What Is The Narcissist Hiding? | Thriver TV
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- You sense something is wrong, but when you ask, you're met with deflections, diversions, and horrible accusations.
Even when the truth comes out, the narcissist keeps lying and doubling down.
How can you prove it?
How can you survive the attacks aimed at you for what THEY did wrong?
In this video learn how narcissists use specific tactics to hide their actions and how you can emerge healed, sane, and free from the chaos.
Love, Mel
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It's because they lie with such confidence, conviction and assurance.
There's no truth in them.
Oh, they're sooooo good. Even I'm amazed. Even had me believing their reality instead of mine.
They get away with lying because they're low in anxiety. All of the signs of lying, even on a professional level, are the same as anxiety.
They certainly do lie and when you come to realize that you have been played, they come back and this time the lies are so predictable and simple minded, you are left in a deep fog. It is a horrific sad feeling when you began to revisit situations and events, you are realizing how crazy and cold this relationship has really been.
Yes!!!
No longer accessing that insta, but, just respond to me. If you respond to people. She spies on me in the house and like followed you and DIdnt help me drive - i am like a woman out of polyamorous people who had no help and it is very bad. Honestly. She is bad. She is no longer the victim. I am very therapeutic. And, she has kept me trapped for 6 years. Im from La
It's also about controlling information. Gatekeeping.
was w my narc gf off and on for 8yrs. the only time she was ever honest, not lying to me, was when she made this statement a couple times while we were together, and it would come completely out of the blue, "sometimes i feel like a 3yr old". what a off the wall, odd thing, for a full grown, adult woman, to say? after the fact, what she was honestly saying was she did not understand herself. one of the worst things about being with one is 'not knowing'. im not stupid, but if you dont fully understand narcissism, your screwed. several months after i kicked her to the curb, i was busy cooking in the kitchen, had u tube randomly playing for background noise. half paying attention, a man starts describing her, and her narc actions to a T. shut down kitchen duty, and spent the next several hrs watching narc vids. not only did the vids explain everything, they also explained her odd comment. they are nothing more than lost, butt hurt children, living in a adults body. that was 9yrs ago, and if that vid would not have randomly popped up, i would still be in the dark to this day. their entire mental dysfunction is very hard for a normal mind to understand. it was nice of jesus to toss me that bone, giving me clarity/understanding.
I’ve been through the same mate. It takes awhile to understand that it really isn’t you but you honestly can’t win against someone with NPD. You’re trying to reason with someone who has serious mental health issues and you end up arguing with a person with the emotional capacity of a toddler. That’s why they resort to tantrums, silent treatment, using blocking etc etc
@@MegaRockstar48 totally agree, it is a mental issue. unlike many mental issues, their mental issue is by choice. they know right from wrong, but choose wrong every time.
@@MegaRockstar48 the only way you can win against one, is to dump them, before they dump you.
I’m so thankful and remember the day I got clarity through videos, I spent the morning in bed binge watching, what an AHA moment and I thank Jesus I’m free from that addictionship
@@JesuisLord education is understanding, freedom!
Other people believing their lies was the hardest, hardest part! Once I healed on this I realized I was once the new supply who believed their lies because I wasn’t being honest with myself or willing to confront them on most things. Other people who believe the narc's lies are on that journey.
It sure did!
He said he didn’t have children .
He had 2!
I said to him “ you open your mouth and you lie!!!!”
And 15 years of LIES LIES LIES LIES !!!!🤬
I caught him straight up in a lie and when I put it back on him which was undeniable, he actually had the audacity to get angry with me, and his defense for himself was “you TRICKED me “ 😂 YESSSSSS I tricked him into lying... as if anyone can trick anyone into a lie!!
A LIE IS A LIE ... intentional, without being “tricked” AS FAR AS I KNOW, tricking someone into a lie doesn’t even exist
😢 wow this is so right on. We are so caught off guard. It's very abusive. She is speaking the truth. Intuition & gut instinct, don't go against it. She is speaking my life . Ugh it's gagging & true. Just breathe. TRIGGER. Stay strong. RESILIENCE IS NEEDED
ME!!!
When the narcissist cheated, she lied about everything and ultimately blamed me!
She took no responsibility for her crude and awful behavior.
She constantly manipulated my access to our financial resources, and left me almost pennyless when she discarded me. Looking back, the lies, the deception, the breaking and destruction of every single marital vow we took together was almost, it seemed, after awhile, some kind of daily occurrence. Even, to this day, it continues as I fight for my financial life while she is off, gallivanting all over the planet, as if nothing happened and that everything is wonderful, of course, for herself only….
After all these years of listening to you, Melanie, I shouldn’t be “surprised” or amazed anymore that this kind of abnormal behavior is part of their repertoire, but I still am hurt and amazed that it continues….
Thank you for continuing to be here for us and give us the guidance that we need to survive and thrive after this wicked and awful human behavior most of us have endured for way too long.
❤️🦋❤️
Big hugs to you Peter! Yes it is an absolutely unbelievable alter-reality! ❤
Same here. I have been there, my ex wife and her blaming mother.
Me too I was bluffed he was soo righteous. After nearly 4 years separated now the real truth is coming out. He's not finished yet with me, still trying to manipulate. I hope you are on the long road to healing. There's good days and bad days. Love and best wishes x
@@dianahogg6164 …still here, still on the healing journey, but each day it gets somewhat better.
Thanks so much for your very kind response.
Hope things get easier for you even though it’s never easy when we’re dealing with these kind of creatures.
Sending love back!
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By the second meeting they have you hooked in.
Your the Queen of narcissistic abuse recovery ❤ no one explains this more Quantum, spiritually and accurately than you do 🙏🏾 thank you
Thank you for your lovely comment! ❤ so appreciated 💖
The double down on the lie.. 😑
My ex was accidentally exposed when he was on the phone with his dad, his dad asked where a woman was who he'd lied to me about. He scrambled and gave a reason as to why they he stopped seeing her (when he told me she was a friend he'd never date). When he got off the phone, I asked why he lied to me. His response was "Are you really going to ruin the good time we're having?"
Oh. You bet I am.
He looked me in the eye and continued to lie, and he actually changed the details of a previous situation to show why the current situation couldn't be true. I could not believe that that was his response after being caught red handed.
He also told me his dad was deceased when he wasn't. When I confronted him he lied, lied again and then finally admitted he lied. And his two reasons were: he wanted it to seem he understood what I was going through when my dad actually passed away (that's what brought us back in contact, we were long time friends), and because "his dad was dead to him" for a few years of no contact.. that was his justification.
OMG-the polygraph threat-but he refused to let me look through the phone and/or call the numbers! Now I’m facing “capacity” issues professionally and he’s already emailed and texted my parents about my “capacity” and they sought an order of protection and he stopped with them-but not with me…and the “others”…it’s sickening and heartbreaking as my son has recently called me “paranoid” and that broke my heart! But he’s now 18 so I said he has to live with dad and I’m only hoping after 24/7 with him he might see the light after malware on all of our electronics stems from my sons phone-yet he refuses to believe in spite of tangible evidence of such…it’s an ongoing saga-it’s surreal.
Bb Thanks for everything
BB. So true about continuous lying and blaming a poor person who happened to be involved with a narcissist. Horrible thing is that there are parents who treat you like that and one realises only later on they almost prepare their victim for a next narcissist. We just need to wake up! Yes, evil, they need good people like vampires need living beings to feed on. Thank you for the programme!
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Im Glad You Exist M'Lady.
Much Respect For All The Lives You Help Become Thier Own Sense of Love Security & Validation & Those Paying It Forward Too 💞
Thank you for your lovely comment and support! ❤🦋
"THRIVE ON!" 😁@@MelanieToniaEvans
You go girl. Another great one. Thanks for your content! They are incredibly skilled you are absolutely right. You can only fight this internally with self-love
Please know how welcome you are. Thank you and I'm glad this resonated! Thrive On! ❤🎉
Barely two months in October after the discard (on 28/7/2016), I found out that the narcissistic groomer in my life had moved on with a new guy already. It became obvious that was already under way even prior to the discard. After that realization, even if people try to feed me information about how well that narcissist is doing in life, I don't reciprocate any attention anymore and just block those people.
Everything on this video completely resignates with me. So true.
Me……….my narcissistic ex gf flew from France to the uk to meet me after only about two months of online chatting. We met in a golf hotel and she walked in like an actress and part of me knew something was off. The next few days she was getting looks from all the men at the hotel as I walked around with her like part of her personal bodyguard (as she is attractive) and she seemed to love the attention. So I knew something wasn’t right about her and also thought “why is she single”……..the gut was waving a massive red flag 🚩 at me but the lovebombing was all consuming so yes you do ignore things in the beginning
Mine was also very attractive. After a four month love bomb stage i was triangulated on our cruise before she threw herself at a guy onboard, caused an argument then went off and slept with him . She made up some bs story the following day before discarding me and moving in with him. Found out she was seeing three other guys plus her best friends husband whom she was going to move in with !
I see your point but I was married to a narcissistic man for 17 years and the statement that they are broken or have low self esteem .. not my experience at all
I was the one with the low self esteem
He was not broken or have low self esteem
In fact he had a nice childhood and no trauma
He was diagnosed narcissistic as well by our marriage counselor at the end when I finally left him and he still does not accept that he is a narcissist
So similar to my story Caroline. However, he was the 'golden boy' of the family who could do no wrong. Whatever he so wanted or desired he would get it. He went onto play professional football and he was the most disgusting abusive entitled individual that I had the extreme misfortune to set up home with and, by the way, it was my home. Thank God I finally found the strength to rid him from my life. He was and is the most arrogant vile creature. I continue to find peace and 'I have earned the right to be alone' and happy. xx
@@vickidespretter2828 Thank you so much for sharing 🌷 and I share your joy that you got out . I don't know about you .. but so many of these descriptions of Narcissistic behaviors fit in general ... But often times really truly do not reflect a narcissist
And again I'm coming in at it from my perspective but my father was also a narcissist
My ex-husband versus my father we're very different personalities. My ex-husband was super charming especially to everyone outside the home . His abuse was not physical It was mental and verbal . He had no interest in our children and always felt I was a single mother even in marriage
Whenever we would go to the grocery store or any place like events He was always scanning the room for the area .. wanting to lock eyes with people in hopes that they would feed his ego
Especially other women but of course he was trying to hide that lol
But our intuitions know
It was out in public that he pretended to be the doting father and husband.
And I can tell you from experience I think a person can actually die of loneliness because I almost got to that point
There was very little to no affection
He would insult by " joking " ...
But could also be very cruel in certain circumstances
I had a miscarriage .. I found out on an ultrasound at around 8 weeks ... The doctor told me everything would be okay I would have a lot of cramping and some bleeding and it should pass
A couple days later I went into full labor (three kids prior to this so I know what labor feels like lol ) And I could feel my hips shifting and it was very strange to walk. By 11:00 p.m. I needed to go to the emergency room. Not only did he sleep on the couch through all of my pain but when I finally went to wake him up he was completely burdened and told me I would be just fine and the doctor said it was nothing. Zero comforting during the process
I finally threatened him that I would take an ambulance and that would cost us more money if he did not take me because I could not drive myself. He reluctantly put on his shoes tied them very slow put on his jacket slow.. acted annoyed.. and then proceeded to head to the car without helping me down the stairs or again providing no comfort
When we started to drive I asked him if he could drive a little faster because I felt something emergent
He told me he was not getting a ticket
When we got to the hospital as I walked in the door I gave birth in the hallway
No it was not a full grown baby but it was something and it was intense and full labor and a lot of blood
When all the nurses came rushing to me to help me.. and during the process of helping me.. He stood up against a wall and looked very tired like he just wanted to go back to bed
He barely spoke to me all that night and then when the hospital suggested they keep me because they were worried about me hemorrhaging he told me they just wanted our money
The nurses pulled me aside and asked if I was okay at home
I reluctantly said yes because again there was no physical abuse
When we got home at around 5:30 a.m. he got ready for work went to work and I did not hear from him all day He did not check on me
I should have left then
That was one of many circumstances that I should have packed my bags and left without saying a word lol
But no.. I proceeded to have another child with him. This child was severely autistic and I was left on my own to do everything for the years.
He was a good financial provider
But that was all
And of course what is he hang up on.. that he's a good financial provider therefore he's a good father lol
When I hear these when these videos or literature about narcissism sometimes I just shake my head because there are so many things that aren't present with every narcissist so it's kind of misleading
And it is true that you just don't find out until later in the relationship because it's subtle and the changes are slow but then you start having feelings that something is not right.
And it just continues and grows from there
I watched my ex-husband treat strangers better than he treated his family
He was super helpful with them.. everyone loved him at his job And of course he was in a position of power as he managed an entire store
But he's so good with other people in public
At home he was lazy and slept
And .. didn't participate in much of anything at home
But in public he would participate in everything even at church he would raise his hands and sing..
But I knew the truth.
Get nothing to do with God outside of that but when you put them in a church full of people who are looking or he thinks is looking That's when his hands go up and he starts to sing.
The hypocrisy is stomach churning
But these are the people with the most friends..
When I did finally leave him.. He went after my family and finally befriended them. Even after 17 years of marriage never wanted anything to do with certain members of my family for no reason at all but just didn't want to waste the energy I suppose
All of a sudden they became very important to him
I lost a few family members because of his lies and his charm
And that's okay
I totally hear you though... And I'm sorry for your experience as well and I'm sure he was able to convince a lot of people that you were the crazy one or the reason for the split
It's an awful feeling .. because not only are they trying to say face and throw you under a bus.. but when people believe it it's like you're breaking up with multiple people instead of just one
Which is what they do they seek out to destroy when they're not getting their way
My ex-husband told me many times that if I left him he would pull the rug out from underneath me financially and in every way and he most certainly did
But I recovered and it's been 8 years
Married to my best friend now I love of my life and even though he's not perfect either as no one is .. He is a far cry from the men of my past .. an incredibly affectionate
Sorry if it's TMI lol..
I just really wanted to respond to your message and let you know that I feel you and hear you and I understand that pain you carry around from narcissistic abuse 🌷
Sorry about the run-on sentences and typos lol I was using voice command and those are never quite accurate 🤣
Great video Mel! So much truth, this is exactly what happens when you are with one.
Listening to u explaining is so comforting as it is making sense
Addicted to dopamine & highs EXACTLY
Spittin facts as always, Melanie. Thrive on 🦋
They lie even about simple things that there's no need to lie about. Mine would hid my car keys then the keys would misteriously re appear. They would then sit back with a narcissist smurk on their face. Head spinning stuff
BB, thank you! I've been listening weekly . I appreciate you having this out there for those of us that need help!
Gwen you are very welcome.. Thank you for ypur support. Please find the details to register for Beyond Broken tomorrow www.melanietoniaevans.com/beyond-broken 🦋❤️
Wonderful exposure … and even better healing and solution to it
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Thrive on!!
Great exposure and truth here even better healing and upshifts to freedom … thank you ❤
It's my pleasure. So pleased this resonates ❤🦋
Professional alternate reality shapeshifters thankyou melanie ❤❤
**edit** he is now super religious and uses social media as a preaching platform and actually accused me of being a jezzabel and proclaimed I would be going to hell for asking for a divorce.
Once we had got married and he moved in to my home, the mask slipped, he began to drive a wedge between me and my adult children, he accused my daughter who is a respectable teacher with more money than him, of stealing his belongings, maxed out my credit card, he wouldn’t let me drive the car which I owned half of, he made digs about my appearance and stopped touching me, he spent all his money on what I don’t know, my health deteriorated. When I eventually asked him to leave he smeared me to my neighbours tellign them he suspected I was a Prostitute, and he stole lots of my belongings. This was 6 months ago and I am still spinning.
They're full of secrets and it follows them to their graves
Ever since I started educating myself, I see cautious approach to me. He is hovering, isn't it. Recently, because of this I have gained more confidence and bold in my approach. I want him caught.
You're not well as evidenced by your past relationships. That is my parents' narrative about me. Also wanted to say, I'm very sensitive to being questioned by my parents, but that's because of the way they treated us as children. Highly controlling. I broke no contact only to find more reassurance that my gut instincts were right. I can't wait until I'm able to go no contact again.
My boyfriend said to me "you can talk to my ex " he triangulated me with "as long as I can keep talking to her". Such evil manipulators.
Thrive on!!!! ❤️🦋❤️
I wish I could meet you and give you a hug. A thumbs up is not enough. What a great video. You hit the subject right on the head. It's like you knew exactly what's happening over here. Thank you for teaching us to focus on growing ourselves rather than learning more about them. That's a key point I will take with me. I will focus on growing myself. Thank you so much.
After 51 years Ib questioned myself why is my life so difficult. He was tripping me up at any chance he got. Im free now i know where i put my car keys my keys are where i left them last night. life is good 😂. Sad but true.
Good For You!!!
I had a few flying monkeys around the narcissistic ex
Thrive on!
Graham, if you see this, I hope you get out soon. We'll be here when you do.
Yes,I was told it’s bc of my previous relationships.
BB
Thank you! 🙌
It's my pleasure ❤ Here is your link to register for Beyond Broken tomorrow www.melanietoniaevans.com/beyond-broken 🦋❤️
Thrive on
If your narc is a female, she is sleeping with no less than 3 men behind your back. Just make sure your not married to her. If you are, your 100% responsible for her bills.
I think I love you .😀 Not to worry there's at least one ocean between us !!!
I had no idea narcs were addicts. That makes sense though
❤Thank you ❤
Me!! My hand’s up😂
Thank you for the video Miss Evans. Any little bit helps.
I thank my friend too letting me know about you.
Do well bestie.
You are so welcome🦋❤️
BB So true!
Hi Nancy, this is your link to register for Beyond Broken today! www.melanietoniaevans.com/beyond-broken 🦋❤️
That reminds me of my fake christian ex wife who is married to a baldy from Grandview (Mark 10:12),While her blaming mother who is married to a Baptist pastor now living in Sublimity Oregon in which he has no idea that he's married a toxic fake christian.
Tell her she needs deliverence , a lot of religions do not do what Jesus did in the Bible
@JesuisLord She won't respond right, not to mention she got ex communicated by my church for lying to my pastor after she got caught and broke our wedding vows. You could tell she's a devil in disguise.
Me!!!
May God, Jesus & The Holy Spirit , 3 in 1, So awesome in Their infinite Power. Bless Her in speaking Truth! I lost say this whole podcast, a new subscriber to you on this day to me yet meant for a reason. I have to find good in the bad of & learn. We were victimized at the time but not now. Empower ourselves, heal, learn, forgive, move forward in His endless Love & Protection
Psalms 91:11. God commands His Angel's to Protect You wherever you go.i ask this for All who put their Faith in Jesus Christ. It is In Jesus's Name I 🙏 🙏
Amen 😊
BB
Hi Sylvia, please find the details to register for Beyond Broken tomorrow www.melanietoniaevans.com/beyond-broken 🦋❤️
Thrive on!...Yes ..So true..Ive been alienated from my children and still suffering from his lies, with continued Emotional, Financial & Litigation Abuse. Is the 'BB' recording available? Is it any benefit or different from NARP Course?
Hunnie many who are NARPers have got a lot out of the presentation! Yes come in to the recording www.melanietoniaevans.com/beyond-broken Also the new 10 step format has been received beautifully. You will see this in your members platform. Also Deb please pop into the NARP Members Forum if you need our support ❤🦋
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Please know you can watch my no cost webinar recording at www.melanietoniaevans.com/beyond-broken I hope that this helps! ❤🦋
ME ME ME ME ME!!!!!!!!!!!!! I CANNOT SHOUT IT LOUD ENOUGH. THE LIES ARE KILLING ME. i HATE HIM
Excuse me, My mother is stalking me and paid for your traingin module and is the narcissist that is spyign on me while I am living here. She was spying on me, and I would appecreicate YOU reaching out to me for help.
Excuse me, used to watch every video of yours. I related to you, a lot more than I believe my mother ever could have . It is really nothing I plan to share right now. OR ever . She Paid for your modules. But she spied on me. THat is the problem. She is heinous. CHristina Linde. SHe is a conartst, has changed her last name like 5 times. no husband. If you would respond to me I would feel the support I need. I am not able to go into depth. I am an adult. More in a situation like You, with the adrenaline meds. She, just projects. but if you dont even respond. amnot worried that you are fake, I just want to talk - esp cause - I care about all of the above
It's weird _ shame and shock
I know it's projection
You can't change it
Why confront _ it's exhausting
Time for a nap
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I didn't pay attention to what I saw.
ME!
My ex told me he would play with toy figures. It was odd but I think he wanted me to feel sorry for him. I didn't feel sorry for him he was pathetic and I told him don't you get tired of playing the victim SMDH.
Me!
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BB!
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@MelanieToniaEvans thank you so much Melanie ♥️
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Please know you can watch my no cost webinar recording at www.melanietoniaevans.com/beyond-broken I hope that this helps! ❤🦋
Please know you can watch my no cost webinar recording at www.melanietoniaevans.com/beyond-broken I hope that this helps! ❤🦋
Please know you can watch my no cost webinar recording at www.melanietoniaevans.com/beyond-broken I hope that this helps! ❤🦋
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ME!!!
When the narcissist cheated, she lied about everything and ultimately blamed me!
She took no responsibility for her crude and awful behavior.
She constantly manipulated my access to our financial resources, and left me almost pennyless when she discarded me. Looking back, the lies, the deception, the breaking and destruction of every single marital vow we took together was almost, it seemed, after awhile, some kind of daily occurrence. Even, to this day, it continues as I fight for my financial life while she is off, gallivanting all over the planet, as if nothing happened and that everything is wonderful, of course, for herself only….
After all these years of listening to you, Melanie, I shouldn’t be “surprised” or amazed anymore that this kind of abnormal behavior is part of their repertoire, but I still am hurt and amazed that it continues….
Thank you for continuing to be here for us and give us the guidance that we need to survive and thrive after this wicked and awful human behavior most of us have endured for way too long.
❤️🦋❤️
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