Never they will NEVER apologize. Always said can we put this behind us AND START ON A CLEAN SLATE, I heard this a hundred times. Heheheee ...his exact words...I found Jesus...after my final one word NO he send me a pathetic most disrespectful e mail...his 'conversation' with the Lord (as if He was his neighbor) to please work in MY heart that I can forgive him😂 so that he, the narcissist can continue with his life....can you believe this.
Living with a narcissist is living with CRAZY. They don’t change! Your only chance to have a normal life is to get out and stay out forever. I can’t believe how crazy my life used to be when I reflect back upon it. Listen to Andrew, he speaks the truth!!
They won't take responsibility or apologize, because they think they do nothing wrong, and that anything that goes wrong is your fault. It's just another form of control.
@@jannlewandowski5540 nope, they're masters at flipping the script, and making you feel like you're the problem. Master manipulators indeed. 😉 Have a great night. 🌟❤️✨️
Someday the narcissist will stand before God, gaslighting won't work at that stage remember: There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.
My Narcissist said to me..."Where is that beautiful, positive person that I met 5 years ago, why can't you Love me like you used to" WOW...after the roller coaster ride that he put me through, he cannot understand the damage that has been done. Absolutely no accountability. It was ALL my fault!!!!
Because it means everything that they did to you would be an admission and that cannot happen ever. The public appearance is THE most important thing to them.
They don’t take responsibility because they refuse to be held accountable for their actions and their words. They can never be wrong about anything, ever and they cannot nor will not tolerate or accept any criticism.
@@flowerpower4944 Thank you!! 🌼🌸🌷🌻🌞 There is no pleasing these individuals and they refuse to meet you anywhere in the middle. It’s always their way or the highway.
I feel the ONLY way this kind of person will EVER take responsibility for anything will be when they have lost everything and have no other choice but to do so. Some people just never learn or grow up
Nope. Not even then. They double down on their delusions, play the victim, and they find new people to listen to their sob stories - people who don’t know them yet.
This validates everything. The phone calls that went on for hours. Me being a dumping ground and soundboard. Their problems are always more significant than mine. They're jealous of my happiness and think I owe them something because they had/have it way worse than me. I need to know every detail about everything significant and insignificant and if I try to interject into the "conversation" they look into their phone and I'm invisible. No response to what I said, they just go back to talking about themself.
Having suffered through the abuse of a covert narcissist wife, soon to be ex, their number one tactic is blame shifting. Nothing is ever their fault, they will accept no blame. She would give a hint of blame, but then gaslight me into believing it was all my fault. Blame shifting and gaslighting is the calling cards of a covert.
Man Do I ever relate to you. It was so painful to be stuck in that hell! I was so afraid she would kill herself as that happened to her Dad and som eothers in her life. I was trapped and full of guilt an fear all the time. I just could not break free for years. Your comments really hit home to me. Thank you.
I know how that feels. I'm sorry to hear you went through that also .😪 my husband was the same, never cared about my issues or feelings or emotions would get angry at mine,would shout. Shape up to me. Get angry if i dared to share how i was feeling for any length of time .hit me, you name it he did it. used me gaslight me controlled and blamed me and took advantage of my good nature to just reglute him. alot of my emotions were because of how he had hurt me, and treated me so badly he had abused me physically and mentally and emotionally, I would never act like that when it was his feelings over the years . Its only his selfish self cannot wait to get rid they are truly dead between the eyes no emotions no love they give anyone .
I know about covert narcissists tactics, I knew nothing until after the blindsided cheating and divorce. Then it all started to appear. So much red flags and twilight zone moments.
Narcissists are just like Psychopaths as far as taking any blame or having any empathy. They are horrible horrible people. Thank God I found you Andrew!! You saved my life!!
The difference between the two disorders sees psychopaths indifferent to validation and admiration whilst the narcs crave it 24/7 ! If you indicate these to a psychopath the will either rape you or rob you
Living with a narcissist is living with an evil demonic spirit creature. It is not even normal; to share some of the things that have been done to me is too shocking, embarrassing and unbelievable. Thank you Andrew for sharing this information because if l ever in this lifetime l come across anything that even smells, looks or mirrors signs of cantankerous elements, l’m out without any explanation. They do not deserve my energy or effort as to why l’m in the wind.
He was never wrong, not his fault , (mum died of a broken heart.) He was violent, cruel and cheated . I said "don't you realise mum devoted her whole life to you?" He said "can you imagine how boring that is?" I was about 15, trying to mediate. She was so unhappy. I said to her " he doesn't want you" . She said " he never wanted you!" The narc is always the one who is wanted but doesn't care. It's the saddest maddest stupidest thing because the 'wanted ' one is , in every case, a horrible useless lying scumbag. It's always the same game, every time. They think they're all that and we believe them and throw ourselves away trying to get love from someone who is annoyed and angry , and couldn't care less.
I didn't get a birthday wish from my mother or brothers and sister, but when my mail was late for my neice I got in trouble from my narcissistic mother. Today I sent my niece my mail due to her and turned my back on my family. Post note... my brother and sister ghosted me because I left the toxic family and called them out
They never take responsibility because they’re simply incapable of it. They lack empathy and compassion. They always blame you or others for their actions and behavior. There’s always a scapegoat for everything with them. Just move on. I’d rather not get an apology at all then receive an ungenuine one. I don’t need an apology because I know what she is now and won’t be fooled ever again. 😌
They will say mean things and a minute later they are nice. This used to freak me out, like they put on their mask and take it off. Their apologies are fake too.
The narsisst stole my manuscript, books, School assignments with and value ( priceless ) to name a few. They don't give a crap about anyone and don't take responsibility for ANYTHING. I'm not available, I'm not your punching bag, I'm not interested. I gave all that energy to the wrong people's. Grateful to some new friends and this community.
Accountability and responsibility aren’t even in their mentality. You are exactly right, Andrew. It doesn’t even enter their minds that the rules of decent, much less good, interpersonal or societal behavior applies to them. They will FAKE it only when they want something from you. (“They found Jesus.” 😂) No contact is definitely the way whenever possible. Great video Andrew! Namaste 🙏 😌💕
Asking the narc for accountability or to take responsibility for anything is our effort to "change" them. GIVE UP. IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN THEY CAN'T CHANGE Move on and free yourself. IF NOT NOW? WHEN? I gave up to STOP EXISTING and have my best life. Blessings 💞
The lack of accountability is one of the most shocking parts of this nightmare of a "relationship". He would burn bridges through sheer rudeness and I would try to mend the bridges. It never occurred to me that I would be yet another bridge he burned up. I wish I had realized what was going on with the parasitic situation years ago.
I’m finally getting it… finally… I thought I was there but I’m there now… leave this people alone no matter how nice they seem to be… turn around as if you don’t see them… there’s no need… there are plenty of genuinely nice even kind people on the planet 🌏 you definitely don’t need to rely on them nor they, rely on you… ❤️✊🏾
No doubt that the blame shifting , belittling & berating , is extremely hard to deal with . No apology , for anything in 20 + years of marriage . No contact is the only way , if you let your guard down just a bit , you get sucked back into another emotional situation . I believe this throws you off & delays your healing path to recovery . Excellent content Andrew , very wise words . Much appreciation.
@Michaelbarger6006, you are absolutely right,,,they don't appreciate nothing,,,I let him stay a few weeks,, in my new house,,but was so sorry I did,,it was very hard to get him out,,in the end my son paid his rent deposit and found him accomodation,,🌺🌟✨🌻
Yes I am on the healing path self care rebuilding my core person which was shredded have to hold the line not let him break thru the behaviors never change
I can't help but wonder what it would have been like to be married for 31 years to an empath like myself who was all about giving. So sad that I was so strongly attracted to A Covert Narcissist instead. At 54 I am not interested in trying again and will stay single for the rest of my life but imagine if we Empaths had met and married each other. What a wonderful relationship that would have been.
I feel you and for you. I’m 45 so I get it. It’s been a rough ride but gotta stay strong for what future I have left. I’m done with doing all the pleasing and understanding/caring to only get crumbs in return. But don’t give up on maybe ever being with someone again. You have a good and caring heart, I’m sure; you will when you least expect it and it will be totally worth it!! 🙏🏽♥️
I am 45 and think likewise. Such a waste of time and energy and financial ressources indeed. But not too late for having a life worthy of love and meaningful relationships, at least now with myself 🙏❤ And my faith in Jesus, I'm loved inconditionally!
They are delusional, and although they know what they're doing, they don't see a problem with it. We have to seek out our own closure with these Soul suckers. Thank you, Andrew, your videos help to keep me on my path towards healing❤
This part of my so-called narc friendship upset me the most! She could never admit she was wrong, but she sure didn’t mind pointing out where others were wrong! Absolutely sickening!!
They blame everything on you, even the weather. They are little babies that aren’t ever going to grow up. They’re disgusting creatures that suck your energy from you and then blame you for doing it. ❤️🙏
We both put funds into the bank. First narc spouse paid bills to be in control. He was angry when I bought groceries cause he couldn't dictate the meals being the same thing each week. It was a sad existence for too long. He wanted to be the house husband. I hated the words of disdain! I got stronger and left, and many friends got the wrong story! I was taught for years I couldn't make it on my own. He got foolish and blew it. I started over, and it's taken a while. Counseling and Andrew's videos helped me to walk free of the crooked past! Love yourself and walk away from all that sadness and love your best life ever!!!❤ 🌞 🙏
That’s like… Rule NUMBER ONE in the Narc’s rule book… NEVER take responsibility… for ANYTHING. Close second would be “Take credit for EVERYTHING GOOD that happens OR that is said” They are HOPELESSLY UNoriginal and will mirror anyone whose words and actions they find yield the results THEY want. 🙄🤦♀️ EXCELLENT video today, Andrew! You’ve hit MANY nails on the head with this one!!! 🎯🎯🎯☝️☝️☝️ Hope you’re having a WONDERFUL day! Love you! ❤❤❤
I have a SERIOUS problem with this horrible situation this is such a true statement!!! It's no wonder Narcissist 's are alone and single and miserable! Because they just don't get it!!!!! They aren't very smart! They never learn from their mistakes. So, sad.
Truth! Confronting a narcissist is like talking to a wall or worse. Expect denial, gas lighting, projection, blame shifting, silent treatment, word salad, verbal abuse, passive aggression, & rage.
They'll essentially say, "This would have been a great marriage if it wasn't for you!" No doubt, the wisdom of experience rings true in a phrase I heard early on in my recovery journey: The narcissist stabs you and then complains that they're bleeding.
Thank you. My problem is he owes me over $20,000 I want my money back. I don't want him back. Hate to let him get away with not paying me back what he stole
I could have written this myself. I have resigned myself to the fact that I’ll never see that money again. He will use the money as bait to keep you engaged. He has no intention of giving it back or he never would have taken it.
They will never take responsibility or apologize! I made sure when I got my 1ST hoover I told him straight up, " YOU DECIDED TO LEAVE! YOU CAN'T KEEP COMING BACK LIKE IM A REVOLVING DOOR BYE" ✌️😊
Hello Andrew and everyone. Responsibility is NOT in the Narcissists vocabulary! Nor is it in their Hearts! You are the one to blame for EVERYTHING! I've been there just like all of us, and they know exactly how to play us. NO MORE! No matter what they do or did, it's our fault! No Responsibility is only ONE of the many things they will never accept. Well, no more!!!! You are now out of my life for 12.6 years, and counting. I LOVE THIS TOPIC, ANDREW...❤❤
@emilywilson7308 Emily, hello. No, he did not move out. I believe I told you that he's been in Therapy, and he's been treating me with respect. He had a CHOICE...I will not tolerate anything from him. He's doing fine. We had a few "talks" and he's doing better. Therapy is helping him.
👋 hay guys and gal's ! The narc never takes blame! 43-year-old marriage, and he can't think of anything he did wrong except...lol.a porn addiction and withholding sex. He says, "Didn't I take care of you monetarily needs..." I was never a priority...I left 3 months ago, Now I take care of me!!! I SAY 🏃♀️ 🏃♂️ RUN! THANKS Andrew!🎉😂
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 1000 lbs lighter w/o all the stress once I understood what i was dealing with...(covert vulnerable narcissist...) from your vlogs and many others. Also......I'm with an EMDR counselor as well.
Yes they don't go by any rules,,so very very Entitled,,it's like swept under the rug..They come back and carry on like they did no wrong,,I had very good support from my 4brothers,,,they were always giving my kids encouragement,,and helped them with good morals,they could see the Battle I was Having,,and supported me while I was working full time,,later on my brothers went no contact with him,,he was so Toxic,,,So Glad I'm out ,,much Better Health now,and I have raised my Standards,,(living in the Present moment and happy) Vibrating much Higher now,,T.y. ANDREW,,,🎉❤❤🌟🌻✨🌺💖
This describes almost all of the bosses I've had. Most of them had chaotic home lives. Their kids couldn't stand them and their spouses didn't speak to them. Terrible life to live.
I took the crap from my mom my entire life. I was the scapegoat and an empath. Also really managed to rise above her bs and just go to my happy place. Late in life, however I did not tolerate how she treated my sweet husband, so I snapped. She turned three of our children into flying monkeys. That hurt for years, but now the peace is worth getting away from them. They became as toxic as her. We lived for our children, but she poisoned them, and anyone else who would listen. We moved away to care for my husband's parents until they passed...went no contact from children, my parents, grandchildren, everybody. EVERYTHING you say is correct 100%. We have two sons who moved with us to farm. Getting away from the drama and toxicity is wonderful beyond words. Nobody even tried to contact me when my parents died. I know it was because they were rich. They were all circling like vultures seeing who would get my share. I do not care. Who can put a price on peace? Bless you.
Until I found Andrew and all here. I was lost, caught up in trauma bonding. Triangled me with his new love. I was still spinning in the vortex. I was always a loner, still am a bit. Andrew's daily lessons taught me so much. I have been hurting for so long. I have started a new life style. It is not selfish to be first in my life. My ex is text book narcissus. Now I am an educated empath. 💖💖💖💖
I tolerated poor behavior for far too long and became an accomplice in my own abuse but I finally had the courage to end it. Now I can breathe again, I’m not walking on eggshells and looking forward to living my best life.
The more I hear the more I understand what happened to my life. From childhood till now. I have a retiring nature, easy going, peace sometimes at any price, and have a deep well of empathy. But have slowly healed thru faith and trust in Gods Word. All of the disruptive people are finally gone. With not understanding I have 'Grey rocked' I guess the last 2 now just this last year and have such peace and rest in my life. ITS WONDERFUL. I am too old to have much if a life now but want to grow into something new without all the weight that had dragged me down for what over 60 years or more. I don't feel so alone now with your understanding words that I know I need to keep listening to. God Bless you always dear heart. Thank you for the clarity❤❤❤❤❤
HELLO Andrew! I commented last month, but for those that missed it (ESPECIALLY you newbies!) here's a recap AND an update. I was in a narcissistic relationship for 20+ years. I gave it my all before finding Andrew's channel and realizing what I was dealing with. YOU may not experience all of his examples, but after 20+ years let me tell you I have! UNDERSTAND; I know for a fact they will NEVER change! I've been through COUNTLESS cycles and once I FINALLY decided that I'd had enough, left, (BEFORE the discard; they thought I was "hooked"for good!)there was NO turning back. We have been separated for 4 months and she has agreed to a divorce once she challenged the pre- nupe and failed. I can't wait for the final hearing November 2!
Mate, you have just bsicly summarized my last 2 years, and more so the last 3 weeks of being ghosted. I am shocked how exact in every single point you are. It feels as though your telling me my story. Thank you for the words that have helped me see the light and now I can start healing. You have saved me my friend. Thank you
Well said about Narcissists needing to unsubscribe!!! Narcissists cannot get any better. If they go to therapy it’s something that is forced on them. They don’t get better with therapy- they get worse!!
I know that I am healed now, because of everything you just said. I left 3 weeks ago, yesterday, and I returned Friday afternoon, to take a friend to see her grandkids. I drove by, got out, (of course he wasn't home), and went to the porch where my 2 kitties lay, and I held them, checked on them, and got back in the car and drove away. Besides that moment, I don't think about him. I don't even consider going back, and the anxiety while I was in town was high! I healed myself these past few years as he was turning our children against me. This weekend tho, I decided to not leave until I at least got to hug my son, even if he acted like he didn't need it as much as I did. Well, he speaks to me again, and I'm elated! So, it was a very productive trip for me. Now I'm just waiting on call backs for jobs I've applied to. And trying to find something else to do with all my time in a very very dry place, with no shade, while living in my car. I'm all about the experience of it. I'm learning about how to exist without the home, and shower, without a kitchen and all. Celery, cucumber, and apple juice just doesn't taste very good at 100° and grapes turn to wine in this heat. All my herbs that are gelcaps, are melted together, so even taking my medicine is harder. But, I'm still smiling. I'm still just fine with it all. Ready for some cooler temps next week for sure! And the people I've got to meet in the process has also been a fun and sad experience. So many suffering these days. And most of the stories are surrounded by narcissim, so we are, as a community, waking a LOT of people up to all this nonsense! It feels like when I'm confronted by a narcissist, it seems like my energy dampens their efforts much quicker..like they stepped on my sponge, and dissipated 😂 I love it! In fact, shoot...homeless? I can't quit smiling!! 😊😊❤❤ Namaste Andrew, and this community! 🌺 Thank you🌺🌼🌺
Ya my narcissist mom never apologized when she slapped me on the back. I had just gotten my upper body cast off. I had spinal fusion on 12. Discs. There were 2 rods in my back. I had curvature of spine.
@Cocobear, 7007. That's awful,,I'd move out if it was me,, my mum was always smacking us with a damp tea towel, and we were terrified to upset her,,I left at 22yrsold🙏🌟🤗💖💖✨🌻
I hope that if a narcissist IS watching this, and getting a whole load of whoop ass, and understands how unfairly they treat others, it prompts them to use their energy, and skills for good deeds. They are most certainly highly intelligent. It's a paradox that they don't see it themselves. The destruction that they love to bring, serves no purpose at all. Keep it strong Andrew, you are very wise in their ways... Unfortunately XXX
I really like the phrase / concept of angling the person you are interacting with as "are they building me up or not". To me this seems to be the start of how to develop good boundaries quickly. The narcissist IMO is not looking to the future, and therefore by definition is not creating. By definition they must be doing the opposite. So personally I have found that if someone is not entering constructive space with me, I am disengaging immediately. I used to humor people way too much. I have found that building and being objective is becoming my baseline. Neutral is fine, but at the first hint of being unconstructive or not building me up, I must understand who this person is I am dealing with. Maybe most importantly, I am now keeping score of which people waste my energy, and not letting them have access to me immediately if at all. I used to just always answer the phone whenever anyone called me. No more.
My ex narc was oddly passive aggressive. He would do weird things like grab the popcorn bowl that was in the middle of us during movies and devour most of it. They are greedy and have to have one up even with food and material things such as using a nicer towel and telling me to always use the old ones. I would go along with it and brush it off but it struck me as very odd and hurtful and mean. You dont treat your loved ones badly.
Accountability is the kryptonite of the narcissist.
They won’t take responsibility and they blame you for the abuse. There is NO winning with these people.
Their exes are all “crazy.”
They will never take responsibility. Nor will they ever apologize. Never.
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The narcissist in my life did tell me that they were sorry that I felt bad about what they spoke to me
No, they don’t apologize and they won’t apologize even when they clearly know they’re wrong.
Mine would say I’m sorry but never changed so it was meaningless.
Never they will NEVER apologize. Always said can we put this behind us AND START ON A CLEAN SLATE, I heard this a hundred times. Heheheee ...his exact words...I found Jesus...after my final one word NO he send me a pathetic most disrespectful e mail...his 'conversation' with the Lord (as if He was his neighbor) to please work in MY heart that I can forgive him😂 so that he, the narcissist can continue with his life....can you believe this.
A wall is a better partner than a parasite 😂
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" The problem is not my behavior,
it's the fact that you're calling me out." - The Narc
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Yup- they can't take it!😆
Living with a narcissist is living with CRAZY. They don’t change! Your only chance to have a normal life is to get out and stay out forever. I can’t believe how crazy my life used to be when I reflect back upon it. Listen to Andrew, he speaks the truth!!
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I have seen beauty in peoples who were called ugly and i have seen the devil in the most angelic face.
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I have seen evil in his eyes when the mask dropped! 🙏🙏🕯💪 I left him.🌞👍
They won't take responsibility or apologize, because they think they do nothing wrong, and that anything that goes wrong is your fault. It's just another form of control.
@Sherwayne,,444,hope you are doing well,lots of love Sent ❤❤🌻✨🌟😃
@@flowerpower4944 thank you. I am okay. Hope you enjoy the rest of your day. Sending love. 🌻💖✨️
✨🌟❤️💖you too Sher,🌻
sherwayne, they never take responsibility for anything!🫠
Good to see you. 🖐👍🌞
@@jannlewandowski5540 nope, they're masters at flipping the script, and making you feel like you're the problem. Master manipulators indeed. 😉
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"" Mental prison" fits perfectly.
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Someday the narcissist will stand before God, gaslighting won't work at that stage remember: There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.
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I just sent this verse to the narcissist.
At the end of the day they don't really care. That's all that matters. We are nothing to them.
Thank you Andrew, your channel is a beacon of hope for all us victims of these vile inhuman creatures. Trust my words, you are saving lives and souls.
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My Narcissist said to me..."Where is that beautiful, positive person that I met 5 years ago, why can't you Love me like you used to" WOW...after the roller coaster ride that he put me through, he cannot understand the damage that has been done. Absolutely no accountability. It was ALL my fault!!!!
They miss the same person we miss too. A person that can never come back. I hope today is a good day for you.
@@leviwhite3553Perfectly said, I won’t ever be the same person that I was.
Thats right they will completely try to destroy you.
The devils children.
They do that so you go crazy and break up with them
Because it means everything that they did to you would be an admission and that cannot happen ever. The public appearance is THE most important thing to them.
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Everything gets turned around with a narcissist 😅 And yes there are the games. Being constantly judged is nerve-wracking.
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They are their own worst enemy.
It does catch up to them.
Most of them end up alone.
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You are correct but I don’t want to be around to find out.
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Yes, they deserve it.
They don’t take responsibility because they refuse to be held accountable for their actions and their words. They can never be wrong about anything, ever and they cannot nor will not tolerate or accept any criticism.
So sickeningly true!
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@danielle,,that's so very TRUE,🤗❤️🌺💖✨🌻
@@marieeakin8534 Thank you, I agree!! 🌟
@@flowerpower4944 Thank you!! 🌼🌸🌷🌻🌞 There is no pleasing these individuals and they refuse to meet you anywhere in the middle. It’s always their way or the highway.
I feel the ONLY way this kind of person will EVER take responsibility for anything will be when they have lost everything and have no other choice but to do so. Some people just never learn or grow up
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Nope. Not even then. They double down on their delusions, play the victim, and they find new people to listen to their sob stories - people who don’t know them yet.
This validates everything. The phone calls that went on for hours. Me being a dumping ground and soundboard. Their problems are always more significant than mine. They're jealous of my happiness and think I owe them something because they had/have it way worse than me. I need to know every detail about everything significant and insignificant and if I try to interject into the "conversation" they look into their phone and I'm invisible. No response to what I said, they just go back to talking about themself.
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Having suffered through the abuse of a covert narcissist wife, soon to be ex, their number one tactic is blame shifting. Nothing is ever their fault, they will accept no blame. She would give a hint of blame, but then gaslight me into believing it was all my fault. Blame shifting and gaslighting is the calling cards of a covert.
Literally living the same situation right now. My heart goes out to you. Stay strong.
Man Do I ever relate to you. It was so painful to be stuck in that hell! I was so afraid she would kill herself as that happened to her Dad and som eothers in her life. I was trapped and full of guilt an fear all the time. I just could not break free for years. Your comments really hit home to me. Thank you.
I know how that feels. I'm sorry to hear you went through that also .😪 my husband was the same, never cared about my issues or feelings or emotions would get angry at mine,would shout. Shape up to me. Get angry if i dared to share how i was feeling for any length of time .hit me, you name it he did it. used me gaslight me controlled and blamed me and took advantage of my good nature to just reglute him. alot of my emotions were because of how he had hurt me, and treated me so badly he had abused me physically and mentally and emotionally, I would never act like that when it was his feelings over the years . Its only his selfish self cannot wait to get rid they are truly dead between the eyes no emotions no love they give anyone .
Lots of love and healing sent🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏✨
I know about covert narcissists tactics, I knew nothing until after the blindsided cheating and divorce. Then it all started to appear. So much red flags and twilight zone moments.
Narcissists are just like Psychopaths as far as taking any blame or having any empathy. They are horrible horrible people.
Thank God I found you Andrew!! You saved my life!!
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They are all psychos! 👍🙏
Couldn’t agree more ❤
Absolutely agree!
The difference between the two disorders sees psychopaths indifferent to validation and admiration whilst the narcs crave it 24/7 !
If you indicate these to a psychopath the will either rape you or rob you
Living with a narcissist is living with an evil demonic spirit creature. It is not even normal; to share some of the things that have been done to me is too shocking, embarrassing and unbelievable. Thank you Andrew for sharing this information because if l ever in this lifetime l come across anything that even smells, looks or mirrors signs of cantankerous elements, l’m out without any explanation. They do not deserve my energy or effort as to why l’m in the wind.
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One other thing.. we love them but they didn't love us.. hard when it's family
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Responsibility is something they never heard what does it mean.
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Hi Tatjana! Hope you are well.💗🌻🔆
@@emilywilson7308 Dear Emily, thank you so much, yes I'm fine, live working and peaceful. ❤️
blame shift was very stressful. I'm just happy it is 14 months behind me..😊
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He was never wrong, not his fault , (mum died of a broken heart.) He was violent, cruel and cheated . I said "don't you realise mum devoted her whole life to you?" He said "can you imagine how boring that is?"
I was about 15, trying to mediate. She was so unhappy. I said to her " he doesn't want you" . She said " he never wanted you!"
The narc is always the one who is wanted but doesn't care. It's the saddest maddest stupidest thing because the 'wanted ' one is , in every case, a horrible useless lying scumbag. It's always the same game, every time. They think they're all that and we believe them and throw ourselves away trying to get love from someone who is annoyed and angry , and couldn't care less.
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They’re very crafty and shifty, skilled at deflection and counter attack when being called out for their malignant behaviors…
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*Radical acceptance .
Iam currently , deeply , working on integrating .
*Acceptance , *Grace , and *forgiveness.
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It definitely sounds like these people think they are above the law.
I didn't get a birthday wish from my mother or brothers and sister, but when my mail was late for my neice I got in trouble from my narcissistic mother. Today I sent my niece my mail due to her and turned my back on my family.
Post note... my brother and sister ghosted me because I left the toxic family and called them out
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They never take responsibility because they’re simply incapable of it. They lack empathy and compassion. They always blame you or others for their actions and behavior. There’s always a scapegoat for everything with them. Just move on. I’d rather not get an apology at all then receive an ungenuine one. I don’t need an apology because I know what she is now and won’t be fooled ever again. 😌
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They will say mean things and a minute later they are nice. This used to freak me out, like they put on their mask and take it off. Their apologies are fake too.
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The strange silence or word salad you get when a simple, sincere apology is all that's required. Big red flag. 🤔🤯
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The narsisst stole my manuscript, books, School assignments with and value ( priceless ) to name a few. They don't give a crap about anyone and don't take responsibility for ANYTHING.
I'm not available, I'm not your punching bag, I'm not interested. I gave all that energy to the wrong people's.
Grateful to some new friends and this community.
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Accountability and responsibility aren’t even in their mentality. You are exactly right, Andrew. It doesn’t even enter their minds that the rules of decent, much less good, interpersonal or societal behavior applies to them. They will FAKE it only when they want something from you. (“They found Jesus.” 😂)
No contact is definitely the way whenever possible.
Great video Andrew!
Namaste 🙏 😌💕
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Omgosh I laughed hard at that too 😂 - I heard “I fasted and prayed for days and I’ve changed” 🤢
Fakes fakes fakes. ❤
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@@gratefultobehere “Wolves in sheep’s clothing” 😉
If they dont they dont its not going to stop my life or bucket list
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'Lies travel fast, but the truth ALWAYS endures".
Nothing new under the sun, All Praises 🙏
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Asking the narc for accountability or to take responsibility for anything is our effort to "change" them. GIVE UP. IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN THEY CAN'T CHANGE
Move on and free yourself. IF NOT NOW? WHEN? I gave up to STOP EXISTING and have my best life. Blessings 💞
The lack of accountability is one of the most shocking parts of this nightmare of a "relationship". He would burn bridges through sheer rudeness and I would try to mend the bridges. It never occurred to me that I would be yet another bridge he burned up. I wish I had realized what was going on with the parasitic situation years ago.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you. The last few days have been days of growth but challenging
I’m finally getting it… finally… I thought I was there but I’m there now… leave this people alone no matter how nice they seem to be… turn around as if you don’t see them… there’s no need… there are plenty of genuinely nice even kind people on the planet 🌏 you definitely don’t need to rely on them nor they, rely on you… ❤️✊🏾
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No doubt that the blame shifting , belittling & berating , is extremely hard to deal with . No apology , for anything in 20 + years of marriage . No contact is the only way , if you let your guard down just a bit , you get sucked back into another emotional situation . I believe this throws you off & delays your healing path to recovery . Excellent content Andrew , very wise words . Much appreciation.
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@Michaelbarger6006, you are absolutely right,,,they don't appreciate nothing,,,I let him stay a few weeks,, in my new house,,but was so sorry I did,,it was very hard to get him out,,in the end my son paid his rent deposit and found him accomodation,,🌺🌟✨🌻
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Yes this is where I am at this time glad you brought it up thank you❤
Yes I am on the healing path self care rebuilding my core person which was shredded have to hold the line not let him break thru the behaviors never change
I can't help but wonder what it would have been like to be married for 31 years to an empath like myself who was all about giving. So sad that I was so strongly attracted to A Covert Narcissist instead. At 54 I am not interested in trying again and will stay single for the rest of my life but imagine if we Empaths had met and married each other. What a wonderful relationship that would have been.
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I feel you and for you. I’m 45 so I get it. It’s been a rough ride but gotta stay strong for what future I have left. I’m done with doing all the pleasing and understanding/caring to only get crumbs in return.
But don’t give up on maybe ever being with someone again. You have a good and caring heart, I’m sure; you will when you least expect it and it will be totally worth it!! 🙏🏽♥️
I am 45 and think likewise. Such a waste of time and energy and financial ressources indeed. But not too late for having a life worthy of love and meaningful relationships, at least now with myself 🙏❤ And my faith in Jesus, I'm loved inconditionally!
They are delusional, and although they know what they're doing, they don't see a problem with it. We have to seek out our own closure with these Soul suckers. Thank you, Andrew, your videos help to keep me on my path towards healing❤
Because to be responsible means you are accountable and a narc would not own this 🫣
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This part of my so-called narc friendship upset me the most! She could never admit she was wrong, but she sure didn’t mind pointing out where others were wrong! Absolutely sickening!!
“Blame you for something you did or didn’t know, should have known that didn’t happen”
Only in this space does this make perfect sense.
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💯 The reason why the Narc don't take responsibility is because they know what they doing but just don't care..
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Yes it's very intentional and always Benefits them to manipulate and Control✨🌺🌼🌻❤️
Don’t try to hold them accountable they will punish you for it
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I prefer talking to the wall! Less stress❤
😂 …”they found Jesus…” ❤
That was hilarious!
They blame everything on you, even the weather. They are little babies that aren’t ever going to grow up. They’re disgusting creatures that suck your energy from you and then blame you for doing it. ❤️🙏
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Yes, they blame us for EVERYTHING! 👍🙏
We both put funds into the bank. First narc spouse paid bills to be in control. He was angry when I bought groceries cause he couldn't dictate the meals being the same thing each week. It was a sad existence for too long. He wanted to be the house husband. I hated the words of disdain! I got stronger and left, and many friends got the wrong story! I was taught for years I couldn't make it on my own. He got foolish and blew it. I started over, and it's taken a while. Counseling and Andrew's videos helped me to walk free of the crooked past! Love yourself and walk away from all that sadness and love your best life ever!!!❤ 🌞 🙏
Thank you, Janet!💗
That’s like… Rule NUMBER ONE in the Narc’s rule book… NEVER take responsibility… for ANYTHING. Close second would be “Take credit for EVERYTHING GOOD that happens OR that is said” They are HOPELESSLY UNoriginal and will mirror anyone whose words and actions they find yield the results THEY want. 🙄🤦♀️
EXCELLENT video today, Andrew! You’ve hit MANY nails on the head with this one!!! 🎯🎯🎯☝️☝️☝️ Hope you’re having a WONDERFUL day! Love you! ❤❤❤
@Jennifer Newton4637,, hope your doing well Jennifer,,lots love and peace sent ❤️💖🌻🌟😃✨💖💖🌺💖🌻🌻🌞🤗
@@flowerpower4944 Hey Flower! Doing good, thanks! How are you doing today? 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗🌸🌻🌺🌷🍀💐
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Hope everyone is doing well,sending much love and peace,😃❤️🌟🌻✨💖💙💖💛
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Thank you, Flower!
May love and peace be with you too!💗
I have a SERIOUS problem with this horrible situation this is such a true statement!!! It's no wonder Narcissist 's are alone and single and miserable! Because they just don't get it!!!!! They aren't very smart! They never learn from their mistakes. So, sad.
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Truth! Confronting a narcissist is like talking to a wall or worse. Expect denial, gas lighting, projection, blame shifting, silent treatment, word salad, verbal abuse, passive aggression, & rage.
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Sadistic Evil People.
Narc said sarcastically that nothing is EVER my fault. No examples. Pure projection!
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Accountability and responsibility clashes with their grandiose fantasy world.
They'll essentially say, "This would have been a great marriage if it wasn't for you!"
No doubt, the wisdom of experience rings true in a phrase I heard early on in my recovery journey:
The narcissist stabs you and then complains that they're bleeding.
Thank you. My problem is he owes me over $20,000 I want my money back. I don't want him back. Hate to let him get away with not paying me back what he stole
I could have written this myself. I have resigned myself to the fact that I’ll never see that money again. He will use the money as bait to keep you engaged. He has no intention of giving it back or he never would have taken it.
Thank you Andrew. This, like all your messages is so on point. Zero responsibility and so much blame shifting.
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They will never take responsibility or apologize! I made sure when I got my 1ST hoover I told him straight up, " YOU DECIDED TO LEAVE! YOU CAN'T KEEP COMING BACK LIKE IM A REVOLVING DOOR BYE" ✌️😊
WooHoo!!!💥
Mindfulness and staying in the present was a huge turning point for me.
The narcs are going down, way down... God speed out there!
Hello Andrew and everyone. Responsibility is NOT in the Narcissists vocabulary! Nor is it in their Hearts! You are the one to blame for EVERYTHING! I've been there just like all of us, and they know exactly how to play us. NO MORE! No matter what they do or did, it's our fault! No Responsibility is only ONE of the many things they will never accept. Well, no more!!!! You are now out of my life for 12.6 years, and counting.
I LOVE THIS TOPIC, ANDREW...❤❤
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Andrew, it's good to be here. ❤❤
Hi Jann! I hope all is OK with your brother. Did he move out? Wishing you the best of outcomes!💗
@emilywilson7308 Emily, hello. No, he did not move out. I believe I told you that he's been in Therapy, and he's been treating me with respect. He had a CHOICE...I will not tolerate anything from him. He's doing fine. We had a few "talks" and he's doing better. Therapy is helping him.
@@jannlewandowski5540 So glad it is working out!
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They don’t take responsibility for any of their actions but they will take all the credit for your hard work and ideas
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👋 hay guys and gal's ! The narc never takes blame! 43-year-old marriage, and he can't think of anything he did wrong except...lol.a porn addiction and withholding sex. He says, "Didn't I take care of you monetarily needs..." I was never a priority...I left 3 months ago, Now I take care of me!!! I SAY 🏃♀️ 🏃♂️ RUN! THANKS Andrew!🎉😂
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@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 1000 lbs lighter w/o all the stress once I understood what i was dealing with...(covert vulnerable narcissist...) from your vlogs and many others. Also......I'm with an EMDR counselor as well.
I do hope your doing well now. I pray you find peace and Joy. God Bless you...✝️🤲💗
@jackiemirza8068 I have been gone now for 3 wks shy of a year. 8 weeks EMDR COounceling and couldn't be happier,.... it can be done,
They 💯 won’t take responsibility only if it gets them some attention from others move away from all these evil people start living your life 🙏💕
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Hello Coral, good to see you. 👍🌞🖐
@@jannlewandowski5540 hi there great to see you as well having a break doing some spring cleaning outside oh I love sunshine 🌞 have a great day 🌺🌸🦋
I loved this and the little train rocks , you deserve all the goodness in life,peace my friend.
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Yes they don't go by any rules,,so very very Entitled,,it's like swept under the rug..They come back and carry on like they did no wrong,,I had very good support from my 4brothers,,,they were always giving my kids encouragement,,and helped them with good morals,they could see the Battle I was Having,,and supported me while I was working full time,,later on my brothers went no contact with him,,he was so Toxic,,,So Glad I'm out ,,much Better Health now,and I have raised my Standards,,(living in the Present moment and happy) Vibrating much Higher now,,T.y. ANDREW,,,🎉❤❤🌟🌻✨🌺💖
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@@marieeakin8534yes thank God🌟🤗🌼❤️🌻hope you are doing well❤️✨🌺
This describes almost all of the bosses I've had. Most of them had chaotic home lives. Their kids couldn't stand them and their spouses didn't speak to them. Terrible life to live.
It was exactly as you described... Exactly!!!
Keep speaking the truth!!!
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Sincerely, “Thank you”, for educating people…. These people destroy lives…..
I took the crap from my mom my entire life. I was the scapegoat and an empath. Also really managed to rise above her bs and just go to my happy place. Late in life, however I did not tolerate how she treated my sweet husband, so I snapped. She turned three of our children into flying monkeys. That hurt for years, but now the peace is worth getting away from them. They became as toxic as her. We lived for our children, but she poisoned them, and anyone else who would listen. We moved away to care for my husband's parents until they passed...went no contact from children, my parents, grandchildren, everybody. EVERYTHING you say is correct 100%. We have two sons who moved with us to farm. Getting away from the drama and toxicity is wonderful beyond words. Nobody even tried to contact me when my parents died. I know it was because they were rich. They were all circling like vultures seeing who would get my share. I do not care. Who can put a price on peace? Bless you.
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Until I found Andrew and all here.
I was lost, caught up in trauma bonding.
Triangled me with his new love.
I was still spinning in the vortex.
I was always a loner, still am a bit.
Andrew's daily lessons taught me so much.
I have been hurting for so long.
I have started a new life style.
It is not selfish to be first in my life.
My ex is text book narcissus.
Now I am an educated empath.
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Beautiful empowering message 💪😌💯
Fantastic!!!💥🌈🔆
Triangulation with his ex.😢
I tolerated poor behavior for far too long and became an accomplice in my own abuse but I finally had the courage to end it. Now I can breathe again, I’m not walking on eggshells and looking forward to living my best life.
Gratitude, Andrew. !!
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The more I hear the more I understand what happened to my life. From childhood till now. I have a retiring nature, easy going, peace sometimes at any price, and have a deep well of empathy. But have slowly healed thru faith and trust in Gods Word. All of the disruptive people are finally gone. With not understanding I have 'Grey rocked' I guess the last 2 now just this last year and have such peace and rest in my life. ITS WONDERFUL. I am too old to have much if a life now but want to grow into something new without all the weight that had dragged me down for what over 60 years or more. I don't feel so alone now with your understanding words that I know I need to keep listening to. God Bless you always dear heart. Thank you for the clarity❤❤❤❤❤
Oh, you pegged the cycle well!
Stop making sense! Thank you 🙏
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HELLO Andrew! I commented last month, but for those that missed it (ESPECIALLY you newbies!) here's a recap AND an update. I was in a narcissistic relationship for 20+ years. I gave it my all before finding Andrew's channel and realizing what I was dealing with. YOU may not experience all of his examples, but after 20+ years let me tell you I have! UNDERSTAND; I know for a fact they will NEVER change! I've been through COUNTLESS cycles and once I FINALLY decided that I'd had enough, left, (BEFORE the discard; they thought I was "hooked"for good!)there was NO turning back. We have been separated for 4 months and she has agreed to a divorce once she challenged the pre- nupe and failed. I can't wait for the final hearing November 2!
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Thank you again NARCDAILY 🙏
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When I didn’t know about narcissists at work I called them hyenas. I’m so glad that I have a much deeper understanding now🙏🌺💜
The narcissists aren't here, they're over learning on the empath channel...
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Mate, you have just bsicly summarized my last 2 years, and more so the last 3 weeks of being ghosted. I am shocked how exact in every single point you are. It feels as though your telling me my story. Thank you for the words that have helped me see the light and now I can start healing. You have saved me my friend. Thank you
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Well said about Narcissists needing to unsubscribe!!! Narcissists cannot get any better. If they go to therapy it’s something that is forced on them. They don’t get better with therapy- they get worse!!
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The courts forced my ex into therapy. You get blamed excessively for it no matter the actions that led to it.
Yes!!! The therapy is forced on them and if they don’t like the therapist it’s onward march onto the next one!
I know that I am healed now, because of everything you just said. I left 3 weeks ago, yesterday, and I returned Friday afternoon, to take a friend to see her grandkids.
I drove by, got out, (of course he wasn't home), and went to the porch where my 2 kitties lay, and I held them, checked on them, and got back in the car and drove away. Besides that moment, I don't think about him. I don't even consider going back, and the anxiety while I was in town was high! I healed myself these past few years as he was turning our children against me. This weekend tho, I decided to not leave until I at least got to hug my son, even if he acted like he didn't need it as much as I did. Well, he speaks to me again, and I'm elated! So, it was a very productive trip for me. Now I'm just waiting on call backs for jobs I've applied to. And trying to find something else to do with all my time in a very very dry place, with no shade, while living in my car. I'm all about the experience of it. I'm learning about how to exist without the home, and shower, without a kitchen and all. Celery, cucumber, and apple juice just doesn't taste very good at 100° and grapes turn to wine in this heat. All my herbs that are gelcaps, are melted together, so even taking my medicine is harder. But, I'm still smiling. I'm still just fine with it all. Ready for some cooler temps next week for sure! And the people I've got to meet in the process has also been a fun and sad experience. So many suffering these days. And most of the stories are surrounded by narcissim, so we are, as a community, waking a LOT of people up to all this nonsense! It feels like when I'm confronted by a narcissist, it seems like my energy dampens their efforts much quicker..like they stepped on my sponge, and dissipated 😂 I love it! In fact, shoot...homeless? I can't quit smiling!! 😊😊❤❤ Namaste Andrew, and this community! 🌺 Thank you🌺🌼🌺
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👍💪Such inner strength and toughness! It'll be worth it in the long run- no doubt!
Brilliant well done sending you blessings and joy. ❤ 👏
@@angelaeastwood3938 namaste Angela, and thanks so much!
🎉Bless you . I hope the weather gets warmer for you . Over the last few years I've known a lot of homeless people and (.no fault of their own .)❤
Or for years the silent treatment
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Wow preach it Andrew,💪💪❤️❤️ This Was Very Powerful,t.y.🌞💖🌟🌹🌼
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAloneAndrew you are such a good Soul,,God Bless you and your work,,we are fighting the good fight💪🌻❤️✨🌞💖🌟🌼🌻🙏🙏
Amen, Brothers and Sisters of the Tribe, Amen!!!
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the best thing I ever did was distance myself from the crowd...that's where I discovered my truth🎉
Ya my narcissist mom never apologized when she slapped me on the back. I had just gotten my upper body cast off. I had spinal fusion on 12. Discs. There were 2 rods in my back. I had curvature of spine.
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@Cocobear, 7007. That's awful,,I'd move out if it was me,, my mum was always smacking us with a damp tea towel, and we were terrified to upset her,,I left at 22yrsold🙏🌟🤗💖💖✨🌻
This channel is an Oasis for victims of Narcissistic abuse. ~Just expressing graitude for your ongoing work, Andrew.
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I hope that if a narcissist IS watching this, and getting a whole load of whoop ass, and understands how unfairly they treat others, it prompts them to use their energy, and skills for good deeds. They are most certainly highly intelligent. It's a paradox that they don't see it themselves. The destruction that they love to bring, serves no purpose at all. Keep it strong Andrew, you are very wise in their ways... Unfortunately XXX
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But it gives them the most joy and support 🤢
I really like the phrase / concept of angling the person you are interacting with as "are they building me up or not". To me this seems to be the start of how to develop good boundaries quickly. The narcissist IMO is not looking to the future, and therefore by definition is not creating. By definition they must be doing the opposite. So personally I have found that if someone is not entering constructive space with me, I am disengaging immediately. I used to humor people way too much. I have found that building and being objective is becoming my baseline. Neutral is fine, but at the first hint of being unconstructive or not building me up, I must understand who this person is I am dealing with.
Maybe most importantly, I am now keeping score of which people waste my energy, and not letting them have access to me immediately if at all. I used to just always answer the phone whenever anyone called me. No more.
I think it's important to protect yourself. Especially if you are sensitive.🌻
My ex narc was oddly passive aggressive. He would do weird things like grab the popcorn bowl that was in the middle of us during movies and devour most of it. They are greedy and have to have one up even with food and material things such as using a nicer towel and telling me to always use the old ones. I would go along with it and brush it off but it struck me as very odd and hurtful and mean. You dont treat your loved ones badly.
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I've had so many light bulb moments, I feel like I'm in a disco twilight zone movie.
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Love it, me to. I could write a book. LOL. 💕
no they will never ever take responsibility for their actions hi andrew i did some yard work hope you are doing amazingly today love you very much
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DDA.
Deny, deflect, attack.
I didn’t say it.
I only said it because you…..
You’re over-sensitive.
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