’t need to be taken. They are under budgeted and staffed but if they wouldn’t waste time on cases that are not light and put more effort into the ones that do matter and not worry about who the family is then more kids can be protected. Along is laziness and lack of care.
Does no one in child “protection” services have a conscience? I would not shut up until these children were ACTUALLY safe. I’m sure I’d get fired but that still wouldn’t silence me! It is infuriating to here how many times these poor children are failed, all because someone doesn’t feel like doing the extra work 🤬
No hearts, if they do it's quickly either hardened or they don't make it longer than a couple years.
Social workers are overworked, underpaid and often times silenced. This is no excuse, for sure, but hopefully these agencies are doing more good than harm.
@@ruwitze4450 😒 I REALLY WOULD LIKE TO KNOW WHERE THIS STARTED. OVERWORKED? AS FAR AS I KNOW, THEY LEAVE AT 4:30 PM. NOT A MINUTE LATER. UNDERPAID? I'VE SEEN THEIR WAGES PAID! IT'S 3X HIGHER THAN MANY JOBS AROUND OUR AREA. PLEASE, ENOUGH OF THAT CRAP! PLUS THEY WORK FOR THE STATE, BENEFITS & ALL INCLUDED. MANY SOCIAL WORKER'S DON'T DO THEIR JOB! HOW ARE THEY SILENCED? IT SEEMS LIKE THEY TAKE AWAY CHILDREN FROM THE GOOD PARENTS. BUT DON'T REMOVE CHILDREN FROM HOMES WHERE CA & SA ARE HAPPENING! WHY? THIS IS A TRAVESTY FOR ALL THE INNOCENT CHILDREN. ALL THOSE CHILDREN WHO HAVE BEEN MURDERED IN THE FOSTER SYSTEM OR STILL IN HOMES THEY SHOULDN'T BE. 💜💜 REST IN PEACE NUBIA,YOU SWEET ANGEL 🙏💜
@@KATYMCGINN Have you considered the horrible trauma they have to witness day after day while their hands are often tied with red tape? I definitely agree it's a travesty and the workers in cases like these are not doing their jobs properly, but it's a high-risk, high-trauma, low-reward job that most people burn out in if they attempt to do everything as it should be.
It's a system that is running on fumes where no-one who has the time and money cares to implement changes. Proper case load limits and free therapy may make a worker stay longer and cope better, but there are too few workers and too many children in need to think about long-term. The whole system needs a shot of adrenaline but only a select few can do that.
Heartless greedy people
Nubia was a very beautiful little girl. For some reason I keep thinking that the adoptive mother was actually jealous of Nubia. I’ve heard of cases where a woman is married to a pedophile and they become very jealous and angry with the child their husband has been abusing.
O. K., good rational, a similar psychology seemed to be formulating in the Moors Murders case. Hindley asked if Brady after I think it was Keith Bennetts Demise wether or not He had Sexually Assaulted him at any stage before or after he killed him. Codependency brings forth some strange and deadly manifestations. He replied, "Does it Matter"?
I have got two likes so far! As a result I feel it is my Duty to point out to readers I do not condone or support any illegal or subversive thoughts that deviate from Acceptable Human Behaviour with relation to sensitive topics in any Shape or Form. Kind Regards, thank you! T. M.
I wonder if that's what happened to Madline Soto mother. Idk how she didn't know she was getting abused smh
@@danielleburke879/10 these mothers absolutely know their kids are being abused smh
It happens I know this sadly
Then what's your reasoning as to why she allowed the abuse of the twin brother as well? As for Madeline Soto, there is huge suspicion around that but it's certainly not been proven. My personal feelings on the matter are that it's more complicated than most people are making it out to be. Kind of like everyone in these threads thanking the men that beat Jorge in jail. It's possible that they were being altruistic, but not very likely. Prisons are a different thing jail is a different thing and people with those crimes are absolutely the kicking dog. It's oftentimes not at all because they care about the victim, it's because society says they can and they're violent people. My point is is that life isn't usually so black, and white. I think she was jealous of both of the children. I think she absolutely hated the attention that they received. I think she hated the way that bringing the kids in changed her life. 🤷♀️
When a family that has had multiple complaints against them to CPS decides to “home school” their children, that should be HEAVILY scrutinized. How is that not immediately a massive red flag for CPS?
I remember when I was younger. My dad and step mom were very abusive. I was in first grade. I got in trouble at school one day and was terrified of going home because I knew I was going to be beaten. I avoided getting on the bus and I was crying to the principal and office staff that I didn't want to go home because I was going to be hurt. They called my dad anyway who eventually showed up obviously drunk, he angrily grabs me by the wrist and starts dragging me out of the school. I scream as loud as I can, blowing my voice out partially. Begging anyone to save me from this man because he's going to hurt me. Nobody listened. I was ignored. They didn't care. I'm under the impression this case wasn't much different.
Oh, my God. I'm so sorry. You deserved better. ❤
I’m so sorry
I’m sorry you had to live through that.
I'm so sorry you endured that 😥😥
I’m sorry you were failed that egregiously.
Another example of DCF failing our children
It doesn't surprise me anymore they fail kids all the time . Then the kids wind up being killed . So heartbreaking .😢
They fail more then they save not just deaths people who continued the cycle
Im nearly 50 and they have always failed children. Myself and siblings were 5 of those children. It sickens me. I had to change the cycle and do better for my 4 children. It really isnt that hard 🤷♀️
The parents are failing the children.
@@malindaaddicott4940 I'm so sorry that that happened to you and your siblings. And glad to hear that are doing things differently for your own children.. My own mom called and had my kids taken away I wasn't starving them or beating them,she took my son and my daughter wound up in foster care with a lot of terrible people.
As a father to a 7 yr old little girl this story broke my heart ,this world is full of evil.i know i must protect my kids at all costs
A father's love is like a key to the world. Keep it up!
As a former little girl with a father who wasn't that great: That little girl might not always show she appreciates it when she's young, but as she gets older, every moment of your love, care and respect will be buried deep in her mind and she will appreciate you in the long run. Just remember that we're all little shits as teenagers lol
Don't despair or live in fear though.
That evil has always been here, and believe it or not, things are better than ever. Back in the 50s and 60s and 70s, when people were generally oblivious to it, was when it really thrived... and now, when our awareness of it is greater than ever, it is less common than it's ever been.
The more good and loving and kind you are, the more courageous you will be if and when you're actually faced with some evil. Some young men often feel like they need to harden their hearts so they can be ready and able to take on threats, but this is the exact wrong way to approach it.
Being more loving and kind and having good will for people generally, makes you naturally courageous. I think it also makes you sharper to be able to sense real darkness when it's around, and it makes evil people fear you
That's how I feel I have a 4 year old daughter and she comes before anything in this whole world. It breaks my heart knowing that there's kids that don't get that kind of love and don't have a father or mother that love them and do everything for them. Even worse there are kids that have parents or foster parents whatever that purposely mistreat them and put them through a living nightmare.
I was so sad to hear that this girl was killed I hope that her soul was able to find peace in the afterlife and it's so horrible that she had to spend her time on Earth living in a nightmare. 😢
@nachgeben haha I have a 4 year old daughter and she is the love of my life she's the most precious gift I've ever had and everything to me. I do however dread the day that she becomes a teenager because I can just imagine all the stress and especially as she gets closer to adult hood the nights that I won't be able to sleep because I'm worried about her. I guess all you can do as a father is be the best you can be and give them the best foundation you can possibly give them and hope that they use all the tools that you teach them to make it through life.
All foster homes should have 24 hour video surveillance by CPS.
A child's safety, is more important then an adults privacy
There are too many children suffering 😢and dying behind closed doors
I wonder if some people take in this poor kids just to harm them?😢
CPS should be sued for placing them with this drug addicted couple who had lost 4 kids! That's unbelievable!😢😢
I think any doctor who doesn’t care enough about the children to do due diligence to their cases should be locked up. It’s reckless and irresponsible
And lose their license.
I can agree but then the public gets up in arms if the doctor was wrong. Makes no sense.
And that doctor needs to be stripped of his/her/their license to practice medicine for failing his/her/their responsibility as a mandated reporter.
I saw prison justice and clicked, I always watch your videos, but something about the people getting justice when the system fails is so poetic.
Me too!
What justice? The bastard is still free!
@@lindseywagner7510right?? I have no clue what this person is on about.
What prison justice?? What justice??
I don't feel any retribution through such things, it just angers me so much to see the world failing so hard for this innocent girl.
@Dolltopsy666 it said he was attacked by 5 inmates in Miami Dade prison. The 'prison justice' phrase is used to describe when inmates attack and SA the inmates who are abusers of women and children in prison.
They should be held accountable when child services fail. Especially when they chart false information.
There should at least be an investigation in it, especially for the one that lied on her report. Like.. maybe some of them might have been conned by the foster parents, but at some point, you just have to take the kids and examine them for yourselves to understand what is really happening. Hopefully they have revamped their system enough for these things to not happen as often.
Agreed. They are working for a state agency and their reports are admisable in court. If they lie they should be held accountable just as if they filed a fake police report! But the consequences should be worse.
Multiple dcf calls and then the children pulled out of public school to be homeschooled such a big red flag that so many CA cases share
I am amazed that parents regularly pull their children out of school after being investigated for CA and that it doesn’t immediately spur an exhaustive in-depth investigation. It seems that pulling them out of school is a prelude to death, but CPS hasn’t figured that out yet.
I have spent 4 years calling CPS on my neighbors for abusing their 4 boys. They removed the 12 year old and placed him with his brother and the parents are not allowed any contact. This was 4 yrs ago. The newborn,1year old and 3 year old were left with the parents. CPS has been called by many neighbors. They would come tothe house, knock on the door and leave a card. NC law says a child does not have to go to school until they are 7. Finally after all the calls to CPS when the boys were 5,6 and 7 and had not been to school I called CPS and they bagan an investigation. These boys were never allowed to leave the house unless their father was home and he only came home on weekends. The mother has mental issues and has been hospitalized many times. The boys never left the property to go anywhere. They would tell me about their bruises and say mommy did it but we have to say daddy did it. This crazy woman had a vehicle to use any time. Oh she also had another boy before the last 3 from an affair and the father got custody. I could hear those poor babies screaming and crying all the time. I would call police and nothing was ever done. She had 2 of these boys at home and 1on the side of the road in Alabama. None of these boys had birth certificates or ever went to the doctor. How do I know this? Her husband told me. He said she was crazy and he couldn't do anything about it. Finally a week before Halloween the boys were removed. She has not left the house since. I can hear her yelling and screaming in the house all the time. She would verbally assault me, throw rocks at my car and have her boys throw rocks at me if I was walking. One day last November I was walking the dog and she came out and started kicking him. I slapped her to make her stop and she beat and kicked me to the ground. I am a 63 yr old 100lb disabled woman that is 4ft 10 ins. tall. This woman is 38, about 250 lbs and about 5ft 7in. The police wouldn't do anything and I had to get a restraining order against her. Thank God these boys were removed and I pray they are in a safe place. The week they were removed the father didn't work and every day they would leave at 8AM and return at 8PM. CPS was at there house every day along with the police. I called the police and told them what was going on and they came after 8PM finally. Pray for these precious boys that they will have a wonderful life. I have never called CPS on anyone before this because I have heard so many sad stories about the foster care system. I am sorry this was so long but I wanted you to know how long it took for this system to rescue these little boys and I don't think they would have done anything had she not kept them out of school. Imagine all 3 boys going to kindergarten at the same time. I pray they are together. Thank you
Thank YOU for fighting for those kids!
Thank you for your persistence. Praying that your actions saved those boys. Also that they get therapy. Those wounds never heal completely, but with help they have a better chance of living a somewhat decent life.
The parents are not allowed to have any contact with the children. The mom has not been out of her house since she threatened to kill me as I was walking and the police were called. I can still hear her yelling about me from my front porch and she is inside hers.My porch is about half a football field from her house. I pray for those children daily and that she not get pregnant again.
If you hit the lady you can’t try and demonize her for hitting you back, as valiant as your intentions were. lol. Other than that, I commend you ma’am. I see so many abuse stories where the neighbors hear the abuse but don’t intervene and when the child dies they’re filled with guilt and regret. Thank goodness you took actions, you saved those boys.
@@Yvanehtnioj2000 Ummm if someone was kicking MY DOG who is like a BABY to me u better believe I'd do more than just slap her!!! That's self defense imo bc kicking a dog can end up killing them. U must not have a dog or something or you'd understand her hitting the woman first was absolutely justifiable. And that's not even considering what the poster witnessed her doing to her children.
How can so many innocent bystanders and professional workers fail a child like this in so many ways when they are suffering from horrible abuse?? Do these depraved abusers have a secret ability to snake charm ALL these people? It's so frustrating
Ever hear of the bystander effect?
They become desensitized.
The perpetrators are typically sociopaths who know how to game a broken system. This makes DCF an enabler.
What broke me was knowing those babies were STILL alive and tied up 20 feet away in a bathroom. All that detective had to do was LOOK IN THE BATHROOM!!!! They were right there!!!! Nope, he couldn't be bothered. How do these people sleep at night?! How?!
@@paulablack1863 That's incompetence for you. Pair it with malice and it's easy to see how a lot of the kids covered in stories like this never stood a chance.
My heart is broken for these babies. My heart also goes out to the people who did make an sincere effort to help them but were shut down.
Can you imagine being one of those few people? Fighting for this little girl, when people who are supposed to protect her could care less. And now she’s gone. All of their efforts were for literally nothing. So sad to see.😔
The doctor that did the drive by diagnosis should have her license taken away and be thrown in jail!!!!! But I bet nothing will happen to her. And she will continue to do what she did, to another child..
dcf employees should be charged with felony child neglect.
Btw, I’d like to thank you guys for telling their story respectfully and showing your own sadness for these victimised kids ❤
If I were one of these teachers, I would not EVER let that child go back home until law enforcement arrived and an investigation were to take place!
Losing my job would 100% be worth it otherwise I wouldn't be able to sleep at night. We all need to protect the children
Exactly! The right thing to do is the right thing to do whether it’s legal or illegal, and whether you will get fired or not
I agree completely 😢
@@truthbetold4350 It’s not as simple as it may seem when you have a children of your own. I am a teacher and as mandated reporters, there is protocol that we must follow when reporting suspected CA. We report directly to administrators and the follow through by contacting the police and the police and the department of family and children’s services move forward from there.
Holding a child from their parents is considered felony kidnapping. In order to keep from being charged, losing your own children, and losing your livelihood, protocol must be followed.
These dcf staff should be held accountable for neglect and abuse. I work in a group home and we have way more safeguards and get paid way less!
Thank you for caring for the group home members. Our most vulnerable need extra protection from abuse.
Not really I was abuse in a group home and the other workers watched then when I call child protection they pulled each girl in a group and threatened them to cover it up and workers lied too, he was a fuckin pedoohile that had lots of complaints against him. When I was sent home I brought it up in court and the judge ignored everything and just released me and I was pregnant heavily with the daughter when it happened. F the entire system it's all corrupt.
Those inmates got more justice for those kids than the courts.
The court system seems to be bowing to the abuser's every wish, almost as if he owns them or has dirt on them
I'm a CASA (guardian ad litem) for foster children, and this is my worst nightmare. I'm terrified that I will report everything, and the judge won't listen. So far, I have been very blessed to have my kids in amazing foster homes, social workers who are great, and a judge who respects my opinions. My heart aches for these children and for the CASA/GAL. He spoke up, and this still happened. So sad.
My sister volunteers for CASA at her work. They do events and stuff to raise money for CASA
That poem brought me to tears. Thank you for the beautiful tribute
She looked miserable in the Halloween photo. U can always tell when a child’s eyes are sad. Breaks my heart.
I thought the same, but thought I was reading into it too much. And yeah, it was her eyes, poor girl.
It’s ALWAYS in the eyes 😢 they always have this real lost and melancholy expression with abused children.
Exactly, no one really knows what’s behind a Child’s Smile
Sounds like The Who "Behind Blue Eyes" if it were melancholy. @@crikker9447
Eyes r the window t the soul right an this poor little darlings soul ended up under the vileness of this minsters 'thymb'.
She suffered in long silence due t a negligent organisation an co' that should of known better an protected her
It's crazy, I work in childcare and we had one little girl come in with bruises so we called cps, they said call the police, so we did, the police came and said that's cps's job, so we had to call them back multiple times and they finally came to check on her, asked us questions and then supposedly went to her house. They never told us what they found out but the kid still comes in and thankfully without bruises.
Sounds like the medical system
That Dr. Archer should be stripped of their medical license AND thrown in jail for gross negligence!!! Also, Florida DCS should be held partially responsible for this UNNECESSARY AND UNFORGIVABLE outcome!!!
This was hard for me to watch. I’m also a childhood torture survivor. My mother was my primary abuser. She did similar things to me as was done in this case. My mom made numerous violent attempts to unalive me with a large kitchen knife. She nearly succeeded more than once. I have several scars on the right side of my neck where she managed to stick the tip of the knife into me, right by my ear. I have a one and a half inch scar and several other smaller scars in the same general area. No matter where we moved, the neighbors would call the police and tell them they thought my mother was going to unalive me. If the police showed up, my mom would scream at the police and tell them that she was only spanking me and the police would always just leave. As in this case, a lot of people knew that I was being SA’ed and being harmed almost to death, and no one ever did anything about it. I don’t understand it.
So sorry to hear that you had to endure such pain. No one deserves the horror you describes. I hope you are doing well.
it's sad to know how long CPS and services supposed to protect kids just dont and haven't changed for so long. My parents werent as violent, they were abusive but in different ways. But I had a friend growing up who's stepdad would regularly get so angry that they'd have to lock themself and their siblings in the bathroom to hide from him, she would tell me how the police or CPS would come but nothing was ever done.
I was assaulted regularly in one of my friends homes by her older brother who was probably around 12-15 (me being around ~5-8) when I would spend the night, her parents knew that he had a problem and just didn't care to make sure the kids spending the night with my friend were safe, because he was our babysitter during all of it because they were getting high upstairs.
That friend would tell me that CPS would come by and her parents would coach her to lie because CPS was used as a threat. I also thought CPS was scary because my parents always said if they came by we'd get taken away- and straight up told CPS would put us in homes with rapists.
It baffles me, especially because when someone DOES do something about it, or regularly reports it- nothing gets done still because the system just let's it continue anyway.
You never deserved that, no kid does, and it's just. disgusting. that they just don't care. I hope you're doing better now, my mom actually experienced similar to that as well with her mom, she never attacked her full-on with the knife, but she would threaten it, as well as threatening my mom that she'd killer herself right in front of her with said knife, needless to say, nothing ever got done.
"protection" my ass. I apologize for the ramble, i just wanted to mention how often it keeps failing, it hasn't changed and it doesn't care to actually save the kids it swears to help
What they need to do is completely stop this habit of only interacting with the suspected Child abusing ADULTS and ACTUALLY go thru & thoroughly search & investigate every aspect & location throughout a supposed abusive situation. Interact with the children. They let so many things slip thru their "professional process" it really makes you wonder how much else has been missed? If something as blatantly obvious & on going as this severe case was missed... They really need to improve the process of Protecting Children from abusive situations...
Literally, is it that hard to ask a child which dad touched them and where? Talk to them alone, ask about bruises. Infuriating
I spent a brief month in foster care pending my adoption as an infant. It just baffles my mind how many horrible people are out there, and just how freaking lucky I got to get out of the system and be adopted by actual sane people. My heart just breaks for Nubia and the thousands of others like her :( the system has failed yet again
My mom and her brother were in the foster care system of the 60s and 70s and it was truly horrendous back then. We were too conservative a society to acknowledge that PDF files existed, so foster care was their all you can eat buffet... you could be sent a steady stream of children to harm, and you even got paid (via their SSI checks and whatever other benefits) to do it! And there was absolutely no accountability, kids could report abuse directly to cops, to courts, schools, doctors... nobody would listen, nobody would believe it.
For how horrific things still often are, we have come a long way in just some short decades. Though, not so short to generations of children lost to horrific abuse, even if it is somewhat less horrific, generally, than the generation previous
A system that does not regulate who can have children
It's exactly the same in UK. 🤬
My mum and dad adopted my black older sisters in the late 60s we are a white family , my mum said my eldest sister bio mother was was 20 and was already pregnant with her new bf baby and said she didnt want her messing up her new life . My mum was 21 and my dad 25 when they adopted them , my other sister's bio mother was an older women that had come to England an had a affair and obviously didnt want to take her back to her other children and husband. My mum fondly says about bringing this little bundle home on the bus my sisters are 64 now and say they had a wonderful life
This case is disgusting and so very preventable. All those including the person who did this ridiculous report should if they were decent people, be struggling to live with themselves after there failure to protect these twins. Evil parents who should never get out of prison, sick and twisted monsters.
Child protection agencies need reforming immediately
The doctor should've lost her lost her license and been charged, the police and CPS workers should also be charged. They're all at fault. I would love to know the name of those 5 felonious kings - in the event any of them are still incarcerated, I'd be happy to send them a lil donation to get themselves something nice from commissary. The woman at the school that was giving Nubia food must have felt so helpless, I can't imagine what she went through knowing this was going to happen.
It’s so enraging to hear thousands of cases where children were completely failed by everyone who should have protected them. It’s despicable.
This is wild. We're adopting a baby and have a social worker come visit once a month. It's not a big deal at all and takes less than an hour. We provide our sons height and weight and new milestones. The case worker always comes to interact with him at the end of our chat.
Congratulations on your new child! The world needs more kind, caring and loving parents just like you. Best of luck.❤
Congrats on your adoption!
@@iainbanks7415 thank you so much! We are so lucky to have him. Cases like this are part of the reason we decided to adopt.
@@howthetubbiestelly thank you! He's such a great little boy.
Congratulations ! Also did you all go through foster or an agency? I only ask because i've been trying to adopt for 3 years.
These videos make me so mad..
Law enforcement officials and caseworkers should be held accountable and prosecuted as well
The parents should be held accountable first. I am not making excuses for DCF but they are OVERWHELMED with cases and it will only get worse. Many times, their concerns are overridden by their superiors
@@theropesofrenovation9352 if they actually did something to help these children they wouldn’t be overwhelmed with “cases”
Stop with your excuses@@theropesofrenovation9352
There's no excuse
@@theropesofrenovation9352did you not listen to 18:10 ??? That is ridiculous stop making excuses
Why is it DCF never has their feet held to the fire. They never seem to be held accountable.
Uh Carmen’s daughter should also be arrested and her daughter taken by DCF/CPS. The fact that her six year old daughter came home and told her that she witnessed her grandmother and step grandfather abusing and sexually assaulting Nubia and her brother and she told her daughter not to say anything makes her complicit to the abuse. Good thing her daughter at six years old knew that what was going on was wrong and decided to tell her counselor.
Idk why i watch these videos, these monsters disgust me. I was abused as a child and my partner grew up in a drug home. So we work verry hard to do better for our child. Ill never understand how anyone can hurt an innocent child.
Same I don’t know why I watch them either
@@Dpurple28 i think it is a coping mechanism for me or something. I'm an ex addict too and watching tons of addiction content helps me stay on my sobriety. Like hearing others stories helps me cope. I do feel lots of sorrow for these babies. They didn't even get the chance to become adults and make a difference in the world.
It’s depressing. No child should ever have to live through such horrific treatment!
So very proud of you for doing better for your kids
@@08jerrilyn thank you but it's not hard to do right by my child. Idk why others find it so easy to hurt their own.
I will never understand how anyone can treat children like this. It's awful, makes me sick to my stomach. My ex husband and I fostered a child before. She was my ex's ex- wife's daughter, she was caught making and doing meth. I believe we had her for approximately a year. DHHR never came and checked up on her. We treated her good, but what if we didn't? We took her on vacation with us to an amusement park, we bought her clothes. The ex did everything the court told her to do to get her child back and she straightened her self out.
Thank you for taking good care of this child! It's refreshing to read that there are still wonderful people like you and your spouse in the world. I hope the child's mother stays clean and sober ❤.
@absolutelyridiculous6743 She did stop making and doing meth, I think she still took opioid pills. She got cancer and passed away a few years ago but her daughter went to college at Florida State and got a ba degree and has a daughter of her own now. So her mom must have done something right.
Why do these sick people want to adopt them??? What is wrong with people? These poor kids!!!!!
My late husband and i were therapeutic foster parents. The children were broken
No more like abused and neglected
@@Dpurple28I'll trust the actual therapeutic foster parent on it.
As a grown woman who experienced csa as a child I would prefer not to think of myself as damaged. I in a sense kind of understanding why people would say that because maybe that is the only way to speak about it without having the necessary ability to speak about how horrifying it can be to express your thoughts. But it can be extremely distressing to hear how you may be talked about once it is told that you are damaged materials. When I went through some very extensive therapy for my PTSD I told a few people what I was going through at that time. I was immediately banned from seeing my best friend and a boy that was into me that time (I was 15 at this time) whom I was attracted to as well. In my opinion that was kept me silent for many years about the csa I went through as a child. I thank God for the me too movement. Because I felt a little bit freer about talking about my experiences without the fear of rejection simply because of somebody else's uncomfortable feelings. It was rather freeing.
@@hayleygrazier4757 what terms would you prefer?
Thank you for your love, care and dedication to piecing those children back together. I'm a social worker in the UK, and I know that's not as easy as it sounds. Giving them a safe place to live, and unconditional care and acceptance, truly opens a door to their future and gives them a chance to become the best version of themselves.
This is one of the most egregious cases of repeated negligence by the part of CPS/DCF I've ever heard! Absolutely sickening!
So many amazing people in these babies’ lives tried to help them. No one would listen. This breaks my heart so much. These babies had a loving home approved and ready for them. I’m so incredibly sorry to Victor, I can’t imagine growing up without his twin. My heart breaks for this poor baby girl. I just cannot understand this type of evil.
I don't understand how this can happen repeatedly. It makes me sick. These poor babies had a chance at a real life filled with love, but it was denied IN SPITE of a great guardian ad litum...
She was so beautiful. This story made me cry. Such a tragic unnecessary loss. I hate how CPS services operate. Out here where I live a fkn prosecutor just dismissed a case of a child I know who i actually helped save from his father, and a couple years later in therapy we came to find out that he was actually sexually abused by his father which we didn’t know, from birth until 7 years old.
Apparently his body isn’t enough evidence of sexual abuse, and several witnesses as well. No, they just let him go. Courts and cps don’t give a fuck about our children and are complicit in so many cases of abuse and murder. I’m so sick of it
I really hope Victor recovers emotionally 🙏I can not imagine what those poor kids went though😭.RIP little lady 💖🙏💙
Those 5 guys in prison need to get some time off for "Good Behavior"
No no no no no HELL no!!! All these monsters in supposed authority! What are you doing??!! Is it just a paycheck to you???!!! 😢😩💔😡🤬🤬
We never should have outsourced charity and child welfare to government agencies. People make a phone call and they are considered by us to have done their duty because they "spoke up." Those teachers saw these obviously abused kids every day. Eating once a week is pretty damned obvious. Why weren't the on the phone incessantly, or picketing in front of the courthouse, spying with binoculars, collecting evidence and calling the FBI? Because they are afraid of being accused of racism?
Is there a list of people that have dished out prison justice? I feel like we should be able to donate to their commissary funds.
With a little effort and research you can start the list
@brentspellmeyer8943 why start a second if one exists?
It's OK to not know the answer to a question.
@@skachor there you go then...nice
I dont unstand HOW any person can look at a child and not feed them. I have a child that doesn't eat, and it brings me to tears when he refuses to eat. Eating is such a necessity. The abuse is scary to even imagine
My kids ALWAYS ate before I did, no matter what my money situation was!
Why doesn’t he eat? Is it a medical issue he’s getting help with?
@@thirsty4killas984sounds like it might be a sensory issue to me! children with ADHD and/or autism are prone to having issues with things that are sensory heavy, like eating. i always had issues with certain foods and clothing as a child, and as an adult i was diagnosed with ADHD.
@@adhdhikaru yea, that's very true. I have a friend who's son can NOT have ANY of his food touching another food or he refuses to eat! But, if you combine such foods in a casserole, he will eat it lol. Ex: tuna noodle casserole and peas, if all in 1 dish he can see it's ok, but if peas ( or any veggie) are cooked separately, they can't touch on the plate.
Reading "My child won't eat" from Dr. Carlos Gonzales can help *a lot*.
I can't imagine why a child would be given to a parent who has already had four children taken away. I have a sister who has been married twice. She gave birth to three children for each marriage. But she never got any of her children back. She abandoned the first three and left them with their father where they proceeded to have a horrible life but at least their father tried. The second three were taken away by her husband's mother and she proceeded to get them on medication so that she could deal with them more easily. I know way too much, definitely more than I care to know, about children's Protective Services
That women was worse than the actual abuser! Just standing by watching…. Psycho
The entire child protective services needs to be investigated. Everyone involved in cases like this should be charged !
This is why we need the community should be alerted on child @buse cases. Neighbors should be able to know what to look out for. DCF is not working but when everyone is watching I truly believe that that would reduce abuse.
Cases should be public
DCF works fine when you actually make a formal report or call the police. Calling the DCF hotline prevents abuse like the suicide hotline prevents suicide. Must be nice for these people to ease their guilt by making a phone call, because child safety is only important if its convenient.
@@mikeespinoza5733Why is that? I don’t know much about DCF hotlines. Are formal reports taken more seriously or something?
@mikeespinoza5733 it doesn't work o reported abuse before when I found about a little girl being molested and her father was aware and admitted she was so terrified they lied saying they visited the house and it was clean that house was disgusting asf. I told them she would try and kill herself and guess what? She did weeks later and her dum father came to me instead of taking her to the hospital I had to make him take her, while she was hospitalized he threatened her to keep quiet yet nothing I tried they even allowed that bastard to take the girls out of state, so I talked to an aunt and uncle I could trust and I let the girls know if they want help run to them, thankfully the kids ended up protesting and moved back to my city with their aunt. Out of all the adults nobody who knew would do a damn thing it made me so mad, cps doesn't work at all. They're easily dismissive, I even told them I believed she was being molested by her dad. They did not check once.
Dr Archer should be dis barred! I hate these child protective agencies who take children from good parents, and hand over children to abusers and murderers. These people make me sick!
As someone who wants to adopt kids himself, this absolutely disgusts me! It's frustrating how abusive parents are overlooked like this! It's a disgrace, truly is.
Why is no one from CPS charged? What the hell!!!! Shows how useless they truly are
The social worker NEEDS to be jailed.
This is a horrendous case, thank you for presenting it with care ❤
They both do a good job at being as unbiased, and compassionate as possible. I love their channel
@@jillianpantano6461 Same! They are the most fair and unbiased channel I've ever come across and I binge their content. I have one complaint: - I wish they could upload more. I say that but at the same time understand that they have lives to lead outside of YT - I just love the content!
As a victim of severe abuse and torture similar to what these twins experienced (including my mother unaliving my brother), that poem at the end really pissed me off.
I know people mean well, but when you have actually lived through torture, having someone try to male excuses for what any God would allow that to happen while still painting that same God out to be good and merciful is insane. INSANE.
I’m so sorry you went through that. I agree. Poems like that, while well-meaning, are disrespectful and excuse horrible things happening to people.
Satan is the reason evil happens but God carries us through the most horrible times in our life perhaps it does seem insane for someone to believe so much that something they can't see could hold so much power but God is real and loves and cares for all his children
@@chesterzimmerman7752your comment is disrespectful and minimising of what the original poster has been through. It’s not helpful, it’s harmful and whilst I respect your beliefs I cannot respect your inability to keep quiet when it’s appropriate. Your desire to feel right in your beliefs has overtaken compassion and empathy. With the best of intentions I ask you to please give this some thought before you speak in future.
@@michellebaxterneedovey7103 what I said in no way minimized or lacked empathy for the person who posted the comment I feel nothing but grief for them perhaps you are the one who should learn not to speak so disrespectfully toward others
@@chesterzimmerman7752 it kinda does when their point was about the god reference in the poem and your reply was an explanation and in defence of what you believe. I saw no empathy in your reply but I’ll say no more.
Thank you for the informational video once again and keeping these kids names alive. People can be so cruel! The kids will be in my prayers 🙏🏽🤍
Victor surviving and telling what happen sealed Carmen and Jorge fate. I hope Carmen and Jorge deal with prison justice til the day they die.
My heart has officially been RIPPED out 😭 and what a sweet poem for Nubia. I cannot imagine the pain her teachers and loved ones felt from her loss. And her poor sweet brother. What a will to live! I will be praying for him.
this one hits close to home. i was abused and being intersex was used as an excuse to get away with things for me too. CAH is considered an intersex condition!
They still pretend it's a thing and now kids being abused with the lgtbq bs babies being forced into that crap
I'm so sorry that you had to go through that.💔
I remember when this happened and I pass by where they found Victor and Nubia by the side of the road frequently and I think about them every single time I pass by. I pray Victor is healing, he would be an adult now. It was one of the most horrific cases I have ever heard. I do believe heads rolled big time at DCF and waves were made, news articles were constantly talking about it, it's been over 10 years I wonder if that had any impact. Thank you for covering this.
Victor is doing well and living with family in another state, he wants to be left alone by media.
This is the most brutal, animalistic,fathomless evil.
How do these pos have the access to these poor babies?
Thankyou for giving these children a voice. I hope Victor has a great therapist and can heal from thisc
I've homeschooled for 9 years. Even I'm like, if you have a CPS case against you, you shouldn't be able to homeschool your kids!
I volunteer as a CASA/GAL at my local county volunteer program. God bless that GAL and the pain he must have gone through. My kiddo is just that my kid. She gets birthday and Christmas presents, we hang out at least once a month, I'm a voice in her case plan that stays the whole case. I got on the case in August and she's already had two cases workers. And the current one is actually a supervisor. She had a case load of 55 kids the other Social Worker who was at court that day said he had 32. EACH SOCIAL WORKER IN SEDGWICK COUNTY KS HAS OVER 25 CASES RIGHT NOW.
Become a CASA for a kid(s) in the foster system. Don't let another precious baby fall through the cracks.
Everyone who tried to help these babies are no doubt forever traumatized because DCSF couldn't do their damn job!
Everyone. Most of all, the one who did the evaluation, should be in prison for life. Only when they are held accountable will the system change. 💔
Omg I literally gasped when she explained Victors injuries…those babies didnt stand a chance. Every adult failed them…the system failed them. 😭
This is just beyond comprehension...every CPS ,DOCTOR AND WHOMEVER ELSE had the AUTHORITY to help these twins...FAILED BEYOND EVERYTHING...IM WATCHING THIS STORY AND ITS TEARING ME UP...THAT LIL GURL CAN NOW R.I.P. AND HER BROTHER...I PRAY CAN GET THROUGH LIFE W/BLESSINGS FROM ABOVE...AND THOSE 2 ANIMALS(THATS PUTTING IT LIGHTLY)...WILL FEEL THE SAME PAIN WHEN KARMA COMES FOR THEM...REAL TALK!!!
This is another case of disgusting and blatant gross negligence by DCF. Why are they even still able to operate when they CLEARLY do not do their jobs at all. The case workers and “investigators” are just an absolute joke. I don’t know how they sleep at night, letting children slowly die at the hands of the people who are supposed to care for and protect them. I simply have no words-this is inexcusable. 😡
How is it that so many ppl are calling for help for these kids and its just simply being dismissed! This is disgusting.
I have a niece in an abusive situation & she’s going back home tomorrow. I’m truly scared for her. Prayers for her please. The system has failed her & I truly think it’s going to get worse. The adults have convinced the system that my niece is lying. She’s not lying. Her name is Rachel. If you believe in prayer please say a prayer for her. Tyia
I will pray for your niece Rachel 🙏
@@lucialare7590 thank you so very much. She’s back with her dad & stepmother. Nobody’s heard from them. I just hope & pray that she’s safe 🥺
@@TrishHill-z8g anything from your niece yet?
This one got me. I have a 7 year old daughter and I just can’t fathom someone treating a child like this. I hate to say it but I might need to take a break from this channel. Idk how you both can hear and read so many of these stories and still be ok. Rest in Heaven sweet angel
It's hard to watch. My husband literally just came home and told me to stop watching this shyt. 😭
As a life long Mainer and someone who lived in Lewiston for years as my second home. Thank you for the solidarity ❤️ we appreciate it.
Children are the future, and societys turning a blind eye to them. Drug addiction, homelessness, mental and physical illness could all be reduced by focusing on the children that will be the future.
didn't realize it was societies job to raise your kid.
@@mikeespinoza5733 it's a shame society allowed you to slip through the cracks. We're still here if you need to talk.
I have real problems like paying bills and working, they don't get solved by talking, although I'm sure you're a big fucking fan of it.I'm also not some loser who self diagnoses myself with mental illnesses so i can keep acting like a child, nor am I retarded enough to diagnose someone over the internet. I'm sorry you were "raised" to be a pussy and can't solve your communities problems without someone holding your hand. Maybe one day you'll grow up.@@skachor
you need to focus on parental fitness first and foremost
@williamparker7025 there will never be a successful means of "weeding out" bad parents. Everyone is born with the equipment and it activates on its own.
Nubia’s story is so heartbreaking. 💔 The details really got to me. And once again, we sit here discussing how “too little, too late” was done. What drives these absolute evil 👿 people to torture children? I guess I’m glad I don’t understand their perspective.
Oh my this was a really tough one to hear. 😢I had to pause and cry a few times. My puppy is worried why I'm crying. Keep up the great work. I like how you call out the specific people who failed these beautiful children. I pray that Victor is living an amazing life
Such a beautiful little girl. RIP sweet angel. I pray for nothing but the best in life for Victor.
So the state of Florida screws up big time once again and they think giving her twin brother money is going to make it BETTER?!? They say twins have a bond regular siblings don’t understand… I’m sure he feels like half of him is missing and all they can do is say, “Our bad, here’s some money, we’ll try to make improvements”?!? I’m sorry, that’s not good enough, especially when you consider that they really haven’t made any improvements. These things still happen all too frequently. No one wants to be responsible and do their damn job! And these poor kids pay the ultimate price for it… Jesus Christ… Some days I just can’t…
I agree! That poor boy is going to remember all the beatings bestowed upon his sister & remember it was her tied up in that bathtub with him. All the bad memories of what his sister suffered. Hungry & cold. They say twins have a special bond that many of us can't understand. With her gone, it's going to be constant memories years later. I hope his life has been as happy as it can be, but I know sometimes time doesn't help this kind of constant abuse. You are right! Things need to be done now to stop the abuse & killings of these children & not wait until it happens again! RIP ❤
How can so many dcfs, GPS and of them not believe this poor child!! So many chances to save them!!
They believe them. They just don't care. 😢
@@BettyWhite2171 I've worked in childcare for over 20 years and see signs, why they always believe the evil is beyond me!! I know staffing is an issue and they have heavy case load, but how many more babies have to die! So so sad, here in uk we've had some awful ones too x
God you would think all agencies would screen adoptive applicants. I've always wanted to be a Dad but sadly have dealt with a life long battle with a rare kidney/liver disease that caused me to undergo 3 different kidney transplants and 1 liver transplant along with 10 years on dialysis in between the transplants. I got my most recent transplant which was a combined kidney/liver in Sept of 2017 and am doing well from a transplant standpoint but the 10 years on dialysis caused me to develop severe bone disease so walking more than a few hundred feet is hard for me and I live every day in constant pain from the bone disease, also I need a wheelchair for any distance longer than that, so I basically don't do anything longer because I'm embarrassed of the chair. (I tend to get very odd looks when I'm in a dept store for example and am in the chair than stand up to look at something on a higher shelf and I've actually had people in the same isle make comments like "Faker" and "attention seeker" when they literally don't know my situation at all so it's very frustrating so I'm basically in introvert that doesn't leave home. I've also been single since 2016 (I was in a very emotionally abusive relationship for 2 years prior, she berated me and screamed at me constantly and always screamed out my short comings and basically made me feel worthless) so tbh I'm terrified of getting into another relationship, my body is broken from all my medical issues, I'm stuck on disability (I have my own place, just don't have a lot of disposable income.) Before the emotionally abusive relationship I was with a girl that had a baby, I got with her when she was 5 months pregnant, was the one there to run to the store at 2am because she was craving something, I was the one there at the birth of her baby, I was the one to cut the cord and hold him first (after her) I was the one there every day while she went back to work and every night putting him to bed and getting up if he cried because she was too tired from working, I was the one getting up at 5am to get him up so she could sleep in, and I ABSOLUTELY loved every single second of it, I loved our little routine of me getting him up at 5am, changing him and putting him in a cute outfit, putting him in his bouncer while I made his bottle, than feeding him while we watched Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. I was with her for a year after his birth, her Mom referred to me as "Daddy Tommy" and his first words were "dada" to me. That single year was the best/worst of my life. It was the worst because I hadn't gotten my transplant yet so I was still on dialysis 3x per week and for anyone that doesn't know dialysis basically has the same side effects as Chemo, I was constantly feeling nauseated and sick, I was ALWAYS tired and felt like my internal battery was at 10% but I still struggled through it all for her and him because the Best year of my life was being a Dad (or at least the closest thing to a Dad I would ever be) I loved every fucking second of being a dad to him, his smile, his giggle, the way he looked at me with pure love, it was a feeling I can never replicate and it's a feeling I know I will never ever have again. After a year she got sick of me always being tired and feeling sick, she got sick of my minimum income even though I used the limited extra money I had to buy diapers and formula (and I bought the good diapers the were basically pull ups, they didn't have the sticky tabs, I noticed the corners of the tabs would sometimes come unstuck and scratch his tummy so I spent the extra for the pull ups) When she left me it was like someone drove a knife through my heart and soul and it was like 5 days before Christmas (it was my first Christmas with him and I went all out and spoiled the shit out of him and bought him like $250 worth of Fisher-Price toys, I still mailed them to him btw, my Mom told me to refund them but I just couldn't, he didn't do anything so he still deserves them, also I saw a picture of her and him on FB recently and he was asleep and holding the Mickey Mouse stuffed animal I got him back in 2014 and it's beat to hell but apparently his favorite item and won't go anywhere without it and she told him that she got it for him, bitch. I know he will never know who I was or who I am or how much he changed my life) Sorry for the sad story but I needed to explain why I don't think I could ever date a girl with children again, I get attached too easily and my heart can't handle that again.
Anyways I'm sorry for writing a book here but I just wanted to share my story with others that I know feel the same about this disgusting shit that can happen to adopted children and how badly I wish I could adopt a baby but I know with my disability and limited income would make it unfavorable to agencies. Thanks for reading if you did and feel free to ask any questions, I'm honestly an open book.
Sorry for your issues. 😔 But, You sound like you'd make a better dad than a lot of the idiots that they let adopt kids!
@@noomoon2833 thank you for that :)
You’ve had a hard life. I’m sorry.
Maybe you can be a foster parent. They send you money for all the child’s expenses so it won’t be an extra expense for you. You can help kids who are going through a tough time. The only downside to that is maybe getting attached to the kids. Or I’ll just have your baby. Lol 😜 😄
Such a sad and shocking story, but thanks for sharing it! I will never understand child abuse! I'm a single mother to an autistic type 1 diabetic 10yr old, and get no help at all (he hasn't seen his dad or that side of the family since he was 2yr old), but even at my most stressed of days, after sleepless nights, I would never even slap my child,and feel sick at even the thought! My heart goes out to ALL sufferers of C. A.! xx
It did not show up on my feed. I was looking for you guys. Thank you for the sweet poem at the end of the video. I shared it at my own Son’s funeral many many years ago. At least I can saw it was a swift and silent passing and he was always loved more than life. This poor innocent child and her brother suffered so horribly it made me physically ill. I hope the evil person that did this gets what he deserves. RIP sweet Newbia may you never feel hungry, cold, in pain or unloved ever again! If you see my sweet Luke he will help you find the way 😢💔🙏
"Prison" 'justice' indeed. To JUSTICE instead.