How To Control Your Anger - Seneca (Stoicism)
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- In this video we will be talking about The 10 ways to control or anger from the writings of Seneca. Seneca was a Roman statesman and stoic philosopher, who in his book De Ira, offers us tips to prevent and control anger within Stoic philosophy.
So here are 10 tips from Seneca to control your anger -
01. Recognize that anger is destructive
02. Recognize your anger triggers and learn to control them
03. Just wait
04. Use art and music to calm the mind
05. See yourself as an offender
06. Heal rather than punish
07. Choose your friends wisely
08. Don’t seek reasons to be angry
09. Use self-deprecating humor
10. Practice Self-reflection
Seneca was a prominent Roman philosopher and playwright who published several essential works about Stoicism. He counselled Emperor Nero, and thought that anger is a temporary madness, and that even when justified, we should never act on the basis of it because it affects our sanity. Seneca wrote a book specifically on anger called “De Ira” which defines and explains anger within the context of Stoic philosophy, and offers advice on how to prevent and control anger and that’s why in this video we are going to look at 10 ways we can control our anger from the teachings of Seneca.
Stoicism is a school of Hellenistic philosophy founded by Zeno of Citium in Athens in the early 3rd century BC. Even though it is over 2000 years old, more and more people are discovering how Stoicism is not only relevant to modern times, but can be applied in very simple, yet strong ways.
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@J J Fight or Flight.
While irrational anger is deserved to be controlled there are situations and times when one needs to be angry instead of becoming passive spectators of some ills being carried out.
Anger can motivate also to something creative work and many a great creative works has on its back an angry past of the creators out of victim of deprivation and exploitations.
Even God gets angry or act upon his anger from time to time. Us mortals just need to know when and where to unleashed it and who it will fall to. Good video though.
Neron got very angry with Seneca and told him to commit suicide. Also Petronius got the same punishment.
He mean let it go,surrender I think to destroy anger because its wickedness has a double meaning in our time.
If you want to stop getting angry then you need to stop all thoughts of how you believe others SHOULD behave.
I only care how people behave when they're directly attackingme, then I just move on and say until you learn how to behave properly and understand the word self-respect self-esteem and self-worth of another human we really don't have much to talk about
@@viceroybear6298 so your a selfish piece of shit
This is so true. “Should” only exists in our heads, we have to live in the real world
thisisbob1001 so you don’t get angry when a sibling tells you to go die in a fire or perhaps to rot in hell, your friends talk shit about you behind your back, you couldn’t possible know more than me cuz I’ve been alive longer than you ( personal favorite) etc. What you’re saying isn’t practical at all because your world view dictates your expectation of others based on societal standards and not everyone is on that bandwagon.
So I should stop believing its not okay for someone to hit a child? And shouldn't be angry about it?what....oh bob.
Anger is damaging I'm recovering from anger issues. I tend to bottle things up a lot, so when I burst I burst and make sure I completely hurt whoever my anger is directed towards. I thought that was power but I realized calmness is true power. And people hate it when you're calm because they don't know what is what. These days I try to use negative emotions as a fuel to do positive things. e.g when I remember something that makes me angry and can't get it out of my mind, I clean my room or do any physical activity that is productive to instill order in my mind and emotional system.
Edit: Thank You guys all for the for the support. It's crazy because we are so apart but so close. My heart has been touched. For those who are still battling with this very intense emotion(energy) you can overcome it. I am not perfect but my anger has simmered a lot. I wish I could reply to each comment.
@Neal Chestnut 😆 No thanks...
That’s wonderful!!! Thanks for sharing 😉
I can’t control my anger because of the slow wifi, the lag, and my annoying little brother!
can you tell me what other practices you do ,i do productive things and still irritated or angry by people
Powerful words. Thanks for sharing! Appreciate ya.
“You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”
-Marcus Aurelius
We can anticipate how our behavior triggers outside events. The more impact one has the more one can anticipate outsiders seeking to destruct.
@Poose McPoose: LOL!!!😅
Marcus Aurelius may have had power over his mind. I do not. Learning to accept that reality is my power. Marcus Aurelius was delusional. Look around.
Yeah I'd never get over the fact that if my future was in the hands of total fools, there's no way in hell I'd ever not be pissed at that fact that we cannot control the outside world. In my opinion I'd think to not lash out is to allow bullshit the perpetuate. Better to be pissed off than to be complicit in the face of unacceptable behavior. Anger can be used as an energy source, to push one through any obstacle. So in my case I've found it to be the opposite of Marcus's quote. Because I come off strong, I less frequently have to deal with situations that would otherwise anger me anyway, as people can see you arnt here to play, and theyll get out of your way. A rather constructive way other than punching and kicking and screaming, unless that is required.
It’s lovely what you say
*_Stoicism is one of the rare ways of thinking_* that has actually CHANGED MY LIFE
It is something isn't it?
yes sir!
It’s probably rare because a lot of people nowadays lack the emotional intelligence to use it. Which is probably why mental illnesses has increased in the last decade(atleast according to articles that I had read).
Consider exploring the sufi philosophy, your game will be upgraded x100
It's rare because it is common sense. Something we humans aren't always very good at. So simple yet so difficult. It has changed me too. Even if I only soak up 1% it still changes something in me😊
"Should not surround yourself with people that provokes you from getting angry"
I live with them.
same! 🙄
same! 🙄
My roommate and his boyfriend piss me off so much.. I’m stuck in this lease for 7 more months.. 😓
“Any person capable of angering you becomes your master; he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him.”
-Epictetus
@@jorgeiv804 thank you, your quote did more for me than this stupid video
Represing anger is not the solution. Allowing anger to be, without acting on it, is the best way i have found so far. You can feel your emotions as advicers, but only you take the final decision.
yes very true. its also understanding yourself and recognizing what triggers you. I always think when we allow other people or things to trigger us, we are handing power over to them. So its important to learn how to manage yourself and liberate yourself from stress and being triggered every now and then. :)
I like this, good advice. Thanks
Yes! I love this. I have been practicing so much with allowing my emotions to MOVE through me, not settle. It becomes a problem when it settles. Allowing my emotions to move through me while still acknowledging it allows me to then analyze after and think more logically about why I was feeling that way and how to either prevent or guide myself through it if it happens again!
I completely agree... I find so much wrong with this video, that I don't know where to begin to rip it to pieces.
@@claudi010778 There's nothing to rip into pieces. Op's comment whether knowingly or unknowingly said the same crap the video said. Except in a reductionist way...
Just wait and don’t react. The anger is fueled by impulse.
Ok this sounds more reasonable, because some other comments suggested that you shouldn't expect people to be nice but when someone's physical security is at risk I guess that something should be done. Like people with domestic violence maybe should deffends escape and not accept such behavior.
It bottles up
DO NOTHING
Thank you don’t react wait those are golden words
I agree Anger is temporary madness, anger is slavery.
I think Anger frees you from slavery. Those who never get angry tend to be slaves for others.
@@GospelOfTimothy Who angers you controls you.
@mena seven I wonder if God would agree. Many Bible passages give Clues to how man and his actions angers God. Do you think man is controlling God? Although I agree that men should not keep their anger bottled up, they should use their anger to motivate them to purchase military style weapons, train how to use them and join a militia. The reason why so many people in the Army commit suicide, is the army lies to our soldiers telling them about al-Qaeda in Iraq, babies being killed in incubators, 911 lies and weapons of mass destruction to get our soldiers angry enough to fight and drop bombs on villages of women and children. There is no free speech in the military so our soldiers can't learn how they were lied to and manipulated. When they get out of the service they learn the truth about the lies and commit suicide. This is why it's important to reach these soldiers and let them know that even though they fought for Satan's War, they can repent and fight as a soldier for Christ. The Bible says to helped Christ carry his cross. The devil tried to change the meaning of cross, into two sticks Crossing each other. But the word "cross" actually means anger. The Bible should be interpreted as saying, help Christ carry his "anger". Now you should be angry that you're enslaved with a job. You should be angry that swimming pool manufacturers kill over a thousand children a year while making 5 billion in profit. Then blaming the parents for the children who drown. You should be angry at bicycle manufacturers that kill children and then point their fingers at parents. Yes children ask for bicycles for Christmas, not knowing they could be killed and seriously injured on them. You probably even have a few bicycle injury stories from when you were a child. Remember them and then get angry. Because children are still being injured and killed and if you're not getting angry and motivated, you're responsible for their deaths.
Anger is a human way of expressing one of the many emotional state perfectly normal - - we are not robot yet - - anger is not violence or aggression - is actually very healthy - calm people are just a big bore
@@GospelOfTimothy Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms-to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.
-Viktor Frankl
Blaming others for your problems is a complete waste of time. When you do that, you don't learn anything. You can't grow and you can't mature. Thus you can't make your life better.
I hate getting angry. I've found that the moment I give in to expressing my anger it's like a wild animal escaped from its cage. I have control so long as I keep the cage door closed but if I open it just a little, to let off a little steam, it will often bust loose and escape and it's very hard, at that point, to contain. It's better for me to simply smile and walk away.
I totally feel the same I ended up hurting myself by running into the street and getting scabs on my legs and arms just because I couldn’t ignore my sister getting mad and having her tantrum
When I used to get angry I felt like my brain was gonna explode. But I took time to control it by thinking before I get angry.
I just stop, because I know that it is not right.
well... thats what you get for caging your emotions. Not unlike an angry caged animal ... you will see once you get rid of the cage... the animal tends to not be so angry anymore overall!
@Bas Wenmakers thank you. That actually helped
I could remember several years ago I suffered from severe depression and mental disorder. I was addicted to illicit pills, alcohol, and smoking until I was recommended for psilocybin mushroom treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly I'm 8 years clean now. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against anxiety and depression.
To be honest, mushrooms are one of the most amazing things on the planet and it is natural, they serve in many ways not only for mental related issues.
Can you help me with a reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. It is very hard to get a reliable source here in New Zealand. Really need!
Yes, Sporeville. I had the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction... Mushrooms definitely made a huge difference to why I'm clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He's 59 & has many mental health issues plus probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD knows if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on Instagram?
I was about to send a heated message to my half brother. Then I came to TH-cam and this popped up. My angry scale was 90/100. This video helped out.
"Anger is like a hot coal. We can't hold onto it for too long without damaging ourselves."
Edit: "Anything that begins in Anger, ends in shame."
Ok PRINCES.
Ah but if you juggle the coal in your hands you can keep it until it burns away completely.
"Anything that begins in anger ends in shame" I have just recently discovered this. It doesn't matter if the anger is "justified" (whatever that means); actions that manifest from it end in a distancing from that for which we strive.
@@VagabondofRandom Unless you bury it, the heat may be missing but the coal remains.
@@parrotshootist3004 not if it is ash in the wind
"We shouldn't control anger, but destroy it entirely..."
"10 ways we can control our anger."
Its impossible to destroy something that is naturally in us.
lol
A lot of things are natural in us, when it comes to anger the idea is to destroy it (e.i. 10 steps) before it gets out of hand and harm yourself and others.
@@guillermochavez2170 you can't destroy anger , only control it.
Anger is also powerful emotion
Music + cleaning the room or the house . Is another good way to leave the anger
😁🙌🏽❤️🙌🏽❤️😁
In a controlled environment clean Your locker box reorganize Your Belongings
So remain quiet, patient and be strategically vengeful.
Lol, yes!
@Bas Wenmakers I read this in a Darth Vader voice
practising not to get triggered is the key :)
@@labornurse lol i was thinking nine tails
I just tell myself, wait for a while and just let it pass, If you act on it you will regret it. Almost 100% of the time I appreciate that I wanted . It really confirms the believe that waiting is best . So the more you practice waiting the easier it becomes to convince your brain to wait.
Easy to say when people get upset they can't wait 😝
I am in general a kind and caring soul, but have always had problems with a quick temper. I find the strategies that are suggested here to be effective. At least for myself ....especially preparing your mind whenever possible before the potential event that may cause anger and catching it quickly, and secondly and I emphasize this part...keep your damn mouth shut until you have calmed down. Just don't talk while angry and you won't say something you will regret.
10 Ways to Manage Anger According to Seneca:
1. Recognise that Anger is Destructive - anger makes you a slave, anger cannot be slowed down, anger is contagious
2. Recognise Your Anger Triggers and Learn to Control Them - be mindful, being prepared helps you manage it better
3. Just Wait
4. Use Art and Music to Calm the Mind
5. See Yourself as an Offender - an unjustified estimate of our own worth makes us prone to anger
6. Heal Rather than Punish - we always feel anger longer than we feel hurt
7. Choose Your Friends Wisely - and resist the urge to be curious if you want to keep your peace of mind
8. Don't Seek Reasons to be Angry - practice negative visualization
9. Use Self-deprecating Humor - Cato's humourous response to the insult of being spit on
10. Practice Self-reflection - reflect on your character and actions, keep an anger journal, identify patterns of behaviour and plan coping strategies
Anger is a gift. Learn to control it and use it as a tool to get things done. If left unchecked, it grows and becomes rage, which is harder to control.
I'm glad somebody said it, cuz damn it's been a true benefit when I have lack of motivation/determination. It's a great tool once understood and controlled
Real shit 💯
Anger is fuel needed to arrive at a better place. Rage is what happens when that fuel is lit on fire and explodes burning everything around it and turning it into ashes and toxic fumes that suffocate the possibility of reaching that better place.
@@docgillygun9531 So succinct!
Wrong. Anger is a curse, not a gift, and what you speak of is "negative drive". Negative drive is always inferior to positive drive, because negative and positive driving motivations will both lead to the desired outcome, except negative drive brings with it frustration, misery, an inability to enjoy the moment, and a likeliness to bring down others. No emotion has brought more pain and suffering into this world than anger and all of its minions, and it is not even very good at what it is intended for (prompting action). It is one of the few emotions which is genuinely a bug, not a feature. I agree with Seneca.
I get angry at people who are interfering with my tranquility in life. And my anger helps them realize they need to be more aware of their surroundings.
My anger is justified because I only get angry at things that cause problems.
I get angry at people who break and hurt people for fun.
And that will never change.
NickVanos yup I feel you on that. I do my best to always stay calm and happy , it takes a lot to upset me but once I get mad the anger and adrenaline just take over and I lose all control. Now a days If something or someone bothers me I’ll tell them straight to their face 1st just so I don’t let it build up to the point where I snap and lose all control , cause then it’s game over...for them 😛 lol
There’s a difference between anger and assertiveness.
Anger involves a loss of control, or bullying as a way to assert dominance.
Assertiveness is controlled and measured. It understands the position of the other person.
Great. Continue in your ignorance then. Continue to hurt others.
@@twiznizzlenore7822 No shit Sherlock. The Buddha rid himself of lust hate and delusion. Now who's smarter, the Buddha or Freud who said you could not rid yourself of emotion?
@@crookedpaths6612 Blablabl bla bla
Being ancient, and thus the last generation in my country to be routinely taught Latin and ancient Greek, I read Seneca at school. His wisdom is amazing, as was his early insights into the human mind, despite not knowing a thing about how the brain has evolved. Marcus Aurelius had a similar insight into our strengths and animalistic weaknesses. Thanks for a well presented summation.
Anger is an important emotion when needed. Control your emotions by purposeful thinking and living. Do by your heart when it’s compassionate. Do by your word when it is true.
Really, really, I state, the implementation of this advice immediately in my own life shall surely save my life.
I found as I’ve gotten older anger drives from an accumulation of bothersome situations that weren’t properly addressed or dealt with.. then the boil over affect happens. I personally do not believe anger is a spontaneous emotion, but a inadequate ability to address personal conflict without being able to express it properly. “I’m mad because you peed on my shoes, but I’m angry because I don’t know how to deal with this situation…” resulting in me reverting to primal emotional instincts.
The worst thing that can accompany anger is pride about being angry. I decided to never ever be angry again, it hurts me primarily. I serve people, as long as I see fit and necessary, but when they cross the line I just say no. And I say it calmly with a lot of confidence. This has helped me a lot with anger management, because people tend to get comfortable when you're trying to help them out and that used to set me on fire, the audacity, the injustice, cruelty and selfishness that people show when you help them... But now I just say no. Sometimes I justify it shortly sometimes I just say , I don't want to, it depends. But no is no. I used to think that saying no is cruel, it turns out that cruelty is when you "spoil" people with serving each one of their desires.You hurt them, and you hurt yourself too. Also one needs to remember, that choosing peace in tough situations is like being your own best friend. You know you will never ever add up to it... And the more vile people are the more stoic and forgiving and also firm and assistive you need to become.
Among the handful of my regretful actions I look back on, anger is often at the core of those. That said, I can't quite seem to let go of it for the fact that (for me, personally) it can also be useful. Gotta say that a touch of anger channelled at the right time just gets things done for me. Problem is, it can't be moderately or predictably tapped into. It has a life of it's own, no different than an electrical current, tornado, or any other force of nature
Thank you! Anger runs in my family, my father is the one who taught us (my sister’s & I) to be so angry & access that emotion so quickly. It’s hard. I decided to fully work on it about two years ago, so thank you for this video. I’m sure everyone else with anger issues appreciate this as well🙏🏼
If a person doesn't express their anger and rage continually and compromises then that can effect and damage a person's health. It can cause depression as it remains suppressed. Catharsis can be a good therapyfor your all round well being.
U r the most beautiful angry person i have seen!
Stefani Barrett
I hope you can manage it
Righteous anger is an important distinction to understand when you feel anger. You cannot rid yourself of a basic emotion and therefore the only solution is to harness its potential for good.
This video just seems to be demonising a natural and fundimental emotion. And one very much needed in our day an age to make a change. Everyone's fucking tolerating and being calm in the face of evil. This guy keeps giving anger loads of different names and attachments.
Common anger triggers... 😂 Literally tryna brainwash people to not feel how we are supposed to about the real world and making people believe in this nonsense.
@@zionsky3342 Do you really believe acting in anger is the way to change anything for the better? If it was, the world would be a better place already, since lots of what we do is under the tirany of anger and it's many forms.
@@dudanunesbleff what the fuck are you talking about? Do you have any idea the rights you have which were faught for? Fuck off you fucking simple minded phrasic moron.
@@dudanunesbleff "acting in anger" spoken like a true ncp 🤣🎭
I’ve come such a long way.. but when I’m mad, I’m MAD and I hate that characteristic about me because me emotions at that moment arent ME.
It’s me in that moment, but when I’m good.. I’m good. Nobody ever chooses to see the good though. Or stop and think why or what made me this way, we all got a story. People just don’t be born mad at the universe lol.
Praying for better days
What I’ve learned about anger is that it is only the top of the iceberg…there are other underlying emotions like for example: humiliation,fear,frustration etc. Next time you get angry pay attention to other underlying emotions. Anger allowed me to identify those hidden emotions that need healing and are usually connected to childhood trauma. In other words anger is trying to tell you that there’s something wrong. Also pay attention to the thoughts you have while you’re angry.
Are you educated?
Uneducated people often have serious anger issues
Another anger trigger is when an ad comes up mid video
good one. :) you can install an extention on google chrome to block ads.
@@MeenaAdnani how?
the Grammerly one is the worse.. pretty sure Senaca would have issues with it if son was still alive.
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I appreciate the stoic philosophy.. one trick I learned from Paramahansa Yogananda is to train your mind to hear the sound of a peaceful river stream before you react or speak upon provocation..it changes everything!
I’d argue that anger, when properly controlled and funneled, is one of the most powerful and useful drives to action available. It is wrath and hatred that should be eliminated.
Anger destroys unskilled behavior and mental hangups, given the anger is allowed to bloom fully and wash over one's body and mind. The worst thing to do when angry is to THINK about why you're angry.
WHEN PROPERLY USED, CONTROLLED, OR FUNNELED. it's a tool that can be greatly utilized when used with strategy
One correction: more in depth psychological study has proven that acting out angry feelings ( like punching a pillow) magnifies angry feelings like throwing gas on a fire.
Thanks for sharing what you have learned.
And it is kinda obvious aswell.
This a good one. I learn lat
This Seneca guy is really Pissing me OFF!
Same
Saneca says: ....
I say : EAT MY ASS!
😭😭😭😭
LMAO 🤣
I do truly believe that to master your mental health you should keep your teaching about it simple. Because the mind is simple, to comprehend something complex I all always break it down into it's small little ideas. Like a concept on anything, in order to understand it you need to master all the little ideas that make it. This is why I apply stoicism to everything I do.
Thanks for reading people.
Thank you very much for this.
I don't have that of an anger issue, But I need this when I feel like angriness is building up.
This is worth watching again or later. I like how you stressed the importance of writing as therapy.
yes or even drawing or walking in nature helps :)
So happy I found this channel! Thank you for all of your hard work producing this content!
Outstanding recommendations by Seneca. I remember one of my places of employment was next to Great Seneca Highway in Gaithersburg Maryland. I always wondered who Seneca was as a person. Now I know. Thanks goes out especially to the organization that produced this are the useful video clip. Great job!
This video has done things for me. Thank you for distilling this
knowledge into a cohesive body of work. Life changing!
More humans need to absorb philosophy like this 👌🏾
"Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger." Ephesians 4:26 Even the Bible tells us to be angry, just to control it. I heard that God gives us controlled anger as a form of strength to confront wrongs and injustice.
Trash book for dumb people who dont know how to take charge of their own life. Imagine listening to dead old people, musta known something that we dont right?😂🤡
He didn't give me any.
Anger is a feeling one gets from a perceived wrong. The feeling is unpleasant however I understand that I cannot control the feeling but I can control how I choose to manage my feelings of anger. I use belly breathing, express my thoughts and feelings with someone I trust, go exercise etc…. I use tools that will help me cool down. I acknowledge my feelings I no longer Bottle up my emotions. Anger is not a bad thing it’s how you deal with it.
Such a great video on anger thanks for sharing this with us. I look forward to applying this new year to have things be happier for me and others around me.
I definitely need to watch this again. I almost threw something when an ad interrupted an important point. 😅
"We always feel angry longer than we feel hurt" is a good one to remember, very helpful.
And anger really is a "temporary madness"
I found Number 10 quite helpful for me, the reflections told me much about myself and much about the mental-weight I was unconsciously carrying. After consideration of what I control in this world vs. what I don't, much of my triggers dicipated. The anger in my mind has not abated entirely, however it is far more tame and a shadow of its former self
Thank you for the presentation. We could all benefit from less anger. I’am really impressed w the Stoic philosophy. I’ve been watching the Stoic videos on UTube I’ve been taking notes also memorizing Stoic saying which are applicable to me personally.
It's been said, "anger is the greatest motivator", so use it wisely
Anger and FEAR
NOTHING motivates people more
@@GORILLA_PIMP big facts
The supposition to banish angry thoughts seems like being angry at angry thoughts. Perhaps compassion and contemplation are more productive and practical? Anger At racism, inequalities, physical threats etc seems an important emotion. And then how it is used. Or not.
The prison reform bit is 100% spot on. That part really has to happen for this world to actually go forward.
This calmed me. Kudos to me that I've recognised I'm bothered by anger and yet anxious about the future confrontation in my mind. Now I'm a little calmer.
Thank you for sharing. Anger is truly destructive. I’m learning from your sharing. And sharing it with my children.
Thank you, this has impacted my life in a big way.
This is so true 👍
In my last video I spoke about strategies to manage your anger,
Anger if not managed appropriately can put full stop in your life...
😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨some insightful tips on anger. Thank you.😶🌫️😶🌫️😶🌫️😶🌫️👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
I wish I had watched this video before. Thanks a lot, I learned so much from this video and I will become more aware of how to control my frustration in the future.
Two thing I have learnt is when you feel annoyed you will get anger easier and so much anger come from annoyance and some are come form disdain
How to deal with anger,annoyance and disdain are " always know that the world will not go along with your will" ; "always know anger is fire ; annoyance is fire ; disdain is heat and you are fuel or the man who use the fire"
Most of the time, the root of the anger is a void in the person that someone triggered ( All going back to Childhood). The more sense of self and whole one becomes, the less anger one experiences, internally and externally.
People complain about the algorithm of TH-cam but this just popped up on my feed and so glad it did. Really enjoy the channel thank you.
I am watching at 4:27 in the morning... I will listen to this. I hope it will have a great impact on me. I to have anger issues diagnosed with ASPD. I hope I can find ways to control my tantrums with this knowledge.
~anger can be used to pull yourself out of depression and turn it into motivation.
1 Love from Boise Idaho these videos are exactly what I need to get me back on track in life!
Happy you liked it....do subscribe for more such videos
Abel...maybe with rap? Geez.n
Entertaining vid. It seems to me that our reaction to the chemical process in our body we call anger is the real problem. Anger isn't evil in itself. It just is. Sometimes anger drives people to great art and music while seeking to manage it. Anger acted upon rashly and immediately is evil.
There are times, for various reasons, that I can become very angry. Sometimes it's frustration with my own limitations, sometimes it's just because I need to eat. Either way, as a kid, I put WAY too many holes in walls and destroyed lots of material possessions.
One way I've found to release the anger in a less-than-destructive way is to grab my favorite claw hammer and head out to the wood shed. If I just wail away on a round of firewood for about 30 seconds, I can let the anger out without hurting anyone and most times, I get a fresh bundle of kindling for my fireplace. It's an extreme level of violence in a controlled setting. It's therapy.✌️😎
Good stuff. I was impressed with the content & quality of the video. Good source of info for a starting off point for a paper on exploring the philosophical aspects of anger. The advice is very useful as well.
Anger in itself is not necessarily a bad thing. It's just one emotion among many we as humans experience, and is often warranted. Anger can be a great motivator when channeled towards positive outcomes. The problem lies in the way so many people process their anger, where that anger gets directed and how it is expressed.
This is an amazing video. Thank you.
Thank you for making this video. It makes me realized.
"Anger is an energy!"
"When I see red, I lose my super-powers." - Policeman Dave Speed (Super Fuzz)
I was about 2-3 years old when I learned this.
Totally LOVE this video, i have learned these things and how to work with it. I have searched for THIS video to show others around me how to use the head, and not the mouth or fists for harm ❤❤. Lovely video and speech 👍🙂.
Anger is destroying my marriage ive watched so many videos on the topic. Thank you to all who make videos like these.
When confronted with “danger” the choice is simple , perish or fight. Fight could be fight or flight. All this happens Instantly.
However under normal circumstances one could try to control his / her anger. Most of the time the problem is that one can not control someone else’s anger. So not always you can be Seneca, you cannot just listen to the music. When you meet Hitler You might have to fight.
also I think making body reactions cerebral is also damaging.
First Last you can only control your own reaction in life . And with me I find the only reason to fight is if your cornered and have to, then let that kill or be killed mentality kick in and you’ll never lose. Anybody can throw a punch , but it takes a real strong person to walk away.
Anger is practical in life threatening situations. The aggression part of it at least. I’m referring to situations our ancestors commonly found themselves in. Being eaten by wild animals and the like.
The problem is that people use the same time-tested reactions in the modern age, where most problems are not literally and directly life threatening. People walk around angry over perceived slights. Something in the subconscious of the average person today senses the equivalent of imminent physical danger in something as simple as a dirty look.
Im so angry right now because of work. co workers and bosses. Thanks to this video. Saved me. Subscribed
great video. anger management is the key to having a happy life and only a few know how to manage it.
Self deprecating humour is the best medicine.
Self defecating humor is even better!
There’s nothing wrong with anger, emotions are messages and sometimes your anger is telling that a boundary is being overstepped. It’s a message telling you to protect yourself, given it’s healthy and not misplaced anger.
@Melisa Osm Hi from Melbourne, Australia! I totally agree with you, we have lots of emotions and we need to express them all. When triggered, in a healthy and balanced manner. Otherwise, if kept bottled up and left to go stale, they can be used incorrectly. If you are angry, then speak. Happy, then laugh, emotional then cry etc. etc. Take care in these uncertain times, catch ya later. (slang for see ya in Australia)
Its perfectly normal to be angry yes but I think the point here is not to hang onto anger to long "like a hot coal" also you choose how you respond to the anger
I see what you are saying and I would say it’s ok to experience the emotion. But I disagree that there is nothing wrong with the emotion. I just feel like that’s a way to justify a negative emotion that might not be able to be controlled by someone. I’m up for a debate.
P.s. I grew up with anger problems , so just know and note that I’m not attacking you 🙂
@@Intelligent_Ministry I don’t think there’s anything bad or wrong about any emotion including anger. As long as it’s processed and expressed in a healthy way and not used as an excuse to hurt others. Emotions are feedback, they show us our internal reality. Sometimes the anger may seem unnecessary but it’s an opportunity to dig and inquire about why it’s there.. sometimes it’s a false story we are telling ourselves that’s causing the anger. Or maybe someone crossed a boundary, so communication is necessary. Either way by identifying why it’s there resolution can be found. I think it’s important to use emotions as information rather then suppress or deny them :)
@@Melisaosm You know... That’s a very great way to put it . I can’t really say too much on that besides I can agree with that standpoint. The only reason I say that the emotion is bad is because if not controlled or taken care of it can cause a lot of harm to either yourself or to others around you . That sort of energy (or any energy on that level) can cause a ripple effect as well. What is a good way that anger could be used?
I had a lot of anger in my life. Now I can do something about it. Most certainly changed my life. I will be free of any anger, now... Thanks.
the most powerful realization i ever had was that when i got triggered i was basically saying i allow other people to control me. Once i realized that i decided i wasn't going to allow that. I am the boss of me and hence my happiness is my responsibility. :)
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That's a good way to live
i feel anger every day but I let it out a little at a time thru sarcasm or working out at the gym. I don't usually let it build up enough to blow. I also laugh every single day. I think that helps balance everything out.
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Awesome, starting a video about anger with ads.
Good sir have your deserved like 😁
Do you know of another way? Please tell us.
@@tomfisher9089 don't have ads at the beginning of the video.
That really makes me angry!
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Brilliantly practical. -Thank you.
Anger is essential part off every person. I learned how to not run from your anger but express it in intelligent and patient way. There is no chance off living and not getting bullied etcetera if you wont use your anger in intelligent out of the box way and target those who deserve it and not hose who you love.
As a musician, I was curious about ancient Rome's culture and music, 2 years later end it up creating a small online business and learning about stoicism haha.
I am singer too . What type of music you produce buddy!
Mentored Emperor Nero:
"How did that work out for ya?"
Nero commanded him to kill himself right? Or am i talking about someone else?
I like your Philosophie of life..
The life is a school..so i learned with your channel..
Thanks for sharing my dear friend
I know that when I get angry I like to grab someone by the throat and hold there head under water. The thought of this is so soothing and comforting.
One moment of anger can turn into a life in prison... I always try to remember this
It is an expensive luxury.don’t you think rage is the Mother if Anger
my anger makes me weak like when i get angry and mad i feel a pure weakness in my arms and feel like they are shaking without my choice and then i feel like my whole body is shaking without my choice😓
That could be because your body is flooding with adrenaline. It’s an ancient, natural reaction, so don’t worry about it. It’s a fight or flight reaction. Adrenaline in the body, if not used to run away from a sabre toothed tiger or fight the tribe trespassing on your territory, will make your muscles feel weak and heavy, bring you out in a cold sweat, gives you the shakes and many other things, even make you feel ill.
Thank you for the helpful video. 🙏❤️
a good video ,thank you ,keep advising people to get better
Anger keeps other angry people off your doorstep. Never getting angry will make you a victim.
I got angry once. Cost me years of my life.
same here. it feels really good to know i am in charge of me.
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it cost me my life
No. Should be known. Being too angry deals with having someone who hurt you when you were very young. I had two horrible older sisters growing up and they are just as bad today. One is indifferent and non communicative. And one is invalidating my emotions. By seeing this I can be brand new with everybody else. And therefore not carrying anger. BUT suppression was not the cure. But enlightment. Amen
This helped me so much with my daughter . She is my mirror . I gotta stay on my Ps and Qs.
I nearly threw my phone across the room because an add came up before the video
How does one diffuse anger when the one trigger, i.e., threats of harm to an individual's family member are made. Is anger ever justified in such circumstance?
in that case, anger is out of the question, because if your family is in danger, it is your duty to defend them, at any cost. anger could be good because it can motivate you to react quickly, but it could also be bad, because it could cause you to use excesive or un necesary force..
i think the wisest move would be to use the right amount of anger, just enough to respond firmly and fairly, but not in a cruel manner.
in any case, violence or not, anger or not, it is still your duty to protect your family, at any cost. so that makes it simple.
Anger is an evolved reaction to threat, to be sure, but mostly in animals...like a dog that has lost control, and whose emotional flooding can even drive a pet to attack anyone, including its owner, in a frenzy. But in social apes such as ourselves, anger most often occurs amongst the group, or worse another group of our species, not another species where we tend to hunt logically for food or fight for protection (where rage may be needed to overcome fear). It is always a poor reaction for humans against humans, as we have evolved a higher thinking part of our brain (the prefrontal cortex) that can come up with a better, more rational solution. It's the part of the brain that holds you back and says "yes your emotional brain wants to bash that bloke, but maybe that's a really bad idea) allowing the rational mind to select a better course of action.
@@Sean_Coyne yes, emotions can be overcome with rationality. when instincts kick in(limbic system..), being rational is way harder. but training and awareness can make it way easier. i think keeping a cool head is essential, in order to quickly and rationally assess the situation. if the situation can safely be de escalated or defused, i should try. but if violence is the only option, i should definatelly respond with cool headed, rational, overwhelming violence. what do u think
Gian Ferretti should only come to this conclusion when his/her life is threaten in real life situation...really threaten
As a Therapist intern and someone who teaches Anger Management class for court-ordered offenders, I have met many individuals that are unable to control their anger. Anger is a human emotion and it is understandable to feel angry at times, but it is not okay to become violent or destructive when angry. If you attack someone who is making you angry you might feel justified to do so, but be ready to get locked up in jail if you can't control yourself. The police will lock you up if you physically attack someone and hurt them or their property; or if you make verifiable threats of harm. If someone has done something that is illegal or harmful towards your family let the police handle it. If you try and take the Law into your own hands and become violent you might find yourself in handcuffs.
I have never screen shot a video so many times. Thank you 😊🙏
These are all great BUT much easier said than done. It’s a life long process to improve my control over anger . One of my triggers is people not doing their job when I’ve done my part ! I have no control and a 3rd party suffers. And when I feel disrespected