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I would rather get played by the rich guy 😂

Thank you, I recently lost my oldest brother last month. I feel he wanted to say the exact same thing to me at some point.

1.13.59 Love this chick. Preach it girl.

This video got me 😂😂😂 🤣 you had me gone with the Instagram story 😂

Your videos have literally changed who I am as a person, and they work.. Thank you for your knowledge and sharing🫶🏼

I was in a “FinDom” relationship and it was the most beautiful and DEEP experience I ever had. I never felt so cared for in my life and I never saw a man so happy.I literately felt my soul tying to him. “FinDom” is the DEEPEST connection I’ve ever seen in my life

Wait women still fall for these men?

Tomisin, I am 33 and have two children. I’ve been listening to you religiously because I want to be opened to dating. This trophy wife video you shared is so eye opening. Thank you for the wonderful work you do.

Yay! New vid

Omg I love Tomisin SOOO MUCH!! 💯🥰❤

When guys say on dating profiles “no drama” Run! Huge red flag (It means he has enough drama in his own life to have any empathy or understanding for you). Usually people say they’re not exactly what they are but wish they weren’t “I’m not a monster” said by someone who literally was like a monster in my life “I’m not a mooch” literally by someone who says his currency is people and what they can do for him if he’s nice to them. Also, he mooched a bit off me too but confuses you into thinking that’s not at all what he’s doing (also doesn’t have a job) “I’m not a player” “I’m not a bad guy” “I’m not lazy” Etc etc etc If they say they’re not something, it’s exactly what they are.

You’re so funny 😂😂😂 omg hahahaha ily❤

Deep lessons 💯 👌🏾 🤔

These videos are great - I love your sense of humor!

This man is highly emotionally intelligent.

good advise ❤

Not the Eiffel Tower in Italy😂. That would be the perfect combo. Great example of women’s thinking. Wish I had seen a video like this when I was younger so I wouldn’t have gone through the things that I had gone through. I was very naive and my boomer dad had a talk with me but it was so surface level that I didn’t understand. 😩 Really wish he could have explained it like this. It would have spared me years of trauma and mental abuse.

Came for the advice, stayed for the geography lesson.

:20 - 13:22 is really what i needed

Tomisin I listen to your videos several times a week while I work. Make more of these! Love your advice.

Wow this is the most realest advice I’ve heard from a man.

I've never met any men who says hes a traditional man and wants to spoil his woman unless he is a moroccan/Nigerian scammer. They are all feminists and want 'strong independent women'. I still got them to spend some money but they are very rare

the example at the football game seems too obvious that she wants him to get her a new bag, hahhaha is it not the same as asking for money? also when you say to show that we appreciate it, I think I do that but I try to not sound like too grateful for small things, but I don't know it is kind of hard to find a balance on how to be grateful but not too grateful

As a visual learner, I appreciate this channel ❤

I'm really good at this strategy except when my husband talks about being done with our relationship when I do something that makes him really upset. I'm afraid he will leave because he provides everything for me and my son. I always cave and ask how I can make things better lol. I need to literally say okay we're done and then he will stop doing that. So annoying.

Lol tomisin’s spelling sometimes is just atrocious, thanks for the message though

LOL I am listening, good advice, but the ways you go about, make me laugh, ❤😊laughter good medicine 💊, Thanks ❤😊

This is a great explanation. I think sometimes it can be difficult to be emotionless and mostly selfish, maybe due to conditioning and nature, but it seems like this is the best way to be on the same page as men.

I think the admins should get free questions because they work monday-friday. Like MissyAmerixa she is here every live and you make all the money. Thats not fair

I wanna see a movie based on women watching this video and taking it to heart. I saw it in my head. Women on a cafe patio overlooking their favorite beach, talking about a guy one of them is googoo over. She talks of how hot he was. Big dyed blonde stripper looking dude standing in front of her leaning over her, looking all exotic (she's a black girl, obviously) and talking to her in an overtly sexual growling whisper. She comes back to reality from that memory and her friends are laughing, "Yeah, but how does that fit into your life." She imagines him coming to a family gathering for an afternoon, still dressed in leather and talking that way.

No man, no trouble. 😅

The Eiffel towers in Paris.

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Pretty Words: Had to comment on the last young lady.... your ex boyfriend is in trasition he is not stable in his career ( LIFESTYLE as vetting tool) building career stage can be a vunerable time for a relationship. A new career is the worse time to start new relationship often will get used till he has no more time. She said he chose her for a life partnership and kids he didnt choose you for his family he didnt ask you to marry or get engaged be mindful.... Stop letting men waste your time getting you bonded falling in love only to drop you... until he is serious with engagement/a stable married life stay detached options open. Make men wait till he is ready fully! Focus on yourself until he can give you the level of commitment you desire. Date others let the best man win...no dead-end exclusivity,no nooky ,no falling in love , no babies, no moving in, no buying real estate-now she has to waste months or years detaching from a dude that was never serious he let you go effortlessly..... Your terms next time. In ancient cultures the women are valuable and protected from this behavior....Avoidants often do wait about a year then drop hes a Future Faker pretending to make you wifey saying you are my wife , even met your dad, then poof effortlessly...Careful.

Finally a man that will tell me what I'm doing wrong.

Hey

Sorry tomisin..from my experiences I can say that, the man who spend money for his woman is a different breed of man, who has good raring from his family, his dad treated his mom well,also he is extremly loyal kind of man who ll spend money for his woman even without asking.because he doesnt have the intention to switch to other relationships. If u cant find that type of guy, its impossible to make him pay for u with these dramas. Maybe once or twice these tricks gonna work, but u cant do actings forever.life is hard, sometimes u can get sick and u need ur partner to pay for ur well being. U might not have energies to do this kind of acting at that time. Girls,Instead of these actings, choose ur long time partner wisely. Avoid stingy and cheap men. Find a loyal empathetic person who is worth to spend ur time and energy with.build up a win-win relationship with him because he deserves that as well.

There are lots of Italians in Paris and France. I’m sure they have the same moves!😂

This is healing for me. My father never told me these things, mostly because I never felt safe talking about relationships to him. What I know about relationships now is from painful experience, so I'm thankful there are men like you being dads and big brothers to girls who need them like us. ❤

Ugh... Watching this after making these mistakes this year 😂 better late than never

god this would've been so helpful in 2019 learned all these the hard way but reminders like these are always appreciated <3

Simple formula ladies do work nd business and live happily single life .

the Eiffel tower isn't in Italy tho lol

Eiffel Tower in Italy just killed me

I’m a 18yo guy watching this to help improve and be the best I can for a purposeful relationship. There are a stikingly large amount of guys who are like this but it’s often the ones who haven’t been in a serious relationship like myself that are “different” and aren’t like the standards in this video. I don’t mean to generalize like the video but it’s often women in the first couple relationships that change men’s mindset and behavior towards women in later relationships. Be patient and understanding to give the novices a chance.

So the more toxic a relation is more adictive, that not something good, You can't grow in that environment, yes, a lots of people think that is love, but that is sickness, and people like it because humanos are VERY mentaly ill

I have enjoyed listening to your lecture brethren. God bless you 🙏

I don't remember my parents explicitly teaching me these things, but I feel like I've always known them. It seems like common sense, expectations management, and asking yourself what his cost/risk/benefits are.

I'm just going to be me and keep my legs closed and my eye on the prize. Ain't got time for games.

Mmmm I never begin a relationship with the Long term relationship expectation in mind ( I don't care about it), I'm just take it like a good time with someone I like spend time with, so I developed a strong friendship relations with them and they always want to stay, i never ask "what are we?" That is so stupid, Is boring playing that games, like try to calculate every move and how to act and all that stuff, it's very tired... You just have to work on yourself, like yourself, and enjoy the time with the person you like, learn about him, teaching what you know, and relax... That will grow for sure.