@Jayden P I was unemployed for 2 hours. I'm still at the same place now. It's a lot better, and it's great to be treated with respect. I may be moving on from place soon, however, for a job as a mental health counsellor. Still, I will never forget what they did during a difficult time for me.
I want to do the same!! I'm in sales and I've been in sales for a long time. I'm tired of it and tired of the toxic stress of sales. Always pipeline pipeline pipeline quota quota quota. You make quota for months and everyone is your friend. But you miss quota for a month or 2 and everyone hates you. I want to quit so bad and I don't have anything lined up. I have enough saved to last me a bit. I may just quit and clear my head. Free up time to process and go to the gym more. Help!
@@MrAlex5378how are you doing now? Did u leave?...I'm so sorry to hear that I'm in a very toxic work environment I'm making good money but I DNT care I can't take it no more...I applied to like 8 jobs last night gotta get out of here
Charlie Dallachie that is my workplace, I will stay there one more year and then I will get out. It has no future, people are so toxic there that I feel very depressed everytime I think about going to that workplace. People with high egos even when they are at the same position as I am.
I’m 3 years late I’m a teacher. 25 years teaching I teach 3rd grade ( in another country) with 50 kids in a class. All signs are present at my workplace We don’t have a high turnover at my school bc most teachers hang on to their salaries. They turn a blind eye to the toxicity because they feel nothing will be done . They teach , go home and get paid. Cliques and gossip is the worst and it comes from Management
Don't forget no room for growth and the constant repetition of a monotonous task. The boredom of these types of tasks can drastically increase anxiety .
This is exactly how I’ve tried explaining it to my family but they brush it off as I’m just being lazy and want to stay home all day. When Id rather be anywhere else most of the time
@@chrism4886 Your family does not understand because they have most likely not worked in a call center environment . Be patient and explain to them the negative effect that working in a call center is having on your mental health
The only solution for a toxic office culture is to find a new job. See it early and quietly put an exit plan in motion, don’t even try to play the game.
I’m trying to understand why I stayed in a toxic work environment for 8 years. I finally decided I had enough and walked out. Never again. Thank you for this video.
That's been me with all jobs. I have severe depression recurring and severe anxiety. Stress makes it really bad. I almost took my life last week because of other stress and no job currently. I can't get SSDI. I was denied again and again My lawyer sucked so I am literally the working disabled. That's IF I can find a job. Jobs are limited now because of a back injury, and I have no computer skills, no college. I am learning disabled with dyscalculia.
The #1 sign. When you go to sleep and awaken, are you nervous anxious or fearful of that job. If so...it is Toxic and one needs to always be looking. 👍🙏
I'm a doctor but I was made to work as a receptionist.. I totally lost confidence in me. It was really toxic. Today I took this step to resign for my mental health.. though I don't have another job in hand, I had to take this step. I hope I'll get a good job next 😇
@Rose dowling You definitely should go back to work and tell ur boss “We all make mistakes can I have my job back.” Trust me dude, in this corona economy, new jobs are like gold
I've been working at my toxic job for the past six years. My mental health has gotten worse because of this job. For the past six years I'd been dealing with verbal abuse, bullying, verbal harassment, and physical abuse. My shift leader is abusive, my boss is a hypocrite, my coworkers are wannabe bosses/high school bullies. Right now I'm searching for a temporary job
@@DouglasBloch thanks, I'm tired feeling depressed and angry. I wanna find a job where I could feel happy and blessed at the same time. Six years has been toxic for me. It's about time I find a stable job
Sometimes you can feel like the job you are doing becomes so overwhelming due to stress factors that you feel like you are not good at your job or it is something you are not meant to do but what your feeling is not because you are doing something wrong.
Hello, I just saw this comment and I'm not sure if you'll see this but how did this work out for you? I almost left my shift the other day because I was done with my job. How did this work out with leaving your shift in the middle of it?
@@not.supermario best thing I have ever done. I am happy again like I was before and my family is too. There is jobs out there I got 3 offers in a week but decided to go to truck driving school it’s 3 weeks long and will be making 80k on my first contract.
The worst is when you can do 99.9% of your job from home but your employer insists that you come in 5 days a week and sit all day in an ugly toxic office in their cheap uncomfortable chairs 😑
Gave my 2 weeks notice in a job that is literally making me sick. Working overnight, toxic co workers, cannot sleep well during the day hours. Physical symptoms. Not worth it. Thanks.
I left my position eight months ago after three years of bullying and intimidation from the boss. She is a marginal narcissistic who took great pleasure in tormenting staff who, she felt, weren’t loyal to her. I haven’t been able to work since then but feel like I’m ready to finally move forward. But the boss got her just reward - she is currently on ‘study leave’ while an external investigation is happening. She is the only one who hasn’t realized that there is no coming back from this. The work environment had every one of the five points and more - my favourite was getting other staff to spy on colleagues.
I just got fired from the same kind of person. He was a narcissist and felt that every employee he hired, they needed to “prove” their loyalty to him. He also refused to train and be patient with people when their just learning to do the job right. Instead, he would insult and belittle people that didnt grasp information as quickly as his photographic memory. He was so miserable with his life that he made sure everyone around him was miserable. When employees wouldnt cross over their job duties, to “prove” their loyalty to him (outside their pay-grade, too), he would find a way to get rid of them by lying about their employees work performance to corporate for approval of their separation. It was a nightmare there.
Just hit 21 years at my job. Feel my mind is so cloudy and so far gone with depression that I'll never enjoy life, hobbies, or music again. The frosting on top, spinal fusion from work accident ruined my life at work and, more importantly, my life outside of work. Countless days I sit at work and stare until it's time to go home. What a waste of life, I hope nobody else is thus unhappy where they are at.
Me too. I stayed at my former highly toxic job for too long. I quit one year ago, but I still haven't been able to completely recover from that nightmare of job I had.
@@fayejewell I'm so sorry, It's no different to living in prison/hell is it? You're there so often and when you're not your mind is there and you never get a break and the power the job has over you is the roof over your head and food on your plate. I'm so glad you're out now and on the road, however long and arduous to recovery. Learn to love yourself if you don't already, you deserve to be happy ❤️
@@SWildMF ai completely agree with you. Yes, I felt my job became my life, and it was on my mind almost all the time, even when I was not working. Thanks so much for the good wishes. Little by little I feel better, and I hope you're doing better too!
@@fayejewell Im so glad to hear you're on the way up. I've had a very hard year but I'm using it to re-evaluate my life. Even though we were great together I lost my girlfriend in January. I was codependent on her without realising. I'm in the process of building myself up from scratch. Thanks for your thoughts ❤️ keep going, you'll be fine!
I've never really had a job that paid decent that was NOT toxic. My current job is hell and the one I had right before it was also hell. I took off a few years after my last one to deal with the trauma from it. I never fully healed and I had to start working again. It wasn't long before my current job became a nightmare. It's like an endless cycle.
Uncertainty about job security , high turnover rate both from resignations and terminations and rigid rules designed to dehumanize a person . I just described the majority of corporate and call center environments. If you have anxiety or depression avoid these situations at all costs .
Yep I'm experiencing this and in a call centre environment. Haven't been to work since December 15th and have typed a resignation letter ready to send to my manager
I just resigned from call centre too much toxic environment I did my best at that work but I realised they don't see that I hit rock bottom I said to myself with the low pay I cannot accept such environment I resigned immediately but that BPO company many people resigned not that they have another job but they preffered peace of mind
Trucking! Specifically the fuel hauling industry. As a female, it's pointless as the 'Good- 'Ol- Boy' network will always overpower the female fuel hauler. This industry is so heavily toxic it has sucked the life out of me. I've been driving trucks since 2000, and hauling fuel the last 4 of those years. The toxicity goes all the way up to the highest seats of corporate; it's an industry founded on corruption and if you're a very conscientious (female) driver, you'll be squashed out in every way. but not a lot of videos or articles talk about how females are treated in the fuel hauling industry- if at all. It's under the radar I guess, so no one knows this magnitude of sickness exists.
I've worked in healthcare for over twenty nine years. I have always liked being able to help people , but it has been a struggle for most of time. The main reasons are the overwhelming work load and having to deal with Doctors with arrogant, spoiled brat attitudes. Most hospitals refuse to hire enough staff to take care of the patient load... and if you bring this fact to their attention, they usually reply, " just do the best you can." Thank God I've only got a few more years left to work!
Been an RN for ten years and have had three fellow nurses commit suicide! NEVER in my life have or previous careers have I seen or herd of any coworkers resulting to this end! Healthcare is the most toxic work environment I have ever been exposed to!!
Working at a job you like is good for you. I like assembling flat packs, it sends most people to stress out. It relaxes me, im weird. Another great vid.
Great Video. Sadly a number of managers would simply say to the victim " don't worry about it " " Its all in your mind" "You got a bit of a persecuted complex". In reality they don't know how to deal with the situation.
I started a new job 2 weeks ago. I've had stomach pain and throbbing headaches since day 3. My manager has zero patience and has been trying to train me. She will say "this is how you do it" then you follow her directions. About 2 hours later, she will say "this company doesn't do it like that, you have to do it like this." I was driving home tonight and realized I can't stay there, even for the money. It sucks knowing I'll be losing a paycheque, but staying in a job like that will take its toll eventually. I have a rule though for making important decisions, I always give it 48 hours to assure it's the right one as I've made some hasty mistakes in the past that I regretted. I plan on giving my notice after this coming weekend.
I just love how a boss won't give you a raise until you threaten to leave or put in the notice. My one former boss waited until my very last day to sweeten the pot. I was to the point that I didn't care anymore. I already had one foot out the door at that point. When they asked what they were doing wrong, I just told them I was done. Let them figure it out on their own. I was the 4th guy to go in less then a year and he finally decided to hire replacements. I make way better pay now.
Wow...ALL of those things apply to my workplace; but, then I already knew it was toxic. I haven't finished listening. Hopefully, there's something here to help. Thing about changing jobs is that eventually, you run into the same crap that you left at the other job. You just have to try to wait until you win the lottery and can do what you want, when you want.
I personally have no debt and a ton of savings for one reason only. I refuse to work somewhere that makes me miserable. If they cant treat people with respect regardless of age, race, gender, or any wierd quirk. Thay can kiss my hiny goodbye.
This describes my boss completely. Micromanager + OCD. The staff are nice. HE has the problem and he refuses to get treatment for it. He is the President and CEO and there is no HR department.
I was off work sick with work related stress when I returned to work they warned me that any further periods of sickness could result in my being dismissed. They also gave me additional responsibilities which resulted in extra work! I lasted another year and a half before I was forced to retire early due to my now depression. That was over a year ago and I am still coping with depression and anxiety
,I am currently on antidepressants I’ve had CBT and try to complete my lists but as you have suggested I need to make them shorter so I am not anxious about not completing it. I try to feel anxious but do it any way it doesn’t always work but I haven’t had the heeby geebies yet so that is an improvement .
The jokes made me laugh and smile. I just had a really bad anxiety episode that's lasted almost an hour and the jokes themselves made me feel better. Thank You
Your video has literally gave me all the things I am experiencing during work and my depression is getting nothing but worse as time goes on, I’ve been debating leaving my job but not until I have another job confirmed secure to replace my current place
The source of my workplace related depression is because I am a shy introvert who has trouble connecting with people. It’s like everyone around me is in on something and there I sit feeling more and more withdrawn. The work week is excruciating for me. I would rather be home with my cats. I get such anxiety walking around and not sure of how to act when I walk by someone, so I look down at the ground. Gosh, I hate being around people.
I'm sorry to hear that. Can you work with a counselor to learn ways that. you can be more comfortable around people and more connected. I am also an. introvert, so I have had to learn this. Of course, I am a writer which is an introverted profession. Perhaps you can find a different kind of work.
I am a classic introvert but am still part of management. What you describe seems more than introversion. But a good counselor should help lots. Best to you.
the management nitpick about sales and performance, extremely stressful working environment ..they are letting at least one employee go every month. Half of the people cant even pass probation. I worked there for 3 years miraculously and just quit last month. I am feeling so good that i dont need to see those people anymore.
I don’t have a job right now but I can relate to what you discussed about clicks. I looked for another job when I did found myself involved with a company that encouraged new employee isolation and other abuses. Thanks for the video.
Hey Dr, I've had depression pretty much my whole life and mainly have periods where I'm fine until something triggers me. Fast forward to now I got a new job sometime in March of this year as a bank teller. I came from a small town grocery store where I climbed the work ladder and became the front end Mgr. The only issue was the work hours and the fact that I had alot of responsibility, but it made me happy and I was confident in what I did. I thought that leaving would be the best thing. The bank was a completely different work environment for me and slowly made me feel worse about myself. I just could not fit in as much as I tried. Even in the middle of this job I felt uncomfortable about, my grandmother passed away who I loved very much. Needless to say I just got fired from the bank which has made my self worth even worse and every day just seems pretty hard. I wake up feeling restless and anxiety ridden. I'm just not me right now. I want everything to be okay. You want to think things will turn out for the better eventually but it's really hard to see from here
You should probably reach out to a counselor at Service if you don't have one now. You can tell yourself that being fired from the bank simply meant that it was not a good fit for you. It doesn't reflect on your abilities, because you were successful as manager of the grocery store
Matthew 18:9 “And if your eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell.” My job was keeping me from Christ, from my family, from myself. I “plucked the eye out” today. I quit my job today and I cannot express how free I feel. My goal now is to find myself, find my purpose and to serve God. 🙏🏼✨
I'm honestly crying after watching this. My job, which used to be fun, is now very toxic and not tolerable at all. I dread going to work and no matter how many times I try to keep my head up, I can't get through my day. Thanks for the tips. Honestly, I need this wake up call.
I quit a job where the environment is not hostile, but there was no feedback or guidance. For years I have anxiety over my performance because my co workers are getting promoted while I stay behind. Then it clicked to me how they use promotion for employee retention. When they promoted a junior over me to keep them from leaving, finally dawned to me how my years of good work, humility, and loyalty is not worth much.
I just need a new better job that’s less stressful and although I have been applying to jobs for a year and it has been excruciatingly hard due to the pandemic. All 5 points that you said are exactly the issues with my job...I need to leave before a manager ends up missing...
Wow, everything you said about the workplace is true, true, true! Thanks for the tips on how to deal with it. I've jobed hopped for too long. I need coping skills. Keep up the great advice.
At the start of 2021 I had a great paying position at a call center that I was a dedicated workaholic to because it paid well and it was such a good job. Around mid January my position was outsourced to the Philippines. Because of it I was forced back into a cold call sales position that quickly killed my workaholic ethic and made me suicidal when thinking just how much it torpedoed my work ethic and made me feel like a failure on the daily. Today is my last day at this job, and I'm horrified about not being able to find a new job, but know that if I don't leave, that I will do something I know I'm not going to be able to undo
@@DouglasBloch Im 23 and live in the state of Texas, main reason for leaving being mental health struggles wouldn't allow me to claim unemployment would it? And thank you for reaching out. It truly means a lot
Many years ago, I left a job because of mental health struggles and I had my doctor write a note which I gave to the unemployment division and I was able to get unemployment. Perhaps you can do the same thing.
I stepped down from my position to a lower position today. It’s been building and building and I was about to blow my lid. I finally, after weeks and weeks of the build up, ripped the bandaid off and stepped down to my former position. I was “promoted” to do ten times the work for less pay and I thought I was more esteemed for the title I had. It was not worth it. After four months, the RELIEF I FEEK RIGHT NOW is INCREDIBLE. Just do it…. We have one life. Make it a happy one. It’s in your hands.
Stupid as it sounds or I might be wrong but I recently started realizing school never really teaches us to think for ourselves. If you were obedient and quiet (except when answering questions in class) and did what you were supposed to do, it seemed teachers were okay with it. I have noticed the popular kids or the ones who were "social butterflies" at school, even if they didn't do that well in their studies back then, seem to adjust better at work. Just something I kind of noticed.
My current job literally checks off every single one of these points. I requested an internal transfer which got approved! Hoping that my new gig is less stressful than what I’ve experienced so far!
@@originalclassics I took a few days off to go to a cousin's wedding out of state and was around sane, rational people who cared about me. When I came back it was like returning to an institution. Eight months later, I think it's one of the best decisions I've ever made.
I have a boss who is very toxic and I definitely suffer from anxiety and depression. I am currently anxious writing this because my work place exhibts all of the signs youve talked about, except the last one because my coworkers and I also agree managment is bad and the only thing we talk about is how we never know what to expect. I truly hate going to work and cry every day and more so now than ever since 2 of my wonderful coworkers have been fired. I just want to quit terribly but dont want to let my clients down.
My previous work caused me depression that I never experienced before in my life. I lost a will to live, to do anything, I was just a slave of my work, my life. I hated the fact that you have to still live because I didn't see any purpose and sense in it. This was caused by working extreme amount of hours, normally 10,11 but sometimes 15 hours a day. It was also caused by complete lack of support from my employer , rather opposite as my workplace culture actually demanded people to work crazy hours (as my boss once asked me ' soo.. you don't work at night but you could'). This should give you rough idea. Finally by complete accident I changed the departments and now I couldn't be more happy. My free time came back and my will to live with it. I actually even enjoy my life again which I already thought is not possible anymore. Now whenever I remember those grim and sad times, it brings chills down my spine and anxiety. After 3 months I still feel exhausted, like I really needed a year off to get back to normal, previous me.
1) Being Overworked 3:32 // 2) Not Feeling Valued or Appreciated 4:11 // 3) High Turnover 4:48 // 4) Having a demanding or dictatorial boss 5:51 // 5) A work Environment with Cliques and Gossip 6:47
My old job had and has high turnover because the new manager is hiring bodies rather than qualified people. We don't have the most technical job. But when you see that your bosses and coworkers don't care, why should you?
I am working for three months now in mental healthcare and my manager is so abusive (verbally and emotionally). Two of my colleagues resigned and she was fired. The environment is so toxic, people are always gossiping. I am overworked and underpaid, can’t even get out of bed in the morning. Is this worth it? :(
Oh my God I wish I quit my job too I'm dying. Irregular heartbeats, chest aches, depression,anxiety, panic attack. My mental health is affected. I live in a different country and I work for an employer on a contract. I have no choice I don't know what will be become of me after this year.
I've been feel all of that and i took depression test and i declared have severe depression, my boss is just like an alcoholic parent and i never get appreciation if i do my job well but when i do it wrong i got snapped really hard, even my boss didn't let me do my job and give it to my co worker instead and they gossiping me and stab my back on and on, i started feel hard to breath and think even when i got home and seeing my wife my tears suddenly came out, i hope this is over.
@@DouglasBloch yes sir, I've already doing a counseling and with several days thinking i made up my mind, I'm gonna quit my job for the sake of my mental health. hope i could find a better job with better work environment
I worked in a call center. The job was remote. KPIs were next to impossible. Management was stressed and that translated to absolute toxic and abusive situations. It's funny that they do not understand employment is a two way decision!
I have a toxic co worker that the boss won't handle her. She even snapped at him and yesterday he literally just left early without a word. My boss speaks word salad, and the training is so confusing and inconsistent. I've gotten to the point where I'm just drained. I can't learn anything, I'm dissociated.
Can you talk to somebody about this such as a supervisor or someone at human resources? Do you have your own counselor that you're talking to? It's always good to reach out for support
My job was great when I first started but after a year a co-worker got moved up to a manger who is now a complete ball buster and loads the guys up with work and that goes for the overnight shift and I got put on a swing shift that has been burning me out after 2 years now doing 2 overnights and 3 days am just done. Pay is great but its not worth it , I have been doing foot work and reaching out to find a new job and to move up in my field as well to a manger which I can and am able to do.
1. Gossip 2. Anger 3. Feelings being minimized 4. Passive aggressiveness and anger (in me) which is toxic 5. Management have no empathy all I was told is that I’m a hard worker none of them really wanted to get to know me when I’d ask them questions about themselves. 6. Rude co workers 7. High turn over rate 8. Upper management spying on all of us on Thanksgiving when she took the day off. (I called her out on this and was completely ignored no one even called me to see if I was coming back) 9. Manager also gas lit me when i asked her if she was going to hire someone new her response was “well you do only work part time and that’s what you wanted to work” 10. Manager is demanding and talks to other management and asks them why I didn’t get a certain job done. 11. Every time I went into work staff wouldn’t sit by the new girl. 12. Race sticking with their own race 13. A male manager touching me on my arm, fixing my collar, blabbing on about his wife and how wonderful she is when all i want is to find a certain project. He may have been on drugs to because he would act super high. 14. People showing up to work high. Im a Christian so at this point I’d rather just not work I’m too afraid to. The worst thing a female co worker said to me though was “you hurt your back because you were in all of these sexual positions with your boyfriend…hanging off the chandelier.” I was also called “sexy” by another female co worker. I think what helped me to get out of my head was to serve with kids around the community. Im thinking about working with children like at a Boys and Girls Club but I will never get back into special needs work or elder care do to how toxic people are. It’s the staff that’s toxic not the clients. Oh and The job I worked at wouldn’t go above $15 an hr no matter how long you stayed there unless you became a supervisor or manager
When Satan gets bald.....LOL Thanks for the laughs! Much needed today. Just titrated up on antidepressant and have got some side effects ugh. This too shall pass.
I haven’t even started yet and my “boss” yelled at me for not being okay with other people moving my things. I don’t even want to start tomorrow. I got so nauseous!!! Ugh
@@DouglasBloch I am considering not going at all. It was the 2nd red flag. I was suppose to start last week and they did not have my station ready. And once I set up my stuff when they did have my station ready; she had someone move all my stuff so they can move into it.
Thank you for healing My mind as to see that I have just quit today .. I would love to watch more of your videos in the future. I struggle with anger and anxiety and I am a boxer and I am currently working on a movie I'm writing while working a construction job .. i just quit that one and now I'm looking for somewhere else. Can you do a video for techniques to calm down at the work place because I find myself quitting more jobs than usual in my lifetime
I work in Bakery my manager always point and talk about with me about the mistakes I make or wrong im doing. But dint say "you doing a very great job" and top of that dealing with difficult customers that make my heart beat fast. I swear retail companies don't give care about employees they care either themselves or their businesses.
My workplace has been so toxic that I am considering taking sick leave which I am legally entitled due to an ongoing mental illness that has been exacerbated by workplace stress especially toxic management. I’m hoping this will help me put myself back together to help instill confidence to pursue a new job in my field. Has anyone done this?
My job is beyond stressful I been there 16 years and it feels like a abusive relationship u don't get weekends off I have a newborn now and they don't pay what I'm worth u get verbally abuse my memory is messed up I get overwhelmed easily now depressed and this company has a extremely high turn over rate if u don't get sales u get fired if u don't make people pay there bills u get fired they don't care about nothing but there self we get guns pulled out on us trying to collect payment and unrealistic goals I have bad anxiety now and I was never like this I can't stay awake this has been a nightmare
This sounds like a horrible situation. Do you have a counselor or a therapist you can talk about it with? The person would probably advise you to look for other work
There's all kinds of stress, we're certainly not born to only take on TOXIC stress our entire life. Unlike negative stress that tends to occur in moments that tend to reveal areas of improvement, TOXIC seems to be stagnant, unchanging, and leads to burnout. Plenty of POSITIVE stress opportunities in life as well like fitness and improving our habits. Personally I say much of our wellbeing can be bolstered with a solid ritualistic set of daily personal structure that implements many forms of positive stress to outweigh inevitable negative and especially allowing more self-awareness and conscientious of navigating out of toxic stress earlier before it escalates and infects us.
Hi Douglas. I'm outside trying to work because it is a beautiful day. It is daunting because there is too.much work but never enough. Not to steal quote from Mary Trump. What I mean is I cant seem to focus.
I really don’t know where I could go. Everywhere I work I end up in the same situation. I have not figured out how to think through the stress. I have been dealing with depression longer in my life than I have not. My stomach is in a knot. I have know appetite. I am that guy at work. It’s the worse feeling in the world. I’ve tried medicine, I have done ketamine treatments but don’t have enough to keep going. I am so tired. I hate this feeling. I used to be outgoing. I am in treatment, but it feels like it’s not working. I have a son in college and two small children so I have to earn. This life is so hard. I pray a lot. I want to feel change so bad. But 5 days a week 8 hours a day im the idiot.
I’m sorry you’re struggling. There are medications that you can take her sleep that are not habit-forming such as amitriptyline, trazodone, Remeron, and Seroquel. You might want to talk to your prescriber. Also there are many medications for depression. I wonder if you’ve tried them all?
Working in Mental Health at a Nonprofit where the caseloads are ridiculously high, Supervisors are young and inexperienced. Ive been there 6 months and they have major systemic issues that Clinicians have no support for. Burned out. Only been there 6 months. When Agencies burn out Mental Health folks then we cant be healthy for ourselves or them
I am extremely depressed,having heavy head and pain in head,boss is extremely dictatorial and very bad attitude including religious discrimination....colleagues are absolutely non supportive and violent too...my family doesn't support me and it's an emotional compulsion to stay to this job,I have got alopecia due to depression and heavy smoking habit has developed....higher managent believes on punishing rather than addressing my issue of extreme depression they think I am running from work....the only thing I am not able to quit is bcoz my family doesn't support me at all and my salary is very high.
Job I worked at just quit expected everyone to be there 24/7 even on days off would call you to come it and sometimes would ask you to stay longer than a scheduled shift. Like you felt obligated to be there all the time. Work was so much sometimes this was a retail job! When we got out of lockdown and they were short staffed making everyone including part timers work full time without benefits. And skipping breaks I was working in the fitting rooms and returns the fitting rooms were closed and me and one other associate was managing the mountains of returns and expected to put it all back during a shift felt the pressure of doing this work cleaning up after people sucked this was when I felt like I had shin splits from over using my legs most of us were working 7 day intervals the management or associates weren’t the problem mostly the fact they failed to hire more associates it wasn’t until last September that they finally hired more but also they would write you up for ridicules reasons. Also heard a new hire was working overtime and this was when old longer term associates were going days without work for awhile I’m in collage still living with parents only 24 no social life cause of this job was have bad depressive episodes cause of this job and stress I just finally had to wake up one day and say no to this shitty job
Imagine being and HR manager and working at a place like you describe. Due to the company culture there and management I couldn’t take it anymore and left after 7 years. Nepotism - watch out for that as it is usually not good.
Am experiencing all of these right now in my job. I have stated the issues and they do nothing. I pick up others job etc. I have terrible days at work call the time
Unfortunately from point 2 to point 5 I am experiencing on my current workplace... I am looking for anothe rjob already, but I am having some trouble, I don't know if I am doing something wrong, or maybe because of the state of the economy as we live in a recession right now. I hope things will become better
I have been crying every day for a month because of my new job. The people are nice, but I hate the open office space, I hate the mandatory overtime. I feel as if I will have a heart attack or a brain aneurysm soon. And what is worse is everyone else is telling me that it's because I am lazy, and a lot of people do it just fine.
@@DouglasBloch thing is that I live in a country with an unemployment rate of 14,2% and I am low on experience. I always wanted to do something creative with my life, but I seem to be stuck with accounting. Which I wouldn't mind, if only the hours were not full time.
If you believe in prayer you can call Silent Unity at 1-81-6-969-2000 and ask for a solution to your difficulty. Perhaps they will let you work part time
@@DouglasBloch first of. I don't have the money to call an American line. Low sell tactic with the God as well, not cool. Second, do you think that in a country with that much unemployment and low salaries will have any openings for part time junior accountants? Sigh, sorry to trouble your comment section. I just wanted to raise awareness that we need to push and push hard to normalize a 32 hour week as full time and stop with the 40+ life drain.
I just resigned an hour ago from my toxic job and I feel amazing. All of that stress and misery disappeared in 5 minutes.
Did you have a new job lined up? Or just said screw or I’m out of here and left?
@Jayden P I was unemployed for 2 hours. I'm still at the same place now. It's a lot better, and it's great to be treated with respect.
I may be moving on from place soon, however, for a job as a mental health counsellor. Still, I will never forget what they did during a difficult time for me.
I want to do the same!! I'm in sales and I've been in sales for a long time. I'm tired of it and tired of the toxic stress of sales. Always pipeline pipeline pipeline quota quota quota. You make quota for months and everyone is your friend. But you miss quota for a month or 2 and everyone hates you. I want to quit so bad and I don't have anything lined up. I have enough saved to last me a bit. I may just quit and clear my head. Free up time to process and go to the gym more. Help!
Lol man I laughed when I read this but I'm happy you had the courage to do so
@@MrAlex5378how are you doing now? Did u leave?...I'm so sorry to hear that I'm in a very toxic work environment I'm making good money but I DNT care I can't take it no more...I applied to like 8 jobs last night gotta get out of here
1. Being overworked 2. Not feeling valued and appreciated 3. high turnover 4. Having an overly demanding or dictatorial boss 5. Gossip
GG hah, imagine a place that ticks all 5 of those. It sucks.
Charlie Dallachie that is my workplace, I will stay there one more year and then I will get out. It has no future, people are so toxic there that I feel very depressed everytime I think about going to that workplace. People with high egos even when they are at the same position as I am.
that is my workplace
I’m 3 years late
I’m a teacher. 25 years teaching
I teach 3rd grade ( in another country) with 50 kids in a class.
All signs are present at my workplace
We don’t have a high turnover at my school bc most teachers hang on to their salaries. They turn a blind eye to the toxicity because they feel nothing will be done . They teach , go home and get paid.
Cliques and gossip is the worst and it comes from Management
@@charliedallachie3539 mine is 4/5
Don't forget no room for growth and the constant repetition of a monotonous task. The boredom of these types of tasks can drastically increase anxiety .
ITA!!!
Sounds like retail
True
This is exactly how I’ve tried explaining it to my family but they brush it off as I’m just being lazy and want to stay home all day. When Id rather be anywhere else most of the time
@@chrism4886 Your family does not understand because they have most likely not worked in a call center environment . Be patient and explain to them the negative effect that working in a call center is having on your mental health
The only solution for a toxic office culture is to find a new job. See it early and quietly put an exit plan in motion, don’t even try to play the game.
Wise advice.
It's like trying to swim against the current. You're far better to see it for what it is and to just move on.
I’m trying to understand why I stayed in a toxic work environment for 8 years. I finally decided I had enough and walked out. Never again. Thank you for this video.
You’re welcome
If you think about self-harm or suicide before, during or after work that may be one.
I’m sorry work is having that impact on you. Here’s a website created for dealing with suicidal thoughts. www.overcomingsuicidalpain.com
This is usually a daily thing for me.
Me
I chuckled but this is a real true statement
That's been me with all jobs. I have severe depression recurring and severe anxiety. Stress makes it really bad. I almost took my life last week because of other stress and no job currently. I can't get SSDI. I was denied again and again
My lawyer sucked so I am literally the working disabled. That's IF I can find a job. Jobs are limited now because of a back injury, and I have no computer skills, no college. I am learning disabled with dyscalculia.
The #1 sign.
When you go to sleep and awaken, are you nervous anxious or fearful of that job.
If so...it is Toxic and one needs to always be looking.
👍🙏
I just wake up and make research because I keep waling up because of my stress regarding work. Its hard to realize I let it go that bad. Ouff..
Thank you so much man, don’t know how much this means to me
My job is a living nightmare but I will be debt free at Christmas "including house",I can't wait to walk out that door for good.
I completely agree. Stay focused. Reach your goal and bounce. I am doing the same thing.
Wishing you all good luck
My job is a horror movie. I need to start taking real steps to get out!
@mariewilder same here
Wishing you all the best hope things are better now
I'm a doctor but I was made to work as a receptionist.. I totally lost confidence in me. It was really toxic. Today I took this step to resign for my mental health.. though I don't have another job in hand, I had to take this step. I hope I'll get a good job next 😇
Great move, goodluck
How are you now?
You will. I have faith in you.
If you are watching this, you already know the answer.
I quite one after just 3 hours !!! Before lunch !!
I did as well.
I worked at one for a year and a half because the pay was $16 per hour and I had no other choice at the time .
Well you lost a job but u won in another way. 3 hours? That’s probably a new record
😭😂
@Rose dowling You definitely should go back to work and tell ur boss “We all make mistakes can I have my job back.” Trust me dude, in this corona economy, new jobs are like gold
I've been working at my toxic job for the past six years. My mental health has gotten worse because of this job. For the past six years I'd been dealing with verbal abuse, bullying, verbal harassment, and physical abuse. My shift leader is abusive, my boss is a hypocrite, my coworkers are wannabe bosses/high school bullies. Right now I'm searching for a temporary job
Good luck in getting out of that situation
@@DouglasBloch thanks, I'm tired feeling depressed and angry. I wanna find a job where I could feel happy and blessed at the same time. Six years has been toxic for me. It's about time I find a stable job
@@bez1196 I'm leaving this job next week
@Chrismorpher Keep telling yourself you deserve better and never give up finding it!
@@MojoMama7 thank u I found a job that pays way more than previous job
And that God i don't have to force to freaking clock in 5 minutes early
Sometimes you can feel like the job you are doing becomes so overwhelming due to stress factors that you feel like you are not good at your job or it is something you are not meant to do but what your feeling is not because you are doing something wrong.
Just quit my job of 6 years in the middle of my shift something flipped a switch and I just couldn’t do it another hour.
Hello, I just saw this comment and I'm not sure if you'll see this but how did this work out for you? I almost left my shift the other day because I was done with my job. How did this work out with leaving your shift in the middle of it?
@@not.supermario best thing I have ever done. I am happy again like I was before and my family is too. There is jobs out there I got 3 offers in a week but decided to go to truck driving school it’s 3 weeks long and will be making 80k on my first contract.
@@kylenolen9546 that is amazing. I swear blessings come when you let toxicity go.
I left my job working in the Pharmacy due to toxic coworkers
4 more days and I leave my toxic job. It’s been a year too long
Left my toxic job and I feel AMAZING
Working from home is the future. Physical locations too toxic and costly
there are still a lot of jobs that require hands on not everyone is fortunate to work from home
The worst is when you can do 99.9% of your job from home but your employer insists that you come in 5 days a week and sit all day in an ugly toxic office in their cheap uncomfortable chairs 😑
@@lincolnlane6763 omgggg! This is the one!! Right here. You got it spot on!
Gave my 2 weeks notice in a job that is literally making me sick. Working overnight, toxic co workers, cannot sleep well during the day hours. Physical symptoms. Not worth it. Thanks.
You are welcome
I left my position eight months ago after three years of bullying and intimidation from the boss. She is a marginal narcissistic who took great pleasure in tormenting staff who, she felt, weren’t loyal to her. I haven’t been able to work since then but feel like I’m ready to finally move forward. But the boss got her just reward - she is currently on ‘study leave’ while an external investigation is happening. She is the only one who hasn’t realized that there is no coming back from this. The work environment had every one of the five points and more - my favourite was getting other staff to spy on colleagues.
I just got fired from the same kind of person. He was a narcissist and felt that every employee he hired, they needed to “prove” their loyalty to him. He also refused to train and be patient with people when their just learning to do the job right. Instead, he would insult and belittle people that didnt grasp information as quickly as his photographic memory. He was so miserable with his life that he made sure everyone around him was miserable. When employees wouldnt cross over their job duties, to “prove” their loyalty to him (outside their pay-grade, too), he would find a way to get rid of them by lying about their employees work performance to corporate for approval of their separation. It was a nightmare there.
I had one; quit after two weeks.
Just hit 21 years at my job. Feel my mind is so cloudy and so far gone with depression that I'll never enjoy life, hobbies, or music again. The frosting on top, spinal fusion from work accident ruined my life at work and, more importantly, my life outside of work. Countless days I sit at work and stare until it's time to go home. What a waste of life, I hope nobody else is thus unhappy where they are at.
I have compassion for your suffering. Hopefully things will begin to improve.
My job couldn't have been more toxic and I stayed too long. I had to take a few years off after it cause it was so tormenting.
Me too. I stayed at my former highly toxic job for too long. I quit one year ago, but I still haven't been able to completely recover from that nightmare of job I had.
@@fayejewell I'm so sorry, It's no different to living in prison/hell is it? You're there so often and when you're not your mind is there and you never get a break and the power the job has over you is the roof over your head and food on your plate.
I'm so glad you're out now and on the road, however long and arduous to recovery. Learn to love yourself if you don't already, you deserve to be happy ❤️
@@SWildMF ai completely agree with you. Yes, I felt my job became my life, and it was on my mind almost all the time, even when I was not working. Thanks so much for the good wishes. Little by little I feel better, and I hope you're doing better too!
@@fayejewell Im so glad to hear you're on the way up. I've had a very hard year but I'm using it to re-evaluate my life. Even though we were great together I lost my girlfriend in January. I was codependent on her without realising. I'm in the process of building myself up from scratch. Thanks for your thoughts ❤️ keep going, you'll be fine!
I've never really had a job that paid decent that was NOT toxic. My current job is hell and the one I had right before it was also hell. I took off a few years after my last one to deal with the trauma from it. I never fully healed and I had to start working again. It wasn't long before my current job became a nightmare. It's like an endless cycle.
Uncertainty about job security , high turnover rate both from resignations and terminations and rigid rules designed to dehumanize a person . I just described the majority of corporate and call center environments. If you have anxiety or depression avoid these situations at all costs .
Thanks for the report. I’ve heard similar things from people who have worked in call centers.
Yep I'm experiencing this and in a call centre environment. Haven't been to work since December 15th and have typed a resignation letter ready to send to my manager
@@DouglasBloch what is working in a call center like?
@@irontail2462 what's a call center like?
I just resigned from call centre too much toxic environment I did my best at that work but I realised they don't see that I hit rock bottom I said to myself with the low pay I cannot accept such environment I resigned immediately but that BPO company many people resigned not that they have another job but they preffered peace of mind
On top of my head: healthcare, social work, food services, and customer services could easily check off the boxes.
Trucking! Specifically the fuel hauling industry. As a female, it's pointless as the 'Good- 'Ol- Boy' network will always overpower the female fuel hauler. This industry is so heavily toxic it has sucked the life out of me. I've been driving trucks since 2000, and hauling fuel the last 4 of those years. The toxicity goes all the way up to the highest seats of corporate; it's an industry founded on corruption and if you're a very conscientious (female) driver, you'll be squashed out in every way. but not a lot of videos or articles talk about how females are treated in the fuel hauling industry- if at all. It's under the radar I guess, so no one knows this magnitude of sickness exists.
I've worked in healthcare for over twenty nine years. I have always liked being able to help people , but it has been a struggle for most of time. The main reasons are the overwhelming work load and having to deal with Doctors with arrogant, spoiled brat attitudes. Most hospitals refuse to hire enough staff to take care of the patient load... and if you bring this fact to their attention, they usually reply, " just do the best you can." Thank God I've only got a few more years left to work!
This is my current field of work and wanna leave it become a poison in my brain
Been an RN for ten years and have had three fellow nurses commit suicide! NEVER in my life have or previous careers have I seen or herd of any coworkers resulting to this end! Healthcare is the most toxic work environment I have ever been exposed to!!
@@johnberry2877 🙌🙌🙌preach!!
Omgee the culture is so toxic I see through all of them they make me so angry I don’t even talk to them!!
@@all4Dorian Woww.... that’s me. You’re so right.
Working at a job you like is good for you. I like assembling flat packs, it sends most people to stress out. It relaxes me, im weird. Another great vid.
Job stress depression is so common but rarely discussed. Great topic selection that I hope gets developed more on your chanel.
Great Video. Sadly a number of managers would simply say to the victim " don't worry about it " " Its all in your mind" "You got a bit of a persecuted complex".
In reality they don't know how to deal with the situation.
Very true
I started a new job 2 weeks ago. I've had stomach pain and throbbing headaches since day 3. My manager has zero patience and has been trying to train me. She will say "this is how you do it" then you follow her directions. About 2 hours later, she will say "this company doesn't do it like that, you have to do it like this." I was driving home tonight and realized I can't stay there, even for the money. It sucks knowing I'll be losing a paycheque, but staying in a job like that will take its toll eventually. I have a rule though for making important decisions, I always give it 48 hours to assure it's the right one as I've made some hasty mistakes in the past that I regretted. I plan on giving my notice after this coming weekend.
How are you now this is so relatable
I just love how a boss won't give you a raise until you threaten to leave or put in the notice. My one former boss waited until my very last day to sweeten the pot. I was to the point that I didn't care anymore. I already had one foot out the door at that point. When they asked what they were doing wrong, I just told them I was done. Let them figure it out on their own. I was the 4th guy to go in less then a year and he finally decided to hire replacements. I make way better pay now.
Yup... working in retail for almost four years and trying to find something less anxiety inducing!
Wow...ALL of those things apply to my workplace; but, then I already knew it was toxic. I haven't finished listening. Hopefully, there's something here to help. Thing about changing jobs is that eventually, you run into the same crap that you left at the other job. You just have to try to wait until you win the lottery and can do what you want, when you want.
Perhaps There is a decent workplace said you haven’t found yet
I personally have no debt and a ton of savings for one reason only. I refuse to work somewhere that makes me miserable. If they cant treat people with respect regardless of age, race, gender, or any wierd quirk. Thay can kiss my hiny goodbye.
@@DouglasBloch God, I hope so!
Thanks for this! I just resigned! It was so toxic. I had a mental breakdown.
This describes my boss completely. Micromanager + OCD. The staff are nice. HE has the problem and he refuses to get treatment for it. He is the President and CEO and there is no HR department.
Sorry to hear that
You hit it head on! Haven't heard it better from anyone else. Thanks for sharing!
You’re welcome
I was off work sick with work related stress when I returned to work they warned me that any further periods of sickness could result in my being dismissed. They also gave me additional responsibilities which resulted in extra work!
I lasted another year and a half before I was forced to retire early due to my now depression. That was over a year ago and I am still coping with depression and anxiety
I am sorry you had to go through hell? What are you doing to treat your depression and anxiety?
,I am currently on antidepressants
I’ve had CBT and try to complete my lists but as you have suggested I need to make them shorter so I am not anxious about not completing it.
I try to feel anxious but do it any way it doesn’t always work but I haven’t had the heeby geebies yet so that is an improvement .
Same here. That was innove
If you work in retail, and it’s no longer the customers that bother you, that’s usually very telling.
The jokes made me laugh and smile. I just had a really bad anxiety episode that's lasted almost an hour and the jokes themselves made me feel better. Thank You
😀 you're welcome.
Leaving a toxic workplace in two weeks after 4 years
Congratulations
Currently walking away from a 14.50 job (I’m 19) and still trying to remind myself I am not weak, just wasn’t the right time.
Your video has literally gave me all the things I am experiencing during work and my depression is getting nothing but worse as time goes on, I’ve been debating leaving my job but not until I have another job confirmed secure to replace my current place
That is usually good idea
The source of my workplace related depression is because I am a shy introvert who has trouble connecting with people. It’s like everyone around me is in on something and there I sit feeling more and more withdrawn. The work week is excruciating for me. I would rather be home with my cats. I get such anxiety walking around and not sure of how to act when I walk by someone, so I look down at the ground. Gosh, I hate being around people.
I'm sorry to hear that. Can you work with a counselor to learn ways that. you can be more comfortable around people and more connected. I am also an. introvert, so I have had to learn this. Of course, I am a writer which is an introverted profession. Perhaps you can find a different kind of work.
@@DouglasBloch thank you so much for replying. Not sure what I can do. Maybe a counseling session or two would help.
Yes, it would be worth trying.
I am a classic introvert but am still part of management. What you describe seems more than introversion. But a good counselor should help lots.
Best to you.
Sameeee
if the turnover rate is high even with very good pay, does that mean its highly toxic...
What is the reason for the turnover? Are people burned out or are they just moving on to something better
the management nitpick about sales and performance, extremely stressful working environment ..they are letting at least one employee go every month. Half of the people cant even pass probation. I worked there for 3 years miraculously and just quit last month. I am feeling so good that i dont need to see those people anymore.
I don’t have a job right now but I can relate to what you discussed about clicks. I looked for another job when I did found myself involved with a company that encouraged new employee isolation and other abuses. Thanks for the video.
Hey Dr, I've had depression pretty much my whole life and mainly have periods where I'm fine until something triggers me. Fast forward to now I got a new job sometime in March of this year as a bank teller. I came from a small town grocery store where I climbed the work ladder and became the front end Mgr. The only issue was the work hours and the fact that I had alot of responsibility, but it made me happy and I was confident in what I did. I thought that leaving would be the best thing. The bank was a completely different work environment for me and slowly made me feel worse about myself. I just could not fit in as much as I tried. Even in the middle of this job I felt uncomfortable about, my grandmother passed away who I loved very much. Needless to say I just got fired from the bank which has made my self worth even worse and every day just seems pretty hard. I wake up feeling restless and anxiety ridden. I'm just not me right now. I want everything to be okay. You want to think things will turn out for the better eventually but it's really hard to see from here
You should probably reach out to a counselor at Service if you don't have one now. You can tell yourself that being fired from the bank simply meant that it was not a good fit for you. It doesn't reflect on your abilities, because you were successful as manager of the grocery store
Douglas nailed it with his answer here. True is his words
Dealing with this right now. I have all kinds of physical issues as a result.
Are you getting the support you need to make things better?
@@DouglasBloch I see a therapist but as far as my job...no. The only thing is to move on and stop complaining. Thanks for being kind.
@@justsj9281 if i quit
I am afraid i will not get another job
Matthew 18:9
“And if your eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell.”
My job was keeping me from Christ, from my family, from myself. I “plucked the eye out” today. I quit my job today and I cannot express how free I feel. My goal now is to find myself, find my purpose and to serve God. 🙏🏼✨
I wish you the best in your new direction thank you
Only 13 more days left at my toxic job of 4 years.
I'm honestly crying after watching this. My job, which used to be fun, is now very toxic and not tolerable at all. I dread going to work and no matter how many times I try to keep my head up, I can't get through my day.
Thanks for the tips. Honestly, I need this wake up call.
I'm glad the video was helpful.
Not worth your mental and physical health.
I quit a job where the environment is not hostile, but there was no feedback or guidance. For years I have anxiety over my performance because my co workers are getting promoted while I stay behind. Then it clicked to me how they use promotion for employee retention. When they promoted a junior over me to keep them from leaving, finally dawned to me how my years of good work, humility, and loyalty is not worth much.
I just need a new better job that’s less stressful and although I have been applying to jobs for a year and it has been excruciatingly hard due to the pandemic. All 5 points that you said are exactly the issues with my job...I need to leave before a manager ends up missing...
I've hated my job since day 1 and I've been here for 14 years. I have no idea what I'm doing with my life.
Have you reached out to a job counselor or to any other kind of counseling?
same :')
@@kanakkanakharam better quit guys
update the resume
Wow, everything you said about the workplace is true, true, true! Thanks for the tips on how to deal with it. I've jobed hopped for too long. I need coping skills. Keep up the great advice.
At the start of 2021 I had a great paying position at a call center that I was a dedicated workaholic to because it paid well and it was such a good job. Around mid January my position was outsourced to the Philippines. Because of it I was forced back into a cold call sales position that quickly killed my workaholic ethic and made me suicidal when thinking just how much it torpedoed my work ethic and made me feel like a failure on the daily.
Today is my last day at this job, and I'm horrified about not being able to find a new job, but know that if I don't leave, that I will do something I know I'm not going to be able to undo
I'm glad you were doing something to take care of yourself. Perhaps you could go see an employment coach or counselor to help you find a new job
@@DouglasBloch Im 23 and live in the state of Texas, main reason for leaving being mental health struggles wouldn't allow me to claim unemployment would it? And thank you for reaching out. It truly means a lot
Many years ago, I left a job because of mental health struggles and I had my doctor write a note which I gave to the unemployment division and I was able to get unemployment. Perhaps you can do the same thing.
Great Topic! I have 4 out of 5! This gives clarity why I am so exhausted and not motivated to go to work. Thank you for the video
Glad it was helpful!
I stepped down from my position to a lower position today. It’s been building and building and I was about to blow my lid. I finally, after weeks and weeks of the build up, ripped the bandaid off and stepped down to my former position. I was “promoted” to do ten times the work for less pay and I thought I was more esteemed for the title I had. It was not worth it. After four months, the RELIEF I FEEK RIGHT NOW is INCREDIBLE. Just do it…. We have one life. Make it a happy one. It’s in your hands.
Thank you for your testimonial
Stupid as it sounds or I might be wrong but I recently started realizing school never really teaches us to think for ourselves. If you were obedient and quiet (except when answering questions in class) and did what you were supposed to do, it seemed teachers were okay with it. I have noticed the popular kids or the ones who were "social butterflies" at school, even if they didn't do that well in their studies back then, seem to adjust better at work. Just something I kind of noticed.
Really enjoy your humor! Thanks for starting things off on a lighter note.
You're welcome
You're welcome. What was today's joke?
My current job literally checks off every single one of these points. I requested an internal transfer which got approved! Hoping that my new gig is less stressful than what I’ve experienced so far!
Submitted my letter of resignation today after 11 months at this company. Endured 4/5 of these signs all that time, can't wait to be out.
what was the final straw that made you leave?
@@originalclassics I took a few days off to go to a cousin's wedding out of state and was around sane, rational people who cared about me. When I came back it was like returning to an institution.
Eight months later, I think it's one of the best decisions I've ever made.
@@MollyWinter glad you made the jump for your sake! I’m in a similar predicament now.
In heavy a contemplation the ppl-job are making me ill..the thing is I used to like going to my job now I loathe the joint.
I have no choice. My job is slowly killing me. But I’ve been at the same job for 18 years and I can’t leave
I have a boss who is very toxic and I definitely suffer from anxiety and depression. I am currently anxious writing this because my work place exhibts all of the signs youve talked about, except the last one because my coworkers and I also agree managment is bad and the only thing we talk about is how we never know what to expect. I truly hate going to work and cry every day and more so now than ever since 2 of my wonderful coworkers have been fired. I just want to quit terribly but dont want to let my clients down.
My previous work caused me depression that I never experienced before in my life.
I lost a will to live, to do anything, I was just a slave of my work, my life. I hated the fact that you have to still live because I didn't see any purpose and sense in it.
This was caused by working extreme amount of hours, normally 10,11 but sometimes 15 hours a day. It was also caused by complete lack of support from my employer , rather opposite as my workplace culture actually demanded people to work crazy hours (as my boss once asked me ' soo.. you don't work at night but you could'). This should give you rough idea.
Finally by complete accident I changed the departments and now I couldn't be more happy. My free time came back and my will to live with it. I actually even enjoy my life again which I already thought is not possible anymore.
Now whenever I remember those grim and sad times, it brings chills down my spine and anxiety. After 3 months I still feel exhausted, like I really needed a year off to get back to normal, previous me.
I’m glad you’re kind of waiting to scape your negative situation
1) Being Overworked 3:32 // 2) Not Feeling Valued or Appreciated 4:11 // 3) High Turnover 4:48 // 4) Having a demanding or dictatorial boss 5:51 // 5) A work Environment with Cliques and Gossip 6:47
My old job had and has high turnover because the new manager is hiring bodies rather than qualified people. We don't have the most technical job. But when you see that your bosses and coworkers don't care, why should you?
Thanks for the wisdom, you are healing souls and saving lives. God bless.
I'm glad I am able to help.
I am working for three months now in mental healthcare and my manager is so abusive (verbally and emotionally). Two of my colleagues resigned and she was fired. The environment is so toxic, people are always gossiping. I am overworked and underpaid, can’t even get out of bed in the morning. Is this worth it? :(
That's something you have to sound, but it sounds like the work situation is having adverse effects on you.
Oh my God I wish I quit my job too
I'm dying.
Irregular heartbeats, chest aches, depression,anxiety, panic attack.
My mental health is affected. I live in a different country and I work for an employer on a contract.
I have no choice
I don't know what will be become of me after this year.
I've been feel all of that and i took depression test and i declared have severe depression, my boss is just like an alcoholic parent and i never get appreciation if i do my job well but when i do it wrong i got snapped really hard, even my boss didn't let me do my job and give it to my co worker instead and they gossiping me and stab my back on and on, i started feel hard to breath and think even when i got home and seeing my wife my tears suddenly came out, i hope this is over.
You may want to reach out to a counselor or therapist for support
@@DouglasBloch yes sir, I've already doing a counseling and with several days thinking i made up my mind, I'm gonna quit my job for the sake of my mental health. hope i could find a better job with better work environment
This is such a good video. Sharing w coworkers
To save you some time, just start from 3:32
I worked in a call center. The job was remote. KPIs were next to impossible. Management was stressed and that translated to absolute toxic and abusive situations. It's funny that they do not understand employment is a two way decision!
I have a toxic co worker that the boss won't handle her. She even snapped at him and yesterday he literally just left early without a word. My boss speaks word salad, and the training is so confusing and inconsistent. I've gotten to the point where I'm just drained. I can't learn anything, I'm dissociated.
Can you talk to somebody about this such as a supervisor or someone at human resources? Do you have your own counselor that you're talking to? It's always good to reach out for support
My job was great when I first started but after a year a co-worker got moved up to a manger who is now a complete ball buster and loads the guys up with work and that goes for the overnight shift and I got put on a swing shift that has been burning me out after 2 years now doing 2 overnights and 3 days am just done. Pay is great but its not worth it , I have been doing foot work and reaching out to find a new job and to move up in my field as well to a manger which I can and am able to do.
You described my job perfectly. I think I have ptsd 16 years later
1. Gossip
2. Anger
3. Feelings being minimized
4. Passive aggressiveness and anger (in me) which is toxic
5. Management have no empathy all I was told is that I’m a hard worker none of them really wanted to get to know me when I’d ask them questions about themselves.
6. Rude co workers
7. High turn over rate
8. Upper management spying on all of us on Thanksgiving when she took the day off. (I called her out on this and was completely ignored no one even called me to see if I was coming back)
9. Manager also gas lit me when i asked her if she was going to hire someone new her response was “well you do only work part time and that’s what you wanted to work”
10. Manager is demanding and talks to other management and asks them why I didn’t get a certain job done.
11. Every time I went into work staff wouldn’t sit by the new girl.
12. Race sticking with their own race
13. A male manager touching me on my arm, fixing my collar, blabbing on about his wife and how wonderful she is when all i want is to find a certain project. He may have been on drugs to because he would act super high.
14. People showing up to work high.
Im a Christian so at this point I’d rather just not work I’m too afraid to.
The worst thing a female co worker said to me though was “you hurt your back because you were in all of these sexual positions with your boyfriend…hanging off the chandelier.” I was also called “sexy” by another female co worker.
I think what helped me to get out of my head was to serve with kids around the community. Im thinking about working with children like at a Boys and Girls Club but I will never get back into special needs work or elder care do to how toxic people are. It’s the staff that’s toxic not the clients.
Oh and The job I worked at wouldn’t go above $15 an hr no matter how long you stayed there unless you became a supervisor or manager
Well, that all sounds really toxic. Have you been able to leave the job?
When Satan gets bald.....LOL Thanks for the laughs! Much needed today. Just titrated up on antidepressant and have got some side effects ugh. This too shall pass.
I haven’t even started yet and my “boss” yelled at me for not being okay with other people moving my things. I don’t even want to start tomorrow. I got so nauseous!!! Ugh
I hope things change once you start work
@@DouglasBloch I am considering not going at all. It was the 2nd red flag. I was suppose to start last week and they did not have my station ready. And once I set up my stuff when they did have my station ready; she had someone move all my stuff so they can move into it.
Does not sound like a nurturing place.
This is the first time I see ur videos and ur amazing!!!!
Thank you for healing My mind as to see that I have just quit today .. I would love to watch more of your videos in the future. I struggle with anger and anxiety and I am a boxer and I am currently working on a movie I'm writing while working a construction job .. i just quit that one and now I'm looking for somewhere else. Can you do a video for techniques to calm down at the work place because I find myself quitting more jobs than usual in my lifetime
I work in Bakery my manager always point and talk about with me about the mistakes I make or wrong im doing. But dint say "you doing a very great job" and top of that dealing with difficult customers that make my heart beat fast. I swear retail companies don't give care about employees they care either themselves or their businesses.
Sorry to hear that. Have you thought about trying something else besides retail
My workplace has been so toxic that I am considering taking sick leave which I am legally entitled due to an ongoing mental illness that has been exacerbated by workplace stress especially toxic management. I’m hoping this will help me put myself back together to help instill confidence to pursue a new job in my field. Has anyone done this?
I'm sure that taking time off and focusing on your healing will lead to positive results.
Yep. Just doing that now!
I have anxiety and pretty much cry before I get to work everyday. 🤦🏽♀️ I’m on a mission for another job.
Thank you for this video!!
You are most welcome.
My job is beyond stressful I been there 16 years and it feels like a abusive relationship u don't get weekends off I have a newborn now and they don't pay what I'm worth u get verbally abuse my memory is messed up I get overwhelmed easily now depressed and this company has a extremely high turn over rate if u don't get sales u get fired if u don't make people pay there bills u get fired they don't care about nothing but there self we get guns pulled out on us trying to collect payment and unrealistic goals I have bad anxiety now and I was never like this I can't stay awake this has been a nightmare
This sounds like a horrible situation. Do you have a counselor or a therapist you can talk about it with? The person would probably advise you to look for other work
There's all kinds of stress, we're certainly not born to only take on TOXIC stress our entire life.
Unlike negative stress that tends to occur in moments that tend to reveal areas of improvement, TOXIC seems to be stagnant, unchanging, and leads to burnout. Plenty of POSITIVE stress opportunities in life as well like fitness and improving our habits.
Personally I say much of our wellbeing can be bolstered with a solid ritualistic set of daily personal structure that implements many forms of positive stress to outweigh inevitable negative and especially allowing more self-awareness and conscientious of navigating out of toxic stress earlier before it escalates and infects us.
Working in Retail for over 20 years and different superstores here in the UK and I'm on sick leave for all of the five signs. My job is very toxic.
Hi Douglas. Thanks for doing this video. I feel stuck. A feeling a gloom and doom every day that I'm stuck.
Hi Douglas. I'm outside trying to work because it is a beautiful day. It is daunting because there is too.much work but never enough. Not to steal quote from Mary Trump. What I mean is I cant seem to focus.
Is it toxic to send to my boss
I really don’t know where I could go. Everywhere I work I end up in the same situation. I have not figured out how to think through the stress. I have been dealing with depression longer in my life than I have not. My stomach is in a knot. I have know appetite. I am that guy at work. It’s the worse feeling in the world. I’ve tried medicine, I have done ketamine treatments but don’t have enough to keep going. I am so tired. I hate this feeling. I used to be outgoing. I am in treatment, but it feels like it’s not working. I have a son in college and two small children so I have to earn. This life is so hard. I pray a lot. I want to feel change so bad. But 5 days a week 8 hours a day im the idiot.
I’m sorry you’re struggling. There are medications that you can take her sleep that are not habit-forming such as amitriptyline, trazodone, Remeron, and Seroquel. You might want to talk to your prescriber. Also there are many medications for depression. I wonder if you’ve tried them all?
Get your Testosterone levels checked as well
Working in Mental Health at a Nonprofit where the caseloads are ridiculously high, Supervisors are young and inexperienced. Ive been there 6 months and they have major systemic issues that Clinicians have no support for. Burned out. Only been there 6 months. When Agencies burn out Mental Health folks then we cant be healthy for ourselves or them
I am extremely depressed,having heavy head and pain in head,boss is extremely dictatorial and very bad attitude including religious discrimination....colleagues are absolutely non supportive and violent too...my family doesn't support me and it's an emotional compulsion to stay to this job,I have got alopecia due to depression and heavy smoking habit has developed....higher managent believes on punishing rather than addressing my issue of extreme depression they think I am running from work....the only thing I am not able to quit is bcoz my family doesn't support me at all and my salary is very high.
I am sorry you're having this dilemma. Perhaps you could reach out to a therapist or counselor and get some support
Job I worked at just quit expected everyone to be there 24/7 even on days off would call you to come it and sometimes would ask you to stay longer than a scheduled shift. Like you felt obligated to be there all the time. Work was so much sometimes this was a retail job! When we got out of lockdown and they were short staffed making everyone including part timers work full time without benefits. And skipping breaks I was working in the fitting rooms and returns the fitting rooms were closed and me and one other associate was managing the mountains of returns and expected to put it all back during a shift felt the pressure of doing this work cleaning up after people sucked this was when I felt like I had shin splits from over using my legs most of us were working 7 day intervals the management or associates weren’t the problem mostly the fact they failed to hire more associates it wasn’t until last September that they finally hired more but also they would write you up for ridicules reasons. Also heard a new hire was working overtime and this was when old longer term associates were going days without work for awhile I’m in collage still living with parents only 24 no social life cause of this job was have bad depressive episodes cause of this job and stress I just finally had to wake up one day and say no to this shitty job
Imagine being and HR manager and working at a place like you describe. Due to the company culture there and management I couldn’t take it anymore and left after 7 years. Nepotism - watch out for that as it is usually not good.
Am experiencing all of these right now in my job. I have stated the issues and they do nothing. I pick up others job etc. I have terrible days at work call the time
I love my co-workers and my boss. It's the work and the customers that I can't handle anymore.
I have decided to quit my job so I am here just to get more insight.
I hope you did get insight
@@DouglasBloch 👍 yes sir, it helps. Thanks for this video.
You’re welcome.
Unfortunately from point 2 to point 5 I am experiencing on my current workplace... I am looking for anothe rjob already, but I am having some trouble, I don't know if I am doing something wrong, or maybe because of the state of the economy as we live in a recession right now. I hope things will become better
I have been crying every day for a month because of my new job. The people are nice, but I hate the open office space, I hate the mandatory overtime. I feel as if I will have a heart attack or a brain aneurysm soon. And what is worse is everyone else is telling me that it's because I am lazy, and a lot of people do it just fine.
It doesn't seem like this job is a good fit for you. Have you thought of talking with a counselor about finding a different company to work for?
@@DouglasBloch thing is that I live in a country with an unemployment rate of 14,2% and I am low on experience.
I always wanted to do something creative with my life, but I seem to be stuck with accounting. Which I wouldn't mind, if only the hours were not full time.
If you believe in prayer you can call Silent Unity at 1-81-6-969-2000 and ask for a solution to your difficulty. Perhaps they will let you work part time
@@DouglasBloch first of. I don't have the money to call an American line. Low sell tactic with the God as well, not cool. Second, do you think that in a country with that much unemployment and low salaries will have any openings for part time junior accountants?
Sigh, sorry to trouble your comment section. I just wanted to raise awareness that we need to push and push hard to normalize a 32 hour week as full time and stop with the 40+ life drain.