What to Do When You Can't See The End of The Tunnel?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 ธ.ค. 2019
- In this video, author and mental health educator Douglas Bloch uses the metaphor of not seeing the light at the end of the tunnel to describe the feeling of being stuck in the middle of a bad depression. He then offers strategies that sufferers can use to hold on until they get to the end of the tunnel and the light once again appears.
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It is hard to keep going sometimes. But it is harder to give up. Thank you for your words of hope. I hope that one day I will look back and say I made it.
I believe that you will. I have other videos that provide this kind of encouragement. One of them is called "a reason for hope during hard times."
I lost my job earlier this year, at my age, very difficult to get back into the world of work. No friends, no family left. 2 years ago, bipolar mother committed what was akin to a suicide. Going through a difficult time. Alone, need to speak to myself during the day to prove I still exist. Pathetic. See few reasons in continuing. Watching videos on Jesus to give me hope and I'm not even religious!
Truthseeker1515 volunteer. Lots of people/ pets will be happy you’re there to talk to them.
You aren’t pathetic, please don’t think of yourself that way
Where abouts do you live? Are there any places for walks nearby? Gentle exercise & the opportunity for social interactions?
I hope you can attend one of our live chats on Sunday at noon Pacific time
I’m sorry. Remember you have plenty of time to be dead. Life is short. I know sometimes life seems to long. Feel better soon. Go for a walk. Smile at someone. That is your assignment for the day. Take care!🦋
I can't see the end of the tunnel. Life is an ongoing hell due to being bullied by people I can't get away from. Heartbroken and depressed. But not actively suicidal. Just ideation. Trapped. Broken. Now I'll listen to your video and I will see if it can give me hope xxxx 🧡🌱
You understand exactly where I'm at. Thank you for trying to impart hope to me. I feel I need a miracle as relying on my own strength to pull through just feels too impossible. I must try though xxxx thank you Douglas 🧡🌿
Lots of love and support.💖
Gem jem ♡
I am sorry to hear about your struggles. What type of support do you have. Are you seeing any mental health professionals?
Hope . Peace . Love . Respect .
All good wishes for you.
People become sick because of other people's cruel, hateful behavior
No quick-fix for persons that has been and are bullied.
I have been there myself.
It hurts when you are in that situation. It took me years to recover.
I know it is crap people that deep inside are insecure about themselves, that's why they like to put others down.
But it is good people out there that actually want you the best. Someone that dont want anything in return. Just a friendly person that want to help others. They may be a pastor, family member or a professional in the health system. (I know that it's not you, but the scumba.. that should have been there!)
My way to a better life was to talk with a psychologist.
Believe me, it helps to talk with someone that deserve your trust.
And things can change faster than you understand in the darkest moment.
All the best for the future. With the right persons around you, the world are beautiful.
Excellent, as always. I've been traveling in a tunnel for a long while. I'm just making the corner to daylight! Thank you, Douglas, for the encouragement you give. It DOES make a difference. Hang in there, fellow viewers! There is hope for each of us!
Thanks for your testimony
Everything about your videos is so soothing, right from the background music to your voice...and your talk is very direct and practical, that's what I find useful... thanks Douglas.
Great that you give resources for people alone.
Get the book "Feeling Good" by Dr. David Burns.
Brian, haven't see you on live chat for a while
@@DouglasBloch I've been working Sunday afternoons. I hope you have a great holiday season.
Wishing you a Merry Christmas & a Happy 😃 New Year. I feel like I’m going through a bottomless well deeper & deeper & no end in sight. Haven’t given up fighting.
It’s interesting. Have to think about this !
Thank you so much, Douglas.
I stucked in the middle of that tunnel, struggling with depression and alcoholism, with no light around me.
There is light around you, you just aren't seeing it at the moment.
Hope your getting there.
me to
Life happens very very fast be diligent about your dreams
Merry Christmas to you, Douglas. Thank you for your videos and chats. They are so helpful. And yes Silent Unity is wonderful.
You seem like such a lovely soul! Thanks for all your help & all the very best for the new year xxx
Great new video Doug! Good analogies, and resources that you’ve helped me find, keep moving and the light will find us. This too shall pass.
The live chats are great to be apart of, there are many people on them who have been through difficult times and can give help and advice
Hi Douglas,
This is a great video, with a ton of help in a short period of time. Thank you for giving this lifeline to those of us who really need it. You have helped me so much over the last year. I quote you to my therapist regularly!
Shirley in Florida
Thank you so much for all of your videos, information, and uplifting words! I am struggling with depressive episodes since a burnout one year ago and have been tuning in to your videos in bad times. Many blessings your way and Merry Christmas!
Thanks for your kind words
Thank you Douglas!!
Thank you for helping me, I keep moving through!
Douglas,I generally don't tend to comment on TH-cam videos but I want to tell you that you are a real hero to me,I have been through much less than you and can't imagine how it is to be able to survive all these depressions and anxious days.I hope that everyone is patient enough as you were.
Thanks for your comments. Keep persevering and he will make it through to the light of day
Silent Unity...How wonderful!!!! ❤ it!!
Thank you . Very helpful .
Thank you Douglas !
Thank you so much. God bless Sir Doug. I bought a book a month ago and now today I received the book entitled Healing From Depression fresh from states. Hehe. Actually Im from Philippines and I always watched your videos and it helped me to overcome my depression and anxiety how much more if I read your book. Im so excited to read it.
Wow you are such an inspirational man to listen to! I am so glad I found your channel. Your voice is so calming as well. Keep on with the great work!
Thanks for the feedback. Each Sunday at 12 noon Pacific time I do a live chat where my TH-cam audience comes on and ask me questions and also support each other. It’s like a virtual support group. Just show up on the homepage of my channel at noon Pacific time and click on the link that you see
Thanks Douglas
Thank you for making me understand my depression and teaching me about the core. I am so thankful I found your channel at such a dark time.
Thank you. Keep persevering. Eventually things will get lighter
Thank you sir.
Thank you so much Douglas..very helpful strategies!!🙏🙏❤️ Wishing the best for you!❤️
Same to you. I hope you have a safe holiday
THANK YOU Douglas your words reach out to me and help
I think you're the most practical person out there when it comes to dealing with our issue.
Thank you
Watching u preach this is like a memory of a rain 🌧️☔ raining down in my 🏠 n see the massaging presence
Great calming words as ever! When going through hell, don't stop' 🙏 I am from England, I hope to join a live chat session sometime 😊
Thank you kindly for all your good work on the topic of depression. I live in Poland where a large part of mental health related topics is still a taboo and changing how I see this stuff was a huge help in itself. I'm fortunate enough to be able to afford therapy and have access to so many great resourcess, but this is still a big issue here. True self acceptance was the thing that helped me immensly on my journey (and still does). And light therapy, among other things.
Thanks for your feedback. I’m glad you’re found some good coping strategies. There’s a whole diagram that you can download on my personal website. douglasbloch.com
Got ur e book.its simply remarkable. Life changing. Great.Thanks Douglas
Which book?
@@DouglasBloch when going through hell. Don't stop
I've struggled with depression all my life but been able to function. For the last few months, however, after leaving an emotionally unhealthy relationship I've been really struggling with a deep depression that has left me barely functional and made it incredibly difficult to see a future for myself. I started therapy 2 months ago and just had a doctor's appointment this morning to talk about medication and will be starting Wellbutrin this weekend. I came to work after my appointment feeling incredibly defeated because I had made a huge mistake at work and procrastinated on a project to the point where I had to admit to my boss that I had just completely fucked up. Your video on forgiving yourself for mistakes from 2016 was really helpful, and this one is great as well. Really glad I discovered your channel, thank you for what you do.
Keep persevering. Wellbutrin is a medication that has helped people I know.
When I have my anxiety-panic phases, one of the very few things that bring me hope and solace is your videos. Thank you so much for your work, it really makes a difference. All the best for you and merry christmas beforehand!
You are welcome. I'm very glad that my videos are helpful
Thank you Dr Douglas ,this is such a beautiful video. I would also like to add ,that as an Individual I do pray for everyone for prayers are very powerful,and as a Life Coach and a CBT Practitioner I also hold free phone sessions to anyone across the globe who may simply want to speak up ,I do this as a way to give back to my profession , myself have suffered a lot due to anxiety which I inherited from my father. The best way sometimes is to give back generously,one of the finest ways to heal.
Yes I agree. In Alcoholics Anonymous they say you have to give it away in order to keep it
I agree with you. In alcoholics anonymous they say, you have to give it away in order to keep it
Thank you sir. I get anxious most of the times and this video gave me some hope that things can get better.
You are an ispiration thank you so much I could see no light but found you and saw a spark ,that is a start, and thats all I need right now that spark will turn to a flame thanks to you .God bless and keep you and yours all well safe and happy . Peace and love from noeleen in my ireland where the grass is greener than green. Still
I live in Oregon where the grass is also green. If you’d like some free support, you can tune into the homepage of my TH-cam channel at 12 o’clock Pacific time, 8 PM Greenwich time every Sunday. I do a live chat and there are many people from the UK participating and Ireland.
Just to let you know I got your book if your going through hell dont stop ,on amazon uk no prob as you said its out of print .I also got healing from depression .both books arrive on tuesday this. week please God. There is also a fantastic man called Herman La roue on you tube he has bipolar and he is just a wonderfull inispiration to everyone gives great tips for copeiing with lifes dark days thank you for all info. Peace and Love from noeleen in my ireland where the grass is greener than green. Still
HERMAN LE ROUX
Thanks ❤
Douglas I love you!
Thank you. You just reminded me to send this video to somebody
Great story about the bike ride. Sometime the light is just a tiny pin hole size, so so far away and getting further. Following your practical advice in your book Healing From Depression, can make the light spot a little larger, brighter and nearer. Eventually it can get closer, one can emerge out the dark dark tunnel of no end. Peace, acceptance, belief in the spiritual nature of mere existence reminds one that feeling at one with one's existence on this earth plane is possible, is allowed, is the key to healing a troubled, pained, depressed, hopeless mind ⛅🌤️☀️
I'm glad you are enjoying the book
You helped me get they the winter.
I'm glad the videos were helpful
I see no light and all the thoughts in my head beat me up daily but I’m holding on the best I can hoping I find peace
Here is a video I made that can help you to hold on. It is called, "Your pain is. not forever."
th-cam.com/video/DNIM_W0c83c/w-d-xo.html
@@DouglasBloch thanks this will definitely help
I have another video about the same service called four words that can save your life
I am severely depressed haven't been in 8 years...I don't see the way out
💚 been there often, in a dark, difficult tunnel X
I have so much stress and anxiety that i started losing my hair. Every morning i wake up sad, anxious etc. It sucks so bad that i feel like not living anymore..
I’m sorry to hear that you were struggling. Have you reached out to a mental health professional?
@@DouglasBloch i have not. I just dont know what to do anymore. I lost some hair and my delmathologist told me that i can be because stress.. i am always having a burning feeling inside.. it sucks to wake up sad with no reason to be..
Possible you can do one on one ? Would love to just vent to you and get some input back from you . Your videos help me so much I’m so glad to have stumbled across them all
Unfortunately, I I'm no longer doing one on one. However, if you come to my livestream which occurs every Sunday at noon Pacific time, you can vent. There, are a lot of very nice people will be supportive.
Hiya douglas hope your well. I use the silent unity app oftern. I've also found they have a website & a TH-cam Chanel, I'm subcribed to them. I haven't been able to make a live chat of yours for a while. Wish you & all your subscribers all the very best it 2020 💫🍀
Same to you. Thanks for letting me know about the TH-cam channel. Would you be interested in looking over the first 11 chapters of a book on suicide prevention that I am writing
Douglas Bloch Thank you & your welcome about the silent unity TH-cam channel. I cant concentrate enough to read at the moment & I've got a lot going on
Hello sir i might have a riddle, what ask no questions but receive alot of answers, a doorbell, also thank you for the verses and support.
Thanks for the riddle
@@DouglasBloch you are welcome sir !
Never depression kicked me so hard like last three days. I need someone to be there for me.
Hang in there. What goes down must come up
@@DouglasBloch Thank you for your kind words. I feel slightly better.
I hope you are doing ok please hang in there
Whenever I go through a rough patch (nearly every day) I say this will pass and light comes eventually. Very hard process though
God bless and give you strenght remember this. GOD DOES NOT SAVE YOU FROM DROWNING IN ORDER TO KICK THE CRAP OUT OF YOU ON THE BEACH. THIS TOO SHALL PASS,WINTER ALWAYS TURNS TO SPRING . peace and love from noeleen in my ireland where the grass is greener than green..........still
Thank you Bryan Caroline
Yes well that's nice. Just wait for things to get better. What if there is no tunnel or light? What then? What if one's problems are permanent?
I don't think you , Douglas ,have EVER faced really really really really tough times.I am talking about almost 10 years of extreme hell and suicidal feelings from awful circumstances.
It's hard to compare people sufferings. Victor Frankl said that suffering is like a ga. It fills whatever room it is in. I have been suicidal four times, been hospitalized five times, and I had my roommate and therapist commit suicide. As a result, I feel great compassion for what you are going through. Also, I just released a video called "notice moments of grace." It talks about how even in hell they are moments when the light comes through and you get a very short respite from the suffering. You might want to watch it. It is helped me
@@DouglasBloch There is no benevolent higher power. That is a delusion.
HI there is a great person on youtube his name is Herman le Roux he is from south africa he has had a life of hurt but my God he is amazing and just want you all to know about him as he too may help someone out there, thank you for the info you sent me ,looking foreward to my books now ,thank you for explaining so well,I hope God gives you along long life full of his peace. and love as you deserve it .respect from noeleen in my ireland where the grass is greener than green. Still
Thanks for the referral. What book were you going to be receiving?
Healing from depression and when your going through hell dont stop . I cant wait to start them but you mentioned other books too I may order them next week .ThNk you for your reply .peace and love to you and yours from noeleen in my ireland where the grass is greener than green. Still
My books came today ,one is second-hand the wheh your going through hell dont stop. one but thats ok the one healing from depression is brand new and im going to start reading them later, and I actually have the painting on front of when going through hell book but never knew it was named the scream, theres a fountain of knowledge and inspiration in both books and I just wonder if you have any advice about coffee and its reactionwith meds? Thank you for all this great stuff ,the books can only bring positive things and I recommend them. Peace and love from noeleen in my ireland where the grass is greener than green. Still
I have been depressed for so long. And yet, I know there is an answer. Something going on, somethings always been going on!
Hi, Douglas. Your videos are really helpful. I have a question.
I went through a major depression in the last couple years where I was forcefully hospitalized. I was diagnosed with MDD and PTSD and I'm really just coming out of it and managing it responsibly now.
The thing is I'm in that scary part of recovery where is everything is great but I'm freaking out about what I should do now and everytime I feel I have a symptom it's like I almost actively combat it with being busy or getting lost in tv. I'm almost afraid of having feelings because it took so long to crawl out of that pit.
I guess that really wasn't a question but it was good to vent. I'm alone and I get overwhelmed working on myself.
I'm glad you were feeling better. I think having a counselor or therapist to see you on a regular basis will be of great help for you to maintain your recovery. Also, are there any outpatient programs in your area?
I don't have any support system and don't believe in prayer. So what do I do then?
I lost 4 people of my family and lost one of my closest friends as well so all of this has made me so depressed that I cried for days and it hurts like crazy what do I do
Thank you Mr Bloch, this was helpful. BTW whose the author of the book- Astrology on your shelf.
I am the author. I wrote the book 40 years ago and it is still popular.
I'm still battling clinical depression for 6 months. I'm very hopeless. I've suffered Akathisia and still having trouble being able too take antidepressants. Do you know anything that may help with my healing.
Paula, I'm sorry that you are struggling. Here is a video that gives an overview of my mental health recovery program.
th-cam.com/video/b8FfcdHGQVk/w-d-xo.html
And here is a video on the importance of Setting The Intention to Heal.
th-cam.com/video/1ZHCd_przLc/w-d-xo.html
You can learn about these healing tools in greater detail if you get my book: Healing From Depression: A Body, Mind and Spirit Recovery Program.
In your professional opinion, for adults who spent their infancy and/or early childhood being sensitized to trauma/stress, is there much hope apart from medication to treat constant and severe hyper-arousal?
It sounds like you were experiencing something called complex PTSD. I cannot diagnose over the unit but I suggest you see a good psychologist or therapist and get some support. There are also good books about it. I think Peter Levine wrote a book book called waking the tiger
Doug,can you do a vid on how people can resist the mass media...and how one can NOT be scared of certain countries(North Korea,China,etc.) Because,the truth is:I'm more scared of North Korea than I am of the grim reaper..and I am SCARED of Koreans too! :( And I can't figure out where this all even began.
I'm stuck.
Mobius Zero, Try reading, playing music and watching motivational videos🤗
I thought you were doing counseling and were on medication?
@@DouglasBloch I am,but I guess my fear and hatred of North Korea arent gonna go away soon..perhaps the only ways it'll go away..is if I die because of them...Or I join the military and kill a few of them myself.
This is gonna stick with me for awhile,I'm afraid.
My aunt and uncle r a field of hope relatives who r helpful can help
I love the jokes.
Is it available in Indian as well
I don't think so
I tried to call the Unity from France and I can t reach them. What can I do?
Do you have long distance service? If so, you should be able to call 1-816-969-2000. You can reach that number from anywhere in the world. Also, you can go to their website and put in a prayer there. Or if you have a smart phone you can download their app. It is called uPray.
@@DouglasBloch thank you. I ve done it.
My cat Ellie says hi.
As long as its not a train coming at you .
If only when can see the final end of the tunnel for our despairs we finally can venture freely into the world
I'm in the pit...again
I literally have lost hope and the will to live! It all started with kidney stones. I had a ureteroscopy to remove a kidney stone and was left with none bacterial prostatitis chronic pelvic pain syndrome. Then 4 weeks later I got two kidney stones coming down at the same time in left and right kidneys. The urologist said he had never seen this before and I must be the most unluckest man in the world. The left one I past in agony but the right one was 1 cm and blocked my ureter. I had to have lithotripsy twice but it didn't work so they had to go up with a laser. After all this I have another ct scan that reveals I still have 7 kidney stones 3 in left kidney and 4 in right kidney. Then after all this my girlfriend of eight years decides she's leaving me and taking my five year old daughter with her. So now I'm left on my own with prostatitis suffering severe depression wanting to kill myself every day! Even bought a rope I'm that bad. I see no future. Everything looks grey like u can't see colour. Lost all interest in everything I loved to do! Wake up sobbing not wanting to get out of bed. I see no point in life don't even care what I look like anymore.
I’m really sorry you are having to go through this. Is there anyway you can get to see your daughter? It seems like he would have the right to. The most important thing I can advise you to do is to find a good man and a therapist to consult with. In Oregon we do have people at low cost clinics that see people on a sliding scale
Also I don’t know what your attitude towards prayers, but there is a wonderful 24 hour free prayer line that is very powerful. The name is Silent Unity and the number is 800-669-7729 or 1-816-969-2000. You might want to give them a call
I'm not sure I understand what someone else's hope is supposed to do for me.
It subtly influences your subconscious mind so that you can start to incorporate their hope for yourself.
🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈 Douglas, I called the Unity Prayer line. The woman (had a new york accent) who I spoke with seemed scripted, insincere, abrupt and rude. I was very disappointed. 😔
I'm sorry to hear that. That must be an exception because all the people I've talk to you have been very nice and helpful
...only with prayer, and love for Jesus Christ...❤️🌹🍀...
The problem with this video is that the reason ms r different and hence they answers r different
It’s Jesus he will help
I am so disappointed to see religion and references to the bible being used when neither has any relevance for the majority of people that want to get better
Some people find that spiritual references help them
Thanks Douglas