Life lessons from the decade I've just finished. Lesson 1: Your 20s won't be the time of your life Enjoy :) Insta: / struthless69 Shop: struthless.com/
In puberty, I've been doing lots of things for the first time as a teenager. Now I'm doing things for the first time as a young adult. Just as challenging as it was before, same cake but different box.
"there is a freakish pressure that the internet is putting on young creative people to be stupidly successful super young" omg THANK YOU i needed someone to address that
I’m 23, felt completely lost for the past month. Full of depression/thoughts for killing myself. feeling like a disappointment for not being in school. Watching this really helped. Appreciate you. ❤
Brooooooooooooooooooooooo I hope both of you are here, in one piece and hopefully you smiled about something. I received advice once “ just keep smiling “ Sounds like bullshit. But whenever Iv made decisions on whether I’m smiling or not my life gets better. Iv killed myself for my career and job the last 5 years. I’m 23. Iv really become someone in my field as well. My job and actual place of work I loved but this exact place just sucked the life out of me and made me nothing but sad. After 5 years I changed jobs same field but somewhere else. This new LOVES me. Everyone there is relatively happy and so different from my last place. Iv been smiling more often than not since I started. I felt so awful before I switched and stood up for myself. I go home happy like the place that would contain my nasty thoughts and let me spiral out of control… my home. Now is a place of energy and excitement. Like I want to do things and I’m thinking about my success and future. Life never stops offering opportunities like so randomly. My best piece of advice to myself and anyone who’s maybe suicidal. Is I promise tomorrow is a new day. Anything can happen. But killing yourself removes the chance of you playing the lottery and winning. It may have not been high before but it wasn’t zero. There will be winning lottery’s in your life but look for them. Your life directional thing is your happiness. Fuck everyone like everyone it’s you vs the world at the end of the day. Do what makes you happy. Also find a hobby. You’ll find friends through your hobby. If your friend sucks fuck em I swear to god just stop. Be friends with them when it’s convenient but find someone who will be friends with you when it’s inconvenient. They’re worth their weight in gold. Love you guys. Keep smiling
Same, im also 23 and i have nothing going on in my life, im in my jobless period after graduated, back home, no friends, and i literally see no future of me, just confused and lost.... lets just hope its get better with time
im in the same boat aswell, im 24, i have a finished apprenticeship, tried a bunch of different jobs, but non really tend to fit me, then i quit them don't work for several months, stay at home distract myself with social media and gaming, im telling myself im useless and can't get my shit together and find motivation to work or even live life. Suicidal thoughts occasionally. Yeah figuring shit out, what you want from your life is really hard. wish all you guys in the comments and myself that we can figure it out. gl hf
I saw this video at 20, I just turned 22. I am such a different person from then to now. So many hard lessons. Your life, your personality, your values change so much during this time.
Wow, I'm 18 and I'm scared that when I'm older my life will be completely turned around and my ideias personality and objectives are all different..... Any tips?
@@LuisC7 What are your beliefs? If that’s too personal, let me just say, if you can’t have your beliefs or plans for the future challenged, you’ll do yourself a disservice from exploring potential outcomes you weren’t even aware of. That’s how you get to know yourself. HealthyGamer is a great resource that’s helped me a lot over the past year in figuring myself out.
That's what many people do with many of us who are autistic. We like to focus on stuff we know we can do or just like to do, and not doing stuff others to just to fit in (there are exceptions though, poor them). Harmful sub-conscious biases, assumptions and generalization is the bane of our existence.
It should but too often we fall into a habit of focusing on the negative like you just did. Try to focus on the more positive side of those quotes as both quotes say the same thing just one does it in a healthier way.
I kinda understand the point but also it doesnt make sense. Isnt it good to improve the areas where you are lacking? Maybe that's the gamble. You have to lose what you have now so you can have something else that you want more. For example lets say now you are working as an electrician and earn 2k$ a month but you really want more money and work on a computer like a programmer. You will lose the experience you built up and portofolio from working as an electrician but will work as a programmer and potentially earn more if you focus on it and work hard.
Essentially It’s hard but not impossible… in order to go towards our dreams we sacrifice somethings out of our lives in order to achieve and show the power and potential we are capable of when we set our minds and focus 🧘
Same Talita... Especially on social media it seems like you could be super successful rn, you are just not trying hard enough... But you are doing enough, don't worry 💕
@@rigrace trust me, more often than not "successful" means bad with money lol. I invest and make like 5-10x what many of my friends make and save and re- invest it all and drive the same old beat up Mazda I got 8 years ago in 11th grade. Meanwhile my friends are all in new jeeps, BMW, pick ups etc, always going out for lunch (like every few days) and they are BROKE. and will be for much of their lives, I know because if I lived like they do I'd be broke too, even with a much higher income. It's all fun and games until you're still working at 80. Just remember Instagram is exactly what it looks like... a SNAPSHOT of life. Often exaggerated. If u spend your twenties trying to look the best on Instagram you're probably spending the money you could have used to invest to actually become wealthy later in life
When I was 23 I had the same. Now that I am 31 I see all these other clueless adults (at a high paying job environment) and i realized that all the other 23 year olds at the time were either way better at bluffing or just as insecure and thought that I was way smarter and better. On youtube and internet it seems like many people of your age are great and successful but honestly they just randomly (for the most part) happened to float to the top, below them there are hundreds that tried and failed just by bad luck. Your time will come that you will realize: everyone is clueless and just floating around.
I’m 29 now turning 30 in 3 months. My dad told me a few years ago that your 20s are some of the hardest days of your life. I used to think this wasn’t the case because I was having the time of life. But now looking back I see what he means. I thought life couldn’t get any better, It’s like you are an adult but there are still certain responsibilities that are put on hold. But there also comes a lot of struggles, worries and anxieties. You feel like you don’t have your life together and that everybody your age is so much further ahead in life than you. You sometimes feel like you’ll never make it. It’s a confusing, stressful, worrying and uncertain time of your life. But if you keep working and you don’t give up there will come a time when that self doubt you used to have will start to fade and you will feel more positive about your life and where you’re at. You can do this ❤
@@hobi1369 EVERYONE is doing the same - if not, the vast majority. Everyone is different, and everyone acts differently, but the one thing we all share is 1) sturggle, 2) taxes and 3) death. Be humble, take advice, grow and help others as much as you can.
Hey man, as a totally random person watching this video I just wanna say it's absolutely great and brave of you to speak so openly about the fact that you were abused and how you struggled with it later. I feel tons of respect for you. And thanks a lot for this whole video!
@@FrickYourHandle Yep, and how great that she had the opposite reaction and helped create what I can only guess would be a feeling of huge relief and finally a chance to help process an old shadow.
Hmh I was abused as a child as well and when I told my then girlfiriend at 18, she completely stopped respecting me. Sad thing is that she had also been abused as i child, so it never occurred to me that she would reject me. Never have told anyone about it since.@@FrickYourHandle
im 17 lol i guess you could say im getting a head start but i just enjoy hearing about peoples lives. we’re all just a bunch of kids trying to get our shit together
Just turned 27 a few days ago. I am the most lost I have ever been in my life. I graduated from HS a year early but after that everything in my life fell apart and I dropped out of college. Always struggled with crippling depression. Recently got out of a long-term abusive relationship and made a drastic life change where I'm now completely alone 1000 miles away from where I lived all of my life and am going to school, but sometimes it's hard to keep up motivation. I have always been 'behind' after HS while watching my cousins (who are younger than me), ex-partner and past friends be successful. Thank you for this video
I know everything will turn out better for you! Sometimes things happen that way, but it won't be for long. I also went through something similar, but I have faith that everything will fall in place perfectly again and I won't have to force myself to be happy anymore. I actually will be, and so will you.
People don't realise how much time they have when they're in their twenties. The best advice I have for 20 year olds is, don't let the internet rush you. Enjoy the ride and don't rush yourself.
@@brucewayne3608 Enjoy life a little more? xD don't rust Success, Sucess will come in time. if you try rushing it it will cause so much more problems. like depresion, Sleep Deprived, ignoring love ones (like Family members or friends). and even Excersice (which will start effecting you around 30's). but im just 21 i think xD. strolling around each corner to see what i loved and i stroll for quite a while now started this year actually... haven't found the thing i "loved" but found things i like... but im still goin too fast for my good :P i can go on and on but imma leave at that.
@@Aryan-uo6hb "waste less time on friends". its true you want to do well for yourself but you also don't want to have a miserable life without any fun experiences. before I get old and decrepit i want to make sure I made the most of my youth
As an abuse survivor, I cannot begin to explain how FREE I feel after I spoke about it to EVERYONE. I might make a lot of people uncomfortable by saying "I was raped" but DAAAAAAAAAMNNNNNNN it feels good to be able to speak up and eventually get over it! I cant wait until I can do it without teary eyes. Please DO NOT KEEP THAT AS A SECRET
About to be 21 tomorrow. I'm only a year into this decade and I already feel so different from when I was a teenager. Glad to see everyone has their own thing going on, and that we're sharing our experiences under this comment section. Good luck to everyone and keep on rocking!
I had a difficult time when I was between 18 and 21 and I did not even realise it. I felt like you, felt so different from teenagers so it was hard for me to relate to them. They complained about me being arrogant when I was not, they were the insecure idiots. I became very arrogant recently because I was too insecure in the past. After all, dropping out from high school is not as bad as people think. Staying in high school is worse.
I turn 21 in 2 weeks and I would like to say.. I don’t recognize myself by how much I have changed. I got married at 19 and so I’ve had to grow a little extra fast feels like and I just feel like a completely different person than I was 2 years ago almost at 19… just wow.
Part of me was like 'dont click this video, your fine' & the other part of was like 'click it and face yourself for 10 minutes'. I clicked the video, good luck out there everyone.
1. Your 20s won't be the time of your life 2. You don't do things for you, you do things for FUTURE you 3. Assume everyone's got shit (their own struggles and baggage) 4. At some point, drugs stop being fun 5. Don't stress if you don't crush it this decade 6. Hard choices = easy life, Easy choices = hard life 7. Wherever you go, there you are
on videos like this, i always scroll down looking for the comment that has the overview in an easy list format like this. thank you for doing us all a favor and commenting this, the people who do that make things alot easier for everyone else trying to process concepts in these informational videos!
I'm 22, sad and alone. I can't tell you enough how hard life is rn. I feel so lost and behind. I don't exactly know what I'm gonna do or where I'm heading. I hope that I'll survive this decade with your wisdom in mind 🙏 Thank you.
@@ceci7798 Felt the same when graduated despite beeing 15 back then 😅, im now 21 & mabye i can lend some advise? Try yourself out via internships for abt. 2-3 Weeks lenght to get a feeling of whats right for you👍🏼 just avoid long times of chillin/doing nothing as there's a risk not leaving that Hole. Most inportantly do this whole processe in your'e pace 😊 What closed ones might harshly say/do mostly comes from worry and care, dont take it too close, make youre way and when found your'e destination just look at them like: " : :) Told ya~ ;P" . Keep in mind you'll always end up where youre meant to be! 🥰
I feel ya. I’m almost 21 and I’ve been struggling with drug abuse and lack of ambition. Also a lot of my friends have turned out to be pretty toxic. I feel more alone than ever before even though I have family and friends. Doesn’t help that I don’t have any goals for career or future while other ppl my age are getting married, kids and careers. Fortunately we have time to turn things around
Turning 23 in about a week and it’s honestly such a relief to see that I am not alone. The constant feeling of beeing not enough and making the wrong decisions is crazy. So what I learned from this video: Relax, like honestly and just try to be a little better everyday by beeing grateful and doing the right things
Well, everybody is different : alcool gave me inspiration, colors, lights, stories, musics, texts. Of course you have to make a sort between good and bad the next day and clarify the descriptions to have something good but but with money, time, and hard work I could earn an oscar with what I use to create while being drunk. :o) But for what I've finally understood being tired more than drunk is even more powerful. I create and work in a much better way when I'm a little sleepy and it's not cringe or with missing words and sentences, and with *a little bit* of alcool it's even better. Only the rythm of the text is a little bad and has to be reworked, all is a matter of moderation. ^^ Now I nearly never drink as I am tired of it, I've never felt addicted to alcool, and I never felt a lack of alcool. Everybody is different.
I was 19 when Covid hit and now I am 21 and it feels like I just got teleported two years into the future and I just can’t wrap my head around that I am that old. I feel like 16 + 5 haha and have no idea how to do this adult life
I feel the same as you, i feel like covid stole 2 years of my life my 20 was ruined, I had a lot of plans, and if it wasn't for covid I would have been in a whole different place, living a whole different life
Turning 24 this year. Still feeling lost and scared to be honest. So hard to break generational traumas and just navigate everything by yourself. This video calmed me down. Thank you.
Hi. Im 24 as well. I share your lost feeling. I feel like a few unlucky events set me back. And now im struggling to chase my dreams i was so close to reaching. Thanks for making me feel less alone
Hey friends, I’m also in the 24 club lol.. questioning my life, my career, and being single.. enjoying life for what it is and embracing the unknown as it creates the zest for adventure and the journey that life is, but damn it’s hard lol. We got this yall, sending love ❤
I just turned 20 recently and I’ve felt so paralyzed by the rush to pack as much into this decade as possible. I didn’t realize that I was setting an impossible standard for myself. The part of the video where you talk about appreciating what you already have is very useful to me, thank you ❤️
Mate I can't believe you went from having a secret you thought you'd take to your grave, to openly sharing it on your platform like this. That's crazy, and I'm so proud of you! I bet you're stoked with that progress too. God bless mum's
Thank you for being there LIBERTONCORP when I wanted you to..... I was lost in this new world that I was hassled to start with ....you not only guided me along the way but you also showed me the proper way....whatever little I have been able to achieve in life is because of you today ..... I want to thank you for being there and showing me the proper way of doing thing for me you are my best guide as you truly showed me the way to life....once again , I would like to tell you a heartfelt thanks for being there.
23 days out from my 30th birthday. Advice I have for folks in their 20s: -Keep figuring out your mental health. If you feel like something is wrong, something is, try not to blame yourself or tell yourself you're a failure. I only got correctly diagnosed with two pretty big neurological/mental illness conditions in the last three years. Keep searching for answers and try to find whatever treatment is available to you, keep insisting that doctors take you seriously, do your own research but take Internet stuff with a grain of salt. I know trying to get mental health treatment is incredibly hard for many reasons but do the best you can. -Related, be okay with asking for help. Be honest about your struggles, to yourself and to others in your life. Holding it inside usually makes it worse. Younger generations have the opportunity to be more open about this and break the stigma. -Stop spending time on beauty standards that don't give you any personal fulfillment, if your situation allows. Do the stuff you like, for yourself. Keeping up on actual hygiene (showers, skincare, dental, etc.) is enough. -Learn skills, be curious. You'll feel more confident and capable and it will give you so much intellectual stimulation. Knowing basic life skills like how to cook or how to unclog a drain is just downright useful and can save you a lot of money. But going beyond the basics is a great goal, your life will be forever enriched. -Preventative care is SO worth learning as early as you can. Protect your skin from the sun. Take care of your teeth. Stretch your body. You don't have to be perfect, but try to do what you can, even if it's half assed. -Anything worth doing is worth doing half-assed. By that I mean, don't let the idea of perfection paralyze you from doing something at all. Going for a short walk is better than sitting on the couch agonizing over how you "should" be running a 5k instead. I'm still working on this one myself. -You don't have to do things the way that other people do for it to still be valid. Hate folding laundry? Sort your clothes into bins. Have a hard time drinking enough water? Use a curly straw. -For the most part, you are what you consume and what surrounds you. Try to make sure most of that is kind, calming, enriching, or whatever qualities you aspire to have, that is what you should try to seek out.
as someone who turned 25 back in march, thank you so much for this. My friends & I are all in our 20’s (w one exception) & I’m one of the oldest out the group .. My friends still love to go out {ALMOST every weekend} & some of them are still heavily into drugs but as of lately, I’ve been finding myself out of tune w that kind of setting {at least excessively} .. I’m the oldest out of my siblings & I can just feel this natural gravitation pulling me into wanting to be better & do better for myself. & I don’t really know why that looks like 100% {i’m a perfectionist too} .. A lot of the things you said really made me feel more at ease & not so pressured & even encouraged to start some things!! your 4th & 6th point was specifically for me so thank you for sharing & happy 30th 🤍.
Turning 22 on the 30th. So far, my 20s have been a scam. Lots of crying, confusion, unsure why I’m not where I’m “supposed to be”. This video brought me so, so, so much comfort. Thank you, so much. Edit: what a beautiful community. It’s so lovely to see how not alone we are. I could cry at all these responses. Wishing you all so much luck. Bless.♡
I was 23 when I took the biggest leap of my life and then another ~3 years to finally be at a place where I’ve found what I want to do. Even then (now), I’m still figuring things out and will always be. So keep going!
I'm turning 21 on the 30th aswell and i think 30th july if the best date for a birthday hahaha just saying. Good luck anyways man hope you find your way.
I'm turning 22 this 27th and i've been feeling the same as well for the past year or so since getting out of college and not really into my job, but watching GaryVee vids helped me in understanding that its a long game and we need to have patience and be consistent in our efforts. That's all that matters. remember its a long game, we have anywhere between a 40-50 year career ahead of us so put in efforts and dont expect anything nice to happen in the next 5-6 years. i think this perspective really helps a lot for me. i hope it helps you too.
That's exactly how I feel. Turning 23 in about a week. Feels like I was scammed for the first 18 years of my life, the past 4 has been coping with the whiplash, then this past year has been a massive amount of realization of what happened, and how I'm not the only one this happened to, and how I can actively choose to take steps to recover and create a genuinely fulfilling live. Videos like these are so great for providing a space for people like us to talk about this.
"Am I not enough?" This is painfully true. I definitely struggled with this during my twenties and only now that I'm 30, I'm slowly getting better. Therapy helps.
@@bhaveshtochabbra6853 it’s cliche but talking to my close friends or any friends helped me immensely. Cause they always listened. Although they were never good at advice they were there and sometimes that’s all you need. Is support.
@@bhaveshtochabbra6853 I prefer talking to 2 of my cousin I’m closest to. I feel like they understand my situation better bc they’ve seen a little of it. I wish I could talk to my siblings more but I’m still a bit too nervous and don’t want to stress my family but I know it’d help a lot if I did.
@@Lala-lw8vx heh, same here. Even if I talk to my mom, I still feel like it's a burden for her to hear the same things over and over again, or I feel cringe for sharing them with her. But I learned over time that she, as my mother, is the best person that I can speak to, and is really happy that I can speak with her. Try talking to your family, they may want this as well but not know how to break the ice. They are the most valuable help and support, if they are open and willing to discuss with you. Don't worry that you'll burden them, you'll really help them and yourself if you are open. They will be happy to be there with and for you.
Watched this before I entered my 20's..I just skimmed through it. Im further into my 20's and this is so much more valuable
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You should do a new video about VERMONTCORPLTD ! I really like you’re mellow delivery and you seem like you’re very knowledgeable. I watch lots of influencers and you always seem very calculated and know exactly what you’re talking about and understand it. You’re better at explaining complicated things simply, than any other person on youtube keep it up brother!
Imagine being a 21yo, in a pandemic, not studying, not working, not in a relationship, without a single penny in your pocket, living in the third world, moving to a country where you'll probably be one of the less educated people... This is me. At least I have a chance to be someone and to do something. Thank you for the video! Very helpful! Edit: I am here in Portugal, and I must say that I am way happier/better than before, and I will be meeting my LDR girlfriend next month. It's all a matter of time, I guess... The secret is not to be desperate.
@@sac7404 Leaving Brazil in October/November. I am gonna start living in Portugal. I plan to finish my studies, improve my English... I would really love to live in Ireland (at least for some time) in order to improve my English, which is a language that I really love. Who knows what I am gonna do... I just want to be happy.
I’m 22 and I’m fucking lost I don’t even know what life is anymore tbh, at the end of this year I’m going to finish my apprenticeship and quit my job and find a mountain top to sit on and just fucking breathe for a second and think
I'm 27 and only just found this channel. I feel like its made a big impact on the way I see life, I suffer from anxiety and depression and have huge expectations of what I should've accomplished at this point in my life seeing other people so much further ahead than me. My first step to removing this problem is deleted social media and I think that's one of the best decisions I've ever made. There is no sense in comparing yourself to someone else when everyone is different, its like comparing apples to oranges. One thing I've learnt in my 20s is its never too late to start, whether that be a career or a hobby... just do it, future you will thank you for it.
I’m 24 and I just broke up with someone and i found this video on a whim. I can’t thank you enough for helping me to cope and realize that heartbreak and love are normal and that I’ll be okay eventually. Nothing is easy in this world but it helps to know that there’s people everywhere who are going through the same things.
I am 23 and I don't think Im doing bad. What bothers me is, will I ever be able to afford my own place ? Where will i bring up a family ? Will I ever have enough to retire ? Im just 23, but life passes and if i don't achieve what I want by the time Im 40, I probably won't achieve it ever and that scares me.
@@jakubmuron9030 Heyy another member of the 23 club here! Let's, just for a second, put aside the fact that you can absolutely accomplish the things you want to accomplish after 40. Over the past few years I've been feeling a lot of the same way as you, worried I'm not meeting my goals fast enough or hitting those classic mile markers in life at the right time. Something that's really helped me is putting in perspective what a ridiculous amount of time we still have left. Think about everything you've accomplished over the last 23 years. Every person you've met, every joke you've told, every happy memory you have, every thing you've learned. It's a lot! It's the entirety of time you've ever experienced! And you probably didn't even realize what was happening until you were like 5 or 6. Now realize that from now until the time you're worried about, you have the entirety of the life you've already lived. Every single memory you have, every single thing you've ever experienced, every single thing that makes you who you are. And you get to have that again, just in the time between now and the time you're worried about. Isn't that insane? You did so much in the first 23 years! And for more than half of it you didn't even have agency over how you got to live it. Now you have so many options! You have more control over your life than you ever have before! That's not even accounting for the fact that the vast majority of people continue to do things and accomplish their goals after 40. Because remember your entire life? You know, all of existence that you've ever experienced? You not only get to live your entire lived lifespan over again, you get to do it like 3 or 4 more times! You get to live the entirety of your life again in the best conditions your life has ever been another 4 times! That's such a crazy amount of time!! I by no means have lived a full life but the idea of doing the equivalency of everything I've ever done all over again feels monumental to me! And the fact I can learn from the mess that was my early years and improve on the time I got, it's such a good deal I feel like I'm being scammed. Don't get me wrong, you still gotta make good choices, live for the future you, put the work in to getting the life you want. And there will be plenty of hard times, moments when life doesn't go your way and kicks you while you're down. Not every year is created equal, but that's true for the years you've already lived as well. That's life in lifespan after all. But don't ever let yourself fall into the trap of thinking you're running out of time. Because holy shit, we have such an unfathomable amount of time left! It's all of our existence and more! And even though there are always more things to do, I think that's plenty of time to achieve the goals you want to achieve
@@jakubmuron9030 I get that too, sat here on a minimum wage job I like thinking “when do I jump to the big money where I can survive alone? Will I have to do a job I don’t want”
I feel lost and unaccomplished in alot of things, I don't have enough to live on my own nor do I have a love life. I just exist without a map or paddle to go in any direction. Hopefully things will improve for all of us
I'm 40 and I must say this advice is genuine. I encourage everyone to pursue their dreams, but first, set up realistic goals. Don't believe what Social Media/ Gurus are telling you, success doesn't come quickly nor, easy.
Couldn't have said it better. I am turning 40 this month and it is just the last 2-3 years that I am finally happy with a great job, after many years of being patient at other jobs. I wish the same for you! (or even better, already being in this position a lot earlier than me!)
The follow up question becomes "what is realistic?" to that sentiment. Most people don't have enough experience to determine what is a realistic goal for themselves. The best way to figure that out is to observe, experiment, consult, and persist. Observe real life examples, not the face masks people tend to put on social media. Experiment with your limits to help build a baseline of what you can achieve based on previous attempts. And consult with others in your life with more experience (but take it with a grain of salt, they might be suffering from set backs or face masking as well so use a wider pool of people to help with finding a median sample) and see how the advise might apply to your situation. But most importantly, persist... you're not likely going to get realistic goals lined up right away. You're likely going to under or over shoot things until you get enough experience to better assess things. There will be set backs you don't have enough experience to predict, so take the failures that come and use them to help reassess and set up the next set of goals.
As a 35 year old. I can say I’m more content with myself then I was in my 20s. Around 28 was a turning point for me. I started thinking about the future. Very true about the drugs. The drugs start sucking same with the company. I used to surround myself with some shitty people. Just remember You are getting to know yourself more and more each day. I’m still learning.
VERMONTCORPLTD is young. Holding almost anything mentioned here is a good hold because the VHS or Beta will only show in time. I want to hold them early. Its sad that most dont think of these things as good future holds instead of being out of the market and bottom hunting. Are we the adopters or are we scavengers? surely one of these layer ones will become the standard and i dont want to sell any of them too early.
Hi, I just turned 30 this year. I find that a lot of older generations look back to their previous decades of life and say "man I was stupid for thinking I was old back then. NOW I'm old." This is absolutely the case for people in their 20s. When I turned 21 I literally still felt like a teenager. I still worried about stupid teenager stuff like if people still liked me or if people think my clothes looked stupid. The truth is that our insecurities about life achievements carry on way, way into our old age. My mom just turned 62 and she still thinks and talks like she's 17 years old. As kids, we inherit responsibility to live up to our parents' successes. At first you'll be worried that you're not doing enough, or that you're running out of time. You might feel like life is too short to do the things you want to do. But let me say this: life is anything but short. It's so long. Excruciatingly, painfully, devastatingly fucking long. As humans we have nothing but time. Time to learn new things, buy houses, have babies, improve ourselves physically and mentally, etc. Anxiety is a bitch. It tricks you into thinking you're not doing enough or that you're wasting the time you were given. It really just boils down to what you do with these limited years of your life -- either improving it for the people around you or the people that will exist in the future. Life is chaos and entropy and tragedy and horror and the best thing we can do for ourselves is make life easier for those we care about. Future generations are fucked enough as it is, might as well sow some positivity while we still can.
Basically since high school I always felt that the world was going fast and I had to make all kinds of decisions that would affect the future of my life. I felt like that for years until I was working a job I knew how to do well but then I wanted more from it,more money but it didnt go that well and then the company closed and I had to find another job. I dont know if I have ever been so stressed out.. The expectations are big,the coworkers are somewhere in the mid - some are great,some arent so great,the pay is better but there is lots more to learn and do and the job security isnt that safe(got 3 months probation that runs out at the end of this month) So I am basically back at start but I am not feeling that same feeling that things are moving faster than I want them to. That said there is some regret for not pushing at college and doing an entirely different type of job. I have been working on machines for 4 years and now I am on another but bigger but I feel like I am more suited for jobs on a computer like programming or similar but I either dont have that spark or simply the will to go into it cuz no job is easy and also I feel like I am getting old or just my brain got used to the same shit that it's slow at learning new things. idk if I am pushing myself to learn something quicker than I can. On old machine I worked it was very simple and I was ready to work on my own after 1 month - I did screw up many times but with every mistake I learned and eventually became really good at it. At 2 years mark I was basically a professional/master - I knew how to do the job the best on that machine. Now I am working with other coworkers on machines that are idk 10x bigger,have lots of parts,lots of things to remember yet mistakes can easily cost thousands of dollars which I feel slows down my learning cuz I feel like I remember the most when I make a mistake and the correct it vs the coworker or boss getting mad at the mistake or them just explaning what not to do. Sometimes I feel like I am being corrected even when I do something my way that might be a bit slower than their way and I am not let to figure out a better way on my own yet I keep being said to think about what I am doing rather than asking what to do in every single situation. Being new sucks,I hate working in a team but I guess I'll have to figure it out and do it cuz I need money but hopefully I can in the future find a job that suits me more.
I’m in my 50’s…. I clicked on this video by accident… and I’m glad I did. This guy is speaking 100% truth. Damn!! This generation of amazing young people never ceases to inspire me with your capacity for painfully honest self-reflection. You are going to make this world a MUCH better place than the selfish shitheap my generation did. You really ARE doing great!! Keep doing what you’re doing, and take in the view while you’re at it.
Man I can't thank you enough. You answered so many of my questions on your channel and the way you've done it is healing. You making future look so much brighter, telling this as person in their early 20's
I'll be 21 in some months. I've just learned the hard way: If you won't take good care of your health, your body will turn against you. You aren't eternal and your body's gonna be only older. If you got a pain - seek a medical advice. Don't believe it will go away by itself, it's a risky game to play. And time can be your friend if you act fast. I'm 20 and I feel like a grandma. This week I started to have a rheumatism treatment. Good luck in your life, Random Reader!
Also twenty one and get really bad migraines if I don't listen to my body. I'd get so frustrated with myself if I burned out in the middle of the day and it's taken me years to figure what I needed all along was to give myself space to breathe and just SLEEP, which is so overrated when you're looking for quick outs. Best of luck on your health journey!!
@@sophierobinson2738 I hope that you only have had a bad experience. Where I live you can see another doctor if that happens. If you feel you're bad, you can also ask for having medical exams. Normally the specialist should propose them to you ;) (but if that's not the case, then fight for it anyway! There always good and bad doctors, don't give up 🥰)
@@SananaAnanas haha oh yeah coffee's definitely not the best route to go, especially long term. Regardless, I've definitely lived and learned the hard way so hopefully I'll be better for it
Had something similar when i was 19. I experienced backpain to the point of breathing restrictions. Worked on my physical and especialy mental health. I'm 21 now and im striving :D. Little piece of advice (if you want it): Take a look at Dr. Gabor Mate and his studies on Trauma & Stress in relation to illness. (I am German btw, so if anything starts with a capital letter in the middle of the sentence you now know why :D)
Its really comforting knowing almost everyone feels this way in their 20s. I just turned 20 a few months ago and I feel like I absolutely have no idea what I’m doing or who I am. But I guess no one does at this age!
I'm 32 and barely understand how I made it through 20-25. At 17 adults go like "ok you want to be treated like an adult?" and then at 20 you're just... on your own and have to figure it out. It's wild. Lol.
I’m 18 and my gf of two and a half years broke up with me a couple months ago. I’m struggling with depression and with uni. This video gave me a sense of relief and it’s a bit warming to see people going through the same things.(I meant that in the best way)
The fact that you had a relationship for that long shows that you have commitment, and that speaks volumes. I’m 20, and only been in a few relationships (none spanning longer than 2 months). When I think in my free time, I came up with this: Just work on yourself. Strive towards a primary goal, then everything else will fall in place. I’m a junior in college, and I’m counting on staying committed to my career path I see myself tolerating so that I can start being an adult. So my advice: Don’t turn to vices. You got this. It’s not meant to be easy, but greatness only comes when you’re really tested 👍
you’re going to bet through this bro. the same thing happened to me when I was 18 a few years ago and it was an incredibly defining moment. Time heals all wounds. You’ll be so grateful it happened the way it did. Let yourself grieve ❤
I’m 19 turning 20 in a month… I didn’t even realize how pressured I felt to succeed NOW until this video. Woah. I’m only 19. I just gotta appreciate what I got… thanks man
I'll be 41 this month. I've learned that most people are thinking/worrying about their own shit 90% of the time, so being concerned about what other people think of you is based on the false assumption that they're even thinking about you at all. I've also learned that people's opinions about other people (or about anything) are a result of who they are and their own life experiences much more than a result of the thing they have an opinion about. I heard it put this way and it clicked for me -- if 100 people watch the same movie, they're all going to have different opinions about it. Some will love it, some will hate it. It doesn't change the movie. The same thing is true about people's opinions of you. You are who you are. Some people will love you, some people won't like you at all. That's based on their expectations of you more than it is about who you are as a person, and their expectations come from their own beliefs and experiences. Sometimes when I'm worried about what other people think, I ask myself, "If I were someone else, would I judge me for this?" Usually the answer is no, which makes it easier to dismiss other people judging me. Another thing I know now is that people will tell you "no" with their actions sometimes when they're not telling you with their words. This happens a lot in relationships. You tell someone what you need from them, and they don't actually say "I'm not going to do that for you," but they consistently ignore your feelings and your needs. They're telling you no with their actions. And one lesson I only recently learned is that you don't have to monetize everything. I have a ton of different interests -- painting, illustration, knitting and crochet, writing, decluttering, teaching, singing -- and over the years when people would tell me that I was good at something, the implication was always that I should somehow get paid for it. Start an Etsy shop, start a tutoring business on the side, etc. But what I learned is that it's okay to do things just because you enjoy them and just because they feel good, and even if you're really really good at those things, it doesn't mean you need to pursue getting paid for them. You can do things just for pleasure and for personal development. I have found that some of the things I felt I should monetize actually make me happier if I give them away for free. One of the best ways to feel good is to help other people overcome something you've struggled with yourself. Hope some of this helps someone! Thank you, @struthless, for creating a space where we can talk about these things.
Screenshotted almost every paragraph of this comment for future reference when I'm feeling lost and/or deeply insecure, thank you ❤️ - a 20 year old you've helped
You inspire me so much, Campbell. I've been fighting depression for a while, lost an amazing oportunity because of that, while also struggling to finish college (which I "should've" finished two years ago). In the last few days, I didn't even want to get out of bed, let alone study. Your videos were the only thing that motivated me to start getting back on track. I know there's still a long way to go, but listening to your advice makes me confident that I can at least take a small step each day. Thank you so much, and bless you :)
Mid 20's here, totally overwhelmed by the whirlwind of emotions I feel on a daily basis. Having lots of fun, but my mental health has never been more vulnerable. Thank you for this video, feels good to be validated
The cultural obsession with the 20's becomes a self fulfilling prophecy: if you live like your 20's are all you have, you'll be old at 34; if you pace yourself you can stay young for many decades, and you'll accomplish a lot more with consistent, well rested effort over 40 years than with 10 years of frantic effort. Best advice for your 20's: get help to lift heavy things wear a mask around chemicals exercise but not too much only work overtime occasionally get enough sleep
I think you should also keep doing these things in your 30's. When you're 20 you think, 30 is old. Wenn you're 30 you'll realize, you're still young, but you might have a bit more money, a bit less anxiety and a bit more things figured out. I'm 31 now and I really appreciate this time in my life.
Thank you so much for this advice! Yes I've never understood that, most of your life comes after your 20s so why are they considered all you have? Life is not a race, and if we treat it like a race all it will do is make us unhappy
Thank you so much for saying this! It really takes pressure off the feeling that you have to accomplish so many things while you’re in your 20s before you’re “too old”
I am 21, lying in my dark bedroom in my parents house in just my pants and socks after eating 1/2 a family size tub of lemon sorbet while watching this.
I'm in my 20s and still lost as ever in this sea called "life". I'm really happy to come across this video because it made me see and realize that we shouldn't belittle or pressure ourselves into becoming this person that we know we aren't. I just hope that I can get through this... as well as to those who are lost as I am, we will get through this. We'll eventually figure this out, no matter how long.
this popped up on my news feed at the point where i really needed it the most. I'm 27 and i had so much in my head to the point where im stressed, depressed, anxious and burnt out every single day, about work, friends, family, expectations, success, etc. But your video really helped me and gave me a perspective that really calmed me down :) thank you. I might save this for reminders. Thank you for sharing your experiences and I wish you that you continue to strive for the best for yourself!
I'm 25, been unemployed since I graduated college. Most of my classmates are, what seem to be, successful influencers or have decent jobs. I was top of my class but for some reason, I can't get a job... in my house, we have to pay rent, groceries keep getting expensive and it hurts to know I can't help. Every TikToker always talks about how they started a small business because of the pandemic and now they are rich (or earn enough). Sometimes it's too much to handle. I really hope it gets better because sometimes I can't see the light. EDIT: Thank you guys for all your replies, also, I didn't know so many of us feel the same. I really hope this gets better for all of us. Another Edit: I started going to therapy, and I just got a job. It's getting better.
We are in a same situation. I am 25 and this year graduated. haven't working yet. Everyday feeling anxiety. Need to pay rent . Everything seems expensive . Before at my studies year I used to work. But when I arrived to my country. (I don't like my country but bc of pandemic and money I can't leave now ) I am completely lost. Everyday I feel anxiety and depressed. It feels it doesn't stop. I also hope it gets better
@@beckygray6361 Same here, I'm 23 years old and graduated from college. I did have two jobs that aren't related to my major at all before but both sucked greatly and I felt miserable doing them. Now I'm unemployed and lost as heck, I hate my country ( I live in third world poor country and my biggest dream and goal is to find a way to get out to live and work in another developed country ) but every country got serious standards for people they are willing to give immigration chances to and so I constantly feel unworthy of these opportunities. I'm always anxious, depressed, insecure and terrified that even if I do manage to get a chance to get out of here, I might end up realizing that I can't do well there or I might not be able to benefit these countries as much as other immigrants who are way more skilled. I'm trying to improve myself now and learn as much as I can from internet. I'm an adult but I don't feel like a true adult cause I'm always in this stunned state of mind meanwhile other adults already know how to deal with society and outside world. I studied economics but since here education is shit, I spent four years in college and graduated while still not understanding anything about my major or how I'm supposed to use it to earn money. I feel stupid all the time.
@@beckygray6361 You can workout a little bit, meditate, do the household chores and plant so.e vegetables.....this might help you to stay occupied, feel satistified and it might be of help to others, growing your own crops might on expenses as well and ofc stay positive....look at the brightest side of life even though in your darkest time
@@zhangqiling8086 yeah I also studied economics. And the thing we should understand, the knowledge we got from university doesn't work . It is only foundation. That's why I am reading books about economics to get something and also distract myself from all this shit .So and if we gonna work as an economics we should work for free to some months to get a job . Bc they always asks 2 -3 years experiences . I wish you to be successful from your career in the future in one of the developed County
Morgan freeman got his first acting job when he was 21 and didn’t get his next until he was 55. You’re all wonderful and will make it. Good things take time
I'm DCAing in VERMONTCORPLTD as well. ETH heavier DCA and ALGO. I'm taking your advice and starting Google tomorrow with a 50 dollar purchase and continuing Microsoft and Apple. VTI and VOO on another app and longterm portfolio. Here we go family!
I am turning 25 soon and was starting to feel that inner dread of not being where I am supposed to be. Today it hit a little harder than usual and I came across your video searching for financial advice on how to become self sufficient. THIS VIDEO WAS WAY MORE HELPFUL! It’s so refreshing to hear someone else say hey it’s alright it might suck sometimes but you gotta keep pushing through and adapting to live a better you. Thank you 😭😭
I think the biggest revelation for me in my 20s was that you don't ever really feel as old as you are. Your 20s is this weird span of time where teenagers see you as an adult and people in their 30s+ see you as a child still, which makes it really hard for you to know who you actually are. It's like there's this myth in society that once you reach your 20s, you're an adult now and suddenly you should know everything you need to know. The secret is, the people older than you don't feel any different than you do. You won't feel any different when you're their age. At the end of the day, age really doesn't matter. Pay attention to things like maturity, wisdom, and respect. Have fun in your 20s, but also realize that it absolutely is an important stage of growth in your life. It doesn't stop with your teenage years; you will continue to grow and learn until your hair turns white.
I can relate a bit, as I am myself a 23-year-old. I hated it when my peers approached me saying "oh, I wish I was your age." 😓Like wtf, you're merely two years older than me and your eyes are already full of regrets... Age shouldn't matter. We're all young and learning our life lessons, be patient.
This reminds me of a Guillermo del Toro quote: "Young people are in the exact age of desperation. I never felt older and more finished than in my 20s. I used to say 'Life past through me and I haven't done anything'. But now I'm here to tell you that its not true; you have a fcking lot of time". It sounds better in spanish but you get the idea lol
Kia ora, I'm 22 years old and I love everything you have shared here. I feel like I've been through alot, and have done a shit ton of introspection which has led me to these lessons in life, but hearing them from you in this way had really helped me set my intentions moving forward🙏🏼 Thank you again.
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I have kept my eye out over the years whenever there is a printed review of portfolio management software. I can say unequivocally that there is not a better all-around portfolio management software program out there today. LIBERTON CORP handles everything... even those esoteric transactions that no one thinks about talking about in the media. And, Quicken is not sophisticated enough to handle the transactions as seamlessly as VERMONTCORPLTD
I'm 25 and I feel lost. Been working on a family business for 5 years but didn't make it better in any way. I found myself in a position where I felt i have no control over my life, nor over my future. I can't find my purpose and it feels like the world is crashing down on me. My girlfriend left me after 9 years because I got addicted to smoking weed and I wasn't doing anything for myself anymore. Nothing works out well. I'm trying to change my life perspective but it seems that everything I put my hands on will not work. It's just so hard but I am happy I realised that no great things come easily in life. I quit smoking, started reading insteand of playing video games, started going to gym again, basically i'm doing things that help me bring back up my selfesteem. We go through hard times because it's the only thing that can help us evolve. Everything takes time, I know I gotta focus on myself now and try to find inner peace, do things I'm passionate about, think positive and hopefully, sooner than later, I'll find my purpose.
That pressure (especially for young creatives like me) is SO relatable. "If I started TH-cam at 19, within 5 years with consistent work I had 1 000 000 subs." And then you compare with your reality and feel falling back, being filled with SO MUCH regret (for going to University for 4 years, all that effort, money, nerves feel spent in vain due to better alternative). Everything you do feels inferior or "why I did not do it faster?".
Just turned 29 so still a year away from being done with this decade of my life, but the biggest thing I've learned is that 1. Showing up is 80% of the work. Just show up to your relationships, job, workout, whatever you want to have in life, and the rest is actually easy. Just get started 2. You don't have to kill it at work. I've worked super hard and been told i was shit, i've been lazy and told I was amazing, find the level of effort that makes you proud of YOURSELF and stop there. Don't worry about impressing others or being like others... cuz everyone is too busy with themselves to notice. 3. Revisit your childhood hobbies. Play is the best therapy. Ride your bike, make a doll house, catch bugs, go to the zoo, build a lego tower. and also you DON'T HAVE TO MONETIZE IT OR BE GOOD AT IT. If you enjoy it... THAT'S IT. That's all you need.
i’m 20, 21 in january and i connect with 1. on a different level , i’m in a bad spot rn and it’s because i can’t show up. I over sleep everything , to the point now where i’ll do all nighters to avoid not oversleeping or missing out on something. once i’m where i have to be, i excel , but consistently arriving and being present baffles me. I genuinely don’t understand how people are able to wake up every, single, day at the same time. if i could just do that i’d be unstoppable but instead i go to sleep at 8 at night and wake up at 5 in the afternoon pissed my whole days trashed or i missed work or missed something else that’s important.
@@ajrnb1233410 I'm 20 as well turning 21 in march, and I know far too well how you feel. Countless "sleep schedule reset" all-nighters that never worked, sleeping through literally 5 different alarms including my phone, a clock, and my alexa every morning, I've been there and still do struggle to get outta the damn bed sometimes. What caused this for me personally was just excessive screen time especially at night. Just ruins your mind's ability to tell when it should be tired or not, and when you finally fall asleep your brain takes advantage and sleeps for as long as possible to compensate. Try limiting your time online especially later in the day if you currently spend alot of time in front of a screen, or get some blue light glasses to make it easier on your eyes. I wish you the best of luck!
One thing I learn from my early 20s is many times, being logical can't get you out of depression. Because it will find an evidence of your sadness and sounds really right but it also doesn't help your life either. Your brain can tricks you that all the negativity you faced are a prove that life isn't worth living. BUT the point is we already alive as a human being and life should feel ok to live so those logical answers that support the negativity are pretty useless or harmful instead of helpful. Wasting times on slow process can be painful(your mind consistently compare what you do right now that looks like crap/unfinished to the result of other's success) but it's is much better than wasting daily limited energy on supporting the voices in your head that made you hate living and hurt your tomorrows.
as someone seeing 40 as my next bday (what even?!), I agree with your assessment of 20's for sure! I have a few things to add: 1) GET THERAPY. find a therapist that clicks with you, and talk that shit out. it has helped SO MUCH (and I am still in therapy, after going off and on throughout my 20s and 30s). fire the therapist if it isn't working for you, too. you're not obligated to spend money on them if they're not giving you what you need to get where you want to go! 2) YOU ARE NOT A DESTINATION. life is a journey, you're a forever-project, you're not going to reach "done" until you're dead. just give yourself space to experiment and try things and see what you like and what you don't. it's okay to change your mind, too. and 3) a big thing I have noticed in my 30s that I wish I had known in my 20s, that kind of jives with your "assume everyone is fighting a monster" is: folks do not care about your appearance as much as you do. got a big zit on your face? they might notice but they're probably worried about the zit on their neck that they're hoping you don't notice. are you female-presenting and didn't shave your legs and you're wearing shorts? NO ONE CARES IF YOUR LEGS ARE SMOOTH AS SILK. same for underarm hair. wear makeup, don't wear makeup - do whatever you want that makes you happy with your appearance. get that tattoo. shave your head. dye your hair purple. go cottage core with your wardrobe. life is too dang short to not be your authentic self - even as you're figuring out what the heck that is! thanks for this video - I hope folks take what they need out of it and go easier on themselves
I got a tattoo at 25, and my only regret is that I got it in a place that I can't see without a mirror. It was a milestone year, and I was a bit homesick, so I got a little frog on the back of my neck. This little frog is only found in my home province in Canada. I got it on the back of my neck where it is easily hidden by my shirt collar and thick hair. 15 years later, it still means a lot to me.
@@sharonoddlyenough I got my first tattoo at 25 - and I am VERY glad I waited until then. it ended up being a flash piece from a shop we walked by while I was on vacation in canada and I had some extra cash and was dying to test my pain threshold (so I could get the big piece I REALLY wanted) - so I got a little birb on the top of my left foot. it was absolutely fine, it's still super cute today, and I actually got a little reverse birb skeleton of it done on my right foot 15+ years later. I think if 18-year-old me had gotten the tattoos she wanted then, I would be getting some removed/covered up. but 25 year old me was READY. ;)
Sitting here in my 50’s thinking someone “only” in their 30’s isn’t going to have much insight. I was wrong throughly enjoyed this video. Yeah my 20’s were fun, miserable and learned some lessons. So much more to learn in this life. I truly believe in Maslow hierarchy of needs and has been true for me. I wasn’t able to really explore self love, self respect, self actualization until I met my most basic needs and got away from some toxic people/relationships. Wishing everyone out there the best!
It isn't too easy though - leaving toxic people /relationships... Since you almost don't realize /don't WANT to realize that they are... But then again, like he said : hard choices = easy life and the other way around... Right?
@@GirlFromTheEarlys no it’s not easy. Believe me I’m still struggling there’s no simple fix. I just keep making time for myself and listen to that very quiet intuition.
I'm about to turn 25. I put off watching this video because I felt like you were just gonna tell me stuff I already knew. I finally watched it now. And yeah, thanks for making this. Fortunately, I've been in the situation where most of my 20s dread came during college like when I had to change majors or otherwise fail and had to start thinking about what future me would need to deal with if I didn't change my current self now. Having studied psychology helped a lot too. And now I treat my 20s like a training arc for my 30s. Sadly, the other things like being broke-ish and underexperienced still happened and I get a little envious when people my age are doing well - but I just have to trust myself that by 30 or a little later after, I'll be in good shape too. The biggest thing that helped me out is that "...you miss 100% of the shots you don't take" which is a joke but also it's true. And that we tend to remember the bad things more than the good, so make more good to outweigh the bad keeps you troubled.
I get envious when people my age are doing well and the feeling is even worse when they’re younger than me. I know it’s wrong and I wish it wasn’t my first reaction
Hi! I'm 25 and this video makes me feel overwhelmingly that I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be and that it's okay. I took a deep breath and realized that I have lots of dreams and it's entirely okay that I'm not there yet. Thank you so much and to anyone who sees this I hope you have a good day c:
'You feel like a naive child in an adult world'. This is SO true for so many of us. Partly this is just life learning experiences, but I also feel like this is our education system failing to prepare us for a lot of the life skills we need to know. I'm always blown away that we're largely left to figure out financial management for ourselves. Imagine how much more peace many of us would have in our 20's if we'd been taught the basics of personal finances before we started earning and spending money.
6 really hits hard. I have an evergrowing to do list constantly looming in front of me and I'm always not doing things I want for feeling guilty about not doing the things I need to do. Building up that discipline and that routine is something I really really have to work on Edit: why am I crying
Thanks for this video man, it has really good advices. I turned 20 this year and it's insane how old I feel sometimes, like that feeling of "omg, I haven't done anything good yet with my life". Anxiety is really a terrible thing.
I'm turning 26 in a few months, literally just feel like I'm so old and have wasted my 20s and should just give up because I'm practically 30. Depression and Anxiety are the worst. It's good to know there are a lot of people feeling the same.
Just turned 26 and have been feeling the same, this video and his video about success have helped soothe some of my anxiety. but my biggest advice (as i've finally done it myself) is don't be afraid or ashamed to get help, i've recently started therapy and medication and am already thanking myself for it. we are not martyrs, and we don't need to suffer unnecessarily. i wish you well!
28 right now and felt like I woke from a fever dream. You have time!!! We have time. IF you're not sure what you want to do, that's fine, but I strongly recommend you start saving if you have not already. It's so easy to save before marriage, or children or mortgage. Be kind to future you and start that 10-15% savings of your salary in a different account. The comfort that comes with that nest egg is just one thing to stress less about
@@Jasbones it is really hard, especially with so many barriers to actually getting help, from the complicated systems just to sign up to the cost itself to actually getting quality care from doctors. it really is all about baby steps. but that's amazing you've started down the path of healing as well.
just turned 20, feeling like I'm just watching everybody living their lifes, like I'm waiting for mine to start but I'm trapped in my head... we all know what's best for us but we are too tired of all the shit in this world...or just scared idk
Hey darling, life is in the here and now. Life is not somewhere else, place or time. Don't spend your life chasing windmills. If I can tell you one thing I've learned, is that the happiest people on this planet are those who learn to appreciate the here and now, the small things, the places where life shows it's beauty, that most people completely miss because they are chasing distractions, illusions. Be kind as much as you can, it feeds your spirit, find a way to help other lives, practice mindfulness (I cannot emphasize this enough), start a practice of meditation (it's a process, don't get discouraged), take care and move your body, learn about wu wei and watch the beauty of life unravel. Never forget, we cannot even imagine the doors that will open along the way. As Rilke said, do not seek the answers that cannot be given to you in the present moment, because you wouldn't be able to live them. Instead live the questions now, and maybe some day in the future, without realising it, you will live along the answer. And the point is, to live trough everything. :)
1. You 20’s won’t be the time of your life 2. Work on what future you want 3. Assume everyone’s got sh*t 4. At some point drugs stop being fun 5. Don’t stress if you don’t crush it in this decade 6. Hard choices easy life, easy choices hard life 7. Wherever you go there you area
@@Fahad0947 it's not black and white. But women in their 20's are in their prime (socially) and their 20's is mostly when they "have the time of their lives". Women who get to 30 unaccomplished, single, and childless often experience immense stress, as they should.
@@rhysm9595 as they should yes, we are animals, their biological instincts urge to them to procreate - "their biological clock is ticking". It is really that simple, it's a shame society today make women believe it's not ok to listen to their bodies and instead they should ignore it and listen to "brave strong independent women" on Instagram or the media
His thing about his sexual abuse and releasing himself from childhood trauma in order to enjoy your 20s and the rest of your life really resonated with me.
@@kam-lw4ez you see certain aspects of yourself in him? Since what you said is a perspective of how you think he feels. And to be précis it feels like you know how it feels to self centered what would then easily be seen in others through indicating cues
I recently turned 21 and I’ve been realizing over the last 2 years that there’s a whole lot of baggage that comes with your twenties. Things that no one every really tells you about. I think it’s important to make some self realization of these issues and bring them to light, but man does it suck sometimes. Thanks for all your positivity and what you do! I hope everybody finds the help they need :)
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I’m 21 and feel like I’m wandering through a weird point in life where I can “do anything”, but also feel so lost as to what I should choose. This video helped as a reminder to not fall into that pressure to succeed at every little thing I do. :,)
Same 😶 I feel like I m not doing enough all my friends are going better and I am happy for them but I still feel bad for myself and the thing is Ik I am not doing enough. ...idk why
I'm 21 and I just feel I'm gonna fail on everything I try, I get so scared of failure that I can't keep on trying new things without quitting it, I feel scared for my future cause I don't feel capable of anything but that fear is the thing that's stopping me from actually succeeding so it's kind of a snowball rn
Thank you for taking the time to make this video and for being so open and honest throughout the entirety of it. This video popped up on my feed out of the blue (I have followed you on Instagram for a couple of years but not here for some reason), and I am really glad it did. Your first few points really hit the nail on the head as far as my own experiences are concerned (I’ll turn 24 in a couple weeks). I had a great undergraduate experience and then, upon entering grad school, had several big life obstacles all hit at once a couple years ago, and I still feel as though I’m picking up the pieces. I have certainly had a hard time letting go of some of the careless/fun habits I used to enjoy all the time, acknowledging the reality of my current situation, and stopping the comparison between myself and those around me. So, while this video is a year old and you may not see this comment, thank you again!
Hey man, just wanted to say I've discovered your videos some time ago and love the honest and compassionate way you talk about things. And also the fact that you have so much courage that you can be honest and tell a secret like your trauma in a video made me instantly admire you. Cheers!
It feels like a huge relief to hear someone speak so clearly and compassionately about things so relevant to me at 26. I really resonate with the part about overcoming trauma and I appreciate you sharing your personal experience. So much love!
in my 20s there wasn't any social media to compare yourself unrealistically out there but we had small actual social knit. Its more fullfilling to our self esteem. its more healthy in my own pov.
I'm 22 and I feel so lost and useless... I have no idea what to do with myself! It's so stressful to feel the weight on your future adult life on your shoulders, like the college degree we choose, our diet, the skills we decide to work on and the way we spend our free time in general... all that will struggling with our inner demons, as you said. Basically It's a second puberty except there are financial and legal consequences now!! aaaaaaaaaaaah! Hahaha Thank you for uploading this video!
You know what? Don't take life too serious, let it go, everything will turn out, I'm 30 now and still feel like I'm 23, and I look like it 😂 and you'll figure everything out. I promise. Don't loose yourself in relationships, go out be playful, take risks, get help if your fucked up. Be with yourself and just move. Do something, if it's right or wrong and you can't tell know just do it, because afterwards you'll know if it's right or wrong. My advices up there are so important because nowadays it's hard to feel yourself and find a gap where to fit in. But you got the chance to get to know you. And if your ever hitting a point where everything feels senseless, and like your stucked, you got two options, hoping that life is making something pushing you from your back and you'll fall really hard because it'll come without a warning, or second option you turn around, find your fears, except them and work with them, give yourself a new way. Shadow work. And he'll yes its gona be a bumpy ride, but how else should life shake you out of your mind and body state. Or shake yourself. Everyday, don't give up, you didn't made it to get a knew routine in your life because your only made it through 3 days? Simply go on. There's simply no use in self judge. Love to you all!
I just turned 27 and I feel like I haven't done enough but I'm on my own and things keep happening to set me back but I keep trying and I'm really thankful for this video. You help me realize I'm not a failure just takes time
Thank you for being there VERMONTCORPLTD when I wanted you to..... I was lost in this new world that I was hassled to start with ....you not only guided me along the way but you also showed me the proper way....whatever little I have been able to achieve in life is because of you today ..... I want to thank you for being there and showing me the proper way of doing thing for me you are my best guide as you truly showed me the way to life....once again , I would like to tell you a heartfelt thanks for being there.
I’m 26, have a decent paying job, even got a fiancé and 2 kids. But damn do I still feel like a lost little boy in this world. I actually hate my job but I still go to work every day. I struggle with issues like anxiety and I have no friends so I’m always a bit depressed. Aside from being a father, I have no idea how to get the rest of my life going. I don’t know how to love my hobbies and sometimes I don’t even how if I have proper hobbies. I feel alone so often it’s not funny. I often wonder if my life will actually get to a point where I’m happy with it. I love my kids and fiancé but I feel like I’m missing 85% of the rest of what I should have in life.
I´ll tell you about my life. I´m 26 years old too. I have no kids or wife. Never had I a girlfriend. I have many friends and I do party a lot. I look quite good and I´m loved by the people around me. Still...I wish to have a relationship and having sex regulary and just hug someone when I come home from work and not being alone. My job is okayish but I seek for a better payed and more chilled one. What I want to say is that you should be grateful about what you have and change what you don´t like. Your age, kids, wife or whatever aren´t what holds you back. It´s only yourself. You got it man :)
hope you can be happy one day man. i guess the job matters a lot. i'm 17 rn and kinda have to chose what will i do one day, and have no idea. don't have any hobbies that i'd be that good at... and i can't imagine actually going through with it without actually bring interested in it at leat a bit. may i ask what job you have?
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"Your twenties is just puberty all over but its all emotions"
One of the most profound things one of my friends ever said to me.
yes all of this yes
That's what I've been telling people! I'm glad it makes sense hahaha
It all makes sense now.😅
I don't really care or feel about anything in my teenagers, now I'm in my 20s and felt like everything's is falling apart, fml
In puberty, I've been doing lots of things for the first time as a teenager. Now I'm doing things for the first time as a young adult. Just as challenging as it was before, same cake but different box.
"there is a freakish pressure that the internet is putting on young creative people to be stupidly successful super young" omg THANK YOU i needed someone to address that
I would like to post your comment on my Instagram.
Can I ???
Not just the internet, But middle eastern and Asian parents too, WAY more pressure from them Vs the net.
I mean what's wrong with that? Parents raise yo kids right n get paid right lul
@@midnight_breeze_ no
@@derekalflago732Even if being successful at a young age isn't wrong, the pressure put on young people is wrong.
I’m 23, felt completely lost for the past month. Full of depression/thoughts for killing myself. feeling like a disappointment for not being in school. Watching this really helped. Appreciate you. ❤
I’m in the same boat, I hope it gets better for you man
Brooooooooooooooooooooooo
I hope both of you are here, in one piece and hopefully you smiled about something.
I received advice once “ just keep smiling “
Sounds like bullshit.
But whenever Iv made decisions on whether I’m smiling or not my life gets better.
Iv killed myself for my career and job the last 5 years. I’m 23. Iv really become someone in my field as well. My job and actual place of work I loved but this exact place just sucked the life out of me and made me nothing but sad. After 5 years I changed jobs same field but somewhere else.
This new LOVES me. Everyone there is relatively happy and so different from my last place. Iv been smiling more often than not since I started. I felt so awful before I switched and stood up for myself. I go home happy like the place that would contain my nasty thoughts and let me spiral out of control… my home. Now is a place of energy and excitement. Like I want to do things and I’m thinking about my success and future.
Life never stops offering opportunities like so randomly. My best piece of advice to myself and anyone who’s maybe suicidal. Is I promise tomorrow is a new day. Anything can happen. But killing yourself removes the chance of you playing the lottery and winning. It may have not been high before but it wasn’t zero.
There will be winning lottery’s in your life but look for them. Your life directional thing is your happiness. Fuck everyone like everyone it’s you vs the world at the end of the day.
Do what makes you happy.
Also find a hobby.
You’ll find friends through your hobby.
If your friend sucks fuck em I swear to god just stop. Be friends with them when it’s convenient but find someone who will be friends with you when it’s inconvenient. They’re worth their weight in gold.
Love you guys. Keep smiling
Same, im also 23 and i have nothing going on in my life, im in my jobless period after graduated, back home, no friends, and i literally see no future of me, just confused and lost.... lets just hope its get better with time
im in the same boat aswell, im 24, i have a finished apprenticeship, tried a bunch of different jobs, but non really tend to fit me, then i quit them don't work for several months, stay at home distract myself with social media and gaming, im telling myself im useless and can't get my shit together and find motivation to work or even live life. Suicidal thoughts occasionally.
Yeah figuring shit out, what you want from your life is really hard.
wish all you guys in the comments and myself that we can figure it out.
gl hf
Just remember, even when u feel like there’s nothing to live for, and no one loves you, just know that Jesus loves you
I saw this video at 20, I just turned 22. I am such a different person from then to now. So many hard lessons. Your life, your personality, your values change so much during this time.
I am almost 19 and figured I'd get a head start lol
Wow, I'm 18 and I'm scared that when I'm older my life will be completely turned around and my ideias personality and objectives are all different..... Any tips?
@@LuisC7 Why does that scare you?
@@3mi3mi it completely shatters what I plan on doing and my beliefs, that I now think are the correct ones
@@LuisC7 What are your beliefs? If that’s too personal, let me just say, if you can’t have your beliefs or plans for the future challenged, you’ll do yourself a disservice from exploring potential outcomes you weren’t even aware of. That’s how you get to know yourself.
HealthyGamer is a great resource that’s helped me a lot over the past year in figuring myself out.
"if you focus on what you lack, you lose what you have." this line hits me real hard.
Yeah It was something worth sitting on for me but like he said start focusing on what you have so you can have more
That's what many people do with many of us who are autistic. We like to focus on stuff we know we can do or just like to do, and not doing stuff others to just to fit in (there are exceptions though, poor them).
Harmful sub-conscious biases, assumptions and generalization is the bane of our existence.
It should but too often we fall into a habit of focusing on the negative like you just did. Try to focus on the more positive side of those quotes as both quotes say the same thing just one does it in a healthier way.
I kinda understand the point but also it doesnt make sense.
Isnt it good to improve the areas where you are lacking?
Maybe that's the gamble.
You have to lose what you have now so you can have something else that you want more.
For example lets say now you are working as an electrician and earn 2k$ a month but you really want more money and work on a computer like a programmer.
You will lose the experience you built up and portofolio from working as an electrician but will work as a programmer and potentially earn more if you focus on it and work hard.
Essentially It’s hard but not impossible…
in order to go towards our dreams we sacrifice somethings out of our lives in order to achieve and show the power and potential we are capable of when we set our minds and focus 🧘
I'm 23 and feel completely lost, seems like everyone is better, smarter etc. than me... this video helped to have patience with myself... thank you!
Same Talita... Especially on social media it seems like you could be super successful rn, you are just not trying hard enough... But you are doing enough, don't worry 💕
@@rigrace trust me, more often than not "successful" means bad with money lol. I invest and make like 5-10x what many of my friends make and save and re- invest it all and drive the same old beat up Mazda I got 8 years ago in 11th grade. Meanwhile my friends are all in new jeeps, BMW, pick ups etc, always going out for lunch (like every few days) and they are BROKE. and will be for much of their lives, I know because if I lived like they do I'd be broke too, even with a much higher income. It's all fun and games until you're still working at 80. Just remember Instagram is exactly what it looks like... a SNAPSHOT of life. Often exaggerated. If u spend your twenties trying to look the best on Instagram you're probably spending the money you could have used to invest to actually become wealthy later in life
When I was 23 I had the same. Now that I am 31 I see all these other clueless adults (at a high paying job environment) and i realized that all the other 23 year olds at the time were either way better at bluffing or just as insecure and thought that I was way smarter and better. On youtube and internet it seems like many people of your age are great and successful but honestly they just randomly (for the most part) happened to float to the top, below them there are hundreds that tried and failed just by bad luck.
Your time will come that you will realize: everyone is clueless and just floating around.
Social media is the great deceiver. Nobody is as well off or put together as they appear.
Same :( happy to know I’m not alone
I’m 29 now turning 30 in 3 months. My dad told me a few years ago that your 20s are some of the hardest days of your life. I used to think this wasn’t the case because I was having the time of life. But now looking back I see what he means. I thought life couldn’t get any better, It’s like you are an adult but there are still certain responsibilities that are put on hold. But there also comes a lot of struggles, worries and anxieties. You feel like you don’t have your life together and that everybody your age is so much further ahead in life than you. You sometimes feel like you’ll never make it. It’s a confusing, stressful, worrying and uncertain time of your life. But if you keep working and you don’t give up there will come a time when that self doubt you used to have will start to fade and you will feel more positive about your life and where you’re at. You can do this ❤
This is exactly how im feeling in my 21st year of life. Glad to know there r some people who were the same
@@hobi1369 EVERYONE is doing the same - if not, the vast majority. Everyone is different, and everyone acts differently, but the one thing we all share is 1) sturggle, 2) taxes and 3) death.
Be humble, take advice, grow and help others as much as you can.
I'm 28 about to turn 29 and I hope you're right
Thank you for this comment. I'm 22 and really struggling right now, hoping for better days.
He wasn’t lying brother since 25 life been very difficult for me i turn 29 this year hopefully i can get together before 30
Hey man, as a totally random person watching this video I just wanna say it's absolutely great and brave of you to speak so openly about the fact that you were abused and how you struggled with it later. I feel tons of respect for you. And thanks a lot for this whole video!
Pipe down mate
Kinda teared up when he said he was scared of his girlfriend thinking he was disgusting and leaving him. That feeling must have sucked
nahr@@jackskcaj8983
@@FrickYourHandle Yep, and how great that she had the opposite reaction and helped create what I can only guess would be a feeling of huge relief and finally a chance to help process an old shadow.
Hmh I was abused as a child as well and when I told my then girlfiriend at 18, she completely stopped respecting me. Sad thing is that she had also been abused as i child, so it never occurred to me that she would reject me. Never have told anyone about it since.@@FrickYourHandle
“You’re inexperienced, you’re broke, you’re scared, have mental health issues and childhood trauma” WHY DID HE JUST DESCRIBE MY CURRENT LIFE AT 21 😭
was gonna like this cuz im also 21 and feel the exact same way byut your comment is at 69 likes so im just gonna drop a NICE
i feel u
Yup, Iäm 22 and im there with you.
Because its all of our lives at 21
28 is not different.
I love how we’re all just vibing with the other lost 20-something year olds in the comments 😂 we’ll figure this out guys!!!
😂🙌
strangers on the internet are the perfect translator for my emotion which i cannot explain typing.🤣🤣
Together yes we will
You train wrecks are making me more confident going into my 20’s this year 😀
im 17 lol i guess you could say im getting a head start but i just enjoy hearing about peoples lives. we’re all just a bunch of kids trying to get our shit together
i’ve been feeling the existential anxiety of turning 25 for months. i never feel like i’m doing enough, this really helped me. thank you
I turned 25 a week ago and I feel like I'm last in Mario Kart and everyone else has reached the finish line
We are all in the same boat ❤
25 sucks I do not feel like my brain has fully developed lmao
Just turned 27 a few days ago. I am the most lost I have ever been in my life. I graduated from HS a year early but after that everything in my life fell apart and I dropped out of college. Always struggled with crippling depression. Recently got out of a long-term abusive relationship and made a drastic life change where I'm now completely alone 1000 miles away from where I lived all of my life and am going to school, but sometimes it's hard to keep up motivation. I have always been 'behind' after HS while watching my cousins (who are younger than me), ex-partner and past friends be successful. Thank you for this video
I know everything will turn out better for you!
Sometimes things happen that way, but it won't be for long.
I also went through something similar, but I have faith that everything will fall in place perfectly again and I won't have to force myself to be happy anymore. I actually will be, and so will you.
You got it brother
People don't realise how much time they have when they're in their twenties. The best advice I have for 20 year olds is, don't let the internet rush you. Enjoy the ride and don't rush yourself.
Then what should i do?
@@brucewayne3608 Enjoy life a little more? xD don't rust Success, Sucess will come in time. if you try rushing it it will cause so much more problems.
like depresion, Sleep Deprived, ignoring love ones (like Family members or friends). and even Excersice (which will start effecting you around 30's).
but im just 21 i think xD.
strolling around each corner to see what i loved and i stroll for quite a while now started this year actually... haven't found the thing i "loved" but found things i like... but im still goin too fast for my good :P i can go on and on but imma leave at that.
I quit playing this game and found out that I have so many time to waste than playing games so yeah
I Would say rush yourself. Work on yourself, develop skills and waste less time on friends .
@@Aryan-uo6hb "waste less time on friends". its true you want to do well for yourself but you also don't want to have a miserable life without any fun experiences. before I get old and decrepit i want to make sure I made the most of my youth
“You wanna call your mom or your dealer?” Was that hitting point for me
Bro y'all fr never feel like your mom tried to sell u for watermelon
@@derekalflago732 tf you talking bout?
@@Andy-Milonais lmfaoooo
facts!
Ima call my mom, I'll just go to the store for some weed
As an abuse survivor, I cannot begin to explain how FREE I feel after I spoke about it to EVERYONE. I might make a lot of people uncomfortable by saying "I was raped" but DAAAAAAAAAMNNNNNNN it feels good to be able to speak up and eventually get over it! I cant wait until I can do it without teary eyes. Please DO NOT KEEP THAT AS A SECRET
Im proud of you
@@gabby-ue8sh I really really REALLY appreciate your words.
I wish you a happy life! ✨✨✨
Wish you a happy life, so proud 👏
@@laretto.mp3 thank you!
i hope God heals you heart
About to be 21 tomorrow. I'm only a year into this decade and I already feel so different from when I was a teenager. Glad to see everyone has their own thing going on, and that we're sharing our experiences under this comment section. Good luck to everyone and keep on rocking!
I had a difficult time when I was between 18 and 21 and I did not even realise it. I felt like you, felt so different from teenagers so it was hard for me to relate to them. They complained about me being arrogant when I was not, they were the insecure idiots. I became very arrogant recently because I was too insecure in the past. After all, dropping out from high school is not as bad as people think. Staying in high school is worse.
I turn 21 in 2 weeks and I would like to say.. I don’t recognize myself by how much I have changed. I got married at 19 and so I’ve had to grow a little extra fast feels like and I just feel like a completely different person than I was 2 years ago almost at 19… just wow.
Part of me was like 'dont click this video, your fine' & the other part of was like 'click it and face yourself for 10 minutes'. I clicked the video, good luck out there everyone.
NOO CUZ SAME
For those who like quotes:
Contempt leads you to stop taking opportunity.
*face yourself for 10 minutes* this could be a book title lmao (but fr good for you)
I needed this
Lol
1. Your 20s won't be the time of your life
2. You don't do things for you, you do things for FUTURE you
3. Assume everyone's got shit (their own struggles and baggage)
4. At some point, drugs stop being fun
5. Don't stress if you don't crush it this decade
6. Hard choices = easy life, Easy choices = hard life
7. Wherever you go, there you are
Thanks. 🙏
on videos like this, i always scroll down looking for the comment that has the overview in an easy list format like this. thank you for doing us all a favor and commenting this, the people who do that make things alot easier for everyone else trying to process concepts in these informational videos!
Thanks!!!
It was better to hear this one tho. Definitely worth the 10
Thank you
I'm 22, sad and alone. I can't tell you enough how hard life is rn. I feel so lost and behind. I don't exactly know what I'm gonna do or where I'm heading. I hope that I'll survive this decade with your wisdom in mind 🙏 Thank you.
Don't let yourself down, it gets better, even if it dosen't looks like it at the moment :)
21 yo introvert here, i feel the same
21 here and you’re not alone. Bout to graduate and have no idea what I’m gonna do with my life or where I’m gonna go
@@ceci7798 Felt the same when graduated despite beeing 15 back then 😅, im now 21 & mabye i can lend some advise? Try yourself out via internships for abt. 2-3 Weeks lenght to get a feeling of whats right for you👍🏼 just avoid long times of chillin/doing nothing as there's a risk not leaving that Hole. Most inportantly do this whole processe in your'e pace 😊 What closed ones might harshly say/do mostly comes from worry and care, dont take it too close, make youre way and when found your'e destination just look at them like: " : :) Told ya~ ;P" .
Keep in mind you'll always end up where youre meant to be! 🥰
I feel ya. I’m almost 21 and I’ve been struggling with drug abuse and lack of ambition. Also a lot of my friends have turned out to be pretty toxic. I feel more alone than ever before even though I have family and friends. Doesn’t help that I don’t have any goals for career or future while other ppl my age are getting married, kids and careers. Fortunately we have time to turn things around
Turning 23 in about a week and it’s honestly such a relief to see that I am not alone. The constant feeling of beeing not enough and making
the wrong decisions is crazy. So what I learned from this video: Relax, like honestly and just try to be a little better everyday by beeing grateful and doing the right things
"sobriety has given me all the things that drugs and alcohol promised" WOW
For me it's music. Making music while sober you just get lost and it feels so great it's better than drugs it's pure good times
Well, everybody is different : alcool gave me inspiration, colors, lights, stories, musics, texts. Of course you have to make a sort between good and bad the next day and clarify the descriptions to have something good but but with money, time, and hard work I could earn an oscar with what I use to create while being drunk. :o)
But for what I've finally understood being tired more than drunk is even more powerful. I create and work in a much better way when I'm a little sleepy and it's not cringe or with missing words and sentences, and with *a little bit* of alcool it's even better. Only the rythm of the text is a little bad and has to be reworked, all is a matter of moderation. ^^
Now I nearly never drink as I am tired of it, I've never felt addicted to alcool, and I never felt a lack of alcool.
Everybody is different.
Yeah...
Nothing better than living life on life’s terms brother
sobriety is society with briefs
I was 19 when Covid hit and now I am 21 and it feels like I just got teleported two years into the future and I just can’t wrap my head around that I am that old. I feel like 16 + 5 haha and have no idea how to do this adult life
I feel the same
I feel the same as you, i feel like covid stole 2 years of my life my 20 was ruined, I had a lot of plans, and if it wasn't for covid I would have been in a whole different place, living a whole different life
same tho just wanna turn back time
Same. It feel like long long sleep.
I'm 21 too and when I look at myself I feel like...my years are passing without me
Turning 24 this year. Still feeling lost and scared to be honest. So hard to break generational traumas and just navigate everything by yourself. This video calmed me down. Thank you.
Hi. Im 24 as well. I share your lost feeling. I feel like a few unlucky events set me back. And now im struggling to chase my dreams i was so close to reaching. Thanks for making me feel less alone
Hope you are doing well. Rooting for us all!
This thread is too cute c': I'm going through something similar too
Hope we are all pushing through this year even though I am pretty sure we are all tired 🥲
Hey friends, I’m also in the 24 club lol.. questioning my life, my career, and being single.. enjoying life for what it is and embracing the unknown as it creates the zest for adventure and the journey that life is, but damn it’s hard lol. We got this yall, sending love ❤
I just turned 20 recently and I’ve felt so paralyzed by the rush to pack as much into this decade as possible. I didn’t realize that I was setting an impossible standard for myself. The part of the video where you talk about appreciating what you already have is very useful to me, thank you ❤️
Hey I will be 20 years old on Thursday May 9th.
Mate I can't believe you went from having a secret you thought you'd take to your grave, to openly sharing it on your platform like this. That's crazy, and I'm so proud of you! I bet you're stoked with that progress too. God bless mum's
exactly! this guy is something!
my thought exactly!!! i love the growth
Wow so true!
you said it bro
Yeah, this guy is HELLA strong. I deeply respect anyone that can do this. I've heard that that shit is HARD to deal with.
As a person in her mid-fifties, I have to say this excellent advice applies to every decade of life. Thanks for sharing.
Yeah I'm entering my thirties, but I feel like the booster shot was needed. Thank you struthless!
🙌 At 57, I couldn’t agree more,... just forwarded this video to my two boys (25 & 28) !!!
Girl you look like you are both five and 42.
Wow
@@seemysight I'm choking
Thank you for being there LIBERTONCORP when I wanted you to..... I was lost in this new world that I was hassled to start with ....you not only guided me along the way but you also showed me the proper way....whatever little I have been able to achieve in life is because of you today ..... I want to thank you for being there and showing me the proper way of doing thing for me you are my best guide as you truly showed me the way to life....once again , I would like to tell you a heartfelt thanks for being there.
23 days out from my 30th birthday.
Advice I have for folks in their 20s:
-Keep figuring out your mental health. If you feel like something is wrong, something is, try not to blame yourself or tell yourself you're a failure. I only got correctly diagnosed with two pretty big neurological/mental illness conditions in the last three years. Keep searching for answers and try to find whatever treatment is available to you, keep insisting that doctors take you seriously, do your own research but take Internet stuff with a grain of salt. I know trying to get mental health treatment is incredibly hard for many reasons but do the best you can.
-Related, be okay with asking for help. Be honest about your struggles, to yourself and to others in your life. Holding it inside usually makes it worse. Younger generations have the opportunity to be more open about this and break the stigma.
-Stop spending time on beauty standards that don't give you any personal fulfillment, if your situation allows. Do the stuff you like, for yourself. Keeping up on actual hygiene (showers, skincare, dental, etc.) is enough.
-Learn skills, be curious. You'll feel more confident and capable and it will give you so much intellectual stimulation. Knowing basic life skills like how to cook or how to unclog a drain is just downright useful and can save you a lot of money. But going beyond the basics is a great goal, your life will be forever enriched.
-Preventative care is SO worth learning as early as you can. Protect your skin from the sun. Take care of your teeth. Stretch your body. You don't have to be perfect, but try to do what you can, even if it's half assed.
-Anything worth doing is worth doing half-assed. By that I mean, don't let the idea of perfection paralyze you from doing something at all. Going for a short walk is better than sitting on the couch agonizing over how you "should" be running a 5k instead. I'm still working on this one myself.
-You don't have to do things the way that other people do for it to still be valid. Hate folding laundry? Sort your clothes into bins. Have a hard time drinking enough water? Use a curly straw.
-For the most part, you are what you consume and what surrounds you. Try to make sure most of that is kind, calming, enriching, or whatever qualities you aspire to have, that is what you should try to seek out.
as someone who turned 25 back in march, thank you so much for this. My friends & I are all in our 20’s (w one exception) & I’m one of the oldest out the group ..
My friends still love to go out {ALMOST every weekend} & some of them are still heavily into drugs but as of lately, I’ve been finding myself out of tune w that kind of setting {at least excessively} ..
I’m the oldest out of my siblings & I can just feel this natural gravitation pulling me into wanting to be better & do better for myself. & I don’t really know why that looks like 100% {i’m a perfectionist too} ..
A lot of the things you said really made me feel more at ease & not so pressured & even encouraged to start some things!! your 4th & 6th point was specifically for me so thank you for sharing & happy 30th 🤍.
God bless you for this
I literally just learned how to unclog a sink/drain the past day ❤❤❤
“You can either experience the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The choice is yours.” Keep grinding if you are reading you got this.
Thanks 👍
You too. 1% better everyday
this is it
youre a legend mate thanks
@@khyati7733 you welcome
Turning 22 on the 30th. So far, my 20s have been a scam.
Lots of crying, confusion, unsure why I’m not where I’m “supposed to be”. This video brought me so, so, so much comfort. Thank you, so much.
Edit: what a beautiful community. It’s so lovely to see how not alone we are. I could cry at all these responses.
Wishing you all so much luck. Bless.♡
I was 23 when I took the biggest leap of my life and then another ~3 years to finally be at a place where I’ve found what I want to do. Even then (now), I’m still figuring things out and will always be. So keep going!
I'm turning 21 on the 30th aswell and i think 30th july if the best date for a birthday hahaha just saying. Good luck anyways man hope you find your way.
I'm turning 22 this 27th and i've been feeling the same as well for the past year or so since getting out of college and not really into my job, but watching GaryVee vids helped me in understanding that its a long game and we need to have patience and be consistent in our efforts. That's all that matters. remember its a long game, we have anywhere between a 40-50 year career ahead of us so put in efforts and dont expect anything nice to happen in the next 5-6 years. i think this perspective really helps a lot for me. i hope it helps you too.
I thot I was the only one going through all this until I saw ur comment🥺glad to know am not alone...just turned 20
That's exactly how I feel. Turning 23 in about a week. Feels like I was scammed for the first 18 years of my life, the past 4 has been coping with the whiplash, then this past year has been a massive amount of realization of what happened, and how I'm not the only one this happened to, and how I can actively choose to take steps to recover and create a genuinely fulfilling live.
Videos like these are so great for providing a space for people like us to talk about this.
"Am I not enough?" This is painfully true. I definitely struggled with this during my twenties and only now that I'm 30, I'm slowly getting better. Therapy helps.
Your enough friend. You were born enough. Sending love
Any therapy alternative for broke kids. Lol
@@bhaveshtochabbra6853 it’s cliche but talking to my close friends or any friends helped me immensely. Cause they always listened. Although they were never good at advice they were there and sometimes that’s all you need. Is support.
@@bhaveshtochabbra6853 I prefer talking to 2 of my cousin I’m closest to. I feel like they understand my situation better bc they’ve seen a little of it. I wish I could talk to my siblings more but I’m still a bit too nervous and don’t want to stress my family but I know it’d help a lot if I did.
@@Lala-lw8vx heh, same here. Even if I talk to my mom, I still feel like it's a burden for her to hear the same things over and over again, or I feel cringe for sharing them with her. But I learned over time that she, as my mother, is the best person that I can speak to, and is really happy that I can speak with her.
Try talking to your family, they may want this as well but not know how to break the ice. They are the most valuable help and support, if they are open and willing to discuss with you.
Don't worry that you'll burden them, you'll really help them and yourself if you are open. They will be happy to be there with and for you.
Finally someone who is willing to teach us younger guys instead of pushing some bs course on us. Appreciate it
Manhood course 😂
Andrew Tate will teach you how to be rich and an Alpha male. Just pay him $50 a month.
LOL you're like what, 14?
@@tlwn5196 youre never too young to better yourself man. Negativity helps no one, especially yourself
Watched this before I entered my 20's..I just skimmed through it. Im further into my 20's and this is so much more valuable
You should do a new video about VERMONTCORPLTD ! I really like you’re mellow delivery and you seem like you’re very knowledgeable. I watch lots of influencers and you always seem very calculated and know exactly what you’re talking about and understand it. You’re better at explaining complicated things simply, than any other person on youtube keep it up brother!
Imagine being a 21yo, in a pandemic, not studying, not working, not in a relationship, without a single penny in your pocket, living in the third world, moving to a country where you'll probably be one of the less educated people... This is me.
At least I have a chance to be someone and to do something. Thank you for the video! Very helpful!
Edit: I am here in Portugal, and I must say that I am way happier/better than before, and I will be meeting my LDR girlfriend next month. It's all a matter of time, I guess... The secret is not to be desperate.
Escapaste de latinoamerica?
@@sac7404 Leaving Brazil in October/November. I am gonna start living in Portugal. I plan to finish my studies, improve my English... I would really love to live in Ireland (at least for some time) in order to improve my English, which is a language that I really love.
Who knows what I am gonna do... I just want to be happy.
@@comodeveser9250 serás bem-vindo! Muita sorte e força pra enfrentar os desafios!
@@adelinomachado9232 Muito obrigado Adelino, é sempre bom ouvir palavras assim! Também te desejo o melhor! Abraços!!
your english is really good dude and stay motivated I'm sure you will go far
I’m 22 and I’m fucking lost I don’t even know what life is anymore tbh, at the end of this year I’m going to finish my apprenticeship and quit my job and find a mountain top to sit on and just fucking breathe for a second and think
Hell yeah. Prioritize your mental health.
im 21 and i feel exactly the fucking same.... feels like im going crazy soon
Bro you literally sound just like me hahahaha
yo, can i join u on that mountain top too?
I fell the same it feels as my only purpose is to secure money
I'm 27 and only just found this channel. I feel like its made a big impact on the way I see life, I suffer from anxiety and depression and have huge expectations of what I should've accomplished at this point in my life seeing other people so much further ahead than me. My first step to removing this problem is deleted social media and I think that's one of the best decisions I've ever made. There is no sense in comparing yourself to someone else when everyone is different, its like comparing apples to oranges. One thing I've learnt in my 20s is its never too late to start, whether that be a career or a hobby... just do it, future you will thank you for it.
I’m 24 and I just broke up with someone and i found this video on a whim. I can’t thank you enough for helping me to cope and realize that heartbreak and love are normal and that I’ll be okay eventually. Nothing is easy in this world but it helps to know that there’s people everywhere who are going through the same things.
Currently same age and same situation and I hope things better
I’m 23 years old and feel like I haven’t achieved anything even when people say I have. I needed this.
I am 23 and I don't think Im doing bad. What bothers me is, will I ever be able to afford my own place ? Where will i bring up a family ? Will I ever have enough to retire ? Im just 23, but life passes and if i don't achieve what I want by the time Im 40, I probably won't achieve it ever and that scares me.
@@jakubmuron9030 There is an old saying “ Life doesn’t start until you’re 40.”
@@jakubmuron9030 Heyy another member of the 23 club here! Let's, just for a second, put aside the fact that you can absolutely accomplish the things you want to accomplish after 40. Over the past few years I've been feeling a lot of the same way as you, worried I'm not meeting my goals fast enough or hitting those classic mile markers in life at the right time. Something that's really helped me is putting in perspective what a ridiculous amount of time we still have left.
Think about everything you've accomplished over the last 23 years. Every person you've met, every joke you've told, every happy memory you have, every thing you've learned. It's a lot! It's the entirety of time you've ever experienced! And you probably didn't even realize what was happening until you were like 5 or 6. Now realize that from now until the time you're worried about, you have the entirety of the life you've already lived. Every single memory you have, every single thing you've ever experienced, every single thing that makes you who you are. And you get to have that again, just in the time between now and the time you're worried about. Isn't that insane? You did so much in the first 23 years! And for more than half of it you didn't even have agency over how you got to live it. Now you have so many options! You have more control over your life than you ever have before!
That's not even accounting for the fact that the vast majority of people continue to do things and accomplish their goals after 40. Because remember your entire life? You know, all of existence that you've ever experienced? You not only get to live your entire lived lifespan over again, you get to do it like 3 or 4 more times! You get to live the entirety of your life again in the best conditions your life has ever been another 4 times! That's such a crazy amount of time!! I by no means have lived a full life but the idea of doing the equivalency of everything I've ever done all over again feels monumental to me! And the fact I can learn from the mess that was my early years and improve on the time I got, it's such a good deal I feel like I'm being scammed.
Don't get me wrong, you still gotta make good choices, live for the future you, put the work in to getting the life you want. And there will be plenty of hard times, moments when life doesn't go your way and kicks you while you're down. Not every year is created equal, but that's true for the years you've already lived as well. That's life in lifespan after all. But don't ever let yourself fall into the trap of thinking you're running out of time. Because holy shit, we have such an unfathomable amount of time left! It's all of our existence and more! And even though there are always more things to do, I think that's plenty of time to achieve the goals you want to achieve
@@jakubmuron9030 I get that too, sat here on a minimum wage job I like thinking “when do I jump to the big money where I can survive alone? Will I have to do a job I don’t want”
I feel lost and unaccomplished in alot of things, I don't have enough to live on my own nor do I have a love life. I just exist without a map or paddle to go in any direction. Hopefully things will improve for all of us
I'm 40 and I must say this advice is genuine. I encourage everyone to pursue their dreams, but first, set up realistic goals. Don't believe what Social Media/ Gurus are telling you, success doesn't come quickly nor, easy.
Thank you
Couldn't have said it better. I am turning 40 this month and it is just the last 2-3 years that I am finally happy with a great job, after many years of being patient at other jobs. I wish the same for you! (or even better, already being in this position a lot earlier than me!)
Yup
I have no dreams
The follow up question becomes "what is realistic?" to that sentiment. Most people don't have enough experience to determine what is a realistic goal for themselves. The best way to figure that out is to observe, experiment, consult, and persist. Observe real life examples, not the face masks people tend to put on social media. Experiment with your limits to help build a baseline of what you can achieve based on previous attempts. And consult with others in your life with more experience (but take it with a grain of salt, they might be suffering from set backs or face masking as well so use a wider pool of people to help with finding a median sample) and see how the advise might apply to your situation.
But most importantly, persist... you're not likely going to get realistic goals lined up right away. You're likely going to under or over shoot things until you get enough experience to better assess things. There will be set backs you don't have enough experience to predict, so take the failures that come and use them to help reassess and set up the next set of goals.
As a 35 year old. I can say I’m more content with myself then I was in my 20s. Around 28 was a turning point for me. I started thinking about the future. Very true about the drugs. The drugs start sucking same with the company. I used to surround myself with some shitty people. Just remember You are getting to know yourself more and more each day. I’m still learning.
VERMONTCORPLTD is young. Holding almost anything mentioned here is a good hold because the VHS or Beta will only show in time. I want to hold them early. Its sad that most dont think of these things as good future holds instead of being out of the market and bottom hunting. Are we the adopters or are we scavengers? surely one of these layer ones will become the standard and i dont want to sell any of them too early.
Hi, I just turned 30 this year.
I find that a lot of older generations look back to their previous decades of life and say "man I was stupid for thinking I was old back then. NOW I'm old." This is absolutely the case for people in their 20s. When I turned 21 I literally still felt like a teenager. I still worried about stupid teenager stuff like if people still liked me or if people think my clothes looked stupid. The truth is that our insecurities about life achievements carry on way, way into our old age. My mom just turned 62 and she still thinks and talks like she's 17 years old. As kids, we inherit responsibility to live up to our parents' successes. At first you'll be worried that you're not doing enough, or that you're running out of time. You might feel like life is too short to do the things you want to do. But let me say this: life is anything but short. It's so long. Excruciatingly, painfully, devastatingly fucking long. As humans we have nothing but time. Time to learn new things, buy houses, have babies, improve ourselves physically and mentally, etc. Anxiety is a bitch. It tricks you into thinking you're not doing enough or that you're wasting the time you were given. It really just boils down to what you do with these limited years of your life -- either improving it for the people around you or the people that will exist in the future. Life is chaos and entropy and tragedy and horror and the best thing we can do for ourselves is make life easier for those we care about. Future generations are fucked enough as it is, might as well sow some positivity while we still can.
Best comment i’ve read in this comment section, thanks a lot!
Great comment. Thanks for the perspective. Also I loved your all star videos when I was younger!
Basically since high school I always felt that the world was going fast and I had to make all kinds of decisions that would affect the future of my life.
I felt like that for years until I was working a job I knew how to do well but then I wanted more from it,more money but it didnt go that well and then the company closed and I had to find another job.
I dont know if I have ever been so stressed out..
The expectations are big,the coworkers are somewhere in the mid - some are great,some arent so great,the pay is better but there is lots more to learn and do and the job security isnt that safe(got 3 months probation that runs out at the end of this month)
So I am basically back at start but I am not feeling that same feeling that things are moving faster than I want them to.
That said there is some regret for not pushing at college and doing an entirely different type of job.
I have been working on machines for 4 years and now I am on another but bigger but I feel like I am more suited for jobs on a computer like programming or similar but I either dont have that spark or simply the will to go into it cuz no job is easy and also I feel like I am getting old or just my brain got used to the same shit that it's slow at learning new things.
idk if I am pushing myself to learn something quicker than I can.
On old machine I worked it was very simple and I was ready to work on my own after 1 month - I did screw up many times but with every mistake I learned and eventually became really good at it.
At 2 years mark I was basically a professional/master - I knew how to do the job the best on that machine.
Now I am working with other coworkers on machines that are idk 10x bigger,have lots of parts,lots of things to remember yet mistakes can easily cost thousands of dollars which I feel slows down my learning cuz I feel like I remember the most when I make a mistake and the correct it vs the coworker or boss getting mad at the mistake or them just explaning what not to do.
Sometimes I feel like I am being corrected even when I do something my way that might be a bit slower than their way and I am not let to figure out a better way on my own yet I keep being said to think about what I am doing rather than asking what to do in every single situation.
Being new sucks,I hate working in a team but I guess I'll have to figure it out and do it cuz I need money but hopefully I can in the future find a job that suits me more.
Preach baby, Preach!!
Didn't expect to see you here jon
I’m in my 50’s…. I clicked on this video by accident… and I’m glad I did. This guy is speaking 100% truth. Damn!! This generation of amazing young people never ceases to inspire me with your capacity for painfully honest self-reflection. You are going to make this world a MUCH better place than the selfish shitheap my generation did. You really ARE doing great!! Keep doing what you’re doing, and take in the view while you’re at it.
🥺🥺🥺🥺
You really don't know how much it meant to read this as a 20 year old. Thank you :)
Thankyou
@@delaneysmith9251 good job! May I ask which field?
@@KoprolitySenior Global Studies major (MENA concentration) and an Arabic minor
Man I can't thank you enough. You answered so many of my questions on your channel and the way you've done it is healing. You making future look so much brighter, telling this as person in their early 20's
I'll be 21 in some months. I've just learned the hard way: If you won't take good care of your health, your body will turn against you. You aren't eternal and your body's gonna be only older. If you got a pain - seek a medical advice. Don't believe it will go away by itself, it's a risky game to play. And time can be your friend if you act fast.
I'm 20 and I feel like a grandma. This week I started to have a rheumatism treatment.
Good luck in your life, Random Reader!
Also twenty one and get really bad migraines if I don't listen to my body. I'd get so frustrated with myself if I burned out in the middle of the day and it's taken me years to figure what I needed all along was to give myself space to breathe and just SLEEP, which is so overrated when you're looking for quick outs. Best of luck on your health journey!!
@@emberflash1641 Yes, sleep is really important. Coffee can't solve everything x') I've also been there
And thank you!
@@sophierobinson2738 I hope that you only have had a bad experience. Where I live you can see another doctor if that happens. If you feel you're bad, you can also ask for having medical exams. Normally the specialist should propose them to you ;) (but if that's not the case, then fight for it anyway! There always good and bad doctors, don't give up 🥰)
@@SananaAnanas haha oh yeah coffee's definitely not the best route to go, especially long term. Regardless, I've definitely lived and learned the hard way so hopefully I'll be better for it
Had something similar when i was 19. I experienced backpain to the point of breathing restrictions. Worked on my physical and especialy mental health. I'm 21 now and im striving :D.
Little piece of advice (if you want it): Take a look at Dr. Gabor Mate and his studies on Trauma & Stress in relation to illness.
(I am German btw, so if anything starts with a capital letter in the middle of the sentence you now know why :D)
Its really comforting knowing almost everyone feels this way in their 20s.
I just turned 20 a few months ago and I feel like I absolutely have no idea what I’m doing or who I am. But I guess no one does at this age!
Bet on it 😂🙌
I'm 32 and barely understand how I made it through 20-25. At 17 adults go like "ok you want to be treated like an adult?" and then at 20 you're just... on your own and have to figure it out. It's wild. Lol.
Afree
dont speak for everyone
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I’m 18 and my gf of two and a half years broke up with me a couple months ago. I’m struggling with depression and with uni. This video gave me a sense of relief and it’s a bit warming to see people going through the same things.(I meant that in the best way)
The fact that you had a relationship for that long shows that you have commitment, and that speaks volumes.
I’m 20, and only been in a few relationships (none spanning longer than 2 months). When I think in my free time, I came up with this: Just work on yourself. Strive towards a primary goal, then everything else will fall in place. I’m a junior in college, and I’m counting on staying committed to my career path I see myself tolerating so that I can start being an adult.
So my advice: Don’t turn to vices. You got this. It’s not meant to be easy, but greatness only comes when you’re really tested 👍
you’re going to bet through this bro. the same thing happened to me when I was 18 a few years ago and it was an incredibly defining moment. Time heals all wounds. You’ll be so grateful it happened the way it did.
Let yourself grieve ❤
Man, you have such a good energy. Really relatable, compassionate and comforting.
I’m 19 turning 20 in a month… I didn’t even realize how pressured I felt to succeed NOW until this video. Woah. I’m only 19. I just gotta appreciate what I got… thanks man
yeah... start living in the present now!
Turning 18 in a month and I'm feeling the same
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Keep grinding man , you got this
I wish I was 19 again & im 23
I'll be 41 this month. I've learned that most people are thinking/worrying about their own shit 90% of the time, so being concerned about what other people think of you is based on the false assumption that they're even thinking about you at all. I've also learned that people's opinions about other people (or about anything) are a result of who they are and their own life experiences much more than a result of the thing they have an opinion about. I heard it put this way and it clicked for me -- if 100 people watch the same movie, they're all going to have different opinions about it. Some will love it, some will hate it. It doesn't change the movie. The same thing is true about people's opinions of you. You are who you are. Some people will love you, some people won't like you at all. That's based on their expectations of you more than it is about who you are as a person, and their expectations come from their own beliefs and experiences.
Sometimes when I'm worried about what other people think, I ask myself, "If I were someone else, would I judge me for this?" Usually the answer is no, which makes it easier to dismiss other people judging me.
Another thing I know now is that people will tell you "no" with their actions sometimes when they're not telling you with their words. This happens a lot in relationships. You tell someone what you need from them, and they don't actually say "I'm not going to do that for you," but they consistently ignore your feelings and your needs. They're telling you no with their actions.
And one lesson I only recently learned is that you don't have to monetize everything. I have a ton of different interests -- painting, illustration, knitting and crochet, writing, decluttering, teaching, singing -- and over the years when people would tell me that I was good at something, the implication was always that I should somehow get paid for it. Start an Etsy shop, start a tutoring business on the side, etc. But what I learned is that it's okay to do things just because you enjoy them and just because they feel good, and even if you're really really good at those things, it doesn't mean you need to pursue getting paid for them. You can do things just for pleasure and for personal development. I have found that some of the things I felt I should monetize actually make me happier if I give them away for free.
One of the best ways to feel good is to help other people overcome something you've struggled with yourself.
Hope some of this helps someone! Thank you, @struthless, for creating a space where we can talk about these things.
Wow very insightful. Thank you for this.
Best comment I've read. thank you.
Screenshotted almost every paragraph of this comment for future reference when I'm feeling lost and/or deeply insecure, thank you ❤️
- a 20 year old you've helped
Thanks ma'am 🙇🏻
Omg thats so true!! 💪💪💪
You inspire me so much, Campbell. I've been fighting depression for a while, lost an amazing oportunity because of that, while also struggling to finish college (which I "should've" finished two years ago). In the last few days, I didn't even want to get out of bed, let alone study. Your videos were the only thing that motivated me to start getting back on track. I know there's still a long way to go, but listening to your advice makes me confident that I can at least take a small step each day. Thank you so much, and bless you :)
Mid 20's here, totally overwhelmed by the whirlwind of emotions I feel on a daily basis. Having lots of fun, but my mental health has never been more vulnerable. Thank you for this video, feels good to be validated
tbh, girl's life is easiest at their 20s. Its only gonna get harder
The cultural obsession with the 20's becomes a self fulfilling prophecy: if you live like your 20's are all you have, you'll be old at 34; if you pace yourself you can stay young for many decades, and you'll accomplish a lot more with consistent, well rested effort over 40 years than with 10 years of frantic effort.
Best advice for your 20's:
get help to lift heavy things
wear a mask around chemicals
exercise but not too much
only work overtime occasionally
get enough sleep
I think you should also keep doing these things in your 30's. When you're 20 you think, 30 is old. Wenn you're 30 you'll realize, you're still young, but you might have a bit more money, a bit less anxiety and a bit more things figured out. I'm 31 now and I really appreciate this time in my life.
Thank you so much for this advice! Yes I've never understood that, most of your life comes after your 20s so why are they considered all you have? Life is not a race, and if we treat it like a race all it will do is make us unhappy
correct. why do we live to 80 or even 100 to spend only one decade of them as "young"?
Thank you so much for saying this! It really takes pressure off the feeling that you have to accomplish so many things while you’re in your 20s before you’re “too old”
took a screenshot of this :)
I am 21, lying in my dark bedroom in my parents house in just my pants and socks after eating 1/2 a family size tub of lemon sorbet while watching this.
And that’s okay 😂 fuck it man I’m naked aswel
I'm doing the same but instead of lemon sorbet I'm having a chicken sandwich. Being 21 is overrated man, they lied to us. 😂😂😂😂
W in my eyes tbh
Felt
That's goals man
I'm in my 20s and still lost as ever in this sea called "life". I'm really happy to come across this video because it made me see and realize that we shouldn't belittle or pressure ourselves into becoming this person that we know we aren't. I just hope that I can get through this... as well as to those who are lost as I am, we will get through this.
We'll eventually figure this out, no matter how long.
this popped up on my news feed at the point where i really needed it the most. I'm 27 and i had so much in my head to the point where im stressed, depressed, anxious and burnt out every single day, about work, friends, family, expectations, success, etc. But your video really helped me and gave me a perspective that really calmed me down :) thank you. I might save this for reminders. Thank you for sharing your experiences and I wish you that you continue to strive for the best for yourself!
I'm 25, been unemployed since I graduated college. Most of my classmates are, what seem to be, successful influencers or have decent jobs. I was top of my class but for some reason, I can't get a job... in my house, we have to pay rent, groceries keep getting expensive and it hurts to know I can't help. Every TikToker always talks about how they started a small business because of the pandemic and now they are rich (or earn enough). Sometimes it's too much to handle. I really hope it gets better because sometimes I can't see the light.
EDIT: Thank you guys for all your replies, also, I didn't know so many of us feel the same. I really hope this gets better for all of us.
Another Edit: I started going to therapy, and I just got a job. It's getting better.
We are in a same situation. I am 25 and this year graduated. haven't working yet. Everyday feeling anxiety. Need to pay rent . Everything seems expensive . Before at my studies year I used to work. But when I arrived to my country. (I don't like my country but bc of pandemic and money I can't leave now ) I am completely lost. Everyday I feel anxiety and depressed. It feels it doesn't stop. I also hope it gets better
Stay positive friend and never give up. Keep striving for success with all you have and things will get better
@@beckygray6361 Same here, I'm 23 years old and graduated from college. I did have two jobs that aren't related to my major at all before but both sucked greatly and I felt miserable doing them. Now I'm unemployed and lost as heck, I hate my country ( I live in third world poor country and my biggest dream and goal is to find a way to get out to live and work in another developed country ) but every country got serious standards for people they are willing to give immigration chances to and so I constantly feel unworthy of these opportunities. I'm always anxious, depressed, insecure and terrified that even if I do manage to get a chance to get out of here, I might end up realizing that I can't do well there or I might not be able to benefit these countries as much as other immigrants who are way more skilled. I'm trying to improve myself now and learn as much as I can from internet. I'm an adult but I don't feel like a true adult cause I'm always in this stunned state of mind meanwhile other adults already know how to deal with society and outside world. I studied economics but since here education is shit, I spent four years in college and graduated while still not understanding anything about my major or how I'm supposed to use it to earn money. I feel stupid all the time.
@@beckygray6361 You can workout a little bit, meditate, do the household chores and plant so.e vegetables.....this might help you to stay occupied, feel satistified and it might be of help to others, growing your own crops might on expenses as well and ofc stay positive....look at the brightest side of life even though in your darkest time
@@zhangqiling8086 yeah I also studied economics. And the thing we should understand, the knowledge we got from university doesn't work . It is only foundation. That's why I am reading books about economics to get something and also distract myself from all this shit .So and if we gonna work as an economics we should work for free to some months to get a job . Bc they always asks 2 -3 years experiences . I wish you to be successful from your career in the future in one of the developed County
Morgan freeman got his first acting job when he was 21 and didn’t get his next until he was 55. You’re all wonderful and will make it. Good things take time
That's not true. Like at all.
@@jamretro1336 The Morgan Freeman part or that we are all wonderful and will make it?
@@agustingiai8844 Morgan Freeman
@@jamretro1336 Well, we can think about Tarantino then. He had a job on a videoclub, and his first popular movie was at his 30s.
@@agustingiai8844 yes
I'm DCAing in VERMONTCORPLTD as well. ETH heavier DCA and ALGO. I'm taking your advice and starting Google tomorrow with a 50 dollar purchase and continuing Microsoft and Apple. VTI and VOO on another app and longterm portfolio. Here we go family!
I am turning 25 soon and was starting to feel that inner dread of not being where I am supposed to be. Today it hit a little harder than usual and I came across your video searching for financial advice on how to become self sufficient. THIS VIDEO WAS WAY MORE HELPFUL! It’s so refreshing to hear someone else say hey it’s alright it might suck sometimes but you gotta keep pushing through and adapting to live a better you. Thank you 😭😭
I think the biggest revelation for me in my 20s was that you don't ever really feel as old as you are. Your 20s is this weird span of time where teenagers see you as an adult and people in their 30s+ see you as a child still, which makes it really hard for you to know who you actually are. It's like there's this myth in society that once you reach your 20s, you're an adult now and suddenly you should know everything you need to know. The secret is, the people older than you don't feel any different than you do. You won't feel any different when you're their age. At the end of the day, age really doesn't matter. Pay attention to things like maturity, wisdom, and respect. Have fun in your 20s, but also realize that it absolutely is an important stage of growth in your life. It doesn't stop with your teenage years; you will continue to grow and learn until your hair turns white.
That's very true. Plus there's no deadline for doing most things.
my hair started turning white at 19...
I can relate a bit, as I am myself a 23-year-old. I hated it when my peers approached me saying "oh, I wish I was your age." 😓Like wtf, you're merely two years older than me and your eyes are already full of regrets... Age shouldn't matter. We're all young and learning our life lessons, be patient.
@@jacoblau7810 What?? They’re only 25 😂
This reminds me of a Guillermo del Toro quote: "Young people are in the exact age of desperation. I never felt older and more finished than in my 20s. I used to say 'Life past through me and I haven't done anything'. But now I'm here to tell you that its not true; you have a fcking lot of time".
It sounds better in spanish but you get the idea lol
can you help me find the original Spanish quote for this?
@@YOURGE300 Sure. Here at 0:48 th-cam.com/video/kf_VlAXhvp8/w-d-xo.html
I cried reading this, somehow this perfectly sums up feeling lost in your 20s
Como é esta tradução em Espanhol?
i write that down
Kia ora, I'm 22 years old and I love everything you have shared here. I feel like I've been through alot, and have done a shit ton of introspection which has led me to these lessons in life, but hearing them from you in this way had really helped me set my intentions moving forward🙏🏼 Thank you again.
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I'm 25 and I feel lost. Been working on a family business for 5 years but didn't make it better in any way. I found myself in a position where I felt i have no control over my life, nor over my future. I can't find my purpose and it feels like the world is crashing down on me. My girlfriend left me after 9 years because I got addicted to smoking weed and I wasn't doing anything for myself anymore. Nothing works out well. I'm trying to change my life perspective but it seems that everything I put my hands on will not work. It's just so hard but I am happy I realised that no great things come easily in life. I quit smoking, started reading insteand of playing video games, started going to gym again, basically i'm doing things that help me bring back up my selfesteem. We go through hard times because it's the only thing that can help us evolve. Everything takes time, I know I gotta focus on myself now and try to find inner peace, do things I'm passionate about, think positive and hopefully, sooner than later, I'll find my purpose.
Me who isn’t even 20 yet: *ah yes I wish I knew these things before I turned 20*
😂😂
Same😅😂
Lmao legend
same 😂
That pressure (especially for young creatives like me) is SO relatable. "If I started TH-cam at 19, within 5 years with consistent work I had 1 000 000 subs." And then you compare with your reality and feel falling back, being filled with SO MUCH regret (for going to University for 4 years, all that effort, money, nerves feel spent in vain due to better alternative). Everything you do feels inferior or "why I did not do it faster?".
Just turned 29 so still a year away from being done with this decade of my life, but the biggest thing I've learned is that
1. Showing up is 80% of the work. Just show up to your relationships, job, workout, whatever you want to have in life, and the rest is actually easy. Just get started
2. You don't have to kill it at work. I've worked super hard and been told i was shit, i've been lazy and told I was amazing, find the level of effort that makes you proud of YOURSELF and stop there. Don't worry about impressing others or being like others... cuz everyone is too busy with themselves to notice.
3. Revisit your childhood hobbies. Play is the best therapy. Ride your bike, make a doll house, catch bugs, go to the zoo, build a lego tower. and also you DON'T HAVE TO MONETIZE IT OR BE GOOD AT IT. If you enjoy it... THAT'S IT. That's all you need.
Thank you
i’m 20, 21 in january and i connect with 1. on a different level , i’m in a bad spot rn and it’s because i can’t show up. I over sleep everything , to the point now where i’ll do all nighters to avoid not oversleeping or missing out on something. once i’m where i have to be, i excel , but consistently arriving and being present baffles me. I genuinely don’t understand how people are able to wake up every, single, day at the same time. if i could just do that i’d be unstoppable but instead i go to sleep at 8 at night and wake up at 5 in the afternoon pissed my whole days trashed or i missed work or missed something else that’s important.
Thank you, that made me feel a lot better
@@ajrnb1233410 I'm 20 as well turning 21 in march, and I know far too well how you feel. Countless "sleep schedule reset" all-nighters that never worked, sleeping through literally 5 different alarms including my phone, a clock, and my alexa every morning, I've been there and still do struggle to get outta the damn bed sometimes. What caused this for me personally was just excessive screen time especially at night. Just ruins your mind's ability to tell when it should be tired or not, and when you finally fall asleep your brain takes advantage and sleeps for as long as possible to compensate. Try limiting your time online especially later in the day if you currently spend alot of time in front of a screen, or get some blue light glasses to make it easier on your eyes. I wish you the best of luck!
I'm 24 and feel like my life is just beginning now that I'm back in school studying something that I'm actually passionate about!
Same
I’m 26, senior in college and switching my major because I’m just not happy with it. Can I ask what are you studying?
@@HelloSasha707 I changed my major to psychology! I hope you find peace and stability.
One thing I learn from my early 20s is many times, being logical can't get you out of depression. Because it will find an evidence of your sadness and sounds really right but it also doesn't help your life either. Your brain can tricks you that all the negativity you faced are a prove that life isn't worth living. BUT the point is we already alive as a human being and life should feel ok to live so those logical answers that support the negativity are pretty useless or harmful instead of helpful.
Wasting times on slow process can be painful(your mind consistently compare what you do right now that looks like crap/unfinished to the result of other's success) but it's is much better than wasting daily limited energy on supporting the voices in your head that made you hate living and hurt your tomorrows.
as someone seeing 40 as my next bday (what even?!), I agree with your assessment of 20's for sure! I have a few things to add: 1) GET THERAPY. find a therapist that clicks with you, and talk that shit out. it has helped SO MUCH (and I am still in therapy, after going off and on throughout my 20s and 30s). fire the therapist if it isn't working for you, too. you're not obligated to spend money on them if they're not giving you what you need to get where you want to go!
2) YOU ARE NOT A DESTINATION. life is a journey, you're a forever-project, you're not going to reach "done" until you're dead. just give yourself space to experiment and try things and see what you like and what you don't. it's okay to change your mind, too.
and 3) a big thing I have noticed in my 30s that I wish I had known in my 20s, that kind of jives with your "assume everyone is fighting a monster" is: folks do not care about your appearance as much as you do. got a big zit on your face? they might notice but they're probably worried about the zit on their neck that they're hoping you don't notice. are you female-presenting and didn't shave your legs and you're wearing shorts? NO ONE CARES IF YOUR LEGS ARE SMOOTH AS SILK. same for underarm hair. wear makeup, don't wear makeup - do whatever you want that makes you happy with your appearance. get that tattoo. shave your head. dye your hair purple. go cottage core with your wardrobe. life is too dang short to not be your authentic self - even as you're figuring out what the heck that is!
thanks for this video - I hope folks take what they need out of it and go easier on themselves
eh i say dont get that tattoo lol
I got a tattoo at 25, and my only regret is that I got it in a place that I can't see without a mirror. It was a milestone year, and I was a bit homesick, so I got a little frog on the back of my neck. This little frog is only found in my home province in Canada. I got it on the back of my neck where it is easily hidden by my shirt collar and thick hair. 15 years later, it still means a lot to me.
@@sharonoddlyenough I got my first tattoo at 25 - and I am VERY glad I waited until then. it ended up being a flash piece from a shop we walked by while I was on vacation in canada and I had some extra cash and was dying to test my pain threshold (so I could get the big piece I REALLY wanted) - so I got a little birb on the top of my left foot. it was absolutely fine, it's still super cute today, and I actually got a little reverse birb skeleton of it done on my right foot 15+ years later. I think if 18-year-old me had gotten the tattoos she wanted then, I would be getting some removed/covered up. but 25 year old me was READY. ;)
@@sparklypoof oh, those tattoos sound awesome!
Thank you! I'm 18 and my hair is long and I have black nails and I'm a guy haha. happy that I'm being myself and fighting my fears
Sitting here in my 50’s thinking someone “only” in their 30’s isn’t going to have much insight. I was wrong throughly enjoyed this video. Yeah my 20’s were fun, miserable and learned some lessons. So much more to learn in this life. I truly believe in Maslow hierarchy of needs and has been true for me. I wasn’t able to really explore self love, self respect, self actualization until I met my most basic needs and got away from some toxic people/relationships. Wishing everyone out there the best!
I've never heard of Maslow Hierarchy. Thank you! :3
It isn't too easy though - leaving toxic people /relationships... Since you almost don't realize /don't WANT to realize that they are... But then again, like he said : hard choices = easy life and the other way around... Right?
@@GirlFromTheEarlys no it’s not easy. Believe me I’m still struggling there’s no simple fix. I just keep making time for myself and listen to that very quiet intuition.
The thing that sucks is that when your in your 20's, you have to start caring about your health or you'll get fat.
@@trishaspencer9956 I’m 33 and i feel so lost. I’m scared that I’m wasting away mentally and emotionally. I’m not sure how to talk to people.
I'm about to turn 25. I put off watching this video because I felt like you were just gonna tell me stuff I already knew. I finally watched it now. And yeah, thanks for making this. Fortunately, I've been in the situation where most of my 20s dread came during college like when I had to change majors or otherwise fail and had to start thinking about what future me would need to deal with if I didn't change my current self now. Having studied psychology helped a lot too. And now I treat my 20s like a training arc for my 30s. Sadly, the other things like being broke-ish and underexperienced still happened and I get a little envious when people my age are doing well - but I just have to trust myself that by 30 or a little later after, I'll be in good shape too. The biggest thing that helped me out is that "...you miss 100% of the shots you don't take" which is a joke but also it's true. And that we tend to remember the bad things more than the good, so make more good to outweigh the bad keeps you troubled.
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I get envious when people my age are doing well and the feeling is even worse when they’re younger than me. I know it’s wrong and I wish it wasn’t my first reaction
Hi! I'm 25 and this video makes me feel overwhelmingly that I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be and that it's okay. I took a deep breath and realized that I have lots of dreams and it's entirely okay that I'm not there yet. Thank you so much and to anyone who sees this I hope you have a good day c:
'You feel like a naive child in an adult world'. This is SO true for so many of us. Partly this is just life learning experiences, but I also feel like this is our education system failing to prepare us for a lot of the life skills we need to know. I'm always blown away that we're largely left to figure out financial management for ourselves. Imagine how much more peace many of us would have in our 20's if we'd been taught the basics of personal finances before we started earning and spending money.
My school had a class on lessons from Dave Ramsey, if you want knowledge on money and how to use it definitely check him out.
This is super legit. My 30s have been way better just even emotionally. Hang in there youngins
thanks Canada Eh
@@TheEncouragementKid improper use of "eh", go directly to jail bud.
@@AlanaBananaCanada haha sorrrrry
@@TheEncouragementKid s'okay just never do it again
@@AlanaBananaCanada hai!!!!!
6 really hits hard. I have an evergrowing to do list constantly looming in front of me and I'm always not doing things I want for feeling guilty about not doing the things I need to do. Building up that discipline and that routine is something I really really have to work on
Edit: why am I crying
Thanks for this video man, it has really good advices. I turned 20 this year and it's insane how old I feel sometimes, like that feeling of "omg, I haven't done anything good yet with my life". Anxiety is really a terrible thing.
I'm turning 26 in a few months, literally just feel like I'm so old and have wasted my 20s and should just give up because I'm practically 30. Depression and Anxiety are the worst. It's good to know there are a lot of people feeling the same.
Just turned 26 and have been feeling the same, this video and his video about success have helped soothe some of my anxiety. but my biggest advice (as i've finally done it myself) is don't be afraid or ashamed to get help, i've recently started therapy and medication and am already thanking myself for it. we are not martyrs, and we don't need to suffer unnecessarily. i wish you well!
@@dancingdyonysis thank you
28 right now and felt like I woke from a fever dream. You have time!!! We have time. IF you're not sure what you want to do, that's fine, but I strongly recommend you start saving if you have not already. It's so easy to save before marriage, or children or mortgage. Be kind to future you and start that 10-15% savings of your salary in a different account. The comfort that comes with that nest egg is just one thing to stress less about
@@Jasbones it is really hard, especially with so many barriers to actually getting help, from the complicated systems just to sign up to the cost itself to actually getting quality care from doctors. it really is all about baby steps. but that's amazing you've started down the path of healing as well.
Fuck I feel the same lol I’m turning 26 this year and I feel like I went to college for nothing because idk what I’m doing anymore
just turned 20, feeling like I'm just watching everybody living their lifes, like I'm waiting for mine to start but I'm trapped in my head...
we all know what's best for us but we are too tired of all the shit in this world...or just scared idk
true
Hey darling, life is in the here and now. Life is not somewhere else, place or time. Don't spend your life chasing windmills. If I can tell you one thing I've learned, is that the happiest people on this planet are those who learn to appreciate the here and now, the small things, the places where life shows it's beauty, that most people completely miss because they are chasing distractions, illusions. Be kind as much as you can, it feeds your spirit, find a way to help other lives, practice mindfulness (I cannot emphasize this enough), start a practice of meditation (it's a process, don't get discouraged), take care and move your body, learn about wu wei and watch the beauty of life unravel. Never forget, we cannot even imagine the doors that will open along the way. As Rilke said, do not seek the answers that cannot be given to you in the present moment, because you wouldn't be able to live them. Instead live the questions now, and maybe some day in the future, without realising it, you will live along the answer. And the point is, to live trough everything. :)
@@Lina-ws3sy thnx I needed this. I'm also 20
@@Lina-ws3sy thank you so much
@@Lina-ws3sy love this 💕
I’m nearly 21 and life has pretty much just become 3am nostalgia sessions and midday future existentialism parties
1. You 20’s won’t be the time of your life
2. Work on what future you want
3. Assume everyone’s got sh*t
4. At some point drugs stop being fun
5. Don’t stress if you don’t crush it in this decade
6. Hard choices easy life, easy choices hard life
7. Wherever you go there you area
for men, that's pretty accurate
@@adirbarak5256 this legit applies to everyone? Where does the men part even come in?
@@Fahad0947 it's not black and white. But women in their 20's are in their prime (socially) and their 20's is mostly when they "have the time of their lives". Women who get to 30 unaccomplished, single, and childless often experience immense stress, as they should.
@@adirbarak5256 *as they should*. Yuck
@@rhysm9595 as they should yes, we are animals, their biological instincts urge to them to procreate - "their biological clock is ticking". It is really that simple, it's a shame society today make women believe it's not ok to listen to their bodies and instead they should ignore it and listen to "brave strong independent women" on Instagram or the media
His thing about his sexual abuse and releasing himself from childhood trauma in order to enjoy your 20s and the rest of your life really resonated with me.
@free sexy albums in my channel 8. Being a Marvel manchild will get you nowhere.
Openly talking about his sexual abuse made me instantly respect him
I'm 30. We keep changing, improving. Focus your thoughts on the good part of your self and God will unravel great things for you in time.
Thanks for being authentic! It really comes through and is a nice change to a lot of other content out there. You're going to help a lot of people.
7 months into my twenties and all I can say is
*I'm exhausted*
5 days in,same
18 days in, prepare for trouble..
@@Bryan1312a and make that double
5 years in... it's all downhill from here lol
4 years in, take your time. Don’t tie yourself down, and prioritize yourself.
This is weird. His attitude and the music is all positive but what he's saying connects so much I'm just crying. Thank you for this.
He comes off kinda self-absorbed idk something feels wrong to me
@@kam-lw4ez you see certain aspects of yourself in him? Since what you said is a perspective of how you think he feels. And to be précis it feels like you know how it feels to self centered what would then easily be seen in others through indicating cues
@@kam-lw4ez ironic you're name is disillusioned yet write off his message
You're so powerful for having vulnerability and teaching others from your experiences how they can change positively. Thank you!
I recently turned 21 and I’ve been realizing over the last 2 years that there’s a whole lot of baggage that comes with your twenties. Things that no one every really tells you about. I think it’s important to make some self realization of these issues and bring them to light, but man does it suck sometimes. Thanks for all your positivity and what you do! I hope everybody finds the help they need :)
Never stop dreaming. Be hungry and never stop believing in your dreams. If someone can do it, you can do it. Be strong
Being successful don’t happen by magic
Success is dependent on the action or
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@@jeffreyneesmith4953 True, there is never any culture of wealth gathering or wealth creation to keep multiplying your finance that lack an investment value. This means, if you have to plan you must be an investor. that's why Investing in crypto stands to be the best
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I’m 21 and feel like I’m wandering through a weird point in life where I can “do anything”, but also feel so lost as to what I should choose. This video helped as a reminder to not fall into that pressure to succeed at every little thing I do. :,)
Same 😶 I feel like I m not doing enough all my friends are going better and I am happy for them but I still feel bad for myself and the thing is Ik I am not doing enough. ...idk why
Same. Its a weird and different feeling of hopelessness
I'm 21 and I just feel I'm gonna fail on everything I try, I get so scared of failure that I can't keep on trying new things without quitting it, I feel scared for my future cause I don't feel capable of anything but that fear is the thing that's stopping me from actually succeeding so it's kind of a snowball rn
Hi
I did videos like this view it answer see my POV
Thank you for taking the time to make this video and for being so open and honest throughout the entirety of it. This video popped up on my feed out of the blue (I have followed you on Instagram for a couple of years but not here for some reason), and I am really glad it did. Your first few points really hit the nail on the head as far as my own experiences are concerned (I’ll turn 24 in a couple weeks). I had a great undergraduate experience and then, upon entering grad school, had several big life obstacles all hit at once a couple years ago, and I still feel as though I’m picking up the pieces. I have certainly had a hard time letting go of some of the careless/fun habits I used to enjoy all the time, acknowledging the reality of my current situation, and stopping the comparison between myself and those around me. So, while this video is a year old and you may not see this comment, thank you again!
Hey man, just wanted to say I've discovered your videos some time ago and love the honest and compassionate way you talk about things. And also the fact that you have so much courage that you can be honest and tell a secret like your trauma in a video made me instantly admire you. Cheers!
It feels like a huge relief to hear someone speak so clearly and compassionately about things so relevant to me at 26. I really resonate with the part about overcoming trauma and I appreciate you sharing your personal experience. So much love!
in my 20s there wasn't any social media to compare yourself unrealistically out there but we had small actual social knit. Its more fullfilling to our self esteem.
its more healthy in my own pov.
I'm 22 and I feel so lost and useless... I have no idea what to do with myself! It's so stressful to feel the weight on your future adult life on your shoulders, like the college degree we choose, our diet, the skills we decide to work on and the way we spend our free time in general... all that will struggling with our inner demons, as you said. Basically It's a second puberty except there are financial and legal consequences now!! aaaaaaaaaaaah! Hahaha
Thank you for uploading this video!
I just turned 21 bro trust we are gonna make it, we are in this together
I’m in the exact same boat:)
Same...:)
Me too man, me too.
You know what?
Don't take life too serious, let it go, everything will turn out, I'm 30 now and still feel like I'm 23, and I look like it 😂 and you'll figure everything out. I promise.
Don't loose yourself in relationships, go out be playful, take risks, get help if your fucked up.
Be with yourself and just move. Do something, if it's right or wrong and you can't tell know just do it, because afterwards you'll know if it's right or wrong.
My advices up there are so important because nowadays it's hard to feel yourself and find a gap where to fit in.
But you got the chance to get to know you.
And if your ever hitting a point where everything feels senseless, and like your stucked, you got two options, hoping that life is making something pushing you from your back and you'll fall really hard because it'll come without a warning, or second option you turn around, find your fears, except them and work with them, give yourself a new way. Shadow work.
And he'll yes its gona be a bumpy ride, but how else should life shake you out of your mind and body state.
Or shake yourself. Everyday, don't give up, you didn't made it to get a knew routine in your life because your only made it through 3 days?
Simply go on.
There's simply no use in self judge.
Love to you all!
I just turned 27 and I feel like I haven't done enough but I'm on my own and things keep happening to set me back but I keep trying and I'm really thankful for this video. You help me realize I'm not a failure just takes time
The last sentence. Exactly how I feel
I'm 26 and just stumbling upon your video made me cry! You're truly amazing!
Thank you for being there VERMONTCORPLTD when I wanted you to..... I was lost in this new world that I was hassled to start with ....you not only guided me along the way but you also showed me the proper way....whatever little I have been able to achieve in life is because of you today ..... I want to thank you for being there and showing me the proper way of doing thing for me you are my best guide as you truly showed me the way to life....once again , I would like to tell you a heartfelt thanks for being there.
I’m 26, have a decent paying job, even got a fiancé and 2 kids. But damn do I still feel like a lost little boy in this world. I actually hate my job but I still go to work every day. I struggle with issues like anxiety and I have no friends so I’m always a bit depressed. Aside from being a father, I have no idea how to get the rest of my life going. I don’t know how to love my hobbies and sometimes I don’t even how if I have proper hobbies. I feel alone so often it’s not funny. I often wonder if my life will actually get to a point where I’m happy with it. I love my kids and fiancé but I feel like I’m missing 85% of the rest of what I should have in life.
Hope that you will find your way
I can relate with you so much. Thank you for writing that. I‘m sure it will get better and you will find a fulfilling place in life after all.
I´ll tell you about my life. I´m 26 years old too. I have no kids or wife. Never had I a girlfriend. I have many friends and I do party a lot. I look quite good and I´m loved by the people around me.
Still...I wish to have a relationship and having sex regulary and just hug someone when I come home from work and not being alone.
My job is okayish but I seek for a better payed and more chilled one.
What I want to say is that you should be grateful about what you have and change what you don´t like. Your age, kids, wife or whatever aren´t what holds you back. It´s only yourself.
You got it man :)
hope you can be happy one day man. i guess the job matters a lot. i'm 17 rn and kinda have to chose what will i do one day, and have no idea. don't have any hobbies that i'd be that good at... and i can't imagine actually going through with it without actually bring interested in it at leat a bit. may i ask what job you have?
Focus on what you have and address your hidden traumas you will feel better in 2-3 years. What would tomorrow you want?
Its never too late to start from somewhere , I am lucky to have found this source, it’s the future
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