My erection and overall sexual health has improved a LOT after getting with my current girlfriend. We’ve built a ton of trust and love between each other and I think that healed a lot of my mental issues I’ve been trying to work on. So make sure you can connect with someone on multiple levels BEFORE committing to them. It’ll do a lot of good for both of you.
I am in very good shape, 35 year old man and firefighter. Very active and outgoing. Just won’t happen, despite affection and love and kindness. Thoughtful gifts, surprises, flowers, back rubs foot rubs time away, trips and even giving her personal time. Cooking, cleaning, laundry and all in dad. Just isn’t happening. Used to be a few times a week, now can’t even engage conversations around it. I like the science and proven facts and advice……. Just don’t feel like I need to be a secret agent trying to manipulate every angle to get to enjoy that aspect of our marriage. All I know is it’s ruining me mentally and emotionally and physically…..
I am not an expert but have listened to others that know better than me. One has told me the best way to get her affection is to gain the attention of another attractive woman. You sound as if you do your best to do the right thing. I am not implying for you to cheat but to pull a move she has forced upon you. I hate to say it but in extreme situations you eventually have to take extreme action. Maybe even leave. I have been in your shoes with a woman before and leaving her was one of the best things I did for myself. What ever you do, do it with a clear mind. I hope this helps, peace out and do your best to have a great day.
Go to a se..g therapist ... also do you give her non seggsu affection or do you always expect something, because that could make her feel guarded. If you haven't been passive aggressive, pouted, etc, act like she owes you, met her emotional needs, she should see a Dr to check for health problems and you guys should maybe go see a professional. . .
@@icon5892 yeah I always remember when I was young my mum used to say slow down you don't change pace🤣 then I got it from my Son decades later 🤣 I just say you're to slow speed up 🤣
For ED, could be a few causes: 1) porn - don’t watch it - you’ll thank me later 2) too much masturbation 3) you’re too fat and out of shape (heavy workout increases T) 4) poor diet 5) low T 6) too much stress
Is that a personal testimonial, do you have science to back it up, surely you don't believe that 1 prescription fits every other wet noodle, or do you ❓
Better suggestion, don't date and especially dont marry someone like that. If you tell me no to everything, then why would i want to be with you. Move on.
everyone and every relationship has is negative sides.. it's just about what negative you can handle, this one has an easy solution and the issue is just linked to how the persons brain works.... so actually not a big deal at all
While bit of this sound a bit antiquated, this is an excellent video. Dr. Amen says it like it is. No point denying that men and women are fundamentally different, and some of the other advice is great, too.
Manner of speech of this guest is amazing 🙌 he sounds like a villain who has now changed, became better person - but old habits die hard and he enjoys his knowledge from the past 🤣😎
A sexless marriage can be detrimental to one's sense of self and overall well-being. Having experienced this for 14 years, I strongly advise against engaging in a relationship where manipulation is necessary to obtain intimacy. Such a dynamic can be emotionally draining, erode self-esteem, and hinder social interactions. It is crucial to prioritize emotional compatibility and seek a partner with whom you can connect effortlessly. Life is fleeting, and it is essential to make choices that foster personal growth and fulfillment.
I was married to someone who rarely wanted to have sex, even at the beginning of marriage. Huge mistake to not test each other out before marriage. And honestly, I don't mind buying her pasta and chocolate (seduction advice I guess), but if she's not into me I'm not sticking around. Life is too short.
@@_Abra_Kadabra_ most women start their relationship very much with a libido, and it is often lost for the same reasons, which most men refuse to face When th4 warning light goes on in thr car, they don't deal with it, but get mad when the car stops working as well. Instead of fixing the problem by continuing to court her and showing up in a way in the relationship that makes her attracted, the man becomes bitter, passive aggressive and demanding. They don't seem to understand the way women work or have a desire to... which slowly kills what little attraction she has left and gives her the ick.
It's usually always psychological. Sure some times physical, but that is rarely. Boredom is psychological, thinking you have a sage catch is psychological, needing pampering is psychological, etc. What I've noticed is whereas guys are pretty straightforward, whereas female desire is so wrapped up in so many psychological factors.
many women just turn the switch off that that is all. Some women make sure the switch is on and they don’t need much to get started. I wouldn’t say it’s all psychological, but it is the main component.
Ok ... This is good, but gotta step it up for post menopausal women and also men who lose their hormones. I myself am doing glandular hormone therapy and it's a great game changer!!! It's been like turning on a Light Switch!
Yeah is fine, but not you on it for life. Great way to make money for pharma. You should know and tell that now if you stop the therapy your body will be even worse off as before because it completely stopped that hormon production
It was the first thing that came to my mind too! Changing hormones in menopause is very relevant. I have a good friend who is having a really hard time, it’s putting pressure on her relationship with hubby. What is the product you are using - is it something you purchased or is it through a medical practitioner?
4:00 2 weeks before a woman's period is also the time she will ovulate, meaning the time she is most fertile. Women tend to have an increased libido at the time she is most likely to get pregnant.
Wow you actually figured out how to map a woman's period. Obviously when he said "4-18 days you'll get lucky" and immediately im like; yeah no shit its because she's out of her follicular phase and is ovulating 😂😂😂😂
You should have a partner that WANTS to have relations with you. If you have to talk/manipulate your partner into having relations, that’s a poor relationship.
Hey, marriage is hard! It's not supposed to be easy! You're supposed to work with it. And plus, it'll remind you of your 1st dates where you were trying to do the same with them! We all love nostalgia, right? ;)
@@toddjohnson7572this is not “hard” this is impossible because she has set up her own internal limits. No amount of exercise or serotonin will help if she’s set her mind against things. He’s gotta move on, or have his needs taken care of elsewhere. She will never change and things will only gets worse when she says goodbye to the last of her eggs because her body will send less sex trigger hormones and there’s no interest in s*x after that. I’ve seen that in my life up close.
@@lostu9257sure maybe. But a woman who loves you will give it, even when she doesn't want it. Nobody should ever be told no in that type of context. Me and my wife have held to that for 15 years.
I don't want to feel this way but I am going to say it anyway. If that is all the work you have to put in to get your partner to want you. I would rather just try my best at making money and bettering myself. Not dating is better than bad dating. To all of you guys holding the population up, I salute you.
My ex wanted to dive in before we got connected too deeply. Neither of us were okay and didnt have difficult conversations so we fell apart… communication is key… like deep communication and sharing inner thoughts with each other and how you think.
This was helpfull. We just moved, and I think that the big lamp standing on the floor is enough for now, but she me alot to put up lamps. I tell her, that we should not put up lamps, before we know excatly where the furniture, shelves, sitting places will be. She is also a victim of an uncle touching her, so I get the no quite often. I love Dr. Daniel Amen - and your podcasts!
I have an acquaintance that is like that, he always ''no'' without even hearing what you are saying, I thought about offering him a free tattoo on the forehead that says ''No!'' that way he doesn't have to say it all the time win/win situation👍
To be able to get it up (even in your 70s or 80s), you need your body to produce nitrous oxide, and to do that, you need to be insulin sensitive (low carb diet can help with that) so that your glycol-calyx (in your blood vessels) can produce it. How do you become insulin sensitive? Read Professor Ben Bikman's book: Why We Get Sick...there are other good books on the topic, but this is a great start.
While there is some truth to what he says about women getting help because they are not afraid to ask for help, this is far from the whole truth. There are a lot of cultural programs running that are making it hard and actually risky for men to open up and be vulnerable. While most women and the culture in general tells us that men should open up and be more vulnerable, talk about our problems etc., the very same women will pull away and get a turn-off if this actually happens. As a man you need to be aware of this situation and thread carefully.
I agree with you, and if a woman pulls away when you are vulnerable then she is not mentally well and has never learned to deal with big emotions including her own. It would be better to find a woman you can be whole around.
@woodman1701 Social media, society, feminism. They're told they should NEVER settle and it's an I NEED MORE, comparison based delusional mindset that's been bred into modern women.
@@C12341agreed, also, when men don't emotionally invest in their wives without expecting something physical or throw tantrums because they feel they are owed something... or pout and become passive aggressive... instead of courting her a little like he used to and repairing the emotional right in their connection... these are ways to kill the bedroom..
@C12341 So women don't want to pick up after a man. But a man should pay the bills, be her emotional support, and protect her? Like.....like a.....FATHER? Holy shit, feminism has done a number on you. How about communicating and being grateful? Jesus Christ. You're the WOMAN! Of course you pick up more. It's literally what maternal instincts looks like. If you hear something outside, who goes to potentially get murdered? The woman? Who takes the brunt of emotional pain that they have to suffer through while "being strong" for the family? What the hell are you talking about? If the man feels like he's "being her dad," does he get to stop paying the mortgage? These soft ass men think sex is a reward. It's pathetic. It's a duty. You don't get to shut it down because you're not getting EVERYTHING you want. And what do THEY do exactly to earn the money since they don't want to pick up around the house? You're describing a person who wants to essentially be a toddler who will stop having sex with you if she's forced to be feminine and show maternal instincts. This is truly a pathetic take. Classic feminist brainwashing.
It's not entirely about the brain. Yes, there could be some block there like a trauma, stress etc etc, but being unhealthy also has an impact on libido and erection. I was at a point where my blood presure was in a really bad state - i smoked and drank a lot, and that cause ED type issues where i would loose the wood mid session and be unable to finish. As soon as i stopped that and started exercising that issue went away. And it was a relatively easy fix - i bought a cheap elliptical and worked out on it for 20 minutes every other day.
- pasta dinner raises serotonin - walk around the park - exercise is good - dark chocolate contains PEA, which indicates that something good is about to happen - wear baby powder as a natural aphrodiasiac pretty manipulative lol
In my experience, Cold Plunges are un-tolerable for most due to our modern comfy (central heated, warm, lack of cold condition) Lifestyle.. its better for people to have a shower and slowly reduce the temperature until its cold, and get used to the cold first for a few weeks/months depending on health. I love a cold plunge from the Sauna, however most people could only do a few minutes in the plunge pool after the sauna, and the benefits come after 7-10minutes, so they are missing out! I do 30 minutes then back into the Sauna!
I took a bio psych class and the textbook had drawings of a man's erectile hardness at 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's... My question was, is that age of the man or the age of his wife?
That's why you only get it on the weekends. It will likely slow down over time(been there). Trying too hard is trying too hard. Yes, find a woman you get along with for sure. However, catering to her every whim is a recipe for disaster in the long term. I used to do that shit a lot, would bring her flowers at random, suprise her with romantic gestures, always spend money on things she wanted. Got cheated on in the end, did it again but with less booty time. I am now with a woman that I don't do much of that stuff at all anymore. She says she likes it but that is not what keeps her around and doing things I like. I know it's not what you have likely been told growing up. But as I learned the hard way, the truth. You likely won't want to listen or try to change as people hate change in general. But for your own good at least plant a seed about these things, if I'm wrong you have nothing to worry about if you at least consider it. If I'm right, you have learned something new and of the truth behind the curtains. Either way, you really can't loose. Hope this helps, peace out and have a great day.
Also why is this psychologist advising married men to bend themselves backwards to make their wives happy FOR THE SMALL CHANCE that she will feel like maybe meeting their emotional needs. That is freakin abusive... why cater to someone that clearly doesnt care about your emptional needs? And why is your psychologist suggesting you stay with someone like that
@nicolasramirez3944 Here's a test. Have a husband let the house go into default and see how long the woman stays. That takes 3 months to default. Women go 6 months without having sex with their husband and don't even blink. But the husband is bad if he cheats. Sex is a NECESSITY for a man, just like having a provider is for a woman. Better yet, have a husband not allow his wife to vent for 3 months. Have him say he's too stressed or has a headache. See how long it takes for her to vent to another man and look at you as less of a man. Replace venting and being provided for as a woman with sex for men. It's HER DUTY. PERIOD.
@lnaph It's abusive to use sex as a bargaining chip. And her wanting you can be related to HER own issues. Classic brain-dead feminist. Always the victim. If she denies sex then I don't have to pay the mortgage. Look at that, we're both abandoning our duties! Whoooops!
I disqualify anyone that calls having sex "getting lucky". You're catering to her every need from day 4 to day 18, I understand you speak for the people in long relationships and you are trying to break a patern, but that is a very skewed situation. As with all of these situations, reverse the roles and see what it looks like, you'll gain some perspective.
Getting lucky is a euphemism just like make love is a euphemism. For taboo topics like sex often people talk in euphemisms. Your reverse the roles comment is too obscure for me to get. Can you spell it out a bit more explicitly what you mean?
With people that always want to do the opposite of what you say : Just leave them alone, after telling them what issues they have to fix with a psychologist. Use cognitive therapy, not psychanalyse.
men: There's a reason women want to get married and don't want to stay married. She does want sex. Just not with YOU. The only way to have a chance is start being more masculine. Either way, improve yourself for you, not to get her back. Then maybe she comes back or maybe she doesn't. When you are truly ok with that, then you are actually going to have lots of options and it won't be much of a big deal, you'll be playing a much larger game in life.
My girlfriend told me today I make her coffee more than anyone ever has... my thought, but didn't say, yeah because we have sex twice a day, every day for the last 7 months...
lol why is it in the news single women are much more happy then single men and single women are even happier then the ones in relationships? also the amount of stress a man is able to handle isnt more, maybe its more in life and death situations for most but I have seen way more men walk away from children bc its overwhelming for example, they cant handle the expectations and sacrifise required. I have neighbours and the guy went shouting in the streets bc he felt pressured, so the women take over. The guy just wants to work and then drink with friends or game. Not all men of course but a relationship with children where tasks are evenly divided are very rare bc men get grumpy if women ask for that@@seraph...4473
@@BB-xx3dv Men handle stress by themselves better. The reason why the suicide is so high is because they handle it by themselves too long. I think if the same amount of women isolated themselves as men there would be a greater amount of women suicide. But women don’t isolate themselves. On average they can be more group minded. I think the idea that men handle stress better can be seen in the statistics of single motherhood vs fatherhood and outcomes of kids. Parenting is very stressful so I would reason that those who can handle stress well would make good parents. Everyone has different varying situations but typically mom’s get worked up due to stress faster and easier than dads. What do you think?
@@BB-xx3dv not ultimately but that is because they don’t get themselves help. Women do, women talk to each other, call each other and other people to talk about their days. Women handle stress better because they don’t do it alone. I think that as far as handle stress for one’s self and by yourself men do it better. I don’t disagree with you I’m just talking about a different point. I think that if everyone handled their stress like men did a lot more women would commit suicide than men. Men should take notes from women learn to talk about their emotions though. Men try very hard not to let their stress become other people’s concern. This can be help when raising kids so as to not let anything bothering become their problem. (Single parenthood stats reflect this as single parenthood is highly stressful and the outcomes of single father’s children are usually better.) Because many times of being stressed in the heat of the moment can make or break life. That’s a whole nother story though. Thanks for your time
@@BB-xx3dv The idea that men die sooner than women because they are less resistant to stress or they repress emotions is bonkers. It's biological with additive factors like being the exclusive employers in all the dangerous and high stress jobs, males also experience elderly depression much more than females
I was thinking the same thing bro, I was like you want me to do all this lame-ass shit on the Off-chance that I might get some box... lmfaoooo gtfo my guy. If I'm with a chick and she ain't trynna fuck, she got 2 minutes to change her mind or I'm gonna go find me another chick who will 😂🤣
That is when the woman is ovulating and her libido is higher. But if that is your only chance then something is fundamentally wrong in the relationship.
@@nicolasramirez3944 while ignoring the nature of women. Which was my first point. Men used to have a strong network, until it was destroyed by feminism. Men's only clubs were where we would support each other.
@QuetzalcoatlOdin this is the most ridiculous comment I have ever read. You are wildly misinformed about feminism. Feminism is not about keeping men down or destroying men. It's really about dismantling the patriarchy, which you should be supportive of because the patriarchy is also hugely harmful to men! The patriarchy is what you are referring to when you say "society" has taught men not to seek help. Please do some real research on feminism and listen to some male feminists speak on this subject. I promise you, it is not what you have been let to believe it is.
@@QuetzalcoatlOdinreal feminists are not man haters. The word has gotten twisted. And mo matter how liberated a woman is it doesn’t stop men going and binding with other men. I think you are confusing our basic communities falling apart with feminists. Our communities are falling apart because neighbors don’t even get to know each other any more. Do you know 10 of your neighbors?
Thank you, most won't listen but I appreciate your honesty. Men be strong, make money, have frame, work past your weaknesses and make them strengths, make yourself valuable and find a woman of value. If you do the work to improve, you will naturally bring your standards up for a better woman.
I'm not miss nickelbee, but imo, if she used to be really hot for you and is no longer, it might be a purely physical and physiological thing. It might be worth a month or two of this type of advice to see if it helps. What have you got to lose? Once it gets kick-started again she should start climbing all over you again without the parade of techniques. On the other hand, if she doesn't have lust for you naturally I doubt this will bring it out. It won't. Look to the beginning of your relationship to gauge her level of potential improvement. It's a complex topic.
"You might get lucky" all that talk is the man serving the woman, if she is that complicated leave her, you are the peasant there, according to that guy.
Ive found a routine thats turned back clock 20 years! The ivfo us out there.Im afraid utll get banned,or super expensive (price has already doubled last 3 months)
The thing often missed in this conversation is men, especially over 50 whose L4 and L5 have been crushed by hard labor, resulting in sciatica, often complicated by piroformis issues. After visiting mirads of chiropractors , therapy and exercises with no long-term relief. Now if you'll just spin plates on your toes, whilst whistling dixie and pay us $3,000.00 we'll have you good as new in 6 weeks.😞🥴
You manipulate her into wanting pasta! It's all about manipulation. It helps you get what you want! Of course, disclaimer: Only do this if you're married. Do not apply to first dates with someone.
6:48 even if they reach out for help, they still have the burden of caring for other people's weight and responsibility on top of their own. and the ability to do so is how they're judged as men from those that depend on them.
4:20 as for this, the doc’s response is as great as the short time affords (and apart from the jail issue, which is at least partly due to anti-male bias in gyn.cent infested jurisdiction), however I’d point also to s. baron-cohen’s classic ‘the essential difference’ for in depth explorations, relatedly. and as for 6:25 (another matrix’ glitch), gents can’t often ‘get help(ed)’ as psy.thrp is primarily geared to xx.ine modes of cognitive operations (which as implied by above, are essentially different from gents’). besides, ‘to communicate’ isn’t just 1-sided broadcast but 2-sided turn-taking | interplay, which may entail information being transmitted, or misunderstanding being registered (more likely) - see already early cybernetics, relatedly.
Ffs it's just sex. You shouldn't have to be coerced and manipulated so your partner "gets lucky". Sex is excellent for your health, makes you happier, increases your energy levels, has amazing short term and long term effects and positively impacts your relationship on different levels. If you're able to have sex and you're not doing it, knowing that it's important to your partner - then you're an awful person and shouldn't complain when you're cheated on.
There is much to take from this particular interview, especially if someone isn't very knowledgeable about hormones and their cycles, specifically those of women, multifaceted benefits of healthy choices/lifestyles or basic physiology. However, Dr Daniel seems uneducated in the difference between "sex" and "gender" as evidenced by his comment about putting your "gender on health forms". Sex does not equal Gender as "sex" is the biological presence of male of female reproductive organs and secondary sex characteristics (post puberty) and "gender" is a social construct based on antiquated "norms". Outside of that inaccuracy Dr. Daniel said some worthwhile things.
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WOW, very powerful information. You now have a new subscriber. Thanks!!!!
My erection and overall sexual health has improved a LOT after getting with my current girlfriend. We’ve built a ton of trust and love between each other and I think that healed a lot of my mental issues I’ve been trying to work on.
So make sure you can connect with someone on multiple levels BEFORE committing to them. It’ll do a lot of good for both of you.
Good for you, glad to hear it, all the best bro❤
Grtt
any pro tips
Men realized this was the answer.
Men realized this was the answer.
I am in very good shape, 35 year old man and firefighter. Very active and outgoing. Just won’t happen, despite affection and love and kindness. Thoughtful gifts, surprises, flowers, back rubs foot rubs time away, trips and even giving her personal time. Cooking, cleaning, laundry and all in dad. Just isn’t happening. Used to be a few times a week, now can’t even engage conversations around it. I like the science and proven facts and advice……. Just don’t feel like I need to be a secret agent trying to manipulate every angle to get to enjoy that aspect of our marriage. All I know is it’s ruining me mentally and emotionally and physically…..
Get a side chick.
I am not an expert but have listened to others that know better than me.
One has told me the best way to get her affection is to gain the attention of another attractive woman. You sound as if you do your best to do the right thing. I am not implying for you to cheat but to pull a move she has forced upon you.
I hate to say it but in extreme situations you eventually have to take extreme action. Maybe even leave. I have been in your shoes with a woman before and leaving her was one of the best things I did for myself.
What ever you do, do it with a clear mind. I hope this helps, peace out and do your best to have a great day.
Dude be a man. Dont do everything for her. Do everything for you! Dont be that 'nice'. Dont beg dont ask let her come to you
Read "the passion trap" , sounds like you're suffocating her and trying too hard. Simple fix is detach and give way less attention.
Go to a se..g therapist ... also do you give her non seggsu affection or do you always expect something, because that could make her feel guarded. If you haven't been passive aggressive, pouted, etc, act like she owes you, met her emotional needs, she should see a Dr to check for health problems and you guys should maybe go see a professional. . .
Favourite saying from this clip "too stay young walk like you're late" I've always walked to fast even when I try not to always have. I'm 47
I do the same! Been doing it over 20 years. I'm 43. It takes alot for me to slow down and stay steady.
@@icon5892 yeah I always remember when I was young my mum used to say slow down you don't change pace🤣 then I got it from my Son decades later 🤣 I just say you're to slow speed up 🤣
My ex always complained that I would always walk faster, and it wasn't like I meant it I just got long legs.
@@Tiverus88same long legs walk fast. I also skip steps when walking up stairs, so I basically jog up stairs
Uhm well walk don't run ('64).... The Ventures?? Let's move back to the 60's? Gee
For ED, could be a few causes:
1) porn - don’t watch it - you’ll thank me later
2) too much masturbation
3) you’re too fat and out of shape (heavy workout increases T)
4) poor diet
5) low T
6) too much stress
Death-grip syndrome plays huge role too
@@bascelik01whats that
@@man58652 search on google maan
@@man58652when you hold your rocket too tight
Is that a personal testimonial, do you have science to back it up, surely you don't believe that 1 prescription fits every other wet noodle, or do you ❓
Better suggestion, don't date and especially dont marry someone like that. If you tell me no to everything, then why would i want to be with you. Move on.
everyone and every relationship has is negative sides.. it's just about what negative you can handle, this one has an easy solution and the issue is just linked to how the persons brain works.... so actually not a big deal at all
But it’s hard to find someone like that lol
What makes you think before marriage is after marriage?
No guarantees!
@@MnrBugi I agree, but betting they are going to change after you get married is a much less likelihood.
We’re talking about an established relationship, not a “looking” situation.
While bit of this sound a bit antiquated, this is an excellent video. Dr. Amen says it like it is. No point denying that men and women are fundamentally different, and some of the other advice is great, too.
Imagine a rapper named Lil Bido 😂
😂😂
He'd get half the state pregnant :)
Someone's gonna steal this.
Lil pedo. It'll be changed to that.
he is gonna be popular
Manner of speech of this guest is amazing 🙌 he sounds like a villain who has now changed, became better person - but old habits die hard and he enjoys his knowledge from the past 🤣😎
😂 he does sound like that 😂😂
This was such a great interview. Just non stop answers to age old questions, through science.
A sexless marriage can be detrimental to one's sense of self and overall well-being. Having experienced this for 14 years, I strongly advise against engaging in a relationship where manipulation is necessary to obtain intimacy. Such a dynamic can be emotionally draining, erode self-esteem, and hinder social interactions. It is crucial to prioritize emotional compatibility and seek a partner with whom you can connect effortlessly. Life is fleeting, and it is essential to make choices that foster personal growth and fulfillment.
I was married to someone who rarely wanted to have sex, even at the beginning of marriage. Huge mistake to not test each other out before marriage. And honestly, I don't mind buying her pasta and chocolate (seduction advice I guess), but if she's not into me I'm not sticking around. Life is too short.
You are telling on yourself. If she didn't like it then you must have not been good.... either emotionally, to her or physically .
@@lnaph That's not necessarily the case. Could be her own personal issues or sexual traumas, or it could be they were simply a bad match sexually.
@@_Abra_Kadabra_ most women start their relationship very much with a libido, and it is often lost for the same reasons, which most men refuse to face
When th4 warning light goes on in thr car, they don't deal with it, but get mad when the car stops working as well. Instead of fixing the problem by continuing to court her and showing up in a way in the relationship that makes her attracted, the man becomes bitter, passive aggressive and demanding. They don't seem to understand the way women work or have a desire to... which slowly kills what little attraction she has left and gives her the ick.
@@lnaphwhy is it always the man’s reasons 😂
Dumbassssssssssss @@lnaph
It's usually always psychological. Sure some times physical, but that is rarely. Boredom is psychological, thinking you have a sage catch is psychological, needing pampering is psychological, etc. What I've noticed is whereas guys are pretty straightforward, whereas female desire is so wrapped up in so many psychological factors.
many women just turn the switch off that that is all.
Some women make sure the switch is on and they don’t need much to get started.
I wouldn’t say it’s all psychological, but it is the main component.
Ok ... This is good, but gotta step it up for post menopausal women and also men who lose their hormones. I myself am doing glandular hormone therapy and it's a great game changer!!! It's been like turning on a Light Switch!
Yeah is fine, but not you on it for life. Great way to make money for pharma. You should know and tell that now if you stop the therapy your body will be even worse off as before because it completely stopped that hormon production
It was the first thing that came to my mind too! Changing hormones in menopause is very relevant. I have a good friend who is having a really hard time, it’s putting pressure on her relationship with hubby. What is the product you are using - is it something you purchased or is it through a medical practitioner?
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4:00 2 weeks before a woman's period is also the time she will ovulate, meaning the time she is most fertile. Women tend to have an increased libido at the time she is most likely to get pregnant.
Wow you actually figured out how to map a woman's period. Obviously when he said "4-18 days you'll get lucky" and immediately im like; yeah no shit its because she's out of her follicular phase and is ovulating 😂😂😂😂
Norhing new here, but nevertheless good info.
You should have a partner that WANTS to have relations with you. If you have to talk/manipulate your partner into having relations, that’s a poor relationship.
Hey, marriage is hard! It's not supposed to be easy! You're supposed to work with it. And plus, it'll remind you of your 1st dates where you were trying to do the same with them! We all love nostalgia, right? ;)
@@toddjohnson7572this is not “hard” this is impossible because she has set up her own internal limits. No amount of exercise or serotonin will help if she’s set her mind against things. He’s gotta move on, or have his needs taken care of elsewhere. She will never change and things will only gets worse when she says goodbye to the last of her eggs because her body will send less sex trigger hormones and there’s no interest in s*x after that. I’ve seen that in my life up close.
I didn’t see it as manipulating/grooming/finessing type shit. I saw it as changing small things to make your partner more relaxed and open
@@lostu9257sure maybe. But a woman who loves you will give it, even when she doesn't want it. Nobody should ever be told no in that type of context.
Me and my wife have held to that for 15 years.
I don't want to feel this way but I am going to say it anyway. If that is all the work you have to put in to get your partner to want you. I would rather just try my best at making money and bettering myself. Not dating is better than bad dating. To all of you guys holding the population up, I salute you.
My ex wanted to dive in before we got connected too deeply. Neither of us were okay and didnt have difficult conversations so we fell apart… communication is key… like deep communication and sharing inner thoughts with each other and how you think.
When i feel depressed i take a cold shower it's like a reset afterwards to cope life and enjoy and wanting to meet women as a single man
Good information 💯
Foot rubs, back rubs, simple nutrition works for us in marriage year #44-age 76.
As the great Stifler said: "That's a LOT of Work!"
@@toddjohnson7572 Payoff Huge!
Thanks for this, much needed class on this end! 👊🏿
This was helpfull. We just moved, and I think that the big lamp standing on the floor is enough for now, but she me alot to put up lamps. I tell her, that we should not put up lamps, before we know excatly where the furniture, shelves, sitting places will be. She is also a victim of an uncle touching her, so I get the no quite often. I love Dr. Daniel Amen - and your podcasts!
dude, some things you should just keep to yourself....
@@zacwood5835some people don't see those boundaries that are obvious to other people
That will definitely impact it. If she can get some good therapy it will help her open up a lot.
Cutting out sugar from the diet helps with sexual health, too.
Bullshit. Carbohydrates doesnt affect libido
They sometimes associate babies with loss of sleep, crying, and screaming.
Yeah but they sleep a lot, and you don't party all night!
I have an acquaintance that is like that, he always ''no'' without even hearing what you are saying, I thought about offering him a free tattoo on the forehead that says ''No!'' that way he doesn't have to say it all the time win/win situation👍
Fabulous questions. Guests and host are awesome 👍😎
To be able to get it up (even in your 70s or 80s),
you need your body to produce nitrous oxide, and to do that,
you need to be insulin sensitive (low carb diet can help with that)
so that your glycol-calyx (in your blood vessels) can produce it.
How do you become insulin sensitive? Read Professor Ben Bikman's book: Why We Get Sick...there are other good books on the topic, but this is a great start.
Chocolate flavoured pasta at the lake it is!
While there is some truth to what he says about women getting help because they are not afraid to ask for help, this is far from the whole truth. There are a lot of cultural programs running that are making it hard and actually risky for men to open up and be vulnerable. While most women and the culture in general tells us that men should open up and be more vulnerable, talk about our problems etc., the very same women will pull away and get a turn-off if this actually happens. As a man you need to be aware of this situation and thread carefully.
Can't believe this isn't being talked about more in this comment section! So important and people just ignore it!
I agree with you, and if a woman pulls away when you are vulnerable then she is not mentally well and has never learned to deal with big emotions including her own. It would be better to find a woman you can be whole around.
Very interesting advice 😀
I love the way this guest Dr actually answers questions directly
amazing 8minutes on YT, so many things I learned 🎉
I'll try cold plunging ... staying single for my sanity
Dr. Simp over here 👏🏻
The reason she doesn't want to have sex with you is, because shes not attracted to you anymore, its actually pretty simple most of the times.
She thinks she "deserves more" and better. Modern women brain.
So what changed to make her no longer attracted to you?
@woodman1701 Social media, society, feminism. They're told they should NEVER settle and it's an I NEED MORE, comparison based delusional mindset that's been bred into modern women.
@@C12341agreed, also, when men don't emotionally invest in their wives without expecting something physical or throw tantrums because they feel they are owed something... or pout and become passive aggressive... instead of courting her a little like he used to and repairing the emotional right in their connection... these are ways to kill the bedroom..
@C12341 So women don't want to pick up after a man. But a man should pay the bills, be her emotional support, and protect her? Like.....like a.....FATHER? Holy shit, feminism has done a number on you. How about communicating and being grateful? Jesus Christ. You're the WOMAN! Of course you pick up more. It's literally what maternal instincts looks like. If you hear something outside, who goes to potentially get murdered? The woman? Who takes the brunt of emotional pain that they have to suffer through while "being strong" for the family? What the hell are you talking about? If the man feels like he's "being her dad," does he get to stop paying the mortgage? These soft ass men think sex is a reward. It's pathetic. It's a duty. You don't get to shut it down because you're not getting EVERYTHING you want. And what do THEY do exactly to earn the money since they don't want to pick up around the house? You're describing a person who wants to essentially be a toddler who will stop having sex with you if she's forced to be feminine and show maternal instincts. This is truly a pathetic take. Classic feminist brainwashing.
this guy I could walk 50x around the lake with, going to watch the full
When i do everthing that you say I will loos mood for game
I've never had a problem with my libido. PE has been a issue tho. That I need to fix.
That just means that you're healthy.
It's not entirely about the brain. Yes, there could be some block there like a trauma, stress etc etc, but being unhealthy also has an impact on libido and erection. I was at a point where my blood presure was in a really bad state - i smoked and drank a lot, and that cause ED type issues where i would loose the wood mid session and be unable to finish. As soon as i stopped that and started exercising that issue went away. And it was a relatively easy fix - i bought a cheap elliptical and worked out on it for 20 minutes every other day.
Thanks boss
Imagine having a combination lock where digits randomly change all the time.
- pasta dinner raises serotonin
- walk around the park - exercise is good
- dark chocolate contains PEA, which indicates that something good is about to happen
- wear baby powder as a natural aphrodiasiac
pretty manipulative lol
In my experience, Cold Plunges are un-tolerable for most due to our modern comfy (central heated, warm, lack of cold condition) Lifestyle.. its better for people to have a shower and slowly reduce the temperature until its cold, and get used to the cold first for a few weeks/months depending on health. I love a cold plunge from the Sauna, however most people could only do a few minutes in the plunge pool after the sauna, and the benefits come after 7-10minutes, so they are missing out! I do 30 minutes then back into the Sauna!
Every situation is different. First of all, you have to care if it happens or not. The rest you have to figure out as you go along.
May i ask, what is "sana" that dr.Amen talks about?
Aswell, why we always talk about women not wanting sex. In so many cases its other way around.
He said ‘ sauna’
Bathing in steam
The natural cure for Ed, is a hot 23 yr old.
throbbing stiffness enountered
I took a bio psych class and the textbook had drawings of a man's erectile hardness at 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's... My question was, is that age of the man or the age of his wife?
@@andreas.9175 🤔🤣
Life changing
My wife and I have relations every weekend. Be her best friend and pay attention to the small things. Spend time doing things she is into.
What does she do? Why is it always the man having to trick a woman I to swx? It's HER DUTY.
Simping! Nice guy habits. What does she do in return?
If it's not being reciprocated you're better off with someone who's actually into YOU. Not what you do for her
That's why you only get it on the weekends. It will likely slow down over time(been there).
Trying too hard is trying too hard. Yes, find a woman you get along with for sure. However, catering to her every whim is a recipe for disaster in the long term. I used to do that shit a lot, would bring her flowers at random, suprise her with romantic gestures, always spend money on things she wanted. Got cheated on in the end, did it again but with less booty time.
I am now with a woman that I don't do much of that stuff at all anymore. She says she likes it but that is not what keeps her around and doing things I like.
I know it's not what you have likely been told growing up. But as I learned the hard way, the truth.
You likely won't want to listen or try to change as people hate change in general. But for your own good at least plant a seed about these things, if I'm wrong you have nothing to worry about if you at least consider it.
If I'm right, you have learned something new and of the truth behind the curtains. Either way, you really can't loose.
Hope this helps, peace out and have a great day.
@@bigdee199it's called courtship - the way a man gets her is how he keeps her.
You mean to tell me all this time I have just needed baby powder and chocolate? Genius
😂 + repaired emotional connection + responsibility and leadership
Also why is this psychologist advising married men to bend themselves backwards to make their wives happy FOR THE SMALL CHANCE that she will feel like maybe meeting their emotional needs.
That is freakin abusive... why cater to someone that clearly doesnt care about your emptional needs?
And why is your psychologist suggesting you stay with someone like that
Is it possible to love, and not want to immediately divorce, someone that doesn't feel like having sex?
@nicolasramirez3944 Here's a test. Have a husband let the house go into default and see how long the woman stays. That takes 3 months to default. Women go 6 months without having sex with their husband and don't even blink. But the husband is bad if he cheats. Sex is a NECESSITY for a man, just like having a provider is for a woman. Better yet, have a husband not allow his wife to vent for 3 months. Have him say he's too stressed or has a headache. See how long it takes for her to vent to another man and look at you as less of a man. Replace venting and being provided for as a woman with sex for men. It's HER DUTY. PERIOD.
@@hereforthecomments258 sex isn’t morally equivalent to venting lmao
It is abusive to treat a woman as an o kept and not meet her emotional needs which are connected to her wanting you.
@lnaph It's abusive to use sex as a bargaining chip. And her wanting you can be related to HER own issues. Classic brain-dead feminist. Always the victim. If she denies sex then I don't have to pay the mortgage. Look at that, we're both abandoning our duties! Whoooops!
I hate the term "Get Lucky" like you are playing the lottery. She has needs and he has needs and we all need to address those in marriage.
Exactly
If you need to do all these things and hope you get lucky on certain days of their menstrual cycle…you married the wrong woman.
Exactly what I was thinking. It should be the other way around. That she is lucky to get some. Hahah getting lucky
Agreed. While her libido is higher then because she is ovulating, that should not be the only time you connect and get intimate.
baby powder😳johnson&johnson no bueno!!!
Yes. There has been a massive law suit due to problems with it.
I disqualify anyone that calls having sex "getting lucky". You're catering to her every need from day 4 to day 18, I understand you speak for the people in long relationships and you are trying to break a patern, but that is a very skewed situation. As with all of these situations, reverse the roles and see what it looks like, you'll gain some perspective.
Getting lucky is a euphemism just like make love is a euphemism. For taboo topics like sex often people talk in euphemisms. Your reverse the roles comment is too obscure for me to get. Can you spell it out a bit more explicitly what you mean?
Best comment ever. @4:14
3:50 is a long way to say you are in the wrong relationship
With people that always want to do the opposite of what you say : Just leave them alone, after telling them what issues they have to fix with a psychologist. Use cognitive therapy, not psychanalyse.
men: There's a reason women want to get married and don't want to stay married. She does want sex. Just not with YOU. The only way to have a chance is start being more masculine. Either way, improve yourself for you, not to get her back. Then maybe she comes back or maybe she doesn't. When you are truly ok with that, then you are actually going to have lots of options and it won't be much of a big deal, you'll be playing a much larger game in life.
🤣🤣🤣 I love his tricks and advice !!
My girlfriend told me today I make her coffee more than anyone ever has... my thought, but didn't say, yeah because we have sex twice a day, every day for the last 7 months...
Twice a day?, man like don't you guys get bored?, or you do something different everytime and what is it?
I detox in Texas during the summer. All summer.
Lol
I didnt understand at 6:50 what they are talking about...Sonos ?
Saunas
Sauna ❤exercises ❤stay young and awesome ❤
This video is motivation to not marry and not commit.
Women also get more help also because there is a gender empathy gap, and it is increasing by the day.
lol why is it in the news single women are much more happy then single men and single women are even happier then the ones in relationships? also the amount of stress a man is able to handle isnt more, maybe its more in life and death situations for most but I have seen way more men walk away from children bc its overwhelming for example, they cant handle the expectations and sacrifise required. I have neighbours and the guy went shouting in the streets bc he felt pressured, so the women take over. The guy just wants to work and then drink with friends or game. Not all men of course but a relationship with children where tasks are evenly divided are very rare bc men get grumpy if women ask for that@@seraph...4473
@@LanguidAndBittersweet you act like a peer reviewed Study is like some kind of magic bullet that is always on point.
@@BB-xx3dv Men handle stress by themselves better. The reason why the suicide is so high is because they handle it by themselves too long. I think if the same amount of women isolated themselves as men there would be a greater amount of women suicide. But women don’t isolate themselves. On average they can be more group minded.
I think the idea that men handle stress better can be seen in the statistics of single motherhood vs fatherhood and outcomes of kids. Parenting is very stressful so I would reason that those who can handle stress well would make good parents. Everyone has different varying situations but typically mom’s get worked up due to stress faster and easier than dads.
What do you think?
@@BB-xx3dv not ultimately but that is because they don’t get themselves help. Women do, women talk to each other, call each other and other people to talk about their days. Women handle stress better because they don’t do it alone. I think that as far as handle stress for one’s self and by yourself men do it better. I don’t disagree with you I’m just talking about a different point. I think that if everyone handled their stress like men did a lot more women would commit suicide than men. Men should take notes from women learn to talk about their emotions though.
Men try very hard not to let their stress become other people’s concern. This can be help when raising kids so as to not let anything bothering become their problem. (Single parenthood stats reflect this as single parenthood is highly stressful and the outcomes of single father’s children are usually better.)
Because many times of being stressed in the heat of the moment can make or break life. That’s a whole nother story though. Thanks for your time
@@BB-xx3dv The idea that men die sooner than women because they are less resistant to stress or they repress emotions is bonkers. It's biological with additive factors like being the exclusive employers in all the dangerous and high stress jobs, males also experience elderly depression much more than females
Day 4 to 18… likely??? It’s like playing the playing the lotto scratch card every day in the hopes that you hit the jackpot. 😅
I was thinking the same thing bro, I was like you want me to do all this lame-ass shit on the Off-chance that I might get some box... lmfaoooo gtfo my guy. If I'm with a chick and she ain't trynna fuck, she got 2 minutes to change her mind or I'm gonna go find me another chick who will 😂🤣
It's because she'll be out of her follicular phase and going into ovulation, which is usually when women want the D.
That is when the woman is ovulating and her libido is higher. But if that is your only chance then something is fundamentally wrong in the relationship.
Put on baby powder 😂 This sounds like the advice you'd get from your grandpa
Women register less for crime because of the justice system.
Men don't seek help because society teaches us we are on our own.
yeah but society teaches these things because of the nature of man
@@nicolasramirez3944 while ignoring the nature of women. Which was my first point.
Men used to have a strong network, until it was destroyed by feminism. Men's only clubs were where we would support each other.
@QuetzalcoatlOdin this is the most ridiculous comment I have ever read. You are wildly misinformed about feminism. Feminism is not about keeping men down or destroying men. It's really about dismantling the patriarchy, which you should be supportive of because the patriarchy is also hugely harmful to men! The patriarchy is what you are referring to when you say "society" has taught men not to seek help. Please do some real research on feminism and listen to some male feminists speak on this subject. I promise you, it is not what you have been let to believe it is.
@@MrLadyGenevievewomen want women's only areas after fighting to get rid of mens only areas smh.
You sound like a stuck up wave 3 feminist
@@QuetzalcoatlOdinreal feminists are not man haters. The word has gotten twisted.
And mo matter how liberated a woman is it doesn’t stop men going and binding with other men. I think you are confusing our basic communities falling apart with feminists.
Our communities are falling apart because neighbors don’t even get to know each other any more. Do you know 10 of your neighbors?
Mac and cheese, get her to take out the trash, chocolate and cover myself in baby powder. Got it. Thanks so much doc, I'll let you know how it goes.
It's been 4 weeks brother, how was it??
@@Lakshay.Vermaa didn't seem to work at all. But she hasn't spoken to me in a month so that's a bonus I guess.
I don’t know if he lived to regale his tales
hmmm.... 46 yr old female here... this is alot of bad advice fellas
Thank you, most won't listen but I appreciate your honesty.
Men be strong, make money, have frame, work past your weaknesses and make them strengths, make yourself valuable and find a woman of value. If you do the work to improve, you will naturally bring your standards up for a better woman.
What works for you?
@@caribbeangtr8077at that age, nothing /s
Miss nickelbee. Please educate us. Why is this advice not correct? Serious question
I'm not miss nickelbee, but imo, if she used to be really hot for you and is no longer, it might be a purely physical and physiological thing. It might be worth a month or two of this type of advice to see if it helps. What have you got to lose? Once it gets kick-started again she should start climbing all over you again without the parade of techniques.
On the other hand, if she doesn't have lust for you naturally I doubt this will bring it out. It won't. Look to the beginning of your relationship to gauge her level of potential improvement. It's a complex topic.
"You might get lucky" all that talk is the man serving the woman, if she is that complicated leave her, you are the peasant there, according to that guy.
Where's the partnership? Where's the MUTUAL respect? Where's the MUTUAL support and love? This guys "advice" is eeesh! 😬
You can entertain them with a bit of dark chocolate 🍫
Not too much tho lolz
What do we do with a woman that is way beyond menstrual cycles???????
Hormone therapy can help a lot.
Ive found a routine thats turned back clock 20 years! The ivfo us out there.Im afraid utll get banned,or super expensive (price has already doubled last 3 months)
Buy Dior homme intense it has that baby powder smell
This sounds like bro science for the compassionate listeners
This is amazing, the man actually learned what his wife wants!
A lot of people are too busy and too unhealthy. Stress kills it.
The thing often missed in this conversation is men, especially over 50 whose L4 and L5 have been crushed by hard labor, resulting in sciatica, often complicated by piroformis issues. After visiting mirads of chiropractors , therapy and exercises with no long-term relief. Now if you'll just spin plates on your toes, whilst whistling dixie and pay us $3,000.00 we'll have you good as new in 6 weeks.😞🥴
Where do you put the baby powder?
On your ballsack
Suppository
@@davidr9589correct, suppository
Balls
In places where it causes cancer
What if she doesn’t want to order the pasta? 😭
Let's go to find new one 😅
"I'm gonna get pasta you probably don't want any"
You manipulate her into wanting pasta! It's all about manipulation. It helps you get what you want! Of course, disclaimer: Only do this if you're married. Do not apply to first dates with someone.
This seems like a lot of work. When we are in our 20s we don’t need to do any of this. There is definitely an age factor to libido
My high libido is only for the one whom I trust.
That’s how sane women feel too. ❤
Do all this just for???
Let that person be, move on to the next person. Do you really want to solve physics before sex?
True👍
Depends on your feelings for the person
@@tesladrew2608 feelings?
What does that mean?
As a man, my actions are not based on how I feel but on functionality.... What works for me.
6:48 even if they reach out for help, they still have the burden of caring for other people's weight and responsibility on top of their own. and the ability to do so is how they're judged as men from those that depend on them.
Never met a woman with good impulse control.
Lmaooo this sounds like it’s not mutual 😂
5:30 So that’s why my wife loved the Every Man Jack talcum deodorant I used…damn them, they discontinued it!
I found the pod caster likes driven the topic away instead of digging deeper, or sometimes talking about things irrelevant.
Now to find a restaurant that only has pasta on the menu 😂
Olive garden is pretty close.
4:20 as for this, the doc’s response is as great as the short time affords (and apart from the jail issue, which is at least partly due to anti-male bias in gyn.cent infested jurisdiction), however I’d point also to s. baron-cohen’s classic ‘the essential difference’ for in depth explorations, relatedly. and as for 6:25 (another matrix’ glitch), gents can’t often ‘get help(ed)’ as psy.thrp is primarily geared to xx.ine modes of cognitive operations (which as implied by above, are essentially different from gents’). besides, ‘to communicate’ isn’t just 1-sided broadcast but 2-sided turn-taking | interplay, which may entail information being transmitted, or misunderstanding being registered (more likely) - see already early cybernetics, relatedly.
Hahahaha that recipe for sex is RIDICULOUS!
Carbs are key!! IYKYK!
Im paid on how well I can perform on camera. I NEVER skimp on sugar, fruit or rice.
OMG NO! The scent of baby powder would totally turn me off. I can’t stand that smell. 😂
I don't want to be breathing chalk!
Ewwww white powder? Who even still uses this
If you were baby that had Candida.....baby powder = stingy trauma memory 😮😅
Same
Ya
Baby powder lol, I'll try it ahaha
baby powder natural aphrodisiac * aggressive scribbling noises*
Yeah okay!
Ffs it's just sex. You shouldn't have to be coerced and manipulated so your partner "gets lucky".
Sex is excellent for your health, makes you happier, increases your energy levels, has amazing short term and long term effects and positively impacts your relationship on different levels. If you're able to have sex and you're not doing it, knowing that it's important to your partner - then you're an awful person and shouldn't complain when you're cheated on.
There is much to take from this particular interview, especially if someone isn't very knowledgeable about hormones and their cycles, specifically those of women, multifaceted benefits of healthy choices/lifestyles or basic physiology. However, Dr Daniel seems uneducated in the difference between "sex" and "gender" as evidenced by his comment about putting your "gender on health forms". Sex does not equal Gender as "sex" is the biological presence of male of female reproductive organs and secondary sex characteristics (post puberty) and "gender" is a social construct based on antiquated "norms". Outside of that inaccuracy Dr. Daniel said some worthwhile things.