Just show up and be yourself, and all will be well, hold on, what if your personality is off beat enough that everyone will just see ‘weird’ if you don’t blend in and be a bit fake. Some of us are different, we like to do and think in a different way and as a result spend most of our time alone, which can be tricky especially when you need support
As someone who was molested at 5 years old, my ability to learn how to be sociable and trust people was severely affected. I had horrible rejection and abandonment issues because of it, and my ability to make genuine connections was off. It took a lot of work to pick up the fragments of my soul to become whole and to be my authentic self. Now, at this point in my life, forming genuine, meaningful relationships is easier. It took time, therapy, expressing myself in my own way (through art, poetry, etc.), trauma work, and now mindset work for me to feel connected to myself and others. If you’ve gone through something similar, there is hope at the end of the tunnel of sadness and perpetual loneliness.
Thankyou Kyle for this Vlog on Loneliness. As mentioned by Harriet Seager about the Anidote to cut down the Loneliness is connecting with people, I completely agree 👍, however I am very comfortable connecting with people online. Now when I say Online connecting with people online who authentic, approved and who are not secretive. My favourite Online Connections by are 1. Listening 🎧 to the Professionals from Medcircle whenever I feel lonely 2. Listening 🎧 to people who have official TH-cam channels on how to deal, tackle Loneliness or other Mental Disorders, they share their worst experience of Mental Health which helps me to compare my Experience. Eventually after listening to their experience, I get a feel that I am not the only one on this Globe who is affected by Mental Disorder. 3. All these people share some tips and ways to work, think better when I feel that my day isn't moving a head or when I become extremely Slow in my daily activities which are important to live a better life, may be it's self hygiene or cleaning the House/Room/Kitchen/ or doing the Laundry work or maybe it's simple task like buying some grocery or going for a Walk. 4. Listening to 🎧 Good Music 🎵🎶 5. Lastly watching some Food channels by good Chefs, by those who are excellent, sucessful in Food Industry who teach how to prepare some nice cuisine 🍱🥗🍛🍜
I feel like there could have been a good question to add, where can you meet others to even initiate starting friendships? I know a simple answer for 21+ year olds is the bar but not everyone wants to go out drinking and/or partying.
Partying just puts off & intensifies problems while in the short term seems the answer. There is the addiction can of worms it opens too. So yea, booze & drugs are no solution.
16-24 are more lonely than any other group is incredible to believe..but, it makes sense since they are still trying to figure out who they are-- I believe in the over 65 year age group as well...I think that is why there are so many 55+ communities to keep people interacting. Great interview!
AGE UK charity in the UK run a scheme where members of the public can volunteer as a penpal to lonely or isolated older people. I've been a penpal for the last year and it's so rewarding for me as well. Worth checking out, you don't have to be UK based either 😁
What I don't like about this 'pen pal' stuff is that it will mainly be women volunteering time to talk to lonely males. You cannot escape the gender dynamic here. I wouldn't suggest doing gendered work for free. If this is a role that is overwhelming done by women, be sure to command a price. Women need to stop giving our labor away for free.
@@NovaPrincess In my case i speak to a woman and the previous pen pal was also a woman. These are women known to the charity. Regardless of gender I'm happy to speak and improve the life via companionship to male or females. Also, it's a volunteer role, I am not ever going to expect payment for that. If I wanted paid I wouldn't have enrolled interest in a volunteer position.
@@danyjackful I really can't speak higher of how it's ran and the communication I get from the charity. If you are local to the charity there are also loads of events ran for the volunteers.
In Japan a high number of elderly are found dead in apartments after being dead for weeks even many months. It'd was on 60 minutes. One guy a yr. They live lonely lives. I disagree with the age. Nursing home people are only the elderly are very link in nursing homes.
Just show up and be yourself, and all will be well, hold on, what if your personality is off beat enough that everyone will just see ‘weird’ if you don’t blend in and be a bit fake. Some of us are different, we like to do and think in a different way and as a result spend most of our time alone, which can be tricky especially when you need support
Seeking the support you need.
Doesnt just mean, friendship.
Doing what, is tolerant for you, not what everyone else, may do.
As someone who was molested at 5 years old, my ability to learn how to be sociable and trust people was severely affected. I had horrible rejection and abandonment issues because of it, and my ability to make genuine connections was off. It took a lot of work to pick up the fragments of my soul to become whole and to be my authentic self. Now, at this point in my life, forming genuine, meaningful relationships is easier. It took time, therapy, expressing myself in my own way (through art, poetry, etc.), trauma work, and now mindset work for me to feel connected to myself and others. If you’ve gone through something similar, there is hope at the end of the tunnel of sadness and perpetual loneliness.
Thankyou Kyle for this Vlog on Loneliness. As mentioned by Harriet Seager about the Anidote to cut down the Loneliness is connecting with people, I completely agree 👍, however I am very comfortable connecting with people online. Now when I say Online connecting with people online who authentic, approved and who are not secretive. My favourite Online Connections by are
1. Listening 🎧 to the Professionals from Medcircle whenever I feel lonely
2. Listening 🎧 to people who have official TH-cam channels on how to deal, tackle Loneliness or other Mental Disorders, they share their worst experience of Mental Health which helps me to compare my Experience. Eventually after listening to their experience, I get a feel that I am not the only one on this Globe who is affected by Mental Disorder.
3. All these people share some tips and ways to work, think better when I feel that my day isn't moving a head or when I become extremely Slow in my daily activities which are important to live a better life, may be it's self hygiene or cleaning the House/Room/Kitchen/ or doing the Laundry work or maybe it's simple task like buying some grocery or going for a Walk.
4. Listening to 🎧 Good Music 🎵🎶
5. Lastly watching some Food channels by good Chefs, by those who are excellent, sucessful in Food Industry who teach how to prepare some nice cuisine 🍱🥗🍛🍜
Another excellent discussion that’s right on time for so many people, including me. Thank you! 🙏
I feel like there could have been a good question to add, where can you meet others to even initiate starting friendships? I know a simple answer for 21+ year olds is the bar but not everyone wants to go out drinking and/or partying.
Partying just puts off & intensifies problems while in the short term seems the answer. There is the addiction can of worms it opens too. So yea, booze & drugs are no solution.
16-24 are more lonely than any other group is incredible to believe..but, it makes sense since they are still trying to figure out who they are-- I believe in the over 65 year age group as well...I think that is why there are so many 55+ communities to keep people interacting. Great interview!
I'm a sociopath. I'm always feeling lonely.
I am always authentic but so many people today just don't care about others, strangers.
AGE UK charity in the UK run a scheme where members of the public can volunteer as a penpal to lonely or isolated older people. I've been a penpal for the last year and it's so rewarding for me as well. Worth checking out, you don't have to be UK based either 😁
That's such a great idea! Thanks for sharing :-)
What I don't like about this 'pen pal' stuff is that it will mainly be women volunteering time to talk to lonely males. You cannot escape the gender dynamic here. I wouldn't suggest doing gendered work for free. If this is a role that is overwhelming done by women, be sure to command a price. Women need to stop giving our labor away for free.
@@NovaPrincess In my case i speak to a woman and the previous pen pal was also a woman. These are women known to the charity. Regardless of gender I'm happy to speak and improve the life via companionship to male or females.
Also, it's a volunteer role, I am not ever going to expect payment for that. If I wanted paid I wouldn't have enrolled interest in a volunteer position.
@@danyjackful I really can't speak higher of how it's ran and the communication I get from the charity. If you are local to the charity there are also loads of events ran for the volunteers.
How can I be myself when I do not know what does that mean?
Thanks
Where is Jackie Colbeth? I haven’t heard from her in a while here and I really liked her appearances.
The only time I ever felt truly lonely was when I was married
Did you also marry an engineer?
In Japan a high number of elderly are found dead in apartments after being dead for weeks even many months. It'd was on 60 minutes. One guy a yr. They live lonely lives. I disagree with the age. Nursing home people are only the elderly are very link in nursing homes.
Did some videos got deleted?
I can’t find old videos. What happened?
I’m myself which is likely why I’m lonely ha. No cure.
9:50 what's the name of the doctor please ? Couldn't hear it 😢
Dr. Sue Varma
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alcohol & weed
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"everyone you meet, you have to be yourself" - but what if "myself" is mutable? hahaha..