Worth remembering: He's an ad man, so he's never just listening. There's always intention. Which means there's always some lack of genuine regard. Anything and everything becomes the means of manipulation.
I think in every habit "compound pounding" effect is the best solution... People probably know this effect but forgot about it because of being too distracted by media or thoughts etc. in sport, in business, in relationships. 1. If you use compound pounding in sport, (exercissing for an hour) you will see no results in 5 days,but you will see big results in 100 days. 2. If you will say a good morning to people, you will see no effect in 5 days, but you will see a great difference in 100 days. 3. If you will practice the compassion for your partner and make some good deed, you will see no or small difference in 5 days, but you will see a great difference in 50 or 100 days, you will see how much you mean to them. People see this compound pounding effect in the nature, the garden looks the same after few days, but after a 100 days it looks different. Therefore you can not tell if your values are working after one week, because you see the effect after 100 or 140 days. Maybe each couple should practice this technique, If I will make something small to make my partner happy, for a little moment, they will remember these little moments, and good calm or happy mood increases the immunity of the body by 50 percent in 4 days. So their kids will learn the same technique. They will learn that if they will read a book 10 minutes a day, it has a great impact on brain. Next time it may be 20 minutes a day. But if you stop doing the healthy habit now... after a week it makes no difference after 140 days the results change for worse, you loose muscles or you lose some skill or motivation etc. Good deed may be also making a pizza or small things. People actually enjoy small things much more than big gestures, because it´s about living in the moment...... Big gestures (expensive car) mean that you actually burned out too much energy to make a small effect, rather than small gestures that after time create a great effect of connection, and people like you for your authentic personality.
As a Documentary & Street Photographer for over 35 years, I had hit a point where I was completely lost and disillusioned since the pandemic in 2020. Listening to this process brought tears to this 61yo's eyes as I thought back to the moment I felt happiest. I had lost that as I got older and felt dead inside more or less walking aimlessly in a creative desert for a long time. Thank you for posting this as it has helped give me a map and compass to restart my creative journey that I thought I had lost my way and would never find again.
Thanks for posting this. I'm right there with you. I haven't had the fire or ambition since the lockdown, and since it's become my new norm, I'm disillusioned that I will ever find it again.
I think in every habit "compound pounding" effect is the best solution... People probably know this effect but forgot about it because of being too distracted by media or thoughts etc. in sport, in business, in relationships. 1. If you use compound pounding in sport, (exercissing for an hour) you will see no results in 5 days,but you will see big results in 100 days. 2. If you will say a good morning to people, you will see no effect in 5 days, but you will see a great difference in 100 days. 3. If you will practice the compassion for your partner and make some good deed, you will see no or small difference in 5 days, but you will see a great difference in 50 or 100 days, you will see how much you mean to them. People see this compound pounding effect in the nature, the garden looks the same after few days, but after a 100 days it looks different. Therefore you can not tell if your values are working after one week, because you see the effect after 100 or 140 days. Maybe each couple should practice this technique, If I will make something small to make my partner happy, for a little moment, they will remember these little moments, and good calm or happy mood increases the immunity of the body by 50 percent in 4 days. So their kids will learn the same technique. They will learn that if they will read a book 10 minutes a day, it has a great impact on brain. Next time it may be 20 minutes a day. But if you stop doing the healthy habit now... after a week it makes no difference after 140 days the results change for worse, you loose muscles or you lose some skill or motivation etc. Good deed may be also making a pizza or small things. People actually enjoy small things much more than big gestures, because it´s about living in the moment...... Big gestures (expensive car) mean that you actually burned out too much energy to make a small effect, rather than small gestures that after time create a great effect of connection, and people like you for your authentic personality.
Jake is extremely generous in sharing this personal information. Simon was generously giving a demonstration of knowledge he uses to help people to know themselves and their drivers. It resonated with Jake. You are getting this for free. Why would people here be so ungrateful and unkind?
The follow up question at the end from Jake's co-host was essential, because it gives you a framework as to how to analyze,break down the relationship between yourself and the experiences you go through.
That was great to watch. He instantly picked up on the similarity and converted it into a why on the fly. Shows a ton of practice and mastery of his craft.
this was one of the best clips I have ever seen. I sat and thought to myself what is my "why", and I am now between jobs, so it is a very challenging times and I realized the best moment of my childhood and how it connects to my adult life and my job and what I love to do. So thank you guys. I hope this will change my Hero's Journey and will get me to where I want.
Really appreciate Jake's willingness to be vulnerable. Must admit when i saw Jake on tv he wasn't someone i felt i could relate to. But i 💯 respect his willingness to be vulnerable, thats an admirable quality
Wow! The way Simon teased that out, listening and exploring Jake's responses to get teh answer & Jakes smile at the end, when he knows 'yeah! That's it!'
I’d really like to know more about Simon’s very first question, “Did you have a childhood?” “Then you have a why.” Maybe this is why I’m still trying to figure mine out.
Childhood trauma affects the development of a sense of self. Knowing who you are. what you want. and why you want it is difficult in those circumstances.
Children inherently gravitate towards their natural purpose (their why) As it is just part of who they are. These are the natural talents or the activities that children can just lose themselves in time and time again for hours and never get bored of. It’s only through growing up that these inherent natural fires get slowly smothered, put out, and the ashes cast away - so that we end up in a position where we don’t know our why
Brilliant example of why belonging is so important. We don’t always need to be part of something bigger than ourselves, but it can make a huge difference to our why / ikigai.
why in 15 -tell me a specific story you’ve done in your career that you absolutely loved and if every day was like this day or every project was like this project you could do this everyday you would be the happiest person alive. -tell me an early specific happy childhood memory that I can relive with you like its a film. Pattern recognition. Is there any patterns? Have a friend or someone who doesn’t know you well ask the questions and report what they notice.
What a brilliant session...It is not about the ending, it is about the journey. Simon helped Jake articulate his 'Why' versus what Jakes does. Simon has an innate way of drawing someone's Why. Great watch. Cheers
That comment at the end - where Simon's observing the reaction as he's mirroring back the story, "I don't actually care what you think... I want to know how you FEEL." That was powerful - when we laser focus on supplying what helps people feel special, we create true connections.
Loved watching the face of the person listening to Simon and Jake. It is clear that if schools were to "listen to their individual students" at an early age and ask the same type of emotional question it would define the key interest and potential talents of that child and their educational planning would be set to teach them the skills needed for that person to progress successfully from then. We would have success for all students and an appreciation of who we are so that finding one's way in the world is not daunting or based on a linear idea of success. I enjoyed listening to Simon listening to Jake and the other person listening so intently too in order to have his good question answered. SO good!
Imagine the kind of productive, well adjusted, motivated individuals we would become as a society, if this was done regularly in schools. Of course there are SOO many other factors that shape the students into future members of society -- but this one crucial element is missing and I agree that it is significant.
It's all about the journey, the team, and that magical feeling of being part of something greater than yourself. Just like when I was a kid, traveling in the car with my family, I find my why in those moments of togetherness and shared goals. I'm at my best when I'm with a group of people that understands me, all heading in the same direction, striving to achieve something together. My life coach Lisa Haisha also taught me that understanding your "why" is about recognizing these patterns in your life, and now, I'm thrilled to continue watch more with the incredible team on this podcast.
Thank you for your honesty. I love the focus, that you speak until you’re done, that the other will listen until you’re done. I love the calm pacing. I love that you skip all the fancy soundtracks and B-roll. This is quality, and one can tell. ❤
Wow!! Came here because I was looking for my "why" and I think it's the same as Jake's. I felt completely energized when I was working on a team, with great and talented human beings, and I felt myself a talented human being too. We were building something incredible that many of our teachers thought it's gonna be impossible. And WE made it possible, and I was part of that. One of my happiest childhood memories was decorating the Christmas tree with my granny, I handmade the decorations with paper like an adult will do. My grandma raised me my first 5 years and she acted like my mother at that time, she educated me as a fully capable person, and years later I feel I lost that confidence she helped me built. Thanks abu! Thanks Simon and thanks High Performance team!. Loved this interview!
This is literally my second video watching Simon speak. Listening to this video, I feel like Simon can hypothesize me just listening to him speak so calmly lol
Creating a storyline for his life story that is fragmented was perfectly done, and will become the norm for others to try to make sense of their past, and connect to their present and future outlook and perspective, for their life to experience.
This flow literally helped me re-ground myself again - Simon Sinek is incredible. One of the most helpful videos and resources I've watched to help me. Try it for yourself, and write it down as he goes through it.
Simon, I am not sure if You will ever see this, however what you are discovering in this case is: it’s not all about me and not all about you it is actually about what we can be together❣️
I am an empathetic person, who really enjoys helping others. I feel I've always approached that using humility and my own experiences (probably why I resonate with Simon's perspective). I mention all that because when I asked myself those questions, I came up with answers where I was alone. Glad he mentioned that you can't do it for yourself, and look forward to having this discussion with some friends. I guess I make this comment cause I am stunted, as I thought I knew my why. 🤔
This video really got me thinking! I loved how it pointed out that our biggest "whys" often come from simple but meaningful moments in life, like family adventures. It’s wild to realize that the connections we make are what truly feed our passions. Not just solo achievements but those times when we feel part of a team or family, like standing in the pit lane or camping with loved ones. Plus, it’s cool to see how looking back can help us spot patterns in our lives we might’ve missed. It reminds us that it’s okay to take risks and chase what makes us feel alive!
I am so grateful for this video. I love how you guys interacted and eventually found his purpose. I believe a lot of people would benefit from this video just like I did since I actually found my purpose while answering the same question Simon asked! Thank you and much love!!!
Brilliant and powerful. Yes, amazing listening skills and identifying the pattern between the two stories. This has been very enlightening and meaningful for me, thank you you three 😄
"WHY????" is there always THAT GUY in the room who can't sit quietly long enough to allow his fellow human the courtesy of speaking/answering a question? Thank you Simon for saying "let's talk about it at the end."
Felt a little bad for him. I think he was trying to be a ‘journalist/interviewer’ and ask the good questions. Or he might be adhd. Interrupting doesn’t always come from discourtesy.
I've always loved SS's wisdom. Getting a chance to see how his brain works when he helps people is a game-changer. I've read info and listened to hours of podcasts about storytelling. In 15 minutes he just opened up a new world for me. I also see why, when I explain what i'm doing since I've left corporate, people's eyes glazed over. I am telling the boring "I host a podcast" explanation SS starts with to contrast the two approaches he defines. I am NOT telling my story. Everything just clicked. Thank you Simon Sinek.
Understanding how recognizing the patterns and connections throughout our lives can help us identify what truly drives us and gives our lives a sense of purpose is mind blowing, It's important to take time to reflect on our experiences and identify the common threads that tie them together. We gain such a deeper understanding of ourselves and what motivates us. This understanding can then guide us as we make choices and help us make decisions that align with our values and goals. Ultimately, finding our "why" can lead to a greater sense of satisfaction and happiness in all aspects of our lives.
I feel there’s a ton of focus on doing one’s ‘passion’ but as someone who does do my passion I’ve learnt there’s a whole lot more. Do your passion on social media for example and see what happens. External conditions, current demand, obligations….. there’s just so much more. You could follow your passion and it can be disastrous.
I like this, I would add to his "why"... or see if Jake agree's, that the element of expectation, anticipation... even urgency is part of his why. That he gets to, on the spot, advocate, represent the experts in the racing car family, yes, as a respected part of the family because he's knowledgeble, observant and has his finger on what the juju is that is the source of his passion about that family and his role in it. His pattern has always accompanied risk, adventure, showing the family he can add to the fun and excitement. The love rings true...that is what makes it work. Love makes it work for all of us...we just have to not be afraid of what shape or form of expression that takes... dare to go for it!
beautiful video... i remember watching Jake during his F1 years and so this was really heartfelt to listen to how someone who looked like he had it all still doesn't know his why... this really helped me find mine too, thank you x
*My WHY* 7:05 The JOY of going on adventures with the family ❤ Being a part of a TEAM 8:10 a FAMILY 🎉 8:20 At my happiest collaborating with a team for a common cause ❤ 8:26 Where I struggle is doing things alone 💯🙌💫 ACCURATE! 9:09 It's not about the destination, it's about the journey: being somewhere WITH people who love me and I love them and we're doing this together ❤ 10:00 How to share this as an interesting STORY OF LOVE ❤
Can anyone explain to me where all the admiration is coming from? The presenter of this podcast obviously has a 'why', he was already a famous TV presenter in his 20's. Surely it would be more impressive to find the 'why' of a 50 year old who is unemployed. As for the linking the two stories....really?
Oh this is sooo good! This create a very clear direction to my business! Thanks for sharing this to pin point what it is. I know how it feels for sure and I know exactly that this drives me. Just looking for help to articulate it.
Thank you so much you three! I had tears in my eyes and wish so much for myself to find my WHY finally... I-#m much closer now, then I've been before I saw your episode !!! THANK YOU
I have my career moment and my childhood memory moment - but i still can´t figure out my why. What those two moment have in common or say about me as a person. My career moment i just started my job working in health care, we were out driving me and my coworker when we got an alarm about an unconscious person. Quickly we got to her home, lucky the ambulance already arrived before us but there were several ambulances, relatives, people doing CPR and then there were me. That adrenaline rush, the focus, being in the moment saving lives, actually making a difference between life or death, thats my career moment. As of my childhood i remember being around 13 years old, im spending the day at the stables with my riding instructor who i really look up to and she asked me to ride one of the ponys, by myself. And so i did and it went great but having someone you look up to put enough trust in you to let you take such responsibility was really honoring. So what does that say about my why...?
@emma-qj2is The why is right there, you said it. When you were young, you were honoured to be put up on that horse by yourself, I assume you did not have much experience with horses. You were pleased to have such a responsibility, an honour. Here you are on your first day at work, or very early on, you arrived at the scene, again, you were put into a respectable position where it was up to you to do this thing alone, but in concert with others. You like the responsibility, the honour to be selected to then achieve, but you recognize you don't do it on your own, you like to have a cast of characters. Just a guess....
I think his question was sarcastic...everyone has to have a childhood to get to adulthood. Either way the questions would be what are the highlight deep moments for you childhood/teen years I'd imagine.
@@merlinporterartsWhat if you don’t have any highlights from those years? I spent my childhood/teenage years being a shut in playing videos games to numb my self from a bad family. Are the highlights something I can get being an adult now?
What a great video. I love Simon Sinek. Years ago, I read the book Start With Why, but I remember it greatly impacted me. And thanks for sharing the story of your fondest memories. It made me think about what my fondest memories were
Mind blown. Thank you Simon. ... Hello Claude. Today I'd like you to take the role as my life coach, and help me find my "why". Before we do that, I'd like to give you some more context about how to help me find my "why". I'm going to paste a transcript into this window. I'd like you to read it, understand the conversation and example session helping someone find their "why" and then combine that with your existing knowledge to ask me questions to help me find my "why". It's important that you do this for me, understand and interpret my answer, and then tell me why you made your assessment. Ok. Here is the transcript: (pasted). Now, please ask me as many questions and clarifying questions as you need to develop what you think is my "why".
Was genuine question, just that by him answering the question would give away the reason why he was asking it, but asking the question is fine. Clearly different people see it in different ways.
11:50 (Simon) "Its about pattern recognition. Our why is this deep seated thing inside us that drives us." (Simon) "You do not remember all the experience you had as a child. You remember the ones that MATTERED to you. The ones that stand out. Your brain keeps those because for some reason, they are connected to you." 12:38 (Simon) "Im looking for common examples. Im looking for connections & patterns. Im listening to language & im finding the analogies & as soon as I see a thread, what I started doing is Im now trying to describe the thread & Im actually paying attention to how you feel." (Simon) "Ok this matters to him, he's having an emotional response. Im just watching him while Im talking about it. I dont actually care what you think, I wanna know what you FEEL as Im trying to describe back/mirror back what I think I heard. Just pattern recognition, thats all there is." (Simon) "And the reason it needs an outsider to do it & I couldnt do it for myself. Because you have no objectivity on yourself. You'll see patterns that dont exist. Dont do it with family, they know you too well, they'll start filling in the gaps for you as opposed to being as objective as possible. Its much easier when you do it for a friend."
5:55 validation and a sense of belonging is what he was after Let's see where this goes... (So far it also strikes me as an English class society thing). (No, wasn't) I love how Simon turned this into a story to talk about when people ask him what he does! I think that's very difficult for a lot of people and others can use this method too.
which bit specifically made you cry? the specific moment. was it words, or tone? watch again and see exactly where your tears appear. from that I can help you understand why you cried. (triggers to tears are a sign post for us to hidden traumas)
Most people don't have or need a why other than they simply enjoy doing whatever they do. A surgeon, just for example, might do what they do and love it and be very good at it because they, for example, find the human body fascinating, love being presented with a problem about the body and love trying to solve it. Their why is they love doing it. No need for a higher purpose or anything like that. The job for us has alway been, to find something to get paid for you enjoy doing.
I think this covers 50% of a person's "why". That is what's in it for them, which I call their "get" but is missing the other 50% which is what's in it for others, which I call their "give". Your "why" = your "get" + your "give" Our why is not all about ourselves. That would be selfish and unfulfilling.
1:27 (Common Fear) "I fear that I dont have a why because of (insert your reason)." (Simon) "Ok so did you have a childhood? Ok good. So you HAVE a why. We are good there." 1:37 (Simon) "Tell me a specific story of something that you have done at any point of your career (coulda been F1, coulda been football, TV presenter, dosent matter). Tell me a specific story of something you were apart of or something that you did that you ABSOLUTELY loved & if everyday was like this day or every project was like this project, you'd be the happiest person alive?" 4:45 (Simon) "You stood in the pitlane many many times since then, what was it about that one that like is the reason you want to tell me about it now?" (Jake) "I think because it felt like the ultimate test. I knew it was either going to be everything or nothing based on what happened in that first 10-15 mins." 5:14 (Simon) "Tell me an early specifc happy childhood memory. Not like we went to my grandparent's every weekend. Something specific that I can relive with you like its a film." (Simon) "Tell me a specific one. A specific time." (Simon) "And of all of the magical things you did as a kid, all the lovely memories, what was it about this ONE, that you are choosing to tell me about it now?" 6:15 (Simon) "You can keep going down this road, thats fine, you had that experience of sitting in the back of the car (many times), was there something in particular about this one or was it just one that you found to try to capture the general memory?" 7:05 (Simon) "So its the joy of going on the adventure with family? Or maybe 2 people who are more adult than you?" (Simon) "Those stories are very very similar. Which wasnt you standing by yourself in the pitlane, you said, it was these 2 people who you were standing with & in that moment you were just a family & you were apart of that family & you may be the youngest least qualified person, but you were still apart of the family." (Simon) "Those 2 are exactly the same story, that incredible sense of like omg this is it, I love this, Im in the car with them, this is it & everybodys relaxed & we are enjoying ourselves & Im apart of this. They see me as equals, they didnt look down on me. And you said, I feel like Ive arrived, I feel like Im here & it was also that they treated you that way." 8:08 (Simon) "Your why is very much about feeling apart of the family, feeling apart of the team & Id venture to say you are at your happiest when you are working with people in common cause to do something together & where you struggle is when you are asked to do things alone."
I can guarantee you we can almost always find some common thread between any two stories regardless of how different they may appear to be. By knowing if someone is an extrovert or an introvert and a little bit about the person's background we could weave any BS story to tell them about their why. Yes, we do repeat our patterns. Simon is self-aggrandizing and is full of himself and he repeats that pattern.
But I do not remember my childhood. Sometimes I even think (because feeling is hindered) I would be better off without a childhood. So how can I achieve this clarity, if I lack the memories, if I lack the feeling of what it means to love doing something? I utterly despite the idea of my life depending on a salary, an income, do I have not the right to live? Is life not a blessed and sacred thing, meant to be celebrated? Yes, I could do many things, but linking how I perform in such tasks to my worth (even if it comes in the form of money for my survival) seems like a mood killer.
Worth highlighting Simon’s extraordinary listening skill.
Calm down. He’s just listening. Anyone can do it.
@@majorkuntz”can”, perhaps. “Does”? Absolutely not.
Also worth highlighting his patience at needing to ask the same question 10 times over 5 minutes.
Worth remembering: He's an ad man, so he's never just listening. There's always intention. Which means there's always some lack of genuine regard. Anything and everything becomes the means of manipulation.
I think in every habit "compound pounding" effect is the best solution...
People probably know this effect but forgot about it because of being too distracted by media or thoughts etc.
in sport, in business, in relationships.
1. If you use compound pounding in sport, (exercissing for an hour) you will see no results in 5 days,but you will see big results in 100 days.
2. If you will say a good morning to people, you will see no effect in 5 days, but you will see a great difference in 100 days.
3. If you will practice the compassion for your partner and make some good deed,
you will see no or small difference in 5 days,
but you will see a great difference in 50 or 100 days,
you will see how much you mean to them.
People see this compound pounding effect in the nature,
the garden looks the same after few days, but after a 100 days it looks different.
Therefore you can not tell if your values are working after one week, because you see the effect after 100 or 140 days.
Maybe each couple should practice this technique,
If I will make something small to make my partner happy, for a little moment, they will remember these little moments,
and good calm or happy mood increases the immunity of the body by 50 percent in 4 days.
So their kids will learn the same technique.
They will learn that if they will read a book 10 minutes a day,
it has a great impact on brain.
Next time it may be 20 minutes a day.
But if you stop doing the healthy habit now... after a week it makes no difference
after 140 days the results change for worse, you loose muscles or you lose some skill or motivation etc.
Good deed may be also making a pizza or small things.
People actually enjoy small things much more than big gestures,
because it´s about living in the moment......
Big gestures (expensive car) mean that you actually burned out too much energy to make a small effect,
rather than small gestures that after time create a great effect of connection, and people like you for your authentic personality.
As a Documentary & Street Photographer for over 35 years, I had hit a point where I was completely lost and disillusioned since the pandemic in 2020. Listening to this process brought tears to this 61yo's eyes as I thought back to the moment I felt happiest. I had lost that as I got older and felt dead inside more or less walking aimlessly in a creative desert for a long time. Thank you for posting this as it has helped give me a map and compass to restart my creative journey that I thought I had lost my way and would never find again.
I want to know what that moment was about.
What was the moment?
This comment just brought tears to my eyes...
Thanks for posting this. I'm right there with you. I haven't had the fire or ambition since the lockdown, and since it's become my new norm, I'm disillusioned that I will ever find it again.
I think in every habit "compound pounding" effect is the best solution...
People probably know this effect but forgot about it because of being too distracted by media or thoughts etc.
in sport, in business, in relationships.
1. If you use compound pounding in sport, (exercissing for an hour) you will see no results in 5 days,but you will see big results in 100 days.
2. If you will say a good morning to people, you will see no effect in 5 days, but you will see a great difference in 100 days.
3. If you will practice the compassion for your partner and make some good deed,
you will see no or small difference in 5 days,
but you will see a great difference in 50 or 100 days,
you will see how much you mean to them.
People see this compound pounding effect in the nature,
the garden looks the same after few days, but after a 100 days it looks different.
Therefore you can not tell if your values are working after one week, because you see the effect after 100 or 140 days.
Maybe each couple should practice this technique,
If I will make something small to make my partner happy, for a little moment, they will remember these little moments,
and good calm or happy mood increases the immunity of the body by 50 percent in 4 days.
So their kids will learn the same technique.
They will learn that if they will read a book 10 minutes a day,
it has a great impact on brain.
Next time it may be 20 minutes a day.
But if you stop doing the healthy habit now... after a week it makes no difference
after 140 days the results change for worse, you loose muscles or you lose some skill or motivation etc.
Good deed may be also making a pizza or small things.
People actually enjoy small things much more than big gestures,
because it´s about living in the moment......
Big gestures (expensive car) mean that you actually burned out too much energy to make a small effect,
rather than small gestures that after time create a great effect of connection, and people like you for your authentic personality.
Jake is extremely generous in sharing this personal information. Simon was generously giving a demonstration of knowledge he uses to help people to know themselves and their drivers. It resonated with Jake. You are getting this for free. Why would people here be so ungrateful and unkind?
The follow up question at the end from Jake's co-host was essential, because it gives you a framework as to how to analyze,break down the relationship between yourself and the experiences you go through.
That was great to watch. He instantly picked up on the similarity and converted it into a why on the fly. Shows a ton of practice and mastery of his craft.
this was one of the best clips I have ever seen. I sat and thought to myself what is my "why", and I am now between jobs, so it is a very challenging times and I realized the best moment of my childhood and how it connects to my adult life and my job and what I love to do. So thank you guys. I hope this will change my Hero's Journey and will get me to where I want.
Really appreciate Jake's willingness to be vulnerable. Must admit when i saw Jake on tv he wasn't someone i felt i could relate to. But i 💯 respect his willingness to be vulnerable, thats an admirable quality
Wow!
The way Simon teased that out, listening and exploring Jake's responses to get teh answer & Jakes smile at the end, when he knows 'yeah! That's it!'
I’d really like to know more about Simon’s very first question, “Did you have a childhood?” “Then you have a why.” Maybe this is why I’m still trying to figure mine out.
Childhood trauma affects the development of a sense of self.
Knowing who you are. what you want. and why you want it is difficult in those circumstances.
Children inherently gravitate towards their natural purpose (their why) As it is just part of who they are. These are the natural talents or the activities that children can just lose themselves in time and time again for hours and never get bored of.
It’s only through growing up that these inherent natural fires get slowly smothered, put out, and the ashes cast away - so that we end up in a position where we don’t know our why
Brilliant example of why belonging is so important. We don’t always need to be part of something bigger than ourselves, but it can make a huge difference to our why / ikigai.
"It's easier when doing it for a friend" you got a friend now bud, Simon is really an extraordinary person love hearing him paint with words
why in 15
-tell me a specific story you’ve done in your career that you absolutely loved and if every day was like this day or every project was like this project you could do this everyday you would be the happiest person alive.
-tell me an early specific happy childhood memory that I can relive with you like its a film.
Pattern recognition. Is there any patterns? Have a friend or someone who doesn’t know you well ask the questions and report what they notice.
Very powerful. He's very gentle and laser-focused at the same time. What a wonderful experience - for you and for us watching. Great stuff.
What a brilliant session...It is not about the ending, it is about the journey. Simon helped Jake articulate his 'Why' versus what Jakes does. Simon has an innate way of drawing someone's Why. Great watch. Cheers
That comment at the end - where Simon's observing the reaction as he's mirroring back the story, "I don't actually care what you think... I want to know how you FEEL." That was powerful - when we laser focus on supplying what helps people feel special, we create true connections.
Loved watching the face of the person listening to Simon and Jake. It is clear that if schools were to "listen to their individual students" at an early age and ask the same type of emotional question it would define the key interest and potential talents of that child and their educational planning would be set to teach them the skills needed for that person to progress successfully from then. We would have success for all students and an appreciation of who we are so that finding one's way in the world is not daunting or based on a linear idea of success. I enjoyed listening to Simon listening to Jake and the other person listening so intently too in order to have his good question answered. SO good!
Imagine the kind of productive, well adjusted, motivated individuals we would become as a society, if this was done regularly in schools.
Of course there are SOO many other factors that shape the students into future members of society -- but this one crucial element is missing and I agree that it is significant.
It's all about the journey, the team, and that magical feeling of being part of something greater than yourself. Just like when I was a kid, traveling in the car with my family, I find my why in those moments of togetherness and shared goals. I'm at my best when I'm with a group of people that understands me, all heading in the same direction, striving to achieve something together. My life coach Lisa Haisha also taught me that understanding your "why" is about recognizing these patterns in your life, and now, I'm thrilled to continue watch more with the incredible team on this podcast.
Thank you for your honesty. I love the focus, that you speak until you’re done, that the other will listen until you’re done. I love the calm pacing. I love that you skip all the fancy soundtracks and B-roll. This is quality, and one can tell. ❤
Wow!! Came here because I was looking for my "why" and I think it's the same as Jake's. I felt completely energized when I was working on a team, with great and talented human beings, and I felt myself a talented human being too.
We were building something incredible that many of our teachers thought it's gonna be impossible. And WE made it possible, and I was part of that.
One of my happiest childhood memories was decorating the Christmas tree with my granny, I handmade the decorations with paper like an adult will do. My grandma raised me my first 5 years and she acted like my mother at that time, she educated me as a fully capable person, and years later I feel I lost that confidence she helped me built.
Thanks abu! Thanks Simon and thanks High Performance team!. Loved this interview!
This is exactly my Happy place, I still look for that everywhere I go
This is literally my second video watching Simon speak. Listening to this video, I feel like Simon can hypothesize me just listening to him speak so calmly lol
Creating a storyline for his life story that is fragmented was perfectly done, and will become the norm for others to try to make sense of their past, and connect to their present and future outlook and perspective, for their life to experience.
This flow literally helped me re-ground myself again - Simon Sinek is incredible. One of the most helpful videos and resources I've watched to help me. Try it for yourself, and write it down as he goes through it.
Simon, I am not sure if You will ever see this, however what you are discovering in this case is: it’s not all about me and not all about you it is actually about what we can be together❣️
What a wonderful WHY🙏! Much love…
Mike Murphy💕
I am an empathetic person, who really enjoys helping others. I feel I've always approached that using humility and my own experiences (probably why I resonate with Simon's perspective). I mention all that because when I asked myself those questions, I came up with answers where I was alone. Glad he mentioned that you can't do it for yourself, and look forward to having this discussion with some friends. I guess I make this comment cause I am stunted, as I thought I knew my why. 🤔
Sending you love and light as you lovingly figure out your why.
Brillian̈t thank you almost felt like crying
Simon nailed it
I can relate, moving around and not end up with a friend. But then I realized I do have friends and they are spread out.
This video really got me thinking! I loved how it pointed out that our biggest "whys" often come from simple but meaningful moments in life, like family adventures. It’s wild to realize that the connections we make are what truly feed our passions. Not just solo achievements but those times when we feel part of a team or family, like standing in the pit lane or camping with loved ones. Plus, it’s cool to see how looking back can help us spot patterns in our lives we might’ve missed. It reminds us that it’s okay to take risks and chase what makes us feel alive!
I am so grateful for this video. I love how you guys interacted and eventually found his purpose. I believe a lot of people would benefit from this video just like I did since I actually found my purpose while answering the same question Simon asked! Thank you and much love!!!
Brilliant and powerful. Yes, amazing listening skills and identifying the pattern between the two stories. This has been very enlightening and meaningful for me, thank you you three 😄
"WHY????" is there always THAT GUY in the room who can't sit quietly long enough to allow his fellow human the courtesy of speaking/answering a question? Thank you Simon for saying "let's talk about it at the end."
Yes, I'm surprised they don't edit that out.
Yeah, what a dummy. Shut up.
Felt a little bad for him. I think he was trying to be a ‘journalist/interviewer’ and ask the good questions. Or he might be adhd.
Interrupting doesn’t always come from discourtesy.
Yeah, it was really badly timed. Sometimes it's difficult to know when to speak and when to be the wallflower.
It was genuine sincerity. Just ill-timed.
I've always loved SS's wisdom. Getting a chance to see how his brain works when he helps people is a game-changer. I've read info and listened to hours of podcasts about storytelling. In 15 minutes he just opened up a new world for me. I also see why, when I explain what i'm doing since I've left corporate, people's eyes glazed over. I am telling the boring "I host a podcast" explanation SS starts with to contrast the two approaches he defines. I am NOT telling my story. Everything just clicked. Thank you Simon Sinek.
This is the best question, because it’s real ❤
Powerful !!!!! "You remember the ones that matter to you."
Understanding how recognizing the patterns and connections throughout our lives can help us identify what truly drives us and gives our lives a sense of purpose is mind blowing, It's important to take time to reflect on our experiences and identify the common threads that tie them together. We gain such a deeper understanding of ourselves and what motivates us. This understanding can then guide us as we make choices and help us make decisions that align with our values and goals. Ultimately, finding our "why" can lead to a greater sense of satisfaction and happiness in all aspects of our lives.
I feel there’s a ton of focus on doing one’s ‘passion’ but as someone who does do my passion I’ve learnt there’s a whole lot more.
Do your passion on social media for example and see what happens. External conditions, current demand, obligations….. there’s just so much more. You could follow your passion and it can be disastrous.
I like this, I would add to his "why"... or see if Jake agree's, that the element of expectation, anticipation... even urgency is part of his why. That he gets to, on the spot, advocate, represent the experts in the racing car family, yes, as a respected part of the family because he's knowledgeble, observant and has his finger on what the juju is that is the source of his passion about that family and his role in it. His pattern has always accompanied risk, adventure, showing the family he can add to the fun and excitement. The love rings true...that is what makes it work. Love makes it work for all of us...we just have to not be afraid of what shape or form of expression that takes... dare to go for it!
Everyone has s similar why then: connection, understanding, recognition
Great probing technique. Looking very relaxed and interested. Simon listens to understand ❤
6:52 Before Simon gives the answer to his why, my assessment is that his why is a “a sense of belonging.”
beautiful video... i remember watching Jake during his F1 years and so this was really heartfelt to listen to how someone who looked like he had it all still doesn't know his why... this really helped me find mine too, thank you x
❤ 1:51 1:51 1:52 1:54 1:56
*My WHY* 7:05 The JOY of going on adventures with the family ❤
Being a part of a TEAM 8:10 a FAMILY 🎉
8:20 At my happiest collaborating with a team for a common cause ❤
8:26 Where I struggle is doing things alone 💯🙌💫 ACCURATE!
9:09 It's not about the destination, it's about the journey: being somewhere WITH people who love me and I love them and we're doing this together ❤
10:00 How to share this as an interesting STORY OF LOVE ❤
This is profound. Thank you.
Can anyone explain to me where all the admiration is coming from? The presenter of this podcast obviously has a 'why', he was already a famous TV presenter in his 20's. Surely it would be more impressive to find the 'why' of a 50 year old who is unemployed. As for the linking the two stories....really?
You can be successful at many things in life and it not be connected to your why
Oh this is sooo good! This create a very clear direction to my business! Thanks for sharing this to pin point what it is. I know how it feels for sure and I know exactly that this drives me. Just looking for help to articulate it.
Wonderful process and a great example of high performance. Simon's very practiced skill is something to see.
Loved this example of "why finding" in action. Thank you
It’s a really beautiful and relatable example. I love it.
stunningly beautiful conversation of discovery! thank you!
amazing! I had goose bumps and cried watching this.
Omg thank you. Thank you for this cuz I needed this
This was magical. Amazing moment. Thank you for sharing this!
Great episode Jake! Thank you for this moment with Simon wisdom!
Thank you so much you three! I had tears in my eyes and wish so much for myself to find my WHY finally... I-#m much closer now, then I've been before I saw your episode !!! THANK YOU
I can so relate to this speaker.❤
Truly beautiful interview.
I have my career moment and my childhood memory moment - but i still can´t figure out my why. What those two moment have in common or say about me as a person.
My career moment i just started my job working in health care, we were out driving me and my coworker when we got an alarm about an unconscious person. Quickly we got to her home, lucky the ambulance already arrived before us but there were several ambulances, relatives, people doing CPR and then there were me. That adrenaline rush, the focus, being in the moment saving lives, actually making a difference between life or death, thats my career moment.
As of my childhood i remember being around 13 years old, im spending the day at the stables with my riding instructor who i really look up to and she asked me to ride one of the ponys, by myself. And so i did and it went great but having someone you look up to put enough trust in you to let you take such responsibility was really honoring. So what does that say about my why...?
@emma-qj2is The why is right there, you said it. When you were young, you were honoured to be put up on that horse by yourself, I assume you did not have much experience with horses. You were pleased to have such a responsibility, an honour. Here you are on your first day at work, or very early on, you arrived at the scene, again, you were put into a respectable position where it was up to you to do this thing alone, but in concert with others. You like the responsibility, the honour to be selected to then achieve, but you recognize you don't do it on your own, you like to have a cast of characters. Just a guess....
So inspiring. Thank you! What if you haven't 'had a childhood', though? What would the questions be then?
I think his question was sarcastic...everyone has to have a childhood to get to adulthood. Either way the questions would be what are the highlight deep moments for you childhood/teen years I'd imagine.
Even if one has a very tough childhood there should be some special moments somewhere.
Yes, I thought this. What if he hadn't had such wholesome examples?
@@merlinporterartsWhat if you don’t have any highlights from those years?
I spent my childhood/teenage years being a shut in playing videos games to numb my self from a bad family. Are the highlights something I can get being an adult now?
What extraordinary insights
That was so amazing
What a sweet dude to pick apart ❤
Thank you guys for doing this! Would love to find my own why ;-).
Incredible to watch!
What a great video. I love Simon Sinek. Years ago, I read the book Start With Why, but I remember it greatly impacted me.
And thanks for sharing the story of your fondest memories. It made me think about what my fondest memories were
Simon says - we better listen ❤
Phenomenal.
So helpfull !
marvellous interview thank you
I love this ♥️💫
Mind blown. Thank you Simon. ...
Hello Claude. Today I'd like you to take the role as my life coach, and help me find my "why". Before we do that, I'd like to give you some more context about how to help me find my "why". I'm going to paste a transcript into this window. I'd like you to read it, understand the conversation and example session helping someone find their "why" and then combine that with your existing knowledge to ask me questions to help me find my "why". It's important that you do this for me, understand and interpret my answer, and then tell me why you made your assessment. Ok. Here is the transcript: (pasted). Now, please ask me as many questions and clarifying questions as you need to develop what you think is my "why".
Was genuine question, just that by him answering the question would give away the reason why he was asking it, but asking the question is fine. Clearly different people see it in different ways.
Thank you!
11:50
(Simon) "Its about pattern recognition. Our why is this deep seated thing inside us that drives us."
(Simon) "You do not remember all the experience you had as a child. You remember the ones that MATTERED to you. The ones that stand out. Your brain keeps those because for some reason, they are connected to you."
12:38
(Simon) "Im looking for common examples. Im looking for connections & patterns. Im listening to language & im finding the analogies & as soon as I see a thread, what I started doing is Im now trying to describe the thread & Im actually paying attention to how you feel."
(Simon) "Ok this matters to him, he's having an emotional response. Im just watching him while Im talking about it. I dont actually care what you think, I wanna know what you FEEL as Im trying to describe back/mirror back what I think I heard. Just pattern recognition, thats all there is."
(Simon) "And the reason it needs an outsider to do it & I couldnt do it for myself. Because you have no objectivity on yourself. You'll see patterns that dont exist. Dont do it with family, they know you too well, they'll start filling in the gaps for you as opposed to being as objective as possible. Its much easier when you do it for a friend."
Amazing!
Wow!!! Just amazing
That was great! Thank you.
that is a spurious connection between those childhood and professional stories.
incredible
Wow! So, that happened. Nice.
5:55 validation and a sense of belonging is what he was after
Let's see where this goes... (So far it also strikes me as an English class society thing). (No, wasn't)
I love how Simon turned this into a story to talk about when people ask him what he does! I think that's very difficult for a lot of people and others can use this method too.
Why am I crying
Probably the onions I am cutting for the yassa chicken
which bit specifically made you cry? the specific moment. was it words, or tone? watch again and see exactly where your tears appear. from that I can help you understand why you cried. (triggers to tears are a sign post for us to hidden traumas)
greatest video
I HAVE A LOT OF THINGS RUNNING THROUGH MY HEAD - THE BIGGEST ONE IS THIS WESTLIFE SONG “WORLD OF OUR OWN” - IT IS JUST SO GOOD
I dont have any moments of happiness that stand out. In life or in childhood.
What can Simon Sinek suggest for those who have had an abusive childhood, no happy memories, but who do have happy professional memories?
seems like Jake found his "how", rather than his "why"; how you like to work is different from the larger purpose/values it serves
Most people don't have or need a why other than they simply enjoy doing whatever they do. A surgeon, just for example, might do what they do and love it and be very good at it because they, for example, find the human body fascinating, love being presented with a problem about the body and love trying to solve it. Their why is they love doing it. No need for a higher purpose or anything like that. The job for us has alway been, to find something to get paid for you enjoy doing.
Great content.
I think this covers 50% of a person's "why". That is what's in it for them, which I call their "get" but is missing the other 50% which is what's in it for others, which I call their "give".
Your "why" = your "get" + your "give"
Our why is not all about ourselves. That would be selfish and unfulfilling.
fascinating.
I feel like I’m being tricked into feeling like this should be deep and transformative but it’s just an episode of Mad Men
1:27
(Common Fear) "I fear that I dont have a why because of (insert your reason)."
(Simon) "Ok so did you have a childhood? Ok good. So you HAVE a why. We are good there."
1:37
(Simon) "Tell me a specific story of something that you have done at any point of your career (coulda been F1, coulda been football, TV presenter, dosent matter). Tell me a specific story of something you were apart of or something that you did that you ABSOLUTELY loved & if everyday was like this day or every project was like this project, you'd be the happiest person alive?"
4:45
(Simon) "You stood in the pitlane many many times since then, what was it about that one that like is the reason you want to tell me about it now?"
(Jake) "I think because it felt like the ultimate test. I knew it was either going to be everything or nothing based on what happened in that first 10-15 mins."
5:14
(Simon) "Tell me an early specifc happy childhood memory. Not like we went to my grandparent's every weekend. Something specific that I can relive with you like its a film."
(Simon) "Tell me a specific one. A specific time."
(Simon) "And of all of the magical things you did as a kid, all the lovely memories, what was it about this ONE, that you are choosing to tell me about it now?"
6:15
(Simon) "You can keep going down this road, thats fine, you had that experience of sitting in the back of the car (many times), was there something in particular about this one or was it just one that you found to try to capture the general memory?"
7:05
(Simon) "So its the joy of going on the adventure with family? Or maybe 2 people who are more adult than you?"
(Simon) "Those stories are very very similar. Which wasnt you standing by yourself in the pitlane, you said, it was these 2 people who you were standing with & in that moment you were just a family & you were apart of that family & you may be the youngest least qualified person, but you were still apart of the family."
(Simon) "Those 2 are exactly the same story, that incredible sense of like omg this is it, I love this, Im in the car with them, this is it & everybodys relaxed & we are enjoying ourselves & Im apart of this. They see me as equals, they didnt look down on me. And you said, I feel like Ive arrived, I feel like Im here & it was also that they treated you that way."
8:08
(Simon) "Your why is very much about feeling apart of the family, feeling apart of the team & Id venture to say you are at your happiest when you are working with people in common cause to do something together & where you struggle is when you are asked to do things alone."
I can guarantee you we can almost always find some common thread between any two stories regardless of how different they may appear to be. By knowing if someone is an extrovert or an introvert and a little bit about the person's background we could weave any BS story to tell them about their why. Yes, we do repeat our patterns. Simon is self-aggrandizing and is full of himself and he repeats that pattern.
holy shit I love him
Where online does Sinek have the questions to identify your why?
Beautiful
But I do not remember my childhood. Sometimes I even think (because feeling is hindered) I would be better off without a childhood. So how can I achieve this clarity, if I lack the memories, if I lack the feeling of what it means to love doing something? I utterly despite the idea of my life depending on a salary, an income, do I have not the right to live? Is life not a blessed and sacred thing, meant to be celebrated? Yes, I could do many things, but linking how I perform in such tasks to my worth (even if it comes in the form of money for my survival) seems like a mood killer.
This must be what is wrong with me.
I didn't have a childhood.
I can't recall a single story from my childhood that I want to relive or recreate.
that was special to witness
Bro, the questions that the guy on the left asks...... so frustrating. Simon did a great job of kindly diffusing his inability to listen.
Dalio would say everybody’s main draw is meaningful work with meaningful relationships