I am very surprised that so many people have seen this video. Thank you. I will answer the questions and those who care about me, which were many of the comments I received.☺️ The pandemic began before I started college and all my initial classes were online. Unfortunately, I also suffered from chronic illness for the next two years. With limited time and energy, I prioritized my studies and had little time to make friends during my college years. It is true that I was introverted and didn't fit in very well in high school and thought too much about my not extrovert personality, but I also made some good lifelong friends there. This video means that I have no friends in college. I apologize for any misunderstanding or concern my lack of English may have caused. But I literally have only a few friends lol. But now I believe that friendship is not a number, but a quality. I should love those who love me and now I am very happy. And I am very happy to have met you kind-hearted friends through this video. Thanks for reading to the end☺️
Friendship is something that can only truly exist if it founded in Truth.There is only one which is The Path ,The Truth and The Life: Christ. I let you an strong recommendation : Spent some time studying Scott Hahns books ''' Rome Sweet Rome'' and '' Reasons to Believe'' ,as well search for his lectures online. Again,loneliness is really good and beautifull if it's part of a true and meaning path,and this path can only be Christ .
@@FAC321 When youre old you will have already made plenty of friends, for some people making friends is a matter of time, some get it when their old and some when their young. The point is that friends often dont last until you become old which is why the journey of making friends is more important than the friends themselves.
Yeah but it can be hard when theres so much distractions in your way. I love watching "Day in the life as a loner" type of vids because i relate to them a lot!
Hi Haru. I'm a Finnish person from southern Finland. I'm 44 years old and I also don't have any friends. I don't know how old are you but you probably think it's ridiculous for this old person follow someone your age. But the title of this vlog got my attetion "I don't have any friends but have a peaceful life". I live in a small countryside village here in Finland and my only friend is my cat. I have "friends" online whome I have never met, so they're not my real life friends. I work among mentally handicapped people and my commute is only about 15 minutes, depends on the weather. During the winter, it can be snowy or so slippery that I have to slow down. Then it takes more time. Well, I end here now, not to get you bored. I liked this vlog and I'm going to watch them all, when I can. Bye.
Im an 18 yr old engineering student from Nigeria. I'm pretty much like this too, I have no actual friends, not because I dont like people but I find a sort of beauty and peace in solitude. I take a lot of walks to view to landscapes and sunsets here.Anytime im doing it, my roommates always ask if im sad or something but I tell them im simply practicing gratitude, gratitude for Nature and life.They dont really care tho, evertone always seems so worried for tests and exams but there seems to be no actual thirst for knowledge or joy in learning. Anytime I try speaking about this, im usually shut off in a way but thats fine. I love studying especially philosophy, physics and poetry and sometimes it feels like my mind is an entire universe ready to be explored. I'm rarely with my family but when I do get the chance to be with them, I spend and cherish every moment fully for they basically the only ones in my life right now. In short, I'm happy and tranquil with my current state. All thats required is acceptance I guess
I've found my twin 😄 i also LOVE philosophy and poetry , and take time appreciate the beauty of the universe, enjoying life my own way. I'm not a loner, I'm a pretty social butterfly kinda person but i prefer my own company most of the time.
@@greatorial1672 and I'm telling you friend,being in our own little imaginary dreamland is Far more interesting and happier than being with people,take it from an extrovert.
One thing I've noticed about these Japanese videos is they're calming, slow paced, no obnoxious loud people or raucous music, and they eat good food. Total opposite in USA. Greetings from southeastern USA 👋
There are still loud people and bad eaters in Japanese, as in other countries. i hate the stereotype about japan being this perfect calm heavenly place, because it isn't. That is the mans video style, not the whole country is like this.
Hello, I'm 56 and live in the UK. I don't have any friends because I lived in London for 10 years in my 20s, when I came home at 31, I had a baby and have been alone ever since. My daughter is 19, she is all I have, she will move out next year and I am a little afraid of being completely alone then. But you make it look calm and peaceful and not all bad. Thank you. I hope you are happy, I will watch more of your video's.
Nothing to worry about, do what you love and like as long as it´s legal and nobody got hurt. If you try to find friends or just people that have the same interest where you can talk to 1-2 times a wekk, maybe join a book club, a sports team or what ever you are interested in. Don´t force anything, and i bet you will make a friend along the way or maybe more ;)
Ich kann dich sehr gut verstehen. Ich bin 58 und lebe in Deutschland. Mein Sohn hatte 1 Jahr lang eine Wohnung, jetzt lebt er wieder bei mir, weil seine Beziehung zerbrochen ist. Das hat mir für ihn sehr leid getan, aber für mich ist es schön, ihn wieder bei mir zu haben. Es kommt immer anders als man denkt und vielleicht zieht deine Tochter doch nicht aus, oder kommt wieder zurück. Freue dich über die Zeit mit deinem Kind und hab keine Angst. Und selbst wenn sie auszieht, eine Tür geht zu, eine andere auf. Du bist nicht allein, vielen Menschen geht es wie dir.
There is no such thing as ''heaven'' for introverts if you are talking about a society so materialistic and with so much lack of purpose that people literally die and rot alone in their houses to them be found and cleaned like trash. Living alone is good,as long as it's part of a truth and meaning path.The materialistic and ''dead'' way current japanese people sees things is tottaly insane and ugly.If you are alone,and more important,rational and conscient ,you have plenty of time in silence to spend rightly: I recommend for you to separate some time every day and study the origins of Christianity with Scott Hahn' s books ' Rome Sweet Home ' and 'Reasons to Believe'.
@@Blspeek-ag just get your funding done, japan's currency exchange rate isnt bad at all, its actually quite good for 2nd world or 1st world countries/ major foreigners
I'm 16 years old student, watching this video from Russia. Japan feels like a completely different world to me. Culture, buildings, streets are beatiful and clean. After videos like that I want to visit Japan very much. Thank you Haru. Goodluck with studies
I appreciate your honesty and openness. I also don’t have any friends here in the United States, but I’ve realized you don’t need to be down about being alone. Sometimes it’s okay to just converse sparsely and do your own thing. However, I thank you for this video as it’s made me remember that I am not alone even when feeling so. Cheers to you and your family. Here’s to a healthy and happy 2025.
My son is my best friend. For years I was lonely, but then I found my wife, and we have a beautiful life. I hope you find whatever it is that makes you happy.
Thanks for reminding me, that this happened to my husband. My kid still at home and I are friends. I hope if they go to college they will adapt well like this young man in the video.
TH-cam suggested this video to me on sunday night. It was the perfect choice to watch while I was winding down. I feel like Haru is living in another world totally different from mine. All I see whenever I step out of my apartment is chaos and rudeness, yet all I sensed here was peacefulness and calmness. I need to visit Japan at least once in my life
Same here. Loud brash people all around & constant noise. In a world that never stops talking or moving these videos are like a balm for the soul 😌 It's nice to peek into another person's world for a while and escape the noise 😊
Yeah, because Japanese are like him in the majority. Japanese like quiet and solitude. Sometimes it feels bad because you lack friends and family, but we are all resign to live and die alone. In the end, we all die alone and nobody cares about you other than yourself, so this is what Japanese learn from a young age. Our families and relatives are also distant, so this is why Japanese no longer have close knit families and many elderly die alone without their children and relatives knowing after months later.
Hello haru! I am 26 year old western man who lives a tranquil life in the remote Canadian wilderness. I don’t have many friends and even those I consider friends I don’t see very often. I am not married and never been in relationship and have no children. When I was growing up, I used to sit alone at lunch during high school and go to hockey games alone. I am very content because I am not answerable to anyone except my manager and can live my life in peace. I work remotely which has its perks. I see my parents from time to time and we maintain a cordial relationship. It’s great to know there are other people out there who are introverted and have trouble connecting with others. It’s great to know I am not alone and it’s great to learn about your your daily routine as an introvert.
I'm an American from Texas who moved to Tokyo almost 1 year ago. When I first came here it was a culture shock and the language barrier caused me to have a hard time connecting with people. Coming to Japan has been one of the most amazing experiences but also one of the most challenging. I moved by myself and I was alone for the first few months. And even though I have made some friends I still do a lot of things alone. I have realized that its empowering when you get comfortable doing things alone. Thank you for sharing your day with us. It was fun and inspired!
From Texas, god that English sounds soooo good, I love it (It's the Cowboy-English), but respect moving to Japan is an extraordinary big challenge!!! I wish you all the best there!!!
Hi Haru. I was really hooked by your video because of the title "I have no friends but have a peaceful life” because I'm the same person. I'm about to be 18, but I don't have any friends at university either. I've been sad about this for a few years, but after your video I realised that friends are not the most important thing in life. In life, you can be your own best friend. There are so many beautiful and amazing things in the world that because of some lack of sociality, you might lose it. Thank you, Haru. Your video came to me at just the right time.🌱
this is me, i live in Turkey 🇹🇷 and have no friends, i prepare food for work and eat it alone at my lunch break, i'm peaceful and happy, i don't like people gossiping or so, i'm happy with my family life and living quietly
I'm a 27 year old Danish software engineer that moved to Japan for work earlier this year. My life in Tokyo started out a bit rough, having caught an illness that lasted 2 months and getting surgery all within two months of living in Japan. Dealing with that situation while being all on my own, integrating myself into a vastly different society and keeping up with a new job has been one of the biggest challenges I've ever faced. Yet having gone through it all, I now feel incredibly blessed to live in this magical country, and I see myself as a much stronger person after all. Anyhow, your video resonated with me, as my circumstance made it hard for me to connect with people the first few months of living in Japan, so I've found myself spending most time outside of work on my own :)
Thank you for sharing your story. May the happiness always be with you. I’m a last year Computer Science student and considering to work abroad. If you don’t mind sharing a bit more, what is the level of Japanese language needed for Software Engineer position in Tokyo? Did you use any agency service to handle the recruitment process? If you applied for the job directly (from your native country), where did you hear the requirements and how long did it take till you got accepted in the current company? I’m sorry for the long text. Hoping a good response. Thanks.
The title of the video caught my attention and was the reason I started watching: "I Have No Friends, But I Have a Peaceful Life." I'm 22 years old and from Turkey, in my last year of university. I've never had friends, mainly because I can’t tolerate mistakes that most people consider normal-or rather, because I try to live a life of integrity. But I’m starting to think that my life will continue this way. I feel excluded at school; nobody wants me around. I didn’t worry much about it in the past, but as I get older, I’ve begun to wonder if the fault lies with me. I think all I want is to be understood. I've been taking medication for the past two years because I've been so fixated on this issue, but to be honest, it hasn’t helped much. When I watched your video, I felt at peace. Seeing the life you live and the calm you have made me smile. The small details-even just an image of the sky-made me so happy. I think I’d forgotten how to notice those little things like I used to. Please keep making videos like this; I hope I can learn to love myself this way too. Thank you.
Even I had no friends in school mate literally I used to sit at the back of the rows . Nobody used to talk to me , I felt totally isolated from others This somehow affected me alot initially and I used to feel sad that why does no one talks to me ... but gradually everything became normal and I found out how to be fulfilled within ourselves.. mate their is no one in the world who will on ur side forever its you and only u (lots of love and power to you ❤) . *sorry for my faulty English *
The most beautiful thing in this life is being your own friend no one deserve your hard try, just estimate, love and know youself, don't forget that you are a precious soul. No need to take any medecine, just connect with your highr self my awesome friend, you are not alone much love, light and peace 💫💚
Hi Haru, your video also reminded me the times that I had no friends but still did my best to enjoy my life! In general, I'm conceptually considered an extroverted person who has a lot of friends, but what people don't know is that I also have had phases in which I confronted life all on my own because I had no one to reach out to within the limited environment at the time. I had also been a commute student traveling alone all the time, while other classmates were all living at school and thus had easily become closer friends. I had also experienced spending a large amount of time studying, procrastinating, merely talking to myself, and isolating myself from the rest of the world. Sometimes aloneness made me feel satisfying, independent, and peaceful, while other times it felt so numb and stagnant that I would want to go out and reconnect with the world and people. I'm not that much an MBTI believer so I think people's personality types are not definite and tend to change depending on environments and their different stages of growth. Hope no matter whether we have friends or not, we are making most happiness and satisfaction out of our life. Hope we can embrace the diversity within oursleves so that we're no longer pushed to socialize the same way as our peers.
I'm 28 from France slowly healing from a very rough childhood, I'm all alone too but my past has given me the strength to keep going and be content by myself. You just have to try and enjoy every single thing that makes you happy, and if when you're going through tough times, to remember it's ALWAYS temporary and push through.
Wish that you would be able to heal from childhood traumas soon. I know that these are really tough, especially when your childhood memories have already been ingrained in your subconcious mind but dont give uppp. Try to be gentle with urself and slowly detach from those unpleasant experiences and u will be fine.
I've just found your channel and this is your first video for me. I'm glad you're finding joy where you can. I'm from the US and older but like you have no friends so I understand how you feel. I hope things go well for you and happiness surrounds you
I'm going through the hardest times of my life right now and ended up being alone again after a betrayal and 18 years spent with someone. I had a little dog who died at the same time so my grief is doubled. But the calm radiating from this video and the peaceful guitar music was very soothing for me. Thank you !
As a freshman like you, I think I just saw myself. I repeat the routine day by day. Although sometimes I will hang out with friends, I still spend most of time with myself. So watching your vlog is just like watching my life. It’s more comfortable for me to be alone. But I still feel lonely and jealous of people who can easily interact with others and always look happy. It doesn’t mean I hate my life. It’s just not like what I expected in the past. I feel a little lost. But I really like your vlog, it’s so comfortable and peaceful. Wish you have a great day.
Im 15 with no friends and homeschooled and I chose this way because I learnt friends aren't for me. I got a cat and 2 budgies and I talk to my mom everyday :) peaceful life, I dont need the stress of drama, hate or envy, and before I made this decision I had some friends but Im not a very open person maybe thats why I decided friends aren't for me. Thank you haru, maybe it was good to know that im not alone
17 with no friends... trying to make friends but it has proven to be difficult bc of online school and being introverted/social anxiety. I am pretty insecure and embarrassed by it and I feel like I'm missing out but I have to remind myself I'll make friends, just like I have before. Hopefully even better friends, friends that'll keep. Also I really have a great life and family/pets that are basically friends. Thanks for sharing your thoughts... makes me feel a little better.
I'm 15 too with no friends and I also feel like having friends is just not my thing. For me making friends and maintaining friendships is a dificult task. Bc of my nature that I easily get bored with people and can't enjoy. But when I am alone I have noticed this thing that I am able to enjoy myself much more and live peacefully. Having friends is not worth it all because the amount of time you put into being with them doesn't guarantee you that they will stay with you forever and there are chances that they can backstab you too. That's why being alone is the best ❤🙂
hello to everyone in this thread. you all sound like great human beings. modern life seems to make friendships transactional. you sound like wise people who don't wish to be bothered by the falseness that is valued by today's society. I hope you are all happy and that even though you are choosing a solitary life, that you don't feel alone. I personally feel like God is always with us.
Thank you for showing us your day. Although life can be hard and stressful, there is still the small things that can make us smile and feel happy. It seems like our lives, even if we live in different countries are so similar. Great video❤
I mean what did you think? People living in canada don't sweat? Japanese people are neveer unkind? South koreans don't poop? Italians don't breathe? Obviously life is the same for every country.
I’m Spanish with no friends. I’ve always had some adaptation issues and I still have them. I live in a country in which there is a lot of social pressure. There is a constant need to socialize and having friends so my point of view about relationships is continuosly questionized. I think that if life is a balance, I have always put first my values and my sense of justice before adaptation to groups or people. I spend my time with my mother and my cats, and when I’m with them I don’t need anybody. Life is dinamic, people enters and exits in this path which is the life,the important part is to be surrounded by love and it can be given by people, animals or even just yourself. Great video!
I think almost the same way but this year life taught to be alone I life made me introvert because of bullying and I never had the opportunity to be myself with someone util last year that I found a best friend but as you said social pressure and they changed him and now he's trying his best but I don't feel the same energy he went to a family trip and for the first time I didnt' want to look for other friend to have fun just him but I know im in pain and tired of ppl idk maybe that's why I want to be alone like I always said Idk why life is keeping me alone but I felt what you said in a way
im spanish too and thats completely true. tbh i really enjoy being alone but sometimes i wish i had friends to go out and make plans. most of the time i feel like im the problem, but the truth is that im just really shy and introvert. that only changes when i feel really comfortable with someone and thats almost impossible. it hurts so much to see everyone having a lot of friends while in here alone lmao. i also live really far away from my family so it makes it even harder
That was really inspiring and also heart touching. I'm 19 yrs old and a uni student just like you. I've too faced various challenges in my life. I sometimes really envy those who get to study in their dream schools. It's my dream to study abroad but it's really difficult for me at the moment 😢. Thanku for providing me with this platform to share my thoughts. Wish you all the very best. Ur going great!😊
Im from the US and i have also always struggled to make friends, but this video reminded me of how good it is to also be friends with yourself :) the best moments in life are the little moments that most people take for granted, such as a walk after a good dinner, or a beautiful view while studying. With this video you reminded me to pay attention to those little moments and how beautiful and peaceful life can be if you look close enough :)
Brother I don't usually comment but the quality of your video is something I would pay to see it's so soothing and calm. I can totally understand the feeling of having no friends one side of your heart dieing to have friends but other side scares of risking the calmness of your life
I’m a 21 year old university student from Spain, and I don’t have many friends but a small group of them, and I enjoy every time I’m with them, but for the most time I’m alone, sometimes I enjoy being alone, well I’m not truly alone because I live with my parents (and I enjoy living with them), but sometimes being alone is relaxing, I love Japan, you’r university campus seems peaceful and the landscapes from your bus windows are precious, remands me of the Galicia (the place where my grandparents are), nice video, I’m subscribing to your channel
I've been living a lonely life lately, then I started finding these videos and now it's my company. I'm doing my last exams for this year and it's been really hard. Thank you for this refreshing content, take good care of yourself 🤍
8:26 I was reading all the subtitles suddenly I was surprised to see an interaction so personal & direct! I have a restaurant job that keeps me busy six days a week. It’s too difficult to have friendships with so much work that needs to get done however it’s nice to watch a Vlog so educational touching on ideas where responsibility is more important than free time. It helps me relax knowing other people are working hard doing good things for their life’s as well.
Lately I've been starting to lose my friendships and going through a deppressive episode. Thankfuly your video and the comments give me some relief and comforting since I'm nearly starting college next year! I'll probably won't have friends by then so I'm trynna prepare myself for the upcoming loneliness!
I’m 16 and from the USA. You’re living the dream. I used to have no friends back in elementary school, but boy was it peaceful. I have a small friend group now and I love them dearly, but your video of your life brought back memories of that same peace I used to have years ago. All someone needs is themselves or just a few real ones, I’ve never understood people who thought being lonely was a bad thing. Also, I think Japan is beautiful. It’s so tranquil, unlike here bc your busy day would be my most laidback day haha! Good luck with your studies! ❤😊
As an introvert in Singapore, working in a job that requires me to be an extrovert all day, I totally relate with the need to just unwind alone and be in my own thoughts and happiness. Being in solitary, as a choice, is beautiful. ❤
@@travelworklife717 That's Right... Being in solitary, a a choice.. IS SUPER COOL... I just was so popular in college... Then i just got my life in solitary when i start to work... i have 6 years without a couple... I just want to enjoy my solitary life and let some girl join to me and make a family... But its really cool to have no friends... Just enjoy yourself... Also i'm not an introvert... LIFE MUST GO ON
I started living in Japan last month to study. It feels lonely from time to time but I’m still enjoying my time here. Seeing familiar places and the food I also eat everyday in your videos made me feel less lonely. thank you so much and 頑張ってください☺
Hi, I'm another uni student! I can relate to what you're saying, as I haven't been able to attend school fully all the time in high school either. It has been tough and awkward to navigate, but ultimately, I’ve learned that it doesn’t matter how many friends you have in uni or high school. Sure, it’s great to have lifelong friends, but you’ll meet many people who may not stick around. This video really helped me realize that I’m not the only one who has been in this situation! Thank you so much! Sending love and appreciation from Korea!
Let me know how you commute to work, how you have lunch or any problems you have in your real life that you can't tell anyone about, etc! I would love to interact with you guys a lot and learn about different cultures and ideas!
I’m going to school for cybersecurity and computer science, similar to you. I drive to school at 12pm and then to work at 4pm until 12 am. So I leave home at 12 and get home at 12:30AM which is 12 hours later. I have troubles making friends in college because I am older than the rest of the students and I have to work all the time including every day after school. I’m in the same boat as you, except I like to socialize at school. You just have to strike up a conversation with someone at some point and maybe you’ll be friends. How the conversation goes will determine if you are going to be friends.
Hi I loved ur video. I feel like it’s not important to have friends I mean everyone is different and have different priorities. Even though I am young I let go a lot of my friendships as they were not good for me and now I have like 5 friends and I am content with that. Even friendships are not easy. But I loved how u can enjoy ur own company, it’s really inspiring. Hope u enjoy this aspect of ur life as many people don’t have the solace of being alone. I mean in india as young adults we don’t have privacy per se. There are too many people meddling in our life lol 😂
I am a software engineer in the US and i work from home. I dont have many friends and i dont usually leave the house much. my bestfriend is my wife. Today is my birthday and i am 30.
Hi, Haru! Do not worry too much about not having friends in college, I get it. Sometimes you just dont have too much time to socialize (or the energy lol) , so you focus on the studies. I have always had difficulty when i was younger making friends, too many bad people around me, who never understood my hobbies or the things i enjoyed, so i prefer to be alone and so the things i like, more than to please those people who judge me for what i enjoyed. Now that im in my 40's , i have good friends, few, but very good people. They came from all over, but they are precious to me, and i to them. I would not change a thing, being lonely in my youth, was totally worth it lol. And i used to use to bus to go to study, but in Lima, Perú, it is chaotic haha. And a lot of buses are old and very ugly, the traffic was just a pain... but oh well, I love my country non the less. I have a question, that defrosted meal you had, you didnt heat it in the microwave before eating it? it was just cold? It looked yummy, but i was confused, never saw a thing lke that haha. But you said it was safe, so it must be !
Thank you for watching🥰 Frozen foods for bento in Japan can basically be eaten as is! It is really great to be able to say like you do that you love your life and your country. I admire you from a far away country!
En los paises de por acá los buses no son para nada como los del video, ni los paisajes, y el trafico, es tremendo jajajaj Pero fuera de eso tenemos cosas bonitas igualmente 😼
Hello from France! I'm 22 years old, and I've also chosen the path of a peaceful life! I've always had one or two close friends at every stage of my life, but despite that, I often felt lonely because we were too different to truly understand each other. I mean, I never felt comfortable enough to talk to them about my personal problems, so I always kept everything to myself. One day, I had the idea to start writing stories. It's a great way to express things you've never been able to say to anyone. It also lets your mind wander and travel. Thanks to this passion, I’ve made online friends who also share their stories. By the way, I’m currently writing a story set in Japan. It’s a beautiful and very respectful country. I visited it with my family two years ago for an entire month in August. It was amazing and so inspiring. I see you have a guitar-is that your passion? Good luck with everything, your vlogs are super interesting and we can tell that you put a lot of effort into it!
Oh ! Je suis française aussi, je suis pas mal introvertie et j'ai seulement 2 amis aussi. J'ai commencé à suivre des petits streameurs sur twitch de qui je me suis un peu rapprocher, mais pareil, personne avec qui parler car je ne me sens pas assez proche et à l'aise. C'est quel genre de "story" que tu fais ? Et tu les fais où ? Ça m'intéresserai de me lancer là dedans aussi car je sens que ça me ferais beaucoup de bien. :)
@@snoowiesanta1885 j'écris des livres en gros. Je fais du roman mais en ce moment je tente un concours de light novel lancé par J-novel-club. Mes genres de prédilection sontle fantasy/fantastique, psychologique, slice of life et j'aime les touches d'horreur. Je ne suis pas sûre de ce que tu veux dire par "où je le fais" (tu parles de story insta?) mais euh... j'écris depuis chez moi? après il existe plein de serveurs discord dédiés à l'écriture (ou d'autres sujets), tu pourras peut-être trouver des gens qui partagent ta passion ;) oui écrire ça fait du bien, après ça demande aussi un peu de pratique et d'expérience pour arriver à des résultats satisfaisants. bon courage pour ton aventure
tu peux pas mener ce train de vie en France comme au Japon, en France quand tu te balades dans la rue tu te fais harceler direct, y'a trop d'insécurité en général pour se sentir en paix en ville, rien à voir avec la vidéo
my School life was lonely, but now I've got amazing friends in college. Still, I've realized that true happiness is about loving yourself and being your own best friend, the one person who will always have your back." 😊
when you are at peace in your own company and enjoy it, it means your life will be satisfying...not always chasing after something or someone to make you happy is the best.
I agree. It’s very clean too, it’s the same in Switzerland, if only North America could adapt to their norms….it’s just so messy over here. Don’t you agree?
I agree with you i too am a uni student and have no freinds at all At times its frustrating that the environment and the people around dont provide you with enough space to open up or simply just dont seem to understand you ,but its alright to have some roads crossed alone it gives us the insight to understand better who we are and that not every one has to fit in ❤you definitely got a great content and its very relaxing to watch your vedios.
You can‘t just wait for people to approach you. Maybe next term, when you have a new class with new people you can ask some if anyone‘s up to grab a cup of coffee/tea. Or if anyone has plans for lunch yet and suggest to meet up/eat together. When you sit together, ask people about their interests maybe you can do some sports together, check out a new restaurant, ask if there‘s any new movies they are interested in seeing in the cinema. If you‘re in a bigger town there might be some events. Unfortunately a lot of these activities can cost money and not everyone has money to spend so you could also suggest hanging out at a park (for a picknick, going swimming at a lake, playing games- if you already have games someone could bring), some events and festivals are also free to attend. Or there might be sight-seeing spots to check out…
I went to a college which was a commuter school. Most students had full time or part jobs outside of classes, so I also never developed long last lasting friendships. I definitely get where you're coming from. I guess its more difficult to make friends when people have busy homes outside of work or school. Nothing wrong with enjoying time alone which can be relaxing to shut out all the noise from a stressful day. Your neighborhood looks perfect for peaceful walks.
Fellow Programmer here! I'm a recent university graduate from Clemson University in the US, its really cool to see how similar a day at University is for you to how mine was when I was in school. We even had to write code on paper too, and it made no sense to us also. Being alone in a strange University can be daunting, but don't hesitate to participate in clubs and activities! I got into playing Volleyball in college and met most of my friends through that! Find something you love, and there will be others that love it too!
Good Advice, clubs and activities are where it is at. I play tennis (badly) but make many friends that way. You need something to do with someone not just drink and eat.
Hi Haru, im from Germany :] I like your video, it's so relaxing to watch and it's nice to see Japan again. I was there on vacation last year with my husband, who is now my ex-husband, and now last year's vacation to Japan somehow feels like a lie. I definitely have to travel to Japan again to make better memories. Let me tell you one thing: There are times when it is good to be alone. And you can also be very happy alone. And basically, thanks to TH-cam and the like, you are not alone. I feel for and with you. And we are all here :] Thank you for your touching video
When we learn to become our own best friend, we seldom ever feel lonely. Besides, attachment always leads to suffering, so better to be peacefully alone. Thank you for this lovely video, I wish you well my friend 🙏
such a sweet video, I'm shocked. it's almost exactly what i feel during studies in uni. i had gone to another country because of the war in mine, and i haven't even finished school. it took a lot to understand where i am and of course they're no ways i could think about my own future. last year i went to the university without knowing the language and without friends, and only because my mother told me to do that. I didn't understand anything of the lections, i didn't communicate with anyone and I just didn't want to. that's not fair, life is not fair i thought. later i became more and more anxious and ended with come back to the depression i had since fourteen. i have started to skip all of the classes and having no reasons to continue and to live. also my personal life had an impact on it so i couldn't escape from it. now I'm on the second year of uni and on the third in another uni online that in my country, i have got a cat i was dreamed of about a year, i went to the concert of my favorite group I have been listening to for 6 years, i know that I'm not a bad person and i know that all that happened to me is not an experience but a serious problem I have been struggling with. i deserve to feel sad or happy sometimes and i shouldn't think that I'm not enough. of course all of this is still on my mind but i realized that good days also could be, not only bad ones i wish for everyone relief in their lifes, you deserve everything you want, you're the biggest hero in your own life and only you can save yourself
I could feel that you have struggled in difficult circumstances that I cannot imagine. At times like this, instead of feeling sorry for you, I want to be there for you wholeheartedly. I have no power to stop the war, but I will be happy if I can make your heart, which is actually there, a little happier with my video and message. If you are truly distressed, please contact me by any means.
Hello there! I can't even imagine what you had to go through, but I'm happy to see that you dont' give up and keeping trying to feel good and positive, chasing the best life you deserve. I hope God help you to continue and you never stop to fight. Wish you all the best from Brazil 😊
Very happy to see so many people have watched this video! Also glad TH-cam recommended it to me. You seem like a genuine and nice person Haru. Hope you have a great day!
TH-cam’s algorithm really seems to get me lately, showing me exactly what I need. I also live a quiet college life, often caught up with work and other commitments outside of school. Meanwhile, my blockmates seem so close, always full of energy and having fun. Sometimes, I can’t help but feel a little envious of their bond. But this video was a comforting reminder that it’s okay to live differently. A quiet and peaceful life isn’t a sign of loneliness-it’s just a different kind of joy, one that feels calm and steady.
That was so peaceful and beautiful, i really needed this. I'm also introvert but I have to communicate with people due to my work which takes a toll on me every time. It's a hassle and overwhelming each time. It's a blessing to have such quality alone time with such beautiful scenery, enjoy while you can. I understand that you're feeling left out (I didn't have friends in highschool, so I understand it). But my advice: appreciate the solitude and peacefulness you have right now and focus on your hobbies and studies (hobbies are really important, they are important for our happiness) because, later on, you will have rarely time or luxury for such peaceful alone times. Besides, during the course of your life journey while focusing on your dreams you will definitely make really good friends ( I made my friends during my working life after college whom i adore).
I came across your video and wanted to say how calming it was. Do not worry too much about not having friends in college; I get it. I have always had difficulty making friends when I was younger, but now I keep my friend circle small, and it's nice. I wish you all the best in your studies.
Hi Haru, I'm a British university student and I live in London. My life is similar these days since I am sick often. Thank you for showing everyone how peaceful life can be this way.
Hi Haru. Those days i was feeling really lonely thinking i was the only person in the world that have difficulties to talk and keep people close. I’m so glad to see that I can keep my life and my peace without this thoughts just by seeing ur lifestyle. Thank u!
My first year in university, I spent all on my own, so I was all the time by myself as well. This new year, I made some friends, and even though it is fine to be with them, I sometimes feel like I don't belong with them and end up missing just being by myself.
Hola Haru, tengo 25 años y soy de España 🇪🇸, agradezco mucho tu tranquilidad ya que muchas veces me siento muy solo, es reconfortante esta forma de ver la vida, no sé nada de japonés y mi inglés es muy malo, pero gracias a tus vídeos creo que voy a poder mejorar, así que muchas gracias por ayudarme con ello.
Im a teenager from India who is also quite in your boat, I have many “friends” but a very few showed their friendship towards me. When you realise that very few people want you for you and not use something out of you it hurts but the sooner you realise it the better it is. Im thankful I realised this early on in life. 😊❤
I really like the way whole video was recorded. It is like subtitules are thoughts in your head and everything else is quiet. Now I feel exactly the same...I am alone in my apartment only me and my thoughts. Love this video!
Nice to meet you, Haru. I'm Anya from Russia. This is the first video of yours that I watch, and I really love it❤ I have 2 friends, and I also have peaceful life that I enjoy. You know, Japan, anime and such vlogs help me to remain peaceful when I come across obstacles. So I really wanna thank you for your work. Btw, I'm a 10th grade student and my commute to school takes give or take 30 minutes. I go by metro. I also attend volleyball classes in a sport centre thrice a week and the way to there takes at around 45 minutes. Wish you be happy, all the best💕
Hello! I'm from Spain, I'm 25 and I don't have any friends either. I wasn't very lucky with my previous friendships and I ended up alone. Sometimes I'm fine, but when I think about it so much sometimes I feel a little sad for not being able to share moments with a friend. Watching your video has made me see that you can be happy with yourself, I have to learn from that.
Nuestro país nos obliga a ser personas muy sociales y hay mucho extrovertido alrededor nuestra por metro cuadrado y quizás a algunos como nosotros, nos abruma. No te sientas sola y si algún día quieres hablar, aquí estoy. Saludos.
Such a calming vibe in your life and vlog! It’s inspiring to see you finding peace and joy in your own company. Thank you for sharing your journey with us!
Haru this really moved me. I hope that you stay happy! You are a very organized person, with a loving, caring, and kind soul. I really respect that. Though I can’t come to Japan right now physically, I wish to give you a warm hug through the screen. Keep going! You’ve already made it far in your life so keep going! I believe in you!
I subscribed mid-way and watched the whole video. Please keep making these vlogs. Being alone is great, but its also fine to want that close group of friends. I hope your peaceful life continues.
Hey Haru, i‘m writing to you from Berlin, Germany. I’m 25. Life here is pretty hectic, loud and stressful at times. Finding friends is not easy as most people seem unbothered by others. Still, it is the most unique city I know. Going to college takes me 30 mins in total. This is a pretty short time span for Berlin, people here are used with spending a tremendous amount of time in the subway, train etc., just like you. I know a friend that spends 3h each day to get to college and back as she found a pretty cheap flat in an outer area. Life is good, I enjoy our variety of food, sports and of course learning to be the best osteopath I can be. Seeing your surroundings that are totally different to mine makes me so happy. Thanks for vlogging
Hi Haru, I'm an Indian and have no friends. I'm glad to see people who are like me in the comment section. Only an introvert can understand how hard it is to make friends with new people. I'm going to give my entrance exams next year and kinda stressed about that. Sometimes I feel very lonely when I see people my age posting with their friends. But I could say that I have a peaceful life because I've got my comfort zones straight like reading, listening kpop, writing etc. However I do look forward to my college life and I do want to make good friends. I hope someday you'll also get good friends. I liked the vlog because it's just so peaceful and we introverts could only understand how much beautiful peace is. Anyways, I wish you the best for your future. 🤍
@Whoman-bean u dont know me so u cant speak on my experience. i think throwing trauma really simplifies the whole thing... it is for sure a disability for me, i went to school and tried to approach people and just dont understand how communication works even though i see it the whole time, my sibling is 99% introverted and traumatized as well yet they have more friends than me but thank u for the suggestion
(Watching this video while doing homework LMAO) You are right, it helps a lot to slow down and focus more on the surroundings. There is so much beauty in everything that we tend to overlook in our daily life. In Germany i always take long walks to calm down my mind when I'm having a hard time :)
Very calming video to watch while eating dinner alone at home after a rough day Things have been very difficult here in Texas but this video reminded me to be thankful for the nice things I do have I appreciate your effort and thank you for your thoughtfulness and ability to share your life to the world!
I started my first semester in uni this august and it hasn't really been what I imagined it to be. I don't have any friends and I pretty much started walking and people watch to comfort me with it. Life is beautiful but sometimes the loneliness does get to me. I walk to school and my walk is usually 20 minutes but with a tram it's just couple of minutes. I love your videosss, thank you for this comforting vlog! 😊
I'm from Spain, and right now I don't have any friends either. I can't study right now and I'm working. Usually my friends are temporary, somehow they always end up Ghosting me. I have learned to see myself as a person who is in the lives of others for a short time, helps them and listens and when they are better they leave. I have learned to see the beauty in being someone like that. My only friend is my partner and sometimes I also feel envious of how he plays with his friends. I felt super intrigued by the title, seeing more people like that!! Hope u are doing good Haru!
hola ! your comment holds such a lovely perspective , it managed to make me smile. i struggle with this quite a lot. just wanted to send some support from italy !! thank you!!! i probably will think of this again
Di que sí Sabrina, yo también soy de España y yo también valoro mucho el tiempo libre que tengo para mí, tiempo libre para mí pareja, viajar, y mis mascotas. No todo en la vida es fiestas, socializar y hablar como nos inculcan en nuestro país.
Thank you for sharing your life with us. Your videos are very relaxing and interesting. You have a very gentle soul 😊 Wishing you best wishes from England.
5:51 you seem very nice and kind Haru . Don’t give up and keep growing as a person . And as of you not having friends . I’m your friend from America now 😊. Take care ❤
this is the best channel i've seen in youtube, don't stop making videos, this is what many need, a little peace of mind, thank you so much for doing this. i hope your life goes well and you get what you want.
I never considered myself an introvert and always made friends very quickly but I think the last few years it‘s changed quite a lot. I have many friends and close ones at that but they are all from high school. I love them dearly but in the last few years I‘ve grown to like the silence around me when there is no one around and I feel calmest in my own company. I feel like I don‘t need social interactions to feel good even though I‘m still always very happy to see my friends. I started University with exactly those feelings: I already had my friends and at Uni wasn‘t making any effort to meet new people. I did speak with people I sat next to without feeling anxious like many introverts do but I was content with sitting by myself too. The thing is I don’t have any problems with speaking to strangers and I don’t care at all how it looks when I sit by myself either. This complete contentment with my own company has led me to not make any new friends at all. And in some ways I don’t mind it. As I said I mostly prefer my own company or that of my high school friends. The problem is that sometimes I do mind. For example I don’t have anyone to help me study and in general no social life at all. People always talk about how university is the best time of your life but I feel like it’s just passing by me and I’m missing out on it. All my friends are spreading out over the world and most study in a different city, so while they all build a new part of their lives there it feels like I’m stuck. I know I won’t loose them but it feels weird when they tell me stories of people I don’t know and I realize that I’m almost completely uninvolved in their day-to-day lives now. I still think that I will meet some people at some point and grow to actually love my time at the university but I don’t see my attitude/stance changing in the near future. For clarification I have met some people at Uni and for the most part kept in very loose contact with them (like lunch once every few months) and I don’t have any difficulties at all to do so but they never grow closer because I simply don’t want to put in the effort. Whenever I have the choice of spending time with someone or by myself I always choose the latter because I simply like it better and I think that’s the real problem. I still don’t even know if I should see it as a problem at all. I guess what I’m trying to say is that I fear I will always feel and act that way: complacent and going with the flow instead of actively trying to shape my life. And I’m scared that at some point in my life I will realize that this flow has taken me to a dead end and that my life will be empty and unfulfilling because I simply never bothered or dared to take a chance.
This is a very beautifully filmed vlog. I love getting a glimpse into other people's lives. It's comforting to know that people from far away countries experience the same feelings as me.
Thank you very much for your sharing. It really helps me with my neurosis anxiety and depression that I've been through recently because of stress with school and anxiety of loosing your friends and colleagues. You know turning away from you or something. I'm suprised how comments are so peaceful and kind, under nearly every comment is like an advise. Thank you very much. Greetings from Poland
I don’t comment on videos at all. But this video really struck a core with me. I’m a 23 year old introverted autistic American in the US who just finished university this past May, and trying to set up the next stage of life. I’ve been feeling pretty lonely since I graduated. Many of the people I know that I was attending my four-year university went back home, and a few people that I do live close to are always busy so we rarely get to see each other. And the people I rarely get to see I’ve known them even longer, as far back as when I was getting my two year degree or even high school. even though my social battery drains easily and I don’t like going out often. It still hurts not being able to see the people close with for a long period of time. I think that’s just part of life. At least that’s what I like to think. This video helped remind me that I can appreciate the small things in my day-to-day life. Doing something as simple as eating a restaurant, or going out on a stroll, can make that feeling of loneliness and turn it into small bits of happiness. Admittedly, I do have a hard time understanding people sometimes so I like my solitude. But sometimes, It can be a little much. But as long as I have my little sparks of happiness every now and again, Then I can be comfortable with being alone. Thanks for sharing this with us!❤ (Also sorry if this doesn’t make sense to anyone, I’m not exactly the greatest at putting my emotions to words. Which is Ironic considering the profession I’m trying to get into).
I didn’t make any friends these past four years at university either. I only have one really good friend from school so I’m content with that… honestly the people at university stress me out when it comes to assignments. I have such a hard time collaborating with them. I commute to university by bus too! I just discovered your channel, ganbatte with university and TH-cam Haru!
This video is just beautifully done. The landscapes of the city you captured and the rain hitting the umbrella gave me chills. I'm glad you can enjoy these small moments Haru. I will try to see the world a bit more like you do. Thank you for reminding me to appreciate the small things around me!
Aww…you bring joy to the lives of others by sharing part of your day. That helps make your life worthwhile-what you give to others. Hope you have a good week! Thanks for sharing.💛
I remember when I first moved to Korea in junior high having no friends. I have an accent when I speak Korean and I couldn't pick up on some of the cultural ettiquette. I did feel alone quite often. Your video reminds me that sometimes there is a calmness about being alone and we become stronger as individuals. I just found your channel today and I'll watch your other videos ;)
"I have a hard time walking because I ate too much, but that is also a happy thing." 15:47 That sentence made me remember all the times I got too full and complained. You're right being too full from eating good food is a good thing :)
I really love that you have so many followers. Your life is so well chronicled. It shows that you have such an ability to observe things and create moments out of your life for your viewers.
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I am very surprised that so many people have seen this video. Thank you.
I will answer the questions and those who care about me, which were many of the comments I received.☺️
The pandemic began before I started college and all my initial classes were online. Unfortunately, I also suffered from chronic illness for the next two years. With limited time and energy, I prioritized my studies and had little time to make friends during my college years.
It is true that I was introverted and didn't fit in very well in high school and thought too much about my not extrovert personality, but I also made some good lifelong friends there.
This video means that I have no friends in college.
I apologize for any misunderstanding or concern my lack of English may have caused. But I literally have only a few friends lol.
But now I believe that friendship is not a number, but a quality. I should love those who love me and now I am very happy.
And I am very happy to have met you kind-hearted friends through this video.
Thanks for reading to the end☺️
Friendship is something that can only truly exist if it founded in Truth.There is only one which is The Path ,The Truth and The Life: Christ. I let you an strong recommendation : Spent some time studying Scott Hahns books ''' Rome Sweet Rome'' and '' Reasons to Believe'' ,as well search for his lectures online. Again,loneliness is really good and beautifull if it's part of a true and meaning path,and this path can only be Christ .
Exactly! Friendship is about quality not quantity. I realized this after graduating from high school. Enjoy your uni days!
Haru-san, do you have to do any group projects at college? like presentation with colleagues? can you take class without doing group projects?
I would love to be your friend. I value quality over quantity also so I choose who I open up to very carefully.. thank you for opening up to us all
You have very good engagement under this vid, and this is apparently huge thing here at this platform. 🤩
Sometimes the best friend you can have is yourself
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yeah face it , when your old and lonely you will speaking to yourself - but least its your best friend !
@@FAC321 When youre old you will have already made plenty of friends, for some people making friends is a matter of time, some get it when their old and some when their young. The point is that friends often dont last until you become old which is why the journey of making friends is more important than the friends themselves.
Not sometime : ALWAYS
It should always be! The longest relationship you have is with yourself
I love simple lives, no drama, just being happy with ourselves and what we have .
But that’s not possible 😢
Me too
Yeah but it can be hard when theres so much distractions in your way. I love watching "Day in the life as a loner" type of vids because i relate to them a lot!
Me too. ❤
"love being selfish"
Hi Haru. I'm a Finnish person from southern Finland. I'm 44 years old and I also don't have any friends. I don't know how old are you but you probably think it's ridiculous for this old person follow someone your age. But the title of this vlog got my attetion "I don't have any friends but have a peaceful life". I live in a small countryside village here in Finland and my only friend is my cat. I have "friends" online whome I have never met, so they're not my real life friends. I work among mentally handicapped people and my commute is only about 15 minutes, depends on the weather. During the winter, it can be snowy or so slippery that I have to slow down. Then it takes more time. Well, I end here now, not to get you bored. I liked this vlog and I'm going to watch them all, when I can. Bye.
Finland looks so beautiful in winter I wish you good health 💖💕
Wow so genuine thoughts.
I wish you the best.
enjoy your life and take care .❤
I’m 45 yo from USA and I also don’t have any friends. I would love to meet you guys in person or through FaceTime.
You do have a friend he name is Jesus Christ
what did you just said looks like a beautiful opening for a beautiful book haven't you thought about writing a book
Im an 18 yr old engineering student from Nigeria. I'm pretty much like this too, I have no actual friends, not because I dont like people but I find a sort of beauty and peace in solitude. I take a lot of walks to view to landscapes and sunsets here.Anytime im doing it, my roommates always ask if im sad or something but I tell them im simply practicing gratitude, gratitude for Nature and life.They dont really care tho, evertone always seems so worried for tests and exams but there seems to be no actual thirst for knowledge or joy in learning. Anytime I try speaking about this, im usually shut off in a way but thats fine. I love studying especially philosophy, physics and poetry and sometimes it feels like my mind is an entire universe ready to be explored. I'm rarely with my family but when I do get the chance to be with them, I spend and cherish every moment fully for they basically the only ones in my life right now. In short, I'm happy and tranquil with my current state. All thats required is acceptance I guess
I've found my twin 😄 i also LOVE philosophy and poetry , and take time appreciate the beauty of the universe, enjoying life my own way. I'm not a loner, I'm a pretty social butterfly kinda person but i prefer my own company most of the time.
@@greatorial1672 and I'm telling you friend,being in our own little imaginary dreamland is Far more interesting and happier than being with people,take it from an extrovert.
@@jiminashita4489 jee thanks for the support😄
@@greatorial1672 😂excuse my blabbering, i got too excited
@@jiminashita4489 Its really fine,I'm just glad to know someone is kinda like-minded
One thing I've noticed about these Japanese videos is they're calming, slow paced, no obnoxious loud people or raucous music, and they eat good food. Total opposite in USA. Greetings from southeastern USA 👋
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thats not true lmao
what is it like in USA i am from europe and cant decide from USA and Japan
There are still loud people and bad eaters in Japanese, as in other countries. i hate the stereotype about japan being this perfect calm heavenly place, because it isn't. That is the mans video style, not the whole country is like this.
@P1nkuPeach There're no absolutes, of course. It's a generalization. Nobody said anything about heaven.
色んな国の優しい心を持った人たちで溢れてるこのコメント欄最高に癒される
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Agreed it quenches the spirit.
Hello, from North Carolina, USA
I'm 43 and I've been living alone for 17 years. People always reacted with "OMG" "WOW" how can you live alone for many years. I just smiled.
Hello, I'm 56 and live in the UK. I don't have any friends because I lived in London for 10 years in my 20s, when I came home at 31, I had a baby and have been alone ever since. My daughter is 19, she is all I have, she will move out next year and I am a little afraid of being completely alone then. But you make it look calm and peaceful and not all bad. Thank you. I hope you are happy, I will watch more of your video's.
Nothing to worry about, do what you love and like as long as it´s legal and nobody got hurt. If you try to find friends or just people that have the same interest where you can talk to 1-2 times a wekk, maybe join a book club, a sports team or what ever you are interested in. Don´t force anything, and i bet you will make a friend along the way or maybe more ;)
Whereabouts in the UK are you? 😊
Hello. I'm school child yet. I had not friends in childhood. Friends are rejected me. But now I have some friends.
Ich kann dich sehr gut verstehen. Ich bin 58 und lebe in Deutschland. Mein Sohn hatte 1 Jahr lang eine Wohnung, jetzt lebt er wieder bei mir, weil seine Beziehung zerbrochen ist. Das hat mir für ihn sehr leid getan, aber für mich ist es schön, ihn wieder bei mir zu haben. Es kommt immer anders als man denkt und vielleicht zieht deine Tochter doch nicht aus, oder kommt wieder zurück. Freue dich über die Zeit mit deinem Kind und hab keine Angst. Und selbst wenn sie auszieht, eine Tür geht zu, eine andere auf. Du bist nicht allein, vielen Menschen geht es wie dir.
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Japan is heaven for introverts. If you're a strong introvert, its the best place in my opinion, havent watched the video but just leaving the comment.
There is no such thing as ''heaven'' for introverts if you are talking about a society so materialistic and with so much lack of purpose that people literally die and rot alone in their houses to them be found and cleaned like trash. Living alone is good,as long as it's part of a truth and meaning path.The materialistic and ''dead'' way current japanese people sees things is tottaly insane and ugly.If you are alone,and more important,rational and conscient ,you have plenty of time in silence to spend rightly: I recommend for you to separate some time every day and study the origins of Christianity with Scott Hahn' s books ' Rome Sweet Home ' and 'Reasons to Believe'.
You also need money to have a decent life style😅
@@Blspeek-ag just get your funding done, japan's currency exchange rate isnt bad at all, its actually quite good for 2nd world or 1st world countries/ major foreigners
@@hike8932 i am from india
@@Blspeek-ag 💀💀💀
I'm 16 years old student, watching this video from Russia. Japan feels like a completely different world to me. Culture, buildings, streets are beatiful and clean. After videos like that I want to visit Japan very much. Thank you Haru. Goodluck with studies
And ur country just invading others country 😂
@@KennyyKaiSuss18 is it his fault?
@@KennyyKaiSuss18 And what he can do?
Yeah man same here, 16 year old engineer that wants to visit some calm countries with great looking lifestyle. We should visit japan together lmao
Оп салам 👋
I appreciate your honesty and openness. I also don’t have any friends here in the United States, but I’ve realized you don’t need to be down about being alone. Sometimes it’s okay to just converse sparsely and do your own thing. However, I thank you for this video as it’s made me remember that I am not alone even when feeling so. Cheers to you and your family. Here’s to a healthy and happy 2025.
My son is my best friend. For years I was lonely, but then I found my wife, and we have a beautiful life. I hope you find whatever it is that makes you happy.
Thanks for reminding me, that this happened to my husband. My kid still at home and I are friends. I hope if they go to college they will adapt well like this young man in the video.
Thanks
TH-cam suggested this video to me on sunday night. It was the perfect choice to watch while I was winding down.
I feel like Haru is living in another world totally different from mine. All I see whenever I step out of my apartment is chaos and rudeness, yet all I sensed here was peacefulness and calmness. I need to visit Japan at least once in my life
Same here. Loud brash people all around & constant noise. In a world that never stops talking or moving these videos are like a balm for the soul 😌
It's nice to peek into another person's world for a while and escape the noise 😊
Yeah, because Japanese are like him in the majority. Japanese like quiet and solitude. Sometimes it feels bad because you lack friends and family, but we are all resign to live and die alone. In the end, we all die alone and nobody cares about you other than yourself, so this is what Japanese learn from a young age. Our families and relatives are also distant, so this is why Japanese no longer have close knit families and many elderly die alone without their children and relatives knowing after months later.
Yea me too sunday night
みんなが、自分はどこの国の人間でどんな風に暮らしているかを教えてくれる温かいコメント欄素敵だ🥲🫶
友達が居なくても少なくても、幸せに生きられるし大事なのは自分だよね
Pozdrawiam z Warszawy 🇵🇱🤎🇯🇵 Polska
Saluti da Roma 💚 Italy
Hello haru! I am 26 year old western man who lives a tranquil life in the remote Canadian wilderness. I don’t have many friends and even those I consider friends I don’t see very often. I am not married and never been in relationship and have no children. When I was growing up, I used to sit alone at lunch during high school and go to hockey games alone. I am very content because I am not answerable to anyone except my manager and can live my life in peace. I work remotely which has its perks. I see my parents from time to time and we maintain a cordial relationship. It’s great to know there are other people out there who are introverted and have trouble connecting with others. It’s great to know I am not alone and it’s great to learn about your your daily routine as an introvert.
TH-cam was recommending me this video so many times and I keep ignoring it but now when I finally watched this, I realized it's so good
TH-cam tryin to say you have no friends (it recommend me also 😅)
@@festekiz Me too, even if it's a small crisis
Same. I sub to a couple of Japanese vloggers channels, and they are so calming and interesting.
I'm an American from Texas who moved to Tokyo almost 1 year ago. When I first came here it was a culture shock and the language barrier caused me to have a hard time connecting with people. Coming to Japan has been one of the most amazing experiences but also one of the most challenging. I moved by myself and I was alone for the first few months. And even though I have made some friends I still do a lot of things alone. I have realized that its empowering when you get comfortable doing things alone. Thank you for sharing your day with us. It was fun and inspired!
Us too! San Antonio to Kanagawa!
From Texas, god that English sounds soooo good, I love it (It's the Cowboy-English), but respect moving to Japan is an extraordinary big challenge!!! I wish you all the best there!!!
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And how was your japanese when you moved to japan?
@@SebasLink9982 I knew zero Japanese. I still barely speak any. I rely on my coworkers or Google translate most of the time haha.
No dramas No BS No mind games just peace and quiet. I love it.
Nothing just my paintings on wall
Hi Haru. I was really hooked by your video because of the title "I have no friends but have a peaceful life” because I'm the same person. I'm about to be 18, but I don't have any friends at university either. I've been sad about this for a few years, but after your video I realised that friends are not the most important thing in life. In life, you can be your own best friend. There are so many beautiful and amazing things in the world that because of some lack of sociality, you might lose it. Thank you, Haru. Your video came to me at just the right time.🌱
Hey, I’m also turning 18 soon; can we be friends?
this is me, i live in Turkey 🇹🇷 and have no friends, i prepare food for work and eat it alone at my lunch break, i'm peaceful and happy, i don't like people gossiping or so, i'm happy with my family life and living quietly
Yea especially coworkers are gossiping so much in turkey, I see
Aynı ben
@@Nessies_0:D
selam, ben de yalnız olmaktan fazlasıyla mutluyum :)
Being alone is kind of a bless
I'm a 27 year old Danish software engineer that moved to Japan for work earlier this year. My life in Tokyo started out a bit rough, having caught an illness that lasted 2 months and getting surgery all within two months of living in Japan. Dealing with that situation while being all on my own, integrating myself into a vastly different society and keeping up with a new job has been one of the biggest challenges I've ever faced. Yet having gone through it all, I now feel incredibly blessed to live in this magical country, and I see myself as a much stronger person after all. Anyhow, your video resonated with me, as my circumstance made it hard for me to connect with people the first few months of living in Japan, so I've found myself spending most time outside of work on my own :)
I’m concerned, are you fully recovered now?
Life gets better don't worry.
How are you now ? :) hope you are enjoying your life anddd I wish good luck for you friend~^^
Thank you for sharing your story. May the happiness always be with you. I’m a last year Computer Science student and considering to work abroad. If you don’t mind sharing a bit more, what is the level of Japanese language needed for Software Engineer position in Tokyo? Did you use any agency service to handle the recruitment process? If you applied for the job directly (from your native country), where did you hear the requirements and how long did it take till you got accepted in the current company? I’m sorry for the long text. Hoping a good response. Thanks.
My man living the dream!
The title of the video caught my attention and was the reason I started watching: "I Have No Friends, But I Have a Peaceful Life." I'm 22 years old and from Turkey, in my last year of university. I've never had friends, mainly because I can’t tolerate mistakes that most people consider normal-or rather, because I try to live a life of integrity. But I’m starting to think that my life will continue this way. I feel excluded at school; nobody wants me around. I didn’t worry much about it in the past, but as I get older, I’ve begun to wonder if the fault lies with me. I think all I want is to be understood. I've been taking medication for the past two years because I've been so fixated on this issue, but to be honest, it hasn’t helped much. When I watched your video, I felt at peace. Seeing the life you live and the calm you have made me smile. The small details-even just an image of the sky-made me so happy. I think I’d forgotten how to notice those little things like I used to. Please keep making videos like this; I hope I can learn to love myself this way too. Thank you.
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Even I had no friends in school mate literally I used to sit at the back of the rows . Nobody used to talk to me , I felt totally isolated from others
This somehow affected me alot initially and I used to feel sad that why does no one talks to me ... but gradually everything became normal and I found out how to be fulfilled within ourselves.. mate their is no one in the world who will on ur side forever its you and only u (lots of love and power to you ❤) . *sorry for my faulty English *
The most beautiful thing in this life is being your own friend no one deserve your hard try, just estimate, love and know youself, don't forget that you are a precious soul. No need to take any medecine, just connect with your highr self my awesome friend, you are not alone much love, light and peace 💫💚
hey, istersen arkadaş olabiliriz
@zenk0tsu telegramın var mıydı? amacım sadece daha kolay iletişim kurabileceğimiz bir platforma geçmek
Hi Haru, your video also reminded me the times that I had no friends but still did my best to enjoy my life! In general, I'm conceptually considered an extroverted person who has a lot of friends, but what people don't know is that I also have had phases in which I confronted life all on my own because I had no one to reach out to within the limited environment at the time. I had also been a commute student traveling alone all the time, while other classmates were all living at school and thus had easily become closer friends. I had also experienced spending a large amount of time studying, procrastinating, merely talking to myself, and isolating myself from the rest of the world. Sometimes aloneness made me feel satisfying, independent, and peaceful, while other times it felt so numb and stagnant that I would want to go out and reconnect with the world and people. I'm not that much an MBTI believer so I think people's personality types are not definite and tend to change depending on environments and their different stages of growth. Hope no matter whether we have friends or not, we are making most happiness and satisfaction out of our life. Hope we can embrace the diversity within oursleves so that we're no longer pushed to socialize the same way as our peers.
I'm 28 from France slowly healing from a very rough childhood, I'm all alone too but my past has given me the strength to keep going and be content by myself.
You just have to try and enjoy every single thing that makes you happy, and if when you're going through tough times, to remember it's ALWAYS temporary and push through.
Great things are coming to you ❤
Wish that you would be able to heal from childhood traumas soon. I know that these are really tough, especially when your childhood memories have already been ingrained in your subconcious mind but dont give uppp. Try to be gentle with urself and slowly detach from those unpleasant experiences and u will be fine.
I've just found your channel and this is your first video for me. I'm glad you're finding joy where you can. I'm from the US and older but like you have no friends so I understand how you feel. I hope things go well for you and happiness surrounds you
Thank you and Please be happy always🥰
I'm going through the hardest times of my life right now and ended up being alone again after a betrayal and 18 years spent with someone.
I had a little dog who died at the same time so my grief is doubled.
But the calm radiating from this video and the peaceful guitar music was very soothing for me.
Thank you !
Hang in there, one day at a time.
Greetings from England.
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Greetings from New Zealand! You got this! Just take life a little at a time, and give yourself some time to relax and do the things you love.
Wishing you the best of luck . Be strong . ❤❤❤
Hello. I believe we all stand by you so your journey of pain can end sooner. Stay strong and eat well
I understand how you must feel. It's very hard to lose someone and a pet at the same time. That can be very tough, but it will pass.
As a freshman like you, I think I just saw myself. I repeat the routine day by day. Although sometimes I will hang out with friends, I still spend most of time with myself. So watching your vlog is just like watching my life. It’s more comfortable for me to be alone. But I still feel lonely and jealous of people who can easily interact with others and always look happy. It doesn’t mean I hate my life. It’s just not like what I expected in the past. I feel a little lost. But I really like your vlog, it’s so comfortable and peaceful. Wish you have a great day.
Im 15 with no friends and homeschooled and I chose this way because I learnt friends aren't for me. I got a cat and 2 budgies and I talk to my mom everyday :) peaceful life, I dont need the stress of drama, hate or envy, and before I made this decision I had some friends but Im not a very open person maybe thats why I decided friends aren't for me. Thank you haru, maybe it was good to know that im not alone
17 with no friends... trying to make friends but it has proven to be difficult bc of online school and being introverted/social anxiety. I am pretty insecure and embarrassed by it and I feel like I'm missing out but I have to remind myself I'll make friends, just like I have before. Hopefully even better friends, friends that'll keep. Also I really have a great life and family/pets that are basically friends. Thanks for sharing your thoughts... makes me feel a little better.
@@tuliptown9058 yeah it does feel like im missing out alot as well and dw! maybe if you go to college u can make awesome friends!!
I'm 15 too with no friends and I also feel like having friends is just not my thing. For me making friends and maintaining friendships is a dificult task. Bc of my nature that I easily get bored with people and can't enjoy. But when I am alone I have noticed this thing that I am able to enjoy myself much more and live peacefully. Having friends is not worth it all because the amount of time you put into being with them doesn't guarantee you that they will stay with you forever and there are chances that they can backstab you too. That's why being alone is the best ❤🙂
@@RIYAKITAGAWA-eo5qj yes and its so hard to keep up with so many people and u have to please them all the time
hello to everyone in this thread. you all sound like great human beings. modern life seems to make friendships transactional. you sound like wise people who don't wish to be bothered by the falseness that is valued by today's society. I hope you are all happy and that even though you are choosing a solitary life, that you don't feel alone. I personally feel like God is always with us.
Thank you for showing us your day. Although life can be hard and stressful, there is still the small things that can make us smile and feel happy. It seems like our lives, even if we live in different countries are so similar. Great video❤
Indeed. 🇲🇾🍻
Thank you for Heartwarming comment🥰
I mean what did you think? People living in canada don't sweat? Japanese people are neveer unkind? South koreans don't poop? Italians don't breathe? Obviously life is the same for every country.
I’m Spanish with no friends. I’ve always had some adaptation issues and I still have them. I live in a country in which there is a lot of social pressure. There is a constant need to socialize and having friends so my point of view about relationships is continuosly questionized. I think that if life is a balance, I have always put first my values and my sense of justice before adaptation to groups or people. I spend my time with my mother and my cats, and when I’m with them I don’t need anybody. Life is dinamic, people enters and exits in this path which is the life,the important part is to be surrounded by love and it can be given by people, animals or even just yourself. Great video!
I think almost the same way but this year life taught to be alone I life made me introvert because of bullying and I never had the opportunity to be myself with someone util last year that I found a best friend but as you said social pressure and they changed him and now he's trying his best but I don't feel the same energy he went to a family trip and for the first time I didnt' want to look for other friend to have fun just him but I know im in pain and tired of ppl idk maybe that's why I want to be alone like I always said Idk why life is keeping me alone but I felt what you said in a way
im spanish too and thats completely true. tbh i really enjoy being alone but sometimes i wish i had friends to go out and make plans. most of the time i feel like im the problem, but the truth is that im just really shy and introvert. that only changes when i feel really comfortable with someone and thats almost impossible. it hurts so much to see everyone having a lot of friends while in here alone lmao. i also live really far away from my family so it makes it even harder
I'm waiting for all the (introverted) Spaniards to assemble here 👀 🇪🇸
@@ValiantAshira here we are xD
Me too! All of that! I'm American but I feel the same
That was really inspiring and also heart touching. I'm 19 yrs old and a uni student just like you. I've too faced various challenges in my life. I sometimes really envy those who get to study in their dream schools. It's my dream to study abroad but it's really difficult for me at the moment 😢. Thanku for providing me with this platform to share my thoughts.
Wish you all the very best. Ur going great!😊
This actually healed my soul a little. Thank you for sharing your life.
Im from the US and i have also always struggled to make friends, but this video reminded me of how good it is to also be friends with yourself :) the best moments in life are the little moments that most people take for granted, such as a walk after a good dinner, or a beautiful view while studying. With this video you reminded me to pay attention to those little moments and how beautiful and peaceful life can be if you look close enough :)
Hiii.. Don't worry about it..I think we can be friends ? Because I'm same as you 😢
Brother I don't usually comment but the quality of your video is something I would pay to see it's so soothing and calm. I can totally understand the feeling of having no friends one side of your heart dieing to have friends but other side scares of risking the calmness of your life
I’m a 21 year old university student from Spain, and I don’t have many friends but a small group of them, and I enjoy every time I’m with them, but for the most time I’m alone, sometimes I enjoy being alone, well I’m not truly alone because I live with my parents (and I enjoy living with them), but sometimes being alone is relaxing, I love Japan, you’r university campus seems peaceful and the landscapes from your bus windows are precious, remands me of the Galicia (the place where my grandparents are), nice video, I’m subscribing to your channel
I've been living a lonely life lately, then I started finding these videos and now it's my company. I'm doing my last exams for this year and it's been really hard. Thank you for this refreshing content, take good care of yourself 🤍
Good luck with your exams, you can do it!!!
8:26 I was reading all the subtitles suddenly I was surprised to see an interaction so personal & direct! I have a restaurant job that keeps me busy six days a week. It’s too difficult to have friendships with so much work that needs to get done however it’s nice to watch a Vlog so educational touching on ideas where responsibility is more important than free time. It helps me relax knowing other people are working hard doing good things for their life’s as well.
Lately I've been starting to lose my friendships and going through a deppressive episode. Thankfuly your video and the comments give me some relief and comforting since I'm nearly starting college next year! I'll probably won't have friends by then so I'm trynna prepare myself for the upcoming loneliness!
I hope you’re able to find peace being with yourself and that it continues as good friends come along❤❤
Hello, I’m in the same situation. I understand, and you have all my support. I believe in you !
Here for you❤
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@@evachan8821 yo
I’m 16 and from the USA. You’re living the dream. I used to have no friends back in elementary school, but boy was it peaceful. I have a small friend group now and I love them dearly, but your video of your life brought back memories of that same peace I used to have years ago. All someone needs is themselves or just a few real ones, I’ve never understood people who thought being lonely was a bad thing. Also, I think Japan is beautiful. It’s so tranquil, unlike here bc your busy day would be my most laidback day haha! Good luck with your studies! ❤😊
As an introvert in Singapore, working in a job that requires me to be an extrovert all day, I totally relate with the need to just unwind alone and be in my own thoughts and happiness. Being in solitary, as a choice, is beautiful. ❤
same here, have to put a face on at work as an extrovert, i found it quite nice to be alone and relax.
@@travelworklife717 That's Right... Being in solitary, a a choice.. IS SUPER COOL... I just was so popular in college... Then i just got my life in solitary when i start to work... i have 6 years without a couple... I just want to enjoy my solitary life and let some girl join to me and make a family...
But its really cool to have no friends... Just enjoy yourself... Also i'm not an introvert... LIFE MUST GO ON
you can't put a price on peace. pure peace is priceless.
I started living in Japan last month to study. It feels lonely from time to time but I’m still enjoying my time here. Seeing familiar places and the food I also eat everyday in your videos made me feel less lonely. thank you so much and 頑張ってください☺
What are you studying in Japan ?
Hi, I'm another uni student! I can relate to what you're saying, as I haven't been able to attend school fully all the time in high school either. It has been tough and awkward to navigate, but ultimately, I’ve learned that it doesn’t matter how many friends you have in uni or high school. Sure, it’s great to have lifelong friends, but you’ll meet many people who may not stick around. This video really helped me realize that I’m not the only one who has been in this situation! Thank you so much! Sending love and appreciation from Korea!
Let me know how you commute to work, how you have lunch or any problems you have in your real life that you can't tell anyone about, etc!
I would love to interact with you guys a lot and learn about different cultures and ideas!
I’m going to school for cybersecurity and computer science, similar to you. I drive to school at 12pm and then to work at 4pm until 12 am. So I leave home at 12 and get home at 12:30AM which is 12 hours later.
I have troubles making friends in college because I am older than the rest of the students and I have to work all the time including every day after school.
I’m in the same boat as you, except I like to socialize at school. You just have to strike up a conversation with someone at some point and maybe you’ll be friends. How the conversation goes will determine if you are going to be friends.
How old are you
I'm literally crying everyday cus of my work pressure
Hi I loved ur video. I feel like it’s not important to have friends I mean everyone is different and have different priorities. Even though I am young I let go a lot of my friendships as they were not good for me and now I have like 5 friends and I am content with that. Even friendships are not easy. But I loved how u can enjoy ur own company, it’s really inspiring. Hope u enjoy this aspect of ur life as many people don’t have the solace of being alone. I mean in india as young adults we don’t have privacy per se. There are too many people meddling in our life lol 😂
I am a software engineer in the US and i work from home. I dont have many friends and i dont usually leave the house much. my bestfriend is my wife. Today is my birthday and i am 30.
Hi, Haru! Do not worry too much about not having friends in college, I get it. Sometimes you just dont have too much time to socialize (or the energy lol) , so you focus on the studies. I have always had difficulty when i was younger making friends, too many bad people around me, who never understood my hobbies or the things i enjoyed, so i prefer to be alone and so the things i like, more than to please those people who judge me for what i enjoyed. Now that im in my 40's , i have good friends, few, but very good people. They came from all over, but they are precious to me, and i to them. I would not change a thing, being lonely in my youth, was totally worth it lol.
And i used to use to bus to go to study, but in Lima, Perú, it is chaotic haha. And a lot of buses are old and very ugly, the traffic was just a pain... but oh well, I love my country non the less.
I have a question, that defrosted meal you had, you didnt heat it in the microwave before eating it? it was just cold? It looked yummy, but i was confused, never saw a thing lke that haha. But you said it was safe, so it must be !
Thank you for watching🥰
Frozen foods for bento in Japan can basically be eaten as is!
It is really great to be able to say like you do that you love your life and your country. I admire you from a far away country!
Well, if 18 people from 18 different countries can be friends, why can't we. I'd be happy to be your friend. - VIN 🇵🇭
Yeah, I am having same situation in my student life and after student alife as well
But , I also have peaceful life❤😊I am happy 😊
En los paises de por acá los buses no son para nada como los del video, ni los paisajes, y el trafico, es tremendo jajajaj
Pero fuera de eso tenemos cosas bonitas igualmente 😼
Hey Haru, I don’t have any friends at school either, but you made me realize that I can still be happy with life. Thank you so much ❤
You seem so sweet and innocent to me. I love seeing people who are calm and happy with little things
Hello from France!
I'm 22 years old, and I've also chosen the path of a peaceful life!
I've always had one or two close friends at every stage of my life, but despite that, I often felt lonely because we were too different to truly understand each other. I mean, I never felt comfortable enough to talk to them about my personal problems, so I always kept everything to myself.
One day, I had the idea to start writing stories. It's a great way to express things you've never been able to say to anyone. It also lets your mind wander and travel. Thanks to this passion, I’ve made online friends who also share their stories.
By the way, I’m currently writing a story set in Japan. It’s a beautiful and very respectful country. I visited it with my family two years ago for an entire month in August. It was amazing and so inspiring.
I see you have a guitar-is that your passion?
Good luck with everything, your vlogs are super interesting and we can tell that you put a lot of effort into it!
Oh ! Je suis française aussi, je suis pas mal introvertie et j'ai seulement 2 amis aussi. J'ai commencé à suivre des petits streameurs sur twitch de qui je me suis un peu rapprocher, mais pareil, personne avec qui parler car je ne me sens pas assez proche et à l'aise. C'est quel genre de "story" que tu fais ? Et tu les fais où ? Ça m'intéresserai de me lancer là dedans aussi car je sens que ça me ferais beaucoup de bien. :)
@@snoowiesanta1885 j'écris des livres en gros. Je fais du roman mais en ce moment je tente un concours de light novel lancé par J-novel-club. Mes genres de prédilection sontle fantasy/fantastique, psychologique, slice of life et j'aime les touches d'horreur.
Je ne suis pas sûre de ce que tu veux dire par "où je le fais" (tu parles de story insta?) mais euh... j'écris depuis chez moi?
après il existe plein de serveurs discord dédiés à l'écriture (ou d'autres sujets), tu pourras peut-être trouver des gens qui partagent ta passion ;)
oui écrire ça fait du bien, après ça demande aussi un peu de pratique et d'expérience pour arriver à des résultats satisfaisants. bon courage pour ton aventure
tu peux pas mener ce train de vie en France comme au Japon, en France quand tu te balades dans la rue tu te fais harceler direct, y'a trop d'insécurité en général pour se sentir en paix en ville, rien à voir avec la vidéo
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Thank you Haru!!! Greetings from🇲🇽. You videos are humbling and show us how strong your character is. Friends will come along.
Thank you for delightful commenting🥰
はるくん、僕は インドネシアか から来た。 挨拶するよ。 はるは 毎日 一人で 住んでいる？ 一人で すんでいたら, きみの健康に 注意！！ 自分で お大事に！！！ 気をつけなさい！
my School life was lonely, but now I've got amazing friends in college. Still, I've realized that true happiness is about loving yourself and being your own best friend, the one person who will always have your back." 😊
when you are at peace in your own company and enjoy it, it means your life will be satisfying...not always chasing after something or someone to make you happy is the best.
you're never alone and you will never anymore as long people support and there for you dear Haru-san , we got you
Japanese culture and citizens are so polite and respectful. I wish we were like that in the US. It is so refreshing to see. Thank you for sharing ❤
I agree. It’s very clean too, it’s the same in Switzerland, if only North America could adapt to their norms….it’s just so messy over here. Don’t you agree?
@@snowecaddel9454 At least you have a good economy, in south america you got ugliness, messy and the economy is bad
Too much discipline could cause a person too tense and not cheerful and to force oneself to behave what the society wants him to behave.
I agree with you i too am a uni student and have no freinds at all
At times its frustrating that the environment and the people around dont provide you with enough space to open up or simply just dont seem to understand you ,but its alright to have some roads crossed alone it gives us the insight to understand better who we are and that not every one has to fit in
❤you definitely got a great content and its very relaxing to watch your vedios.
You can‘t just wait for people to approach you. Maybe next term, when you have a new class with new people you can ask some if anyone‘s up to grab a cup of coffee/tea. Or if anyone has plans for lunch yet and suggest to meet up/eat together. When you sit together, ask people about their interests maybe you can do some sports together, check out a new restaurant, ask if there‘s any new movies they are interested in seeing in the cinema. If you‘re in a bigger town there might be some events. Unfortunately a lot of these activities can cost money and not everyone has money to spend so you could also suggest hanging out at a park (for a picknick, going swimming at a lake, playing games- if you already have games someone could bring), some events and festivals are also free to attend. Or there might be sight-seeing spots to check out…
I went to a college which was a commuter school. Most students had full time or part jobs outside of classes, so I also never developed long last lasting friendships. I definitely get where you're coming from. I guess its more difficult to make friends when people have busy homes outside of work or school. Nothing wrong with enjoying time alone which can be relaxing to shut out all the noise from a stressful day. Your neighborhood looks perfect for peaceful walks.
Fellow Programmer here! I'm a recent university graduate from Clemson University in the US, its really cool to see how similar a day at University is for you to how mine was when I was in school. We even had to write code on paper too, and it made no sense to us also.
Being alone in a strange University can be daunting, but don't hesitate to participate in clubs and activities! I got into playing Volleyball in college and met most of my friends through that! Find something you love, and there will be others that love it too!
Thank you for good advice!🥹
Good Advice, clubs and activities are where it is at. I play tennis (badly) but make many friends that way. You need something to do with someone not just drink and eat.
Then what would be his TH-cam hook?
Hi Haru, im from Germany :] I like your video, it's so relaxing to watch and it's nice to see Japan again. I was there on vacation last year with my husband, who is now my ex-husband, and now last year's vacation to Japan somehow feels like a lie. I definitely have to travel to Japan again to make better memories. Let me tell you one thing: There are times when it is good to be alone. And you can also be very happy alone. And basically, thanks to TH-cam and the like, you are not alone. I feel for and with you. And we are all here :] Thank you for your touching video
When we learn to become our own best friend, we seldom ever feel lonely. Besides, attachment always leads to suffering, so better to be peacefully alone. Thank you for this lovely video, I wish you well my friend 🙏
You're so kind and the video was heartwarming ❤
such a sweet video, I'm shocked. it's almost exactly what i feel during studies in uni. i had gone to another country because of the war in mine, and i haven't even finished school. it took a lot to understand where i am and of course they're no ways i could think about my own future. last year i went to the university without knowing the language and without friends, and only because my mother told me to do that. I didn't understand anything of the lections, i didn't communicate with anyone and I just didn't want to. that's not fair, life is not fair i thought. later i became more and more anxious and ended with come back to the depression i had since fourteen. i have started to skip all of the classes and having no reasons to continue and to live. also my personal life had an impact on it so i couldn't escape from it. now I'm on the second year of uni and on the third in another uni online that in my country, i have got a cat i was dreamed of about a year, i went to the concert of my favorite group I have been listening to for 6 years, i know that I'm not a bad person and i know that all that happened to me is not an experience but a serious problem I have been struggling with. i deserve to feel sad or happy sometimes and i shouldn't think that I'm not enough. of course all of this is still on my mind but i realized that good days also could be, not only bad ones
i wish for everyone relief in their lifes, you deserve everything you want, you're the biggest hero in your own life and only you can save yourself
I could feel that you have struggled in difficult circumstances that I cannot imagine.
At times like this, instead of feeling sorry for you, I want to be there for you wholeheartedly.
I have no power to stop the war, but I will be happy if I can make your heart, which is actually there, a little happier with my video and message.
If you are truly distressed, please contact me by any means.
@@Haru_is_japanese thank you so much ❤️
Umarım dinden çıkmışsındır ülkeni tahmin edebiliyorum
Hello there! I can't even imagine what you had to go through, but I'm happy to see that you dont' give up and keeping trying to feel good and positive, chasing the best life you deserve. I hope God help you to continue and you never stop to fight. Wish you all the best from Brazil 😊
I feel good to read this.. It's so relatable to me! And I'm someone who try to see it in similar perspective.
Wish you the best,hero😊!✨
Very happy to see so many people have watched this video! Also glad TH-cam recommended it to me. You seem like a genuine and nice person Haru. Hope you have a great day!
TH-cam’s algorithm really seems to get me lately, showing me exactly what I need. I also live a quiet college life, often caught up with work and other commitments outside of school. Meanwhile, my blockmates seem so close, always full of energy and having fun.
Sometimes, I can’t help but feel a little envious of their bond. But this video was a comforting reminder that it’s okay to live differently. A quiet and peaceful life isn’t a sign of loneliness-it’s just a different kind of joy, one that feels calm and steady.
this was the most calming video ive seen in a while, thanks man :3
That was so peaceful and beautiful, i really needed this. I'm also introvert but I have to communicate with people due to my work which takes a toll on me every time. It's a hassle and overwhelming each time. It's a blessing to have such quality alone time with such beautiful scenery, enjoy while you can. I understand that you're feeling left out (I didn't have friends in highschool, so I understand it). But my advice: appreciate the solitude and peacefulness you have right now and focus on your hobbies and studies (hobbies are really important, they are important for our happiness) because, later on, you will have rarely time or luxury for such peaceful alone times. Besides, during the course of your life journey while focusing on your dreams you will definitely make really good friends ( I made my friends during my working life after college whom i adore).
I came across your video and wanted to say how calming it was. Do not worry too much about not having friends in college; I get it. I have always had difficulty making friends when I was younger, but now I keep my friend circle small, and it's nice. I wish you all the best in your studies.
Hi Haru, I'm a British university student and I live in London. My life is similar these days since I am sick often. Thank you for showing everyone how peaceful life can be this way.
Hi Haru. Those days i was feeling really lonely thinking i was the only person in the world that have difficulties to talk and keep people close. I’m so glad to see that I can keep my life and my peace without this thoughts just by seeing ur lifestyle. Thank u!
My first year in university, I spent all on my own, so I was all the time by myself as well. This new year, I made some friends, and even though it is fine to be with them, I sometimes feel like I don't belong with them and end up missing just being by myself.
Hola Haru, tengo 25 años y soy de España 🇪🇸, agradezco mucho tu tranquilidad ya que muchas veces me siento muy solo, es reconfortante esta forma de ver la vida, no sé nada de japonés y mi inglés es muy malo, pero gracias a tus vídeos creo que voy a poder mejorar, así que muchas gracias por ayudarme con ello.
Im a teenager from India who is also quite in your boat, I have many “friends” but a very few showed their friendship towards me. When you realise that very few people want you for you and not use something out of you it hurts but the sooner you realise it the better it is. Im thankful I realised this early on in life. 😊❤
I really like the way whole video was recorded. It is like subtitules are thoughts in your head and everything else is quiet. Now I feel exactly the same...I am alone in my apartment only me and my thoughts. Love this video!
Nice to meet you, Haru. I'm Anya from Russia. This is the first video of yours that I watch, and I really love it❤ I have 2 friends, and I also have peaceful life that I enjoy. You know, Japan, anime and such vlogs help me to remain peaceful when I come across obstacles. So I really wanna thank you for your work. Btw, I'm a 10th grade student and my commute to school takes give or take 30 minutes. I go by metro. I also attend volleyball classes in a sport centre thrice a week and the way to there takes at around 45 minutes.
Wish you be happy, all the best💕
русские тут!
я знааал! :D
Hello! I'm from Spain, I'm 25 and I don't have any friends either. I wasn't very lucky with my previous friendships and I ended up alone. Sometimes I'm fine, but when I think about it so much sometimes I feel a little sad for not being able to share moments with a friend. Watching your video has made me see that you can be happy with yourself, I have to learn from that.
@ximenaechevarriacontreras exacto, debería aprender y espero que algún día lo consiga! Me encantaría hablar contigo 😊
@natalia2_99 Si es un proceso largo pero se que se puede. Si tu quieres me das tu instagram u otra red social para hablar :)
@@natalia2_99 Si es un proceso largo. Si tu deseas me das alguna red social donde podamos hablar :)
Nuestro país nos obliga a ser personas muy sociales y hay mucho extrovertido alrededor nuestra por metro cuadrado y quizás a algunos como nosotros, nos abruma. No te sientas sola y si algún día quieres hablar, aquí estoy. Saludos.
@@imperialx4781 cierto, y si te ven solo te miran mal o se ríen de ti, ojalá fuese como en Japón 😅 me encantaría!
Such a calming vibe in your life and vlog! It’s inspiring to see you finding peace and joy in your own company. Thank you for sharing your journey with us!
Haru this really moved me. I hope that you stay happy! You are a very organized person, with a loving, caring, and kind soul. I really respect that. Though I can’t come to Japan right now physically, I wish to give you a warm hug through the screen. Keep going! You’ve already made it far in your life so keep going! I believe in you!
Definition of "I'm just a chill guy"
I subscribed mid-way and watched the whole video. Please keep making these vlogs. Being alone is great, but its also fine to want that close group of friends. I hope your peaceful life continues.
You just made my day a little bit better! These type of videos brings joy and calmness to me, ありがとう for that my friend! Greetings from Serbia. 🙇🏻♂️😊
Thank you friend🥰
Hey Haru, i‘m writing to you from Berlin, Germany. I’m 25. Life here is pretty hectic, loud and stressful at times. Finding friends is not easy as most people seem unbothered by others. Still, it is the most unique city I know. Going to college takes me 30 mins in total. This is a pretty short time span for Berlin, people here are used with spending a tremendous amount of time in the subway, train etc., just like you. I know a friend that spends 3h each day to get to college and back as she found a pretty cheap flat in an outer area. Life is good, I enjoy our variety of food, sports and of course learning to be the best osteopath I can be. Seeing your surroundings that are totally different to mine makes me so happy. Thanks for vlogging
Hi Haru, I'm an Indian and have no friends. I'm glad to see people who are like me in the comment section. Only an introvert can understand how hard it is to make friends with new people.
I'm going to give my entrance exams next year and kinda stressed about that. Sometimes I feel very lonely when I see people my age posting with their friends. But I could say that I have a peaceful life because I've got my comfort zones straight like reading, listening kpop, writing etc. However I do look forward to my college life and I do want to make good friends. I hope someday you'll also get good friends.
I liked the vlog because it's just so peaceful and we introverts could only understand how much beautiful peace is.
Anyways, I wish you the best for your future. 🤍
im not an introvert but i maybe have some childhood disability that makes it hard for me to make friends so i understand too
jee or cet ?
maybe NEET
@@mayursyoutube ya i forgot to mention that cauz i'm going to give jee and cet next year
@Whoman-bean u dont know me so u cant speak on my experience. i think throwing trauma really simplifies the whole thing... it is for sure a disability for me, i went to school and tried to approach people and just dont understand how communication works even though i see it the whole time, my sibling is 99% introverted and traumatized as well yet they have more friends than me but thank u for the suggestion
(Watching this video while doing homework LMAO)
You are right, it helps a lot to slow down and focus more on the surroundings. There is so much beauty in everything that we tend to overlook in our daily life.
In Germany i always take long walks to calm down my mind when I'm having a hard time :)
Same! I guess your country has a lot of nice view...
I was just noticing you said in Germany, however your comment was English can you speak German as well?
@@jessecuaresma4379 Yes! I'm actually German :)
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I'm from Germany too and yes, it is often very beautiful if you take a close look.
@@jessecuaresma4379 In Germany, you learn English at the School from the Age of 8-9, but some people still can't do it ^^
Very calming video to watch while eating dinner alone at home after a rough day
Things have been very difficult here in Texas but this video reminded me to be thankful for the nice things I do have
I appreciate your effort and thank you for your thoughtfulness and ability to share your life to the world!
I started my first semester in uni this august and it hasn't really been what I imagined it to be. I don't have any friends and I pretty much started walking and people watch to comfort me with it. Life is beautiful but sometimes the loneliness does get to me. I walk to school and my walk is usually 20 minutes but with a tram it's just couple of minutes. I love your videosss, thank you for this comforting vlog! 😊
I'm from Spain, and right now I don't have any friends either. I can't study right now and I'm working. Usually my friends are temporary, somehow they always end up Ghosting me. I have learned to see myself as a person who is in the lives of others for a short time, helps them and listens and when they are better they leave. I have learned to see the beauty in being someone like that. My only friend is my partner and sometimes I also feel envious of how he plays with his friends. I felt super intrigued by the title, seeing more people like that!! Hope u are doing good Haru!
hola ! your comment holds such a lovely perspective , it managed to make me smile. i struggle with this quite a lot. just wanted to send some support from italy !! thank you!!! i probably will think of this again
Di que sí Sabrina, yo también soy de España y yo también valoro mucho el tiempo libre que tengo para mí, tiempo libre para mí pareja, viajar, y mis mascotas. No todo en la vida es fiestas, socializar y hablar como nos inculcan en nuestro país.
Thank you for sharing your life with us. Your videos are very relaxing and interesting. You have a very gentle soul 😊 Wishing you best wishes from England.
Thank you friend in England🥰🥰
5:51 you seem very nice and kind Haru . Don’t give up and keep growing as a person . And as of you not having friends . I’m your friend from America now 😊. Take care ❤
eating b4 brushing was 🤢 disgusting ngl lol
this is the best channel i've seen in youtube, don't stop making videos, this is what many need, a little peace of mind, thank you so much for doing this. i hope your life goes well and you get what you want.
"... and I began to feel a small happiness every day."
This is so wholesome. And it's what makes a person content and happy. Keep it up Haru!
I never considered myself an introvert and always made friends very quickly but I think the last few years it‘s changed quite a lot. I have many friends and close ones at that but they are all from high school. I love them dearly but in the last few years I‘ve grown to like the silence around me when there is no one around and I feel calmest in my own company. I feel like I don‘t need social interactions to feel good even though I‘m still always very happy to see my friends. I started University with exactly those feelings: I already had my friends and at Uni wasn‘t making any effort to meet new people. I did speak with people I sat next to without feeling anxious like many introverts do but I was content with sitting by myself too. The thing is I don’t have any problems with speaking to strangers and I don’t care at all how it looks when I sit by myself either. This complete contentment with my own company has led me to not make any new friends at all. And in some ways I don’t mind it. As I said I mostly prefer my own company or that of my high school friends. The problem is that sometimes I do mind. For example I don’t have anyone to help me study and in general no social life at all. People always talk about how university is the best time of your life but I feel like it’s just passing by me and I’m missing out on it. All my friends are spreading out over the world and most study in a different city, so while they all build a new part of their lives there it feels like I’m stuck. I know I won’t loose them but it feels weird when they tell me stories of people I don’t know and I realize that I’m almost completely uninvolved in their day-to-day lives now. I still think that I will meet some people at some point and grow to actually love my time at the university but I don’t see my attitude/stance changing in the near future. For clarification I have met some people at Uni and for the most part kept in very loose contact with them (like lunch once every few months) and I don’t have any difficulties at all to do so but they never grow closer because I simply don’t want to put in the effort. Whenever I have the choice of spending time with someone or by myself I always choose the latter because I simply like it better and I think that’s the real problem. I still don’t even know if I should see it as a problem at all. I guess what I’m trying to say is that I fear I will always feel and act that way: complacent and going with the flow instead of actively trying to shape my life. And I’m scared that at some point in my life I will realize that this flow has taken me to a dead end and that my life will be empty and unfulfilling because I simply never bothered or dared to take a chance.
This is a very beautifully filmed vlog. I love getting a glimpse into other people's lives. It's comforting to know that people from far away countries experience the same feelings as me.
Thank you very much for your sharing. It really helps me with my neurosis anxiety and depression that I've been through recently because of stress with school and anxiety of loosing your friends and colleagues. You know turning away from you or something. I'm suprised how comments are so peaceful and kind, under nearly every comment is like an advise. Thank you very much. Greetings from Poland
I don’t comment on videos at all. But this video really struck a core with me. I’m a 23 year old introverted autistic American in the US who just finished university this past May, and trying to set up the next stage of life.
I’ve been feeling pretty lonely since I graduated. Many of the people I know that I was attending my four-year university went back home, and a few people that I do live close to are always busy so we rarely get to see each other. And the people I rarely get to see I’ve known them even longer, as far back as when I was getting my two year degree or even high school. even though my social battery drains easily and I don’t like going out often. It still hurts not being able to see the people close with for a long period of time. I think that’s just part of life. At least that’s what I like to think.
This video helped remind me that I can appreciate the small things in my day-to-day life. Doing something as simple as eating a restaurant, or going out on a stroll, can make that feeling of loneliness and turn it into small bits of happiness. Admittedly, I do have a hard time understanding people sometimes so I like my solitude. But sometimes, It can be a little much.
But as long as I have my little sparks of happiness every now and again, Then I can be comfortable with being alone.
Thanks for sharing this with us!❤
(Also sorry if this doesn’t make sense to anyone, I’m not exactly the greatest at putting my emotions to words. Which is Ironic considering the profession I’m trying to get into).
You got this🎉❤
I love your location bro, not much people roaming around and you can hangout anywhere without too much people.
I didn’t make any friends these past four years at university either. I only have one really good friend from school so I’m content with that… honestly the people at university stress me out when it comes to assignments. I have such a hard time collaborating with them.
I commute to university by bus too!
I just discovered your channel, ganbatte with university and TH-cam Haru!
If you can make just one friend on your side out of a hundred, the world is a brighter place🥰
This video is just beautifully done. The landscapes of the city you captured and the rain hitting the umbrella gave me chills. I'm glad you can enjoy these small moments Haru. I will try to see the world a bit more like you do. Thank you for reminding me to appreciate the small things around me!
Aww…you bring joy to the lives of others by sharing part of your day. That helps make your life worthwhile-what you give to others. Hope you have a good week! Thanks for sharing.💛
I remember when I first moved to Korea in junior high having no friends. I have an accent when I speak Korean and I couldn't pick up on some of the cultural ettiquette. I did feel alone quite often. Your video reminds me that sometimes there is a calmness about being alone and we become stronger as individuals. I just found your channel today and I'll watch your other videos ;)
"I have a hard time walking because I ate too much, but that is also a happy thing." 15:47
That sentence made me remember all the times I got too full and complained. You're right being too full from eating good food is a good thing :)
I really love that you have so many followers. Your life is so well chronicled. It shows that you have such an ability to observe things and create moments out of your life for your viewers.