Yeah overt narcs are easy to recognize an easily avoidable. The one that thrive through playing victim are the ones that sneak through peoples radar. The covert
Yeah my parents are both, My father thinks without him we are nothing amd my mother thinks she is a victim and loves to be rescued..I don't know they are playing the king and the dumbbell princess in distress..They are already like into role playing of master and maid..I don't know..they are both narcicist. We have no choice children but to play as the knights and the healers for ourselves and for our younger siblings..Thats how dramatic it is..😣
Video Summary: 1. Instead of listening they are wrapped up in their own opinion 2. They tend to cheat in relationships 3. They constantly need to be admired 4. They do not take any criticism well 5. They exploit others without guilt or shame 6. They belittle others 7. They see themselves more attractive than they really are 8. They gaslight who are “dear” to them 9. They put *some* people on pedestal *have a great quarantine day!!* Your welcome :D 🙏
A Narcistic person is Demon Possesed...My own brother was also a Narcist but when i prayed to Jesus to set him Free and i kept on Praying Persistently for days and Even Weeks he eventually got Set Free! Whoever the Son of God has Set free is Free and Free INDEED! 😄Believe in the Words of Jesus People every thing is possible with him that is Obedient to the words of Jesus Christ and pray's according to His will🙏💟Also sin will take us to Hell...
Narcissists make you feel like you are the crazy one, and you aren’t. They are incredibly critical of other people but if you try to criticize them they only double down on trying to make you feel bad. They are master manipulators and often very convincing because many times they believe their own lies. It’s a very challenging personality disorder to deal with, and it can make you start questioning yourself and reality. Sending out much love to this amazing community! ♥️
Yeah the problem is they can't differentiate between their own lie with reality. Make they live in delusional world. And when we show them fact they'll attack us🤦🏻♀️
As someone who was a victim of a narcissistic abuser. Another form of manipulation is they will act like they were completely unaware of how they treated you and will also find a way to make it your fault for how they treated you.
@@ceyciemateo9411 If you're able to, slowly distancing yourself is key. Narcissist always need someone to abuse. I had to keep telling myself that when they kept calling messaging and remind myself 'they don't care, they care why you arent interacting with them' and learning the difference between concern and control.
@@tsdiggs78 Thank you. I have been slowly doing this. I’ve been being very strong. It’s starting to get hard, but I am hanging in there. He is constantly saying & doing things to get me to react. I haven’t been budging. I think he’s very bothered right now that I’m not giving him what he wants. He does things to get a rise out of me, then when I react, he acts like I’m “tripping” and he just be “chilling” and “showing love” but see ai have figured out that he will do something good in-between all of the BS and if you do say something about the BS… he treats you like you are blocking your “blessings” and self-sabotaging the relationship but he knows exactly what he is doing. He takes pleasure in causing women stress and turmoil. There were red flags I seen when we were just friends. I ignored them , he just wore me down and I finally gave in. Now I regret because I am in love with the wrong kind of person. He’s out of town now, has been for a few weeks. He canceled my birthday trip on me, laughed at me when I got upset about it. Obviously lied about the reason he couldn’t take me. I ended up going on a trip anyway without him and now he tells me over the phone that he’s in Texas looking for houses. I know he’s lying to get me to beg him to stay and not move & leave me. Then he is baiting me with an imaginary gift that he claims he has for me… but ignored me the 2 days leading up to when I went on my trip and then called me and said he would give it to me when I got back. Knowing he would be out of town for work. Now he expects me to chase him down for a gift he promised me. I don’t even bring it up! Not too mention he keeps bringing up my FB dating profile he found online and basically let me know that he has one. I didn’t react to that either. I’m like so fed up with his games. But I still have strong feelings for him that I wish would go away. When he told me he made this girl he was dating cry when he told her he didn’t want to have sex with her anymore and thought it was funny. I should’ve known something was wrong with him then. But I still let him date me, smh now I am in too deep and I guess if he ghosts me that would be the best thing that could ever happen to me because I won’t ever reach out to him anymore and allow him to play his games
yes. I'm a victims of narsiccist personality! my officemate.. she's try to conquer all the things.. try to make me like she's wokrkers.. to be perfectionist.. like a bossy! because she's a elderly there. ti control me.. may be she's a pcyco,??
The worst part about a narcissist is that their behavior seems perfectly acceptable to them and see no problem with it whatsoever. It has become so deeply embedded into their personality that one could say it is almost subconscious.
Not true. They can name the childhood pain that they justify thier behaviour with & they share it with you early in the relationship. It’s not healed. Run.
It is subconscious in general. People who have NPD aren't necessarily consciously aware of what is actually driving them when it comes to the more maladaptive behaviors and characteristics. They often don't self reflect though, because they don't want to experience narcissistic injury, or cognitive dissonance. They tend to have a grandiose self image, and want to maintain that in their minds.
If they seen no problem in their behavior then they wouldn't hide & lie behind it to make people seem crazy 🤷🏾♀️ their behavior is embarrassing & shameful & they damn well know it is
Our whole society has promoted and encouraged narcissism, normalized the mentalities and behaviours. It's disgusting, embarrassing and very depressing😳😖
They should’ve talked about the covert narcissist who act like they’re not good enough, vulnerable, and shy and not confident. They will hurt you the most bc you won’t see it coming
And their tactics are so covert and sinister, and no one recognises them as a narcissist in their life because they expect a narc to be really arrogant and overt
Yeah those are the one's that really dig the knife in deep, totally blind side you! They got more tricks up their sleeves than Houdini and so full of lie's they don't rember what the truth is! In the end though you still feel sorry for them, cause their so pitiful, psychotic and sad!
For anyone who is with a narcissist and is still in the thinking stage about leaving, just leave. I’ve tried to be the person in point 9, but after 4 hard years, not only have I failed to live up to another persons arbitrary perception of perfection, I’ve lost myself in the process. Always value the love you have for yourself more than the love of others. No matter how much you might love them.
@@hershekissed I had two narcissists in my life. I figured it out on my own and got rid of both, but it's wonderful to know I did the right thing and the right way, but it took me 4 years for the man I was dating and many, many years for my relative.
Yea totally agree, I left my narcissist dad about 7 months ago and it's the best thing I ever did, it was hard leaving my sister and dog behind and I'm still getting over them but I know I'll be better in the long run
I was married to a Narcissist for 7 yrs. I was a total different person than what i am now.... Im nothing compared to that person 7 yrs. Ago. I am currently picking up the pieces of myself and trying to put something together... But its so hard, everyday is a struggle
After watching this video, I realized that I too have been married to a narcissist for the past seven years. Everything in this video has outlined everything that I'm going through with her at this moment and have been going through with her most of our entire relationship. I've finally reached my breaking and my boiling point, and as much as I want to be with her, I realize I can't and that it's time to move on and get myself right. I too have been someone I don't even know for these past seven years. I've lost all of my close friends because of her. My older sister who has always been my best friend, won't talk to me, answer her phone, nothing, and it's been that way since I made the choice to choose my ignorant wife over her after they got into an argument that she started. Sitting here now, making these realizations, I'm questioning just how stupid I could be smh I know it's a struggle, but you need to take care of you and love yourself. Trouble does not last always, and you're better off believe me. I too am in the process of picking up the pieces to my life, and trying to locate the person I was before all of this, but I know God got me. Throughout everything over these years, he's been a constant and boy oh boy has he been opening my eyes and revealing to me that is it time to move on
@@nadine3189 true, but what if the case was that they relate to all the signs, but says that the reason for this is because the people around them are the narcissists?
@@backfire3017 That's because you've been completely brainwashed. The narcissist has the need to abuse their power on people who are close like family members or relationships, as the relation between these people tend to be strong and force the victim to stay still. My father was a victim of narcissism, he was blinded by it and he had only realized recently, he would always think all the problems caused by my mother were his fault and she would play with his feelings, making him enter a depressive moment for a couple of years. The one who suffers of narcissism will start to act like a narcissist in some way, you're being manipulated after all, it's like a disease (lol); then there's the fear and self-questioning of "am I a narcissist?". I have questioned myself many times because of my sometimes shitty behaviour with people. It's a whole different story when a kid grows up with a narcissist and gets along with the narcissist's play... I believe these kids are too sensible and won't understand when they are wrong about something. This topic is complicated... and these things probably happen to a lot of people who don't know they're dealing with a narcissist. The signs given in the video are very generalized, you shouldn't rely too deeply in these. But well, it's the simplest way to understand the "surface" of narcissism. Sure I had my time writing this... lol!
@@tanru2865 i understand the point where a person who is not narcissistic would think that they themselves might be narcissists. Im saying that that might not be the case 100% of the time. One of the cases where i could think of is when said person relates to all the facts in the video, but discredits it immediately by saying that the reason they are thinking like this is because the ppl around them are the narcissists instead of them. To me, at least, sounds a bit narcissistic. And the fact that we are agreeing with their statement might actually be encouraging their narcissistic unnarcissistic behaviour instead. One of the traits of a narcissistic person is they love to receive other ppl's approval, right? And not taking the blame for anything they do? That's like 2 checkmarks already. At least that's what i thought of. I could be wrong, but in the end, we should still consider this possibility.
@@jellyfishi_ yup and the best way is to not react to their provocations and to stand your ground. I learned that the hard way after being manipulated by my mother for 20 years I stopped loving her and caring for her after a certain fight. All that I felt was apathy and pity. From that point on I never cared what she said ,did, or how she is. I stopped reacting which made me stable and happy and her crazy and insane
My mom does that to one of my brothers. He has bipolar disorder and is struggling with it currently. My mom makes dealing with it worst by calling him a narcissist and talking about him like he's a freak. Sometimes she'll do it right in front of him Edit: now she's doing it to someone else
That "They gaslight you" really hit. I always knew I had some very specific memory of an event, but then my mother came along and said that it didn´t happen that way. Over and over again. Fortunately I am a bit narcissistic myself and not stupid, so I recorded conversations etc. and proceeded to call her out for her bullshit, I have never seen someone this mad before. She always tells my father different stories from what actually happened, but again, recordings helped proving my point and discredited her to the point no one sides with her anymore if there is any doubt. She can´t accept having any faults or ever being wrong, it made me hate her so much.
I need your advice, please. I have been writing with a successful man for a month. I think he has high NARCISSISTIC proportions. It is difficult for him to express feelings or , to cheer me up. When I'm feeling bad, he can hurt me even more sometimes. He turns everything as he needs it. He always sends me pictures but never asks me about my day, my feelings, thoughts. He says he likes me but I think it's all about him. Several times I told him this and always he reacts with Gaslighting. That I have mood swings, am exhausting, others certainly find me exhausting. Tht I'm a bit freakish.. He also once told me by cause of some fear n over reacting.. I told him twice about his personality.. Tht he is cold, it's always about him etc.. n after not even 24h he contacted me again.. He never can't say sorry..or reflect. Himself.. Sometimes he overreact.. But always want me to behave grown up.. Communicate in a proper way.. He tells me I should be nice to him... But he don't understand tht this ain't no one men show... I told him we both matter.. N he should stop trying to make me look like I'm crazy. He should behave like a men.. Cauze o l want Men I can take seriously. N he should contact me if he understands wht I want from him. He also liked making me jealous cauze he wanted to torture me 👀.. He also likes me getting angry or when I show my Fire.. Which advice would u give me? How to make him understand me n maybe still want me more.. He said he wants me but he is only talking about himself wht do u think about this
@@Calida2308 please try to distance yourself from this person. You'll feel free and meet more people. Maybe if you have the money; start traveling (?)
I can relate to this so fricking much. Especially the lies she told my dad. I could hear the conversations in the kitchen and she made me out to be a monster. I was only a kid. I didn't want to ever upset her.
@@Calida2308 I’ve been through this sh** and I know exactly what I am saying, Don’t spent any more time with him cause you’ll regret it. It can destroy your health. Just leave.
Narcissistic sound like the worse case of “not dealing with inner insecurities and walk around project, dismiss others, and other issues.” to make themselves look okay but i REALLY believe they can’t help it, this is interesting
It is a case of over compensating lackness.. at least from what I can observe. I have a very very sick brother, and believe me when I tell you I feel disgusted associating myself with this sick person. He is basically ill. And I dare say, he does not know it. Or he doesn‘t want to. He lives in misery, and everywhere he goes he causes some kind of drama, hatred, issues, problems, basically a never ending source of negative energy. He would yell in my face about obvious lies he is supposed to know that I knew. Very sick indeed. He cannot speak without lying, as if he vowed to make a foe out of reality. For years I have endured all the troubles he caused, the pressure he has put on me for a stupid reason, to help him. But this sickness is not something you can do anything about. I think he is always aware that the truth is just a step behind him, so he has to continually make up lies and childish stories to run away. Poisonous person who would not think twice about spitting lies that could cause division between people. The worst is he would lie so very obviously for no reason, other than, I think, to assert that you are so stupid for him to be able to do that. Left by everyone including his own family, coworkers, friends, constantly causing troubles between siblings. He wants, for each and every sentence uttered around him it MUST somehow revolve around how heroic he imagined himself to be. Once you know he lies as naturally as breathing, you‘d see how easy it is for him to act and be pretentious. They are the definition of weakness. Too weak to confront themselves and the issues inside so they rather make up a whole new imaginary land to live in.
And yes, we share the same opinion on how they can‘t help it. The attributes are very accurate but they are just the symptoms. But never make the mistake thinking you can somehow help them. They‘d swallow you whole. But if you are mentally tough and know who you are dealing with, they can make very annoying, peculiar clowns.
once you see the true narcissist you almost pitty them. Because they are like children wanting attention and when you don't dont give they cry or get aggressive
June 1 is World Narcissistic Abuse awareness day. Unlike physical abuse, narcissistic abuse leaves emotional and psychological scars. Consider sharing to help raise awareness?
Thanks to your content! we're able to spread awareness to the world. bringing a genuinely narcissist traits to recognition is a good idea because no matter what you'll find narcissist in your life, preventing is better than curing! Knowledge is power afterall. love your content and stay safe xoxo
Ugh, this hurts. I spent most of my life being a narcissist until a wakeup call made me realize I hate who I am. It took a few years of constant soul searching, self-checking and therapy, but I eventually managed to make a full turnaround. I'm a better person now and everybody likes being around me a lot more, but looking back at how I was still causes me to feel a great deal of guilt.
@@Yo-sr2hw My friend, you've already done the hardest step if you've genuinely recognized your issues and is seriously moving towards fixing them. An incredibly small amount of people who have narcissism will ever recognize and admit that they have these issues and even fewer will actually be willing to even attempt to change.
not to like, discredit you or anything. but therapy does not work for narcissists, and in fact actually makes them a better narcissist and better at manipulating. so I find this a bit hard to believe. or at least the fact you're a narcissist
@@fizz_s0da919 It absolutely works. Narcissism isn't some sort of incurable state or anything--narcissists can change, they just need to desire to actually change. If you put a narcissist who doesn't want to or doesn't feel like they need to change in therapy, it won't do shit for them and will just help them become better manipulators. If you do want to change, then cognitive behavioral therapy works just fine since narcissism is largely a cognitive and behavioral issue.
@@AndreiMarica-nr2ncI have a question how does it feel ? I am just wondering because I just remembered one time I was called a narcissistic for no reason just why because I thought she was talking to me and other rude things she said I look disgusting and saying she wants to punch me as punching bag anyway ignore that so tell me.
@@Lololol588 it feels like not knowing real love exists and having no God. It also feels like becoming aggressive with any non compliant codependent (the narc and the codependent go together). Now i am enjoying a happy relationship where the narcissistic tendencies have vanished. I guess love really does heal
Hope people who are watching this with narcissistic tendencies know that change is possible. You’re not automatically the monster, research this kind of information to be able hold yourself accountable and have honest conversations with people you’ve hurt.
Yes they are monsters, on every level! And rare is it that they would ever sit through a video like this cuz they cant be bothered, and they dont think they have a problem, its Your problem! Their perfect, remember? Your the naive fool that still thinks there is hope for these demons! After you've been with a full blown narcissist for over 5 or 10 yrs and have sustained every kind of unimaginable pain they can inflict on you- once your so in love with them you can hardly breathe, then come back and see if you can honestly tell them they arent monsters. Once they've managed to rob you of your confidence, friendships, relationships with family members, your job, and where you live, bc they charm the shit out of people and smear your name to everyone who knows you (convinces them your crazy and on drugs, lazy and dont work) manages to change their opinions and feelings about you, come back and tell all the narc's that will never read this that they arent monsters! Your young and obviously have had little to no experience with a true narcissist, and thank your lucky stars every day for that, and i hope you never get ensnared by one,, cuz they will ruin your life, mark my words✌🏼
@@jeanniebyer664 Girl bye, this is some bullshit. NPD is on the spectrum, it can high and it can be low. And self awareness exists you know, not all those with NPD want to intentionally hurt people. Demonizing and stigmatizing those types of disorders is part of the problem
@@jeanniebyer664 Abusive people does not equal disorders. Same with sociopathy for example, and borderline personality disorder. People demonize, dehumanize and stigmatize them to death. Just because people don’t feel things the same way you do, or don’t care about your feelings, doesn’t mean you get to dehumanize them
Its often the opposite… a facade to portray to the outside world. Deep down inside people are lost aswel. Sure, some have real mental issues. I can’t deny that.
I honestly feel like there's not enough tbh, I always see/hear people complaining and getting offended, usually connecting to them being insecure about themselves then virtue signal to raise their morality to feel better about themselves (from my experiences of course) is their a name for that too? Or does it fall in the same category :\?
@@WhatsNextIWonder yah, it's called self-confidence. That's why i find psychology stupid sometimes, in the wrong hands of course. People forget it's a pseudoscience
Being around narcissist is just awful. My mom is a hugeee narcissist and living with her was hell! If you have a narcissit as a family member or a friend, please try to go low-contact or totally cut ties with them, because they can really mess up your life and mental health
what you say is true but we don't do it on purpose I understand its hard and I don't know which side to take but being a narcissist is hard and having nobody is depressing
Fucking right they do, I had a 'friend' who was one. Completely cut her out my life, but she somehow seems to find herself back into mine... She's literally haunting me.
This compelling video brings back terrible memories of my recent breakup after four years of dating. My dearest friend made the decision to go, and I was left with an inexhaustible hurt. I can't even begin to imagine my life without him, much as I keep trying to make amends. I'm frustrated. I want to write about how much I miss him here because I can't seem to get him out of my head.
I understand how hard it is to let go of someone you love; after a five-year relationship ended, I was unable to simply let him go; instead, I tried everything to get him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance.
Narcissists have the belief that they are better than everyone else. However, if you truly are better than everyone else, and everyone around you is garbage compared to your caliber, then narcissism is completely justified.
Gaslighting is so hurtful I didn’t even see it coming until the end when I realized I was right about things they convinced me were not true. This gave me extreme anxiety and made me lose my sense of self but it taught me something and now I will be able to catch it quicker, thank you for these videos they really help.
Yeah I had a friend who did this and I had no clue until now. I wanted to leave the friendship so badly but I was afraid. It felt like I didn’t have any control. Thank god I stopped being friends with her, I feel relieved and now I know to stand up for myself
Same with my ex girlfriend. She cheated on me as well and would always pull the "You always try to make everything about yourself" on me when I try to communicate to her any issues or moments where she hurt me with things she says or does. She prefers preferential treatment wanting to be treated like a princess and wanting to be "perfect." Idk how I was dumb enough to date her in the first place when she straight out told me that the guy she dated for almost a yr before me she just exploited for conveniences like rides home, to work, or school, spoiled with gifts, paying for her groceries, etc. Her excuse for exploiting and using this guy was "I'm a logical person. He was crazy for me and would do anything, so ofc why wouldn't I get whatever I could out of him." Bottom line, never date a narcissist especially if you have depression like I do lol
KellarJS no one deserves to be treated with disrespect. And not that I need to prove anything to you but I go out of my way to make sure I don’t hurt people which is more than many can say. Even if I did hurt someone it was definitely not purposefully and I always admitted it not like a narcissist and apologized so no I didn’t “deserve” anything.
9 signs someone is a narcissist 1. Instead of listening, they're wrapped up on their own opinion. 0:32 2. They tend to cheat in relationships. 1:03 3. They constantly need to be admired. 1:40 4. They do not take any criticism well. 2:15 5. They exploit others without guilt or shame. 2:42 6. They belittle others. 3:11 7. They see themselves as more attractive than they really are. 3:46 8. They gaslight those who are "dear" to them. 4:17 9. They put some people on pedestals. 5:17
@@beatdowncentral6986 ..... 😶😶😶😶.... I'm definitely concerned but at the end of the day, you are the 1 who deals with them so if you can live with it, then why should we worry about it..? 🤷♀️
as the daughter of a narcissistic mother, I beg anyone reading this to look for the red flags, and avoid narcissistic people at all costs, if possible. Narcissists are horrible people who drain you emotionally and physically. You cannot argue with them, it's like talking to a brick wall. Save yourself the trouble. It took me years to overcome this abuse. In fact, I will never fully recover. I have learned to live with the pain.
My sister is a narcissist and I worry about my niece and nephew. Do you have any suggestions on what I can do to help them? They are currently 9 and 6. I don't live near by and I don't currently live in a place where I can take them for away for a visit.
@@karynmorton4843 first of all, I am deeply sorry that your niece and nephew have a narcissistic mother. I am guessing that she abuses and neglects them in private, but in public she puts on the persona of a perfect mother? While I am no psychologist, I can only offer you advice based on my painful experiences as the daughter of a narcissistic mother. Please, if you have evidence of her abuse, document everything and report her. Often, sadly, the authorities are useless, but try to get multiple people to lodge complaints. Other family members, neighbours, schoolteachers, etc. Most importantly, continue to be there for your niece and nephew. Oh how I wish I had some supportive adults when I was being abused. Most people believed my mother's lies. Some even scolded me for being a "bad, ungrateful daughter". Years later, a lady told me that she felt so sorry for me and my sisters for the abuse our mother inflicted on us. I asked her, "Then why didn't you report her?" Your niece and nephew need a stable, strong adult to let them know that the world is full of good people. They are most likely suffering horribly. Where is their father, if you don't mind my asking? Because they need a loving environment. Please keep me posted. Have a beautiful day.
@@orchidtreasure1484 I'm there with y'all... I've FINALLY just hit my BREAKING POINT as of last week and CUT ties with my narcissistic mother once and for all! Not just narcissism, but a slew of disorders/mental health issues including BI-POLAR to add insult to injury! I also have an older narcissistic sister. Perhaps it runs in the family? There's likely others if I can go back and check for those "red flags" within other family members - immediate or not (cousins, nieces, nephews, etc).
Same here man, my mom AND stepdad are both narcissists, they think they aren't, but every time I tell them I just want them to listen, they keep trying to defend themselves. I also realized that it really is like talking to a brick wall, so now I don't even talk to them anymore, I don't ask for advice or anything, I'll just stay alone and figure things out for myself.
@@softwareversion7.035 it's truly sad but it's the reality of it all. We just have to continue to move forward and forget about the past. Focus upon ourselves and better well being. A great life can and will come from doing such w/o all that toxicity and negativity.
I would say the first sign will come from your own gut feeling which will send signal to your body telling you that this person doesn't make you feel comfortable being around him/her. The fact that you are already asking this question should alert you to be careful. Something will feel off and you won't know what it is exactly. Covert narcissists can act very charming in the beginning but there will be often also present underlying sense of superiority about them. That sense is actually deriving from them feeling insecure about themselves, so they tend to quietly degrade others in order to feel better about themselves. On the other hand if covert narcissist feels that you are above his league, he will act like your servant, trying to please you - almost annoying in a way. But make no mistake. If you decide to stay in a relationship with him, he will downgrade you and abuse you like all the others. Because in his mind, if you love him, he thinks you are unworthy of him. Covert narcissists hate themselves so if someone loves them, than they think this person is worth less than them and that they can do better. Other sign to look for is any kind of judgment towards others. If he criticises other frequently, he will more likely criticise you as well once he gets more comfortable around you. Pay attention to how he treats people that are dependent on him as well. Narcissists hate those especially if they can't get anything of of that for themselves. Moreover, Cheating in marriages is not restricted to only women. Men cheat as much as women do. If you're suspecting your husband of infidelity, you'll have to keep an eye on him of him without his knowledge of him. One of the best ways to know if your spouse cheats on social platforms is by paying close attention to how your spouse behaves while online. The signs are pretty the same. Is your spouse more time on the app without explanation and gets unnecessarily defensive when you ask about it? If your spouse behavior has changed lately, and continues to spend more time on social apps, it's time for you to take action, with the help of a private investigator (suggested; METASPYHUB@GMAIL. COM , you can find out what is taking all their time on social apps, who they are talking to and other things happening,,
Unfortunately a couple I know fits this description. The husband more than the wife but she is condescending to me. Haven't seen them in months since I pulled away from them.
Had the same problem. Had to end my relationship with my friend cause it was even more toxic that i realized then. After break my friendship i realized how of a fking selfish bastard he was. Gonna give you a little tip. Try not to talk with him for a few months and see how much your life changes ... If its better or no going worse without him you have your answer.
If you're watching this and think you might have NPD, remember that some of these symptoms overlap with other disorders. Specifically the "inability to listen to others" or "making conversations about you" as well as the "reacting poorly to criticism" are all lesser-known hallmarks of ADHD. That's why it's important to see a professional if you have any concerns.
The professionals won’t help me. They all tell me to sled diagnose and do research on my own to present to them, then they give me meds for it. I’m 15 and this is hard bc my meds keep getting switched and honestly I just think I need a different kind of treatment with a proper diagnosis. The professionals I see are psychiatrists btw. I’m always frustrated bc of the lack of help.
But that is good advice, thank you. There are many disorders with similar symptoms. I honestly don’t know what in the crap I have, my symptoms keep changing.
thank you so much, i was terrified. my brother is adhd (as well as some others in the family) so i most likely have that as well. its so scary, but i have to remember the core thing; empathy. and im not really perfect at expressing empathy, because i was raised by a narcissistic parent, but i do tend to feel a good amount of empathy for those hurt, especially children and animals.
Not necessarily true. Narcissists hate themselves deep down inside, might even think they’re ugly when they’re not. What they really want is to make other people think that they are great and beautiful, even if they don’t think that.
Do you seek attention? Do you dominate conversations and steer it towards yourself? Do you hate being called wrong, reacting in anger, deflecting or throw it back at the accuser ? Do you lie to people to make yourself seem smarter, better, more successful, or even lie to make people have sympathy for you or even lie about things that aren’t important just for the sake of lying just to see if you can get away with it? Do you constantly wonder if people are lying to you or accuse people of lying? Have you cheated or think people are always trying to cheat? Do you gossip or put other people down? Do you believe you can manipulate people? Do you feel like you are a hero in your own story you are living out? Do you have fantasies of luxury, power, the perfect love? Are you superstitious, believe in magic, think everything happens for a reason, believe in love at first sight, zodiac signs, etc? Do you care more about your public image than close personal relationships? Does your personality change depending on who you’re around? Are you uncomfortable being vulnerable and don’t have any really close friends? Do you struggle with romantic relationships, feeling intensely about someone immediately but within months things become toxic? Do you use social media or dating apps all of the time for attention, especially from the opposite sex? Do you strive for perfection at school, work etc., and think you should be amongst the elites whether you earned to be among them or not? My ex is a narcissist (now getting help, was undiagnosed when I met her) so I have a pretty good understanding of the mindset and behaviors they have. No two narcissists are exactly alike but they have a lot of overlap in their behaviors. Having one trait or missing one trait doesn’t mean you are or not one. Don’t rule yourself out because you think you’re ugly, just like you wouldn’t call yourself one because you acted selfishly before.
There are many different signs. These include spending time on phone that was not spent previously, withholding sex from you, withdrawing in communication with you, agitation or anger over Petty stuff or making up situations to get angry or agitated over, lying, being secretive in any way, randomly spending more time caring for and pampering oneself such as putting on makeup or wearing cologne or coloring hair etc. Any type of changed behavior that is not aimed at pleasing or benefiting your relationship. With all of that though, follow your gut. your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it's telling you that this could or is happening, therefore listen to it. Just Free yourself from all of it! Run and don't look back. Go 100% no contact. The mental and emotional abuse is not okay at all! Do not bring anything up to her. Don't try to rationalize or have a conversation about anything. Don't let her know that you know she's in narcissist. All of that can cause a narcissistic rage. If you have not yet witnessed one of those just trust me that you don't want to! A narcissistic rage is beyond any rage I have ever seen or witnessed in my entire life. I am an army combat veteran and served front lines for a year and afghanistan. I have abuse going back from as long as I can remember, the first time in my personal memory is 2 years old. With everything I have been involved in, and my rape, other sexual abuse, their physical abuse, etc in narcissistic rage is by far the worst! If you need to contact your local police department and start a new contact order. No one can protect you like you can! free yourself from it all and move forward in your life. The minute you run and go no contact is the minute your life begins again. If need be seek out professional help. Therapy is the best thing I did for myself. The best gift I gave to me! The abuse is so deep and overwhelming that having a professional guide you through the steps of the healing process is extremely beneficial! Just remember, there is great strength in asking for help. There is great lack and strength or no strength at all in putting on a mask and hiding behind the opinions of society and pretending that you are okay! As human beings we all witness A Time In our lives where we are not okay! Those that heal, move past, and move forward, and have a brighter future are those who ask for help and do the work that is needed through the help! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the very best! Good luck! Always remember that you are stronger than you believe you are, you are worthy and deserving of better and always, and you are enough just the way you are and who you are today! Take this time for you! Get yourself again. Fix that meal that you're all time favorite, rent that movie you've been wanting to see, have a guys night out with your best friends, remodel a room in your home, go purchase that item you've been wanting to for so long, just do for yourself! Self-acceptance, self-love, and being able to forgive yourself is far more important than what anyone else can give to you! Believe in who you are! You deserve nothing less than that! You're not alone! Feel free to tag me in any other questions that you have! I'll help if I can. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at Digitalinvestigate@gmail. com, where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........
I use to be with a man who is a major narcissist, I literally had to runaway from him to break free. I took what I could carry on my back and my two cats and left. So happy I did !!!!
I did the same thing...never looked back. BUT...he told everyone, even my adult kids that I bled him dry in our divorce and made me out to be a monster. I have a narcissitic daughter who I have had to cut any ties with. My grandkids have been brainwashed to think I'm evil. My only hope is for Karma!
I just broke up with my narcissistic ex yesterday. As heart broken I am, I know for a fact in a couple months I am going to be so much happier and actually find a man that wants to get married to me eventually
That’s my dad, both grandmas, and I think aunt Martha? I’m only aloud around a handful of my family members because their all mentally ill these are just the few were around and tolerate
Ok but what if that person just over does it, like to the point that we despise them and we think of them as cocky. Not to say it's bad but you get the point, of too much is never too good. There's a difference between self love and narcissistic.
I have a long-time friend who applies to most of these signs. It will be hard to drop her, but I have to. She makes me feel awful for being friends with her. I’ve lost good friends because of her, and I’ve finally decided enough is enough. I’m slowly starting to end our friendship, and I hope I’ll get the chance to confront her face-to-face soon. Update: It didn’t go down that well, but I’m glad I overcame my own struggles and told her how I feel. I feel so much better not being her friend
You did well and stayed away who emotionally manipulated you. These people discharges energy from others and plays around and shows no empathy. They are wrong door to knock. Feel strong against them and stay alerted.
@@ShahidKhan-Ireland Have you guys ever thought that it wouldn't be bad to, ya' know, point out them being a narcissist and maybe try to help? I feel like there's a lack of willingness to help people in psychology modernly because it's "not worth it". Don't worry, I get it, but it use to be we should try and have an intervention before it gets worse - now it's "just avoid them so they can harm someone else".
@@poetryflynn3712 I get what you mean and I am sure I'm not the only one, but just because not everyone tells you their reasons and details don't mean we just noped out of a long time friendship just to evade dealing with it. One of my oldest friends make any of these lists seem child-like if you get close to them for a few minutes, one might think they have just been "holding back" for too long and are trying to catch up now, but when you try the best you can to lift someone up from this pit and get not only ostracized but also have every other mutual friend you may have into a constant anti-propaganda on your name that goes on for years because of a single act that they just don't let go, it makes it easier for you to pick your mental health over their chosen madness. I can rest easy knowing that this friend I had for over 20 years, who I almost had a relationship with, to this day still believes the sun rises and sets under their very presence only. We are both better now living apart, and the few friends who saw though their gaslighting and stood by my side...
@@poetryflynn3712 this is literally submitted yourself back to the narcissist torture chamber! That's what narcissist do, they control you, manipulate you, by trying to help them, they got you by the ball. Run, kick them of the hill... sayonora. Reality is not a Hollywood movie.
A hurt inner child wanting the love they never got. It's not their fault they are like this, its how their environment showed them how to be. I personally realized I had narcissistic traits, which 'destroyed' me to know I was that type of person, but soon realized how those around me has the narcissistic personality. Choose to validate/accept the inner childs emotions within, as well as the flaws, is what matters. Choose to unconditionally love yourself even if your emotions/flaws are 'right' or 'wrong,' 'unwanted' or 'wanted' in the eyes of the ego, the ego is just the ideal person you want to be, pushing all else aside. Love yourself no matter what. Accept yourself, don't reject yourself. Yourself will thank you for it. :) Much love
Great advice. People do demonize people with personality disorders too much. I think we all do the best we can, even though some of us aren’t set up to do very well. Glad you’ve been able to grow and gain insight into your behavior.
Hey thanks for this comment, it means a lot for those you got traits of a narcissist like me. I have 3 and 6 and maybe more I don’t realise. I’m a good person in my eyes along with others but I’m just annoying at times ya know? Like yes we have traits of a narcissist but it doesn’t mean we are mean like one which is why I like your comment. We all needed this reminder so thank you. (This is a long thank you comment lol didn’t mean to write this all)
Love is all what it ultimately comes down to. And it is harder to love yourself without letting the inner critic ringing your bell. Thank you for the awesome insights.
can i just cry right here T_T my parents both are covert narcissist and exhibitionist narcissist. I hate them so muchh, promised myself I never want to be like them but...somehow it just runs in my vein making me hating myself even more. Questioning my damn unconscious behaviour like why do I need external validation for my own worth? why do I have to cut off people's argument to make me win myself without my intention? why do I have to let people down? why am I being toxic? why am I so narrow-minded? full of insecurities but living in delusional fantasy? why do I have to feel superior among others while I'm actually nothing? I'm afraid I will become abusive as a parent, so I react in different way. I don't want to get married, I don't want to make friends, I talk little. I feel pathetic. In fact, I don't want to be a narcissist but I am.
@Ira nov Awwww it’s going to be ok, if it bothers you that much then seeing a therapist helps though it does cost money and time. Something I found helped me a lot with issues like this is doing drama classes. It helped with a lot things so it might’ve helped me with these narcissistic traits of mine too... I hope you best of luck and even though you might hate yourself now I promise you in future, you’ll find what you’re looking for 💝
Early obsession. Lots of attention early on. Everything feels too good to be true and it is. They will fall in love with you in the first week. Lots of conversations, they would tell you how much you mean to them and how no one gave them those feelings. They are caring, warm, sensitive, you feel overwhelmed by their attention and everything. They share lots of your character traits, from your interests to anything possible, it’s like when you look yourself in the mirror you see a copy of yourself, what happens in here is you are getting mirrored. Early obsession, you are the best thing that ever happened to them since slice of bread. Early dramas out of the blue, they test you early on with how much you are going to allow them to walk away, they test your empathy levels, after the drama is finished, they would apologize profusely telling you they have overthinked, just because they love you, they cause drama because it’s exciting, they crave for it and they can’t live without it. They would fish for compliments with methods like: You are going to leave me and ditch me, use me break my feelings and leave me, i’m scared of commitment, what if you leave me you will break my heart, i love you i don’t wanna lose you, they will basically give you a negative thing so you can answer with your empathy gaining your empathy, they would share the most heartbreaking events like how people used them, how no one understands them beside you etc. The real manipulations start on the Devaluation stage, when they are bored. Keep in mind their early lies are the lies that even they believe to some degree, they are obsessed with you, they are idealizing with you, meaning they are high on your fuel like a druggie, they don’t know what they are saying or doing, it’s a unconscious process that happens with everyone new and exciting, in reality what happens is that you are making them feel good about themselves stroking their ego and giving them your empathy, they don’t love you, they love the way you make them feel about themselves, it’s all about them, even they believe that they are in love, however what happens in here is that they are obsessed with you nothing more nothing less. After they get bored they start to Devalue consciously and they move forward replacing you.
The way you just described my last relationship from beginning to end is HORRIFYING, thank you so much for this, it really does open my eyes a lot more and helps me feel better about the way things turned out.
Each one of the lines are so apt and to the point that it makes much more scarier to know how generic the pattern is all around the word. Thanks for all the true words.
@@jacob8913 learn what makes a female/male narcisist, and learn what are the traits besides that your not the only one who been through bs stop feeling sorry for yourself and grow.
@@jacob8913 bro if you would have learned what a narc was sooner you wouldnt have wasted that much time im still recovering financially from my ex that was a 32 yo stripper while i was 19 just get over yourself
Actually not everyone uses this knowledge to become a better person. Being able to correct your narcissistic traits is a Hallmark of empathy. Someone with NPD typically won't change these traits without a professional to help them. When they stop seeing their professional they'll start reincorporating these traits over time.
My roommate/family and I used to be very close, but her personality changed ever since she met/married her narcissistic/ abusive partner. My fiancée and I have been verbally and emotionally abused by her and her partner for two years. I've told her, "I'm not mad at you, I'm done with you." She looked confused as usual after I said that (BEWARE narcissists will not understand why you're hurt or upset with them. It's not worth your energy to try to explain!) I walked away. The friend I used to know is gone. I let her go. It's a blessing because something told me and my fiancée to move on. We will be moving out in less than 2 months. It'll be worth it. It's hard, but trust your gut and move on from these toxic people. Your life will be better without them. :)
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My Ex-wife did all 9! I am lucky to had survive, I was a reck for months but I knew it was the right decisión. Now my mind is in peace, I am traveling, enjoying life, and being myself and feeling great every day.
going through similiar crap. can u describe more what traits your wife had that made you think she had this disorder? can we also treat it, because if it's illness, needs to be addressed rather than condemned, because the real victims are themselves. We can leave them, but they can't leave themselves.
Fun fact: a sign that you’re not a narcissist is if you watch this video, contemplate these signs toward yourself and feel any semblance of guilt or shame.
I thought I was a narcissist for a long time because I had trouble paying attention but I ended up being diagnosed with ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder
@@meava4078 when it comes to narcissism it’s really not, reflection is key, if at any point in your life you’ve regretted a decision you’ve made because it hurt someone else, you’re not a narcissist. Even once. If you’ve even had a thought about someone else’s perception or emotions about a situation(not directed at yourself), you’re not a narcissist.
Gaslighting is definitely one most common tactic from narcissists. I have very good memory and I can directly tell that someone is gaslighting me by lying to my face to save their poor self-esteem.
Jesus! This is freakishly spot on about my narcissistic ex who almost had me believing that I was crazy. Worst experience ever people. Beware dating a narcissist. It's hell.
I feel you. I felt like they met my ex in person and were just describing him. He actually had me believe that my mental health issues were the cause for all our problems. Turns out it was the other way around - after he left me I was fine within 2 months and I ended therapy early, because I was just sitting there telling my therapist "i don't know what to tell you, i feel perfectly fine now". Realising what my ex was, what he did to me and how and most importantly that it wasn't my fault and that I would've never changed him was very freeing and healing.
@@airotkiv My ex wife kept trying to convince me that I was abusive because I have a temper problem. What she failed to realize is, I've known I have temper issues since I was 12 (I'm 38 now) and I've been working my entire life to keep my temper under control, and for the most part I'm very successful at it, but she knew exactly which buttons to push to make me lose it, and even when I was literally begging her to stop, she would keep pushing until I snapped, then she would blame me for losing my temper. It was during one of those times that I realized what she was doing to me and decided to leave. I haven't been able to completely get her out of my life yet, but I'm working on it with setting and maintaining boundaries and learning to recognize her manipulations and shutting her down or calling her out on it.
My old friend was just like this , i started cutting him off and it really helped. I felt i was better off alone than with someone who just keeps draining away my fucking energy talking about themselves and never listening to us
@@lj1393 yo, who has narcissistic parents? I only had a single mom while growing up. Do you have narcissistic parents? Sorry dude your life would be hell
You are always better off alone than with a narcissist. It's always about them, always. They're not looking for friends; they want fans and followers to adore them at all times. It's quite liberating when you finally get away from them and free up your energy and time. Real friends will come along in time.
This used to be me when I was married. I was the MOST toxic person alive. My wife finally left me and when she found someone new it brought every one of my flaws and insecurities to light! I turned into an alcoholic and ended up in a psychiatric hospital. The lord delivered me from sex and porn addiction and I was changed. He has restored me and is teaching me to be a loving father. And maybe someday a husband once again!
After a 10 year relationship that I didn't want to believe was toxic, especially toward the end, I'm realizing I was actually under the spell of a narcissist in a sweet and beautiful package. I gave this woman my soul but was always feeling like I needed to be more, do more, love more, change myself for her in order to get her to listen to or be engaged with me fully. This is tremendously heartbreaking. She ended up leaving me completely out of the blue while I was in the hospital and completely cut off all contact with me because I finally began standing up for myself as my mental and physical health took an insane beating from years of keeping up with this person's demands and conditions. Somehow I didn't see it for so long. The constant games, her constant need for selfies and social media validation even when I was sitting right next to her rubbing her shoulders and loving her. I should have seen the red flag much sooner, I am just lucky we did not get married or have children. I am still healing myself, and my heart goes out to anyone else that has dealt with this. May you find someone who treats you well and gives you the love in return that you put out.
I’ve literally gone through the exact same thing and it’s only a few weeks ago. Narcissistic girlfriend, the constant need for validation of pictures. Or the “look at my nails, look at my new rings, look at my new cloths.. they are so pretty”. And this was a daily thing. She really had a hard time listening, even in emotional moments. Sometimes she would respond on it for a little bit, but quickly starting talking about things from her perspective. Usually something completely different. I had a lot of feelings for her, but in hindsight I’m grateful for not having children. Strangely enough, reading your comment made me feel better as I feel like there’s more people going through what I go/went(feels still fresh) through. I’m happy that you can also look back with a positive mindset, knowing you made the right decision. Hopefully we will find nice and warm partners in the future😌
I dated a narcissist for over two years. Didn't really understand much about those things. Sucked my finances and sanity dry. She finally met someone near the end of our relationship and seemed willing to two-time him. I shut it down and stopped talking to her. She would still call, of course. And show up at my job to talk. Call to tell me about her sex life. Eventually, I met someone else who didn't appreciate her calling all the time, so I told the narc that we couldn't talk anymore. She lost her mind, but she did back off. 19 years later she bugs me out of the blue on social media. Always looking for extra supply. I don't block her, but I always leave the comments on Seen. These people are relentless.
Same Story. My mental health declined. I couldnt see the red flags. The hardest thing is admitting to yourself that you fucked up so bad. Send you BIG LOVE BROTHER YOU ARE WORTHY ❤❤
I had married my covert NXW, but it lasted only 5 months before she discarded me and left. I'm now almost 8 months no contact, and slowly healing. I never used to have anxiety, but I do now and I'm learning to deal with it. It took a toll on my health, with my BP now consistently 20 points higher, and I'm always tired.
You are not alone. I too have went through this. Met someone after a breakup. What was supposed to be just a distraction for me & to help me move on soon turned into one of the biggest learning experiences in my life & unfortunately also one of the biggest regrets I'll ever feel. Because there were times that the red flags were there & I ignored them & I was hopeful that we could work through them. But that person saw no flaws or mistakes in her actions. Instead she felt entitled as if she did nothing wrong. She took everything from me..my money, my happiness, she even isolated me from my family by taking all of my time & energy. I gave her my heart & most of all my time. & time is the most precious thing that we cannot get back. Please know that we all deserve better. Whoever is meant to be by your side will be there when it is meant. Otherwise please take the time to put yourself together & love yourself. Just breathe & always have faith that you are destined for good things. You are loved.
I worked for a narcissist for 5 years. I walked in a smart confident person. Walked out a broken afraid person. My friends have asked where that confident strong person went that I used to be. I went in professional smart and strong, came out weak and afraid. She did everything the little cartoon did. I hadnt even notice how weak I had become. 😔
Had a similar experience with a group of friends, I was cheerful and open. But now I'm shaking between optimistic and pessimistic and became more private. as overtime I was drained, They were happy and comfortable of me suffering. I could see it the expression in my facebook photos over the years. I thought we support and cared for one another, but in reality they never cared and only wanted themselves to be ahead.
I worked for a Narc 9 years of hell!!! Finally when the world shit down.I was like omg this is my opportunity to leave & find other employment.Now I think I have a friend that's a narc.I'm about over it😔
@@Rushour717 I'm guessing you're better looking than them and/or "have" something, someone, or a special gift or talent they don't. If they couldn't be empathetic to your needing them, they didn't care you were hurting - and that almost always comes back to jealousy. Really hurtful, but you don't expect it in friends if it's not in you. Hard lesson but their loss 🌹
@Vortex Edge STRENGTH! (You'll need it). Probably jealous she's not young ... Classic Narc mom thing. Do your best to clear out the house ~ can't study in toxic muck) 💞
I dont know who I am, I would assume so. The coaches aka my abusers and I were never really close. They fit all of the symptoms, but I haven’t seen them in a year so it doesn’t really matter to me.
I dont know who I am, don’t worry about your English I’m a bit dyslexic. My therapist said it was most likely narcissistic abuse so that’s just what I’m gonna classify it as
Davis White maybe you should realise abuse is extremely toxic and caused my suicidal thoughts and and failed suicide attempt. Mind your own business, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything
That's not it at all. To escape one, you need to love yourself more than you love them. It's a personality disorder that comes from a genetic predisposition, plus childhood abuse. It's a coping mechanism for them. They always need to be in control. Power and control. Maybe because they weren't in control during their childhood abuse. It's sad, but doesn't give them the right to ignore your boundaries and hurt you.
Narcissists don’t really love themselves, they are hollow soulless individuals who suck the life force out of everyone in the end. I just hope that in time we all can recognise this toxicity in our midst which seems to be growing, and find ways to halt their influence. Sadly many narcissists are in positions of power and influence in society. Their fake narratives (or confabulations aka LIES) are one of the worst traits in my opinion. The havocked they wreak on those close to them and in institutions and workplaces is unforgivable and nothing short of evil.
Narcissism isn’t just about loving oneself, it’s about being obsessed with oneself, and that can include constantly hating themselves for not being perfect enough, which usually affects those around them.
i dated a narcissist for 9 months, now they’re out of my life and i’m doing so much better mentally and all the people around me see it too. it’s never too late to get out
You're lucky you managed to get away after 9 months only. I got stuck for 2.5 years because we "loved" each other too much to break up. We had broken up and got back together a few times. It was incredibly difficult to leave him.
the saddest thing about being manipulated by a narcissist is that they make you feel guilty for being manipulated AND also for becoming aware of that and wanting to stop them from keep harming you. No matter what, they don't change NEVER.
How is "They fish for compliments" not on here An example would be: Narcissist:Ugh,I'm so ugly :( *posts photo of them trying to look as attractive as possible* Followers:You are so beautiful! I wish I looked like you!
“feeling like your losing your mind” “cant explain it to other” another is changing your habits to theirs. not sure if thats part of one already, but if you enjoy something a narcasist does not, you likely wont enjoy it forever
I was in a very toxic relationship with my ex-best friend who was a girl (I'm also a girl) and she had sexual interest in me even though we're both minors. She would constantly pressure me into doing things but I never gave in even after telling her I wasn't interested in her in that way. She was super toxic and accused me of being the self centered narcissist. :( She's not doing mentally well at all either so that's probably part of that too other than the narcissism.
Was in a relationship with a narcissist for only four months and about two more months of us being separate but still seeing each other. In that short amount of time I lost 55 pounds. I would not sleep, had lost my appetite, and was living in constant fear of triggering them but constantly trying to please him. I was addicted to him. And he was addicted to the love and attention I gave him. I had no clue what the true definition of a narcissist was or the characteristics they embodied. Educating yourself is the armor you need. Learning of it will seriously save your mental health. And I’m some cases, your life.
♡ summary of the video ♡ 1. Instead of listening, they’re wrapped up in their own opinion 2. They tend to cheat in relationships 3. They constantly need to be admired 4. They do not take any criticism well 5. They exploit others without guilt or shame 6. They belittle others 7. They see themselves as more attractive than they really are 8. They gaslight those who are “dear” to them 9. They put some people on pedestals i recommend watching the video to learn more :) you are beautiful, worthy, and you are enough. i love you all and stay safe.
I have a friend who falls under all these categories. His parents spoil him all the time just because he has ADD which isn’t even severe. His parents may not know it but they’re enforcing the narcissism they don’t know exist. He emotionally drains me and my sister everyday and whenever I criticize his art style he never decides to improve it and always gets angry at any criticism anyone gives him and considers criticism as “bullying” even though they’re just telling him what to improve on and what he’s doing good. He doesn’t even feel like a friend anymore but I act like it because we’ve been friends since we were 4 years old. I feel his parents might get super angry at me and that my friend will start bullying me if I say “I don’t really want to be your friend anymore.” Heck, I’ve made a new group of friends who I’ve considered calling my best friends instead of my narcissistic friend I’ve been mentioning for 4/5 of the post. Back on topic, my friend ended up making what could’ve been a really good field trip, the worst one ever. The teachers never pay attention to anyone who sits in the back of the bus so my friend decided to slouch back and lay down with his legs in the middle aisle and I was like “Dude, don’t do that. You could get hurt if we crashed.” He just responded that he’ll be fine and I kept trying to get him to sit up. When he did he said he did it to mess with me and I felt like I was gonna cry because I’m concerned for the safety of my friends. Also we were gonna get lunch on the way back to school so my parents gave me some cash and I accidentally left my wallet on the bus during my trip and my friend stole the money and I wasn’t able to eat. I figured out it was him because he openly admitted it after lunch. I was pissed at him. I don’t know why I even call him a friend anymore.
My uncle is a narcissistic, he always plays the victim even though he was the one that wronged people, he gaslighted people, only did 'acts of kindness' so he could get something in return. I may be a narcissist but I can't imagine being that bad.
These are my abusive father's traits: - never helps us with house chores. - emotionally unstable. he loses his shit over simple mistakes/inconveniences. for e.g not preparing food on time. - "me me me" mindset. he always demands us attention, but barely shows us any. - know-it-all person who uses "logic" to excuse his bullshit when in fact he's very irrational. - likes to accuse us things. - can't take "no". if he wants something, he gets it. - "how dare you do this to your father?" - "i raised you. i feed you. know your place!" - "look at you wearing fancy clothes. are you trying to seduce other men?" "you care more about your friends than your husband?" he often says these manipulative things to my mother. - compares me & calls me names. - talks bad about me and my mother to his relatives/our neighbors - passive agressive - threatens us with violence - hits us if he loses his control - silent treatment - you feel like talking to a wall. he never listens. Unlike my mother (who's a product of domestic abuse), i know how to deal with him and protect my mother from him sometimes. Knowing he's an abusive person helps, but i admit, it's getting very tiring. I wish i could leave him, but i haven't succeeded in convincing my mother to leave him yet. I just can't leave her alone with him. I guess i have to suck it up and deal with it until i can't take it anymore.
My heart goes out to you, because I too grew up with such creature and then ended up getting married to one. Please get out as soon as you can. Nothing is worth the horrible pain and aftermath of dealing with these creatures. I went no contact with my whole family and divorced to save my 4 children and myself. I'm sending you much Love and Peace, Strength and a healthy mind! Keep your beautiful head up and don't ever give up on yourself 💛 You deserve Love and happiness!
Try this one... "I brought you into this world... AND I can take you out of it." OR "It would have been better for everyone, if the Doctors had been right" (that my Mother couldn't carry to term)... SO basically my biological sperm donor was a pretty monstrous bastard, too... ...grew up under this kind of roof... AND I've survived it. It IS possible. You DO have hope. I wish the best for you. You can make it there from here. ;o)
One in One the Situation I have at home. I'm also not leaving because I can't convince my mother to leave him. He does the exact same things you have mentioned. I really don't know what to do and he steals all our happiness and joy of life. Any tips?
Yes the one that left my sister after being best friend for 10 years for a boy that was with another girl when they “devil tangoed” and said “ he wasn’t ready to break up with Kylie yet” oof
I used to have a good friend who was diagnosed with NPD. He was a real leader personality who gave me the first real reason to live, but really HATED what he was and that he did all of these things. He couldn't keep up all the promises he made and admitted that he only made them so he could have friends. He constantly tried to get me to help him be more normal and understanding while not even his therapists could help him. In the end, the constant gaslighting and pretending to commit suicide for attention was just too much. I do miss the positive parts, though. He was fun to be around
I think something similar happened to me... But then, well, in a fit of rage he decided to s3xually ass4ult me. The last time I spoke with him he said that he was trying to change his mentality, instead of thinking of everyone as less valuable than him, he would try to think the opposite of that and to try to care for other as much as possible. I definitely don't know if I should believe him. I honestly hope that's true and that he gets the help that he needs, but I won't take the risk of continuing that friendship just to confirm that. For my safety and well-being, I never want to talk to him ever again
my fist ex was not diagnosed with it but i do belive that they maybe do have NPD. They never listened to me and also always said something about suicide or self harm. One time we broke into a fight andsome friends told me that she again is telling them that she will do it. I got really nervous and ran to my mother that we need to get to her house now so that i can stop her... when i got there in tears in panic she was just sitting in her room with her mother and watching a film while eating ice cream. I was happy to see her alright but after that i stopped having contact with her because i realised how she fucked me up over two years of worrying and not realising the problem. i still miss the happy times but i know now that, that would have not hold longer than that anyway... (there was more than just that happening but this is the biggest event) sry i just kinda felt like i had to tippe this in here and wanted to share it
@@khamsumtsheringwangdi1095 yes i am. I of course also have other Problems but i think she was the biggest one. Thank you and i hope you are also doing okay (also hope that for the others here!)
My father is a narcissist and I could never pinpoint in my 35 years of trying to have a relationship with him what it was about me he seems to despise. Thank you for this video, I finally have clarity. Now down a rabbit hole of youtube videos I go to figure out how to heal these wounds!
My mother hits all the signs of a narcissist in all the videos I have been listening to. Now I have clarity as well. I am 36.. and I found it out for about 1-2 weeks ago.
my friends and i have been trying to kick a girl out of our friend group for months now but it hasn’t been working. one of my friends called her a narcissist, and i thought she was exaggerating until i saw this video. every thing that came up here i was able to relate all the way back to the girl. it’s crazy cause you don’t realize it until it’s pointed out.
What’s even more evil is a narcissist can even control Management and Supervisors more to favor them, and ruin an innocent person reputation at the workplace leaving them socially isolated from the clique group The narcissist can and will convince others to avoid that person and the sad part is 9/10 the sheeple believe in the narcissists words as the truth
happened to me one year back. I quit without hesitation. Now I´m looking for a therapist who can help me to gain more self confidence, so I can be able to fight back when necessary.
True. Happened to me. I quit my job and became a stay at home mom again. I didn't need the money. Now they are severly shorthanded because people keep leaving. Oh well. I miss my clients. And the girl who started the BS? She quit way after me and is still a broke loser. Like why did you quit and you couldn't afford to? Dummy. And shes STILL the same..
I came here for a family member that has been slowly sucking the life out of me, and my parents are always on their side and don’t help me when this family member is hurting? Being rude? Annoying? I don’t even know what to call it. But I’m afraid that I might be the problem and not them because of it..
I started feeling afraid to speak my mind because anything I say may be used against me, nothing I do matters. How I feel does not count. I think my friend is one. Doesn't take criticism well. Acts like I she's the best thing that ever happened to me. I've often had to look inward and ask myself if I'm a bad person. Now I know I'm not the problem.
My mom used to be in a relationship with a narcissist and if she didn’t agree with his opinion he would get angry and start yelling at her and sometimes start abusing her. Luckily she left him and she’s doing well now.
Yep. Same here girl. I decided to end things because I was done being abused by him and using leverage against me about him “contemplating a break up with Me” felt like he was just trying to put power over me
i was dating a girl just recently that did and was doing a lot of these things to me recently. i remember at one point i called my friend i was like "brooooooo tell me im not crazy" it was actually so insane the effect it had on me even though it wasnt a long time. and now, now im blessed
I know a like this he is a demon masked as an angel. I'm a guy that try to hide my inner demon. I'm mostly an angle but if someone piss me off my demon takes control. The problem here is my inner demon was bigger than him.
I had a best friend for nine years that had an extreme narcissistic personality. Maybe not the best idea for someone with an extreme anxiety disorder to do... She was constantly manipulating telling me things such as “your fat, you should try to look more like me” or when i would try to express how I was feeling she would go “sorry but i don’t really have time to associate with people like that.” Another thing I noticed was she was very possessive and hating me trying to go and talk to others. I tried anything to please her and felt as if I was the one doing something wrong the whole time I was friends with her. This made it hard for me to talk to others even after she left me as I was scared since she would use excuses such as “they probably won’t like you” or “they won’t like how your so shy” to get me to stay with her instead. Anyways, I just thought i’d share my personal experience with a narcissistic personality and how my anxiety didn’t cope too well with that 😂😂
That sounds like a horrible experience but I'm glad that person isn't in your life anynore. Hope that you are trying to better yourself now after the experience
One time I had a pregnancy scare because my ex would tell me “I get the vibe that you’re pregnant and I’m Dominican so you know it’s most likely true”. So the same night I had the pregnancy scare I told him I was gonna tell my mom to take me to the gynecologist to get a pregnancy test and an STD check. He said “I wouldn’t tell your mom that you might be pregnant if I were you”.. when I asked him why he said “because most people would leave somebody when they’re pregnant”.... but that’s not even the worse he’s said or done! He’s called me really disrespectful names, put his hands on me, and told me that he cared about me and loved me.. which was a lie...
Shy people are some of the most interesting and likable people in the world, in my honest opinion. Being shy shows you are mindful, and that you think before you act or speak, meaning when you finally do come out of your shell, it's exponentially more meaningful and lovely than with someone who constantly yaps to fill the silence. xD In my eyes, being shy is a good thing, and i hope you see it that way too, despite what your narcissistic ex-friend said. :)
I'm a hopeless Dame Carealot, narcs love me because of that, but they absolutely hate my husband who often takes a firm grip around that mask they wear and rip it off, not caring about them turning their backs, gaslighting or whatever they may do. I remember a certain friend of mine that made both of us really angry because of how she treated our neighbor. I told her I want to help him because he had shown up with wounds on his hands and wrists and he doesn't have any pets. She started shaming him by saying that people who cut themselves only do that for attention. Some months later, she showed up with her own wounded arms, shoving them into our faces with the words: "Look what I did the other day, I'm so fed up with my life!" So when you do it yourself you're entitled to ask for our help, but when others do it they just seek attention? We told her to leave, then called 112 (911 where I live). After that, we never spoke again and man do we feel free.
Ok, so, let me just say this: I. Frikin. LOVE this art style. it's so expressive and unique! I love it and i personally think that it's so cute! it's simple yet very expressive! It also has more movements and i like the bouncy effect they had on the characters! good job to whoever animated this!
My wife had a friend that loved when people she knew failed, was defeated, or suffered misfortunes. She was hooked on Facebook and would call up giggling everytime she learned about a classmates misfortune. She was jealous of others as well.
A few years ago I realised that I was in a really bad place mentally, I really hated myself. Since then I've tried to hype myself up with thoughts like "you're the best" in an attempt to make me feel better about myself, but when I genuinely started believing those thoughts I was scared that I would turn into some sort of narcissist. I felt better after watching this video, I know that I'm not a narcissist, just discovering newfound confidence :D So.. thanks for this video! And thanks for reading?^^
That's what differentiates from the narcissist. They feel they are entitled although they've done crap e.g. expect a loving relationship while sabotaging it from the core.
"Have you ever noticed feeling that you can't remember anything correctly around a specific person." This one hit the hardest. My mom will change every story to always make her the good/right one even when it's blatantly untrue, and even when multiple people in the family disagree. It's nice to know, but I wish I could unlearn that she is a narcissist. She's right down the ballot every symptom one. It's hurt our relationship because I avoid her for the most part nowadays. Every conversation is negative and all about what me and everyone else is doing wrong and how without her our family would be clueless and fall apart. She's unemployed and sits around drinking all day. It's bonkers. But she's my mom and I love her so I deal with it from time to time. I'm just grateful that my Dad is the most positive reinforcing person I know.
Don’t worry if you’re also a narcissist like me but don’t wanna hurt the ones you love or care for. You can always be a *_Functional Narcissist_* , by practicing these: Self-acceptance: Have a healthy sense of self-worth and self-regard. Curiosity: Be curious about others' thoughts and feelings. Compassion: Be compassionate towards others. Ability to tolerate criticism: Be able to tolerate criticism and defeat. Empathy: Be able to empathize with others Empathy will be the most difficult part but by doing these it will help build your empathy; ~Prioritize listening (ignore your own emotions or other distractions and focus on others words and emotions) ~Ask questions and be curious of other people’s emotions (you can always ask them how an experience made them feel) ~Copy the emotions you recognize (if you watch a video with someone who’s hurt. Try understanding and feeling their emotions) ~Share your emotions and be open/vulnerable (give people a chance to empathize with you by sharing painful emotions like guilt, shame, or anxiety) ~Take action when you recognize you can help (even if it’s small or seemingly insignificant, do things to help others even if it’s just to say bless you after someone sneezed) ~Notice body language (try to pick up on small things from the tone of their voice, to small shifts in their energy) ~Talk to people (if you can start a conversation with someone. Do it!)
I love how in describing a narcissist's life, we put a lot of stuff in quotation marks, like narcissists gaslight those who are "dear" to them. Because most of their lives are in quotation marks, because their "perfect" lives aren't real!
I came here to find out if this was me. I literally don’t know because I question everythingggg it’s like I can’t trust my own judgement. I’m like “what if I’m just in denial” I’d hate myself if I find out I actually am a narcissist or have narcissistic tendencies 😖 my mother is a narcissist and it seemingly runs in my family. Pray for me. My purpose is to break these generational curses
It’s gonna be ok! Make sure you show empathy. The video said that narcissists don’t show empathy, so if you do then I don’t think you have much to fear☺️💛 Stay strong soldier!💪
If this question is stemming from wondering how your behaviour impacts others, not how do your actions affect the way others view you, then you're probably good
@@bilwisss empathy is a huge part of my identity. I consider myself an empath yet I can also feel nothing at all at times depending how on who it is I guess
literally the entire video I was stuck in a cycle of, "do I do that? I dont really know" to "Maybe this is me, but I dont want anybody to get hurt" to "I cant be a narcissist, I pretty much always express self hatred, but maybe that is just a facade" and now I just feel lost
Holy crap, I met a girl a year and a half ago and she has all the 9 signs! She's Japanese and wants to move in with me in my home country. The thing is that I discovered little by little that she lacks empathy (I was beaten by my dad as a child, and when I told her she shrugged it off by saying that I should learn to love myself instead of finding excuses about my lack of confidence), wants to change my behavior (by forbidding me using humor that doesn't suit her or supposedly rude expressions), doesn't want to talk about anything "negative" (mostly stuff she disagrees with), expects me to pay for not only the daily expenses but also for luxury gifts, pressured me into buying an expensive ring -that she doesn't wear because it's linked to a "bad" experience she supposedly had when I bought it), victimizes herself constantly and wants only to be surrounded by "positive people" aka people that are wealthy or of high professional status. She criticizes my belongings and my apartment (saying that when she'll come we need to move to a bigger place because she needs an office space), thinks that my car is small and that she'll need a bigger car. Each time I pointed this behavior out, she gets mad and sometimes violent. When I try to discuss with her she gets dismissive and patronizing. I always feel like I am inferior to her, she's body-shaming me (even though I've been told that I was attractive by some girls in the past) and while she's conventionally attractive, she has a high image of herself. She says she needs a man "she can rely on", meaning someone who will be manipulated by her into doing whatever she wants. This video just made me realize that I'm probably making a big mistake. This chick is toxic af. I need to break up. I just feel sorry that her parents like me.
Sorry bro but she sounds exactly like my ex wife who definitely is a narcissist. But if you haven’t ran for the hills yet & need some more clarity it’s easy- just tell her you’re not sure you’re ready for marriage & need some time & space - during a nice long break of around 6 - 12 months she will show you everything you need to know ! Good luck & God bless !!
Dude, RUN, I repeat RUN - do not walk - and GTFO. It doesn't matter what her parents think of you, SHE is the one you'd have to deal with. And she may be feeding into the perception that her parents are fond of you - whether or not they actually are - in order to add that element of guilt that she feels will keep you where she wants you. No matter how hard it is to break up, it will be much harder to get rid of her when you cohabit and possibly (gods forbid) marry - especially if any children are produced. Trust me, she is NOT mother material. It sounds as though she is already verbally abusive to you, and has displayed violence to make her point. This will ONLY get worse the more secure she gets in the relationship. She clearly doesn't love you or she wouldn't feel compelled to change everything about you. She WANTS to keep you feeling inferior, that gives her power. I mean just think of how WRONG that is in a relationship - the partners should be best friends, encouraging one another. I see it's been a couple months since you posted - I so, so hope you were able to end this. If you haven't yet, be prepared for the s**t to hit the fan when you try to dump her. She will use guilt, anger, violence, anything she can to keep you where she wants you. Narcissists detest rejection. It dumps a load of cognitive dissonance into their little world. I mean if they are as perfect as they want to believe, NOBODY would ever want to leave, right? Yeahhh... Get out and don't look back, ever. You deserve so much better. It's clear you're educated and intelligent, you're articulate and possess insight. Don't second-guess yourself. Spidey sense is never wrong.
Finding out you're the fool in a relationship with a gas lighting narcissist is a shitty feeling. Vids like this have opened my eyes to the secret hell and invisible cage I've been in and help me feel less crazy lol.
It's really hard to accept that those: "wrong again" feelings and reactions you had WERE ACTUALLY times when your instincts were RIGHT. It can feel like you're deflated after looking at it as it was: gaslighting. Yeah, there's relief, but it's made me feel foolish. "How did I let myself get played like that?" It really sucks.
So true. I've dealt with a gas lighting narcissist. He never directly answers questions, and he always denies the truth by accusing the other person of making things up.
I used to live with someone I’m now sure is a narcissist. They rescued me from a rough home life but over the years became just as toxic as what I left. Very glad to be out of contact with them despite missing some of the nicer times together, I don’t miss the abuse and manipulation.
I stopped being friends with a girl I was really close to for a few years- and I knew what she was doing wrong to me, I just never knew how to word it. But now that I’ve watched this video- and she fits into every category that this video gave, a narcissist definitely describes her well.
Used to have a friend I've always wondered about. Group outings had to be adjusted to her wants, conversations couldn't veer from her interest. It was really frustrating because I was the only one in the group that got fed up with it. Then my best friend did after 1) she took her to her Christian life group and she proceeded to embarrass her by telling everyone that their god murders babies (did she think she was enlightening them?) and 2) my best friend and I were having issues with the rest of our friend group leaving us out of things (me especially). We'd raised the issue and our "friends" and they insisted we were misunderstanding. Every year we had a New Year's party, but that year it had been canceled. SHE told my best friend the party went ahead. Either she lied because she wanted us to feel bad and lash out at the others, or they didn't want us at the party and she told the truth and wanted us to feel bad and lash out at the others. Either way, those friendships didn't last much longer.
Sign number one, three and four, five and six in this video are accurate. And they do idealize some people, and then devalue. But some people with NPD will show these signs in subtle ways. Lack of ability to feel empathy for others (lack of normal range empathy). They do have intellectual empathy, but they don't FEEL empathy like most people can. Another sign is Entitlement and Arrogance. They may feel entitled to treat someone else poorly, maybe even bullying or abusing someone else. Yet, they act like they somehow have that right. Arrogance can show up in overt ways or subtle (covert) ways. Rarely do people with NPD brag about themselves in obvious ways, but they may be very critical of others (just one example). Unhealthy boundaries is another characteristic. They may rush the nature and pace of a relationship (can be romantic or non romantic). Or they may show subtle signs of a lack of regard for your boundaries. It can almost feel like dealing with a teenager, instead of an adult. A need for external validation (loosely known as narcissistic supply). For example, wanting the boss to know how much more competent they are, compared to others in the workplace. A high need for control is another characteristic. For example, they might micromanage a coworker. Also, people who have NPD will sometimes target certain people, while being great to others. Other signs are a whole set of behaviors and behavioral patterns, such as gaslighting, projection and blame shifting, resistance to perceived criticism (no one likes to be criticized, but most people can handle it, if it's necessary and respectful). But someone who has NPD may be far more resistant and sometimes even hostile, aggressive , resentful, etc., to the person who they believe criticized them. Lack of personal accountability. Passive aggressive behaviors, or sometimes aggressive. Depending on the person. And the situation. But they'll be passive aggressive to be problematic for the targeted person. Emotionally abusive behaviors. Creating Triangulation. Remember that this is coming from a pathological need or drive to protect the ego. And a defense mechanism called the Grandiose Sense of Self. Aka, Grandiose self image. They don't have a stable sense of identity. They have these traits and characteristics, that are rigid, maladaptive and inflexible to treatment. So it's not just a person who is occasionally insensitive, or who is a little selfish at times. No one is perfect. And it's not just a "narcissistic" person. And it's not Narcissism. Narcissism is a trait, not a personality disorder. But with NPD, there is a more significant pattern of these behaviors.
My narcissistic person says it’s “rude” to walk away when he’s essentially berating me. Simple criticisms evolve into gut-tearing exposé on my deficiencies.
That was my last straw with my ex wife - we were having a nice conversation, she started criticizing me for no reason to obviously start a fight with me, I wasn't in the mood and walked away so she started a fight with me for that, then when I was getting ready to go take a walk and cool off, she straight accused me of cheating on her with my best friend's widow (he had committed suicide about a year prior, and they're both like family to me so I'd been helping the widow deal with her own issues) and that was when I said, "F this, I'm out." I'm still pretending to be friends with her for now because if I don't she'll lie to the cops that I raped her and have me arrested.
Narcissist: "I'm too beautiful for you, so i think we should break up." Me: *Raises finger and opens mouth in protest, but pauses and thinks for a second* ... Also me: "I agree." *Walks away* When a narcissist hands you a deus ex machina, you should always take it, no questions asked. xD A situation like that is a perfect way to stop associating with the narcissist, and live a healthy life without them mentally poisoning you. :)
I spent 6 yrs of my adult life staying under my older sisters butt, helping her take care of her home, her kids, making sure she was never alone, never bored & if I so much as got sick & couldn’t help her do smth that rlly didn’t require help then I was garbage beneath her foot. Then anytime my other sister came she wld say things that appeared vague to her but I would know exactly what she was talking abt so that I wld have an outburst making me look like the crazy one & isolate me from the rest of the family. I can’t believe I let it go so long thinking that she needed me, like I was a part of her life when I was just a toy for when the ppl she did respect weren’t available. I had to cut her off but my relationship w my oldest niece is so strong that it’s rlly hard to manage. I can never truly cut her out for at least another 10 yrs bc I love my niece. This video truly has saved me from tending to someone else’s garden while mine dried up and died
My cousin is a narcissist, or at least acts like one. I was friends with her for years, and I would be lying if I said being around her didn’t affect me. She used her troubles and trauma to make me feel like I wasn’t valid. Yes, she has been through a lot, but instead of giving advice to others going through her same situation, she used it to make me feel like I didn’t have a reason to be sad. She’d tell me that I didn’t have a reason to be sad because I had a happy family, good friends, everything I needed, and most of what I wanted. Now I realize that I don’t actually have most of those things, but at the time I believed her. In the end she succeeded in making me feel invalid. I will probably never convince myself that my mental health is indeed worth it because of what she did. But, y’know, that just happens sometimes. Good luck to everyone who is dealing with a narcissist or dealing with the aftermath of a narcissist. It takes time, but I know you’ll pick yourself back up. Love you
One of the best responses to a narcissist (in my opinion): "Quite an opinion you have. Good thing it's only that and not a matter of fact." Denying them their self proclaimed divinity and brushing off their shots at you like it's nothing drives them insane, it's painful to some of them because they can't stand the thought of the possibility of not being the best.
@@ponzu638 Then the individual is a lost cause, he/she is essentially fucked because no amount of rational reasoning seems to work. The ego is too powerful for the narcissist to resist its hold and see other perspectives around it.
I had a friend that was a Narcissist in primary school, he always kissed the teachers asses, he cheated in situations if it meant that he would get his own way, and he would bully vulnerable kids in my class to feel powerful, he would throw kids under the bus if he could save his own ass, he would frequently slap, kick, punch, etc. me and my friends for no reason, and once he collapsed into tears when my teacher found out that he beat up the quiet kid in our class. Glad that he didn't follow me to high school.
Stop being a B**** and go back to his house RIGHT NOW and kick his ass into OBLIVION boyyy! Keep kicking until he pukes ALL the food he's eaten in his shitty life 😁👍
the worst narcissist isn’t the one who calls themselves perfect or things like this but the one that play the victim
This is sooo true!!!!
Yeah overt narcs are easy to recognize an easily avoidable. The one that thrive through playing victim are the ones that sneak through peoples radar. The covert
Or the ones that flip flop between the two 🤦♀️
Yeah my parents are both, My father thinks without him we are nothing amd my mother thinks she is a victim and loves to be rescued..I don't know they are playing the king and the dumbbell princess in distress..They are already like into role playing of master and maid..I don't know..they are both narcicist. We have no choice children but to play as the knights and the healers for ourselves and for our younger siblings..Thats how dramatic it is..😣
@@CasualViewer768 Fact. 👍👍
The person that comes to your mind while you're looking at this video is definitely one
Two actually 😪
Donald Trump
Nothing,
She is the reason I searched this video
@@zehraali2202 and him too
Video Summary:
1. Instead of listening they are wrapped up in their own opinion
2. They tend to cheat in relationships
3. They constantly need to be admired
4. They do not take any criticism well
5. They exploit others without guilt or shame
6. They belittle others
7. They see themselves more attractive than they really are
8. They gaslight who are “dear” to them
9. They put *some* people on pedestal
*have a great quarantine day!!*
Your welcome :D 🙏
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FACTS
Thank you 😊
Thanks for putting this together Wendy. Did we miss any?
“Don't wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.”
When it comes to narcissists, this is the only advice you need to follow.
Thank you 👏🏻
Excuse me, so sorry...what pigs? Who are the pigs? Which pig likes it?
Been there done that, never again, its like talking to a wall but isn't a wall, I rather spend my time alone then deal with those freak
A Narcistic person is Demon Possesed...My own brother was also a Narcist but when i prayed to Jesus to set him Free and i kept on Praying Persistently for days and Even Weeks he eventually got Set Free! Whoever the Son of God has Set free is Free and Free INDEED! 😄Believe in the Words of Jesus People every thing is possible with him that is Obedient to the words of Jesus Christ and pray's according to His will🙏💟Also sin will take us to Hell...
@@michelehernandez4217dont get into a fight where the other gets some sick pleasure out of getting everyone dirty
Narcissists make you feel like you are the crazy one, and you aren’t. They are incredibly critical of other people but if you try to criticize them they only double down on trying to make you feel bad. They are master manipulators and often very convincing because many times they believe their own lies. It’s a very challenging personality disorder to deal with, and it can make you start questioning yourself and reality. Sending out much love to this amazing community! ♥️
Nena facts !
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@@NenaLavonne lol
@@NenaLavonne nailed it
Yeah the problem is they can't differentiate between their own lie with reality. Make they live in delusional world.
And when we show them fact they'll attack us🤦🏻♀️
This artstyle is so cute!!! Why is the narcissist so adorable???? Good job, artist.
why does your comment say 4 weeks ago
@@naeqiis4688 I know right!!
Are you a time traveler?
@@naeqiis4688Oh damn, I just noticed that, what the hell?
It gives me madhattey vibes
As someone who was a victim of a narcissistic abuser. Another form of manipulation is they will act like they were completely unaware of how they treated you and will also find a way to make it your fault for how they treated you.
Exactly. What I’m dealing with now
This and the video accurately describe my father
@@ceyciemateo9411 If you're able to, slowly distancing yourself is key. Narcissist always need someone to abuse. I had to keep telling myself that when they kept calling messaging and remind myself 'they don't care, they care why you arent interacting with them' and learning the difference between concern and control.
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Thank you. I have been slowly doing this. I’ve been being very strong. It’s starting to get hard, but I am hanging in there. He is constantly saying & doing things to get me to react. I haven’t been budging. I think he’s very bothered right now that I’m not giving him what he wants. He does things to get a rise out of me, then when I react, he acts like I’m “tripping” and he just be “chilling” and “showing love” but see ai have figured out that he will do something good in-between all of the BS and if you do say something about the BS… he treats you like you are blocking your “blessings” and self-sabotaging the relationship but he knows exactly what he is doing. He takes pleasure in causing women stress and turmoil. There were red flags I seen when we were just friends. I ignored them , he just wore me down and I finally gave in. Now I regret because I am in love with the wrong kind of person. He’s out of town now, has been for a few weeks. He canceled my birthday trip on me, laughed at me when I got upset about it. Obviously lied about the reason he couldn’t take me. I ended up going on a trip anyway without him and now he tells me over the phone that he’s in Texas looking for houses. I know he’s lying to get me to beg him to stay and not move & leave me. Then he is baiting me with an imaginary gift that he claims he has for me… but ignored me the 2 days leading up to when I went on my trip and then called me and said he would give it to me when I got back. Knowing he would be out of town for work. Now he expects me to chase him down for a gift he promised me. I don’t even bring it up! Not too mention he keeps bringing up my FB dating profile he found online and basically let me know that he has one. I didn’t react to that either. I’m like so fed up with his games. But I still have strong feelings for him that I wish would go away.
When he told me he made this girl he was dating cry when he told her he didn’t want to have sex with her anymore and thought it was funny. I should’ve known something was wrong with him then. But I still let him date me, smh now I am in too deep and I guess if he ghosts me that would be the best thing that could ever happen to me because I won’t ever reach out to him anymore and allow him to play his games
yes. I'm a victims of narsiccist personality! my officemate.. she's try to conquer all the things.. try to make me like she's wokrkers.. to be perfectionist.. like a bossy! because she's a elderly there. ti control me.. may be she's a pcyco,??
The worst part about a narcissist is that their behavior seems perfectly acceptable to them and see no problem with it whatsoever. It has become so deeply embedded into their personality that one could say it is almost subconscious.
Not true. They can name the childhood pain that they justify thier behaviour with & they share it with you early in the relationship. It’s not healed. Run.
It is subconscious in general. People who have NPD aren't necessarily consciously aware of what is actually driving them when it comes to the more maladaptive behaviors and characteristics. They often don't self reflect though, because they don't want to experience narcissistic injury, or cognitive dissonance. They tend to have a grandiose self image, and want to maintain that in their minds.
If they seen no problem in their behavior then they wouldn't hide & lie behind it to make people seem crazy 🤷🏾♀️ their behavior is embarrassing & shameful & they damn well know it is
The problem with "social media" is that they tend to promote narcissists.
Our whole society has promoted and encouraged narcissism, normalized the mentalities and behaviours. It's disgusting, embarrassing and very depressing😳😖
Well, most people promote self love. There's a difference between self love and narcissism
So truuuuueeeeeer
Trump is a perfect example
My exes worst toxic behaviors were from Instagram. I hate Instagram now. She loved the attention.
My headphones: “The delusion of LOW BATTERY is what causes people to-“
Nothing more delusional than a low battery, am I right?
*LOoW B A T T E R Y :D*
it says it in a soo happy-mode
Aaaagh i know how it feels
My raycons: *LoW bATteRy pLeAsE cHarGE*
PLEASE RECHARGE YOUR HEADSET :)
Haha this made me smile
They should’ve talked about the covert narcissist who act like they’re not good enough, vulnerable, and shy and not confident. They will hurt you the most bc you won’t see it coming
They are also called victim narcissists
And their tactics are so covert and sinister, and no one recognises them as a narcissist in their life because they expect a narc to be really arrogant and overt
@@kat7077 exactly!
Yeah those are the one's that really dig the knife in deep, totally blind side you! They got more tricks up their sleeves than Houdini and so full of lie's they don't rember what the truth is! In the end though you still feel sorry for them, cause their so pitiful, psychotic and sad!
@@curtiswood2013 but you still have to walk away. They are going to bring you down with them if you don’t
For anyone who is with a narcissist and is still in the thinking stage about leaving, just leave. I’ve tried to be the person in point 9, but after 4 hard years, not only have I failed to live up to another persons arbitrary perception of perfection, I’ve lost myself in the process.
Always value the love you have for yourself more than the love of others. No matter how much you might love them.
You’re not alone, friend❤
@@hershekissed I had two narcissists in my life. I figured it out on my own and got rid of both, but it's wonderful to know I did the right thing and the right way, but it took me 4 years for the man I was dating and many, many years for my relative.
Yea totally agree, I left my narcissist dad about 7 months ago and it's the best thing I ever did, it was hard leaving my sister and dog behind and I'm still getting over them but I know I'll be better in the long run
Thank you !
Absolutely love yourself more don't slip. You'll come to realize Narcissist don't like people loving them because they're adnormal human beings
I was married to a Narcissist for 7 yrs. I was a total different person than what i am now.... Im nothing compared to that person 7 yrs. Ago.
I am currently picking up the pieces of myself and trying to put something together... But its so hard, everyday is a struggle
What did she do to you?
I am so sorry. I feel your pain those seven years.
Narcissist, can take the best of you in weeks. Imagine years... it is a struggle mainly when we are codependent personalities
After watching this video, I realized that I too have been married to a narcissist for the past seven years. Everything in this video has outlined everything that I'm going through with her at this moment and have been going through with her most of our entire relationship. I've finally reached my breaking and my boiling point, and as much as I want to be with her, I realize I can't and that it's time to move on and get myself right. I too have been someone I don't even know for these past seven years. I've lost all of my close friends because of her. My older sister who has always been my best friend, won't talk to me, answer her phone, nothing, and it's been that way since I made the choice to choose my ignorant wife over her after they got into an argument that she started. Sitting here now, making these realizations, I'm questioning just how stupid I could be smh I know it's a struggle, but you need to take care of you and love yourself. Trouble does not last always, and you're better off believe me. I too am in the process of picking up the pieces to my life, and trying to locate the person I was before all of this, but I know God got me. Throughout everything over these years, he's been a constant and boy oh boy has he been opening my eyes and revealing to me that is it time to move on
I'm there as well.
You know you’ve dealt with narcissists when it gets to the point you question yourself for being one 🤦🏻♀️
Yep. Narcissists will make you feel like one yourself to a certain point
hmmm are you sure you're not the narcissist yourself instead?
@@nadine3189 true, but what if the case was that they relate to all the signs, but says that the reason for this is because the people around them are the narcissists?
@@backfire3017 That's because you've been completely brainwashed. The narcissist has the need to abuse their power on people who are close like family members or relationships, as the relation between these people tend to be strong and force the victim to stay still. My father was a victim of narcissism, he was blinded by it and he had only realized recently, he would always think all the problems caused by my mother were his fault and she would play with his feelings, making him enter a depressive moment for a couple of years. The one who suffers of narcissism will start to act like a narcissist in some way, you're being manipulated after all, it's like a disease (lol); then there's the fear and self-questioning of "am I a narcissist?". I have questioned myself many times because of my sometimes shitty behaviour with people. It's a whole different story when a kid grows up with a narcissist and gets along with the narcissist's play... I believe these kids are too sensible and won't understand when they are wrong about something. This topic is complicated... and these things probably happen to a lot of people who don't know they're dealing with a narcissist. The signs given in the video are very generalized, you shouldn't rely too deeply in these. But well, it's the simplest way to understand the "surface" of narcissism. Sure I had my time writing this... lol!
@@tanru2865 i understand the point where a person who is not narcissistic would think that they themselves might be narcissists. Im saying that that might not be the case 100% of the time. One of the cases where i could think of is when said person relates to all the facts in the video, but discredits it immediately by saying that the reason they are thinking like this is because the ppl around them are the narcissists instead of them. To me, at least, sounds a bit narcissistic. And the fact that we are agreeing with their statement might actually be encouraging their narcissistic unnarcissistic behaviour instead. One of the traits of a narcissistic person is they love to receive other ppl's approval, right? And not taking the blame for anything they do? That's like 2 checkmarks already. At least that's what i thought of. I could be wrong, but in the end, we should still consider this possibility.
You forgot to add #10: They accuse others of being a narcissist and paint themselves the person of perfect mental health.
I definitely know someone like that
That's basically gaslighting
In psychology, that's called psychological projection and it's universal
@@jellyfishi_ yup and the best way is to not react to their provocations and to stand your ground. I learned that the hard way after being manipulated by my mother for 20 years I stopped loving her and caring for her after a certain fight. All that I felt was apathy and pity. From that point on I never cared what she said ,did, or how she is. I stopped reacting which made me stable and happy and her crazy and insane
My mom does that to one of my brothers. He has bipolar disorder and is struggling with it currently. My mom makes dealing with it worst by calling him a narcissist and talking about him like he's a freak. Sometimes she'll do it right in front of him
Edit: now she's doing it to someone else
That "They gaslight you" really hit. I always knew I had some very specific memory of an event, but then my mother came along and said that it didn´t happen that way. Over and over again. Fortunately I am a bit narcissistic myself and not stupid, so I recorded conversations etc. and proceeded to call her out for her bullshit, I have never seen someone this mad before. She always tells my father different stories from what actually happened, but again, recordings helped proving my point and discredited her to the point no one sides with her anymore if there is any doubt. She can´t accept having any faults or ever being wrong, it made me hate her so much.
I need your advice, please. I have been writing with a successful man for a month. I think he has high NARCISSISTIC proportions. It is difficult for him to express feelings or , to cheer me up. When I'm feeling bad, he can hurt me even more sometimes. He turns everything as he needs it. He always sends me pictures but never asks me about my day, my feelings, thoughts. He says he likes me but I think it's all about him. Several times I told him this and always he reacts with Gaslighting. That I have mood swings, am exhausting, others certainly find me exhausting. Tht I'm a bit freakish.. He also once told me by cause of some fear n over reacting.. I told him twice about his personality.. Tht he is cold, it's always about him etc.. n after not even 24h he contacted me again.. He never can't say sorry..or reflect. Himself.. Sometimes he overreact.. But always want me to behave grown up.. Communicate in a proper way.. He tells me I should be nice to him... But he don't understand tht this ain't no one men show...
I told him we both matter.. N he should stop trying to make me look like I'm crazy. He should behave like a men.. Cauze o l want Men I can take seriously. N he should contact me if he understands wht I want from him.
He also liked making me jealous cauze he wanted to torture me 👀.. He also likes me getting angry or when I show my Fire..
Which advice would u give me? How to make him understand me n maybe still want me more.. He said he wants me but he is only talking about himself wht do u think about this
@@Calida2308 please try to distance yourself from this person. You'll feel free and meet more people. Maybe if you have the money; start traveling (?)
I just realized this very thing during the Christmas season last year.
Most Women are 99%
I can relate to this so fricking much.
Especially the lies she told my dad. I could hear the conversations in the kitchen and she made me out to be a monster.
I was only a kid. I didn't want to ever upset her.
@@Calida2308 I’ve been through this sh** and I know exactly what I am saying, Don’t spent any more time with him cause you’ll regret it. It can destroy your health. Just leave.
Narcissistic sound like the worse case of “not dealing with inner insecurities and walk around project, dismiss others, and other issues.” to make themselves look okay but i REALLY believe they can’t help it, this is interesting
It is a case of over compensating lackness.. at least from what I can observe. I have a very very sick brother, and believe me when I tell you I feel disgusted associating myself with this sick person. He is basically ill. And I dare say, he does not know it. Or he doesn‘t want to. He lives in misery, and everywhere he goes he causes some kind of drama, hatred, issues, problems, basically a never ending source of negative energy. He would yell in my face about obvious lies he is supposed to know that I knew. Very sick indeed. He cannot speak without lying, as if he vowed to make a foe out of reality. For years I have endured all the troubles he caused, the pressure he has put on me for a stupid reason, to help him. But this sickness is not something you can do anything about. I think he is always aware that the truth is just a step behind him, so he has to continually make up lies and childish stories to run away. Poisonous person who would not think twice about spitting lies that could cause division between people. The worst is he would lie so very obviously for no reason, other than, I think, to assert that you are so stupid for him to be able to do that. Left by everyone including his own family, coworkers, friends, constantly causing troubles between siblings. He wants, for each and every sentence uttered around him it MUST somehow revolve around how heroic he imagined himself to be. Once you know he lies as naturally as breathing, you‘d see how easy it is for him to act and be pretentious. They are the definition of weakness. Too weak to confront themselves and the issues inside so they rather make up a whole new imaginary land to live in.
And yes, we share the same opinion on how they can‘t help it. The attributes are very accurate but they are just the symptoms. But never make the mistake thinking you can somehow help them. They‘d swallow you whole. But if you are mentally tough and know who you are dealing with, they can make very annoying, peculiar clowns.
once you see the true narcissist you almost pitty them. Because they are like children wanting attention and when you don't dont give they cry or get aggressive
i cant help it, it really effects me because I keep pushing people away and I basically have nobody now
Narcissism is a mental illness its not a choice or a bad coping skill it is a disorder not a self inflicted flaw.
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Thanks to your content! we're able to spread awareness to the world. bringing a genuinely narcissist traits to recognition is a good idea because no matter what you'll find narcissist in your life, preventing is better than curing! Knowledge is power afterall.
love your content and stay safe xoxo
Wait you have *NUGGIES?*
Ugh, this hurts. I spent most of my life being a narcissist until a wakeup call made me realize I hate who I am. It took a few years of constant soul searching, self-checking and therapy, but I eventually managed to make a full turnaround. I'm a better person now and everybody likes being around me a lot more, but looking back at how I was still causes me to feel a great deal of guilt.
I am happy and proud of you. We all are :)
I hope I will be able to say the same thing in the future. Currently I'm looking for a therapist so I can learn how to deal with my issues
@@Yo-sr2hw My friend, you've already done the hardest step if you've genuinely recognized your issues and is seriously moving towards fixing them. An incredibly small amount of people who have narcissism will ever recognize and admit that they have these issues and even fewer will actually be willing to even attempt to change.
not to like, discredit you or anything. but therapy does not work for narcissists, and in fact actually makes them a better narcissist and better at manipulating. so I find this a bit hard to believe. or at least the fact you're a narcissist
@@fizz_s0da919 It absolutely works. Narcissism isn't some sort of incurable state or anything--narcissists can change, they just need to desire to actually change. If you put a narcissist who doesn't want to or doesn't feel like they need to change in therapy, it won't do shit for them and will just help them become better manipulators. If you do want to change, then cognitive behavioral therapy works just fine since narcissism is largely a cognitive and behavioral issue.
I'm crying. I think i am a narcissist. Your video made me realize this. I think i've ruined my relationship because of this. I need help
😂
@@jewellsandbandanas dark times dark times. Glad it's over. Why are you laughing though 🤣
@@AndreiMarica-nr2ncI have a question how does it feel ? I am just wondering because I just remembered one time I was called a narcissistic for no reason just why because I thought she was talking to me and other rude things she said I look disgusting and saying she wants to punch me as punching bag anyway ignore that so tell me.
@@Lololol588 it feels like not knowing real love exists and having no God. It also feels like becoming aggressive with any non compliant codependent (the narc and the codependent go together). Now i am enjoying a happy relationship where the narcissistic tendencies have vanished. I guess love really does heal
@@AndreiMarica-nr2nc wow thanks for explaining
Hope people who are watching this with narcissistic tendencies know that change is possible. You’re not automatically the monster, research this kind of information to be able hold yourself accountable and have honest conversations with people you’ve hurt.
Yessss, completely agree!!!
Yes they are monsters, on every level! And rare is it that they would ever sit through a video like this cuz they cant be bothered, and they dont think they have a problem, its Your problem! Their perfect, remember? Your the naive fool that still thinks there is hope for these demons! After you've been with a full blown narcissist for over 5 or 10 yrs and have sustained every kind of unimaginable pain they can inflict on you- once your so in love with them you can hardly breathe, then come back and see if you can honestly tell them they arent monsters. Once they've managed to rob you of your confidence, friendships, relationships with family members, your job, and where you live, bc they charm the shit out of people and smear your name to everyone who knows you (convinces them your crazy and on drugs, lazy and dont work) manages to change their opinions and feelings about you, come back and tell all the narc's that will never read this that they arent monsters! Your young and obviously have had little to no experience with a true narcissist, and thank your lucky stars every day for that, and i hope you never get ensnared by one,, cuz they will ruin your life, mark my words✌🏼
@@jeanniebyer664 No they;re talking about people who have learned narcissistic tendencies not actual narcissists. You should learn to read better.
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Girl bye, this is some bullshit. NPD is on the spectrum, it can high and it can be low. And self awareness exists you know, not all those with NPD want to intentionally hurt people.
Demonizing and stigmatizing those types of disorders is part of the problem
@@jeanniebyer664
Abusive people does not equal disorders.
Same with sociopathy for example, and borderline personality disorder.
People demonize, dehumanize and stigmatize them to death.
Just because people don’t feel things the same way you do, or don’t care about your feelings, doesn’t mean you get to dehumanize them
Narcisism is everywhere you look nowadays, everyone is so full of themselves
Its often the opposite… a facade to portray to the outside world. Deep down inside people are lost aswel. Sure, some have real mental issues. I can’t deny that.
Yeah, Vanity Smurf alike
I honestly feel like there's not enough tbh, I always see/hear people complaining and getting offended, usually connecting to them being insecure about themselves then virtue signal to raise their morality to feel better about themselves (from my experiences of course) is their a name for that too? Or does it fall in the same category :\?
Here's the thing. Most people have a mild signs of narcissism
@@WhatsNextIWonder yah, it's called self-confidence. That's why i find psychology stupid sometimes, in the wrong hands of course. People forget it's a pseudoscience
Being around narcissist is just awful. My mom is a hugeee narcissist and living with her was hell!
If you have a narcissit as a family member or a friend, please try to go low-contact or totally cut ties with them, because they can really mess up your life and mental health
I worked with a narcissist. Got gas lighted out of my job. But I’m better off now.
what you say is true but we don't do it on purpose I understand its hard and I don't know which side to take but being a narcissist is hard and having nobody is depressing
My grandma is a narcissist and i never talk to her ( i never talk to anyone due to my shyness problem)
Fucking right they do, I had a 'friend' who was one. Completely cut her out my life, but she somehow seems to find herself back into mine... She's literally haunting me.
My mother also she destroyed my life. I want to get married and get out of here.
This compelling video brings back terrible memories of my recent breakup after four years of dating. My dearest friend made the decision to go, and I was left with an inexhaustible hurt. I can't even begin to imagine my life without him, much as I keep trying to make amends. I'm frustrated. I want to write about how much I miss him here because I can't seem to get him out of my head.
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Narcissists have the belief that they are better than everyone else.
However, if you truly are better than everyone else, and everyone around you is garbage compared to your caliber, then narcissism is completely justified.
Gaslighting is so hurtful I didn’t even see it coming until the end when I realized I was right about things they convinced me were not true. This gave me extreme anxiety and made me lose my sense of self but it taught me something and now I will be able to catch it quicker, thank you for these videos they really help.
Same thing with my ex boyfriend...
Yeah I had a friend who did this and I had no clue until now. I wanted to leave the friendship so badly but I was afraid. It felt like I didn’t have any control. Thank god I stopped being friends with her, I feel relieved and now I know to stand up for myself
Same with my ex girlfriend. She cheated on me as well and would always pull the "You always try to make everything about yourself" on me when I try to communicate to her any issues or moments where she hurt me with things she says or does. She prefers preferential treatment wanting to be treated like a princess and wanting to be "perfect." Idk how I was dumb enough to date her in the first place when she straight out told me that the guy she dated for almost a yr before me she just exploited for conveniences like rides home, to work, or school, spoiled with gifts, paying for her groceries, etc. Her excuse for exploiting and using this guy was "I'm a logical person. He was crazy for me and would do anything, so ofc why wouldn't I get whatever I could out of him."
Bottom line, never date a narcissist especially if you have depression like I do lol
KellarJS no one deserves to be treated with disrespect. And not that I need to prove anything to you but I go out of my way to make sure I don’t hurt people which is more than many can say. Even if I did hurt someone it was definitely not purposefully and I always admitted it not like a narcissist and apologized so no I didn’t “deserve” anything.
Me too...
9 signs someone is a narcissist
1. Instead of listening, they're wrapped up on their own opinion. 0:32
2. They tend to cheat in relationships. 1:03
3. They constantly need to be admired. 1:40
4. They do not take any criticism well. 2:15
5. They exploit others without guilt or shame. 2:42
6. They belittle others. 3:11
7. They see themselves as more attractive than they really are. 3:46
8. They gaslight those who are "dear" to them. 4:17
9. They put some people on pedestals. 5:17
Thank you so much 🤗
THE FBI My friend is all of those. I’m pretty sure she’s not a narcissist
@@beatdowncentral6986 .... You sound like you have noooo clue about what you just read or listened to...
Pinkkay8 Nah man, I’m pretty sure she’s not.
@@beatdowncentral6986 ..... 😶😶😶😶.... I'm definitely concerned but at the end of the day, you are the 1 who deals with them so if you can live with it, then why should we worry about it..? 🤷♀️
as the daughter of a narcissistic mother, I beg anyone reading this to look for the red flags, and avoid narcissistic people at all costs, if possible. Narcissists are horrible people who drain you emotionally and physically. You cannot argue with them, it's like talking to a brick wall. Save yourself the trouble. It took me years to overcome this abuse. In fact, I will never fully recover. I have learned to live with the pain.
My sister is a narcissist and I worry about my niece and nephew. Do you have any suggestions on what I can do to help them? They are currently 9 and 6. I don't live near by and I don't currently live in a place where I can take them for away for a visit.
@@karynmorton4843 first of all, I am deeply sorry that your niece and nephew have a narcissistic mother. I am guessing that she abuses and neglects them in private, but in public she puts on the persona of a perfect mother? While I am no psychologist, I can only offer you advice based on my painful experiences as the daughter of a narcissistic mother. Please, if you have evidence of her abuse, document everything and report her. Often, sadly, the authorities are useless, but try to get multiple people to lodge complaints. Other family members, neighbours, schoolteachers, etc. Most importantly, continue to be there for your niece and nephew. Oh how I wish I had some supportive adults when I was being abused. Most people believed my mother's lies. Some even scolded me for being a "bad, ungrateful daughter". Years later, a lady told me that she felt so sorry for me and my sisters for the abuse our mother inflicted on us. I asked her, "Then why didn't you report her?" Your niece and nephew need a stable, strong adult to let them know that the world is full of good people. They are most likely suffering horribly. Where is their father, if you don't mind my asking? Because they need a loving environment. Please keep me posted. Have a beautiful day.
@@orchidtreasure1484 I'm there with y'all... I've FINALLY just hit my BREAKING POINT as of last week and CUT ties with my narcissistic mother once and for all! Not just narcissism, but a slew of disorders/mental health issues including BI-POLAR to add insult to injury! I also have an older narcissistic sister. Perhaps it runs in the family? There's likely others if I can go back and check for those "red flags" within other family members - immediate or not (cousins, nieces, nephews, etc).
Same here man, my mom AND stepdad are both narcissists, they think they aren't, but every time I tell them I just want them to listen, they keep trying to defend themselves. I also realized that it really is like talking to a brick wall, so now I don't even talk to them anymore, I don't ask for advice or anything, I'll just stay alone and figure things out for myself.
@@softwareversion7.035 it's truly sad but it's the reality of it all. We just have to continue to move forward and forget about the past. Focus upon ourselves and better well being. A great life can and will come from doing such w/o all that toxicity and negativity.
I would say the first sign will come from your own gut feeling which will send signal to your body telling you that this person doesn't make you feel comfortable being around him/her. The fact that you are already asking this question should alert you to be careful. Something will feel off and you won't know what it is exactly. Covert narcissists can act very charming in the beginning but there will be often also present underlying sense of superiority about them. That sense is actually deriving from them feeling insecure about themselves, so they tend to quietly degrade others in order to feel better about themselves. On the other hand if covert narcissist feels that you are above his league, he will act like your servant, trying to please you - almost annoying in a way. But make no mistake. If you decide to stay in a relationship with him, he will downgrade you and abuse you like all the others. Because in his mind, if you love him, he thinks you are unworthy of him. Covert narcissists hate themselves so if someone loves them, than they think this person is worth less than them and that they can do better. Other sign to look for is any kind of judgment towards others. If he criticises other frequently, he will more likely criticise you as well once he gets more comfortable around you. Pay attention to how he treats people that are dependent on him as well. Narcissists hate those especially if they can't get anything of of that for themselves. Moreover, Cheating in marriages is not restricted to only women. Men cheat as much as women do. If you're suspecting your husband of infidelity, you'll have to keep an eye on him of him without his knowledge of him. One of the best ways to know if your spouse cheats on social platforms is by paying close attention to how your spouse behaves while online. The signs are pretty the same. Is your spouse more time on the app without explanation and gets unnecessarily defensive when you ask about it? If your spouse behavior has changed lately, and continues to spend more time on social apps, it's time for you to take action, with the help of a private investigator (suggested; METASPYHUB@GMAIL. COM , you can find out what is taking all their time on social apps, who they are talking to and other things happening,,
Ok I'm literally no way a Narcissist, but I might've dealt with narcissist people that I unfortunately considered a good friend for a long while
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@@mrbust999 what? No one can humiliate you on the internet lol xD. And even if they did. It would be wrong.
Unfortunately a couple I know fits this description. The husband more than the wife but she is condescending to me. Haven't seen them in months since I pulled away from them.
sounds like something a narcissist would say
Had the same problem. Had to end my relationship with my friend cause it was even more toxic that i realized then. After break my friendship i realized how of a fking selfish bastard he was. Gonna give you a little tip. Try not to talk with him for a few months and see how much your life changes ... If its better or no going worse without him you have your answer.
If you're watching this and think you might have NPD, remember that some of these symptoms overlap with other disorders. Specifically the "inability to listen to others" or "making conversations about you" as well as the "reacting poorly to criticism" are all lesser-known hallmarks of ADHD. That's why it's important to see a professional if you have any concerns.
The professionals won’t help me. They all tell me to sled diagnose and do research on my own to present to them, then they give me meds for it. I’m 15 and this is hard bc my meds keep getting switched and honestly I just think I need a different kind of treatment with a proper diagnosis. The professionals I see are psychiatrists btw. I’m always frustrated bc of the lack of help.
But that is good advice, thank you. There are many disorders with similar symptoms. I honestly don’t know what in the crap I have, my symptoms keep changing.
Okay good I know I have ADHD and this video was scaring me a bit 😅
thank you so much, i was terrified.
my brother is adhd (as well as some others in the family) so i most likely have that as well.
its so scary, but i have to remember the core thing; empathy. and im not really perfect at expressing empathy, because i was raised by a narcissistic parent, but i do tend to feel a good amount of empathy for those hurt, especially children and animals.
That epic moment when you have ADHD and you got dumped for showing all of those traits
“They see themselves as more attractive then they really are”
Now I know I’m not a narcissist
Not necessarily true. Narcissists hate themselves deep down inside, might even think they’re ugly when they’re not. What they really want is to make other people think that they are great and beautiful, even if they don’t think that.
@@danparish1344 i always think im ugly smh
Do you seek attention? Do you dominate conversations and steer it towards yourself? Do you hate being called wrong, reacting in anger, deflecting or throw it back at the accuser ? Do you lie to people to make yourself seem smarter, better, more successful, or even lie to make people have sympathy for you or even lie about things that aren’t important just for the sake of lying just to see if you can get away with it? Do you constantly wonder if people are lying to you or accuse people of lying? Have you cheated or think people are always trying to cheat? Do you gossip or put other people down? Do you believe you can manipulate people? Do you feel like you are a hero in your own story you are living out? Do you have fantasies of luxury, power, the perfect love? Are you superstitious, believe in magic, think everything happens for a reason, believe in love at first sight, zodiac signs, etc? Do you care more about your public image than close personal relationships? Does your personality change depending on who you’re around? Are you uncomfortable being vulnerable and don’t have any really close friends? Do you struggle with romantic relationships, feeling intensely about someone immediately but within months things become toxic? Do you use social media or dating apps all of the time for attention, especially from the opposite sex? Do you strive for perfection at school, work etc., and think you should be amongst the elites whether you earned to be among them or not?
My ex is a narcissist (now getting help, was undiagnosed when I met her) so I have a pretty good understanding of the mindset and behaviors they have. No two narcissists are exactly alike but they have a lot of overlap in their behaviors. Having one trait or missing one trait doesn’t mean you are or not one.
Don’t rule yourself out because you think you’re ugly, just like you wouldn’t call yourself one because you acted selfishly before.
i lie
Look up other reasons why people lie. All narcissists are liars, but not all liars are narcissists.
There are many different signs. These include spending time on phone that was not spent previously, withholding sex from you, withdrawing in communication with you, agitation or anger over Petty stuff or making up situations to get angry or agitated over, lying, being secretive in any way, randomly spending more time caring for and pampering oneself such as putting on makeup or wearing cologne or coloring hair etc. Any type of changed behavior that is not aimed at pleasing or benefiting your relationship. With all of that though, follow your gut. your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it's telling you that this could or is happening, therefore listen to it. Just Free yourself from all of it! Run and don't look back. Go 100% no contact. The mental and emotional abuse is not okay at all! Do not bring anything up to her. Don't try to rationalize or have a conversation about anything. Don't let her know that you know she's in narcissist. All of that can cause a narcissistic rage. If you have not yet witnessed one of those just trust me that you don't want to! A narcissistic rage is beyond any rage I have ever seen or witnessed in my entire life. I am an army combat veteran and served front lines for a year and afghanistan. I have abuse going back from as long as I can remember, the first time in my personal memory is 2 years old. With everything I have been involved in, and my rape, other sexual abuse, their physical abuse, etc in narcissistic rage is by far the worst! If you need to contact your local police department and start a new contact order. No one can protect you like you can! free yourself from it all and move forward in your life. The minute you run and go no contact is the minute your life begins again. If need be seek out professional help. Therapy is the best thing I did for myself. The best gift I gave to me! The abuse is so deep and overwhelming that having a professional guide you through the steps of the healing process is extremely beneficial! Just remember, there is great strength in asking for help. There is great lack and strength or no strength at all in putting on a mask and hiding behind the opinions of society and pretending that you are okay! As human beings we all witness A Time In our lives where we are not okay! Those that heal, move past, and move forward, and have a brighter future are those who ask for help and do the work that is needed through the help! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the very best! Good luck! Always remember that you are stronger than you believe you are, you are worthy and deserving of better and always, and you are enough just the way you are and who you are today! Take this time for you! Get yourself again. Fix that meal that you're all time favorite, rent that movie you've been wanting to see, have a guys night out with your best friends, remodel a room in your home, go purchase that item you've been wanting to for so long, just do for yourself! Self-acceptance, self-love, and being able to forgive yourself is far more important than what anyone else can give to you! Believe in who you are! You deserve nothing less than that! You're not alone! Feel free to tag me in any other questions that you have! I'll help if I can. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at Digitalinvestigate@gmail. com, where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........
I use to be with a man who is a major narcissist, I literally had to runaway from him to break free. I took what I could carry on my back and my two cats and left. So happy I did !!!!
I did the same thing...never looked back. BUT...he told everyone, even my adult kids that I bled him dry in our divorce and made me out to be a monster. I have a narcissitic daughter who I have had to cut any ties with. My grandkids have been brainwashed to think I'm evil. My only hope is for Karma!
Wisely decision
AS YOU SHOULD IM SO PROUD OF YOU HOLY GAH!!! CATS!!!
Respect for saving the cats. You have your priorities straight
I just broke up with my narcissistic ex yesterday. As heart broken I am, I know for a fact in a couple months I am going to be so much happier and actually find a man that wants to get married to me eventually
My mom is a narcissist 😞 it’s so draining and traumatizing
That’s my dad, both grandmas, and I think aunt Martha? I’m only aloud around a handful of my family members because their all mentally ill these are just the few were around and tolerate
I absolutely understand you, it really is emotionally/mentally draining😖
Being a narcissist and parent at the same time is one the worst combination ever known to be existing.
Well i have a narzism friend
Mine too, I have c-ptsd thanks to her.
unpopular opinion: just because someone loves themselves doesnt mean they're narcissistic
Yeah Maybe I just have high self esteem🙄
The fact that this isn't a popular opinion is kinda sad actually.
@@Shalalalala_666 True...
Yeah, being cocky and being confident are two different people.
Ok but what if that person just over does it, like to the point that we despise them and we think of them as cocky. Not to say it's bad but you get the point, of too much is never too good. There's a difference between self love and narcissistic.
I have a long-time friend who applies to most of these signs. It will be hard to drop her, but I have to. She makes me feel awful for being friends with her. I’ve lost good friends because of her, and I’ve finally decided enough is enough. I’m slowly starting to end our friendship, and I hope I’ll get the chance to confront her face-to-face soon.
Update: It didn’t go down that well, but I’m glad I overcame my own struggles and told her how I feel. I feel so much better not being her friend
You did well and stayed away who emotionally manipulated you. These people discharges energy from others and plays around and shows no empathy. They are wrong door to knock.
Feel strong against them and stay alerted.
@@ShahidKhan-Ireland Have you guys ever thought that it wouldn't be bad to, ya' know, point out them being a narcissist and maybe try to help? I feel like there's a lack of willingness to help people in psychology modernly because it's "not worth it". Don't worry, I get it, but it use to be we should try and have an intervention before it gets worse - now it's "just avoid them so they can harm someone else".
@@poetryflynn3712 I get what you mean and I am sure I'm not the only one, but just because not everyone tells you their reasons and details don't mean we just noped out of a long time friendship just to evade dealing with it. One of my oldest friends make any of these lists seem child-like if you get close to them for a few minutes, one might think they have just been "holding back" for too long and are trying to catch up now, but when you try the best you can to lift someone up from this pit and get not only ostracized but also have every other mutual friend you may have into a constant anti-propaganda on your name that goes on for years because of a single act that they just don't let go, it makes it easier for you to pick your mental health over their chosen madness. I can rest easy knowing that this friend I had for over 20 years, who I almost had a relationship with, to this day still believes the sun rises and sets under their very presence only. We are both better now living apart, and the few friends who saw though their gaslighting and stood by my side...
@@poetryflynn3712 this is literally submitted yourself back to the narcissist torture chamber! That's what narcissist do, they control you, manipulate you, by trying to help them, they got you by the ball. Run, kick them of the hill... sayonora. Reality is not a Hollywood movie.
please tell me you reconnected with your good friends
A hurt inner child wanting the love they never got. It's not their fault they are like this, its how their environment showed them how to be. I personally realized I had narcissistic traits, which 'destroyed' me to know I was that type of person, but soon realized how those around me has the narcissistic personality. Choose to validate/accept the inner childs emotions within, as well as the flaws, is what matters. Choose to unconditionally love yourself even if your emotions/flaws are 'right' or 'wrong,' 'unwanted' or 'wanted' in the eyes of the ego, the ego is just the ideal person you want to be, pushing all else aside. Love yourself no matter what. Accept yourself, don't reject yourself. Yourself will thank you for it. :) Much love
Great advice. People do demonize people with personality disorders too much. I think we all do the best we can, even though some of us aren’t set up to do very well. Glad you’ve been able to grow and gain insight into your behavior.
Hey thanks for this comment, it means a lot for those you got traits of a narcissist like me. I have 3 and 6 and maybe more I don’t realise. I’m a good person in my eyes along with others but I’m just annoying at times ya know? Like yes we have traits of a narcissist but it doesn’t mean we are mean like one which is why I like your comment. We all needed this reminder so thank you.
(This is a long thank you comment lol didn’t mean to write this all)
Love is all what it ultimately comes down to. And it is harder to love yourself without letting the inner critic ringing your bell. Thank you for the awesome insights.
can i just cry right here T_T my parents both are covert narcissist and exhibitionist narcissist. I hate them so muchh, promised myself I never want to be like them but...somehow it just runs in my vein making me hating myself even more. Questioning my damn unconscious behaviour like why do I need external validation for my own worth? why do I have to cut off people's argument to make me win myself without my intention? why do I have to let people down? why am I being toxic? why am I so narrow-minded? full of insecurities but living in delusional fantasy? why do I have to feel superior among others while I'm actually nothing? I'm afraid I will become abusive as a parent, so I react in different way. I don't want to get married, I don't want to make friends, I talk little. I feel pathetic. In fact, I don't want to be a narcissist but I am.
@Ira nov Awwww it’s going to be ok, if it bothers you that much then seeing a therapist helps though it does cost money and time. Something I found helped me a lot with issues like this is doing drama classes. It helped with a lot things so it might’ve helped me with these narcissistic traits of mine too...
I hope you best of luck and even though you might hate yourself now I promise you in future, you’ll find what you’re looking for 💝
Early obsession.
Lots of attention early on.
Everything feels too good to be true and it is.
They will fall in love with you in the first week.
Lots of conversations, they would tell you how much you mean to them and how no one gave them those feelings.
They are caring, warm, sensitive, you feel overwhelmed by their attention and everything.
They share lots of your character traits, from your interests to anything possible, it’s like when you look yourself in the mirror you see a copy of yourself, what happens in here is you are getting mirrored.
Early obsession, you are the best thing that ever happened to them since slice of bread.
Early dramas out of the blue, they test you early on with how much you are going to allow them to walk away, they test your empathy levels, after the drama is finished, they would apologize profusely telling you they have overthinked, just because they love you, they cause drama because it’s exciting, they crave for it and they can’t live without it.
They would fish for compliments with methods like: You are going to leave me and ditch me, use me break my feelings and leave me, i’m scared of commitment, what if you leave me you will break my heart, i love you i don’t wanna lose you, they will basically give you a negative thing so you can answer with your empathy gaining your empathy, they would share the most heartbreaking events like how people used them, how no one understands them beside you etc.
The real manipulations start on the Devaluation stage, when they are bored. Keep in mind their early lies are the lies that even they believe to some degree, they are obsessed with you, they are idealizing with you, meaning they are high on your fuel like a druggie, they don’t know what they are saying or doing, it’s a unconscious process that happens with everyone new and exciting, in reality what happens is that you are making them feel good about themselves stroking their ego and giving them your empathy, they don’t love you, they love the way you make them feel about themselves, it’s all about them, even they believe that they are in love, however what happens in here is that they are obsessed with you nothing more nothing less. After they get bored they start to Devalue consciously and they move forward replacing you.
The way you just described my last relationship from beginning to end is HORRIFYING, thank you so much for this, it really does open my eyes a lot more and helps me feel better about the way things turned out.
@@derikbarbieri8753 it took me 7 years to figure out a covert narc coz of the love bombing and trauma bonding ...
Fak... I need a therapist ☹️
@@ohyekrokites6539 realizing you need one is great, at least you know your next step!!
Each one of the lines are so apt and to the point that it makes much more scarier to know how generic the pattern is all around the word.
Thanks for all the true words.
Everyone has narcisistic traits until brought to light and knowing the affect of your traits helps you become a better person.
@@jacob8913 learn what makes a female/male narcisist, and learn what are the traits besides that your not the only one who been through bs stop feeling sorry for yourself and grow.
@@jacob8913 bro if you would have learned what a narc was sooner you wouldnt have wasted that much time im still recovering financially from my ex that was a 32 yo stripper while i was 19 just get over yourself
Speak for yourself
@@kailinyah8843 No. He's right
Actually not everyone uses this knowledge to become a better person. Being able to correct your narcissistic traits is a Hallmark of empathy. Someone with NPD typically won't change these traits without a professional to help them. When they stop seeing their professional they'll start reincorporating these traits over time.
My roommate/family and I used to be very close, but her personality changed ever since she met/married her narcissistic/ abusive partner. My fiancée and I have been verbally and emotionally abused by her and her partner for two years.
I've told her, "I'm not mad at you, I'm done with you." She looked confused as usual after I said that (BEWARE narcissists will not understand why you're hurt or upset with them. It's not worth your energy to try to explain!)
I walked away. The friend I used to know is gone. I let her go.
It's a blessing because something told me and my fiancée to move on. We will be moving out in less than 2 months. It'll be worth it.
It's hard, but trust your gut and move on from these toxic people. Your life will be better without them. :)
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My Ex-wife did all 9! I am lucky to had survive, I was a reck for months but I knew it was the right decisión. Now my mind is in peace, I am traveling, enjoying life, and being myself and feeling great every day.
Same here.
You ok there?
going through similiar crap. can u describe more what traits your wife had that made you think she had this disorder? can we also treat it, because if it's illness, needs to be addressed rather than condemned, because the real victims are themselves. We can leave them, but they can't leave themselves.
yaay that is good for you
Fun fact: a sign that you’re not a narcissist is if you watch this video, contemplate these signs toward yourself and feel any semblance of guilt or shame.
I thought I was a narcissist for a long time because I had trouble paying attention but I ended up being diagnosed with ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder
it's all so complicated lol
@@meava4078 when it comes to narcissism it’s really not, reflection is key, if at any point in your life you’ve regretted a decision you’ve made because it hurt someone else, you’re not a narcissist. Even once. If you’ve even had a thought about someone else’s perception or emotions about a situation(not directed at yourself), you’re not a narcissist.
Ah
@@roofogato same
Gaslighting is definitely one most common tactic from narcissists. I have very good memory and I can directly tell that someone is gaslighting me by lying to my face to save their poor self-esteem.
Jesus! This is freakishly spot on about my narcissistic ex who almost had me believing that I was crazy. Worst experience ever people. Beware dating a narcissist. It's hell.
I feel you. I felt like they met my ex in person and were just describing him. He actually had me believe that my mental health issues were the cause for all our problems. Turns out it was the other way around - after he left me I was fine within 2 months and I ended therapy early, because I was just sitting there telling my therapist "i don't know what to tell you, i feel perfectly fine now". Realising what my ex was, what he did to me and how and most importantly that it wasn't my fault and that I would've never changed him was very freeing and healing.
Same with my mom, if I cry she says that I need to go to jail bc I'm a freak for just *crying*
my ex too. 100% accurate. she was an evil witch
@@airotkiv My ex wife kept trying to convince me that I was abusive because I have a temper problem. What she failed to realize is, I've known I have temper issues since I was 12 (I'm 38 now) and I've been working my entire life to keep my temper under control, and for the most part I'm very successful at it, but she knew exactly which buttons to push to make me lose it, and even when I was literally begging her to stop, she would keep pushing until I snapped, then she would blame me for losing my temper. It was during one of those times that I realized what she was doing to me and decided to leave.
I haven't been able to completely get her out of my life yet, but I'm working on it with setting and maintaining boundaries and learning to recognize her manipulations and shutting her down or calling her out on it.
@@fleur5782 OMG, this is not okay. I'm sorry you have no safe place to express your emotions. :(
My old friend was just like this , i started cutting him off and it really helped. I felt i was better off alone than with someone who just keeps draining away my fucking energy talking about themselves and never listening to us
I had at least 3 or 4 class mates back in school who came of as Narcissistic to me. You're not alone...
Thats good my guy, i hope you meet someone that can be a really good friend. at least you dont have narcissistic parents............. lol.
@@lj1393 yo, who has narcissistic parents? I only had a single mom while growing up. Do you have narcissistic parents? Sorry dude your life would be hell
@@nullprophet10 lol, ty for your concern. It does suck. But im ok rn. I got my own problems to deal with. I hope you also are ok as well. Take care.
You are always better off alone than with a narcissist. It's always about them, always. They're not looking for friends; they want fans and followers to adore them at all times. It's quite liberating when you finally get away from them and free up your energy and time. Real friends will come along in time.
My ex is all of these, holly crap.
My wife is all if these
My ex...same...I'm suffering for 2 years now to get over with him...
@@QueenSarina1995 same
You guys are queens/kings.
Your Ex is backstabbing bish
:D
@@QueenSarina1995 same. 4 years later and i still shudder at the thought of her
This used to be me when I was married. I was the MOST toxic person alive. My wife finally left me and when she found someone new it brought every one of my flaws and insecurities to light! I turned into an alcoholic and ended up in a psychiatric hospital. The lord delivered me from sex and porn addiction and I was changed. He has restored me and is teaching me to be a loving father. And maybe someday a husband once again!
After a 10 year relationship that I didn't want to believe was toxic, especially toward the end, I'm realizing I was actually under the spell of a narcissist in a sweet and beautiful package. I gave this woman my soul but was always feeling like I needed to be more, do more, love more, change myself for her in order to get her to listen to or be engaged with me fully. This is tremendously heartbreaking. She ended up leaving me completely out of the blue while I was in the hospital and completely cut off all contact with me because I finally began standing up for myself as my mental and physical health took an insane beating from years of keeping up with this person's demands and conditions. Somehow I didn't see it for so long. The constant games, her constant need for selfies and social media validation even when I was sitting right next to her rubbing her shoulders and loving her. I should have seen the red flag much sooner, I am just lucky we did not get married or have children. I am still healing myself, and my heart goes out to anyone else that has dealt with this. May you find someone who treats you well and gives you the love in return that you put out.
I’ve literally gone through the exact same thing and it’s only a few weeks ago. Narcissistic girlfriend, the constant need for validation of pictures. Or the “look at my nails, look at my new rings, look at my new cloths.. they are so pretty”. And this was a daily thing. She really had a hard time listening, even in emotional moments. Sometimes she would respond on it for a little bit, but quickly starting talking about things from her perspective. Usually something completely different. I had a lot of feelings for her, but in hindsight I’m grateful for not having children.
Strangely enough, reading your comment made me feel better as I feel like there’s more people going through what I go/went(feels still fresh) through. I’m happy that you can also look back with a positive mindset, knowing you made the right decision. Hopefully we will find nice and warm partners in the future😌
I dated a narcissist for over two years. Didn't really understand much about those things. Sucked my finances and sanity dry. She finally met someone near the end of our relationship and seemed willing to two-time him. I shut it down and stopped talking to her. She would still call, of course. And show up at my job to talk. Call to tell me about her sex life. Eventually, I met someone else who didn't appreciate her calling all the time, so I told the narc that we couldn't talk anymore. She lost her mind, but she did back off. 19 years later she bugs me out of the blue on social media. Always looking for extra supply. I don't block her, but I always leave the comments on Seen. These people are relentless.
Same Story. My mental health declined. I couldnt see the red flags. The hardest thing is admitting to yourself that you fucked up so bad. Send you BIG LOVE BROTHER YOU ARE WORTHY ❤❤
I had married my covert NXW, but it lasted only 5 months before she discarded me and left. I'm now almost 8 months no contact, and slowly healing. I never used to have anxiety, but I do now and I'm learning to deal with it. It took a toll on my health, with my BP now consistently 20 points higher, and I'm always tired.
You are not alone. I too have went through this. Met someone after a breakup. What was supposed to be just a distraction for me & to help me move on soon turned into one of the biggest learning experiences in my life & unfortunately also one of the biggest regrets I'll ever feel. Because there were times that the red flags were there & I ignored them & I was hopeful that we could work through them. But that person saw no flaws or mistakes in her actions. Instead she felt entitled as if she did nothing wrong. She took everything from me..my money, my happiness, she even isolated me from my family by taking all of my time & energy. I gave her my heart & most of all my time. & time is the most precious thing that we cannot get back. Please know that we all deserve better. Whoever is meant to be by your side will be there when it is meant. Otherwise please take the time to put yourself together & love yourself. Just breathe & always have faith that you are destined for good things. You are loved.
I worked for a narcissist for 5 years. I walked in a smart confident person. Walked out a broken afraid person. My friends have asked where that confident strong person went that I used to be. I went in professional smart and strong, came out weak and afraid. She did everything the little cartoon did. I hadnt even notice how weak I had become. 😔
Had a similar experience with a group of friends, I was cheerful and open. But now I'm shaking between optimistic and pessimistic and became more private. as overtime I was drained, They were happy and comfortable of me suffering. I could see it the expression in my facebook photos over the years. I thought we support and cared for one another, but in reality they never cared and only wanted themselves to be ahead.
Then we heal from this together.
I worked for a Narc 9 years of hell!!! Finally when the world shit down.I was like omg this is my opportunity to leave & find other employment.Now I think I have a friend that's a narc.I'm about over it😔
@@Rushour717 I'm guessing you're better looking than them and/or "have" something, someone, or a special gift or talent they don't. If they couldn't be empathetic to your needing them, they didn't care you were hurting - and that almost always comes back to jealousy. Really hurtful, but you don't expect it in friends if it's not in you. Hard lesson but their loss 🌹
@Vortex Edge STRENGTH! (You'll need it). Probably jealous she's not young ... Classic Narc mom thing. Do your best to clear out the house ~ can't study in toxic muck) 💞
As a narcissistic abuse survivor, this allowed me to realise the bull I was put through.
I dont know who I am, I would assume so. The coaches aka my abusers and I were never really close. They fit all of the symptoms, but I haven’t seen them in a year so it doesn’t really matter to me.
I dont know who I am, don’t worry about your English I’m a bit dyslexic. My therapist said it was most likely narcissistic abuse so that’s just what I’m gonna classify it as
Get a life losers! C’mon kill each other! This is like watching dog make!
Davis White maybe you should realise abuse is extremely toxic and caused my suicidal thoughts and and failed suicide attempt. Mind your own business, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything
It’s The Cookie Club that thing is old! C’mon just kill each other! This is still like watching dogs make!
There's a thin line between loving yourself and being a narcissist.
Many people have crossed that line without even knowing.
That's not it at all. To escape one, you need to love yourself more than you love them. It's a personality disorder that comes from a genetic predisposition, plus childhood abuse. It's a coping mechanism for them. They always need to be in control. Power and control. Maybe because they weren't in control during their childhood abuse. It's sad, but doesn't give them the right to ignore your boundaries and hurt you.
it goes far beyond loving one self. these are learned behaviors in childhood having to do with shame and core identity
Narcissists don’t really love themselves, they are hollow soulless individuals who suck the life force out of everyone in the end. I just hope that in time we all can recognise this toxicity in our midst which seems to be growing, and find ways to halt their influence. Sadly many narcissists are in positions of power and influence in society. Their fake narratives (or confabulations aka LIES) are one of the worst traits in my opinion. The havocked they wreak on those close to them and in institutions and workplaces is unforgivable and nothing short of evil.
Narcissism isn’t just about loving oneself, it’s about being obsessed with oneself, and that can include constantly hating themselves for not being perfect enough, which usually affects those around them.
A narcissist will often be jealous of those around them, and think they’re are not good enough. Please get your facts rights 🙏
i dated a narcissist for 9 months, now they’re out of my life and i’m doing so much better mentally and all the people around me see it too. it’s never too late to get out
You're lucky you managed to get away after 9 months only. I got stuck for 2.5 years because we "loved" each other too much to break up. We had broken up and got back together a few times. It was incredibly difficult to leave him.
BE HAPPY , DON'T WORRY
Just ended an 8 month relationship with a "Christian narc," wow that was some kind of ride!
Its hard to get out if its a familiy member and everyone is agenst u, even the people you relay on. GG my life.
@@littleforfeited yes exactly, i am in the same boat. I don't know what to do
the saddest thing about being manipulated by a narcissist is that they make you feel guilty for being manipulated AND also for becoming aware of that and wanting to stop them from keep harming you.
No matter what, they don't change NEVER.
Never change. They can't
Great comment
How is "They fish for compliments" not on here
An example would be:
Narcissist:Ugh,I'm so ugly :( *posts photo of them trying to look as attractive as possible*
Followers:You are so beautiful! I wish I looked like you!
Lol ikr, when I say I look bad I mean it I don’t want no compliments but people just assume I do 😒
a constant need to be admired would fit that
Some people genuinely hate the way they look. Body dysmorphia
Yess they love compliment s!!!
I dont know if a narcissistic person would ever say that he is ugly...even if its fake. Thats more of a attention seeker's job.
“feeling like your losing your mind”
“cant explain it to other”
another is changing your habits to theirs. not sure if thats part of one already, but if you enjoy something a narcasist does not, you likely wont enjoy it forever
Having survived a narcissistic relationship this was difficult to watch. 100% accurate though.
Mislav Cupek yes I cried so much 😖
I was in a very toxic relationship with my ex-best friend who was a girl (I'm also a girl) and she had sexual interest in me even though we're both minors. She would constantly pressure me into doing things but I never gave in even after telling her I wasn't interested in her in that way. She was super toxic and accused me of being the self centered narcissist. :( She's not doing mentally well at all either so that's probably part of that too other than the narcissism.
@@pillowtalkasmr592 I did too. Painful to associate the memories. Blessings.
You're not alone. Still have the scars.
I had husband who had all this signs and I really need help
Was in a relationship with a narcissist for only four months and about two more months of us being separate but still seeing each other. In that short amount of time I lost 55 pounds. I would not sleep, had lost my appetite, and was living in constant fear of triggering them but constantly trying to please him. I was addicted to him. And he was addicted to the love and attention I gave him. I had no clue what the true definition of a narcissist was or the characteristics they embodied. Educating yourself is the armor you need. Learning of it will seriously save your mental health. And I’m some cases, your life.
the weight loss was good though
@@deutscheblood9480 No its not ,
@@marlonenrique7253 pretty sure it is
Hey atleast he made you skinny now 😉😉😂😂😂😂
@@morbius7437 weight loss for the lack of nutrition is never good. If that were the case bulimia wouldn't be a problem.
♡ summary of the video ♡
1. Instead of listening, they’re wrapped up in their own opinion
2. They tend to cheat in relationships
3. They constantly need to be admired
4. They do not take any criticism well
5. They exploit others without guilt or shame
6. They belittle others
7. They see themselves as more attractive than they really are
8. They gaslight those who are “dear” to them
9. They put some people on pedestals
i recommend watching the video to learn more :) you are beautiful, worthy, and you are enough. i love you all and stay safe.
Also, Happy Pride! 🏳️🌈❤️ I am Pansexual.
@@kenny-nk5db Today is pride fall :(
Sãpphîre Brøŵnie I know 😣 that’s so horrible and upsetting, but we must try to stay happy and not let the negativity get to us.
@@kenny-nk5db Agreed!! :(
I really hope you stay safe, and be who you really are! ^^
I have a friend who falls under all these categories. His parents spoil him all the time just because he has ADD which isn’t even severe. His parents may not know it but they’re enforcing the narcissism they don’t know exist. He emotionally drains me and my sister everyday and whenever I criticize his art style he never decides to improve it and always gets angry at any criticism anyone gives him and considers criticism as “bullying” even though they’re just telling him what to improve on and what he’s doing good. He doesn’t even feel like a friend anymore but I act like it because we’ve been friends since we were 4 years old. I feel his parents might get super angry at me and that my friend will start bullying me if I say “I don’t really want to be your friend anymore.” Heck, I’ve made a new group of friends who I’ve considered calling my best friends instead of my narcissistic friend I’ve been mentioning for 4/5 of the post. Back on topic, my friend ended up making what could’ve been a really good field trip, the worst one ever. The teachers never pay attention to anyone who sits in the back of the bus so my friend decided to slouch back and lay down with his legs in the middle aisle and I was like “Dude, don’t do that. You could get hurt if we crashed.” He just responded that he’ll be fine and I kept trying to get him to sit up. When he did he said he did it to mess with me and I felt like I was gonna cry because I’m concerned for the safety of my friends. Also we were gonna get lunch on the way back to school so my parents gave me some cash and I accidentally left my wallet on the bus during my trip and my friend stole the money and I wasn’t able to eat. I figured out it was him because he openly admitted it after lunch. I was pissed at him. I don’t know why I even call him a friend anymore.
My uncle is a narcissistic, he always plays the victim even though he was the one that wronged people, he gaslighted people, only did 'acts of kindness' so he could get something in return. I may be a narcissist but I can't imagine being that bad.
These are my abusive father's traits:
- never helps us with house chores.
- emotionally unstable. he loses his shit over simple mistakes/inconveniences. for e.g not preparing food on time.
- "me me me" mindset. he always demands us attention, but barely shows us any.
- know-it-all person who uses "logic" to excuse his bullshit when in fact he's very irrational.
- likes to accuse us things.
- can't take "no". if he wants something, he gets it.
- "how dare you do this to your father?"
- "i raised you. i feed you. know your place!"
- "look at you wearing fancy clothes. are you trying to seduce other men?"
"you care more about your friends than your husband?"
he often says these manipulative things to my mother.
- compares me & calls me names.
- talks bad about me and my mother to his relatives/our neighbors
- passive agressive
- threatens us with violence
- hits us if he loses his control
- silent treatment
- you feel like talking to a wall. he never listens.
Unlike my mother (who's a product of domestic abuse), i know how to deal with him and protect my mother from him sometimes. Knowing he's an abusive person helps, but i admit, it's getting very tiring. I wish i could leave him, but i haven't succeeded in convincing my mother to leave him yet. I just can't leave her alone with him. I guess i have to suck it up and deal with it until i can't take it anymore.
My heart goes out to you, because I too grew up with such creature and then ended up getting married to one.
Please get out as soon as you can. Nothing is worth the horrible pain and aftermath of dealing with these creatures.
I went no contact with my whole family and divorced to save my 4 children and myself.
I'm sending you much Love and Peace, Strength and a healthy mind!
Keep your beautiful head up and don't ever give up on yourself 💛
You deserve Love and happiness!
abusive people live in hell and need to make everyone around them as crazy as they are in order to feel sane!
Try this one... "I brought you into this world... AND I can take you out of it."
OR
"It would have been better for everyone, if the Doctors had been right" (that my Mother couldn't carry to term)...
SO basically my biological sperm donor was a pretty monstrous bastard, too...
...grew up under this kind of roof... AND I've survived it. It IS possible. You DO have hope.
I wish the best for you. You can make it there from here. ;o)
One in One the Situation I have at home. I'm also not leaving because I can't convince my mother to leave him. He does the exact same things you have mentioned. I really don't know what to do and he steals all our happiness and joy of life. Any tips?
every single thing you said is what I experience daily too...please stay strong!
We all know who that “friend” is....
I don’t think I have a friend like that. :v
@@vict0riathefangirl same im really glad
Yes the one that left my sister after being best friend for 10 years for a boy that was with another girl when they “devil tangoed” and said “ he wasn’t ready to break up with Kylie yet” oof
@@min_shan138 well at least you're self-aware. Just try not to be rude to ppl
For me, it's my mom. And it kinda sucks.
I used to have a good friend who was diagnosed with NPD. He was a real leader personality who gave me the first real reason to live, but really HATED what he was and that he did all of these things. He couldn't keep up all the promises he made and admitted that he only made them so he could have friends. He constantly tried to get me to help him be more normal and understanding while not even his therapists could help him.
In the end, the constant gaslighting and pretending to commit suicide for attention was just too much. I do miss the positive parts, though. He was fun to be around
I think something similar happened to me... But then, well, in a fit of rage he decided to s3xually ass4ult me.
The last time I spoke with him he said that he was trying to change his mentality, instead of thinking of everyone as less valuable than him, he would try to think the opposite of that and to try to care for other as much as possible.
I definitely don't know if I should believe him. I honestly hope that's true and that he gets the help that he needs, but I won't take the risk of continuing that friendship just to confirm that. For my safety and well-being, I never want to talk to him ever again
@@mazebean5200 I hope your ok dude
my fist ex was not diagnosed with it but i do belive that they maybe do have NPD. They never listened to me and also always said something about suicide or self harm. One time we broke into a fight andsome friends told me that she again is telling them that she will do it. I got really nervous and ran to my mother that we need to get to her house now so that i can stop her... when i got there in tears in panic she was just sitting in her room with her mother and watching a film while eating ice cream. I was happy to see her alright but after that i stopped having contact with her because i realised how she fucked me up over two years of worrying and not realising the problem.
i still miss the happy times but i know now that, that would have not hold longer than that anyway...
(there was more than just that happening but this is the biggest event)
sry i just kinda felt like i had to tippe this in here and wanted to share it
@@akatsuki5940 I hope your doing ok now
@@khamsumtsheringwangdi1095 yes i am. I of course also have other Problems but i think she was the biggest one. Thank you and i hope you are also doing okay (also hope that for the others here!)
My father is a narcissist and I could never pinpoint in my 35 years of trying to have a relationship with him what it was about me he seems to despise. Thank you for this video, I finally have clarity. Now down a rabbit hole of youtube videos I go to figure out how to heal these wounds!
Mine is too. I didn’t realize it until probably my mid-20s. I always blamed myself for our poor relationship until fairly recently.
@@slaws2279 Me too.
Mine as well.. but he’s not a narcissist anymore, he improved a lot… because he died of cancer.. hoping for your quick recovery. Tc.
My mother hits all the signs of a narcissist in all the videos I have been listening to. Now I have clarity as well. I am 36.. and I found it out for about 1-2 weeks ago.
Wayyy more insidious and traumatizing than this cute animation makes it seem.
100% correct.
Hold me, I'm scared
100%! Still trying to heal from the trauma.
Ugh, this video makes it seem like that one popular girl in a cliche high school movie when they act more like psychopaths
well the animation was cute and creepy
That moment when you realize you are actually pretty close to being a narcissist
yea im scared of myself
Same here but I never cheated other than that this is a perfect description
ಠ︵ಠ
Haha.. Same here
Identifying it is the first step. Behavioral therapy is a tremendous tool.
my friends and i have been trying to kick a girl out of our friend group for months now but it hasn’t been working. one of my friends called her a narcissist, and i thought she was exaggerating until i saw this video. every thing that came up here i was able to relate all the way back to the girl. it’s crazy cause you don’t realize it until it’s pointed out.
What’s even more evil is a narcissist can even control Management and Supervisors more to favor them, and ruin an innocent person reputation at the workplace leaving them socially isolated from the clique group
The narcissist can and will convince others to avoid that person and the sad part is 9/10 the sheeple believe in the narcissists words as the truth
Soooooo Soooooo Soooooo true true true 👍 👌
Happened to me.
happened to me one year back. I quit without hesitation. Now I´m looking for a therapist who can help me to gain more self confidence, so I can be able to fight back when necessary.
True. Happened to me. I quit my job and became a stay at home mom again. I didn't need the money. Now they are severly shorthanded because people keep leaving. Oh well. I miss my clients. And the girl who started the BS? She quit way after me and is still a broke loser. Like why did you quit and you couldn't afford to? Dummy. And shes STILL the same..
I came here for a family member that has been slowly sucking the life out of me, and my parents are always on their side and don’t help me when this family member is hurting? Being rude? Annoying? I don’t even know what to call it. But I’m afraid that I might be the problem and not them because of it..
I started feeling afraid to speak my mind because anything I say may be used against me, nothing I do matters. How I feel does not count. I think my friend is one. Doesn't take criticism well. Acts like I she's the best thing that ever happened to me. I've often had to look inward and ask myself if I'm a bad person. Now I know I'm not the problem.
RUN
My mom used to be in a relationship with a narcissist and if she didn’t agree with his opinion he would get angry and start yelling at her and sometimes start abusing her. Luckily she left him and she’s doing well now.
Yep. Same here girl. I decided to end things because I was done being abused by him and using leverage against me about him “contemplating a break up with Me” felt like he was just trying to put power over me
That happened to me I left her though she got mad at me for saying she was wrong about something
i was dating a girl just recently that did and was doing a lot of these things to me recently. i remember at one point i called my friend i was like "brooooooo tell me im not crazy" it was actually so insane the effect it had on me even though it wasnt a long time. and now, now im blessed
They are demons desguised as angels.
It's not so easy to spot them because at the begining they are very good at wearing a mask.
it aint out fault we're like this :/
our*
i hate why this has so many likes🙁
Lol thats me
I know a like this he is a demon masked as an angel. I'm a guy that try to hide my inner demon. I'm mostly an angle but if someone piss me off my demon takes control. The problem here is my inner demon was bigger than him.
Ngl the little animation of the narcissist in this video is really cute.
That's because cute gets your attention.
the animations were cracking me up lol
@@animequeen78 fair, but cute nonetheless
I had a best friend for nine years that had an extreme narcissistic personality. Maybe not the best idea for someone with an extreme anxiety disorder to do... She was constantly manipulating telling me things such as “your fat, you should try to look more like me” or when i would try to express how I was feeling she would go “sorry but i don’t really have time to associate with people like that.” Another thing I noticed was she was very possessive and hating me trying to go and talk to others. I tried anything to please her and felt as if I was the one doing something wrong the whole time I was friends with her. This made it hard for me to talk to others even after she left me as I was scared since she would use excuses such as “they probably won’t like you” or “they won’t like how your so shy” to get me to stay with her instead. Anyways, I just thought i’d share my personal experience with a narcissistic personality and how my anxiety didn’t cope too well with that 😂😂
How is she now?
That sounds like a horrible experience but I'm glad that person isn't in your life anynore. Hope that you are trying to better yourself now after the experience
I really hope she’s better now, I haven’t talked to her in a while though..
One time I had a pregnancy scare because my ex would tell me “I get the vibe that you’re pregnant and I’m Dominican so you know it’s most likely true”. So the same night I had the pregnancy scare I told him I was gonna tell my mom to take me to the gynecologist to get a pregnancy test and an STD check. He said “I wouldn’t tell your mom that you might be pregnant if I were you”.. when I asked him why he said “because most people would leave somebody when they’re pregnant”.... but that’s not even the worse he’s said or done! He’s called me really disrespectful names, put his hands on me, and told me that he cared about me and loved me.. which was a lie...
Shy people are some of the most interesting and likable people in the world, in my honest opinion.
Being shy shows you are mindful, and that you think before you act or speak, meaning when you finally do come out of your shell, it's exponentially more meaningful and lovely than with someone who constantly yaps to fill the silence. xD
In my eyes, being shy is a good thing, and i hope you see it that way too, despite what your narcissistic ex-friend said. :)
I'm a hopeless Dame Carealot, narcs love me because of that, but they absolutely hate my husband who often takes a firm grip around that mask they wear and rip it off, not caring about them turning their backs, gaslighting or whatever they may do.
I remember a certain friend of mine that made both of us really angry because of how she treated our neighbor. I told her I want to help him because he had shown up with wounds on his hands and wrists and he doesn't have any pets. She started shaming him by saying that people who cut themselves only do that for attention. Some months later, she showed up with her own wounded arms, shoving them into our faces with the words: "Look what I did the other day, I'm so fed up with my life!" So when you do it yourself you're entitled to ask for our help, but when others do it they just seek attention? We told her to leave, then called 112 (911 where I live). After that, we never spoke again and man do we feel free.
They never get happy when you achieve something. Everything they want is to push you down
Ok, so, let me just say this:
I. Frikin. LOVE this art style. it's so expressive and unique! I love it and i personally think that it's so cute! it's simple yet very expressive!
It also has more movements and i like the bouncy effect they had on the characters! good job to whoever animated this!
I follow artist on instagram, if ya wanna i can give ya their account's name
I love the animation style, too.
One of my favorite so far!
Thank you so much for the kind words!!
@@madhattey I'VE NEVER SUBSCRIBED SO SOMEONE SO FAST
I remember my sister said to me "you just don't know how hard it is to be so beautiful" and she meant it.
My wife had a friend that loved when people she knew failed, was defeated, or suffered misfortunes. She was hooked on Facebook and would call up giggling everytime she learned about a classmates misfortune. She was jealous of others as well.
A few years ago I realised that I was in a really bad place mentally, I really hated myself. Since then I've tried to hype myself up with thoughts like "you're the best" in an attempt to make me feel better about myself, but when I genuinely started believing those thoughts I was scared that I would turn into some sort of narcissist.
I felt better after watching this video, I know that I'm not a narcissist, just discovering newfound confidence :D
So.. thanks for this video! And thanks for reading?^^
I disagree. I think you were simply using your strength to motivate yourself back then. Thank you for sharing this with us
@@tintinhelicopter2677 Thank you!
While I don’t think it’s possible to be perfect, you should always strive to be better. There is always room for improvement.
It's like what some Japanese philosophers believe in.
Perfection is something you always strive for but something you can never reach.
That's what differentiates from the narcissist. They feel they are entitled although they've done crap e.g. expect a loving relationship while sabotaging it from the core.
Adolf Bitchler would beg to differ
@@A.RandomGuy I understand but I don’t😀
"Have you ever noticed feeling that you can't remember anything correctly around a specific person."
This one hit the hardest. My mom will change every story to always make her the good/right one even when it's blatantly untrue, and even when multiple people in the family disagree. It's nice to know, but I wish I could unlearn that she is a narcissist. She's right down the ballot every symptom one. It's hurt our relationship because I avoid her for the most part nowadays. Every conversation is negative and all about what me and everyone else is doing wrong and how without her our family would be clueless and fall apart. She's unemployed and sits around drinking all day. It's bonkers. But she's my mom and I love her so I deal with it from time to time. I'm just grateful that my Dad is the most positive reinforcing person I know.
our doughter did this to us parrents... we thinking we are crazy bc she is our doughter... its all so awfull :(
Don’t worry if you’re also a narcissist like me but don’t wanna hurt the ones you love or care for. You can always be a *_Functional Narcissist_* , by practicing these:
Self-acceptance: Have a healthy sense of self-worth and self-regard.
Curiosity: Be curious about others' thoughts and feelings.
Compassion: Be compassionate towards others.
Ability to tolerate criticism: Be able to tolerate criticism and defeat.
Empathy: Be able to empathize with others
Empathy will be the most difficult part but by doing these it will help build your empathy;
~Prioritize listening (ignore your own emotions or other distractions and focus on others words and emotions)
~Ask questions and be curious of other people’s emotions (you can always ask them how an experience made them feel)
~Copy the emotions you recognize (if you watch a video with someone who’s hurt. Try understanding and feeling their emotions)
~Share your emotions and be open/vulnerable (give people a chance to empathize with you by sharing painful emotions like guilt, shame, or anxiety)
~Take action when you recognize you can help (even if it’s small or seemingly insignificant, do things to help others even if it’s just to say bless you after someone sneezed)
~Notice body language (try to pick up on small things from the tone of their voice, to small shifts in their energy)
~Talk to people (if you can start a conversation with someone. Do it!)
I love how in describing a narcissist's life, we put a lot of stuff in quotation marks, like narcissists gaslight those who are "dear" to them. Because most of their lives are in quotation marks, because their "perfect" lives aren't real!
I came here to find out if this was me. I literally don’t know because I question everythingggg it’s like I can’t trust my own judgement. I’m like “what if I’m just in denial” I’d hate myself if I find out I actually am a narcissist or have narcissistic tendencies 😖 my mother is a narcissist and it seemingly runs in my family. Pray for me. My purpose is to break these generational curses
narcissistic tendencies is usually hereditary
It’s gonna be ok! Make sure you show empathy. The video said that narcissists don’t show empathy, so if you do then I don’t think you have much to fear☺️💛 Stay strong soldier!💪
If this question is stemming from wondering how your behaviour impacts others, not how do your actions affect the way others view you, then you're probably good
how do you feel about empathy?
@@bilwisss empathy is a huge part of my identity. I consider myself an empath yet I can also feel nothing at all at times depending how on who it is I guess
To everyone who "thinks they are a narcissist", you are most likely not. A narcissist would never admit they are a narcissist.
I am not sure.
@@aelisif i dont think the thought of being a narcissist would even cross a narcissists mind for 1 milisecond!
VictoriaSecret, you're implying in that case they'd consider narcissism a bad thing. Maybe they're proud of it, as narcissists would be.
@@spikeboy101 you have a very valid point ;)
literally the entire video I was stuck in a cycle of, "do I do that? I dont really know" to "Maybe this is me, but I dont want anybody to get hurt" to "I cant be a narcissist, I pretty much always express self hatred, but maybe that is just a facade" and now I just feel lost
Holy crap, I met a girl a year and a half ago and she has all the 9 signs!
She's Japanese and wants to move in with me in my home country.
The thing is that I discovered little by little that she lacks empathy (I was beaten by my dad as a child, and when I told her she shrugged it off by saying that I should learn to love myself instead of finding excuses about my lack of confidence), wants to change my behavior (by forbidding me using humor that doesn't suit her or supposedly rude expressions), doesn't want to talk about anything "negative" (mostly stuff she disagrees with), expects me to pay for not only the daily expenses but also for luxury gifts, pressured me into buying an expensive ring -that she doesn't wear because it's linked to a "bad" experience she supposedly had when I bought it), victimizes herself constantly and wants only to be surrounded by "positive people" aka people that are wealthy or of high professional status.
She criticizes my belongings and my apartment (saying that when she'll come we need to move to a bigger place because she needs an office space), thinks that my car is small and that she'll need a bigger car.
Each time I pointed this behavior out, she gets mad and sometimes violent.
When I try to discuss with her she gets dismissive and patronizing.
I always feel like I am inferior to her, she's body-shaming me (even though I've been told that I was attractive by some girls in the past) and while she's conventionally attractive, she has a high image of herself.
She says she needs a man "she can rely on", meaning someone who will be manipulated by her into doing whatever she wants.
This video just made me realize that I'm probably making a big mistake.
This chick is toxic af.
I need to break up.
I just feel sorry that her parents like me.
Don’t. They know the monster they made. They’re in on it, trying to find a sucker to take her
She isn't the one for you.
Run dude before it’s too late
Sorry bro but she sounds exactly like my ex wife who definitely is a narcissist. But if you haven’t ran for the hills yet & need some more clarity it’s easy- just tell her you’re not sure you’re ready for marriage & need some time & space - during a nice long break of around 6 - 12 months she will show you everything you need to know ! Good luck & God bless !!
Dude, RUN, I repeat RUN - do not walk - and GTFO. It doesn't matter what her parents think of you, SHE is the one you'd have to deal with. And she may be feeding into the perception that her parents are fond of you - whether or not they actually are - in order to add that element of guilt that she feels will keep you where she wants you. No matter how hard it is to break up, it will be much harder to get rid of her when you cohabit and possibly (gods forbid) marry - especially if any children are produced. Trust me, she is NOT mother material. It sounds as though she is already verbally abusive to you, and has displayed violence to make her point. This will ONLY get worse the more secure she gets in the relationship. She clearly doesn't love you or she wouldn't feel compelled to change everything about you. She WANTS to keep you feeling inferior, that gives her power. I mean just think of how WRONG that is in a relationship - the partners should be best friends, encouraging one another.
I see it's been a couple months since you posted - I so, so hope you were able to end this. If you haven't yet, be prepared for the s**t to hit the fan when you try to dump her. She will use guilt, anger, violence, anything she can to keep you where she wants you. Narcissists detest rejection. It dumps a load of cognitive dissonance into their little world. I mean if they are as perfect as they want to believe, NOBODY would ever want to leave, right? Yeahhh...
Get out and don't look back, ever. You deserve so much better. It's clear you're educated and intelligent, you're articulate and possess insight. Don't second-guess yourself. Spidey sense is never wrong.
Finding out you're the fool in a relationship with a gas lighting narcissist is a shitty feeling. Vids like this have opened my eyes to the secret hell and invisible cage I've been in and help me feel less crazy lol.
i hope you’re getting out of it. try to remember the confidence and love you had for yourself before it happened
It's really hard to accept that those: "wrong again" feelings and reactions you had WERE ACTUALLY times when your instincts were RIGHT. It can feel like you're deflated after looking at it as it was: gaslighting. Yeah, there's relief, but it's made me feel foolish. "How did I let myself get played like that?" It really sucks.
So true. I've dealt with a gas lighting narcissist. He never directly answers questions, and he always denies the truth by accusing the other person of making things up.
Same , god I can’t believe it felt like I couldn’t even remember what actually happened. And she made me feel like I was the crazy one.
Same here I literally feel the same and I felt like such an idiot
I used to live with someone I’m now sure is a narcissist. They rescued me from a rough home life but over the years became just as toxic as what I left. Very glad to be out of contact with them despite missing some of the nicer times together, I don’t miss the abuse and manipulation.
Good for you.
Yeah but idc.
@@imweird4548 me neither
I live with one, verbally abusive and personality, my daughter, it’s like a ticking time bomb
Who asked tho?
I stopped being friends with a girl I was really close to for a few years- and I knew what she was doing wrong to me, I just never knew how to word it. But now that I’ve watched this video- and she fits into every category that this video gave, a narcissist definitely describes her well.
:( I’ve had a few close friends with narcissistic behavior that I had to let go of
same here, all the worse that she was a crush aswell. Wish you the best of luck, I hope it get's better
Yes get rid of the trash 🗑
Used to have a friend I've always wondered about. Group outings had to be adjusted to her wants, conversations couldn't veer from her interest. It was really frustrating because I was the only one in the group that got fed up with it. Then my best friend did after 1) she took her to her Christian life group and she proceeded to embarrass her by telling everyone that their god murders babies (did she think she was enlightening them?) and 2) my best friend and I were having issues with the rest of our friend group leaving us out of things (me especially). We'd raised the issue and our "friends" and they insisted we were misunderstanding. Every year we had a New Year's party, but that year it had been canceled. SHE told my best friend the party went ahead. Either she lied because she wanted us to feel bad and lash out at the others, or they didn't want us at the party and she told the truth and wanted us to feel bad and lash out at the others. Either way, those friendships didn't last much longer.
I don’t feel bad
Sign number one, three and four, five and six in this video are accurate. And they do idealize some people, and then devalue. But some people with NPD will show these signs in subtle ways.
Lack of ability to feel empathy for others (lack of normal range empathy). They do have intellectual empathy, but they don't FEEL empathy like most people can. Another sign is Entitlement and Arrogance. They may feel entitled to treat someone else poorly, maybe even bullying or abusing someone else. Yet, they act like they somehow have that right. Arrogance can show up in overt ways or subtle (covert) ways. Rarely do people with NPD brag about themselves in obvious ways, but they may be very critical of others (just one example). Unhealthy boundaries is another characteristic. They may rush the nature and pace of a relationship (can be romantic or non romantic). Or they may show subtle signs of a lack of regard for your boundaries. It can almost feel like dealing with a teenager, instead of an adult. A need for external validation (loosely known as narcissistic supply). For example, wanting the boss to know how much more competent they are, compared to others in the workplace. A high need for control is another characteristic. For example, they might micromanage a coworker. Also, people who have NPD will sometimes target certain people, while being great to others. Other signs are a whole set of behaviors and behavioral patterns, such as gaslighting, projection and blame shifting, resistance to perceived criticism (no one likes to be criticized, but most people can handle it, if it's necessary and respectful). But someone who has NPD may be far more resistant and sometimes even hostile, aggressive , resentful, etc., to the person who they believe criticized them. Lack of personal accountability. Passive aggressive behaviors, or sometimes aggressive. Depending on the person. And the situation. But they'll be passive aggressive to be problematic for the targeted person. Emotionally abusive behaviors. Creating Triangulation. Remember that this is coming from a pathological need or drive to protect the ego. And a defense mechanism called the Grandiose Sense of Self. Aka, Grandiose self image. They don't have a stable sense of identity. They have these traits and characteristics, that are rigid, maladaptive and inflexible to treatment. So it's not just a person who is occasionally insensitive, or who is a little selfish at times. No one is perfect. And it's not just a "narcissistic" person. And it's not Narcissism. Narcissism is a trait, not a personality disorder. But with NPD, there is a more significant pattern of these behaviors.
My narcissistic person says it’s “rude” to walk away when he’s essentially berating me. Simple criticisms evolve into gut-tearing exposé on my deficiencies.
"You always do this," is when I walk away.
mary , i have this exact situation too, u must remain strong , if possible phase them out your life
That was my last straw with my ex wife - we were having a nice conversation, she started criticizing me for no reason to obviously start a fight with me, I wasn't in the mood and walked away so she started a fight with me for that, then when I was getting ready to go take a walk and cool off, she straight accused me of cheating on her with my best friend's widow (he had committed suicide about a year prior, and they're both like family to me so I'd been helping the widow deal with her own issues) and that was when I said, "F this, I'm out."
I'm still pretending to be friends with her for now because if I don't she'll lie to the cops that I raped her and have me arrested.
Narcissist: maybe we should break up
Me: lol ok bye
Nah I bet they’d straight up cheat and then dump you for a “better person”.
@@Daisy_Plus Perhaps
Narcissist: "I'm too beautiful for you, so i think we should break up."
Me: *Raises finger and opens mouth in protest, but pauses and thinks for a second*
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Also me: "I agree." *Walks away*
When a narcissist hands you a deus ex machina, you should always take it, no questions asked. xD
A situation like that is a perfect way to stop associating with the narcissist, and live a healthy life without them mentally poisoning you. :)
Yessss. They wanna break up every week!
Yep
I know this is off topic but the girl depicted as the narcissist has a really cute design!
her hair looks like construction paper
I dont know who I am true her outfit is cute
@@jesussaves5692 Got 'em! Let's gooo!
I spent 6 yrs of my adult life staying under my older sisters butt, helping her take care of her home, her kids, making sure she was never alone, never bored & if I so much as got sick & couldn’t help her do smth that rlly didn’t require help then I was garbage beneath her foot. Then anytime my other sister came she wld say things that appeared vague to her but I would know exactly what she was talking abt so that I wld have an outburst making me look like the crazy one & isolate me from the rest of the family. I can’t believe I let it go so long thinking that she needed me, like I was a part of her life when I was just a toy for when the ppl she did respect weren’t available. I had to cut her off but my relationship w my oldest niece is so strong that it’s rlly hard to manage. I can never truly cut her out for at least another 10 yrs bc I love my niece. This video truly has saved me from tending to someone else’s garden while mine dried up and died
People who've dated narcissist people have experienced really messed up situations
Try being raised by them.
My cousin is a narcissist, or at least acts like one. I was friends with her for years, and I would be lying if I said being around her didn’t affect me. She used her troubles and trauma to make me feel like I wasn’t valid. Yes, she has been through a lot, but instead of giving advice to others going through her same situation, she used it to make me feel like I didn’t have a reason to be sad. She’d tell me that I didn’t have a reason to be sad because I had a happy family, good friends, everything I needed, and most of what I wanted. Now I realize that I don’t actually have most of those things, but at the time I believed her.
In the end she succeeded in making me feel invalid. I will probably never convince myself that my mental health is indeed worth it because of what she did. But, y’know, that just happens sometimes.
Good luck to everyone who is dealing with a narcissist or dealing with the aftermath of a narcissist. It takes time, but I know you’ll pick yourself back up. Love you
One of the best responses to a narcissist (in my opinion): "Quite an opinion you have. Good thing it's only that and not a matter of fact."
Denying them their self proclaimed divinity and brushing off their shots at you like it's nothing drives them insane, it's painful to some of them because they can't stand the thought of the possibility of not being the best.
Thank you sir
But I think in most cases, they pass their opinion as fact.
@@ponzu638 They do but the good news is their assertion does not make it fact, whether they know that or not.
@@UltraK420 of course, but what I'm saying was there's no really good response to someone who is narcissistic as any argument would be futile.
@@ponzu638 Then the individual is a lost cause, he/she is essentially fucked because no amount of rational reasoning seems to work. The ego is too powerful for the narcissist to resist its hold and see other perspectives around it.
Narcissists can break you. My spirited is broken and I'm trying to move on and have my life back.
I had a friend that was a Narcissist in primary school, he always kissed the teachers asses, he cheated in situations if it meant that he would get his own way, and he would bully vulnerable kids in my class to feel powerful, he would throw kids under the bus if he could save his own ass, he would frequently slap, kick, punch, etc. me and my friends for no reason, and once he collapsed into tears when my teacher found out that he beat up the quiet kid in our class. Glad that he didn't follow me to high school.
Stop being a B**** and go back to his house RIGHT NOW and kick his ass into OBLIVION boyyy! Keep kicking until he pukes ALL the food he's eaten in his shitty life 😁👍