Finding Nemo. Finding Dori..it always ends up back at a Disney remake of old classics From Grimm to Hans Christian Anderson to Pinnochio to the Snow queen..legends are lessons... Oscar Wilde (Samuel) Poems.and Pros Narcissus. Prof Sam V reminded me of it in one of his recent talks. I had forgotten..I must admit that my Random Access Memory drive has been so busy its been smoking and skreeetchig a bit as of late. Like nails on A chalkboard...its a gen x thing ..screaming goats. Do a search if you want to know what makes some of us laugh until our cheeks hurt. It's how we cope. Fainting screaming goats are rare, but no worries.. when they faint, their breath catches up, and they get up eventually.. just don't push em too hard.. They may decide to just stay down.
It`s not " Like beeing in a cult", it is a CULT. A cult of personality. They are idol worshipers. Worshiping their own " fake self image". And they want us to be a cult follower.
Emotional hostages are like prisoners of war or cult members. The victims are brainwashed and mind controled. People around can not understand what's going on, the abuse takes place quietly and unobtrusively. Thanks for your enlightenment Andrew. Knowledge is the way out! 🌿🙏
Heaven help! Heaven have mercy on you. . . A child a narcissist is worse then spouse because you will make every excuse - justify for their evil behavior because of you parental instincts. The trauma bond is hell to break despite other trauma bonds dispelled. I hope G-D will release you of this one. Sorry it comes with a price of your child committing an unforgivable act of evil to finally accept radical acceptance that you yourself bought down an evil spirit. Sorry to be the bearer of this info. (It will save your life)
Dont give you closure in relationships. They tell you " something is wrong with you. You are evil stupid or mad . You have moral failure" And they're dissappear.
I hope you know that's projection. You may even give a little pushback after enons of patience and all of a sudden your evil. Yaaa....b.s. this is meant to keep you in subjugation during and even after the dust up. It may have been the only one you had. But they think they are losing control. Hope this helps.
I was lucky to escape. I had to play stupid, to demonstrate that I was not the type of person to fight back, get revenge. Blow the whistle. He did disclose serious damages to others, and asked me the “ worst things “ that I may have done…. in order to have something to use against me. There wasn’t anything there. Regrets, mistakes, but no blackmailable information. Throughout, I remained polite. I begged for relief from the wasting time, from the sleep deprivation. I sat next to him crying two hours from the frustration, the hurt( no comfort, no reaction from him… cold motionless not caring) But I did not accuse, lash out. I was allowed to escape. It was my car. I’d take a carload of my stuff back to my own home. Sneak back, repeat.
Isn’t it such a great revelation to know that you had nothing he could use to blackmail you. I realized this too. We are such good upstanding people. 😃👏👏👏👏 This showed me my great value realizing this. Have a blessed day oh great one.
@@truffaut650truffaut6 The very most difficult situation, imo. Blessings and best wishes to your family. Check Angie Atkinson, Richard Grannon, Melanie Tonya_____, too. Great resources.
A guy I barely knew who was trying to date me asked me that Q out of the blue. I was really taken aback. I actually *haven't* done "bad things." And apparently that's rare? Careful with questions like that. Anything too prying. There's always an ulterior motive. I'm glad you got away. Played it cool & got out.
What I have also noticed that even Pastors from church who knows both people , don't tend to believe the Victim of a Narcissist abuse. It's because the Narcissist knows how to behave & play in front of others & are totally different behind closed doors. For 2 days I have been a voice for the Victim and no one believes. What an EVIl world we dwell in!
This happened to me. My Narcissistic wife smeared my name in the church with lies and half truths. My Priest denied, dismissed and minimized what my Doctor identified as Covert Narcissism. He became a flying monkey: an enabler and facilitator of a “ wolf in Sheep clothing “ he became part of the evil problem. I forgave, but found a new parish. This is an example of “Spiritual warfare”. Peace be with us victims.
Remember to trust in God and his great wisdom. ( I know you already do) but my point is, the abuse I sustained is a blessing in disguise and I’m seeing it so vividly now. When we are comfortable, there is no need to ask the questions in the first place. God provided the opportunities to start asking questions through our pain and discomfort. I’ve seen it time and time again. You’ve started the investigation, now drive it home. Don’t stop. It will be no time at all where these people are discovered and will be punished as deserved. Pastors included!
Yes! These individuals are totally different people behind closed doors! You never, ever would’ve or could’ve expected it! It’s actually really devastating how deceptive they can be.
“The heart of the wicked is of little worth.” From Proverbs 10:20 “The tongue of the just is as choice silver: the heart of the wicked is little worth.”
St. Benedict, St. Michael, St. Joseph terror of demons, please keep all unwanted persons from me, my home, my life, my animals. I pray for this individual - may they get help. I plead The Most Holy Precious Blood of Jeshua over me and mine. Amen 💙🙏💙
It’s hard to watch a narcissist who is a monster behind closed doors then act like a saint in public. If you tried to explain to people who that person really is they wouldn’t believe you. You know the truth and it’s so hard to watch the lie in public. It’s so isolating, disheartening, disgusting. Run 🏃♀️ run as fast as you can from these people who are filled with evil-
My family doesn't believe me about my sisters narc. They have turned on me and left me fighting for my life here. I'm on disability so I have relied on them but I'm trying to take the steps to get away from here. I just feel bad and lost without my nephew's. One is 5 and non verbal with autism and the other is 16 and struggles with depression. It breaks my heart to leave them but if I don't get out of here, I may die never knowing true peace.🥹😥 the bf narc says " if you loved me, you wouldn't let ur sister make me leave". He is here because he has nothing! He needs a roof over his head and expects us to house him with he has quit 4 jobs in 7 months. He has to pay $800 in child support each month but won't even keep a job for them. And she defends him no matter what i say. It's always someone else's fault. He's gone now from the house. Not her life. However, the damage is done and my family relationships are forever changed because of this one malignant narc. They couldn't have a better term. He is a cancer that won't go away. I've read about narcs but I when I met him, I went back for a refresher and studied even more on it. She met him on FB dating and our lives will never be the same. There will be no more happy occasions together. For the first time, both mothers day and fathers day were awful for my parents. It was spent in silence or fighting. And they see me as the problem. They don't understand why he bothers me so much....he doesn't bother them, they tell me. They like him around. He pretended he was committing suicide. Texted my sister he swallowed a bottle of pills and was drinking. They saw me in distress and I threatened to end my life. And they compare the 2. So if I bring that up, they say well u threaten it. So one night I took my 2 dog urns and took a bunch of pills not expecting to wake up but by the Grace of God, I did. And they still call it a "threat". It was like they were disappointed I didn't succeed. There's so much more but I just can't believe what I learned thru all this. My family was never my true support system if they could be stolen like they were. He kept saying he doesn't have family and I knew right then he was after mine. I never expected him to succeed though. I'm heartbroken 💔 I'm just now trying to move forward and put one foot in front of the other to get out of this house or narc horrors! Thank you for this video and all the comments here! This comment from @Tigers999 describes this narc.
I wanted to tell his newest supply about him too but they won’t believe me. I wouldn’t have believed it either. I pray for her daily because I’ve lived what she’s going through right now and what she will be going through when he discards her. I don’t understand why her family doesn’t see the manipulation unless he’s manipulated them too.
So true! He even charged me rent although. The house was paid for, 10:26 and let me buy the majority of the food, intimacy disappeared. Luckily I bought a tiny home, My safe place, and got out.
I was at the opposite of the rent thing. He refused to charge me rent then ran around the neighborhood telling people that I don’t pay rent. A friend told me that the reason he’s not charging me rent is so that he can hold it over my head, very true. According to him because of this I’m not supposed to have any control over anything that belongs to me. He threw out food belonging to me with the excuse that the expectation date was old. It was already thrown out so that I couldn’t look at it for myself. He’s said other manipulative things to me but I refused to listen so my vehicle was broken into. Gee I wonder why that happened 🤪
@@truffaut650truffaut6 I had another boyfriend like that, those types look for what’s called a cash cow 🐮 and that’s exactly how I felt so I managed to move out of state just to get away from him and found out he replaced me with another unfortunate girl 🤪
EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL = EMOTIONAL HOSTAGE Therefore the acronym "FOG"..... TACTICS are to manipulate by creating FEAR - OBLIGATION - GUILT This topic needs a complete series of videos. Be strong everyone. DO NOT ACCEPT HOOVERS. DISCONNECT COMPLETELY TO OVOID THIS. Blessings to all! NAMASTE!♥
Mine convinced me to move away to another state, mine wasn't financial, he convinced me you don't have to work I would prefer you stay home, I didn't realize I was being alienated not just from family and friends back home, but never making friends here..He had friends, he would say so and so and his wife are having me over for dinner, I'll be back around 9 which meant I wasn't invited, some were friends, but others were cheating, I now know.
I was trying to attend college and every time I was leaving home I was accused of going to meet a man...omg I would get so frustrated...that would put me in so much bondage and anger..
@@Ikaros23 i believe it..she was involved in my marriage without me knowing for my entire marriage I believe...now I think he finally discarded me for the witch...
It's been almost 3 weeks since he discarded me out of no where. We were in long distance relationship for 3 years. I've blocked him & have had No Contact with him. He went straight into another relationship! I've learned that's what he's done these 3 years. He's always had women & I'm just now finding out! He used me for my money . Some days I'm ok others my heart hurts bad!💔
I am sorry you are hurting. Take time to make a list of the things you need to for yourself including all aspects. Body, Mind, Soul & Spirit. Be strong, you can do this! Blessings to you!❤
@@danielle1103 I’m sure it does. I have no reason to give anyone any indication that I’m available to play the gym dating game. I just watched a old version of that show and it cracked me up. It featured Pee Wee Herman as one of the single guys. His character is actually funny. I have a strict workout routine so I just mind my own business, if someone wants to use my time while I’m there I’m going to start charging $ 🤭😂
Great video Andrew. My ex narcissist kept me hostage emotionally from the beginning. He was always using my love for him against me. He would tell me if you really love me you'll buy me these brand new shoes. Also he would say that if I didn't do something like cook his favorite food, after a long day of work he would say I knew you didn't love me. It was always the same me trying to prove my love and him doing nothing but hurting me. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for your kind words.
Yeah this one really hits home. It's scary how strangers on the internet can describe my life the last decade. It wasn't just me, I'm not especially damaged. It's a pattern that these disordered people have and it's not special. We all have eerily similar stories... The thing about splitting assets, OMG that is so spot on.... Peace and kindness to all of you out there
It's really so uncanny down to nuance. ... and the personalities of those of us who have fallen into these traps as well. I suppose it's why stories involving archetypes are so compelling. I remember watching a somewhat recent televised court case. It was down to inflections of the eyebrows and manipulative downturn of the lips as well as behaviour; the chiding and cuckoo irrational arguments, the build up to fake crying with no tears. Wild to witness... as if the same person that I dealt with.
No. It wasn't just you. We are not alone. But this abuse is kept secret due to the inability to understand it or explain it to anyone, specially to ourselves. Blessings to you. Namaste ♥
I finally got the chance to confront him over his of web of lies. Said he was too mentally ill & damaged by women to have a relationship with me. Thus the discard. Fast forward over a year & I finally found out that he had another woman all along even tho he claimed at one point that I was the “love of his life.” Was sickening. I was recycled. We dated off & on for decades. This was not expected from a grown man in his 60’s. Could have just spoken the truth & saved my feelings & all the damage. BUT NO… probably ENJOYED being a sick lying monster. Sadly that’s my conclusion. Still can’t wrap my head around the lengths he went to with his lies. So I told him last week that he is a lying monster. That felt so so good to “out” him. Yes I’ve been trapped for a long time in that emotional state. Not free of it yet. But the truth ALWAYS stands! RECYCLED NO MORE!
Thank you again Andrew. Before I found your channel I was confused. The hoovering trauma bond was the worst. Now I blocked him. Life is getting better. I like living alone. PEACE.
The problem with saying no to male narcs it that some of them can be bigger than us, I had experiences when I said no to a bigger, heavier guy turn out to be be dangerous, because they dont like the NO and many will through insults and threats publicly and police is not always around, and these people can get upset, being pride of being upset and bigger, and it can be really frightening . Even some old ladies at night in the park can be frigtening if they are narcs and have angry dogs with them
Never sign on for caregiving … it never ends … just say no … I know how to take care of sick people .. but if I can then others can .. let them figure it out .. I tell people go to the doctor and find your kids etc to take care of you .. I’m out !
The feeling of guilt that they put you through is so draing. Using health issues to control you and have you chained to them. Even when you are not with them all the time, you knew that there would be this guilt trip put on you for enjoying time with friends relaxing. uestions like who your were with and why did you not include them? Unless I gave detailed info on the time I was away from her there would be this anger because I had fun for awhile. These videos always remind me of what I left behind as it is so easy to ruminate on the times that were good and forget all the pain it was to be with them. I hope others who may not be where some of us are can know that they are not alone going through the pain of letting go and having a better life. Wish all the best!
Such huge truth. Emotional , mentally , spiritually & it affects you physically ❤. Yes , my mother weaponized me & my father used me to cheat on my mother. I didn’t know it when I was a child. My sibilants were narcs. I was called the black sheep bcz I was the kind loving caring one . They all 4 of them would toe my hands & feet & throw me in the back yard on the green grass where the ants were at & they would lift my dress & pull my underwear down & expose me to strangers walking down the alley. One young man saw this. His little sister Mary was my friend. He pulled my underwear up & untied me. I was screaming , crying & so traumatized. This basically is what the narcs do
My wicked sister's knew I was modest. They would wait until they heard a car coming and time it to run at me just in time and pull my pants down. Evil b*tches.
Keep evil people, manipulative bad energy from my life Jesus, send St. Michael in my life. St. Michael guard & protect me & mine. ✨️🙏✨️🙏✨️🙏✨️🙏✨️🙏✨️🙏✨️🙏✨️🙏✨️
Snare in the beginning and smear at the end. Andrew is right in that once you’re out of the fog you can’t unsee and when you encounter new people you see the top color of the traffic light. I’m recovering but the damage is I don’t trust anyone anymore. The power shift makes everyone eventually smile to yourself. I see you now! Yes! The TEST TEXT!
The draining and the period of time wasted. Parasitic evil until fully satisfied every financial gain and free ride has met the evil and delusional wants and needs. His laughing hyenas cheering him on and also abusive by his pathological and vile slander. To deflect from his disgusting evil.🤢
My soon to be ex wife who is a covert narcissist is hoovering and doing everything possible or to still cause me emotional distress and pain. I would have been right there trying to set things right before my eyes were opened to her disorder. The divorce is final only a month or so away, but the closer it becomes, the more she’s trying to cause as much pain as possible. She’s still trying to suck every ounce of energy out of me. I now have borders in place, but they are getting pummeled every day. I feel it’s only going to get worse.
Hang in there. You are the most valuable person to fight for! You must fight like your bright new future depends on it. Because it does. My covert ex wife discarded me, instead of fighting for me. Divorced me and left with another guy. Good riddance. I said it (to myself) in that moment too. I don’t need someone like that in my life, and I now know why. It’s worth the hardest fight, because it comes with the greatest rewards. You must decide how hard your willing to fight to receive peace for once. Go, go, go!!!!
Your divorce is on the horizon, continue to keep your eye on the prize, and don’t let her push you around. Try to stay as solid as you’re able to during this final time with your boundaries!! Don’t allow her to suck you back in either, not that I’m telling you what to do, but the narcissist can’t change and they won’t change. Just remember you’re currently doing what’s best for you. ❤️🩹 You’re going to get through this!!! The divorce is almost there.
Narcissistic people are difficult people to be with! They always put others in no win situation and they are passive aggressive!! The truth about them are they can’t detach from their past or parents and living in the past they don’t want to grow!! I have new tactics when I smell control from anyone I leave and I don’t react it works well!! You better off being alone with your own company!
"Smelling Control" is a good one. I'll remember that and add to my observational reflex. The faster one picks upon things the better- like walking on the sidewalk and hoping over dog poop.
I can not tell you how important this video is. I wish I had found your channel years ago. My x narc had me fooled into believing that he had "autism spectrum disorder". It was a ruse. He is a full blown malignant narcissist. I met him while going through a divorce with another abusive man, possibly a narcissist also. As to the first; he took 100% of the assets in the divorce and I allowed it because I didn't want to fight. My life has been nightmare after nightmare of dealing with these vampires. This channel literally keeps me going. Thank you
Hi And Thank You For Sharing This You Are Absolutely Right.I Have Been In A Relationship With The Narcissists/Sadist For Over 9 Years Destroying My Life Self Worth And Self Esteem. I Was Recently Discarded Cruelly .What Really Hurts Is How I Was Used And Discarded The Narcissist Knew I Had Anxiety And He Used This to His Advantage giving Me Months And Yrs Of The Silent Treatment. Playing On My Emotions..I Finally Found The. Courage To finally Disconnect
They will go all out to drain and mind-f you until you crack and be the crazy one. However, when you suss this crap and they work out you know - all you’ll see is dust as they won’t want to stick around for fall out. I really feel for those who actually married one of these things. That’s got to be another level of pain and suffering - thank you so much Andrew. You should have a Professor-ship on this terror 💕
Satan was the first narcissist. He came as a snake and manipulated and fooled Adam and Ewe in the garden of Eden to believe in what he said. They listened to the snake instead of trusting God who wanted their best. ( Genesis 3: 1 in the Bible) The Joy is great when you feel free from the narcs in your life. God helped me out of a cult with a narcissistic pastor and later a narcissistic relationship. God Bless!
Even if you did prepare a script and read, why do people care?! You give us useful, reliable information with the intention of helping us heal, that’s all that matters 😊
I remember one day my son told me that at the summer party, the narc and his sidekick watched him non-stop for more than half an hour. I experienced this too. I was playing ball in the garden, the narc's daughter (also narc) literally blocked on me, without even hiding, standing motionless, checking me deeply until I left
My adult daughter is narcissistic bpd . She had put me through hell and back . Including giving her own baby up to social services and blaming her mum for her actions . She is truly vile and damages people . Thank god for people like you to help me understand what’s going on .
My ex, kicked out and blocked on every side, has harassed and tried to sneak back into my life in every way imaginable for a year and a half. It has been horrible emotionally! The police were involved and that didn't stop him. Finally he was arrested. I assure you all that I am not brainwashed! My being emotionally held hostage has nothing to do with being in a cult or being brainwashed. I was on the unwilling receiving end of a person who saw me as too valuable go let go. He stalked and harassed me. He was the brainwashed ( disconnected, disregulated, out of reality) person.
Hello Andrew and everyone. This topic is so interesting! When they know they have you "BELIEVING" them, that's exactly what happens! The Future Faking was the worst thing he could ever do to me and he knew it. He preyed on that. The GUT feeling hit me every time I asked him about our "planning our venue," and "going house hunting." Something about the look on his face gave me such a bad GUT feeling. Something was pulling me away from him. He KNEW that would keep me with him. 5 years of this, and he LOVED IT! Being Gaslit came in 2nd. He never even asked what Season would you like to get married. I would have chosen spring or summer. He didn't even care. Wherever he may be, I don't wish him "ill will," but I hope he's not holding some poor woman hostage. He handcuffed me with empty promises which ended up in a ball of SMOKE!! EXCELLENT TOPIC. ANDREW❤❤
Recently, I allow myself to grieve for the woman I was meant to be, could have been, if I weren't the scapegoat raised in a traumatized, dysfunctional, narcissistic FOO.
He knows the pain and I need financial resolution for my family. My emotional hostage situation is not being freed of the suffering and mockery of the many until this is sorted. God's karma can deal with him, whilst I have to do what I need to accomplish. Prior emotional hostage by abuse of my love and the injustice of exploitation around me and the disappearing act. Wouldn't touch him with a barge pole just the finances. In that respect one way or another this evil is still prevalent on my mind can't completely heal. 🙏... Thank you Andrew. God Bless 💜
I run away from my narcissistic family after 63 years to an other villages i lost my job i have to i development skin cancer from stres stomic pain loose waith eczema and drain me from energy ended up with PTSD onley quilt me steeling my money blaming me now from the day i was born til now on the phone. Even my mother is in it with my oldes brother ther like a conn
After a divorce he sent Xmas and birthday cards for 37 years up to now. He never sent cards to me or our two boys during our 16 year marriage. They never let go.
Andrew you have just described my life in this video. Trying to divorce him, I feel like I’m being held hostage here in the family home, both living in separate areas of the house. He is putting himself first without a thought for our 4 children…however I think now, 10 months of living like this, the kids are starting to perhaps question why things are not moving forward. He’s so obsessed on keeping the house and intent on giving me as little as possible…every day I watch the kids struggle emotionally, he’s using them as pawns with his games. I’m learning every day how to remain calm, stoic, focused. You’ve helped me so much Andrew, thankyou ❤
So powerful, your message. I follow your channel daily during the week on my way to work. I want to let you know how so very much the experience and knowledge you share has helped me on my healing path and getting out of the FOG by understanding the narcs game. Big thank you Andrew. From Germany.
Great video and "Emotional Hostage" is another clarifying description. That said, Andrew, if you were reading a script, had a knock out woman running a teleprompter, it would be nobody's business!! You mentioned "Roommate." It's what my ex-narc relationship devolved to-- "Roommates." No communication, not even Morse Code!
I can relate to the roommate scenario, I am living that now, and have in the past with the same narc. Hoping and thinking it would be different this time...never gonna happen.
Wow Andrew how can i thank you, you have no idea the joy you have brought to my life, May the almighty god bless you beyond your imagination🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙌💪💪❤❤❤
@@flowerpower4944Hmmm 🤔 not sure… what device are you reading this on? I used hearts and… the little hand gestured heart. In my response to the commenter from Prague, I used a Czech Republic flag and a Slovakia flag 😁👍
Very true! And i would say that it is the most crucial point in a narcissistic relationship. In a romantic relationship it is prevalent. And i have seen that also at work. The narcs at work pretend to be your friend and they manage to keep you hostage to be a friend only with them. Great video Andrew. Have a wonderful afternoon. ❤🫶🙏
Top video Andrew . So true. We are all emotional prisoners to a narcissist until we get educated. P.s you need to come to England to do some motivational speaking 👍
A nasty memory came to mind when i hurd you say 'leach', that word Squatter. The last narc and the one before him used that on me and even would tell the cops that when those events occurred. Came across it in my text history and old weekly planners when I was looking up other info for medical. As man, those jerks pulled what you described a many, the mental games. Slowly slipping the rug out from under you and you don't even realize it.
Andrew, thank you. How you do these videos - Unscripted - is so inspiring and perhaps because you nail it every time and keep getting stronger…it’s hard for them to believe 🤷♀️ but another amazing delivery of education and inspiration. Your passion has always inspired me. ❤🙏
I am so proud of you, of what you have achieved. All of your journey. Your bravery, your unbeatable fighting spirit. I deeply appreciate everything you have been through even though I don't know all the details. You have had times of horrific struggle and isolation. You are a winner. You are one of my hero's. Hail Chelsea Peterson.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🦅🦅🦅🌄🌅🌻🌱🌳🌼☘️❣️🌹🔥💪💯
@@mariageaney2362 we’re growing stronger now. I feel in my spirit even when my body is a little tired 😉 the blessing of growth is huge. I don’t truly know how it would have turned out without Andrew and this community. I love you.
@@gratefultobehere we are all exactly where we are meant to be at any moment in time. If we were not meant to be here we would be else where. Everything is karmicly ordained. The almighty moves in wondrous ways. I always thank god for Andrew. If he had not gone through the fire and felt the tremendous life changing burn of it we would not be on here. If I had not had the life I had and gone through the fire I would not be who I am now. My life and all my learning has shaped me into what you and others feel now. And the same to be said for your self also. What a fantastic bunch of light bearers we are...if I may be so bold!!🥳😉😸😁
@@mariageaney2362 Maria, this is so true. I don’t know how I missed this message earlier. Thank you again for all your positive messages, spirit, energy, love, creativity…grateful to be here traveling with you and others in the now as Andrew has told us daily “we are not alone”. We do make a difference (for GOOD and LIGHT and LOVE). Bold truth. Thank you for that reminder. I have confirmation in my GUT and heart 🙏💖 Hoping you’re getting a solid night of sleep as you need AND DESERVE 🤗
Andrew, your FREE FLOW ROCKS!! Keep ON keepin' ON!! 🤘🤘💪💪🌟🌟 Ya know, I keep SMH'ing that these NARC stories are like from a playbook---same stories, same abusive behaviors, same bullshit--how can this not be "other DARK worldly??" #fromthepods #evilentities #antigod
He's so scared of loosing me now that the mask rarely slips. I realise, however that there's much more to me and to a loving fulfilling relationship... I'm way too awakened and aware now thanks to video's like yours. Thank you 🙏🏻
Reality is that he is just afraid of losing his narcissistic supply and feeling of control. To the narcissist the victim ( You/we), are just like a tv, toaster, fridge, car or other object to them. They are always searching for new supply
Free flow on Andrew. Don't sweat the haters. Successful people cheer others on for success. Misery lashes out and diminishes others to their own ends Misery loves company. I don't know about you but I prefer company that isn't miserable
So true about moving away as far as possible, but be still harassed by phone calls, guilt-tripping, visits (invasions without invitation or warning). Demons!
Wow right on the money here. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. The few times he was so nice, I was shocked, like wow who is this guy? But it doesn’t last long. He is an empty shell and he will never find happiness. Every time I got a Hoover it set me back and I felt I had to get over the relationship all over again. Even though I never answered it was still very difficult. I am well on the healing path now. I still have moments but it’s incredible that now that I’m on the outside looking in … I see it all and wondered why did I take him back so many times? Now I know because I’m getting the knowledge right here with you. Thank you Andrew
Great video, Andrew. I can finally say that I ignore or delete the hoovers and move on without being triggered. There was a time not long ago when I would be sucked into the emotional turmoil upon receiving a hoover and they seem to have lessened but I know that as long as the narcs are living and have the means to do so, will rear their ugly head to try and get some kind of reaction from me. In which case, I guess I just need to become more boring than I already am? 😊✌️❤️🤓😎
LOL! I doubt you are boring at all. But wherever it takes to keep the distance from the narc is understandable. Blessings to you! (you made me laugh) 💗
@lourdesecheverria6209 if only you knew how mundane my life is, you would definitely change your mind about my not being boring, but I do try to make it interesting, even if only for myself...otherwise I become bored with myself...but I thank you for your vote of confidence and I am glad that I made you laugh. Laughter is always good, especially when one is going through and coming out of and healing from traumatic experiences. Tears, laughter, and prayers should not be suppressed but allowed to flow freely and not continue to be viewed as weaknesses but rather as strengths, even if only done in private. God bless you on your journey. 🙏 ✌️❤️🤓😎
"Shopping for humans." Perfectly stated.
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They dont shop, they give birth to them and then cultivate their children's friends.
The narcissist is like an angler fish. There's a lure dangling there, and when you reach for it, you're gobbled. Be careful out there.
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Nothing is going to chew me up again.
My observations and intuition is now on full power, never again 😂😂❤❤🧘
I Agree with you🦈🦂🦂🦂🦂🦂Never Again My Friend☝️👍✊👏👏✌
Finding Nemo. Finding Dori..it always ends up back at a Disney remake of old classics
From Grimm to Hans Christian Anderson to Pinnochio to the Snow queen..legends are lessons... Oscar Wilde (Samuel) Poems.and Pros
Narcissus. Prof Sam V reminded me of it in one of his recent talks. I had forgotten..I must admit that my Random Access Memory drive has been so busy its been smoking and skreeetchig a bit as of late. Like nails on A chalkboard...its a gen x thing ..screaming goats. Do a search if you want to know what makes some of us laugh until our cheeks hurt. It's how we cope. Fainting screaming goats are rare, but no worries.. when they faint, their breath catches up, and they get up eventually.. just don't push em too hard.. They may decide to just stay down.
I’m free of her. She can do all she can plotting against me. I will never love her again. She’s dead to me
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That narcissist is worthless
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Cheap 🤥
It’s tricky abuse-you feel bad= they feel Good
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It's like being in a cult.
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Seriously, it is. It's constant confusion and isolation without knowing what the hell is really going on.
@@manuellaarbeit5481What cult was that?
It`s not " Like beeing in a cult", it is a CULT. A cult of personality. They are idol worshipers. Worshiping their own " fake self image". And they want us to be a cult follower.
I called my narc an emotional terrorist. He laughed. I didn’t have a clue what I was in at that time.
I hear you
Emotional hostages are like prisoners of war or cult members. The victims are brainwashed and mind controled.
People around can not understand what's going on, the abuse takes place quietly and unobtrusively.
Thanks for your enlightenment Andrew.
Knowledge is the way out! 🌿🙏
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Such truth be known to all . Thank you 🙏 for sharing 🙏💕🌹🌹🌈
Prisoners of war… exactly. Well said! 🙏💯
💗💃 Don't be low hanging fruit people, sitting around waiting for the narcissist/toxic person return, as you waste your life away.
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Children learn from their parents. This is probably a learned behavior
OMG guys!!!! My car gas tank is full, I've "paid rent" to a friend, and my car is packed!!!! Getting closer!!!!! 😊😊 There's a brighter road ahead!
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That’s wonderful!!! 🩵
I have a daughter who is a narcissist. I have no idea what to do. Thank you Andrew.
Heaven help! Heaven have mercy on you. . . A child a narcissist is worse then spouse because you will make every excuse - justify for their evil behavior because of you parental instincts. The trauma bond is hell to break despite other trauma bonds dispelled. I hope G-D will release you of this one. Sorry it comes with a price of your child committing an unforgivable act of evil to finally accept radical acceptance that you yourself bought down an evil spirit. Sorry to be the bearer of this info. (It will save your life)
Go no contact with her..
Andrew is a God send 🖤💜❤️
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Dont give you closure in relationships. They tell you " something is wrong with you. You are evil stupid or mad . You have moral failure" And they're dissappear.
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I hope you know that's projection. You may even give a little pushback after enons of patience and all of a sudden your evil. Yaaa....b.s. this is meant to keep you in subjugation during and even after the dust up. It may have been the only one you had. But they think they are losing control. Hope this helps.
@@bradmcewen I was just about to type "Projection." This community is on its toes.👍
@@jhavajoe3792 As one , we got tricked. As a community of knowledge we are wiser and have evolved. ✊
I was lucky to escape.
I had to play stupid, to demonstrate that I was not the type of person to fight back, get revenge.
Blow the whistle.
He did disclose serious damages to others, and asked me the “ worst things “ that I may have done…. in order to have something to use against me.
There wasn’t anything there.
Regrets, mistakes, but no blackmailable information.
Throughout, I remained polite. I begged for relief from the wasting time, from the sleep deprivation.
I sat next to him crying two hours from the frustration, the hurt( no comfort, no
reaction from him… cold motionless not caring)
But I did not accuse, lash out.
I was allowed to escape.
It was my car.
I’d take a carload of my stuff back to my own home. Sneak back, repeat.
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Isn’t it such a great revelation to know that you had nothing he could use to blackmail you. I realized this too. We are such good upstanding people. 😃👏👏👏👏 This showed me my great value realizing this. Have a blessed day oh great one.
With shared children custody not possible.
@@truffaut650truffaut6 The very most difficult situation, imo.
Blessings and best wishes to your family.
Check Angie Atkinson, Richard Grannon, Melanie Tonya_____, too.
Great resources.
A guy I barely knew who was trying to date me asked me that Q out of the blue. I was really taken aback. I actually *haven't* done "bad things." And apparently that's rare? Careful with questions like that. Anything too prying. There's always an ulterior motive. I'm glad you got away. Played it cool & got out.
"romance to roommate" wow, yeah. sounds like my marriage.
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Yes, years of being roommates, and not even roommates, since roommates help pay the bills, right? He lived with me as a leach for 12 years.
Yes that was my marriage, I didn't know that at the time he was grooming his new supply 😂
What I have also noticed that even Pastors from church who knows both people , don't tend to believe the Victim of a Narcissist abuse. It's because the Narcissist knows how to behave & play in front of others & are totally different behind closed doors. For 2 days I have been a voice for the Victim and no one believes. What an EVIl world we dwell in!
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This happened to me. My Narcissistic wife smeared my name in the church with lies and half truths. My Priest denied, dismissed and minimized what my Doctor identified as Covert Narcissism. He became a flying monkey: an enabler and facilitator of a “ wolf in Sheep clothing “ he became part of the evil problem. I forgave, but found a new parish. This is an example of “Spiritual warfare”. Peace be with us victims.
Remember to trust in God and his great wisdom. ( I know you already do) but my point is, the abuse I sustained is a blessing in disguise and I’m seeing it so vividly now.
When we are comfortable, there is no need to ask the questions in the first place. God provided the opportunities to start asking questions through our pain and discomfort.
I’ve seen it time and time again. You’ve started the investigation, now drive it home. Don’t stop. It will be no time at all where these people are discovered and will be punished as deserved. Pastors included!
Maybe the pastor is one of them.
Yes! These individuals are totally different people behind closed doors! You never, ever would’ve or could’ve expected it! It’s actually really devastating how deceptive they can be.
“The heart of the wicked is of little worth.” From Proverbs 10:20
“The tongue of the just is as choice silver: the heart of the wicked is little worth.”
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St. Benedict, St. Michael, St. Joseph terror of demons, please keep all unwanted persons from me, my home, my life, my animals. I pray for this individual - may they get help. I plead The Most Holy Precious Blood of Jeshua over me and mine. Amen 💙🙏💙
It’s hard to watch a narcissist who is a monster behind closed doors then act like a saint in public. If you tried to explain to people who that person really is they wouldn’t believe you. You know the truth and it’s so hard to watch the lie in public. It’s so isolating, disheartening, disgusting. Run 🏃♀️ run as fast as you can from these people who are filled with evil-
My family doesn't believe me about my sisters narc. They have turned on me and left me fighting for my life here. I'm on disability so I have relied on them but I'm trying to take the steps to get away from here. I just feel bad and lost without my nephew's. One is 5 and non verbal with autism and the other is 16 and struggles with depression. It breaks my heart to leave them but if I don't get out of here, I may die never knowing true peace.🥹😥 the bf narc says " if you loved me, you wouldn't let ur sister make me leave". He is here because he has nothing! He needs a roof over his head and expects us to house him with he has quit 4 jobs in 7 months. He has to pay $800 in child support each month but won't even keep a job for them. And she defends him no matter what i say. It's always someone else's fault. He's gone now from the house. Not her life. However, the damage is done and my family relationships are forever changed because of this one malignant narc. They couldn't have a better term. He is a cancer that won't go away. I've read about narcs but I when I met him, I went back for a refresher and studied even more on it. She met him on FB dating and our lives will never be the same. There will be no more happy occasions together. For the first time, both mothers day and fathers day were awful for my parents. It was spent in silence or fighting. And they see me as the problem. They don't understand why he bothers me so much....he doesn't bother them, they tell me. They like him around. He pretended he was committing suicide. Texted my sister he swallowed a bottle of pills and was drinking. They saw me in distress and I threatened to end my life. And they compare the 2. So if I bring that up, they say well u threaten it. So one night I took my 2 dog urns and took a bunch of pills not expecting to wake up but by the Grace of God, I did. And they still call it a "threat". It was like they were disappointed I didn't succeed. There's so much more but I just can't believe what I learned thru all this. My family was never my true support system if they could be stolen like they were. He kept saying he doesn't have family and I knew right then he was after mine. I never expected him to succeed though. I'm heartbroken 💔 I'm just now trying to move forward and put one foot in front of the other to get out of this house or narc horrors! Thank you for this video and all the comments here! This comment from @Tigers999 describes this narc.
what if it's your neighbor
My narc is that way. Saint in public, total jerk at home.
I wanted to tell his newest supply about him too but they won’t believe me. I wouldn’t have believed it either. I pray for her daily because I’ve lived what she’s going through right now and what she will be going through when he discards her. I don’t understand why her family doesn’t see the manipulation unless he’s manipulated them too.
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So true! He even charged me rent although. The house was paid for, 10:26 and let me buy the majority of the food, intimacy disappeared.
Luckily I bought a tiny home, My safe place, and got out.
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I was at the opposite of the rent thing. He refused to charge me rent then ran around the neighborhood telling people that I don’t pay rent. A friend told me that the reason he’s not charging me rent is so that he can hold it over my head, very true. According to him because of this I’m not supposed to have any control over anything that belongs to me. He threw out food belonging to me with the excuse that the expectation date was old. It was already thrown out so that I couldn’t look at it for myself. He’s said other manipulative things to me but I refused to listen so my vehicle was broken into. Gee I wonder why that happened 🤪
He was neither charging nor paying. I paid for almost everything ALONE.
@@truffaut650truffaut6 I had another boyfriend like that, those types look for what’s called a cash cow 🐮 and that’s exactly how I felt so I managed to move out of state just to get away from him and found out he replaced me with another unfortunate girl 🤪
He charged me rent. I then found out the benefits office was paying his rent.
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Thank you Andrew for such a great video. Shocking when I look back at what I tolerated.
EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL = EMOTIONAL HOSTAGE Therefore the acronym "FOG"..... TACTICS are to manipulate by creating FEAR - OBLIGATION - GUILT This topic needs a complete series of videos. Be strong everyone. DO NOT ACCEPT HOOVERS. DISCONNECT COMPLETELY TO OVOID THIS. Blessings to all! NAMASTE!♥
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I agree with this topic of videos. Also FOGS=Fear+Obligation+Guilt+Shame.
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Wow, this is helpful to healing. Thank you. Fear- obligation -guilt . Just incredibly accurate.
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Emotional Hostages!!!!!...... Excellent statement 👍🙏.
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Mine convinced me to move away to another state, mine wasn't financial, he convinced me you don't have to work I would prefer you stay home, I didn't realize I was being alienated not just from family and friends back home, but never making friends here..He had friends, he would say so and so and his wife are having me over for dinner, I'll be back around 9 which meant I wasn't invited, some were friends, but others were cheating, I now know.
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Ask yourself if you are free.
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I was trying to attend college and every time I was leaving home I was accused of going to meet a man...omg I would get so frustrated...that would put me in so much bondage and anger..
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When I hear stuff like that, I start HOPING for a meet-up with someone new. 😂
This was the confession of the narcissism. That is they where cheating on you
@@Ikaros23 i believe it..she was involved in my marriage without me knowing for my entire marriage I believe...now I think he finally discarded me for the witch...
It's been almost 3 weeks since he discarded me out of no where. We were in long distance relationship for 3 years. I've blocked him & have had No Contact with him.
He went straight into another relationship! I've learned that's what he's done these 3 years. He's always had women & I'm just now finding out!
He used me for my money .
Some days I'm ok others my heart hurts bad!💔
Make a list of that stuff for the days it hurts or you're feeling weak. And make sure you don't go back, because it's always worse the next time! ❤
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I am sorry you are hurting. Take time to make a list of the things you need to for yourself including all aspects. Body, Mind, Soul & Spirit. Be strong, you can do this! Blessings to you!❤
When I’m working out I don’t give anyone a chance to say anything to me so those human shoppers can keep looking 😂😂in another direction 👍🤪
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Good answer!! Be on the lookout for the staff members at the gym too, it happens.😉
@@danielle1103 I’m sure it does. I have no reason to give anyone any indication that I’m available to play the gym dating game. I just watched a old version of that show and it cracked me up. It featured Pee Wee Herman as one of the single guys. His character is actually funny. I have a strict workout routine so I just mind my own business, if someone wants to use my time while I’m there I’m going to start charging $ 🤭😂
Andrew I'm going to say this one time but you are truly something special and I know this isn't scripted I can hear it through your heart
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Great video Andrew. My ex narcissist kept me hostage emotionally from the beginning. He was always using my love for him against me. He would tell me if you really love me you'll buy me these brand new shoes. Also he would say that if I didn't do something like cook his favorite food, after a long day of work he would say I knew you didn't love me. It was always the same me trying to prove my love and him doing nothing but hurting me. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for your kind words.
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Toddlers / pre-k children use these phrases a lot. You are amazing.
It’s weird, I don’t recall my narc ex ever saying “If you really loved me, you would etc etc”. I think she did that in other ways.
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Yeah this one really hits home.
It's scary how strangers on the internet can describe my life the last decade.
It wasn't just me, I'm not especially damaged.
It's a pattern that these disordered people have and it's not special.
We all have eerily similar stories...
The thing about splitting assets, OMG that is so spot on....
Peace and kindness to all of you out there
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It's really so uncanny down to nuance. ... and the personalities of those of us who have fallen into these traps as well. I suppose it's why stories involving archetypes are so compelling. I remember watching a somewhat recent televised court case. It was down to inflections of the eyebrows and manipulative downturn of the lips as well as behaviour; the chiding and cuckoo irrational arguments, the build up to fake crying with no tears. Wild to witness... as if the same person that I dealt with.
No. It wasn't just you. We are not alone. But this abuse is kept secret due to the inability to understand it or explain it to anyone, specially to ourselves. Blessings to you. Namaste ♥
It is a very one-dimensional disorder. The narcs are like clones, shells.
I finally got the chance to confront him over his of web of lies. Said he was too mentally ill & damaged by women to have a relationship with me. Thus the discard.
Fast forward over a year & I finally found out that he had another woman all along even tho he claimed at one point that I was the “love of his life.”
Was sickening. I was recycled. We dated off & on for decades. This was not expected from a grown man in his 60’s. Could have just spoken the truth & saved my feelings & all the damage. BUT NO… probably ENJOYED being a sick lying monster. Sadly that’s my conclusion. Still can’t wrap my head around the lengths he went to with his lies.
So I told him last week that he is a lying monster. That felt so so good to “out” him.
Yes I’ve been trapped for a long time in that emotional state. Not free of it yet. But the truth ALWAYS stands!
RECYCLED NO MORE!
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Frustrating as hell to finally figure it out, but I suppose the same lessons repeat for us all unless and until we do.
Thank you again Andrew.
Before I found your channel I was confused.
The hoovering trauma bond was the worst.
Now I blocked him. Life is getting better.
I like living alone. PEACE.
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Yes, the keep recycling their supplies even after blowing their earlier relationship.
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Yes, that’s how it works but if you stay out you are save!!!
Could not be more true. They feed on the angst
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The problem with saying no to male narcs it that some of them can be bigger than us, I had experiences when I said no to a bigger, heavier guy turn out to be be dangerous, because they dont like the NO and many will through insults and threats publicly and police is not always around, and these people can get upset, being pride of being upset and bigger, and it can be really frightening . Even some old ladies at night in the park can be frigtening if they are narcs and have angry dogs with them
I went from fiancé, to nursing assistant for his elderly bedbound mother, the first 5 years of our marriage, to a whipping post the entire marriage.
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Never sign on for caregiving … it never ends … just say no … I know how to take care of sick people .. but if I can then others can .. let them figure it out .. I tell people go to the doctor and find your kids etc to take care of you .. I’m out !
I was called at work on my cell to tell me what he wanted for dinner and to stop and pickup the food .
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Sounds kind of familiar, actually. 😂
Shocker! Not surprised....
The feeling of guilt that they put you through is so draing. Using health issues to control you and have you chained to them. Even when you are not with them all the time, you knew that there would be this guilt trip put on you for enjoying time with friends relaxing. uestions like who your were with and why did you not include them? Unless I gave detailed info on the time I was away from her there would be this anger because I had fun for awhile. These videos always remind me of what I left behind as it is so easy to ruminate on the times that were good and forget all the pain it was to be with them. I hope others who may not be where some of us are can know that they are not alone going through the pain of letting go and having a better life. Wish all the best!
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You are right because that’s exactly what’s been happening to me 👍
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Such huge truth. Emotional , mentally , spiritually & it affects you physically ❤. Yes , my mother weaponized me & my father used me to cheat on my mother. I didn’t know it when I was a child. My sibilants were narcs. I was called the black sheep bcz I was the kind loving caring one . They all 4 of them would toe my hands & feet & throw me in the back yard on the green grass where the ants were at & they would lift my dress & pull my underwear down & expose me to strangers walking down the alley. One young man saw this. His little sister Mary was my friend. He pulled my underwear up & untied me. I was screaming , crying & so traumatized. This basically is what the narcs do
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My wicked sister's knew I was modest. They would wait until they heard a car coming and time it to run at me just in time and pull my pants down. Evil b*tches.
Keep evil people, manipulative bad energy from my life Jesus, send St. Michael in my life. St. Michael guard & protect me & mine.
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Snare in the beginning and smear at the end. Andrew is right in that once you’re out of the fog you can’t unsee and when you encounter new people you see the top color of the traffic light. I’m recovering but the damage is I don’t trust anyone anymore. The power shift makes everyone eventually smile to yourself. I see you now! Yes! The TEST TEXT!
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The draining and the period of time wasted. Parasitic evil until fully satisfied every financial gain and free ride has met the evil and delusional wants and needs. His laughing hyenas cheering him on and also abusive by his pathological and vile slander. To deflect from his disgusting evil.🤢
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Narcissists are only good for wasting our time and money. It's as if it's a specialty of theirs.
IT WOULDN'T MATTER TO ME IF YOU WERE READING FROM A SCRIPT! YOUR AMAZING AND FULL OF MUCH NEEDED INFO & WISDOM FOR ALL OF US! THANKS! 💯
My soon to be ex wife who is a covert narcissist is hoovering and doing everything possible or to still cause me emotional distress and pain. I would have been right there trying to set things right before my eyes were opened to her disorder. The divorce is final only a month or so away, but the closer it becomes, the more she’s trying to cause as much pain as possible. She’s still trying to suck every ounce of energy out of me. I now have borders in place, but they are getting pummeled every day. I feel it’s only going to get worse.
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Hang in there. You are the most valuable person to fight for! You must fight like your bright new future depends on it. Because it does. My covert ex wife discarded me, instead of fighting for me. Divorced me and left with another guy. Good riddance. I said it (to myself) in that moment too. I don’t need someone like that in my life, and I now know why.
It’s worth the hardest fight, because it comes with the greatest rewards. You must decide how hard your willing to fight to receive peace for once. Go, go, go!!!!
I am still married people
@@priscillathompson77 What? Where did that come from? Are you the soon to be ex? Please explain your comment, I’m confused!
Your divorce is on the horizon, continue to keep your eye on the prize, and don’t let her push you around. Try to stay as solid as you’re able to during this final time with your boundaries!! Don’t allow her to suck you back in either, not that I’m telling you what to do, but the narcissist can’t change and they won’t change. Just remember you’re currently doing what’s best for you. ❤️🩹 You’re going to get through this!!! The divorce is almost there.
Narcissistic people are difficult people to be with! They always put others in no win situation and they are passive aggressive!! The truth about them are they can’t detach from their past or parents and living in the past they don’t want to grow!! I have new tactics when I smell control from anyone I leave and I don’t react it works well!! You better off being alone with your own company!
"Smelling Control" is a good one. I'll remember that and add to my observational reflex.
The faster one picks upon things the better- like walking on the sidewalk and hoping over
dog poop.
I can not tell you how important this video is. I wish I had found your channel years ago. My x narc had me fooled into believing that he had "autism spectrum disorder". It was a ruse. He is a full blown malignant narcissist. I met him while going through a divorce with another abusive man, possibly a narcissist also. As to the first; he took 100% of the assets in the divorce and I allowed it because I didn't want to fight. My life has been nightmare after nightmare of dealing with these vampires. This channel literally keeps me going. Thank you
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Thank you@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
Please give yourself time to heal between relationships, KNOW THE RED FLAGS
The more we tap into the devine energy, the more we get rewarded
Yes indeed,, my dilemma as you speak.. emotional hostage
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Narcissist have a undetectable Radar!!!!.....Hahahahaha!!...so true 👍🤣
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Hi And Thank You For Sharing This You Are Absolutely
Right.I Have Been In A Relationship With The Narcissists/Sadist
For Over 9 Years Destroying My Life Self Worth And Self Esteem.
I Was Recently Discarded Cruelly .What Really Hurts Is How I Was Used
And Discarded The Narcissist Knew I Had Anxiety And He Used This to
His Advantage giving Me Months And Yrs Of The Silent Treatment.
Playing On My Emotions..I Finally Found The. Courage To finally Disconnect
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Omygoodness dear if you can get out
Get out
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I Have I Was Discarded
They will go all out to drain and mind-f you until you crack and be the crazy one. However, when you suss this crap and they work out you know - all you’ll see is dust as they won’t want to stick around for fall out. I really feel for those who actually married one of these things. That’s got to be another level of pain and suffering - thank you so much Andrew. You should have a Professor-ship on this terror 💕
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Satan was the first narcissist. He came as a snake and manipulated and fooled Adam and Ewe in the garden of Eden to believe in what he said. They listened to the snake instead of trusting God who wanted their best. ( Genesis 3: 1 in the Bible)
The Joy is great when you feel free from the narcs in your life. God helped me out of a cult with a narcissistic pastor and later a narcissistic relationship. God Bless!
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Even if you did prepare a script and read, why do people care?! You give us useful, reliable information with the intention of helping us heal, that’s all that matters 😊
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I'm still an emotional hostage from this abuse. God help me. Its so hard and takes so much work.
I remember one day my son told me that at the summer party, the narc and his sidekick watched him non-stop for more than half an hour. I experienced this too. I was playing ball in the garden, the narc's daughter (also narc) literally blocked on me, without even hiding, standing motionless, checking me deeply until I left
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Phew, that's weird. Reptiles do that too!
Are narcs even human? Kr cross-breeds?
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Thank you so much for your videos! (Hello from central Europe, Prague)
🙌🙌😁👍🇨🇿 I used to date a guy from Kosice (Slovakia🇸🇰) 😁😌😌😌 memorieees 🤭 Have a wonderful day!
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My adult daughter is narcissistic bpd . She had put me through hell and back . Including giving her own baby up to social services and blaming her mum for her actions . She is truly vile and damages people . Thank god for people like you to help me understand what’s going on .
My ex, kicked out and blocked on every side, has harassed and tried to sneak back into my life in every way imaginable for a year and a half. It has been horrible emotionally! The police were involved and that didn't stop him. Finally he was arrested. I assure you all that I am not brainwashed! My being emotionally held hostage has nothing to do with being in a cult or being brainwashed. I was on the unwilling receiving end of a person who saw me as too valuable go let go. He stalked and harassed me. He was the brainwashed ( disconnected, disregulated, out of reality) person.
Hello Andrew and everyone. This topic is so interesting! When they know they have you "BELIEVING" them, that's exactly what happens! The Future Faking was the worst thing he could ever do to me and he knew it. He preyed on that. The GUT feeling hit me every time I asked him about our "planning our venue," and "going house hunting." Something about the look on his face gave me such a bad GUT feeling. Something was pulling me away from him. He KNEW that would keep me with him. 5 years of this, and he LOVED IT! Being Gaslit came in 2nd. He never even asked what Season would you like to get married. I would have chosen spring or summer. He didn't even care.
Wherever he may be, I don't wish him "ill will," but I hope he's not holding some poor woman hostage. He handcuffed me with empty promises which ended up in a ball of SMOKE!!
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Recently, I allow myself to grieve for the woman I was meant to be, could have been, if I weren't the scapegoat raised in a traumatized, dysfunctional, narcissistic FOO.
He knows the pain and I need financial resolution for my family. My emotional hostage situation is not being freed of the suffering and mockery of the many until this is sorted. God's karma can deal with him, whilst I have to do what I need to accomplish. Prior emotional hostage by abuse of my love and the injustice of exploitation around me and the disappearing act. Wouldn't touch him with a barge pole just the finances. In that respect one way or another this evil is still prevalent on my mind can't completely heal. 🙏... Thank you Andrew. God Bless 💜
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The Son of God can set you free...he did it for me he will do it for you just believe...
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I run away from my narcissistic family after 63 years to an other villages i lost my job i have to i development skin cancer from stres stomic pain loose waith eczema and drain me from energy ended up with PTSD onley quilt me steeling my money blaming me now from the day i was born til now on the phone. Even my mother is in it with my oldes brother ther like a conn
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Thanks Andrew. I needed some reality to keep me far away from the fog.
After a divorce he sent Xmas and birthday cards for 37 years up to now.
He never sent cards to me or our two boys during our 16 year marriage. They never let go.
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Andrew you have just described my life in this video. Trying to divorce him, I feel like I’m being held hostage here in the family home, both living in separate areas of the house. He is putting himself first without a thought for our 4 children…however I think now, 10 months of living like this, the kids are starting to perhaps question why things are not moving forward. He’s so obsessed on keeping the house and intent on giving me as little as possible…every day I watch the kids struggle emotionally, he’s using them as pawns with his games. I’m learning every day how to remain calm, stoic, focused. You’ve helped me so much Andrew, thankyou ❤
So powerful, your message. I follow your channel daily during the week on my way to work. I want to let you know how so very much the experience and knowledge you share has helped me on my healing path and getting out of the FOG by understanding the narcs game. Big thank you Andrew. From Germany.
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Great video and "Emotional Hostage" is another clarifying description. That said, Andrew, if you were
reading a script, had a knock out woman running a teleprompter, it would be nobody's business!!
You mentioned "Roommate." It's what my ex-narc relationship devolved to-- "Roommates." No communication, not even Morse Code!
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I can relate to the roommate scenario, I am living that now, and have in the past with the same narc. Hoping and thinking it would be different this time...never gonna happen.
Those days will never come
It’s not my house but I will be out soon enough so the fe fi fo fum can have it back 🤪
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Good message, thank you.
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Wow Andrew how can i thank you, you have no idea the joy you have brought to my life, May the almighty god bless you beyond your imagination🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙌💪💪❤❤❤
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When a person speaks with deep conviction ....as Andrew does...there is never any need for a script.
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Jennifer what's them boxes mean, I see them often,???🌹🦋🌿🌴❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@flowerpower4944Hmmm 🤔 not sure… what device are you reading this on? I used hearts and… the little hand gestured heart. In my response to the commenter from Prague, I used a Czech Republic flag and a Slovakia flag 😁👍
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She was lying to me and cheating g behind my back. 17 years together and finally she is pregnant from her coworker……
Thank you for your videos brother 🌈🌈God bless you and everyone God has connected to your ministry of revelation 🌈🌈
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Wow, you said a mouthful there!
I can unfortunately corroborate that! :(
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Very true! And i would say that it is the most crucial point in a narcissistic relationship. In a romantic relationship it is prevalent. And i have seen that also at work. The narcs at work pretend to be your friend and they manage to keep you hostage to be a friend only with them. Great video Andrew. Have a wonderful afternoon. ❤🫶🙏
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Top video Andrew . So true. We are all emotional prisoners to a narcissist until we get educated. P.s you need to come to England to do some motivational speaking 👍
Mine is a drama queen. He wakes up crying, moaning, mad, blaming, literally pouting.
A nasty memory came to mind when i hurd you say 'leach', that word Squatter. The last narc and the one before him used that on me and even would tell the cops that when those events occurred. Came across it in my text history and old weekly planners when I was looking up other info for medical. As man, those jerks pulled what you described a many, the mental games. Slowly slipping the rug out from under you and you don't even realize it.
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Andrew, thank you. How you do these videos - Unscripted - is so inspiring and perhaps because you nail it every time and keep getting stronger…it’s hard for them to believe 🤷♀️ but another amazing delivery of education and inspiration. Your passion has always inspired me. ❤🙏
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I am so proud of you, of what you have achieved. All of your journey. Your bravery, your unbeatable fighting spirit.
I deeply appreciate everything you have been through even though I don't know all the details.
You have had times of horrific struggle and isolation.
You are a winner.
You are one of my hero's.
Hail Chelsea Peterson.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🦅🦅🦅🌄🌅🌻🌱🌳🌼☘️❣️🌹🔥💪💯
@@mariageaney2362 we’re growing stronger now. I feel in my spirit even when my body is a little tired 😉 the blessing of growth is huge.
I don’t truly know how it would have turned out without Andrew and this community. I love you.
@@gratefultobehere we are all exactly where we are meant to be at any moment in time.
If we were not meant to be here we would be else where.
Everything is karmicly ordained.
The almighty moves in wondrous ways.
I always thank god for Andrew.
If he had not gone through the fire and felt the tremendous life changing burn of it we would not be on here.
If I had not had the life I had and gone through the fire I would not be who I am now.
My life and all my learning has shaped me into what you and others feel now.
And the same to be said for your self also.
What a fantastic bunch of light bearers we are...if I may be so bold!!🥳😉😸😁
@@mariageaney2362 Maria, this is so true. I don’t know how I missed this message earlier. Thank you again for all your positive messages, spirit, energy, love, creativity…grateful to be here traveling with you and others in the now as Andrew has told us daily “we are not alone”. We do make a difference (for GOOD and LIGHT and LOVE). Bold truth. Thank you for that reminder. I have confirmation in my GUT and heart 🙏💖
Hoping you’re getting a solid night of sleep as you need AND DESERVE 🤗
Kids are a major tool in the box
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Andrew, your FREE FLOW ROCKS!! Keep ON keepin' ON!! 🤘🤘💪💪🌟🌟 Ya know, I keep SMH'ing that these NARC stories are like from a playbook---same stories, same abusive behaviors, same bullshit--how can this not be "other DARK worldly??" #fromthepods #evilentities #antigod
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Emotional hostages. perfect for a period of time, promising you forever.
He's so scared of loosing me now that the mask rarely slips. I realise, however that there's much more to me and to a loving fulfilling relationship... I'm way too awakened and aware now thanks to video's like yours. Thank you 🙏🏻
Reality is that he is just afraid of losing his narcissistic supply and feeling of control. To the narcissist the victim ( You/we), are just like a tv, toaster, fridge, car or other object to them. They are always searching for new supply
Free flow on Andrew. Don't sweat the haters. Successful people cheer others on for success. Misery lashes out and diminishes others to their own ends
Misery loves company. I don't know about you but I prefer company that isn't miserable
I am pretty miserable at times..I don't even like myself when I'm miserable. Hense, here we are
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The ones I know show up to let me know how awesome they are doing- I find them dangerous
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Lol they make it that its their reality that matters! Til you realuze you matter!! 🙏
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So true about moving away as far as possible, but be still harassed by phone calls, guilt-tripping, visits (invasions without invitation or warning). Demons!
Manipulated emotions. So very 😔 sad really.
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Wow right on the money here. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. The few times he was so nice, I was shocked, like wow who is this guy? But it doesn’t last long. He is an empty shell and he will never find happiness. Every time I got a Hoover it set me back and I felt I had to get over the relationship all over again. Even though I never answered it was still very difficult. I am well on the healing path now. I still have moments but it’s incredible that now that I’m on the outside looking in … I see it all and wondered why did I take him back so many times? Now I know because I’m getting the knowledge right here with you. Thank you Andrew
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That's me. Thanks again very good you are right bin in it for 60 years from 13 now 73 and on my own now from Lancashire England UK pendle 🙏🇬🇧
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Great video, Andrew. I can finally say that I ignore or delete the hoovers and move on without being triggered. There was a time not long ago when I would be sucked into the emotional turmoil upon receiving a hoover and they seem to have lessened but I know that as long as the narcs are living and have the means to do so, will rear their ugly head to try and get some kind of reaction from me. In which case, I guess I just need to become more boring than I already am? 😊✌️❤️🤓😎
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LOL! I doubt you are boring at all. But wherever it takes to keep the distance from the narc is understandable. Blessings to you! (you made me laugh) 💗
@lourdesecheverria6209 if only you knew how mundane my life is, you would definitely change your mind about my not being boring, but I do try to make it interesting, even if only for myself...otherwise I become bored with myself...but I thank you for your vote of confidence and I am glad that I made you laugh. Laughter is always good, especially when one is going through and coming out of and healing from traumatic experiences. Tears, laughter, and prayers should not be suppressed but allowed to flow freely and not continue to be viewed as weaknesses but rather as strengths, even if only done in private. God bless you on your journey. 🙏 ✌️❤️🤓😎