5 BIGGEST TURN OFFS FOR MEN

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  • @Tomisinatobtele
    @Tomisinatobtele  11 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    For personal relationship advice GO HERE!! www.playersclubshow.com/store-1/p/private-relationship-question

  • @peke1822
    @peke1822 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +27

    1. Women that are demanding, you better suggest. Men like to feel like they are choosing.
    2. Keeping around other men. Don’t let him know about other men.
    3. Money hungry. Don’t focus on his money, focus on emotional connection and talk about the passion about his work. What part of his job does he like etc.
    4. Keeping tabs on him. You come across as desperate and as you don’t have a life because you’re appears checking on him.
    5. Being the first man that treats you right. If he’s the only one that is treating you well, you’re signaling that you’re not as valuable or desired by other men. He has to think that other men are chasing you.

    • @chewbaccazombie2489
      @chewbaccazombie2489 วันที่ผ่านมา

      he must not know about other men yet he has to think other men are chasing us? pls lmk how to do that. cuz i always stay away from dudes and they dont approach me either so i fear my bf will think im not desirable

  • @almondjoy6833
    @almondjoy6833 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +64

    Literally just went through this good video dating feels exhausting at this point

    • @coco8386
      @coco8386 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I know. You apparently have to somehow draw a crowd of 15 guys around you that you're NOT interested in, so that ONE stupid guy you do like will finally feel like it's "safe" to believe you're attractive. Which proves.... men can't think for themselves! And they're not really interested in women! They're only interested in what other men think!! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️. It IS exhausting....🙄🙄🤕🤕😶‍🌫️

    • @GrungeGalactica
      @GrungeGalactica 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Same, idk why I get sucked into vids like this; but it does confirm to me that choosing not to date makes so much more sense, than whatever logic men operate on.

  • @filmowczynia
    @filmowczynia 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +36

    Thanks! Your videos give a great insight into men's minds and the more I watch the more I'm convinced I shouldn't care about men at all. They're basically emotionally unstable as a default and they demand something unreal. And any time they're being given a proper treatment (honest, open-minded, opened to fun and communication, full of care) they're not able to be grateful towards it and end up being hateful or disrespectful. This is crazy, this is something I cannot agree to adjust to. But I think it's their loss.

    • @pilarq7886
      @pilarq7886 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      pleeze Be Prayed Up

    • @pilarq7886
      @pilarq7886 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      love your comment

  • @kendrar3072
    @kendrar3072 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +32

    I was once dating a man. One morning at breakfast I put my pizza leftovers from the night before in the microwave oven and when finished I sat down at the table ready to eat. He looks at me, snob as he was, and said with a arrogant voice " Huh? You cant eat pizza for breakfast. Thats just something you cant do"
    MEANWHILE he said this, he was making himself a sandwich; white flour bread, butter, cheese, ham and tomato 😂

    • @pilarq7886
      @pilarq7886 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      I'm so sorry... that's a narcissist! always instigating an argument!!
      RUN from these borderline UNTESTED psychopaths ⬅️... tbh it was the negative energies inside of him TRYING to call you out

    • @pilarq7886
      @pilarq7886 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      and anything you would have said he would use that against you.. safest answer is "whatever".

    • @Vovolove
      @Vovolove 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Run away from the guy!

    • @kendrar3072
      @kendrar3072 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @Vovolove Yes, I did leave him after 2 months. He then started messaging my sister! 😏 what a fool

    • @kendrar3072
      @kendrar3072 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@pilarq7886 I think you are right! Always these small comments. And he was also very cruel and unfair to one of his kids (he had 2).

  • @phoenixxfinancial
    @phoenixxfinancial 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    I'm just here for the comedic scenarios, illustrations and hypothetical what-ifs LOL .. Laughter for the soul!

  • @phoenixxfinancial
    @phoenixxfinancial 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    Number 3 took me out "How many Chanel Bags am I getting?" -- AND because it's funny that these men KNOW exactly what these / most women (that are attracted to them for their financial status) want -- BUT they still want those women to PRETEND to be focused on something else -- creating the "gamification" of the relationship.

  • @joninature
    @joninature 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +77

    this is great advice to not hurt his whittle baby feelings. men are sensitive, fragile and dumb. i appreciate you validating this with how to "handle" these whittle babies with widdle kiddie gloves.

    • @ailurophile4341
      @ailurophile4341 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Do you hate men?

    • @lisab6375
      @lisab6375 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      😂😂😂😂

    • @coriunfilteredd
      @coriunfilteredd 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      girl literally! a bunch of babies! ha

    • @SR77736
      @SR77736 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Exactly!! So fragile! I feel like a mom at this point my goodness

    • @sofiya90
      @sofiya90 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      🤣🤣🤣🤣LMFAO

  • @Eddyeden11
    @Eddyeden11 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

    Sometimes I can't believe I had a guy who told me where we were going to eat even though I told him I couldn't and didn't like that kind of food. I had to 'demand' he take me back home...😂

  • @annesobb1675
    @annesobb1675 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +24

    Résume: be too demanding, still be on contact with my ex, too demanding about money, be a detective by doing interviews control, tell him that the others men treated me badly

    • @kris.tal8216
      @kris.tal8216 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      Preface everything here with “Don’t be “
      1. Don’t be too demanding
      2. Don’t still be in contact with your ex
      3. Don’t be too demanding about money
      …..

    • @annesobb1675
      @annesobb1675 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @ no it’s the biggest turn OFF : !! So: « Being too demanding » is a turn off !! And « Not being too demanding » is a turn ON !!

    • @danaparfitt2491
      @danaparfitt2491 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​thx tips.@@kris.tal8216

  • @nadinelindsay3012
    @nadinelindsay3012 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +20

    I love your hypotheticals...

  • @Crystalclear0
    @Crystalclear0 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    Your videos are ALWAYS on point and ALWAYS so professional Tomi. So many things you speak about I've made these mistakes. 0_0

  • @nancybash1814
    @nancybash1814 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    The way you break it down 🫢😂

  • @maryelizabethkellerocallag4996
    @maryelizabethkellerocallag4996 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

    Aint nothin Fresh at Mickey Dees. Let Jesus take the wheel. Lolol

    • @ABC-jq7ve
      @ABC-jq7ve 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Consuming information on how to manipulate men is evil. You are a hypocrite.

    • @-._.-KRiS-._.-
      @-._.-KRiS-._.- 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

      @ABC-jq7ve We're learning about how men manipulate us, but thanks for playing.

  • @katiaantonova6949
    @katiaantonova6949 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Tomisin, the first part was especially helpful because it helped me figure out how to bring up waiting until marriage. I'll let the man steer and only bring it up when it's natural for both of us. I was hesitant about being too assertive by bringing it up on like the third date. Didn't want to do that. There's no set time
    Another gem video

  • @amgarza3766
    @amgarza3766 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    This will help me to get rid of a guy that I used “feminine energy” on, he’s a nice guy but turned out to be married 🙄 and now wont give up on me, says he is in love with me.

    • @kimt8162
      @kimt8162 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      Oh, no. Married. Leave, run. Even if he leaves his wife for you, it will be a messy divorce. Don't know if there are children involved. But, that makes you the bad guy in this situation even though he's being sneaky. He'll say well, I told you I was married. Just because he told you, doesn't mean that makes your situation any better. Think of yourself first.

    • @NoName-sp5dp
      @NoName-sp5dp 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@kimt8162I think she knows that… it looks like the married man is obsessed with her. Married men are stalkers too

    • @gkr8961
      @gkr8961 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      You will be labelized as a ... for a man that doesn’t deserve and play the lover with you, for you to accept this situation. Because he needs a girl that will not have enough selfrespect to accept this kind of situation 😂

    • @UberZambrotta8
      @UberZambrotta8 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Ofc he`ll say everything you want to hear. He wont be able to get away with his married man bs with most women out there

    • @hotgirlinbed
      @hotgirlinbed 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      As someone who’s gone through this , let me save you the embarrassment, self dignity, loosing respect, and etc. don’t do it. Someone who is marry, and a man with character wouldn’t do that. Not worth it. Trust me, you will suffer. Run girl , run far!

  • @Overlord_11235
    @Overlord_11235 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    Yayyyy another upload from my yt papa! Thank you for all your wisdom, Tomiiii 💗💗💗💗💗

  • @nataliawojtylak4858
    @nataliawojtylak4858 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

    i love your videos! so glad i found this channel 🥳 and the discord time is insane lmao

  • @heenanaaz3723
    @heenanaaz3723 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    Last one is actually scary coz what is i wasn't attractive before so no one was indeed interested in me and recently i had a glow up

    • @digthewarmth
      @digthewarmth 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Right, you can't let them know that it's a recent glow up, I guess?

    • @heenanaaz3723
      @heenanaaz3723 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @digthewarmth Noted! Thanks!

    • @findelka1810
      @findelka1810 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @heenanaaz3723 just pretend you’ve always been in demand! Better for your self-esteem and does he really need to know? Not necessarily! You don’t even have to explicitly lie about it, just vibe with queen energy and he’ll assume 😌

  • @Camillyahreal
    @Camillyahreal 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    Now I want a strawberry cheesecake🍓pie with fries from McDonald’s 😭

  • @Travelerofthesouth
    @Travelerofthesouth 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    The stick people 😂

  • @juliaverbij
    @juliaverbij 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    This video is sooooo good thank you

  • @lellowdlamini3305
    @lellowdlamini3305 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    Your videos are really great and funny at the same time..thankyou

  • @mattanderson6672
    @mattanderson6672 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Fantastic discussion
    Excellent analysis
    Thank you Sir

  • @TheOnlyPink
    @TheOnlyPink 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    14:00 😂😂😂 omg. I’ve never been #4 thank God

    • @DomUnique13
      @DomUnique13 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Me either, I could never…

  • @marcellam2406
    @marcellam2406 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    Jesus loves you and died on the cross so you can salvation through him before this world passes away. Acts 2:38 commands us to repent, be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ (not the titles) & receive the Holy Spirit. John 3:5 also states that we cannot enter into the kingdom of heaven without being born of the water and the spirit. First you must believe in Jesus who died for your sins (John 3:16). Find a church/community that baptizes in Jesus name and believes in the Holy Spirit

  • @the.rein-acted9682
    @the.rein-acted9682 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Yall talm bout he talking too much come on yall he do 45 min videos he gave us gems in half that im not complaining plus he funny

  • @Cornelia-g8w
    @Cornelia-g8w 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Love your shorter videos, much easier to follow!

  • @17.46
    @17.46 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Feeling so happy and calm every time there’s a new upload😍 trying hard not to be sending out desperate Tomiii vibes 🥵😉😝

    • @qwyt_9778
      @qwyt_9778 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Girl what😂

  • @lisadoe6568
    @lisadoe6568 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    You crack me up!

  • @JaineStarks
    @JaineStarks 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Barren wasteland…🤭😁🤣

  • @michellelong5081
    @michellelong5081 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I have definitely came on too strong back in the day for no reason and the guy questioned me as a result!

  • @nganstoppable
    @nganstoppable 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    I have to talk to my ex because he's my baby daddy

    • @skyeseas
      @skyeseas 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      surely a reasonable exception. co-parenting is a great reason to be in contact with an ex. it’s any non-essential, ill-defined lingering attachment that creates unease in serious suitors.

  • @milenao4455
    @milenao4455 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Great video

  • @coraboswell3652
    @coraboswell3652 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    You are very much in your element just my type of man 😅❤

  • @Florida_gyrl
    @Florida_gyrl 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    What about men that do this to me - keeping tabs or come on too strong? Is that ok for a man to do it to a woman?

    • @findelka1810
      @findelka1810 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @Florida_gyrl it depends how uncomfortable they make you feel about it. Men are territorial, so it’s somewhat natural that they feel they want to keep other suitors away from you. If it gets cringy, it gets cringy though. You have to use discernment 😌

  • @Florida_gyrl
    @Florida_gyrl 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    What if a man starts a conversation with me talking about his job?

    • @findelka1810
      @findelka1810 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @Florida_gyr It’s probably his way of showing off and trying to convince you he’s good enough for you.

    • @Florida_gyrl
      @Florida_gyrl วันที่ผ่านมา

      @ yeah well I do not like that guy. He is very unattractive and not just in physical looks. In other ways too.

  • @SR77736
    @SR77736 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Last guy i daywd was not emo intelligent and got defensice offen and didnt take emotional accountability. Had 2 let it go

  • @lovepeace1067
    @lovepeace1067 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Why is dating so hard 😕

  • @tolia.tolina
    @tolia.tolina 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Another topic: why men don't approach you

  • @bindicat9070
    @bindicat9070 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Is your channel for the younger people?

    • @jeanettethoretz779
      @jeanettethoretz779 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Sounds like it!

    • @_lizmc
      @_lizmc 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      He says typically not if under 21

    • @HotSauceLeadFree
      @HotSauceLeadFree 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      No he just uses simple anecdotes to explain the strategies - basically shows application in action

    • @mwuahahahahaa
      @mwuahahahahaa 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      nah

    • @ABC-jq7ve
      @ABC-jq7ve 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      No it’s for 21 and up. It’s just that his main audience is uneducated and struggles with comprehension and he needs to spell everything out literally

  • @tranquilgiftsonline
    @tranquilgiftsonline 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    McDonald's is a bad example

    • @opaldl2734
      @opaldl2734 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      It was actually good - just switch out the restaurant name!!! We’ve all been in this situation: wanting a man to lead & he makes a poor choice!

  • @f.m.8999
    @f.m.8999 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Idk i only see arms

  • @GoGogo-h3j
    @GoGogo-h3j 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +100

    Everything is good except you talking too much i wish you summarize

    • @len974
      @len974 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +76

      Idk, I like the in depth descriptions. I would say though it's very helpful when people add time stamps of each scenario/situation

    • @GoGogo-h3j
      @GoGogo-h3j 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

      Followers will keep watching if the videos are short.

    • @tarshagreene4661
      @tarshagreene4661 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +51

      I like him explaining and using different analogies😊

    • @pundoorasbox7485
      @pundoorasbox7485 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +41

      I know what you mean- I’m a bullet point person too. But his explaining so much is very helpful to a lot of people. And some people really do need things literally spelled out lol

    • @Abena1709
      @Abena1709 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +42

      @@GoGogo-h3j nope. Many of us will keep watching because of the depths of his explanations, his humour and just genuine take on things.
      This might not be the channel for *you* and that's okay. Don't assume that others share your sentiments because I for one don't.

  • @nyamuochpaul4279
    @nyamuochpaul4279 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    #11 ❤

  • @deardralashay3013
    @deardralashay3013 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    🤣🤣🤣

  • @oonaghmcgrath2935
    @oonaghmcgrath2935 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    He talks far too much. Takes so long I often give up

    • @myafreeton9431
      @myafreeton9431 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@oonaghmcgrath2935 weird...perhaps he used feminine charm or whatnot on you, because clearly you haven't stopped watching his channel. This guy must really know his stuff, gets ppl hooked, even if they're "annoyed". Hmm

    • @pilarq7886
      @pilarq7886 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      top right hand corner flower icon, then click playback and choose faster speed

    • @Whatudoing2dayMercy
      @Whatudoing2dayMercy 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@pilarq7886thank youuu 😂❤

    • @pilarq7886
      @pilarq7886 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      or if you're a super speed reader like me, you can read the transcript as fast as you want. it is a wonderful channel with lots of truths

    • @oonaghmcgrath2935
      @oonaghmcgrath2935 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @kaemkam1 thanks I will do that. I like his content but he overdoes the explanations of everything

  • @julkaasmr1768
    @julkaasmr1768 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    ❤❤❤

  • @crystalserrant5915
    @crystalserrant5915 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    😇💯

  • @nurseannesinspirationalwellnes
    @nurseannesinspirationalwellnes 11 วันที่ผ่านมา