We're gonna get a little personal here. These are three stories of events that happened to me personally that have helped me to understand female psychology. Hint, girls aren't actually irrational, they just have a different model of the world than men do, so they can sometimes appear irrational from a male perspective. Hopefully this video helps you to understand them a bit better. Much more on these ideas coming soon at verbalgameacademy.com
My question is: How did YOU justify sleeping with that girl who's in a relationship? Because me personally had to stop doing that, because it just always made me feel as a shitty person and I'd hate if that happened to me. What kind of mental process is behind that on your part? ('If I won't do it somebody else will' doesn't work for me anymore...)
Todd I just wanted to say even before watching the video that I finally did my first cold approach to a total stranger. I'd say she was about an 8/10. After stressing and hesitating about it for so long, your teaching pushed me to a point where I seriously had to ask and convince myself your tip: "What the fuck is the Altrnative?!". I did it with lots of stress but in the end the girl was very impressed and actually a little intimidated (because she was shy and I was perfectly dressed in a work suit) any time I'd say a gamy line. We spent about an hour together before we had to leave. I got her number and the entire time I used your tip of "what is the best thing to do in game?" instead of trying to play it safe. So thanks Todd, my confidence has increased by 10 knowing that I'm now capable of making an approach. If anyone is reading this and hasn't done an approach yet, I really encourage you to do it. The only scary part about it is walking up to the girl for the first time. But once the conversation is engaged, it's a lot more fun and less stressful by my experience. Keep watching Todd.
@@losophy4588 No in the moment in the conversation while you're interacting with her well most guys screw it up by playing too safe because they're too scared to take an extra risk because they're comfortable at that level where this girl likes them and basta. However Todd said in a few videos that believing in game during the conversation in the sense that when your set is done you have to tell yourself that the set was good and you played game the best you could. Even if it doesn't work out or the risk fails well at least you did what's best to do in game at the moment.
@Jeremy Foot Your experience has given me insight and a desire to do my first cold approach. I have gotten laid with Todds advice once so far (been 2 weeks). and it was through a friend of a friend so there was no cold approach, just exchanged names and game from there on (and i think she was chasing me hard). I gotta practice cold approach though for higher number of results.
Would love to hear more psychology based stuff on your channel vs straight game. Not because technique isn’t important, but so we can learn the underlying rationale behind it
Lessons: Story 1: women are emotional, not logical Story 2: women are emotional, not logical Story 3: women are emotional, not logical what makes logical sense in a man's head will never make emotional sense in a woman's heart.
Let us not forget that what you may see as an emotional response can be something completely different than what they tell you. For instance, the middle name= she’s going to do a background check on you. The girl that said the has a Dr. boyfriend. She may have wanted a one night stand/ no commitment and there is no boyfriend. It was her “frame” that she used on you. Other times, women just say and do goofy shit just because they are feeling it at the time. Really no different than guys in that aspect. But never think that you automatically are smarter than a woman because you think you have the cheat codes. Some women are prone to more lines than others. Some just aren’t interested for whatever reason and there’s nothing any guy can say or do to change that. Maybe her best friend just died and you are trying a cold approach on the street.... not gonna happen. The best advice I’ve heard you give so far is to not let it be a numbers game and work on everything with you... the approach, the frame, your look, your relevance in the setting.... all great stuff to be aware of and work on to be a smooth operator. Thanks for that!
They Think That Because You Are Older You'll Be Different In Your Thinking. It's Not So Much Your Age As A Number. 7:44 I Like The Fact That Todd Made It Clear Here That It's A Human Thing And Not Just A Female Thing. That's More Important Than You Might Think.
@@cakeboss1721 no the fuck you won't lol there shouldn't be any investment on a girl on a cold approach.....another one will be around the corner in 15 mins
I guess is similar, when a girl just before sex, stops and reveals her some weird experiences, and ask _"what you would think if your girlfriend did something like this?"_
I like the part where you explained that women will show what they value without directly saying it. That really made me think my communication. There are a few girls that are interested in me but I just can’t seem to connect on the intimate level. Maybe better understand their “symbols” and stuff will help. I’ll listen to any advice on this!
As a man, I've learnt not to be misled by women because it is in their nature to deceive. I've learnt to be the take charge type of man and tell her what she needs to do w/o being bossy. Women love the male leader.
A guy told me he've never met anyone like me before. He often tells me I'm weird and it turns him off sometimes. Immature and I don't know how to act right. I feel like it's not gonna last.
Todd. I really need your advice on this one. What do you do when you get blocked? When 1.you were needy and that is why you got block 2. You did nothing wrong and she blocked you. If you still have her number, what do you do? I know I should move on but sometimes it is not that easy
Take the L don’t fight your pain, dive deeper into yourself and understand yourself better and accept what happened, understand where you are at in your journey(get perspective)get some hobby/life purpose what makes you feel better about yourself and go out again!GL
Hey Todd, I love your videos, and you’ve taught me a lot about myself and being the best man I can be. I have a question that some of my friends who do game were debating. For someone who is the beginner/intermediate stage of game, is drinking alcohol a good or bad idea in night game? Some of my friends say you should stay sober to keep sharp and attentive, some say you should drink to “loosen up.” What is your opinion on this?
What's really ironic is that like 4 videos down from this one is a video with a woman explaining very professionally the concept of "appeal to emotion" which is a logical fallacy. Lol
First things first: I really love your work, keep doing that ❤️ Now, I need some advice: there's this girl I used to be close friends with 2 years ago, then we fighted and rarely talked since then. Met her 3 weeks ago at a party, vibes were good but couldn't kiss cause of her friends. Met her again and eventually 3 days ago we went on a date. The first 30 minutes sucked, probably my worst game ever, but she seemed like enjoing it anyway and we got to a more private place, watched something on netflix and around 15 minutes in we start kissing, and it goes on for a good 20 minutes. Yesterday I texted her and tried to plan another date; she said it was just to heat of the moment, that it was all a mistake, but agreed on meeting again anyway to clear things up; we'll meet in 2 days. Any advice and/or explanation of what's going on?
@@dannymish573 have you heard him address it specifically? Sounds like that's just the general sense you get? Men are more logical, knowing full well a woman is being dishonest and coming up with absurd rationalizations for her behavior doesn't seem to me a healthy approach.
If she wants to be with you, she won't hook up with anyone, she's an adult and she needs to exert self control over her desires, but to truly help her, marry as soon as possible
Is experience the only way to tell what that “symbolic emotional” thing is for a particular girl or how do you get better at telling?? - For context there’s a girl I’ve been hanging with quite a bit, even slept over but can’t/won’t have sex.. I couldn’t tell what element I was missing so ended up just saying fuck it, next. But it really bothers me that I never figured out that thing she needed..
While your talking to her, slowly stroke her fingers, just look at her fingers and play with them while listening to her bitch about her day. Make sure you're deeply conversing with her and slowly give her a hand massage, every five minutes move up, towards her arm and eventually shoulders, back. If she pushes you away, sit in front of her and stare at her and then begin with her hand again and work your way back up. Eventually, if she has attraction towards you she will give in and you can massage ber back and then her chest, her thighs, and once you're that far just start taking off her clothes and she'll start helping you. If she pushes you away, try another time, if she shuts you down cold, then you're probably too deep in the FZ and need to stop talking and texting her completely, and I mean, for like a week. If she asks why you disappeared, after a long wait, say, We were having a nice time when we hung out but you acted a little odd, maybe we can hang out again sometime. This sends the message to her that you enjoyed her company but were not happy with her pushing you away. Next time, do thr same things, start with her fingers, make sure you really examine them and listen to her very closely, you want to make her feel like the center of the universe.
If you went thru 12 years old speaking in tenor you probably understand what mirroring yourself at women is? She speaks like you used to ? She produces something called the children who will take your place because life is moving on The old classic men own the world doesn't mean anything in reality and uh God might own the world . Not all people are the same not all people are taught the same way either Although we are still taught that chemical differences are on between the sexes which is not really true either completely . Males who have a lot of hair have more female hormones Males who go bald have more male hormones Males with deep voices are less sexually potent males with higher pitched voices have more However these are only * small studies we should think outside of And this is what I'm saying . I know a woman who shaves her beard every day yet she is very female. I have a niece who can fix a car faster than some of the males she knows? etc
😉 This is why women can’t be trusted in a long term relationship. Catch and release is the best option. Second best option is to have multiple girls, but don’t take any of them seriously.
We're gonna get a little personal here. These are three stories of events that happened to me personally that have helped me to understand female psychology. Hint, girls aren't actually irrational, they just have a different model of the world than men do, so they can sometimes appear irrational from a male perspective. Hopefully this video helps you to understand them a bit better. Much more on these ideas coming soon at verbalgameacademy.com
Todd, what is your opinion on nofap? worth it? scam? does it help with game? Thanks in advance
My question is: How did YOU justify sleeping with that girl who's in a relationship? Because me personally had to stop doing that, because it just always made me feel as a shitty person and I'd hate if that happened to me. What kind of mental process is behind that on your part? ('If I won't do it somebody else will' doesn't work for me anymore...)
Very good video Todd
@@dopavelli
Brother, he never said he fucked her, nor did he say that he didn't and frankly, it's none of our business.
I'm confident but blush. Do girls take that as a sign of not being confident?
1:50 "Hol up, this dude is talking some GAME right now" - Squirrel, probably
Also the Squirrel: "Hey I also wanna nut ... "
this cutie xD
The squirrel is a girl and wants him.
That squirrel trying to learn game as well. I bet he's smashing right now!
hahahaha
Lmfao
no its a female and shes interested
@@AXharoth probably she's at the squirrel club trying to get some D
he bustin all kinds of nuts
Todd I just wanted to say even before watching the video that I finally did my first cold approach to a total stranger. I'd say she was about an 8/10. After stressing and hesitating about it for so long, your teaching pushed me to a point where I seriously had to ask and convince myself your tip: "What the fuck is the Altrnative?!".
I did it with lots of stress but in the end the girl was very impressed and actually a little intimidated (because she was shy and I was perfectly dressed in a work suit) any time I'd say a gamy line.
We spent about an hour together before we had to leave. I got her number and the entire time I used your tip of "what is the best thing to do in game?" instead of trying to play it safe.
So thanks Todd, my confidence has increased by 10 knowing that I'm now capable of making an approach.
If anyone is reading this and hasn't done an approach yet, I really encourage you to do it.
The only scary part about it is walking up to the girl for the first time. But once the conversation is engaged, it's a lot more fun and less stressful by my experience.
Keep watching Todd.
Congrats bro! What is the best thing to do in the game, tho?
Filip Kolczyński wrong question
@@losophy4588 No in the moment in the conversation while you're interacting with her well most guys screw it up by playing too safe because they're too scared to take an extra risk because they're comfortable at that level where this girl likes them and basta. However Todd said in a few videos that believing in game during the conversation in the sense that when your set is done you have to tell yourself that the set was good and you played game the best you could.
Even if it doesn't work out or the risk fails well at least you did what's best to do in game at the moment.
Nice job man, and you’re lucky, it sounds like that interaction went way better than most firsts do
@Jeremy Foot Your experience has given me insight and a desire to do my first cold approach. I have gotten laid with Todds advice once so far (been 2 weeks). and it was through a friend of a friend so there was no cold approach, just exchanged names and game from there on (and i think she was chasing me hard). I gotta practice cold approach though for higher number of results.
Would love to hear more psychology based stuff on your channel vs straight game. Not because technique isn’t important, but so we can learn the underlying rationale behind it
Patrice O'Neal a.k.a Black Phillip
Todd is hands down the best dating coach online. Love the way you articulate your points my man!
Lessons:
Story 1: women are emotional, not logical
Story 2: women are emotional, not logical
Story 3: women are emotional, not logical
what makes logical sense in a man's head will never make emotional sense in a woman's heart.
💯💯💯
That's why you don't care what they're thinking
Let us not forget that what you may see as an emotional response can be something completely different than what they tell you. For instance, the middle name= she’s going to do a background check on you. The girl that said the has a Dr. boyfriend. She may have wanted a one night stand/ no commitment and there is no boyfriend. It was her “frame” that she used on you. Other times, women just say and do goofy shit just because they are feeling it at the time. Really no different than guys in that aspect. But never think that you automatically are smarter than a woman because you think you have the cheat codes. Some women are prone to more lines than others. Some just aren’t interested for whatever reason and there’s nothing any guy can say or do to change that. Maybe her best friend just died and you are trying a cold approach on the street.... not gonna happen.
The best advice I’ve heard you give so far is to not let it be a numbers game and work on everything with you... the approach, the frame, your look, your relevance in the setting.... all great stuff to be aware of and work on to be a smooth operator. Thanks for that!
I like the Rollo shoutout in the thumbnail haha
I had an argument with a woman because she was mad that I didn’t know her last name after dating for a month. My bad.
Adrian Frank don’t worry. I’ve experienced the same. It’s typical. Anything you hear 👂 or say can and will be used against you.
lol can totally relate
damn Todd is irresistible even for a squirrel, imagine having this level of game ...
Short answer: yes
Yes to what? Them being irrational? I want to know, sir.
Err wrong answer, the real answer: it depends
That squirrels lay ratio just level up by 100 😂
They Think That Because You Are Older You'll Be Different In Your Thinking. It's Not So Much Your Age As A Number.
7:44 I Like The Fact That Todd Made It Clear Here That It's A Human Thing And Not Just A Female Thing. That's More Important Than You Might Think.
Im not gonna take it personally again when a girl rejects me.
Well she's not rejecting someone else is she?
Strategic Thinker no, but it’s not always anything the guy did wrong
You’ll definitely feel it when she goes and dates somebody else right away
@@cakeboss1721 no the fuck you won't lol there shouldn't be any investment on a girl on a cold approach.....another one will be around the corner in 15 mins
You can never go wrong with Todd.
That was very informative. I like this. Should be a series.
1:50 🐿
Sounds like the primer video before todd dives into, dissects and breakdown the meaning of subcommunications.
Great topic. How else can women make no sense? You got infinite possibilities on this one. De-mystifying women is a mission and a half
Just a side note. Todd has more subscribers than Julien... it just proves that quality always rises to the top and you can't suppress quality.
There is also quality in Julien's stuff, it's just different kind of content.
@@mystertman8573 true, it's more like Tony Robbins kind of stuff :)
1:43 The squirrel is approaching Todd how most guys approach women
Love this comment 😂😂😂
Keep it coming Todd! We need your advices!
finally some psychology behind the human interaction. keep this content going.
The squirrel is taking notes. This video shows that Mr Valentine has moved up to another level and it has started with this video.
Next video would be him standing on a hill giving a speech like a true lion king
My god even the squirrel decided to show up. this guys calmness is of the charts.
JP should come out with a system called: Qualify to Disqualify
Time is passing, my old friend....
What do you mean ? Haha
Im 20 , time really goes by quickly .
Shut up I’m only 7
I was talking about Todd. He looks way older than when I first watched him back in his RSD days. He’s still killing though, good for him.
I love your videos, man. You are really encouraging.
I guess is similar, when a girl just before sex, stops and reveals her some weird experiences, and ask _"what you would think if your girlfriend did something like this?"_
I like the part where you explained that women will show what they value without directly saying it.
That really made me think my communication. There are a few girls that are interested in me but I just can’t seem to connect on the intimate level. Maybe better understand their “symbols” and stuff will help.
I’ll listen to any advice on this!
Yep.
As a man, I've learnt not to be misled by women because it is in their nature to deceive. I've learnt to be the take charge type of man and tell her what she needs to do w/o being bossy. Women love the male leader.
Short answer: Yes
We Know They Are Nuts. But They Think I'm Nuts Too. Go Figure.
Tbh, believability was in reverse.
Good remake
love your content man.
Best vid I saw in a long time!
2:02 Just a squirrel in the world trynna catch a nut
The squirrel is sliding in them DMs 😂
3rd story is pure genius
A guy told me he've never met anyone like me before. He often tells me I'm weird and it turns him off sometimes. Immature and I don't know how to act right.
I feel like it's not gonna last.
2:24 - the Alpha squirell wants lessons.
Uhhh.. wait, sometimes they're irrational due to being neurotic, which seems to occur more in women than men, on average...
squirrel bails on cold approach @ 2:27
Todd unleashes the raw truth deep into our throats
This man is a legit professor
This confirms the universe we're in. The one with the squirrels that control Earth, just checking to see if Todd understood him/her.
that Squirrel is chill with todd
Damn that last story was crazy!!
Todd's the man...
do we e still need to watch the video.. they just are irrational😂... you could have stopped at an instagram post with this Todd!😆
Gold Todd 🔥
How did you end up doing in the second story? Do you conform and drink more or try to play it off another way?
You can see that the squirrel is about to find himself a girl 😂
There's a squirrel on the 1:51 🤣
And on 2:32 despair 😟
This might've just saved me
Todd the man
So we just gonna talk about that squirrel, huh?
Reminds me of the infinite bench video😂
Todd can you do a videos about a proper way to say goodbye after meeting someone without killing the vibe and being strange
Hehe I thought the title said “ARE WOMEN REAL?” for a second
😅
Yes, they are irrational
Todd. I really need your advice on this one. What do you do when you get blocked? When 1.you were needy and that is why you got block 2. You did nothing wrong and she blocked you. If you still have her number, what do you do? I know I should move on but sometimes it is not that easy
@x GeneraI are you schizophrenic?
Take the L don’t fight your pain, dive deeper into yourself and understand yourself better and accept what happened, understand where you are at in your journey(get perspective)get some hobby/life purpose what makes you feel better about yourself and go out again!GL
Yes
Hey Todd, I love your videos, and you’ve taught me a lot about myself and being the best man I can be.
I have a question that some of my friends who do game were debating.
For someone who is the beginner/intermediate stage of game, is drinking alcohol a good or bad idea in night game? Some of my friends say you should stay sober to keep sharp and attentive, some say you should drink to “loosen up.”
What is your opinion on this?
Bro did anyone see the squirrel? minute 2:09
SQUIRREL!!! Sorry, you were saying? :D
Thats only if she wants you to think like that.
What's really ironic is that like 4 videos down from this one is a video with a woman explaining very professionally the concept of "appeal to emotion" which is a logical fallacy. Lol
First things first: I really love your work, keep doing that ❤️ Now, I need some advice: there's this girl I used to be close friends with 2 years ago, then we fighted and rarely talked since then. Met her 3 weeks ago at a party, vibes were good but couldn't kiss cause of her friends. Met her again and eventually 3 days ago we went on a date. The first 30 minutes sucked, probably my worst game ever, but she seemed like enjoing it anyway and we got to a more private place, watched something on netflix and around 15 minutes in we start kissing, and it goes on for a good 20 minutes. Yesterday I texted her and tried to plan another date; she said it was just to heat of the moment, that it was all a mistake, but agreed on meeting again anyway to clear things up; we'll meet in 2 days. Any advice and/or explanation of what's going on?
She probably talked to her friends and they told her it was a bad idea. Gotta win them over first and not introduce negativity into interactions
Evolution is absolutely ridiculous but this mostly still made sense.
GOD they are so F*King confusing!
And they wonder why most CEOs / business leaders etc. are not women...
I jus treat girls like shit. Im from the hood. It works for me
The hood
So is this categorised as the girl’s blueprint?
Pretty pathetic being mid 30s spending nights out trying to get in with 19 yr olds kids. Meanwhile other 30s making something of their life
The squirrel is gonna get laid .
I am sorry Todd, the squirrel took all the spotlight from you man
5:14
1:49
That squirrel tho.
@todd v dating
In your world view it is acceptable to sleep with a girl you know to be in a relationship with another man?
As you watch more Todd V, you'll learn his perspective on it. I think he sees no problem with it, because the woman wanted to do it.
@@dannymish573 have you heard him address it specifically? Sounds like that's just the general sense you get? Men are more logical, knowing full well a woman is being dishonest and coming up with absurd rationalizations for her behavior doesn't seem to me a healthy approach.
@@zjw5 Watch Todd V's video on "Can you really trust women." He addresses it there.
Love your videos but ngl it’s fucked up to allow a woman to cheat on a good man with you or any other man for that matter.
U can
If you're the Doctor she might marry, then how do avoid having her hook-up with other dudes (rationalization) to quote "save the relationship?"...
Maybe live in the same city might help
If she wants to be with you, she won't hook up with anyone, she's an adult and she needs to exert self control over her desires, but to truly help her, marry as soon as possible
Oh, God how did I get here.
Is experience the only way to tell what that “symbolic emotional” thing is for a particular girl or how do you get better at telling?? - For context there’s a girl I’ve been hanging with quite a bit, even slept over but can’t/won’t have sex.. I couldn’t tell what element I was missing so ended up just saying fuck it, next. But it really bothers me that I never figured out that thing she needed..
While your talking to her, slowly stroke her fingers, just look at her fingers and play with them while listening to her bitch about her day.
Make sure you're deeply conversing with her and slowly give her a hand massage, every five minutes move up, towards her arm and eventually shoulders, back.
If she pushes you away, sit in front of her and stare at her and then begin with her hand again and work your way back up.
Eventually, if she has attraction towards you she will give in and you can massage ber back and then her chest, her thighs, and once you're that far just start taking off her clothes and she'll start helping you.
If she pushes you away, try another time, if she shuts you down cold, then you're probably too deep in the FZ and need to stop talking and texting her completely, and I mean, for like a week.
If she asks why you disappeared, after a long wait, say, We were having a nice time when we hung out but you acted a little odd, maybe we can hang out again sometime.
This sends the message to her that you enjoyed her company but were not happy with her pushing you away. Next time, do thr same things, start with her fingers, make sure you really examine them and listen to her very closely, you want to make her feel like the center of the universe.
Never date drunk women
Like for the squirrel.
If you went thru 12 years old speaking in tenor you probably understand what mirroring yourself at women is? She speaks like you used to ? She produces something called the children who will take your place because life is moving on The old classic men own the world doesn't mean anything in reality and uh God might own the world . Not all people are the same not all people are taught the same way either Although we are still taught that chemical differences are on between the sexes which is not really true either completely . Males who have a lot of hair have more female hormones Males who go bald have more male hormones Males with deep voices are less sexually potent males with higher pitched voices have more However these are only * small studies we should think outside of And this is what I'm saying . I know a woman who shaves her beard every day yet she is very female.
I have a niece who can fix a car faster than some of the males she knows? etc
add ads todd pleasee
meanwhile this doctors chick finding a reason to cheat on him wtf
you can never really fully understand women because every woman is similar by different. nice video though
😉 This is why women can’t be trusted in a long term relationship. Catch and release is the best option. Second best option is to have multiple girls, but don’t take any of them seriously.
I bought a girl a hot dog after the club and got laid. I believe if I didn't it wouldn't have happened. Sounds dumb but hey, it is what it is.
The squirrel
Goat
How many Guys have ADD ?
Squirrel
Help