Even as an introvert friends are still needed. I hate to admit it but I NEED that validation and companionship that friends give you in order to survive the misery that high school brings.
it has come to the point where i make up fake scenarios in my head about having a friend😭 15 with no friends sucks like everyone my age is having so fun meanwhile i am just rotting in bed
LITERALLY. school ONLY feels worthwhile if you have someone to be there for you. its like i have no security YKWIM?? i dont have the security of having someone with me and a GENUINE connection. im not looking for school friends im looking for friends friends. nothing is worth it in school anymore. edit: im in senior year right now, actually had the guts to make some new friends
Real, they only use me or reach out to me on academic reasons only . It doesn’t feel genuine at all... I’ve never had an actual friend who actually bonded with me and was genuine enough they always leave sadly..
I think the reason its so much harder to find friends in 2024 is simply because people just really dont want to make friends anymore. When i was little and i once switched to a private school once i was looking for friends and found people who actually wanted to be friends and had 2 legitimate friends. However after coming back to my old school because i decided to go back it was like a switch was turned on where nobody wanted to be friends anymore. You see, when i was at private school it was still 2019, and as far as i know, everything after 2019 basically went downhill and everything started to suck. I was only happy in middle school and when i was back to school because i already knew everyone there and they fw me. Now there isnt anybody. Because i was slightly acting "dumb" or was doing something like that in my first year of highschool it legit sucked because Kids aint got no parents, and that basically became a problem because more and more kids seemed to have parents that thought them nothing on how to treat people like human beings, as we all are, and these kids didnt treat me like a human being to the point i had a horrid amount of problems because they legit drove me crazy. Now second year currently, they still aint treating me much like a human being, and hey are wierd af still. Another thing worth noting is that if you look closely, the friends people have shouldn't even be their friends but apparently each friend group is a bunch of doormats tolerating what each horrendous thing each other doormat does to them, such as saying horrid things to each other and dissing each other and harrassing each other, such as.. touching each other. Now thats mostly for boys, ima be fr for girls i didnt see much with friends (its become a meme how bad boys friend groups are but tbh thats kinda a serious issue because you cant all be doormats this bad). Another factor i saw is that more and more kids got social media and were more distracted with it that they didnt care about making friends or only had friends to see there social media and stuff, and this was in middle school to today, and all i can say is that social media ABSOLUTELY SHOULDNT BE USED BY KIDS or even me who is like still a child (i will not say my age online), and i for my own sake i wont ever be using instagram because those reels and everything on there, like the comments and stuff?? Nasty. Absolutely not. Hope everyone can now see loud and clear why this is happening. (Repost on other comments because i think it is really necessary to address)
FR social anxiety makes u isolate from your "peers" (that you barely know, school acquaintances is what id call them) because autism makes everyone think ur weird and "off" (both feed into each other). so since they never found you that likeable to begin with (just profitable if ykwim) they wont give a single sh¡t when you isolate. sooo you end up all alone😹👍
I got therapy for my social anxiety and after starting fresh in college it became more manageable. I can catch it before it gets bad now. In high school, there were many people who could’ve been friends but I was too intimidated to talk to them for more than a few seconds because they were pretty well-liked and just couldn’t shake the feeling I was too weird for them.
Sometimes I feel like I was set up to be lonely. Not to get pity, no pity please but somehow I was born with 3 disabilities, 1 neurological, and 2 physical, (autism, rheumatoid arthritis, uveitis) I’m a nonbinary lesbian with traditional Christian parents(I also might be trans masc) and I’m Therian. I’m also half white and half Hispanic. So I get the Hispanic racism but I also look white as hell which makes me feel bad about myself because it was white people who started this racism thing. So it is 10000000 times harder for me to find someone who accepts all of me, because there are a lot of different not normal traits they have to accept! Wtf god? What did I ever do to you? Why’d you have to make me so weirddddd
All I can say is to embrace your weirdness. That’s what I’ve learned to do. I can only really speak on the autism one, but our world experience is so interesting and our minds can do so much so never think you’re lesser. I’ve learned I experience life in a unique way cause of my brain and I’m embracing it more and more. I think therians are really cool, I have a similar feeling about myself but I feel like some kind of sentient object internally (probably an EWI, a technological musical instrument). Anything you experience in a unique way, think about how interesting it all is. One of my favorite quotes ever comes from my saxophone teacher: “Normal is boring.”
Being a high schooler introvert in 2024 is such a lame feeling man. Especially as a black guy that don’t fit the black high schooler stereotype. It probably sucks having all your old friends leave you too. We should keep being ourselves tho, cause “weird” people don’t peak in high school. But ALWAYS remember that there’s people just like you. You just gotta find them, no matter how long it takes.
So true about the stereotypes, that’s something I think about on the daily as a black girl and not being in the “norm” at school. I can imagine how that must be for you
@@SiaaSpitsit’s even worse when people see the stereotype and think it’s cool or wtvr and seek it out and will immitate it. I’ve seeen so many white kids aroudn me in hs the js want to be gangsters so bad and they wanna grow up so bad it’s sad. I’m in aus so there’s no guns but these kids will be privileged af and they posing w machetes and knifes and acting like them dad didint js give them 300 bucks cuz he asked. Nobody needs to fulfill flaws stereotypes
I think the reason its so much harder to find friends in 2024 is simply because people just really dont want to make friends anymore. When i was little and i once switched to a private school once i was looking for friends and found people who actually wanted to be friends and had 2 legitimate friends. However after coming back to my old school because i decided to go back it was like a switch was turned on where nobody wanted to be friends anymore. You see, when i was at private school it was still 2019, and as far as i know, everything after 2019 basically went downhill and everything started to suck. I was only happy in middle school and when i was back to school because i already knew everyone there and they fw me. Now there isnt anybody. Because i was slightly acting "dumb" or was doing something like that in my first year of highschool it legit sucked because Kids aint got no parents, and that basically became a problem because more and more kids seemed to have parents that thought them nothing on how to treat people like human beings, as we all are, and these kids didnt treat me like a human being to the point i had a horrid amount of problems because they legit drove me crazy. Now second year currently, they still aint treating me much like a human being, and hey are wierd af still. Another thing worth noting is that if you look closely, the friends people have shouldn't even be their friends but apparently each friend group is a bunch of doormats tolerating what each horrendous thing each other doormat does to them, such as saying horrid things to each other and dissing each other and harrassing each other, such as.. touching each other. Now thats mostly for boys, ima be fr for girls i didnt see much with friends (its become a meme how bad boys friend groups are but tbh thats kinda a serious issue because you cant all be doormats this bad). Another factor i saw is that more and more kids got social media and were more distracted with it that they didnt care about making friends or only had friends to see there social media and stuff, and this was in middle school to today, and all i can say is that social media ABSOLUTELY SHOULDNT BE USED BY KIDS or even me who is like still a child (i will not say my age online), and i for my own sake i wont ever be using instagram because those reels and everything on there, like the comments and stuff?? Nasty. Absolutely not. Hope everyone can now see loud and clear why this is happening. (Repost on other comments, but for this comment i will say this, that stereotype is you being fake. Stereotypes aint good, what we all should be is ourself, but apparently being ourselves, having fun, and being creative is apparently something we get laughed at now. I know because people simply hate me for being who i am, and i just want to be who i am without wierd people harassing me and calling me spe d)
Scrolling through this comment section made me realize that I’m not the only one lying in bed watching a person online talk about being lonely and read other peoples experiences of being lonely. It makes me feel better about the fact that there is a larger world around me bigger than high school and that I’m probably looking to better days ahead of me after the shithole that is hs.
I can relate to this so much. I’m 15, and I don’t have any friends at my school. I sit alone at lunch, I don’t eat, and I don’t talk to anyone but my teachers. I’m the only loner in ALL of my classes, and it sucks. My social anxiety has taken over. If someone asks me a question, I’ll typically just say “I don’t know”. The worst part is watching all of your peers having fun and living in the moment, but you’re the only one who doesn’t have a companion, or no one to talk to. I feel so isolated and trapped in my life
Same, I'm also 15 but I don't have friends at school and in my own class, and I can also only see people having fun with their friends😔while I don't, but that's okay hopefully this will end soon, and hopefully we have friends, keep your spirits up! for all of us who are experiencing this:D
This is SO real. I'm homeschooled, but I still get really depressed sometimes about having pretty much no friends- I have a few people, a FEW people I talk with online, only one I feel close with but they live miles away and we barely talk anymore. I can definitely relate to the whole college thing, I feel like it'll be a good, fresh start. Thanks for this video!! It's good to know I'm not entirely alone.
I’m homeschooled too. I’m in my junior year and since 7th grade I’ve had no social interactions with a friend. My parents don’t understand and they say that if I really wanted a friend I’d try harder to put myself out there more. It’s like they don’t even care. Reading your comment helps me understand that I’m not the only one.
the sleeping part is sooo real. i literally dgaf about having no friends until i get into bed and my mind starts making fun of me for having no social life
I felt that because I see people that can potentially be my friends until I see they already have their friends and best friends and I'm like: oh. My mind always tricks me to think I will never be able to reach that level of trust like them so I just give up...
i have seen ALOT of people online say that they have no friends irl and keep complaining about it. but i really have no friends since 5 years now and people around me always seem to atleast have 1 friend while i have none at all. i used to have lunch in the school restrooms while crying almost every single day. even the teachers back in highschool used to be concerned about my lonliness and ask my parents if i have mental issues. as someone with SEVERE anxiety i am left helpless and i feel lile ending my life
@@greekgamer5845 hii !! thanks for ur concern, the main reason i couldnt make friends was cuz of my anxiety, awkwardness and shyness around people. its still there tho, i dont know how to avoid getting extremely tensed around new ppl
@@uh-oh6405 I know I'm two months late, but one thing that helped me was exposure therapy and letting go of the fact of what other people thought. People forget about an interaction way quicker than you would, so it's good to keep in mind that it really doesn't matter if they see you as awkward. Try talking to that one person you think you have a tad bit in common with, even if it takes you the whole day just to speak. It's a long process, and getting over anxiety is no easy front. I still have it severely, but knowing coping mechanisms makes things easier. Just know that everything out of your control shouldn't be your main priority, and just focus on what you can control. It's also good to have people who support you. My mom cheer me on whenever I get out the house and even just interact with a waiter. You got this, and don't let the negative thoughts get to you. Just breathe and remind yourself that it'll all be okay, and that it's okay to be sad and stressed about your current situation. It will get better.
Yeah being completely lonely is not all sunshine and rainbows. Sure it could have positive sides. But most of the time it just leads to well- sad stuff. I personally almost ended my life because I had no one to tell my problems or have fun with. It’s embarrassing to be the only one sitting alone at lunch, it’s torture to respond to relatives asking you about your friends from school, it’s suffocating to go through anything painful (including school) without a friend. *Make at least 1 or 2 friends that you can hang out with, it’ll be worth the world.*
Yeah, im a sophomore who hasn’t had a friend friend in… well, since middle school. F’ing sucks, i feel the exact same. 8th grade i remember just laying in bed, realizing that i’ve been daydreaming about literally just *talking* to someone for the past hour. I felt miserable sitting at lunch with countless people around me (the cafeteria was set up in rows), but talking to no one. Then I remember when this one relative asking me if i had any friends in school. I said ‘maybe 4?’ He said, ‘damn, you can count all of them on one hand?’. Welp, f*ck, because I was actually being generous with my counting. in truth, i didn’t really have any at all. Two years have passed, and I’m still a socially awkward lonely mess. I have the same mentality as you, I thoroughly believe that life becomes more fulfilling even when you spend it with just one or two more people, as long as it’s deeply genuine. i’m trying to improve. I concluded that in order to feel more confident in speaking and interacting with others, I needed to find confidence in another area in my life. i plan to go to the gym, work on my fitness, and body. i’m also joining classes and clubs in school that force me to interact with or speak to people or even debate with them. i hope i get better, so that i can find a friend. i hope you find a friend too. haha, sorry for yapping in your replies, but I hope you have a nice life, stranger.
Como alguien que vivió la mayor parte de su adolescencia y secundaria sola puedo confirmar. Es mejor que hagan amigos antes sino quieren terminar como yo: intensa ansiedad social que te paralizará cuando intentes socializar, constantes sentimientos de soledad y sin amigos hasta de adulto lol
Out of all the videos I watched on this topic….this is the only one I can relate to. School is 10x harder when you’re alone. I’ve lost all motivation to even go to school. Im naturally an introvert so I do like being alone but sometimes I think about how lonely I am walking through the halls alone, sitting at lunch alone, sometimes even sitting in the bathroom for lunch. It sucks but at the same time I’ve always been like this. I am now a senior and I still have 0 friends. Thank you for this vid ❤️
Same. I’m a senior with no friends and it’s like I’ll never get one that sticks cuz everyone already knows I’m the friendless loser. Or that’s what I think they think. I got friends finally in junior year but I over think and since both friends weren’t in my classes, we never talked much and i was never even a friend to one of them and the other, I wasn’t vibing with anymore because we were at a dance and idk… she had tons of girls who knew her and I felt left out and weird. So.. yeah all my friends are gone. I only have one real friend and he’s a freshman so we barely see eachother and he’s only my friend because I’ve known him for more than 5 years. Without him, I’d be completely alone. Which I was anyway in the past. In middle school I had a whole friend group and a best friend and another friend. But since they all went separate ways, we aren’t friends anymore especially because covid really showed us that we changed in freshman year and that none of us were even strongest of friends anymore. Yupp I just ranted. Also sucks that I have to watch my crush who was actually a good friend of mine, stop talking to me and then get a gf so yeah I’m not in the best spot right now because it’s really starting to click that I’m alone.
@@user-zb7ru9zz7k I had friends all in middle school. We all drifted apart once I got into highschool but mostly freshman year was online anyways. So basically lost a year to try and make them 😭 but I’m lucky to have made some friends but unfortunately I drifted from those ones too. It’s good that I have atleast one friend and we are close even tho he’s 3 years younger than me. I hope you find more friends too. It’s not fun to be alone. It’s horrible to sit alone at lunch everyday, not have anyone to be with you at assembly’s or not be able to participate in school dances because you’ll be alone. It’s horrible and I wonder why it has to be me who is alone like this… why couldn’t I have been someone else who didn’t have social anxiety :(
I relate so much to ur comment. I am now going trough the same thing as you. I isolated myself for the past 3 months. And i lost motivation too. I am seen as the girl with no friends. I am always alone at lunchbreak, in class ... I always feel lonely. But it's now christmas break and it's almost over..so i hope this year will be better. I hope you're okay
@@idek440 my last semester starts on the 8th and I’m just ready to graduate. I still have no friends so I gotta thug it out till may. Idk what grade u in but hope all goes well for you this year
Hoping that lunch goes fast when its supposed to be the most enjoyable part about school is so real. I have no friends and im too embarrassed to sit alone, for even in the library, finding somewhere to sit is the most stressful anxiety inducing part of my day
im a senior this year and have been homeschooled since fourth grade really has stunned my socialization. online friends come and go (as do all friends) but ive always just wanted at least one irl friend to help with life and just enjoy my time with. literally thank u so much for this vid
Ik u explained the drawbacks of your experience of online school but you’re extremely lucky imo. U have more time to yourself and don’t have to go to school with hundreds of ignorant teenagers
@@user-zb7ru9zz7k i can agree in that aspect. tbh either way has its drawbacks and positives so it depends on what you make of it. im thankful for my ability to have quiet education and not deal with overstimulation of classrooms and such but i also wish i could've experienced having irl friends instead of isolation.
@@jjwrk minor but better updates! been struggling to find a suitable job at the moment (like most people right now lol) which i fully expected to better my social skills in before going to uni. at the very least, i've been able to meet up with a few online friends this summer and even if they aren't always available to hang out, im definitely grateful of the days we have spent together. all i could ask for tbh it only gets up from here
I’ve tried “getting myself out there” a whole bunch of times. I constantly thought that “finally I have somebody/ some people to talk to!” but as always, I got pushed away by those same people. That’s why I don’t really care anymore and I’m better off not having friends than having “friends” that don’t acknowledge or take me seriously.
THIS IS THE REALEST THING EVER. I moved to a new school about a year ago and i tried joining numerous friend groups who passively aggressively pushed me away and i just gave up 😭
I’m a sophomore and I’m LITERALLY in the same situation. There’s like, a whole story as to why I haven’t made an *actual friend* since 5th grade but long story short COVID really messed things up and I’ve been lonely & had social anxiety ever since. Anyways I really appreciate this video and I hope you make a friend soon!🙏🏽
I'm litterally going through the exact same thing! It's so depressing. My dad keeps asking me if I still talk to my middle school/elementary friends but he doesn't know that we've grown apart. It's embarrassing to say that you have no one to actually talk to.
MY SOCIAL ANXIETY IS LITERALLY KILLING ME MAN I DONT EAT LUNCH WITH ANYONE, WALK ALONE, EVEN GROUP PROJECTS ALONE AND IM NOT PART OF ANY GROUP CHAT AND THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR 3 FRICKING YEARS AND WHEN PEOPLE SAY SHI LIKE “Enjoy your Highschool life” WELL DAMMIT😭
dawg im sorry. i only had two friends in hs, never had many special teenager moments (less than 10). im 20 now. its alright. get a job w a lot of ppl ur age after you graduate. ppl are more normal outside/after hs and they will talk to you
I just want to leave, man. 5 more months… prom is coming. I had no friends in middle school either. Or elementary. Acquaintances is the max I’ve gotten so far. I also happened to be in the worst place in terms of mental health in my life, and other problems outside of school. The extreme loneliness and the isolation at school is just a bonus
@@hhproductions8254its not easy anymore. Or easy ever. You have to pick the right people to be friends with especially now because most kids now are NOT PEOPLE you want to be friends with. Take this example of what i see in my highschool, boys friends groups. They are basically a bunch of doormats doing horrible stuff to the other doormats who will tolerate it, all tolerating each other being horrible. Its even become a meme for some reason how these idiots will say the most horrible things to each other and do other horrible things but remain friends. How kids got this brainless? Idk. All i know is that because most if not everyone is brainless or because they never had parents who taught them how to be a normal sane person lots of people dont even ask you to be their friend.
have hope, hs is such a small part of your life and you will experience many things throughout the rest of your life. And don’t be afraid to take opportunities when they appear in the present
It’s difficult and takes time to truly express yourself. I say until you’re ready to just spend more time with yourself and understand yourself more as a person. It makes it easier :)
I tried being happy and expressing myself and being silly for my first year of highschool, got bullied so bad it made me crazy for most of the year because apparently being yourself is a big nono and you are cringe and deserve to not be treated like a human being. Second year, still perceptive as to whether im still being silently mocked as my own social image has been decimated still so most people dont treat me like a human being
@@kqlolll2618 Nobody cares. Nobody in your high school will remember the outfit you wore on the first day. Nobody in your high school will remember what happened to you. Nobody in high school truly cares about your family, where your from, who you are, and why you matter. That is why you need to achieve success and leave this bs behind. Friendships are for middle class people. The richest people of all time have family.
Your not alone, my freshman and sophomore year I had almost no good friends. I just stuck around assholes to not feel lonely and was extremely quiet because I drifted away from so many people over quarantine. It sucks, just going day to day with nothing to do besides school work, rotting away, waiting for college. Thankfully I finally found some good people who like me for who I am, and I really hope anyone else reading this can find those people too. Just remember, you dont need to be popular or have it all to be happy, its just highschool, dont compare and find people who you enjoy. Also being honest, luck is a big factor. If I didn't get lucky with some of my classes I'd still be right where I started.
I hate how like posts online and ‘influencers’ always say that you should drop those toxics friends and find new ones as if in this generation it’s as easy as going up to someone, saying ‘hi’ and becoming friends.
@@LILC63 well you just got to make peace with yourself. if you're friends with someone not because you enjoy their company but because you feel forced to, drop them. there's tons of things you can do on your own at school. draw, study, read, eat, sleep, do your makeup/skincare and the list goes on. you'll feel relieved when you realize you don't need to be so insecure, and you don't need others. if they really want you they would care about you enough to not make you isolate yourself
I remember in grade 8, I moved to a new school and made a bunch of "friends." They all turned out to be fake and I stopped talking with them in grade 9. It was really hard for me to make new friends, especially with self esteem issues in that year. I made 1 real friend, that's it. This year (grade 10) I've made a decent amount of friends. I have been working on ways to improve my self confidence and find people who like me for who I am. I also tried to open up and talk to people more. (I am pretty introverted, but when I find something to talk about I will just keep talking) Now I'm much happier!
Mf you can’t just ‘make a friend’ that’s treating people not like people. A friend is someone you’ve known for ages, not a person you’ve made into a ‘friend’. There is a difference between a person you occasionally talk because you have classes together and a person who you know every detail about.
@@hhproductions8254 I don't think you have to know someone for ages to be friends? The people I've talked to in some classes at my new school for just the past 2 weeks are my friends.
anxiety is tough, but if you don't join a club or a sport it's gonna be tough to make friends if u don't put in the effort, i struggled a lot as i was homeschooled heading into highschool, but as soon as i joined a sport i made friends. put urself out there or you're gonna be lonely
Even besides the anxiety my school hasn’t always been the place where I could fit in. Everyone is into stuff that I’ve barely even stepped foot in, but I hear you on putting myself out there, I’m taking one step at a time.
I joined the golf team I just don’t relate to any of them at all just nothing for us to talk about or do other than golf and they are kindve assholes when we play
I’m just as lonely talking with people. Unless you are comfortable enough to invite them over and hang out, they are not your friend. They are an acquaintance.
Bruh my parents seriously bugging me to find a sport just to find friends. Im not a sports person and not really a big fan of it, i never found a sport i liked. There was cross country but ill never get to get back to it because my parents are stupid idiots who went crazy and got sososo depressed when they found out i had to attend meets but couldnt instantly have the endurance to run in them and had to cheer. Duh, it obviously takes a lot of practice, particularly they were really angry that they made me wear a uniform while i couldnt run. Running was fun, however having stupid cavemen iq parents isnt 😊😊
@@adriancabrera4817 god right. i keep thinking itll just change on its own but its been so many years i just dont know what to do. i wish someone would jsut tell me exactly what they want from me. NOTHING ive tried is working. just tell me what to do and ill do it god why is this so hard
Being a 17 year old guy in junior year, I feel this to an extreme extend bruh, most guys and girls think I’m weird and all I do is try to be kind and stay in my own lane if I’m not going out of my comfort zone lol
yo same except i live in a town of racists who dont think properly ;-; i mean that btw those kids will run across the street (the FREEWAY street btw) in the MIDDLE of the day and if u dont do the same ur a "COWWWAAARRRDDDD"
Junior too, 16. I've given up. some people have even tried talking to me, but they already have friends. and I'm scared I'm going to ruin their friendships or sm. I'm so obsessed over finding a friend but when someone acts kind to me I push them away. i dont know whats wrong with me.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. At least you are trying. I’ve recently found some people that have the same interests as me after years of feeling like friends don’t understand me. So, you never know. You still have your identity and confidence which is all you need. But you’ll find them.
honestly i think i have been alone pretty much since i started school as a kid, had a few minor friends there and now and when i was 13 i was even in a friend group, but now, 15, it's like i'm already used to being alone but at the same time it sucks SO HARD, i feel like everyone intentionally ignores me because they think i'm weird someway, and it got to the point where i would literally spend the ENTIRE DAY without saying a single word in school and leave, i already had SO much panic attacks in and out of school because of that to the point where i can't even feel comfortable in my own body and just being myself in general, and guess who gave a shit about me? NOBODY fuck. school.
I feel and experience that, too. I was lucky enough to have small talk with a dude in my history class. I sometimes wanna talk/ approach someone, but I don't wanna seem weird, so I don't do anything.
well yeah, if you don't talk and just sit around you basically fade into the background. But trust me, people aren't intentionally ignoring you or secreting hating you or anything..they probably don't even realize you exist..and im not trying to be mean just honest
OH MY GOD GIRL you actually get it like you talked about exactly what I'm going through its like your talking about my life, glad I found someone that I can relate to sooo true about wanting to skip to collage you DO NOT understand how much it helps to know that I'm not the only one that has been struggling with this
I’m 18 and a senior, I also don’t have friends and I just wait for my graduation. I don’t even know what I’m gonna do after that, I’m hoping I magically figure out once I graduate.
Frr people ask to hang out outside of school my parent always say no so they always think I’m a bitch or smth because of how often they don’t allow me to go out 🙁
My parents are too nosy for me to have friends. If I just use my phone keyboard or a notification sound, they ask me who I'm texting with an attitude. And I'm almost an adult, which frustrates me.
@@sandrohernandez4401omg same! im 17 and literally can’t hang out with my friends bcus one of them is gay and the other is a girl (i wish i was joking when i typed this).
I’m a senior in high school. I came into high school with no friends there because I was new. I’m also autistic which means that people think I’m a joke just because I laugh and talk a lot and do peculiar (but harmless) things. People only sit with me if there’s not enough space to sit somewhere else. As soon as there is, nobody will sit there, and when I sit at places with people, they usually end up leaving me alone rather quickly. Group projects I’m left alone. I see people I know hanging out without me. I did what I was supposed to do. Invite people places, talk, show genuine interest and kindness but I have only had 2 high school relationships that left the school and they are still quite shallow as I share no classes with the people I have connections to. The other thing that sucks is that I don’t remember names too well. That means that when I talk I’m often ignored. Sometimes purposefully. People say be yourself until you’re a person like me. Then you’re annoying and they want you to shut up. At this point, it’s my last year so fuck it. I’m keeping my head down and I’ll try again in college, this time with a new and improved personality and physique. It seems everywhere I go everyone is in an established friend group. If I didn’t have a strong sense of hope and motivation, I would have probably offed myself by now. I really hope that something changes😩
Let's not forget people call you weird all the time too! And if someone shows any interest, you start overthinking if it's genuine or are there any other intentions behind their words. Hate this. I hate how I knew it will be like this. My school system has one consistent group of classmates so there is no option of being lucky and having that one person you share 1 class with be your friend. Just ended up being the weirdo making circles on the hallway.. 3rd grade, I can do it, I believe you can too.
I watched some of your videos and you have a great personality and are extremely talented at the piano. Honestly if the people at your school don’t want to be friends with you or interact with you don’t entertain it. I know still going through school having no one be your #1 sucks, but maybe just go through the school day knowing that you’re worthy of friendship and one day you will meet someone. You aren’t going to be alone forever and everyone ends up finding someone, at least that’s what I believe :)
This is so real. This is happening to me right now and it kinda hurts (Btw papa’s bakeria is the best I actually sometimes play the to go ver. at school)
feel you girly pop. i know it's hard. but hey, on the bright side, you'll be going to college (or not if you don't want to) in a few years and you'll be able to make new friends there. stay strong
I just sit in my room after school and still barely get ANY homework done 😭Like I think to myself at least I don't have to hear about how X person don't like Y person and Z person likes X person and blah blah blah but whenever I end that train of thought I always just think to myself "its alright bro just admit you're lonely & coping"
Omg omg finally found someone who I relate to! I feel so lonely at school and out of school.. I talk to ppl and stuff during class but I’m alone at lunch ://
I got so used to having no friends that I self sabotage any time someone tries to be friends with me.watching these videos made me realise that there is something wrong with me it seems like a lot people didn't choose to be alone or isolated but unlike me I did and it was normal. Though right now I'm doing better than last year I still do feel isolated in my school
And I don't really have" true friends" still since I only talk to them about trivial things or about school related stuff also it's kinda exhausting hanging with people who have little common interest or hobbies I cannot express my true myself because I know they will make me feel different among them and look stupid or alienated
Same, I self sabotage too. Always was insecure n shit, thought people was making fun of me when they came up to me to talk to me. Usually I was right, I mean, you can automatically tell if you're paying attention, right? but then I come across someone genuinely trying to be my friend and I'm like immediately assuming, "no, you're making fun of me, there's no way you'd wanna be friends with me", and kinda act rude to them just to get them to go away. It works, nobody comes up to me, it's my fault I'm lonely. but I look at the bright side. at least those people who wanted to be my friends will go to other lonely kids who actually need a friend and won't push them away. it's not normal to self sabotage a potential friendship, I realize that now too. but hey, insecurities hold me back, can't change overnight. at least I'm still alive!
This video really resonated with me. This was my high school expirence. By early next year, I should be finished with high school. It's sad I couldn't experience friendship, and have fun. Going to school with no one to look forward to seeing and eating alone watching everyone else laugh was soul crushing. I imagine adulthood is the same, probably worse since everyone will be busy. All we can do is change ourselves for the better.
i'm in college now, still lonely af but you made my day. thank you so much for telling your story Sia. in a way, you told our stories as well. i barely made it through senior year. due to the extreme loneliness i felt every day, i needed to quit my high school. so i finished senior year through online school. it was impossible for me to be happy as a senior because i didn't have any friends to graduate with. seriously, tysm for sharing about this topic. you could be saving many teens' lives.
I’m 16 in high school, and I go to such a small school, where the graduating class is around 35 kids each year. I grew up with almost everyone I see in the hallways. Because of this, people get the impression that we all must be friends and we all must not be lonely. Wrong. I’ve grown up with most of the people in my grade, and somehow, I haven’t felt a true sense of connection since maybe middle school. I’ve recently started to eat lunch in a classroom because I confessed to my teacher that I hid in the restroom during lunch because, and this is a direct quote from me, if I’m gonna be lonely, I’d rather do it alone. And I still stand by that. However, even I can’t deny that relationships are a huge part of growing up, and you need them, especially to get through something as daunting and energy draining as high school. I have such high social anxiety and self esteem issues because I don’t know what it feels like to have the validation or support that a group of friends provides. I don’t have anyone that I can think of and know, “yes, they have my back 100%.” At this point, it’s a waiting game to see how long I can last until college, and a constant question/worry of “Will I ever be able to make a friend?”
It’s always the like “buddies” too that aren’t actually your friends bc they have other friends and you see them like once a day. Like bro I HAVE NO COMMUNITY. I feel like my years have been completely wasted. At least I graduate this yr 😭I srsly wanna skip to college too.
Agreed can’t wait to also graduate this year too because I swear when it’s your peers it’s like some switch turns on and everybody don’t wanna fw you all of a sudden 😔😭
I've has so many buddies in classes, i would make them laugh and play google doodle games, but they never stay with me they never try to talk to me so i stopped trying to make any interactions with anyone and it sucks i dont want to be alone but i feel like i hit rock bottom not even therapy works because all i do is talk about cats because i dont wanna talk about my problems
I literally STRUGGLE with this issue. I never experienced having a friend before in school, I only had students I would talk to every now and then, just classmates. Since I'm now homeschooled, I literally have NO chance of connecting with irl people and only have online to help me. I can't really get passed highschool. I have no motivation to. (still in 9th grade, I'm 16). All the online friends I had came and went. I thought I would actually have friends then, that's not how it is. I really want (or wanted) a friend that I could just, idk, hang out with outside, like a normal situation in tv shows, movies, or cartoons, like with South Park. It just seems so fun to hang out, surprisingly, I never hung out before, ever. It's really getting to me, I struggle with lonliness ever since I was young. My only true friend was my cousin. We used to talk a lot, but slowly drifted away as time went on, and now, we don't talk. I fear I might not have friendship moments like normal situations, all because I'm stuck in my home most of the time. The only person I could go have a conversation with is my mom, and that's it, no one else. It's sad really. I tried Discord, Amino, countless friendship apps (not the weird dating ones) to find friends, and they all failed. Most friends I had already had friends, and it just made me all jealous, like, how did you get these friends? How? But that's a stupid thing to get jealous over. I now turn to TH-cam as my last option, hopefully by my animations, I could pull in someone that will gradually become my friend :) Anyways, for anyone who actually read my comment of rambling, thank you, if you could even find it. I'm surprised to all the people who literally have no friends like I do. It gives me hope that I'll find someone with similar interests and life as me. I hope for that day, I swear. Good luck, people :)
i literally cant relate more to you, especially the jealousy part. like literally I cant talk to people because "they already have friends and I'm not worth their time" it makes me feel so worthless and weak I feel like nobody needs me and that's why i'm alone and i feel like i'm the only one in this world experiencing this ngl I'm starting to believe in the simulation theory
@@diren.ııı i wouldn’t be surprised if this simulation of earth was like extreme difficulty or something like everything here is genuinely so stressful
I haven't had any irl friends since I was 10, mostly because my classmates were rude and I got bullied a ton throughout elementary and middle. By high school I didn't really care to talk with anyone since most people just gossiped constantly, I just focused on my own things. But it definitely gets to me at some points, not having anyone to sit by you can be depressing sometimes. I'm happy and grateful for my family and online friends because I can connect with them better and online it's easier to find likeminded people
I honestly wish I had someone to look forward to in school, it doesn't really work the same online. Because now I look forward to skipping school 💀 But yeah, this video exactly hit the spots in my soul. Good video 🌸
we're scattered all over the world. even though so many of us are struggling with being alone, we're likely all miles apart from each other. even if any of us happened to be going to the same school, it's likely that they wouldn't even notice the other struggling with loneliness.
The problem was caused by people just generally not wanting to even be friends with each other, and also shunning each other because they are somewhat wierd, if not to the worst scenario treating them not like a human being as what they did to me last time. everything seems to have been going downhill since 2019 People before then were so much more friendlier
@@torbieginger-sh2cc ah yeah my bad let me just turn off the part of my brain that screams at me every time i make a simple mistake! lemme just ignore the overwhelming urge to _apologize for my existence!_ it isn't as simple as turning/taking something off. its like asking someone to stop being depressed. it takes time and effort to get to a place where you not only feel comfortable with others, but also yourself. we long for companionship that we believe we don't deserve, and getting out of that mindset isn't easy. not when it feels like everyone's staring at you, or when you have a sinking feeling that those whispers are about you. i wish we could just snap out of it. i wish that your comment would suddenly make people like us _like us,_ but alas, that isnt how this works. it's gradual, it's terrifying, but eventually we'll get there. hopefully we'll find people who we can rely on, who we can trust. but until then, we've just gotta keep working on ourselves.
hey, I’ve since graduated high school but I went though it with no friends. I went entire days without speaking to anyone and barely anyone even knew I was in their class. When I graduated, no one clapped for me. But the bright side is, there’s always more chances to make friends, especially out of school. I was able to make a few acquaintances at work who actually like me, and I might be able to hang out with some other coworkers I never really talked to because I found out we have some similar interests. I might not have any actual friends right now but I still have hope that it can happen for me someday.
i also know theres light at the end of the tunnel, so sometimes when i feel lonely, ill remember that when i go have a job or learn more, i can get over my shyness and try to talk
Yeah, just coming back from that hellhole called “school” and going to your room and putting on some tunes while lying on your bed is such a good feeling
REAL. love making up silly little adventures and friends in my head. even my imaginary friends are hard to talk to though, being i'm basically an omnipresent god who controls the plot and everything...
You know this ain't getting better when they don't want to make groups with you (I remember I almost cried because my maths teacher made fun of me because I was alone at a activity with pairs, I had 11, and also happened always in PE that I had to make the activities with the teacher almost all the year)
sia you seem so nice and funny. i didn’t have any friends until about halfway through my junior year of high school and it sucked. i remember getting lunch and then going to eat it in the library bc i didn’t have anyone to sit with. it can be so hard to try and make friends when everyone already seems like they have their groups. i know you said that your anxiety keeps you from joining clubs and stuff but honestly… do theater or band haha that might sound lame but i auditioned for my school’s musical my junior year and that’s when i finally felt like i had friends. i had after school activities and i had people that i could talk to, even if it was just about the show. again, you literally seem so funny and genuine and i know this is the last thing you want to hear, but you’ll have no problem making friends once you leave school. high school is tough. even for the people that seem like they have a ton of friends. you don’t know what kind of terrible dynamic they have within their group or how many times they get left out of things that they really wanted to go to. obviously it’s easy for me, a 25 year old, to say this. but keep your head up girl!!! and keep making content. you’re clearly a really cool person and you won’t be friendless forever. high school just…. really really sucks. ❤ fr loved this video btw. i think you should keep making rants like this. you seem to have a good view of the world and a good head on your shoulders. just wait until you aren’t in high school anymore- you’re gonna excel far beyond most of the people you see in class everyday that look like they have it made. just wait!! it’ll be worth it, i promise.
As a 24 year old who doesn’t have many friends IRL (and those I do have moved away) i feel your pain sister. Pretty much all my friends are online, I wanna make friends IRL, but…as an adult, it’s much harder than when you’re a teenager. I don’t have a 3rd place to go and make friends ( aside from church, but that’s limited) i just wanna find my people IRL. People who share the same morals, interests, and are in the same age group as me. Is that too much to ask? It shouldn’t be.
i wqs so close to ending it all a while ago because of the same reason. its simply jsut so depressing going to school with no friends and haveign insane anxiety over it is even bad. thankfully ill be out of it next year thank god. ill miss it probably, idfk. this made me feel so less alone.. thank you for uploading this. i seriously thought i was the only one with this issue
1:00 it's always been acquaintances for me I've been through many different schools in my life and yet never have i made a person who genuinely wants to be my friend or hang out, im always told "give it time you'll make a friend/friend group eventually" but I've heard that for YEARS, im just so starved for human interaction/connection
All of my friends drop me in senior year, so I have no one to go with at prom,school parties etc which is why I'm not going to any of those activities. My classmates act surprised when I say this like bro do you see me with ANYONE THAT I COULD POSSIBLY go with??? 😭
This is the most realest video I’ve ever seen. I’m a sophomore in high school, but the past 2-3 years have been a pain. Every time I think I made a new friend, they somehow end up leaving me for other people. I’ve made acquaintances in school, but it never leads to anything serious. I genuinely feel like I can’t find anyone who has the same interests as me and wants to hangout after school with me. I like to be on my own, I don’t mind. But, sometimes, I would like to have someone to talk to. It gets tiring being alone all the time, but it’s just hard to make friends who genuinely are interested in you :/
Here’s my 2 cents. Back in high school i was considered a “weird loser” with no friends and I was miserable the entire time. However once I got to college I felt like i was finally seen, and from what I’ve heard, the bullies and popular people had their tables turned in college, as nobody cares who you were or what your status was then in high school. All that is to say, don’t worry about how many friends you have in high school, because the people outside of that microclimate are much more interesting anyway, and you WILL be valued for your personality eventually!
What im afraid the most is while being in any close relationships you learn a lot. You learn how to behave, how to act, what do friends do - if you skip that, you'll be behind everyone that had frienship through those years, making you incompatible with a huge part of society later in life
that’s so real. i started studying in the UK from this year and had no friends to begin with. the school year is almost over and i just have a few in-school friends who never talk to me outside of school
Damn....I thought I was the only one, ever since middle school I haven't had any friend in my class, it's honestly painful seeing people having fun while you sit there watching and wishing you could have that genuine connection with other people
i just turned 18 and am going to university next year and this hits really hard for my past (and honestly still present) self. there was lockdown at the start of my high school experience and i got bullied really bad for the whole first half of high school too which made me lowkey too afraid to make new friends, since once i dropped them i had no one else. i went years with ZERO friends, the only person i'd talk to was the teacher when i said "here" during roll call. it SUCKED and i still only have 1 friend who's the type like you described where i only talk to them during class. the only reason i'm not as depressed as i was when i was 14-17 is coz i have hope for university next year. but god high school with no friends is the worst and i'm glad to see a video i can relate to even if i watched this a lil late lol
The friends I made at school were more acquaintances so it was really just in name. My middle school friends are still in my life though. This year netted me the -1 friend at school that I sorta talked to a bit but in return I got people to actually talk to this year. Hang in there fellow helltaker fan
I’m a junior is high school and I still haven’t kept a close friendship with anyone. I kind of stop trying to make friends because most of them move schools, get homeschooled, or just don’t keep in touch anymore. Like I love socializing but..high school is just so overwhelming. It feels like everyone is constantly judging you. AND, I seen so many people with the same interests as me but I could never have the courage to like actually go up to them.
Damn it’s gotten so bad for me, all my friends I’ve had end up just leaving me, or I have to leave them. It’s that same cycle over and over. It’s just I don’t know where I fit in! It’s hard to find the right people and I just think all the time that if I make a friend they’re gonna leave me. But unfortunately at this point I’ve kinda gotten used to it. Thank you so much for this video though, it’s opened my eyes and shows that I’m not alone.
this is so real dude i never thought i'd meet my people but no one ever thinks about what its like growing up all of ur high school life with no one to talk to, and i mean no one, im tired of mfs who say they're lonely but at least HAVE someone to chat with (im in my senior year already and i have no friends and i've tried, if i talked about my experiences we would be here all day.)
this video perfectly describes me tysm for sharing!!! also talking to other teachers is somehow a little easier than talking to people my age which is just sad
I have chronic/generalized anxiety disorder, and it’s ruined my school life. Especially after elementary school. I’m 16 and trying to make friends or even keep friendships is difficult. In middle school, the only friend I ever had was my sister, but even then she still had her own groups and our schedules didn’t align. I would spend most of my times hiding in the bathrooms and even eating lunch there. I was such a loner. People would throw their friends into me, they would laugh at me and call me slurs, and they would shove me around. The only person I ever was able to speak to was my science teacher. He might not know it, but he saved me from being so miserable in school. High school wasn’t even better though. My anxiety got worse. I was having panic attacks every other day. I was so alone that teachers tried being my friends. Eventually, during Freshmen year, I met a group of people. I thought I was finally getting my social life together…until they started to bully me. “You’re so easy to bully”, they’d say. They’d touch me in ways I didn’t like, they’d cross boundaries, they’d tease me. Even till this day (Junior year) they’re still like this even though I’ve tried separating myself from them and have tried telling them to stop. They don’t take me seriously. They think I’m laughing at all the teasing WITH them. I dread going to school. I got diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and depression a month back, and am now starting to take antidepressants. They know this and have already started to make jokes about it. (Not to mention, they also like making fun of the fact that that I am most definitely on the autism spectrum, since it runs in my family.) The only REAL friends I feel I have right now are my PE teachers. I’m just now known as that kid that gets to sit out of gym whenever they want to. When in reality I’m aloud to sit out and sleep because my mental health worsened my physical well being. (Chest pain, stomach pain, headaches, you name it!) I wish I was normal, or had a friend MY age who would understand me.
Hey I'm sorry that happens to you, I also struggle with similar problems except the bullying and autism. I also have really bad anxiety and possibly undiagnosed depression and Im also a 16 year old in junior year rn and I only have like mabye 2-3 friends at school bc I'm an introvert and I hate talking to people and i dont really have any classes with 2 of them. Idk if this advice is helpful but mabye try to talk to people that doesn't give you that bad vibe or like try making friends with people that you think you feel comfortable with. Ik it's hard to make friends bc of the experience that your going through but you should atleast try making 1 friend that you know you could trust. Also for the bullies, I'd say develop the confidence to stand up for yourself and ignore them.
@@dunduraee glad to know there’s someone out there who’s my age and also having similar struggles. I will most definitely try to distance myself and stand up to my bullies (perhaps even tell my coaches)… and luckily i’ve started to make some new friends today! My sophomore acquaintance introduced me to his friend group and they were almost just like me! i hope things get better for you x🤍
lol I’m not an emotion person but it’s definitely gotten harder to endure sitting alone at lunch. Its also been hard to get lunch since I have no where to eat. This video made me cry lmao because I just wish I had normal interest where I could connect with other people, but no matter how hard I try i am labeled weird. Thank you sharing your experience so it makes me less alone
I went from a whole army of friends to nobody for 2 years and then got a proper good friend unfortunately I don’t know how much longer that friend is going to stay alive
I used to be this way. I'm in college now but until then I had no friends and never thought I could be loved or have a true bff. Fast forward and now I do have an online best friend who I have seen in person irl 5 times and is my bff. And I have also befriended an elderly lady online to who I plan to meet irl soon. Life works in mysterious ways. I used to be sooo awkward and shy and riddled with anxiety. It does get better
As someone who has different interests and can't relate to almost anyone in my class, I actually felt this. (´。＿。｀) I moved to this school a year ago, and I never did feel so lonely until now. Barely anyone in my class likes the things I like, or has the same humor as me, and those who do, I'm too socially awkward to talk to and maintain a friendship with them. 90% of my class being filled with assholes isn't helping with my kooky and awkward personality, either. I literally dread going to school just because of the thought of being alone and judged every day, like a never ending cycle. I have to put on a shy and quiet act every single time I enter school, and my real personality slips sometimes from how tired I am of faking an entire personality. And it's all just for me to hardly connect with others and be made fun of when my true colors come out. I've gone home from school with tears welling in my eyes multiple times, thinking about how everyone else is having fun with friends while I'm here being sad and lonely because all my friends are 2 hours away and our friendship is slowly slipping away from the distance. .·´¯`(>▂
@@hhproductions8254no your just one of those wierd people they are probably talking about. I could even call you wierd because you like war stuff, if anything you would be shunned as well. Plus saying anime is quite an understatement considering that anime doesnt really have this reputation anymore is more liked now, if anything to shun someone for it would only be possible if they wanted everyone to know. ok but fr serious emoticons does not mean anime kid you sound a bit dumb, like you think you are better than everyone here, while i just told you that you wouldnt really
Yes, no one likes the shows that I like- I feel like I can only connect with people through same interests but my classmates don’t watch those shows and it’s hard to talk to them although I want to make friends not just by similar interest but I also want to get to know people for who they are as well-
I had no friends from 7th grade to the 12th grade when I graduated. I had this one table up near the front of the cafeteria where I would sit every single day and eat lunch just hoping that just one person I tried talking to would join me. At the time I was graduating, I just skipped it for an extra shift at whatever dead end job I was working at the time. I did try or I atleast think I did. No matter how much think I did to keep in contact with people I once knew or people I fell out with in the end it reslly didn't matter but honestly I really don't mind it because after awhile I just became my own best friend. Another aspect of this is that covid just really messed everything up since it happened the middle of high school all the way to the home stretch. Thinking back I think I've just always been content with being that loner because other people just held me down
Too relatable, I can only think of one person I would call a friend even then, I barely talk to them online, I talk to them in person even less than I do online, it’s kinda hard to see them as a friend, and more so, an acquaintance, they feel more like that Edit: Also, when I do see them in person, it’s at school and I’m more so just walking by them and saying hi to them
I feel exactly like this right now. I am on the spectrum and I have a really hard time socializing, and I have tried before to be friends with people even though it’s so hard for me to speak, but I just end up screwing it up because I’m so bad at socializing. And seeing everyone around me doing stuff with big groups of friends while I am all alone feels so bad, and I feel like I am wasting my high school years like this and I am already in grade 10. Because all I do is sit by myself and quietly do my work and I need like teachers to walk to classes with me because I’m so afraid of just moving around the school alone which probably dosent help with people wanting to be friends with me. At this point with my anxiety being so bad I really feel like I am never going to have friends at all and it really depresses me.
As someone who didn’t have that many friends until fairly recently, I really recommend joining clubs!! Whether it’s a big thing like band or theater or even just a smaller one like a gardening club or something, it helps a lot with getting to know more people!!!
that's literally me man high school is just painful it's hard enough managing schoolwork but add in the fact that nobody wants to talk to me, dislikes or outright hates me, and they think i'm autistic (even though i'm NOT) makes it SO MUCH WORSE. I see people having like an entire friend group while i'm just a sad loner that nobody wants to talk to. I've tried striking up random conversations but it just gets awkward. I don't just want a school friend, I want a FRIEND friend. A friend that I am excited to talk with and vice versa. But no apparently that's too much to ask for. I have ZERO social life because the other kids in school ostracized me and BULLIED ME for it. I'm miserable to the point that i grunt whenever i see a friend group talking in the canteen.
man its so good hearing someone say stuff I constantly ask myself lol. I'm a sophomore with practically no friends, but I can't even go to school. I've been homeschooled my whole life in a rural area so it just makes things so difficult emotionally. I know its been a year since you posted this but I really hope you're doing better. And yes I cannot wait to go to college as well 😂
Girl I relate to you sm. I had absolutely NO friends in 7th grade. Not even a person to sit with at lunch. Now things are better and I do have people to rely on thank god. I hope you find a friend before you leave hs, bc you seem like a genuinely nice person to be around. Good luck!!!
I hate that I relate to this. It especially hurts when you see everyone in their own friend groups and spending time together outside of school. I only have one close friend that I talk to all the time at school, but it still feels isolating. She has other friends and I don’t. So whenever I’d be talking to her and one of her other friends comes to say hi, I just awkwardly stand there just waiting for their convo to end. I’ve tried to get close to her friends but it hasn’t worked since we don’t really click. I’ve even tried to get out of my comfort zone to make new friends but it seems like everyone is so closed off and only sticks to whatever friend group they already have. Not only that, it’s just been hard to connect with people. High school has been nothing but lonely, and it’s depressing :’(
5:52 that’s exactly how I feel too! I’m someone who enjoys people’s presence physically around me, and knowing people only or mostly through a phone and text messages, just will never fully make me happy
for a depressing rant that is really relatable to shit i went thru before this made me laugh a little too much LMAO ur funny you really deserve to have as many friends as you desire :(( hope youre better now !!
4:00 I feel you, i used to feel like this the most back in junior high, i cried those nights, and the thing is, it was worse, i called myself worthless, and undeserving, and was distancing myself from the only friends i even had (i text people) and wasnt even texting people for a year or 2, started trying to text them all over again recenetley but have no clue if im just merely an acquantance of theirs they met a couple years ago, and it's just... Man i cant rn, i got over it by saying who cares, and well, being alone isnt always the worst right? It's only bad if i make myself feel lonely. I at least have my family i guess. Sort of..
i’ve had friend issues for as long as i can remember and had nobody in high school (and my freshmen year was during covid which made it really hard in my sophomore year). like even online i’ve hopped friend group to friend group and it made high school terrible, especially with very bad family issues, anxiety, and teachers not doing their jobs. but anyways my point is that it does not get better in college. it’s been way WAY worse and more isolating. i hope you are able to find lasting friends in the future and best of wishes!
I'm in senior year, and it's kind of my fault. I've always been attached to the kids with no friends, so I'm suck with them and babysit them instead of making friends with actually good people that I can be myself. College I get a free restart, so I can get a do over. Easy peasy.
i hate how real this is
Hmmm
I'll pray things get better and you'll find some! I'll be your friend here, at least ^^
Even as an introvert friends are still needed. I hate to admit it but I NEED that validation and companionship that friends give you in order to survive the misery that high school brings.
Yeah friends are not just people you socialize with. I wish I learned that when I was in middle and high school.
too fing real.
I survived the 4 alone, but it sucked lol
Guys introvert≠never talking to people
We need to find each other cause this is exactly how I feel wtf
it has come to the point where i make up fake scenarios in my head about having a friend😭 15 with no friends sucks like everyone my age is having so fun meanwhile i am just rotting in bed
Girll why is this so real 😭😭
youre so real
@@cibeleslay changbin pfp ate
@@sunoostan2297 thank youu 😋
Same 15 no friends it sucks so bad when you try and it doesnt go anywhere
Im 17 now, last time i was considered "liked" was when i was 8. Nothing has worked. I have been alone since.
Haven’t had friends since 5th grade. So since 10 or 11.
@@thecommenterdude3995 bro same (except im still young but ik i wont get any friends throughout the entire of high school)
Jesus is there for you
@@Cheyenne-hr1we what if ur not religious
@@Cheyenne-hr1we man shut up
LITERALLY. school ONLY feels worthwhile if you have someone to be there for you. its like i have no security YKWIM?? i dont have the security of having someone with me and a GENUINE connection. im not looking for school friends im looking for friends friends. nothing is worth it in school anymore.
edit: im in senior year right now, actually had the guts to make some new friends
couldn't have explained it any better
Real, they only use me or reach out to me on academic reasons only . It doesn’t feel genuine at all... I’ve never had an actual friend who actually bonded with me and was genuine enough they always leave sadly..
I think the reason its so much harder to find friends in 2024 is simply because people just really dont want to make friends anymore. When i was little and i once switched to a private school once i was looking for friends and found people who actually wanted to be friends and had 2 legitimate friends. However after coming back to my old school because i decided to go back it was like a switch was turned on where nobody wanted to be friends anymore. You see, when i was at private school it was still 2019, and as far as i know, everything after 2019 basically went downhill and everything started to suck. I was only happy in middle school and when i was back to school because i already knew everyone there and they fw me. Now there isnt anybody. Because i was slightly acting "dumb" or was doing something like that in my first year of highschool it legit sucked because Kids aint got no parents, and that basically became a problem because more and more kids seemed to have parents that thought them nothing on how to treat people like human beings, as we all are, and these kids didnt treat me like a human being to the point i had a horrid amount of problems because they legit drove me crazy. Now second year currently, they still aint treating me much like a human being, and hey are wierd af still. Another thing worth noting is that if you look closely, the friends people have shouldn't even be their friends but apparently each friend group is a bunch of doormats tolerating what each horrendous thing each other doormat does to them, such as saying horrid things to each other and dissing each other and harrassing each other, such as.. touching each other. Now thats mostly for boys, ima be fr for girls i didnt see much with friends (its become a meme how bad boys friend groups are but tbh thats kinda a serious issue because you cant all be doormats this bad). Another factor i saw is that more and more kids got social media and were more distracted with it that they didnt care about making friends or only had friends to see there social media and stuff, and this was in middle school to today, and all i can say is that social media ABSOLUTELY SHOULDNT BE USED BY KIDS or even me who is like still a child (i will not say my age online), and i for my own sake i wont ever be using instagram because those reels and everything on there, like the comments and stuff?? Nasty. Absolutely not.
Hope everyone can now see loud and clear why this is happening.
(Repost on other comments because i think it is really necessary to address)
@@kqlolll2618 you dont need friends for success.
you go to school to learn shit tho
Autism + social anxiety is one hell of a combo. High school sucked 😭
FR social anxiety makes u isolate from your "peers" (that you barely know, school acquaintances is what id call them) because autism makes everyone think ur weird and "off" (both feed into each other). so since they never found you that likeable to begin with (just profitable if ykwim) they wont give a single sh¡t when you isolate. sooo you end up all alone😹👍
that’s exactly the same situation i had too ):
I got therapy for my social anxiety and after starting fresh in college it became more manageable. I can catch it before it gets bad now. In high school, there were many people who could’ve been friends but I was too intimidated to talk to them for more than a few seconds because they were pretty well-liked and just couldn’t shake the feeling I was too weird for them.
Sometimes I feel like I was set up to be lonely. Not to get pity, no pity please but somehow I was born with 3 disabilities, 1 neurological, and 2 physical, (autism, rheumatoid arthritis, uveitis) I’m a nonbinary lesbian with traditional Christian parents(I also might be trans masc) and I’m Therian. I’m also half white and half Hispanic. So I get the Hispanic racism but I also look white as hell which makes me feel bad about myself because it was white people who started this racism thing. So it is 10000000 times harder for me to find someone who accepts all of me, because there are a lot of different not normal traits they have to accept! Wtf god? What did I ever do to you? Why’d you have to make me so weirddddd
All I can say is to embrace your weirdness. That’s what I’ve learned to do. I can only really speak on the autism one, but our world experience is so interesting and our minds can do so much so never think you’re lesser. I’ve learned I experience life in a unique way cause of my brain and I’m embracing it more and more. I think therians are really cool, I have a similar feeling about myself but I feel like some kind of sentient object internally (probably an EWI, a technological musical instrument). Anything you experience in a unique way, think about how interesting it all is. One of my favorite quotes ever comes from my saxophone teacher: “Normal is boring.”
Screw high school, I'll peak in my 30s
EXACTLY
unironically true honestly, life doesn't stop in your twenties!
This 🙌
Being a high schooler introvert in 2024 is such a lame feeling man. Especially as a black guy that don’t fit the black high schooler stereotype. It probably sucks having all your old friends leave you too. We should keep being ourselves tho, cause “weird” people don’t peak in high school. But ALWAYS remember that there’s people just like you. You just gotta find them, no matter how long it takes.
So true about the stereotypes, that’s something I think about on the daily as a black girl and not being in the “norm” at school. I can imagine how that must be for you
No one is peaking. Everyone is too busy trying to get into college or already rock bottom, or getting a job
@@sandrohernandez4401nah if peaking means what i think it means this freshman girl at my school got pregnant and got sent to a mental asylum ☠️
@@SiaaSpitsit’s even worse when people see the stereotype and think it’s cool or wtvr and seek it out and will immitate it. I’ve seeen so many white kids aroudn me in hs the js want to be gangsters so bad and they wanna grow up so bad it’s sad. I’m in aus so there’s no guns but these kids will be privileged af and they posing w machetes and knifes and acting like them dad didint js give them 300 bucks cuz he asked. Nobody needs to fulfill flaws stereotypes
I think the reason its so much harder to find friends in 2024 is simply because people just really dont want to make friends anymore. When i was little and i once switched to a private school once i was looking for friends and found people who actually wanted to be friends and had 2 legitimate friends. However after coming back to my old school because i decided to go back it was like a switch was turned on where nobody wanted to be friends anymore. You see, when i was at private school it was still 2019, and as far as i know, everything after 2019 basically went downhill and everything started to suck. I was only happy in middle school and when i was back to school because i already knew everyone there and they fw me. Now there isnt anybody. Because i was slightly acting "dumb" or was doing something like that in my first year of highschool it legit sucked because Kids aint got no parents, and that basically became a problem because more and more kids seemed to have parents that thought them nothing on how to treat people like human beings, as we all are, and these kids didnt treat me like a human being to the point i had a horrid amount of problems because they legit drove me crazy. Now second year currently, they still aint treating me much like a human being, and hey are wierd af still. Another thing worth noting is that if you look closely, the friends people have shouldn't even be their friends but apparently each friend group is a bunch of doormats tolerating what each horrendous thing each other doormat does to them, such as saying horrid things to each other and dissing each other and harrassing each other, such as.. touching each other. Now thats mostly for boys, ima be fr for girls i didnt see much with friends (its become a meme how bad boys friend groups are but tbh thats kinda a serious issue because you cant all be doormats this bad). Another factor i saw is that more and more kids got social media and were more distracted with it that they didnt care about making friends or only had friends to see there social media and stuff, and this was in middle school to today, and all i can say is that social media ABSOLUTELY SHOULDNT BE USED BY KIDS or even me who is like still a child (i will not say my age online), and i for my own sake i wont ever be using instagram because those reels and everything on there, like the comments and stuff?? Nasty. Absolutely not.
Hope everyone can now see loud and clear why this is happening.
(Repost on other comments, but for this comment i will say this, that stereotype is you being fake. Stereotypes aint good, what we all should be is ourself, but apparently being ourselves, having fun, and being creative is apparently something we get laughed at now. I know because people simply hate me for being who i am, and i just want to be who i am without wierd people harassing me and calling me spe d)
Scrolling through this comment section made me realize that I’m not the only one lying in bed watching a person online talk about being lonely and read other peoples experiences of being lonely. It makes me feel better about the fact that there is a larger world around me bigger than high school and that I’m probably looking to better days ahead of me after the shithole that is hs.
This makes me so happy because that’s exactly what I wanted is for people to know that they’re not alone when it comes to things like this
ofc there is but its not something to be proud of
@@Renard-ks6hj its not about being proud, its about being content
@@sorbetbugs focus on success. Not friends.
If only there was a way for everyone suffering from loneliness to meet then the problem might solve itself 😔
I can relate to this so much. I’m 15, and I don’t have any friends at my school. I sit alone at lunch, I don’t eat, and I don’t talk to anyone but my teachers. I’m the only loner in ALL of my classes, and it sucks. My social anxiety has taken over. If someone asks me a question, I’ll typically just say “I don’t know”. The worst part is watching all of your peers having fun and living in the moment, but you’re the only one who doesn’t have a companion, or no one to talk to. I feel so isolated and trapped in my life
You’re not alone, this is exactly how I am during school. Yes, I sit alone and don’t eat either.
Literally bro 😭😭
are you me
Same, I'm also 15 but I don't have friends at school and in my own class, and I can also only see people having fun with their friends😔while I don't, but that's okay hopefully this will end soon, and hopefully we have friends, keep your spirits up! for all of us who are experiencing this:D
realest FUCKING EVER
This is SO real. I'm homeschooled, but I still get really depressed sometimes about having pretty much no friends- I have a few people, a FEW people I talk with online, only one I feel close with but they live miles away and we barely talk anymore. I can definitely relate to the whole college thing, I feel like it'll be a good, fresh start. Thanks for this video!! It's good to know I'm not entirely alone.
It’s so cool to find out that someone who was homeschooled was able to relate, thank you for watching :)
@@SiaaSpitsYou retired?
lol what 😭 if you're talking about a new video im working on it
@@SiaaSpits Since its has been 2 weeks i am expecting a high quality,passionate,long video👌
I’m homeschooled too. I’m in my junior year and since 7th grade I’ve had no social interactions with a friend. My parents don’t understand and they say that if I really wanted a friend I’d try harder to put myself out there more. It’s like they don’t even care. Reading your comment helps me understand that I’m not the only one.
the sleeping part is sooo real. i literally dgaf about having no friends until i get into bed and my mind starts making fun of me for having no social life
ahhhh the ending 😭 yeah i just need a friend foreallll i just need someone to talk to and do group projects with
Yup, that happens to me often too :/
@@demdem7946same. In my english class, we are required to do a presentation as a project, but I don’t know anyone for that 😵💫
tjis happens to me way too much. im silly all day, im having fun, im thriving, then i go to bed and its like what am i even doing 😰
It's literally so embarassing when you're 18 and someone asks "who's your best friend?" and i have no choice but to answer "my mom".
I changed alot of school in high school am in my final year and am lonely asf 🥲
Sorry boo ❤
if you have a pet or sibling, say that, it’ll seem like a more “normal” answer
thats tuff af tho
One of my aunts asked me this and I straight up said “nobody, because everyone sucks”
Emo/edgy phase 2 coming right up 👍
saddest part is when it gets so bad to you get jealous of seeing others with friends or get mad seeing others hanging out😭
Ong I feel so ashamed when it happens 😬
I felt that because I see people that can potentially be my friends until I see they already have their friends and best friends and I'm like: oh. My mind always tricks me to think I will never be able to reach that level of trust like them so I just give up...
i have seen ALOT of people online say that they have no friends irl and keep complaining about it. but i really have no friends since 5 years now and people around me always seem to atleast have 1 friend while i have none at all. i used to have lunch in the school restrooms while crying almost every single day. even the teachers back in highschool used to be concerned about my lonliness and ask my parents if i have mental issues. as someone with SEVERE anxiety i am left helpless and i feel lile ending my life
I am so sorry for you i hope your ok i would love to know more about how you feel and if there is any reason you have a hard time making friends
@@greekgamer5845 hii !! thanks for ur concern, the main reason i couldnt make friends was cuz of my anxiety, awkwardness and shyness around people. its still there tho, i dont know how to avoid getting extremely tensed around new ppl
@@uh-oh6405 I know I'm two months late, but one thing that helped me was exposure therapy and letting go of the fact of what other people thought. People forget about an interaction way quicker than you would, so it's good to keep in mind that it really doesn't matter if they see you as awkward. Try talking to that one person you think you have a tad bit in common with, even if it takes you the whole day just to speak. It's a long process, and getting over anxiety is no easy front. I still have it severely, but knowing coping mechanisms makes things easier. Just know that everything out of your control shouldn't be your main priority, and just focus on what you can control. It's also good to have people who support you. My mom cheer me on whenever I get out the house and even just interact with a waiter. You got this, and don't let the negative thoughts get to you. Just breathe and remind yourself that it'll all be okay, and that it's okay to be sad and stressed about your current situation. It will get better.
Same, but we can get through it ❤️
Literally every loud person I know in school be posting stuff online about having no friends then the next day would post about hangouts with a cof
Yeah being completely lonely is not all sunshine and rainbows. Sure it could have positive sides. But most of the time it just leads to well- sad stuff. I personally almost ended my life because I had no one to tell my problems or have fun with.
It’s embarrassing to be the only one sitting alone at lunch, it’s torture to respond to relatives asking you about your friends from school, it’s suffocating to go through anything painful (including school) without a friend.
*Make at least 1 or 2 friends that you can hang out with, it’ll be worth the world.*
Yeah, im a sophomore who hasn’t had a friend friend in… well, since middle school. F’ing sucks, i feel the exact same.
8th grade i remember just laying in bed, realizing that i’ve been daydreaming about literally just *talking* to someone for the past hour. I felt miserable sitting at lunch with countless people around me (the cafeteria was set up in rows), but talking to no one. Then I remember when this one relative asking me if i had any friends in school. I said ‘maybe 4?’ He said, ‘damn, you can count all of them on one hand?’. Welp, f*ck, because I was actually being generous with my counting. in truth, i didn’t really have any at all.
Two years have passed, and I’m still a socially awkward lonely mess. I have the same mentality as you, I thoroughly believe that life becomes more fulfilling even when you spend it with just one or two more people, as long as it’s deeply genuine.
i’m trying to improve. I concluded that in order to feel more confident in speaking and interacting with others, I needed to find confidence in another area in my life. i plan to go to the gym, work on my fitness, and body. i’m also joining classes and clubs in school that force me to interact with or speak to people or even debate with them.
i hope i get better, so that i can find a friend. i hope you find a friend too. haha, sorry for yapping in your replies, but I hope you have a nice life, stranger.
I used to be like you, if you keep going, i promise it will improve, its just going to take TIME.
:( so real
Como alguien que vivió la mayor parte de su adolescencia y secundaria sola puedo confirmar.
Es mejor que hagan amigos antes sino quieren terminar como yo: intensa ansiedad social que te paralizará cuando intentes socializar, constantes sentimientos de soledad y sin amigos hasta de adulto lol
i think i need a therapist bc i keep traumadumping the first people i see relentlessly
and bc i got no friends
they just watched like: uhh okay...
Out of all the videos I watched on this topic….this is the only one I can relate to. School is 10x harder when you’re alone. I’ve lost all motivation to even go to school. Im naturally an introvert so I do like being alone but sometimes I think about how lonely I am walking through the halls alone, sitting at lunch alone, sometimes even sitting in the bathroom for lunch. It sucks but at the same time I’ve always been like this. I am now a senior and I still have 0 friends. Thank you for this vid ❤️
Same. I’m a senior with no friends and it’s like I’ll never get one that sticks cuz everyone already knows I’m the friendless loser. Or that’s what I think they think. I got friends finally in junior year but I over think and since both friends weren’t in my classes, we never talked much and i was never even a friend to one of them and the other, I wasn’t vibing with anymore because we were at a dance and idk… she had tons of girls who knew her and I felt left out and weird. So.. yeah all my friends are gone. I only have one real friend and he’s a freshman so we barely see eachother and he’s only my friend because I’ve known him for more than 5 years. Without him, I’d be completely alone. Which I was anyway in the past. In middle school I had a whole friend group and a best friend and another friend. But since they all went separate ways, we aren’t friends anymore especially because covid really showed us that we changed in freshman year and that none of us were even strongest of friends anymore. Yupp I just ranted. Also sucks that I have to watch my crush who was actually a good friend of mine, stop talking to me and then get a gf so yeah I’m not in the best spot right now because it’s really starting to click that I’m alone.
@@user-zb7ru9zz7k I had friends all in middle school. We all drifted apart once I got into highschool but mostly freshman year was online anyways. So basically lost a year to try and make them 😭 but I’m lucky to have made some friends but unfortunately I drifted from those ones too. It’s good that I have atleast one friend and we are close even tho he’s 3 years younger than me. I hope you find more friends too. It’s not fun to be alone. It’s horrible to sit alone at lunch everyday, not have anyone to be with you at assembly’s or not be able to participate in school dances because you’ll be alone. It’s horrible and I wonder why it has to be me who is alone like this… why couldn’t I have been someone else who didn’t have social anxiety :(
I relate so much to ur comment. I am now going trough the same thing as you. I isolated myself for the past 3 months. And i lost motivation too. I am seen as the girl with no friends. I am always alone at lunchbreak, in class ... I always feel lonely. But it's now christmas break and it's almost over..so i hope this year will be better. I hope you're okay
@@idek440 my last semester starts on the 8th and I’m just ready to graduate. I still have no friends so I gotta thug it out till may. Idk what grade u in but hope all goes well for you this year
@@idek440i relate to this sm. I hope things r better for u now
Hoping that lunch goes fast when its supposed to be the most enjoyable part about school is so real. I have no friends and im too embarrassed to sit alone, for even in the library, finding somewhere to sit is the most stressful anxiety inducing part of my day
If it weren’t for the library would have kms by now
im a senior this year and have been homeschooled since fourth grade really has stunned my socialization. online friends come and go (as do all friends) but ive always just wanted at least one irl friend to help with life and just enjoy my time with. literally thank u so much for this vid
You’re so welcome! Glad you were able to get something out of this video
Ik u explained the drawbacks of your experience of online school but you’re extremely lucky imo. U have more time to yourself and don’t have to go to school with hundreds of ignorant teenagers
@@user-zb7ru9zz7k i can agree in that aspect. tbh either way has its drawbacks and positives so it depends on what you make of it. im thankful for my ability to have quiet education and not deal with overstimulation of classrooms and such but i also wish i could've experienced having irl friends instead of isolation.
@@gaekouhi how ks it going now?
@@jjwrk minor but better updates! been struggling to find a suitable job at the moment (like most people right now lol) which i fully expected to better my social skills in before going to uni. at the very least, i've been able to meet up with a few online friends this summer and even if they aren't always available to hang out, im definitely grateful of the days we have spent together. all i could ask for tbh it only gets up from here
I’ve tried “getting myself out there” a whole bunch of times. I constantly thought that “finally I have somebody/ some people to talk to!” but as always, I got pushed away by those same people. That’s why I don’t really care anymore and I’m better off not having friends than having “friends” that don’t acknowledge or take me seriously.
THIS IS THE REALEST THING EVER. I moved to a new school about a year ago and i tried joining numerous friend groups who passively aggressively pushed me away and i just gave up 😭
I’m a sophomore and I’m LITERALLY in the same situation. There’s like, a whole story as to why I haven’t made an *actual friend* since 5th grade but long story short COVID really messed things up and I’ve been lonely & had social anxiety ever since. Anyways I really appreciate this video and I hope you make a friend soon!🙏🏽
I'm litterally going through the exact same thing! It's so depressing. My dad keeps asking me if I still talk to my middle school/elementary friends but he doesn't know that we've grown apart. It's embarrassing to say that you have no one to actually talk to.
@@DreasTapes Exactly !!
hope you will go through this, and everything will be good! ( I am in the same situation)
@@Alexandra-l2v4z Thank you! I hope the same for you😁
Twin... where have you been? (my last in-person friend was in 5th grade too)
MY SOCIAL ANXIETY IS LITERALLY KILLING ME MAN I DONT EAT LUNCH WITH ANYONE, WALK ALONE, EVEN GROUP PROJECTS ALONE AND IM NOT PART OF ANY GROUP CHAT AND THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR 3 FRICKING YEARS AND WHEN PEOPLE SAY SHI LIKE “Enjoy your Highschool life” WELL DAMMIT😭
REAL
Sometimes u just gotta come out of your shell even if it makes u feel uncomfortable
dawg im sorry. i only had two friends in hs, never had many special teenager moments (less than 10). im 20 now. its alright. get a job w a lot of ppl ur age after you graduate. ppl are more normal outside/after hs and they will talk to you
I just want to leave, man. 5 more months… prom is coming. I had no friends in middle school either. Or elementary. Acquaintances is the max I’ve gotten so far. I also happened to be in the worst place in terms of mental health in my life, and other problems outside of school. The extreme loneliness and the isolation at school is just a bonus
I feel you, hoping it’s get better for you and if not, just gotta thug it out until school ends 😔‼️
nice to see more people go thru the same thing
How do you not have friends?
@@hhproductions8254its not easy anymore. Or easy ever. You have to pick the right people to be friends with especially now because most kids now are NOT PEOPLE you want to be friends with. Take this example of what i see in my highschool, boys friends groups. They are basically a bunch of doormats doing horrible stuff to the other doormats who will tolerate it, all tolerating each other being horrible. Its even become a meme for some reason how these idiots will say the most horrible things to each other and do other horrible things but remain friends. How kids got this brainless? Idk.
All i know is that because most if not everyone is brainless or because they never had parents who taught them how to be a normal sane person lots of people dont even ask you to be their friend.
Im gonna be alone at prom too.. 😭
Its hard life out here for us
sitting alone during lunch watching this and idk how much longer i can live like this lmao
don’t worry, you won’t be alone forever :)
dont worry one day we'll be both make friends
We’re gonna die alone
have hope, hs is such a small part of your life and you will experience many things throughout the rest of your life. And don’t be afraid to take opportunities when they appear in the present
exactly like idk how long I can take this😞
I dont know how to express myself around people 😭
It’s difficult and takes time to truly express yourself. I say until you’re ready to just spend more time with yourself and understand yourself more as a person. It makes it easier :)
I tried being happy and expressing myself and being silly for my first year of highschool, got bullied so bad it made me crazy for most of the year because apparently being yourself is a big nono and you are cringe and deserve to not be treated like a human being.
Second year, still perceptive as to whether im still being silently mocked as my own social image has been decimated still so most people dont treat me like a human being
@@kqlolll2618 Nobody cares. Nobody in your high school will remember the outfit you wore on the first day. Nobody in your high school will remember what happened to you. Nobody in high school truly cares about your family, where your from, who you are, and why you matter. That is why you need to achieve success and leave this bs behind. Friendships are for middle class people. The richest people of all time have family.
Just do whatever you think is reasonable as long as it’s not going to damage others’ health.
legit
"You have a girlfriend yet?" Hell naw, not even friends😭🙏
Your not alone, my freshman and sophomore year I had almost no good friends. I just stuck around assholes to not feel lonely and was extremely quiet because I drifted away from so many people over quarantine. It sucks, just going day to day with nothing to do besides school work, rotting away, waiting for college. Thankfully I finally found some good people who like me for who I am, and I really hope anyone else reading this can find those people too. Just remember, you dont need to be popular or have it all to be happy, its just highschool, dont compare and find people who you enjoy.
Also being honest, luck is a big factor. If I didn't get lucky with some of my classes I'd still be right where I started.
Cute pfp
Damn, and my lucks’ shitty
If we all have no friends.....WHO TF IS HOGGING THEM ALL?
They hang out in their overpopulated, diluted friend-groups where they constantly gossip about eachother
@@pokohoko9575nah 😂 u tryna make urself feel better by bringing others down 😂😂 i got some real friends and hope u find friends for urself to
I hate how like posts online and ‘influencers’ always say that you should drop those toxics friends and find new ones as if in this generation it’s as easy as going up to someone, saying ‘hi’ and becoming friends.
Fr
i dropped my toxic friends and ended up completely alone in highschool. totally worth it though
@@astraeion everyone is different then, I can’t stand being alone it makes me feel miserable and really awkward.
@@LILC63 well you just got to make peace with yourself. if you're friends with someone not because you enjoy their company but because you feel forced to, drop them. there's tons of things you can do on your own at school. draw, study, read, eat, sleep, do your makeup/skincare and the list goes on. you'll feel relieved when you realize you don't need to be so insecure, and you don't need others. if they really want you they would care about you enough to not make you isolate yourself
@@LILC63 I mean its in the name, "toxic".
I remember in grade 8, I moved to a new school and made a bunch of "friends." They all turned out to be fake and I stopped talking with them in grade 9. It was really hard for me to make new friends, especially with self esteem issues in that year. I made 1 real friend, that's it. This year (grade 10) I've made a decent amount of friends. I have been working on ways to improve my self confidence and find people who like me for who I am. I also tried to open up and talk to people more. (I am pretty introverted, but when I find something to talk about I will just keep talking) Now I'm much happier!
yayyy I'm happy for you :)
Mf you can’t just ‘make a friend’ that’s treating people not like people. A friend is someone you’ve known for ages, not a person you’ve made into a ‘friend’. There is a difference between a person you occasionally talk because you have classes together and a person who you know every detail about.
@@hhproductions8254 How would you know how frequently I talk with them?
@@hhproductions8254 Why are you being so mean pluh??
@@hhproductions8254 I don't think you have to know someone for ages to be friends? The people I've talked to in some classes at my new school for just the past 2 weeks are my friends.
anxiety is tough, but if you don't join a club or a sport it's gonna be tough to make friends if u don't put in the effort, i struggled a lot as i was homeschooled heading into highschool, but as soon as i joined a sport i made friends. put urself out there or you're gonna be lonely
Even besides the anxiety my school hasn’t always been the place where I could fit in. Everyone is into stuff that I’ve barely even stepped foot in, but I hear you on putting myself out there, I’m taking one step at a time.
I joined the golf team I just don’t relate to any of them at all just nothing for us to talk about or do other than golf and they are kindve assholes when we play
I’m just as lonely talking with people. Unless you are comfortable enough to invite them over and hang out, they are not your friend. They are an acquaintance.
Bruh my parents seriously bugging me to find a sport just to find friends. Im not a sports person and not really a big fan of it, i never found a sport i liked. There was cross country but ill never get to get back to it because my parents are stupid idiots who went crazy and got sososo depressed when they found out i had to attend meets but couldnt instantly have the endurance to run in them and had to cheer. Duh, it obviously takes a lot of practice, particularly they were really angry that they made me wear a uniform while i couldnt run. Running was fun, however having stupid cavemen iq parents isnt 😊😊
i joined tennis, choir and even french club. i tried so hard to be friends with the people there but its just impossible with my social anxiety
Man i used to be friends with ENTIRE classes back in middle school, Oh how times have changed lmao
Yea I don’t know what happened, I used to make friends so easily in elementary school 😭
that’s what i’m saying, idk wtf happened to me
I am in the exact same situation, at frist I tought i could endure, then school became hell, and being alone was probably a cause of it.
I started freshman year and I don’t even know what to do anymore. I thought this year would be different. I have no one. It’s horrible.
@@adriancabrera4817yeah, I said I would change but clearly it isn't the case, being introverted in a new school sucks
@@adriancabrera4817 god right. i keep thinking itll just change on its own but its been so many years i just dont know what to do. i wish someone would jsut tell me exactly what they want from me. NOTHING ive tried is working. just tell me what to do and ill do it god why is this so hard
@@Calipso111-io5dh damn I didn’t realize how many other lonely teens there are here. We should start a groupchat or something
Being a 17 year old guy in junior year, I feel this to an extreme extend bruh, most guys and girls think I’m weird and all I do is try to be kind and stay in my own lane if I’m not going out of my comfort zone lol
we literally the same (I’m 17 too)
yo same
except i live in a town of racists who dont think properly ;-;
i mean that btw
those kids will run across the street (the FREEWAY street btw)
in the MIDDLE of the day
and if u dont do the same
ur a "COWWWAAARRRDDDD"
Junior too, 16. I've given up. some people have even tried talking to me, but they already have friends. and I'm scared I'm going to ruin their friendships or sm. I'm so obsessed over finding a friend but when someone acts kind to me I push them away. i dont know whats wrong with me.
I’m sorry you’re going through this.
At least you are trying. I’ve recently found some people that have the same interests as me after years of feeling like friends don’t understand me.
So, you never know.
You still have your identity and confidence which is all you need.
But you’ll find them.
You’re so right, there’s someone out there for everyone so I know I’ll meet my group of people soon :))
honestly i think i have been alone pretty much since i started school as a kid, had a few minor friends there and now and when i was 13 i was even in a friend group, but now, 15, it's like i'm already used to being alone but at the same time it sucks SO HARD, i feel like everyone intentionally ignores me because they think i'm weird someway, and it got to the point where i would literally spend the ENTIRE DAY without saying a single word in school and leave, i already had SO much panic attacks in and out of school because of that to the point where i can't even feel comfortable in my own body and just being myself in general, and guess who gave a shit about me? NOBODY
fuck. school.
This is literally me…
I feel and experience that, too. I was lucky enough to have small talk with a dude in my history class. I sometimes wanna talk/ approach someone, but I don't wanna seem weird, so I don't do anything.
If you are weird and don’t talk nobody’s going to be your ‘friend’
well yeah, if you don't talk and just sit around you basically fade into the background. But trust me, people aren't intentionally ignoring you or secreting hating you or anything..they probably don't even realize you exist..and im not trying to be mean just honest
this is me too
OH MY GOD GIRL you actually get it like you talked about exactly what I'm going through its like your talking about my life, glad I found someone that I can relate to
sooo true about wanting to skip to collage you DO NOT understand how much it helps to know that I'm not the only one that has been struggling with this
Awe so glad you were able to relate, you just made my day :)
I’m 18 and a senior, I also don’t have friends and I just wait for my graduation. I don’t even know what I’m gonna do after that, I’m hoping I magically figure out once I graduate.
Felt :/
Having a strict family that isolates you makes this worse.
i couldn’t even join clubs because there was no one to take me home… 😭😭😭
Frr people ask to hang out outside of school my parent always say no so they always think I’m a bitch or smth because of how often they don’t allow me to go out 🙁
My parents are too nosy for me to have friends. If I just use my phone keyboard or a notification sound, they ask me who I'm texting with an attitude. And I'm almost an adult, which frustrates me.
@@sandrohernandez4401omg same! im 17 and literally can’t hang out with my friends bcus one of them is gay and the other is a girl (i wish i was joking when i typed this).
I totally agree with that lol
I’m a senior in high school. I came into high school with no friends there because I was new. I’m also autistic which means that people think I’m a joke just because I laugh and talk a lot and do peculiar (but harmless) things. People only sit with me if there’s not enough space to sit somewhere else. As soon as there is, nobody will sit there, and when I sit at places with people, they usually end up leaving me alone rather quickly. Group projects I’m left alone. I see people I know hanging out without me. I did what I was supposed to do. Invite people places, talk, show genuine interest and kindness but I have only had 2 high school relationships that left the school and they are still quite shallow as I share no classes with the people I have connections to. The other thing that sucks is that I don’t remember names too well. That means that when I talk I’m often ignored. Sometimes purposefully. People say be yourself until you’re a person like me. Then you’re annoying and they want you to shut up. At this point, it’s my last year so fuck it. I’m keeping my head down and I’ll try again in college, this time with a new and improved personality and physique. It seems everywhere I go everyone is in an established friend group. If I didn’t have a strong sense of hope and motivation, I would have probably offed myself by now. I really hope that something changes😩
Let's not forget people call you weird all the time too! And if someone shows any interest, you start overthinking if it's genuine or are there any other intentions behind their words. Hate this. I hate how I knew it will be like this. My school system has one consistent group of classmates so there is no option of being lucky and having that one person you share 1 class with be your friend. Just ended up being the weirdo making circles on the hallway.. 3rd grade, I can do it, I believe you can too.
@@Alicja09 I know I’m weird and I don’t think it’s a bad thing however they are obviously using it to be an insult 😭
@@blackqweenmars To be honest I do not even know what they try to use as an insult anymore..
@@Alicja09 fr
I watched some of your videos and you have a great personality and are extremely talented at the piano. Honestly if the people at your school don’t want to be friends with you or interact with you don’t entertain it. I know still going through school having no one be your #1 sucks, but maybe just go through the school day knowing that you’re worthy of friendship and one day you will meet someone. You aren’t going to be alone forever and everyone ends up finding someone, at least that’s what I believe :)
This is so real. This is happening to me right now and it kinda hurts
(Btw papa’s bakeria is the best I actually sometimes play the to go ver. at school)
Hoping it gets better for you!! Also gotta love Papa’s games lol
my fav is the pizza one because pizza is bae
how do they not lag for yall?
feel you girly pop. i know it's hard. but hey, on the bright side, you'll be going to college (or not if you don't want to) in a few years and you'll be able to make new friends there. stay strong
Right about that, so excited for college !!!
I'm not starting college for the next 4 years, but my mother told me that you'll make actual friends in college
started college 3 weeks ago and still have no real friends (part of a club though)
same im so hyped i could finally prove i could make friends
I just sit in my room after school and still barely get ANY homework done 😭Like I think to myself at least I don't have to hear about how X person don't like Y person and Z person likes X person and blah blah blah but whenever I end that train of thought I always just think to myself "its alright bro just admit you're lonely & coping"
Omg omg finally found someone who I relate to! I feel so lonely at school and out of school.. I talk to ppl and stuff during class but I’m alone at lunch ://
I got so used to having no friends that I self sabotage any time someone tries to be friends with me.watching these videos made me realise that there is something wrong with me it seems like a lot people didn't choose to be alone or isolated but unlike me I did and it was normal. Though right now I'm doing better than last year I still do feel isolated in my school
And I don't really have" true friends" still since I only talk to them about trivial things or about school related stuff also it's kinda exhausting hanging with people who have little common interest or hobbies I cannot express my true myself because I know they will make me feel different among them and look stupid or alienated
But I kind of accept that since I have zero social skills and this has been a problem for me at a young age
Same, I self sabotage too. Always was insecure n shit, thought people was making fun of me when they came up to me to talk to me. Usually I was right, I mean, you can automatically tell if you're paying attention, right? but then I come across someone genuinely trying to be my friend and I'm like immediately assuming, "no, you're making fun of me, there's no way you'd wanna be friends with me", and kinda act rude to them just to get them to go away. It works, nobody comes up to me, it's my fault I'm lonely. but I look at the bright side. at least those people who wanted to be my friends will go to other lonely kids who actually need a friend and won't push them away. it's not normal to self sabotage a potential friendship, I realize that now too. but hey, insecurities hold me back, can't change overnight. at least I'm still alive!
im so grateful somebody decided to talk about this topic because it plagues my mind to this day even as a sophmore in college
This video really resonated with me. This was my high school expirence. By early next year, I should be finished with high school. It's sad I couldn't experience friendship, and have fun. Going to school with no one to look forward to seeing and eating alone watching everyone else laugh was soul crushing. I imagine adulthood is the same, probably worse since everyone will be busy. All we can do is change ourselves for the better.
i'm in college now, still lonely af but you made my day. thank you so much for telling your story Sia. in a way, you told our stories as well. i barely made it through senior year. due to the extreme loneliness i felt every day, i needed to quit my high school. so i finished senior year through online school. it was impossible for me to be happy as a senior because i didn't have any friends to graduate with. seriously, tysm for sharing about this topic. you could be saving many teens' lives.
also i forgot to add - when you said that friends make school much more exciting, that's so true! especially if you're a shy student.
I’m 16 in high school, and I go to such a small school, where the graduating class is around 35 kids each year. I grew up with almost everyone I see in the hallways. Because of this, people get the impression that we all must be friends and we all must not be lonely. Wrong. I’ve grown up with most of the people in my grade, and somehow, I haven’t felt a true sense of connection since maybe middle school. I’ve recently started to eat lunch in a classroom because I confessed to my teacher that I hid in the restroom during lunch because, and this is a direct quote from me, if I’m gonna be lonely, I’d rather do it alone. And I still stand by that. However, even I can’t deny that relationships are a huge part of growing up, and you need them, especially to get through something as daunting and energy draining as high school. I have such high social anxiety and self esteem issues because I don’t know what it feels like to have the validation or support that a group of friends provides. I don’t have anyone that I can think of and know, “yes, they have my back 100%.” At this point, it’s a waiting game to see how long I can last until college, and a constant question/worry of “Will I ever be able to make a friend?”
Omg word for word this is literally how I feel at my school
It’s always the like “buddies” too that aren’t actually your friends bc they have other friends and you see them like once a day. Like bro I HAVE NO COMMUNITY. I feel like my years have been completely wasted. At least I graduate this yr 😭I srsly wanna skip to college too.
Agreed can’t wait to also graduate this year too because I swear when it’s your peers it’s like some switch turns on and everybody don’t wanna fw you all of a sudden 😔😭
I've has so many buddies in classes, i would make them laugh and play google doodle games, but they never stay with me they never try to talk to me so i stopped trying to make any interactions with anyone and it sucks i dont want to be alone but i feel like i hit rock bottom not even therapy works because all i do is talk about cats because i dont wanna talk about my problems
THIS VIDEO AND THESE COMMENTS ARE SO RELATABLE LIKE 😭😭 being lonely in Highschool sucks but seeing people relate to me makes me feel somewhat better
You know it’s bad when you draw ideal friend groups
I literally STRUGGLE with this issue. I never experienced having a friend before in school, I only had students I would talk to every now and then, just classmates. Since I'm now homeschooled, I literally have NO chance of connecting with irl people and only have online to help me.
I can't really get passed highschool. I have no motivation to. (still in 9th grade, I'm 16). All the online friends I had came and went. I thought I would actually have friends then, that's not how it is. I really want (or wanted) a friend that I could just, idk, hang out with outside, like a normal situation in tv shows, movies, or cartoons, like with South Park. It just seems so fun to hang out, surprisingly, I never hung out before, ever. It's really getting to me, I struggle with lonliness ever since I was young.
My only true friend was my cousin. We used to talk a lot, but slowly drifted away as time went on, and now, we don't talk. I fear I might not have friendship moments like normal situations, all because I'm stuck in my home most of the time. The only person I could go have a conversation with is my mom, and that's it, no one else. It's sad really. I tried Discord, Amino, countless friendship apps (not the weird dating ones) to find friends, and they all failed. Most friends I had already had friends, and it just made me all jealous, like, how did you get these friends? How? But that's a stupid thing to get jealous over.
I now turn to TH-cam as my last option, hopefully by my animations, I could pull in someone that will gradually become my friend :)
Anyways, for anyone who actually read my comment of rambling, thank you, if you could even find it. I'm surprised to all the people who literally have no friends like I do. It gives me hope that I'll find someone with similar interests and life as me. I hope for that day, I swear.
Good luck, people :)
i literally cant relate more to you, especially the jealousy part. like literally I cant talk to people because "they already have friends and I'm not worth their time" it makes me feel so worthless and weak
I feel like nobody needs me and that's why i'm alone and i feel like i'm the only one in this world experiencing this
ngl I'm starting to believe in the simulation theory
@@diren.ııı i wouldn’t be surprised if this simulation of earth was like extreme difficulty or something like everything here is genuinely so stressful
I haven't had any irl friends since I was 10, mostly because my classmates were rude and I got bullied a ton throughout elementary and middle. By high school I didn't really care to talk with anyone since most people just gossiped constantly, I just focused on my own things. But it definitely gets to me at some points, not having anyone to sit by you can be depressing sometimes. I'm happy and grateful for my family and online friends because I can connect with them better and online it's easier to find likeminded people
I honestly wish I had someone to look forward to in school, it doesn't really work the same online. Because now I look forward to skipping school 💀
But yeah, this video exactly hit the spots in my soul. Good video 🌸
legit me too 😭😭
+ im getting bullied bro
Even my online friends are lame lol
Although that's probably my fault for going for incels
@@iiCounted-op5jxbrother, what the scallop??
legit LEGIT
If there are so many people who has this problem, why isn't there a solution to this 😔😔
we're scattered all over the world. even though so many of us are struggling with being alone, we're likely all miles apart from each other. even if any of us happened to be going to the same school, it's likely that they wouldn't even notice the other struggling with loneliness.
The problem was caused by people just generally not wanting to even be friends with each other, and also shunning each other because they are somewhat wierd, if not to the worst scenario treating them not like a human being as what they did to me last time.
everything seems to have been going downhill since 2019
People before then were so much more friendlier
the solution is to stop with the pity party and the 'everybody secretly hates me' mindset and actually talk to people
@@kqlolll2618 that's not true take off ur rose tinted glasses
@@torbieginger-sh2cc ah yeah my bad let me just turn off the part of my brain that screams at me every time i make a simple mistake! lemme just ignore the overwhelming urge to _apologize for my existence!_
it isn't as simple as turning/taking something off. its like asking someone to stop being depressed. it takes time and effort to get to a place where you not only feel comfortable with others, but also yourself.
we long for companionship that we believe we don't deserve, and getting out of that mindset isn't easy. not when it feels like everyone's staring at you, or when you have a sinking feeling that those whispers are about you.
i wish we could just snap out of it. i wish that your comment would suddenly make people like us _like us,_ but alas, that isnt how this works. it's gradual, it's terrifying, but eventually we'll get there. hopefully we'll find people who we can rely on, who we can trust. but until then, we've just gotta keep working on ourselves.
hey, I’ve since graduated high school but I went though it with no friends. I went entire days without speaking to anyone and barely anyone even knew I was in their class. When I graduated, no one clapped for me.
But the bright side is, there’s always more chances to make friends, especially out of school. I was able to make a few acquaintances at work who actually like me, and I might be able to hang out with some other coworkers I never really talked to because I found out we have some similar interests. I might not have any actual friends right now but I still have hope that it can happen for me someday.
i also know theres light at the end of the tunnel, so sometimes when i feel lonely, ill remember that when i go have a job or learn more, i can get over my shyness and try to talk
My happiness level go through the roof every time I go home. Most of the people in highschool are horrible people.
very true
Yeah, just coming back from that hellhole called “school” and going to your room and putting on some tunes while lying on your bed is such a good feeling
my daydreams are what keep me alive during this operation
btw this was a great video, hope this channel of yours becomes something big.
I appreciate it, tryna work up the courage to post another but the subject matter is way off course from this one
@@SiaaSpits Then i hope you get that courage.
REAL. love making up silly little adventures and friends in my head.
even my imaginary friends are hard to talk to though, being i'm basically an omnipresent god who controls the plot and everything...
You know this ain't getting better when they don't want to make groups with you (I remember I almost cried because my maths teacher made fun of me because I was alone at a activity with pairs, I had 11, and also happened always in PE that I had to make the activities with the teacher almost all the year)
sia you seem so nice and funny. i didn’t have any friends until about halfway through my junior year of high school and it sucked. i remember getting lunch and then going to eat it in the library bc i didn’t have anyone to sit with. it can be so hard to try and make friends when everyone already seems like they have their groups. i know you said that your anxiety keeps you from joining clubs and stuff but honestly… do theater or band haha that might sound lame but i auditioned for my school’s musical my junior year and that’s when i finally felt like i had friends. i had after school activities and i had people that i could talk to, even if it was just about the show. again, you literally seem so funny and genuine and i know this is the last thing you want to hear, but you’ll have no problem making friends once you leave school. high school is tough. even for the people that seem like they have a ton of friends. you don’t know what kind of terrible dynamic they have within their group or how many times they get left out of things that they really wanted to go to. obviously it’s easy for me, a 25 year old, to say this. but keep your head up girl!!! and keep making content. you’re clearly a really cool person and you won’t be friendless forever. high school just…. really really sucks. ❤ fr loved this video btw. i think you should keep making rants like this. you seem to have a good view of the world and a good head on your shoulders. just wait until you aren’t in high school anymore- you’re gonna excel far beyond most of the people you see in class everyday that look like they have it made. just wait!! it’ll be worth it, i promise.
This made me smile, I really appreciate you taking time to write this :))
As a 24 year old who doesn’t have many friends IRL (and those I do have moved away) i feel your pain sister.
Pretty much all my friends are online, I wanna make friends IRL, but…as an adult, it’s much harder than when you’re a teenager.
I don’t have a 3rd place to go and make friends ( aside from church, but that’s limited) i just wanna find my people IRL. People who share the same morals, interests, and are in the same age group as me. Is that too much to ask? It shouldn’t be.
i wqs so close to ending it all a while ago because of the same reason. its simply jsut so depressing going to school with no friends and haveign insane anxiety over it is even bad. thankfully ill be out of it next year thank god. ill miss it probably, idfk. this made me feel so less alone.. thank you for uploading this. i seriously thought i was the only one with this issue
1:00 it's always been acquaintances for me I've been through many different schools in my life and yet never have i made a person who genuinely wants to be my friend or hang out, im always told "give it time you'll make a friend/friend group eventually" but I've heard that for YEARS, im just so starved for human interaction/connection
All of my friends drop me in senior year, so I have no one to go with at prom,school parties etc which is why I'm not going to any of those activities. My classmates act surprised when I say this like bro do you see me with ANYONE THAT I COULD POSSIBLY go with??? 😭
This is the most realest video I’ve ever seen. I’m a sophomore in high school, but the past 2-3 years have been a pain. Every time I think I made a new friend, they somehow end up leaving me for other people. I’ve made acquaintances in school, but it never leads to anything serious. I genuinely feel like I can’t find anyone who has the same interests as me and wants to hangout after school with me. I like to be on my own, I don’t mind. But, sometimes, I would like to have someone to talk to. It gets tiring being alone all the time, but it’s just hard to make friends who genuinely are interested in you :/
Here’s my 2 cents. Back in high school i was considered a “weird loser” with no friends and I was miserable the entire time. However once I got to college I felt like i was finally seen, and from what I’ve heard, the bullies and popular people had their tables turned in college, as nobody cares who you were or what your status was then in high school.
All that is to say, don’t worry about how many friends you have in high school, because the people outside of that microclimate are much more interesting anyway, and you WILL be valued for your personality eventually!
What im afraid the most is while being in any close relationships you learn a lot. You learn how to behave, how to act, what do friends do - if you skip that, you'll be behind everyone that had frienship through those years, making you incompatible with a huge part of society later in life
that’s so real. i started studying in the UK from this year and had no friends to begin with. the school year is almost over and i just have a few in-school friends who never talk to me outside of school
Damn....I thought I was the only one, ever since middle school I haven't had any friend in my class, it's honestly painful seeing people having fun while you sit there watching and wishing you could have that genuine connection with other people
i just turned 18 and am going to university next year and this hits really hard for my past (and honestly still present) self. there was lockdown at the start of my high school experience and i got bullied really bad for the whole first half of high school too which made me lowkey too afraid to make new friends, since once i dropped them i had no one else. i went years with ZERO friends, the only person i'd talk to was the teacher when i said "here" during roll call. it SUCKED and i still only have 1 friend who's the type like you described where i only talk to them during class. the only reason i'm not as depressed as i was when i was 14-17 is coz i have hope for university next year. but god high school with no friends is the worst and i'm glad to see a video i can relate to even if i watched this a lil late lol
The friends I made at school were more acquaintances so it was really just in name. My middle school friends are still in my life though. This year netted me the -1 friend at school that I sorta talked to a bit but in return I got people to actually talk to this year. Hang in there fellow helltaker fan
I’m a junior is high school and I still haven’t kept a close friendship with anyone. I kind of stop trying to make friends because most of them move schools, get homeschooled, or just don’t keep in touch anymore. Like I love socializing but..high school is just so overwhelming. It feels like everyone is constantly judging you. AND, I seen so many people with the same interests as me but I could never have the courage to like actually go up to them.
Damn it’s gotten so bad for me, all my friends I’ve had end up just leaving me, or I have to leave them. It’s that same cycle over and over. It’s just I don’t know where I fit in! It’s hard to find the right people and I just think all the time that if I make a friend they’re gonna leave me. But unfortunately at this point I’ve kinda gotten used to it. Thank you so much for this video though, it’s opened my eyes and shows that I’m not alone.
i wanna hang out with everyone in this comment section
this is so real dude i never thought i'd meet my people but no one ever thinks about what its like growing up all of ur high school life with no one to talk to, and i mean no one, im tired of mfs who say they're lonely but at least HAVE someone to chat with
(im in my senior year already and i have no friends and i've tried, if i talked about my experiences we would be here all day.)
this video perfectly describes me tysm for sharing!!! also talking to other teachers is somehow a little easier than talking to people my age which is just sad
I have chronic/generalized anxiety disorder, and it’s ruined my school life. Especially after elementary school. I’m 16 and trying to make friends or even keep friendships is difficult. In middle school, the only friend I ever had was my sister, but even then she still had her own groups and our schedules didn’t align. I would spend most of my times hiding in the bathrooms and even eating lunch there. I was such a loner. People would throw their friends into me, they would laugh at me and call me slurs, and they would shove me around. The only person I ever was able to speak to was my science teacher. He might not know it, but he saved me from being so miserable in school.
High school wasn’t even better though. My anxiety got worse. I was having panic attacks every other day. I was so alone that teachers tried being my friends. Eventually, during Freshmen year, I met a group of people. I thought I was finally getting my social life together…until they started to bully me. “You’re so easy to bully”, they’d say. They’d touch me in ways I didn’t like, they’d cross boundaries, they’d tease me. Even till this day (Junior year) they’re still like this even though I’ve tried separating myself from them and have tried telling them to stop. They don’t take me seriously. They think I’m laughing at all the teasing WITH them. I dread going to school. I got diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and depression a month back, and am now starting to take antidepressants. They know this and have already started to make jokes about it. (Not to mention, they also like making fun of the fact that that I am most definitely on the autism spectrum, since it runs in my family.) The only REAL friends I feel I have right now are my PE teachers. I’m just now known as that kid that gets to sit out of gym whenever they want to. When in reality I’m aloud to sit out and sleep because my mental health worsened my physical well being. (Chest pain, stomach pain, headaches, you name it!) I wish I was normal, or had a friend MY age who would understand me.
Hey I'm sorry that happens to you, I also struggle with similar problems except the bullying and autism. I also have really bad anxiety and possibly undiagnosed depression and Im also a 16 year old in junior year rn and I only have like mabye 2-3 friends at school bc I'm an introvert and I hate talking to people and i dont really have any classes with 2 of them. Idk if this advice is helpful but mabye try to talk to people that doesn't give you that bad vibe or like try making friends with people that you think you feel comfortable with. Ik it's hard to make friends bc of the experience that your going through but you should atleast try making 1 friend that you know you could trust. Also for the bullies, I'd say develop the confidence to stand up for yourself and ignore them.
@@dunduraee glad to know there’s someone out there who’s my age and also having similar struggles. I will most definitely try to distance myself and stand up to my bullies (perhaps even tell my coaches)… and luckily i’ve started to make some new friends today! My sophomore acquaintance introduced me to his friend group and they were almost just like me! i hope things get better for you x🤍
@yakkowarner_ that's good! I also hope things get better for you too :)
Reality is harsh.
Yeah it is unfortunately
Brutal
Reality is because the wrold itself is just beginning to get worse, with this being one of the signs.
lol I’m not an emotion person but it’s definitely gotten harder to endure sitting alone at lunch. Its also been hard to get lunch since I have no where to eat. This video made me cry lmao because I just wish I had normal interest where I could connect with other people, but no matter how hard I try i am labeled weird. Thank you sharing your experience so it makes me less alone
Not thinking youre gonna be the loner until you are is so real 😭
I went from a whole army of friends to nobody for 2 years and then got a proper good friend unfortunately I don’t know how much longer that friend is going to stay alive
I used to be this way. I'm in college now but until then I had no friends and never thought I could be loved or have a true bff. Fast forward and now I do have an online best friend who I have seen in person irl 5 times and is my bff. And I have also befriended an elderly lady online to who I plan to meet irl soon. Life works in mysterious ways. I used to be sooo awkward and shy and riddled with anxiety. It does get better
As someone who has different interests and can't relate to almost anyone in my class, I actually felt this. (´。＿。｀) I moved to this school a year ago, and I never did feel so lonely until now. Barely anyone in my class likes the things I like, or has the same humor as me, and those who do, I'm too socially awkward to talk to and maintain a friendship with them. 90% of my class being filled with assholes isn't helping with my kooky and awkward personality, either.
I literally dread going to school just because of the thought of being alone and judged every day, like a never ending cycle. I have to put on a shy and quiet act every single time I enter school, and my real personality slips sometimes from how tired I am of faking an entire personality. And it's all just for me to hardly connect with others and be made fun of when my true colors come out. I've gone home from school with tears welling in my eyes multiple times, thinking about how everyone else is having fun with friends while I'm here being sad and lonely because all my friends are 2 hours away and our friendship is slowly slipping away from the distance. .·´¯`(>▂
I bet your an anime kid
@@hhproductions8254no your just one of those wierd people they are probably talking about. I could even call you wierd because you like war stuff, if anything you would be shunned as well.
Plus saying anime is quite an understatement considering that anime doesnt really have this reputation anymore is more liked now, if anything to shun someone for it would only be possible if they wanted everyone to know.
ok but fr serious emoticons does not mean anime kid you sound a bit dumb, like you think you are better than everyone here, while i just told you that you wouldnt really
Yes, no one likes the shows that I like-
I feel like I can only connect with people through same interests but my classmates don’t watch those shows and it’s hard to talk to them although I want to make friends not just by similar interest but I also want to get to know people for who they are as well-
03:24 nah bro every time I watch an anime and see the dude who's sitting by himself I'm like "ahh yes might this man be one of my people"
I had no friends from 7th grade to the 12th grade when I graduated. I had this one table up near the front of the cafeteria where I would sit every single day and eat lunch just hoping that just one person I tried talking to would join me. At the time I was graduating, I just skipped it for an extra shift at whatever dead end job I was working at the time. I did try or I atleast think I did. No matter how much think I did to keep in contact with people I once knew or people I fell out with in the end it reslly didn't matter but honestly I really don't mind it because after awhile I just became my own best friend. Another aspect of this is that covid just really messed everything up since it happened the middle of high school all the way to the home stretch. Thinking back I think I've just always been content with being that loner because other people just held me down
Too relatable, I can only think of one person I would call a friend even then, I barely talk to them online, I talk to them in person even less than I do online, it’s kinda hard to see them as a friend, and more so, an acquaintance, they feel more like that
Edit: Also, when I do see them in person, it’s at school and I’m more so just walking by them and saying hi to them
I feel exactly like this right now. I am on the spectrum and I have a really hard time socializing, and I have tried before to be friends with people even though it’s so hard for me to speak, but I just end up screwing it up because I’m so bad at socializing. And seeing everyone around me doing stuff with big groups of friends while I am all alone feels so bad, and I feel like I am wasting my high school years like this and I am already in grade 10. Because all I do is sit by myself and quietly do my work and I need like teachers to walk to classes with me because I’m so afraid of just moving around the school alone which probably dosent help with people wanting to be friends with me. At this point with my anxiety being so bad I really feel like I am never going to have friends at all and it really depresses me.
As someone who didn’t have that many friends until fairly recently, I really recommend joining clubs!! Whether it’s a big thing like band or theater or even just a smaller one like a gardening club or something, it helps a lot with getting to know more people!!!
that's literally me man
high school is just painful it's hard enough managing schoolwork but add in the fact that nobody wants to talk to me, dislikes or outright hates me, and they think i'm autistic (even though i'm NOT) makes it SO MUCH WORSE. I see people having like an entire friend group while i'm just a sad loner that nobody wants to talk to. I've tried striking up random conversations but it just gets awkward. I don't just want a school friend, I want a FRIEND friend. A friend that I am excited to talk with and vice versa. But no apparently that's too much to ask for. I have ZERO social life because the other kids in school ostracized me and BULLIED ME for it. I'm miserable to the point that i grunt whenever i see a friend group talking in the canteen.
As a senior in high school we have the rest of our lives to meet decent people and I know u will meet ppl who vibe with u ❤
man its so good hearing someone say stuff I constantly ask myself lol. I'm a sophomore with practically no friends, but I can't even go to school. I've been homeschooled my whole life in a rural area so it just makes things so difficult emotionally. I know its been a year since you posted this but I really hope you're doing better. And yes I cannot wait to go to college as well 😂
Girl I relate to you sm. I had absolutely NO friends in 7th grade. Not even a person to sit with at lunch. Now things are better and I do have people to rely on thank god. I hope you find a friend before you leave hs, bc you seem like a genuinely nice person to be around. Good luck!!!
I hate that I relate to this. It especially hurts when you see everyone in their own friend groups and spending time together outside of school. I only have one close friend that I talk to all the time at school, but it still feels isolating. She has other friends and I don’t. So whenever I’d be talking to her and one of her other friends comes to say hi, I just awkwardly stand there just waiting for their convo to end. I’ve tried to get close to her friends but it hasn’t worked since we don’t really click. I’ve even tried to get out of my comfort zone to make new friends but it seems like everyone is so closed off and only sticks to whatever friend group they already have. Not only that, it’s just been hard to connect with people. High school has been nothing but lonely, and it’s depressing :’(
5:52 that’s exactly how I feel too! I’m someone who enjoys people’s presence physically around me, and knowing people only or mostly through a phone and text messages, just will never fully make me happy
for a depressing rant that is really relatable to shit i went thru before this made me laugh a little too much LMAO ur funny you really deserve to have as many friends as you desire :(( hope youre better now !!
Described my life word for word. I am glad I graduated high school this year.
4:00 I feel you, i used to feel like this the most back in junior high, i cried those nights, and the thing is, it was worse, i called myself worthless, and undeserving, and was distancing myself from the only friends i even had (i text people) and wasnt even texting people for a year or 2, started trying to text them all over again recenetley but have no clue if im just merely an acquantance of theirs they met a couple years ago, and it's just... Man i cant rn, i got over it by saying who cares, and well, being alone isnt always the worst right? It's only bad if i make myself feel lonely. I at least have my family i guess. Sort of..
i’ve had friend issues for as long as i can remember and had nobody in high school (and my freshmen year was during covid which made it really hard in my sophomore year). like even online i’ve hopped friend group to friend group and it made high school terrible, especially with very bad family issues, anxiety, and teachers not doing their jobs. but anyways my point is that it does not get better in college. it’s been way WAY worse and more isolating. i hope you are able to find lasting friends in the future and best of wishes!
I'm in senior year, and it's kind of my fault. I've always been attached to the kids with no friends, so I'm suck with them and babysit them instead of making friends with actually good people that I can be myself. College I get a free restart, so I can get a do over. Easy peasy.