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Thank you, Matthew, for being honest and your authentic self. You shone the brightest in this interview with nothing to prove by only being you. Thank you again 🙏💞
Really great take aways from this, safety in relationships is really important and so is authenticity being yourself helps people accept who you really are, can't think of better advice. Thanks Matthew great interview 👍
Love you Sadia! You are exceptionally smart and stunning! Every point is insightful and you hit the mark. You are even smarter and you can tell you hold back as some ideas maybe too much for the average joe! You are helping million and educating those that are drowning in the modern godless world!
And the 'players' will say "I'm looking for an emotional connection". They literally tell us what we want to hear and we will assume this time they are genuine but they also have this sparkling charm...
What I love about listening to Matthew is that every time I listen thinking that I am gonna get a relationship advice but I end up learning more about myself and life ! So it’s much more !
Matthew Hussey is one of the few people that truly make sense to me. In a world where narcissism is " the health crisis of our time per Dr. RAMINI", he just makes the most sense to me.
Yes. I really believe dating apps are loaded with full narcissists ( I know we all have some narcissistic tendencies to survive but these are the ones with calculating, bad intentions) or even psychopaths. Not even all physically dangerous but emotional abusers for sure.
I wish high schools could have mandatory classes with Sadia & Matthew. There would be so many more healthy relationships out there. Love this interview!
They only talk about sex education in high school and not how people should treat each other in relationships. Things have to change in the school system to show what healthy relationships are about not only about protected sex but how people should treat one another in relationships.
I love the openness, calmness and knowledge Matthew brings to this conversation.. There is compassion in his energy that is so relatable which makes you trust his words.
Saadis is teaching the 98% who are either single or in unhappy relationships, how to do what the 1% do. Mathew is validating and empathizing with the 98%, but is that really helping them or making their life better?
As lovely and as intelligent as Sadia is, it takes true understanding of different perspectives to know that there’s many ways to come at this. For example, for the average Joe she is right, taking responsibility for your choices leads to a better life. For those that are on such a low vibration, really struggling in life, vulnerable and confused.. making healthy choices is so much harder. It takes compassion from others and for yourself to get to that place first. 🫶🏻💜
I dated a short guy once. I am 5’3” and he was 5’4”… he ended up being super manipulative due to compensating for his shortness. He had to be the loudest in the room and needed the attention to the point of peacocking through his life instead of being authentic
💯Agree with Mathew.Majority of men are playing games,hence the majority of women are are opting to be single and loving themselves other than being out there playing games.
No the problem is 15% of the men are good-looking and they usually get 80% of the women and as a result they cannot all settle with the 80% you can only choose a certain person to settle with and that leaves a lot of women that are heartbroken and because their heartbroken they think that the remaining 85% of guys are players but 85% of guys don't even get a chance to be a player they wish a woman can throw themselves at their lap. It's sad to say but when I was in college only a certain amount of guys used to sleep with most of the girls on campus. That was the athletes that were popular and the attractive guys that were in fraternities.
THIS EPISODE WAS SOOOOOOO GOOOOOOD. The part I loved the most was when Sadia was asked why do people self sabotage when there are green flags. She said " Their barrier to intimacy has become their self esteem based on a core belief they have believed that love should be difficult and a struggle and not smooth. And because they don't have love and compassion for themselves, they start to question and think their is something wrong with the other person. Instead of realizing the love is infused with peace, which they just aren't use to. Hearing this truly healed apart of my heart that has been broken for a few years because I was in a relationship with a guy like this and couldn't understand why he just wouldn't accept my love and why he kept questioning everything, So THANK YOU! writing with tears in my eyes :)
Yes this!! I have often thought this is the real reason why some men don't appreciate women who don't play hard to get or are 'easy' as they put it or why men seem to be more toxic towards women who actually love them & better partners to toxic women, it's not because they are hunters & love the chase, it's because they don't think they are worthy of love unless they suffer for it, such a sad way to exist.
I love how matthew always points out that we shouldnt generealize some experiences or statements on a certain sex/gender. Sadia seems to push women down a little whereas matthew offers a more fair view on both genders
Certainly we can see from their perspectives that Matthew deals with general public who are not just clear about their relationships whereas Sadia speaks from the perspective of minority mostly patients who are deeply wounded and need professional help, which doesn’t relate to most of us! Therefore, she shouldn’t generalise and should provide clear disclaimer on her words/videos!
Sadia’s perspective comes from rich men working on themselves individually towards a relationship. Mathew’s perspective comes from serving general women towards better dating, most in previous abusive or narcissistic relationships. Only one person here works up close and has studied the human psyche.
As a woman who's been single for 8 years and who's been through a lot and worked on my growth and healing through years of therapy, I would highly disagree with the "98%" of men are emotionally available. Out of all the men I've dated in the last 8 years the majority are very emotionally UNavailable. And I think alot of things are to blame, starting with being integrated in a culture of toxic masculinity, childhood trauma and being jaded after getting hurt and not having the tools to process and regulate their own heartbreak. I've maybe dated a very, very small handful of emotionally available men. Unfortunately, we were incompatible. It's rough out here.
It wasn't incompatibility, women are just subconsciously turned off by emotionally available men because it's feminine energy and women crave masculinity which is indifference and not caring. It takes a healthy balance of both to get to a woman's heart but most men are usually on one side of the spectrum or the other.
Matthew seems to have a deeper insight on human relational behaviour. He takes into account real world situations. Sadia seems to stay on the surface. She identifies some behaviours but attributes negative or/and superficial intentions and believes it's a majority when it's not.
It seems very clear that her client base are primarily highly successful men, looking for a specific type. Vs Matthew seems to know more of the common people in the US and Europe.
@@marthacvd She is an example of how a academic knowledge can mean very little when it's not applied properly. Her analyses just don't seem to apply to the real world. She is using a very narrow sample of a particular group to apply her theories to everyone. As Matthew accurately pointed out that just isn't the case for most people.
@@marthacvdactually modern medical doctors are trained to recognize illness and their symptoms not health and prosperity. so yeah they complete each others perspectives well
I really like Sadia and tried listening to Matthew in the past but I feel he talks so much I loose the point and also talkes about the problem but there's no solution at the end. Sadia for me hits the nail on the head each time. I'm 'old school' maybe that's why. She's faster at noticing the actual problem, at least for me I get her point, and it feels more relatable to how I feel the dating is at the moment. I feel she's trying to help us girls and make us not feel guilty for once. ❤
Absolutely! You've conveyed this brilliantly. Most on here seem to be enamoured with the chap - but two minutes into not-answering a question, he's talking about pizza! Sadia is super-incisive - like the Jordan Peterson of this arena - & people assume it's 'cookie-cutter' because she's so quick off the mark - & precise!
Couldn't disagree more! Matthew is far more in tune with both sexes behaviours he makes total sense and realises everyone is different Sadia paints everyone the same and I'm very shocked tbh that she is seen as a "professional"
Great episode! I love Sadia’s honesty and vulnerability. I really don’t get all the criticism towards her. You don’t have to agree with her (or anyone for that matter) but she is still wonderful and insightful. Both of them are really helpful… and that’s the whole point… it’s not a competition or a judging contest.
I agree. She gets a lot of criticism when she is genuinely trying to ask questions to understand that individual’s perspective. I would have thought Matthew is capable of choosing different words for “the vast majority/minority aren’t like that”. He basically said Sadia was wrong. That is Sadias experience based upon the people she works with. Both can be right. He put his experience superior to hers. He could have said “in the demographic that I mostly interact with, it has been a different story”.
What are you on about ? Sadia is on point with everything shes so graceful and beautiful with her delivery . I guess only the insecure can see what ur seeing .
Your name implies that you are a woman. In which case, I understand your point of view especially as a woman myself. On the other hand, Sadie mostly works with extremely high income men with different issues. Both matter.
Hey, it sounds like you're looking for some signs! If someone loves you, they might show it by being there for you, listening, and supporting you through good times and bad. Remember, actions often speak louder than words!
Matthew Hussey is so incredible with the way he sees things with so much compassion especially when it comes to women, he really understands where we are coming from without giving any advice that would lead to toxic behaviour from men or women. Sorry Sadia and Lewis but Matthew has absolutely won this conversion
Sadia makes an amazing, spot-on point here in the last minute about how someone defaults to their vices when they’re not being their true self to the ppl around them!! Thank you to both of these relationship coaches and Lewis for putting this discussion group together!! ✨💗🙏
Sadia really explains ideas so clearly and the depth of her analysis and logic is impressive. I almost have to always keep skipping forward to her parts only..
Both are important. You need to have attraction to their looks and personality, but ultimately without similar values and goals - the relationship will fall apart.
That is a nice sentiment and would be a great aspiration. Unfortunately if you look at dating app data, women swipe left on men the most and only after a few seconds spent on the profile so looks are very important to them. Men swipe right the most so they seem to be more tolerant of looks or appearance. It's fascinating to look at. I think both genders want someone attractive but there are definitely differing degrees of what constitutes "attractive" between men and women. I agree with your intent, looks only take you so far.
I love that we get to hear from both Matthew and Sadia, a man and a woman, sharing their experiences on both men and women. It is not a competition between the sexes. Over the years, I have learned to extend my compassion to men the same way I do for my girls. And eventhough men are harder to understand for me, because I am not one, I try to see them as human first, that usually helps.
Not true. I’m an independent women who is successful and I value and look for connection. I don’t do hookups. Emotional connection needs to there be first for else next. Too many men on the app put low effort.
@@zeynand4039or meet people out in the real world by travelling, going 2 different places,trying new activities because most guys on dating apps are low effort men and IF they were high quilty they would leave their house and approach women in real life.
It is weird to understand but men don’t appreciate women that come easy to them. If you are putting yourself on a shelf for them to easily come to you (app) they will subconsciously think there is something wrong with you, as if you truly valued yourself you would be making yourself that available. I learnt from that lesson
"Matthew and Sadia nailed it! Recognizing and acting on red flags save un called for heartaches. Understanding our worth and avoiding toxic patterns are under rated for sure. key to healthier relationships.
I had dated someone who was emotionally unavailable, to no fault of his own due to his upbringing. As a child he had to grow up fast, taking care of both his chronically ill parents therefore he didn’t get his needs met as a child. Although he grew up to be a sweet individual, it’s a classic case of someone only meets you as deep as they’ve met themselves.
Love this. They can only meet you as deep as they have met themselves. Although if I may add. I do think if you are deeper more emotional one and they are open and capable you can teach them to go deeper.
Amazing episode. Matthew’s videos were my go to whilst I was dating. Helped me a lot. I took this statement from him ‘Be ruthless but also full of love”
I don’t have interest in men who are shorter because of the way it makes ME feel. There isn’t anything wrong with him, but if I tower over or look down it makes me feel big and dominant. I’m 5’8” and I want to be smaller that’s all there is to it. Basically it makes me feel less attractive to be taller. Just a feeling.
hey there - I'm a 5'11 woman and honestly it attracts the right height men, because shorties are scared off. Tall is beautiful, and you get the best view at concerts, plus clothes look better on us! We don't need to be loud and obnoxious to be noticed. Hope you get to a point where you enjoy and embrace what the Universe gave you)
I am six feet two inches tall and my height generally intimidates men. However I worked with a fellow geologist who was only a little over five feet tall and he was not the least bit intimidated. He and another colleague, who was female and only four feet 10 inches tall, were some of the most secure and centered individuals that I have ever met. Oddly enough, I found that I did not like dating men that were a lot taller than I was. I prefer a man who is roughly the same height or as close to the same as we can make it with one of us wearing slightly higher heels than the other. There is something very comfortable about being able to just look eye-to-eye with a significant other.
@@karamlevi Yes, and the reality is if someone is really compatible with a member of the opposite sex, any difference in height is likely to become far less important. It is much harder to find someone who shares the same values and who is psychologically compatible and who shares the same interests than it is to find someone who is the right height, even if you are very tall or very short.
Nah, nothing’s wrong with you. It’s just ALL men should be at “least” 6’1 . Just kidding, but wouldn’t it be nice?! Btw, I’m also 5’8 I miss wearing hi-heels. I don’t wear them Bc I don’t want to tower over most men of average height. It just makes “me” feel strange
As a woman, when I hear what they are NOT saying but reading cues, Sadia comes across as a woman who has her own relationship issues but giving out advice ironically . Matthew appears to be genuine where he had lived the issues and landed a stable relationship /marriage by his posture and choice of words. Sadia speaks cookie cutter lines but Matthew speaks from grounded wisdom.
Most definitely Sadia has relationship issues, and no real expertise other then “experiences” but doesn’t look like she any better off then the people she is taking about on all these podcasts. Honestly it seems like she is trying to use this podcasts to reel in her next relationship.
Yes, I’ve been semi-following Sadie for about 6 mos. Matthew 3 yrs. I do find Matthew’s advice & expertise comes from experience & I believe he has researched many avenues for his information to use to pull from when handing out advice. I'm not trying to criticize Sadie, however in many of her Podcast Ive watched or listened to, I am very intuitive & she isn’t very good at hiding her “personal” emotions. It has felt as if she more hands out her advice from what she's personally going through at that time or experienced herself through her relationships. Rather than being non bias & really digging her heels in & taking more time to find out from other females by talking with them & trying to better understand whats going on from many different economic backgrounds of females & truly what they're feeling, wanting, experiencing out there. Its very obvious to me that she works with predominately all men, from most of the information she offers. I do enjoy listening to a lot of her content. However as far as looking for advice from her as a female, I wouldn't choose her. Thank you for reading this.
I neither agree nor disagree with this statement however , I had just thought about this concept last night. Thank you so much for reminding me that sometimes people speak from things that they have heard and others speak from things that they have been through 🖤
I get a sense that Sadia’s sample of dating experiences from the people she deals with is quite skewed in one direction while Matthew deals with a more realistic group of women who make up the majority of women.
Sadia's take is always biased towards that minority yes. And she doesn't put disclaimers when making statements.. It's very unhealthy!... For everyone ..
Sadia is a psychologist and speaks most time from the perspective that she’s experienced in THAT role. She’s not speaking about personal experiences in most examples.
Or she could be in love with her hypotheses and willing to ignore all data that does not support her pet hypotheses. Unfortunately, many scientists do fall in love with a particular hypothesis and this destroys their impartiality and ability to do good science.
@@alexr6114Exactly. She also uses a lot of red pill rhetoric. As a psychologist myself, there’s a lot of research that’s done in relationships. That makes it easy to know that your few clients do not account for general population. What does data say?
If you attract emotional unavailable people, there is an aspect of you that is also emotionally unavailable. It seems like when Sadia speaks for the female perspective, she is projecting her own experiences onto us. As she states, her clientele are predominantly male. Matthew has more experience working with women. Matthew has clearly done the inner work. Compassion for others is an indication of this.
This is such a terrible opinion. They are both speaking from their perspective. Each valid. And you hv not information or right to attribute "done inner work" to anyone. Matthew could just be a smooth talking grifter whilst she is more earnest. Or she could be horrendous and he's an angel. No one knows. Please do better
Matthew truly represents the everyday men and women and makes more sense. Sadia is simply knowledgeable about the rich and their world as that is her only exposure. Good to see them together though
I don't know Matthew to me sounds more like the average person talking where as Sadie sounded like an expert. I did enjoy and appreciate what Matthew was saying but she got to the point more.
@@emilythompson8070 hmm I think the thing with Matthew is that he doesn’t generalize like the point where she was saying men care more about beauty and looks and women care about status and money and he was saying that’s not necessarily true. Women can also care about looks and charm and charisma over just status. The thing is Matthew has Coached both men and women extensively. He started with coaching men before moving on to coaching women so I think he has a more balanced perspective.
Sadia mentioned many times throughout the interview that "in her experience or the men she's working with" she never generalized and it was Matthew who took Sadia's opinions to generalisation of women. @@sunnyearly8962
Sadia works with rich guys that chase younger women or too beautiful for them. Hence, they attract sugar babies or gold diggers. These rich men aren’t aware that they are choosing the wrong type of women to create a life with. Sadia doesn’t seem to know the difference either. Her experiences in life and as a coach are limited to this very small sample of the world’s population and her own experiences in Dubai. Matthew works with middle income people and has a stable relationship himself. More experience in a more relatable setting, for the most of us. Also look at the comments of guys supporting Sadia, if the best thing you can say about her is that she is beautiful 👀 do they even see value in her work? Or are they just seeing her as a pretty woman?
Biology doesn’t change simply because you want it to. Men fall for beauty the same way women fall for status. In both of their eyes and brains, it’s love and has the same characteristics. So we can’t trivialize one and call the other love. Even sugar babies have options and so generally choose men that can make them laugh and who make them feel safe. I think the 20 something year old with the 70 year old she can barely relate to is super glamorized when it’s the rarity and not the norm. I was with a man 20 years older than me and I truly loved him because he made me feel safe. The world is not black and white and I think people who exhibit such thinking deprive themselves of all the rich information that is present in the gray. I say all this to say, these rich men choosing young beautiful women, according to biology, are making the most optimal choice. The women will be fertile longer as the man ages, so it’s simple math.
Sadia has some bitter truth for both genders, hard to swallow, especially for women. But also has more fundament on her face than Empire State. How she is looking without make up, that is mistery. And this about Dubai and clients is true. Matthew was excellent.
This is so true. When you find a person, that is nice and available, it doesn't mean you can be with them just because of these factors. Chemistry is important as well.
Gosh this is so unnecessarily painful. Never allow a person to steal your joy, your peace. If they play hard to get for whatever reason true or not, don't pay this person any attention.
Very, very insightful. I cried when Lewis spoke about sharing who he was in truth when he first met Martha. And when Matthew said ‘I’m ok’. I have my faults and my virtues and I’m ok’.
Ive followed Matthew Hussey on and off for around 10 years since his 'Get the Guy' days. Listening to him now it feels as though hes really grown in himself . Hes so considered in his responses and you can feel the wisdom of his experience.
Some would find Matthew’s advice more helpful and some would find Sadia’s advice more helpful. The point of a collaboration is to have a more interesting conversation from including more than one perspective.
Yes. Her advice and opinions are based solely on her personal views, including her upbringing and religion. They have nothing to do with psychology. The entire psychology community opposes everything she represents and has absolutely no respect for her. Lewis and Matthew should really conduct a background check before giving a platform to someone whose methods are unethical. They might as well have brought in someone from the streets pretending to know about these matters.
I listen to both of them and I think they're truly experts in that field. Also having two experts exchange ideas and expertise is super valuable. One note: Matthew seems to have a broader view of the topic and takes into account variables.
I love how open this conversation was. The three of them are speaking a similar language in a different level, making this video accesible to understand for a wide range of people
Matthew has changed many things in his advice - approach to dating- it was do this to get them to do…. It focused on external source… Great conversation… Starts with each of us from within…
What an amazing combo! I loved this conversation! Very insightful. The last part, especially, was mind blowing for me. Not being vulnerable leads you to living a double life and neither side of it feels aligned to who you really are. That feels exhausting and extremely damaging. It gave me a boost to be more comfortable to opening up and being vulnerable. Thank you, Sadia, Matthew and Lewis, for making this happen. We need a second episode with you three :)
1. When people play games they enter a relationship to satisfy their ego rather than to find a real connection. 2. Effective communication is a good way to filter the wrong people. 3. Don't try to impress someone instead try to access a healthy relationship with someone. 4. When you work on yourself your pool does not shrink, it is quiet the opposite, it should make you more compassionate towards others faults. 5. To help others you don't have to have it all worked out. Gold..Thank you❤
The reason why women are attracted to men who have achieved something in their own life is because those men are confident and secure in themselves and they are not threatened by a woman who has achieved something. Show me a man who is not successful and I will show you a man who will forever be a user and selfish and then claim he's a victim.
Nah, men can still be competitive and insecure even if they have money, status, or success. And a poor man can have drive, dreams, goals, and have every capability and potential to succeed. It's all about the character of the individual, not a blanket generalization that can paint someone's character by class, education, or worldly success.
@@hasensaurus that is its own type of success. Don't have to be competitive to have success. Success is ability to provide for oneself, and family if one wants one
@@sharicoburn5475 from my own experience, the more a man has, the more he is aware he can lose everything and return to being nothing. So no, success and competitiveness are good friends.
I'm 22, been single my entire life and learning how to love myself thanks to Matthew and how he explains things. Loved this episode!!! It's really a hard pill to swallow when you realise you are emotionally unavailable because the fear of getting hurt always haunts you.
I’ve been told recently that once you been doing your healing, now you need to heal in a relationship. Like a test run. So if your up front men will take advantage of it or they don’t want to take the chance.
I definitely believe you can do all sorts of healing but don't know how far you've gotten until you stress test it in a relationship. Then you get to reinforce and fine tune the work you did, looking at it from a new angle. It's like book learning vs. field experience lol
This was a great discussion. Lewis did a fantastic job. I think Matthew was just brilliant in his responses, well spoken and explained it beautifully. He isn’t only one sided. He hits the nail on the head every single time and speaks so much truth when it comes to woman and men in dating. So insightful. I love his work. He is so relatable. Saadia also made some really great honest points as well and I found it interesting that her perspective was predominantly from men as her clientele is mostly male. I find when Matthew speaks he does it in a way that you are listening so intently. I have never listened to him without walking way feeling blown away and so grateful for his advice and deep understanding and knowledge of love and life! Matthew Thank you so much for all of the work you do. You help people more than you know. Great job! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I appreciate Matthew so much, he does his research and is well informed and insightful. He is one of my favourite public figures bc I feel like he is actually trying to build people up and support their individual growth. Thank you for this Matthew.
It's about your patterning in relationships and how you seek out what is comforting or chaotic. We are creatures of habit and tend to choose others based on our patterning
Sadia attract different people from different background. She is really good for some people. I love your nice, kind and loving voice. You have alot of good qualities. ♥️
@@btspavedthewaythefact157wrong. The first comment is right. Matt is stressed, you can’t read body language… he makes almost zero eye contact with Sadia in any kind of deep meaningful way. Lots of cliche… he should take out the horoscopes too.
This is such a great idea having both male and female experts together, then we can really squeeze information and really go deep into discussion of two opinions.
Love the 2 for 1! I do relate to what Sadia is saying about sabotaging Green Flags. Unfortunately, this is relatable to how I've behaved and actively working on improving this
I can listen to the three of you together for hours!!! Absolutely love to hear both perspectives and wisdom and Luis with his wise questions and input!
Familiarity doesn't care if something is good or bad , its just that it's known in other words when a person is being loved, he/she can still feel afraid if it's not normal for them ....... Matthew
This was a greater podcast, Was confused in the middle with the different energy. But all parties to this talk spoke so from the heart. Found it helpful. Thank you!
The ability to discern and spot red flags is a useful tool and most importantly, helps one learn more about oneself than about the other person. In fact, we can only really know ourself. At the end of the day, someone else's actions has no reflection *whatsoever* on you. There are ways to delay hurt, but some lessons must be learned. In life, you will fall down. It's how you respond to that fall that counts. It's normal to be afraid, it's detrimental to stay there.❤
If you can get past Sadia's looks, you will note a person who is utterly sagacious, authentic & really does speak clearly to the Time we are living in. Some people regard her input as 'cookie-cutter' - but it's all deeply insightful & tailored properly to the question as-posed. She carries this clarity on the subject with her, it's what she lives & does - so, quick, effective responses some will interpret as cookie-cutter.
I wish these experts would address the subjest of " Compatibility". From all the research the couples that have success and longeivity also have much in common: Common values and common goals.
The first and most important relationship you should establish is with ourselves, before anyone else. That takes being comfortable with solitude......solitude fosters awareness of your intrinsic value
I’ve seen this woman woman on a couple shows now and it feels as if she’s almost developed all of her opinions and strategies based on a very particular subset of people who are deeply entrenched in social media. As a matchmaker and dating coach myself, I never feel she is speaking to my clients or my viewers. I feel like she’s talking to the Kardashians! Where Matthew and I are talking to a larger cross section of women across America who are all different ages, come from different socio economic levels and have very different values. It’s like she’s talking to the hot 100 women and the 5% of wealthiest guys in this country. Maybe those are her clients but it doesn’t resonate with me or for people I work with. 🤷🏻♀️
I feel like Sadia has some insight only when it comes to the Dubai dating scene. That is very different from what happens in the dating scene all over the world.
From my understanding, Sadia actually engages with with a large American group of men who are disgruntled about the dating scene. I think men are struggling with dating around the world b/c women's standards have changed. There are still a lot of nice and solid women and men that desire relationships but they are having a difficult time finding each other in the mess that is the world dating scene.
Yes. Her advice and opinions are based solely on her personal views, including her upbringing and religion. They have nothing to do with psychology. The entire psychology community opposes everything she represents and has absolutely no respect for her. Lewis and Matthew should really conduct a background check before giving a platform to someone whose methods are unethical. They might as well have brought in someone from the streets pretending to know about these matters.
I feel the same way. Matthew Hussey is so human and puts himself in others shoes and she just placates that women are only sexual and give bad behaviors. I honestly just don't know any women like that so it's not a real conversation to talk about a very small percentage as the norm. Over and I try to like Sadia and Everytime I can't finish anything she's on. Matthew is a true gem and so are you Lewis. Plse stop letting this woman "represent women". Perhaps in Dubai so let's not talk outside of it.
Loved so much the grounded posture of Matthew 🙏 and the wisdom he shared from a place of Compassion. He gives me the feeling of seeing us/the world with a clear vision 💎 Thank you soul much 🙏 it feels good to receive it and to witness his evolution through the years ✨️🙏✨️
I appreciate all 3 of them. Matthew is a buddah kind of he really sees the big picture. Sadia is really up to date she has a very good understanding of relationships of younger generations, it does sound absured like the backup boyfriend example, cheating before getting cheated that's really a thing. I lile the dynamics also between the 3 of them. Thanks guys!
These two experts talking about different experiences of different generations. All point are valid, it’s just Matthew speaks for my generation and Sadia is spot on about generation of my daughter. Very interesting to see those differences, and how everything: trends, social media and life technology shaping society as a whole, its values, standards and philosophies.
Great conversation, I enjoy Sadia and Matthew. But where I disagree is, I think the majority of both men and women are emotionally unavailable/playing games. It is rare to find a man or woman who knows what they want, look for compatibility, and focus on what is good for their partner. They exist, but they are rare.
Playing a game with emotions, being more important, and manufacturing punishment due to ego means you are not ready for any relationship (you’ve got issues), run! This is a two year old.
If you are manufacturing it, yes. Playing games is not a good path forward. But also, you can have an awareness of power dynamics and not play games. It’s just as bad to bury your head in the sand, dismiss and deny such dynamics, and cling to an overly romanticised worldview to feel better.
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Wwwww what an introduction, excited to watch the full episode .
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Part 2 of this ❤
Both great people ! Great to have them over - respect ❤
Yes!! Great talk 👏🏽
Thanks for having me on as always brother! ❤
Matthew, you're amazing and your insights to unravel the meaning behind actions and thought process is so helpful.
Powerful conversation!
Thank you, Matthew, for being honest and your authentic self. You shone the brightest in this interview with nothing to prove by only being you. Thank you again 🙏💞
❤️❤️
Really great take aways from this, safety in relationships is really important and so is authenticity being yourself helps people accept who you really are, can't think of better advice. Thanks Matthew great interview 👍
“What misses you was never for you, and what is for you will never miss you.”
😍😍😍
Bob Marley 👍🏼
Love this!
Absolute bull! 💩😂 Everything that sounds catchy is not always true lol
Absolutely right
Super honored to be part of this ! Thank you Lewis ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your valuable wisdom and knowledge, Sadia.
I haven't seen the episode yet but I already know this episode is going to be great! ❤
You rock it as always!
Thank you! Let me know your thoughts once you do.
Love you Sadia! You are exceptionally smart and stunning! Every point is insightful and you hit the mark. You are even smarter and you can tell you hold back as some ideas maybe too much for the average joe! You are helping million and educating those that are drowning in the modern godless world!
Playing games to protect your ego only leads to self-destruction. Real value lies in true connection and emotional availability
And vulnerability
And the 'players' will say "I'm looking for an emotional connection".
They literally tell us what we want to hear and we will assume this time they are genuine but they also have this sparkling charm...
What I love about listening to Matthew is that every time I listen thinking that I am gonna get a relationship advice but I end up learning more about myself and life ! So it’s much more !
Glad you loved it! Thanks for watching!
@@lewishowes ❤️❤️🙏
@@lewishowesHEY CONGRATS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT! IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU! YAYYY!
The more you learn about yourself the more you learn about other ppl too and actually helps you to connect with ppl 💯
Matthew Hussey is one of the few people that truly make sense to me. In a world where narcissism is " the health crisis of our time per Dr. RAMINI", he just makes the most sense to me.
Can you explain?
Absolutely the 2 people I follow to keep myself knowledgeable, develop a well-rounded perspective.. and survive and dodge bullets!
Yes. I really believe dating apps are loaded with full narcissists ( I know we all have some narcissistic tendencies to survive but these are the ones with calculating, bad intentions) or even psychopaths. Not even all physically dangerous but emotional abusers for sure.
Thank you Matthew for advocating for women’s true life experiences and for being so genuine ❤
You're welcome, thank you for tuning in 🧡
Sadia sounds bias against women! No wonder, women do not work with her.
Finally Sadia and Mathew Hussey in the same room ❤️❤️
I wish high schools could have mandatory classes with Sadia & Matthew. There would be so many more healthy relationships out there. Love this interview!
Thank you for tuning in! :)
Totally agree with you
shows you that the system isnt designed to help anyone.
They only talk about sex education in high school and not how people should treat each other in relationships. Things have to change in the school system to show what healthy relationships are about not only about protected sex but how people should treat one another in relationships.
That’s a great idea
I love the openness, calmness and knowledge Matthew brings to this conversation.. There is compassion in his energy that is so relatable which makes you trust his words.
Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!
totally agree 🙂
@@lewishowes Suggestion get Esther Perel with Sadia/Mat together :) Tripplets
I agree with you, it makes his words feel more valuable due to how he addresses it in his calm tone
I agree. he looks very committed to the subject , he isn't in it for his own ego.
bless the guy
I think Sadia only talks about 1% of women. I love how Matthew speaks for the rest. Thank you Matthew you are the best 🙏❤️
Saadis is teaching the 98% who are either single or in unhappy relationships, how to do what the 1% do. Mathew is validating and empathizing with the 98%, but is that really helping them or making their life better?
As lovely and as intelligent as Sadia is, it takes true understanding of different perspectives to know that there’s many ways to come at this. For example, for the average Joe she is right, taking responsibility for your choices leads to a better life. For those that are on such a low vibration, really struggling in life, vulnerable and confused.. making healthy choices is so much harder. It takes compassion from others and for yourself to get to that place first. 🫶🏻💜
What she speaks about is missing the context of human experience for me. I dont relate to what shes saying, so it feels robotic in a way.
it is because she is talking about her experience with men and women and she has access to the 1% of the lot that do things wrong
I dated a short guy once. I am 5’3” and he was 5’4”… he ended up being super manipulative due to compensating for his shortness. He had to be the loudest in the room and needed the attention to the point of peacocking through his life instead of being authentic
I can relate.
Its really tough for short men. They need more therapy than the rest of us
Same
I've had the same experience and you're spot on about that
I was on a date w a short king 5'6 and he always wanted validation. Similar to my 6'4 ex. Insecurities are in every size and shape.
💯Agree with Mathew.Majority of men are playing games,hence the majority of women are are opting to be single and loving themselves other than being out there playing games.
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Yes that’s been my experience with not just myself but everyone of my girlfriends who are dating.
Yes.
No the problem is 15% of the men are good-looking and they usually get 80% of the women and as a result they cannot all settle with the 80% you can only choose a certain person to settle with and that leaves a lot of women that are heartbroken and because their heartbroken they think that the remaining 85% of guys are players but 85% of guys don't even get a chance to be a player they wish a woman can throw themselves at their lap. It's sad to say but when I was in college only a certain amount of guys used to sleep with most of the girls on campus. That was the athletes that were popular and the attractive guys that were in fraternities.
nope, the majority of both sexes are playing games....that was the point.
THIS EPISODE WAS SOOOOOOO GOOOOOOD. The part I loved the most was when Sadia was asked why do people self sabotage when there are green flags. She said " Their barrier to intimacy has become their self esteem based on a core belief they have believed that love should be difficult and a struggle and not smooth. And because they don't have love and compassion for themselves, they start to question and think their is something wrong with the other person. Instead of realizing the love is infused with peace, which they just aren't use to. Hearing this truly healed apart of my heart that has been broken for a few years because I was in a relationship with a guy like this and couldn't understand why he just wouldn't accept my love and why he kept questioning everything, So THANK YOU! writing with tears in my eyes :)
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
This is a huge problem- traumatized men who can't even accept a genuine woman who has love for them and give kindness and support to them.
@@frankG335Also for women...
Yes this!! I have often thought this is the real reason why some men don't appreciate women who don't play hard to get or are 'easy' as they put it or why men seem to be more toxic towards women who actually love them & better partners to toxic women, it's not because they are hunters & love the chase, it's because they don't think they are worthy of love unless they suffer for it, such a sad way to exist.
You are such a sweet soul..I am wishing you the best!!
I love how matthew always points out that we shouldnt generealize some experiences or statements on a certain sex/gender. Sadia seems to push women down a little whereas matthew offers a more fair view on both genders
Certainly we can see from their perspectives that Matthew deals with general public who are not just clear about their relationships whereas Sadia speaks from the perspective of minority mostly patients who are deeply wounded and need professional help, which doesn’t relate to most of us! Therefore, she shouldn’t generalise and should provide clear disclaimer on her words/videos!
Sadia’s perspective comes from rich men working on themselves individually towards a relationship. Mathew’s perspective comes from serving general women towards better dating, most in previous abusive or narcissistic relationships. Only one person here works up close and has studied the human psyche.
"Women understand other women, and they can't stand one another."
@@tetedur377 sounds like a pickme
No definitions to any words would truly please you
As a woman who's been single for 8 years and who's been through a lot and worked on my growth and healing through years of therapy, I would highly disagree with the "98%" of men are emotionally available. Out of all the men I've dated in the last 8 years the majority are very emotionally UNavailable. And I think alot of things are to blame, starting with being integrated in a culture of toxic masculinity, childhood trauma and being jaded after getting hurt and not having the tools to process and regulate their own heartbreak. I've maybe dated a very, very small handful of emotionally available men. Unfortunately, we were incompatible. It's rough out here.
Hardcore agree. Only one of the men I've dated was emotionally available. In 8 years of dating on and off, ONE.
Agree too. Lots of emotionally unavailable men out there 😞
It wasn't incompatibility, women are just subconsciously turned off by emotionally available men because it's feminine energy and women crave masculinity which is indifference and not caring. It takes a healthy balance of both to get to a woman's heart but most men are usually on one side of the spectrum or the other.
@@notlengthy Take it from women...most men are not emotionally available.
BIG FACTS!
Matthew seems to have a deeper insight on human relational behaviour. He takes into account real world situations. Sadia seems to stay on the surface. She identifies some behaviours but attributes negative or/and superficial intentions and believes it's a majority when it's not.
It seems very clear that her client base are primarily highly successful men, looking for a specific type. Vs Matthew seems to know more of the common people in the US and Europe.
She's an actual medical doc so that's pretty clinical assessment. He's more counselor like. Encouraging mentor like. I ❤ them both.
@@marthacvd She is an example of how a academic knowledge can mean very little when it's not applied properly. Her analyses just don't seem to apply to the real world. She is using a very narrow sample of a particular group to apply her theories to everyone. As Matthew accurately pointed out that just isn't the case for most people.
@@marthacvdactually modern medical doctors are trained to recognize illness and their symptoms not health and prosperity. so yeah they complete each others perspectives well
@@kedakaiyou have no idea what you are talking about
Mathew comes from a place of deep and mature empath and resolving and giving a true view from all angles!!! Love that!😊
I really like Sadia and tried listening to Matthew in the past but I feel he talks so much I loose the point and also talkes about the problem but there's no solution at the end. Sadia for me hits the nail on the head each time. I'm 'old school' maybe that's why. She's faster at noticing the actual problem, at least for me I get her point, and it feels more relatable to how I feel the dating is at the moment. I feel she's trying to help us girls and make us not feel guilty for once. ❤
Absolutely! You've conveyed this brilliantly.
Most on here seem to be enamoured with the chap - but two minutes into not-answering a question, he's talking about pizza!
Sadia is super-incisive - like the Jordan Peterson of this arena - & people assume it's 'cookie-cutter' because she's so quick off the mark - & precise!
Couldn't disagree more! Matthew is far more in tune with both sexes behaviours he makes total sense and realises everyone is different Sadia paints everyone the same and I'm very shocked tbh that she is seen as a "professional"
I 100% agree with you@@kellyallen2040
I'm shocked that we have to tear one down over the other rather than our down our biases and listen to both with an open mind and heart.
@@zinedinezidane4771 Sadia presents such a toxic version of reality, it's understandable how normal people are put off by that
Great episode! I love Sadia’s honesty and vulnerability. I really don’t get all the criticism towards her. You don’t have to agree with her (or anyone for that matter) but she is still wonderful and insightful. Both of them are really helpful… and that’s the whole point… it’s not a competition or a judging contest.
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Big thanks for watching! I appreciate your support! 💯🙏🙌
I think a lot of people are prejudiced by her looks.
You can't look like that _and_ still be wise & authentic.
I agree. She gets a lot of criticism when she is genuinely trying to ask questions to understand that individual’s perspective.
I would have thought Matthew is capable of choosing different words for “the vast majority/minority aren’t like that”.
He basically said Sadia was wrong.
That is Sadias experience based upon the people she works with.
Both can be right.
He put his experience superior to hers.
He could have said “in the demographic that I mostly interact with, it has been a different story”.
True
Thank goodness Matthew is speaking reality into the misguided assumptions voiced here.
Exactly how I felt! So thankful he was there to shut a lot of those harmful and incorrect assumptions down.
What misguided assumptions
What are you on about ?
Sadia is on point with everything shes so graceful and beautiful with her delivery . I guess only the insecure can see what ur seeing .
Interested to know what you think is misguided on Sadia’s points? I thought she was spot on.
Your name implies that you are a woman. In which case, I understand your point of view especially as a woman myself. On the other hand, Sadie mostly works with extremely high income men with different issues. Both matter.
Hey, it sounds like you're looking for some signs! If someone loves you, they might show it by being there for you, listening, and supporting you through good times and bad. Remember, actions often speak louder than words!
Matthew Hussey is so incredible with the way he sees things with so much compassion especially when it comes to women, he really understands where we are coming from without giving any advice that would lead to toxic behaviour from men or women. Sorry Sadia and Lewis but Matthew has absolutely won this conversion
It's not a contest.
I like the fact Lewis did this interview with 2 people and he is so well prepared, loved this interview!
Big thanks for watching! I appreciate your support! 💯🙏🙌
Sadia describes the modern day dating culture so accurately 💯
From the red pill perspective.
@@happilydivorced3235 From a realistic perspective, not sugar coated to sound fluffy and idealistic. Alot of people like to be spoonfed sugar tho.
Sadia makes an amazing, spot-on point here in the last minute about how someone defaults to their vices when they’re not being their true self to the ppl around them!!
Thank you to both of these relationship coaches and Lewis for putting this discussion group together!! ✨💗🙏
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Sadia is absolutely breathtaking. Beautiful on the inside and the outside I absolutely love her.
Love Sadia- exceptional beauty and exceptional brains and quick to the diagnosis
That may not make her a coach who really understands most women.
@@frankG335she understands me 🤷🏻♀️
@@kateouyang6195 judging by her opinions on women, that's not something to be pleased with
Sadia really explains ideas so clearly and the depth of her analysis and logic is impressive. I almost have to always keep skipping forward to her parts only..
Yes. She’s interested in helping, not dumping cliche after modern cliche.
I think women and men like personality more then looks at the end of the day. The whole best friend thing makes a big difference
Both are important. You need to have attraction to their looks and personality, but ultimately without similar values and goals - the relationship will fall apart.
Makes a difference how?
@@frankG335 it helps with these toxic people and gender roles. I don’t know what some of these people are trying to do out here
That is a nice sentiment and would be a great aspiration. Unfortunately if you look at dating app data, women swipe left on men the most and only after a few seconds spent on the profile so looks are very important to them. Men swipe right the most so they seem to be more tolerant of looks or appearance. It's fascinating to look at. I think both genders want someone attractive but there are definitely differing degrees of what constitutes "attractive" between men and women. I agree with your intent, looks only take you so far.
I love that we get to hear from both Matthew and Sadia, a man and a woman, sharing their experiences on both men and women. It is not a competition between the sexes. Over the years, I have learned to extend my compassion to men the same way I do for my girls. And eventhough men are harder to understand for me, because I am not one, I try to see them as human first, that usually helps.
Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂
Not true. I’m an independent women who is successful and I value and look for connection. I don’t do hookups. Emotional connection needs to there be first for else next. Too many men on the app put low effort.
People are on the app because of low effort. Best to meet through others.
@@zeynand4039or meet people out in the real world by travelling, going 2 different places,trying new activities because most guys on dating apps are low effort men and IF they were high quilty they would leave their house and approach women in real life.
Agreed
If you are on the app that indicates low effort. That's the purpose of apps make things easy.
It is weird to understand but men don’t appreciate women that come easy to them. If you are putting yourself on a shelf for them to easily come to you (app) they will subconsciously think there is something wrong with you, as if you truly valued yourself you would be making yourself that available. I learnt from that lesson
Lovely how Sadia was open about her own experiences and patterns.
"Matthew and Sadia nailed it! Recognizing and acting on red flags save un called for heartaches. Understanding our worth and avoiding toxic patterns are under rated for sure. key to healthier relationships.
Thank you for tuning in! :)
I had dated someone who was emotionally unavailable, to no fault of his own due to his upbringing. As a child he had to grow up fast, taking care of both his chronically ill parents therefore he didn’t get his needs met as a child. Although he grew up to be a sweet individual, it’s a classic case of someone only meets you as deep as they’ve met themselves.
Love this. They can only meet you as deep as they have met themselves. Although if I may add. I do think if you are deeper more emotional one and they are open and capable you can teach them to go deeper.
Amazing episode. Matthew’s videos were my go to whilst I was dating. Helped me a lot. I took this statement from him ‘Be ruthless but also full of love”
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
I don’t have interest in men who are shorter because of the way it makes ME feel. There isn’t anything wrong with him, but if I tower over or look down it makes me feel big and dominant. I’m 5’8” and I want to be smaller that’s all there is to it. Basically it makes me feel less attractive to be taller. Just a feeling.
hey there - I'm a 5'11 woman and honestly it attracts the right height men, because shorties are scared off. Tall is beautiful, and you get the best view at concerts, plus clothes look better on us! We don't need to be loud and obnoxious to be noticed. Hope you get to a point where you enjoy and embrace what the Universe gave you)
I am six feet two inches tall and my height generally intimidates men. However I worked with a fellow geologist who was only a little over five feet tall and he was not the least bit intimidated. He and another colleague, who was female and only four feet 10 inches tall, were some of the most secure and centered individuals that I have ever met. Oddly enough, I found that I did not like dating men that were a lot taller than I was. I prefer a man who is roughly the same height or as close to the same as we can make it with one of us wearing slightly higher heels than the other. There is something very comfortable about being able to just look eye-to-eye with a significant other.
Naw you’re just insecure, time to man up lady (I’m joking).
@@karamlevi Yes, and the reality is if someone is really compatible with a member of the opposite sex, any difference in height is likely to become far less important. It is much harder to find someone who shares the same values and who is psychologically compatible and who shares the same interests than it is to find someone who is the right height, even if you are very tall or very short.
Nah, nothing’s wrong with you. It’s just ALL men should be at “least” 6’1 . Just kidding, but wouldn’t it be nice?!
Btw, I’m also 5’8 I miss wearing hi-heels. I don’t wear them Bc I don’t want to tower over most men of average height. It just makes “me” feel strange
As a woman, when I hear what they are NOT saying but reading cues, Sadia comes across as a woman who has her own relationship issues but giving out advice ironically . Matthew appears to be genuine where he had lived the issues and landed a stable relationship /marriage by his posture and choice of words. Sadia speaks cookie cutter lines but Matthew speaks from grounded wisdom.
Most definitely Sadia has relationship issues, and no real expertise other then “experiences” but doesn’t look like she any better off then the people she is taking about on all these podcasts. Honestly it seems like she is trying to use this podcasts to reel in her next relationship.
Yes, I’ve been semi-following Sadie for about 6 mos. Matthew 3 yrs. I do find Matthew’s advice & expertise comes from experience & I believe he has researched many avenues for his information to use to pull from when handing out advice. I'm not trying to criticize Sadie, however in many of her Podcast Ive watched or listened to, I am very intuitive & she isn’t very good at hiding her “personal” emotions. It has felt as if she more hands out her advice from what she's personally going through at that time or experienced herself through her relationships. Rather than being non bias & really digging her heels in & taking more time to find out from other females by talking with them & trying to better understand whats going on from many different economic backgrounds of females & truly what they're feeling, wanting, experiencing out there. Its very obvious to me that she works with predominately all men, from most of the information she offers. I do enjoy listening to a lot of her content. However as far as looking for advice from her as a female, I wouldn't choose her. Thank you for reading this.
incoming women jealous of beautiful girls pretedning to disagree with sadia
@@ChosenMe so basially you agree with her but because shes attractive you need to find flaws...got it
I neither agree nor disagree with this statement however , I had just thought about this concept last night. Thank you so much for reminding me that sometimes people speak from things that they have heard and others speak from things that they have been through 🖤
I get a sense that Sadia’s sample of dating experiences from the people she deals with is quite skewed in one direction while Matthew deals with a more realistic group of women who make up the majority of women.
ABSOLUTELY!
Sadia's take is always biased towards that minority yes. And she doesn't put disclaimers when making statements.. It's very unhealthy!... For everyone ..
Sadia is a psychologist and speaks most time from the perspective that she’s experienced in THAT role. She’s not speaking about personal experiences in most examples.
Or she could be in love with her hypotheses and willing to ignore all data that does not support her pet hypotheses. Unfortunately, many scientists do fall in love with a particular hypothesis and this destroys their impartiality and ability to do good science.
@@alexr6114Exactly. She also uses a lot of red pill rhetoric. As a psychologist myself, there’s a lot of research that’s done in relationships. That makes it easy to know that your few clients do not account for general population. What does data say?
I think i just realized that it is very important that we learn to leverage EQ skills in society. we need A LOT of EQ coach pronto.
If you attract emotional unavailable people, there is an aspect of you that is also emotionally unavailable. It seems like when Sadia speaks for the female perspective, she is projecting her own experiences onto us. As she states, her clientele are predominantly male. Matthew has more experience working with women. Matthew has clearly done the inner work. Compassion for others is an indication of this.
Your biased. Mathew is a great huckster. You’re as biased as Matt.
This is such a terrible opinion. They are both speaking from their perspective. Each valid.
And you hv not information or right to attribute "done inner work" to anyone.
Matthew could just be a smooth talking grifter whilst she is more earnest. Or she could be horrendous and he's an angel. No one knows.
Please do better
Mathew's analogy of your relationship with opportunity is the wisdom we all need to understand self-respect.
I’ve watched matthew for years and love how over the years, he has become so much more grounded and wise.
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
His can’t argue with open ended cliches are working on you 🤓
Sadia Khan & Matthew Hussey is the best combo interview! These two need to be brought together AGAIN.
Matthew truly represents the everyday men and women and makes more sense. Sadia is simply knowledgeable about the rich and their world as that is her only exposure. Good to see them together though
I don't know Matthew to me sounds more like the average person talking where as Sadie sounded like an expert. I did enjoy and appreciate what Matthew was saying but she got to the point more.
@@emilythompson8070 hmm I think the thing with Matthew is that he doesn’t generalize like the point where she was saying men care more about beauty and looks and women care about status and money and he was saying that’s not necessarily true. Women can also care about looks and charm and charisma over just status. The thing is Matthew has Coached both men and women extensively. He started with coaching men before moving on to coaching women so I think he has a more balanced perspective.
@sunnyearly8962 I don't disagree but I also think he was blabbering a bit and sounded less professional than Sadia.
Sadia mentioned many times throughout the interview that "in her experience or the men she's working with" she never generalized and it was Matthew who took Sadia's opinions to generalisation of women. @@sunnyearly8962
Not true. Matthew leans towards women, Sadia leans towards men. That's really it
Sadia works with rich guys that chase younger women or too beautiful for them. Hence, they attract sugar babies or gold diggers. These rich men aren’t aware that they are choosing the wrong type of women to create a life with. Sadia doesn’t seem to know the difference either. Her experiences in life and as a coach are limited to this very small sample of the world’s population and her own experiences in Dubai. Matthew works with middle income people and has a stable relationship himself. More experience in a more relatable setting, for the most of us. Also look at the comments of guys supporting Sadia, if the best thing you can say about her is that she is beautiful 👀 do they even see value in her work? Or are they just seeing her as a pretty woman?
I feel the same way
Yeah. It's very predictable.
Biology doesn’t change simply because you want it to. Men fall for beauty the same way women fall for status. In both of their eyes and brains, it’s love and has the same characteristics. So we can’t trivialize one and call the other love. Even sugar babies have options and so generally choose men that can make them laugh and who make them feel safe. I think the 20 something year old with the 70 year old she can barely relate to is super glamorized when it’s the rarity and not the norm. I was with a man 20 years older than me and I truly loved him because he made me feel safe. The world is not black and white and I think people who exhibit such thinking deprive themselves of all the rich information that is present in the gray.
I say all this to say, these rich men choosing young beautiful women, according to biology, are making the most optimal choice. The women will be fertile longer as the man ages, so it’s simple math.
I agree:(
Sadia has some bitter truth for both genders, hard to swallow, especially for women. But also has more fundament on her face than Empire State. How she is looking without make up, that is mistery. And this about Dubai and clients is true. Matthew was excellent.
What I feel they are both missing is that we don’t fall for people (or choose people) consciously. We fall for them and choose them subconsciously.
This is so true. When you find a person, that is nice and available, it doesn't mean you can be with them just because of these factors. Chemistry is important as well.
Maybe without healing, yes.
Yes partly true. But if you have been working on yourself you find that you begin consciously choosing and not leaving it up to your subconscious
That's a trick - don't go for people you fall for.
Gosh this is so unnecessarily painful. Never allow a person to steal your joy, your peace. If they play hard to get for whatever reason true or not, don't pay this person any attention.
Lol.. thats every bar conversation ever.. most weman act like you have to earn their attention.
Saadia sometimes is willing to say the reality of the situation which is not always liked or well received but its a generic truth at times.
Exactly why she's being so hated truth hurts
Very, very insightful. I cried when Lewis spoke about sharing who he was in truth when he first met Martha. And when Matthew said ‘I’m ok’. I have my faults and my virtues and I’m ok’.
She is 100% on point. We have our guards up even before we get in because we know about the likes on social media and dating platforms and and and...
Ive followed Matthew Hussey on and off for around 10 years since his 'Get the Guy' days. Listening to him now it feels as though hes really grown in himself . Hes so considered in his responses and you can feel the wisdom of his experience.
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
I love how Matthew is so real ❤ and authentic , every one can act shallow and shows they’re perfect, it needs courage to be real and honest
I agree with Mathews take more. Sadia doesn’t understand because her clients are mostly rich men
Some would find Matthew’s advice more helpful and some would find Sadia’s advice more helpful. The point of a collaboration is to have a more interesting conversation from including more than one perspective.
Yes. Her advice and opinions are based solely on her personal views, including her upbringing and religion. They have nothing to do with psychology. The entire psychology community opposes everything she represents and has absolutely no respect for her.
Lewis and Matthew should really conduct a background check before giving a platform to someone whose methods are unethical. They might as well have brought in someone from the streets pretending to know about these matters.
@@8._.EarthAngel._.8 wow, that is rude, I think she is lovely and intelligent!
I listen to both of them and I think they're truly experts in that field. Also having two experts exchange ideas and expertise is super valuable. One note: Matthew seems to have a broader view of the topic and takes into account variables.
Matthew always makes the world seem more hopeful……..✨✨ The world is a better place with Matthew ❤️🔥❤️🔥
Making something seem good can be similar to telling fairy tales
@@civildiscourse7626literally unrealistic
Elevated conversation! What registered the most is "full self-acceptance" with embodying that you're actions and energy will speak for you ❤💫
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Matthew is spot on as usual. Women look for men in a very similar way men do
I was here because of Matthew Hussey. However, mad respect for both of you. Thank you so much for bringing them together @lewis
Our pleasure!
@@lewishowesYes, they both are great. And your obvious preference is disrespectful. At least like her thank you comment.
I love how open this conversation was. The three of them are speaking a similar language in a different level, making this video accesible to understand for a wide range of people
Matthew has changed many things in his advice - approach to dating- it was do this to get them to do…. It focused on external source…
Great conversation… Starts with each of us from within…
Thank you for tuning in! :)
What an amazing combo! I loved this conversation! Very insightful. The last part, especially, was mind blowing for me.
Not being vulnerable leads you to living a double life and neither side of it feels aligned to who you really are. That feels exhausting and extremely damaging. It gave me a boost to be more comfortable to opening up and being vulnerable.
Thank you, Sadia, Matthew and Lewis, for making this happen. We need a second episode with you three :)
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1. When people play games they enter a relationship to satisfy their ego rather than to find a real connection.
2. Effective communication is a good way to filter the wrong people.
3. Don't try to impress someone instead try to access a healthy relationship with someone.
4. When you work on yourself your pool does not shrink, it is quiet the opposite, it should make you more compassionate towards others faults.
5. To help others you don't have to have it all worked out.
Gold..Thank you❤
The reason why women are attracted to men who have achieved something in their own life is because those men are confident and secure in themselves and they are not threatened by a woman who has achieved something.
Show me a man who is not successful and I will show you a man who will forever be a user and selfish and then claim he's a victim.
Nah, men can still be competitive and insecure even if they have money, status, or success. And a poor man can have drive, dreams, goals, and have every capability and potential to succeed. It's all about the character of the individual, not a blanket generalization that can paint someone's character by class, education, or worldly success.
BS! Not all men are competitive. Some just want a peaceful life.
@@hasensaurus that is its own type of success. Don't have to be competitive to have success. Success is ability to provide for oneself, and family if one wants one
@@sharicoburn5475 from my own experience, the more a man has, the more he is aware he can lose everything and return to being nothing. So no, success and competitiveness are good friends.
@@sharicoburn5475 thats sucess, lol? isnt that prerequisite to be alive?
I'm 22, been single my entire life and learning how to love myself thanks to Matthew and how he explains things. Loved this episode!!! It's really a hard pill to swallow when you realise you are emotionally unavailable because the fear of getting hurt always haunts you.
You're very young and if you're working on yourself, it will be amazing when you do connect.
You’re 22… you should’ve been single your entire life! 😅 you’re 22 out of 100! Take your time …
@@Dragonfly_magictarot thanks, I'll definitely do that!
Entire life??😂😂😂😅😅
I’ve been told recently that once you been doing your healing, now you need to heal in a relationship. Like a test run. So if your up front men will take advantage of it or they don’t want to take the chance.
I definitely believe you can do all sorts of healing but don't know how far you've gotten until you stress test it in a relationship. Then you get to reinforce and fine tune the work you did, looking at it from a new angle. It's like book learning vs. field experience lol
This was a great discussion. Lewis did a fantastic job. I think Matthew was just brilliant in his responses, well spoken and explained it beautifully. He isn’t only one sided. He hits the nail on the head every single time and speaks so much truth when it comes to woman and men in dating. So insightful. I love his work. He is so relatable. Saadia also made some really great honest points as well and I found it interesting that her perspective was predominantly from men as her clientele is mostly male. I find when Matthew speaks he does it in a way that you are listening so intently. I have never listened to him without walking way feeling blown away and so grateful for his advice and deep understanding and knowledge of love and life! Matthew Thank you so much for all of the work you do. You help people more than you know. Great job! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
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I appreciate Matthew so much, he does his research and is well informed and insightful. He is one of my favourite public figures bc I feel like he is actually trying to build people up and support their individual growth. Thank you for this Matthew.
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I LOVE this!! Men coach vs women coach side-by-side
It's about your patterning in relationships and how you seek out what is comforting or chaotic. We are creatures of habit and tend to choose others based on our patterning
Sadia attract different people from different background. She is really good for some people. I love your nice, kind and loving voice. You have alot of good qualities. ♥️
Matthew speaks ideally, Sadia Speaks reality.
She is talking about Dubai, not about the world
@@btspavedthewaythefact157wrong. The first comment is right.
Matt is stressed, you can’t read body language… he makes almost zero eye contact with Sadia in any kind of deep meaningful way.
Lots of cliche… he should take out the horoscopes too.
both speaks their reality.. matthew speaks the reality of his observations.. he mostly observes and listens to women
This is such a great idea having both male and female experts together, then we can really squeeze information and really go deep into discussion of two opinions.
Love the 2 for 1! I do relate to what Sadia is saying about sabotaging Green Flags. Unfortunately, this is relatable to how I've behaved and actively working on improving this
I can listen to the three of you together for hours!!! Absolutely love to hear both perspectives and wisdom and Luis with his wise questions and input!
Familiarity doesn't care if something is good or bad , its just that it's known in other words when a person is being loved, he/she can still feel afraid if it's not normal for them ....... Matthew
I didn't have the self-esteem to support a healthy relationship until I did the work on my own wounds.
i was literally wiating for MY two favorite people to show up together !!!! OMGG I am so excited !!!!
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I have never seen Sadia smile so much in an interview. Matthew, you are a great man.
LOVE Howie's vulnerable but HONEST response at 7:55 - not afraid to just answer truthfully
This was a greater podcast, Was confused in the middle with the different energy. But all parties to this talk spoke so from the heart. Found it helpful. Thank you!
The ability to discern and spot red flags is a useful tool and most importantly, helps one learn more about oneself than about the other person. In fact, we can only really know ourself. At the end of the day, someone else's actions has no reflection *whatsoever* on you. There are ways to delay hurt, but some lessons must be learned. In life, you will fall down. It's how you respond to that fall that counts. It's normal to be afraid, it's detrimental to stay there.❤
If you can get past Sadia's looks, you will note a person who is utterly sagacious, authentic & really does speak clearly to the Time we are living in.
Some people regard her input as 'cookie-cutter' - but it's all deeply insightful & tailored properly to the question as-posed.
She carries this clarity on the subject with her, it's what she lives & does - so, quick, effective responses some will interpret as cookie-cutter.
Why do you have to “get past her looks”? Beautiful women are smart… if they are not afraid to show it for fear of threatening many males
@@lindam4259 Completely correct! I myself don't have to - but many people (at least in many Western cultures) do.
I-m always team Hussey, but I love the insights that Ms Kahn is explaining here! Thanks for these videos. It's a delight to watch!
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Ive been in healing for 20 years, no wonder i didnt attract my husband, feeling safe with ones self is most important before attracting my husband.🙏
It was too short, need more of their expert wisdom, thank you Lewis, as always!! Great content.
You're welcome,thank you for tuning in 🧡
I wish these experts would address the subjest of " Compatibility". From all the research the couples that have success and longeivity also have much in common: Common values and common goals.
MH posted exactly a video on this yesterday
Who is MH?
@@Hrt3333Matthew Hussey
@@Hrt3333Matthew Hussey?
Matthew Hussey just posted one yesterday!
The first and most important relationship you should establish is with ourselves, before anyone else. That takes being comfortable with solitude......solitude fosters awareness of your intrinsic value
I’ve seen this woman woman on a couple shows now and it feels as if she’s almost developed all of her opinions and strategies based on a very particular subset of people who are deeply entrenched in social media. As a matchmaker and dating coach myself, I never feel she is speaking to my clients or my viewers. I feel like she’s talking to the Kardashians! Where Matthew and I are talking to a larger cross section of women across America who are all different ages, come from different socio economic levels and have very different values.
It’s like she’s talking to the hot 100 women and the 5% of wealthiest guys in this country. Maybe those are her clients but it doesn’t resonate with me or for people I work with. 🤷🏻♀️
YESSSSSSSSS! Finally someone said it!
I feel like Sadia has some insight only when it comes to the Dubai dating scene. That is very different from what happens in the dating scene all over the world.
Dubai porta potties
From my understanding, Sadia actually engages with with a large American group of men who are disgruntled about the dating scene. I think men are struggling with dating around the world b/c women's standards have changed. There are still a lot of nice and solid women and men that desire relationships but they are having a difficult time finding each other in the mess that is the world dating scene.
Yes women are waking up to their value and stop accepting the bare minimum. Having a woman in your life is a gift. @@Harlemsweetie82
Yes. Her advice and opinions are based solely on her personal views, including her upbringing and religion. They have nothing to do with psychology. The entire psychology community opposes everything she represents and has absolutely no respect for her.
Lewis and Matthew should really conduct a background check before giving a platform to someone whose methods are unethical. They might as well have brought in someone from the streets pretending to know about these matters.
I feel the same way. Matthew Hussey is so human and puts himself in others shoes and she just placates that women are only sexual and give bad behaviors. I honestly just don't know any women like that so it's not a real conversation to talk about a very small percentage as the norm. Over and I try to like Sadia and Everytime I can't finish anything she's on.
Matthew is a true gem and so are you Lewis. Plse stop letting this woman "represent women". Perhaps in Dubai so let's not talk outside of it.
Wow three brilliant minds in the same room… super excited to watch this one
Loved so much the grounded posture of Matthew 🙏 and the wisdom he shared from a place of Compassion. He gives me the feeling of seeing us/the world with a clear vision 💎 Thank you soul much 🙏 it feels good to receive it and to witness his evolution through the years ✨️🙏✨️
I appreciate all 3 of them. Matthew is a buddah kind of he really sees the big picture. Sadia is really up to date she has a very good understanding of relationships of younger generations, it does sound absured like the backup boyfriend example, cheating before getting cheated that's really a thing. I lile the dynamics also between the 3 of them. Thanks guys!
These two experts talking about different experiences of different generations. All point are valid, it’s just Matthew speaks for my generation and Sadia is spot on about generation of my daughter. Very interesting to see those differences, and how everything: trends, social media and life technology shaping society as a whole, its values, standards and philosophies.
Great conversation, I enjoy Sadia and Matthew. But where I disagree is, I think the majority of both men and women are emotionally unavailable/playing games. It is rare to find a man or woman who knows what they want, look for compatibility, and focus on what is good for their partner. They exist, but they are rare.
Playing a game with emotions, being more important, and manufacturing punishment due to ego means you are not ready for any relationship (you’ve got issues), run! This is a two year old.
If you are manufacturing it, yes. Playing games is not a good path forward.
But also, you can have an awareness of power dynamics and not play games. It’s just as bad to bury your head in the sand, dismiss and deny such dynamics, and cling to an overly romanticised worldview to feel better.
I used to get “Hi”
Seriously 🤦🏻♀️ I still think of him. So needed this 15 years ago, better late than never 💪❤️
Everything starts from proper upbringing♥️
As a women she was so spot on! She is so full of wisdom
These two should get together to start matching men and women for dating!
Sadia works with rich men and women in Dubai. Not regular people.