Get out and ignore them. If you do listen to them your self esteem will be destroyed. I was in a toxic work environment for 6 years it nearly took me a year to recover
What do you do when you have never took part in office gossip or spoke about anyone at the office, yet you are consistently the centre of gossip? What do you do if you’re discriminated against without taking legal action (which can be quite costly and energy draining)?
To answer the question: "Are there any normal people out there anymore?" "Of course there are sweety. They're the ones being used, overlooked, bullied, and chased out of companies"
My boundary for toxic coworkers is don't talk to me, unless it's work related. When they showed me who they are, I believed them. I want nothing to do with them.
Take people as outsiders. You will have to survive thrive. In this world when no one is with you help yourself be your best friend :) Be blessed hope it makes a difference.
A former assistant manager who was toxic and gossipy AF used to ask me why I didn't talk about myself or personal life at work. I told her the company didn't pay me to talk but paid me to work. Even she laughed. Never give them any info. Keep it polite, neutral and keep it moving.
Every job I have had over the past 8 years had been toxic in one way or another…If you set boundaries, they cross them. Being told I am the problem for asking questions. Management will do nothing to remedy a bullying problem, you told you are being overly sensitive. I have had dread & anxiety about going into my job so much, that I would cry the entire weekend, then be throwing up Monday morning. This is not right or acceptable, yet I am told suck it up and deal with it! It is wrong and hurtful… know you are not alone, and hang in there as best you can until you can leave!!
No people should have rights to judge your emotions. I am on the hands of bully and psychopath and freak control bully. I report them to the management. They change more subtle way. Now, I set very tight boundaries. My boss ban one of them to approach me because her violent behaviour. She send few of her friends come. I told of them vert strictly and I said, I didnt feel comfortable you ever approach me or talk with me yet. If you need any "help" and go to ask another coworker. So it became better and they are not approach me anymore. But this group of bully will use a lot subtle ways to control u.
I am so with you. My husband always tells me that he is with me because of my sweet, sensitive, nature and that I wasn't bitchy like other girls. I try to stay true to my self but I make a lot of mistakes. I sort of take on my husband's persona to deal with people and it doesn't work for me. ( he is pretty confident)
@@vickywitton1008I get you! I’m the same way. My fiancé literally worries for me because I’m really nice and empathetic. He knows that people take advantage of that and they do. I left my prior job because it was such a negative place only to end up at another job with major problems to the point that I cry almost every day. My confidence has diminished so much in a very short amount of time.
One thing that bothers me is that a lot of people conflate office gossip with the essential venting and support we might need from a coworker or two to survive a toxic workplace. So many orgs will see you confiding in someone and you get labeled a troublemaker when in truth, you are just trying to get through the day without losing your mind.
Boundary setting is probably the best hint. Your personal life is absolutely none of your BPD manager's business. Whatever you extra information you give your BPD / NPD manager will get used against you
So true. I moved to a more affordable apartment and my boss told everyone the reason I was so stressed was becasue I was renting more than I could afford and it was causing me to be bitter. Even 6 months later when I quit, a few coworkers asked if it was because of my rent. Paying rent wasn't my problem, it was my manager
the risk of toxicity is probably why i recommend keep applying even if you don't want a job. and even start taking interviews. and then leave when a better offer comes around. life is too short to deal with toxic employer/workplace. i didn't know how toxic my first corporate job was until i left. it wasn't the straightforward toxic it was the slow nagging that can become annoying. for example there were small almost negligible errors in a spreadsheet that if my intern brought to me, i would just fix them myself and let the intern know to fix next time. no my boss called me into meetings and made huge deal that would hurt self confidence. you can live with it but its annoying. sometimes you need another pair of eyes to look at your work.
You're totally right, life is way too short to say in a toxic workplace. And it can be so hard to spot when you're in one; cognitive dissonance comes into play.
@@sureyyaekinci4630 i think you replied to the wrong comment. i was the worker. i got penalized for tiny errors that someone else probably made. or even if i made them, i could fix them in like 2 seconds. they weren't big enough to be lectured on.
@@asadb1990 I’m dealing with this right now. I’m already overloaded so of course I miss things and then get lectured for missing a digit or getting a price wrong. There’s no one “safe” who checks it over; it goes straight to my boss and then to a copy editor
@@Window4503 yeah i feel for you. keep moving on to a new employer. its gonna be tough but there are plenty of employers that are much better. my current employer treats errors like this a with no issue. they warn me to be aware. but its never a lecture or annoyance. its "hey i noticed this error, can you fix it quick or its so small i will fix it while im working on it." and thats the end of it.
Toxic work environment, get out of there friends, even if its not targeted at you it could be one day, don't support or be part of a toxic work environment.
Though I'm still at my toxic job for the moment and DYING to leave, I will say one thing that helps me. I stopped talking to my toxic boss about my emotions, under any circumstances (he is a textbook narcissist). This keeps me safe from many of his emotional manipulations. He still hates me because I stand up to him, but he doesn't know what to do with me anymore, so he mostly leaves me alone now. --I so agree with you, too, Jennifer, that toxic workplaces can really wither away your confidence and affect your job search ability. It's so frustrating when you wake up in a good mood most days and come home from work just feeling pathetic, unmotivated, and exhausted. It's an uphill battle to stay at a place that does that to you. I can't do it much longer. I'd rather be broke.
I'm so sorry you're in it Freya. Try something small best time you wake up feeling great. Before you start work, either write down, do a voice note or take a video for yourself describing EXACTLY how you feel. Are you unstoppable, awesome, optimistic, happy. At the end write or say, "no matter what happened between this morning and this moment, this is my true self and my true potential." Then watch/listen/read after work. That message to yourself is going to be a shortcut to get back to it after work (or mid day if you need it). You've got this, friend.
The best way to deal with a toxic workplace is to leave. Years ago I was in a horrible work environment. It did a number on my mental and physical health. Leaving was the best thing ever.
If you walk away from a conversation with someone at work feeling totally confused (this is a big one) OR feeling way "lower" than them (less smart, less cultured, less sophisticated, less worthy, less important, less powerful, less capable, etc), ASSUME they're toxic and limit contact with them. It's more about going with how you feel than what you think, if you want to build a "radar" system for this junk. I say "junk" because people who use tactics to lower the esteem of someone or intentionally confuse them are literally garbage people. I don't care how much money they have, if they can't treat people right and see them as humans, they belong in a trash colony among their own type. 🙂
Most workplaces are toxic... I work in one that the boss does not like conflict and panders to the office bully. When she is not around it is much more peaceful. He himself is self-absorbed and only cares to talk about himself and what he thinks and wants you to agree with him. People complain about each other to each other. I am consistently feeling on edge bc people come to me to complain and it drains the hit out of me. I am unsure of what exactly to say to make them stop. I need something fast and simple to say bc people have small attention spans. Could you please do a video on that, easy phrases to use with toxic coworkers/bosses.
For me, I'm in my 2nd month of probation and I work as a receptionist. The toxic behaviour is not (yet at least) directed to me, but is around me. The managers know my coworker's attitude and yet they arent doing anything about it. That coworker is very loud, putting someone down when they make a mistake and just plainly bossy. Everyday it's like that. But I know, one day, it only takes time, that it will be directed to me.
Update: yup it has been directed to me now. In trying to learn how to stand up for myself without sounding proud and not getting fired...it's hard, but I'll just be here for a year or 9 months...hopefully I can last that long😭
I'm glad you're here my friend! With everything going on in the world, it's easy to be negative. But we can, at least most of the time, choose otherwise.
Crying so much right now while whatching This.I feel awfull. I was hired to work at a school in the admnistrative services. And the chief of the services doesn't give me work. Called me names. The coworkers are so mean. I don't know what to do. I can't quit.
Should I stay in a workplace wherein you feel heavy, and you feel that all the happiness had gone from the world every time you enter and stay in that office or department? It's like working with dementors every single dayyyy. Im just new to the job, and I can already see their true colors showing.
I am disliked/ hated at work for genuinely being myself becausr and that would be kind....most believe I am being "fake" ....too bad I am too good for them..... clearly they have never had a genuine person like me in their life.
Same problem I had. Nice people are viewed as weak and easy targets. A group of female co-workers started a smear campaign against me and my mental health got so bad I was thinking about committing suicide. I let the fear of losing my job control me. I finally woke up one day and decided that I wasn't going to fear anything. Changing my own perception brought incredible freedom.
It actually has rubbed off on me and I was guilty of joining in. In the beginning I started losing my hair, started having pain , very fatigued, depressed, anxious, paranoid etc. I’m order to fit in I had the if you can’t beat ‘em. Join em. I did the kill em with kindness, became a yes person. People were even asking me for money and I’d hand it over. Over that time they learned all my weaknesses and woke up one day with a major target on my back! Now I’m trying to change this whole thing. But I may have to leave
Thank you for these survival tips. I am working in a hospital program that takes 1 year to complete. I am half way through and I am trapped in a toxic environment. I like the boundaries tip a lot and I will try to implement them!
I was fired yesterday because I stood up for myself. And I was abused badly by the office narcissist who gaslighted me right up the time I got called into the Doom Room. It was easier to get rid of me, the new girl than to discipline the Passive Aggressive on steroids woman who bragged daily about how the place would crumble and how irreplaceable she is.
I have passive aggressive team leader. I hate it, honestly. She treats me horribly but cover everything with false smile. Is hard to stand it. I am thinking now to change job because of her
The narcissist coworker probably abused and gaslighted everyone until she gained all the control, so that's why it would crumble because she abused her way into holding all the cards. People like that die alone and hated.
My workplace is toxic and I also need my job as it pays very well. I’m open to finding a new job and actively searching however until then i’m SO GLAD I found this video! Incredibly helpful! Thank you.
Best course of action is to mind your own business stay out of the way of drama queens and work up the ladder of you can, then once you’re in a position of authority in the work force you can bring it up in meetings just a sweet reminder for all our colleagues that we practice respect kindness and gratitude to all as part of our organisations trust values to maintain high quality service delivery. All love and peace ❤😊
It helps me laugh and empathize when I consider that the people who are loud, abrasive and rude are just letting their inner child drive, and they have no idea where the turn signals are or how to stop at the stop sign- they’re gonna bulldoze everything and hurt everyone around them as a result, because deep down they’re really scared and don’t have the tools or knowledge to “drive” better. I know they’re unhappy, and I know somewhere deep down they feel small and unloved. It doesn’t excuse their behavior but it lets me see I didn’t cause this- I wasn’t the one who made them act this way, and that helps.
Agreed, it's 1000% not my fault if I have coworkers who vape, drink, or smoke weed at work, who don't do their jobs properly, who show up an hour late to work, or who are lazy. It's my boss' problem. I just wish it didn't impact my life so much.
I am in this situation and telling them i am done tomorrow. I tired all this. When it was effecting me i ignored it but then it started interfering in my work and projects. I can ficus on completing my target when it is surrounded by drama
Two words - self care. That will give you the platform for doors to open for you. Doors you don’t even know exist until you get as healthy and well as possible.
I am super grateful for the tips I have gotten from this video. Being in a toxic work environment can corrode one's confidence. Indeed I am going to continue to apply all the tips fro this video. It's really helpful. You are awesome.
I was recently hired as a junior kindergarten teacher replacing my bosses close friend . I feel I can't do anything right . I'm misjudged and she thinks all I do has bad intentions . I get randomly accused of stuff and I never know what can be perceived as a wrong . Example I was told not to let kids play with something , told the kids she doesn't want us to play with this right now , I don't have an issue with them playing with the stuff . She accused me of making her into the bad guy. Not my intention at all ! I was appealing to kids empathy not trying to make anyone look bad .
I am currently not appreciated at my job. My boss keep trying to stop me from taking vacation because he knows when I use it up I will quit. I will just leave no notice and wait until they are very busy to do it.
Many thanks for sharing the tips of dealing with narcissistic attacks. However, just yourself in the workplace environment where you have a narcissistic boss. Will these tips be different? Would you keep quiet when the narcissistic boss creates a scene in the open work environment that you are incompetent, only you know what they did to not only gas light you but also everyone around you. You know the truth but you can not say to protect yourself? I found around 60% of management have narcissistic tendency nowadays. If you could make videos about how to deal with them at work, it is much appreciated. Thank you.
I'm the highest seniority part timer in my department. Been with the company for 11 years. I'm changing my availability to mornings. The full timers attacked me because we're already short handed and with me going to mornings will 'screw up everything' they're pretty much upset because full timers NEED to be available whenever. They will work them whatever shift the company schedules them and nothing they can do about it. So they're scared lol
Let's be honest and look at ourselves. We went to school, got one skill, one degree, one this, just one. So yeah you are trapped. Can't go left or right, one dimension. So yeah we get stuck in positions we dont wanna be in
I'm a young mother. Fortunate to land a job after a maternity break. This new co-worker of mine tries to sabotage my work every single day. Moreover due to the pandemic, as I was on-boarded from home and working from home, I feel I'm in the blind. It's not even a month and my team suddenly doesn't talk to me, my co worker makes me look bad in front of my boss. She pretends to be nice in front of my boss but is a different person altogether otherwise..she trains me during my lunch time or when I'm about to log off..I feel my time isn't respected Here..i was supposed to get her work part by part but I get it overnight and she goes on leave for a week. I tried talking openly to my boss and other co-workers, without being direct about my coworker' evil mind, but I still feel there's this wall...I want to give up already.I know I am not bad at my job.
Good afternoon. So here is my question. When you are in a toxic work environment and policies made are ineffective...what do you do with the feelings or anger? Do you just eat it (eat poop)? Or eat unhealthy food or drink or nap? How do you eradicate that frustration in a healthy way?
Okay I heavily need advice. I’ve been at my new job for about a couple of months, I started as a friendly person but as soon as I saw how many people or my coworkers started to act towards me (walking over me, telling me to do their job, takes my things etc.) I became quiet and distant, and the coworkers that I considered my friends stopped talking to me because I’m “rude and don’t know how to make friends” but in reality I just want to do my work and go home. I really don’t know how to ignore them and just keep to myself. I try but sometimes their actions like pretending I’m not there hurt my feelings, any advice? It’s heavily appreciated.
It's politics at play. You can't work in a place and completely isolate yourself. If you can, it'll be terrible for you in the end. You have to find a happy middle ground where you cultivate friendliness, avoid gossip, and maintain boundaries. It also depends on what kind of work you do and the maturity level of the people working with you. If it's an entry level job filled with all very young people, it can be a mean-girl nightmare and you might have to look elsewhere.
Set boundaries but not towards them, more towards your actions, limit yourself to do basic things and remember they're more scared than you, it's just they're scared of someone else/boss etc. If you need money you have no choice, but if you have saved some just make month break and find sth else. Noone should make high school out of work, you will never win this game, specially if you got at least 1 psychopath in there, don't make emotional decision, if you want stay then stay, people be just people in the end, weak and cowards who's wifes cheating on them and kids who hates them
Deep stuff you can’t work by yourself but wt do u do in a situation where both boss and staff are passive towards you and they make friends with themselves and daily make the work unpractical for you to do.
Number 1 rule Never discuss your personal life or discuss what you do in your free time to any boss or co workers if they ask keep it very simple sweet and small talk It will be used against you 1 way or another someway down the line
A toxic co woker, got suspended....indefinitely, because he disrespected me on the job....oh well, his problem not mine, now the jerk has to go on unemployment.
get this: my work has late shifts and closing shifts, since the weekends are busy, late shift is literally the second closing shift, and the weekdays it's not. So since the managers only work the weekdays they think the late shift person leaves earlier than the closer during the weekends!
I have worked in fundraising for several years. Of the five nonprofits I have worked for, only one was a decent place to work. I would say it was me, but, oh my God, if I described my former boss’s behavior, ANYBODY would be like, holy sh**! These people are awful. I am now 16 months from my 65th birthday, when I will finally be eligible for Medicare and can do something else, maybe my own business, before I feel like I can afford to retire. In the meantime, this is hell.
I am wondering if the best thing is to quit or stay there and learn how to handle this toxic environment. What I am thinking is that people change. Maybe today there are no toxic people in your workplace and tomorrow there are. Do I have to quit my job because of them? I personally can quit my job but I feel like 'giving up' and letting them win over me. However, I still didn't manage to win my stress and anxiety regarding my job.
most of management at my workplace is toxic. picking and choosing who gets to advance, favoritism, Conflict of Interests relationships there left and right etc etc etc. its horrible. Im dying to leave but refuse to leave unless i leave with something to show for how long I've been with the company.
Where I work, even things as small as the way I walk are insulated and critiqued, I hardly get any pay, and I leave with 0 energy or motivation. Btw it is basically a continent store and this is happening. I’ve been searching putting in lots of resumes and no one’s gotten back to me, I’m stuck there till I find another and it sucks
Best way to deal with a toxic environment is to leave it, stress and anxiety will kill you faster than any bad diet or cigarette, if u have kids and a mortgage then ok things arent so black and white but if u have no responsibilitys and u have some savings then just quit its not worth it
My team leader gossiped about the whole team when I joined. When I confronted the team, they put the blame on me gossiping. Trust me HR can do nk shit. The company tags you as the gossiped because obviously, they cannot blame the team leader. It's been 3 weeks there. I still don't know whether to leave or not. Already a bad experience 😕
I’ve been in a toxic workplace for more than three years now at a local grocery i am a young female I was hired when I was 15 and as I got older I began to notice how bad my workplace really is, managers and co workers doing coke and Percocets while on the job been sexualized by co workers and managers , I’ve been touched I’ve been kissed I’ve been bullied abused and taken advantage of. I don’t know how to escape I started looking for new jobs last October so pretty much a year ago now, I’ve applied everywhere in my hometown with no luck i want to go to college and buy my first car so I need the money but everyday seems to get harder and harder to take and the second I convince myself its not so bad it all turns around and gets even worse starting to feel helpless stuck in a very horrible mindset please help -a young French Canadian female
I suffer from PTSD and was medically diagnosed.... My work environment will not recognize it. And continues to pile more additional responsibilities. Was basically told that we're not hiring in this department my position may be targeted for Pay Cut... What should I do in this environment that has medically triggered PTSD disability. I keep the job because I actually win awards internally and the benefits take care of my family. But to hover a pay cut in a department that will not hire is almost a no win for any rights. Please advise. Is this an HR issue?
To whom this may concern every wher you in this world you will find toxic coworker , boss's ,or business persons through the usa. All people are not toxic just a few . I have met a lot of nice , and kind people, in personal and personal .Your mind set is what makes you different, exposure in life and your experiences. Without motivation endurance , confidence,without pressverance , how can a person handle devisity, changing situations and executing there jobs and job performance. I as in me am not standing a lone ,I have my father God who walks hefor me and me as I follow. So at the end of the day the Author who wrote the book which is God said stand then I shall not be moved. I want you to know I do enjoy my job and the people that I have came in contact with .I can not and will not be intimidated. Their will be new achievements and skill setting with growth and advancements . I'm an like a sponge willing to absorb and learn!
Fire most people it's about focusing on positive inputs: positive TH-cam and podcasts, comedies over dramas, speaking most to friends and family that make you feel good, and spending time doing things you enjoy.
@@JenniferBrick making friends is one of my biggest struggles. I feel like there are a lot of stereotypes again about blindness when it comes to this, and it can feel difficult to reach out to make new friends. I’m talking to a counselor on Wednesday from my employee assistance program. I think stereotypes about blindness are what I struggle with the most in life. I tend to feel depressed over these things. I’ve struggled with that since high school, and I’m 30 now. I’ve often experienced situations where I might not have gotten included in social events because of blindness. I’ve literally found it harder to make friends with blindness than I did to find employment. I’m trying to learn how to let go of my past and move on. What advice would you have?
Have you survived a toxic workplace before? What tip would you add?
Get out and ignore them. If you do listen to them your self esteem will be destroyed. I was in a toxic work environment for 6 years it nearly took me a year to recover
What do you do when you have never took part in office gossip or spoke about anyone at the office, yet you are consistently the centre of gossip? What do you do if you’re discriminated against without taking legal action (which can be quite costly and energy draining)?
Be loving and kind to all 🥰
@@robbiepeterh yes! You truly don't know what someone is going through.
Pray 2 jesus early before work
To answer the question: "Are there any normal people out there anymore?"
"Of course there are sweety. They're the ones being used, overlooked, bullied, and chased out of companies"
Coworkers are NOT your friends. Do not go out with them. Dont go to a dive bar with them. It will only be used against you.
Yes very true
I put in my resignation today and I'm leaving my toxic career. I firmly believe call center is toxic for everyone.
To be clear the managers I've had in both call centers were always great, it's the industry that's the problem
I made a terrible mistake. Never ignore the red flags.
Good for you and congratulations!
So true
Definitely has to be a call center
When I set boundaries, people look at me like I am crazy
My boundary for toxic coworkers is don't talk to me, unless it's work related. When they showed me who they are, I believed them. I want nothing to do with them.
@@PerrySkyePhoenix That's what my dumbass needs to hear, to see back stabber, gossip and brown noser as who they really are😂.
It is very important keep your personal and professional strictly separate. Many issues/challenge s can be avoided
Take people as outsiders. You will have to survive thrive. In this world when no one is with you help yourself be your best friend :) Be blessed hope it makes a difference.
A former assistant manager who was toxic and gossipy AF used to ask me why I didn't talk about myself or personal life at work. I told her the company didn't pay me to talk but paid me to work. Even she laughed. Never give them any info. Keep it polite, neutral and keep it moving.
Every job I have had over the past 8 years had been toxic in one way or another…If you set boundaries, they cross them. Being told I am the problem for asking questions. Management will do nothing to remedy a bullying problem, you told you are being overly sensitive. I have had dread & anxiety about going into my job so much, that I would cry the entire weekend, then be throwing up Monday morning. This is not right or acceptable, yet I am told suck it up and deal with it! It is wrong and hurtful… know you are not alone, and hang in there as best you can until you can leave!!
I feel the same way. The management told me I was overly sensitive also.
No people should have rights to judge your emotions. I am on the hands of bully and psychopath and freak control bully. I report them to the management. They change more subtle way. Now, I set very tight boundaries. My boss ban one of them to approach me because her violent behaviour. She send few of her friends come. I told of them vert strictly and I said, I didnt feel comfortable you ever approach me or talk with me yet. If you need any "help" and go to ask another coworker. So it became better and they are not approach me anymore. But this group of bully will use a lot subtle ways to control u.
I am so with you. My husband always tells me that he is with me because of my sweet, sensitive, nature and that I wasn't bitchy like other girls. I try to stay true to my self but I make a lot of mistakes. I sort of take on my husband's persona to deal with people and it doesn't work for me. ( he is pretty confident)
@@vickywitton1008I get you! I’m the same way. My fiancé literally worries for me because I’m really nice and empathetic. He knows that people take advantage of that and they do. I left my prior job because it was such a negative place only to end up at another job with major problems to the point that I cry almost every day. My confidence has diminished so much in a very short amount of time.
One thing that bothers me is that a lot of people conflate office gossip with the essential venting and support we might need from a coworker or two to survive a toxic workplace. So many orgs will see you confiding in someone and you get labeled a troublemaker when in truth, you are just trying to get through the day without losing your mind.
So true!
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I really needed to see this ❤
Yep exactly. Not allowed to vent. Must work harder and burn out faster lol.
@@brandonhealy7158 “harder, better, faster, stronger…”
Boundary setting is probably the best hint. Your personal life is absolutely none of your BPD manager's business. Whatever you extra information you give your BPD / NPD manager will get used against you
Yes, so much this 🙌
So true. I moved to a more affordable apartment and my boss told everyone the reason I was so stressed was becasue I was renting more than I could afford and it was causing me to be bitter. Even 6 months later when I quit, a few coworkers asked if it was because of my rent. Paying rent wasn't my problem, it was my manager
having to rewatch this video again for the second time this week lol I cant wait to walk into my next blessing.
You've got this my friend.
@@JenniferBrick thank you:(
Such a beautiful outlook! You are going to rock it!
You’ve got this! I wish you much luck!
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A bad tree, cannot bear good fruit! A good tree doesn't bear bad fruit! I love your channel.
Well said🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
the risk of toxicity is probably why i recommend keep applying even if you don't want a job. and even start taking interviews. and then leave when a better offer comes around. life is too short to deal with toxic employer/workplace. i didn't know how toxic my first corporate job was until i left. it wasn't the straightforward toxic it was the slow nagging that can become annoying. for example there were small almost negligible errors in a spreadsheet that if my intern brought to me, i would just fix them myself and let the intern know to fix next time. no my boss called me into meetings and made huge deal that would hurt self confidence. you can live with it but its annoying. sometimes you need another pair of eyes to look at your work.
You're totally right, life is way too short to say in a toxic workplace. And it can be so hard to spot when you're in one; cognitive dissonance comes into play.
Wow the main thing is you did the right thing by your workers good on you for helping them
@@sureyyaekinci4630 i think you replied to the wrong comment. i was the worker. i got penalized for tiny errors that someone else probably made. or even if i made them, i could fix them in like 2 seconds. they weren't big enough to be lectured on.
@@asadb1990 I’m dealing with this right now. I’m already overloaded so of course I miss things and then get lectured for missing a digit or getting a price wrong. There’s no one “safe” who checks it over; it goes straight to my boss and then to a copy editor
@@Window4503 yeah i feel for you. keep moving on to a new employer. its gonna be tough but there are plenty of employers that are much better. my current employer treats errors like this a with no issue. they warn me to be aware. but its never a lecture or annoyance. its "hey i noticed this error, can you fix it quick or its so small i will fix it while im working on it." and thats the end of it.
Toxic work environment, get out of there friends, even if its not targeted at you it could be one day, don't support or be part of a toxic work environment.
Though I'm still at my toxic job for the moment and DYING to leave, I will say one thing that helps me. I stopped talking to my toxic boss about my emotions, under any circumstances (he is a textbook narcissist). This keeps me safe from many of his emotional manipulations. He still hates me because I stand up to him, but he doesn't know what to do with me anymore, so he mostly leaves me alone now. --I so agree with you, too, Jennifer, that toxic workplaces can really wither away your confidence and affect your job search ability. It's so frustrating when you wake up in a good mood most days and come home from work just feeling pathetic, unmotivated, and exhausted. It's an uphill battle to stay at a place that does that to you. I can't do it much longer. I'd rather be broke.
I'm so sorry you're in it Freya.
Try something small best time you wake up feeling great. Before you start work, either write down, do a voice note or take a video for yourself describing EXACTLY how you feel. Are you unstoppable, awesome, optimistic, happy. At the end write or say, "no matter what happened between this morning and this moment, this is my true self and my true potential."
Then watch/listen/read after work. That message to yourself is going to be a shortcut to get back to it after work (or mid day if you need it).
You've got this, friend.
Good 👍
I feel you
I'm going through the same feelings about my work place.😬
Same I feel exactly the same I’m praying God is just preparing us for the greatest blessing ahead.
The best way to deal with a toxic workplace is to leave.
Years ago I was in a horrible work environment. It did a number on my mental and physical health. Leaving was the best thing ever.
If you walk away from a conversation with someone at work feeling totally confused (this is a big one) OR feeling way "lower" than them (less smart, less cultured, less sophisticated, less worthy, less important, less powerful, less capable, etc), ASSUME they're toxic and limit contact with them. It's more about going with how you feel than what you think, if you want to build a "radar" system for this junk. I say "junk" because people who use tactics to lower the esteem of someone or intentionally confuse them are literally garbage people. I don't care how much money they have, if they can't treat people right and see them as humans, they belong in a trash colony among their own type. 🙂
Most workplaces are toxic... I work in one that the boss does not like conflict and panders to the office bully. When she is not around it is much more peaceful. He himself is self-absorbed and only cares to talk about himself and what he thinks and wants you to agree with him. People complain about each other to each other. I am consistently feeling on edge bc people come to me to complain and it drains the hit out of me. I am unsure of what exactly to say to make them stop. I need something fast and simple to say bc people have small attention spans. Could you please do a video on that, easy phrases to use with toxic coworkers/bosses.
For me, I'm in my 2nd month of probation and I work as a receptionist. The toxic behaviour is not (yet at least) directed to me, but is around me. The managers know my coworker's attitude and yet they arent doing anything about it. That coworker is very loud, putting someone down when they make a mistake and just plainly bossy. Everyday it's like that. But I know, one day, it only takes time, that it will be directed to me.
Update: yup it has been directed to me now. In trying to learn how to stand up for myself without sounding proud and not getting fired...it's hard, but I'll just be here for a year or 9 months...hopefully I can last that long😭
@@d_grace update your resume and get the hell out of there asap
@@d_graceHi. Did you leave that job?
Keep your head down, don’t get involved and get shit done.
You do this but colleagues still find ways to set you up and things still get worse for you. What do you do then?
@@ldnlove Exactly. I mind my business & ppl are mad that I mind my business & don't kiss their ass.
So glad I found your TH-cam channel. I needed to hear some of these tips. Negative people are everywhere and we can survive them.
I'm glad you're here my friend! With everything going on in the world, it's easy to be negative. But we can, at least most of the time, choose otherwise.
Crying so much right now while whatching This.I feel awfull. I was hired to work at a school in the admnistrative services. And the chief of the services doesn't give me work. Called me names. The coworkers are so mean. I don't know what to do. I can't quit.
I’m so sorry Maria. I’m in same situation but I’m An accountant. They’re probably just jealous. We will get through this
Get a voice recorder and record them. You can sue for harassment if you have proof.
update your resume and start looking asap
Should I stay in a workplace wherein you feel heavy, and you feel that all the happiness had gone from the world every time you enter and stay in that office or department? It's like working with dementors every single dayyyy.
Im just new to the job, and I can already see their true colors showing.
Same here 👁👁
I felt physically sick as soon as I walked in. Stayed there 2 and a half years
This is exactly how it feels when I go to work.
I am disliked/ hated at work for genuinely being myself becausr and that would be kind....most believe I am being "fake" ....too bad I am too good for them..... clearly they have never had a genuine person like me in their life.
Same problem I had. Nice people are viewed as weak and easy targets. A group of female co-workers started a smear campaign against me and my mental health got so bad I was thinking about committing suicide. I let the fear of losing my job control me. I finally woke up one day and decided that I wasn't going to fear anything. Changing my own perception brought incredible freedom.
Sad but true 👍
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Fake and genuine don't mix. So something here isn't true here in your comment.
BTW you are not better than anyone, we're all equal. You could've said you have a better attitude instead. I already don't like ya!
Venting to people close to me that are outside my job helps me alot!
Pray 🙏 first 🙏 ❤
It sucks when you don't have this option.
The only way is to get out. Period. No getting around it. There is no way you won't smell like smoke in a smoke filled room.
It actually has rubbed off on me and I was guilty of joining in. In the beginning I started losing my hair, started having pain , very fatigued, depressed, anxious, paranoid etc. I’m order to fit in I had the if you can’t beat ‘em. Join em.
I did the kill em with kindness, became a yes person. People were even asking me for money and I’d hand it over. Over that time they learned all my weaknesses and woke up one day with a major target on my back! Now I’m trying to change this whole thing. But I may have to leave
Thank you for these survival tips. I am working in a hospital program that takes 1 year to complete. I am half way through and I am trapped in a toxic environment. I like the boundaries tip a lot and I will try to implement them!
You're past the half way point!
I was fired yesterday because I stood up for myself. And I was abused badly by the office narcissist who gaslighted me right up the time I got called into the Doom Room. It was easier to get rid of me, the new girl than to discipline the Passive Aggressive on steroids woman who bragged daily about how the place would crumble and how irreplaceable she is.
It happened to me but I was not fired. I escaped!
I have passive aggressive team leader. I hate it, honestly. She treats me horribly but cover everything with false smile. Is hard to stand it. I am thinking now to change job because of her
The narcissist coworker probably abused and gaslighted everyone until she gained all the control, so that's why it would crumble because she abused her way into holding all the cards. People like that die alone and hated.
Happened to me just like this. Laid off. Well, fuck them. Let's continue somewhere else.
A much needed video. I’m currently crying at work
Sending you positive vibes, Gabriela 💜
❤❤ 🫂 I am so sorry you’re going through this.. I know the feeling
My workplace is toxic and I also need my job as it pays very well. I’m open to finding a new job and actively searching however until then i’m SO GLAD I found this video! Incredibly helpful! Thank you.
I just want out!
You have no idea how helpful this was.....thank you so much. You just changed my entire life. I deeply appreciate your advice so much!
You've helped me so much in dealing with my toxic work environment. I've watched several of your videos. Thank you so much for all that you are doing!
Best course of action is to mind your own business stay out of the way of drama queens and work up the ladder of you can, then once you’re in a position of authority in the work force you can bring it up in meetings just a sweet reminder for all our colleagues that we practice respect kindness and gratitude to all as part of our organisations trust values to maintain high quality service delivery. All love and peace ❤😊
It helps me laugh and empathize when I consider that the people who are loud, abrasive and rude are just letting their inner child drive, and they have no idea where the turn signals are or how to stop at the stop sign- they’re gonna bulldoze everything and hurt everyone around them as a result, because deep down they’re really scared and don’t have the tools or knowledge to “drive” better. I know they’re unhappy, and I know somewhere deep down they feel small and unloved. It doesn’t excuse their behavior but it lets me see I didn’t cause this- I wasn’t the one who made them act this way, and that helps.
Agreed, it's 1000% not my fault if I have coworkers who vape, drink, or smoke weed at work, who don't do their jobs properly, who show up an hour late to work, or who are lazy. It's my boss' problem. I just wish it didn't impact my life so much.
At the first line you got me: do happy people make other people people unhappy... damn thats a BIG fact
I work in a automotive transmission shop and the levels of negativity are absolutely astronomical
The fish smells from the head! In other words toxic workplaces start from the top. Good leaders do not produce toxic workplaces.
This
I am in this situation and telling them i am done tomorrow. I tired all this. When it was effecting me i ignored it but then it started interfering in my work and projects. I can ficus on completing my target when it is surrounded by drama
I see that 13 toxic people found and disliked the video. Thanks for the tips!
Two words - self care.
That will give you the platform for doors to open for you. Doors you don’t even know exist until you get as healthy and well as possible.
I am super grateful for the tips I have gotten from this video. Being in a toxic work environment can corrode one's confidence. Indeed I am going to continue to apply all the tips fro this video. It's really helpful.
You are awesome.
Hurt people hurt people
I was recently hired as a junior kindergarten teacher replacing my bosses close friend . I feel I can't do anything right . I'm misjudged and she thinks all I do has bad intentions . I get randomly accused of stuff and I never know what can be perceived as a wrong . Example I was told not to let kids play with something , told the kids she doesn't want us to play with this right now , I don't have an issue with them playing with the stuff . She accused me of making her into the bad guy. Not my intention at all ! I was appealing to kids empathy not trying to make anyone look bad .
Gotta say for now I’m stuck….even after watching your other videos I can’t leave yet. But this video helps a lot and provides a good mindset 👍
I don't cope. If my boss or coworker was treating me like shit, I take off.
I must watch this video again and again. It helps me lots. Thanks
I work in a toxic shit workplace and have to stay for 6 months as I can’t leave…. I hope I make it out alive
Just 1 more month to get heart attack in there, keep us updated
U came out yet from dey
What sucks is when the person who's toxic is popular with the others. The gaslighting is unreal when you're the target
I am currently not appreciated at my job. My boss keep trying to stop me from taking vacation because he knows when I use it up I will quit. I will just leave no notice and wait until they are very busy to do it.
Im working at the kindergarten but as a engineer teacher from a private company my job is daily monotony and boring most of the time toxic too
Many thanks for sharing the tips of dealing with narcissistic attacks. However, just yourself in the workplace environment where you have a narcissistic boss. Will these tips be different? Would you keep quiet when the narcissistic boss creates a scene in the open work environment that you are incompetent, only you know what they did to not only gas light you but also everyone around you. You know the truth but you can not say to protect yourself? I found around 60% of management have narcissistic tendency nowadays. If you could make videos about how to deal with them at work, it is much appreciated. Thank you.
I'm the highest seniority part timer in my department. Been with the company for 11 years. I'm changing my availability to mornings. The full timers attacked me because we're already short handed and with me going to mornings will 'screw up everything' they're pretty much upset because full timers NEED to be available whenever. They will work them whatever shift the company schedules them and nothing they can do about it. So they're scared lol
Amazing!!! Thank you
Anytime, Cher! I hope it helped.
I'm over here doing illuminati rituals just to get ready for my toxic job lol
Let's be honest and look at ourselves. We went to school, got one skill, one degree, one this, just one. So yeah you are trapped. Can't go left or right, one dimension. So yeah we get stuck in positions we dont wanna be in
Working on resigning! The 1st one will help me the most. I'm usually empathetic.
You are the best! Thank you for your content
I'm glad you enjoy it!
I'm a young mother. Fortunate to land a job after a maternity break. This new co-worker of mine tries to sabotage my work every single day. Moreover due to the pandemic, as I was on-boarded from home and working from home, I feel I'm in the blind. It's not even a month and my team suddenly doesn't talk to me, my co worker makes me look bad in front of my boss. She pretends to be nice in front of my boss but is a different person altogether otherwise..she trains me during my lunch time or when I'm about to log off..I feel my time isn't respected Here..i was supposed to get her work part by part but I get it overnight and she goes on leave for a week. I tried talking openly to my boss and other co-workers, without being direct about my coworker' evil mind, but I still feel there's this wall...I want to give up already.I know I am not bad at my job.
I deal with my boss as little as possible. This is a case where less communication is better!
I have toxic coworkers, but my manager is amazing.
The last night emails are what’s bringing me down. Like please go away 🙄 I need a break.
Good afternoon. So here is my question. When you are in a toxic work environment and policies made are ineffective...what do you do with the feelings or anger? Do you just eat it (eat poop)? Or eat unhealthy food or drink or nap? How do you eradicate that frustration in a healthy way?
Feelings are for feeling. I think this is where rituals come into play to deal with and purge them, and compartmentalization also helps.
This is video is awesome! I wish I had found your channel sooner!!! ❤
Okay I heavily need advice. I’ve been at my new job for about a couple of months, I started as a friendly person but as soon as I saw how many people or my coworkers started to act towards me (walking over me, telling me to do their job, takes my things etc.) I became quiet and distant, and the coworkers that I considered my friends stopped talking to me because I’m “rude and don’t know how to make friends” but in reality I just want to do my work and go home. I really don’t know how to ignore them and just keep to myself. I try but sometimes their actions like pretending I’m not there hurt my feelings, any advice? It’s heavily appreciated.
It's politics at play. You can't work in a place and completely isolate yourself. If you can, it'll be terrible for you in the end. You have to find a happy middle ground where you cultivate friendliness, avoid gossip, and maintain boundaries. It also depends on what kind of work you do and the maturity level of the people working with you. If it's an entry level job filled with all very young people, it can be a mean-girl nightmare and you might have to look elsewhere.
Set boundaries but not towards them, more towards your actions, limit yourself to do basic things and remember they're more scared than you, it's just they're scared of someone else/boss etc. If you need money you have no choice, but if you have saved some just make month break and find sth else. Noone should make high school out of work, you will never win this game, specially if you got at least 1 psychopath in there, don't make emotional decision, if you want stay then stay, people be just people in the end, weak and cowards who's wifes cheating on them and kids who hates them
Deep stuff you can’t work by yourself but wt do u do in a situation where both boss and staff are passive towards you and they make friends with themselves and daily make the work unpractical for you to do.
Number 1 rule
Never discuss your personal life or discuss what you do in your free time to any boss or co workers if they ask keep it very simple sweet and small talk
It will be used against you 1 way or another someway down the line
Thank you for this - very timely for me to hear!
A toxic co woker, got suspended....indefinitely, because he disrespected me on the job....oh well, his problem not mine, now the jerk has to go on unemployment.
That sucks for him, but Im glad your employer doesn't tolerate that behavior to keep a positive work environment for you.
Man I wish MY company would react like that with the toxic coworker I am dealing with but they are understaffed as is. It will not happen.
Thank you sister 🙏🏼 your videos are very helpful
get this: my work has late shifts and closing shifts, since the weekends are busy, late shift is literally the second closing shift, and the weekdays it's not. So since the managers only work the weekdays they think the late shift person leaves earlier than the closer during the weekends!
Love this !!
Definitely going to help me today !
Earned a Sub !
I have worked in fundraising for several years. Of the five nonprofits I have worked for, only one was a decent place to work. I would say it was me, but, oh my God, if I described my former boss’s behavior, ANYBODY would be like, holy sh**! These people are awful. I am now 16 months from my 65th birthday, when I will finally be eligible for Medicare and can do something else, maybe my own business, before I feel like I can afford to retire. In the meantime, this is hell.
I am wondering if the best thing is to quit or stay there and learn how to handle this toxic environment. What I am thinking is that people change. Maybe today there are no toxic people in your workplace and tomorrow there are. Do I have to quit my job because of them? I personally can quit my job but I feel like 'giving up' and letting them win over me. However, I still didn't manage to win my stress and anxiety regarding my job.
Toxic person will sit at the desk play on her phone toxic supervisor supports the behavior. 🤦🏻♀️ dysfunctional supervisor and employee
most of management at my workplace is toxic. picking and choosing who gets to advance, favoritism, Conflict of Interests relationships there left and right etc etc etc. its horrible. Im dying to leave but refuse to leave unless i leave with something to show for how long I've been with the company.
Argh. I love the subject matter. But the host is the one that brings me back here. 😂😊
Thanks for this video.
There's only 2 things to do.
1. Keep your head down
2. Get on with the job
This was very helpful
Where I work, even things as small as the way I walk are insulated and critiqued, I hardly get any pay, and I leave with 0 energy or motivation. Btw it is basically a continent store and this is happening. I’ve been searching putting in lots of resumes and no one’s gotten back to me, I’m stuck there till I find another and it sucks
Amen
Best way to deal with a toxic environment is to leave it, stress and anxiety will kill you faster than any bad diet or cigarette, if u have kids and a mortgage then ok things arent so black and white but if u have no responsibilitys and u have some savings then just quit its not worth it
Why did I not have the courage to leave that place?
What do you feel about cross training within a company ? Good or bad ?
My team leader gossiped about the whole team when I joined. When I confronted the team, they put the blame on me gossiping. Trust me HR can do nk shit. The company tags you as the gossiped because obviously, they cannot blame the team leader. It's been 3 weeks there. I still don't know whether to leave or not. Already a bad experience 😕
I’ve been in a toxic workplace for more than three years now at a local grocery i am a young female I was hired when I was 15 and as I got older I began to notice how bad my workplace really is, managers and co workers doing coke and Percocets while on the job been sexualized by co workers and managers , I’ve been touched I’ve been kissed I’ve been bullied abused and taken advantage of. I don’t know how to escape I started looking for new jobs last October so pretty much a year ago now, I’ve applied everywhere in my hometown with no luck i want to go to college and buy my first car so I need the money but everyday seems to get harder and harder to take and the second I convince myself its not so bad it all turns around and gets even worse starting to feel helpless stuck in a very horrible mindset please help -a young French Canadian female
I suffer from PTSD and was medically diagnosed.... My work environment will not recognize it. And continues to pile more additional responsibilities. Was basically told that we're not hiring in this department my position may be targeted for Pay Cut... What should I do in this environment that has medically triggered PTSD disability. I keep the job because I actually win awards internally and the benefits take care of my family. But to hover a pay cut in a department that will not hire is almost a no win for any rights.
Please advise. Is this an HR issue?
I really enjoyed your video!! are you a phycologist?
I need to find a way to unload all that energy.
Thank you $
To whom this may concern every wher you in this world you will find toxic coworker , boss's ,or business persons through the usa. All people are not toxic just a few . I have met a lot of nice , and kind people, in personal and personal .Your mind set is what makes you different, exposure in life and your experiences. Without motivation endurance , confidence,without pressverance , how can a person handle devisity, changing situations and executing there jobs and job performance. I as in me am not standing a lone ,I have my father God who walks hefor me and me as I follow. So at the end of the day the Author who wrote the book which is God said stand then I shall not be moved. I want you to know I do enjoy my job and the people that I have came in contact with .I can not and will not be intimidated. Their will be new achievements and skill setting with growth and advancements . I'm an like a sponge willing to absorb and learn!
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What strategies would you use, to create a positivity bubble?
Fire most people it's about focusing on positive inputs: positive TH-cam and podcasts, comedies over dramas, speaking most to friends and family that make you feel good, and spending time doing things you enjoy.
@@JenniferBrick making friends is one of my biggest struggles. I feel like there are a lot of stereotypes again about blindness when it comes to this, and it can feel difficult to reach out to make new friends. I’m talking to a counselor on Wednesday from my employee assistance program. I think stereotypes about blindness are what I struggle with the most in life. I tend to feel depressed over these things. I’ve struggled with that since high school, and I’m 30 now. I’ve often experienced situations where I might not have gotten included in social events because of blindness. I’ve literally found it harder to make friends with blindness than I did to find employment. I’m trying to learn how to let go of my past and move on. What advice would you have?
I have toxic superiors at work place
My job is toxic..my boss is so mean he hates me, he will say hi to everyone but me...
Can you do a UAQ creation video? I can't seem to receive the UAQ starter kit emails
I just moved out into my course platform, so it's downloadable immediately without email links!
@@JenniferBrick that's on your website, right?
What if they aren't unhappy about being secretive and incestuous...???
Get some union cards and start forming a union
The audio is very low on this video.
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