When he said your depression is a result of you giving yourself messages that are cruel and untrue. That really hit me, I shed a tear, probably one of the most liberating sentences I have ever heard in my life. wow!
When you are having a panic attack in public, look into the eyes of strangers and seek to see the fear, sadness, loneliness and regret that hides within. It's the quickest way I found to realize how close we all are, and that sense of closeness can eliminate your own anxiety with the immediacy of a lightning strike, replacing it with empathy.
This dude helped create CBT which saved my life. Id love to donate to him whatever I can. He saved many lives maybe over a million as SAD has a very high self deletion rate.
I am 57 years old. I lived with extreme anxiety and depression. All my life. At this point in my life I have for the past 5 years learned on my own after learning about cognitive therapy and when I seen this episode with your research and new techniques I had a complete reassurance that I am more healthier now and can honestly see that you are 100%correct with all you said ...The way you battled through in scientifically proved what we as humans do that can unwittingly create a sick mental state to the point of giving suicidal thoughts and losing all joy in life. You have given the world a wondrous gift. Thank you, may you feel joy and satisfaction from your work.
@@wasimullahkhattak383 means the veggies which are good for reducing chemicals in the body which cause depression and boost the supply of good mood chemicals.
I know this guy. His book saved my life about 20 years ago. I still use skills I learned in his book. I was hospitalized and my psychiatrist recommended his book. I still take antidepressants because it is a genetic disease for me, but his book changed my life. Thank you!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Dr. David Burns saved my life. My friend lent me her copy of “Feeling Good” on the day I was planning to kill myself. That was eight years ago, and to this day, I still do my daily CBT mood journal to talk back to that inner critic in my head. Thank you Dr. Burns for helping me find joy in life once again!
What I discovered about anxiety is groundbreaking. At the heart of all anxiety is a desperate need to CONTROL. What I mean is behind any anxious thought there is a need to control other people's thoughts, reactions, actions etc. To further explain by an example, say someone is anxious about a certain situation, in their mind there is this game going on where the outcome is to be determined by the anxious person. The only way out of this game is to release control of the what the outcome should be. The anxious person will say "ok I will give up control or give up my projections, but what about controlling my own side of the thought game". Well as I discovered the minute you give up your projections and allow external situations(people, events etc) to determine their own outcomes, immediately your own mind starts to rest. Give up control!!!!
I think he only interrupts on behalf of somebody who may not be up to speed with the lexicon. I found myself a slight bit irritated; however, from watching so many of his interviews, I know that is his MO.
This is so important. I once met a psychiatrist who told me that healing from personality disorders was impossible. I think these "doctors" who do not understand the healing/recovery should be removed from doing psychotherapy. They do more harm by convincing patients that they are condemned for life.
Yeah, even if it is true that a patient isn't likely to change I don't think they should be told so in the spirit of condemnation. I can see how it could be useful (if done gently) though, in helping someone to stop hating themselves in vain. I would only apply that to personality though - not to someone's thoughts and feelings. I say this as someone only just learning to love themselves, despite all their flaws.
@@lemonjuice3551 but this is absolutely not true, there is no personality disorder that people haven't recovered from. How can you accept change in thinking without accepting change in personality? Personality is basically the way you think about things, which determines your behaviour. The only patient that cannot change is a person that doesn't want to change - or someone who doesn't have the right tools and method to change.
I been having anxiety for the past couple weeks I think it’s my autoimmune disease playing games. I had some anxiety several months ago and it went away. I pray for all the people going through anxiety our brains out so powerful it’s amazing and scary but I know with expanding my knowledge with these great Drs here on youtube we can learn to cope with it! I been praying for all of us to overcome it we just have to trust the process! Stay strong brothers and sisters. Let’s kick anxiety’s butt 👍💪🙏
Went down the road of medication which lasted only three months. It actually made my anxiety worse! Little by little I’m learning that I need to change my thought patterns.
“The key to your happiness is to own your slippers, own who you are, own how you look, own your family, own the talents you have, and own the ones you don't. If you keep saying your slippers aren't yours, then you'll die searching, you'll die bitter, always feeling you were promised more. Not only our actions, but also our omissions, become our destiny.” ― Abraham Verghese
I was told "the brain doesn't understand the English language because it's not its native tongue. BEHAVIOR is the language of the brain and you must speak to it with behaviors if you want to effectively communicate with it"....and I think that's changed my life
What a wonderful comment and so very true I think so many people suffer from overthinking and under acting including myself at various times and my life nothing will break you out of a depressive or anxious rutt more than movement and action which the human species is designed and programmed to do to avoid suffering or danger. Tiny positive behaviours and habits can have a great and significant impact on mental health
“I judge you unfortunate because you have never lived through misfortune. You have passed through life without an opponent-no one can ever know what you are capable of, not even you.”
"I have had recurring nightmares that I was loved for who I am and missed the opportunity to be a better man." -Matt Bellamy This quote really got me through years of abuse; it gave me some modicum of strength.
@@HeritageDrPepper Wow, that's a powerful quote, thanks for sharing. Hadn't come across it before. I'd be interested to learn more about how this helped you get through such an ordeal as my feeble mind isn't making the connection in an abusive scenario.
@@QuietlyMagnetic It's actually the lyrics to a band called Muse but I quoted it as the singer's line. It was a lot of verbal/emotional abuse and neglect; being told I'm stupid, talentless, to shut up and stay out of sight which, of course, led me to feeling too insecure to have friends so any group I hung around just neglected me, as well. However, I think if I had been physically abused the message would have been the same, no? That "I am not worthy of anything or anyone". Therefore, the line is kind of just that thread you hold onto as a means to make things a little more okay, to try harder, and to give yourself reason to look at the situation in a way that allows you to make all this bullshit your strength, what drives you forward into improving yourself (even if what's "wrong with you" is just a falsehood) and getting out of the situation, to get stronger in that way, rather than allow the situation to push and hold you down. Sure, it's not the best way to figure out a situation. I mean, what was happening was not okay and there is not justification for it, but when it's all you have, you make it work. I can't help but think of David Goggins; I feel that listening to how he looked at everything and how he got out of his situation would make more sense. It's *kind of* the same thing, I feel there are a lot of similarities in how he tackled life and how I perceived that quote.
@@HeritageDrPepper Thanks for expanding. Sorry you had to go through that and I'm really glad you came out of it stronger than you could have imagined at the time. Yes, I agree, your experience sounds similar to what David Goggins discusses in his book. As he says: "greatness lies on the other side of discomfort", I suspect this applies to you in one form or another, however you choose to define greatness. Keep up the good fight!
whoever sees this, im just saying don’t get your mind all caught in the media and distractions from ourselves. all that matters is that your vibrating high and u are at peace with yourself, you just reading this comment I now send positivity and strength to whoever reads this. thank you may all of you be blessed you are loved I promise.
The post partum friend story reminded me of what I did for myself when I was struggling with PTSD after an abusive relationship. I did video journaling expressing my feelings and what I was going through, struggling with, and wanted so I wouldn't have any judgement, yet I had an outlet and may use it in the future to show my personal journey. When I watched them, I ended up feeling empathy and acceptance for myself as you would a friend or a character on tv. Perception is EVERYTHING. 💜
Thank you for this episode. As a woman in postpartum ( 4 months) I’m struggling really bad with anxiety. It’s taken over my mind and robbing me of precious moments with my baby. Looking forward to reading his book!
Stay strong girl one day at a time I’m going through anxiety right now too it’s nothing compared to what you are going through but it all sucks I been having it for 2 weeks I don’t know why but it could be my auto immune disease playing games and i actually had some anxiety several months ago for a couple weeks off and on and they went away eventually I know the mind is stronger then heck and I know that if I keep praying his will bless us both! I’m going to pray for you and I hope you are feeling so much better with your beautiful baby! Stay strong 💪 👍🙏
Tom I’m sure you realise what an impact you make on people’s lives by introducing us to your well researched fabulous guests. Love the natural and patient interviewing style you bring to every interview. I love this interview...so appreciative.🙏
His book saved me from my anxiety, I am still going through it in bursts because I forget his advice and I am lazy sometimes to do the work again but I go back when things go bad and I get better. I love his chapter on shame/guilt. The cognitive distortions are hard to realize exactly which are you using but eventually the more you read it, you get better at it.
I was attending my last of four levels math university class convinced I would finally fail that one since I hadn't failed the others but always carried bad marks in math since 6th grade. I did fail my course. My teacher at the time said in class : "If you fail as a student you'll never be a good math teacher." I was mad so I wrote him a letter explaining how I will understand better my math students because I will feel empathy toward their difficulties which I never met through all of my math teachers in the past including him. He asked me to meet him after each of his next classes to explain again what I wouldn't have understood. I went once. It took only one time because at our first meeting he said: "Explain to me what you did understand in today's class." At the end of this first meeting he concluded : "I don't know why you are here because you obviously understand everything." It boosted my confidence. I never went to meet him again afterwards and I finished with an A+ for the first time in my life at the most difficult math class I ever took. Thank you so much for this interview.
Thank you dear Dr. Burns. What a humble and special person you are. Tom...you re amazing . We are so thankful for sharing these interviews. You are the Napoleon Hill of our times
That finale point that was mentioned. Tom makes these interviews with his knowledge about the guest and the research he conducts prior just shows how serious he is about change. Lovely to watch as always. One of the best interview / podcasts host online
Far out, same, it feels like if I don't take the time to over analyse my problems im basically asking for everything to fail and to be unprepared or lazy etc
@@ArtyMars How are you now? In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Sr. Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 Yes, definitely need to meditate more often, i'm into guided viking meditations at the moment xD The combination of ADHD, Anxiety and PTSD i have leaves me with a whirlwind of thoughts most of the day xD
@@ArtyMars Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even during my normal activities and I am feeling relaxed and healthy. Anywhere-anytime it can be done. The best part is nobody comes to know that you are doing the breath observing practice as there is no deep breathing or sound. Reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Read my msg and do the practice regularly. Best wishes. Sr. Counsellor.
My primary doctor told me “Be kind to yourself” I started experiencing panic attacks in 2016, it got so bad I was scared to leave my house, I quit my job of 7 plus years, fell into depression, lost a lot of weight, I got sick felt anxious as soon I woke up, I only felt “ok” in the middle of the night, sat in my room in the dark, till my gf at the time came in the room, I’ve safer, I couldn’t be home alone for a year, one day I said to myself, I can’t live this way, so I took small steps outside my house, months and months later, I was able to drive once again, in 2018 my anxiety was done, I found a job etc, 2021, i got a better paying job, met my correct gf, but in late 2023 my anxiety came back, now i’m re-working on myself
Such a genuine soul. Put his career on the line to pursue what he knew worked, without financial rewards. Expected this interview to go on for another hour at least!
Tom always sugars his guests at the beginning of the show, but here you can see that what Dr Burns says really touches his heart,. Dr burns is unapreciated jewel. To say he is one of the greatest shrinks in human history is not exageration, Sadly not many recognize it. May his work spread wide for the happiness and benefit of all humanity and all beings!
I've seen almost all of your episodes, and he is one of my favorite guests you have had on. He has such a deep warmth to him, I would love to talk with him. I'll be rewatching this one for sure.
This is one of the best interviews I've seen in a long time. Really good questions, with gentle and polite redirection of Dr.Burns to the topics we want answers to. Interviewing is definitely an art in order to actually gain some valuable info from the guest. Esp. with guests like Dr.Burns who are experts in their field and have so much knowledge on the subject. This was awesome! Thank you both for a really insightful video!
You are legendary, Tom! Thank you, Dr. Burns, I am so gratefully delighted to have listened to this comprehensive analysis of a few issues like PTSD, Depression, Dementia, Anxiety, and OCD. I prayed for decades for these specific cures that would not require Rx. Side-effects of Rx are more debilitating than the disease, just like some narrative, “ -isms”.
Depression is abt ur food nothing to do with ur mind..... Depression anxiety disorder irritableness aggressive r all abt having improper metabolism.....
@@DK-sg3oeI am super focused on type of food I am about to ingest, always trying to eat healthy, support with supplements, and being physically active and still struggling with severe depressive/anxiety syndromes, so I am pretty sure u know s*it what u talk about.
This was amazing! I am so grateful that you are exposing your audience to a therapist that uses an evidence based, therapeutic technique that most of us use in a daily basis to help our patients. It’s important to recognize, like Dr. Burns said that change is challenging and not necessarily quick... I’ve been a therapist for over 15 years and worked with hundreds (maybe by now a thousand patients 😳) We are all complicated and have these things called “feelings and core beliefs” that actually dictate our thoughts.... when we feel or believe something, it’s not often rational.... but it’s hard to convince your brain/body/mind of that it FEELS, you can also BELIEVE that it is true (even when all the evidence points to it’s not true) If you have anxiety, it’s not just your thinking process, it’s your brain/mind/body’s reaction to sensory input (internal and/or external.) Anxiety, for example comes from our core feeling of fear that gets triggered by our senses and then our brain tries to make sense of it, that’s our conscious thought and yes you can and should challenge the validity of those thoughts but don’t feel bad that you can’t! Dr. Burns has helped a lot of people and his work is life changing but if it doesn’t work for you please see a therapist to assess your individual needs and come up with a plan for you that helps you. Tom, you should have Nancy McWilliams on your show, she is an amazing psychotherapist who has written several book on therapy. I think your audience is ready😉
Mr. Bilyeu, the way you continue to listen to each one of these amazing humans as if you are listening for the very first time soaking in all this information, knowledge and wisdom is incredibly admirable! Thank you for your contribution to the world 🌎 Stay wise my friends
This is sooooo exciting and such an incredible interview! This answers the question to how my boyfriend went from being "bi-polar" to suddenly quitting his medication and having nothing happen! If what the dr is saying is true then it was because his thoughts and environment changed. It wasn't about a chemical imbalance but more about his self imposed negative talk. So interesting!
I just bought your book. I am 68 years old. I never had a problem with anxiety or depression, my entire life, until the doctor prescribed (for 18 months) medications that I was allergic to. Metopropolol, lisinopril, losartan, and amlodipine (consecutively). After that, the doctor said I had "white coat syndrome" and it was raising my BP. Then she prescribed (consecutively) zoloft, desipramine, lorazepam, and citalopram. All that did was give me severe insomnia and tinnitus. I had a collapsed lung recently, sending me back to the doctor. She asked me how I lowered my BP without meds. I am still battling depression. I am hoping your book helps me.
i read his book a couple of years ago. but i failed to implement the ideas into my daily life. it's not only for people with mood disorders, it's for everbody who's struggling with negative thoughts.
@@vidfav1221 this book is all about detecting destructive thinking and wrong assumptions about reality. it shows you how to disrupt and disharm negative thinking patterns by analysing them. the goal is to disharm them by questioning and to proof them wrong. but, it takes time. you have to convince yourself. you have to experience day by day, that your negative thinking is bullshit. it's teaching you to be aware about automatic negative thinking. you have to do the work. it's not like: i'll read this book and everything will be fine.
Anxiety and depression is caused by either stressing over yesterday, worrying about tomorrow and not being present. Mindfulness and gratitude are the cure for depression. Also I will add that if you are thinking about yourself and your own situation or needs too much, that will lead to depression. You have to help someone else instead in some way. Even if it is to tell them they look nice or have a nice smile, or help someone solve an issue, or lift someone's spirits etc. Your depression will melt away. You have to know we are not here to consume, we are here to help each other. We need to get back to basics pre-tech is better. Pick up a phone, make plans to hang with a friend, go visit someone grieving or in a hospital sick or just someone that could use a friend. If you are all about you all the time...it gets old quick.
This is exactly what the power of now by Eckhart Tolle teaches. You cannot possibly be thinking about past or future of you are truly present in the now. Great comment, thank you.
I've gone through so many drugs and I'm 3 years in bed now. My body is fine, but I don't live. I just purchased Dr. Burns books and I PRAY that they can help me. Ohhhhh God, PLEASE help me!!!! I am so very lost! I wish I could work with Dr. Burns himself.....but that's just life, I guess😒 Thank you for the introduction.
I bought his book on kindle and made the depression test. I am at 58 points. So, "severe depression". I will do everthing to beat this monster, its painfull
I have been watching a number of interviews with Dr. David Burns after recently finding his work. I find his work and dedication so inspiring. I would like to mention how impressed I am by the interviewer, Tom Bilyeu, as well. His interview with Dr. Burns is the best I have seen so far, due to his excellent and thoughtful interview style and skills! Thank you both!
Finally Dr. Burns! He is one the "creator" of the modern cognitive behavioral therapy, for those who wonders who is he. Unfortunately he is not that popular nowadays like motivational speakers ( T.Robbins etc,)
I’ve watched probably 100 of your interviews, Tom, and you are in my optimism the best interviewer on any media medium. Your knowledge combined with your humble deference is so amazing and novel.
This was so wonderful to watch. I bet everyone would love the opportunity to talk to him in person. Likable, informative, and even wholesome. Thank you for another great interview
This talk was really uplifting for me. I will be graduating with a PhD in May, and I am anxious about the job market. This talk just elevated my mood and gave me so much hope. Will buy the book today!
It is so powerful, our ability to heal, to grow, to learn from our experiences and challenges and to grow beyond them. I appreciate every person who helps develop and spread those methods that can help us do free ourselves from our past and our conditioning. Thanks Tom for sharing these incredible interviews, I've been there almost since the start, and your consistency no matter the circumstances in the world is mindblowing, and highly appreciated.
I adopted two brothers, 10 & 11, orphaned by addiction 3 years ago. As a rookie mom in trying times I really appreciate the refresher on, "it's ok to have mixed feelings about parenting, in fact it's normal." Good stuff.
What a truly amazing honorable thing to do, adopt not one but two children with... issues... I can only say WOW!! Some ppl deserve a Gold medal. I know you will be blessed in ways you won't believe, just wait and see. :What you sow so shall you reap". Anyone with a heart ❤ as big as yours will get it right believe that.
@@TheMothers3 Such kind words...💖 I appreciate the support. Recovery is not linear...it's more like a cha-cha. And I'm a darn fine dancer. Thank you for helping me remember that. You did good.
@Stephen Jones I don't think I will. They're 14 & 16 now & they are truly great people. I wrote this in the very early days, right after their mother completed suicide. It was a tough time. But thank you for your concern my friend. You have a great day now.
Brilliantly shared, that it goes back to the teachings of Epictetus (Greek Stoic Philosopher) that people are not disturbed by outside events, but their own responses towards those events. The key point is that we must learn to know ourselves to the deepest level to respond sensibly, positively, and sometimes rationally. All of you take good care of your brain and heart.
Right that's it!!!! I've never commented on a video unless I personally knew the person making it so this is big for me. Thank the universe for you Tom and of course youtube. I am a creative, I make miniatures and I've worked from home for 11 years. I watch/listen to youtube while I'm working. I know the others who do what you do but You Tom are absolutely amazing. You feed my brain with top class nutrition the kind I can't get from anyone I know personally. I've watched at least 80% of your videos but this man, this man, this man (and of course David Goggins) just blew me away!!!!!! I got every bit of it, this will help me and how I deal with others sooooo much. So simple, so agreeable and so exciting when you hear an expert say what one has always thought plus loads of extra stuff and tools, the TOOLS Tom!! Absolutely flipping BRILLIANT !!! How well we do to listen to the years of experience aka wisdom Can't thank you both enough. This was PERFECT. From London UK. PERFECT 💜
Pure gold. Such a joy to listen to a descriptive and powerful collection of life stories with Tom playing the humble observer. Really appreciate the tact with this conversation Tom!
the book was a good start for me and it could be used to help prepare children to learn emotional skills, but I still believe that medication is necessary for some.
Feeling good is still one of my favorite go to books when I am having difficulties in my life. Nothing is right or wrong in my life has become my mantra, especially when it comes to trauma recovery, that stuff gets in your bones sometimes but there is always a way out if I look for it.
Feeling not ready, not enough, and not worthy has been the thing that drives me to work relentlessly for decades, and today I am definitely better, but still expanding my understanding of the many aspects of the human condition. Now I'm just a chronic hoarder of knowledge, but not just for nothing. Most of it is to enhance my here and now, richer and more satisfying experience of each moment. I hope to write a book about my ideas someday. I'm also working on an app design that will make Google more personalized and useful someday.
A cognitive behavioral therapist's main role is to help people identify their thoughts and behaviors, specifically regarding their relationships, surroundings, and life, so that they can influence those thoughts and behaviors for the better.👍
I believe there is also a significant implementation of game theory here. Any time we use positive internal dialogues to reframe our conflicts, in a sense replacing the hostility of our learned internal voices, we are contradicting the social isolation that is often connected to trauma carried over from years of unprocessed social abuse. We embody the voice of a loving parent, when perhaps we lacked that growing up, and the mind makes no distinction between internal and external, it just accepts the fact that we want to help ourselves and that sense of compassion manifests, healing us instantly.
Thank you both for broadcasting this. You have helped me to begin managing a major life crisis. I understand there’s no magic button but I love the incremental notion of a dial or wheel and that it’s up to me to do the reading and be honest about the exercises and tasks. I’m not a particularly religious man but bless you both for helping humanity.
His book is great - the most useful element is that his activities work to help readers make the shift right away. This book along with Maxwell Maltz's book are two must reads. Along with a couple of others. Yet Burns' Feeling Good and Psycho-Cybernetics can literally save readers thousands of dollars in medical costs in my humble experience.
This has helped me so much. Public speaking has been one of my biggest fears of all time, and now after watching this video, I feel like I might just be able to overcome those fears! Thank you!
Feeling Great was the best book I ever bought. The things in there, most importantly positive reframing (page 225-227 especially). Each emotion we feel has distinct positives and shows us key things about our values and beliefs. 100% recommend this book.
Mushrooms containing psilocybin saved my life. They aided my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quit illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would’ve become medically dangerous to quit. It has also helped me survive depression.
The Trips I've been having really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
@Sophia Edith I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across *dr.jeromespore* a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
@@ohmakure4716 I feel the same way too. I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be a part of this community.
I like his take on anxiety and facing your fear. But what if youre not sure what your fear is? Sometimes anxiety can come out of nowhere and you dont even know what you're scared of
For me it’s been eating very clean, supplements, exercise and facing things you need to fix in your personal life that you’ve been avoiding. I believe anxiety/depression is how our bodies scream to us for help. I was continually neglecting mine nutritionally
If you suffer anxiety but you don't remember what causes it, its because you're sufferege the fear of having fear. Thsts it. Fear of the symptoms. Walk through them with no resistance. Feel them. They are no danger to you. They are just uncomfortable
Thank you for the useful video. I want to share my result. my son had depression amid numerous stresses, we went to the clinic, he was lying, prescribed antidepressants, but unfortunately day by day he was getting worse, he was prescribed other antidepressants, he was worse, walked like a zombie, it was painful to look like a smart guy, handsome and suddenly it turns into something. I was advised to give him cellular nutrition and after a month he recovered! About a year has passed and everything is in order, the depression has not returned. Cellular nutrition is a great thing !!!
Tom, do you grasp how much you are influencing the quantum every time someone walks away and makes a positive change that influences not only their lives, but everyone they come into contact with? Thank you for being you.
It's so true..I have never experienced any type of anxiety or depression until I become a mother 2 years and half ago I started getting anxiety, panic attacks, fear 😨 of anything happening to my daughter etc..Finally I went to therapy started writing positive affirmation, change habits, breathing techniques...
i could imagine that post partum depression is also rooted in the thought that life has come to an inflection point and you are no more the center of your life and that your freedom of choice has ended in most parts..
Very useful information. In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
Tom I'm an avid fan, junkie if you will...but this beautieful GENTLE MANS interview so compelling. So many great ppl out there just gotta look for them and you Tom bring them to us all the time for free. I have bought so many books 📚 from your recommendations never dissapointed. I have learned so much from your show. Bye the way u look really healthy must b getting out in the 🌞 💘 love ur work.
This is excellent..... The part of the story about how he visuaised the negative speaking event also demonstrated the power of visualisation... Repeating a horrible visual in his head drew it into fruition...
Tom, I came to this because I wanted to learn more as I have read the book. This was such a great interview and it helped me understand more clearly the new method. Don’t hate me … I stopped listening to you when you first started as I felt you were “ talking to much” and I just wanted to hear what the guest had to say. You obviously have come a long way since then and I’m now a fan! Thank you from New Zealand 💞
This was awesome! Tom you are without a doubt the best interviewer I have ever heard. You always ask the questions that make the information crystal clear. You definitely have a knack for making even the most complicated and confusing subject relatable and understandable.
Totally awesome. Thanks very much. BTW, your theories totally align with my life experience. One more confirmation of your truth. I will however say that exercise is a great temporary therapeutic tool for depression as well (you are generating your own pharma). But, for long term permanent change, David has nailed it. Please note that he did not focus on positive thinking so much as accurate, logical, fact based thinking. That's important because we cant nor should we always expect to be positive and the 'universe' doesn't have your back. You can do it on your own, with this technique. Why hasn't David won the Nobel prize?
When he said your depression is a result of you giving yourself messages that are cruel and untrue. That really hit me, I shed a tear, probably one of the most liberating sentences I have ever heard in my life. wow!
so true...!!!! I shed a tear as well...
When you are having a panic attack in public, look into the eyes of strangers and seek to see the fear, sadness, loneliness and regret that hides within. It's the quickest way I found to realize how close we all are, and that sense of closeness can eliminate your own anxiety with the immediacy of a lightning strike, replacing it with empathy.
just play this and get relaxed, its working...
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@@johncaccioppo1142 Omg this is sooo true! I've experienced that myself. Great tip!
@@aliveandwell3958 good to see you and to be seen, friend!
This dude helped create CBT which saved my life. Id love to donate to him whatever I can. He saved many lives maybe over a million as SAD has a very high self deletion rate.
I am 57 years old. I lived with extreme anxiety and depression. All my life. At this point in my life I have for the past 5 years learned on my own after learning about cognitive therapy and when I seen this episode with your research and new techniques I had a complete reassurance that I am more healthier now and can honestly see that you are 100%correct with all you said ...The way you battled through in scientifically proved what we as humans do that can unwittingly create a sick mental state to the point of giving suicidal thoughts and losing all joy in life. You have given the world a wondrous gift. Thank you, may you feel joy and satisfaction from your work.
Awesome! God Bless you.
*Dr David Burns* because of your book I managed to get out of severe depression without any drugs. Thank you.
Wow, I'll go get this book as soon as possible. Been living in a nightmare for years. Thanks for your comment!
@@euheroico Book+ meditation + anti-depression veggies and fruits as much as you can. Hope you come out of your nightmare soon. All the best.
@@Deepak-Brl anti depression veggien means?
@@wasimullahkhattak383 means the veggies which are good for reducing chemicals in the body which cause depression and boost the supply of good mood chemicals.
@@Deepak-Brl I'm also curious, any particular fruits and veggies you'd recommend? I don't know which ones reduce the depression chemicals.
I know this guy. His book saved my life about 20 years ago. I still use skills I learned in his book. I was hospitalized and my psychiatrist recommended his book. I still take antidepressants because it is a genetic disease for me, but his book changed my life. Thank you!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
are you taking pills for 20 years? and have you ever tried to stop it?
@Mamma4367-vc1rxno thanks BOTS!!!!!
What's the book x
He says there is no proof for chemical imbalance
Dr. David Burns saved my life. My friend lent me her copy of “Feeling Good” on the day I was planning to kill myself. That was eight years ago, and to this day, I still do my daily CBT mood journal to talk back to that inner critic in my head. Thank you Dr. Burns for helping me find joy in life once again!
Glad you are Alive!! 😄Please watch Sadhguru here in TH-cam 😊
Wow, Faheem! I'm happy that you read that book and do your journal! Have a happy and meaningful life!
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Hi where is the mood journal? Is it in feeling good book?
How are you supposed to do the journal please?
What I discovered about anxiety is groundbreaking. At the heart of all anxiety is a desperate need to CONTROL. What I mean is behind any anxious thought there is a need to control other people's thoughts, reactions, actions etc. To further explain by an example, say someone is anxious about a certain situation, in their mind there is this game going on where the outcome is to be determined by the anxious person. The only way out of this game is to release control of the what the outcome should be. The anxious person will say "ok I will give up control or give up my projections, but what about controlling my own side of the thought game". Well as I discovered the minute you give up your projections and allow external situations(people, events etc) to determine their own outcomes, immediately your own mind starts to rest. Give up control!!!!
First time I see an host letting his guest talk this much without interrumpting. Thank you for that, great work.
Lol, he interrupts all the time, I can not stand him. I am here only for David
I think he only interrupts on behalf of somebody who may not be up to speed with the lexicon. I found myself a slight bit irritated; however, from watching so many of his interviews, I know that is his MO.
This is so important. I once met a psychiatrist who told me that healing from personality disorders was impossible. I think these "doctors" who do not understand the healing/recovery should be removed from doing psychotherapy. They do more harm by convincing patients that they are condemned for life.
Yeah, even if it is true that a patient isn't likely to change I don't think they should be told so in the spirit of condemnation. I can see how it could be useful (if done gently) though, in helping someone to stop hating themselves in vain. I would only apply that to personality though - not to someone's thoughts and feelings. I say this as someone only just learning to love themselves, despite all their flaws.
Unfortunately, most psychiatrists are pill pushers.
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They always say it is impossible because they don't know how to cure it.
@@lemonjuice3551 but this is absolutely not true, there is no personality disorder that people haven't recovered from. How can you accept change in thinking without accepting change in personality? Personality is basically the way you think about things, which determines your behaviour. The only patient that cannot change is a person that doesn't want to change - or someone who doesn't have the right tools and method to change.
I love 💕 this Dr Burns
I love that he speaks 🗣️ from personal experience & had to deal with his own anxiety issues..
bravo 👏
This is my first time ever hearing about David Burns. I could listen to his stories all day!❤
I been having anxiety for the past couple weeks I think it’s my autoimmune disease playing games. I had some anxiety several months ago and it went away. I pray for all the people going through anxiety our brains out so powerful it’s amazing and scary but I know with expanding my knowledge with these great Drs here on youtube we can learn to cope with it! I been praying for all of us to overcome it we just have to trust the process! Stay strong brothers and sisters. Let’s kick anxiety’s butt 👍💪🙏
@Avatar849 Sorry BOTS NO THANKS!
@Elizabethfrunk fuck that!!!
Went down the road of medication which lasted only three months. It actually made my anxiety worse! Little by little I’m learning that I need to change my thought patterns.
💯💯💯❤️
“The key to your happiness is to own your slippers, own who you are, own how you look, own your family, own the talents you have, and own the ones you don't. If you keep saying your slippers aren't yours, then you'll die searching, you'll die bitter, always feeling you were promised more. Not only our actions, but also our omissions, become our destiny.”
― Abraham Verghese
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I was told "the brain doesn't understand the English language because it's not its native tongue. BEHAVIOR is the language of the brain and you must speak to it with behaviors if you want to effectively communicate with it"....and I think that's changed my life
I believe this too..thank you for this comment
What a wonderful comment and so very true I think so many people suffer from overthinking and under acting including myself at various times and my life nothing will break you out of a depressive or anxious rutt more than movement and action which the human species is designed and programmed to do to avoid suffering or danger. Tiny positive behaviours and habits can have a great and significant impact on mental health
“I judge you unfortunate because you have never lived through misfortune. You have passed through life without an opponent-no one can ever know what you are capable of, not even you.”
"I have had recurring nightmares that I was loved for who I am and missed the opportunity to be a better man." -Matt Bellamy
This quote really got me through years of abuse; it gave me some modicum of strength.
@@HeritageDrPepper Wow, that's a powerful quote, thanks for sharing. Hadn't come across it before. I'd be interested to learn more about how this helped you get through such an ordeal as my feeble mind isn't making the connection in an abusive scenario.
@@QuietlyMagnetic It's actually the lyrics to a band called Muse but I quoted it as the singer's line.
It was a lot of verbal/emotional abuse and neglect; being told I'm stupid, talentless, to shut up and stay out of sight which, of course, led me to feeling too insecure to have friends so any group I hung around just neglected me, as well.
However, I think if I had been physically abused the message would have been the same, no? That "I am not worthy of anything or anyone". Therefore, the line is kind of just that thread you hold onto as a means to make things a little more okay, to try harder, and to give yourself reason to look at the situation in a way that allows you to make all this bullshit your strength, what drives you forward into improving yourself (even if what's "wrong with you" is just a falsehood) and getting out of the situation, to get stronger in that way, rather than allow the situation to push and hold you down.
Sure, it's not the best way to figure out a situation. I mean, what was happening was not okay and there is not justification for it, but when it's all you have, you make it work.
I can't help but think of David Goggins; I feel that listening to how he looked at everything and how he got out of his situation would make more sense. It's *kind of* the same thing, I feel there are a lot of similarities in how he tackled life and how I perceived that quote.
@@HeritageDrPepper Thanks for expanding. Sorry you had to go through that and I'm really glad you came out of it stronger than you could have imagined at the time. Yes, I agree, your experience sounds similar to what David Goggins discusses in his book. As he says: "greatness lies on the other side of discomfort", I suspect this applies to you in one form or another, however you choose to define greatness. Keep up the good fight!
@@QuietlyMagnetic No problem. And thanks.
whoever sees this, im just saying don’t get your mind all caught in the media and distractions from ourselves. all that matters is that your vibrating high and u are at peace with yourself, you just reading this comment I now send positivity and strength to whoever reads this. thank you may all of you be blessed you are loved I promise.
thank you!
God Bless you
@@christiaan2041 God bless you too my friend.
Sending those vibes back at you like a mirror reflecting the sun: amplified.
Thank you.
Sending your wonderful energy right back to you! Thank for you for your kind and uplifting words! 😁🙌✨
The post partum friend story reminded me of what I did for myself when I was struggling with PTSD after an abusive relationship. I did video journaling expressing my feelings and what I was going through, struggling with, and wanted so I wouldn't have any judgement, yet I had an outlet and may use it in the future to show my personal journey. When I watched them, I ended up feeling empathy and acceptance for myself as you would a friend or a character on tv. Perception is EVERYTHING. 💜
That was a great idea, it gives you a chance to look at yourself objectively
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Thank you for this episode. As a woman in postpartum ( 4 months) I’m struggling really bad with anxiety. It’s taken over my mind and robbing me of precious moments with my baby. Looking forward to reading his book!
I have the same and insomnias. Are you feeling better ?
You can do this. You are strong. Stronger than you even know and that strength only grows and grows.
Stay strong girl one day at a time I’m going through anxiety right now too it’s nothing compared to what you are going through but it all sucks I been having it for 2 weeks I don’t know why but it could be my auto immune disease playing games and i actually had some anxiety several months ago for a couple weeks off and on and they went away eventually I know the mind is stronger then heck and I know that if I keep praying his will bless us both! I’m going to pray for you and I hope you are feeling so much better with your beautiful baby! Stay strong 💪 👍🙏
Dr William Walsh has identified postpartum depression has usually elevated copper levels
His book Feeling Good changed my life. Still working on it but it was pivotal in me starting to get help.
He is almost 80! The way to age!
@Sara Fox wow Sara! THANK YOU! I knew of Ringo from a friemd who is a drummer, but did not know the dude is 80 !!! in-fckn-credible!
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Tom I’m sure you realise what an impact you make on people’s lives by introducing us to your well researched fabulous guests. Love the natural and patient interviewing style you bring to every interview. I love this interview...so appreciative.🙏
His book saved me from my anxiety, I am still going through it in bursts because I forget his advice and I am lazy sometimes to do the work again but I go back when things go bad and I get better.
I love his chapter on shame/guilt.
The cognitive distortions are hard to realize exactly which are you using but eventually the more you read it, you get better at it.
I was attending my last of four levels math university class convinced I would finally fail that one since I hadn't failed the others but always carried bad marks in math since 6th grade. I did fail my course. My teacher at the time said in class : "If you fail as a student you'll never be a good math teacher." I was mad so I wrote him a letter explaining how I will understand better my math students because I will feel empathy toward their difficulties which I never met through all of my math teachers in the past including him. He asked me to meet him after each of his next classes to explain again what I wouldn't have understood. I went once. It took only one time because at our first meeting he said: "Explain to me what you did understand in today's class." At the end of this first meeting he concluded : "I don't know why you are here because you obviously understand everything." It boosted my confidence. I never went to meet him again afterwards and I finished with an A+ for the first time in my life at the most difficult math class I ever took. Thank you so much for this interview.
Thank you dear Dr. Burns. What a humble and special person you are. Tom...you re amazing . We are so thankful for sharing these interviews. You are the Napoleon Hill of our times
Dr. Burns have completely changed my life!! I'll be forever grateful to him!! My God bless him and his family today and always.
are you sure about that?
@@Aydingenc62 yeap. still sure
My doctor recommended this book and I absorbed every word of it and did the homework. Changed my life!
That finale point that was mentioned. Tom makes these interviews with his knowledge about the guest and the research he conducts prior just shows how serious he is about change. Lovely to watch as always. One of the best interview / podcasts host online
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LOVE FROM FAMILY, friends, and relatves can be the best therapy.. and PRAYERS from the heart.honest childlike prayer🙏
44:00 he's right, I'm an overthinker but subconciously I believe if I don't overthink about my problems they're never going to get solved.
Far out, same, it feels like if I don't take the time to over analyse my problems im basically asking for everything to fail and to be unprepared or lazy etc
That’s how I feel too.
@@ArtyMars How are you now? In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Sr. Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 Yes, definitely need to meditate more often, i'm into guided viking meditations at the moment xD The combination of ADHD, Anxiety and PTSD i have leaves me with a whirlwind of thoughts most of the day xD
@@ArtyMars Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even during my normal activities and I am feeling relaxed and healthy. Anywhere-anytime it can be done. The best part is nobody comes to know that you are doing the breath observing practice as there is no deep breathing or sound. Reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Read my msg and do the practice regularly. Best wishes. Sr. Counsellor.
My primary doctor told me “Be kind to yourself” I started experiencing panic attacks in 2016, it got so bad I was scared to leave my house, I quit my job of 7 plus years, fell into depression, lost a lot of weight, I got sick felt anxious as soon I woke up, I only felt “ok” in the middle of the night, sat in my room in the dark, till my gf at the time came in the room, I’ve safer, I couldn’t be home alone for a year, one day I said to myself, I can’t live this way, so I took small steps outside my house, months and months later, I was able to drive once again, in 2018 my anxiety was done, I found a job etc, 2021, i got a better paying job, met my correct gf, but in late 2023 my anxiety came back, now i’m re-working on myself
От чего вам становилось хуже?
Such a genuine soul. Put his career on the line to pursue what he knew worked, without financial rewards. Expected this interview to go on for another hour at least!
Tom always sugars his guests at the beginning of the show, but here you can see that what Dr Burns says really touches his heart,. Dr burns is unapreciated jewel. To say he is one of the greatest shrinks in human history is not exageration, Sadly not many recognize it. May his work spread wide for the happiness and benefit of all humanity and all beings!
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I've seen almost all of your episodes, and he is one of my favorite guests you have had on. He has such a deep warmth to him, I would love to talk with him. I'll be rewatching this one for sure.
This is one of the best interviews I've seen in a long time. Really good questions, with gentle and polite redirection of Dr.Burns to the topics we want answers to. Interviewing is definitely an art in order to actually gain some valuable info from the guest. Esp. with guests like Dr.Burns who are experts in their field and have so much knowledge on the subject. This was awesome! Thank you both for a really insightful video!
You are legendary, Tom! Thank you, Dr. Burns, I am so gratefully delighted to have listened to this comprehensive analysis of a few issues like PTSD, Depression, Dementia, Anxiety, and OCD. I prayed for decades for these specific cures that would not require Rx. Side-effects of Rx are more debilitating than the disease, just like some narrative, “ -isms”.
Pulled me out of depression quickly. He's amazing! Thank you Tom!!
Depression is abt ur food nothing to do with ur mind..... Depression anxiety disorder irritableness aggressive r all abt having improper metabolism.....
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@@DK-sg3oeI am super focused on type of food I am about to ingest, always trying to eat healthy, support with supplements, and being physically active and still struggling with severe depressive/anxiety syndromes, so I am pretty sure u know s*it what u talk about.
This was amazing! I am so grateful that you are exposing your audience to a therapist that uses an evidence based, therapeutic technique that most of us use in a daily basis to help our patients. It’s important to recognize, like Dr. Burns said that change is challenging and not necessarily quick... I’ve been a therapist for over 15 years and worked with hundreds (maybe by now a thousand patients 😳) We are all complicated and have these things called “feelings and core beliefs” that actually dictate our thoughts.... when we feel or believe something, it’s not often rational.... but it’s hard to convince your brain/body/mind of that it FEELS, you can also BELIEVE that it is true (even when all the evidence points to it’s not true) If you have anxiety, it’s not just your thinking process, it’s your brain/mind/body’s reaction to sensory input (internal and/or external.) Anxiety, for example comes from our core feeling of fear that gets triggered by our senses and then our brain tries to make sense of it, that’s our conscious thought and yes you can and should challenge the validity of those thoughts but don’t feel bad that you can’t! Dr. Burns has helped a lot of people and his work is life changing but if it doesn’t work for you please see a therapist to assess your individual needs and come up with a plan for you that helps you. Tom, you should have Nancy McWilliams on your show, she is an amazing psychotherapist who has written several book on therapy. I think your audience is ready😉
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Thank you Tom. Dr Burns is so rational, informative and influential . His books have changed the way I think and the course of my life
the content the world needs right now
Mr. Bilyeu, the way you continue to listen to each one of these amazing humans as if you are listening for the very first time soaking in all this information, knowledge and wisdom is incredibly admirable! Thank you for your contribution to the world 🌎 Stay wise my friends
This is sooooo exciting and such an incredible interview! This answers the question to how my boyfriend went from being "bi-polar" to suddenly quitting his medication and having nothing happen! If what the dr is saying is true then it was because his thoughts and environment changed. It wasn't about a chemical imbalance but more about his self imposed negative talk. So interesting!
Did it last? For how long?
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I just bought your book.
I am 68 years old. I never had a problem with anxiety or depression, my entire life, until the doctor prescribed (for 18 months) medications that I was allergic to. Metopropolol, lisinopril, losartan, and amlodipine (consecutively). After that, the doctor said I had "white coat syndrome" and it was raising my BP. Then she prescribed (consecutively) zoloft, desipramine, lorazepam, and citalopram. All that did was give me severe insomnia and tinnitus.
I had a collapsed lung recently, sending me back to the doctor. She asked me how I lowered my BP without meds.
I am still battling depression. I am hoping your book helps me.
OMG you definitely need a new doctor!! You are in my prayers Karen!
i read his book a couple of years ago. but i failed to implement the ideas into my daily life. it's not only for people with mood disorders, it's for everbody who's struggling with negative thoughts.
Your thoughts on it pls
@@vidfav1221 this book is all about detecting destructive thinking and wrong assumptions about reality. it shows you how to disrupt and disharm negative thinking patterns by analysing them. the goal is to disharm them by questioning and to proof them wrong. but, it takes time. you have to convince yourself. you have to experience day by day, that your negative thinking is bullshit. it's teaching you to be aware about automatic negative thinking. you have to do the work. it's not like: i'll read this book and everything will be fine.
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The world needs to see more about this in the media then what we have right now
amen to that
Exactly!!! That is all we hear… Mental Health issues at epidemic proportions, but do we put our money where our most blaring need is?????
Anxiety and depression is caused by either stressing over yesterday, worrying about tomorrow and not being present. Mindfulness and gratitude are the cure for depression. Also I will add that if you are thinking about yourself and your own situation or needs too much, that will lead to depression. You have to help someone else instead in some way. Even if it is to tell them they look nice or have a nice smile, or help someone solve an issue, or lift someone's spirits etc. Your depression will melt away. You have to know we are not here to consume, we are here to help each other. We need to get back to basics pre-tech is better. Pick up a phone, make plans to hang with a friend, go visit someone grieving or in a hospital sick or just someone that could use a friend. If you are all about you all the time...it gets old quick.
I keep seeing this everywhere but I worry an awful lot about the present
This is exactly what the power of now by Eckhart Tolle teaches. You cannot possibly be thinking about past or future of you are truly present in the now.
Great comment, thank you.
Celeste Newton then u lack faith in a higher power. It is all in God's hands so y not enjoy life while u are here and leave the worry to him?
Celeste Newton cast your cares upon the Lord
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I've gone through so many drugs and I'm 3 years in bed now. My body is fine, but I don't live. I just purchased Dr. Burns books and I PRAY that they can help me. Ohhhhh God, PLEASE help me!!!! I am so very lost! I wish I could work with Dr. Burns himself.....but that's just life, I guess😒
Thank you for the introduction.
I bought his book on kindle and made the depression test. I am at 58 points. So, "severe depression". I will do everthing to beat this monster, its painfull
@Lee thank you, blesss you
What's you're score now?
I have been watching a number of interviews with Dr. David Burns after recently finding his work. I find his work and dedication so inspiring. I would like to mention how impressed I am by the interviewer, Tom Bilyeu, as well. His interview with Dr. Burns is the best I have seen so far, due to his excellent and thoughtful interview style and skills! Thank you both!
Finally Dr. Burns! He is one the "creator" of the modern cognitive behavioral therapy, for those who wonders who is he. Unfortunately he is not that popular nowadays like motivational speakers ( T.Robbins etc,)
I’ve watched probably 100 of your interviews, Tom, and you are in my optimism the best interviewer on any media medium. Your knowledge combined with your humble deference is so amazing and novel.
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This was so wonderful to watch. I bet everyone would love the opportunity to talk to him in person. Likable, informative, and even wholesome. Thank you for another great interview
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This talk was really uplifting for me. I will be graduating with a PhD in May, and I am anxious about the job market. This talk just elevated my mood and gave me so much hope. Will buy the book today!
It is so powerful, our ability to heal, to grow, to learn from our experiences and challenges and to grow beyond them.
I appreciate every person who helps develop and spread those methods that can help us do free ourselves from our past and our conditioning.
Thanks Tom for sharing these incredible interviews, I've been there almost since the start, and your consistency no matter the circumstances in the world is mindblowing, and highly appreciated.
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I adopted two brothers, 10 & 11, orphaned by addiction 3 years ago. As a rookie mom in trying times I really appreciate the refresher on, "it's ok to have mixed feelings about parenting, in fact it's normal." Good stuff.
What a truly amazing honorable thing to do, adopt not one but two children with... issues... I can only say WOW!! Some ppl deserve a Gold medal. I know you will be blessed in ways you won't believe, just wait and see. :What you sow so shall you reap". Anyone with a heart ❤ as big as yours will get it right believe that.
@@TheMothers3 Such kind words...💖 I appreciate the support. Recovery is not linear...it's more like a cha-cha.
And I'm a darn fine dancer. Thank you for helping me remember that. You did good.
God bless
@Stephen Jones I don't think I will. They're 14 & 16 now & they are truly great people. I wrote this in the very early days, right after their mother completed suicide. It was a tough time. But thank you for your concern my friend. You have a great day now.
Very Normal
Brilliantly shared, that it goes back to the teachings of Epictetus (Greek Stoic Philosopher) that people are not disturbed by outside events, but their own responses towards those events. The key point is that we must learn to know ourselves to the deepest level to respond sensibly, positively, and sometimes rationally. All of you take good care of your brain and heart.
Right that's it!!!! I've never commented on a video unless I personally knew the person making it so this is big for me. Thank the universe for you Tom and of course youtube. I am a creative, I make miniatures and I've worked from home for 11 years. I watch/listen to youtube while I'm working. I know the others who do what you do but You Tom are absolutely amazing. You feed my brain with top class nutrition the kind I can't get from anyone I know personally. I've watched at least 80% of your videos but this man, this man, this man (and of course David Goggins) just blew me away!!!!!! I got every bit of it, this will help me and how I deal with others sooooo much. So simple, so agreeable and so exciting when you hear an expert say what one has always thought plus loads of extra stuff and tools, the TOOLS Tom!! Absolutely flipping BRILLIANT !!! How well we do to listen to the years of experience aka wisdom Can't thank you both enough. This was PERFECT. From London UK. PERFECT 💜
Pure gold. Such a joy to listen to a descriptive and powerful collection of life stories with Tom playing the humble observer. Really appreciate the tact with this conversation Tom!
It may sound paradoxical but compassion for oneself is the greatest gift a person can give to others.
Just went online to purchase both books... so i can learn how to help my patients without drugs, Tamee Zelch, MSN, FNP-C.
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One is " feeling good " ,which is the other one
Were they helpful?
The newest is feeling great,he has do many other though,you can Google them
@@bageshwaradhamanubhavreact12 go to hell
the book was a good start for me and it could be used to help prepare children to learn emotional skills, but I still believe that medication is necessary for some.
I just would like say thanks to Dr. Burns. Just that. Thanks.
Feeling good is still one of my favorite go to books when I am having difficulties in my life. Nothing is right or wrong in my life has become my mantra, especially when it comes to trauma recovery,
that stuff gets in your bones sometimes but there is always a way out if I look for it.
What a brilliant interview. Thanks, Tom. Nailed it.
Thanks Tom, Dr David Burns is the 1st positive roll model you've had on your podcsts.
What a gifted man.. and Tom brought out his best. Amazing!
Feeling not ready, not enough, and not worthy has been the thing that drives me to work relentlessly for decades, and today I am definitely better, but still expanding my understanding of the many aspects of the human condition. Now I'm just a chronic hoarder of knowledge, but not just for nothing. Most of it is to enhance my here and now, richer and more satisfying experience of each moment. I hope to write a book about my ideas someday. I'm also working on an app design that will make Google more personalized and useful someday.
A cognitive behavioral therapist's main role is to help people identify their thoughts and behaviors, specifically regarding their relationships, surroundings, and life, so that they can influence those thoughts and behaviors for the better.👍
I believe there is also a significant implementation of game theory here. Any time we use positive internal dialogues to reframe our conflicts, in a sense replacing the hostility of our learned internal voices, we are contradicting the social isolation that is often connected to trauma carried over from years of unprocessed social abuse. We embody the voice of a loving parent, when perhaps we lacked that growing up, and the mind makes no distinction between internal and external, it just accepts the fact that we want to help ourselves and that sense of compassion manifests, healing us instantly.
Because of Dr Burns, my life went from just awful to a sparking gift, I’ve never felt happier. Thank you ❤
I was thrilled to see David Burns a guest! I'm just as thrilled to see how well the interview emerged because Tom did his homework.
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Thank you both for broadcasting this. You have helped me to begin managing a major life crisis. I understand there’s no magic button but I love the incremental notion of a dial or wheel and that it’s up to me to do the reading and be honest about the exercises and tasks. I’m not a particularly religious man but bless you both for helping humanity.
His book is great - the most useful element is that his activities work to help readers make the shift right away. This book along with Maxwell Maltz's book are two must reads. Along with a couple of others. Yet Burns' Feeling Good and Psycho-Cybernetics can literally save readers thousands of dollars in medical costs in my humble experience.
As A Man Thinketh by James Allen is another great book as well!
This has helped me so much. Public speaking has been one of my biggest fears of all time, and now after watching this video, I feel like I might just be able to overcome those fears! Thank you!
Crazy how this video gets put out now. I literally just started using his book a few days ago
Cool!
Do you know if Feeling Great includes the exercises? Or do I need to buy the workbook too?
@@DrCJones I actually started the previous book Feeling Good but now I ordered Feeling Great so I’m not sure
Feeling Great was the best book I ever bought. The things in there, most importantly positive reframing (page 225-227 especially). Each emotion we feel has distinct positives and shows us key things about our values and beliefs. 100% recommend this book.
Mushrooms containing psilocybin saved my life. They aided my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quit illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would’ve become medically dangerous to quit. It has also helped me survive depression.
The Trips I've been having really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
@Sophia Edith I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across *dr.jeromespore* a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
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@@ohmakure4716 I feel the same way too. I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be a part of this community.
I purchased the book on feeling good and started the work..... What a great difference already! Thank you Burns!
I like his take on anxiety and facing your fear. But what if youre not sure what your fear is? Sometimes anxiety can come out of nowhere and you dont even know what you're scared of
Keep a journal, write things down and maybe you will find a pattern that could help you to find the root cause. I wish you all the best.
For me it’s been eating very clean, supplements, exercise and facing things you need to fix in your personal life that you’ve been avoiding. I believe anxiety/depression is how our bodies scream to us for help. I was continually neglecting mine nutritionally
If you suffer anxiety but you don't remember what causes it, its because you're sufferege the fear of having fear. Thsts it. Fear of the symptoms. Walk through them with no resistance. Feel them. They are no danger to you. They are just uncomfortable
Often times anxiety is caused by something you’re avoiding that you know you shouldn’t avoid.
@@anpowicasa4477 its very important point that you mention. This is the case for me
Thank you for the useful video. I want to share my result. my son had depression amid numerous stresses, we went to the clinic, he was lying, prescribed antidepressants, but unfortunately day by day he was getting worse, he was prescribed other antidepressants, he was worse, walked like a zombie, it was painful to look like a smart guy, handsome and suddenly it turns into something. I was advised to give him cellular nutrition and after a month he recovered! About a year has passed and everything is in order, the depression has not returned. Cellular nutrition is a great thing !!!
What is cellular nutrition? I haven’t heard of it before.
Tom, do you grasp how much you are influencing the quantum every time someone walks away and makes a positive change that influences not only their lives, but everyone they come into contact with? Thank you for being you.
Feeling Good has helped me get out of the pit of depression several times over the past 25 years.
Omg i love David Burns, thank you for sharing ✨
My gosh I am so glad that I watch your show. Thank you for bringing Dr. David Burns. Thank you both😊
Thank you Dr Burns! I am going straight out and getting your book! I look forward to finally conquering my demons. Oh, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
Did it help
Tom...35 seconds in and I stopped the video and ordered his top 3 books...thanks a lot. Now I'll get back to the video
Amazing! He had me from the beginning negative thoughts- those were so accurate! Made me feel less alone 👌🏻👌🏻
It's so true..I have never experienced any type of anxiety or depression until I become a mother 2 years and half ago I started getting anxiety, panic attacks, fear 😨 of anything happening to my daughter etc..Finally I went to therapy started writing positive affirmation, change habits, breathing techniques...
What an incredible individual. It has given me a great insight into my own phobias, depression and anxiety.
i could imagine that post partum depression is also rooted in the thought that life has come to an inflection point and you are no more the center of your life and that your freedom of choice has ended in most parts..
Thank you Tom and Dr Burns! This was really incredible
Very useful information. In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
Tom I'm an avid fan, junkie if you will...but this beautieful GENTLE MANS interview so compelling. So many great ppl out there just gotta look for them and you Tom bring them to us all the time for free. I have bought so many books 📚 from your recommendations never dissapointed. I have learned so much from your show. Bye the way u look really healthy must b getting out in the 🌞
💘 love ur work.
This is excellent..... The part of the story about how he visuaised the negative speaking event also demonstrated the power of visualisation... Repeating a horrible visual in his head drew it into fruition...
Bought the book right away, thank you all. Keep up the good work Tom, your interviews are amazing as always!
Tom, I came to this because I wanted to learn more as I have read the book. This was such a great interview and it helped me understand more clearly the new method. Don’t hate me … I stopped listening to you when you first started as I felt you were “ talking to much” and I just wanted to hear what the guest had to say. You obviously have come a long way since then and I’m now a fan! Thank you from New Zealand 💞
This was awesome! Tom you are without a doubt the best interviewer I have ever heard. You always ask the questions that make the information crystal clear. You definitely have a knack for making even the most complicated and confusing subject relatable and understandable.
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Totally awesome. Thanks very much. BTW, your theories totally align with my life experience. One more confirmation of your truth. I will however say that exercise is a great temporary therapeutic tool for depression as well (you are generating your own pharma). But, for long term permanent change, David has nailed it. Please note that he did not focus on positive thinking so much as accurate, logical, fact based thinking. That's important because we cant nor should we always expect to be positive and the 'universe' doesn't have your back. You can do it on your own, with this technique. Why hasn't David won the Nobel prize?
Holy moly 😳😳😳 this made me want to be a psychiatrist. I love the minds in this 🌍
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I respect Dr Burns. ACT is also a new turn of the tide. I do see gut balance as making a huge shift as well.
This pairs well with the mindfulness workbook "The Days to Reduce Depression" by Harper Daniels.