In puberty, I've been doing lots of things for the first time as a teenager. Now I'm doing things for the first time as a young adult. Just as challenging as it was before, same cake but different box.
Same Talita... Especially on social media it seems like you could be super successful rn, you are just not trying hard enough... But you are doing enough, don't worry 💕
@@rigrace trust me, more often than not "successful" means bad with money lol. I invest and make like 5-10x what many of my friends make and save and re- invest it all and drive the same old beat up Mazda I got 8 years ago in 11th grade. Meanwhile my friends are all in new jeeps, BMW, pick ups etc, always going out for lunch (like every few days) and they are BROKE. and will be for much of their lives, I know because if I lived like they do I'd be broke too, even with a much higher income. It's all fun and games until you're still working at 80. Just remember Instagram is exactly what it looks like... a SNAPSHOT of life. Often exaggerated. If u spend your twenties trying to look the best on Instagram you're probably spending the money you could have used to invest to actually become wealthy later in life
When I was 23 I had the same. Now that I am 31 I see all these other clueless adults (at a high paying job environment) and i realized that all the other 23 year olds at the time were either way better at bluffing or just as insecure and thought that I was way smarter and better. On youtube and internet it seems like many people of your age are great and successful but honestly they just randomly (for the most part) happened to float to the top, below them there are hundreds that tried and failed just by bad luck. Your time will come that you will realize: everyone is clueless and just floating around.
"there is a freakish pressure that the internet is putting on young creative people to be stupidly successful super young" omg THANK YOU i needed someone to address that
I’m 23, felt completely lost for the past month. Full of depression/thoughts for killing myself. feeling like a disappointment for not being in school. Watching this really helped. Appreciate you. ❤
Brooooooooooooooooooooooo I hope both of you are here, in one piece and hopefully you smiled about something. I received advice once “ just keep smiling “ Sounds like bullshit. But whenever Iv made decisions on whether I’m smiling or not my life gets better. Iv killed myself for my career and job the last 5 years. I’m 23. Iv really become someone in my field as well. My job and actual place of work I loved but this exact place just sucked the life out of me and made me nothing but sad. After 5 years I changed jobs same field but somewhere else. This new LOVES me. Everyone there is relatively happy and so different from my last place. Iv been smiling more often than not since I started. I felt so awful before I switched and stood up for myself. I go home happy like the place that would contain my nasty thoughts and let me spiral out of control… my home. Now is a place of energy and excitement. Like I want to do things and I’m thinking about my success and future. Life never stops offering opportunities like so randomly. My best piece of advice to myself and anyone who’s maybe suicidal. Is I promise tomorrow is a new day. Anything can happen. But killing yourself removes the chance of you playing the lottery and winning. It may have not been high before but it wasn’t zero. There will be winning lottery’s in your life but look for them. Your life directional thing is your happiness. Fuck everyone like everyone it’s you vs the world at the end of the day. Do what makes you happy. Also find a hobby. You’ll find friends through your hobby. If your friend sucks fuck em I swear to god just stop. Be friends with them when it’s convenient but find someone who will be friends with you when it’s inconvenient. They’re worth their weight in gold. Love you guys. Keep smiling
Same, im also 23 and i have nothing going on in my life, im in my jobless period after graduated, back home, no friends, and i literally see no future of me, just confused and lost.... lets just hope its get better with time
im in the same boat aswell, im 24, i have a finished apprenticeship, tried a bunch of different jobs, but non really tend to fit me, then i quit them don't work for several months, stay at home distract myself with social media and gaming, im telling myself im useless and can't get my shit together and find motivation to work or even live life. Suicidal thoughts occasionally. Yeah figuring shit out, what you want from your life is really hard. wish all you guys in the comments and myself that we can figure it out. gl hf
That's what many people do with many of us who are autistic. We like to focus on stuff we know we can do or just like to do, and not doing stuff others to just to fit in (there are exceptions though, poor them). Harmful sub-conscious biases, assumptions and generalization is the bane of our existence.
It should but too often we fall into a habit of focusing on the negative like you just did. Try to focus on the more positive side of those quotes as both quotes say the same thing just one does it in a healthier way.
I kinda understand the point but also it doesnt make sense. Isnt it good to improve the areas where you are lacking? Maybe that's the gamble. You have to lose what you have now so you can have something else that you want more. For example lets say now you are working as an electrician and earn 2k$ a month but you really want more money and work on a computer like a programmer. You will lose the experience you built up and portofolio from working as an electrician but will work as a programmer and potentially earn more if you focus on it and work hard.
Essentially It’s hard but not impossible… in order to go towards our dreams we sacrifice somethings out of our lives in order to achieve and show the power and potential we are capable of when we set our minds and focus 🧘
People don't realise how much time they have when they're in their twenties. The best advice I have for 20 year olds is, don't let the internet rush you. Enjoy the ride and don't rush yourself.
@@brucewayne3608 Enjoy life a little more? xD don't rust Success, Sucess will come in time. if you try rushing it it will cause so much more problems. like depresion, Sleep Deprived, ignoring love ones (like Family members or friends). and even Excersice (which will start effecting you around 30's). but im just 21 i think xD. strolling around each corner to see what i loved and i stroll for quite a while now started this year actually... haven't found the thing i "loved" but found things i like... but im still goin too fast for my good :P i can go on and on but imma leave at that.
@@Aryan-uo6hb "waste less time on friends". its true you want to do well for yourself but you also don't want to have a miserable life without any fun experiences. before I get old and decrepit i want to make sure I made the most of my youth
Turning 22 on the 30th. So far, my 20s have been a scam. Lots of crying, confusion, unsure why I’m not where I’m “supposed to be”. This video brought me so, so, so much comfort. Thank you, so much. Edit: what a beautiful community. It’s so lovely to see how not alone we are. I could cry at all these responses. Wishing you all so much luck. Bless.♡
I was 23 when I took the biggest leap of my life and then another ~3 years to finally be at a place where I’ve found what I want to do. Even then (now), I’m still figuring things out and will always be. So keep going!
I'm turning 21 on the 30th aswell and i think 30th july if the best date for a birthday hahaha just saying. Good luck anyways man hope you find your way.
I'm turning 22 this 27th and i've been feeling the same as well for the past year or so since getting out of college and not really into my job, but watching GaryVee vids helped me in understanding that its a long game and we need to have patience and be consistent in our efforts. That's all that matters. remember its a long game, we have anywhere between a 40-50 year career ahead of us so put in efforts and dont expect anything nice to happen in the next 5-6 years. i think this perspective really helps a lot for me. i hope it helps you too.
That's exactly how I feel. Turning 23 in about a week. Feels like I was scammed for the first 18 years of my life, the past 4 has been coping with the whiplash, then this past year has been a massive amount of realization of what happened, and how I'm not the only one this happened to, and how I can actively choose to take steps to recover and create a genuinely fulfilling live. Videos like these are so great for providing a space for people like us to talk about this.
I saw this video at 20, I just turned 22. I am such a different person from then to now. So many hard lessons. Your life, your personality, your values change so much during this time.
Wow, I'm 18 and I'm scared that when I'm older my life will be completely turned around and my ideias personality and objectives are all different..... Any tips?
@@LuisC7 What are your beliefs? If that’s too personal, let me just say, if you can’t have your beliefs or plans for the future challenged, you’ll do yourself a disservice from exploring potential outcomes you weren’t even aware of. That’s how you get to know yourself. HealthyGamer is a great resource that’s helped me a lot over the past year in figuring myself out.
Mate I can't believe you went from having a secret you thought you'd take to your grave, to openly sharing it on your platform like this. That's crazy, and I'm so proud of you! I bet you're stoked with that progress too. God bless mum's
"Am I not enough?" This is painfully true. I definitely struggled with this during my twenties and only now that I'm 30, I'm slowly getting better. Therapy helps.
@@bhaveshtochabbra6853 it’s cliche but talking to my close friends or any friends helped me immensely. Cause they always listened. Although they were never good at advice they were there and sometimes that’s all you need. Is support.
@@bhaveshtochabbra6853 I prefer talking to 2 of my cousin I’m closest to. I feel like they understand my situation better bc they’ve seen a little of it. I wish I could talk to my siblings more but I’m still a bit too nervous and don’t want to stress my family but I know it’d help a lot if I did.
@@Lala-lw8vx heh, same here. Even if I talk to my mom, I still feel like it's a burden for her to hear the same things over and over again, or I feel cringe for sharing them with her. But I learned over time that she, as my mother, is the best person that I can speak to, and is really happy that I can speak with her. Try talking to your family, they may want this as well but not know how to break the ice. They are the most valuable help and support, if they are open and willing to discuss with you. Don't worry that you'll burden them, you'll really help them and yourself if you are open. They will be happy to be there with and for you.
Hi, I just turned 30 this year. I find that a lot of older generations look back to their previous decades of life and say "man I was stupid for thinking I was old back then. NOW I'm old." This is absolutely the case for people in their 20s. When I turned 21 I literally still felt like a teenager. I still worried about stupid teenager stuff like if people still liked me or if people think my clothes looked stupid. The truth is that our insecurities about life achievements carry on way, way into our old age. My mom just turned 62 and she still thinks and talks like she's 17 years old. As kids, we inherit responsibility to live up to our parents' successes. At first you'll be worried that you're not doing enough, or that you're running out of time. You might feel like life is too short to do the things you want to do. But let me say this: life is anything but short. It's so long. Excruciatingly, painfully, devastatingly fucking long. As humans we have nothing but time. Time to learn new things, buy houses, have babies, improve ourselves physically and mentally, etc. Anxiety is a bitch. It tricks you into thinking you're not doing enough or that you're wasting the time you were given. It really just boils down to what you do with these limited years of your life -- either improving it for the people around you or the people that will exist in the future. Life is chaos and entropy and tragedy and horror and the best thing we can do for ourselves is make life easier for those we care about. Future generations are fucked enough as it is, might as well sow some positivity while we still can.
Basically since high school I always felt that the world was going fast and I had to make all kinds of decisions that would affect the future of my life. I felt like that for years until I was working a job I knew how to do well but then I wanted more from it,more money but it didnt go that well and then the company closed and I had to find another job. I dont know if I have ever been so stressed out.. The expectations are big,the coworkers are somewhere in the mid - some are great,some arent so great,the pay is better but there is lots more to learn and do and the job security isnt that safe(got 3 months probation that runs out at the end of this month) So I am basically back at start but I am not feeling that same feeling that things are moving faster than I want them to. That said there is some regret for not pushing at college and doing an entirely different type of job. I have been working on machines for 4 years and now I am on another but bigger but I feel like I am more suited for jobs on a computer like programming or similar but I either dont have that spark or simply the will to go into it cuz no job is easy and also I feel like I am getting old or just my brain got used to the same shit that it's slow at learning new things. idk if I am pushing myself to learn something quicker than I can. On old machine I worked it was very simple and I was ready to work on my own after 1 month - I did screw up many times but with every mistake I learned and eventually became really good at it. At 2 years mark I was basically a professional/master - I knew how to do the job the best on that machine. Now I am working with other coworkers on machines that are idk 10x bigger,have lots of parts,lots of things to remember yet mistakes can easily cost thousands of dollars which I feel slows down my learning cuz I feel like I remember the most when I make a mistake and the correct it vs the coworker or boss getting mad at the mistake or them just explaning what not to do. Sometimes I feel like I am being corrected even when I do something my way that might be a bit slower than their way and I am not let to figure out a better way on my own yet I keep being said to think about what I am doing rather than asking what to do in every single situation. Being new sucks,I hate working in a team but I guess I'll have to figure it out and do it cuz I need money but hopefully I can in the future find a job that suits me more.
I’m 29 now turning 30 in 3 months. My dad told me a few years ago that your 20s are some of the hardest days of your life. I used to think this wasn’t the case because I was having the time of life. But now looking back I see what he means. I thought life couldn’t get any better, It’s like you are an adult but there are still certain responsibilities that are put on hold. But there also comes a lot of struggles, worries and anxieties. You feel like you don’t have your life together and that everybody your age is so much further ahead in life than you. You sometimes feel like you’ll never make it. It’s a confusing, stressful, worrying and uncertain time of your life. But if you keep working and you don’t give up there will come a time when that self doubt you used to have will start to fade and you will feel more positive about your life and where you’re at. You can do this ❤
@@hobi1369 EVERYONE is doing the same - if not, the vast majority. Everyone is different, and everyone acts differently, but the one thing we all share is 1) sturggle, 2) taxes and 3) death. Be humble, take advice, grow and help others as much as you can.
I'm 40 and I must say this advice is genuine. I encourage everyone to pursue their dreams, but first, set up realistic goals. Don't believe what Social Media/ Gurus are telling you, success doesn't come quickly nor, easy.
Couldn't have said it better. I am turning 40 this month and it is just the last 2-3 years that I am finally happy with a great job, after many years of being patient at other jobs. I wish the same for you! (or even better, already being in this position a lot earlier than me!)
The follow up question becomes "what is realistic?" to that sentiment. Most people don't have enough experience to determine what is a realistic goal for themselves. The best way to figure that out is to observe, experiment, consult, and persist. Observe real life examples, not the face masks people tend to put on social media. Experiment with your limits to help build a baseline of what you can achieve based on previous attempts. And consult with others in your life with more experience (but take it with a grain of salt, they might be suffering from set backs or face masking as well so use a wider pool of people to help with finding a median sample) and see how the advise might apply to your situation. But most importantly, persist... you're not likely going to get realistic goals lined up right away. You're likely going to under or over shoot things until you get enough experience to better assess things. There will be set backs you don't have enough experience to predict, so take the failures that come and use them to help reassess and set up the next set of goals.
1. Your 20s won't be the time of your life 2. You don't do things for you, you do things for FUTURE you 3. Assume everyone's got shit (their own struggles and baggage) 4. At some point, drugs stop being fun 5. Don't stress if you don't crush it this decade 6. Hard choices = easy life, Easy choices = hard life 7. Wherever you go, there you are
on videos like this, i always scroll down looking for the comment that has the overview in an easy list format like this. thank you for doing us all a favor and commenting this, the people who do that make things alot easier for everyone else trying to process concepts in these informational videos!
Hey man, as a totally random person watching this video I just wanna say it's absolutely great and brave of you to speak so openly about the fact that you were abused and how you struggled with it later. I feel tons of respect for you. And thanks a lot for this whole video!
@@FrickYourHandle Yep, and how great that she had the opposite reaction and helped create what I can only guess would be a feeling of huge relief and finally a chance to help process an old shadow.
Hmh I was abused as a child as well and when I told my then girlfiriend at 18, she completely stopped respecting me. Sad thing is that she had also been abused as i child, so it never occurred to me that she would reject me. Never have told anyone about it since.@@FrickYourHandle
Its really comforting knowing almost everyone feels this way in their 20s. I just turned 20 a few months ago and I feel like I absolutely have no idea what I’m doing or who I am. But I guess no one does at this age!
I'm 32 and barely understand how I made it through 20-25. At 17 adults go like "ok you want to be treated like an adult?" and then at 20 you're just... on your own and have to figure it out. It's wild. Lol.
I’m 19 turning 20 in a month… I didn’t even realize how pressured I felt to succeed NOW until this video. Woah. I’m only 19. I just gotta appreciate what I got… thanks man
I'll be 41 this month. I've learned that most people are thinking/worrying about their own shit 90% of the time, so being concerned about what other people think of you is based on the false assumption that they're even thinking about you at all. I've also learned that people's opinions about other people (or about anything) are a result of who they are and their own life experiences much more than a result of the thing they have an opinion about. I heard it put this way and it clicked for me -- if 100 people watch the same movie, they're all going to have different opinions about it. Some will love it, some will hate it. It doesn't change the movie. The same thing is true about people's opinions of you. You are who you are. Some people will love you, some people won't like you at all. That's based on their expectations of you more than it is about who you are as a person, and their expectations come from their own beliefs and experiences. Sometimes when I'm worried about what other people think, I ask myself, "If I were someone else, would I judge me for this?" Usually the answer is no, which makes it easier to dismiss other people judging me. Another thing I know now is that people will tell you "no" with their actions sometimes when they're not telling you with their words. This happens a lot in relationships. You tell someone what you need from them, and they don't actually say "I'm not going to do that for you," but they consistently ignore your feelings and your needs. They're telling you no with their actions. And one lesson I only recently learned is that you don't have to monetize everything. I have a ton of different interests -- painting, illustration, knitting and crochet, writing, decluttering, teaching, singing -- and over the years when people would tell me that I was good at something, the implication was always that I should somehow get paid for it. Start an Etsy shop, start a tutoring business on the side, etc. But what I learned is that it's okay to do things just because you enjoy them and just because they feel good, and even if you're really really good at those things, it doesn't mean you need to pursue getting paid for them. You can do things just for pleasure and for personal development. I have found that some of the things I felt I should monetize actually make me happier if I give them away for free. One of the best ways to feel good is to help other people overcome something you've struggled with yourself. Hope some of this helps someone! Thank you, @struthless, for creating a space where we can talk about these things.
Screenshotted almost every paragraph of this comment for future reference when I'm feeling lost and/or deeply insecure, thank you ❤️ - a 20 year old you've helped
Just turned 27 a few days ago. I am the most lost I have ever been in my life. I graduated from HS a year early but after that everything in my life fell apart and I dropped out of college. Always struggled with crippling depression. Recently got out of a long-term abusive relationship and made a drastic life change where I'm now completely alone 1000 miles away from where I lived all of my life and am going to school, but sometimes it's hard to keep up motivation. I have always been 'behind' after HS while watching my cousins (who are younger than me), ex-partner and past friends be successful. Thank you for this video
I know everything will turn out better for you! Sometimes things happen that way, but it won't be for long. I also went through something similar, but I have faith that everything will fall in place perfectly again and I won't have to force myself to be happy anymore. I actually will be, and so will you.
Sitting here in my 50’s thinking someone “only” in their 30’s isn’t going to have much insight. I was wrong throughly enjoyed this video. Yeah my 20’s were fun, miserable and learned some lessons. So much more to learn in this life. I truly believe in Maslow hierarchy of needs and has been true for me. I wasn’t able to really explore self love, self respect, self actualization until I met my most basic needs and got away from some toxic people/relationships. Wishing everyone out there the best!
It isn't too easy though - leaving toxic people /relationships... Since you almost don't realize /don't WANT to realize that they are... But then again, like he said : hard choices = easy life and the other way around... Right?
@@GirlFromTheEarlys no it’s not easy. Believe me I’m still struggling there’s no simple fix. I just keep making time for myself and listen to that very quiet intuition.
I’m in my 50’s…. I clicked on this video by accident… and I’m glad I did. This guy is speaking 100% truth. Damn!! This generation of amazing young people never ceases to inspire me with your capacity for painfully honest self-reflection. You are going to make this world a MUCH better place than the selfish shitheap my generation did. You really ARE doing great!! Keep doing what you’re doing, and take in the view while you’re at it.
About to be 21 tomorrow. I'm only a year into this decade and I already feel so different from when I was a teenager. Glad to see everyone has their own thing going on, and that we're sharing our experiences under this comment section. Good luck to everyone and keep on rocking!
I had a difficult time when I was between 18 and 21 and I did not even realise it. I felt like you, felt so different from teenagers so it was hard for me to relate to them. They complained about me being arrogant when I was not, they were the insecure idiots. I became very arrogant recently because I was too insecure in the past. After all, dropping out from high school is not as bad as people think. Staying in high school is worse.
I turn 21 in 2 weeks and I would like to say.. I don’t recognize myself by how much I have changed. I got married at 19 and so I’ve had to grow a little extra fast feels like and I just feel like a completely different person than I was 2 years ago almost at 19… just wow.
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I am 23 and I don't think Im doing bad. What bothers me is, will I ever be able to afford my own place ? Where will i bring up a family ? Will I ever have enough to retire ? Im just 23, but life passes and if i don't achieve what I want by the time Im 40, I probably won't achieve it ever and that scares me.
@@jakubmuron9030 Heyy another member of the 23 club here! Let's, just for a second, put aside the fact that you can absolutely accomplish the things you want to accomplish after 40. Over the past few years I've been feeling a lot of the same way as you, worried I'm not meeting my goals fast enough or hitting those classic mile markers in life at the right time. Something that's really helped me is putting in perspective what a ridiculous amount of time we still have left. Think about everything you've accomplished over the last 23 years. Every person you've met, every joke you've told, every happy memory you have, every thing you've learned. It's a lot! It's the entirety of time you've ever experienced! And you probably didn't even realize what was happening until you were like 5 or 6. Now realize that from now until the time you're worried about, you have the entirety of the life you've already lived. Every single memory you have, every single thing you've ever experienced, every single thing that makes you who you are. And you get to have that again, just in the time between now and the time you're worried about. Isn't that insane? You did so much in the first 23 years! And for more than half of it you didn't even have agency over how you got to live it. Now you have so many options! You have more control over your life than you ever have before! That's not even accounting for the fact that the vast majority of people continue to do things and accomplish their goals after 40. Because remember your entire life? You know, all of existence that you've ever experienced? You not only get to live your entire lived lifespan over again, you get to do it like 3 or 4 more times! You get to live the entirety of your life again in the best conditions your life has ever been another 4 times! That's such a crazy amount of time!! I by no means have lived a full life but the idea of doing the equivalency of everything I've ever done all over again feels monumental to me! And the fact I can learn from the mess that was my early years and improve on the time I got, it's such a good deal I feel like I'm being scammed. Don't get me wrong, you still gotta make good choices, live for the future you, put the work in to getting the life you want. And there will be plenty of hard times, moments when life doesn't go your way and kicks you while you're down. Not every year is created equal, but that's true for the years you've already lived as well. That's life in lifespan after all. But don't ever let yourself fall into the trap of thinking you're running out of time. Because holy shit, we have such an unfathomable amount of time left! It's all of our existence and more! And even though there are always more things to do, I think that's plenty of time to achieve the goals you want to achieve
@@jakubmuron9030 I get that too, sat here on a minimum wage job I like thinking “when do I jump to the big money where I can survive alone? Will I have to do a job I don’t want”
I feel lost and unaccomplished in alot of things, I don't have enough to live on my own nor do I have a love life. I just exist without a map or paddle to go in any direction. Hopefully things will improve for all of us
Imagine being a 21yo, in a pandemic, not studying, not working, not in a relationship, without a single penny in your pocket, living in the third world, moving to a country where you'll probably be one of the less educated people... This is me. At least I have a chance to be someone and to do something. Thank you for the video! Very helpful! Edit: I am here in Portugal, and I must say that I am way happier/better than before, and I will be meeting my LDR girlfriend next month. It's all a matter of time, I guess... The secret is not to be desperate.
@@sac7404 Leaving Brazil in October/November. I am gonna start living in Portugal. I plan to finish my studies, improve my English... I would really love to live in Ireland (at least for some time) in order to improve my English, which is a language that I really love. Who knows what I am gonna do... I just want to be happy.
I'll be 21 in some months. I've just learned the hard way: If you won't take good care of your health, your body will turn against you. You aren't eternal and your body's gonna be only older. If you got a pain - seek a medical advice. Don't believe it will go away by itself, it's a risky game to play. And time can be your friend if you act fast. I'm 20 and I feel like a grandma. This week I started to have a rheumatism treatment. Good luck in your life, Random Reader!
Also twenty one and get really bad migraines if I don't listen to my body. I'd get so frustrated with myself if I burned out in the middle of the day and it's taken me years to figure what I needed all along was to give myself space to breathe and just SLEEP, which is so overrated when you're looking for quick outs. Best of luck on your health journey!!
@@sophierobinson2738 I hope that you only have had a bad experience. Where I live you can see another doctor if that happens. If you feel you're bad, you can also ask for having medical exams. Normally the specialist should propose them to you ;) (but if that's not the case, then fight for it anyway! There always good and bad doctors, don't give up 🥰)
@@SananaAnanas haha oh yeah coffee's definitely not the best route to go, especially long term. Regardless, I've definitely lived and learned the hard way so hopefully I'll be better for it
Had something similar when i was 19. I experienced backpain to the point of breathing restrictions. Worked on my physical and especialy mental health. I'm 21 now and im striving :D. Little piece of advice (if you want it): Take a look at Dr. Gabor Mate and his studies on Trauma & Stress in relation to illness. (I am German btw, so if anything starts with a capital letter in the middle of the sentence you now know why :D)
I think the biggest revelation for me in my 20s was that you don't ever really feel as old as you are. Your 20s is this weird span of time where teenagers see you as an adult and people in their 30s+ see you as a child still, which makes it really hard for you to know who you actually are. It's like there's this myth in society that once you reach your 20s, you're an adult now and suddenly you should know everything you need to know. The secret is, the people older than you don't feel any different than you do. You won't feel any different when you're their age. At the end of the day, age really doesn't matter. Pay attention to things like maturity, wisdom, and respect. Have fun in your 20s, but also realize that it absolutely is an important stage of growth in your life. It doesn't stop with your teenage years; you will continue to grow and learn until your hair turns white.
I can relate a bit, as I am myself a 23-year-old. I hated it when my peers approached me saying "oh, I wish I was your age." 😓Like wtf, you're merely two years older than me and your eyes are already full of regrets... Age shouldn't matter. We're all young and learning our life lessons, be patient.
im 17 lol i guess you could say im getting a head start but i just enjoy hearing about peoples lives. we’re all just a bunch of kids trying to get our shit together
as someone seeing 40 as my next bday (what even?!), I agree with your assessment of 20's for sure! I have a few things to add: 1) GET THERAPY. find a therapist that clicks with you, and talk that shit out. it has helped SO MUCH (and I am still in therapy, after going off and on throughout my 20s and 30s). fire the therapist if it isn't working for you, too. you're not obligated to spend money on them if they're not giving you what you need to get where you want to go! 2) YOU ARE NOT A DESTINATION. life is a journey, you're a forever-project, you're not going to reach "done" until you're dead. just give yourself space to experiment and try things and see what you like and what you don't. it's okay to change your mind, too. and 3) a big thing I have noticed in my 30s that I wish I had known in my 20s, that kind of jives with your "assume everyone is fighting a monster" is: folks do not care about your appearance as much as you do. got a big zit on your face? they might notice but they're probably worried about the zit on their neck that they're hoping you don't notice. are you female-presenting and didn't shave your legs and you're wearing shorts? NO ONE CARES IF YOUR LEGS ARE SMOOTH AS SILK. same for underarm hair. wear makeup, don't wear makeup - do whatever you want that makes you happy with your appearance. get that tattoo. shave your head. dye your hair purple. go cottage core with your wardrobe. life is too dang short to not be your authentic self - even as you're figuring out what the heck that is! thanks for this video - I hope folks take what they need out of it and go easier on themselves
I got a tattoo at 25, and my only regret is that I got it in a place that I can't see without a mirror. It was a milestone year, and I was a bit homesick, so I got a little frog on the back of my neck. This little frog is only found in my home province in Canada. I got it on the back of my neck where it is easily hidden by my shirt collar and thick hair. 15 years later, it still means a lot to me.
@@sharonoddlyenough I got my first tattoo at 25 - and I am VERY glad I waited until then. it ended up being a flash piece from a shop we walked by while I was on vacation in canada and I had some extra cash and was dying to test my pain threshold (so I could get the big piece I REALLY wanted) - so I got a little birb on the top of my left foot. it was absolutely fine, it's still super cute today, and I actually got a little reverse birb skeleton of it done on my right foot 15+ years later. I think if 18-year-old me had gotten the tattoos she wanted then, I would be getting some removed/covered up. but 25 year old me was READY. ;)
I just turned 20 recently and I’ve felt so paralyzed by the rush to pack as much into this decade as possible. I didn’t realize that I was setting an impossible standard for myself. The part of the video where you talk about appreciating what you already have is very useful to me, thank you ❤️
I was 19 when Covid hit and now I am 21 and it feels like I just got teleported two years into the future and I just can’t wrap my head around that I am that old. I feel like 16 + 5 haha and have no idea how to do this adult life
I feel the same as you, i feel like covid stole 2 years of my life my 20 was ruined, I had a lot of plans, and if it wasn't for covid I would have been in a whole different place, living a whole different life
@@kam-lw4ez you see certain aspects of yourself in him? Since what you said is a perspective of how you think he feels. And to be précis it feels like you know how it feels to self centered what would then easily be seen in others through indicating cues
It feels like a huge relief to hear someone speak so clearly and compassionately about things so relevant to me at 26. I really resonate with the part about overcoming trauma and I appreciate you sharing your personal experience. So much love!
in my 20s there wasn't any social media to compare yourself unrealistically out there but we had small actual social knit. Its more fullfilling to our self esteem. its more healthy in my own pov.
Turning 23 in about a week and it’s honestly such a relief to see that I am not alone. The constant feeling of beeing not enough and making the wrong decisions is crazy. So what I learned from this video: Relax, like honestly and just try to be a little better everyday by beeing grateful and doing the right things
Well, everybody is different : alcool gave me inspiration, colors, lights, stories, musics, texts. Of course you have to make a sort between good and bad the next day and clarify the descriptions to have something good but but with money, time, and hard work I could earn an oscar with what I use to create while being drunk. :o) But for what I've finally understood being tired more than drunk is even more powerful. I create and work in a much better way when I'm a little sleepy and it's not cringe or with missing words and sentences, and with *a little bit* of alcool it's even better. Only the rythm of the text is a little bad and has to be reworked, all is a matter of moderation. ^^ Now I nearly never drink as I am tired of it, I've never felt addicted to alcool, and I never felt a lack of alcool. Everybody is different.
I’m 21 and feel like I’m wandering through a weird point in life where I can “do anything”, but also feel so lost as to what I should choose. This video helped as a reminder to not fall into that pressure to succeed at every little thing I do. :,)
I'm 21 and I just feel I'm gonna fail on everything I try, I get so scared of failure that I can't keep on trying new things without quitting it, I feel scared for my future cause I don't feel capable of anything but that fear is the thing that's stopping me from actually succeeding so it's kind of a snowball rn
I'm 25, been unemployed since I graduated college. Most of my classmates are, what seem to be, successful influencers or have decent jobs. I was top of my class but for some reason, I can't get a job... in my house, we have to pay rent, groceries keep getting expensive and it hurts to know I can't help. Every TikToker always talks about how they started a small business because of the pandemic and now they are rich (or earn enough). Sometimes it's too much to handle. I really hope it gets better because sometimes I can't see the light. EDIT: Thank you guys for all your replies, also, I didn't know so many of us feel the same. I really hope this gets better for all of us. Another Edit: I started going to therapy, and I just got a job. It's getting better.
We are in a same situation. I am 25 and this year graduated. haven't working yet. Everyday feeling anxiety. Need to pay rent . Everything seems expensive . Before at my studies year I used to work. But when I arrived to my country. (I don't like my country but bc of pandemic and money I can't leave now ) I am completely lost. Everyday I feel anxiety and depressed. It feels it doesn't stop. I also hope it gets better
@@beckygray6361 Same here, I'm 23 years old and graduated from college. I did have two jobs that aren't related to my major at all before but both sucked greatly and I felt miserable doing them. Now I'm unemployed and lost as heck, I hate my country ( I live in third world poor country and my biggest dream and goal is to find a way to get out to live and work in another developed country ) but every country got serious standards for people they are willing to give immigration chances to and so I constantly feel unworthy of these opportunities. I'm always anxious, depressed, insecure and terrified that even if I do manage to get a chance to get out of here, I might end up realizing that I can't do well there or I might not be able to benefit these countries as much as other immigrants who are way more skilled. I'm trying to improve myself now and learn as much as I can from internet. I'm an adult but I don't feel like a true adult cause I'm always in this stunned state of mind meanwhile other adults already know how to deal with society and outside world. I studied economics but since here education is shit, I spent four years in college and graduated while still not understanding anything about my major or how I'm supposed to use it to earn money. I feel stupid all the time.
@@beckygray6361 You can workout a little bit, meditate, do the household chores and plant so.e vegetables.....this might help you to stay occupied, feel satistified and it might be of help to others, growing your own crops might on expenses as well and ofc stay positive....look at the brightest side of life even though in your darkest time
@@zhangqiling8086 yeah I also studied economics. And the thing we should understand, the knowledge we got from university doesn't work . It is only foundation. That's why I am reading books about economics to get something and also distract myself from all this shit .So and if we gonna work as an economics we should work for free to some months to get a job . Bc they always asks 2 -3 years experiences . I wish you to be successful from your career in the future in one of the developed County
One thing I learn from my early 20s is many times, being logical can't get you out of depression. Because it will find an evidence of your sadness and sounds really right but it also doesn't help your life either. Your brain can tricks you that all the negativity you faced are a prove that life isn't worth living. BUT the point is we already alive as a human being and life should feel ok to live so those logical answers that support the negativity are pretty useless or harmful instead of helpful. Wasting times on slow process can be painful(your mind consistently compare what you do right now that looks like crap/unfinished to the result of other's success) but it's is much better than wasting daily limited energy on supporting the voices in your head that made you hate living and hurt your tomorrows.
Morgan freeman got his first acting job when he was 21 and didn’t get his next until he was 55. You’re all wonderful and will make it. Good things take time
I'm turning 26 in a few months, literally just feel like I'm so old and have wasted my 20s and should just give up because I'm practically 30. Depression and Anxiety are the worst. It's good to know there are a lot of people feeling the same.
Just turned 26 and have been feeling the same, this video and his video about success have helped soothe some of my anxiety. but my biggest advice (as i've finally done it myself) is don't be afraid or ashamed to get help, i've recently started therapy and medication and am already thanking myself for it. we are not martyrs, and we don't need to suffer unnecessarily. i wish you well!
28 right now and felt like I woke from a fever dream. You have time!!! We have time. IF you're not sure what you want to do, that's fine, but I strongly recommend you start saving if you have not already. It's so easy to save before marriage, or children or mortgage. Be kind to future you and start that 10-15% savings of your salary in a different account. The comfort that comes with that nest egg is just one thing to stress less about
@@Jasbones it is really hard, especially with so many barriers to actually getting help, from the complicated systems just to sign up to the cost itself to actually getting quality care from doctors. it really is all about baby steps. but that's amazing you've started down the path of healing as well.
I'm 19 and I'll be 20 in a few months . I haven't become 20 and I was already stressing and having panic attacks for the future . Thank you for this guide . It made me less anxious and stressed
@@ashtastiic Same here. What i figured helps alot is writing down One-two major goals u want in the next year. As a 19 year old My main goal right now is to work on building a great physqiue/working out/eating healthy and i write down all my plans i need to do throughout the day to achieve it so by the time I'm 21 im in good shape. 2nd goal of mine is to earn money and learn how to save/invest. When you write down what u want and what u have to do everyday to achieve it it makes things much easier trust!!
Same. Its freaking me out. It feels like i was just 16 yesterday yesterday.. Where did all these time go? I literally have no idea how the outside world works.. I cant even make a doctor appointment myself
I'm 27 and only just found this channel. I feel like its made a big impact on the way I see life, I suffer from anxiety and depression and have huge expectations of what I should've accomplished at this point in my life seeing other people so much further ahead than me. My first step to removing this problem is deleted social media and I think that's one of the best decisions I've ever made. There is no sense in comparing yourself to someone else when everyone is different, its like comparing apples to oranges. One thing I've learnt in my 20s is its never too late to start, whether that be a career or a hobby... just do it, future you will thank you for it.
This came to me in the best moment possible, it is lowest point of my emotional life and I feel like I can't hear enough people telling me it is okay to be feeling and doing everything I am, so thank you.
Another thing I’d add is that if you feel like you’re “not ready” for something, whether it’s a career change, going back to school, moving, seeking help for your afflictions, or even something as trivial as cleaning the pile of dishes in the sink, that’s okay. But the thing is that you will *never* feel ready. You’re never ready for something you haven’t experienced. I’ve spent almost all of my 25 years *waiting*, and it feels like one day I woke up to see half of my 20’s behind me with nothing to show for it. Like he says, the pressure for us to achieve massive “success” at a young age is unhealthy, but it’s so easy to let the pressure and fear paralyze us into years of inaction and avoidance. It’s a scary world, but you have to go out there and live in it. If you hide from it, what you’ll find internally will be at least as bad as the worst the world has to offer.
@@rashazedd8330 Me at 26 and I have the life experience of a child. Fear overtook my life and always felt inadequate for how little I have achieved and experienced. I've made a habit of doing nothing, and I need to start breaking that habit by doing ANYTHING, even if it seems small.
@@caitlynm924 yes you should do something! I had so many goals in mind but since I never tried.. nothing became real. For example I was wishing to be a flight attendant in Emirates or Qatar airways, 4 years has passed and now my cousin who had the same goal (unlike me she acted on it) and now she's flying to different countries around the world. So my advice is to give it a chance, you'll never know.. otherwise you'll face regrets.
The cultural obsession with the 20's becomes a self fulfilling prophecy: if you live like your 20's are all you have, you'll be old at 34; if you pace yourself you can stay young for many decades, and you'll accomplish a lot more with consistent, well rested effort over 40 years than with 10 years of frantic effort. Best advice for your 20's: get help to lift heavy things wear a mask around chemicals exercise but not too much only work overtime occasionally get enough sleep
I think you should also keep doing these things in your 30's. When you're 20 you think, 30 is old. Wenn you're 30 you'll realize, you're still young, but you might have a bit more money, a bit less anxiety and a bit more things figured out. I'm 31 now and I really appreciate this time in my life.
Thank you so much for this advice! Yes I've never understood that, most of your life comes after your 20s so why are they considered all you have? Life is not a race, and if we treat it like a race all it will do is make us unhappy
Thank you so much for saying this! It really takes pressure off the feeling that you have to accomplish so many things while you’re in your 20s before you’re “too old”
I just turned 22 & I feel 17. Feels like I’m constantly having to “push through”, but I’m so hopeful for the future. Can’t wait to tell my future children and grandchildren of my life experiences.
24 with a 3 year old my advice, seek what you think will make you happy. Progress is progress big or small and always try to compete only with yourself and Noone else as long as your a better you than you were last year 5 years from now you'll be a beast, have patience with yourself and make friends with people who have simpler goals comment for more advice ❤
I turned 30 last week, and the one I’d add is “you can’t go it alone.” If you don’t find and maintain community, you will struggle infinitely more than you would otherwise. We humans are social creatures. Even after I know longer financially needed to split rent, I’ve continued to keep roommates, because I find that having (non-toxic) people around me just makes life better.
@@AltheaMoonStar if you can’t find community, find ways to be a good friend to yourself, have your own back, enjoy your own company, and enjoy being in the world (like nature, art, music, architecture, the weather etc). If you know who you are, what you like, what you like doing, what is important to you, it is also easier to start looking for places, activities and platforms where others who share that might be found. It is also easier for others to find you if you can be sincere, open and generous with yourself, but I know that is not always possible in all contexts or for all things. If you are a good friend to yourself, you have at least self-loyalty and someone really close to you on your side. And isolation or having to deal with not belonging with the people around you is much easier to bear if you at least have yourself to lean on.
It’s so hard when you KNOW you can’t do it alone, but everyone keeps telling you “well I did everything alone, so you should too.” I’m 20, my siblings are all 31+, my mom is 55, dad almost 60. EVERYONE says I need to do everything by myself. And it REALLY sucks when you’re disabled and your family denies it. I forgot to eat for days and passed out at work. I simply need a little help, but my family (especially my siblings) believe I have to do everything alone. They weren’t alone. I grew up an only child and I was in the foster care system. My life is 1,000x different than their childhood was. They had each other. I had/have absolutely no one.
@@Trollestiatumblur I guarantee that they didn't do it alone, they just aren't properly crediting the people (and systems) in their lives that helped them. The generations before ours just don't have the same perspective on what constitutes help that we do. You are doing fine, you will do great, just keep your chin up, look for people who share your values, try not to sweat the opinions of the willfully ignorant, and focus on being the best version of you that you can be. I believe in you.
Great list. I’m 31 now and here are my two biggest lessons from my 20s: 1) achieving your goals will leave you empty. I think it’s quite natural to work hard when you’re young. You want to make a success for yourself… and in a post-school age, you need to set ‘targets’ for yourself that replace the grades you used to be given. However, once you meet those targets… you’ll then be left wondering what to do next? Maybe you’ll set an even bigger target for yourself… smash that… then what? A big change came to me when I realised to not focus on the goal… but on doing things each day that I enjoyed and that made me proud of myself. People often refer to this as focusing on the journey, not the destination. 2) be yourself. Don’t hide who you are. Being open and honest about yourself takes vulnerability… but I tell you this… vulnerability is beautiful! I am so much closer to the people in my life because I opened up about myself to them. Unsurprisingly, doing so and being vulnerable makes it easier for them to open up to me as well. Examples of being vulnerable that made my 20s: opening up about my sexuality, asking friends how they developed skills that I envied them for, telling people (who I loved) that I love them.
Throwing out the concept of success itself is a pretty interesting paradigm. Just wake up and live naturally doing things you enjoy - without being consumed by the pressure to keep striving towards an “ideal reality” that you can never seem to reach.
Turning 24 this year. Still feeling lost and scared to be honest. So hard to break generational traumas and just navigate everything by yourself. This video calmed me down. Thank you.
Hi. Im 24 as well. I share your lost feeling. I feel like a few unlucky events set me back. And now im struggling to chase my dreams i was so close to reaching. Thanks for making me feel less alone
Hey friends, I’m also in the 24 club lol.. questioning my life, my career, and being single.. enjoying life for what it is and embracing the unknown as it creates the zest for adventure and the journey that life is, but damn it’s hard lol. We got this yall, sending love ❤
When you said “society makes it seem as though every young person should be successful” hit me. Like we don’t all have high amounts of money at 18 that’s when our life starts!! I’ve just turned 18 and I’ve got a job going but it never seems enough to fit into society.
It helps to occasionally remember that a significant chunk of what we think of as the standards and expectations of "society", when it boils down to it, is actually more just a mix of fantasy and propaganda than it is something most people can actually attain.
Because it never is. What do you think will happen if you give more and more to have them accept you? You'll burn out. This is your life and your time, don't gift it to a society that has no claim on it.
Just turned 29 so still a year away from being done with this decade of my life, but the biggest thing I've learned is that 1. Showing up is 80% of the work. Just show up to your relationships, job, workout, whatever you want to have in life, and the rest is actually easy. Just get started 2. You don't have to kill it at work. I've worked super hard and been told i was shit, i've been lazy and told I was amazing, find the level of effort that makes you proud of YOURSELF and stop there. Don't worry about impressing others or being like others... cuz everyone is too busy with themselves to notice. 3. Revisit your childhood hobbies. Play is the best therapy. Ride your bike, make a doll house, catch bugs, go to the zoo, build a lego tower. and also you DON'T HAVE TO MONETIZE IT OR BE GOOD AT IT. If you enjoy it... THAT'S IT. That's all you need.
i’m 20, 21 in january and i connect with 1. on a different level , i’m in a bad spot rn and it’s because i can’t show up. I over sleep everything , to the point now where i’ll do all nighters to avoid not oversleeping or missing out on something. once i’m where i have to be, i excel , but consistently arriving and being present baffles me. I genuinely don’t understand how people are able to wake up every, single, day at the same time. if i could just do that i’d be unstoppable but instead i go to sleep at 8 at night and wake up at 5 in the afternoon pissed my whole days trashed or i missed work or missed something else that’s important.
@@ajrnb1233410 I'm 20 as well turning 21 in march, and I know far too well how you feel. Countless "sleep schedule reset" all-nighters that never worked, sleeping through literally 5 different alarms including my phone, a clock, and my alexa every morning, I've been there and still do struggle to get outta the damn bed sometimes. What caused this for me personally was just excessive screen time especially at night. Just ruins your mind's ability to tell when it should be tired or not, and when you finally fall asleep your brain takes advantage and sleeps for as long as possible to compensate. Try limiting your time online especially later in the day if you currently spend alot of time in front of a screen, or get some blue light glasses to make it easier on your eyes. I wish you the best of luck!
I turned 20 this year and it’s the most confusing thing ever, they sold us dreams telling us it’s our golden years. But we are still trying and we have people like you to who are our online big brothers and to guide us. Thank you so much.
The media always taught us that your teens and twenties are gonna be your prime in life. But when those lifes are different from the ones on tv its starts to daunt on you.
I’m 24 and I just broke up with someone and i found this video on a whim. I can’t thank you enough for helping me to cope and realize that heartbreak and love are normal and that I’ll be okay eventually. Nothing is easy in this world but it helps to know that there’s people everywhere who are going through the same things.
sitting at home all day high doesn’t do anything for anything. i’m so happy i came across your video. being in my twenties, i feel the pressure. the pressure to be someone i’m not ready to be. in a pandemic, college drop out, mental health problems and constantly running away from myself. i needed to hear what you said. thank you.
I’m 22 and I’m fucking lost I don’t even know what life is anymore tbh, at the end of this year I’m going to finish my apprenticeship and quit my job and find a mountain top to sit on and just fucking breathe for a second and think
Being 27, my biggest advice is be physically active (AND STRETCH BEFORE AND AFTER DOING SO), and don't stop if you can help it. I couldn't do much for about a year after an accident, and 4 years later I'm still not quite the same. Putting the effort in now is much more worth it than putting it off for another time
Hope you don't mind listening to my story too. I lost tremendous amount of money due to my stupidity and was being a fool applying "online jobs" where you need to transfer money to another "merchant" bank and claimed to get "commission" when doing it. I already made a police report in my country and I have learned my lesson not to fall of these tricks again. I am also currently 27 years old this year studying another diploma which I love and enjoy. I have make terrible choice on my early years of my 20s because I can't choice the diploma that I like due to education points where not enough in my country when I was in Secondary school taking GCE N level.
4:51 is the point that I really wanted to hear it today. I'm still very disappointed in myself and I'm 28. Younger siblings having careers, getting married, and higher pay than me, the eldest son. I feel like shit day to day, hate myself for wasting my past potential, in an emotional mess regretting life choices and still having a hard time moving on. I'm going slowly step by step, but I hope I can push thru & find the better days ahead.
You're 28, and there's still so much potential for growth, change, and new opportunities. It may feel like you've wasted time or that you're behind, but the fact that you're acknowledging these feelings and pushing through step by step is already a sign of resilience and strength. You’re not stuck in your past choices; you’re making decisions now, which means you have the power to shape the future, even if it feels slow.
When I was 18 I was telling People that "I was such a nerd when I was younger. 18yo me would have bullied 15 year old me." When I was 22 I was imagining 22yo me telling 18yo me to stop bullying 15yo me and just start accepting him as part of myself. This was kind of a life changing realization for me and now I keep adding older versions of myself to the group. It's such a grounding thought and they all get along now :D
That is amazing!! I am 18 years old rn and just not doing completely great. I thought about your post and thought damn 15 year old me was amazing. I then imagined my 22 year old self telling me that he is me, and I can still be him
Hmm... Can you imagine what would actually looks like if several time and space versions of yourself literally meet one another whitauth anyone of them knowing who each of you are?
This reminds me of a Guillermo del Toro quote: "Young people are in the exact age of desperation. I never felt older and more finished than in my 20s. I used to say 'Life past through me and I haven't done anything'. But now I'm here to tell you that its not true; you have a fcking lot of time". It sounds better in spanish but you get the idea lol
His thing about his sexual abuse and releasing himself from childhood trauma in order to enjoy your 20s and the rest of your life really resonated with me.
I'm 22, sad and alone. I can't tell you enough how hard life is rn. I feel so lost and behind. I don't exactly know what I'm gonna do or where I'm heading. I hope that I'll survive this decade with your wisdom in mind 🙏 Thank you.
@@ceci7798 Felt the same when graduated despite beeing 15 back then 😅, im now 21 & mabye i can lend some advise? Try yourself out via internships for abt. 2-3 Weeks lenght to get a feeling of whats right for you👍🏼 just avoid long times of chillin/doing nothing as there's a risk not leaving that Hole. Most inportantly do this whole processe in your'e pace 😊 What closed ones might harshly say/do mostly comes from worry and care, dont take it too close, make youre way and when found your'e destination just look at them like: " : :) Told ya~ ;P" . Keep in mind you'll always end up where youre meant to be! 🥰
I feel ya. I’m almost 21 and I’ve been struggling with drug abuse and lack of ambition. Also a lot of my friends have turned out to be pretty toxic. I feel more alone than ever before even though I have family and friends. Doesn’t help that I don’t have any goals for career or future while other ppl my age are getting married, kids and careers. Fortunately we have time to turn things around
just turned 20, feeling like I'm just watching everybody living their lifes, like I'm waiting for mine to start but I'm trapped in my head... we all know what's best for us but we are too tired of all the shit in this world...or just scared idk
Hey darling, life is in the here and now. Life is not somewhere else, place or time. Don't spend your life chasing windmills. If I can tell you one thing I've learned, is that the happiest people on this planet are those who learn to appreciate the here and now, the small things, the places where life shows it's beauty, that most people completely miss because they are chasing distractions, illusions. Be kind as much as you can, it feeds your spirit, find a way to help other lives, practice mindfulness (I cannot emphasize this enough), start a practice of meditation (it's a process, don't get discouraged), take care and move your body, learn about wu wei and watch the beauty of life unravel. Never forget, we cannot even imagine the doors that will open along the way. As Rilke said, do not seek the answers that cannot be given to you in the present moment, because you wouldn't be able to live them. Instead live the questions now, and maybe some day in the future, without realising it, you will live along the answer. And the point is, to live trough everything. :)
I'm 22 and I feel so lost and useless... I have no idea what to do with myself! It's so stressful to feel the weight on your future adult life on your shoulders, like the college degree we choose, our diet, the skills we decide to work on and the way we spend our free time in general... all that will struggling with our inner demons, as you said. Basically It's a second puberty except there are financial and legal consequences now!! aaaaaaaaaaaah! Hahaha Thank you for uploading this video!
You know what? Don't take life too serious, let it go, everything will turn out, I'm 30 now and still feel like I'm 23, and I look like it 😂 and you'll figure everything out. I promise. Don't loose yourself in relationships, go out be playful, take risks, get help if your fucked up. Be with yourself and just move. Do something, if it's right or wrong and you can't tell know just do it, because afterwards you'll know if it's right or wrong. My advices up there are so important because nowadays it's hard to feel yourself and find a gap where to fit in. But you got the chance to get to know you. And if your ever hitting a point where everything feels senseless, and like your stucked, you got two options, hoping that life is making something pushing you from your back and you'll fall really hard because it'll come without a warning, or second option you turn around, find your fears, except them and work with them, give yourself a new way. Shadow work. And he'll yes its gona be a bumpy ride, but how else should life shake you out of your mind and body state. Or shake yourself. Everyday, don't give up, you didn't made it to get a knew routine in your life because your only made it through 3 days? Simply go on. There's simply no use in self judge. Love to you all!
Watching this feels like a warm hug, nobody tells you about these things, your literally just an adult child left left with the pressure of figuring things out with little to no guidance at all. This made me feel so much more comfortable in myself, thanks man ❤️
Thank you for sharing ❤. I’m in my late 30’s but this advice still applies. That quote “you’re only as sick as your secrets” is so true. Grateful for your honesty vulnerably sharing your thoughts. Addressing trauma/grief is most definitely worth its cost. Not easy but it will lead to freedom.
Im 27 and i feel like this qoute defines your 20's " you suffer more in your imagination than in reality" before your 20's you have an image laid out of where you want to be over the next 10 years and you are going full speed towards it but, in reality life is hard. Once you fall behind your imagination you become your own harshest critic leading to possible neurosis's and a pit of frustration and resentment . in the end life isn't a rush its not about the goal but the experience getting there, the people you meet and relationships you make. if you want to try something go out and try it, failure is just the first step to sucess. Best of luck !!
I love how he talks about the future self. Some people love to talk about living for the present, but I feel that living for the future Is way more fulfilling. Example: Go to college, get a gym membership, start learning skills that you would like to have in 10 years. I think one thing he forgot was the love of learning. If you don't like to learn, learn to love to learn.
Best comment I read ! I know so many people that just loves to live in the present and focus too much about the present but I’m constantly focused on the future, I had others tell me I’m too obsessed over my future. I’m glad we share the same mindset! You should search up minimalistic bullet journaling, time management and breaking down your future goals will help so much. Fake it till you make it! ❤️ nothing wrong with having high standards ☺️☺️
Of course its important to make decisions that directly have a good impact on your on your future self and life but I think it can get very pressurizing and overwhelming when it's overdone to the point of feeling like you have to do everything perfectly or your future will go to shit. We have to love to live in the present too bc tomorrow isn't guaranteed and being anxious and worried about the future isn't always fruitful. So it's really having a balance of both.
I feel like its a mix of both. I wouldn't base your happiness entirely on some future goal, its also a good idea to enjoy the present and find happiness in the present, otherwise you are going to set yourself up for disappointment
The ONLY time that matters is the present because that's the only moment we'll ever BE in. The future hasn't happened yet, but guess what? When you get to the future, that becomes the new PRESENT. Meaning the present moment is all we really do have.
Very admirable that you’re willing to share this wisdom with complete strangers. In a world where it’s so easy to be selfish and keep this knowledge from the world, you have been a breathe of fresh air. As a person who grew up with an alcoholic father I especially commend you for speaking out about drugs and alcohol, most people your age are still trying to romanticize addiction.
One thing that it took pretty much all of my 20's is that life really isn't a contest. You read all these stories of people younger than you making all these achievements and then feeling like you're a failure because you haven't achieved as much. I dropped out of college when I was 21, and saw all my friends graduate, and felt like a failure. When I turned 30 I finally finished school, and I was happy, and made me realize that my degree is the same as theirs, who cares when I got it?
I'm in the exact same boat right now as the second part of your comment and this made me feel a little bit better😭 I also struggle so bad with comparing myself to young super successful celebrities and it makes me feel like shit :/
@@cheesewine24 It's an easy trap to fall into. One thing that helped me a lot was realizing that it's perfectly ok to do things that make *me* happy. Not impressing other people, not trying to show how cool or smart I am to the rest of the world, just doing something because I think it's cool. That's why I finished my degree, and it got 10x easier when I accepted that.
I’m 26, have a decent paying job, even got a fiancé and 2 kids. But damn do I still feel like a lost little boy in this world. I actually hate my job but I still go to work every day. I struggle with issues like anxiety and I have no friends so I’m always a bit depressed. Aside from being a father, I have no idea how to get the rest of my life going. I don’t know how to love my hobbies and sometimes I don’t even how if I have proper hobbies. I feel alone so often it’s not funny. I often wonder if my life will actually get to a point where I’m happy with it. I love my kids and fiancé but I feel like I’m missing 85% of the rest of what I should have in life.
I´ll tell you about my life. I´m 26 years old too. I have no kids or wife. Never had I a girlfriend. I have many friends and I do party a lot. I look quite good and I´m loved by the people around me. Still...I wish to have a relationship and having sex regulary and just hug someone when I come home from work and not being alone. My job is okayish but I seek for a better payed and more chilled one. What I want to say is that you should be grateful about what you have and change what you don´t like. Your age, kids, wife or whatever aren´t what holds you back. It´s only yourself. You got it man :)
hope you can be happy one day man. i guess the job matters a lot. i'm 17 rn and kinda have to chose what will i do one day, and have no idea. don't have any hobbies that i'd be that good at... and i can't imagine actually going through with it without actually bring interested in it at leat a bit. may i ask what job you have?
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8:59 that broke my heart, I’m so sorry🙏 thank you for growing up to a fine young man, I wish you but nothing the best in life. Inspiring video that provided me comfort, thank you.
27 years old my 20s was a shitty decade. But in the end, I had everything but appreciation. I was depressed and I had anxiety disorder. Your video gave me the chills. Thank you
It's important period of self discovery, when you are somewhat left to your own devices and have to do some things on your own. Parents can be helpful, but every generation has it's own challenges to deal with. It's more than just binge drinking in college dormitory or hired flat with roommates.
At 47 here’s my experience. I’m back to where I was at 20, lessons I forgot and I am remembering. (Doh!) I’m on this planet to enjoy my time here, and the people I get to share it with, and to learn about who I am as a person, and share those qualities with those I choose to share them with. That’s it. With those goals the stress of succeeding and being some unrealistic superhero fades away. There is no invisible report card that I have to live up to, I don’t have to stay after school if I don’t get it right the first time. We are our own worst critics, the goal then is to quit the critique and enjoy existing. Yes that includes work and reality, and maybe not binge watching LOST instead of cleaning.(whoops) But life is not a test, it’s a choose your own adventure. Some days suck, sometimes a lot of days suck. But with the destination of enjoying life and the people you love, the good ones will outweigh the bad.
this is me in my early 30s.... i am learning to build my healthy connection. appreciation for people who are there for me. making simple things worthwhile and meaningful.
As a 35 year old. I can say I’m more content with myself then I was in my 20s. Around 28 was a turning point for me. I started thinking about the future. Very true about the drugs. The drugs start sucking same with the company. I used to surround myself with some shitty people. Just remember You are getting to know yourself more and more each day. I’m still learning.
I feel like living through the pandemic has been especially tough for those in their 20s. Of course, it's been really hard for everyone, and I don't want to minimize that! But your 20s are already a confusing, uncertain time and I feel like COVID has massively compounded that. I was 25 when it started and I'm turning 28 this summer and I feel like I aged a ton in that time (and not necessarily in a good way) - it's like I blinked and my 20s were gone. So I just started a project where I do something every week that's outside of my normal day-to-day routine and I'm hoping it brings some newness and meaning back into my life!
It started as I was turning 18, and now I'm turning 20 in a month and... I have done nothing, no career plan, no cool friend group in my area, none of that young adult life lived yet and I feel so fucking stunted, like.. I got fucking robbed of my intro to life as an adult, and that depresses me, hard. It's really tough and I hate being able to see that yeah, I am making progress, I have my license, I have a job, I am getting a car of my own that actually runs in a few months, even am starting a relationship with my besf friend, which I hope leads somewhere amazing, it feels like I should have done all that two years ago, like I am lagging behind, because everyone I know has *something* of themselves but I'm working minimum wage, busting my ass at a fucking vegetable packaging plant 6 days a week, seemingly getting nowhere, I mean I'm in my first week and havent gotten paid yet, so I'm still broke and stressed. But fuck, it's so fucking rediculous, I don't even have the energy to go and do things, live as a young adult. It fucking sucks.
@@zachsilby4569 hey. I don't experienced all you said, because i'm 14. But I really want to say that I don't think you are "late in life". I don't know why all of us see the succes being a car, a relationship, a house, all these normal things that would come with time. I'm feeling depressed because I don't even have energy to go outside in the morning, I don't have the motivation to do things that I really want in my soul. But.. I think all of us will go on the best path at a moment. I hope you all the self-respect, self-love and self-conscious you need!
Dude right. I will be 30 in August and I feel like I literally just turned 26 or 27, I feel like it stole the 2nd half of my 20s practically. Oh wait, it did.. That's a great idea though! Thanks for sharing it
I am 21, lying in my dark bedroom in my parents house in just my pants and socks after eating 1/2 a family size tub of lemon sorbet while watching this.
I genuinely think everyone thinks this way. Not humble bragging at all. 20s isnt fun, there is a lot of doubt and uncertainties. It's the time when i hav to grind hard when i am still young
I think it's funny that we all think this, but somehow we expect that our 20s are 'supposed to be' about making all these awesome memories to look back on when we're older... When really it's spending almost 80% of it wrestling with depression and getting out of ruts that never seem to end.
The twenties are horrible! Don't get me wrong it can be fun and because you are young still, you can get away with some things. But I only started to feel more secure from 25/26 onwards (im 29 , turning 30 in January).
I'm 21 about to be 22 and I feel like life is starting to make sense again. I remember watching your video when it was still quite new. I wanna thank you for helping me and other people in their 20s ❤
“I have no idea how that lesson just bypassed me” that is the Mantra of your 20s right there. Your late twenties are when all those things you learned from other people actually clicked. No matter how simple it was of a concept.
I think that quote is by Alan Watts and it also resonated deeply with me! If you get the message, hang up the phone. For psychedelic drugs are simply instruments, like microscopes, telescopes, and telephones. The biologist does not sit with eye permanently glued to the microscope, he goes away and works on what he has seen. - Alan Watts
@@greatwavefan397 that is true, although research into this is still very much in its infancy... I would highly recommend approaching this with lots of research and above all else caution.
i'm 21, just graduated and honestly struggling more than i ever have in my life. i dont feel any direction in life and i've begun to really doubt and hate myself recently and i just feel so shite. this video made me feel less alone and gave me hope that things will eventually get better. thank you dude.
They definitely will... I'm also 21 and working the same season job for the 3rd year.. Started university 1 year ago but just about to chanhe the subject to something I'm actually interested in.. But even there i have my doubts... The thing is : you won't know, if you don't try AND you can always change direction. It will at all times AT LEAST be an experience you made :))
You are young and smart and beautiful! Don't allow your feelings to deceive you. And don't carry that into your late 40's. Now embrace Truth and wisdom and be your brilliant self!!
I remember watching this video a few years ago and just appreciated everything you said because I was really feeling down on myself. Now I’m 26, about to graduate college with a good degree and possibly have a job lined up. Life is looking good man.
"Should I call my mom or my dealer?" - as a person who'll rather smoke weed than facing my emotions.. damn it's so relateable to me hahaha thanks for the video
1. You 20’s won’t be the time of your life 2. Work on what future you want 3. Assume everyone’s got sh*t 4. At some point drugs stop being fun 5. Don’t stress if you don’t crush it in this decade 6. Hard choices easy life, easy choices hard life 7. Wherever you go there you area
@@Fahad0947 it's not black and white. But women in their 20's are in their prime (socially) and their 20's is mostly when they "have the time of their lives". Women who get to 30 unaccomplished, single, and childless often experience immense stress, as they should.
@@rhysm9595 as they should yes, we are animals, their biological instincts urge to them to procreate - "their biological clock is ticking". It is really that simple, it's a shame society today make women believe it's not ok to listen to their bodies and instead they should ignore it and listen to "brave strong independent women" on Instagram or the media
I’m 21 and sooo utterly lost, feeling as if I’m thrashing around with no direction whatsoever. My mom passed when I was in high school and since then life went dark, barely graduated high school , was supposed to take a gap year that has now turned into 3-4 in the food service industry due to my depression, anxiety, and just overall confusion on what to do with my life. Your video has helped me out and made me feel a bit better about my future and my capabilities. Thank you.
I’m 20 and reading through these comments, seeing how people at all ages feel the same way is comforting. We’re all young. Struggling to concept the unrealistic reality of time slipping from our fingers. Worried to not make the most of our limited time, this video and comments show you that there is no ‘making the most of your time’. It’s a personal ideology. A goal to strive to be the best for your own and the betterment of all. I was looking for a comment where someone said something along the lines of “reply to this and I’ll help you” idk how I can help anyone. But I know for sure we can’t make the most of our lives without trying together. Currently I think I want to start getting into business,training,designing… anything I just want to do it. Feel free to reply if you want to build something great.
I just turned 26 and honestly I’m so glad I watched this video, made me feel not alone in this struggle of being confused in your 20s. Got a lot to discover about myself and a lot to work on. Thanks for the advice and the inspiration.
26 here as well. glad to know im not the only 26 year old who is still figuring this out. idk how my brain says I am the last one, but thanks for posting zach and aamir. wish you guys the best
I turn 25 in 4 days and honestly I haven’t met the love of my life or even dated due to my anxiety, I haven’t seen the world, I haven’t got a career perfectly carved out, I haven’t even got my own place and I rarely see my only friend now as she’s a busy mum these days (so I completely appreciate that and I’m happy she found her own little family). Also the day after my 21st birthday, my mum told me about her cancer diagnosis; she recovered but unfortunately we found out last year that it has returned and spread, it is now incurable and whilst I’ve said it here, it isn’t something I feel ok telling people about in person. I remember feeling so hurt when people would say ‘21 is a great age’ because for me it was just pain and fear. Thank you for this video and for reminding me it’s ok to not have it all figured out, even if it seems like everyone else does. I never really look forward to birthdays, I genuinely debated spending this upcoming birthday alone in a tent just for the solitude and peace but idk. 😂 Sorry for the long comment but sending my love to all my fellow lost twenty-somethings. 💖
Stay strong helen, i hope your mother pulls through it 🙏🏻, and its ok if you haven't found the love, remember we all have different paces and cant compare with others and whatever happens to you in the future its gonna be good and suits you, keep the grind and most importantly enjoy the moment! No matter how bad the present it, we cant always postpone the happiness to the future, and happy late birthday :)
You are a strong beautiful girl, don’t worry about it you will figure out everything, the anxiety will go away and you will get over the sad days, just don’t waste your young age, go out there and see what you love, do it and keep it up so you can have the purpose you want in life, haven’t dated before? Well that guy who dates you will definitely be lucky to have a beauty like you in their life :)
Yeah me too, I thought like that when I was 17 years old, I remember I said something like: "My twenties are going to be more free and fun". But unfortunately, when I just became 20 years old, my father passed away. The way I received my father's death news - I swear to god - was soo fucking surreal. I was sleeping and two of my sisters came to my bed, my elder sister was screaming at my face shockingly, and the younger sister was calming me down. I was sleeping and dreaming but .. all of a sudden, I woke up traumatized and totally confused about my father's death news. confusion and shocking phase.. I didn't think for 20 minutes, the thinking process phase took too much time, I want to process in my mind that my father has died. It took me almost one hour to realize that really my father died, I saw my sibling brothers and sisters grieving and crying then I realized that this shit is real. I still think of that moment as if it was surreal dream, maybe because I woke up in a trauma moment (I really do believe that moment was a dream .. and am still thinking my father is still alive). Now, I'm 23 years old and just graduated recently from college two months ago. This age is a very critical phase of my life that I have to build myself up and find a way of life that fits me there. I hope the best for all of you from all around the world. Be well and safe 🤍🤗
Thank you. I’m gonna turn twenty in a few months and I’m absolutely terrified. Life has been pretty scary the last few years, and I just don’t have any idea what to do going forward. This at least gave me a solid starting point.
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"Your twenties is just puberty all over but its all emotions"
One of the most profound things one of my friends ever said to me.
yes all of this yes
That's what I've been telling people! I'm glad it makes sense hahaha
It all makes sense now.😅
I don't really care or feel about anything in my teenagers, now I'm in my 20s and felt like everything's is falling apart, fml
In puberty, I've been doing lots of things for the first time as a teenager. Now I'm doing things for the first time as a young adult. Just as challenging as it was before, same cake but different box.
I'm 23 and feel completely lost, seems like everyone is better, smarter etc. than me... this video helped to have patience with myself... thank you!
Same Talita... Especially on social media it seems like you could be super successful rn, you are just not trying hard enough... But you are doing enough, don't worry 💕
@@rigrace trust me, more often than not "successful" means bad with money lol. I invest and make like 5-10x what many of my friends make and save and re- invest it all and drive the same old beat up Mazda I got 8 years ago in 11th grade. Meanwhile my friends are all in new jeeps, BMW, pick ups etc, always going out for lunch (like every few days) and they are BROKE. and will be for much of their lives, I know because if I lived like they do I'd be broke too, even with a much higher income. It's all fun and games until you're still working at 80. Just remember Instagram is exactly what it looks like... a SNAPSHOT of life. Often exaggerated. If u spend your twenties trying to look the best on Instagram you're probably spending the money you could have used to invest to actually become wealthy later in life
When I was 23 I had the same. Now that I am 31 I see all these other clueless adults (at a high paying job environment) and i realized that all the other 23 year olds at the time were either way better at bluffing or just as insecure and thought that I was way smarter and better. On youtube and internet it seems like many people of your age are great and successful but honestly they just randomly (for the most part) happened to float to the top, below them there are hundreds that tried and failed just by bad luck.
Your time will come that you will realize: everyone is clueless and just floating around.
Social media is the great deceiver. Nobody is as well off or put together as they appear.
Same :( happy to know I’m not alone
"there is a freakish pressure that the internet is putting on young creative people to be stupidly successful super young" omg THANK YOU i needed someone to address that
I would like to post your comment on my Instagram.
Can I ???
Not just the internet, But middle eastern and Asian parents too, WAY more pressure from them Vs the net.
I mean what's wrong with that? Parents raise yo kids right n get paid right lul
@@midnight_breeze_ no
@@derekalflago732Even if being successful at a young age isn't wrong, the pressure put on young people is wrong.
I’m 23, felt completely lost for the past month. Full of depression/thoughts for killing myself. feeling like a disappointment for not being in school. Watching this really helped. Appreciate you. ❤
I’m in the same boat, I hope it gets better for you man
Brooooooooooooooooooooooo
I hope both of you are here, in one piece and hopefully you smiled about something.
I received advice once “ just keep smiling “
Sounds like bullshit.
But whenever Iv made decisions on whether I’m smiling or not my life gets better.
Iv killed myself for my career and job the last 5 years. I’m 23. Iv really become someone in my field as well. My job and actual place of work I loved but this exact place just sucked the life out of me and made me nothing but sad. After 5 years I changed jobs same field but somewhere else.
This new LOVES me. Everyone there is relatively happy and so different from my last place. Iv been smiling more often than not since I started. I felt so awful before I switched and stood up for myself. I go home happy like the place that would contain my nasty thoughts and let me spiral out of control… my home. Now is a place of energy and excitement. Like I want to do things and I’m thinking about my success and future.
Life never stops offering opportunities like so randomly. My best piece of advice to myself and anyone who’s maybe suicidal. Is I promise tomorrow is a new day. Anything can happen. But killing yourself removes the chance of you playing the lottery and winning. It may have not been high before but it wasn’t zero.
There will be winning lottery’s in your life but look for them. Your life directional thing is your happiness. Fuck everyone like everyone it’s you vs the world at the end of the day.
Do what makes you happy.
Also find a hobby.
You’ll find friends through your hobby.
If your friend sucks fuck em I swear to god just stop. Be friends with them when it’s convenient but find someone who will be friends with you when it’s inconvenient. They’re worth their weight in gold.
Love you guys. Keep smiling
Same, im also 23 and i have nothing going on in my life, im in my jobless period after graduated, back home, no friends, and i literally see no future of me, just confused and lost.... lets just hope its get better with time
im in the same boat aswell, im 24, i have a finished apprenticeship, tried a bunch of different jobs, but non really tend to fit me, then i quit them don't work for several months, stay at home distract myself with social media and gaming, im telling myself im useless and can't get my shit together and find motivation to work or even live life. Suicidal thoughts occasionally.
Yeah figuring shit out, what you want from your life is really hard.
wish all you guys in the comments and myself that we can figure it out.
gl hf
Just remember, even when u feel like there’s nothing to live for, and no one loves you, just know that Jesus loves you
"if you focus on what you lack, you lose what you have." this line hits me real hard.
Yeah It was something worth sitting on for me but like he said start focusing on what you have so you can have more
That's what many people do with many of us who are autistic. We like to focus on stuff we know we can do or just like to do, and not doing stuff others to just to fit in (there are exceptions though, poor them).
Harmful sub-conscious biases, assumptions and generalization is the bane of our existence.
It should but too often we fall into a habit of focusing on the negative like you just did. Try to focus on the more positive side of those quotes as both quotes say the same thing just one does it in a healthier way.
I kinda understand the point but also it doesnt make sense.
Isnt it good to improve the areas where you are lacking?
Maybe that's the gamble.
You have to lose what you have now so you can have something else that you want more.
For example lets say now you are working as an electrician and earn 2k$ a month but you really want more money and work on a computer like a programmer.
You will lose the experience you built up and portofolio from working as an electrician but will work as a programmer and potentially earn more if you focus on it and work hard.
Essentially It’s hard but not impossible…
in order to go towards our dreams we sacrifice somethings out of our lives in order to achieve and show the power and potential we are capable of when we set our minds and focus 🧘
People don't realise how much time they have when they're in their twenties. The best advice I have for 20 year olds is, don't let the internet rush you. Enjoy the ride and don't rush yourself.
Then what should i do?
@@brucewayne3608 Enjoy life a little more? xD don't rust Success, Sucess will come in time. if you try rushing it it will cause so much more problems.
like depresion, Sleep Deprived, ignoring love ones (like Family members or friends). and even Excersice (which will start effecting you around 30's).
but im just 21 i think xD.
strolling around each corner to see what i loved and i stroll for quite a while now started this year actually... haven't found the thing i "loved" but found things i like... but im still goin too fast for my good :P i can go on and on but imma leave at that.
I quit playing this game and found out that I have so many time to waste than playing games so yeah
I Would say rush yourself. Work on yourself, develop skills and waste less time on friends .
@@Aryan-uo6hb "waste less time on friends". its true you want to do well for yourself but you also don't want to have a miserable life without any fun experiences. before I get old and decrepit i want to make sure I made the most of my youth
Turning 22 on the 30th. So far, my 20s have been a scam.
Lots of crying, confusion, unsure why I’m not where I’m “supposed to be”. This video brought me so, so, so much comfort. Thank you, so much.
Edit: what a beautiful community. It’s so lovely to see how not alone we are. I could cry at all these responses.
Wishing you all so much luck. Bless.♡
I was 23 when I took the biggest leap of my life and then another ~3 years to finally be at a place where I’ve found what I want to do. Even then (now), I’m still figuring things out and will always be. So keep going!
I'm turning 21 on the 30th aswell and i think 30th july if the best date for a birthday hahaha just saying. Good luck anyways man hope you find your way.
I'm turning 22 this 27th and i've been feeling the same as well for the past year or so since getting out of college and not really into my job, but watching GaryVee vids helped me in understanding that its a long game and we need to have patience and be consistent in our efforts. That's all that matters. remember its a long game, we have anywhere between a 40-50 year career ahead of us so put in efforts and dont expect anything nice to happen in the next 5-6 years. i think this perspective really helps a lot for me. i hope it helps you too.
I thot I was the only one going through all this until I saw ur comment🥺glad to know am not alone...just turned 20
That's exactly how I feel. Turning 23 in about a week. Feels like I was scammed for the first 18 years of my life, the past 4 has been coping with the whiplash, then this past year has been a massive amount of realization of what happened, and how I'm not the only one this happened to, and how I can actively choose to take steps to recover and create a genuinely fulfilling live.
Videos like these are so great for providing a space for people like us to talk about this.
I saw this video at 20, I just turned 22. I am such a different person from then to now. So many hard lessons. Your life, your personality, your values change so much during this time.
I am almost 19 and figured I'd get a head start lol
Wow, I'm 18 and I'm scared that when I'm older my life will be completely turned around and my ideias personality and objectives are all different..... Any tips?
@@LuisC7 Why does that scare you?
@@3mi3mi it completely shatters what I plan on doing and my beliefs, that I now think are the correct ones
@@LuisC7 What are your beliefs? If that’s too personal, let me just say, if you can’t have your beliefs or plans for the future challenged, you’ll do yourself a disservice from exploring potential outcomes you weren’t even aware of. That’s how you get to know yourself.
HealthyGamer is a great resource that’s helped me a lot over the past year in figuring myself out.
Mate I can't believe you went from having a secret you thought you'd take to your grave, to openly sharing it on your platform like this. That's crazy, and I'm so proud of you! I bet you're stoked with that progress too. God bless mum's
exactly! this guy is something!
my thought exactly!!! i love the growth
Wow so true!
you said it bro
Yeah, this guy is HELLA strong. I deeply respect anyone that can do this. I've heard that that shit is HARD to deal with.
As a person in her mid-fifties, I have to say this excellent advice applies to every decade of life. Thanks for sharing.
Yeah I'm entering my thirties, but I feel like the booster shot was needed. Thank you struthless!
🙌 At 57, I couldn’t agree more,... just forwarded this video to my two boys (25 & 28) !!!
Girl you look like you are both five and 42.
Wow
@@seemysight I'm choking
"Am I not enough?" This is painfully true. I definitely struggled with this during my twenties and only now that I'm 30, I'm slowly getting better. Therapy helps.
Your enough friend. You were born enough. Sending love
Any therapy alternative for broke kids. Lol
@@bhaveshtochabbra6853 it’s cliche but talking to my close friends or any friends helped me immensely. Cause they always listened. Although they were never good at advice they were there and sometimes that’s all you need. Is support.
@@bhaveshtochabbra6853 I prefer talking to 2 of my cousin I’m closest to. I feel like they understand my situation better bc they’ve seen a little of it. I wish I could talk to my siblings more but I’m still a bit too nervous and don’t want to stress my family but I know it’d help a lot if I did.
@@Lala-lw8vx heh, same here. Even if I talk to my mom, I still feel like it's a burden for her to hear the same things over and over again, or I feel cringe for sharing them with her. But I learned over time that she, as my mother, is the best person that I can speak to, and is really happy that I can speak with her.
Try talking to your family, they may want this as well but not know how to break the ice. They are the most valuable help and support, if they are open and willing to discuss with you.
Don't worry that you'll burden them, you'll really help them and yourself if you are open. They will be happy to be there with and for you.
Watched this before I entered my 20's..I just skimmed through it. Im further into my 20's and this is so much more valuable
Hi, I just turned 30 this year.
I find that a lot of older generations look back to their previous decades of life and say "man I was stupid for thinking I was old back then. NOW I'm old." This is absolutely the case for people in their 20s. When I turned 21 I literally still felt like a teenager. I still worried about stupid teenager stuff like if people still liked me or if people think my clothes looked stupid. The truth is that our insecurities about life achievements carry on way, way into our old age. My mom just turned 62 and she still thinks and talks like she's 17 years old. As kids, we inherit responsibility to live up to our parents' successes. At first you'll be worried that you're not doing enough, or that you're running out of time. You might feel like life is too short to do the things you want to do. But let me say this: life is anything but short. It's so long. Excruciatingly, painfully, devastatingly fucking long. As humans we have nothing but time. Time to learn new things, buy houses, have babies, improve ourselves physically and mentally, etc. Anxiety is a bitch. It tricks you into thinking you're not doing enough or that you're wasting the time you were given. It really just boils down to what you do with these limited years of your life -- either improving it for the people around you or the people that will exist in the future. Life is chaos and entropy and tragedy and horror and the best thing we can do for ourselves is make life easier for those we care about. Future generations are fucked enough as it is, might as well sow some positivity while we still can.
Best comment i’ve read in this comment section, thanks a lot!
Great comment. Thanks for the perspective. Also I loved your all star videos when I was younger!
Basically since high school I always felt that the world was going fast and I had to make all kinds of decisions that would affect the future of my life.
I felt like that for years until I was working a job I knew how to do well but then I wanted more from it,more money but it didnt go that well and then the company closed and I had to find another job.
I dont know if I have ever been so stressed out..
The expectations are big,the coworkers are somewhere in the mid - some are great,some arent so great,the pay is better but there is lots more to learn and do and the job security isnt that safe(got 3 months probation that runs out at the end of this month)
So I am basically back at start but I am not feeling that same feeling that things are moving faster than I want them to.
That said there is some regret for not pushing at college and doing an entirely different type of job.
I have been working on machines for 4 years and now I am on another but bigger but I feel like I am more suited for jobs on a computer like programming or similar but I either dont have that spark or simply the will to go into it cuz no job is easy and also I feel like I am getting old or just my brain got used to the same shit that it's slow at learning new things.
idk if I am pushing myself to learn something quicker than I can.
On old machine I worked it was very simple and I was ready to work on my own after 1 month - I did screw up many times but with every mistake I learned and eventually became really good at it.
At 2 years mark I was basically a professional/master - I knew how to do the job the best on that machine.
Now I am working with other coworkers on machines that are idk 10x bigger,have lots of parts,lots of things to remember yet mistakes can easily cost thousands of dollars which I feel slows down my learning cuz I feel like I remember the most when I make a mistake and the correct it vs the coworker or boss getting mad at the mistake or them just explaning what not to do.
Sometimes I feel like I am being corrected even when I do something my way that might be a bit slower than their way and I am not let to figure out a better way on my own yet I keep being said to think about what I am doing rather than asking what to do in every single situation.
Being new sucks,I hate working in a team but I guess I'll have to figure it out and do it cuz I need money but hopefully I can in the future find a job that suits me more.
Preach baby, Preach!!
Didn't expect to see you here jon
“You’re inexperienced, you’re broke, you’re scared, have mental health issues and childhood trauma” WHY DID HE JUST DESCRIBE MY CURRENT LIFE AT 21 😭
was gonna like this cuz im also 21 and feel the exact same way byut your comment is at 69 likes so im just gonna drop a NICE
i feel u
Yup, Iäm 22 and im there with you.
Because its all of our lives at 21
28 is not different.
“You wanna call your mom or your dealer?” Was that hitting point for me
Bro y'all fr never feel like your mom tried to sell u for watermelon
@@derekalflago732 tf you talking bout?
@@Andy-Milonais lmfaoooo
facts!
Ima call my mom, I'll just go to the store for some weed
I’m 29 now turning 30 in 3 months. My dad told me a few years ago that your 20s are some of the hardest days of your life. I used to think this wasn’t the case because I was having the time of life. But now looking back I see what he means. I thought life couldn’t get any better, It’s like you are an adult but there are still certain responsibilities that are put on hold. But there also comes a lot of struggles, worries and anxieties. You feel like you don’t have your life together and that everybody your age is so much further ahead in life than you. You sometimes feel like you’ll never make it. It’s a confusing, stressful, worrying and uncertain time of your life. But if you keep working and you don’t give up there will come a time when that self doubt you used to have will start to fade and you will feel more positive about your life and where you’re at. You can do this ❤
This is exactly how im feeling in my 21st year of life. Glad to know there r some people who were the same
@@hobi1369 EVERYONE is doing the same - if not, the vast majority. Everyone is different, and everyone acts differently, but the one thing we all share is 1) sturggle, 2) taxes and 3) death.
Be humble, take advice, grow and help others as much as you can.
I'm 28 about to turn 29 and I hope you're right
Thank you for this comment. I'm 22 and really struggling right now, hoping for better days.
He wasn’t lying brother since 25 life been very difficult for me i turn 29 this year hopefully i can get together before 30
I'm 40 and I must say this advice is genuine. I encourage everyone to pursue their dreams, but first, set up realistic goals. Don't believe what Social Media/ Gurus are telling you, success doesn't come quickly nor, easy.
Thank you
Couldn't have said it better. I am turning 40 this month and it is just the last 2-3 years that I am finally happy with a great job, after many years of being patient at other jobs. I wish the same for you! (or even better, already being in this position a lot earlier than me!)
Yup
I have no dreams
The follow up question becomes "what is realistic?" to that sentiment. Most people don't have enough experience to determine what is a realistic goal for themselves. The best way to figure that out is to observe, experiment, consult, and persist. Observe real life examples, not the face masks people tend to put on social media. Experiment with your limits to help build a baseline of what you can achieve based on previous attempts. And consult with others in your life with more experience (but take it with a grain of salt, they might be suffering from set backs or face masking as well so use a wider pool of people to help with finding a median sample) and see how the advise might apply to your situation.
But most importantly, persist... you're not likely going to get realistic goals lined up right away. You're likely going to under or over shoot things until you get enough experience to better assess things. There will be set backs you don't have enough experience to predict, so take the failures that come and use them to help reassess and set up the next set of goals.
“You can either experience the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The choice is yours.” Keep grinding if you are reading you got this.
Thanks 👍
You too. 1% better everyday
this is it
youre a legend mate thanks
@@khyati7733 you welcome
1. Your 20s won't be the time of your life
2. You don't do things for you, you do things for FUTURE you
3. Assume everyone's got shit (their own struggles and baggage)
4. At some point, drugs stop being fun
5. Don't stress if you don't crush it this decade
6. Hard choices = easy life, Easy choices = hard life
7. Wherever you go, there you are
Thanks. 🙏
on videos like this, i always scroll down looking for the comment that has the overview in an easy list format like this. thank you for doing us all a favor and commenting this, the people who do that make things alot easier for everyone else trying to process concepts in these informational videos!
Thanks!!!
It was better to hear this one tho. Definitely worth the 10
Thank you
Hey man, as a totally random person watching this video I just wanna say it's absolutely great and brave of you to speak so openly about the fact that you were abused and how you struggled with it later. I feel tons of respect for you. And thanks a lot for this whole video!
Pipe down mate
Kinda teared up when he said he was scared of his girlfriend thinking he was disgusting and leaving him. That feeling must have sucked
nahr@@Moisescaicedo20
@@FrickYourHandle Yep, and how great that she had the opposite reaction and helped create what I can only guess would be a feeling of huge relief and finally a chance to help process an old shadow.
Hmh I was abused as a child as well and when I told my then girlfiriend at 18, she completely stopped respecting me. Sad thing is that she had also been abused as i child, so it never occurred to me that she would reject me. Never have told anyone about it since.@@FrickYourHandle
Its really comforting knowing almost everyone feels this way in their 20s.
I just turned 20 a few months ago and I feel like I absolutely have no idea what I’m doing or who I am. But I guess no one does at this age!
Bet on it 😂🙌
I'm 32 and barely understand how I made it through 20-25. At 17 adults go like "ok you want to be treated like an adult?" and then at 20 you're just... on your own and have to figure it out. It's wild. Lol.
Afree
dont speak for everyone
❤
I’m 19 turning 20 in a month… I didn’t even realize how pressured I felt to succeed NOW until this video. Woah. I’m only 19. I just gotta appreciate what I got… thanks man
yeah... start living in the present now!
Turning 18 in a month and I'm feeling the same
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Keep grinding man , you got this
I wish I was 19 again & im 23
I'll be 41 this month. I've learned that most people are thinking/worrying about their own shit 90% of the time, so being concerned about what other people think of you is based on the false assumption that they're even thinking about you at all. I've also learned that people's opinions about other people (or about anything) are a result of who they are and their own life experiences much more than a result of the thing they have an opinion about. I heard it put this way and it clicked for me -- if 100 people watch the same movie, they're all going to have different opinions about it. Some will love it, some will hate it. It doesn't change the movie. The same thing is true about people's opinions of you. You are who you are. Some people will love you, some people won't like you at all. That's based on their expectations of you more than it is about who you are as a person, and their expectations come from their own beliefs and experiences.
Sometimes when I'm worried about what other people think, I ask myself, "If I were someone else, would I judge me for this?" Usually the answer is no, which makes it easier to dismiss other people judging me.
Another thing I know now is that people will tell you "no" with their actions sometimes when they're not telling you with their words. This happens a lot in relationships. You tell someone what you need from them, and they don't actually say "I'm not going to do that for you," but they consistently ignore your feelings and your needs. They're telling you no with their actions.
And one lesson I only recently learned is that you don't have to monetize everything. I have a ton of different interests -- painting, illustration, knitting and crochet, writing, decluttering, teaching, singing -- and over the years when people would tell me that I was good at something, the implication was always that I should somehow get paid for it. Start an Etsy shop, start a tutoring business on the side, etc. But what I learned is that it's okay to do things just because you enjoy them and just because they feel good, and even if you're really really good at those things, it doesn't mean you need to pursue getting paid for them. You can do things just for pleasure and for personal development. I have found that some of the things I felt I should monetize actually make me happier if I give them away for free.
One of the best ways to feel good is to help other people overcome something you've struggled with yourself.
Hope some of this helps someone! Thank you, @struthless, for creating a space where we can talk about these things.
Wow very insightful. Thank you for this.
Best comment I've read. thank you.
Screenshotted almost every paragraph of this comment for future reference when I'm feeling lost and/or deeply insecure, thank you ❤️
- a 20 year old you've helped
Thanks ma'am 🙇🏻
Omg thats so true!! 💪💪💪
Just turned 27 a few days ago. I am the most lost I have ever been in my life. I graduated from HS a year early but after that everything in my life fell apart and I dropped out of college. Always struggled with crippling depression. Recently got out of a long-term abusive relationship and made a drastic life change where I'm now completely alone 1000 miles away from where I lived all of my life and am going to school, but sometimes it's hard to keep up motivation. I have always been 'behind' after HS while watching my cousins (who are younger than me), ex-partner and past friends be successful. Thank you for this video
I know everything will turn out better for you!
Sometimes things happen that way, but it won't be for long.
I also went through something similar, but I have faith that everything will fall in place perfectly again and I won't have to force myself to be happy anymore. I actually will be, and so will you.
You got it brother
Finally someone who is willing to teach us younger guys instead of pushing some bs course on us. Appreciate it
Manhood course 😂
Andrew Tate will teach you how to be rich and an Alpha male. Just pay him $50 a month.
LOL you're like what, 14?
@@tlwn5196 youre never too young to better yourself man. Negativity helps no one, especially yourself
Sitting here in my 50’s thinking someone “only” in their 30’s isn’t going to have much insight. I was wrong throughly enjoyed this video. Yeah my 20’s were fun, miserable and learned some lessons. So much more to learn in this life. I truly believe in Maslow hierarchy of needs and has been true for me. I wasn’t able to really explore self love, self respect, self actualization until I met my most basic needs and got away from some toxic people/relationships. Wishing everyone out there the best!
I've never heard of Maslow Hierarchy. Thank you! :3
It isn't too easy though - leaving toxic people /relationships... Since you almost don't realize /don't WANT to realize that they are... But then again, like he said : hard choices = easy life and the other way around... Right?
@@GirlFromTheEarlys no it’s not easy. Believe me I’m still struggling there’s no simple fix. I just keep making time for myself and listen to that very quiet intuition.
The thing that sucks is that when your in your 20's, you have to start caring about your health or you'll get fat.
@@trishaspencer9956 I’m 33 and i feel so lost. I’m scared that I’m wasting away mentally and emotionally. I’m not sure how to talk to people.
I’m in my 50’s…. I clicked on this video by accident… and I’m glad I did. This guy is speaking 100% truth. Damn!! This generation of amazing young people never ceases to inspire me with your capacity for painfully honest self-reflection. You are going to make this world a MUCH better place than the selfish shitheap my generation did. You really ARE doing great!! Keep doing what you’re doing, and take in the view while you’re at it.
🥺🥺🥺🥺
You really don't know how much it meant to read this as a 20 year old. Thank you :)
Thankyou
@@delaneysmith9251 good job! May I ask which field?
@@Apost0345 Global Studies major (MENA concentration) and an Arabic minor
About to be 21 tomorrow. I'm only a year into this decade and I already feel so different from when I was a teenager. Glad to see everyone has their own thing going on, and that we're sharing our experiences under this comment section. Good luck to everyone and keep on rocking!
I had a difficult time when I was between 18 and 21 and I did not even realise it. I felt like you, felt so different from teenagers so it was hard for me to relate to them. They complained about me being arrogant when I was not, they were the insecure idiots. I became very arrogant recently because I was too insecure in the past. After all, dropping out from high school is not as bad as people think. Staying in high school is worse.
I turn 21 in 2 weeks and I would like to say.. I don’t recognize myself by how much I have changed. I got married at 19 and so I’ve had to grow a little extra fast feels like and I just feel like a completely different person than I was 2 years ago almost at 19… just wow.
Hello Money Making Community, my name is Emanuel, and I’m rather relatively new to the understanding of the world of e-commerce in its functionality and application in the real world over all. I was wondering if all possible, would someone like yourself, in the same pursuit path, be willing to communicate back with me in regard to possible growth towards e-commerce. We could brainstorm and share ideas as well as possibly learn from one another. Please feel free to reach back. Thank you for your time and have a wonderful day.
I’m 23 years old and feel like I haven’t achieved anything even when people say I have. I needed this.
I am 23 and I don't think Im doing bad. What bothers me is, will I ever be able to afford my own place ? Where will i bring up a family ? Will I ever have enough to retire ? Im just 23, but life passes and if i don't achieve what I want by the time Im 40, I probably won't achieve it ever and that scares me.
@@jakubmuron9030 There is an old saying “ Life doesn’t start until you’re 40.”
@@jakubmuron9030 Heyy another member of the 23 club here! Let's, just for a second, put aside the fact that you can absolutely accomplish the things you want to accomplish after 40. Over the past few years I've been feeling a lot of the same way as you, worried I'm not meeting my goals fast enough or hitting those classic mile markers in life at the right time. Something that's really helped me is putting in perspective what a ridiculous amount of time we still have left.
Think about everything you've accomplished over the last 23 years. Every person you've met, every joke you've told, every happy memory you have, every thing you've learned. It's a lot! It's the entirety of time you've ever experienced! And you probably didn't even realize what was happening until you were like 5 or 6. Now realize that from now until the time you're worried about, you have the entirety of the life you've already lived. Every single memory you have, every single thing you've ever experienced, every single thing that makes you who you are. And you get to have that again, just in the time between now and the time you're worried about. Isn't that insane? You did so much in the first 23 years! And for more than half of it you didn't even have agency over how you got to live it. Now you have so many options! You have more control over your life than you ever have before!
That's not even accounting for the fact that the vast majority of people continue to do things and accomplish their goals after 40. Because remember your entire life? You know, all of existence that you've ever experienced? You not only get to live your entire lived lifespan over again, you get to do it like 3 or 4 more times! You get to live the entirety of your life again in the best conditions your life has ever been another 4 times! That's such a crazy amount of time!! I by no means have lived a full life but the idea of doing the equivalency of everything I've ever done all over again feels monumental to me! And the fact I can learn from the mess that was my early years and improve on the time I got, it's such a good deal I feel like I'm being scammed.
Don't get me wrong, you still gotta make good choices, live for the future you, put the work in to getting the life you want. And there will be plenty of hard times, moments when life doesn't go your way and kicks you while you're down. Not every year is created equal, but that's true for the years you've already lived as well. That's life in lifespan after all. But don't ever let yourself fall into the trap of thinking you're running out of time. Because holy shit, we have such an unfathomable amount of time left! It's all of our existence and more! And even though there are always more things to do, I think that's plenty of time to achieve the goals you want to achieve
@@jakubmuron9030 I get that too, sat here on a minimum wage job I like thinking “when do I jump to the big money where I can survive alone? Will I have to do a job I don’t want”
I feel lost and unaccomplished in alot of things, I don't have enough to live on my own nor do I have a love life. I just exist without a map or paddle to go in any direction. Hopefully things will improve for all of us
Imagine being a 21yo, in a pandemic, not studying, not working, not in a relationship, without a single penny in your pocket, living in the third world, moving to a country where you'll probably be one of the less educated people... This is me.
At least I have a chance to be someone and to do something. Thank you for the video! Very helpful!
Edit: I am here in Portugal, and I must say that I am way happier/better than before, and I will be meeting my LDR girlfriend next month. It's all a matter of time, I guess... The secret is not to be desperate.
Escapaste de latinoamerica?
@@sac7404 Leaving Brazil in October/November. I am gonna start living in Portugal. I plan to finish my studies, improve my English... I would really love to live in Ireland (at least for some time) in order to improve my English, which is a language that I really love.
Who knows what I am gonna do... I just want to be happy.
@@comodeveser9250 serás bem-vindo! Muita sorte e força pra enfrentar os desafios!
@@adelinomachado9232 Muito obrigado Adelino, é sempre bom ouvir palavras assim! Também te desejo o melhor! Abraços!!
your english is really good dude and stay motivated I'm sure you will go far
I'll be 21 in some months. I've just learned the hard way: If you won't take good care of your health, your body will turn against you. You aren't eternal and your body's gonna be only older. If you got a pain - seek a medical advice. Don't believe it will go away by itself, it's a risky game to play. And time can be your friend if you act fast.
I'm 20 and I feel like a grandma. This week I started to have a rheumatism treatment.
Good luck in your life, Random Reader!
Also twenty one and get really bad migraines if I don't listen to my body. I'd get so frustrated with myself if I burned out in the middle of the day and it's taken me years to figure what I needed all along was to give myself space to breathe and just SLEEP, which is so overrated when you're looking for quick outs. Best of luck on your health journey!!
@@emberflash1641 Yes, sleep is really important. Coffee can't solve everything x') I've also been there
And thank you!
@@sophierobinson2738 I hope that you only have had a bad experience. Where I live you can see another doctor if that happens. If you feel you're bad, you can also ask for having medical exams. Normally the specialist should propose them to you ;) (but if that's not the case, then fight for it anyway! There always good and bad doctors, don't give up 🥰)
@@SananaAnanas haha oh yeah coffee's definitely not the best route to go, especially long term. Regardless, I've definitely lived and learned the hard way so hopefully I'll be better for it
Had something similar when i was 19. I experienced backpain to the point of breathing restrictions. Worked on my physical and especialy mental health. I'm 21 now and im striving :D.
Little piece of advice (if you want it): Take a look at Dr. Gabor Mate and his studies on Trauma & Stress in relation to illness.
(I am German btw, so if anything starts with a capital letter in the middle of the sentence you now know why :D)
i’ve been feeling the existential anxiety of turning 25 for months. i never feel like i’m doing enough, this really helped me. thank you
I turned 25 a week ago and I feel like I'm last in Mario Kart and everyone else has reached the finish line
We are all in the same boat ❤
25 sucks I do not feel like my brain has fully developed lmao
I think the biggest revelation for me in my 20s was that you don't ever really feel as old as you are. Your 20s is this weird span of time where teenagers see you as an adult and people in their 30s+ see you as a child still, which makes it really hard for you to know who you actually are. It's like there's this myth in society that once you reach your 20s, you're an adult now and suddenly you should know everything you need to know. The secret is, the people older than you don't feel any different than you do. You won't feel any different when you're their age. At the end of the day, age really doesn't matter. Pay attention to things like maturity, wisdom, and respect. Have fun in your 20s, but also realize that it absolutely is an important stage of growth in your life. It doesn't stop with your teenage years; you will continue to grow and learn until your hair turns white.
That's very true. Plus there's no deadline for doing most things.
my hair started turning white at 19...
I can relate a bit, as I am myself a 23-year-old. I hated it when my peers approached me saying "oh, I wish I was your age." 😓Like wtf, you're merely two years older than me and your eyes are already full of regrets... Age shouldn't matter. We're all young and learning our life lessons, be patient.
@@jacoblau7810 What?? They’re only 25 😂
I love how we’re all just vibing with the other lost 20-something year olds in the comments 😂 we’ll figure this out guys!!!
😂🙌
strangers on the internet are the perfect translator for my emotion which i cannot explain typing.🤣🤣
Together yes we will
You train wrecks are making me more confident going into my 20’s this year 😀
im 17 lol i guess you could say im getting a head start but i just enjoy hearing about peoples lives. we’re all just a bunch of kids trying to get our shit together
as someone seeing 40 as my next bday (what even?!), I agree with your assessment of 20's for sure! I have a few things to add: 1) GET THERAPY. find a therapist that clicks with you, and talk that shit out. it has helped SO MUCH (and I am still in therapy, after going off and on throughout my 20s and 30s). fire the therapist if it isn't working for you, too. you're not obligated to spend money on them if they're not giving you what you need to get where you want to go!
2) YOU ARE NOT A DESTINATION. life is a journey, you're a forever-project, you're not going to reach "done" until you're dead. just give yourself space to experiment and try things and see what you like and what you don't. it's okay to change your mind, too.
and 3) a big thing I have noticed in my 30s that I wish I had known in my 20s, that kind of jives with your "assume everyone is fighting a monster" is: folks do not care about your appearance as much as you do. got a big zit on your face? they might notice but they're probably worried about the zit on their neck that they're hoping you don't notice. are you female-presenting and didn't shave your legs and you're wearing shorts? NO ONE CARES IF YOUR LEGS ARE SMOOTH AS SILK. same for underarm hair. wear makeup, don't wear makeup - do whatever you want that makes you happy with your appearance. get that tattoo. shave your head. dye your hair purple. go cottage core with your wardrobe. life is too dang short to not be your authentic self - even as you're figuring out what the heck that is!
thanks for this video - I hope folks take what they need out of it and go easier on themselves
I got a tattoo at 25, and my only regret is that I got it in a place that I can't see without a mirror. It was a milestone year, and I was a bit homesick, so I got a little frog on the back of my neck. This little frog is only found in my home province in Canada. I got it on the back of my neck where it is easily hidden by my shirt collar and thick hair. 15 years later, it still means a lot to me.
@@sharonoddlyenough I got my first tattoo at 25 - and I am VERY glad I waited until then. it ended up being a flash piece from a shop we walked by while I was on vacation in canada and I had some extra cash and was dying to test my pain threshold (so I could get the big piece I REALLY wanted) - so I got a little birb on the top of my left foot. it was absolutely fine, it's still super cute today, and I actually got a little reverse birb skeleton of it done on my right foot 15+ years later. I think if 18-year-old me had gotten the tattoos she wanted then, I would be getting some removed/covered up. but 25 year old me was READY. ;)
@@sparklypoof oh, those tattoos sound awesome!
Thank you! I'm 18 and my hair is long and I have black nails and I'm a guy haha. happy that I'm being myself and fighting my fears
Absolutely great additions!
I just turned 20 recently and I’ve felt so paralyzed by the rush to pack as much into this decade as possible. I didn’t realize that I was setting an impossible standard for myself. The part of the video where you talk about appreciating what you already have is very useful to me, thank you ❤️
Hey I will be 20 years old on Thursday May 9th.
@@AshleyWilliams-ip5wemaybe don’t let the internet know your full name and birthday girl
@@spacefox6689 Ok thanks. 😀🙂
I was 19 when Covid hit and now I am 21 and it feels like I just got teleported two years into the future and I just can’t wrap my head around that I am that old. I feel like 16 + 5 haha and have no idea how to do this adult life
I feel the same
I feel the same as you, i feel like covid stole 2 years of my life my 20 was ruined, I had a lot of plans, and if it wasn't for covid I would have been in a whole different place, living a whole different life
same tho just wanna turn back time
Same. It feel like long long sleep.
I'm 21 too and when I look at myself I feel like...my years are passing without me
This is weird. His attitude and the music is all positive but what he's saying connects so much I'm just crying. Thank you for this.
He comes off kinda self-absorbed idk something feels wrong to me
@@kam-lw4ez you see certain aspects of yourself in him? Since what you said is a perspective of how you think he feels. And to be précis it feels like you know how it feels to self centered what would then easily be seen in others through indicating cues
@@kam-lw4ez ironic you're name is disillusioned yet write off his message
It feels like a huge relief to hear someone speak so clearly and compassionately about things so relevant to me at 26. I really resonate with the part about overcoming trauma and I appreciate you sharing your personal experience. So much love!
in my 20s there wasn't any social media to compare yourself unrealistically out there but we had small actual social knit. Its more fullfilling to our self esteem.
its more healthy in my own pov.
Turning 23 in about a week and it’s honestly such a relief to see that I am not alone. The constant feeling of beeing not enough and making
the wrong decisions is crazy. So what I learned from this video: Relax, like honestly and just try to be a little better everyday by beeing grateful and doing the right things
"sobriety has given me all the things that drugs and alcohol promised" WOW
For me it's music. Making music while sober you just get lost and it feels so great it's better than drugs it's pure good times
Well, everybody is different : alcool gave me inspiration, colors, lights, stories, musics, texts. Of course you have to make a sort between good and bad the next day and clarify the descriptions to have something good but but with money, time, and hard work I could earn an oscar with what I use to create while being drunk. :o)
But for what I've finally understood being tired more than drunk is even more powerful. I create and work in a much better way when I'm a little sleepy and it's not cringe or with missing words and sentences, and with *a little bit* of alcool it's even better. Only the rythm of the text is a little bad and has to be reworked, all is a matter of moderation. ^^
Now I nearly never drink as I am tired of it, I've never felt addicted to alcool, and I never felt a lack of alcool.
Everybody is different.
Nothing better than living life on life’s terms brother
sobriety is society with briefs
If that was true then why would people do drugs?
I’m 21 and feel like I’m wandering through a weird point in life where I can “do anything”, but also feel so lost as to what I should choose. This video helped as a reminder to not fall into that pressure to succeed at every little thing I do. :,)
Same. Its a weird and different feeling of hopelessness
I'm 21 and I just feel I'm gonna fail on everything I try, I get so scared of failure that I can't keep on trying new things without quitting it, I feel scared for my future cause I don't feel capable of anything but that fear is the thing that's stopping me from actually succeeding so it's kind of a snowball rn
Hi
I did videos like this view it answer see my POV
I'm 25, been unemployed since I graduated college. Most of my classmates are, what seem to be, successful influencers or have decent jobs. I was top of my class but for some reason, I can't get a job... in my house, we have to pay rent, groceries keep getting expensive and it hurts to know I can't help. Every TikToker always talks about how they started a small business because of the pandemic and now they are rich (or earn enough). Sometimes it's too much to handle. I really hope it gets better because sometimes I can't see the light.
EDIT: Thank you guys for all your replies, also, I didn't know so many of us feel the same. I really hope this gets better for all of us.
Another Edit: I started going to therapy, and I just got a job. It's getting better.
We are in a same situation. I am 25 and this year graduated. haven't working yet. Everyday feeling anxiety. Need to pay rent . Everything seems expensive . Before at my studies year I used to work. But when I arrived to my country. (I don't like my country but bc of pandemic and money I can't leave now ) I am completely lost. Everyday I feel anxiety and depressed. It feels it doesn't stop. I also hope it gets better
Stay positive friend and never give up. Keep striving for success with all you have and things will get better
@@beckygray6361 Same here, I'm 23 years old and graduated from college. I did have two jobs that aren't related to my major at all before but both sucked greatly and I felt miserable doing them. Now I'm unemployed and lost as heck, I hate my country ( I live in third world poor country and my biggest dream and goal is to find a way to get out to live and work in another developed country ) but every country got serious standards for people they are willing to give immigration chances to and so I constantly feel unworthy of these opportunities. I'm always anxious, depressed, insecure and terrified that even if I do manage to get a chance to get out of here, I might end up realizing that I can't do well there or I might not be able to benefit these countries as much as other immigrants who are way more skilled. I'm trying to improve myself now and learn as much as I can from internet. I'm an adult but I don't feel like a true adult cause I'm always in this stunned state of mind meanwhile other adults already know how to deal with society and outside world. I studied economics but since here education is shit, I spent four years in college and graduated while still not understanding anything about my major or how I'm supposed to use it to earn money. I feel stupid all the time.
@@beckygray6361 You can workout a little bit, meditate, do the household chores and plant so.e vegetables.....this might help you to stay occupied, feel satistified and it might be of help to others, growing your own crops might on expenses as well and ofc stay positive....look at the brightest side of life even though in your darkest time
@@zhangqiling8086 yeah I also studied economics. And the thing we should understand, the knowledge we got from university doesn't work . It is only foundation. That's why I am reading books about economics to get something and also distract myself from all this shit .So and if we gonna work as an economics we should work for free to some months to get a job . Bc they always asks 2 -3 years experiences . I wish you to be successful from your career in the future in one of the developed County
One thing I learn from my early 20s is many times, being logical can't get you out of depression. Because it will find an evidence of your sadness and sounds really right but it also doesn't help your life either. Your brain can tricks you that all the negativity you faced are a prove that life isn't worth living. BUT the point is we already alive as a human being and life should feel ok to live so those logical answers that support the negativity are pretty useless or harmful instead of helpful.
Wasting times on slow process can be painful(your mind consistently compare what you do right now that looks like crap/unfinished to the result of other's success) but it's is much better than wasting daily limited energy on supporting the voices in your head that made you hate living and hurt your tomorrows.
Morgan freeman got his first acting job when he was 21 and didn’t get his next until he was 55. You’re all wonderful and will make it. Good things take time
That's not true. Like at all.
@@jamretro1336 The Morgan Freeman part or that we are all wonderful and will make it?
@@agustingiai8844 Morgan Freeman
@@jamretro1336 Well, we can think about Tarantino then. He had a job on a videoclub, and his first popular movie was at his 30s.
@@agustingiai8844 yes
I'm turning 26 in a few months, literally just feel like I'm so old and have wasted my 20s and should just give up because I'm practically 30. Depression and Anxiety are the worst. It's good to know there are a lot of people feeling the same.
Just turned 26 and have been feeling the same, this video and his video about success have helped soothe some of my anxiety. but my biggest advice (as i've finally done it myself) is don't be afraid or ashamed to get help, i've recently started therapy and medication and am already thanking myself for it. we are not martyrs, and we don't need to suffer unnecessarily. i wish you well!
@@dancingdyonysis thank you
28 right now and felt like I woke from a fever dream. You have time!!! We have time. IF you're not sure what you want to do, that's fine, but I strongly recommend you start saving if you have not already. It's so easy to save before marriage, or children or mortgage. Be kind to future you and start that 10-15% savings of your salary in a different account. The comfort that comes with that nest egg is just one thing to stress less about
@@Jasbones it is really hard, especially with so many barriers to actually getting help, from the complicated systems just to sign up to the cost itself to actually getting quality care from doctors. it really is all about baby steps. but that's amazing you've started down the path of healing as well.
Fuck I feel the same lol I’m turning 26 this year and I feel like I went to college for nothing because idk what I’m doing anymore
I'm 19 and I'll be 20 in a few months . I haven't become 20 and I was already stressing and having panic attacks for the future . Thank you for this guide . It made me less anxious and stressed
Same
02 here! Feel the same way. Don't rush things, and don't feel ashamed for not having anything figured out yet.
@@ashtastiic Same here. What i figured helps alot is writing down One-two major goals u want in the next year. As a 19 year old My main goal right now is to work on building a great physqiue/working out/eating healthy and i write down all my plans i need to do throughout the day to achieve it so by the time I'm 21 im in good shape. 2nd goal of mine is to earn money and learn how to save/invest. When you write down what u want and what u have to do everyday to achieve it it makes things much easier trust!!
Same. Its freaking me out. It feels like i was just 16 yesterday yesterday.. Where did all these time go? I literally have no idea how the outside world works.. I cant even make a doctor appointment myself
@@what.are.you.doing.stepbro literally same, gonna be 20 next month and i’m NOT READY 😭
I'm 27 and only just found this channel. I feel like its made a big impact on the way I see life, I suffer from anxiety and depression and have huge expectations of what I should've accomplished at this point in my life seeing other people so much further ahead than me. My first step to removing this problem is deleted social media and I think that's one of the best decisions I've ever made. There is no sense in comparing yourself to someone else when everyone is different, its like comparing apples to oranges. One thing I've learnt in my 20s is its never too late to start, whether that be a career or a hobby... just do it, future you will thank you for it.
This came to me in the best moment possible, it is lowest point of my emotional life and I feel like I can't hear enough people telling me it is okay to be feeling and doing everything I am, so thank you.
i feel the same! hang in there, we will be okay ♡
My therapist cancelled for today bc she's sick so finding this came in really handy.
Man, i Get soooooo tired of being told the same
thing over and over again.
Same. This video helped me a lot
Another thing I’d add is that if you feel like you’re “not ready” for something, whether it’s a career change, going back to school, moving, seeking help for your afflictions, or even something as trivial as cleaning the pile of dishes in the sink, that’s okay. But the thing is that you will *never* feel ready. You’re never ready for something you haven’t experienced. I’ve spent almost all of my 25 years *waiting*, and it feels like one day I woke up to see half of my 20’s behind me with nothing to show for it.
Like he says, the pressure for us to achieve massive “success” at a young age is unhealthy, but it’s so easy to let the pressure and fear paralyze us into years of inaction and avoidance. It’s a scary world, but you have to go out there and live in it. If you hide from it, what you’ll find internally will be at least as bad as the worst the world has to offer.
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That happened to me too, I kept on waiting and waiting and now I'm 27 almost 28 and I never tried anything, only words and goals in my head..
@@rashazedd8330 oh gosh the amount of “planning” i have done in my head or on paper… i just need to do it.. something!
@@rashazedd8330 Me at 26 and I have the life experience of a child. Fear overtook my life and always felt inadequate for how little I have achieved and experienced. I've made a habit of doing nothing, and I need to start breaking that habit by doing ANYTHING, even if it seems small.
@@caitlynm924 yes you should do something! I had so many goals in mind but since I never tried.. nothing became real. For example I was wishing to be a flight attendant in Emirates or Qatar airways, 4 years has passed and now my cousin who had the same goal (unlike me she acted on it) and now she's flying to different countries around the world. So my advice is to give it a chance, you'll never know.. otherwise you'll face regrets.
The cultural obsession with the 20's becomes a self fulfilling prophecy: if you live like your 20's are all you have, you'll be old at 34; if you pace yourself you can stay young for many decades, and you'll accomplish a lot more with consistent, well rested effort over 40 years than with 10 years of frantic effort.
Best advice for your 20's:
get help to lift heavy things
wear a mask around chemicals
exercise but not too much
only work overtime occasionally
get enough sleep
I think you should also keep doing these things in your 30's. When you're 20 you think, 30 is old. Wenn you're 30 you'll realize, you're still young, but you might have a bit more money, a bit less anxiety and a bit more things figured out. I'm 31 now and I really appreciate this time in my life.
Thank you so much for this advice! Yes I've never understood that, most of your life comes after your 20s so why are they considered all you have? Life is not a race, and if we treat it like a race all it will do is make us unhappy
correct. why do we live to 80 or even 100 to spend only one decade of them as "young"?
Thank you so much for saying this! It really takes pressure off the feeling that you have to accomplish so many things while you’re in your 20s before you’re “too old”
took a screenshot of this :)
Thanks for helping me put my life back on track man. Hope you're doing well.👍
I just turned 22 & I feel 17. Feels like I’m constantly having to “push through”, but I’m so hopeful for the future. Can’t wait to tell my future children and grandchildren of my life experiences.
aww wholesome
24 with a 3 year old my advice, seek what you think will make you happy. Progress is progress big or small and always try to compete only with yourself and Noone else as long as your a better you than you were last year 5 years from now you'll be a beast, have patience with yourself and make friends with people who have simpler goals comment for more advice ❤
I turned 30 last week, and the one I’d add is “you can’t go it alone.” If you don’t find and maintain community, you will struggle infinitely more than you would otherwise. We humans are social creatures. Even after I know longer financially needed to split rent, I’ve continued to keep roommates, because I find that having (non-toxic) people around me just makes life better.
So true man!
Works wonders when you find or create a likemided group of people.
What if you can’t do that
@@AltheaMoonStar if you can’t find community, find ways to be a good friend to yourself, have your own back, enjoy your own company, and enjoy being in the world (like nature, art, music, architecture, the weather etc). If you know who you are, what you like, what you like doing, what is important to you, it is also easier to start looking for places, activities and platforms where others who share that might be found. It is also easier for others to find you if you can be sincere, open and generous with yourself, but I know that is not always possible in all contexts or for all things.
If you are a good friend to yourself, you have at least self-loyalty and someone really close to you on your side. And isolation or having to deal with not belonging with the people around you is much easier to bear if you at least have yourself to lean on.
It’s so hard when you KNOW you can’t do it alone, but everyone keeps telling you “well I did everything alone, so you should too.” I’m 20, my siblings are all 31+, my mom is 55, dad almost 60. EVERYONE says I need to do everything by myself. And it REALLY sucks when you’re disabled and your family denies it. I forgot to eat for days and passed out at work. I simply need a little help, but my family (especially my siblings) believe I have to do everything alone. They weren’t alone. I grew up an only child and I was in the foster care system. My life is 1,000x different than their childhood was. They had each other. I had/have absolutely no one.
@@Trollestiatumblur I guarantee that they didn't do it alone, they just aren't properly crediting the people (and systems) in their lives that helped them. The generations before ours just don't have the same perspective on what constitutes help that we do. You are doing fine, you will do great, just keep your chin up, look for people who share your values, try not to sweat the opinions of the willfully ignorant, and focus on being the best version of you that you can be. I believe in you.
Great list. I’m 31 now and here are my two biggest lessons from my 20s:
1) achieving your goals will leave you empty. I think it’s quite natural to work hard when you’re young. You want to make a success for yourself… and in a post-school age, you need to set ‘targets’ for yourself that replace the grades you used to be given. However, once you meet those targets… you’ll then be left wondering what to do next? Maybe you’ll set an even bigger target for yourself… smash that… then what? A big change came to me when I realised to not focus on the goal… but on doing things each day that I enjoyed and that made me proud of myself. People often refer to this as focusing on the journey, not the destination.
2) be yourself. Don’t hide who you are. Being open and honest about yourself takes vulnerability… but I tell you this… vulnerability is beautiful! I am so much closer to the people in my life because I opened up about myself to them. Unsurprisingly, doing so and being vulnerable makes it easier for them to open up to me as well. Examples of being vulnerable that made my 20s: opening up about my sexuality, asking friends how they developed skills that I envied them for, telling people (who I loved) that I love them.
So true about the goals, whether in IRL or video games...
Throwing out the concept of success itself is a pretty interesting paradigm. Just wake up and live naturally doing things you enjoy - without being consumed by the pressure to keep striving towards an “ideal reality” that you can never seem to reach.
Sometimes comment section is better than video itself
Massive bro this is real deal lessons
2 is a lot easier when you don't live in a state that discriminates against gay/lesbian people
Turning 24 this year. Still feeling lost and scared to be honest. So hard to break generational traumas and just navigate everything by yourself. This video calmed me down. Thank you.
Hi. Im 24 as well. I share your lost feeling. I feel like a few unlucky events set me back. And now im struggling to chase my dreams i was so close to reaching. Thanks for making me feel less alone
Hope you are doing well. Rooting for us all!
This thread is too cute c': I'm going through something similar too
Hope we are all pushing through this year even though I am pretty sure we are all tired 🥲
Hey friends, I’m also in the 24 club lol.. questioning my life, my career, and being single.. enjoying life for what it is and embracing the unknown as it creates the zest for adventure and the journey that life is, but damn it’s hard lol. We got this yall, sending love ❤
When you said “society makes it seem as though every young person should be successful” hit me. Like we don’t all have high amounts of money at 18 that’s when our life starts!!
I’ve just turned 18 and I’ve got a job going but it never seems enough to fit into society.
I’m 25 and I’m not as broke as I was at 18 but I’m still broke.. but it’s a comfortable broke if that makes sense
It helps to occasionally remember that a significant chunk of
what we think of as the standards and expectations of "society",
when it boils down to it, is actually more just a mix of fantasy and propaganda
than it is something most people can actually attain.
* Forgot to note, "propaganda" includes such fun variations as the capitalist version, aka "marketing"
Why do you need to fit into society? Just do your own thing. Worry about what you need
Because it never is. What do you think will happen if you give more and more to have them accept you? You'll burn out. This is your life and your time, don't gift it to a society that has no claim on it.
Just turned 29 so still a year away from being done with this decade of my life, but the biggest thing I've learned is that
1. Showing up is 80% of the work. Just show up to your relationships, job, workout, whatever you want to have in life, and the rest is actually easy. Just get started
2. You don't have to kill it at work. I've worked super hard and been told i was shit, i've been lazy and told I was amazing, find the level of effort that makes you proud of YOURSELF and stop there. Don't worry about impressing others or being like others... cuz everyone is too busy with themselves to notice.
3. Revisit your childhood hobbies. Play is the best therapy. Ride your bike, make a doll house, catch bugs, go to the zoo, build a lego tower. and also you DON'T HAVE TO MONETIZE IT OR BE GOOD AT IT. If you enjoy it... THAT'S IT. That's all you need.
Thank you
i’m 20, 21 in january and i connect with 1. on a different level , i’m in a bad spot rn and it’s because i can’t show up. I over sleep everything , to the point now where i’ll do all nighters to avoid not oversleeping or missing out on something. once i’m where i have to be, i excel , but consistently arriving and being present baffles me. I genuinely don’t understand how people are able to wake up every, single, day at the same time. if i could just do that i’d be unstoppable but instead i go to sleep at 8 at night and wake up at 5 in the afternoon pissed my whole days trashed or i missed work or missed something else that’s important.
Thank you, that made me feel a lot better
@@ajrnb1233410 I'm 20 as well turning 21 in march, and I know far too well how you feel. Countless "sleep schedule reset" all-nighters that never worked, sleeping through literally 5 different alarms including my phone, a clock, and my alexa every morning, I've been there and still do struggle to get outta the damn bed sometimes. What caused this for me personally was just excessive screen time especially at night. Just ruins your mind's ability to tell when it should be tired or not, and when you finally fall asleep your brain takes advantage and sleeps for as long as possible to compensate. Try limiting your time online especially later in the day if you currently spend alot of time in front of a screen, or get some blue light glasses to make it easier on your eyes. I wish you the best of luck!
I turned 20 this year and it’s the most confusing thing ever, they sold us dreams telling us it’s our golden years. But we are still trying and we have people like you to who are our online big brothers and to guide us. Thank you so much.
The media always taught us that your teens and twenties are gonna be your prime in life. But when those lifes are different from the ones on tv its starts to daunt on you.
I’m 24 and I just broke up with someone and i found this video on a whim. I can’t thank you enough for helping me to cope and realize that heartbreak and love are normal and that I’ll be okay eventually. Nothing is easy in this world but it helps to know that there’s people everywhere who are going through the same things.
Currently same age and same situation and I hope things better
sitting at home all day high doesn’t do anything for anything. i’m so happy i came across your video. being in my twenties, i feel the pressure. the pressure to be someone i’m not ready to be. in a pandemic, college drop out, mental health problems and constantly running away from myself. i needed to hear what you said. thank you.
Me rn girl frfrrrtr
@Idk__ i feel this 24/7
I’m 22 and I’m fucking lost I don’t even know what life is anymore tbh, at the end of this year I’m going to finish my apprenticeship and quit my job and find a mountain top to sit on and just fucking breathe for a second and think
Hell yeah. Prioritize your mental health.
im 21 and i feel exactly the fucking same.... feels like im going crazy soon
Bro you literally sound just like me hahahaha
yo, can i join u on that mountain top too?
I fell the same it feels as my only purpose is to secure money
Being 27, my biggest advice is be physically active (AND STRETCH BEFORE AND AFTER DOING SO), and don't stop if you can help it. I couldn't do much for about a year after an accident, and 4 years later I'm still not quite the same. Putting the effort in now is much more worth it than putting it off for another time
Hope you don't mind listening to my story too. I lost tremendous amount of money due to my stupidity and was being a fool applying "online jobs" where you need to transfer money to another "merchant" bank and claimed to get "commission" when doing it. I already made a police report in my country and I have learned my lesson not to fall of these tricks again. I am also currently 27 years old this year studying another diploma which I love and enjoy. I have make terrible choice on my early years of my 20s because I can't choice the diploma that I like due to education points where not enough in my country when I was in Secondary school taking GCE N level.
My biggest advise is explore the world of Psychedelics. No joke. Life changing.
@@michaelfilippi1520 .....
@@MrNoorIskandar watch psyched substance then you'll understand. Psychedelics ain't anoth drug.
@@MrNoorIskandar it's called exploring the deep depths of you mind and what it's capable of.
4:51 is the point that I really wanted to hear it today. I'm still very disappointed in myself and I'm 28. Younger siblings having careers, getting married, and higher pay than me, the eldest son. I feel like shit day to day, hate myself for wasting my past potential, in an emotional mess regretting life choices and still having a hard time moving on. I'm going slowly step by step, but I hope I can push thru & find the better days ahead.
You're 28, and there's still so much potential for growth, change, and new opportunities. It may feel like you've wasted time or that you're behind, but the fact that you're acknowledging these feelings and pushing through step by step is already a sign of resilience and strength. You’re not stuck in your past choices; you’re making decisions now, which means you have the power to shape the future, even if it feels slow.
@vilusantos100 my man, thank you for the kind wishes and I wish you all the best in your endeavours too 💪
When I was 18 I was telling People that "I was such a nerd when I was younger. 18yo me would have bullied 15 year old me."
When I was 22 I was imagining 22yo me telling 18yo me to stop bullying 15yo me and just start accepting him as part of myself.
This was kind of a life changing realization for me and now I keep adding older versions of myself to the group. It's such a grounding thought and they all get along now :D
That sounds lovely
That is amazing!! I am 18 years old rn and just not doing completely great. I thought about your post and thought damn 15 year old me was amazing. I then imagined my 22 year old self telling me that he is me, and I can still be him
This hit hard, exactly what i feel
I love this
Hmm... Can you imagine what would actually looks like if several time and space versions of yourself literally meet one another whitauth anyone of them knowing who each of you are?
This reminds me of a Guillermo del Toro quote: "Young people are in the exact age of desperation. I never felt older and more finished than in my 20s. I used to say 'Life past through me and I haven't done anything'. But now I'm here to tell you that its not true; you have a fcking lot of time".
It sounds better in spanish but you get the idea lol
can you help me find the original Spanish quote for this?
@@YOURGE300 Sure. Here at 0:48 th-cam.com/video/kf_VlAXhvp8/w-d-xo.html
I cried reading this, somehow this perfectly sums up feeling lost in your 20s
Como é esta tradução em Espanhol?
i write that down
His thing about his sexual abuse and releasing himself from childhood trauma in order to enjoy your 20s and the rest of your life really resonated with me.
@free sexy albums in my channel 8. Being a Marvel manchild will get you nowhere.
Openly talking about his sexual abuse made me instantly respect him
I'm 22, sad and alone. I can't tell you enough how hard life is rn. I feel so lost and behind. I don't exactly know what I'm gonna do or where I'm heading. I hope that I'll survive this decade with your wisdom in mind 🙏 Thank you.
Don't let yourself down, it gets better, even if it dosen't looks like it at the moment :)
21 yo introvert here, i feel the same
21 here and you’re not alone. Bout to graduate and have no idea what I’m gonna do with my life or where I’m gonna go
@@ceci7798 Felt the same when graduated despite beeing 15 back then 😅, im now 21 & mabye i can lend some advise? Try yourself out via internships for abt. 2-3 Weeks lenght to get a feeling of whats right for you👍🏼 just avoid long times of chillin/doing nothing as there's a risk not leaving that Hole. Most inportantly do this whole processe in your'e pace 😊 What closed ones might harshly say/do mostly comes from worry and care, dont take it too close, make youre way and when found your'e destination just look at them like: " : :) Told ya~ ;P" .
Keep in mind you'll always end up where youre meant to be! 🥰
I feel ya. I’m almost 21 and I’ve been struggling with drug abuse and lack of ambition. Also a lot of my friends have turned out to be pretty toxic. I feel more alone than ever before even though I have family and friends. Doesn’t help that I don’t have any goals for career or future while other ppl my age are getting married, kids and careers. Fortunately we have time to turn things around
just turned 20, feeling like I'm just watching everybody living their lifes, like I'm waiting for mine to start but I'm trapped in my head...
we all know what's best for us but we are too tired of all the shit in this world...or just scared idk
true
Hey darling, life is in the here and now. Life is not somewhere else, place or time. Don't spend your life chasing windmills. If I can tell you one thing I've learned, is that the happiest people on this planet are those who learn to appreciate the here and now, the small things, the places where life shows it's beauty, that most people completely miss because they are chasing distractions, illusions. Be kind as much as you can, it feeds your spirit, find a way to help other lives, practice mindfulness (I cannot emphasize this enough), start a practice of meditation (it's a process, don't get discouraged), take care and move your body, learn about wu wei and watch the beauty of life unravel. Never forget, we cannot even imagine the doors that will open along the way. As Rilke said, do not seek the answers that cannot be given to you in the present moment, because you wouldn't be able to live them. Instead live the questions now, and maybe some day in the future, without realising it, you will live along the answer. And the point is, to live trough everything. :)
@@Lina-ws3sy thnx I needed this. I'm also 20
@@Lina-ws3sy thank you so much
@@Lina-ws3sy love this 💕
I'm 22 and I feel so lost and useless... I have no idea what to do with myself! It's so stressful to feel the weight on your future adult life on your shoulders, like the college degree we choose, our diet, the skills we decide to work on and the way we spend our free time in general... all that will struggling with our inner demons, as you said. Basically It's a second puberty except there are financial and legal consequences now!! aaaaaaaaaaaah! Hahaha
Thank you for uploading this video!
I just turned 21 bro trust we are gonna make it, we are in this together
I’m in the exact same boat:)
Same...:)
Me too man, me too.
You know what?
Don't take life too serious, let it go, everything will turn out, I'm 30 now and still feel like I'm 23, and I look like it 😂 and you'll figure everything out. I promise.
Don't loose yourself in relationships, go out be playful, take risks, get help if your fucked up.
Be with yourself and just move. Do something, if it's right or wrong and you can't tell know just do it, because afterwards you'll know if it's right or wrong.
My advices up there are so important because nowadays it's hard to feel yourself and find a gap where to fit in.
But you got the chance to get to know you.
And if your ever hitting a point where everything feels senseless, and like your stucked, you got two options, hoping that life is making something pushing you from your back and you'll fall really hard because it'll come without a warning, or second option you turn around, find your fears, except them and work with them, give yourself a new way. Shadow work.
And he'll yes its gona be a bumpy ride, but how else should life shake you out of your mind and body state.
Or shake yourself. Everyday, don't give up, you didn't made it to get a knew routine in your life because your only made it through 3 days?
Simply go on.
There's simply no use in self judge.
Love to you all!
Watching this feels like a warm hug, nobody tells you about these things, your literally just an adult child left left with the pressure of figuring things out with little to no guidance at all. This made me feel so much more comfortable in myself, thanks man ❤️
Thank you for sharing ❤. I’m in my late 30’s but this advice still applies. That quote “you’re only as sick as your secrets” is so true. Grateful for your honesty vulnerably sharing your thoughts. Addressing trauma/grief is most definitely worth its cost. Not easy but it will lead to freedom.
Im 27 and i feel like this qoute defines your 20's " you suffer more in your imagination than in reality" before your 20's you have an image laid out of where you want to be over the next 10 years and you are going full speed towards it but, in reality life is hard. Once you fall behind your imagination you become your own harshest critic leading to possible neurosis's and a pit of frustration and resentment . in the end life isn't a rush its not about the goal but the experience getting there, the people you meet and relationships you make. if you want to try something go out and try it, failure is just the first step to sucess. Best of luck !!
This is very very true.
needed to hear this, 26 over here and you quoted it perfectly!
thank you!
I love how he talks about the future self. Some people love to talk about living for the present, but I feel that living for the future Is way more fulfilling. Example: Go to college, get a gym membership, start learning skills that you would like to have in 10 years. I think one thing he forgot was the love of learning. If you don't like to learn, learn to love to learn.
Best comment I read ! I know so many people that just loves to live in the present and focus too much about the present but I’m constantly focused on the future, I had others tell me I’m too obsessed over my future. I’m glad we share the same mindset! You should search up minimalistic bullet journaling, time management and breaking down your future goals will help so much. Fake it till you make it! ❤️ nothing wrong with having high standards ☺️☺️
Of course its important to make decisions that directly have a good impact on your on your future self and life but I think it can get very pressurizing and overwhelming when it's overdone to the point of feeling like you have to do everything perfectly or your future will go to shit. We have to love to live in the present too bc tomorrow isn't guaranteed and being anxious and worried about the future isn't always fruitful. So it's really having a balance of both.
I feel like its a mix of both. I wouldn't base your happiness entirely on some future goal, its also a good idea to enjoy the present and find happiness in the present, otherwise you are going to set yourself up for disappointment
Well put together comment, Good job brother
The ONLY time that matters is the present because that's the only moment we'll ever BE in. The future hasn't happened yet, but guess what? When you get to the future, that becomes the new PRESENT. Meaning the present moment is all we really do have.
Very admirable that you’re willing to share this wisdom with complete strangers. In a world where it’s so easy to be selfish and keep this knowledge from the world, you have been a breathe of fresh air.
As a person who grew up with an alcoholic father I especially commend you for speaking out about drugs and alcohol, most people your age are still trying to romanticize addiction.
Addiction is beautiful when u do some research because then it turns into bug 🐛
One thing that it took pretty much all of my 20's is that life really isn't a contest. You read all these stories of people younger than you making all these achievements and then feeling like you're a failure because you haven't achieved as much.
I dropped out of college when I was 21, and saw all my friends graduate, and felt like a failure. When I turned 30 I finally finished school, and I was happy, and made me realize that my degree is the same as theirs, who cares when I got it?
I'm in the exact same boat right now as the second part of your comment and this made me feel a little bit better😭 I also struggle so bad with comparing myself to young super successful celebrities and it makes me feel like shit :/
@@cheesewine24 It's an easy trap to fall into.
One thing that helped me a lot was realizing that it's perfectly ok to do things that make *me* happy. Not impressing other people, not trying to show how cool or smart I am to the rest of the world, just doing something because I think it's cool. That's why I finished my degree, and it got 10x easier when I accepted that.
"If you focus on what you lack, you lose what you have"
"If you focus on what you have, you gain what you lack"
I would repeat this everyday
I’m 26, have a decent paying job, even got a fiancé and 2 kids. But damn do I still feel like a lost little boy in this world. I actually hate my job but I still go to work every day. I struggle with issues like anxiety and I have no friends so I’m always a bit depressed. Aside from being a father, I have no idea how to get the rest of my life going. I don’t know how to love my hobbies and sometimes I don’t even how if I have proper hobbies. I feel alone so often it’s not funny. I often wonder if my life will actually get to a point where I’m happy with it. I love my kids and fiancé but I feel like I’m missing 85% of the rest of what I should have in life.
Hope that you will find your way
I can relate with you so much. Thank you for writing that. I‘m sure it will get better and you will find a fulfilling place in life after all.
I´ll tell you about my life. I´m 26 years old too. I have no kids or wife. Never had I a girlfriend. I have many friends and I do party a lot. I look quite good and I´m loved by the people around me.
Still...I wish to have a relationship and having sex regulary and just hug someone when I come home from work and not being alone.
My job is okayish but I seek for a better payed and more chilled one.
What I want to say is that you should be grateful about what you have and change what you don´t like. Your age, kids, wife or whatever aren´t what holds you back. It´s only yourself.
You got it man :)
hope you can be happy one day man. i guess the job matters a lot. i'm 17 rn and kinda have to chose what will i do one day, and have no idea. don't have any hobbies that i'd be that good at... and i can't imagine actually going through with it without actually bring interested in it at leat a bit. may i ask what job you have?
Focus on what you have and address your hidden traumas you will feel better in 2-3 years. What would tomorrow you want?
Never stop dreaming. Be hungry and never stop believing in your dreams. If someone can do it, you can do it. Be strong
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8:59 that broke my heart, I’m so sorry🙏 thank you for growing up to a fine young man, I wish you but nothing the best in life.
Inspiring video that provided me comfort, thank you.
27 years old my 20s was a shitty decade. But in the end, I had everything but appreciation. I was depressed and I had anxiety disorder. Your video gave me the chills. Thank you
It's important period of self discovery, when you are somewhat left to your own devices and have to do some things on your own. Parents can be helpful, but every generation has it's own challenges to deal with. It's more than just binge drinking in college dormitory or hired flat with roommates.
At 47 here’s my experience. I’m back to where I was at 20, lessons I forgot and I am remembering. (Doh!) I’m on this planet to enjoy my time here, and the people I get to share it with, and to learn about who I am as a person, and share those qualities with those I choose to share them with. That’s it. With those goals the stress of succeeding and being some unrealistic superhero fades away. There is no invisible report card that I have to live up to, I don’t have to stay after school if I don’t get it right the first time. We are our own worst critics, the goal then is to quit the critique and enjoy existing. Yes that includes work and reality, and maybe not binge watching LOST instead of cleaning.(whoops) But life is not a test, it’s a choose your own adventure. Some days suck, sometimes a lot of days suck. But with the destination of enjoying life and the people you love, the good ones will outweigh the bad.
Thank you for this
this is me in my early 30s.... i am learning to build my healthy connection. appreciation for people who are there for me. making simple things worthwhile and meaningful.
Thank you
This is super legit. My 30s have been way better just even emotionally. Hang in there youngins
thanks Canada Eh
@@TheEncouragementKid improper use of "eh", go directly to jail bud.
@@AlanaBananaCanada haha sorrrrry
@@TheEncouragementKid s'okay just never do it again
@@AlanaBananaCanada hai!!!!!
As a 35 year old. I can say I’m more content with myself then I was in my 20s. Around 28 was a turning point for me. I started thinking about the future. Very true about the drugs. The drugs start sucking same with the company. I used to surround myself with some shitty people. Just remember You are getting to know yourself more and more each day. I’m still learning.
I feel like living through the pandemic has been especially tough for those in their 20s. Of course, it's been really hard for everyone, and I don't want to minimize that! But your 20s are already a confusing, uncertain time and I feel like COVID has massively compounded that. I was 25 when it started and I'm turning 28 this summer and I feel like I aged a ton in that time (and not necessarily in a good way) - it's like I blinked and my 20s were gone. So I just started a project where I do something every week that's outside of my normal day-to-day routine and I'm hoping it brings some newness and meaning back into my life!
I like the idea of doing something new everyday, getting out of your comfort zone! I'm kinda interested - what have you already done? :)
It started as I was turning 18, and now I'm turning 20 in a month and... I have done nothing, no career plan, no cool friend group in my area, none of that young adult life lived yet and I feel so fucking stunted, like.. I got fucking robbed of my intro to life as an adult, and that depresses me, hard. It's really tough and I hate being able to see that yeah, I am making progress, I have my license, I have a job, I am getting a car of my own that actually runs in a few months, even am starting a relationship with my besf friend, which I hope leads somewhere amazing, it feels like I should have done all that two years ago, like I am lagging behind, because everyone I know has *something* of themselves but I'm working minimum wage, busting my ass at a fucking vegetable packaging plant 6 days a week, seemingly getting nowhere, I mean I'm in my first week and havent gotten paid yet, so I'm still broke and stressed. But fuck, it's so fucking rediculous, I don't even have the energy to go and do things, live as a young adult. It fucking sucks.
Yes I hated the pandemic with all my heart and soul 😭😭😭😭
@@zachsilby4569 hey. I don't experienced all you said, because i'm 14. But I really want to say that I don't think you are "late in life". I don't know why all of us see the succes being a car, a relationship, a house, all these normal things that would come with time. I'm feeling depressed because I don't even have energy to go outside in the morning, I don't have the motivation to do things that I really want in my soul.
But.. I think all of us will go on the best path at a moment.
I hope you all the self-respect, self-love and self-conscious you need!
Dude right. I will be 30 in August and I feel like I literally just turned 26 or 27, I feel like it stole the 2nd half of my 20s practically. Oh wait, it did..
That's a great idea though! Thanks for sharing it
I am 21, lying in my dark bedroom in my parents house in just my pants and socks after eating 1/2 a family size tub of lemon sorbet while watching this.
And that’s okay 😂 fuck it man I’m naked aswel
I'm doing the same but instead of lemon sorbet I'm having a chicken sandwich. Being 21 is overrated man, they lied to us. 😂😂😂😂
W in my eyes tbh
Felt
That's goals man
I genuinely think everyone thinks this way. Not humble bragging at all. 20s isnt fun, there is a lot of doubt and uncertainties. It's the time when i hav to grind hard when i am still young
I think it's funny that we all think this, but somehow we expect that our 20s are 'supposed to be' about making all these awesome memories to look back on when we're older... When really it's spending almost 80% of it wrestling with depression and getting out of ruts that never seem to end.
The twenties are horrible! Don't get me wrong it can be fun and because you are young still, you can get away with some things. But I only started to feel more secure from 25/26 onwards (im 29 , turning 30 in January).
@@Kayla-kd8ov Your brain still develops, getting stronger. Gaining exp with work and understanding ropes.
I'm 21 about to be 22 and I feel like life is starting to make sense again. I remember watching your video when it was still quite new. I wanna thank you for helping me and other people in their 20s ❤
“I have no idea how that lesson just bypassed me” that is the Mantra of your 20s right there. Your late twenties are when all those things you learned from other people actually clicked. No matter how simple it was of a concept.
I think that quote is by Alan Watts and it also resonated deeply with me!
If you get the message, hang up the phone. For psychedelic drugs are simply instruments, like microscopes, telescopes, and telephones. The biologist does not sit with eye permanently glued to the microscope, he goes away and works on what he has seen.
- Alan Watts
Spot on!
Yes yes yes! Drugs (the naturally occurring ones) have positive functions. not just "non use" or "abuse" .
I heard you can take microdoses of LSD.
@@greatwavefan397 that is true, although research into this is still very much in its infancy... I would highly recommend approaching this with lots of research and above all else caution.
@@greatwavefan397 shroom microdosing is better imo
i'm 21, just graduated and honestly struggling more than i ever have in my life. i dont feel any direction in life and i've begun to really doubt and hate myself recently and i just feel so shite. this video made me feel less alone and gave me hope that things will eventually get better. thank you dude.
They definitely will... I'm also 21 and working the same season job for the 3rd year.. Started university 1 year ago but just about to chanhe the subject to something I'm actually interested in.. But even there i have my doubts... The thing is : you won't know, if you don't try AND you can always change direction. It will at all times AT LEAST be an experience you made :))
Omg me too! I graduated this spring and i have no idea what the next step is going to be and i am just so lost. I hope we both find our way :)
Oh gosh me too, I'm graduating next summer, and like there's so many requirements to live, and like life seems so demanding. It's kinda scary!
You are young and smart and beautiful! Don't allow your feelings to deceive you. And don't carry that into your late 40's. Now embrace Truth and wisdom and be your brilliant self!!
Run and cleaning
I remember watching this video a few years ago and just appreciated everything you said because I was really feeling down on myself. Now I’m 26, about to graduate college with a good degree and possibly have a job lined up. Life is looking good man.
I don’t feel like I’m behind in my life anymore, I feel like I’m exactly where I should be.
"Should I call my mom or my dealer?" - as a person who'll rather smoke weed than facing my emotions.. damn it's so relateable to me hahaha thanks for the video
"porque no los dos?" *uncalled for Mexican music*
Totally- eye opening sentence!
1. You 20’s won’t be the time of your life
2. Work on what future you want
3. Assume everyone’s got sh*t
4. At some point drugs stop being fun
5. Don’t stress if you don’t crush it in this decade
6. Hard choices easy life, easy choices hard life
7. Wherever you go there you area
for men, that's pretty accurate
@@adirbarak5256 this legit applies to everyone? Where does the men part even come in?
@@Fahad0947 it's not black and white. But women in their 20's are in their prime (socially) and their 20's is mostly when they "have the time of their lives". Women who get to 30 unaccomplished, single, and childless often experience immense stress, as they should.
@@adirbarak5256 *as they should*. Yuck
@@rhysm9595 as they should yes, we are animals, their biological instincts urge to them to procreate - "their biological clock is ticking". It is really that simple, it's a shame society today make women believe it's not ok to listen to their bodies and instead they should ignore it and listen to "brave strong independent women" on Instagram or the media
I’m 21 and sooo utterly lost, feeling as if I’m thrashing around with no direction whatsoever. My mom passed when I was in high school and since then life went dark, barely graduated high school , was supposed to take a gap year that has now turned into 3-4 in the food service industry due to my depression, anxiety, and just overall confusion on what to do with my life. Your video has helped me out and made me feel a bit better about my future and my capabilities. Thank you.
I’m 20 and reading through these comments, seeing how people at all ages feel the same way is comforting. We’re all young. Struggling to concept the unrealistic reality of time slipping from our fingers. Worried to not make the most of our limited time, this video and comments show you that there is no ‘making the most of your time’. It’s a personal ideology. A goal to strive to be the best for your own and the betterment of all.
I was looking for a comment where someone said something along the lines of “reply to this and I’ll help you” idk how I can help anyone. But I know for sure we can’t make the most of our lives without trying together. Currently I think I want to start getting into business,training,designing… anything I just want to do it. Feel free to reply if you want to build something great.
Like what?
Here! Interested!!
Actually same thing was going on my mind for the past few weeks 😐.... I, too wanna build something
@@tanayamoholkar5173 I'm 19, what do y'all want to do?
Every one else is shitty around me that's what you want to think right
I just turned 26 and honestly I’m so glad I watched this video, made me feel not alone in this struggle of being confused in your 20s. Got a lot to discover about myself and a lot to work on. Thanks for the advice and the inspiration.
i'm the same age and i feel the same man so much stuff i need to figure out and improve on, it feels overwhelming at times
26 here as well. glad to know im not the only 26 year old who is still figuring this out. idk how my brain says I am the last one, but thanks for posting zach and aamir. wish you guys the best
@@connorcothran1556 likewise connor i'm wishing you and zach the best, we will figure this thing out for sure
I turn 25 in 4 days and honestly I haven’t met the love of my life or even dated due to my anxiety, I haven’t seen the world, I haven’t got a career perfectly carved out, I haven’t even got my own place and I rarely see my only friend now as she’s a busy mum these days (so I completely appreciate that and I’m happy she found her own little family). Also the day after my 21st birthday, my mum told me about her cancer diagnosis; she recovered but unfortunately we found out last year that it has returned and spread, it is now incurable and whilst I’ve said it here, it isn’t something I feel ok telling people about in person. I remember feeling so hurt when people would say ‘21 is a great age’ because for me it was just pain and fear. Thank you for this video and for reminding me it’s ok to not have it all figured out, even if it seems like everyone else does. I never really look forward to birthdays, I genuinely debated spending this upcoming birthday alone in a tent just for the solitude and peace but idk. 😂 Sorry for the long comment but sending my love to all my fellow lost twenty-somethings. 💖
Stay strong helen, i hope your mother pulls through it 🙏🏻, and its ok if you haven't found the love, remember we all have different paces and cant compare with others and whatever happens to you in the future its gonna be good and suits you, keep the grind and most importantly enjoy the moment! No matter how bad the present it, we cant always postpone the happiness to the future, and happy late birthday :)
You are a strong beautiful girl, don’t worry about it you will figure out everything, the anxiety will go away and you will get over the sad days, just don’t waste your young age, go out there and see what you love, do it and keep it up so you can have the purpose you want in life, haven’t dated before? Well that guy who dates you will definitely be lucky to have a beauty like you in their life :)
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story helen, i pray that you and your family do well
Yeah me too, I thought like that when I was 17 years old, I remember I said something like: "My twenties are going to be more free and fun". But unfortunately, when I just became 20 years old, my father passed away. The way I received my father's death news - I swear to god - was soo fucking surreal. I was sleeping and two of my sisters came to my bed, my elder sister was screaming at my face shockingly, and the younger sister was calming me down. I was sleeping and dreaming but .. all of a sudden, I woke up traumatized and totally confused about my father's death news. confusion and shocking phase.. I didn't think for 20 minutes, the thinking process phase took too much time, I want to process in my mind that my father has died. It took me almost one hour to realize that really my father died, I saw my sibling brothers and sisters grieving and crying then I realized that this shit is real.
I still think of that moment as if it was surreal dream, maybe because I woke up in a trauma moment (I really do believe that moment was a dream .. and am still thinking my father is still alive).
Now, I'm 23 years old and just graduated recently from college two months ago. This age is a very critical phase of my life that I have to build myself up and find a way of life that fits me there.
I hope the best for all of you from all around the world. Be well and safe 🤍🤗
*Blessings and All the Best 🙏*
Thank you. I’m gonna turn twenty in a few months and I’m absolutely terrified. Life has been pretty scary the last few years, and I just don’t have any idea what to do going forward. This at least gave me a solid starting point.
Its never too late to start from somewhere , I am lucky to have found this source, it’s the future
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