This is dumb, no one wants to be alone, I prefer to love another person. Just loving yourself is boring doing things alone is boring.. unless you're a narcissist who cannot love anyone else, that's the only way what you said make sense!
When a person is ready and needs you in their life, he or she will let you know. No games, straight talk and a plan. I met the love of my life and we both knew. Be honest and you will find that person that is right for you.
Yes, I believe this Father Alex. Pain makes men feel alive. Women already know physical and emotional pain very well-bleeding monthly, childbirth, etc. Men’s feelings are shut off at a young age. So a chance to actually FEEL something in an acceptable way through pain or violence, is a relief to them. Part of their fascination with women is women’s ability to easily and openly express feelings like pain, sorrow, etc. Many men are obsessed with suffering emotionally.
In order to attract the love that you desire, you must take care of yourself first. When you love yourself, accept yourself and put yourself first, everything falls into place. The one thing that blocks you from manifesting a healthy relationship is when you put everyone else before you. 💙TH-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
The guy I'm hooked with has been using most of these techniques on me for a long time and I never knew . I never really paid attention because I made it clear from the beginning I didn't want any serious relationship and stuff. Its just now i realize what's he been up to with all this crazy and incomprehensible behavior. Damn this dude has been strategising for sooo long trying to get me hooked.
Omg I really fell in love with your manipulation tactics when you said “imagine someone says to you ,I don’t want a relationship and then they give you a flower” . That’s definitely mind F*** someone. I wonder how that can be switched when your dealing with men. Can you give us an example how a woman can use that tactic with men.
Let's be honest - if you let the other person speak more than you do, encourage them to talk through questions, they also tend to like you more. They walk away feelingvthat you like them and the interaction went well. 🤷♀️
Great advice for someone with NPD. Otherwise this is garbage if you want real connection. Only a Narc would use this info to con their way into someone’s life/mind.
Damnnnn. 😂 You sir have won over my subscription. Although I won’t be watching this video, I have watched several of yours. I fall into the slightly Asperger’s category. I’m taking your advice and using the power of my silence. I am worth having a partner who accepts me and my social challenges/disadvantages and is willing to be patient and understanding. Anything less will not work. Plain and simple.
Mindf*cking people is not nice and causes a lot of suffering too, to the other party involved. When someone says they don't want a relationship, believe them. I'm done with people who play games.
Men started the games to begin with and they're not nice and screw with us whether we want that or not. You can be nice all you want but you will get played. I've been authentic my whole life and been played every time. I'm done being nice. I refuse to be played. When someone shows they are genuine and committed then you can mirror that back. People will use you up and throw you away if you let them.
@@WNicole1993 I think mind games is ok in the beginning for like a week and then later you can show your emotions... It's overwhelming pouring out all your emotions to someone you just met. Play mind games and figure out where you stand
@@WNicole1993 it doesn't make sense being friends with someone you obviously have feelings for. And also, wouldn't that be playing games too? If I have feelings for you but I decide to lay it low and be your friend first so you don't think I'm rushing you.
I have always functioned Friends first. There is no friend zone as everyone has to start out being my friend. If a man can't be my friend then he would make a terrible partner. I want my playmate for life , we can earn together. I had a healthy relationship with my dad, so i don't need any controllers as a mate.
Here are the compliments that get me from least to most: beauty, smart, hot, funny, nice/good/ sweet. Yes, being seen as a good person is the biggest reward in my life. Being told that I'm helpful is my weakness. It's definitely a hangover from childhood.
Haha yessss! Watching this makes me realize that I am really so naturally toxic 😅 breaking promises, going cold, than act sweet. Say i dont want something serious but then giving them a lot of love and affection and appreciation. but I have to say, doing all these things don't give long term results. It will also attract unhealed man who dont have enough selfesteem and who got time for that really? So if you want a fanbase sure, this is the way. Make them obsessed, break their heart, become their fantasy. But to find real honest sweet love than this isn't the way to go i learned. It's super inauthentic and manipulative being so calculated with everything you do. No idea how to do that healthy secure stuff though, maybe I should watch more Matthew Hussey content instead 😜
Neither all this is about mind games true love is so different from what these coaches teach and this guy doesn’t even have a loving relationship himself neither does Matthew so I will listen to someone that knows about healthy relationships not mind games. When you find that special someone there is no mind games no need for all that garbage. Plus it’s so much effort to be so calculating cold and manipulative better to just be yourself and learn to be the best version of yourself and attract an equal
Ikr? It's really not going to give you the healthy secure loving relationship you deserve. That's why I quit my ex. He's toxic because he hasn't healed and won't realize / admit it either. I can't save everyone in this life. I am responsible for saving myself.
I have this autistic trait no good with flirting at all or sharp tounge. My Dad is the same, very good memory but he's not very witty.It's all about emotional intelligence, commenting on what's going on at the moment in a playfull intelligent way.
i’m not trying to make someone love me by my words or anything, im tryn figure out IF they actually wants to be with me or are they saying they never want a relationship with me to temporarily confuse me, or do they say it to convince themselves so they will easily act accordingly
Most guy’s put on a big facade with women about how they’re really plotted to objectify women. The conquest is a cover up to heal the wounded ego/inner child.
Uh...i am not competitive at all. I am me. I like me the way i am and what so and so is doing doesnt concern me a bit. Ive always been that way. This is the third video ive heard you say that everyone is competitive..and no, not everyone. I just live peaceably. I walk away from competitiveness. It's too much drama.
This was the one video you did in a long time that was actually different than the typical stuff you usually do thats a bit more repetitive. You should do a video on how to find someone's insecurities in order to pinpoint complements on those
Thing about this is that having to power play and manipulate situations is fcking exausting and not worth the cost. There’s trully authentic ppl out there who can be part of your life without having to use strategies, life is too short for that amount of work not worth it, unless you get fun with it, which is what makes dark triad folks tickle. And still, nothing beats the joy of healthy and authentic , vulnerable connections, better to use our energy nurturing those than creating and feeding unhealthy ones. This, however , would be a useful tool to deal with politician guys , and trashy ppl who deserve it
The descriptive word you were looking for is neurodivergent. And us neurodivergent people (adhd and autism) do indeed struggle socially, unfortunately…
Please make a video for how to talk when u been in a long term relationship and he lost a bit of interest.. but the connection and attraction is still there however u can feel they are taking u for granted. To reactivate the beginnings fire :) ty!!
Alex, his friend, who know, he likes me told us in the restaurant, he want to be very honest with us, we should get married, he sees here a big potential. And then happend that, what you said. This guy kept looking at me and smiling. I think, he was imagine me beeing his wife. So it works, what you say. For sure, he was imagine us togehter for a moment like you said. And he likes me, maybe thats why.
Hey I know I’m late to the game I just discovered your channel two days ago and I’ve now formed an addiction 😂. I know you mention about being into art and everything you literally remind me of a modern day relationship coach “Basquiat👑’ ❤
@0:14 Funny you should mention Asperger’s - I was dating an Aspy and it was funny & hard AF at the same time. Sometimes he was totally unfiltered and I was not used to that and I tried to focus more on his non-verbal. I was truly heartbroken when we broke up
This is simply wonderful, but to a point.... don't get me wrong, this shit is putting the icing on my Aries moon/venus in Gemini placement, but tactics are temporary.... real is forever! But thank you for adding to my insight refinement. Very needed.
This is easy when you don’t even have any interest in them in the first place. I trap any guy easily because I’m confident. I learn that was my #1 secret. Now words come out easily 🤭
That natural inclination to believe in something you speak of is called agent detection bias and it’s an evolutionary byproduct of humans. I learned that in a course recently. I know you know this
Can you do a coarse on how to date and what a women should be looking for in a man while dating alot of times we don't know what we should be looking for or a clue of what we should be our expectation from the man that we are interested in
These kind of games work only with people that like to play them. For individuals that seek authentic connections or that are too busy with their business/career to spend time trying to play games, this inconsistent behaviour would deter them.
I don't think I would like any man to apply these tactics with me , nor do I believe that these tactics would work for honest people. Life is complicated enough without us needing to spend extra energy and time to unravel what exactly someone is meaning, especially for relationships we want to know asap whether there is a real chance of working out; or relationships which are too valuable to lose. I think it is quite demeaning to be compared to anyone, we should be able to expect to be the special one, hence no comparison.
Just love yourself so you won't feel like you need someone else to love you and you won't put up with anyone's mess.
Nonsense, it's only natural to want a man doesn't mean you don't love yourself.
Truth! Needing someone to love you is different than just wanting that in your life ~ very sensical
This is dumb, no one wants to be alone, I prefer to love another person. Just loving yourself is boring doing things alone is boring.. unless you're a narcissist who cannot love anyone else, that's the only way what you said make sense!
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Toxic relationships involve pain. When you grow up & realize real love doesn’t hurt, you aren’t attracted to those who hurt you.
When a person is ready and needs you in their life, he or she will let you know. No games, straight talk and a plan. I met the love of my life and we both knew. Be honest and you will find that person that is right for you.
Most of these videos are also to protect yourself also.
So be yourself
Yes, I believe this Father Alex. Pain makes men feel alive. Women already know physical and emotional pain very well-bleeding monthly, childbirth, etc. Men’s feelings are shut off at a young age. So a chance to actually FEEL something in an acceptable way through pain or violence, is a relief to them. Part of their fascination with women is women’s ability to easily and openly express feelings like pain, sorrow, etc. Many men are obsessed with suffering emotionally.
That’s a good point!
🤔interesting
Powerful...
Wow!
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*I have learned not to worry about love; but to honor its coming with all my heart.*
In order to attract the love that you desire, you must take care of yourself first. When you love yourself, accept yourself and put yourself first, everything falls into place. The one thing that blocks you from manifesting a healthy relationship is when you put everyone else before you.
💙TH-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
So true 🥰
In theory lol but that’s not the case
Agree!¡¡
Love the lack of self promo. Good job leaving his thunder 😁
Absolutely
The "focus on them" is so true.. people get attached to someone when they can talk about themselves
The guy I'm hooked with has been using most of these techniques on me for a long time and I never knew . I never really paid attention because I made it clear from the beginning I didn't want any serious relationship and stuff. Its just now i realize what's he been up to with all this crazy and incomprehensible behavior. Damn this dude has been strategising for sooo long trying to get me hooked.
I tried this method that you said to tell the guy that you're not just out here dating no expectations and it works!
Alexis you are a character and a half. A game man however not lethal. You are an original friend.
His puppy hair style makes me smile. Keep it up! I love your humour 😅🫣
Demi here, God bless you for saying "friends first."
It's not like we autistics don't know how to talk. We just are fucking blunt. Some of us are brilliant poets and writers!!
Omg I really fell in love with your manipulation tactics when you said “imagine someone says to you ,I don’t want a relationship and then they give you a flower” . That’s definitely mind F*** someone. I wonder how that can be switched when your dealing with men. Can you give us an example how a woman can use that tactic with men.
This is what I was wondering too
Let's be honest - if you let the other person speak more than you do, encourage them to talk through questions, they also tend to like you more. They walk away feelingvthat you like them and the interaction went well.
🤷♀️
Great advice for someone with NPD. Otherwise this is garbage if you want real connection. Only a Narc would use this info to con their way into someone’s life/mind.
He's a Narc💀
He’s a toxic relationship coach..
What a video! I've never heard people talking about this topic so clearly.
He put a sock on the microfon 😃😃🤣
Damnnnn. 😂 You sir have won over my subscription. Although I won’t be watching this video, I have watched several of yours. I fall into the slightly Asperger’s category. I’m taking your advice and using the power of my silence. I am worth having a partner who accepts me and my social challenges/disadvantages and is willing to be patient and understanding. Anything less will not work. Plain and simple.
Mindf*cking people is not nice and causes a lot of suffering too, to the other party involved. When someone says they don't want a relationship, believe them. I'm done with people who play games.
Men started the games to begin with and they're not nice and screw with us whether we want that or not. You can be nice all you want but you will get played. I've been authentic my whole life and been played every time. I'm done being nice. I refuse to be played. When someone shows they are genuine and committed then you can mirror that back. People will use you up and throw you away if you let them.
@@vhayashi7369❤❤❤ so true atleast we can save ourselves from their initial games
@@vs_vs16exactly, in today's world. It's either you play the game or get played. I'd rather play the game
@@WNicole1993 I think mind games is ok in the beginning for like a week and then later you can show your emotions... It's overwhelming pouring out all your emotions to someone you just met.
Play mind games and figure out where you stand
@@WNicole1993 it doesn't make sense being friends with someone you obviously have feelings for. And also, wouldn't that be playing games too? If I have feelings for you but I decide to lay it low and be your friend first so you don't think I'm rushing you.
You are very intelligent. Emotionally intelligent to be exact. I love it 😬
This was pretty good and much so common sense, I fell off because i started being too real and forgot ppl still need a little mystery lol, TY
This is so true so true!!!
I have always functioned Friends first. There is no friend zone as everyone has to start out being my friend. If a man can't be my friend then he would make a terrible partner.
I want my playmate for life , we can earn together.
I had a healthy relationship with my dad, so i don't need any controllers as a mate.
Here are the compliments that get me from least to most: beauty, smart, hot, funny, nice/good/ sweet. Yes, being seen as a good person is the biggest reward in my life. Being told that I'm helpful is my weakness. It's definitely a hangover from childhood.
This is exactly what I need to see more of. What to actually say!! Just hearing the words gives us better understanding
he pulled out the DEEP voice for this one ya'll lol
I noticed!! Right at the beginning but then he dropped it 😢😢😢
Haha yessss! Watching this makes me realize that I am really so naturally toxic 😅 breaking promises, going cold, than act sweet. Say i dont want something serious but then giving them a lot of love and affection and appreciation. but I have to say, doing all these things don't give long term results. It will also attract unhealed man who dont have enough selfesteem and who got time for that really? So if you want a fanbase sure, this is the way. Make them obsessed, break their heart, become their fantasy.
But to find real honest sweet love than this isn't the way to go i learned. It's super inauthentic and manipulative being so calculated with everything you do. No idea how to do that healthy secure stuff though, maybe I should watch more Matthew Hussey content instead 😜
Neither all this is about mind games true love is so different from what these coaches teach and this guy doesn’t even have a loving relationship himself neither does Matthew so I will listen to someone that knows about healthy relationships not mind games. When you find that special someone there is no mind games no need for all that garbage. Plus it’s so much effort to be so calculating cold and manipulative better to just be yourself and learn to be the best version of yourself and attract an equal
Yep! This is toxic relationship 101 😂
Now Mathew is a cheater.... Kevin Hicks is good though
Ikr? It's really not going to give you the healthy secure loving relationship you deserve. That's why I quit my ex. He's toxic because he hasn't healed and won't realize / admit it either. I can't save everyone in this life. I am responsible for saving myself.
I recommend Stephan Speaks.
I have this autistic trait no good with flirting at all or sharp tounge. My Dad is the same, very good memory but he's not very witty.It's all about emotional intelligence, commenting on what's going on at the moment in a playfull intelligent way.
i’m not trying to make someone love me by my words or anything, im tryn figure out IF they actually wants to be with me or are they saying they never want a relationship with me to temporarily confuse me, or do they say it to convince themselves so they will easily act accordingly
About pain. It's so true but be careful not to do it too much if you really want them
Most guy’s put on a big facade with women about how they’re really plotted to objectify women. The conquest is a cover up to heal the wounded ego/inner child.
Uh...i am not competitive at all. I am me. I like me the way i am and what so and so is doing doesnt concern me a bit. Ive always been that way. This is the third video ive heard you say that everyone is competitive..and no, not everyone. I just live peaceably. I walk away from competitiveness. It's too much drama.
Yes silence 🤫 mindfulness be the strong calm person in the room
This was the one video you did in a long time that was actually different than the typical stuff you usually do thats a bit more repetitive.
You should do a video on how to find someone's insecurities in order to pinpoint complements on those
Or use for leverage 😂
Thanks for that special kind of intro dedicated to women clumsy in communication ❤
Thing about this is that having to power play and manipulate situations is fcking exausting and not worth the cost. There’s trully authentic ppl out there who can be part of your life without having to use strategies, life is too short for that amount of work not worth it, unless you get fun with it, which is what makes dark triad folks tickle. And still, nothing beats the joy of healthy and authentic , vulnerable connections, better to use our energy nurturing those than creating and feeding unhealthy ones.
This, however , would be a useful tool to deal with politician guys , and trashy ppl who deserve it
I just subscribed to your channel but I’ve been watching your videos for a couple yrs already. Just wanted to say I appreciate your advice about men.
The descriptive word you were looking for is neurodivergent. And us neurodivergent people (adhd and autism) do indeed struggle socially, unfortunately…
@TheArielrbwhat’s wrong with using the word autistic?
Please make a video for how to talk when u been in a long term relationship and he lost a bit of interest.. but the connection and attraction is still there however u can feel they are taking u for granted. To reactivate the beginnings fire :) ty!!
That content is genius!
This was a really good video, you’re information and delivery of information has evolved,it’s great
You are a wise individual
The good looking kids thing really really got you harrrd! 🤣 Its in every video??
Great info! I kept getting distracted by you drinking the coffee on the mic
Oh you didn't. Not the dad went to the store brb noooo
Too real man too real
Your hair is so beautiful
Alex, i appreciate all your hair styles lol somebody tag me when he get dapper !
The fact i do
All these already unconsciously clearly shows i been a subscriber way too long 😅😂 Love u Alex
You're a genius! Where have you been the last 48 years of my life?
6:45 hey little Tyrone 😂
This is very insightful and well articulated. One of your best videos.
Alex, his friend, who know, he likes me told us in the restaurant, he want to be very honest with us, we should get married, he sees here a big potential. And then happend that, what you said. This guy kept looking at me and smiling. I think, he was imagine me beeing his wife. So it works, what you say. For sure, he was imagine us togehter for a moment like you said. And he likes me, maybe thats why.
Fall in love ,leader or as a Partner ,interesting
I just liked the video bc of the opening ! Lol so true!
I enjoyed this one
Hey I know I’m late to the game I just discovered your channel two days ago and I’ve now formed an addiction 😂. I know you mention about being into art and everything you literally remind me of a modern day relationship coach “Basquiat👑’ ❤
The guy I am dating doesn't want a relationship but he did give me flowers! 😂🤷
😂😂😂
Maybe he watches this channel
Mine wants to get married but never gave any flowers.
@0:14 Funny you should mention Asperger’s - I was dating an Aspy and it was funny & hard AF at the same time. Sometimes he was totally unfiltered and I was not used to that and I tried to focus more on his non-verbal. I was truly heartbroken when we broke up
Asperger-people don't usually mindf*ck anyone, they say how things are and also they usually don't lie.
Do you realize that if women and men play the same game with each other it will be a complete mess not a propering relationship? 😃
This is simply wonderful, but to a point.... don't get me wrong, this shit is putting the icing on my Aries moon/venus in Gemini placement, but tactics are temporary.... real is forever! But thank you for adding to my insight refinement. Very needed.
man i just hate that friend zone shit idk how to break it really
The master !!! You really know you're psychology ! THANK YOU FOR SHARING & BLOWING MY MIND LIKE ALWAYS .
This dude I work with has DEFINITELY been watching your channel lol 😆 that's crazy that I recognize too many things in your videos 😭🤣
This is easy when you don’t even have any interest in them in the first place. I trap any guy easily because I’m confident. I learn that was my #1 secret. Now words come out easily 🤭
That natural inclination to believe in something you speak of is called agent detection bias and it’s an evolutionary byproduct of humans. I learned that in a course recently. I know you know this
Great video alex
Thank you for this video,it’s amazing
Love the long videos thanks Alex 🤓
Dying, I automatically scrolled to halfway of the video and you said b*** dont you know Im going to be here, it hurt😂
I am grateful for ur existence ❤
Can you teach me how to be classy for the next topic please? Daddy- I mean Father Alex?
Lol
Lol 😂😂
🤣🤣🤣
Lmaooooo
Lmfaoo I am crying 😂😂😂
i’m beginning to think my friend takes your advice 😂
Love these toxic titles 👌
Facts. It’s a must I click 🔥
This man is a GENIUS. Wow. I am glad to have been born and on earth the same time as father Alex lol dead ass
You make me laugh Alex, you’re so smart and such a good communicator! Love you so much homie!
The beginning got me crying but atleast you honest 😂
What about flase promises what's if the dad never comes back how does that child process then..
20:23 lmaoo I be thinking the same way too 😂😂
Do you have scorpio energy?
That's fire Alex 🔥
I’m going g to lose my natural ability to seduce if I listen to you.
Games tactics is a lot of work 😂 😂 just be genuine and take ur time to know them
Translation: "fulana de tal" = the supposed woman who we might be referring to but in abstract because we don't know her. Made me lol.
Lol. Dominican Jane Doe
@@icyblue8 Lmaooo!!!!!!!!!!!1
I loooove your messy locs 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
I miss watching your videos Alex
Can you do a coarse on how to date and what a women should be looking for in a man while dating alot of times we don't know what we should be looking for or a clue of what we should be our expectation from the man that we are interested in
Ong i love ❤️ this video tooo much !!!
Ok i see he just used the art of seduction tactics on me. Now what do I do?? It worked! I feel dumb AF 😪 🙃
😂. Read the book. Knowledge gives power.
These kind of games work only with people that like to play them. For individuals that seek authentic connections or that are too busy with their business/career to spend time trying to play games, this inconsistent behaviour would deter them.
The YES ladder is crazy
bro you playing with these girls emotions talking bout daddy not comming back hahahaha
What if I did the inflict pain and I haven’t shown in actions I’m sorry and it’s been a month? Should I now?
😂 I must admit. 😂 he is playing. Friendship starts and u get to know more about the person
SUGGESTION! -- the coffee slurping is a huge turnoff while trying to listen to a youtube video. thanks.
Alex you are a genius
I don't think I would like any man to apply these tactics with me , nor do I believe that these tactics would work for honest people. Life is complicated enough without us needing to spend extra energy and time to unravel what exactly someone is meaning, especially for relationships we want to know asap whether there is a real chance of working out; or relationships which are too valuable to lose. I think it is quite demeaning to be compared to anyone, we should be able to expect to be the special one, hence no comparison.
That girl made it damn right with California))))))LOL🤣🤣🤣
lol 😂 I guess I gotta shut up it comes off as blunt or rude usually because people are boundaries pushers it’s upsetting.
So just act a lil crazy from time to time and they will fall in love 😆
Alex, You have a white film on your tongue, This means there are vitamins your body needs