Part of my overthinking comes from fear of regretting a decision. So in my mind if I think of all the ways things could go wrong or all the pitfalls before doing it I’m protecting myself, but really it’s just a way to never start. I heard about 75 hard then started the next day, I’m over a week in and I’ve had to start over because of the minute details that aren’t in the original podcast but are on his website, like you can’t break up your 45 min workout or you can’t add anything to the water, but I’m still going. Found your channel because of it. Thanks for the info.
Great content Nick and a nice refresh of thought. I am finding that, having consumed many hours of self-help information, I have gotten to a point where my habits and lifestyle choices are better, but my thoughts always contradict each other and I get stuck in analysis paralysis, and lose belief in the path I am on, Like you said, constantly moving on to the next thing. I feel lost between the old me and the new me. Am I just stuck in overthinking? Do I just need to start creating instead of consuming? Thanks 👍🏻
I appreciate you @slimwady5500 This is a very interesting question because I, too, am going through a bit of a transformative time in my life. In short, it may be your time to start creating. Here's why I say that. I've learned through this recent experience I'm in that self-help is a lot like a tool belt. There are different strategies and ideas you can take from self-help and add them to your tool belt, but eventually, the belt fills up and you have enough tools to go to work. These tools take you through a phase of your life and you can actually apply those things you've learned. This is the important part of the process that most miss; application. Without application, we rely too heavily on theoretical "what ifs" and trying to control parts of our lives that we just need to dive head first in and experience. I've went through periods of intense study of these different areas of self-help and personal development, but on the other side, I've also went through periods of applying and using what I've learned. There is a way this all works together within your life if you keep one thing constant; keep taking consistent action toward a goal or mission. I'm learning that part of this process is a mix of selfish pursuit that leads to a selfless pursuit. In the early parts of your life, you have the selfish pursuit. You equip yourself with as many tools as you can on the front end to make your personal goals come to fruition. Pursue your goals that give you the opportunity to apply these tools you've acquired. Eventually, you become valuable to others through insight, experience, and wisdom. Then, there comes a point where you have to take those tools and use them to really lean into a selfless mission or a purpose. That may create a situation where you go back into consuming to add the tools needed to fulfill that larger purpose. Then, the cycle repeats as you take those new tools into application again. If you feel stuck, listen to that intuition and go create.
@@NickTShelton fantastic reply mate thank you. I completely agree with the selfish process. I have a limiting belief that is stopping me from pursuing the selfLess endeavour, when in reality I know I have the credentials to help others do what I have done myself. I think you have answered this with your last part, start now, and add more tools as you go, which is exactly what I know I need to do. Time to take action. Thank you brother 👊🏻
Thanks, I think I really needed to hear this. Would you say the actionable points, and especially the one about being stoic, apply equally well for both men and women?
Great question. Although men and women do have strengths in complimentary areas, the stoic approach for overthinking works for both. Is it always easy? Definitely not. But, do the best you can by observing the situation from a 3rd person view. Look at it as though you are observing a close friend going through your situation and ask yourself, “if I want what’s best for my friend, how would I advise them in this situation?” It’s given me clarity through some pretty challenging decisions I’ve had to make. Hope that helps.
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Part of my overthinking comes from fear of regretting a decision. So in my mind if I think of all the ways things could go wrong or all the pitfalls before doing it I’m protecting myself, but really it’s just a way to never start. I heard about 75 hard then started the next day, I’m over a week in and I’ve had to start over because of the minute details that aren’t in the original podcast but are on his website, like you can’t break up your 45 min workout or you can’t add anything to the water, but I’m still going. Found your channel because of it. Thanks for the info.
Glad to hear you are starting and continuing on. Keep going. 🫡
This is excellent insight
Thank you 🙏🏼
Great content Nick and a nice refresh of thought.
I am finding that, having consumed many hours of self-help information,
I have gotten to a point where my habits and lifestyle choices are better, but my thoughts always contradict each other and I get stuck in analysis paralysis, and lose belief in the path I am on,
Like you said, constantly moving on to the next thing.
I feel lost between the old me and the new me.
Am I just stuck in overthinking? Do I just need to start creating instead of consuming?
Thanks 👍🏻
I appreciate you @slimwady5500
This is a very interesting question because I, too, am going through a bit of a transformative time in my life. In short, it may be your time to start creating. Here's why I say that.
I've learned through this recent experience I'm in that self-help is a lot like a tool belt. There are different strategies and ideas you can take from self-help and add them to your tool belt, but eventually, the belt fills up and you have enough tools to go to work. These tools take you through a phase of your life and you can actually apply those things you've learned. This is the important part of the process that most miss; application. Without application, we rely too heavily on theoretical "what ifs" and trying to control parts of our lives that we just need to dive head first in and experience.
I've went through periods of intense study of these different areas of self-help and personal development, but on the other side, I've also went through periods of applying and using what I've learned. There is a way this all works together within your life if you keep one thing constant; keep taking consistent action toward a goal or mission.
I'm learning that part of this process is a mix of selfish pursuit that leads to a selfless pursuit. In the early parts of your life, you have the selfish pursuit. You equip yourself with as many tools as you can on the front end to make your personal goals come to fruition. Pursue your goals that give you the opportunity to apply these tools you've acquired. Eventually, you become valuable to others through insight, experience, and wisdom. Then, there comes a point where you have to take those tools and use them to really lean into a selfless mission or a purpose. That may create a situation where you go back into consuming to add the tools needed to fulfill that larger purpose. Then, the cycle repeats as you take those new tools into application again.
If you feel stuck, listen to that intuition and go create.
@@NickTShelton fantastic reply mate thank you.
I completely agree with the selfish process.
I have a limiting belief that is stopping me from pursuing the selfLess endeavour, when in reality I know I have the credentials to help others do what I have done myself.
I think you have answered this with your last part, start now, and add more tools as you go, which is exactly what I know I need to do.
Time to take action.
Thank you brother 👊🏻
Thanks, I think I really needed to hear this. Would you say the actionable points, and especially the one about being stoic, apply equally well for both men and women?
Great question. Although men and women do have strengths in complimentary areas, the stoic approach for overthinking works for both. Is it always easy? Definitely not. But, do the best you can by observing the situation from a 3rd person view. Look at it as though you are observing a close friend going through your situation and ask yourself, “if I want what’s best for my friend, how would I advise them in this situation?” It’s given me clarity through some pretty challenging decisions I’ve had to make.
Hope that helps.
Great topic!!!!
Thanks Pamela!