here’s my experience…we are all wired a little differently. Acknowledged. And at the same time, I would say the vast majority of my clients that engage in somatic work, like various forms of breathwork, do quite well. Think 4-6 months of 3-5x/wk in some form of breathwork. You will notice that your nervous system has increasing amounts of time to process what is going on.
Lucky you its just an almost, i actually lost the best relationship because i cant control it sometimes and for the stupidest reasons too(dumb drivers, that kinda stuff), now all i can do is work on that and be hopeful she will realise it wasnt that bad
This entire video just blew my mind and I needed it so bad! Me and my girlfriend love each other so much and sometimes I just get really angry over the stupidest things and often end up saying really mean things that aren't true or necessary and it really sets us back a lot. It really is around feeling tired and low energy and not having a strategy in the moment. Thank you so much I'm definitely subscribing
thank you, our newest videos we’ve put out are a little longer with more depth of deeper understanding of human behaviour. Thank you, and suggestions are welcome 🙏
as best i can guide you in this forum, do yourself and your future self a favour...write down 20 times you've been angry and for each time, write down precisely why you were expressing yourself that way. When you can see that anger is merely an expression of communication, you can understand and appreciate yourself for that style of communication, take the emotional charge off yourself, appreciate yourself more, and be more conscious in the future to select a different form of expression to communicate the same things. BUT you NEED to do the exercise so that you can fully SEE for yourself...and if you're a DJ, maybe make a song from your findings!
This is happening with my current situation also. My anger issues are so uncontrollable my ex is only giving me 1 last chance to fix my anger issues in our relationship. I hope someone can help me what's the best way to really change for the better.
What if I apply all these strategies and do my best but my wife does the complete opposite and refuses to try and then blames me if I do explode after she keeps instigating?
apply all these strategies first, then ask the question. It's like if I suck managing my bank account, then the bank manager shows me a few things to do, and then I say, "well what if they don't work?"...it's a great procrastinator keeping you from taking responsibility. The question by its very nature, is a stall tactic. Also, that may be the case that your wife does the complete opposite, and it may be the case that you explode again...and...you only will think you've wasted your time if you aren't acknowledging where you are learning and growing.
I get angry when my partner doesn't stop talking because she says mean stuff and it triggers me. I always try to avoid it by putting in my headphones and when I do, the quarrel continues. When I try to leave the apartment so to avoid getting triggered, she threatens to pack her things and leave. When I move to the other room she follows me to the next one. Then I decide to pay attention and then end up talking back at her thereby making the neighbours hear us. And this is quite embarrassing. Now she's saying she's leaving. Even tho I feel heartbroken and useless, I just have to believe that it is what it is. Sighs.
My problem is at a small problem i got mad to the point that i did something that i regret, i still don't know why i got mad at something so small, i am too immature to have a relationship, after i let my anger out all i feel is guilt to the point i am afraid to talk to her, i love her so much, i just dont know whats wrong with me or my system.
writing. Journal. It helps to separate thoughts from emotions. The more you write, it will most likely begin to change the way you speak, partly because you are getting your knee-jerk language on paper and can speak more honestly and relaxed.
probably the best way to break the loop would be to just see how that aspect of you completely serves you and others at times. when you are able to appreciate that part of the persona and the role it plays, it no longer has an inner charge
that’s rough, i hear ya. There are multiple approaches, yet probably the least tedious is work through the body armour at the beginning to release some of the stored emotion. Here’s a link to a free 20 min class I posted that be helpful for you.
Props to you if your watching this and at least trying to better yourself you only lose when you stop trying❤️
I am quick to anger for the stupidest things and is almost costing me my relationship and I do love my fiancee very much and don't want to loss him.
Same here what we can do 😢
here’s my experience…we are all wired a little differently. Acknowledged. And at the same time, I would say the vast majority of my clients that engage in somatic work, like various forms of breathwork, do quite well. Think 4-6 months of 3-5x/wk in some form of breathwork. You will notice that your nervous system has increasing amounts of time to process what is going on.
Lucky you its just an almost, i actually lost the best relationship because i cant control it sometimes and for the stupidest reasons too(dumb drivers, that kinda stuff), now all i can do is work on that and be hopeful she will realise it wasnt that bad
This entire video just blew my mind and I needed it so bad! Me and my girlfriend love each other so much and sometimes I just get really angry over the stupidest things and often end up saying really mean things that aren't true or necessary and it really sets us back a lot. It really is around feeling tired and low energy and not having a strategy in the moment. Thank you so much I'm definitely subscribing
thank you, our newest videos we’ve put out are a little longer with more depth of deeper understanding of human behaviour. Thank you, and suggestions are welcome 🙏
Wow! Never thought of it that way but it’s true!!! Can’t believe this video has been out for 5 years and barely has any likes let alone views!
Nice work doc, I need help with my anger when challenged! It’s costing me the woman of my dreams!!!!
as best i can guide you in this forum, do yourself and your future self a favour...write down 20 times you've been angry and for each time, write down precisely why you were expressing yourself that way. When you can see that anger is merely an expression of communication, you can understand and appreciate yourself for that style of communication, take the emotional charge off yourself, appreciate yourself more, and be more conscious in the future to select a different form of expression to communicate the same things. BUT you NEED to do the exercise so that you can fully SEE for yourself...and if you're a DJ, maybe make a song from your findings!
This is happening with my current situation also. My anger issues are so uncontrollable my ex is only giving me 1 last chance to fix my anger issues in our relationship. I hope someone can help me what's the best way to really change for the better.
Extremely helpful advice for young generation people like me thank you so much sir i will definitely try this
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Never thought of managing anger this way, thank you so much! I think you just saved my husband from getting an earful 😅
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My boyfriend has Anger issues too much and using his bad language to other people and I need help to fix my boyfriend’s Problem
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What if I apply all these strategies and do my best but my wife does the complete opposite and refuses to try and then blames me if I do explode after she keeps instigating?
apply all these strategies first, then ask the question. It's like if I suck managing my bank account, then the bank manager shows me a few things to do, and then I say, "well what if they don't work?"...it's a great procrastinator keeping you from taking responsibility. The question by its very nature, is a stall tactic. Also, that may be the case that your wife does the complete opposite, and it may be the case that you explode again...and...you only will think you've wasted your time if you aren't acknowledging where you are learning and growing.
Thanks for sharing. Nice video!
Thanks for watching!
Great video thanks for sharing!
I get angry when my partner doesn't stop talking because she says mean stuff and it triggers me.
I always try to avoid it by putting in my headphones and when I do, the quarrel continues.
When I try to leave the apartment so to avoid getting triggered, she threatens to pack her things and leave.
When I move to the other room she follows me to the next one.
Then I decide to pay attention and then end up talking back at her thereby making the neighbours hear us. And this is quite embarrassing.
Now she's saying she's leaving. Even tho I feel heartbroken and useless, I just have to believe that it is what it is.
Sighs.
Update?
I need this
My problem is at a small problem i got mad to the point that i did something that i regret, i still don't know why i got mad at something so small, i am too immature to have a relationship, after i let my anger out all i feel is guilt to the point i am afraid to talk to her, i love her so much, i just dont know whats wrong with me or my system.
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Sometimes i cant control my voice when im in a relationship. Im not doing it consciously but i want to gain a better control on my voice. Any advice?
writing. Journal. It helps to separate thoughts from emotions. The more you write, it will most likely begin to change the way you speak, partly because you are getting your knee-jerk language on paper and can speak more honestly and relaxed.
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What other way to used to control mg anger when I'm in a relationship or at worm
probably the best way to break the loop would be to just see how that aspect of you completely serves you and others at times. when you are able to appreciate that part of the persona and the role it plays, it no longer has an inner charge
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Instructions unclear. Wife has been beat.
that’s rough, i hear ya. There are multiple approaches, yet probably the least tedious is work through the body armour at the beginning to release some of the stored emotion. Here’s a link to a free 20 min class I posted that be helpful for you.
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