I’m new to the channel and through all of my tears I find this channel so comforting. 25 years of narcissism and mentally and physically I’m exhausted. I have a 10 year old who is being used as a pawn by my spouse. I need a lot of prayers. The verbal abuse especially in front of my son has left me with no self respect. I’m new to this journey and I’m ready but need prayers. I can’t stop crying and I don’t even want to get out of bed. I work 60 hrs a week as a nurse he doesn’t work and doesn’t feel he has to. I feel so empty inside and I think the only thing that’s keeping me going is my son. I use to be such a happy person that loved life and right now I’m in a really dark place. Thank god for this channel.
Prayers to you. I know how hard it is. I know how alone you feel. I know how belittling it is. I know how lonely it is. It is not easy, please hang in there. Stay strong for your son. He will be strong for you. 💖💖💖💖
He has a son but doesn't work? Lazy person with no responsibility. I know one real story when also nurse has two kids with person who didn't work for 6 yrs only watching tv. She left him. Now she lives happy with kids and new normal partner. I wish you that too.
Alana, so sorry you are in the thick of this abuse! May God watch over you and your son as you navigate your next step. We have experienced this and you are not alone.🌻
Finally found the exit door.... in same area still ...but not inside living space.... So much Peace...freedom and living and breathing again!! So sad and crazy how a person can be like this!?
@@user-ou3sd2vp3u mine didn't do that. He was too busy changing radio stations. We didn't talk when he had music on, which was ALWAYS! He would argue at our destination. Go figure! 🥺😳
Yes!!! Those car rides while they were raging will never, ever be forgotten. It’s like being confined to a death trap. Then, when you pull over and have them get out of your car and walk the rest of the way home oh boy! The night has only just begun! Yep, I learned that one the very hard way one night.
Great video Andrew! I think it's safe to say..... never get in a car with the narcissist. You are trapped and reactive abuse is their go to... Wishing everyone clarity and peace.
chazbickel54, I broke up with my narc in his car, but, I chose a WELL LIT parking lot, many stores and people nearby. My car was right next to his. I had ENOUGH! The look on his face was "shock." I jumped into my car and took off. That was 12.5 years ago. 👍💗🙏💪
WHY THEY GIVE NOTHING? Narcicissts have nothing to give. Narcicisstic relationships are totally imbalanced. The narcissits believe the world revolves around them. In their experience it does. You can not expect, fairness, love trust, support, because they have nothing to give. In the end its a question of expectations what you will accept in your life. What do you think, you deserve!! A really great video, thx Andrew. ❤🙏
I wasn’t prioritised at all. So when I didn’t feel great it was such a burden to her. These people cannot handle their own emotions, let alone anyone else’s. Yet I went above and beyond and got nothing. Its embarrassing 🙈
When my ex got sick, I took time off work, made the grocery and pharmacy runs, bought movies and games for him etc etc. For minor colds. When I had major surgery, I asked him to take a half day off work to ensure no anesthesia side effects. He agreed and as soon as I came home from the hospital, he acted like I never asked him that. He was so put out by having to work remote for one afternoon. I found myself apologizing. These people are all the same.
So perfect for me today. Yesterday I took my dog to the vet. While I waited for the vet it gave me pause, in my marriage I was ALWAYS alone. Making decisions about the animals putting them down. A vision was put right in front of me. Though my dog is very sick hopefully upper respiratory, if I need to decide on outcomes for her it will not be new! Ask & one’s gets what is needed. His dog is with me, almost blind & deaf. The narc/addict discarded him. So clear we are much better off without such people
Their TOXITY is Endless and Destructive to our Mental Well-Being it brought me to a moment in my life WHERE I DIDN'T CARE IF I LIVED OR DIED.....March 2023...My PTSD Dog Myla Saved My Life that Day....Scary to think back to it.....
This is SO TRUE!!! In the onset of my fibromyalgia, I was in my room by myself TERRIFIED… not being checked on… going through a degree of paranoia… left upstairs alone for days. No better demonstration than that of how much a narc cares 😒😒😒
I’m so sorry you went through that. I had severe fibromyalgia in the past and was completely ignored and threatened with abandonment. It is truly terrifying when you are in that much pain… helpless at times, and someone you believe will be there for you is as cold as ice instead. I hope the fibromyalgia is improving for you. 🙏💕
Andrew you re glowing. Narcs are stuck emotionally and they thrive off of others as supply energy. They 're self- centred beyond belief. Go No Contact. ANDREW WE LOVE THE WORK YOU DO TO HELP US. MUCH Appreciated. When a narc leaves u for dead- leave them right back where they left you. PEACE TO ALL.🎉😮
I had foot surgery and my narcissist/sociopath husband left me alone all day isolated, no water, no access to toilet because I couldn’t walk, no phone to call for help. When I confronted him when he came back I got a rage fit about how busy he was working. So many 1,000’s of stories like this because I did this narc psychosis with this monster for 40 years. Indentured servant is a perfect description. Ty Andrew. ❤
@@maryw4609 …..and me! Mine was in a bad mood about having to take me to hospital. Then when I needed ice on my foot several times a day he got it a couple of times then raged and blatantly told be he was not going to get it. I waited till he’d gone out then crawled to get it. If he’d have seen me in that state he’d have got gratification. (Probably would have invoked ‘the smirk’) I wasn’t going to give him that satisfaction.) 🌸
Nailed it with the expertise of a Master Carpenter! In the middle of the early stages of the love bombing, I invited a half a dozen friends over for dinner. It was the 1st time the Narc interjected a rude put down towards me in front of the guests. I look at it now, "supply" was on the table and the mask dropped. When the guests left, a big argument ensued. The rest is the history of a man who had to learn how to read red flags and steer clear of shallow reefs. An unhealthy relationship with a Narc partner has two people sitting in front of their own ( different) spinning discs- Yours: A vinyl record labeled, "Love, Devotion, Surrender ." The Narcissist: A Lazy Susan with all options available. Thanks, Andrew!
@@jannlewandowski5540 Ok, Jann- you got me. I still have an inner editor, not posting all the truth at one time making myself look absolutely idiotic (heh). I had 3 friends at the onset, all warning me in the most tactful ways, but Noooooooo ... I didn't listen.🙄🙉
Hello Andrew and everyone. You hit the nail on the head! The narcissist will take EVERY CENT you have, cater to them, and bow down to them. When he was sick with the flu, his Mother brought all his meals to his bedroom on a tray that SHE bought for him. When i was sick, HAH, he avoided me! My paycheck each week went to bills and dinners for him. He was BANKING his money all along. 5 years of using me was enough. When i left him, i was broke. THIS IS A GREAT TOPIC, ANDREW. SOMETHING YOU WILL NEVER FORGET! ❤❤
Yes something you’ll never forget. It’s these moments that can be a catalyst for getting out of the relationship. Caring for each other is fundamental in a loving relationship. Those things I will never forget were warning bells for me. If I was to get seriously ill in the future I knew I couldn’t rely on him and it would be scary. As scared as I was about leaving I had to - to save myself. I hope others realise this and get out in time. ❤
He does this ALL the time!! I found out that during the smear campaign, he was telling friends and family untruths about me, then swearing them to secrecy!!! I only found out years later, after many of my closest relationships were destroyed. 😢
Looking back, theyre rage fits are ridiculous, they are sad little paper tigers and God has blessed each and every person who has woken up to their abuse. You have to go forward on the path of freedom and never look back.
OMG, you are so on point. I stopped riding to the grocery store with my husband. He's worst than a 3 yr old child. I had to come to the conclusion he is mentally disturbed.
Excellent video! The narcissist knows exactly what they are doing! You hit on so many elements of the narcissist’s behavior perfectly. The lack of reciprocity… during an illness, no gratitude at all when you take care of them (entitlement!), walking in front of you, no flow… It all resonates with what I’ve experienced. Get the wisdom everyone and APPLY it. No one deserves narcissistic abuse. I am learning to vet people so I am able to put boundaries in place. Thank you, Andrew! Namaste 🙏😌🦋
Amen!! I want to thank you and everyone out there fighting the narc, exposing them, holding them responsible for their bad behaviors. It is long overdue.
I went through everything you’re saying. He screamed at me before we got to dinner and I’d be miserable. It happened so many times. Then the triangulation, ignoring me when we were out, etc. He took two months to slowly move his things out, threatening me with legal action if I forced him out. During this move out time, concert tickets we had gotten came around it was time to go. He still wanted me to go. 😑 I told him no bc I knew exactly what kind of evening I’d have. Now he’s moving out, of course it would only be worse. I’ve never seen him so angry!!! I’m guessing some side piece was there who knows. Almost 10 months of peace now 😊
🎈~ CELEBRATING 2 MONTHS NO CONTACT NARC FREE TODAY ~THANK YOU, ANDREW!!! ~ 🎈 Thank you for sharing the wisdom of the narc not interfacing in shared times, combined with smug devaluation, Andrew. Remembering dinners out, narc listening to surrounding conversations, checking phone, doing whatever to not be present, in the moment with me. The same holds true for watching movies/sharing tv time. One on one conversations I tried to seriously have to either mend or walk away from the situation, narc would loudly talk over me, make no sense and walk away. Being in the narc fog I should have seen he had no intention of “working things out” it all was merely an illusion of a “relationship/situationship” that never was…in reality a con job and nothing more. Thank you for exposing the reality of these narcissistic deceptions. Wishing everyone optimum restorative healing and happiness beyond measure. ✝️🙏🏻🕊️☀️🦋🌸❤️
How funny! After 18 years of what you’re describing (he got an A+!) He was SO textbook!!! After I’d taken the girls (we had 3 young daughters) to live with my parents during the divorce, he sent letters for weeks wanting to know what percentage of the blame I was willing to take! I let my Mother read them. I always returned a letter saying I’d take zero blame because he caused it all. My Mother told me to keep the letters in case I ever thought I did the wrong thing divorcing him.
I can really resonate with how you felt when you read ‘what percentage of blame are you willing to take?’. It’s the sort of thing my ex would have said. The incredulity of it. Can’t get your head round it, mind bending stuff. Did he just say….?!? I went to the doctors because I felt I couldn’t cope at one time. I didn’t know what sort of relationship I was in at that time. Part of it I blamed me. I was given antidepressants and sent for counselling. My ex got angry at one point and blasted me in a sudden rage fit with “You blame me for your illness!!!?” I wasn’t at the time. He was blaming me for being faulty. ‘Blame shifting’ is in their playbook. It’s good that you replied how you did and you had your mother for support. 🌸
Great video Andrew. Yes in my narcissistic relationship at first he was very caring and loving. Then after a time there was nothing. On his birthday i took him out to eat and i gave him a nice gift. His response was, that's it ? Then on my birthday he went out came home late and didn't even give me a hug. If i got upset he would say that's why I didn't want to be here. He made it my fault. It was like that with everything. My feelings didn't matter. My job was to make him happy at the cost of my happiness. Im glad it's over now and I can get stronger and find someone who appreciates me and shows it. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for your kind words.
I can’t believe his response was, “that’s it?” I can’t believe it, but I can believe it. What a classic narcissistic thing to say. It’s the care and thought put into a gift that counts, not the dollar amount or how much of whatever is being purchased. You and I both know this, but to them it always needs to be more, more, and more. Gifts are not a requirement, they are given out by the goodness of your heart because you want to do something special for someone. The world would go around much more smoothly if other people understood this concept.
Their sense of entitlement and major major major manipulations and con artist tricks; really got to me! This was a great video Andrew! EVERYTHING that you described I experienced repeatedly! Pray for me family please! He’s still hovering! God I need Your strength!! I’m praying for us all daily!
Yep!! They don’t apologize, they never apologize, and they can’t apologize. I’ve mentioned before how gut wrenching it is to ask them to apologize to you for what they did. Then, it doesn’t even feel like an acceptable apology because you had to ask them to do it! It’s extremely upsetting.
Agree , they deflect , turn it around & make it your fault . Then you get upset feel frustrated a defeated . Then comes the days of the silent treatment . Stay strong , for me it’s been a slow process , hopeful that better days are ahead @@danielle1103
Yes! I showed visible sadness when trying to tell him how his behaviour was affecting me. I said “but you don’t even say sorry.” (Regarding rage fits). He flew into an instant rage and said “I say sorry ALL the time!!”………er….no he didn’t!
You got sick , they reply " Its your fault. Its cold and you not dressed properly " You right her message: " Im missing you darling " She reply " Can you at least dont make errors writing to me"? But when my sister passed on cancer leaving 4yo children near Buffalo USA ( im writting from Uk)My wife wrote me " Now you playing good brother but you where in not good relations with her . Who will believe you ?.Despite , there is to mutch people in world anyway. I don't like this soft side in you. She is not first and last woman with cancer. Why to bother ?"My jaw dropped down. Passive aggressiveness. I didn't understand it at that time
Thanks again, Andrew.. that’s it. I experienced 100% of this. He acted like he was a single every time we were out. That hurt deeply .. but now I’m out thanks god.
Hi, my name is Nora I can feel your pain. I’ve been through the same thing that you are going through. I am married to a nationalist husband for 17 years he verbally abuse me took everything that I have my money my time, my heart, my health begin to go down he devalue me made me feel less than a human being. I am four weeks and a half in no contact I am staying with my daughter I filed for divorce yesterday I feel the same way you do empty hollow exhausted I just started therapy when I met him. I was 40 and now I’m 60 years old starting all over to pick up the pieces. I don’t even know where to begin my youth went to hell my hair fell out, and my body is just exhausted, drained and tired so let’s pray for each other. I just wanted to. reach out to you to let you know you’re not alone God bless.❤
Thankyou I hadba mental breakdown sat nt went to hotel to escape for 2 days without judgement Im home but environment toxic...ty so much u energized my day
The narcissist will always have their rage fits behind closed doors, in the car, or anywhere there is just the two of you. They want and need "plausible deniability". In other words, it would always be your word against theirs. As they arrange their flying monkeys and con them, they will always blame you for everything.
Hi Andrew, you've hit the nail right on the head again!! I was ill and he didn't bother to visit or show any attention at all, but when he went into hospital with a 'mystery illness' after I'd attempted to walk away from him , he was asking me to help him get things he needed while the hospital kept him in for tests!! I was obviously 'hoovered' as I've now learnt from your wise video's. I HAVE walked away for good now, I now SEE his tricks! Thank you Andrew for your strength and help. X
Andrew, my husband would do all ABCDE and so on, he would be mister wonderful in public and turn into the devil with me behind closed doors or in the car, it was triggering to hear this but Glad you shine the light on this . Thank you for continuing to educate and create awareness in NPD
💯 about how narcissist treats others. The husband narc was always gossiping with his friends about other friends. The other narc friend would always be saying nasty things about mutual fb mentors or mutual friends, then turn around and comment on their posts acting all Godly and good. 🙄 Psssst...dont tell anyone. 😊
Truly, this has happened to me countless times. But one time stands out among the rest: as my ex Narc spouse paused in her raging, I said: “Please, this will all pass. One day we will age and pass together and spend the rest of eternity in heavenly peace and harmony” her response:” I would rather spend eternity I hell without you, than 5 minutes in heaven with you”. … this is when I started to realize Narcissism is more than a personality disorder. It borders on an evil spiritual disorder. ….so sad.
FANTASTIC video!!! Every play is nailed down in your message…they know EXACTLY what they’re doing. A narcissist nurse you back to health?! Hahaha 🤣 😂 👎 they don’t care. These are red flags 🚩 🚩🚩 loved it 👏🙌❤️🙏 💪
Well said, Chelsea and exactly right! THEY DON’T CARE!! But when they are sick (or pretending to be 🙄) you are expected to wait on them hand and foot 🤣! Definitely 🚩🚩🚩🚩. 🙌❤️🙏
@chelseapeterson, You are 100% right. They know exactly what they're doing, and they do it well. Hiding all his money from me, and telling me he's saving it all for our wedding. I believed it! 🥺
It’s so true, they’re as self-absorbed and unappreciative as it gets. They’re just truly shameless. Brilliant video Andrew! I love how you tell it like it is 🙌
Dear Andrew, this is one of your best! I have been listening to you for the past 6 months and honestly wish l had found your channel earlier. After 25 year marriage and 4 years struggling to get through a divorce settlement you are so on the topic. Honest and straightforward. It is so needed.
I NEVER recieved an apology, even when misstreated it was me who had to go back humble saying ok y analized and this and this happened , the fault always mine, everything good then same drama diferente subject, abusing again and that is or WAS the over and over, week after week. I did Not understand at that moment was hapening , until i saw the videos ANDREW and said OMG that is Me !!!! 😮 Thank you for sharing your wisdom it inlightens and empowers me! 😊
You hit it on the head again Andrew! My narcissist husband always walks 10 ft in front of me when we rarely go in public together and always talks over me in a group. It's like what I have to say is unimportant . Exasperating just to be in his presence. 😅 Thanks for another eye opening video.
Another ‘you are not alone’ moment. Yes mine used to walk off in front. And talk over me in social gatherings. I gave up, we hardly had anyone round in the end. It wasn’t enjoyable. I also felt demeaned over and over. Not good for mental health. Huge anxiety and hopelessness. Hope you understand what’s really happening here and find ways to protect yourself. And if leaving…best wishes.❤
Andrew, your unbounded energy and dedication to helping and paying it forward is astonishing and uplifting. I try not to imagine the experiences you went through that led you to committing to heal others every single day. I am grateful for you and I lift you up in love and light so you can know truly that the grace you generously emanate is humbly and earnestly accepted. Namaste 🙏🏻 ❤✨ ~Amy
At the end, I had no more compassion to give. I was used up and done. Really pissed him off bigtime! He was totally shocked ; that's pretty much when he became violent and scary. VERY VIOLENT and SCARY!!!
@user-ou3sd2vp3u Toward the end of our 5 years, something puzzled me. I was NOT afraid of him, and we got into an argument. He made a fist as to hit me, but I reacted (defense) and put my arm up, he backed off and yelled "I WANT MY DADDY." I put my arm down and knew what a COWARD he was. This was the last day of our final vacation. COWARDS TOO!
@christine8253 OH, I left him over 12 years ago, and I always wondered why he called out for his Daddy? He definitely was broken, but he really used me for 5 years. Being engaged all that time, and no marriage plans. 🫨🫢
Every time I had a crisis, my narc ex would go poof! One time, they did the silent treatment as punishment when I had to be rushed to the hospital and I begged for his support when admitted (big mistake)! They could care less about your needs and healing. They will gaslight you into thinking they're moving mountains for you when it was actually a tiny breadcrumb once in a rare blue moon. Don't be fooled! 3 weeks no contact and going strong! For those who are trying to get out or just recently did, you can do it! Keep watching Andrew and look within!
I’ve been through all of that too and it’s cruel. I just experienced triangulation last night. It doesn’t matter what you do, they always treat you like your a piece of garbage. You could give them the moon and it’s still not good enough. Narcissists are demons inside. They’re soulless creatures. ❤️🙏
I had always wondered how he managed to not be next to me for 80% of public appearances especially when walking, even when I was trying to make sure he was, but in front or way behind me! Of course I noticed it and I thought what you said. he wants to be single!! In the end I deliberately stood away from him or left earlier because I just didn't feel like this kind of fuss and I knew I was just his alibi companion to calmly, as a seemingly unhappily forgiven man, to catch his conquest/saviour's eyes! They're always on the lookout and you're just the nice little embarrassment companion. If you say that, you can hear how ungrateful you are and that you're spoiling the evening with such a statement, or he'll immediately yell that what you're saying is outrageous!
They won't help you. I broke a rib at work last year, he even refused to take me to the ER!!!!!!! I drove myself, and took care of myself. He was a complete ASS! I was off work for 6 weeks, he did absolutely NOTHING
It's all true. I had it all but he isolated me hiding his parallel life in another town. He used all I had giving nothing in return. I had to buy everything literally, but all was bad as he said. My new car was bad, but he left his in another town because of gas he didn't want to pay. Also with numerous excuses all what he needed I had to bring even in situations when he took my car and I had to drag all. He didn't help when I had to buy a pool acting busy with mobile phone and so on. What a parasite!
Don't feel like a fool. We were manipulated. That doesn't make you a fool. Will make you stronger. Lean on people like me that have been through it. It's a crazy world they desire. Jump off their crazy train.
@@patriotrvlife-24 True...thank you. I had to learn about people and myself. I allowed many narcissists to use me, from mother and sister, ex best friend to that ex bfd. He was really very evil and covert narcissist with good acting skills. He also took all money using lies. I had to learn to stop with my behaviour. It was 3,5 yrs before and now I'm fine.
The monster would take forever to fix his hairpiece. I was always ready before him. Then he would drive like a maniac to get where we were going and scared to crap out of me. Horrible. Always. Every time. Memories. 😢
Wow! This is SUPER! I actually cut my work hours for this school year for this exact reason and I'm working on the abundance mindset to attract finances from other places. And yes I alerted HR and they did not care!
@@jannlewandowski5540 They demand money, resources, attention etc. Then lash out, bully you and smear you like high school teens when they don’t get their way. Yes they are childish af.
Except for the damage they can inflict on others. They are monsters incapable of empathy. They have the knowledge of the world therefore not at all like children. We need to understand that part of the equation. Namaste ♥
Oh so on point everything resonates dinners out he wasn’t present with me he was too busy flirting with wait staff & it was rare to go out with just the two of us I can talk so much about this topic 🙏💕
@@jannlewandowski5540 I stopped going & to many events near the end. You shouldn’t have to pay on your own it should’ve been equal I know you see that know back in the day it was the man’s responsibility to take care of their wife ,partners today it’s equal have a great evening 🌸🌺
Thank you for making this clip. It was painfully true. The most painful part about having all these realizations is the feeling that you never existed eventhough you know you were present and very active in contributing, but in the light of the entire relationship, I know ppl focus on the narc not existing and the mask but actually when the dawn of reality hits and you assess what happened in the aftermath, it seems as though you existed less than they did. When you mentioned the silent treatment and the behaviour at events, I connected the above dots.
In my case I was abusing drugs and all she cared about was if she got some or not...She didn't see the Big Picture where I was using drugs and was slowly Killing Myself to Live and I needed Help not a Partner in Crime....I had to overcome Neurosis (I have PTSD too) all on my own...but it made me stronger...but it could of ended with my Life......Thanks JC for saving Me....
All that you mentioned in the video is what I experienced too, Andrew! I had surgery and needed time to recover. It was at the same time that the narcissist had a cold and needed my care even though I had recently had surgery at that time. Namaste. 🙏 ❤️
Notice how they tell the secret first and then say something like “you have to promise not to tell anyone “ they put on the spot and don’t bother to forewarn…when that happens now I say something like “I’m not that great at keeping secrets” that usually does the trick, especially in work bully or acquaintance situations
Listen to Andrew people, and i wasn't even married to the damn Narc (it was Not a romantic relationship in my case), and he wasted 7 years of my life - for nothing. Every word Andrew says is true. keep those videos coming, they are important.
@jannlewandowski5540 I'm fine, everything is good. But just the thought of it annoyed him, just the inconvenience and expense of it all. I knew by then that if there was a serious and ongoing situation ahead, there would be little to expect from him by way of personal support and care. Enough of that, I'm better off looking elsewhere, or really even in going it alone.
Exactly!!.. what happened at work last night - between 2 employees 😲🧐...(I'm standing there watching them argue - but with the wisdom of this channel 👍😊).....
I’m praying for you. Please believe it does get better. I’m 8 mo out divorce signed. I was medical too retired now so I know what your doing. I made moves secretly therapy etc After 24 yrs married I found his social media sites etc. I discarded him 1-1-23, I found getting a plan together for myself was empowering. Please take care.
Hi Andrew I just got my blood work today my platelet level is low but I am taking medication I'm not going to worry because I know everything is going to be okay
So spot on! Both Narcissistic parents used me to drive them etc when my age. Applied their evil eye on my healthy and high vibration body including cursing me that I become disabled. Been battling arthritis for past 4 years from age of 39 and not even asked once or driven me to Hospitals. 100 appointments, and paid so much more extra in taxi fares. Made it worse too having first minimised it. You don't share your success and sickness with Narcissists. Something happens to the Narcissists and they react as if the world is coming to and end. One last push via Court process to free myself, huge mistake listening to relatives on 2nd chances then abandoned including my disgusting neighbours who wanted entertainment from when they were supposed to call social services.
Whoa what good timing on this one. Great real life example- last night myself , my adult kids & their partners all planned dinner with the NPD dad/grandfather. We all traveled over 40 mins to meet him at a restaurant 1/2 mile from his house. We all got stuck in traffic & had to cancel. NPD was pissed, “ I’ve been here for 30 mins, I got us a nice table” ok sorry I’m in dead stop traffic & there’s nothing I can do. He huffed & hung up. No concern for our safety at all. 2nd example-my brother just recovered from pancreatic cancer & had a post op cancer free scan. He went to share the good news with the NPD & he said “ yah but most of the time it comes back in 5 years”. This one comment is what I need to remind myself of every time I think there’s an ounce of love or empathy in his soul. I hope this sheds light on their lack of empathy.
Growing up, I actually did hear the word narcissist a lot, but all the depth I was given was about them being vain about their appearance, which is true! But it wasn't until I met and married my ex husband that I learned how dark and sinister the meaning of the word truly is.
Played from earlier than day one until I ended it less than two years later. The damage they can do in a short time interval is untold. Once we 'get' Andrew's & our collective education and wisdom, we become even more super-super-wise-empaths. And we now trust our gut feelings and see red flags for what they represent. We can get better at this, and we are the prime narcissistic target as we have and are everything they are not & what they want to be. We, you are so much better than their misery & destruction. Move on to being valued, even if the value starts with the self. We are not alone; we are many, and we grow stronger. Oddly, we eventually become even better people because of the horrific narcissistic abuse. Eventually! ✊
Wow, you hit every point - nearly verbatim. I'm in shock the narcissistic behaviors are so predictable. I experienced almost every type of incident you pointed out. The silent treatment was extreme and lasted many days...until I apologized. I wondered why I eventually became listliss, unmotivated and physically ill. I believed it was my fault and kept apologizing. I began feeling like I was a bad person...finally something clicked,. Sick and tired of being sick and tired and realizing how cruel, stupid and manipulative his bullsh*t was. One week ago I kicked him out of the "relationship" got my keys back, and everything he "borrowed", but never returned. Started watching videos I first came across by mistake. To the guides in the Universe that showed me what happened to me, I'm more than grateful. The universe sent me the messages I'm now needing to heal. You're one of them.Thank you.
They expect people to over look there rudeness,talking over people , blaming me when he was late,and saying oh she really made the effort to look nice, she took so long,.and made us late,,,(another Lie).,,, He was breaking wind @the table,.no one was impressed,,, soon after that we stopped going out,,and he loved staying in,(more Isolation),,,,,,until I had enough,🌼🌻🌺🌞💖T.Y.,Andrew, ✨
I’m new to the channel and through all of my tears I find this channel so comforting. 25 years of narcissism and mentally and physically I’m exhausted. I have a 10 year old who is being used as a pawn by my spouse. I need a lot of prayers. The verbal abuse especially in front of my son has left me with no self respect. I’m new to this journey and I’m ready but need prayers. I can’t stop crying and I don’t even want to get out of bed. I work 60 hrs a week as a nurse he doesn’t work and doesn’t feel he has to. I feel so empty inside and I think the only thing that’s keeping me going is my son. I use to be such a happy person that loved life and right now I’m in a really dark place. Thank god for this channel.
Welcome to the community 🙌😌💯😉
Prayers to you. I know how hard it is.
I know how alone you feel. I know how belittling it is.
I know how lonely it is.
It is not easy, please hang in there.
Stay strong for your son. He will be strong for you.
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alanarazus2 Keep coming back! 💕👍
He has a son but doesn't work? Lazy person with no responsibility. I know one real story when also nurse has two kids with person who didn't work for 6 yrs only watching tv. She left him. Now she lives happy with kids and new normal partner. I wish you that too.
Alana, so sorry you are in the thick of this abuse! May God watch over you and your son as you navigate your next step. We have experienced this and you are not alone.🌻
Life with a narcissist is like getting lost in a maze with them. and never finding the exit to get out.
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Finally found the exit door.... in same area still ...but not inside living space....
So much Peace...freedom and living and breathing again!!
So sad and crazy how a person can be like this!?
9:57 "And guess what? It's your lucky night, you get the silent treatment" 😅😅. Your words ring bells.
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I loved that part too
Bingo! This is absolutely true!!!
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@bluebird3014
They are greedy, even with their own family.
This couldn’t be more true. Every car ride was a rage fit!
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@kellylarson7, Wow, that is dangerous! So glad you never got hurt...🫢💕💕🌷🫠
Because they have you trapped and can terrify you! It’s dreadful I know. Stay strong 💕
@@user-ou3sd2vp3u mine didn't do that. He was too busy changing radio stations. We didn't talk when he had music on, which was ALWAYS! He would argue at our destination. Go figure! 🥺😳
Yes!!! Those car rides while they were raging will never, ever be forgotten. It’s like being confined to a death trap. Then, when you pull over and have them get out of your car and walk the rest of the way home oh boy! The night has only just begun! Yep, I learned that one the very hard way one night.
Great video Andrew!
I think it's safe to say.....
never get in a car with the narcissist.
You are trapped and reactive abuse is their go to...
Wishing everyone clarity and peace.
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chazbickel54, I broke up with my narc in his car, but, I chose a WELL LIT parking lot, many stores and people nearby. My car was right next to his. I had ENOUGH! The look on his face was "shock." I jumped into my car and took off. That was 12.5 years ago. 👍💗🙏💪
This is fact , they have an expectation for others that they don't do
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The walking in front of you is a big tell ❤
Can’t. Stand. That.
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@sharonp1488, that's bcse they are IGNORANT! 👍
They want to be prepared for a possible new source of supply 😒
WHY THEY GIVE NOTHING?
Narcicissts have nothing to give.
Narcicisstic relationships are totally imbalanced. The narcissits believe the world revolves around them. In their experience it does.
You can not expect, fairness, love trust, support, because they have nothing to give.
In the end its a question of expectations what you will accept in your life. What do you think, you deserve!!
A really great video, thx Andrew.
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@lios, mine had plenty money. He banked it. 💰💰💰 I paid for our dinners. 🙏😳
I wasn’t prioritised at all. So when I didn’t feel great it was such a burden to her.
These people cannot handle their own emotions, let alone anyone else’s.
Yet I went above and beyond and got nothing. Its embarrassing 🙈
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Please don’t feel embarrassed. ❤️🩹 Remember, it’s not you, it’s them. They’re the problem, not you.
Always feel good about loving ❤ as we see some are incapable.. sad and embarrassing for THEM..
When my ex got sick, I took time off work, made the grocery and pharmacy runs, bought movies and games for him etc etc. For minor colds.
When I had major surgery, I asked him to take a half day off work to ensure no anesthesia side effects. He agreed and as soon as I came home from the hospital, he acted like I never asked him that. He was so put out by having to work remote for one afternoon. I found myself apologizing.
These people are all the same.
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Nice to be here. A voice of reason.
And new friends who understand. 💖
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So perfect for me today. Yesterday I took my dog to the vet. While I waited for the vet it gave me pause, in my marriage I was ALWAYS alone. Making decisions about the animals putting them down. A vision was put right in front of me.
Though my dog is very sick hopefully upper respiratory, if I need to decide on outcomes for her it will not be new!
Ask & one’s gets what is needed.
His dog is with me, almost blind & deaf.
The narc/addict discarded him.
So clear we are much better off without such people
Their TOXITY is Endless and Destructive to our Mental Well-Being it brought me to a moment in my life WHERE I DIDN'T CARE IF I LIVED OR DIED.....March 2023...My PTSD Dog Myla Saved My Life that Day....Scary to think back to it.....
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This is SO TRUE!!! In the onset of my fibromyalgia, I was in my room by myself TERRIFIED… not being checked on… going through a degree of paranoia… left upstairs alone for days. No better demonstration than that of how much a narc cares 😒😒😒
🫂 I’m sorry Jennifer 🙏
That is horrific!!!😮
I'm sorry, Jennifer. That's awful! ❤️💗🌷
I’m so sorry you went through that. I had severe fibromyalgia in the past and was completely ignored and threatened with abandonment. It is truly terrifying when you are in that much pain… helpless at times, and someone you believe will be there for you is as cold as ice instead. I hope the fibromyalgia is improving for you. 🙏💕
@@Acadiana8713 Thank you Acadiana! It truly WAS frightening and frustrating! The worst part was not knowing what it was OR WHY it was happening. 😞😞
Andrew you re glowing. Narcs are stuck emotionally and they thrive off of others as supply energy. They 're self- centred beyond belief. Go No Contact. ANDREW WE LOVE THE WORK YOU DO TO HELP US. MUCH Appreciated. When a narc leaves u for dead- leave them right back where they left you. PEACE TO ALL.🎉😮
@deb2, you are absolutely right! 👍💕
AbsolutelyTrue, i was married to one for many many years so happy i left 2 years ago , it was all about him!!!!!
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These people are baffling to deal with !
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I had foot surgery and my narcissist/sociopath husband left me alone all day isolated, no water, no access to toilet because I couldn’t walk, no phone to call for help. When I confronted him when he came back I got a rage fit about how busy he was working. So many 1,000’s of stories like this because I did this narc psychosis with this monster for 40 years. Indentured servant is a perfect description. Ty Andrew. ❤
Sounds like me
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@@maryw4609 …..and me! Mine was in a bad mood about having to take me to hospital. Then when I needed ice on my foot several times a day he got it a couple of times then raged and blatantly told be he was not going to get it. I waited till he’d gone out then crawled to get it. If he’d have seen me in that state he’d have got gratification. (Probably would have invoked ‘the smirk’) I wasn’t going to give him that satisfaction.) 🌸
40 years?! 🏅🏅🏅🏅. I had a similar foot experience see below.
As he does nothing why do you keep him there...
Nailed it with the expertise of a Master Carpenter! In the middle of the early stages of the love bombing, I invited a half a dozen friends over for dinner. It was the 1st time the Narc interjected a rude put down towards me in front of the guests. I look at it now, "supply" was on the table and the mask dropped. When the guests left, a big argument ensued. The rest is the history of a man who had to learn how to read red flags and steer clear of shallow reefs. An unhealthy relationship with a Narc partner has two people sitting in front of their own ( different) spinning discs- Yours: A vinyl record labeled, "Love, Devotion, Surrender ." The Narcissist: A Lazy Susan with all options available. Thanks, Andrew!
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@jhaveajo, I had something similar happen to me. I lost 5 friends. They warned me, but I ignored them. I miss them everyday. ❤️
@@jannlewandowski5540 Ok, Jann- you got me. I still have an inner editor, not posting all the truth at one time making myself look absolutely
idiotic (heh). I had 3 friends at the onset, all warning me in the most tactful ways, but Noooooooo ... I didn't listen.🙄🙉
Hello Andrew and everyone. You hit the nail on the head! The narcissist will take EVERY CENT you have, cater to them, and bow down to them. When he was sick with the flu, his Mother brought all his meals to his bedroom on a tray that SHE bought for him. When i was sick, HAH, he avoided me! My paycheck each week went to bills and dinners for him. He was BANKING his money all along. 5 years of using me was enough. When i left him, i was broke.
THIS IS A GREAT TOPIC, ANDREW. SOMETHING YOU WILL NEVER FORGET!
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Thank you for sharing..🙌😌💯🙏
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Hi Andrew....I just needed a break. I ALWAYS come back to you. 😊🫠❤️
Money is their oxygen tbh
I hope you’re healing now 💕
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I'm doing fine now. I left him over 12 years ago. You take care of yourself also.❤
Yes something you’ll never forget. It’s these moments that can be a catalyst for getting out of the relationship. Caring for each other is fundamental in a loving relationship. Those things I will never forget were warning bells for me. If I was to get seriously ill in the future I knew I couldn’t rely on him and it would be scary. As scared as I was about leaving I had to - to save myself. I hope others realise this and get out in time. ❤
He does this ALL the time!!
I found out that during the smear campaign, he was telling friends and family untruths about me, then swearing them to secrecy!!!
I only found out years later, after many of my closest relationships were destroyed. 😢
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lisacharvet2, the narcissists are all monsters! I left mine after 5 years. 🌞👍
Yep they love secrets.
Looking back, theyre rage fits are ridiculous, they are sad little paper tigers and God has blessed each and every person who has woken up to their abuse. You have to go forward on the path of freedom and never look back.
OMG, you are so on point. I stopped riding to the grocery store with my husband. He's worst than a 3 yr old child. I had to come to the conclusion he is mentally disturbed.
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Excellent video! The narcissist knows exactly what they are doing! You hit on so many elements of the narcissist’s behavior perfectly. The lack of reciprocity… during an illness, no gratitude at all when you take care of them (entitlement!), walking in front of you, no flow… It all resonates with what I’ve experienced. Get the wisdom everyone and APPLY it. No one deserves narcissistic abuse. I am learning to vet people so I am able to put boundaries in place. Thank you, Andrew! Namaste 🙏😌🦋
Acadiana8713. Yes, they know exactly what they are doing. They are MONSTERS! 👍👹
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Amen!! I want to thank you and everyone out there fighting the narc, exposing them, holding them responsible for their bad behaviors. It is long overdue.
Love is a 2 way street
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I went through everything you’re saying. He screamed at me before we got to dinner and I’d be miserable. It happened so many times. Then the triangulation, ignoring me when we were out, etc. He took two months to slowly move his things out, threatening me with legal action if I forced him out. During this move out time, concert tickets we had gotten came around it was time to go. He still wanted me to go. 😑 I told him no bc I knew exactly what kind of evening I’d have. Now he’s moving out, of course it would only be worse. I’ve never seen him so angry!!! I’m guessing some side piece was there who knows. Almost 10 months of peace now 😊
Thank you for sharing 🙌💯😌
🎈~ CELEBRATING 2 MONTHS NO CONTACT NARC FREE TODAY ~THANK YOU, ANDREW!!! ~ 🎈
Thank you for sharing the wisdom of the narc not interfacing in shared times, combined with smug devaluation, Andrew. Remembering dinners out, narc listening to surrounding conversations, checking phone, doing whatever to not be present, in the moment with me. The same holds true for watching movies/sharing tv time. One on one conversations I tried to seriously have to either mend or walk away from the situation, narc would loudly talk over me, make no sense and walk away. Being in the narc fog I should have seen he had no intention of “working things out” it all was merely an illusion of a “relationship/situationship” that never was…in reality a con job and nothing more. Thank you for exposing the reality of these narcissistic deceptions.
Wishing everyone optimum restorative healing and happiness beyond measure. ✝️🙏🏻🕊️☀️🦋🌸❤️
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❤❤❤ thank you for sharing, exactly like my story as well. Narcs are the same!!!
How funny! After 18 years of what you’re describing (he got an A+!) He was SO textbook!!! After I’d taken the girls (we had 3 young daughters) to live with my parents during the divorce, he sent letters for weeks wanting to know what percentage of the blame I was willing to take! I let my Mother read them. I always returned a letter saying I’d take zero blame because he caused it all. My Mother told me to keep the letters in case I ever thought I did the wrong thing divorcing him.
@bluebird2314, You did EVERYTHING right!
You were not the cause of the breakup. HE WAS! 🙏👍🫠
Your mother had some good advice there. All my troubles just now come from the same source. 🤔
I can really resonate with how you felt when you read ‘what percentage of blame are you willing to take?’. It’s the sort of thing my ex would have said. The incredulity of it. Can’t get your head round it, mind bending stuff. Did he just say….?!? I went to the doctors because I felt I couldn’t cope at one time. I didn’t know what sort of relationship I was in at that time. Part of it I blamed me. I was given antidepressants and sent for counselling. My ex got angry at one point and blasted me in a sudden rage fit with “You blame me for your illness!!!?” I wasn’t at the time. He was blaming me for being faulty. ‘Blame shifting’ is in their playbook. It’s good that you replied how you did and you had your mother for support. 🌸
Thank you again NARCDAILY 🙏
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God Bless all. GL. 2:16-20 and
Heb. 12; Eph. 3 and Phil. 1:21,"3".😊
Great video Andrew. Yes in my narcissistic relationship at first he was very caring and loving. Then after a time there was nothing. On his birthday i took him out to eat and i gave him a nice gift. His response was, that's it ? Then on my birthday he went out came home late and didn't even give me a hug. If i got upset he would say that's why I didn't want to be here. He made it my fault. It was like that with everything. My feelings didn't matter. My job was to make him happy at the cost of my happiness. Im glad it's over now and I can get stronger and find someone who appreciates me and shows it. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for your kind words.
I can’t believe his response was, “that’s it?” I can’t believe it, but I can believe it. What a classic narcissistic thing to say. It’s the care and thought put into a gift that counts, not the dollar amount or how much of whatever is being purchased. You and I both know this, but to them it always needs to be more, more, and more. Gifts are not a requirement, they are given out by the goodness of your heart because you want to do something special for someone. The world would go around much more smoothly if other people understood this concept.
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Problem with people that talks shit is they might do the exact same thing to you as well.
Their sense of entitlement and major major major manipulations and con artist tricks; really got to me! This was a great video Andrew! EVERYTHING that you described I experienced repeatedly! Pray for me family please! He’s still hovering! God I need Your strength!! I’m praying for us all daily!
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Over twenty years with a narcissist master , not one apology .. ever . Grateful to be on the road of healing . Much appreciation to you Andrew .
Not one apology / yes! That’s the point and I knew that one so very well. Delusional and downright rude tbh - thanks; on point! 💕
Yep!! They don’t apologize, they never apologize, and they can’t apologize. I’ve mentioned before how gut wrenching it is to ask them to apologize to you for what they did. Then, it doesn’t even feel like an acceptable apology because you had to ask them to do it! It’s extremely upsetting.
@@user-ou3sd2vp3uYes! It’s so rude! They can’t man up for what they say or do.
Agree , they deflect , turn it around & make it your fault . Then you get upset feel frustrated a defeated . Then comes the days of the silent treatment . Stay strong , for me it’s been a slow process , hopeful that better days are ahead @@danielle1103
Yes! I showed visible sadness when trying to tell him how his behaviour was affecting me. I said “but you don’t even say sorry.” (Regarding rage fits). He flew into an instant rage and said “I say sorry ALL the time!!”………er….no he didn’t!
You got sick , they reply " Its your fault. Its cold and you not dressed properly " You right her message: " Im missing you darling " She reply " Can you at least dont make errors writing to me"? But when my sister passed on cancer leaving 4yo children near Buffalo USA ( im writting from Uk)My wife wrote me " Now you playing good brother but you where in not good relations with her . Who will believe you ?.Despite , there is to mutch people in world anyway. I don't like this soft side in you. She is not first and last woman with cancer. Why to bother ?"My jaw dropped down. Passive aggressiveness. I didn't understand it at that time
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Thanks again, Andrew.. that’s it. I experienced 100% of this. He acted like he was a single every time we were out. That hurt deeply .. but now I’m out thanks god.
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Hi, my name is Nora I can feel your pain. I’ve been through the same thing that you are going through. I am married to a nationalist husband for 17 years he verbally abuse me took everything that I have my money my time, my heart, my health begin to go down he devalue me made me feel less than a human being. I am four weeks and a half in no contact I am staying with my daughter I filed for divorce yesterday I feel the same way you do empty hollow exhausted I just started therapy when I met him. I was 40 and now I’m 60 years old starting all over to pick up the pieces. I don’t even know where to begin my youth went to hell my hair fell out, and my body is just exhausted, drained and tired so let’s pray for each other. I just wanted to. reach out to you to let you know you’re not alone God bless.❤
I just wrote this for You I hope it helps your struggle...
REGROUP
REASSESS
REPAIR
RETHINK
REBUILD
REPROCESS
RETURN TO SANITY.....
Thankyou I hadba mental breakdown sat nt went to hotel to escape for 2 days without judgement Im home but environment toxic...ty so much u energized my day
The narcissist work place bully, they get away with murder, don't get me started. Hands tied , back covering. It is what it is. Keep sane/focused.
fionataylor4269,
Geez, it sounds like a concentration camp! Glad you're ok...👍💕💗
@@jannlewandowski5540 I'm fine. You/we , work through the bs. I am always ok , ultimately , take care.
@@fionataylor4269 Fiona, we made it this far, we WILL be fine! 👍👍😉💪💪
@@jannlewandowski5540 Fine.
The narcissist will always have their rage fits behind closed doors, in the car, or anywhere there is just the two of you. They want and need "plausible deniability". In other words, it would always be your word against theirs. As they arrange their flying monkeys and con them, they will always blame you for everything.
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Yes!!! Say it again louder for the people in the back! 🌟
I learned to not share things with him because he would swear respect for the information but he would run it up a pole.
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Hi Andrew, you've hit the nail right on the head again!!
I was ill and he didn't bother to visit or show any attention at all, but when he went into hospital with a 'mystery illness'
after I'd attempted to walk away from him , he was asking me to help him get things he needed while the hospital kept him in for tests!!
I was obviously 'hoovered' as I've now learnt from your wise video's. I HAVE walked away for good now, I now SEE his tricks!
Thank you Andrew for your strength and help. X
@cloudyagain. You just told my story! OMG! 🙏🙏💗💗
Andrew, my husband would do all ABCDE and so on, he would be mister wonderful in public and turn into the devil with me behind closed doors or in the car, it was triggering to hear this but Glad you shine the light on this . Thank you for continuing to educate and create awareness in NPD
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💯 about how narcissist treats others. The husband narc was always gossiping with his friends about other friends. The other narc friend would always be saying nasty things about mutual fb mentors or mutual friends, then turn around and comment on their posts acting all Godly and good. 🙄 Psssst...dont tell anyone. 😊
Truly, this has happened to me countless times. But one time stands out among the rest: as my ex Narc spouse paused in her raging, I said: “Please, this will all pass. One day we will age and pass together and spend the rest of eternity in heavenly peace and harmony” her response:” I would rather spend eternity I hell without you, than 5 minutes in heaven with you”. … this is when I started to realize Narcissism is more than a personality disorder. It borders on an evil spiritual disorder. ….so sad.
FANTASTIC video!!! Every play is nailed down in your message…they know EXACTLY what they’re doing. A narcissist nurse you back to health?! Hahaha 🤣 😂 👎 they don’t care. These are red flags 🚩 🚩🚩 loved it 👏🙌❤️🙏 💪
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Chelsea, heeyy. I feel great today. How are you? ❤️🌞🖐
@@jannlewandowski5540 hi Jann 😊 so glad you’re doing great! A good day here 💕
Well said, Chelsea and exactly right! THEY DON’T CARE!! But when they are sick (or pretending to be 🙄) you are expected to wait on them hand and foot 🤣! Definitely 🚩🚩🚩🚩. 🙌❤️🙏
@chelseapeterson, You are 100% right. They know exactly what they're doing, and they do it well. Hiding all his money from me, and telling me he's saving it all for our wedding. I believed it! 🥺
And as usual on point ! I have discovered that I am a narcissist magnet, therefore I will spend my remaining years with my family, eyes wide open
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It’s so true, they’re as self-absorbed and unappreciative as it gets. They’re just truly shameless.
Brilliant video Andrew! I love how you tell it like it is 🙌
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Dear Andrew, this is one of your best!
I have been listening to you for the past
6 months and honestly wish l had found
your channel earlier.
After 25 year marriage and 4 years struggling
to get through a divorce settlement you are so
on the topic. Honest and straightforward.
It is so needed.
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Unfortunately I had 31 yrs of commitment to my marriage and ugh where was this information
Jesus take the wheel, I've had cancer twice and my fool of an ex was disabled with a cold, get me this, get me that and like a fool I did
@stormin, I would have told him to go fly a kite...👍🙏💪💪
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I NEVER recieved an apology, even when misstreated it was me who had to go back humble saying ok y analized and this and this happened , the fault always mine, everything good then same drama diferente subject, abusing again and that is or WAS the over and over, week after week. I did Not understand at that moment was hapening , until i saw the videos ANDREW and said OMG that is Me !!!! 😮 Thank you for sharing your wisdom it inlightens and empowers me! 😊
You hit it on the head again Andrew! My narcissist husband always walks 10 ft in front of me when we rarely go in public together and always talks over me in a group. It's like what I have to say is unimportant . Exasperating just to be in his presence. 😅 Thanks for another eye opening video.
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Another ‘you are not alone’ moment. Yes mine used to walk off in front. And talk over me in social gatherings. I gave up, we hardly had anyone round in the end. It wasn’t enjoyable. I also felt demeaned over and over. Not good for mental health. Huge anxiety and hopelessness. Hope you understand what’s really happening here and find ways to protect yourself. And if leaving…best wishes.❤
Spot on, and experienced this while going through cancer 3 times and wondered the same thing. I can’t even trust him anymore 😢
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Andrew, your unbounded energy and dedication to helping and paying it forward is astonishing and uplifting. I try not to imagine the experiences you went through that led you to committing to heal others every single day. I am grateful for you and I lift you up in love and light so you can know truly that the grace you generously emanate is humbly and earnestly accepted.
Namaste 🙏🏻 ❤✨
~Amy
This has happened thousands of times, and will many more
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A double standard. So exhausting.
At the end, I had no more compassion to give. I was used up and done. Really pissed him off bigtime! He was totally shocked ; that's pretty much when he became violent and scary. VERY VIOLENT and SCARY!!!
Because they were losing - violence is their go to friend when they want you worried and placating them. It’s bullshit 101 - but foul 🤦♀️
@user-ou3sd2vp3u Toward the end of our 5 years, something puzzled me. I was NOT afraid of him, and we got into an argument. He made a fist as to hit me, but I reacted (defense) and put my arm up, he backed off and yelled "I WANT MY DADDY." I put my arm down and knew what a COWARD he was. This was the last day of our final vacation. COWARDS TOO!
@@jannlewandowski5540 He sounds like he is broken too! Not your issue, you cannot help him.
@christine8253 OH, I left him over 12 years ago, and I always wondered why he called out for his Daddy? He definitely was broken, but he really used me for 5 years. Being engaged all that time, and no marriage plans. 🫨🫢
Every time I had a crisis, my narc ex would go poof! One time, they did the silent treatment as punishment when I had to be rushed to the hospital and I begged for his support when admitted (big mistake)! They could care less about your needs and healing. They will gaslight you into thinking they're moving mountains for you when it was actually a tiny breadcrumb once in a rare blue moon. Don't be fooled! 3 weeks no contact and going strong! For those who are trying to get out or just recently did, you can do it! Keep watching Andrew and look within!
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I’ve been through all of that too and it’s cruel. I just experienced triangulation last night. It doesn’t matter what you do, they always treat you like your a piece of garbage. You could give them the moon and it’s still not good enough. Narcissists are demons inside. They’re soulless creatures. ❤️🙏
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Exact description of my experiences with my ex!
It’s like they’ve all been to the same training camp. I’m shocked how closely this describes my life.
Yes they do…they look for empaths because empaths usually try to make things better and they know that.
When you’re sick they go to one who is not. 😅
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I had always wondered how he managed to not be next to me for 80% of public appearances especially when walking, even when I was trying to make sure he was, but in front or way behind me! Of course I noticed it and I thought what you said. he wants to be single!! In the end I deliberately stood away from him or left earlier because I just didn't feel like this kind of fuss and I knew I was just his alibi companion to calmly, as a seemingly unhappily forgiven man, to catch his conquest/saviour's eyes! They're always on the lookout and you're just the nice little embarrassment companion. If you say that, you can hear how ungrateful you are and that you're spoiling the evening with such a statement, or he'll immediately yell that what you're saying is outrageous!
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They won't help you. I broke a rib at work last year, he even refused to take me to the ER!!!!!!! I drove myself, and took care of myself. He was a complete ASS! I was off work for 6 weeks, he did absolutely NOTHING
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It's all true. I had it all but he isolated me hiding his parallel life in another town. He used all I had giving nothing in return. I had to buy everything literally, but all was bad as he said. My new car was bad, but he left his in another town because of gas he didn't want to pay. Also with numerous excuses all what he needed I had to bring even in situations when he took my car and I had to drag all. He didn't help when I had to buy a pool acting busy with mobile phone and so on. What a parasite!
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Don't feel like a fool. We were manipulated. That doesn't make you a fool. Will make you stronger. Lean on people like me that have been through it. It's a crazy world they desire. Jump off their crazy train.
@@patriotrvlife-24 we know what to look out for in the future..🌞👍
@@patriotrvlife-24 True...thank you. I had to learn about people and myself. I allowed many narcissists to use me, from mother and sister, ex best friend to that ex bfd. He was really very evil and covert narcissist with good acting skills. He also took all money using lies. I had to learn to stop with my behaviour. It was 3,5 yrs before and now I'm fine.
The monster would take forever to fix his hairpiece. I was always ready before him. Then he would drive like a maniac to get where we were going and scared to crap out of me. Horrible. Always. Every time. Memories. 😢
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Wow! This is SUPER! I actually cut my work hours for this school year for this exact reason and I'm working on the abundance mindset to attract finances from other places. And yes I alerted HR and they did not care!
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They’re like spoiled and entitled children
@ShadowKing, I read where they have minds of children. When a child goes into a rage, you know what that's like! 😢🫨
@@jannlewandowski5540 They demand money, resources, attention etc. Then lash out, bully you and smear you like high school teens when they don’t get their way. Yes they are childish af.
Except for the damage they can inflict on others. They are monsters incapable of empathy. They have the knowledge of the world therefore not at all like children. We need to understand that part of the equation. Namaste ♥
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enlightening, thank you
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Oh so on point everything resonates dinners out he wasn’t present with me he was too busy flirting with wait staff & it was rare to go out with just the two of us I can talk so much about this topic 🙏💕
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@coral8313, I also paid for dinners, and he would flirt with all the servers. I just ignored it after a while. 👍😉 What else can you do?
@@jannlewandowski5540 I stopped going & to many events near the end. You shouldn’t have to pay on your own it should’ve been equal I know you see that know back in the day it was the man’s responsibility to take care of their wife ,partners today it’s equal have a great evening 🌸🌺
They talk the talk but don’t walk the walk ALWAYS
Thank you for making this clip. It was painfully true. The most painful part about having all these realizations is the feeling that you never existed eventhough you know you were present and very active in contributing, but in the light of the entire relationship, I know ppl focus on the narc not existing and the mask but actually when the dawn of reality hits and you assess what happened in the aftermath, it seems as though you existed less than they did. When you mentioned the silent treatment and the behaviour at events, I connected the above dots.
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In my case I was abusing drugs and all she cared about was if she got some or not...She didn't see the Big Picture where I was using drugs and was slowly Killing Myself to Live and I needed Help not a Partner in Crime....I had to overcome Neurosis (I have PTSD too) all on my own...but it made me stronger...but it could of ended with my Life......Thanks JC for saving Me....
Will Be 13 years being clean on October 18, 2023......and my Narc Wife still Uses....I am leaving next April (26 yrs of hell to finally end).........
All that you mentioned in the video is what I experienced too, Andrew! I had surgery and needed time to recover. It was at the same time that the narcissist had a cold and needed my care even though I had recently had surgery at that time. Namaste. 🙏 ❤️
Oh boy I can relate 😢
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Notice how they tell the secret first and then say something like “you have to promise not to tell anyone “ they put on the spot and don’t bother to forewarn…when that happens now I say something like “I’m not that great at keeping secrets” that usually does the trick, especially in work bully or acquaintance situations
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hey andrew i have been having a rough day today always nice to see you because you always cheer me up ☺️👌💋❤️
Me too.
A rough day. I don't know what triggered me.
I woke up sad. 💖
collegegirl12 Andrew will always make you feel better. 👍💕
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OH, You got that Right !!!
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Exactly! 100% Andrew! My exact experience.
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Listen to Andrew people, and i wasn't even married to the damn Narc (it was Not a romantic relationship in my case), and he wasted 7 years of my life - for nothing. Every word Andrew says is true. keep those videos coming, they are important.
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I had a cancer scare, and he rolled his eyes, like it was such a tedious concern. 🙄
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cc1k435, I'm sorry to hear that. A narcissist cannot feel empathy or compassion. They are heartless! 🙏💗💗 I hope you're doing well. ❤
@jannlewandowski5540 I'm fine, everything is good. But just the thought of it annoyed him, just the inconvenience and expense of it all. I knew by then that if there was a serious and ongoing situation ahead, there would be little to expect from him by way of personal support and care. Enough of that, I'm better off looking elsewhere, or really even in going it alone.
@@cc1k435I'm glad you're doing well. I got to a point where I'll just go it alone. I'm better off...👍😉🌞💗
I'm almost a yr out. I love hearing my laughter 😂again. I could put on laughter and just laugh because with a narcissist laughter was not allowed
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You could laugh all you want! 😂😂❤❤
Exactly!!.. what happened at work last night - between 2 employees 😲🧐...(I'm standing there watching them argue - but with the wisdom of this channel 👍😊).....
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I swear you are a mind reader!!
christine8253 HE is the BEST. He also has been thru a lot too. Good to see you..🌞🖐
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@@jannlewandowski5540 We have all been through a lot that is why we have to help eachother!
I’m praying for you. Please believe it does get better. I’m 8 mo out divorce signed. I was medical too retired now so I know what your doing.
I made moves secretly therapy etc
After 24 yrs married I found his social media sites etc.
I discarded him 1-1-23, I found getting a plan together for myself was
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Please take care.
Yup... The only time they are sincere is when they are hissing.....watch out, they are out there working overtime
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Good video!
HR serves two functions for employees. To hire them and to fire them. HR is there to protect the company.
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Depend on yourself😼
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Hi Andrew I just got my blood work today my platelet level is low but I am taking medication I'm not going to worry because I know everything is going to be okay
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God bless you, Steve!
@@emilywilson7308 thank you Emily 🌹
It's going to take awhile for the medicine to kick in but I'm going to be okay Emily bless your heart
@@steveobaby6048 Thank God you are on the mend!🌻
After I finally got back to work from the rib fracture, I got Covid about 3 weeks after...HE DID NOT CARE OR HELP ME ONE BIT!!!!
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🎯💯💯💯You are absolutely correct. I have experienced so many of your examples🙄. Narcs wants a $10000 % return on a zero investment.
I relate to everything you say.
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So spot on! Both Narcissistic parents used me to drive them etc when my age. Applied their evil eye on my healthy and high vibration body including cursing me that I become disabled. Been battling arthritis for past 4 years from age of 39 and not even asked once or driven me to Hospitals. 100 appointments, and paid so much more extra in taxi fares. Made it worse too having first minimised it. You don't share your success and sickness with Narcissists. Something happens to the Narcissists and they react as if the world is coming to and end. One last push via Court process to free myself, huge mistake listening to relatives on 2nd chances then abandoned including my disgusting neighbours who wanted entertainment from when they were supposed to call social services.
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Thank you Andrew! This was packed full of every foul aspect of these creatures 👍
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Whoa what good timing on this one. Great real life example- last night myself , my adult kids & their partners all planned dinner with the NPD dad/grandfather. We all traveled over 40 mins to meet him at a restaurant 1/2 mile from his house. We all got stuck in traffic & had to cancel. NPD was pissed, “ I’ve been here for 30 mins, I got us a nice table” ok sorry I’m in dead stop traffic & there’s nothing I can do. He huffed & hung up. No concern for our safety at all. 2nd example-my brother just recovered from pancreatic cancer & had a post op cancer free scan. He went to share the good news with the NPD & he said “ yah but most of the time it comes back in 5 years”. This one comment is what I need to remind myself of every time I think there’s an ounce of love or empathy in his soul. I hope this sheds light on their lack of empathy.
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Growing up, I actually did hear the word narcissist a lot, but all the depth I was given was about them being vain about their appearance, which is true! But it wasn't until I met and married my ex husband that I learned how dark and sinister the meaning of the word truly is.
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Played from earlier than day one until I ended it less than two years later. The damage they can do in a short time interval is untold. Once we 'get' Andrew's & our collective education and wisdom, we become even more super-super-wise-empaths. And we now trust our gut feelings and see red flags for what they represent. We can get better at this, and we are the prime narcissistic target as we have and are everything they are not & what they want to be. We, you are so much better than their misery & destruction. Move on to being valued, even if the value starts with the self. We are not alone; we are many, and we grow stronger. Oddly, we eventually become even better people because of the horrific narcissistic abuse. Eventually! ✊
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This video resonates on so many levels.
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Wow, you hit every point - nearly verbatim. I'm in shock the narcissistic behaviors are so predictable. I experienced almost every type of incident you pointed out. The silent treatment was extreme and lasted many days...until I apologized. I wondered why I eventually became listliss, unmotivated and physically ill. I believed it was my fault and kept apologizing. I began feeling like I was a bad person...finally something clicked,. Sick and tired of being sick and tired and realizing how cruel, stupid and manipulative his bullsh*t was. One week ago I kicked him out of the "relationship" got my keys back, and everything he "borrowed", but never returned. Started watching videos I first came across by mistake. To the guides in the Universe that showed me what happened to me, I'm more than grateful. The universe sent me the messages I'm now needing to heal. You're one of them.Thank you.
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This is such a good one Andrew. It will help many people, including me. ❤
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I’m free from all of this now 😘But so sincerely true- everything you’re saying! 😔👏💪Thanks so much! Dear Andrew 🗡❤️
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They expect people to over look there rudeness,talking over people , blaming me when he was late,and saying oh she really made the effort to look nice, she took so long,.and made us late,,,(another Lie).,,, He was breaking wind @the table,.no one was impressed,,, soon after that we stopped going out,,and he loved staying in,(more Isolation),,,,,,until I had enough,🌼🌻🌺🌞💖T.Y.,Andrew, ✨
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FlowerPower, they think they're HOT STUFF! HAH! 🫢 They're NOT! 😳
@@jannlewandowski5540yea so childish,and,pure ignorant