The Sign You're Truly in Love | Macken Murphy

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  • @barbyyakubu6718
    @barbyyakubu6718 หลายเดือนก่อน +4958

    A person in love makes you feel at peace, looks out for your well-being, wellness and happiness. You the beloved will feel that sense of peace , safety and so at home conversing anything with them because the energy the person is emitting is genuine.
    Stay blessed yall 🙏

    • @Mushroom321-
      @Mushroom321- หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      😊❤🎉 yes!!!!

    • @lus9958
      @lus9958 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Agree

    • @bee8740
      @bee8740 หลายเดือนก่อน +73

      I actually prefer this answer.

    • @a.b.creator
      @a.b.creator หลายเดือนก่อน +62

      You are correct 💯. (This guy in the video is talking about obsession or limmerance) the Greeks have a wonderful set of definitions for the different Types of love.

    • @lucindanewcomb8769
      @lucindanewcomb8769 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      I disagree. That’s someone who knows how to love and can love a particular person but not necessarily someone who is in love. But it says there are 3 and he only mentions 2-obsessive thinking and special meaning…?

  • @wf4983
    @wf4983 หลายเดือนก่อน +4413

    That is not love. That is having a crush. Love needs more than this - love needs character.

    • @anthonyman8008
      @anthonyman8008 หลายเดือนก่อน +90

      He says romantic

    • @carlyk9168
      @carlyk9168 หลายเดือนก่อน +176

      Ehhh I've dated alot of people. Think there's some truth to this. Maybe not the second part but thinking about them non stop is 100% accurate

    • @feelthepeace
      @feelthepeace หลายเดือนก่อน +186

      After hearing this, I thought - didn't he just describe infatuation? 😳

    • @Fionamarie0211
      @Fionamarie0211 หลายเดือนก่อน +67

      ​@@feelthepeaceI hear what you guys are saying and I totally get it but I think the nuance comes from the specifics of the question He asked what an indication that somebody is in love with you is so he's saying what can I notice in their behavior that will let me know they're in love with me Not what the love consists of cuz obviously real romantic love is deeper than that theres more meaning to it and a consists of so many things So I think it's two different things that they are talking about and that some of the people in the comments are thinking about

    • @job6054
      @job6054 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

      When you'd do anything for them. Even die for them.

  • @mycupoverflows7811
    @mycupoverflows7811 หลายเดือนก่อน +1919

    My husband described our first date felt like "coming home." I think that was pretty accurate. 😍

    • @mazovifanai2174
      @mazovifanai2174 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

      Exactly wht i felt when I met my husband of 30+ yrs

    • @emmajessica46778
      @emmajessica46778 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      That’s amazing. ❤😊

    • @billiereyna7317
      @billiereyna7317 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      That’s why I love Billy Joel’s song You’re My Home!

    • @giovannicortez
      @giovannicortez หลายเดือนก่อน +31

      That’s how my husband described the moment he knew he loved me. He felt home. Like I was his home. We had been dating for 6 weeks, (just dating!) And he knew! It took me 6 months! 😂

    • @aren1998
      @aren1998 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      That's perfect. Lucky you❤

  • @mbrewer421
    @mbrewer421 หลายเดือนก่อน +2631

    He just described infatuation.

    • @kirbyd0g
      @kirbyd0g หลายเดือนก่อน +54

      exactly.

    • @Sarah-bn1hg
      @Sarah-bn1hg หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Yeah I don’t think that’s a bad thing .. that’s the point

    • @wasabe591
      @wasabe591 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Agreed 👍

    • @goranmilic442
      @goranmilic442 หลายเดือนก่อน +118

      Funny. Obsessive thinking is seen as fine if love is reciprocated, but seen as creepy if it's unrequited.

    • @UnapologeticallyKay25
      @UnapologeticallyKay25 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Exactly

  • @manifestcrypto4955
    @manifestcrypto4955 หลายเดือนก่อน +677

    Obsession is not love. A peacefulness, looking out for each other, mutual respect, consistent kindness, reciprocity, understanding and seeing each other’s true self and accepting the whole person, knowing you have each other’s back, that, I believe is love. The look on your face, when he said, obsessive thinking…..😊

    • @digthewarmth
      @digthewarmth หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      Yes that is "love". He said that he is describing "in love".

    • @chandramouli218
      @chandramouli218 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      great view

    • @kaitlanmorehouse3776
      @kaitlanmorehouse3776 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Okay, but I also experience all of that with my love.

  • @Braveh3artGirl
    @Braveh3artGirl หลายเดือนก่อน +1310

    I would actually like to point out that being in love requires action, consistency, dedication, time, energy,resources, respect, excitement, protection and a sense of adventure there’s more but hey 😇

    • @labazoops
      @labazoops หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      ❤😊

    • @alenaadamkova7617
      @alenaadamkova7617 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      the same as with meditation or any business.

    • @stephh.3320
      @stephh.3320 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ❤👏👏

    • @Jeniffer61867
      @Jeniffer61867 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      Yeah that's being in love. Love is a verb like you described but it starts with a feeling like he described.

    • @CinemaTVH
      @CinemaTVH หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      That ain’t the point. Stop being so strategic that’s why you’re single

  • @The900AD
    @The900AD หลายเดือนก่อน +974

    Love is when you want the best for that person - even if that means not being with you.

    • @armbsecure
      @armbsecure หลายเดือนก่อน +33

      Nah that's called the friendzone.

    • @laural8370
      @laural8370 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      The topic is “In Live”, which is kinda different.

    • @hannayaya7413
      @hannayaya7413 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

      ​​@@armbsecureNope - that's love. If the person for whatever reason is not with you - you can love them by wanting what's best for them.

    • @armbsecure
      @armbsecure หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      @@hannayaya7413 Yeah that's true love in the friendzone.
      Lool

    • @hannayaya7413
      @hannayaya7413 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      @@armbsecureWell, I'm going to have to disagree with you on this but for clarity and because I'm curious - how would you define or describe love "outside of the friendzone?"

  • @deedeelowe7846
    @deedeelowe7846 หลายเดือนก่อน +378

    This stayed with me and it is something my granny told me,” Baby when a relationship feels easy but isn’t. You found love. “ I didn’t understand first but when you meet that certain one. You know and it does feel like a home coming in a sense. You found where you feel safe, protected, and secure. Hope everyone founds that kind of love in their lives. Stay fearless.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      Appreciate you for this beautiful sharing!

    • @windsongconlon4853
      @windsongconlon4853 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      I’m tearing up, love this ❤

    • @aciuschristophores7789
      @aciuschristophores7789 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      "Feels easy but isn"t. Fascinating but hm isn't this contradictory? What does this mean?

    • @deedeelowe7846
      @deedeelowe7846 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      @@aciuschristophores7789 It means being so at ease and peaceful around a person that interactions become effortless as if your connection deepens. The hard part is being okay losing the most precious peace you have ever found except through God of course. Love lost is beyond consolation

    • @deedeelowe7846
      @deedeelowe7846 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@aciuschristophores7789 love is hard to let go of when you truly find it….is how I interpret life. Peace ✌️

  • @RabbitHoleDiaries
    @RabbitHoleDiaries หลายเดือนก่อน +339

    It's the glasses... When they take them off, then put them back on for no apparent reason...then you know it's real love.

    • @user-xn6ev5ll9w
      @user-xn6ev5ll9w หลายเดือนก่อน +48

      Hahaha I wondered who too picked up on that! That was so obviously planned.. sad 😂

    • @carmenlabomba6449
      @carmenlabomba6449 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      😂😂😂👏🏼

    • @StinsonSwarley
      @StinsonSwarley หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Right? 😂😂

    • @PureLace
      @PureLace หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      He tried so hard, then failed with his garbage answer. 😂

    • @ÉtoileJolie
      @ÉtoileJolie หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      😂😂😂😂

  • @ptyh27
    @ptyh27 หลายเดือนก่อน +332

    Someone who is truly in love with you will do anything to make you happy and you feel very comfortable around them. You will have no doubts about them.

    • @dfw6558
      @dfw6558 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      You just describe my husband and myself 😊❤

  • @Pinnfeathers
    @Pinnfeathers 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +22

    When someone truly loves you, they fully incorporate you into their life, selflessly, not through obsessive thoughts and behaviors, but through supportive words and actions that foster and enhance a sense of well-being, peace, and contentment, for both of you. They do what they can to encourage you to be your best self, for no other reason than to see you make yourself happy, and to see you succeed for yourself. Real love is intrinsically selfless and comes as naturally as breathing. What that guy in the video is describing is something else.

  • @SimNdlovu
    @SimNdlovu หลายเดือนก่อน +68

    Peace, definitely. Nothing speaks love more than feeling at complete peace

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      🙏

    • @ashton1952
      @ashton1952 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @Sim True words ❤

    • @lindisamathabela3192
      @lindisamathabela3192 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I disagree with that too. I think love comes with pain and being triggered so you can heal. Not only peace because it's a learning process, there is growth involved, there are ever-changing emotions, there is forgiveness involved.

  • @ChristineRauh
    @ChristineRauh หลายเดือนก่อน +63

    “I love you” is an expression of “I see you”, rather than “I like you”.
    The true meaning of “I love you” is not at all loaded with emotions. It rather comes from a space of feeling.
    🌾 Emotions come from a space of thinking.
    🌾 Feelings come from a space of awareness.
    To love someone is, to see and to honour the other. There is no clutch to it, as there are no expectations attached to it. It’s the joy of seeing life unfold within the other!

  • @kyul9357
    @kyul9357 หลายเดือนก่อน +94

    It’s respect. When she gives you space and then smiles really wide next time you see her. Enjoys every minute together.

  • @lovesafrica111
    @lovesafrica111 หลายเดือนก่อน +321

    When a person sacrifices for you & loves you no matter what. Love is two imperfect people who don't give up on one another & push one another to learn & grow.

    • @tamiressoares9303
      @tamiressoares9303 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Fact

    • @sshoegirl30004
      @sshoegirl30004 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      That to me sounds like the best way to define it. I'm stealing this!! 😊😊😊

    • @eldaguadiana6927
      @eldaguadiana6927 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Yeah LOVE is that. But being in love and love are 2 different things.
      “In love” is just code for the beginning high of the chemical rush that makes people think they have fallen.
      From that perspective, the video is right.
      Love is everything that comes after you’re not “in love” anymore because the dopamine and oxytocin that created the “in love” feeling will end.

    • @JesusIsKingForever77
      @JesusIsKingForever77 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Right. He describes infatuation. Real life takes time, & it’s something you actively do, over time, w/ dedication, & sacrifice.

    • @lovesafrica111
      @lovesafrica111 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@JesusIsKingForever77 I couldn't agree more. Thanks for sharing.

  • @khryssitheo614
    @khryssitheo614 หลายเดือนก่อน +563

    That's infatuation not love

    • @cherylwhite1322
      @cherylwhite1322 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Disagree.

    • @kateoconnor8663
      @kateoconnor8663 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      Agree with you, infatuation tricks, obsessive thinking can be dangerous and can be a sign of narcissism and control

    • @sgracem2863
      @sgracem2863 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you

    • @gracianatata8144
      @gracianatata8144 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      limerance

    • @angel-mq2mo
      @angel-mq2mo หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Right! It's limerence he's describing. He really didn't even address the actual question that Louis asked him😂

  • @user-tr7yg7zo3j
    @user-tr7yg7zo3j หลายเดือนก่อน +121

    Love at first sight. I have an ace s-t detector. Saw my husband the minute I walked into a party. Said to my HP “I’ll take him if You give him to me.” He showed up at my door the next morning, with flowers. I got him. Twenty-five blissful years together. I know who’s for me. That includes my best friends. They seem to have a halo around them -a golden glow. And they seem to love me back the same way. Stay open to receive the miracle of love. Be willing to wait for it. It helps to like and love yourself. And it must be unconditional all around. ❤️👊

    • @user-qu1jh8xj3o
      @user-qu1jh8xj3o หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Just wonderful! I am so touched!
      I met a man when i passed by a restaurant, WE shared a moment of pure delight, our êtes climbsed one in another like suns! Saw him again and it was the same attraction.
      After 6 months heartbreak because of an 3 months fling with an emotionally non available player it was so soothing, comforting.
      I dont know what to do. This sunshinenis again younger than me... I am 73... Lived 12 years alone.
      I wish Love and sensualité in my life... time passes by...?
      Much❤ from South of France

    • @ceecee8757
      @ceecee8757 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Never pursue a man.

    • @christianramirez6718
      @christianramirez6718 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Amen🙏
      Hope it occurs to me.

  • @cirella1064
    @cirella1064 หลายเดือนก่อน +209

    I love how science is going to tell people what love is. XD *dramatically takes off his glasses and puts them back on* So if you are obsessed with someone you are in love.

    • @AmongtheCosmos
      @AmongtheCosmos หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      Seriously 🙄😆

    • @linstelleb3629
      @linstelleb3629 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Furthermore, the question was how to know that the other person is truly in love, not how to know if you yourself are in love 🙄

    • @cherylh4688
      @cherylh4688 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      I always thought obsession was the sign of infatuation, not Love!

    • @megancrager4397
      @megancrager4397 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I'm glad you see right through it

    • @mycupoverflows7811
      @mycupoverflows7811 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I know the glasses thing😂🙄

  • @positivevibe7684
    @positivevibe7684 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    They both have that high vibrational love energy. If you have it within, you will be able to connect with them. You both will feel it. It's not feeling butterflies, lust, etc.. nothing of the sort. It's on a higher level. Which is very rare. It takes bringing your whole selves into the relationship; mental, physical, and spiritual. ❤❤

  • @cremebrulee4759
    @cremebrulee4759 หลายเดือนก่อน +132

    I'm not so sure about this. I have felt that way about a man I never really knew well at all. There is no way that I was legitimately in love with him. You have to spend time with someone in order to love them.

    • @shaimorris
      @shaimorris หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      same

    • @oliviabanda3914
      @oliviabanda3914 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      What you experienced must’ve been Limerance.

    • @armbsecure
      @armbsecure หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Never heard about "love at first sight" ???

    • @angelim9599
      @angelim9599 หลายเดือนก่อน

      💯💯💯💯

  • @chrisjenkins4035
    @chrisjenkins4035 หลายเดือนก่อน +183

    That is the worst description and sign of someone who truly loves you. Obsessive thinking?? What?? Out of all the things that could mean someone authentically loves you, I would never think that would be the clearest sign..Yes, we can have "obsessive" or over inflated thoughts about someone we love, but so can someone who is unhealthily infatuated or in lust or limerance.

    • @danmur2797
      @danmur2797 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Well, its reported that the reason successful marriages last so long is because they constantly do nice things for each other day in, day out. In a way that's a form of obsession.
      What some call love for such long marriages.
      Its a mutual interest in the well being of the other person because their well being and presence brings you well being.

    • @sinking1902
      @sinking1902 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Yeah it sounds like limerence or “pedestalisation”….Love is an abstract concept perhaps but I think it is built through unwavering trust, honesty and respect over time.

    • @MatrixxPhoenixx
      @MatrixxPhoenixx 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      He just described every teens first date 😂

    • @Theworldofef
      @Theworldofef 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Correct! You shouldn't think about the person you love at all!!

    • @MatrixxPhoenixx
      @MatrixxPhoenixx 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@Theworldofef at all 😳😶‍🌫️

  • @isagrace4260
    @isagrace4260 หลายเดือนก่อน +213

    Interesting. Limerence has very similar traits fwiw

    • @jjs77777
      @jjs77777 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      My thoughts exactly

    • @jadegreen1554
      @jadegreen1554 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

      This is totally limerence.

    • @nikitsir11
      @nikitsir11 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      Yes but limerence has little to no (loving) interaction withthe object of the obsession.

    • @user-qu1jh8xj3o
      @user-qu1jh8xj3o หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Agréé with you! This happened to me last Year with a womanizer. Knew him only 3 months, seen 5 Times. 6 months heartbreak!!!!!! Emotonal dependency!
      Much Love from South of France

    • @tamiresv.b4511
      @tamiresv.b4511 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What is this?

  • @blhlow4904
    @blhlow4904 หลายเดือนก่อน +62

    His answer is how i know if I'm in love with someone. I thought the question is how do I know if someone is in love with me.

    • @lisaraper8053
      @lisaraper8053 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      I said almost the same thing.

    • @sunnyheaven369
      @sunnyheaven369 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Good observation!

    • @amiratarik-un7dq
      @amiratarik-un7dq หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂

    • @angel-mq2mo
      @angel-mq2mo หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Right!! He didn't even answer the question Louis asked him😂😂

    • @SandyCheeks63564
      @SandyCheeks63564 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm so used to these TH-cam videos being mislabeled I didn't even notice this time

  • @saltandsriracha
    @saltandsriracha หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    He described feelings. Love is a choice. It's faith. I have faith that my spouse will love me through good and bad. I have faith that we will make it through our next fight. I have faith that even if I wake up one day and I feel "bored" with my spouse I will still choose him. I have faith that if my hormones are crazy after giving birth and I don't find myself attracted to him, it'll be temporary and I will choose to find a way to get that spark back. I have faith that our marriage will last. ❤

  • @vinky5344
    @vinky5344 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    When you are truely in love
    You become a better person 😊✨

  • @MahasSaham79
    @MahasSaham79 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    Its pretty sad when you realize that the person your dating, isn't, in love with you...but you realize, you are in love with them. These symptoms should be in both partners, because just 1 sided, is a sign to end the relationship 💯💫

    • @The_Real_Casey_Timmins
      @The_Real_Casey_Timmins หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      The best thing to do is not wonder why that is. It could be their capacity to love, it could be your lifestyle.
      Either way all that matters is you deserve the person who will be in love with you. That persons feelings about you do not.

    • @linditad.selimi3028
      @linditad.selimi3028 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I know what it means. When you are in love like that and everything about them seems special except the fact that many things about you irritate them and no way you are special to them as they are to you. I call it torture.. it really hurts so bad! Plus add the fact that none can leave the other brcause of so many reasons.. double torture..

    • @MahasSaham79
      @MahasSaham79 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@The_Real_Casey_Timmins this is spot on. It really is a reflection of their inability to Love...they don't love themselves, so they aren't able to Love anyone else either💝

    • @The_Real_Casey_Timmins
      @The_Real_Casey_Timmins หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@MahasSaham79 experience taught me this. It’s hard to accept. It’s hard to not want them to over come their inability for you. It’s a selfish thing that will cause you more harm than good.

    • @heidiashlock9063
      @heidiashlock9063 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m out

  • @linamarie84
    @linamarie84 หลายเดือนก่อน +65

    It's something that cannot be described. It just IS. An embodiment of peace, security, endearment, and love in such a form that it cannot be replicated. You just fit. You provide one another a happiness in a way no one else ever has...Its not something you think of all of the time..Its..It is just being blessed..it is innately being appreciative of the the enrichment of love between two.

  • @vibrantvessel
    @vibrantvessel หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Obsessive thinking doesn't sound like love..... maybe lust or possession

  • @MichelleRodriguez-os3dp
    @MichelleRodriguez-os3dp หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Love is, the ability to forgive and see that person as more than their flaws. Love is everlasting and compatible, love finds it way back over and over again. Love is, through sickness and health, ups and downs. Love is unbreakable. Love is knowing we’ll grow old together. 18 years in a loving relationship.

  • @FriskyTendervittles
    @FriskyTendervittles หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    When you are in love with someone wild horses couldn’t keep you from them in their time of need. Thats it.

  • @Reidamnpage_
    @Reidamnpage_ หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Love is when someone hurt you, you still try to understand them

  • @justwilliam44
    @justwilliam44 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    You decide. Everyone is reflecting you.

  • @patriciascottteacher2723
    @patriciascottteacher2723 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    The way you look at them is never the same (even in a extremely crowded room). You can look at that person forever and enjoy ever second. The way they talk, smile, hold you, the way they smell ( hope they had a shower lol), the way they kiss you, they way they hold your hand whenever you walk with them etc.

  • @vanessapetite3861
    @vanessapetite3861 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This is how I feel at the beginning of every relationship - not a developed love.

  • @star3006
    @star3006 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Love is when you want the very Best for your partner

  • @johntraverssali3848
    @johntraverssali3848 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    What he just described is true for someone who is 'in love' because that is just a thrill, the real thing is when you can truly say that 'you love' an individual and not just 'in love' with them; loving someone is much deeper than the thrill of just being in love with them..

  • @johnjohnny6350
    @johnjohnny6350 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Love means unconditional. People change circumstances change. It's when you still get through together fighting the storm.and at the end still feel love.

  • @BamdadSky
    @BamdadSky หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    What he’s explaining is just the dopamine love that many experience in their lifetimes. However, you won’t truly fall in love if you don’t heal your wounds first. Of course, you will get hurt times & times until you realize you need to do the inner work first!

    • @clariesage7236
      @clariesage7236 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      What type inner work you recommend?

    • @samex8275
      @samex8275 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@clariesage7236You need to heal all your past traumas and whatever is making you unhappy now. You have to become self-aware by sitting with yourself without any distractions, meditating, writing down your thoughts and emotions, and doing the things that are healthy for your mind, consciousness, body, and spirit. Forgive the people in your life that have done you wrong and forgive yourself for not knowing any better the times you were hurt by someone. Put yourself on a high pedestal (without becoming egotistical).

  • @yummygummy2133
    @yummygummy2133 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Obsessive thinking is not the same as attentive thinking, thinking of someone attentively is what marks love in my opinion

  • @katrinat.3032
    @katrinat.3032 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Absolutely. You can’t stop thinking about them. Also you feel lighter inside. Like the way felt as a kid when you had a snow day. Just happy

  • @user-or6qd8dp7n
    @user-or6qd8dp7n หลายเดือนก่อน +49

    Got it, me and my dogs are in love❤

  • @user-bp3wd2fw4e
    @user-bp3wd2fw4e หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Love is when it feels great and there is an equal exchange of effort. You can't (or shouldn't) be in love by yourself, this is not love but obsession. Obsessive thinking is actually quite unhealthy if it's only one person doing it.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts!! 🧡

  • @clairetse2751
    @clairetse2751 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    When the best for our introvert & extrovert couple works when we have time for me time and we time 💞

    • @PetitHibou72
      @PetitHibou72 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I love that. Such an important balance for that mix of temperaments.

  • @elenashteiwi4739
    @elenashteiwi4739 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    He didn’t understand the question, he is describing how you know you’re in love with someone; not how you know someone is in love with you.

    • @zoeystone8780
      @zoeystone8780 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      The question contains an error because it is actually self-contradictory. It asks both "in-love" and "really loves you". Those are two different stages. The former stage most often doesn't always transform into the second stage.

    • @1rtr1
      @1rtr1 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Exactly!!!!!

  • @Cultivatingjoy07
    @Cultivatingjoy07 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Obsessive thoughts don’t always equal love, it could just be something else called limerence. Personally I believe the best tell for love is when you or someone else genuinely wants only the best for the other person. It is putting the best interests of another up there in equality or even above your own.

  • @Venus-gn5oi
    @Venus-gn5oi หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    Love can't be studied. The ones who experienced true love know that it happens naturally. It's the most simple thing in the world when you find it. Till then we can try to do what ever we want, it's not love.

    • @jeanannedupratt7075
      @jeanannedupratt7075 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      100% right.

    • @LSSYLondon
      @LSSYLondon หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Agree. For years I thought I love my husband. Then one day after 16 years married I FELL MADLY IN LOVE with him. Totally different feeling. Before I loved him as a companion, a friend, a lover, but now I'm IN LOVE it's obsessive and magnetic and desperate and overwhelming. It's a need not a choice. He is the love of my life and that is not the same thing as just loving someone. At all.

    • @AkireMaru
      @AkireMaru 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Can’t study love? And why on Earth couldn’t you? Is it impossible to find more than 2 people in love on this planet and compare their action and brain to people who are not in love?

  • @TomRipley7350
    @TomRipley7350 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    I can’t tell if someone is in love with me, but I can tell when someone fancies me. They go all silly and laugh when I haven’t said anything funny.

    • @withlove6435
      @withlove6435 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes !this is true😂

    • @barbyyakubu6718
      @barbyyakubu6718 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That's a good one😃😃

    • @saltandsriracha
      @saltandsriracha หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I do this with everyone 🤦‍♀️ I'm a happy goofy person.

    • @clariesage7236
      @clariesage7236 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      😂😂😂 jk ❤

    • @chinoj5066
      @chinoj5066 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      ​@saltandsrirach❤😂😂😂a

  • @klickingkayasmr7585
    @klickingkayasmr7585 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    He looks like he’s “never gonna give me up, never gonna let me down…” LMAOOO 😂🎵

  • @victoriatamblyn3692
    @victoriatamblyn3692 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Being in love is a fantasy, true love is reality. 🐺

  • @jessiejohnson1208
    @jessiejohnson1208 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    True, and feeling happy just being with him

  • @Dragonfly5_
    @Dragonfly5_ 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    The question was how can you tell if someone is in love with you but what he explained was how you can tell if You are in love with someone. Different things
    I think the biggest sign is if they make you feel safe with them in all regards. You can talk to them about anything, share anything without being judged, be understood, you can just be yourself around them. When you don't have ambiguity in your mind about them and you can see a future with them and can't imagine your life without them in it.

  • @lettylovejoy
    @lettylovejoy 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    "Cause I came to this world as a child of a dream giver"...those words just brought tears to my eyes they're so beautiful, made me think of so much at once it overwhelmed me...Thank you❤

  • @jentrejo7008
    @jentrejo7008 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    I’m in a LD relationship. My fiancé has a particular way of cutting his meals. I always joke about it because it looks so childlike. One day i found myself at a restaurant alone just thinking about him and how much i miss him that i started cutting the sausage on top of my bed of pasta the way he does and i started to giggle. Theres so many definitions of love what is real what isn’t and i often question if my relationship doesn’t have this or that is it really love?….. anyways, maybe this isn’t considered love to some or all but it felt good to me and it made me appreciate my partners silly form of cutting that much more. ❤

    • @saltandsriracha
      @saltandsriracha หลายเดือนก่อน

      What is an LD relationship

    • @jentrejo7008
      @jentrejo7008 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@saltandsriracha “Long Distance”

  • @Soviedo312
    @Soviedo312 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Always go for the initial sense of security with a person; you can have those butterflies in your tummy later in life if you decide to be with that person. But always good this way than going from- butterfly in tummy excitement state to not comfortable to be even seated together. If you know what i mean.

  • @jazzbehappymaine5161
    @jazzbehappymaine5161 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    When someone is in love with you, first he /she makes you feel special & he/she do special things just for you!!!💘💘💘

  • @miacrawford4662
    @miacrawford4662 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I’ve been with my husband 16 years and still think this way of him ❤ I think about him all the time.. love the adorable things he does

  • @alwaysevolve4923
    @alwaysevolve4923 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    He described the early stages of love

    • @yuppers1
      @yuppers1 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Yes this sounds like attraction, not love

    • @chinoj5066
      @chinoj5066 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@yuppers1True❤

    • @thorr18BEM
      @thorr18BEM 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      That's why he prefaced it with the word acutely.

  • @ivy_1990
    @ivy_1990 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Actions speak louder than words

  • @cjd5255
    @cjd5255 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    In DV counseling on healthy relationships an analogy used is a flower. The flower needs specific sunlight, nurtured soil, watered amd cared for everyday and in an environment that promotes it's growth. Living it's cycle to seed which is replanted in the same nurtured soil 💖🙏 Hence the term.. the grass is never greener on the other side. It's usually burnt to a crisp.

  • @winkA1
    @winkA1 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    My boyfriend will always prioritise me, even when he is overwhelmed at work (he’s a surgeon) so has a very stressful job. He will still call me in between cases to chat and see how I’m doing, will cook for me when he gets home and will take his small amount of free time to hang out with me as he loves my company. He has consistently done this for years and still gives me a big hug each night. That speaks so much love to me.

  • @BellaVita118
    @BellaVita118 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    mmmm nope pretty sure that’s called anxious attachment boys 😂

    • @yaya4768
      @yaya4768 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Seriously. The biggest pile of rubbish I’ve heard all month!

    • @LoveandMisses
      @LoveandMisses หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Exactly..stalkers can think obsessively..

    • @melodyworld706
      @melodyworld706 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you 😂

  • @scarletwilson2562
    @scarletwilson2562 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    How do you tell the dofference between that and limerence?

    • @mann8098
      @mann8098 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      No. Difference. It's the same phenomenon. Love would have to have manifested in a happy life together and progressed to real love. You know, with commitment, loyalty and sacrifice. Without that it's just an obsession bordering on the unhealthy.

  • @biancachristine2187
    @biancachristine2187 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    When youre in love with someone great you get peace. You will enjoy being free but with your person, Elevating an evolving. Encouraging each other an connecting on a whole other level. You laugh more & sleep better. Communicate. you can be yourself around them. Willing to do everything an also nothing with this person. You find that the boring parts of life arent boring at all with them.

  • @sylviazeh4659
    @sylviazeh4659 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    TRUTH BE TOLD...❤😂
    WHEN THESE SYMPTOMS ARE WITH YOU...CONSTANTLY...YOU KNOW.
    TRUE LOVE IS AT HAND.....EMBRACE IT...WITH BOTH ARMS...AND NEVER LET GO! ❤😊

  • @tanishamcdonala3181
    @tanishamcdonala3181 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    good morning. correct. true love is all so rare something that’s hard to find. so if you got someone special take my advice and hold on tight. don’t let them go if they mean something to you. you might find yourself searching. bless all us here amen.🎉

  • @lovetolaugh5287
    @lovetolaugh5287 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    WHAT?!?! Ever heard of nutty stalkers who clearly dont love you but STILL angry that you dumped them??? They weren't "in love".

    • @Serenity-iv2qh
      @Serenity-iv2qh หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I'm glad you have put the word "stalker" to the conversation. These days you need to pray before you leave home that you don't cross paths with certain people. As such an encounter may turn out to be very dramatic, to say the least!!!

    • @dd-em7hh
      @dd-em7hh หลายเดือนก่อน

      yes exactly and I guess I shouldn't date or hangout with guys I've called stalkers, yea just went on a date with one , and he's wanting me to spend the weekend and saying we need to make it official and oh talking about buying land oh damn no joke happening now In Dallas Tx

    • @Herexcelensee
      @Herexcelensee หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😂😂😂

    • @TheColtonStreeter
      @TheColtonStreeter หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      How do you know they weren't in love? Because they were angry? You can be angry with someone you used to be in love with.

  • @TheHummingbird876
    @TheHummingbird876 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Love is consistency, effort, faithfulness to home. Love is not uttering to a person that you love them and then stepping outside to get close to someone else when things are bad between the two of you.

  • @lizamysiri4109
    @lizamysiri4109 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    "Makes you feel at peace". This was so such an important point, thank you. I would add also safety. ❤

  • @angelim9599
    @angelim9599 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    That's also how someone feels if they have a crush and it's obsessed too?!!

  • @buddhaneosiddhananda8499
    @buddhaneosiddhananda8499 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    "Being the One is like being in love... you just know it... balls to bones..." The Matrix (movie)

  • @malinjohansen3935
    @malinjohansen3935 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    When you are both in the same small apartment everyday, but still looking forward to sit together on the sofa in the evening, I think that is love. Being through ups and downs, but getting past it and getting stronger together. Knowing you are the only one for him. Knowing you gave him the choice with a «summerbreak», but he still waited meeting anyone inntil he came home to you. I think that is pretty strong.

  • @joannsantos9972
    @joannsantos9972 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    When someone truly loves u they respect you enough to care about your happiness and well being and how their actions affect you. They care enough to try to understand you. Romance is not love but a way to try to demonstrate said feelings of love.

  • @Serenity-iv2qh
    @Serenity-iv2qh หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Crush, infatuation, and love show the same symptom; obsessive thinking at the beginning. How do you know that is love??? Also that; "I can't wait to have sex with you", could be a symptom of what??? Please share

    • @user-qu1jh8xj3o
      @user-qu1jh8xj3o หลายเดือนก่อน

      So right.....are the hormones....

  • @crystalgreco5699
    @crystalgreco5699 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    My grandmother said the same thing

  • @mayaportland8805
    @mayaportland8805 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    True. Also, remembering easily without effort, details about them like their birthday or anything they tell you 😊.

  • @carlineparis9467
    @carlineparis9467 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Someone in love you are not afraid to be vulnerable and they take care about you. They want to know are you doing If you are, if you sleep well , what makes you happy, they check up on you. They try to make your life better.

  • @melissadiegan5442
    @melissadiegan5442 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Limerance also makes people obsess over someone. This is not an accurate marker for love.

  • @yannascotto8597
    @yannascotto8597 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I will have to wake up my husband from his deep sleep and ask him if he’s thinking about me or dreaming about me. 😊 Great clip!

  • @ZephyrXO
    @ZephyrXO 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wow. Just wow. The algorithm recommended this at the perfect time.
    It's been 4 months and 25 days since my breakup. It's been the hardest breakup of them all. The process hasn't been linear, but it's there. Some days I don't even remember his name, others the nostalgia hits me hard and some days i just rot in bed bawling my eyes out.
    It's comforting watching someone (and reading other people's experiences) experience something similar to me; knowing, even if it feels like it, I'm not the only person going thru this.
    In other note, loved the music and the editing

  • @patriciascottteacher2723
    @patriciascottteacher2723 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Love is love when you first meet and celebrating every anniversary after that and the love gets deeper and deeper as you two get older

  • @yvettemarshallTWN
    @yvettemarshallTWN หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Sounds acutely fixated to me. Wouldn’t be “thinking “ so much if they were “doing”.

  • @authenticvoice2767
    @authenticvoice2767 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Sounds like infatuation what’s the difference?

  • @userismad001
    @userismad001 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    When you're in love ,you care about that person's feelings,respect them and if needed ,let them go if that guarantees their welbeing.

  • @josephmorrison2055
    @josephmorrison2055 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Stephen Covey says love isn't just a feeling. It's a verb. If someone is really in love with someone, they are willing to do hard things for them--walk through the fire if you will.
    I think what the guy in the video described is an aspect of love. But I think for many people, the exact same feelings are no more than infatuation. I've been infatuated before and that's a very particular feeling. Real love fills you up. Infatuation only leaves you wanting.

  • @emke9326
    @emke9326 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Can a stalker be considered in love?

    • @Polipocket17
      @Polipocket17 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Good question😂

    • @tezetaaschalew6468
      @tezetaaschalew6468 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Oh no I don't think 😕 so

    • @barbyyakubu6718
      @barbyyakubu6718 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Stalker is more of unhealthily obsession, chasing you aggressively, exuding unwanted attention that could lead to harrasement and fear threats but true love is meant to be harmless, healthy and looking out for person's wellbeing .

    • @user-oi9yh8vq4b
      @user-oi9yh8vq4b หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Love is not hurtful and disrespectful.

    • @Verase787
      @Verase787 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Stalking is sign of mental disorder.

  • @Katie-vy5rd
    @Katie-vy5rd หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I knew i loved my dog so much when I thought his scratches on my new boots were so cute!

    • @reneesmith5403
      @reneesmith5403 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I heard that! ❤🎉🐶🐕

  • @jirehlozano6257
    @jirehlozano6257 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Love is a Sacrificial thing that comes from BOTH parties. You want to lighten EACH-OTHERS burdens. Not to mention you laugh together and are attracted to EACH-OTHER Physically, Mentally, and Emotionally. The thought of being with someone else sickens you BOTH. That’s how you Know you’re in Love and it’s mutual. 😊

  • @Peaceful_soul-110
    @Peaceful_soul-110 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Seen all these points in parents for their children...so the love❤

  • @emianaemiana
    @emianaemiana หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    obsessive thinking sounds like… obsession

    • @danmur2797
      @danmur2797 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I mean it kind of is, but in my experience the times I've ever felt like this this strongly, the other person did as well, and there wasn't an issue. This person would text me constantly and plan things, and I couldn't stop thinking about this person and respond in kind, give this person gifts, etc. There were times the texting was out of hand from this person, but I didn't care.
      We thoroughly enjoyed each other's company while the rest of the world sort of was in the background. And we were always happy to see each other after we'd been apart for a few days, or even a day. Especially midweek, after getting off work, etc. I would visit this person, and sort of cocoon inside, away from the world, just enjoying each other in every possible way.
      I felt comfortable and at ease when we were together.
      Truly I much prefer that than being alone going through the banal average motions of life.

  • @VTUL92
    @VTUL92 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    His body postures make him seem like an insecure person trying to act like a very secure person

  • @rizzamaeong
    @rizzamaeong 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    He did say "acutely" and "in love"
    This guy knows his stuff.
    And even humble enough to credit Dr. Helen Fischer

  • @steph7397
    @steph7397 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    True Love, is an ACTION WORD. It’s when all your decisions you make in regards to how you treat the other person, are aligned & made WITH love. Thinking in a way where you put the other persons best interest first. This however does not mean neglecting yourself. But you can CHOOSE which person you want to do this to(in regards to a romantic relationship), & this has to be an agreement between the two people.

  • @waynebaker5720
    @waynebaker5720 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I'll take adoration over love

  • @misunderstoodsquirrel6388
    @misunderstoodsquirrel6388 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Sounds like infatuation 🤔

  • @pinkdiamonds9137
    @pinkdiamonds9137 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    True love is not thinking they are superior to everyone, it is not them being the only thing you can think about; this is infatuation that happens in the beginning; true love is seeing all those illusions shattered in front of you, seeing the worst parts of them and still choosing to be there the next day. True love is joy, sadness, pain, pleasure, compassion, anger, excitement, exhaustion, dedication and compromise.

  • @AnanyaBiswas2005
    @AnanyaBiswas2005 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Omg that "Who's in there" with eye rolling 😂❤

  • @tezetaaschalew6468
    @tezetaaschalew6468 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I give up in love.Its like a car with out petrol ⛽ 🤧 😪 😕

    • @beachy9920
      @beachy9920 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      ❤. You’ve been test driving the wrong cars honey ….

  • @damianlopez7630
    @damianlopez7630 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    All these streets are from obsessive-compulsive disorder not necessarily love love is extremely pragmatic and logical in many cents is not as a logical as you might think especially by grown-ups now you must understand that narcissists display all these traits when they are targeting a person I believe the short here is inaccurate

  • @donnabushka5520
    @donnabushka5520 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    #truth. It’s a special love, unbreakable bond you both have towards each other.

  • @Aamina-fb3mn
    @Aamina-fb3mn 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thats not love thats obsession 😊love when they give u peace and relax and to feel being important ❤