The nuance to the Robert Greene scarcity in the Art of seduction is that first you must give the person a taste of you , your greatness , you have to make yourself a presence in the persons day to day and most importantly they have to like you, ….. seduction does not work on someone who does not like you. They have to have had some initial attraction, they must have benefited from your presence, eg felt your love and care ….. or you brought them peace, whatever it is they liked As with human nature, what is there everyday we naturally start to take for granted… we develop a false self of security that it’s there in abundance and it’s not going anywhere… Only then when you’re gone …. And that love and care you gave …. Do they start to miss it and value it because it’s not always going to be around. But you cannot miss something you never had and you don’t miss something you don’t want. Remember the nuance, know the audience you are playing to.
Thank you. Needed this, as I was feeling taken for granted and told my bf let’s take the weekend to ourselves and talk when he’s back in town. Been unsure who should reach out first.
Perfectly said, just started talking to someone and we both felt great physical and emotional attraction from day one, it was overwhelming for us both, he even disappeared for a day, I got crazy and said I wasn't happy that he just disappeared, he got back quickly and now he can go silent sometimes because of his busy schedule but enables to keep checking on me especially if I don't send a good morning message, he panics and sends messages. When I ask if he needs space and wants me to stay away, he says he is just tired and can't interact as much as me but never disappears again and doesn't want me to be gone silent full day as well.😂😂
So true. All of the guys I dated who were obsessed with me, I did nothing to get them to be like that. They genuinely just did it on their own and that’s the best way this should be done. It’s natural and if the chemistry isn’t there then no one got hurt to begin with! 🖤
Be okay with a person not liking you…. Acknowledge it and even point it out to the person, without getting angry at them, Tell them it’s obvious you’re not interested , tell them you will make it easy, it’s okay you don’t like me, wish them the best (no hard feelings because that just hurts your own soul) and walk away…. NB . It’s doesn’t mean you won’t feel hurt, it doesn’t mean you won’t feel sad, we are human and we have feelings, but even though you feel hurt and feel sad, You know you will be okay anyway, you can take care of your own feelings and can self soothe and make yourself feel better It’s not a weakness to show you cared It takes strength to show your heart, and to have that rejected, it takes strength to be okay with it and leave with the mindset you will give it to someone else who does like you
This is so true . I self sabotaged because I got impatient with a guy I realllly liked . He showed he liked me until I got needy 🙁. Now I’m dating a guy who’s super into me almost to the point it seems simpy like just doing too much it doesn’t seem he’s being real and I’m the one taking it slower doing nothing . It’s very true haha 😂
The power of letting go, the power of …just surrender yourself 🎉 Be effortless… who cares about having a relationship 🎉 Put yourself on a pedestal, especially if you are a woman because we tend to underestimate ourselves. Put the price UP 🆙
lol..."You start to do monkey double back flips"...🤣🤣🤣 DON'T DO IT TO YOURSELF. Alex sometimes I come to listen for the funny sandwiched in between the main message...guaranteed to always hit at just the right moment...Love your channel for years 💛
Rather than making videos on what men wants. Pls make videos on how men need to transition because women are the not the same anymore. They are inclined to emotional and financial independence which makes men not very important than who they are. Educate men on what they need to bring to the table. Women love to love men but they love themselves too.
Best video so far of Alex…I love how he is evolving with his content…so true! I definitely agree many times we ruin everything by our “performance” and definitely they pick up on our desperation/fear of losing them. We definitely act differently when we like them vs just wanting to be friends. I’ve been there doing the backflips and spinaroonies lol true connections are never forced they just happen organically true dat Alex ❤
You know you stand on business Alexis, when there is lot of triggered comments. Love the way you are going, you are speaking truth and truth is always disliked, because you're telling people that instead of focusing on doing and impressing people they have to take a look at themselves and most of the people don't like themselves. Doing nothing is exactly how yin healing works. No effort, just gentle sensing of energy resistance and healing opens, energy starts to flow. When in doubt, i always revert back to self and i can see the energy chaos that is happening inside of me and start gently cleaning the trash. People are afraid of doing this, because you will become more magnetic, but also more average in a sense (no participation in drama, no control games).
Am sure there were always observant people who gathered information about what was happening around them even in prehistoric times. Now there is an outlet to share that info
I am so grateful that I found your channel. It helped me to stop this anxious loop of actions that was making the situations worse. Now I can spot the anxious thoughts and they are getting less and less intense. I am getting more secure and more people are approaching me now. So thank you for your tips and tricks. Especially the friendzone tips.
Hi Alex I’m not sure if many people think about this or have many questions about it but could you do a video about men that dislike women? I’ve been associated with a lot of men in my life who have always talked down on women but I don’t understand why they are in a relationship with one if that’s the case. I’d just like to understand on a more phycological level if you have any pointers on it thank you!
that's so true though Al, I get angry when someone's 'into me' for no reason. when i don't like them back...i can feel them perusing me and it's irritating
I feel like this use to backfire on me ! They would say Well you never called me i thought you didnt like me and i was showing you i was interested and you would always postpone our dates and they would move on and i have men say they had kids w/other ppl because i wouldn't do anything that's why they went somewhere else ! And i would ignore them as well i have to really like you in order for me to put effort ! Or somtimes i would lock eyes w/men and its crazy lol
Had that happen too, the more i was without these kind of people, the more transparent their manipulation would appear. These men are like "how dare you not chase after me". I don't like that energy, instant turn off now. Smells of gaslighting, controlling behavior. I used to try to overexplain myself in these scenarios, now i am like "stop attacking my freedom"
It's not fair. The handsome men and women have both genders VYING after them no matter what. That's why they don't have to do "nothing" and people flock to them!
I think his advice is for more anxious styles ppl, i have an avoidant style so idk when to show i care vs feeling like it's doing too much, pushing ppl away or already doing everything naturally Alex is saying. I might be rushing in the beginning but the moment i don't get the same effort lol i back off. Maybe to much
It’s called the dance of Natraj in Hindu mythology I wasn’t going to tell you this until I saw your artist flare check it out these are all the forms your soul goes through before love truly enters your life at least that’s what I believe love always things get easier and easier for you that’s how you know things are changing much love to you
This is my man. He literally wants me to do nothing and he calls, texts, plans, it’s the weirdest thing I’ve ever experienced. It’s like being with a cave man. I’ve had to retrain myself and still can’t get it right.
This is being ungrateful.. in this pookie man era where every man wants sugar mommy and wants princess treatment themselves, you have found a real masculine man, and you’re being masculine while we women are meant to be feminine
@@Sashaa249 😂😂😂🫣🫣🫣 the fact that this is so true. I’m still fighting my old mindset, but thankfully he’s still around. By the grace of God really. Thank you ladies for the reminders. I need to sit my a** down.
🎯🎯🎯🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🤍🤍🤍things just happen organically 💯💯💯 Yes Father Alex, Yesssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss honey❗❗❗💐💐💐 That's how it works. Value doesn't seek but it's sought after 😊☺️🥰😍 that's a whole sermon 🔥🔥🔥🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
I did all the work effort eevrything just 4 this one sided relationship to a dismissivr avoidant who has lied numerously to me cheated and manipulated me....disyance showed me how trashy he is and he needs 2 heal himself
Do you think that if two people once had mutual love for each other that they can have that love again? Even if you broke up and have not seen each other in almost a year?
If you're a woman, show interest in knowing each other. If he likes you, he'll let you know, or it'll be obvious (we're bad actors). If he's spending time with you, you must assume a type of attraction. It can be just sexual or romantic... Just don't try to change the type of attraction he has... this is not crepuscule we are stubborn as hell. That's it. We are simple.
When I did nothing I had results? What the actual f.. What do you mean? When ? How? You mean stop talking too? This might work for women. A female could just look good. I guess you are right. It might be true. Well. I have had a lot of interests when I talked and laughed with others, and it drew attention to me. And interest. Is that doing "nothing"?
The nuance to the Robert Greene scarcity in the Art of seduction is that first you must give the person a taste of you , your greatness , you have to make yourself a presence in the persons day to day and most importantly they have to like you, ….. seduction does not work on someone who does not like you.
They have to have had some initial attraction, they must have benefited from your presence, eg felt your love and care ….. or you brought them peace, whatever it is they liked
As with human nature, what is there everyday we naturally start to take for granted… we develop a false self of security that it’s there in abundance and it’s not going anywhere…
Only then when you’re gone …. And that love and care you gave …. Do they start to miss it and value it because it’s not always going to be around.
But you cannot miss something you never had and you don’t miss something you don’t want.
Remember the nuance, know the audience you are playing to.
Beautifully said. ❤
Thank you for your comment ! It’s magnificent ❤🎉😊
Thank you. Needed this, as I was feeling taken for granted and told my bf let’s take the weekend to ourselves and talk when he’s back in town. Been unsure who should reach out first.
Perfectly said, just started talking to someone and we both felt great physical and emotional attraction from day one, it was overwhelming for us both, he even disappeared for a day, I got crazy and said I wasn't happy that he just disappeared, he got back quickly and now he can go silent sometimes because of his busy schedule but enables to keep checking on me especially if I don't send a good morning message, he panics and sends messages. When I ask if he needs space and wants me to stay away, he says he is just tired and can't interact as much as me but never disappears again and doesn't want me to be gone silent full day as well.😂😂
@@MeghanK-hm4hjjust be sure they never ask you for money. Too many cat fishers out there with that push pull technique
So true. All of the guys I dated who were obsessed with me, I did nothing to get them to be like that. They genuinely just did it on their own and that’s the best way this should be done. It’s natural and if the chemistry isn’t there then no one got hurt to begin with! 🖤
I lose interest once I have to train them like a dog, I want mutual obsession 🤷🏻♀️
This ☝🏾
Amen
✅
Facts
You are telling the truth. Love is organic, no magic spell, no over buying, no forcing, nothing fake. It just happens. ❤❤
Be okay with a person not liking you….
Acknowledge it and even point it out to the person, without getting angry at them,
Tell them it’s obvious you’re not interested , tell them you will make it easy, it’s okay you don’t like me, wish them the best (no hard feelings because that just hurts your own soul) and walk away….
NB . It’s doesn’t mean you won’t feel hurt, it doesn’t mean you won’t feel sad, we are human and we have feelings, but even though you feel hurt and feel sad,
You know you will be okay anyway, you can take care of your own feelings and can self soothe and make yourself feel better
It’s not a weakness to show you cared
It takes strength to show your heart, and to have that rejected, it takes strength to be okay with it and leave with the mindset you will give it to someone else who does like you
🙏🙏🙏
That was beautifully written
I agree & have done exactly that ! I actually felt better afterwards 😂
I have such a hard time finding the line between "doing nothing" and completely ignoring them 🤷🏻♀️😔
Lol
Definitely I ignore them and do nothing now I forget that they are after me lol they gotta remind me now
🤣😭😭😭
Yeah. It's less chaos to just walk away.
As much has been discussed on this channel... Men are 100% worth ignoring.
I AGREE …NO GETTING TOGETHER , NO SEXUAL ACTIVITY .
The internet caused the disconnection
Same here babes, we not Fucking till I got you wrapped around my finger, and for some people that might translate to a ring😂
This is so TRUE 😂 The more you fall back, the better.
This is so true . I self sabotaged because I got impatient with a guy I realllly liked . He showed he liked me until I got needy 🙁. Now I’m dating a guy who’s super into me almost to the point it seems simpy like just doing too much it doesn’t seem he’s being real and I’m the one taking it slower doing nothing . It’s very true haha 😂
The power of letting go, the power of …just surrender yourself 🎉
Be effortless… who cares about having a relationship 🎉
Put yourself on a pedestal, especially if you are a woman because we tend to underestimate ourselves. Put the price UP 🆙
Wow. One of your best videos. If both are attracted, things will develop on their own.
lol..."You start to do monkey double back flips"...🤣🤣🤣 DON'T DO IT TO YOURSELF. Alex sometimes I come to listen for the funny sandwiched in between the main message...guaranteed to always hit at just the right moment...Love your channel for years 💛
Rather than making videos on what men wants. Pls make videos on how men need to transition because women are the not the same anymore. They are inclined to emotional and financial independence which makes men not very important than who they are. Educate men on what they need to bring to the table. Women love to love men but they love themselves too.
Best video so far of Alex…I love how he is evolving with his content…so true! I definitely agree many times we ruin everything by our “performance” and definitely they pick up on our desperation/fear of losing them. We definitely act differently when we like them vs just wanting to be friends. I’ve been there doing the backflips and spinaroonies lol true connections are never forced they just happen organically
true dat Alex ❤
All your videos have been amazing and so informative!!!! You are definitely what us girls needed in our lives 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Not reacting does work
Indeed also pulling away if he is not consistent or not investing on the proper level
I really wear my heart on my sleeve. If I'm happy and like something, I'm doing backflips. Hard to do nothing, but very necessary.
Same. And it hurts to hold back.
@BIGSISTERENERGYRISE Yeah, totally agree. I'm slowly seeing how I have sabotaged myself over the years by rushing. Alex is helping me so much.
“It doesn’t seek it, it is sought** after." 'Seeked' isn't a word, Father Alex.
Lots of his words aren't right, lol!
He speaks more languages than just english....
Calm down. He is wiser than most men
Your knowledge growth is noticeable. Keep going!
One of your best videos. You truly understand the human mind
You know you stand on business Alexis, when there is lot of triggered comments. Love the way you are going, you are speaking truth and truth is always disliked, because you're telling people that instead of focusing on doing and impressing people they have to take a look at themselves and most of the people don't like themselves. Doing nothing is exactly how yin healing works. No effort, just gentle sensing of energy resistance and healing opens, energy starts to flow. When in doubt, i always revert back to self and i can see the energy chaos that is happening inside of me and start gently cleaning the trash. People are afraid of doing this, because you will become more magnetic, but also more average in a sense (no participation in drama, no control games).
Thank you so much Alex !!! Needed to hear this !!!!
So what happens when everybody starts doing …nothing?
Presently😂🤦🏻
Exactly.
😂"They may be like a snake waiting to digest you"
Am sure there were always observant people who gathered information about what was happening around them even in prehistoric times. Now there is an outlet to share that info
Yeah, the prehistoric nerds
❤ father alex
This is on repeat till it sinks in
Prehistoric Alex 😂. Amazing content as always 🙏🏼🙏🏼
🥴🥴🥴I just bought this guy I’m dating some shoes I’m take them back
Lol
😂😂😂
if it's not there...then it's not there. cant make it happen on your own
I've acted desperate before to turn men off and get them to make a decision and decide if they wanna stay or leave
True,.. but it's tiring to play games !
I am so grateful that I found your channel. It helped me to stop this anxious loop of actions that was making the situations worse. Now I can spot the anxious thoughts and they are getting less and less intense. I am getting more secure and more people are approaching me now. So thank you for your tips and tricks. Especially the friendzone tips.
Me too, the ruminating was driving me crazy, his videos are super helpful ❤
Hi Alex I’m not sure if many people think about this or have many questions about it but could you do a video about men that dislike women? I’ve been associated with a lot of men in my life who have always talked down on women but I don’t understand why they are in a relationship with one if that’s the case. I’d just like to understand on a more phycological level if you have any pointers on it thank you!
Because of sex, theyre using women for sex. That's it.
Very good insight once again. Love how you quoted Rumi. 😊❤
Thank you. Beautiful Message. 🔥
Monkey double backflips😂you made my evening 😂😂😂😂🎉
that's so true though Al, I get angry when someone's 'into me' for no reason. when i don't like them back...i can feel them perusing me and it's irritating
Well don't go on a date with someone if you don't like them.
No spinaroonies?? 😄
😂😂😂
😂
🤣🤣
❤ I'm. Not doing anything either just met some one ..and I'm doing nothing. Letting it happen organically good point .❤
Works all the time ❤
Your words and works are beautiful.. ✨ ❤️ from 🇧🇩
Not Seeked Father Alex, the word is sought. 🥂 I love your videos!!!!
❤genuine self love❤❤❤
Right I don’t need anyone to feel Comfortable with myself ?
I feel like this use to backfire on me ! They would say Well you never called me i thought you didnt like me and i was showing you i was interested and you would always postpone our dates and they would move on and i have men say they had kids w/other ppl because i wouldn't do anything that's why they went somewhere else ! And i would ignore them as well i have to really like you in order for me to put effort ! Or somtimes i would lock eyes w/men and its crazy lol
Had that happen too, the more i was without these kind of people, the more transparent their manipulation would appear. These men are like "how dare you not chase after me". I don't like that energy, instant turn off now. Smells of gaslighting, controlling behavior. I used to try to overexplain myself in these scenarios, now i am like "stop attacking my freedom"
Don’t worry it sounds like these men were feminine bc no masculine man does complain! Women do but not masculine men. 😅
I dumped a girl because she was being too cold. I have self respect. I am not horny enough to chase someone who ignores me for ages
@@Franziska1008Complaining makes women masculine
It's not fair. The handsome men and women have both genders VYING after them no matter what. That's why they don't have to do "nothing" and people flock to them!
Even of they are good looking, they will repell others by their attitude.
😂😂😂@chocolatelover1101
You are very talented I love your art !
this video and the Wu Wei video are your best ones. Thank you.
I think his advice is for more anxious styles ppl, i have an avoidant style so idk when to show i care vs feeling like it's doing too much, pushing ppl away or already doing everything naturally Alex is saying. I might be rushing in the beginning but the moment i don't get the same effort lol i back off. Maybe to much
HUSTLE VS FLOW 👌
You should have a podcast on Spotify,it will be fire 🔥
What should I talk about
@@MindfulAttraction2.0THINGS LIKE THISSSS
I like any thing organic 😂
He just mentioned Bhagvad Gita❤️
Had always thought Caesar Milan’s methods apply to children & men😂
Problem today 24 hours access through mobile. We weren't made to date like this
I love that quote!
Not the bull in a China shop😄
I love when you say freakazoid
Nice as always
thank you Alex ❤❤❤❤
It’s called the dance of Natraj in Hindu mythology I wasn’t going to tell you this until I saw your artist flare check it out these are all the forms your soul goes through before love truly enters your life at least that’s what I believe love always things get easier and easier for you that’s how you know things are changing much love to you
I understand all that you are talking I use a lot of what you talks about 😉😉😉😉😉
You’re awesome 👏 ❤ best advice
What if it’s the other way around with guy doing too much and not knowing whether he really likes me or is he obsessed??
This is my man. He literally wants me to do nothing and he calls, texts, plans, it’s the weirdest thing I’ve ever experienced. It’s like being with a cave man. I’ve had to retrain myself and still can’t get it right.
What do you mean weird . Relax in your femininity woman! Let the man be the man
This is being ungrateful.. in this pookie man era where every man wants sugar mommy and wants princess treatment themselves, you have found a real masculine man, and you’re being masculine while we women are meant to be feminine
@@Sashaa249 😂😂😂🫣🫣🫣 the fact that this is so true. I’m still fighting my old mindset, but thankfully he’s still around. By the grace of God really.
Thank you ladies for the reminders. I need to sit my a** down.
🎯🎯🎯🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🤍🤍🤍things just happen organically 💯💯💯
Yes Father Alex, Yesssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss honey❗❗❗💐💐💐 That's how it works. Value doesn't seek but it's sought after 😊☺️🥰😍 that's a whole sermon 🔥🔥🔥🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
I did all the work effort eevrything just 4 this one sided relationship to a dismissivr avoidant who has lied numerously to me cheated and manipulated me....disyance showed me how trashy he is and he needs 2 heal himself
Thank You ❤
Mate you don’t like me I’m gone I could be sobbing you would never know
Love this video
😂Guess i have learned my lesson the hard way after literally a whole year..never again
less is always more
PREACH 👏👏
He not lying😂
But me doing nothing is THE act….
Thank you so much for sharing your Videos??
Omgg!!! Thank youuu
Do you think that if two people once had mutual love for each other that they can have that love again? Even if you broke up and have not seen each other in almost a year?
Sending you a hug and peace ❤
If the love was there once. It’s still there somewhere. As long as both parties are willing to rekindle it. Yes it’s possible
Creepezoid😂
😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣😆😆😆😁😁😁
Human being. Don’t mix me with no animal.
Even when they do do less as a woman
😅😅 quite uplifting really
All the dudes i meet just want the cat
Rather a pre-historic man than the males of today.
If you're a woman, show interest in knowing each other. If he likes you, he'll let you know, or it'll be obvious (we're bad actors).
If he's spending time with you, you must assume a type of attraction. It can be just sexual or romantic...
Just don't try to change the type of attraction he has... this is not crepuscule we are stubborn as hell. That's it. We are simple.
Right 🙂❤️🔥
“The nothingness” now I gotta go watch the never ending story
True that
...😂 just doing nothing...
❤🎉😅
When I did nothing I had results? What the actual f.. What do you mean? When ? How? You mean stop talking too? This might work for women. A female could just look good. I guess you are right. It might be true.
Well. I have had a lot of interests when I talked and laughed with others, and it drew attention to me. And interest.
Is that doing "nothing"?
This works
thx
Creepy freakazoid 😂☠
I meann when I fall in love is because the guy is doing something 🤔 so im not sure
We in love now you and me
Do you mean not do anything like with them or just not doing anything at all
Louise .... 😔😑
@@MindfulAttraction2.0 😂 sorry Alex i get confused
How I book a call
No reactions
Right ?
Creepazoid
You crack me up, I love this video 🙌🏼 creepazoids 😂😂
What's the music in this video?
Erik Satie- Gymnopedies