Narcissistic parents don't want to let you go because they want you around when they are old. Spouses don't want to let you go because of what you brought to the table. It isn't love. It's cruel.
Very important truth. They will use us until our last day on earth if we let them. We must take action to regain our freedom. Do not leave it up to the narcissist, the narc would be happy to have us on the sidelines just for laughs. They won't ever leave you alone unless you make the decision first. Think about it! Namaste!❤
Agreed, you have to make the action. They will only leave you after you do no value to them and before they have to commit, they have their perfect timing.
The energy exchange that Andrew refers to is real. I was beyond exhausted and when I cried to the ex-narcissist, his response was to demand more. I found out that my unending supply of energy and productivity did have a limit. To expend my precious resource on the narcissist's empty black hole was wrong. No more. Never again. In the struggle to regroup and to recharge myself, I have learned pain and patience.
I was there! Didn't understand until I left the second narc spouse! I got this truth from Andrew after I left. Thankfully, I'm much better and hopefully not getting a narc in my life again!!!
The old ways of the world are over. We are entering a new age of the world and we who have survived have become super empaths. With the wisdom we gained by going through the abuse cycle of a narcissist, it’s us, the super empaths, that have the power to heal the world. Put your capes on , fellow survivors 😊
I loving the channel 😮, nothing but the truth, narcissist are so destructive and will ruin your life if you don’t learn to fight back with knowledge 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Hi Andrew and my beautiful family💜 What's crazy is they disrespect, manipulate you, abused you emotionally and physically...they treat you all kind of ways and then expect you to never leave!! And some narcissists are obsessed with you and those are the most dangerous ones because they're not going to let you go at all! I have to plan to leave in order to be free!! Stay strong family and be safe!! Everyone have a great week and always take time to love yourself!!💝💖 namaste🙏🏽
Thank you for stating some narcs are obsessed with you. Mine was. Wanted to know where I was all the time. Wanted my attention constantly. Disrupted me doing things. But outwardly it was like he adored his wife. It seemed I was the most important thing in his life. (An extension of him?) It even seemed like that behind closed doors at times. But the abuse was so evil and nasty. Such a confusing place to be especially before knowing anything about narcs.
Yes. I was raised in a family like Andrew’s family. My parents always said they wanted to prepare me for my life as I knew boundaries, rules, and manners. Unfortunately, the narcissist fooled me into thinking that he was respectful of me. I am nothing but a doormat, cleaner, and to be used as a person who fetches like a dog. Who would want to let that go? Now I have no money or health to leave.
They are bottomless pits. My dad was an overt narc, my ex of 8 years was a malignant narc..I have been no contact for about a year with my ex and he still makes attempts to contact me through my email, which is the only access he would have. He's blocked everywhere on social media and I changed my number. It's truly disturbing how these creatures refuse to leave people alone...even when you've begged, pleaded long ago to be left alone. To them, its a game. It's a way to hurt from afar. It's another way to mess with your head.
He won't let me go. He tells everyone we are "married," and I have people asking me. People think I am 'ignoring my own husband,' am 'cold,' 'toxic' 'cruel' 'arrogant,' and they have no clue how he has treated me. They only have HIS story, his claims. We were engaged, not married. He writes about me on social media using my name and his last name, like 'his wife' is ignoring him and how much 'I hurt HIM.' His friends wind up feeling sorry for him and resenting me. His roommate confirmed to me that he was chatting up other women, a LOT. She said he was manipulating me, and she would catch him chatting with other women all the time. Then he'd get very hateful toward her, so she also distanced herself from me.
Them letting go = them losing supply. It's all about them, not you, the empath. Many of their flying monkeys get bored & stop flying. Please keep moving forward; just give nothing. If you have to give, give to yourself.
Spot on Andrew. My ex rented a flat with his new supply less than a 1/4 mile from me and took up jogging with her past my house regularly. He also told me "I say when it's over " and it's not yet
Listen to your gut from day 1, something which I truly wish I would have done, but got caught in the false reality of the Narcissist, and made excuses for his agitation and condescending outbursts, when really that should have been a gigantic Red flag .🚩
Many toxic people hide behind the bible. Honor thy mother and father. Talk about guilt trips. Please recognise a toxic narcisstic person who hides behinds family ties. Another excellent video. Many people can relate to this topic. I think I am in the third version of myself. I hope I am. ❤
Yeah me too, I was in around the narcissist before, but she was a sandlot ball player and we did not, not to give her any props, but she was a Hall of famer, very vicious, but while you're going through it you don't realize it's happening it's when they ghosts you, like normal people wipe their culo, and flush you into Oblivion 😔, 💔 but stay strong 💪 for God has rescued us 👊
I'm reading a book in Polish about narcissism. Boy, how can some people stoop so low and be so vile? It beggars belief! Moreover, never feel bad about using the term 'victim' because when innocent people get set upon by hawkish narcs, they are victims. Period. Let's call a spade a spade. Strength to all those that undergo this suffering!!
Thank you. Great message. Yes we were victims. Strangely mine even said to me, emphatically, “you’ve got to stop being a victim!!” 😵💫My sister also said this to me about the same time. (I realise now that she joined in with the gaslighting all the way through the relationship.) Yes we were victims. Now we are all survivors!❤
I have been gone 20 years and he still trys to trick me into answering the phone so he can do his pity party. I had children with him that are grow adults now ,so now i have no need to ever speak to the life sucking vampire again! Thank you Andrew 🙏If it wasn't for you , i would have never known what the heck had happened to me. ❤❤
It took a while for me to realize what was happening. Until I found this channel. I took his calls, he triangled me with his new love. So hurtful. He said he can't let me go. I let him go. 💖💖
Of course, they won't. But I'm already long gone. I have no time for BS. They all talk and I see no action. They always think you owe them something. ✌️😎💯
Really really good wrap up at the end of video - for those who might be ruminating…please play THAT back (what not to think or believe - basically ANYTHING a narcissist says 👎). Had a sibling move to my area and then took me out for a coffee date where I was berated for all the things I was supposed to have just known (mind reading expectations) and was informed at this painful coffee outing that they moved close to me with the intent that I would take care of their future children (none that I’m aware of yet). I might have made the mistake of laughing and saying, “so you moved OUT of your state with your spouse to come near me with the intent - and not even ASKING me - to be your personal nanny…” Seriously. I laughed because this is what everyone seemed to expect of me because I really DID take everyone’s kids on every occasion there was a need. But not anymore. Not at all. They not only expect. But demand and let’s just say things have been very quiet since I put an end to that nonsense. Saying “NO” Going “NO CONTACT” Blocking…deleting…never go back to the game. It’s a game. They want your energy in every form they can get it. ❤❤❤
Oh noooooo Chelsea! 🫢🫢🫢 THAT… that sounds like something our former HOUSEGUEST would do!!! Ahhhh GEEZ… she’s PROBABLY having her house in Colorado packed up so she can pay us a “surprise” visit, where she can TELL us she doesn’t have her house there anymore and… shocker… has no place else that she could POSSIBLY stay BUT with us.! 😂😂😂😂 Ohhhh the trauma… the nightmares to come 😛😆
@@jennifernewton4637 “Just say NOOOOO” I’m sending that vibration to your parents (as I know YOU can say no). 🚫 🏨 Hotel Newton has had drastic policy changes and there is a no tolerance for this narc houseguest (that seems too light of a title 🤔). I realize yes that narcs are above the policies. Forgot that for a sec. 🤔 what exactly would deter her? I know…NO ALCOHOL 🍷 is onsite. None provided. Wait. She’ll go out and drive after. 🤔 I’ll need some time. 😂 Just don’t let her come. That’s the best answer.
Wow this was really powerful.. I can relate.. the last minute of the video is especially very powerful.. with an important message.. and passionate.. so passionate that I feel Andrew almost used a certain word before he said “shrivel up”?? A certain word beginning with “f”? 🤔🤣 .. I now realise I’ve been hoovered a few times over the years.. and this year was a more obvious Hoover.. I don’t think I stayed for him though.. I stayed for the reasons he used to Hoover.. the animals.. and to sort out more things..PLEASE DONT ACCEPT A HOOVER .. Andrew is right.. the best thing is to have them out of your life permanently.. I’ve yet to achieve this but I still believe it to be the truth.. without my emotions in the way and my worry for animals.. I see a bright future full of confidence and opportunities without him in it.. the narcs are jealous.. I’ve never really had high self esteem anyway but somehow the narc is jealous of something.. I don’t know what.. THANK YOU ANDREW..this was really powerful today. ❤❤❤
Yes agree with you 💯my narc mom followed me 200mile,to convince me to come back home, I left the Country ,(I was the Scapegoat) it's all about them.all the time,!!.they hate not having control over you,,,you can never please them,,even though you make a good life for yourself ,,they can't even be happy for you,,,Block them all,, they live on Low Vibration,!! That's what they miss our energy,,,❤️❤️❤️❤️blessings and strength to everyone Here🙏🙏🙏💫🤗🌹
EXACTLY, Flower! ☝️☝️☝️💯🎯💯🎯 It’s strange how, in a LOT of ways, narcs are lazy. Yet by the same token, they will go WAY out of their way to pull off some ELABORATE manipulation stunt 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ Hope you had a WONDERFUL day today! Sleep well if you’re planning on going to bed soon!! 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗🥱😴😴😴🌙🌟✨
@@jennifernewton4637thanks Jennifer your a darling,yea I did ok without any help off them,Anyhow I hope your well and had a good day,,il talk soon it's bed soon for me,work tomorrow,,have a lovely evening/night,lots lots love ,😻🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️✨✨🌼🌺
@@debbievoss3496 sending love & strength your way do whatever it takes for you, live your life to the fullest so many key topics that Andrew talks about will guide you grey rock don’t share to much about yourself with others around you,I’ve always felt comfortable & at peace within this community so many are being healed & guided to a new & beautiful life,your health will return you are still young put yourself first 🙏🤗
Spot on Andrew 🎯 i had a narc mother and like i always said she had Kids only because the women around her had Kids and for her we were only an insurance policy to her for her old age. I had these thoughts about the toxic situation at home when growing up and i still think that. Have a beautiful afternoon Andrew ❤😊
Yeah I was just saying this root cause of our situations with narcs that is our family of origin issues. Our parents had us yes and brought us into this world but never cared to educate us and prepare us on how to survive in this world! We had to bump our heads to figure our directions out, I feel furious about my parents!!
@@zullmiramajid475 i am so sorry about what you have gone through. But you need to let these emotions go in order to heal. You are stronger than you think because you have survived it. Focus on yourself now not them. You deserve to live your best life now. Have a beautiful evening. 🤗💪🙌🙏
@@mariefrancebourget1749 thank you Marie for your kind words! I analyzed my whole situation on how I fell preyed to an extreme narcissist and had a failed marriage, and all the attributes such as ignoring the red flags and seeking validation from a unloving person, no warnings from my parents and went ahead with a disrespectful marriage, and even after divorce seeing how my family didn't support me and my child and I had to keep doing everything to cope with my divorce process, I came to the conclusion that I came from an abnormal family who didn't really parent me but just had me for the sake of community demand and cultural norm to have offsprings. It made me furious!! On the flip side, I now know how to parent my one and only son and break this family neglect cycle! We are lucky that now we have the education, we know how to avoid traps! This is a life saving education!
I think it's important that you recognized that everyone is susceptible to narcissistic abuse regardless of upbringing. Thank you for sharing your truth.
Yes Andrew they will try all just to take your soul,I am aware of that if they cant do that they will use child when ever they can.That makes me so angry ,so helpless couse they use their own children just to show to the world that they can do what ever they want and there is no law to stop this
Yep… here too! 🙌🙌🙌 To this DAY if I forget to say “thank you” to him, he will just automatically say “you’re welcome” (even to my MOM!) so that you know you forgot to thank him. Better not try that with him though 😬😬
My narcissistic has always been around even after he left many years ago for his new supply. It’s so much easier with knowledge. These videos have improved every aspect of my life. The 18 years with the narcissist was the most difficult time everyday. He definitely destroyed me for any future relationship. I remembered something the other day, I pulled my children out of school 9/11 before the second tower fell.I live in New York 50 miles from NYC . I was watching television and glad my children were home with me. Dim ( the petty tyrant) barged into the living room screaming “what kind of moron are you pulling the children out of school, it’s just a couple of planes in a couple of buildings” he made holidays and vacations an absolute nightmare.
You are sooo right on !! My narcissistic ex asked me numerous times to come "home!". He thought the divorce was just a setback in his world. He continues to hoover me weekly. Block them, they don't mean a word they say.
The most accurate analogy I can use to compare narcissist’s view of their victims is how they use a car. In my case both of my parent and parent figure are narcs. Both would use their cars until their bumpers and wheels fell of. Then try to part out the car and sell off the pieces. They have no emotional attachment to it, despite having it for decades, just practical use or abuse. They would take it into service only when major breaks happened. They ignored little signs the car needed repair, like warning lights and creaking noises under the hood, smoke, things not aligning right. No big deal, it survived so far, it will make it to another town or whatever destination they are going. And once the car died and was parted out and sold, they are on to the next shining object. No regrets or hard feelings. When I walked out of their lives, it was abrupt and unfathomable to them. Neither one cared about me, just whatever use I can give them. To keep me around and complete tasks for them. Until they get tired of me, then they would put me back on the shelf or triangulate me with other various individuals to create friction and supply for them. How they enjoy others fighting over them! Make derogatory names for me, equate me to an animal, a pet for them to be kept in a cage and fed crumbs. Pure insanity!
I love your analogy of cars with the narcissist, sorry to hear your story though ❤. My ex has had so many cars, he would buy a new car one day, regret it, or find something wrong with it and take it back the next day or same week. He too had no sentimentality to his cars, except his Infinity (which he didn't have for long as it was a work car), although he fancied having a few classic cars, whether he would have flipped them soon after purchase, is anyone's guess? He did look after his cars though, services and bodywork touch ups etc., but engine wise, he would race and hammer them into the ground. I like it, the car analogy is very apt, I will think on it more and likely ponder any deeper psychological meaning behind it. Thanks 🏎🚙🚗
Andrew, I appreciate your help. Many others don't have manners. Lord help us. 😢. My husband can do want he wants and dose not want me like a wife but a co occupant. 😢 But does not want anyone else to have me 😔. He tells me to be good and maybe I can have fun with him. I watch your videos and believe me you and community has helped me 🙏. TY 🎉🎉
That structure has good memories. Some of us don't realize the wisdom people are trying to teach you when your young. The narcisits grabs this from people and twists this so badly. It's unspeakable. Stealing it from generation to generation to pass on. Absolutely unspeakable.
You just started and I have to comment - the financial abuse and destruction is the worst; long suffering, seemingly never going to end. Finishing sixth year of narcissist's control, just won't let go. I give that decision to God because I'm not giving in to it... now I'll listen to your message and guidance . Thank you Andrew Clarifying: my parents raised me, similar to yours; had to finish plate. My narc is ex-husband, moved out of country. Unable to locate. Hence, radical financial drama. I'm standing still despite all the efforts of this person. Andrew you lift my spirit each time I listen to you. Narc can't keep me down!
My Narc Mom at the height of her Narc power, stuck out her hand and demanded I hand over my 1st paperboy check. I refused and she went into a rage in front of the family. I gave in, but that haunted me for years- she didn't need the money. It was about Control and financial control is one the most powerful ways. Upside- she's in her old age and chilled a good deal, but the warts of the Narc toad hasn't all disappeared completely. Terribly complicated with your loyalty and love for your family, but you can still love them just as well from 1000 mi. away or the Narcs being behind a diorama glass in a museum.
Amen Andrew! I grew up in a dysfunctional family and a narcissist father; this I believe was a precursor for me being a people pleaser and falling for the wrong people. From age 12-22, my parents had multiple partners and 4 additional marriages between them. As I continue to pursue divorce with my current narcissist husband, my eyes are opening wide to the past and current facade of the narcissist. They age but they never change. Thank you for your wisdom and teachings!
Yes I came to the same conclusion a while ago, the root cause of our cases with the narcs is our family of origin issue. My parents are not divorced and they are together for 30 years, but they never educated me on how to survive in this world, they only had me for the sake of society demand to just have kids, threw me in full time schools since I was kid and they were busy earning money or socializing with their friends , never had a heart to heart conversation with me on worldly things. I had to bump my own head to figure out my directions! Family neglect comes with all forms!!
Devious liars with no shame. That is the narcissist. God bless 🙂☀️ And yes, ask before you leave the dinner table & take your plate to the sink/dishwasher 😉.
07:20ish. Raised in a good household too. Except for 1 parent positive and the other negative. However that taught me balance and to this day : ALWAYS LOOK FOR THE POSITIVE - " THE SILVER LINING. "
As long as there is one negative parent, the family becomes dysfunctional. This is why I left my nar ex to raise my son alone, at least no negatives even though I am a single mom. I thought I had a good childhood but after analyzing the root cause, I realized that I had emotional neglect from my parents or one parent at least, it set me up to my spouse selection.
One of the common guilt-trips my covert-narcissistic mother would often use on me is that she gave birth to me, and went through hours of torturous labour for me, and I should be grateful for that, both being born and the pain and suffering she went through because of me. I may have been there, but I don't remember any of it. But as I recall, I didn't have any say in any of it. I was never asked if I wanted to be born. I never suggested she should have had me, or the labour she went through. I'm not sure what I could have consciously done differently. I'm not sure why I owe anything when it wasn't up to me to begin with. I'm pretty sure it was all her decision, not mine.
OMG, this sound like my mother who used to say, “I can’t wait until you have children and go through the hell of childbirth that you caused me to go through!” Then, I had my first baby and she pulled up my blouse while breast feeding and was incensed that I didn’t have any stretch marks. She was really angry claiming she only gained x amount of pounds and how could this be. Who does this to their child? It’s really sad and childish. These miserable people want to punish their own children. The only sympathy I have for them is the thought of why they ended up like this, however I didn’t perpetuate that evil onto my daughters. A loving parents wants more for their children than what they had and they do not disparage, nor compete with them. I’m sorry you had to endure that!
It was worse than I thought...my childhood. I knew it was bad, but the more I get educated...I now see how bad it really was. How, that right out of the womb, all that daily, hourly devaluing. How was I supposed to be able to bond with my own children? I have disenfranchised grief that is unspeakable, from not being able to pull myself up to be a parent. How sorry I feel for my children...my heart and soul aches. This is how deeply narcissistic abuse can effect a young child. They can't even form bonds with any creature except if God himself intervenes and has Mercy and Grace on that child and teaches that adult child how to bond with a beautiful little dog.
I was thinking recently about the title and topic of your video. A toxic or narcissist person thinks they can treat you and your family however they want. Yet they will call or send a card once a year (holiday or birthday) and expect to be met with smiles and open arms. They expect their unaccountability and neglect to be pushed under the rug. No repentance from them. No change in behavior. Just pushed under the rug
Andrew, I am so glad you were brought up by good parents. We had to be excused too; however, forcing a kid to sit & eat food they are too full for or can't eat for whatever reason is abuse. It also leads to eating disorders. It teaches the child the locus of control about appetite, bodily control, & ability to say yes or no to what they put in their body is located in others, not themselves. To say "*enough,* I'm full" is a fundamental human right. Force-feeding is the opposite of that. I suffered anorexia in part from that abuse.
I'm still so damn stuck he follows me from room to room indoors outdoors and back in again considering making my escape by the cover of darkness..not kidding is this normal
Please make a safe plan to exit when you are ready to leave. If there is a time he's out of the house that would be the best time to leave quietly. Or you could call the police to get you safely out of the house. Just be safe. ❤️ 🙏
If you can, pack a To Go bag with a few sets of clothes, medicines, and important papers and have this hidden away somewhere safe. (You could also leave without a To Go bag, with just the clothes you're wearing if you needed to leave quickly and just put your medicines in your pocketbook.) If you are low on resources and call the police to help you get out of the abusive relationship, they could bring you to a domestic violence shelter in the US or to a refuge in the UK, not sure which country you're in and the DV shelter or refuge would give you a room, food, provide clothes, and help you apply for state and federal benefits to help you get your financial resources together and help you to find an apartment. Remember, you can leave anytime you want to. Just know that you are not stuck. If you have the will, you will find a way to leave. You can do this when you are ready to leave in your own time! With love, Holly ❤️🙏 😇😇😇
Thank you Andrew for doing our parents' job who could have prepared us well for going into this world and gave us the necessary education on how people are with some cases! Our parents have a big role on what happened to us, i tied this down to a family of origin issue! Very eye openning!! They didnt care for us....left us to figure out things on our own .. .
I just wish the internet was around when I was a teenager and really needed this. It would have changed the trajectory of my adult life, but I’m stronger for having gone through this. There’s so many facets to narcissistic abuse such as parental alienation, emotional neglect, coercive control, domestic violence, financial abuse, etc.. I’d like to say there’s a special place in hell for these people, however their hell is to be disempowered and left without supply to be alone with their hallow existence. This channel along with others are initiating the change that will transform these scenarios. Knowledge is power and collectively we can make a difference!
@@retrogirl2443 agreed! Knowledge indeed is the power, now we know and we have our risk assessment! We are lucky, many out there have no clue what's going on...sometimes God makes something happen to you for a greater gain, we probably are preventing more damage moving forward since we got the toolkit to navigate things.
One positive thing that came out of this hell, I learned so much about myself. Now I can go heal and stop attracting said people. I hope you all the same 💛
This is is so true , they are that immature to hang about and expect they can come back for more... I am so glad to be enlightened to all of the narc moves, never to fall into that trap again. 🙌
Thank you for this video Andrew! It has been very cathartic for me. 😊 On a brighter note : was with LOVING COUSINS on Saturday. Those who WANT the BEST for me. 😊
I've just lived through this.... It was horrible! Police intervention didn't do it. He had to get himself arrested. All of my boundaries meant nothing to him.
Beautifully said Andrew, parenting is responsibility and not a right to decide the future of their children. I agree with you 100 percent. I was raised by narcissist by parents, who stunted my growth and always decided what they though was best for me. The damage is done and now at 53 year old, I have to figure out how to make life work for me. I am a survivor and resilient, I am learning to live in the moment and stay clear of unsolicited advice and / or opinions.
Thankyou Thankyou Thankyou What a rough road it is, exiting and healing from a toxic relationship. Thankyou so much for all you share Andrew. Blessings on you 🙏 💗🙏
You really took me back today to the early good places. May I please be excused? My grandmother would quietly say Stand up! when a visiting elder entered the room. We ate at the dining room table together. Everything seemed swell. Then everything flipped, and they became emotionally unavailable when they began entertaining. Duplicate bridge, clubs, tennis, and golf took precedence over everything else...but again I must a say I hadn't thought about for many years.
Great video, Andrew. It is a very sad truth. I removed my rose colored glasses a while ago, and I am keeping the flags flying... boundaries are securely in place... currently, I am focusing upon healing a health issue, and I have a great health care team who cleared a spot in their busy schedule today at a moments notice... God bless them 🙏 😊 and my pharmacy delivered the prescription to my door, making a second delivery at the end of the day. God bless them also. I am thankful that there are still good people in the world. My kids are concerned and available for me if I need them... I am blessed 😊 ❤ ✝️😊
Hi Andrew, your video's have been incredibly helpful in understanding my recent experiences with my ex boyfriend . It's been eye opening learning how, why and what has been happening over the past few months. I'll continue to watch your videos, thank you so much . From Mandy in Norfolk England x
You are describing my life!!! My mother. Holy moly bingo. I unplugged 22 years ago. I heard she passed last month. Never even met her granddaughter. What a shame. Classic black hole. May all sick and depraved souls return to The Creator and become whole again. 💫
I was raised by a narcissist mother and her boyfriend. I was set up for narcissistic relationships and suffered many of them. Now on the healing path moving forward working on healing childhood wounds I'm encountering the higher energy vibrations and spiritual supernatural realm. As a super empath the energy makes me vulnerable. So I stay in my lane and walk with God and dont give into desires and I keep in touch with the truth. Stay strong and true to yourself.
Exactly! Thank you for doing this video! 😮 I just posted a comment on another one of your videos on what family does. Normal families love you, but these vampires such the life out of you. You were targeted by a narc because you were kind. I was raised by a narc and that’s what I attracted in a romantic partner because I had no sense of self worth. Children of narc’s miss the milestones of development and have identity issues, but you can overcome. If you have a heart your goodness will always prevail. Your light will always shine and that’s what they hate because they can’t take it. It’s a day by day walk and you will be tempted to fall back into your trained seal response, but the good news is you can and will overcome. Stay on this channel, stay focused and get to know yourself. You’ll discover how awesome you are!
My former narc friend and I live in the same apartment complex. All of a sudden she has become dissatisfied living here and wants to move, but here is the thing, she wants me to move where she is moving! I am happy where I am, but that does not matter. I have always wondered why until now, now I understand that she doesn’t want to let me go and why! Well, I am not moving unless it is good for me! Thank you Andrew!😊😊💜
The most important thing is to do it for ourselves and our descendants but the added bonus is our success speaks for itself to all those who would love to see us fail and the ones who didn’t believe in us… it sets quite the example and it’s a beautiful thing Ps when there is a grandchild involved there is a whole new family in the mix and I’m so glad I’m out of the fog and aware for this challenging time ahead dealing with narcissistic in laws of my son… this is a whole new ballgame for me … I wonder if this is what they mean be mid life crisis 😅 but I’m strong and getting stronger I’m glad we are making it through and it seems like a cake walk after recovery and healing from a toxic narcissistic abusive relationship of our own… Keep up the phenomenal work Andrew, you are saving lives ❣️
OMG, You’ve really described my relationship as an adult with my parents! I mean you called that out ONE THOUSAND% 🎯💯🎯💯🎯☝️☝️😁 I love that sometimes you just… it’s almost like you’re reading a biography on me! 😄❤️❤️❤️ I hope you’re having a WONDERFUL day! Love you!!! 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗🌹💋🌹💋🌹 My friends, I hope you all are having a WONDERFUL day as well 🩷💜🩷💜 Love y’all! Stay cool out there… prayers for those of you in Hawaii 😔🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Its been 10 yrs since I met him ...the narcissist. Been broken up 5 yrs just about 6 yrs. I relocated to a new state ....he's emailed he's coming this way. Literally
You are telling the truth because he is trying that but I’m the educated empath that love myself I want go back to the vampire my divorce will be real soon
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Narcissistic parents don't want to let you go because they want you around when they are old. Spouses don't want to let you go because of what you brought to the table. It isn't love. It's cruel.
It’s true, they really do make it well known how much they want you to be around when they’re older!!
Very important truth. They will use us until our last day on earth if we let them. We must take action to regain our freedom. Do not leave it up to the narcissist, the narc would be happy to have us on the sidelines just for laughs. They won't ever leave you alone unless you make the decision first. Think about it! Namaste!❤
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Agreed, you have to make the action. They will only leave you after you do no value to them and before they have to commit, they have their perfect timing.
Close the door and keep it closed!
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Yes Hoovers,,Dont ever go back to someone Who Broke Your Heart,,none of us Deserve that abuse,.Or disrespect Never Again,,Let Them Run On ,,🏃🏃🏃
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The energy exchange that Andrew refers to is real. I was beyond exhausted and when I cried to the ex-narcissist, his response was to demand more. I found out that my unending supply of energy and productivity did have a limit. To expend my precious resource on the narcissist's empty black hole was wrong. No more. Never again. In the struggle to regroup and to recharge myself, I have learned pain and patience.
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I was there! Didn't understand until I left the second narc spouse! I got this truth from Andrew after I left. Thankfully, I'm much better and hopefully not getting a narc in my life again!!!
@@janetroberts5140 Good for you, Janet. No more narcissists!!!!! Be well.
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The old ways of the world are over. We are entering a new age of the world and we who have survived have become super empaths. With the wisdom we gained by going through the abuse cycle of a narcissist, it’s us, the super empaths, that have the power to heal the world. Put your capes on , fellow survivors 😊
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I love this. Yes. Exactly.
Memories of old times🙏🙏😊❤️❤️
Walk away, block them and no contact is the best way. Also no contact and block the flying monkeys. Thank you.
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No contact with the whole family now 🥰 I can already feel my life force engery coming back to me.
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They won't let you go but act like they like you and secretly hate you. Narcissist are so sick literally stomach turning
I loving the channel 😮, nothing but the truth, narcissist are so destructive and will ruin your life if you don’t learn to fight back with knowledge 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Hi Andrew and my beautiful family💜 What's crazy is they disrespect, manipulate you, abused you emotionally and physically...they treat you all kind of ways and then expect you to never leave!! And some narcissists are obsessed with you and those are the most dangerous ones because they're not going to let you go at all! I have to plan to leave in order to be free!! Stay strong family and be safe!! Everyone have a great week and always take time to love yourself!!💝💖 namaste🙏🏽
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I am praying for you! God bless. He will rescue you. ❤️🙌🙏
Thank you for stating some narcs are obsessed with you. Mine was. Wanted to know where I was all the time. Wanted my attention constantly. Disrupted me doing things. But outwardly it was like he adored his wife. It seemed I was the most important thing in his life. (An extension of him?) It even seemed like that behind closed doors at times. But the abuse was so evil and nasty. Such a confusing place to be especially before knowing anything about narcs.
Thank you Andrew and community for your support. All of these things are true and I truly appreciate the validation 🙏 ❤
Yes. I was raised in a family like Andrew’s family. My parents always said they wanted to prepare me for my life as I knew boundaries, rules, and manners. Unfortunately, the narcissist fooled me into thinking that he was respectful of me. I am nothing but a doormat, cleaner, and to be used as a person who fetches like a dog. Who would want to let that go? Now I have no money or health to leave.
They are bottomless pits. My dad was an overt narc, my ex of 8 years was a malignant narc..I have been no contact for about a year with my ex and he still makes attempts to contact me through my email, which is the only access he would have. He's blocked everywhere on social media and I changed my number. It's truly disturbing how these creatures refuse to leave people alone...even when you've begged, pleaded long ago to be left alone. To them, its a game. It's a way to hurt from afar. It's another way to mess with your head.
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Literally a game to them. Exposing them is the most freeing thing ever.
He won't let me go. He tells everyone we are "married," and I have people asking me. People think I am 'ignoring my own husband,' am 'cold,' 'toxic' 'cruel' 'arrogant,' and they have no clue how he has treated me. They only have HIS story, his claims. We were engaged, not married. He writes about me on social media using my name and his last name, like 'his wife' is ignoring him and how much 'I hurt HIM.' His friends wind up feeling sorry for him and resenting me. His roommate confirmed to me that he was chatting up other women, a LOT. She said he was manipulating me, and she would catch him chatting with other women all the time. Then he'd get very hateful toward her, so she also distanced herself from me.
Them letting go = them losing supply.
It's all about them, not you, the empath.
Many of their flying monkeys get bored & stop flying.
Please keep moving forward; just give nothing. If you have to give, give to yourself.
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Spot on Andrew. My ex rented a flat with his new supply less than a 1/4 mile from me and took up jogging with her past my house regularly. He also told me "I say when it's over " and it's not yet
Listen to your gut from day 1, something which I truly wish I would have done, but got caught in the false reality of the Narcissist, and made excuses for his agitation and condescending outbursts, when really that should have been a gigantic Red flag .🚩
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Many toxic people hide behind the bible. Honor thy mother and father. Talk about guilt trips. Please recognise a toxic narcisstic person who hides behinds family ties. Another excellent video. Many people can relate to this topic. I think I am in the third version of myself. I hope I am. ❤
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Yeah me too, I was in around the narcissist before, but she was a sandlot ball player and we did not, not to give her any props, but she was a Hall of famer, very vicious, but while you're going through it you don't realize it's happening it's when they ghosts you, like normal people wipe their culo, and flush you into Oblivion 😔, 💔 but stay strong 💪 for God has rescued us 👊
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Yes I know it Hurts 🤕💔 but we will be stronger 💪 and we will live and prevail 🌹
And remember look what happened to Jesus 😭
"They're your parents. They're supposed to love you."
"Yeah, they're 'SUPPOSED TO'. Buuuuuuut..... I'm not sure they got the memo."
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Correctamundo!! So often the love they have for themselves runs much deeper than the love they should have for their own children.
omg this i was the one who had to let go of the narcissist in able to be free 🙏👌😄
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And you _did it_ Amy Jo!!! 💪😁🎉🎉🎉👍👍🌷🌻🌼🍀🌸 EXCELLENT work!
People pleasing , yes ... what a mistake. .... its the narcs sweet Oasis.... the people pleaser, oh how they just love that.
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I'm reading a book in Polish about narcissism. Boy, how can some people stoop so low and be so vile? It beggars belief! Moreover, never feel bad about using the term 'victim' because when innocent people get set upon by hawkish narcs, they are victims. Period. Let's call a spade a spade. Strength to all those that undergo this suffering!!
Thank you. Great message. Yes we were victims. Strangely mine even said to me, emphatically, “you’ve got to stop being a victim!!” 😵💫My sister also said this to me about the same time. (I realise now that she joined in with the gaslighting all the way through the relationship.) Yes we were victims. Now we are all survivors!❤
@@freebird968-wg4ye Exactly. Deniers are part of the problem.
I have been gone 20 years and he still trys to trick me into answering the phone so he can do his pity party. I had children with him that are grow adults now ,so now i have no need to ever speak to the life sucking vampire again! Thank you Andrew 🙏If it wasn't for you , i would have never known what the heck had happened to me. ❤❤
It took a while for me to realize what was happening.
Until I found this channel.
I took his calls, he triangled me with his new love.
So hurtful. He said he can't let me go.
I let him go. 💖💖
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Of course, they won't. But I'm already long gone. I have no time for BS. They all talk and I see no action. They always think you owe them something. ✌️😎💯
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It's really sad. I try to be nice.
Really really good wrap up at the end of video - for those who might be ruminating…please play THAT back (what not to think or believe - basically ANYTHING a narcissist says 👎). Had a sibling move to my area and then took me out for a coffee date where I was berated for all the things I was supposed to have just known (mind reading expectations) and was informed at this painful coffee outing that they moved close to me with the intent that I would take care of their future children (none that I’m aware of yet). I might have made the mistake of laughing and saying, “so you moved OUT of your state with your spouse to come near me with the intent - and not even ASKING me - to be your personal nanny…”
Seriously. I laughed because this is what everyone seemed to expect of me because I really DID take everyone’s kids on every occasion there was a need. But not anymore. Not at all. They not only expect. But demand and let’s just say things have been very quiet since I put an end to that nonsense.
Saying “NO”
Going “NO CONTACT”
Blocking…deleting…never go back to the game. It’s a game. They want your energy in every form they can get it.
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Oh noooooo Chelsea! 🫢🫢🫢 THAT… that sounds like something our former HOUSEGUEST would do!!! Ahhhh GEEZ… she’s PROBABLY having her house in Colorado packed up so she can pay us a “surprise” visit, where she can TELL us she doesn’t have her house there anymore and… shocker… has no place else that she could POSSIBLY stay BUT with us.! 😂😂😂😂 Ohhhh the trauma… the nightmares to come 😛😆
@@jennifernewton4637 “Just say NOOOOO” I’m sending that vibration to your parents (as I know YOU can say no). 🚫 🏨 Hotel Newton has had drastic policy changes and there is a no tolerance for this narc houseguest (that seems too light of a title 🤔).
I realize yes that narcs are above the policies. Forgot that for a sec. 🤔 what exactly would deter her? I know…NO ALCOHOL 🍷 is onsite. None provided.
Wait. She’ll go out and drive after. 🤔
I’ll need some time. 😂
Just don’t let her come. That’s the best answer.
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Good for you, the way you’re handling this. It’s good advice for others. Not playing the game.
Unbelievable!!!
My narc expected me to read his mind.
No communicating his needs, just outraged that I wasn't reading his mind. Crazytown!
Spot on. Every bit of this is true. Yank the hoover power cord and cut the plug off.
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Yes it's the human vampire ! They sink their teeth in and will not let go ! , It's a nightmare ! Thus feeling like one big bad dream ! , 👍♥️
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Wow this was really powerful.. I can relate.. the last minute of the video is especially very powerful.. with an important message.. and passionate.. so passionate that I feel Andrew almost used a certain word before he said “shrivel up”?? A certain word beginning with “f”? 🤔🤣 .. I now realise I’ve been hoovered a few times over the years.. and this year was a more obvious Hoover.. I don’t think I stayed for him though.. I stayed for the reasons he used to Hoover.. the animals.. and to sort out more things..PLEASE DONT ACCEPT A HOOVER .. Andrew is right.. the best thing is to have them out of your life permanently.. I’ve yet to achieve this but I still believe it to be the truth.. without my emotions in the way and my worry for animals.. I see a bright future full of confidence and opportunities without him in it.. the narcs are jealous.. I’ve never really had high self esteem anyway but somehow the narc is jealous of something.. I don’t know what.. THANK YOU ANDREW..this was really powerful today. ❤❤❤
Yes agree with you 💯my narc mom followed me 200mile,to convince me to come back home, I left the Country ,(I was the Scapegoat) it's all about them.all the time,!!.they hate not having control over you,,,you can never please them,,even though you make a good life for yourself ,,they can't even be happy for you,,,Block them all,, they live on Low Vibration,!! That's what they miss our energy,,,❤️❤️❤️❤️blessings and strength to everyone Here🙏🙏🙏💫🤗🌹
EXACTLY, Flower! ☝️☝️☝️💯🎯💯🎯 It’s strange how, in a LOT of ways, narcs are lazy. Yet by the same token, they will go WAY out of their way to pull off some ELABORATE manipulation stunt 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ Hope you had a WONDERFUL day today! Sleep well if you’re planning on going to bed soon!! 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗🥱😴😴😴🌙🌟✨
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@@jennifernewton4637thanks Jennifer your a darling,yea I did ok without any help off them,Anyhow I hope your well and had a good day,,il talk soon it's bed soon for me,work tomorrow,,have a lovely evening/night,lots lots love ,😻🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️✨✨🌼🌺
@@flowerpower4944 You too flower!!! Sweetest of dreams!!! 😴🌙🌟✨🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰💜🩷💜🩷💜
All about "Control." They want to control any aspect they can. Your mood for the moment? They'll do it.
Yeah hovering to see if they can finish you off and steal more time energy and money from you. Don’t let them do it ever not worth it
Powerful message to all my heart goes out to those that have family members that are narcissistic very difficult environment 🙏💕
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@@debbievoss3496 sending love & strength your way do whatever it takes for you, live your life to the fullest so many key topics that Andrew talks about will guide you grey rock don’t share to much about yourself with others around you,I’ve always felt comfortable & at peace within this community so many are being healed & guided to a new & beautiful life,your health will return you are still young put yourself first 🙏🤗
ANDREW SAVED ME. ❤️ YOU BROTHER!
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Narcs never wish anyone happy birthday or good wishes for any holiday they dislike any kindness with every fiber of their being!
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Loved your analogy of letting them shrivel up like the wicked witch of the west.🧙♀️ Yes, sinister they are. 😉
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Spot on Andrew 🎯 i had a narc mother and like i always said she had Kids only because the women around her had Kids and for her we were only an insurance policy to her for her old age. I had these thoughts about the toxic situation at home when growing up and i still think that. Have a beautiful afternoon Andrew ❤😊
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Yeah I was just saying this root cause of our situations with narcs that is our family of origin issues. Our parents had us yes and brought us into this world but never cared to educate us and prepare us on how to survive in this world! We had to bump our heads to figure our directions out, I feel furious about my parents!!
@@zullmiramajid475 i am so sorry about what you have gone through. But you need to let these emotions go in order to heal. You are stronger than you think because you have survived it. Focus on yourself now not them. You deserve to live your best life now. Have a beautiful evening. 🤗💪🙌🙏
@@mariefrancebourget1749 thank you Marie for your kind words! I analyzed my whole situation on how I fell preyed to an extreme narcissist and had a failed marriage, and all the attributes such as ignoring the red flags and seeking validation from a unloving person, no warnings from my parents and went ahead with a disrespectful marriage, and even after divorce seeing how my family didn't support me and my child and I had to keep doing everything to cope with my divorce process, I came to the conclusion that I came from an abnormal family who didn't really parent me but just had me for the sake of community demand and cultural norm to have offsprings. It made me furious!! On the flip side, I now know how to parent my one and only son and break this family neglect cycle! We are lucky that now we have the education, we know how to avoid traps! This is a life saving education!
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I think it's important that you recognized that everyone is susceptible to narcissistic abuse regardless of upbringing. Thank you for sharing your truth.
Yes Andrew they will try all just to take your soul,I am aware of that if they cant do that they will use child when ever they can.That makes me so angry ,so helpless couse they use their own children just to show to the world that they can do what ever they want and there is no law to stop this
Our other son diagnosed with cancer. We love the lord and know that we will get through this.
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Same 😎May I be "excused" generation. We also learned 10 minutes early is on time, charity etc.
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Yep… here too! 🙌🙌🙌 To this DAY if I forget to say “thank you” to him, he will just automatically say “you’re welcome” (even to my MOM!) so that you know you forgot to thank him. Better not try that with him though 😬😬
I asked for money as he owes me thousands but no, i only am served "The Silent Treatment."" I guess that i am Narc free now!!!! Fingers crossed ❤❤
My narcissistic has always been around even after he left many years ago for his new supply. It’s so much easier with knowledge. These videos have improved every aspect of my life. The 18 years with the narcissist was the most difficult time everyday. He definitely destroyed me for any future relationship. I remembered something the other day, I pulled my children out of school 9/11 before the second tower fell.I live in New York 50 miles from NYC . I was watching television and glad my children were home with me. Dim ( the petty tyrant) barged into the living room screaming “what kind of moron are you pulling the children out of school, it’s just a couple of planes in a couple of buildings” he made holidays and vacations an absolute nightmare.
Why was he not in the Twin Towers that day is the real question... 😕
So pleased for you that you sre rid of him!
You are sooo right on !! My narcissistic ex asked me numerous times to come "home!". He thought the divorce was just a setback in his world. He continues to hoover me weekly. Block them, they don't mean a word they say.
Stay safe, and stay grounded. Stay grateful for our respective healing journeys. Freedom rocks, and better late than never.❣️
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The most accurate analogy I can use to compare narcissist’s view of their victims is how they use a car. In my case both of my parent and parent figure are narcs. Both would use their cars until their bumpers and wheels fell of. Then try to part out the car and sell off the pieces. They have no emotional attachment to it, despite having it for decades, just practical use or abuse. They would take it into service only when major breaks happened. They ignored little signs the car needed repair, like warning lights and creaking noises under the hood, smoke, things not aligning right. No big deal, it survived so far, it will make it to another town or whatever destination they are going. And once the car died and was parted out and sold, they are on to the next shining object. No regrets or hard feelings. When I walked out of their lives, it was abrupt and unfathomable to them. Neither one cared about me, just whatever use I can give them. To keep me around and complete tasks for them. Until they get tired of me, then they would put me back on the shelf or triangulate me with other various individuals to create friction and supply for them. How they enjoy others fighting over them! Make derogatory names for me, equate me to an animal, a pet for them to be kept in a cage and fed crumbs. Pure insanity!
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I love your analogy of cars with the narcissist, sorry to hear your story though ❤. My ex has had so many cars, he would buy a new car one day, regret it, or find something wrong with it and take it back the next day or same week. He too had no sentimentality to his cars, except his Infinity (which he didn't have for long as it was a work car), although he fancied having a few classic cars, whether he would have flipped them soon after purchase, is anyone's guess? He did look after his cars though, services and bodywork touch ups etc., but engine wise, he would race and hammer them into the ground. I like it, the car analogy is very apt, I will think on it more and likely ponder any deeper psychological meaning behind it. Thanks 🏎🚙🚗
Absolutely true
Andrew, I appreciate your help. Many others don't have manners. Lord help us. 😢. My husband can do want he wants and dose not want me like a wife but a co occupant. 😢 But does not want anyone else to have me 😔. He tells me to be good and maybe I can have fun with him. I watch your videos and believe me you and community has helped me 🙏. TY 🎉🎉
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Omg, he sounds like a jerk! Hopefully you can separate from him some day.
That structure has good memories. Some of us don't realize the wisdom people are trying to teach you when your young. The narcisits grabs this from people and twists this so badly. It's unspeakable. Stealing it from generation to generation to pass on. Absolutely unspeakable.
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I never got the wisdom 😢😢😢
Totally...so spot on. Sad they use us like that. They can be so sweet and giving but I needed to hear this.
Its all so twisted...
My narcissist did not say a word to me all day!
Andrew I just sent your video to a very good friend of mine she was dating one of my former friend who was the narcissist I hope this helps her
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You just started and I have to comment - the financial abuse and destruction is the worst; long suffering, seemingly never going to end. Finishing sixth year of narcissist's control, just won't let go. I give that decision to God because I'm not giving in to it... now I'll listen to your message and guidance . Thank you Andrew
Clarifying: my parents raised me, similar to yours; had to finish plate.
My narc is ex-husband, moved out of country. Unable to locate. Hence, radical financial drama. I'm standing still despite all the efforts of this person.
Andrew you lift my spirit each time I listen to you.
Narc can't keep me down!
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My Narc Mom at the height of her Narc power, stuck out her hand and demanded I hand over my 1st
paperboy check. I refused and she went into a rage in front of the family. I gave in, but that haunted me for years- she didn't need the money. It was about Control and financial control is one the most powerful ways. Upside- she's in her old age and chilled a good deal, but the warts
of the Narc toad hasn't all disappeared completely. Terribly complicated with your loyalty and love for your family, but you can still love them just as well from 1000 mi. away or the Narcs being behind a diorama glass in a museum.
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Amen Andrew! I grew up in a dysfunctional family and a narcissist father; this I believe was a precursor for me being a people pleaser and falling for the wrong people. From age 12-22, my parents had multiple partners and 4 additional marriages between them. As I continue to pursue divorce with my current narcissist husband, my eyes are opening wide to the past and current facade of the narcissist. They age but they never change. Thank you for your wisdom and teachings!
Yes I came to the same conclusion a while ago, the root cause of our cases with the narcs is our family of origin issue. My parents are not divorced and they are together for 30 years, but they never educated me on how to survive in this world, they only had me for the sake of society demand to just have kids, threw me in full time schools since I was kid and they were busy earning money or socializing with their friends , never had a heart to heart conversation with me on worldly things. I had to bump my own head to figure out my directions! Family neglect comes with all forms!!
Devious liars with no shame. That is the narcissist. God bless 🙂☀️
And yes, ask before you leave the dinner table & take your plate to the sink/dishwasher 😉.
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07:20ish. Raised in a good household too. Except for 1 parent positive and the other negative. However that taught me balance and to this day : ALWAYS LOOK FOR THE POSITIVE - " THE SILVER LINING. "
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I agree. I learned what not to do.
As long as there is one negative parent, the family becomes dysfunctional. This is why I left my nar ex to raise my son alone, at least no negatives even though I am a single mom. I thought I had a good childhood but after analyzing the root cause, I realized that I had emotional neglect from my parents or one parent at least, it set me up to my spouse selection.
Yes I agree your household of origin must have been one of the best ever ! Many thanks for your wonderful video, and wise words, once again
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I was let go.
I had seen through the mask and no longer hung on his every word
I had put on pounds out of the Trophy category.
“ Next”
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One of the common guilt-trips my covert-narcissistic mother would often use on me is that she gave birth to me, and went through hours of torturous labour for me, and I should be grateful for that, both being born and the pain and suffering she went through because of me.
I may have been there, but I don't remember any of it. But as I recall, I didn't have any say in any of it. I was never asked if I wanted to be born. I never suggested she should have had me, or the labour she went through. I'm not sure what I could have consciously done differently.
I'm not sure why I owe anything when it wasn't up to me to begin with. I'm pretty sure it was all her decision, not mine.
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OMG, this sound like my mother who used to say, “I can’t wait until you have children and go through the hell of childbirth that you caused me to go through!” Then, I had my first baby and she pulled up my blouse while breast feeding and was incensed that I didn’t have any stretch marks. She was really angry claiming she only gained x amount of pounds and how could this be. Who does this to their child? It’s really sad and childish. These miserable people want to punish their own children. The only sympathy I have for them is the thought of why they ended up like this, however I didn’t perpetuate that evil onto my daughters. A loving parents wants more for their children than what they had and they do not disparage, nor compete with them. I’m sorry you had to endure that!
It was worse than I thought...my childhood. I knew it was bad, but the more I get educated...I now see how bad it really was. How, that right out of the womb, all that daily, hourly devaluing. How was I supposed to be able to bond with my own children? I have disenfranchised grief that is unspeakable, from not being able to pull myself up to be a parent. How sorry I feel for my children...my heart and soul aches. This is how deeply narcissistic abuse can effect a young child. They can't even form bonds with any creature except if God himself intervenes and has Mercy and Grace on that child and teaches that adult child how to bond with a beautiful little dog.
Thank you for sitting in the heat to deliver the video. 🔥🙌🏽😎
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I was thinking recently about the title and topic of your video. A toxic or narcissist person thinks they can treat you and your family however they want. Yet they will call or send a card once a year (holiday or birthday) and expect to be met with smiles and open arms. They expect their unaccountability and neglect to be pushed under the rug. No repentance from them. No change in behavior. Just pushed under the rug
Andrew, I am so glad you were brought up by good parents. We had to be excused too; however, forcing a kid to sit & eat food they are too full for or can't eat for whatever reason is abuse. It also leads to eating disorders. It teaches the child the locus of control about appetite, bodily control, & ability to say yes or no to what they put in their body is located in others, not themselves. To say "*enough,* I'm full" is a fundamental human right. Force-feeding is the opposite of that. I suffered anorexia in part from that abuse.
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Wow, Maria! That is great!!!❤
Hi Maria, I'm glad for you! With love, Holly ❤️🙏 😇😇😇 🦊 😺 🦌🦅🐢🐰☀️🌿🍀😊🙏
@@hollylorn131 thank you Holly, I am also glad for you.🙏🎶😊💪💯😊
@@emilywilson7308 I am working on it!!
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I'm still so damn stuck he follows me from room to room indoors outdoors and back in again considering making my escape by the cover of darkness..not kidding is this normal
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Please make a safe plan to exit when you are ready to leave. If there is a time he's out of the house that would be the best time to leave quietly. Or you could call the police to get you safely out of the house. Just be safe. ❤️ 🙏
@@hollylorn131 thank you I will
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If you can, pack a To Go bag with a few sets of clothes, medicines, and important papers and have this hidden away somewhere safe. (You could also leave without a To Go bag, with just the clothes you're wearing if you needed to leave quickly and just put your medicines in your pocketbook.) If you are low on resources and call the police to help you get out of the abusive relationship, they could bring you to a domestic violence shelter in the US or to a refuge in the UK, not sure which country you're in and the DV shelter or refuge would give you a room, food, provide clothes, and help you apply for state and federal benefits to help you get your financial resources together and help you to find an apartment. Remember, you can leave anytime you want to. Just know that you are not stuck. If you have the will, you will find a way to leave. You can do this when you are ready to leave in your own time! With love, Holly ❤️🙏 😇😇😇
Thank you Andrew for doing our parents' job who could have prepared us well for going into this world and gave us the necessary education on how people are with some cases! Our parents have a big role on what happened to us, i tied this down to a family of origin issue! Very eye openning!! They didnt care for us....left us to figure out things on our own .. .
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I just wish the internet was around when I was a teenager and really needed this. It would have changed the trajectory of my adult life, but I’m stronger for having gone through this. There’s so many facets to narcissistic abuse such as parental alienation, emotional neglect, coercive control, domestic violence, financial abuse, etc.. I’d like to say there’s a special place in hell for these people, however their hell is to be disempowered and left without supply to be alone with their hallow existence. This channel along with others are initiating the change that will transform these scenarios. Knowledge is power and collectively we can make a difference!
@@retrogirl2443 agreed! Knowledge indeed is the power, now we know and we have our risk assessment! We are lucky, many out there have no clue what's going on...sometimes God makes something happen to you for a greater gain, we probably are preventing more damage moving forward since we got the toolkit to navigate things.
One positive thing that came out of this hell, I learned so much about myself. Now I can go heal and stop attracting said people. I hope you all the same 💛
This is is so true , they are that immature to hang about and expect they can come back for more... I am so glad to be enlightened to all of the narc moves, never to fall into that trap again. 🙌
Thank you for this very informative video!
Thank you for this video Andrew! It has been very cathartic for me. 😊
On a brighter note : was with LOVING COUSINS on Saturday. Those who WANT the BEST for me. 😊
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Andrew . Thanks for this video i will be watching this many times . the house next door .
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I've just lived through this.... It was horrible! Police intervention didn't do it. He had to get himself arrested. All of my boundaries meant nothing to him.
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Thanks I got this.
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My son has my back too, he thinks he is the worst slim hes ever seen.
The hoover consisted of a marriage offer last Thankgiving. My answer was a LOUD NO!!!!!
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Making healthy decisions now
Beautifully said Andrew, parenting is responsibility and not a right to decide the future of their children. I agree with you 100 percent. I was raised by narcissist by parents, who stunted my growth and always decided what they though was best for me. The damage is done and now at 53 year old, I have to figure out how to make life work for me. I am a survivor and resilient, I am learning to live in the moment and stay clear of unsolicited advice and / or opinions.
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What a rough road it is, exiting and healing from a toxic relationship. Thankyou so much for all you share Andrew. Blessings on you 🙏 💗🙏
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You really took me back today to the early good places. May I please be excused? My grandmother would quietly say Stand up! when a visiting elder entered the room. We ate at the dining room table together. Everything seemed swell. Then everything flipped, and they became emotionally unavailable when they began entertaining. Duplicate bridge, clubs, tennis, and golf took precedence over everything else...but again I must a say I hadn't thought about for many years.
It was immediately after that that we separately had to raise ourselves. That's why we didn't grow up together, we grew up separately, like trees
Great video, Andrew. It is a very sad truth. I removed my rose colored glasses a while ago, and I am keeping the flags flying... boundaries are securely in place... currently, I am focusing upon healing a health issue, and I have a great health care team who cleared a spot in their busy schedule today at a moments notice... God bless them 🙏 😊 and my pharmacy delivered the prescription to my door, making a second delivery at the end of the day. God bless them also. I am thankful that there are still good people in the world. My kids are concerned and available for me if I need them... I am blessed 😊 ❤ ✝️😊
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@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone you are welcome, Andrew 😊
She will eventually have to accept the game is over.
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Oh what a tangled web we weave when we practice to deceive
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Oh what a tangled web we we weave when we practice to deceive
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Thank you Andrew! Very timely for me. I so appreciate you! And for others, I can attest that Andrew is the BEST coach!
I know a girl who has a difficult time trying to free herself from her former husband!😦😦😦
I would leave personal experiences here but my narc ex would read it and get supply off it.
I thoroughly enjoy the information on your channel 🙏🏻
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10:16ish. Relocation efforts started by a narc family member - now BLOCKED by using my intuition ( GOD VOICE ) 🙂
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Hi Andrew, your video's have been incredibly helpful in understanding my recent experiences with my ex boyfriend .
It's been eye opening learning how, why and what has been happening over the past few months.
I'll continue to watch your videos, thank you so much .
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You are describing my life!!! My mother. Holy moly bingo. I unplugged 22 years ago. I heard she passed last month. Never even met her granddaughter. What a shame. Classic black hole. May all sick and depraved souls return to The Creator and become whole again. 💫
I was raised by a narcissist mother and her boyfriend. I was set up for narcissistic relationships and suffered many of them. Now on the healing path moving forward working on healing childhood wounds I'm encountering the higher energy vibrations and spiritual supernatural realm. As a super empath the energy makes me vulnerable. So I stay in my lane and walk with God and dont give into desires and I keep in touch with the truth. Stay strong and true to yourself.
Exactly! Thank you for doing this video! 😮 I just posted a comment on another one of your videos on what family does. Normal families love you, but these vampires such the life out of you. You were targeted by a narc because you were kind. I was raised by a narc and that’s what I attracted in a romantic partner because I had no sense of self worth. Children of narc’s miss the milestones of development and have identity issues, but you can overcome. If you have a heart your goodness will always prevail. Your light will always shine and that’s what they hate because they can’t take it. It’s a day by day walk and you will be tempted to fall back into your trained seal response, but the good news is you can and will overcome. Stay on this channel, stay focused and get to know yourself. You’ll discover how awesome you are!
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Thanks, Andrew! Your information is very enlightening.
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Thanks for what you bring to me
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My former narc friend and I live in the same apartment complex. All of a sudden she has become dissatisfied living here and wants to move, but here is the thing, she wants me to move where she is moving! I am happy where I am, but that does not matter. I have always wondered why until now, now I understand that she doesn’t want to let me go and why! Well, I am not moving unless it is good for me! Thank you Andrew!😊😊💜
The most important thing is to do it for ourselves and our descendants but the added bonus is our success speaks for itself to all those who would love to see us fail and the ones who didn’t believe in us… it sets quite the example and it’s a beautiful thing
Ps when there is a grandchild involved there is a whole new family in the mix and I’m so glad I’m out of the fog and aware for this challenging time ahead dealing with narcissistic in laws of my son… this is a whole new ballgame for me … I wonder if this is what they mean be mid life crisis 😅 but I’m strong and getting stronger
I’m glad we are making it through and it seems like a cake walk after recovery and healing from a toxic narcissistic abusive relationship of our own…
Keep up the phenomenal work Andrew, you are saving lives ❣️
OMG, You’ve really described my relationship as an adult with my parents! I mean you called that out ONE THOUSAND% 🎯💯🎯💯🎯☝️☝️😁 I love that sometimes you just… it’s almost like you’re reading a biography on me! 😄❤️❤️❤️ I hope you’re having a WONDERFUL day! Love you!!! 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗🌹💋🌹💋🌹
My friends, I hope you all are having a WONDERFUL day as well 🩷💜🩷💜 Love y’all! Stay cool out there… prayers for those of you in Hawaii 😔🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
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Jennifer all my love,I understand totally,🌹🌹🌹❤️❤️❤️❤️🌼🌺🌞
God bless you, Jennifer!❤
@@emilywilson7308 You too, Emily!!! 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏
AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE TRUTH !!!!!!!
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They say you should honor your mother because she " gave you life". I say that if she never had me then I wouldn't know, so I wouldn't care.🤷🤷😒😒
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Amen!!! Andrew!!! You're 💯 Right About Everything You Said About Me And Others Too!!¡! Thanks for your Message Amen 😇
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Its been 10 yrs since I met him ...the narcissist. Been broken up 5 yrs just about 6 yrs. I relocated to a new state ....he's emailed he's coming this way. Literally
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You are telling the truth because he is trying that but I’m the educated empath that love myself I want go back to the vampire my divorce will be real soon