I agree! I believe he's 100% authentic! I also believe he's in the rightfield also! People who.enjoy what they do for a living are usually effective in many ways atwork. In other words, it's not work when he's actually helping his clients recover and grow... The other side is definately work. He has to travel alot, film Documentaries, jold business meetings, hire and fire, it goes on and on. He is now a Brand. It's amazing how popular and respected he is, now while the world is in chaos and abandonment, hete he is..the right man for the right time! Self awareness is the key. I have all.the confidence in the world that he will remain a huge influence in my life.
Dr. Gabor is a treasure! A true well of knowledge, took me on a painful ride through my childhood and at the same time made me realize how much "fixing" i need to do when it comes to my parenting skills and dealing with my 5 year old daughter ❤ thank you Doug
That’s great. We can change the cycle. I had to take a good look at my parenting too when dealing with healing past traumas, I was parenting in a way that would trigger my anxiety, I had very bad separation anxiety when away from My kids. That was my shit and not in the best interests of my children. It’s a hard pill to swallow isn’t it. But well done for being honest with yourself and becoming aware of the things you could improve on ❤
The knowledge Dr Maté offers is amazing. I started understanding so many things in my live after I discovered him. I'm profoundly grateful for all he's willing to share and teach. ❤❤
Anxiety is a normal human response, that is actually our friend. It is a physiological response that prepares our bodies fight flight freeze fawn response, the physiological changes that take place in our body to prepare it to respond in a super human way or heighten our senses with the release of adrenaline, cortisol and other hormones - the increase in blood pressure, heart rate, breathing rate, sensors heightened, is physically uncomfortable - however it is only a feeling, the mind - body connection is so interconnected, we can subconsciously associate this uncomfortable feeling with a past fearful experience, the loop begins. The beautiful thing (no it’s not always easy) is that there are tools we can use in order to reduce that physical sensation that is uncomfortable, through breathing techniques that can trick the body into reversing this physiological response. ❤
Dr mate makes me cry in a good way bc I understand and funnily get it through his wisdom and common sense that I am …enough ! I soaked up his book and listen to him daily .. he is common sense and has help me heal my own heart ♥️ as it continues to grow stronger 🎉ty sir ! 🌈🕊️🙏🏼♾️☀️🤓🥰
If there's one wish that I wish to achieve before I exit this world, it is to speak to Dr.Mate one on one....better still, meet him in person, and shake his hand. Dear universe....hear me ,I pray.
Interviews like these should be on tv, I'm older now and happy I decided to listen to Mel podcast one day which brought me to others, overwhelming all this knowledge, but better late than never. I love learning I was right about most of what I thought over time. This should be mainstream!!!!!
So in essence every living person on the earth experiences life and with that we relate to it in our own experience and it may take a toll, especially when you reach out to those who we think have the answers don’t.
21:15 😢 I feel terrible my eldest didn't get the best version of me. My second did and I see the difference. I now am filled with so much guilt over this. My pregnancy with my first was so stressful and it carried through the first few years. I didn't know I was parenting from stress, anxiety and anger (towards my husband)
Oh darling. I was the same. I had to work through the guilt also. But you are aware, you have nothing to feel guilty about, no mother purposely sabotages their child’s wellbeing, my pregnancies were horrible too and post natal depression robbed me of years of my kids lives. But we can not live in a place of guilt, that will only cause you to be anxious and be down on yourself. That’s not going to help anyone, you did the best you could and shit happens in life and it’s not your fault. All you can do is do your best. The fact you are aware and that you care just shows how wonderful you are as a mother. Be kind to yourself. It’s never too late to work on things and check in with your kids, have conversations, find forgiveness for yourself, and gain forgiveness x ❤ please don’t beat yourself up x that makes me feel really sad for you. Tomorrow is another day and we are forever evolving growing and changing ❤ hugs
I don't have a fear of being by myself. I find it easier to be by myself, to rely only on myself. It's been the biggest confusing thing, as it's always assumed I must be lonely, especially since feelings of abandonment was a big thing in my childhood, and does still come up, but I rarely feel lonely, and am happy spending time alone.
What feels more manageable today you ask? That it is just a feeling. It's when I try to manage my life that it becomes unmanageable. Like, I don't need to know all of the answers, because I might fool myself into thinking that I am some sort of GOD...I know for a fact that I am not. Thank God for that! If you only knew me, lol.
Kedves doktor Gábor by the way have a happy Passover! To you and your family! You're beautiful! I need your help. I had a father who was schizophrenic.! used to beat us every day especially me because I was a crybaby! I wish you would answer this question I was born with meningitis and I was a twin! My sister died from disease! And I think this did something to my brain! Because I have ADHD! I'm very bad anxiety and depression! so if you can answer my question, I would be great grateful to you! Because you are amazing and you suffered so much! And this is what I'm going through right now! Lockdown the Covid! All did some harm to me being all alone for four years! And the people above me so noisy, banging, and walking like Grand Central station! I have very sensitive ears. I cannot take noise.! I have to wear something in my ears.! thank you if you could respond to this! Thank you so much szeretlek sokat!😊❤
My therapist clinician always begins with reinforcing upgrading the chip of self blame for everything that comes out of my mouth. And reminds me that I am not sick, that it is my trauma speaking for me. I have healed in three years 75% of incest trauma and I feel so good. I thank her every time.
I hear you. I cry or get angry. Distractions help to.change the focus. Take care of your physical health too Eat healthy, drink.water!, get enough sleep. Excercise. Don't take on too much.or be hard on yourself. Pet a dog. Walk somewhere with plants and trees. Paint. Play music. Talk to strangers Less screen time More fresh air Do some volunteer work
Have a good cry session and let your self ugly cry. Sometimes its just from trying to avoid crying, when we are little most were told not to cry so now as adults we walk with knot on the throat. Also be compassionate with your self. I struggle with not wanting to be a victim, not acknowledging that I was mistreated or I suffer because I feel guilt thinking other people are suffering more, or think of how hard the people that wrong me had it but that empathy should be for us too. ❤
Buddha teachers living in the now but the problem is doing it and when you get others giving u a hard time or death threats it can be hard to escape the past 😢😢
What you have gone through is obviously been very difficult for you. You have every right to be angry, frustrated, sad and stressed. Just some advice if you are willing to take it, if not tell me to mind my own business. You have the right to feel what you feel. However, holding onto these feelings is only hurting you more. We do have an ability to let go, it doesn’t mean that those who made mistakes are forgiven or it is acceptable, but you can work towards letting those negative feelings go over time. We can have a choice, once you start to work on your healing all that has happened, is when you start to set yourself free from the trap you find yourself in, reliving the pain everyday is toxic, letting go is for your benefit, for your freedom and a chance to live a life without all of the bullshit hanging over you. You deserve to be set free from It. Give yourself the chance to feel good again. ❤
You can’t heal trauma, you can only reconcile with it in a way that allows you to live a life that is not defined and limited by trauma. If you succeed you will not heal the trauma but you will be liberated from its grip on you. Good luck!
We have to find the truth of it, not reject oneself and feel the way it feels and accept that it hurts and really just.. feel the pain when you are able to, in a safe way. Like, not sink haphazardly into but when it hits, you sit and feel the strength of the place beneath you and realize in that moment you feel how you feel while realizing you also are currently actually safe, in that moment. Don’t reject the thoughts as the come around but receive them and then allow yourself to feel compassion to yourself. Grief is super tough. And having immensely tough experiences that are out of one’s control, like loss of ability to pay one’s rent or find anywhere else to live, that’s real. But in your moment, you can allow yourself to accept that it’s so hard and think back to where it comes or feels similar and consider that you deserved to protected then, that you are worthy of love and acceptance and health and joy and safety and all the things… It’s hard to answer this in a. Comment but I wanted to try. Because .. maybe if it lands, some of it, then 😊 and if not.. that’s ok too:)
"Alarm" implies a known event to me. Anxiety is not that. It may have the same effect, but the cause is not as easily linked. I'm sure that's the point in using the term, but it feels inaccurate to me.
I don't hear a voice to converse with. I hear all that went wrong but what are the 3 tips for an adult who feels so lost, stressed and anxious? Gabor says it may take any number of things...really? And none are covered on my insurance. It's exhausting listening to hours of these videos, most contradict each other Gabor says "talk to that child" the next guy says "don't use language" but feelings... Hearing what got me here over and over doesn't fix the problems of feeling lost. No wonder this has so low likes...its like 1 in 50. Bait and switch
I do believe anxiety, for the most part, may be experienced more in biological females? It does make sense considering they experience more negative emotions than a male. ?
Who, what is the name of this other Dr? I’d really like to get his book. Does anyone know his name and the name of his book? He is absolutely right on.
I find it bizarre that most of Gabor’s thoughts on the origin of suffering aligns perfectly with psychodynamic theories in psychology.. yet he fails to mention psychodynamic therapy as an appropriate treatment for trauma?? His work is in some ways psychodynamic theory repackaged.
That’s always so frustrating when a person like Dr. Gabor is the ones sharing and being present.. even in a recorded video he does this. And so many other people are a stark contrast to him and bad editing is also,
Why would we need to “combat our feelings”? Maybe he misspoke and I hope whoever he is that he did because going to war with our feelings is exactly the wrong thing to do. Not intelligent or loving, at all. Also, thoughts don’t “have consciousness”. Be careful of New Age mumbo jumbo. Yikes. This guy is an example of what makes recovery so difficult for so many who are trying to get educated in a real way. One bad idea can wreak havoc on your process, be careful everyone.
@@cryptomuso6915I’m going to have to second this. Gabor is a trauma informed expert and makes perfect sense in this video. I don’t know what OP is talking about.
I totally agree with you! This guy is a FAKE! In real life he’s doing the exact opposite to what he preaches! He’s so sick of his traumas, he’s taking it all on his own people, his own nation! He became a toxic person that supports terrorists, ignores reality and facts! And more important, he hates his own people which is number one proof of unhealed traumas so he should be the last one to lecture us on this topic
thoughts are things. And you are not your thoughts. sometimes you need to be aware of and actively engage in confront your thoughts when they are negative or trauma based.
This man is so intelligent, humble & wise.
I agree! I believe he's 100% authentic! I also believe he's in the rightfield also! People who.enjoy what they do for a living are usually effective in many ways atwork. In other words, it's not work when he's actually helping his clients recover and grow... The other side is definately work. He has to travel alot, film Documentaries, jold business meetings, hire and fire, it goes on and on. He is now a Brand. It's amazing how popular and respected he is, now while the world is in chaos and abandonment, hete he is..the right man for the right time! Self awareness is the key. I have all.the confidence in the world that he will remain a huge influence in my life.
"Change your relationship to the past, in the present moment". I'm gonna sit with that for a while....
0:20 "Trauma is what happens inside of us". Good stuff
Yep! My comment was 15 seconds in.. and yours 20.
He is just so solid.
My eyes is now open to this in my sixties. A new lease on life. 🎉🎉❤❤. Thank you
Dr. Gabor is a treasure! A true well of knowledge, took me on a painful ride through my childhood and at the same time made me realize how much "fixing" i need to do when it comes to my parenting skills and dealing with my 5 year old daughter ❤ thank you Doug
That’s great. We can change the cycle. I had to take a good look at my parenting too when dealing with healing past traumas, I was parenting in a way that would trigger my anxiety, I had very bad separation anxiety when away from
My kids. That was my shit and not in the best interests of my children. It’s a hard pill to swallow isn’t it. But well done for being honest with yourself and becoming aware of the things you could improve on ❤
The knowledge Dr Maté offers is amazing. I started understanding so many things in my live after I discovered him. I'm profoundly grateful for all he's willing to share and teach. ❤❤
0:15 I immediately was about to argue and I just started listening and clicked here to do so and then Dr Gabor has it, of course:)❤
This is amazing especially for raising kids.
I'm so relieved I found you!
This video reallly helps me.
I listen over and over to implement what Dr. Gabor teaches. Kudos to u both !!!
Anxiety is a normal human response, that is actually our friend. It is a physiological response that prepares our bodies fight flight freeze fawn response, the physiological changes that take place in our body to prepare it to respond in a super human way or heighten our senses with the release of adrenaline, cortisol and other hormones - the increase in blood pressure, heart rate, breathing rate, sensors heightened, is physically uncomfortable - however it is only a feeling, the mind - body connection is so interconnected, we can subconsciously associate this uncomfortable feeling with a past fearful experience, the loop begins. The beautiful thing (no it’s not always easy) is that there are tools we can use in order to reduce that physical sensation that is uncomfortable, through breathing techniques that can trick the body into reversing this physiological response. ❤
Gabor is the 1
Dr mate makes me cry in a good way bc I understand and funnily get it through his wisdom and common sense that I am …enough ! I soaked up his book and listen to him daily .. he is common sense and has help me heal my own heart ♥️ as it continues to grow stronger 🎉ty sir ! 🌈🕊️🙏🏼♾️☀️🤓🥰
If there's one wish that I wish to achieve before I exit this world, it is to speak to Dr.Mate one on one....better still, meet him in person, and shake his hand.
Dear universe....hear me ,I pray.
Interviews like these should be on tv, I'm older now and happy I decided to listen to Mel podcast one day which brought me to others, overwhelming all this knowledge, but better late than never. I love learning I was right about most of what I thought over time. This should be mainstream!!!!!
Amazing Gabor❤❤❤❤
"Actually, no." I love Gabor.
Greta garbor
So in essence every living person on the earth experiences life and with that we relate to it in our own experience and it may take a toll, especially when you reach out to those who we think have the answers don’t.
Wow!! Thank you Dr Mate, for so much for your profound understanding and wisdom..
This guy is amazing ❤
this helped so much, thanks Gabor
You have lots of knowledge but a long way to go in your own healing . Good luck Gabor . May your path to healing lead you towards the path to truth
He doesn't need luck. He's a dr who's changed his life over decades
21:15 😢 I feel terrible my eldest didn't get the best version of me. My second did and I see the difference. I now am filled with so much guilt over this. My pregnancy with my first was so stressful and it carried through the first few years. I didn't know I was parenting from stress, anxiety and anger (towards my husband)
Oh darling. I was the same. I had to work through the guilt also. But you are aware, you have nothing to feel guilty about, no mother purposely sabotages their child’s wellbeing, my pregnancies were horrible too and post natal depression robbed me of years of my kids lives. But we can not live in a place of guilt, that will only cause you to be anxious and be down on yourself. That’s not going to help anyone, you did the best you could and shit happens in life and it’s not your fault. All you can do is do your best. The fact you are aware and that you care just shows how wonderful you are as a mother. Be kind to yourself. It’s never too late to work on things and check in with your kids, have conversations, find forgiveness for yourself, and gain forgiveness x ❤ please don’t beat yourself up x that makes me feel really sad for you. Tomorrow is another day and we are forever evolving growing and changing ❤ hugs
I don't have a fear of being by myself. I find it easier to be by myself, to rely only on myself. It's been the biggest confusing thing, as it's always assumed I must be lonely, especially since feelings of abandonment was a big thing in my childhood, and does still come up, but I rarely feel lonely, and am happy spending time alone.
I like what you’re saying. It makes sense.
Thank you
Thank you for sharing the story about the death row inmate. Inspiring.
What feels manageable today? Good advice.
What feels more manageable today you ask? That it is just a feeling. It's when I try to manage my life that it becomes unmanageable. Like, I don't need to know all of the answers, because I might fool myself into thinking that I am some sort of GOD...I know for a fact that I am not. Thank God for that! If you only knew me, lol.
It's all about Perspetion. Yes! 🙏
Thank you. 🙏🏻🇮🇪
Thank you ❤
Our first language to communicate was thru emotions
Just listen and think about it.
Thank you 🙏🏼
Kedves doktor Gábor by the way have a happy Passover! To you and your family! You're beautiful! I need your help. I had a father who was schizophrenic.! used to beat us every day especially me because I was a crybaby! I wish you would answer this question I was born with meningitis and I was a twin! My sister died from disease! And I think this did something to my brain! Because I have ADHD! I'm very bad anxiety and depression! so if you can answer my question, I would be great grateful to you! Because you are amazing and you suffered so much! And this is what I'm going through right now! Lockdown the Covid! All did some harm to me being all alone for four years! And the people above me so noisy, banging, and walking like Grand Central station! I have very sensitive ears. I cannot take noise.! I have to wear something in my ears.! thank you if you could respond to this! Thank you so much szeretlek sokat!😊❤
This isnt Gabor's channel
@@ooulalah4333 thank you
Can I take your course in n compassionate inquiry? I’m not e therapist yet but I’m moving in the direction of helping people to teal themselves.
Go for it 100%. Ppl need help support and understanding
My therapist clinician always begins with reinforcing upgrading the chip of self blame for everything that comes out of my mouth. And reminds me that I am not sick, that it is my trauma speaking for me. I have healed in three years 75% of incest trauma and I feel so good. I thank her every time.
I cry at every thing how to stop it
I hear you. I cry or get angry. Distractions help to.change the focus. Take care of your physical health too
Eat healthy, drink.water!, get enough sleep. Excercise. Don't take on too much.or be hard on yourself. Pet a dog. Walk somewhere with plants and trees. Paint. Play music. Talk to strangers
Less screen time
More fresh air
Do some volunteer work
Have a good cry session and let your self ugly cry. Sometimes its just from trying to avoid crying, when we are little most were told not to cry so now as adults we walk with knot on the throat. Also be compassionate with your self. I struggle with not wanting to be a victim, not acknowledging that I was mistreated or I suffer because I feel guilt thinking other people are suffering more, or think of how hard the people that wrong me had it but that empathy should be for us too. ❤
Is this a combination of all the interviews you had with Gabor? Seems like content I seen from one of the previous interviews. Also no time stamps
@11:00 I can't believe there's no proper training about Trauma. I am shocked!
Wonderful thank you
Buddha teachers living in the now but the problem is doing it and when you get others giving u a hard time or death threats it can be hard to escape the past 😢😢
Which books does Gabor keeps refering to?
Try going through the infected blood scandal stuff and try to get out of suffering during that and its aftermath.
What you have gone through is obviously been very difficult for you. You have every right to be angry, frustrated, sad and stressed. Just some advice if you are willing to take it, if not tell me to mind my own business. You have the right to feel what you feel. However, holding onto these feelings is only hurting you more. We do have an ability to let go, it doesn’t mean that those who made mistakes are forgiven or it is acceptable, but you can work towards letting those negative feelings go over time. We can have a choice, once you start to work on your healing all that has happened, is when you start to set yourself free from the trap you find yourself in, reliving the pain everyday is toxic, letting go is for your benefit, for your freedom and a chance to live a life without all of the bullshit hanging over you. You deserve to be set free from
It. Give yourself the chance to feel good again. ❤
🎉🎉❤❤😮😮 thank you 🙏
What is the name of the book Gabor is referring to that he wrote?
The myth of normal, most likely.
He's written tons of books
I don't see the 'save' option so I can watch it later➡is it here & I'm just not seeing it? If not, can you add it? Thank you.
How do I get to talk to this guy?
Tough love is saðdistic, cruel, unnecessary and downright IGNORANT! Its Bullying and a cop out!
❤yes
Ya but how do you heal trauma?
You can’t heal trauma, you can only reconcile with it in a way that allows you to live a life that is not defined and limited by trauma. If you succeed you will not heal the trauma but you will be liberated from its grip on you. Good luck!
Reframe the way we think of it
@@ckva7888❤
We have to find the truth of it, not reject oneself and feel the way it feels and accept that it hurts and really just.. feel the pain when you are able to, in a safe way. Like, not sink haphazardly into but when it hits, you sit and feel the strength of the place beneath you and realize in that moment you feel how you feel while realizing you also are currently actually safe, in that moment. Don’t reject the thoughts as the come around but receive them and then allow yourself to feel compassion to yourself. Grief is super tough. And having immensely tough experiences that are out of one’s control, like loss of ability to pay one’s rent or find anywhere else to live, that’s real. But in your moment, you can allow yourself to accept that it’s so hard and think back to where it comes or feels similar and consider that you deserved to protected then, that you are worthy of love and acceptance and health and joy and safety and all the things…
It’s hard to answer this in a. Comment but I wanted to try. Because .. maybe if it lands, some of it, then 😊 and if not.. that’s ok too:)
@@ConsciousConversationsthank you for your comment 🤍
53:28
Do you think the 5 medications are really helping?
"Alarm" implies a known event to me. Anxiety is not that. It may have the same effect, but the cause is not as easily linked. I'm sure that's the point in using the term, but it feels inaccurate to me.
I don't hear a voice to converse with. I hear all that went wrong but what are the 3 tips for an adult who feels so lost, stressed and anxious? Gabor says it may take any number of things...really? And none are covered on my insurance. It's exhausting listening to hours of these videos, most contradict each other Gabor says "talk to that child" the next guy says "don't use language" but feelings... Hearing what got me here over and over doesn't fix the problems of feeling lost. No wonder this has so low likes...its like 1 in 50. Bait and switch
I do believe anxiety, for the most part, may be experienced more in biological females? It does make sense considering they experience more negative emotions than a male. ?
I think it's because everything usually comes down on female's shoulders.
I wish the otter speakers could speak more relaxed. It quite stressful to her them special the first woman speaker. I wonder if she is aware of it.
Who is Russ.. What's his full name?
😊❤
Horrible how many drug commercials run during this video
If you have paid for TH-cam version you don't get those.
What the hell is up with the zillion commercials? TOTALLY RUINS CONTENT! Sooooo distracting to the point of ANNOYING!
All of your talks end up with a focus on parenting but the titles are about how to deal now. The titles are misleading
Click bait. Lost me
Reparenting is parenting oneself even if you dont have children of yourself .
Definitely Not Clickbait 😊
Parenting shows the basis for an adult's behaviour/misbehaviour
What a bad person this women
Agreed!
how can I talk with Dr.,Gabor
Read his books.
Trauma is how you deal with what happens to you.
What is the other dude talking about?
Who, what is the name of this other Dr? I’d really like to get his book. Does anyone know his name and the name of his book? He is absolutely right on.
The second doctor, what is his name?
I find it bizarre that most of Gabor’s thoughts on the origin of suffering aligns perfectly with psychodynamic theories in psychology.. yet he fails to mention psychodynamic therapy as an appropriate treatment for trauma?? His work is in some ways psychodynamic theory repackaged.
@28:55 what the heck happened? Horrible editing.
That’s always so frustrating when a person like Dr. Gabor is the ones sharing and being present.. even in a recorded video he does this. And so many other people are a stark contrast to him and bad editing is also,
Hernandez Patricia Walker Helen Johnson Paul
❤❤❤🎉😊
Why must all be explained so extensively? Have we no natural knowledge of what's right? Why not?
Hernandez Kenneth Thompson Barbara Davis Kimberly
If I need 2:45 minutes to answer that question, then I don’t want to know
Your title is misleading
🙏🏻🙏🏻♥️🫶👌
Ya gotta rest you get attacked from all around
wow what a lame clickbait technique. gabor is only on for 29 minutes.
He’s a sloth in the previous life
Yea, he’s so cute.
😂😂😂
Much work to do..🙄
Kinda kinda kinda is all I can hear from this lady in pink top
Why would we need to “combat our feelings”? Maybe he misspoke and I hope whoever he is that he did because going to war with our feelings is exactly the wrong thing to do. Not intelligent or loving, at all. Also, thoughts don’t “have consciousness”. Be careful of New Age mumbo jumbo. Yikes. This guy is an example of what makes recovery so difficult for so many who are trying to get educated in a real way. One bad idea can wreak havoc on your process, be careful everyone.
Whoever he is ? At least find that out before you criticize. Maybe you misheard rather than he misspoke?
@@cryptomuso6915I’m going to have to second this. Gabor is a trauma informed expert and makes perfect sense in this video. I don’t know what OP is talking about.
I totally agree with you! This guy is a FAKE! In real life he’s doing the exact opposite to what he preaches!
He’s so sick of his traumas, he’s taking it all on his own people, his own nation!
He became a toxic person that supports terrorists, ignores reality and facts! And more important, he hates his own people which is number one proof of unhealed traumas so he should be the last one to lecture us on this topic
thoughts are things. And you are not your thoughts. sometimes you need to be aware of and actively engage in confront your thoughts when they are negative or trauma based.
Please watch more from him, he is a very smart Dr. he has helped thousands.
Someone took Gabor to the barber!!!