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- Narcissists are complex individuals navigating their own internal struggles. Today we will be discussing narcissistic behavior and shed light on 7 things narcissists hate.
If you're dealing with narcissistic personalities or navigating narcissistic abuse, this video is a must-watch! Discover the things that narcissists hate and gain valuable insights into their behavior.
Explore key topics such as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and unravel the triggers that can set off a narcissist.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).. What is it? • Narcissistic Personali...
6 Truths Empaths Need to Realize About Narcissists • 6 Truths Empaths Need ...
DISCLAIMER: This is made for educational purposes. Do not diagnose yourself or others. Seek out to a mental health professional to support you further.
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Writer: Charlotte
Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: Kayla Ramirez
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Have you ever been in love with a narcissist?
No
Ye
No, and I'm now cautious about it ❤
Mostly Handsome Boys and Beautiful Girls are Narcissists since they are entitled about their Appearance 😅
I am one lolz
Last year I was dating a narcissistic woman that eventually isolated me from my friends and I went along with whatever they did, until the day I started saying no and disagreeing with them, sticking up for myself etc. I’ve been away from that person for over a year now but I feel I’m still recovering from that experience.
Good for you for sticking up for yourself. Those experiences can creates some heavy wounds inside our hearts. Be forgiving and loving to yourself ❤
@@guidedbysunshine333 Thank you for your kind words 🙂
I had a narcissistic 'situationship' for only half a year, but it took me years to overcome.. Because something in me was wrong that I got engaged with her. It had to do with my rather narc mother, and after I'd found that out, it completely changed my life.
Same, but my ex was calling ME the narcissist. I broke up with him almost 5 months ago. He became obsessed or smth like that, encouraged his mentally ill friend to stalk me with fake profiles bc i already blocked her, and contacted my friends. They say he's calling me a goddess, although he's an atheist. It was a really unhealthy relationship. Making me feel uncomfortable every day, but as soon as i dared to say no to something, i was the reason he was gonna kermit sewerslide. Even attacked and blamed me verbally as soon as i came out as an SA victim to 1of my friends (he made me do things i even told him at the beginning of our relationship i didn't wanna do bc of religion and other reasons) bc she confronted him. I dont want to hate anybody, but he makes it hard to do so. I dont want to tell anybody anymore bc I'm still underaged and can't report him myself anyways
can i have at least one unique experience in my life, bro you described exactly the relationship i had with someone like 7 months ago 💀💀💀
00:28 Being told no
01:08 Criticism
01:46 Losing Control
02:35 Others being happy
03:05 Being called out
03:46 Feeling vulnerable
04:08 Losing the limelight
thank you
Thank you! cuz her voice kind a irritates me 😢
are all the people in this world narcissist, cause everyone hates no.
everyone hates criticism.
@@hamra3823bro how her voice is so soothing and calm 😭😭
I see you met my sister then... 🤔😂 She is a horrible person and every time she rang up to speak to me my heart and soul became heavy because I knew she'd been drinking and would verbally abuse me or rant about her life. She didn't care about my life, just hers... 😑
2:35 "Narcissists are insecure" The ultimate paradox of a narcissist is the fact that they both think highly of themselves but are also insecure and doubting themselves.
Yes this the one this is why I give my man compliments tell him he looks good so he doesn't feel insecure
They be the first one calling someone else insecure 😂😂😂 it's toxic
That's weird
I've never seen myself as higher than anybody!
Then what am I??
@@Khush-iy3tv A non narcissist.
I find the best way for me to wrap my head around this is to realize that they literally have the emotional maturity and stage of development of a ~4 year old
Imagine being stuck in a family full of them.
Yeah, I know the feel. I'm still a mess because of that
I have a narcissistic father. One is more than enough to worry me. & because of my constant interaction with him, whatever I do and how I talk to my other family members & friends, I finally realized that I was slowly becoming like him, which still disgusts me to the point I couldn't forgive myself. I seriously hate myself for what I had become.
The moment I had my first full time job, I finally took the initiative to leave my house for good & live on my own. I never felt happier & more free ever since. Thanks to that, my father's influence started to slowly fade away, but those remnants & trauma still remain.
My sister in law, the entirety of her mother's side are pretty much generational narcissists and the only reason she's not is because of her father being a big part of her life. Her mother was cruel and downright evil at times to her. She also had a couple of boyfriends who were narcissists. She's suffered a lot of manipulation from all these people, but she's cut all the bad ones out and now she's doing a lot better! It was tough though.
@@MerihemXx Boy, she sounded like what me, my sister & my mom went through, but much luckier.
Real, worst feeling fr :(
Sadly. No contact is the best way to deal with a narcissist and narcissistic abuse. As sad as it sounds and it is. This is forever! Do not get romantically involved with a narcissist. No one, and I mean no one, can love them enough. They will destroy you and everything you love and then leave you with the rubble.
They are always in need of shiney new supplies of adoration.
Can confirm, couple of my relatives have this and because of them I have had moments of living hell in my life
i feel you, they're like vampires that suck the life out of people, worst part is we'll never know if the person we cross paths is one until we become friends/have any kind of deep relationship with them
If they're someone you meet constantly, no contact is hard, and also would trigger the last trait. They would notice that you ignore them, and started picking on you, singling you out and trying to get your attention. If you keep the no contact behaviour, they'll get mad and start spreading rumors about you to others.
@somebodyoutthere if you can remember this, Any response is supply for them. Even negative response is supply. It lests the narcissist know you are still in the game with them. What ever they say is not true. Your friends, the people who care about you, will know this. I understand hiw hard it is, I still ser my abuser. It was hard to accept that by replying to him, I was giving him the attention he wanted, like a child having a temper tantrum. If you can manage it, remember what is safest for you. That is All That Matters.
We destroy you and leave you?? Dude we also need love and care and when we can't find it we become like this but it doesn't mean we don't deserve it. When we find the correct person for ourselves then we truly admire them. We just want someone who is emotionally mature nothing else but sadly most people are dumb and can't even control their emotions
Saying “no” to my ex made her breakdown in tears and she’d throw a temper tantrum like a child. It was quite the spectacle.
My ex-girlfriend was like that, too. Therefore I decided to split up with her.
Sad thing is this is a ploy used by the NPD and with many people will think, oh they got so upset they must really love me. It is all simply manipulation.
Oh do I understand spectacles!! Lol My brother in law has been a heavy drinker for 40 + years. He is a narcissist one thousand percent!! He also has fits when told no. It's so sad to see a man in his 50's have a tantrum like a toddler. 🤔
Being told "stop feeling sorry for yourself"
"Stop playing the victim"
THIS. I've been trying to tell about my problems to my ex which wasn't even denying that she may be a narcissist, yet the response I was hit with every time was "we all have problems right now, don't try to steal the limelight". the only thing I was trying to do is to cope with my own problems and find a tiny bit of emotional support
It's so sad how narcissistic people will abuse language, saying things that are technically true but not applicable to a situation. Like yes people can do that, but wanting to just talk out your personal issues is not a bad thing at all.
The golden rule is completely lost on them I guess.
But what if they're pessimistic or they are the victim and no one believes them?
I've always heard this from people who they themselves make me the bad guy😅
@@kaiserlox Ever thought about counseling. It's better than worrying whether one party or the other admits to or denies be a narcissist. Who are we to attach that label? Or accept it from someone else? That solves nothing.
They really hate criticism because it challenges their inflated self-image. They need constant praise to feel good about themselves, hence why they get so defensive and hostile whenever someone says anything that threatens their fragile ego. It’s like you can compliment them all day, but when there’s one feedback you make about them that they don’t agree with, they lose their cool and act like it’s the end of the world, and they’ll even make you feel bad for making that comment.
It's walking on egg shells permanently, with narcissists..
My mother is narcissistic and also has OCD, What should I even do ?
@@percy.garou1001 How old are you? Are you just a teenager trying to diagnose your mother or is she actually diagnosed with those?
If you are old enough and she's actually diagnosed then cut your ties with her. This advice is from my friend's personal experience but idk.
If you are just a teenager and you don't know if they're actually diagnosed or not-- then I suggest to stop watching these videos. Trying to be an expert psychologist when you aren't will only lead to bad consequences
Yes I’m a narcissist
I noticed that even "percieved" criticism can also send a narc into a rage!! ☹😩
Imagine a Narcissist watching this video
lol
I am a narcissist
Yeah
You know they should but they'll hate it
The dr.emerald8844 said in a separate comment, 'thanks for making me angry'.
If he deletes his reply it said, ' I am a narcissist'.
@@lsrasrhahaha
I’ve had a lot of experience with narcissists and personally for me one of the first red flags is a lack of gratitude. When you help them out or do them a favour they don’t say thank you or show appreciation like the average person does. They just seem to expect it. It’s a tiny thing but it’s a pattern I’ve noticed.
Well, from my recent experience, some narcissists do know about gratitude & how to say thanks the proper way. But that is still not enough to make up for all the crimes they did.
I have a question! Do you help people with the intentions of expecting a thank you or you help them because you want to help them? Sorry if this sounds rude, I was curious about the “average person”
@@Silencer796 Good question, it depends on the person doing so. Their objective can be either one or both.
For me, it's basically for the sake of helping them, but not all the time. Just help out a bit is already enough for me, save the energy for yourself, don't let them get too dependent on you. Also, be wise about who you're helping since any one can be narcissists and you don't even know it.
@@wayneshobbygalleryThey know how to fake gratitude because it suits them to he seen being grateful at that time. That doesn't mean they actually feel it.
@@ky7299 You have a point there, since narcissists are experts in acting & manipulation to suit their own agenda.
I needed this. I just set a boundary. And now I’m the bad guy.
Me too
Screw society
that’s why boundaries are important, if my partner wants space and give it. My parter not feeling the mood, let them sleep alone.
Setting them is scary, it is important for us.
When misery loves company it is better to draw boundaries.
That's fine...think of Mother Gothel: "You want me to be the bad guy? Fine...now I'm the bad guy." 😊
Narcissistic parents are by far the worst, because you can't say no, and you can't set boundaries. When a narcissist is truly in control, it's a scary thing.
You are correct and teens are most at risk. They need to know how to manage while they have to be there. There needs to be more education in schools.
It depends on how old you are. If you're an adult it's ok to say no. If not you should probably listen to them. They definitely know more than you, whether you know it or want to admit it.
@@LeahcimKennel Uh, my father HAS narcissistic personality disorder my friend. I know exactly what it's like. I have children and grandchildren. Please don't assume things because you know they say...
@@tomkurowski8443 again the statement that you made that I challenge is "you should probably listen to them. They know more than you." Let me clarify my background. My mother had NPD and abused my sister with autism severely. Truth is my mother was ashamed of her and would have rather her be dead and almost made that happen. My aunt, my mothers sister also an NPD attempted to drown my cousin in the tub, but was discovered and the child removed from her care. I was also a nurse for 30 plus years working on a secure unit where the majority had NPD. I have seen and read about the very serious harm they are capable of. To advise a child to "listen" for safety until they can leave is fair. To advise a child to listen because their parent with NPD "knows more than them" and between the lines suggest they may have their best interest in mind is dangerous and may be dismissive of the reality. Maybe in your family the danger was less, but in other homes there is very real risk of harm. They need to speak to a safe person of their concerns. We have in the news a story of a mother/influencer who abused her children and is now in jail. Watching that story was a flashback to my childhood. The need to be seen as a perfect parent at the same time abusing her children. This is how the NPD is.
Ruby Franke is an example of a mother with NPD, now in jail after the abuse of her 12 year old son was discovered. This woman had a public personality of the "perfect" mom. It was false and a facade like so many with NPD create. The big problem with the way NPDs function is they are social, friendly, present as kind caring people to the outside world, but are nothing like that in reality. There are many other situations just like this that have not been made public yet. Those children in those situations will be scarred for life from this kind of abuse. If you are a child in this situation reach out to a trusted person.
I once told a narcissist, "Yeah, but that's just a matter of opinion, and nobody cares about yours". You should have been there; the meltdown was legendary!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
He's avoided me ever since. 😁👍
And how did you know this person was a narcissist? Is this confirmed or are you making unfounded claims about someone having narcissism because they treated you badly?
Or maybe they just got pissed of by your trolling? That's usually normal
I'll admit: there's nothing I hate more than being criticized. It's mostly because I hate being told what I did wrong. It just make me feel worst about myself. However, I don't mind being vulnerable because... how am I supposed to let others know I feel? Overall, I have days when I'm ashamed to be a narcissist.
how you are supose to evolve if not knowing what you did wrong? I LOVE when ppl has a hint about what might be setting me back or even something i did that they dont like.
SOMETIMES ppl are no compatible and sometimes a few adjustments can be done.
Why should you feel ashamed for being a narcissist? But better to have control over your actions while taking psychological support.
just because not liking criticism is a narcissistic trait doesn't mean you're automatically narcissistic, it's actually very common to get hurt or not like criticism specially when people seem to point it out even if you already know it yourself
to know if a person is narcissistic is if they have all or most of the traits that make them a narcissist
just remember that if you empathize, sympathize well and consider other peoples thoughts and feelings most of the time then you're not narcissistic
@@wolfyblue oh, okay. I understand. Thank you.
I don't like being criticized either, but it depends on the situation. I certainly can admit when I'm wrong and I'll make up for messing up. But there are two types of people that push my buttons. People in a position of power (because of trauma) and people who have no idea what they're talking about but still think they know better. I don't claim to know everything, but I expect some level or constructive criticism so I can improve. If they criticize me because they themselves are absolutely incompetent, there's no way I could ever take them seriously.
unfortunately, i was “raised” by one. thankfully, i know all the signs & know exactly what to avoid in a partner. it’s just wild how you can literally be caught with your pants down & still deny it & gaslight people into thinking they‘re stupid & blind.
I can add one more. *When they don't get the kind of reaction they're expecting from you.* When they're expecting you to react with anger when they're pushing your limits, but you keep your calm and don't go down to their level but keep the focus on the matter. When they're doing something "for you" but you're not expressing gratefulness as loudly to as many people as they expected. When they're expecting you to feel all depressed and like you can't get over the argument, but you just keep living your life and focus on the things that make you happy instead. So on.
Completely fits a few people I've known in my life, including a sibling that I've cut contact with for a few years now.. *Ban these people out of your life, folks.* And knock on the door of a psychologist if needed.
Thank you for raising awareness!
Excellent and correct advice. Many will struggle with this and feel guilt for breaking contact. That is dangerous and if you feel that way you are being manipulated. They know full well what they do.
They get so confused and angry when they realize you're NOT jealous of them.
They're actually jealous of you
OmmiGawWd! You said it!
😂true story
Another thing that a narcissist absolutely hated isn't being ignored. They have to be in such control over someone that to feel superior to them, that if that person was to start ignoring the narcissist, they start feeling like they are losing their control over that person and start getting fed up
Exactly, I'm both this guy who ignores them and the guy who they thought threatened their spotlight. Sure enough they tried to convince me how cocky I am and started telling others that I'm such and such.
Complete no contact is the only way to get your peace of mind.. Even from your own family members...
My best friends baby daddy is a narcissist, and only ever goes to therapy not for himself but to learn how to manipulate her better or at least that’s how it feels.
Thanks Psyc2go I told some narcissistic people no and stood my ground unfortunately after that I received silent treatment , gossiping behind my back , scapegoated , my goals sabotaged .
I’m there right now at work.
That's key. The enemy doesn't attack what isn't worth being attacked. If they are doing that to you and all you did was stand up for yourself, you must have struck a chord, not just a few notes. Its a win-win, be ready for when they tell you with their actions, "i've changed, look how good i'm being so i can manipulate you 7 times worse this time." Stand your ground like a general in a war, and you'll see them self-sabotage until they destroy their own life, Not Yours. God Bless Y'all.
Parents were narcistic and i caught myself drifting down that same path. When you have a dead branch and don't want the tree to die, you prune it off. Sucks, and it hurts. Though, if it's already dead, why keep it. No amount of sunlight can bring back a dead branch, realistically speaking. These people you deal with with these tendencies didn't start doing it last week; they started when they were born.
I was narcissistic as a coping mechanism especially towards women. I regret it a lot
Truth be told I was never given attention in my earlier years. I spent a chunk of my life around adults at a young age so I kind of "grew up fast". High school came around and I felt alienated and even when I tried to forge friendships, it just didn't work. I felt naturally rejected by everyone. So I kept telling myself that they're not worthy of my time and they're below me etc. Fast forward to now I've moved on from that thought process. But I hate myself a lot for doing that because it did mess up some friendships and a few relationships.
Now the reason towards women was because:
- My mother refused to acknowledge my existence for a while
- I was bullied by girls mostly
- When i did be my best self for a girl, they used me
In the present times I still feel resentment but I know that's wrong. Its something that'll take a long time to heal from
I just hope others out there can own up to the narcissism. This still haunts me
You were raised under conditions which made your decisions reasonable. You wanted to see value in you when no one else could. The two choices you saw were to believe or deny them. There are many good reasons you might want to see value in yourself: you recognize that you know what you're capable of and they don't, you understand they're only judging you based on very limited information including shallow details like your appearance, you have a fighting spirit and you don't want to stay down, you wouldn't want to fall into depression because you worry you'd let down yourself/those who raised you, etc.
Your supposed narcissism and misogyny are forgivable, especially given the fact that you've walked those choices back. Anyone can see humanity in that. There are people out there who go their whole lives without ever entertaining self-awareness, it gets harder each passing year you live as there's more you need to take accountability for. There are SO many people in their 40s-70s just now figuring out what a narcissist is before they choose to leave their marriage of THIRTY YEARS because they realize they've been severely hurt.
You're ahead of the curve. ❤ Your path to redemption was not guaranteed, but you made it possible. You've taken accountability, so continue to walk the path of self-improvement and you'll inevitably find happiness in redeeming yourself everyday by treating the next person better than the past you would have.
And remember:
We experience stress because we know we have to rise to the challenge to become our best selves.
We experience shame because we know we are capable of being greater.
We experience loneliness because we know we have to keep searching with our standards in mind.
We experience resentment because we know we deserve more than others give us.
There is good in all bad. The chaos of your past created you, and that is a blessing in itself~
@@snowarmth thank you for the kind words and support. It means a lot
I'm glad to see there's someone out there that understands
It doesn't take a genius to see you as you are. :3 Unfortunately, most people have an agenda when it comes to reading someone else, whether it be being bored, trying to sound smart, trying to point out a flaw of yours so they seem better than you, even supporting something they believe in like "guys should be stronger than girls", etc. The judgments that they make about you will always say something about them too, especially if it's a hasty assumption. It's important to try not to take anything personally, and instead, when someone says something about you, consider what you have done that could have led them to that conclusion. That's a quick route to find out how much is on you, and how much is on them~
Sorry, I'm naturally supportive. I'm thankful that you read my message, and I hope you have a nice day~
@snowarmth thank you for the insight.❤
Nope, you are absolutely not a narcissist. Believe me. A narcissist would never feel guilt or shame or regret. Everyone around them should feel those things, because they are weak and not as awesome as the narcissist. Feeling hurt makes you human, and vulnerable to a narcissist (so just be careful not to fall prey to one). You sound like a great person, God and strength and angels be with you!!
From This Video I just Realised i am a Narcissist person 😢 by a lot , and need to fix it but idk how
No need to feel ashamed but just meet a psychiatrist or a therapist 1st.
You need to see a psychiatrist or psychologist qualified to diagnose cluster B personality disorders. If you are positively diagnosed with NPD they will tell you how to proceed. But true narcissists very rarely acknowledge that they have a problem, in their minds it's always someone else's fault. So it is very likely that you just have some narcissistic traits (we all have them) and not full blown NPD.
很客观@@ky7299
Acknowledging the problem is the first step towards improvement.
If you suspect it, maybe looking for a psychologist might be a good idea.
Though it could be narcissism, maybe it’s another disorder. There’s a lot of overlapping symptoms between many of them, so stay open.
Lol same. It's rough. But people here are right therapy is good option.
Most psychologists remarked that many people are obsessed with controlling others.
Exactly, they're mostly stemmed from their parents who don't know how to teach their kids the proper, positive way.
If they came from rich people, they're either taught that money is more important, being pampered all the way or go fight for what they want by any means necessary.
If they either came from dysfunctional families or being raised in a terrible neighbourhood, you can expect them to think of ways to rebuild their self-esteem without proper guidance like violence, forcing others to do their bidding, etc.
It's sickening, I tell you. Those are a few of the major reasons why the world & society are so messed up.
@@wayneshobbygallery in my situation I grew up stable middle class, but my younger sister is a narcissist. A truly rotten person. My parents would always teach my siblings and I about having good moral and ethics but for some reason that didn't work with my sister. I would say the biggest mistake was my father was too scared to discipline her when she acted out a like a crazy maniac. I have always blamed him for being an enabler for her bad behavior. He was very passive when it came to handling her vs my younger brother and myself.
@@doctorx1924 Oh dear... I'm so sorry to hear that... 😢😢 I guess this proves that some narcissists are born naturally this way instead of being affected by external factors.
As someone who was a narc i can confirm this is true. i may show certain traits at times but it’s really more personality. what has helped me overcome this behavior is acknowledging this behavior through this channel, seeing myself less in the mirror, isolating myself from others, not taking criticism personally and having empathy
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You still are, personality disorders cannot be "healed". You have it for the rest of your life.
I am glad you are honest enough with yourself. Its a first step towards recovery. I applaud your effort, keep going. Of course if you have God & His word, it will help with the ultimate transformation.
@@melaniamelani682 huge difference between being narcissistic and having narcissistic personality disorder.
I think you just described me 😭 I'm so insecure. The only place where i can be open is online because people judging me here wont have any effect on real life
When I turned 50 I discovered that NO is a complete sentence that needs no explanation.
Needless to say people in my life are not happy about this.
Honestly, I've found this to be one of those toxic pseudo pop psych tips. Of course, you're not obligated to give anyone anything, but if you can't even give just even a basic explanation to people in your life (the ones that you want to have healthy relationships with), not strangers, sounds like dysfunctional communication style. I have no problem saying no, but I want others to understand why. You don't need a long winded explanation, but like, I'm sorry, I hate camping lol, I love nature but seem to really like this indoor plumbing thing, but thanks for inviting me.
@@GnomesRox
You do YOU, that's all I can really say .
I'm extremely uncomfortable in groups larger than say 4, and I hate small talk.
Everyone knows this I should not have a need to explain this to them on a regular basis.
@@GnomesRox
By the way, it wasn't a "tip", suggestion or anything of the sort.
It's simply what I do to not me manipulate by others!
I genuinely feel sorry for them. I wish there was a way to fix them for the sake of everyone.
Sadly no, Narcissism can't be cured persay. However, it is treatable. From what little I've been able to learn, it isn't too impossible to have someone with Narcissism be geared towards a more sympathetic or considerate leaning. Just as long as their narcissistic tendencies are regulated well, and if they themselves are willing to undergo treatment (this is often considered difficult to pull off unless done cleverly). I hear that it usually takes the right circumstances to deal with the matter, but it is a rare thing to pull off. It can also depend on just how narcissistic the person is, as well as the nature of it. Though, I'm sure there are other more educated people in the field of psychology who could better explain this process more than I could 😅.
@@2gredvisions8560Spot on. That is why so few get better and usually get worse.Treatable not curable. Requires self awareness constantly. And why would a narc get therapy for it when they’re ‘perfect’???
@@2gredvisions8560 My experience is that they can have cognitive empathy, so maybe they can learn certain behaviours in certain situations. But since it requires active thinking and will-power, and does not come naturally or reflexively, cognitive empathy and consideration will depend on how the narcissists feel in general at the moment.
@@starflyer3219 Thanks for providing more information on this topic 😁. I have mentioned that it often requires the narcissist (or specifically people with NPD) themselves to be willing to undergo treatment, but I'm aware that it must be quite tricky to pull off. I have heard that some psychiatrists had to use clever tactics or methods on narcissists to have them consider their own actions more critically as long as they believe that such introspection was their own. Although I'm not entirely sure how true that method is 😅. But clearly the goal is to have those traits of their's filtered and geared towards a more empathetic leaning. If it's possible that is.
Thank you for this video it describes my son exactly, sadly our relationship is over as it started to destroy my mental health. Keep strong everyone you are not alone in this, it's not your fault.
Glad to see another parent on here.hugs
Who raised him?
This could really have been worded differently. It's not like every person with narcissism chose to become the way they are or even want it. I used to have a friend who was diagnosed with narcissism, somewhat against his wishes, and it really fucked up his life. At first he refused to believe it but he eventually turned into an isolated wreck when he really understood what a shitty person he was being towards everybody else. Thinking there was nothing he could do about it, he started isolating himself away from everyone he knew and became self-destructive, depressed and hopeless. Idk how he's doing today but I can't imagine watching this video label and vilify him even further would help.
This isn't saying people chose to be narcissistic. It is saying how narcissists see the world. And narcissists like all people have a degree of choice about their behaviour, even if the compulsions are stronger for them.to.the norm.
There is an important need to educate about this disorder. There are paths for those with NPD, THERAPY and that means they must accept that they have NPD. Ever single NPD I have known knows the terrible things they do, BUT, they like doing terrible things to others, it brings them pleasure. You will understand when you see an NPD with a strange smirk on their face as they gaslight someone or as they say hateful things to someone to pull them down. Honestly any further consideration of their feelings is foolish. Unchecked they hurt others, they do not get care and compassion. They are dangerous. The teenagers I have known who killed themselves BECAUSE they had a parent with NPD is criminal. No contact, boundarys, no expression, do not be manipulated......this is the ONLY way to respond to an NPD. If not you will be hurt, damaged and that will harm you.
So very sorry about your friend. People with Narcissism needs deliverance. A lot of people don’t realize that. You can actually see when they are taken over by that demonic spirit. At the same time you have to want to change. Admit that you need deliverance before you can be helped. But it’s a diabolical wicked spirit that takes over a person. Especially through trauma and rejection or a over controlling parent. Sad but true.
Here is the reality. When you show care and concern, or empathy towards an NPD you open yourself to emotional injury. The majority of people are kind caring people but this opens then to SIGNIFICANT INJURY. That injury can be severe and damage you. I want to spread the word, i want there to be education. Is it sad that people have NPD, YES. If it can be avoided great, BUT until that happens we MUST limit the injury this causes. ALSO the truth is that the NPD does not care that they hurt another person, they are not confused as they say hurtful things, in the moment they get a high from seeing the hurt they inflict. They think they have more value than you and as such they can hurt you, this is how they view the world. That is why this is so difficult to treat. Unlike many with mental illnesses they do not lack control. They can act like the kindest, most charasmatic person in the world on public display, then moments later away from the eyes of the community tell their child or partner that they are nothing but a pile of sh!t and would be better off dead. This is what an NPD is like. The best advice if you must engage with one is to act like a stone, no emotion, do not engage or connect, if you do you will be hurt.
@@gb3776 please do not do this. It is dangerous to suggest the poor NPD is being used by an evil spirit. WRONG. They are not pocessed by an evil spirit. There is clear scientific evidence of how they come to be. Its a combination, like many mental health issues, of 60 percent genetics, 40 percent environment. People with education have reserched this. The issue is much of that research is not floating around on the internet. It is about cost of this research, not ideal but how it is. So you find the real information by going to a medical library with money to make copies. Plan on spending hours looking and reading. Your comment is dangerous and could lead someone to place themselves in real danger.
Started divorce with my Nac. The last 6 months before breakup it was like a war, because I said NO to many things. I got insulted and I shouldn't meet my family and friends...
So, I'm out of this!
Yep, thats my father
I thought maybe I'm narcissistic until watching this video
Only thing that matched me is not liking others being happy, which was true for me when I was depressed years ago. I just couldn't understand why people would let themselves smile in a world like this, when I even saw friendly smiles I thought of them as lies
lmfao nigga sounds like jealousy fix that
I had a friend who was a narcissist. Like out-of-the-blue he became incredibly hostile and accusatory. I realized after that there were a ton of manipulative tactics he used or small details in conversations that I hadn’t picked up on until afterwards. I’ll list them out for anyone who sees this comment
1. Compliment bombing: when someone gives an unusual amount of compliments, usually around the beginning of you and their relationship. While this doesn’t immediately mean that the person you’re talking to is a narcissist, it’s a good thing to look out for.
2. He would change stories about his own life or previous relationships to make himself seem like a victim. It can be easy to spot if their story changes a lot. They usually change their stories to make others look bad when evidence comes out against their story.
3. Passive aggression. Passive aggression is usually a sign when someone with poor communication skills is trying to communicate something to you, but with a narcissist it has a tone of annoyance and/or unmet expectations.
4. They explicitly (similar to passive aggression) expect certain things from you. For me, it was them expecting me to give them my time, or to respond to certain messages immediately, or expecting me to act a certain way. They also expected me to feel happy for them often, and got upset when I wasn’t giving them attention.
5. They lose/gain friends in a short timeframe. If you also find them blaming those people for their relationship collapsing, that’s a good sign they’re a narcissist. I don’t remember where I heard this, but it goes something like this: “If only one person hates you, they’re the asshole. If everybody seems to hate you, you’re the asshole.” Don’t take this to heart though, relationships are complex.
6. They set ultimatums. This ties into expectations. This is usually used as a tactic to put pressure on you to give them something they want.
7. They act like they deserve respect. This isn’t in a typical way, but in a very inflated way, such as viewing a lack of attention as disrespectful, other opinions as disrespectful, disagreement as disrespectful, etc. If they are obsessed with being respected, and have unrealistic definition of respect, they may be a narcissist.
There are other things I didn’t mention, the list is very long lol. But the best thing to do when a narcissist is combative is to be constructive. They like to use your own words against you, and by being combative they expect you to be combative back. Being on the offense will only hurt yourself. They’ll push your buttons until they get the response they want. So be constructive by saying things like “I understand, could you elaborate further?” “Let’s work on this together.” “I agree that we’re having issues.” And so on. Set your boundaries, try to understand what is going on. Being empathetic and constructive will help you understand if this person was just angry and hurt or if they are being manipulative.
Good stuff! Thanks!
The last one was spot on. I was recently working on this project from a group of students who were tasked to create a working management system. I get to receive A LOT of news (their progress are usually checked on a weekly basis) on how one of their member was claiming he did all of the work, bragged it to everyone how cool their system is, and more. He seemed happy and really loved how people appreciate his "coding skills". I didn't mind him taking the spotlight / credit out of the project. After all, he was getting pressured by everyone around him about the system and how it all works, but the best he can do is telling them to "search on TH-cam", and begged me multiple times to teach him already. I have no plans on teaching him any time soon, and since this is a paid project, I still need to continue working on it until it is finished. So, this means he'll be savouring his chances of taking the limelight for a while, and that is not good.
When confronting a narcissist.
Ask them 🤔
"Who are you".
They won't be able to reply..
Thank you. Great message
I've been married to a covert narcissist for nearly twenty years. It took me a long time to figure out why I wasn't happy in my relationship and it wasn't until I learned about narcissistic personality disorder that things started making sense.
One of my most important lessons is radical acceptance. Knowing that my partner is not going to change and accepting that has brought me enough peace to establish limits and fight for my space and personality.
It's quite true because I'm narcissist and I hate it myself. I lost a lot good people and my love of life. Now trying my best to become humble and control my narcissist hopefully I will regain what I lost and I hope others will have better life. Thank you for this video it really helps.
TBH it's very draining to be with one specially when that narcissistic friend lowkey competes himself to you, is insecure of you and constantly tries to one up you in some aspects, worst part is if they use you, manipulate and treat you as their pawn/slave for their game
it's easy to understand and know them but IT IS very tiring and life draining to always consider them since they only care about themselves and very seldom consider you back
overall, just avoid them in the most lowkey/civil way possible because if you ever get involved with them specially to a severe one, you're going to be bound with a lot of suffering and draining
but then again it's hard to spot them wihout accidentally befriending them(always remember that door slamming is always available)
I remember as a kid, an adult in my life and I would sometimes argue, he would say things to me that really upset me, i would tell him he was making me angry, and i remember his response was something like "no one can make you angry"
and he kind of is right in a sense that we all only have control over ourselves, but the things he would say were very mean and harsh, demeaning, i would expect anyone to be upset being spoken to that way, and he would never take responsibility for the hurtful things he said to me, and the harsh ways he treated me.
I suspect he is or was a narcissist, and i know how the new theory is that trauma can be passed down by how people treat others, so i work hard to not be narcissistic in any way, but as a kid doing that made me a little more sacrificial of myself and my boundaries than was healthy.
It's a delicate balance between being too self sacrificing and too narcissistic, i hope we all who suffered from abuse can find our way and heal so we can break the chain. 🙏
My Dad is a narcissist and I didn’t realise this until I was an adult. He does all of the things on this list. I have found the only way to escape the repressive atmosphere he creates is to avoid him! Sad but true. They just don’t leave any space for you because it’s all about them!
I have an aunt who has these issues. It sucks. And hurts
1. I get a bit sad when I am told no
2. Idk what criticism is
3. Losing control of myself
4. I feel left out when that happens
5. I dont wanna be called weak. Thats it
6. I just wanna feel accepted and supported. Not necessarily wanting the limelight.
Then i ask myself:
Am I a narcissist?
Here is the true test for you. When you make a mistake can you admit that, AND tell someone else about YOUR error. Can you then reflect on that mistake and talk openly about what you LEARNED from making that error? Can you then use that information to modify and change you actions in future and avoid making similar errors in future? All that I have mentioned is NORMAL human behaviour BUT normal human behaviour that those with NPD struggle profoundly with. If this is difficult for you then I suggest you seek therapy to explore this further.
no you arent
Me and my buddy used to hang out with this narcissistic girl. Whenever she'd boss us around, I would always do what she said because i have people pleasing issues. My buddy, on the other hand, would do what she asked but awfully. Just really weaponizing that incompetence to the point she got frustrated at him even more. When my buddy revealed that to me ages later, i realized, I really love my buddy for doing what i never could: taking the power away from her 😂
My friend was an narcissist she only truly cared about self. When she got social media it got worse, started to distancing myself got tired of all the selfish acts.
Someone close to me is like this. Once you put up a boundary you become the bad guy
1. Themselves
2. Themselves
3. Themselves
i used to have 2 friends who were narcissists, and i can definitely say that this video is accurate.
It’s more like “when they think they’re being told no”, “when they think it’s criticism even if it’s actually complain or request “, etc. they don’t have objective point of view. Everything is subjective from their biased point of view. Not only for narcissists but often same for avoidants too
I had a friend who is a narcissist, when I called them out for it they instantly became defensive and said I was the narcissist when I don’t have any narcissistic tendencies or behaviors. I feel really bad for the person who is in a relationship with the person. I hope that person gets out of it
As a person with NPD, I'm very happy to see that this isn't really done in a demonizing way, more like a trigger way. As much as I hate to admit this, but I relate to this a lot! But it makes me feel way better that it isn't in a villainizing way ❤.
I've been called a narcissistic person but I don't do any of these, I just take pride in what I look like and got sick of hating myself and started loving myself.
Pride is different than hurting others to building up yourself. If you need to put other down to feel good about yourself that is narcissist
Are those people perhaps mixing up vain and narcissistic? Often related trails but not the same.
People tend to be extreme with their judgments. They don't speak because they know they're right, they open their mouth because *they could be* right. If they're wrong, no one says anything. If they're right... "I KNEW IT, I TOLD YOU"
Most people have a conclusion they work backwards to try to justify. They will try to read you because they're bored, not because they care/are interested. It ultimately doesn't matter what they think, because they don't try to understand you before they judge you. They just see what reality they want to believe and jump on the opportunity to be right.
Just be your best self. You'll find that even when you become that person, they won't change. They'll mistake your kindness and good nature as a front and your smile as a façade. There's no winning with them. It's not your job to defend yourself and prove them wrong.
I'm sure narcissists are the opposites of this. They only love themselves too much because they actually don't, they're insecure and try to bury their own perceived flaws.
this is why i love saying no.. it is the easiest way to remind narcissists how insignificant they actually are..
A toxic friend from high school mostly behaved like a narcissist. Up to this day, I still do not regret snapping at him shortly after our high school graduation. He so deserved to experience how hurtful his own behavior felt like when I used reverse psychology.
Being called out for their lies!!! This burns them so much they end up insulting you or criticizing you saying that you’re obsessed, crazy and a stalker when you simply remember what they say and you tell them that they’re changing version! They don’t even remember their lies LOL
You want them to be honest or take responsibility- they will criticize you
Don’t fall for these traps
Helpful video - in a depressing kind of way. What's the solution I wonder? I can only think of going no contact.
And that's what I'd recommend.
It's not your job to fix them.
So look after your own mental health by keeping away from toxic people like narcissists.
Thanks, both. I thought that would probably be the case.
Wow, this one really hits the bullseye. Hard to watch, but extremely accurate.
This video literally has my cousin Martin down to a T . I recently had an argument with him about him copying and mimicking me and clearly getting other people like my friends and family to do for him when we're not hanging out. As soon as I bring the topic up he stopped talking to me. Thankfully though my friends and family still talk to me and I managed to convince some of them that he is a narcissist and needs help badly.
My ex boyfriend had narcicisstic behaviour. He didn't have finished school being 21 when I nearly finished my bachelor. He constanstly told me my Bachelor degree is worth nothing. That was the first point when I noticed st is wrong...it took me 5 years to get out. I thought Noone would think I look good as he always told me how bad I was looking & noone could cope with me as he does because I am so exhausting and men want women who are always happy etc pp
Your bachelor degree matters bc you made a great effort but your ex boyfriend is just jealous and envious of you getting a degree than him. He does truth care for you and he is just a bad, rotten apple on the tree.
How did yall even become a thing. A lack of education is a huge red flag imho
Why were you even in a realtionship in the first place
Girl, dump his a$$
Let's not forget that narcissists experience a lot of suffering themselves often time leading to the extreme consequence
Sure but that should not be a reason to stay and simply be supply for them. I disagree with this idea. Sure, often they are an NPD due to abuse, but having care and compassion for an NPD will ALWAYS be used as a means to manipulate. You need to leave, set cleary boundarys and find relationships with people who can return the care back to you. The NPD NEVER will, stop hoping for that, accept the loss of what never was.
@@LeahcimKennel I didn't say that, they need professional help not a random masochist provider of validation
@@markmuller7962 agreed, but 99.9% will refuse help because it conflicts with the facade of perfection. The majority prefer to blame someone else for their struggles. They are rarely assessed except when it is court ordered. I guess my point is be very careful feeling compassion towards them. It is a dangerous slippery slope. The skill of manipulation of the NPD is next level. Never trust them or think you can maintain a relationship without SIGNIFICANT personal risk. The efforts they will use to hurt you are at a level that is hard to comprehend. They will act like your long lost best friend for months if not years only to get access to a means of hurting you. They are always collecting data to file away to hurt you and will do things to hurt your empolyment situations, landlord relationships, your dog walker and so on. They will use any information to attemp a smear campagne against you and they will do that to seek revenge for a conflict you might have had 5 years earlier. I think people make the mistake and expect human behaviour from the NPD and the truth is human behaviour in them is always an act performed for a reason. Remember this. Wish them well, suggest they need therapy, but get far far away and block contact even if its your parent or sybling. Block them on social media, give them zero access to information about you.
Most won't seek professional help because they don't see any wrong.
@sallybutler1005 They still deserve compassion and help like every human (and non human) being
Thank you for sharing
Timestamps
1). Being told no 0:27
2). Criticism 1:08
3). Losing control 1:46
4). Others being happy 2:34
5). Called out 3:04
6). Feeling vulnerable 3:45
7). Steal the limelight 4:08
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
💯It is exhausting, especially when such a person starts stalking using Flying monkeys
It's even worse when the narcissist is the bread winner of the family, because then you can't really argue with them since they provide you with basic necessities and expect you to thank them constantly.
My friend is an energy/emotional vampire. Everything is about them in our convos, and he tries to put my achievements down while blowing up everything in his life. He always makes himself the victim in every situation and sends me selfies randomly.
I just identify myself as Narcissist
You deserve support.
Could you explain how so?
@@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988 god no
@@woah05 Well.... They can at least stop spreading rumors with half knowledge of a mental illness no?
Congratulations
This is gonna be very useful 😈😁
You don't wanna see my dark side 😈😈😈 type ahh
Same 🗿
"Don't make me mad, or else..." ahh comment
It's such a strange feeling, every single point and example in this video was almost a perfect copy of things my father had done to me and/or my family. He doesn't speak to me anymore since I wss the only one in his "totally not a cult" dynamic with the family, that actually spoke up. 😂
Awesome video!
I've recently stopped dating a girl that wasn't even denying she was a narcissist and honestly I'm glad that I stood my ground. I had no other choice but to concentrate all the attention and time to myself and some other urgent stuff I had to deal with for a certain amount of time. I couldn't get any emotional support as it was something unfamiliar to me and I had to go through it, yet i only got "we all have problems right now, don't try to steal the limelight". the moment I realized that she and her friends didn't really care about that, they basically kicked me out of their friend group
As for the last statement, I'm not trying to sound like I'm forcing everyone to care about my problems, yet I started to get uncomfortable with them. they couldn't care less when I had something important to do and that stuff couldn't be postponed anyhow
She was also pretty inconsistent in her thoughts. for example, she could say that you can talk to a person without any common interests, yet she demanded the complete opposite from me because "I don't know any other topics we could talk about, you're being quiet half of the time" which is not true. I may be slightly shy when it comes to certain topics, I may be a better listener overall, yet that does not make me uninteresting
This is very on point I will admit, my father who wasn't a true father figure who is a true narcissist and he is currently dying of alchoholism but reguardless of that I forgive him as I wish for him to die peacefully. Yet at the same time I begin realize that I am also a reflection of my father, like everything she pointed out those traits I also have those narcissistic traits.
I'm sorry for what you went through with your father. But at least now you have the opportunity to deal with those issues 🙂.
The diagnosis should be =
Pure blind selfishness
This is the answer. 💯
very ignorant
@@draqeula like your huge Ego .
@@Lu-ot8hs continue self projecting its honestly funny
I have been dealing with a narcissist for years.
They have been known to get violent, spread lies, and be abusive in multiple forms, especially when they don't have their way.
When you can't really get away from them because they are a family member they know that and try to exploit that heavily and they can lie and or exaggerate a lot.
Honestly I would say one of the best ways to deal with people that lie that much is to always have something ready to prove to others they are lying, otherwise it's if they are somebody we'll liked or seemingly more believable because of factors like status or more friends to back them up proof is your best friend.
Proof may not put an end to their behavior but exposure of them can ruin a lot.
thank you so much! you helped me to understand a lot of things❤
Sadly, I often notice some of the signs on myself. Right now and in the last few months it has gotten better, by analyzing my own behavior and informing myself, but I still notice some things sadly. Hope I can fully get rid of it.
You're voice is so pretty, almost like asmr
Thank you!
This explains a lot! My mother was a narcissist her whole life & never changed. Ppl would tell me that she was jealous of me but I never believed it. A whole lifetime later, I see that they were right. My mother even stole clothing from me.
An important thing I like to remind people about is not to care too much, a narcisist's words can't hurt you if you don't care about their opinion, and I promise if you can keep a level head and stay infuriatingly calm around an angry narcisist, and even just ignore them, not only will you get the pleasure of driving them up the wall, but they'll likely cut you out of their life so you don't have to. Always be polite to them as well when they're angry, especially if they have an audience, because not only will it protect your good name, but it will make the narcisist look far worse in the eyes of others and can potentially make them ruin their own social life, which they probably deserve.
Never met anybody who'd love to be criticized 💀
Harsh truth right here. Nobody in this world has adequate emotional intelligence to face criticism, except those who truly went through way more torture and hardship than your average person (Not all, just some of them).
I feel really really paranoid by being criticized.
if you criticize me because you love me and want me to be the better version of myself, i do like criticism
if you criticize me because you want to destroy me, then yes, i don't like it and no one does.. ❤
Nobody has to _love_ criticism in order to accept it and grow from it.
Sure, some critics only have negative intent, but others can criticise in a _constructive_ way that we should accept so that we can learn from our own mistakes.
Stay away from destructive criticism of course, but also learn to embrace constructive criticism.
No one does. It's how people respond to it that gives them away.
What if you tell them there are lots of videos about them and they should check them out 🤬
Was with my narcissist ex for nearly 5 years, very on and off but am 7 months sober of her now! There are things that still stick with me to this day but I never let it affect my daily life anymore, breaking that cycle and being free of her has been the most liberating feeling!
Very good assessment of narcissistic attributes.
Hi Psych2Go. Can you make a video on how to deal with narcissistic parents? It'll be great help to me, and others, who are dealing with them. Thanks, and love your videos.
I wouldn’t be surprised if there was already a video on that
1. Not talking about themselves
I thought I was the only one who couldn't stand seeing others happy. It's sobering to know there are others with this issue. I hope those other people get the help they need in case they require it.
I had a few bad relationships during my 20's and 30's and never thought of blaming either party in particular but just couldn't understand what went wrong. The best thing I ever did was see a psychiatrist after my first wife ran off with someone else, the most important thing about the whole episode was the time I spent with the therapist "learning about myself", and what I will never forget him saying is "you got exactly the type of relationship you were subconsciously asking for." That was a shocker, but as we talked, it made lots of sense. I do not believe it takes two to break a relationship, but certainly if both parties do not treat each other with love and respect, treating one another as partners, equals, I don't think it will be a healthy relationship. And as mentioned, partners must be able to celebrate those things we both enjoy together as well as enjoy our own individualities. At least that seems to work for us.
Nowadays on TH-cam I see so one after another video about what men want out of women or what 10 things women do that men hate video. Maybe there are a few, but I have not seen any about what women hate about men. Now I don't look for either of these kind of videos after the first couple "women shaming" video shorts I watched. So I wrote in the comments, "why don't you suggest that these couples seek counseling or suggest that if one or both do not feel there's any hope of reconciling, that they nicely part ways instead of letting things build to a point that no one is helped and both are hurt?" Of course, no one ever comments back to me, I guess it's just a show or that's how many deal with it now. It's like the reverse discrimination thing.
Thanks for the video and the fact that you put some reputable reference sources in the description, I wish more folks did. Take care.
I only hate seeing other people happy if they've caused me pain and heartache. How does that even count
If it don’t apply, let it fly.
Then this ain't narcissism. You have a valid reason to hate seeing them being happy & lucky all the time. Trust me, I had that experience before.
Nah that ain't narcissism
That's just the good 'ol grudge
Why are you choosing to perceive narcissistic injury?
The video is right and you are wrong
What's terrible about this is the parents of narcissists allowed their child to develop this mental disorder through either neglect and abuse or adoration and holding their hand through everything. If I was a narcissist, my parents wouldn't have helped me whatsoever.
Psych2Go in case you see this, the editors and narrator in this video are definitely my favorite! They are very calming and peaceful to watch🤍
I was already aware but my naive nature always wants to see the best in people so i’m glad to get a reminder so i don’t lose myself fully in my naivety and try to stay a bit aware without having to go distrusting everyone 😊 finding that balance is one thing but keeping that balance is the real work 😊
Thanks for making me angry
What
😂
I'm also in your side. Psych2go does that for some reason. I'm not a narcissist but a schizophrenic who gets kinda offended by these kinds of videos.
@@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988 no this points actually pointed out that I am a narcissist
This is verbatim my bosses at work... I have 2 managers who are TOP TIER narcissists. Any advice for when your boss at work is a narcissist?
If a narcissist persists, just remember they’re not good in a fight. So be prepared for when that happens.
Life becomes better when you develop the ability to spot these creatures from a distance and learn the skills needed to keep them at bay.
It's good to teach how to be careful from a narcissist. No offence, but may I ask you whether it's right to attack someone with a mental disorder using their weak points?
1. If they don't like no's. Wouldn't it be nice to prevent saying that as long as it doesn't harm you since they're so sensible to that?
2. If someone hates criticism, wouldn't it be better to avoid making conflicts with him/her than being so pride?
3. Not always showing off our goals if someone's so envious about us. I mean, being envious isn't so wrong but acting on it is.
4. Why should others bully someone for being so grandiose or paranoid? But it happens so often.
5. If they crave for attention, why should we hurt them by forcefully not showing it?
I'm not a narcissist but I am a schizophrenic. So videos like these kinda throw me to the edge making me think like. Messages such as,
1. Having a mental disorder isn't our problem but we live in the way we want.
2. In similar way treat schizophrenics in so harsh ways if you're scared or disgusted of their illness(I feel that others are doing it to me) - Who knows whether there's another TH-cam channel which helps them to treat me maliciously?
3. It's not necessary to help everyone with mental illnesses to get cured but to avoid.
are conveyed. So psych2go. Am I pointing out something wrong? I mean, I've empathy for some reason. Is it wrong? Aren't my own fears justifiable?
Narcissists are often abusive so there is no good reason to encourage or facilitate narcissistic traits. Just because someone has a personality disorder or mental illness does not mean others have to tolerate their harmful behaviour
@@lethewardssunk5833 They should have something called empathy even if people with mental disorders would be harmful. Is it my fault that I feel like everyone is out there to attack me when they made me hated by the majority of the society? No, it's their fault. Their lack of understanding and tolerance to listen.
Edit:- Here's something from ChatGPT
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a mental health condition characterized by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. While individuals with NPD may display harmful or challenging behaviors, they deserve access to appropriate mental health care and support, just like individuals with any other mental health condition.
Addressing narcissistic behaviors and their impact on others typically involves interventions such as therapy, counseling, and, in some cases, medication. These approaches aim to help individuals with NPD develop insight, empathy, and healthier ways of relating to others. It's essential for individuals with NPD to receive compassionate and evidence-based care from qualified mental health professionals.
@@lethewardssunk5833 Why do you think that the lawyers consider about DSM 5 in some cases?
Edit:- For your argument, read the citation that I made from the ChatGPT below in another response.
@@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988 If you are claiming that because some mental conditions provide potential evidence against forming actus reus for some crimes, or in others a partial defence, that means that you don't have any responsibility for your actions and behaviour more broadly because you have a mental health condition or personality disorder then (1) you need to learn what the law actually says before you start citing it as source to back up your position and (2) you need to get professional support.
You seem very uncomfortable with a video which states the facts about how this particular personality disorder makes people behave. The video is stating facts. The fact of this behaviour is often very harmful to people around them. That does not mean that they are vilifying NPDs, nor being derogatory towards people with mental health or personality disorders, nor that people are not capable of having empathy for the fact that some people are wired or conditioned to behave that way.
@@lethewardssunk5833 You know, I have seen occasions where some people were forgiven for their actions due to their mental health condition on TV I don't feel wrong about that if they were Schizophrenics because an average person in the world is sadistic at least towards someone with mental disabilities. So, I know the insecurity that they make for innocent people like us(If you can disprove the word "innocent" that I've given here.). Even those jailors abuse schizophrenics those who've been arrested in jails because of their illness. So I'm highly disappointed with not making Sadistic Personality Disorder a true diagnosis in the DSM 5 as it gets untreated. So, I guess we also should have the rights to be safe. Why does the new amendment or whatever thinks of allowing US people to bear arms? Because of their sense of security. So, can bullies justify their actions if the effect of their actions is too intense for someone with a psychotic disorder even though it doesn't violate constitutional law? No. Schizophrenics shouldn't be arrested for fighting for their safety. I wonder which law supports social sadism.
I'm not so uncomfortable with this video. Who said that? Read my comment. They also don't mention that this is a treatable mental illness. So, better if they mentioned that.
This is the response that I've got from google for the question "is mental illness an excuse for crimes?"
Instead of punishing them, a judge or jury can declare them not criminally responsible for their actions due to a mental illness. This is not an acquittal. However, it is a recognition that the accused committed the crime but that they should not be punished because they did not “choose” to commit the crime.
I don't wanna kill anybody but I really wanted to answer you. I don't encourage anyone to kill but don't tell something to a schizophrenic's face that makes him/her feel like "I will put you into the jail and lock you forever."
*DO NOT EXPOSE OUR SECRETS*
Yes I know right
I never knew i had a narcissistic younger brother until i was almost 40,he inherited it from our mother.both manipulating me all this time.I had to go full no contact
My mom is toxic and I have been suspecting she might be a narcassist for quite some time. Today I criticized her for the first time in an argument and told her to stop playing the victim and the way she reacted to this just proves me right.
Few comments, Psych really fell off-
Fellow person, the video has been out two minutes
@@simonquintana5098 Ye I know :3
@@simonquintana5098 4 for me