I totally get you like my friends went to a different college (I'm British so equivalent is grade 12 I think) and I have no friends, and I've never had to make any since I was like 2 so now I've been learning how to socialise all over again and it makes you an independent person being lonely but it's so tough feeling like you have to work out what it is about you that means you don't make friends but maybe it's that thought itself which makes it difficult. Theres nothing actually wrong with you. honestly I'm so thankful to know im not the only one bc it can feel like that when all you can see for miles is friendship groups, it's almost like someone's put a highlighter on everyone who's chatting and laughing - but yeh I definetly found alot of refuge in books
Sending you big hugs.. I wish everyone in this comment section could just casually meet up.. instead of being alone in our little corner of the 🌎, GOD BLESS YOU 🙏💕
Nothing. It's always a group for you I can confidently say most of the other groups you're seeing are going to collapse like a house of cards soon. I had a group since 2018 and 3/8th of us don't talk no more. Remember it's not the group you need but that 1, 2 or 3 real ones you need. You'll get there
advice from a junior: most friend groups will always fail. I've been there in 6th grade but all you gotta do is really find that one person you vibe with and that outweighs any 7 person group chat. Dont change up who you are to impress others. And don't fall into the trap of substrances and if you find that group don't ever abandon them
im a freshman, i talk to alot of people bc i like to make friends and its comforting yk. but i still eat lunch alone everyday, i almost never have people texting me or reaching out (with the acception of 1 or 2 ppl). it just hurts so much because i feel theres something wrong with me, when i know theres not. everytime i think i find my people, i end up sabotaging those relationships leaving me alone again. which i know sounds ridiculous to complain about when i know its my fault, but its also a trauma response to stuff that ive experienced in my childhood and in previous years in middle school and stuff. ive been struggling with generalized anxiety disorder for my whole life and severe depression for almost 4 years now and i cant put into words the amount of pain i feel every second of everyday. school is the most social part of my life, when i come home, im alone for 3-4 more hours and then my mom gets home. me and my mom are kinda close but she overwhelms me so much. i spend my days alone. i dont have pets or siblings. its just me for like 15 hours of the day. idrk what else to put in here, but it sucks really.
Tell me about it, I'm also a freshmen, I have no friends and have been bullied since elementry, of course it's not everyone that bullies me but it kinda feels like it, and even with people who are nice and good people I'm just nervous to talk to them.
For me class 11th last year was the most exhausting lonely sad year for me i was so alone that i was sick sitting in class hearing people laugh and tell silly jokes i was so sad because i didnt have anyone to tell silly jokes and laugh i skipped most the classes that year because i was just sad sitting there I missed out on so many opportunities to makes friends with because i was scared i would be judged Either way this year for class 12th i decided to change no not my personality but i decided to become more active and you can say it did work well ofc i still have issues dealing with a larger group but im better than before i have friends and i have people i can laugh and tell silly jokes to
This is sooo!!! For the last two (in my senior year now) years of school, I've had no body, and it's so isolating. I'm starting to talk to more people now, but nothing will take away the feeling of watching everyone else experience high school while you've been left behind.
i just graduated highschool and had spent my entire highschool experience alone and lonely, i had friends for the first two years bc i had lived in that town since 6th grade. but when i moved junior year and then again in senior year, i completely just had no friends. you described that experience so greatly. im a freshmen in college now and still feel that loneliness
im so glad i stumbled upon this video. its sort of oddly comforting that other people my age are experiencing this too. since freshman year, ive noticed that high school friendships have never worked for me. and since the beginning of 11th grade (my current grade) and some of 10th, ive also been eating lunch alone too. the stares and whispers are so unsettling and just increases my anxiety. rn ive kind of isolated myself from school and socializing entirely bc my closest friends started showing less interest in me/the friendship. (note: isolating is the worst form of coping!) anyways, enough of me rambling. you summed it up perfectly. therapists, parents, etc. do not understand how difficult it is to make friends ESPECIALLY at this age. (most) people our age all so reckless, toxic and rude and its so hard to find genuine, understanding people. and after what youve said i lowkey might start reading/watching perks of being a wallflower and bones and all 🙈
I feel like in this century as well as western culture has gotten more and more individualistic, the world isn't built to maintain friendships anymore, its not like we grow up in a small community were we get to really know these people who all have different ways of thinking and traits, now we get to pick and choose - and people are attracted to the bigger personalities which can be superficial sometimes 😅 it makes it hard to be a person who likes meaningful friendships
I also read the perks of being a wall flower freshman year after watching the movie in 7th, and coming back to it, to read or watch always gives me a sense of hope. I’m a sophomore and have never felt more alone specially in school. I wake up crying I’m so anxious to go. But knowing other people have been there and are there, is really helping.
Same I’m also a sophomore and I’m so alone in school and it sucks because I feel high school should be the best years but it just sucks I have a few friends but ppl don’t really text me or reach out I had friends freshman yr but they left me out and then eventually got rid of me
I mean it depends right for say if you are quite shy and introverted as my self it’s hard to socialise with people and at times you don’t look very approachable so that adds to it
I'm a junior in college and the beginning of high school was really difficult for me bc I had a major falling out with my friends during the last couple months of middle school. High school is rough because it feels like you're constantly in competition to not be perceived as "weird" or "lonely". I remember feeling bad a lot of the time because I spent a lot of lunches by myself. I did eventually find a good group of friends, although it didn't really happen until my sophomore year. We're still friends now in college! I want to say to any current high schooler struggling it is definitely rough feeling like you're being judged all the time, and that's something that you'll hopefully experience WAY less after you graduate. At least in my experience, adults really don't care that much about things that seemed super important in high school like how many friends you have, what clothes you wear, etc. The older you get the more you let go of what others think as you become more confident in yourself. I'll take a small group of really good friends over a large group of sorta friends any day. My biggest advice for highschoolers is to stop trying to please people who might be negatively judging you. As stereotypical as it sounds, if you live as your authentic self eventually the right people will find you. Loneliness is hard, but things will get better!!
U seem like the type of person that I would definitely vibe with though:(. Sadly i can't find anyone out of the 60+ students that i take classes with that are like want to talk or message me after school or stuff like that. I find it so funny that sometime you find posts on social media where people tell their story on their experience of having no friends and i find them to be the most lovely and funny person i have ever met?? like how could u not have any friends:((?? How could I ever meet someone like you?
i've been struggling since becoming a freshman and this video is really meaningful. it's good to know that i'm not the only one who has no friends and gets freaked out at lunch every day. it's especially good to know that it can pass. i keep failing to involve myself in conversation and i'm terrified that i will never have a place in anyone else's life. i have issues with executive dysfunction, so trying to balance a social life on top of the already too stressful routines that everyone else seems to come across naturally requires a lot more energy than i have. i kept having panic attacks at the beginning of school but now i've just been dissociating. anywho. good video :D
Bruh Im crying bcs i search this up and miss my past its like the loneliness epidemic but its just the reality i didn't do highschool 😔 cs what if i could have met my ideal friends or some amazing person.. i feel like im old and like i miss physical touch even tho im not like tht to feel like someone cares yk i feel sad for myself lol I have one friend but its like they need me just for advice or idk when they feel alone they avoidant like me..bcs ive been alone too much. And it sucks as you get older kinda.. Im on the episode i always were like this alone introverted ,chameleon personality i don't show much interest in people..book reading I had one bestie she broke me I think i need Jesus idk
Real I searched it up as well trying to get out of being lonely but it’s hard book reading occupying as many hobbies because I can’t talk to ppl fr just got kicked out of a gc because I was 2 quiet idk what’s wrong w me but it’s sucks
@faiyaz9768 might sound corny ,Just ground yourself feel it..cry and journal about it or talk to a higher power.. sometimes I don't want to go to jobs bcs I feel disconnected to everyone bunch of mid 40 and 50 elders some people dont respect you bcs it's work the real world isn't school... I am 21 and I freak out....but you know what being alone is self discovery and sometimes you are going to feel lonely and that's okay too let go of attachments, false expectations Don't force anything but I would say find at least one person to talk too or re connect with an old good friend and if it doesn't work you're going to be just fine and focus on ur studies like seriously. Ahhg I'm like deep in thoughts You got this keep going. You are love ❤️ and I care otherwise I wouldn't gaf & you are enough .
I'm a freshman but I've been homeschooled for all of my life, I don't know what to do or where to go but hearing your perspective was really neat :) I think it kinda opened my eyes a little and I appreciate it, I really want to meet other people because I've been isolated for pretty much all my life. it's really cool to hear the perspective of someone who's a little older and has had similar experiences. thank you for sharing
You are a very smart girl and even after what you’ve been through you’re still optimistic. Be proud that you’re using your time productively rather than turning to abusive substances. I promise your habits will pay off extremely well in the future.
im in ninth grade and im in a progressive diverse k-12 school that is super into inclusion and i almost never had any friends. in lower school i. would play tetherball alone,the covid hit and i got depression, didnt do any schoolwork, in 7th grade i had distant lunch friends for a year and a half, with depression in 7th grade and crying everyday during lunch instead of eating, then the friends left me in the dark, now im in ninth grade, in the fall i tried to eat with the sweat girls, in nov i started doing hw during lunch, in jan i started eating lunch in the side stairwell alone watching movies on my computer. i started fall behind on hw, in march i got my phone taken away permanently, but i still watch movies on my computer. late April i relapsed into cutting. being alone is harder than it looks, and no i cant just ‘join clubs’. 🙄 my sister has always had friends so i know the difference
That’s how I was. I had 2 friends by the end of secondary school. We would sit in art during lunch & break.. I don’t speak to anyone from school anymore & now I have no friends my age. I wish I could have been friends with more people but my year of classmates was a nightmare.
It's good to make friend in secondary/high school as you can develop social skills that way, but something I would say is that after high school, whether you go to university/college or start working, unless you decide to maintain regular contact with your high school friends, you will likely become very distanced from them over time, as you move onto other stages of life and other people (I know this from personal experience). Focus on school, but talk to people, and don't beat yourself up over anything. I hope you have a lovely day, and I wish you much success in whatever you decide to do!
im currently in my sophomore year of high school and i've also moved to a lot of different schools so idk if that's a factor as to why i dont have friends. I have people to talk to in school but never outside of school. the only time outside of school was church and i reunited with some friends that i have known since 8th grade. but ever since then I felt lonely whenever I was with them prob bc they were closer together when i moved to a different school after 8th grade. I even told them how I felt about it and they tried to improve but even then i still felt alone around them. it got to a point where i would come home crying and complaining about how they always leave me to go somewhere (during church). i like being alone, but i really want to have a friend who will appreciate me and not ignore my presence or wtv. sometimes i wonder if people just either ignore me or forget i exist
All my friends were class of 23, im class of 24 been eating lunch alone all year and yk a couple people you know here and there but mostly lonely asf. Going from being on wrestling and football team and having friends, to completely lonely my senior year really gave me a new perspective
I had no friends from middle school through college. It is tough, but it ensures there are no distractions from your education and by being suspicious of peoples motives will protect you from being used.
@@gamegamer9523 Its work, but with practice and knowledge about the topic being discussed it is easier. I forced myself to management and yes there are moments when things are harder, I am not saying things will be easy.
I talked to my sister and her husband about school. They experienced the same thing that I did. That is if you are not part of the "in crowd" you are considered to be too low down to even be spoken to. I was lucky in that I finally made friends with some people that moved in from another city. But I never made friends with any of the other students I went to school with.
You are so lucky to have someone to talk to. My parents told me the same thing. I had a big friend group in 6th to 9th grade but halfway 9th grade things started to go bad because I refused to do pretty awful stuff. Luckily I also found other people
@@SoliseLeili The only problem is that I was not in any classes with them except for one gym class. They ate in a different lunch period. So school was still very lonely. I was the only one with a job. So they magically showed up at work on payday. I went into the Navy with two of them.
right now i'm in 3rd year in technical school, 2 more left to finish. going into first year i had some close friends from middle school, but as time went on we stopped talking. in my first year i made some friends and even became a part of a group that consisted of 4 people + me. our connection was literally based on being lgbtq etc etc, not a good thing to base friendships on. in my second year i became more miserable with them [note: before technical school i was a normal girl, my ex friends from middle school manipulated me into thinking that i was not attracted to anyone and thinking that i have no gender. so i was pretty miserable even before them.] hating myself and neglecting my family, my needs and my duties. on the summer break before third year i isolated myself a bit more from them and began spending more time with my family, notably with my cousins. we went on holidays together and my cousin even began taking me to martial art classes which i go to till today:) one day i wanted to talk with one person [i sat with him at a school desk all 2nd year] from my friend group about that my views have changed and are mostly opposing to what their whole group believes in. to my suprise he also agreed with me, but well, to this day he hangs out with them. and comes the start of third year - i notice he starts to distance himself from me, so i begin to slowly shift away from them as a whole. today i find myself in a somewhat comfortable position for me - 1. thanks to my cousin, i have found my closest family in the people who i train martial arts with, 2. i am in a better place mentally compared to my recent years when i hang out with these groups of friends, 3. i have taken better care of myself although all of this happened, i still hold respect for these people because at the end of the day, they are still human beings inside. i'm quite content with how things have played out, but having no one to talk to on the corridors in school or between lessons is really tiring mentally, especially since i sit alone. but well, a kindest thing a person can do for themselves is to let people go when they want to go:) i do miss some moments of our friendship, but not the feelings that accompany these memories. i really doubt that someone will read all of this, but to anyone who does - even if things are not looking good, have hope, appreciate every moment, before they turn into memories. ranting on a random youtube comment section at 9 pm combined with tomorrow having a math exam is really something i wouldn't have thought of
interesting prospective, i've been surrounded by people while high school experience. ups and downs with a shit ton of people but i've always had someone there.
Sending you big hugs.. I wish everyone in this comment section could just casually meet up.. instead of being alone in our little corner of the 🌎, GOD BLESS YOU 🙏💕
Humans have evolved loneliness, because in hunter gatherer societies, you couldn't survive very well without a community. It's measured that people have an average of about 2-4 main / most important friends, also due to statistics, there are some people that are part of several friend groups so they people end up with more friends closer. Reading is very much helpful to the brain, and just a fun thing to do. The internet automatically reduces your attention span because there are too many things you can access easily. Also seeing lots of opinions, but you only see their opinion on one thing, not knowing what you have in common, your brain doesn't relate to them, and divides opinion.
praying for you heres a psalm that got me through alot Psalm 23
1The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing. 2 He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, 3 he refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name’s sake. 4 Even though I walk through the darkest valley,[a] I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. 5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. 6 Surely your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. i struggle with making friends sometimes too but whenever im sad and stuff im reminded that God is my friend and hes always there for me when i have no one to talk too i still have God and even when i do. please lean on him and pray . much love reply if you need anything.
focus on classes and maybe join a sport or club... After HS is where REAL life starts. Also you wont really see the people you went to class with cause everyone takes different paths in life.
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i literally have no one and have pretty much always been alone and i dont get what i am doing wrong
I totally get you like my friends went to a different college (I'm British so equivalent is grade 12 I think) and I have no friends, and I've never had to make any since I was like 2 so now I've been learning how to socialise all over again and it makes you an independent person being lonely but it's so tough feeling like you have to work out what it is about you that means you don't make friends but maybe it's that thought itself which makes it difficult. Theres nothing actually wrong with you. honestly I'm so thankful to know im not the only one bc it can feel like that when all you can see for miles is friendship groups, it's almost like someone's put a highlighter on everyone who's chatting and laughing - but yeh I definetly found alot of refuge in books
just cried to my mom for hours on end about this exact same thing
@@magicfairyprincess28 i relate, hope you find some friends soon
Sending you big hugs.. I wish everyone in this comment section could just casually meet up.. instead of being alone in our little corner of the 🌎, GOD BLESS YOU 🙏💕
Nothing. It's always a group for you I can confidently say most of the other groups you're seeing are going to collapse like a house of cards soon. I had a group since 2018 and 3/8th of us don't talk no more. Remember it's not the group you need but that 1, 2 or 3 real ones you need. You'll get there
advice from a junior: most friend groups will always fail. I've been there in 6th grade but all you gotta do is really find that one person you vibe with and that outweighs any 7 person group chat. Dont change up who you are to impress others. And don't fall into the trap of substrances and if you find that group don't ever abandon them
im a freshman, i talk to alot of people bc i like to make friends and its comforting yk. but i still eat lunch alone everyday, i almost never have people texting me or reaching out (with the acception of 1 or 2 ppl). it just hurts so much because i feel theres something wrong with me, when i know theres not. everytime i think i find my people, i end up sabotaging those relationships leaving me alone again. which i know sounds ridiculous to complain about when i know its my fault, but its also a trauma response to stuff that ive experienced in my childhood and in previous years in middle school and stuff. ive been struggling with generalized anxiety disorder for my whole life and severe depression for almost 4 years now and i cant put into words the amount of pain i feel every second of everyday. school is the most social part of my life, when i come home, im alone for 3-4 more hours and then my mom gets home. me and my mom are kinda close but she overwhelms me so much. i spend my days alone. i dont have pets or siblings. its just me for like 15 hours of the day. idrk what else to put in here, but it sucks really.
YOU AND ME ARE THE SAME EXCEPT IM A JUNIOR…i have no siblings either
You’ll be ok just keep going bro
@@THAYOUNGDON thanks bookie
i felt that lately yet still i have a few good friends yet i just not had them that close to me but yeah i get that.
Tell me about it, I'm also a freshmen, I have no friends and have been bullied since elementry, of course it's not everyone that bullies me but it kinda feels like it, and even with people who are nice and good people I'm just nervous to talk to them.
For me class 11th last year was the most exhausting lonely sad year for me i was so alone that i was sick sitting in class hearing people laugh and tell silly jokes i was so sad because i didnt have anyone to tell silly jokes and laugh i skipped most the classes that year because i was just sad sitting there
I missed out on so many opportunities to makes friends with because i was scared i would be judged
Either way this year for class 12th i decided to change no not my personality but i decided to become more active and you can say it did work well ofc i still have issues dealing with a larger group but im better than before i have friends and i have people i can laugh and tell silly jokes to
This is sooo!!! For the last two (in my senior year now) years of school, I've had no body, and it's so isolating. I'm starting to talk to more people now, but nothing will take away the feeling of watching everyone else experience high school while you've been left behind.
you’re so realll for this (love ur pfp btw)
@@kietalksalot ty!!! I'll probably read the perks of being a wallflower because of this...!
too real
Going through that now i just resent them so much
@@Hirtly resent is so real, I've literally become such a jealous person 😭
i just graduated highschool and had spent my entire highschool experience alone and lonely, i had friends for the first two years bc i had lived in that town since 6th grade. but when i moved junior year and then again in senior year, i completely just had no friends. you described that experience so greatly. im a freshmen in college now and still feel that loneliness
im so glad i stumbled upon this video. its sort of oddly comforting that other people my age are experiencing this too. since freshman year, ive noticed that high school friendships have never worked for me. and since the beginning of 11th grade (my current grade) and some of 10th, ive also been eating lunch alone too. the stares and whispers are so unsettling and just increases my anxiety.
rn ive kind of isolated myself from school and socializing entirely bc my closest friends started showing less interest in me/the friendship. (note: isolating is the worst form of coping!)
anyways, enough of me rambling. you summed it up perfectly. therapists, parents, etc. do not understand how difficult it is to make friends ESPECIALLY at this age. (most) people our age all so reckless, toxic and rude and its so hard to find genuine, understanding people.
and after what youve said i lowkey might start reading/watching perks of being a wallflower and bones and all 🙈
I feel like in this century as well as western culture has gotten more and more individualistic, the world isn't built to maintain friendships anymore, its not like we grow up in a small community were we get to really know these people who all have different ways of thinking and traits, now we get to pick and choose - and people are attracted to the bigger personalities which can be superficial sometimes 😅 it makes it hard to be a person who likes meaningful friendships
I also read the perks of being a wall flower freshman year after watching the movie in 7th, and coming back to it, to read or watch always gives me a sense of hope. I’m a sophomore and have never felt more alone specially in school. I wake up crying I’m so anxious to go. But knowing other people have been there and are there, is really helping.
Same I’m also a sophomore and I’m so alone in school and it sucks because I feel high school should be the best years but it just sucks I have a few friends but ppl don’t really text me or reach out I had friends freshman yr but they left me out and then eventually got rid of me
I'm seeing more and more girls talking about this problem. It's really horrible ☹️
I mean it depends right for say if you are quite shy and introverted as my self it’s hard to socialise with people and at times you don’t look very approachable so that adds to it
True
I'm a junior in college and the beginning of high school was really difficult for me bc I had a major falling out with my friends during the last couple months of middle school. High school is rough because it feels like you're constantly in competition to not be perceived as "weird" or "lonely". I remember feeling bad a lot of the time because I spent a lot of lunches by myself. I did eventually find a good group of friends, although it didn't really happen until my sophomore year. We're still friends now in college!
I want to say to any current high schooler struggling it is definitely rough feeling like you're being judged all the time, and that's something that you'll hopefully experience WAY less after you graduate. At least in my experience, adults really don't care that much about things that seemed super important in high school like how many friends you have, what clothes you wear, etc. The older you get the more you let go of what others think as you become more confident in yourself. I'll take a small group of really good friends over a large group of sorta friends any day. My biggest advice for highschoolers is to stop trying to please people who might be negatively judging you. As stereotypical as it sounds, if you live as your authentic self eventually the right people will find you. Loneliness is hard, but things will get better!!
U seem like the type of person that I would definitely vibe with though:(. Sadly i can't find anyone out of the 60+ students that i take classes with that are like want to talk or message me after school or stuff like that. I find it so funny that sometime you find posts on social media where people tell their story on their experience of having no friends and i find them to be the most lovely and funny person i have ever met?? like how could u not have any friends:((?? How could I ever meet someone like you?
YESSS!! Exactly why I love the book is bc the format it’s written in. He is me, I am him, we are wallflowers :)
i've been struggling since becoming a freshman and this video is really meaningful. it's good to know that i'm not the only one who has no friends and gets freaked out at lunch every day. it's especially good to know that it can pass. i keep failing to involve myself in conversation and i'm terrified that i will never have a place in anyone else's life. i have issues with executive dysfunction, so trying to balance a social life on top of the already too stressful routines that everyone else seems to come across naturally requires a lot more energy than i have. i kept having panic attacks at the beginning of school but now i've just been dissociating. anywho. good video :D
Bruh Im crying bcs i search this up and miss my past its like the loneliness epidemic but its just the reality i didn't do highschool 😔 cs what if i could have met my ideal friends or some amazing person.. i feel like im old and like i miss physical touch even tho im not like tht to feel like someone cares yk i feel sad for myself lol
I have one friend but its like they need me just for advice or idk when they feel alone they avoidant like me..bcs ive been alone too much.
And it sucks as you get older kinda..
Im on the episode i always were like this alone introverted ,chameleon personality i don't show much interest in people..book reading
I had one bestie she broke me
I think i need Jesus idk
Real I searched it up as well trying to get out of being lonely but it’s hard book reading occupying as many hobbies because I can’t talk to ppl fr just got kicked out of a gc because I was 2 quiet idk what’s wrong w me but it’s sucks
@faiyaz9768 might sound corny ,Just ground yourself feel it..cry and journal about it or talk to a higher power.. sometimes I don't want to go to jobs bcs I feel disconnected to everyone bunch of mid 40 and 50 elders some people dont respect you bcs it's work the real world isn't school...
I am 21 and I freak out....but you know what being alone is self discovery and sometimes you are going to feel lonely and that's okay too let go of attachments, false expectations
Don't force anything but I would say find at least one person to talk too or re connect with an old good friend and if it doesn't work you're going to be just fine
and focus on ur studies like seriously.
Ahhg I'm like deep in thoughts
You got this keep going. You are love ❤️
and I care otherwise I wouldn't gaf
& you are enough .
Yes you do need jesus seek him amen
I'm a freshman but I've been homeschooled for all of my life, I don't know what to do or where to go but hearing your perspective was really neat :) I think it kinda opened my eyes a little and I appreciate it, I really want to meet other people because I've been isolated for pretty much all my life. it's really cool to hear the perspective of someone who's a little older and has had similar experiences. thank you for sharing
You are a very smart girl and even after what you’ve been through you’re still optimistic. Be proud that you’re using your time productively rather than turning to abusive substances. I promise your habits will pay off extremely well in the future.
This was a super interesting and articulate vid I’m actually really surprised!! Surprised this hasn’t gone viral
It’s refreshing to hear about an experience that’s so scarily similar to mines. Love this and love ya too sis
im in ninth grade and im in a progressive diverse k-12 school that is super into inclusion and i almost never had any friends. in lower school i. would play tetherball alone,the covid hit and i got depression, didnt do any schoolwork, in 7th grade i had distant lunch friends for a year and a half, with depression in 7th grade and crying everyday during lunch instead of eating, then the friends left me in the dark, now im in ninth grade, in the fall i tried to eat with the sweat girls, in nov i started doing hw during lunch, in jan i started eating lunch in the side stairwell alone watching movies on my computer. i started fall behind on hw, in march i got my phone taken away permanently, but i still watch movies on my computer. late April i relapsed into cutting. being alone is harder than it looks, and no i cant just ‘join clubs’. 🙄 my sister has always had friends so i know the difference
That’s how I was. I had 2 friends by the end of secondary school. We would sit in art during lunch & break.. I don’t speak to anyone from school anymore & now I have no friends my age.
I wish I could have been friends with more people but my year of classmates was a nightmare.
It's good to make friend in secondary/high school as you can develop social skills that way, but something I would say is that after high school, whether you go to university/college or start working, unless you decide to maintain regular contact with your high school friends, you will likely become very distanced from them over time, as you move onto other stages of life and other people (I know this from personal experience). Focus on school, but talk to people, and don't beat yourself up over anything. I hope you have a lovely day, and I wish you much success in whatever you decide to do!
I wish I had friends but I’m too shy to talk to anyone
I have been in your situation and my advice is that blame yourself take responsibility and take action.
Put yourself out there.
im currently in my sophomore year of high school and i've also moved to a lot of different schools so idk if that's a factor as to why i dont have friends. I have people to talk to in school but never outside of school. the only time outside of school was church and i reunited with some friends that i have known since 8th grade. but ever since then I felt lonely whenever I was with them prob bc they were closer together when i moved to a different school after 8th grade. I even told them how I felt about it and they tried to improve but even then i still felt alone around them. it got to a point where i would come home crying and complaining about how they always leave me to go somewhere (during church). i like being alone, but i really want to have a friend who will appreciate me and not ignore my presence or wtv. sometimes i wonder if people just either ignore me or forget i exist
All my friends were class of 23, im class of 24 been eating lunch alone all year and yk a couple people you know here and there but mostly lonely asf. Going from being on wrestling and football team and having friends, to completely lonely my senior year really gave me a new perspective
I had no friends from middle school through college. It is tough, but it ensures there are no distractions from your education and by being suspicious of peoples motives will protect you from being used.
Are you confident with talking to people?
@@gamegamer9523 Its work, but with practice and knowledge about the topic being discussed it is easier. I forced myself to management and yes there are moments when things are harder, I am not saying things will be easy.
I talked to my sister and her husband about school. They experienced the same thing that I did. That is if you are not part of the "in crowd" you are considered to be too low down to even be spoken to. I was lucky in that I finally made friends with some people that moved in from another city. But I never made friends with any of the other students I went to school with.
You are so lucky to have someone to talk to. My parents told me the same thing. I had a big friend group in 6th to 9th grade but halfway 9th grade things started to go bad because I refused to do pretty awful stuff. Luckily I also found other people
@@SoliseLeili The only problem is that I was not in any classes with them except for one gym class. They ate in a different lunch period. So school was still very lonely. I was the only one with a job. So they magically showed up at work on payday. I went into the Navy with two of them.
highschool was so hard for me i had no friends my life has been so much better af6ter graduation
right now i'm in 3rd year in technical school, 2 more left to finish. going into first year i had some close friends from middle school, but as time went on we stopped talking. in my first year i made some friends and even became a part of a group that consisted of 4 people + me. our connection was literally based on being lgbtq etc etc, not a good thing to base friendships on.
in my second year i became more miserable with them [note: before technical school i was a normal girl, my ex friends from middle school manipulated me into thinking that i was not attracted to anyone and thinking that i have no gender. so i was pretty miserable even before them.] hating myself and neglecting my family, my needs and my duties.
on the summer break before third year i isolated myself a bit more from them and began spending more time with my family, notably with my cousins. we went on holidays together and my cousin even began taking me to martial art classes which i go to till today:) one day i wanted to talk with one person [i sat with him at a school desk all 2nd year] from my friend group about that my views have changed and are mostly opposing to what their whole group believes in. to my suprise he also agreed with me, but well, to this day he hangs out with them.
and comes the start of third year - i notice he starts to distance himself from me, so i begin to slowly shift away from them as a whole.
today i find myself in a somewhat comfortable position for me - 1. thanks to my cousin, i have found my closest family in the people who i train martial arts with, 2. i am in a better place mentally compared to my recent years when i hang out with these groups of friends, 3. i have taken better care of myself
although all of this happened, i still hold respect for these people because at the end of the day, they are still human beings inside. i'm quite content with how things have played out, but having no one to talk to on the corridors in school or between lessons is really tiring mentally, especially since i sit alone. but well, a kindest thing a person can do for themselves is to let people go when they want to go:) i do miss some moments of our friendship, but not the feelings that accompany these memories.
i really doubt that someone will read all of this, but to anyone who does - even if things are not looking good, have hope, appreciate every moment, before they turn into memories.
ranting on a random youtube comment section at 9 pm combined with tomorrow having a math exam is really something i wouldn't have thought of
interesting prospective, i've been surrounded by people while high school experience. ups and downs with a shit ton of people but i've always had someone there.
it also hard having lots of friends cuz rumours get spread abt u and stuff
Sending you big hugs.. I wish everyone in this comment section could just casually meet up.. instead of being alone in our little corner of the 🌎, GOD BLESS YOU 🙏💕
starting a new skl in april im dreading the feeling of being alone :((((
Humans have evolved loneliness, because in hunter gatherer societies, you couldn't survive very well without a community. It's measured that people have an average of about 2-4 main / most important friends, also due to statistics, there are some people that are part of several friend groups so they people end up with more friends closer.
Reading is very much helpful to the brain, and just a fun thing to do.
The internet automatically reduces your attention span because there are too many things you can access easily. Also seeing lots of opinions, but you only see their opinion on one thing, not knowing what you have in common, your brain doesn't relate to them, and divides opinion.
the story of my life😔
praying for you heres a psalm that got me through alot Psalm 23
1The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.
2 He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters,
3 he refreshes my soul.
He guides me along the right paths
for his name’s sake.
4 Even though I walk
through the darkest valley,[a]
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.
5 You prepare a table before me
in the presence of my enemies.
You anoint my head with oil;
my cup overflows.
6 Surely your goodness and love will follow me
all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the Lord
forever.
i struggle with making friends sometimes too but whenever im sad and stuff im reminded that God is my friend and hes always there for me when i have no one to talk too i still have God and even when i do. please lean on him and pray . much love reply if you need anything.
I’m a freshman and my friend barely talks to me and I feel so lonely😭😭😭😭
ure so real
Realll (I’m still in middle school)
focus on classes and maybe join a sport or club... After HS is where REAL life starts. Also you wont really see the people you went to class with cause everyone takes different paths in life.
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I saw Melinda Sordino and the thumbnail and had to click
Join a club. One thing i wish i did in highschool was join a club that interests you and socialize
Im in 7th i have no friends 😂
And that's okay! U got this! 💗💗
Join a club.
@@gamegamer9523 only clubs my school has you have to pay for.