I wanted to add that some of you might not have any friends because you’re just not ready yet! Our circumstances in life can limit us to the amount of friends we have and our social batteries. We all will have a period in time where we feel lonely but it’s just a period in time. You are loved and will meet the most amazing people one day.
Well um... actually only teenagers have real freinds lol. After you become an adult, well... like 95% of adults have no friends lol. Or have friends they met when they were younger. Like "driends" at work? Forget it. Noone cares. And adults practically never attempt to meet new people. It is just very cringy, cause when you are an adult, there are no "real friendships" anymore. There are "deals", awkward chats lmao. No time or need or time for friendship when 99% of your adult life is work and family lol.
Thank youu!! I’m a 10th grader with no outside school friends and half the time i feel so alone, I barley don’t even have family, I get jealous of seeing people with friends but thank you this help me.
If you feel alone with them or you feel exhausted those are not your friends! They are weighing you down. Don’t be afraid to explain how you feel to them and distance yourself until you meet the right people who make you happy and make you feel fulfilled when your around them!
frrr. I stopped asking my best friend to hang out because it was always me that had to ask. whenever she had the chance to hang out she already asked some other friend of hers.
I just started a new school and no one has ever talked to me. I feel really sad . Everyone has a group of friends they walk with but I just sit alone at the back 😢
OMGG this is so me. It seems like everyone knows each other while nobody even knows my presence in the class. Also my friend group has no classes with me but with each other. I guess that’s a sign that I am free with myself so I can truly and I say truly boldly, work on myself instead of waiting for someone else.
hey guys, just think of it as a community you need to break into & make the opportunities for yourself. join clubs & make yourself noticeable by speaking in class or answering questions (as an example). make small talk with people & banter with them. once you find somebody compatible that you can relate to, keep them as a friend. i know how this feels but just hang in theere cause it gets better.
i wish this could hit me the way it does others. i've spent every waking moment of my life learning this and eventually it just circled back around? i will not make friends on my own. if i don't learn to speak first and to speak in a personable manner then i will never make friends. i value friendship above anything else. sure, i'm growing more independent, but every time i go out and do something i end up crying because i just can't enjoy my own company anymore. my brain is loud and overwhelming and focused, but never about the right things. the only natural form of communication i have is through a keyboard. i've spent so much time trying to rid myself of social anxiety that i forgot to address the heavy shame at its foundation, and in trying to remove this, i've somehow made it worse? because now i know it's there and i know it's the problem but i have no idea what to do with it. regardless, this is a great video and i'm glad you've found such solace :D
Anxiety is something that everyone will deal with at least once in their lives and I can promise you that it will get better (I know how annoying that is to hear it all the time is tiring but it is true). I’ve been through my fair share of almost exact copy experiences of what you just said and described. It wasn’t easy but anxiety of any sort is very hard and scary to handle and end but it’s not impossible, remember that!
@@giovannalinardi thank you. life feels a bit like a broken record sometimes, looping the same words and feelings again and again. perspectives become much narrower when you don't know what to look at :)
The way I I relate so much as a sophomore the feeling of coming home and realizing that you don’t really have anyone that cares a lot about you is so heartbreaking
It’s incredible how a teenager my age has given me one of the best advices in my life, everything you said.so wise and mature . Thank you❤️ hope you have a nice life
Im stuck in that exact situation , except i have like actually no friends , one group of girls made me hurt myself physically and mentally , then another group of girls planned to make my last week at my old highschool hell. Im going into my new school in like a week , and its the most scary thing for me. I have MAYJOR social anxiety and anxiety itself because of my past friendships , where im going wont be exactly easy because im going to a school that doesnt speak english. It scares me to know if i will make friends or not. Like i grew up in BIG friend groups full of toxic , rude , 2 faced people ,now i just want a small group of friends that love me for me and dont judge me for who i am. P.S SORRY FOR TRAUMA DUMPING LMFAO 💞
Don’t be sorry! You truly deserve the world and if those girls didn’t give it to you, you don’t need to worry because someone else will. Sometimes we don’t even need to force ourselves to talk to others. Just being approachable will get people to come to us. Keep your head up, back straight, maintain eye contact, and smile! You’re going to meet a wonderful and loving group of friends, find peace in knowing that their coming to you soon!
it definitely took a lot for me to be comfortable with myself and my aloneness, but i think as long as you keep in touch with yourself, your beliefs, and keep being social with your surroundings and not self-isolate harmfully then it is 100% okay! i am so comfortable now and happy spending my 30 minute lunch break reading a book or doing homework. i dont blame myself or criticize myself much anymore and instead afford myself peace :).
Yeah for me being a teenager was already a nightmare but having to do it alone just made it so much worse then I think it should have been. And I think that my experience as a teenager still has negative effects on me to this day.
@@thewewguy8t88 Look at what whinnie did in high school. If you have solitude life, it means you have time to study. Once you are in college, that solitude life gives you plenty of chance to keep up with studying. Especially those with full time schedule in college, they barely have time to hang out. Once you are a college student, you are built to become independent. If you don't learn to get an independent mindset, you will feel homesick in your mind. All this time in high school, this alone time was meant to prepare you for college. After all, college is never about having social life. It is about studying because your primary goal is gaining your educational achievements. Being ok with solitude life is what prepares you for college.
this was one of those videos that changed my view of life ngl. i lost my only friend today cause of something dumb and this motivated me to use that free time i got now to better myself instead of chasing friends
i found this video at such a good time😭 I’m going on short term homeschool because I’ve been feeling really alone and this makes me feel so much better! I’m sitting in class alone right now and watching this video helps so much!
I know whatever you say is true, but I don't know why it is tough to implement. I mean, I am the student who sits alone at the back of the class, and this might not be the only reason I feel anxious in school, but it is one of the major ones. My anxiety towards school has become so bad that I have literally skipped school for 15 consecutive days in a month, and throughout the whole year, I haven’t been to school that much. But I definitely feel relieved when you say this phase will pass, and I am praying for this phase to end as soon as possible.
Im in my final year i always was outcasted in school and i realized the tragic reality of friend groups in Australia they die so quick. I moved to Turkey and i realized these people are for life sadly i moved back to my hometown all my friends here ditched me and these people were from childhood so it hurts badly but i made more better friends :)
Omg I'm going through the exact same thing and have been ever since covid started. I've been online since the pandemic and all of my friendships slowly died down. We grew up, found new interests and new friends. We only check in on each other during holidays and that's it. My phone is drier than the sahrah dessert. The only person that I talk to is only my dad, Auntie, and my mom. But I'm glad that I've had so much time for myself. I've been in a time where I thought I had to fit in. During that I found my faith in Jesus and focused on him and bettered myself. Haven't been happier since. Covid was tough but there was a purpose for it. I learned so much and I'm so thankful! Being alone is not a bad thing. It let's you figure out who you are and your friends and perfect love will come with time like you said!
I’m so happy for you man, I’m also trying to get better with my relationship with Jesus. How has life been for u now? (since it’s been 4 months since the comment lol)
@TheOneWhoLeftHisSonBehind. Thank you! I just started summer break a week ago, passed all my exams so I'm happy about that! I have plenty of free time to begin some hobbies, so life has been good! I hope you're doing well, too! May your relationship with Jesus flourish everyday :D
I had many highschool friends growing up, but its been 12 years since I dont even talk to any of them now. I have hit up a couple the past few years but we lost touch again due to life circumstances. Even my bestfriend who I known since we were 13, I havent seen him almost 3 years and its kind of sad, but its understandable. Simply put it this way it's all apart of life. Everyone is just too busy with their lives. You can only make room for friend for people who are willing to make time for you. For me most of my friends I know are completely online now, I have come to terms that friends come and go. Just live life the best you can. The ones that really care about you will ask call/text you how your day is. Most people cant even send out text cause some fear that they might be a burden to you. Some other people just dont care, and some just needs to be reached out.
I needed this!! just moved half way across the country and in my first year of high school and have yet to make any friends im also struggling with getting into the high school I wanted so its just so easy to feel completely alone right now
I know what's like to have no friends, I'm nervous and shy teenager, I was a panic attack when my teacher told me to do a presentation in front of my classmates and I had a feeling if they're gonna laugh me
I do have friends but when we were in the same class I realised I would be left out and it was the 3 of us and the others were in different classes and whenever when we had to pick partners they always chose each other and I was always alone. And I noticed whenever I didn’t speak first in conversations they wouldn’t talk to me or include me. And summer made me realise the difference between real friends and school friends. Most of my friends would say were best friends but when another person would ask them they would always say another person and their actions shows I’m not their best friend so I’ve been feeling lonely since I started middle school to now
This video made me cry, I expect in the period of Covid-19 that I became a little isolated from people, but when I returned to school, I became have friends and everything was good, but I was worried and completely distrusted towards my friends because of a toxic relationship, and after almost two years I left my friends because I felt that it was only a relationship of interest and I knew that I was only a friend with them because I do not want to be alone. And then I couldn't or didn't see the right friend for me and I feel very lonely. I'm a social person and I want to talk to people and be a friend with them. I really like it. But now I don't have a real friend and my relationship is superficial with everyone and I feel that no one understands me or has the same thoughts. I hate to sit alone or do anything alone and other people talk to their friends and laugh.
This video made you cry but it should also occur to you that this video is educational to you. There are times that valuable lessons you learn does not always mean a happy lesson. What that meant is this video just teaches you to love yourself. Think about this. If others sense you don't love yourself, they don't take you seriously. So don't be in a rush to get out of solitude life. If you make friends just to get out of solitude life in a hurry, this enables them to take advantage of you. They can manipulate you into being their doormat. When you make new friends, it is all about making a good impression. Same rules will apply when you go to a job interview. They won't take you in because you feel lonely. You have to name what value you have and know what you can bring to the table. Before making friends, the 1st step is loving solitude life. After all, there is no cutting corners of making new friends. If you cut corners in making friends, this enables them to mistreat you. See how she demonstrate in her video on how she gets used to solitude life? You got to do the same. You don't want to make friends in a rush just to get out of solitude life in a hurry. That will make them become your fake friends which is not something you want. Even if there are no covid, you still learn to enjoy solitude life once you become a college student. After all, going to college means you are trained to be independent. Lots of students especially full time students uses their solitude time to pass their classes. When you have workloads of hw, you will defend your solitude life more then social life. How you fit in at college is to have solitude life. If good friends come by, then great. If not, focus on studying. At the end of the day, primary goal in college is educational achievements.
@@hp2546 Yes, I said that the video made me cry, but it also affected me and gave me hope to love myself more and to use this period to love myself and develop myself, and also the same as I said life of isolation is not easy and to someone like me because I am a social person, but I know that I will find the right person at the right time because God knows the right thing for me. And thank you for your words and advice. You really needed them.
Some people think being alone feels lonley but it honestly doesnt it feels peacful ,it feels very warm at one point you get avcompanied and appreciate your own presents ❤and thats all that matters
Thank you for this i have in school Friends but i only see them at lunch and seat alone in most of my classes except one i Really felt alone and felt like no one liked me and i wasn't good enough.. But this video gave me the courage to Just enjoy the time i have with myself inside of Being sad about beinf alone Thank you ♡
same. recently i got seriously sick and was at home for a lot of time and i literally got none messages from my in-school friends. i’m glad you’re so opened about this topic and i think it really helps people
I had no friends and spent a lot of time alone as a teenager too. Now I'm 31 and still don't have friends. I'm still hoping I can meet people, though. You really should try to find ways to make friends. School clubs and other social activities for teens are great ways to meet others. Don't wait until you are older to meet people. The older you get, the more difficult it is.
One of my friend replaced me as soon as we stepped into high school and my other friends from my old school doesn’t talk to me anymore. I’ve been all alone for 4 months now and I finally know my worth. I realize even if you don’t have friends, you’ll still gonna be okay.
I'm 23 and my entire 4 years of high school, i had no friends, i actually didn't stay in the lunchroom. I stayed in one of my favorite teachers rooms which had fewer people but only lasted 1 year, and soon i was back to being in my phone lonely in the lunchroom waiting for lunch to end since it felt painful being there. That's what i remember. I did have friends but they weren't really mt friends Becuase all they asked were favors from me. What hurts me the most is seeing those so called "friends" going out to parties, parks, to fun places and you weren't invited, shows how fake everyone was during those days 😢. Now that im studying in college, it's a lot more flexible and i have a little more freedom since i choose my classes but still no friends either, i guess im one of those people who can't have a close friendship. I haven't gave up, i think i will find my people sooner in life. Yeah as you get older, life becomes more lonely and painful and sometimes boring. Sorry to be blunt but that is my experience. 😅
I just started high school and its horrible 😭 there are people i can talk to between classes but not meet up during weekends etc. my old school was sm better and i want to cry when i hear people say that these are suppossed to be the best years of my life
I completely understand the whole “only in school friends” type of friendships I have a love/hate relationship with them. I’m honestly going through that right now so just know your not alone in this girl!!
I had school friends who i hangout with during school hours and after school hours. We all use to eat at the restaurant down the street. Other then that i never hangout with them with in public such as the malls,parks, the beaches, theme parks and and parties. I had friends i made my Neighborhood that went other schools with i hangout .
I'm autistic and relate to this so much!! I go to school in a different city an hour and a half away from where I live and it's not easy for me to make and keep friends.. It's awesome that you're able to understand that about friends, especially in highschool!! (I'm in 9th grade btw) This is so validating ❤❤❤ You're awesome!! 💗✨
Thank you so much, you really help me though it. You make me feel like having no friend isn't that bad. You make me a little more happy. You make me feel like I am not truely alone. Thank you ❤❤❤
After everything you said in your video and your past experience in high school, you were already prepared for college. I mean being in college is all about dealing with independent life anyways. If you have 0 friends, nobody tells you what to do. They cannot take advantage of your time and you don't deal with appointments of hanging out. You have all the time in the world to study when you have solitude life. You had that life in high school which meant if you have that same solitude life in college, you don't worry about anything else in the world other then studying. More college students walk in campus alone so if you are one of them, you fit in. If you wanted to be a full time student, you will barely have time to hang out. 3:30. That can also be an example of a college student's life too.
YESS WHATTT I literally had the biggest group of friends in 8th grade and we were all so underlyingly toxic to one another and just one random day we all seemed to just ghost each other LOL and now I’m in 11th grade and got no friends ✌️ but I’m just working on myself tbh, it has taught me soooo much, I’m a completely different person and in a better way. I actually have my own personality and life now.
I’ve had friends when I was younger in school now I’m homeschooled and don’t be around people so I tried going to a Paul I used to go to and made 6friends but then I never went back 😢
ugh i just want a best friend again. i have a college friend but she’s always with her bf or her other friend😢 im sick of feeling like a hassle in friendships when boys come into the concoction.
I have friends but they live far away. I am also home schooled so I can't make friends anyways. Honestly making friends isn't something i care about, its getting the courage to live life to the fullest I struggle with that because my city is not walk able and I have to admit i am a scardy cat who can't do anything herself. Sometimes i wish i can just take a walk myself but my anxiety and self doubt block me from doing that idk what to do really.
im in my sophomore year going through the same thing at times it hard and i feel i wont make friends again because i have a hard time talking to people first
I don't even have any friends. Last year I had a lot of friends, I had five. But two of them changed classes, one of them changed schools, and only one stayed with me. Just then a new girl arrived at school and the only friend I had left replaced me with the new one. About three days ago I was the only one in the whole class who was alone. There was a project in pairs and there were two threesomes, and there could only be one threesome because we were odd-numbered, and the teacher said that someone from one of those two threesomes had to leave because I couldn't be alone. So one of those groups started arguing things like "Teacher, we said first that we were going to have a threesome, it's unfair" and the other group just denied it. I told the teacher that if nobody wanted to work with me, then it was okay that I didn't force them to work with me, but the teacher kept insisting that I had to be with someone. 6 people were arguing just because nobody wanted to work with me, it was worse for me than they could imagine. The problem was so bad that the psychology teachers came to solve the problem. I started to cry and finally a classmate reluctantly agreed to make groups with me, but I was already crying and could not work anymore. So I left the classroom with the psychologist, we talked for a while after I calmed down and went back to the classroom to finish my activity and I told the teacher that at least that class wanted to work alone. The teacher let me work alone and in the end the classmate who was with me did it with another classmate. I don't understand why there is such a hate towards me, if everyone treats me like that then I am the problem, even people I don't know make fun of me (maybe someone spoke very badly of me) I really want to change at school but maybe I won't make friends there either but at least people will have a new image of me. Besides, the school I want to change to is simply the same school I'm in but in a different location and there's the friend who changed and she tells me she doesn't have any friends either and I see her every Saturday. Well, if you have friends, really, you're super super lucky. I'd love to have friends, even if it's a threesome and sometimes it doesn't work out, at least appreciate that you have friends, that's all I want. (sorry for writing such a long message and btw English is not my main lenguage )
I rather have no Friends irl then what I have now and I became the opposite of what I was I wanna end it how cuz I changed I miss having no friends in school yall be grateful better then having somebody ur not comfy wirh
Can I vent? So last shool year, I was happy. The school I attended since 3rd grade until 10th grade is the same school. It is very small. I won't include elementary but highschool after pandemic is my 9th and 10th grade. 11th grade we all transferred schools because our school cannot handle the 11th grade (Context: It's not a rich school and 11th grade is senior highschool, Philippines Education System). My 11th Grade is a University, one of the biggest or prestigious University in the Philippines. I got culture shocked, from a small school, to one of the biggest University. I missed orientations because me and ny mother forgot to check or email. At my 1st day, I lost sections. 2nd day is better, but it's bad. Not because of the education, we're still in subject orientations. As I was saying, I got culture shocked. I'm used of seeing the same friends, now It's hard making friends at a new school when I don't know how to make one considering the environment I made from. When I tried to talk it's just a question. Then they go back to their circle of friends. Needless to say I cried behind my parent's back. It's my Mom's dream to have her children study in a great University. And I'm okay with that. But I just can't survive by education alone. I'm bery extroverted but I don't know how to approach them. Especially they're rich and my parents crawled just for me to get here. They're smart and the conversations they have are oure academis and I'm having a hard time to keep up because I'm not that smart. I forgot all my lessons while they seem to remember all of it from last school year. I'm crying right now because I'm scared of the changes. I'm not used to it. It's like a first grader going to college. I don't know what to do. I'm crying. I'm crying. What if I don't make friends? What if I cry everyday?
Yo, future me. Forget it. You have friends. Downsides is the school gives you a lot of assessments 💀. Lots of homeworks in the same week as midterms and quizzes 💀.
Hii, I started grade 8 this year and it's online, yay (how fun right😭) I'm honestly a shy person, so this year I stepped out of my comfort zone and actually made friends......but i couldn't keep those friends, so i tried and tried but i just gave up. The last time i spoke to anyone or even texted anyone was around march of this year. I don't even have in school friends, or friends to text/hangout with. The worst thing is I have tried to open up about how I feel to my family. But they either think i'm joking or faking it and they even make fun of me, so It's hard. On top of that before online school I used to have perfect grades but now my grades are just awful, it's sad because my mom doesn't like disappointments. So, there is a lot of pressure...
this video truly made me feel less alone!! i have about a year or so until i leave highschool and i don't have any friends,, i have classmates however,, i don't have any actual friends,, like you said,, im just the type of person people have around. i appreciate you posting this as it changed my mindset
im just very scared because im soon changing schools and i know no one there, yk thats a normal problem but the things is that my mental health really went down and im trying to find myself and be happy again, but im scared that the new people in class will think i dont want to have sth to do with them, my intentions sometimes really look different on the outside so i often get mistaken
As you get older, changing schools will become your norm. To give an example, what if you started out in a community college? When you earn transfer credit, you change to another school and then you go to a university. When you become an adult, your future will be more important then social life.
NO, NO THE FUCK IT'S NOT OK, I WANT FRIENDS, I AM TIRED OF BEING LONELY ALL THE TIME! Look, I'm sorry I'm saying this so aggresively but I'm so fucking tired of this.
I can’t find any real friends unfortunately. I only had 1 real friend who I knew when we were both 4 years old but I haven’t seen him since we were both 9 as he had moved to a different school and I had other people in my school who weren’t really my real friends but did speak to. They were alright till 11 years old, they all switched up on me and stopped talking
Not gonna lie I have this same issue is where I TLAK to people in school like friends in between classes or when we go to meet up in clubs n shit but if it’s outside of school I can’t even meet up with any of them and it sucks cuz I want to be able to enjoy lfie as well instead of stayinf Inside the house all day just cuz I did not have friends I mean I go out with cosuins don’t get me wrong but I Just also want friends to go out with
This is exactly what I’m going through and it can be so so hard like it can bring you to tears seeing people go out with friends and ur just stuck inside but I’ve just learned to pray about it and give it to God bc he has a plan for me and for you. Trust in his plan and everything will come with time!!
i have one best friend my whole life im homeschoolded now in 11th grade i lost like my middle school friends in 9th grade i only have one friend and been friends for 9 years
@@giovannalinardi yeah I know, just saying that I basically don't feel lonely at all I have felt loneliness before but it has faded away, and I understand what you're saying, what I meant was that it was weird that I didn't feel lonely
Its easy to do this though.. i wonder how you are still so happy when its really hard... And also, i think its true thaf you become the opposite kf who you were as a child whej you are a teenager i guess... So um, does your lofe change when you are an adult? Please dont tell me it will be the same as a teenager!!!?
Oh my gosh I know my form looks soooo bad in that clip, my back had been hurting so badly from sitting in class all day I could barley hold myself up right haha.
Im trying to find someone else like me If someone found this comment and can relate to me please like it ypu dont even have to comment I just dont want to keep thinking Im alone I have literally actually no friends , I used to get bullied so Im terrefied of kids I sit 7 hours in school doing actually nothing , not even saying anything , when I come home I sleep so I am always always alone so if u can relate please like if you dont I dont need your advice , or if you want to say something to me like im deranged It dont mean shit to me scroll
I relate to this so much and kind of always have. My best friend well now ex-best friend of 9 years ditched me 2 years ago and i kinda haven't had anybody as close to me since. I always think that people will talk first and text me first but never do lol. I'm sick of being the one that does that and lately been feeling like maybe it's okay that I'm alone for a little bit longer. I definitely want to be your friend :D
pals, just don't give a shit about loneliness. you're alone? okay. learn about yourself, have fun, educate, do some training. do what you love, life is short and you'll regret all the time you lost for nothing. take care of urself, you're doing amazing.
I wanted to add that some of you might not have any friends because you’re just not ready yet! Our circumstances in life can limit us to the amount of friends we have and our social batteries. We all will have a period in time where we feel lonely but it’s just a period in time. You are loved and will meet the most amazing people one day.
I can be your friend :)
Well um... actually only teenagers have real freinds lol. After you become an adult, well... like 95% of adults have no friends lol. Or have friends they met when they were younger. Like "driends" at work? Forget it. Noone cares. And adults practically never attempt to meet new people. It is just very cringy, cause when you are an adult, there are no "real friendships" anymore. There are "deals", awkward chats lmao. No time or need or time for friendship when 99% of your adult life is work and family lol.
Thank youu!! I’m a 10th grader with no outside school friends and half the time i feel so alone, I barley don’t even have family, I get jealous of seeing people with friends but thank you this help me.
That was my life as a teenager growing up and my experience is that still affects me to this day.
You’re not alone. My other autistic friends struggled making friends from school because the popular people didn’t accept them.
Ngl I’m literally in the exactly same grade and same situation and it be so boring at home 😭
Omg I'm going through the exact same thing and have been ever since covid started. It can be a little boring at times.
@@thewewguy8t88 I’m so sorry, your so loved and amazing! Your never alone!
I have friends but I feel like I don’t connect,
with them, I feel the most alone when I with them💗
If you feel alone with them or you feel exhausted those are not your friends! They are weighing you down. Don’t be afraid to explain how you feel to them and distance yourself until you meet the right people who make you happy and make you feel fulfilled when your around them!
Ewww, and then you become a worthless loser from the hit 🤢🤢🤢
girl i can completly agree with you, i stopped texting everyone and no on got back to me.
frrr. I stopped asking my best friend to hang out because it was always me that had to ask. whenever she had the chance to hang out she already asked some other friend of hers.
Had that happened to me before
Its refreshing to see people being open and talking about this. A lot of people needed to hear that (including me).
I just started a new school and no one has ever talked to me. I feel really sad . Everyone has a group of friends they walk with but I just sit alone at the back 😢
OMGG this is so me. It seems like everyone knows each other while nobody even knows my presence in the class. Also my friend group has no classes with me but with each other. I guess that’s a sign that I am free with myself so I can truly and I say truly boldly, work on myself instead of waiting for someone else.
hey guys, just think of it as a community you need to break into & make the opportunities for yourself. join clubs & make yourself noticeable by speaking in class or answering questions (as an example). make small talk with people & banter with them. once you find somebody compatible that you can relate to, keep them as a friend. i know how this feels but just hang in theere cause it gets better.
@@dorothy-gk8ky thank you so much ❤️ will definitely keep that in mind.
@@SkateMikuPaint-oq3wz good luck!! :)
i wish this could hit me the way it does others. i've spent every waking moment of my life learning this and eventually it just circled back around? i will not make friends on my own. if i don't learn to speak first and to speak in a personable manner then i will never make friends. i value friendship above anything else. sure, i'm growing more independent, but every time i go out and do something i end up crying because i just can't enjoy my own company anymore. my brain is loud and overwhelming and focused, but never about the right things. the only natural form of communication i have is through a keyboard. i've spent so much time trying to rid myself of social anxiety that i forgot to address the heavy shame at its foundation, and in trying to remove this, i've somehow made it worse? because now i know it's there and i know it's the problem but i have no idea what to do with it. regardless, this is a great video and i'm glad you've found such solace :D
Anxiety is something that everyone will deal with at least once in their lives and I can promise you that it will get better (I know how annoying that is to hear it all the time is tiring but it is true). I’ve been through my fair share of almost exact copy experiences of what you just said and described. It wasn’t easy but anxiety of any sort is very hard and scary to handle and end but it’s not impossible, remember that!
@@giovannalinardi thank you. life feels a bit like a broken record sometimes, looping the same words and feelings again and again. perspectives become much narrower when you don't know what to look at :)
Its okay u can do this and just know ur not alone :)) i literally am feeling that way since my new school started
The way I I relate so much as a sophomore the feeling of coming home and realizing that you don’t really have anyone that cares a lot about you is so heartbreaking
Your a cool kid, knowing your worth makes admire your families way of raising you
It’s incredible how a teenager my age has given me one of the best advices in my life, everything you said.so wise and mature . Thank you❤️ hope you have a nice life
Yeah having no friends in high school was extremely rough for me. It's a part of why being a teenager was God awful for me.
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Im stuck in that exact situation , except i have like actually no friends , one group of girls made me hurt myself physically and mentally , then another group of girls planned to make my last week at my old highschool hell. Im going into my new school in like a week , and its the most scary thing for me. I have MAYJOR social anxiety and anxiety itself because of my past friendships , where im going wont be exactly easy because im going to a school that doesnt speak english.
It scares me to know if i will make friends or not. Like i grew up in BIG friend groups full of toxic , rude , 2 faced people ,now i just want a small group of friends that love me for me and dont judge me for who i am.
P.S SORRY FOR TRAUMA DUMPING LMFAO 💞
Don’t be sorry! You truly deserve the world and if those girls didn’t give it to you, you don’t need to worry because someone else will. Sometimes we don’t even need to force ourselves to talk to others. Just being approachable will get people to come to us. Keep your head up, back straight, maintain eye contact, and smile! You’re going to meet a wonderful and loving group of friends, find peace in knowing that their coming to you soon!
it definitely took a lot for me to be comfortable with myself and my aloneness, but i think as long as you keep in touch with yourself, your beliefs, and keep being social with your surroundings and not self-isolate harmfully then it is 100% okay! i am so comfortable now and happy spending my 30 minute lunch break reading a book or doing homework. i dont blame myself or criticize myself much anymore and instead afford myself peace :).
Yeah for me being a teenager was already a nightmare but having to do it alone just made it so much worse then I think it should have been. And I think that my experience as a teenager still has negative effects on me to this day.
@@thewewguy8t88 Look at what whinnie did in high school. If you have solitude life, it means you have time to study. Once you are in college, that solitude life gives you plenty of chance to keep up with studying. Especially those with full time schedule in college, they barely have time to hang out. Once you are a college student, you are built to become independent. If you don't learn to get an independent mindset, you will feel homesick in your mind. All this time in high school, this alone time was meant to prepare you for college. After all, college is never about having social life. It is about studying because your primary goal is gaining your educational achievements. Being ok with solitude life is what prepares you for college.
girl you’re speaking nothing but facts here
this was one of those videos that changed my view of life ngl. i lost my only friend today cause of something dumb and this motivated me to use that free time i got now to better myself instead of chasing friends
i found this video at such a good time😭 I’m going on short term homeschool because I’ve been feeling really alone and this makes me feel so much better! I’m sitting in class alone right now and watching this video helps so much!
I know whatever you say is true, but I don't know why it is tough to implement. I mean, I am the student who sits alone at the back of the class, and this might not be the only reason I feel anxious in school, but it is one of the major ones. My anxiety towards school has become so bad that I have literally skipped school for 15 consecutive days in a month, and throughout the whole year, I haven’t been to school that much. But I definitely feel relieved when you say this phase will pass, and I am praying for this phase to end as soon as possible.
i just started school and i have no friends it makes me sad but i like being alone
same ☹️ i literally have zero friends at school and i sit alone at lunch
Im in my final year i always was outcasted in school and i realized the tragic reality of friend groups in Australia they die so quick. I moved to Turkey and i realized these people are for life sadly i moved back to my hometown all my friends here ditched me and these people were from childhood so it hurts badly but i made more better friends :)
Omg I'm going through the exact same thing and have been ever since covid started. I've been online since the pandemic and all of my friendships slowly died down. We grew up, found new interests and new friends. We only check in on each other during holidays and that's it. My phone is drier than the sahrah dessert. The only person that I talk to is only my dad, Auntie, and my mom. But I'm glad that I've had so much time for myself. I've been in a time where I thought I had to fit in. During that I found my faith in Jesus and focused on him and bettered myself. Haven't been happier since. Covid was tough but there was a purpose for it. I learned so much and I'm so thankful! Being alone is not a bad thing. It let's you figure out who you are and your friends and perfect love will come with time like you said!
I’m so happy for you man, I’m also trying to get better with my relationship with Jesus. How has life been for u now? (since it’s been 4 months since the comment lol)
@TheOneWhoLeftHisSonBehind. Thank you! I just started summer break a week ago, passed all my exams so I'm happy about that! I have plenty of free time to begin some hobbies, so life has been good! I hope you're doing well, too! May your relationship with Jesus flourish everyday :D
@@DreasTapesThank u so much this made my day 🙏
@@DreasTapesThank you so much this made my day! 🙏
1:54 the way I relate to this so hard makes me want to cry about it even more
I had many highschool friends growing up, but its been 12 years since I dont even talk to any of them now. I have hit up a couple the past few years but we lost touch again due to life circumstances. Even my bestfriend who I known since we were 13, I havent seen him almost 3 years and its kind of sad, but its understandable. Simply put it this way it's all apart of life. Everyone is just too busy with their lives. You can only make room for friend for people who are willing to make time for you. For me most of my friends I know are completely online now, I have come to terms that friends come and go. Just live life the best you can. The ones that really care about you will ask call/text you how your day is. Most people cant even send out text cause some fear that they might be a burden to you. Some other people just dont care, and some just needs to be reached out.
I agree that your time will come when you get to know new people. but to get there, you need to socialize and talk to people :)
I’m hanging out with the lonely guy tomorrow and genuinely could’ent be more excited cuz the lonliness are always the sweetest things.
I needed this!! just moved half way across the country and in my first year of high school and have yet to make any friends im also struggling with getting into the high school I wanted so its just so easy to feel completely alone right now
I know what's like to have no friends, I'm nervous and shy teenager, I was a panic attack when my teacher told me to do a presentation in front of my classmates and I had a feeling if they're gonna laugh me
I do have friends but when we were in the same class I realised I would be left out and it was the 3 of us and the others were in different classes and whenever when we had to pick partners they always chose each other and I was always alone. And I noticed whenever I didn’t speak first in conversations they wouldn’t talk to me or include me. And summer made me realise the difference between real friends and school friends. Most of my friends would say were best friends but when another person would ask them they would always say another person and their actions shows I’m not their best friend so I’ve been feeling lonely since I started middle school to now
This video made me cry, I expect in the period of Covid-19 that I became a little isolated from people, but when I returned to school, I became have friends and everything was good, but I was worried and completely distrusted towards my friends because of a toxic relationship, and after almost two years I left my friends because I felt that it was only a relationship of interest and I knew that I was only a friend with them because I do not want to be alone.
And then I couldn't or didn't see the right friend for me and I feel very lonely. I'm a social person and I want to talk to people and be a friend with them. I really like it.
But now I don't have a real friend and my relationship is superficial with everyone and I feel that no one understands me or has the same thoughts.
I hate to sit alone or do anything alone and other people talk to their friends and laugh.
This video made you cry but it should also occur to you that this video is educational to you. There are times that valuable lessons you learn does not always mean a happy lesson. What that meant is this video just teaches you to love yourself. Think about this. If others sense you don't love yourself, they don't take you seriously. So don't be in a rush to get out of solitude life. If you make friends just to get out of solitude life in a hurry, this enables them to take advantage of you. They can manipulate you into being their doormat. When you make new friends, it is all about making a good impression. Same rules will apply when you go to a job interview. They won't take you in because you feel lonely. You have to name what value you have and know what you can bring to the table. Before making friends, the 1st step is loving solitude life. After all, there is no cutting corners of making new friends. If you cut corners in making friends, this enables them to mistreat you. See how she demonstrate in her video on how she gets used to solitude life? You got to do the same. You don't want to make friends in a rush just to get out of solitude life in a hurry. That will make them become your fake friends which is not something you want. Even if there are no covid, you still learn to enjoy solitude life once you become a college student. After all, going to college means you are trained to be independent. Lots of students especially full time students uses their solitude time to pass their classes. When you have workloads of hw, you will defend your solitude life more then social life. How you fit in at college is to have solitude life. If good friends come by, then great. If not, focus on studying. At the end of the day, primary goal in college is educational achievements.
@@hp2546 Yes, I said that the video made me cry, but it also affected me and gave me hope to love myself more and to use this period to love myself and develop myself, and also the same as I said life of isolation is not easy and to someone like me because I am a social person, but I know that I will find the right person at the right time because God knows the right thing for me.
And thank you for your words and advice. You really needed them.
Some people think being alone feels lonley but it honestly doesnt it feels peacful ,it feels very warm at one point you get avcompanied and appreciate your own presents ❤and thats all that matters
Thank you for this i have in school Friends but i only see them at lunch and seat alone in most of my classes except one i Really felt alone and felt like no one liked me and i wasn't good enough.. But this video gave me the courage to Just enjoy the time i have with myself inside of Being sad about beinf alone Thank you ♡
same. recently i got seriously sick and was at home for a lot of time and i literally got none messages from my in-school friends. i’m glad you’re so opened about this topic and i think it really helps people
girl thank you so much you don’t know how much i needed to hear this.
I had no friends and spent a lot of time alone as a teenager too. Now I'm 31 and still don't have friends. I'm still hoping I can meet people, though.
You really should try to find ways to make friends. School clubs and other social activities for teens are great ways to meet others. Don't wait until you are older to meet people. The older you get, the more difficult it is.
One of my friend replaced me as soon as we stepped into high school and my other friends from my old school doesn’t talk to me anymore. I’ve been all alone for 4 months now and I finally know my worth. I realize even if you don’t have friends, you’ll still gonna be okay.
I'm 23 and my entire 4 years of high school, i had no friends, i actually didn't stay in the lunchroom. I stayed in one of my favorite teachers rooms which had fewer people but only lasted 1 year, and soon i was back to being in my phone lonely in the lunchroom waiting for lunch to end since it felt painful being there. That's what i remember. I did have friends but they weren't really mt friends Becuase all they asked were favors from me. What hurts me the most is seeing those so called "friends" going out to parties, parks, to fun places and you weren't invited, shows how fake everyone was during those days 😢. Now that im studying in college, it's a lot more flexible and i have a little more freedom since i choose my classes but still no friends either, i guess im one of those people who can't have a close friendship. I haven't gave up, i think i will find my people sooner in life. Yeah as you get older, life becomes more lonely and painful and sometimes boring. Sorry to be blunt but that is my experience. 😅
I just started high school and its horrible 😭 there are people i can talk to between classes but not meet up during weekends etc. my old school was sm better and i want to cry when i hear people say that these are suppossed to be the best years of my life
I completely understand the whole “only in school friends” type of friendships I have a love/hate relationship with them. I’m honestly going through that right now so just know your not alone in this girl!!
I had school friends who i hangout with during school hours and after school hours. We all use to eat at the restaurant down the street. Other then that i never hangout with them with in public such as the malls,parks, the beaches, theme parks and and parties. I had friends i made my Neighborhood that went other schools with i hangout .
As a guy this is extremely helpful thanks for the kind words God bless
I'm autistic and relate to this so much!! I go to school in a different city an hour and a half away from where I live and it's not easy for me to make and keep friends.. It's awesome that you're able to understand that about friends, especially in highschool!! (I'm in 9th grade btw)
This is so validating ❤❤❤
You're awesome!! 💗✨
Thank you so much, you really help me though it. You make me feel like having no friend isn't that bad. You make me a little more happy. You make me feel like I am not truely alone. Thank you ❤❤❤
i love this. best motivation to better myself and start a fresh page
thank you so much, im inspired by your positive outlook and your hopeful words, seriously. i hope all the well for you
After everything you said in your video and your past experience in high school, you were already prepared for college. I mean being in college is all about dealing with independent life anyways. If you have 0 friends, nobody tells you what to do. They cannot take advantage of your time and you don't deal with appointments of hanging out. You have all the time in the world to study when you have solitude life. You had that life in high school which meant if you have that same solitude life in college, you don't worry about anything else in the world other then studying. More college students walk in campus alone so if you are one of them, you fit in. If you wanted to be a full time student, you will barely have time to hang out.
3:30. That can also be an example of a college student's life too.
dam no friends it's ok, to get the right friends you need to be comfortable around yourself alone
YESS WHATTT I literally had the biggest group of friends in 8th grade and we were all so underlyingly toxic to one another and just one random day we all seemed to just ghost each other LOL and now I’m in 11th grade and got no friends ✌️ but I’m just working on myself tbh, it has taught me soooo much, I’m a completely different person and in a better way. I actually have my own personality and life now.
love this !! i needed to see this
Has it gotten any better for you?
I’ve had friends when I was younger in school now I’m homeschooled and don’t be around people so I tried going to a Paul I used to go to and made 6friends but then I never went back 😢
ugh i just want a best friend again. i have a college friend but she’s always with her bf or her other friend😢 im sick of feeling like a hassle in friendships when boys come into the concoction.
I have friends but they live far away. I am also home schooled so I can't make friends anyways. Honestly making friends isn't something i care about, its getting the courage to live life to the fullest I struggle with that because my city is not walk able and I have to admit i am a scardy cat who can't do anything herself. Sometimes i wish i can just take a walk myself but my anxiety and self doubt block me from doing that idk what to do really.
im in my sophomore year going through the same thing at times it hard and i feel i wont make friends again because i have a hard time talking to people first
I don't even have any friends. Last year I had a lot of friends, I had five. But two of them changed classes, one of them changed schools, and only one stayed with me. Just then a new girl arrived at school and the only friend I had left replaced me with the new one.
About three days ago I was the only one in the whole class who was alone. There was a project in pairs and there were two threesomes, and there could only be one threesome because we were odd-numbered, and the teacher said that someone from one of those two threesomes had to leave because I couldn't be alone. So one of those groups started arguing things like "Teacher, we said first that we were going to have a threesome, it's unfair" and the other group just denied it. I told the teacher that if nobody wanted to work with me, then it was okay that I didn't force them to work with me, but the teacher kept insisting that I had to be with someone. 6 people were arguing just because nobody wanted to work with me, it was worse for me than they could imagine. The problem was so bad that the psychology teachers came to solve the problem. I started to cry and finally a classmate reluctantly agreed to make groups with me, but I was already crying and could not work anymore. So I left the classroom with the psychologist, we talked for a while after I calmed down and went back to the classroom to finish my activity and I told the teacher that at least that class wanted to work alone. The teacher let me work alone and in the end the classmate who was with me did it with another classmate.
I don't understand why there is such a hate towards me, if everyone treats me like that then I am the problem, even people I don't know make fun of me (maybe someone spoke very badly of me) I really want to change at school but maybe I won't make friends there either but at least people will have a new image of me. Besides, the school I want to change to is simply the same school I'm in but in a different location and there's the friend who changed and she tells me she doesn't have any friends either and I see her every Saturday.
Well, if you have friends, really, you're super super lucky. I'd love to have friends, even if it's a threesome and sometimes it doesn't work out, at least appreciate that you have friends, that's all I want.
(sorry for writing such a long message and btw English is not my main lenguage )
In elementary school Middle School and high School i was alone in is still alone to this day😂😂😂
THANK YOU SO MUCH, this helped me SO much
Such a relatable video and very well put together
It's good to know I'm not alone
I rather have no Friends irl then what I have now and I became the opposite of what I was I wanna end it how cuz I changed I miss having no friends in school yall be grateful better then having somebody ur not comfy wirh
Can I vent?
So last shool year, I was happy. The school I attended since 3rd grade until 10th grade is the same school. It is very small. I won't include elementary but highschool after pandemic is my 9th and 10th grade. 11th grade we all transferred schools because our school cannot handle the 11th grade (Context: It's not a rich school and 11th grade is senior highschool, Philippines Education System).
My 11th Grade is a University, one of the biggest or prestigious University in the Philippines. I got culture shocked, from a small school, to one of the biggest University.
I missed orientations because me and ny mother forgot to check or email. At my 1st day, I lost sections. 2nd day is better, but it's bad. Not because of the education, we're still in subject orientations. As I was saying, I got culture shocked. I'm used of seeing the same friends, now It's hard making friends at a new school when I don't know how to make one considering the environment I made from. When I tried to talk it's just a question. Then they go back to their circle of friends.
Needless to say I cried behind my parent's back. It's my Mom's dream to have her children study in a great University. And I'm okay with that. But I just can't survive by education alone. I'm bery extroverted but I don't know how to approach them. Especially they're rich and my parents crawled just for me to get here. They're smart and the conversations they have are oure academis and I'm having a hard time to keep up because I'm not that smart. I forgot all my lessons while they seem to remember all of it from last school year. I'm crying right now because I'm scared of the changes. I'm not used to it. It's like a first grader going to college.
I don't know what to do. I'm crying. I'm crying. What if I don't make friends? What if I cry everyday?
Yo, future me. Forget it. You have friends. Downsides is the school gives you a lot of assessments 💀. Lots of homeworks in the same week as midterms and quizzes 💀.
Hii, I started grade 8 this year and it's online, yay (how fun right😭) I'm honestly a shy person, so this year I stepped out of my comfort zone and actually made friends......but i couldn't keep those friends, so i tried and tried but i just gave up. The last time i spoke to anyone or even texted anyone was around march of this year. I don't even have in school friends, or friends to text/hangout with. The worst thing is I have tried to open up about how I feel to my family. But they either think i'm joking or faking it and they even make fun of me, so It's hard. On top of that before online school I used to have perfect grades but now my grades are just awful, it's sad because my mom doesn't like disappointments. So, there is a lot of pressure...
Girlll your hair is so pretty
i can understand you bc i have no friends and yet i'm my self a teenager so i can 1000000% understand you just letting you know
I just want friends 😭
incredible video 💕
this video truly made me feel less alone!! i have about a year or so until i leave highschool and i don't have any friends,, i have classmates however,, i don't have any actual friends,, like you said,, im just the type of person people have around. i appreciate you posting this as it changed my mindset
Girl I’m also in 10th grade and I have no friends either and I feel insecure
Frr it sucks I'm waiting for school to be over
2:19 me 😭
im just very scared because im soon changing schools and i know no one there, yk thats a normal problem but the things is that my mental health really went down and im trying to find myself and be happy again, but im scared that the new people in class will think i dont want to have sth to do with them, my intentions sometimes really look different on the outside so i often get mistaken
As you get older, changing schools will become your norm. To give an example, what if you started out in a community college? When you earn transfer credit, you change to another school and then you go to a university. When you become an adult, your future will be more important then social life.
Thank U so much for this!!
thankyou sm this helped me so much 😁🤩
lovee this!!! Also I just realized we have the same name which is kinda crazy because I've never seen someone with the name Giovanna. :)
NO, NO THE FUCK IT'S NOT OK, I WANT FRIENDS, I AM TIRED OF BEING LONELY ALL THE TIME! Look, I'm sorry I'm saying this so aggresively but I'm so fucking tired of this.
I rather have 5 real friends then a 100 fake friends
I can’t find any real friends unfortunately. I only had 1 real friend who I knew when we were both 4 years old but I haven’t seen him since we were both 9 as he had moved to a different school and I had other people in my school who weren’t really my real friends but did speak to. They were alright till 11 years old, they all switched up on me and stopped talking
Not gonna lie I have this same issue is where I TLAK to people in school like friends in between classes or when we go to meet up in clubs n shit but if it’s outside of school I can’t even meet up with any of them and it sucks cuz I want to be able to enjoy lfie as well instead of stayinf Inside the house all day just cuz I did not have friends I mean I go out with cosuins don’t get me wrong but I Just also want friends to go out with
This is exactly what I’m going through and it can be so so hard like it can bring you to tears seeing people go out with friends and ur just stuck inside but I’ve just learned to pray about it and give it to God bc he has a plan for me and for you. Trust in his plan and everything will come with time!!
Well... Um... I have friends But I Didn't Have a _____________ 🙂💔
i have one best friend my whole life im homeschoolded now in 11th grade i lost like my middle school friends in 9th grade i only have one friend and been friends for 9 years
thats so true :)
remember to do it with God because we are nothing without him
oh my ur the sweetest i want to be your friend. When we have God we have all we need fr.
Thank you! Oh my goodness you’re truly beautiful and you seem so kind. My dms are open girl!
Holy shit I found someone with the same name as me!
Bro I never had any friends in my entire life (I'm 14 and a 9 months)like stop making me feel like some sort of anomaly for not feeling lonely my dude
@@sajmaibric5481 u can feel lonely but that doesn’t mean u need to let that dictate ur whole life. If you do you’ll most likely feel that way forever!
@@giovannalinardi yeah I know, just saying that I basically don't feel lonely at all I have felt loneliness before but it has faded away, and I understand what you're saying, what I meant was that it was weird that I didn't feel lonely
Thank you🙏
Its easy to do this though.. i wonder how you are still so happy when its really hard... And also, i think its true thaf you become the opposite kf who you were as a child whej you are a teenager i guess... So um, does your lofe change when you are an adult? Please dont tell me it will be the same as a teenager!!!?
i would love to be your friend u seem so cool, but im similar and im a senior but I've accepted it now :)
i love how you incorporated God into this
keep ur arms straight and loose when doing RDL's
Oh my gosh I know my form looks soooo bad in that clip, my back had been hurting so badly from sitting in class all day I could barley hold myself up right haha.
Im trying to find someone else like me If someone found this comment and can relate to me please like it ypu dont even have to comment I just dont want to keep thinking Im alone
I have literally actually no friends , I used to get bullied so Im terrefied of kids
I sit 7 hours in school doing actually nothing , not even saying anything , when I come home I sleep so I am always always alone so if u can relate please like if you dont I dont need your advice , or if you want to say something to me like im deranged It dont mean shit to me scroll
I relate to this so much and kind of always have. My best friend well now ex-best friend of 9 years ditched me 2 years ago and i kinda haven't had anybody as close to me since. I always think that people will talk first and text me first but never do lol. I'm sick of being the one that does that and lately been feeling like maybe it's okay that I'm alone for a little bit longer. I definitely want to be your friend :D
I will be your friend. I'm not real though.
bruh i wanna be friends with you, probs better than most of mine rn #loveclonewars
subbed lol
HEYYY
I mean ur eyes are really big bc of ur glasses so ik i wouldnt talk to u
great to know the feeling is mutual. God bless you!
@@giovannalinardi oh tyy😊
@@giovannalinardiPlz don’t listen to them big eyes r beautiful and more attractive imo 🙏
...🤣 Very shallow. Ridiculous
Its not ok, just COPE 🤡🤡
It's not ok lol. Ita cope
Ong
big ass eyes
pals, just don't give a shit about loneliness. you're alone? okay.
learn about yourself, have fun, educate, do some training.
do what you love, life is short and you'll regret all the time you lost for nothing.
take care of urself, you're doing amazing.