7 Signs You Should QUIT Your Job
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- Signs you should quit your job - When To Leave a Job? Signs that indicate you need to leave your company. Should I quit my job if it makes me unhappy? - you might wonder. Do you hate your job but can’t afford to quit? The truth is that nothing is more emotionally draining than tolerating a job that you hate. No matter how much you need the job, no matter how steady your job is, it is a bad excuse for staying in a toxic or difficult work environment. In this video I'll be sharing 7 signs that you should to quit your job as soon as possible.
Realizing when to walk away from a job is always difficult. This doesn’t mean that we should be leaving our job in any difficult situation that comes along, overcoming challenges at work is very valuable for everyone. But if the role is unhealthy for you to be at, you have to think about leaving your job immediately. And the first sign indicating that you need to quit your job is when your boss is toxic and makes your life miserable.
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Staying at a bad job can get you physically ill. Have you quit a job without having another job lined up or have you chosen to stay at a job which you didn't like?
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@@myemmotion I choose not to stay too long at jobs like that
@@positivethinking4464 That's how you should handle it!
Thanks for these tips
@@lucyslivingroom5087 You are very welcome!
The fact that you can’t go to sleep and constantly thinking about work. It just the worst feeling.
Absolutely been through this experience myself.
Yes and also waking up and not wanting to go there but being forced is the worst
Really ? Why do you guyS do that .. I thought only I wasn't flexible enough to keep working in its place and adapt to the situations !!
Once you have a toxic boss then that's it. It's like an abusive relationship. It will never get better. They might be nice one day; but they will always go back to their toxic ways. Only cure is if one of you leaves the job.
So true
Yes it's so true one nice next day you wrong
I was lucky enough that my toxic boss was fired!
All of your comment is exactly what just happened to me, I left because I knew she wasn’t gonna.
My boss of 16 Years is also the owner. The client's love me and I'm more efficient and organized and can do everything in half the time. I've priced over the years there have E been infor.ation he is withholding by saying "I'll do it, leave it on my desk." Three to 5 months later, the work hasn't been done and the client is angry and refuses to pay their fee.
"Employee's don't leave jobs, they leave managers" is one of the best quotes ever because its so true. Those bastards can change our experience completely. Wish you all good bosses everyone!!!
Thanks a lot for stopping by Lucy's.
Employees deal with bad managers when they have kids and can’t risk loss of wage
So true - the management can make or break the motivation for a highly experienced employee or even a newcomer.
Employees also leave toxic team leaders not just managers
totally true!
When they blame and micromanage that's another sign especially if you've been there a while😠😠
Absolutely. If you've been there for a while then the micromanagement is completely intentional.
I was there for 8 weeks and the ceo and management micromanaged to the T. Left last night. No plans in place. But needed my mental health back and self respect as they were bullying and belittling.
they are doing it right now as we speak
I was a “great” employee for 3 months then suddenly I can’t do anything without my boss micromanaging every thing I do. A couple of days ago I got hives from the stress. I need the money but I think Monday I’m quitting.
@@AO-po8kc Do you have a plan b or another job lined up.😯
Leaving as soon as possible is really hard but if you don't you'll eventually feel sick and even get sick
Yes. I've seen this happen again and again.
@@myemmotion loved your new videos about burn out
@@albertpd4994 Thank you!
You are right. Im a living testimony as i write!
Back then there are no videos like this, I quit my job because almost every week Im getting sick, I can feel my body slowly getting weaker as time goes by
Quit my job yesterday...or quit my toxic boss. The way out is to expand your opportunities, put the work in and know you deserve better.
You’ve done the right decision and you are absolutely right. A brighter future with a much better/healthier environment is what is expecting you! There is no need to push your mental health to the limit, we all deserve to be happy at work! Best of luck and keep me updated on how things go!
I LITERALLY matched every single point! And I can concur that a bad job will literally cause you physical, mental, and psychological stress. Panic attacks, high blood pressure, not enjoying personal activities, mental breakdowns, loss of interest in friends/family, contemplating darker "thoughts"; yeah a bad job can be worse than a crowd full of bullies. At least the bully is in your face most of the time. A bad job is like poison fed to you over time in increasing doses until you literally break down.
The boss was also the owner where i worked the last 3 months of the 12 my body was seriously rejecting going to that place the boss made everybody's life a living hell most people were complaining but did need the paycheck at the same time.
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I think a lot of these owners know that hence the extreme abuse with words and management i got into it with him and was send off last month all in all the guy was just a jerk who gave me high blood pressure and stress in the end.
It’s insane when you’re working at job that’s so toxic that you would look forward to the weekends being longer than the hours that you work everyday of the week!
I've walked out of many jobs. I was educated to think that you must not quit your job, and if you do no one will hire you. But the amount of times managers have said "We have a few employees who worked there. Apparently it was really bad" is amazing.
We've been brought up thinking that one can't walk away from a job, that it's normal to put up with a difficult jobs and awful bosses. The reality is that such terrible places destroy our wellbeing and should not be tolerated. I hope your current company is a good place to be at :) Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experience.
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Just as you say "Working for a bad boss is a number one motivator to get people to look for other jobs".
Absolutely!
When I was fired by my toxic boss the lady who called him about my unemployment called me after speaking with him and said " How did you EVER work with him?" Talk about validation!
Health is more important than wealth. No thanks in staying in a toxic work environment. Money is important but your well-being is more important. Without your health, you cannot work. Best to quit or let them fire you. Just put on your resume that it was the end of your contract which is technically true. It will not affect your future employment even if your company makes you feel that you can never work anywhere else. You are not a prisoner. Not worth it when it affects your wellbeing and maybe your family because they are worried about you. Think back to your dream childhood job. Are you where you want to be now? You can change jobs no matter your age. It has no benefit to stick out a job you are miserable in. I know from experience. Thank you for this excellent advice for everyone 👍
Quitted a job recently, felt so much more peaceful, focussed and enthusiastic. Workplace was full of scapegoating, gaslighting, triangulation, bullying, health and safety misconduct, flaking out on hours last minute, coercion including pressuring staff to sign things without reading them that agree to things that never happened.
I took a few days off to make sense of it, and they fired me, and then invited me back to work with them shortly after firing me.
No thanks, manager is a covert narcissist, I don't need that in my life.
I am overwhelmed and not able to hold on anymore. I thing about work 24/7. No social life, no weekends ,no holidays, no annual leave.No sleep.
I left a job many years ago, without giving any notice. I had to because the emotional distress that I was under was so enormous. During my working hours, my bowels were upset. I went to see my doctor. After he examined me, his first question was, "Is there trouble at work? That's stress." After I resigned the doctor said to me, "There was something going on there that was causing this." I saw a therapist. She said, "If your bowels were moving fast, that means you were under a lot of stress." To make a long story short, my ability to work there was undermined.
Same. I had "stress induced compromise of immune system" and got sick a lot. I was a combat veteran and figured I was tough enough to deal with a toxic manager. I was wrong. When I went on medical leave (unpaid, because of management's denial that it was work-related), I discovered I could live on much less money. The paycheck no longer tied me to that horrible place. I also left without notice and feel much better.
@@josiah5776I got sick and end up with surgery.. that how bad it was. Toxic boss stress me out. Hair loss too
Omg so sorry to hear that. Yes this happened to me. I just left another toxic job. I think these managers need to review by upper management.
I walked out 10 days ago on my first one on one with my boss after working there for 2 years. I was treated unfairly. I am 59 with 40 years of experience in my industry. The management team I was a part of spent most of their time recruiting due to high turnover. The team I managed performance was the best the company had seen in its 30 year history and the Administration was questioning but wouldn’t schedule a meeting. I was hired a few days after leaving and am so glad to be moving on!
I'm ready to be a Walmart Greeter. I don't think I can do anything else correctly or well.
Mee too girl call center or security guard for me❤❤
Haha. They would still say that it's done wrong, that's why it's important staying away from them!
@@feefee8627 definitely not a call center please dont
@@Ehlaar Why not what about work from home call center🤔🤔
This is an excellent video, and very, very accurate. I worked for a horrible, toxic bully, and the treatment got worse and worse. Before he arrived, I was extremely popular with co-workers and a top performer. In 2 years time I had been screamed at, hung up on, fists slammed on the table because I was so "frustrating", told I needed to grow up, and then the ultimate betrayal, the CEO whom I had an excellent relationship with went totally downhill, and then he hated me too. They tried to force me to sign a PIP (did not sign!!! it was all lies!!!) and suspended me for 2 days without pay for asking a co-worker a question. Yes, you read that right, I was no longer aloud to talk to my co-workers. Please listen to Marat, this situation will only get worse, get out before they fire you, because that is what is going to happen.
Thanks a lot for your feedback and for sharing your story. That's what typically ends up happening, toxic places crush your will power and motivation, nobody shall be going through all the bullying and disrespectful attitude that you've been through. Did you manage to negotiate your exit? Or did they fire you?
Wow!!! 😮
I'm so sorry about what you've been through. I totally believe and understand you. Especially about a PIP signing! I thought I was signing a warning for my lateness in the beginning which is fair but then I found out , through gaslighting, that I have signed about the PIP as well when I've only agreed by voice, orally. Wise choice not to sign up for the PIP! This was my first time working in a company and I see what people said about these things in the past first hand 👌
Currently in a position that is extremely toxic. A supervisor is a bully, negative and manipulative. Upper management does nothing when approached about concerns and make excuses for this person. I've been in this position 4 months! I have to work and cant just leave without a new job.
It’s completely understandable. Seems like this environment is part of the company culture and there’s very little you can do about it, just learning to survive while looking for another job. I have a video with survival tips, just in case if you need a further advice. Best of luck and keep me posted!
I’m leaving a position where I actually liked the job which is sad. I liked my desk and I got to eat while I worked which I’ll miss severely. I’m too emotionally drained of constantly dealing with my toxic boss who expects you to listen to her rant and complain. Everything is always about her and validating her. I haven’t slept well in a month and the work negativity has affected me
Update: ya I ended up moving to another site, work itself is hard but it’s nice not to deal with an emotional wreck, needy manipulative person
I feel you. Change your place (i e. Work). Change your life and perspective
Your boss suck
Maybe u switch the division.
My biggest issue with my job is not the work, it’s the commute. My job can be done completely from home, but they want to see my face even though going into the office is less productive.
I kid you not on this and I am debating whether to walk away from this place today.
I was called in the office yesterday and told I am being written up for two violations. I am a service technician for work and I do good work. I am late 30s, and have never been written up in any job. But anyway, my manager is medically diagnosed OCD and is a real life Adrian Monk type clean freak. He said one of my machines wasn't clean enough for him.
The second write up just blew my mind for stupidity. He said that I am not allowed to wear cargo pants/jeans to work. I looked at him and said do you even know what cargo pants are? Cargo pants have multiple pockets going down the sides. Also, these are not jeans, these are dress pants. He replied, the color looks like jeans 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️... At this point, I lost all respect for this nitpicking company.
We were purchased by a large corporation. Since that purchase, it's on a slow decline. Everything is moving to being graded by numbers and metrics. We spend more time and effort manipulating metrics than actually doing quality work.
The second write up is insanely ridiculous. He can't write you up for your pants "color looking like jeans", that's just not how things work. It seems like your manager doesn't want you to be there anymore, so these are the warning signs that things are getting worse and worse. Because both writes up are completely subjective, they are not based on any metrics, even though your company has become more about them.
How long have you worked in the company for? Have you already started looking for another role?
Am jobless right now because I decided to quit my toxic work environment
I work as a manager, and my boss prior to the one I had now was amazing. We had trust with each other. Not everything was smooth sailing all the time, but things had a way of working themselves out. We were a team. Now, a new manager took over and it's never been the same since. There is 0 trust between us. I have been belittled in front of my piers before. I'm constantly micromanaged, and being blamed for things I cannot control.
I know exactly how it feels. You worked as a team, nearly all the goals seemed possible and achievable and mutual respect made the job enjoyable. Then your boss is no longer there and this new person makes you feel like you are the worst person to be at your role.
Micromanagers don't usually change, you just have to give them even more follow ups than those they request from you and, of course, keep looking for another role.
I know how you feel and understabd what you've gone through. This happened to me too. I hope you are ok now and know how awesome you are!
@@vikki8699 So very true. The first step is start building back your self confidence and self-esteem.
Same situation applies to me. But not letting down my guards and continue to grow myself even though the manager doesn't want to. It can be disappointing at times but not letting that get into your head. Stay strong and fight for what you deserve.
I left a retail job recently. I stayed there for almost six years. It was difficult, but I felt comfortable. Even though I was able to withstand countless rude customers and toxic managers, I still found a reason to stay since I was still in college. It wasn’t until late at night one day my coworker got angry at me and decided it was best to write me up without explaining why. He even called the daytime manager and she was furious at me telling me she did everything for me. You know what? I don’t owe anyone anything! 😡 so what did I do? The next day. I decided to call and quit immediately. I was happy I did. This wasn’t the first time something like this happened and the company didn’t have a good reputation anyway. Fast Forward, I now have a new job with a more understanding boss and will graduate college soon. What I want one day is to open up my own store and perhaps become an inventor? 😂 One step at a time!
I handed my notice last week!
My boss loves flattery. My colleagues are not so supportive. Some of them are jealous too. There is no work life balance. All my day is spent at work including Saturdays. I hardly spend 4 hours at my home in the evening. I have no social life. Worst part is that I cry a lot these days due to stress. I don't know if it is my personal life or my work. Please guide me.
Same here. I quit last month
I am happier at my work now but I have seen all those toxic places you described. I found a way out of being treated like crap and I am thankful for your videos and your help!
I am really glad to hear that. Thanks for letting me know! :)
My question is if there are so many toxic employers why do new employers put so much weight on the reference of previous employers when that employer could possibly give that person a bad reference just because they can and they know they can still control that person's future. Why don't new employers and recruiters start using other measures to determine someone's character and if they are right for your company. Imagine your future depending on another person's opinion, my opinion of someone may differ to how someone else sees them so is it fair to use a reference by other employers as a measuring tool.
I can definitely relate to what you are saying. For the majority of companies you can bring references from those you choose to, which is a lot easier. But some companies want it to be a direct ex-manager and that's when things become complex and even unfair.
Absolutely spot on. I'm aware many toxic bosses hold grudges over employees who left them, that they will not cease any opportunities to badmouth ex-employees.
@@phantomlover4520 You know many employers would prefer not giving bad references, because if there is anything inaccurate in the references it could be grounds for legal actions.
I never liked any job. They were always difficult. I go from job to job and the same thing.
😢that’s true. I can there are some jobs that are manageable. Meaning you can handle the dysfunction a bit
Same here it's so outrageous
I am currently in this position right now. I am literally in the brink of losing my job. I feel like no matter how much I try there is always something wrong about my work performance, not to mention my work schedule is probably affecting me so much since I work from home at a night shift and during the day, I need to do some necessary errands which consumes a lot of my time. I don't blame my supervisors but rather I blame myself. I believe I have a lot of shortcomings but I also feel like I have no growth and progress no matter how much I try. I keep closing other options because I thought I need this job so bad and that I could not afford to lose it because I need to earn money to save, plus not to mention my necessary bills and expenses. I am not feeling great at all and I feel like I'm on a dead end, and this constant feeling of dread has always been there since day one of this job... I wish I was wise and brave enough to decide that I should quit when signs were already clear from the start. Maybe I was scared of wasting my time and the mindset I have that I can't afford to lose my job. I should have probably considered losing my sanity before entering this position.
Also, this is probably my last week in this job because they might really fire me for real this time. What should I do? ☹
I am 25 years old and I am feeling lost.
I don't know where I'll go after this.
I feel like I will never be good enough.
I feel hella stupid at this point.
No, listen. They want you to think like that. Look for another job, save money where you can, be flexible. I m in the same situation, the last of many exploitative experiences in my career. I m going to reduce the hours I work whilst looking for new opportunities. Maybe I won t find an ideal job, but what matter the most to me is the ppl I work with. That is going to be top priority right now. Never shut down your gut feeling. I had a bad one since day 1 about 1 of my coworkers, was right. She is the bootlicker of my boss and hated me on sight. Slowly but surely she started badmouthing me with said boss, and her attitude went from be so happy and grateful I was there to now micromanaging me, disrupting my break in the middle making a point that half a break is enough, shouting at me in front of colleagues and customers. There is no going back from this. You have to believe you ll find smt better even if it hard, but pls your health is important for you to find the right job too. Leave that awful place if you can afford a few months without paycheck, Don t tell them the real reason. Best of luck to you, they Don t deserve you
These are really good points. In my experience managers “act “ like they are helping you and listening. But then it becomes micro aggressions, listening to you, but actions say differently
ALWAYS have something lined up, if you decided to leave. This has become a job market where it can take months or years to find something comparable in pay. Meanwhile, as far as I know, UI acts like it’s the 1980, so you’ll need to find something in weeks.
That boss who tried playing BFF? Yeah, they’ll fire you, if they have to come up with something to do it. You may notice them redirecting work, while people are picking your brains. That’s no accident. It’s preparing themselves for your absence. This is so, especially if you’ve been a high performer. People, even bosses, do actually grow tired of high performers. They sometimes don’t know what to do with them and they can become jealous of them, especially if they’re outperforming their “superiors”. If you can do it on the DL without getting caught, bring your own work to work, if your work is being diverted to someone else. It’ll keep you awake, for that ridiculous commute, for 8 hours of doing nothing. Be glad you might, then, have what would be like a weekend day, to pursue your own interests and move yourself ahead. If the company has any learning opportunities, hey, it’s from the company. Take advantage of them, to obtain new skills for new opportunities, from within or outside of the company.
For me, as a 2D creative, I’m learning 3D and have bought a 3D printer. I am learning skills that, while I’ll never offer that to my current job, especially since they’d pick my brain, yet still be jealous about that, too, I just do it on my own and may open up an Etsy store. At minimum, I’ll have 3D modeling knowledge, which will “appear” as if I got it from this job and it will be on my resume and in my portfolio, while I’m actually sitting there doing nothing.
Also, if they have a gym, use it while you can.
So, even on the decline or the devaluation and discard phases (terms associated with narcissistic behavior often found in offices, too), you can find a way to increase your contentment and value, even if it’s not value to the workplace you’re currently in.
Lastly, if you have personal files on your work computer, start moving them off and onto a safe location, that isn’t owned by your employer. Laptops are often snatched, the moment they tell you that you no longer work there. Their priority is protecting company data. Whatever happens to your stuff is irrelevant. But also, don’t trust that it’s private. Probably hasn’t been private since you first got your laptop. But you can be fairly certain, it’s not private, when they start lining you up for an exit.
I recently quit my job at a call center. Most call center positions = company punching bag. But at this call center you can’t give credits/ rewards or solve any problems I was a middle man who had to tell “customers” to play the waiting game. I don’t have anything lined up I’ve been looking/ applying I’m just glad I left. My alopecia arrays started coming back I have one tiny patch of hair missing.
And you did the right thing. As soon as you notice that your health is declining or your mental health is constantly suffering, it's important to get out!
Take it one step at a time, keep applying and the right opportunity is definitely on its way!
Listening and watching you is like a theraphy
I am really glad it is helping. Best of luck!
@@myemmotion I would love a video about coworkers
@@lucyslivingroom5087 I take a note :)
Points 5, 6, and 7 really hit me hard :/ These are exactly what I'm going through at the moment with my current job. Especially for point 7. It's like the longer I stay, the longer I feel embarrassed with it.
How long have you worked in the company for? You've clearly reached your peak at your job and it's only a matter of time until you move on to another company, especially if you don't identify with the company values. The important part is understanding this so you could take the steps in the right direction.
Spot on, i just quit my job because the manager is exactly what you just said. So true. Super toxic place to work with extreme stress.
I'm working with a toxic manager in a toxic environment. I love working in the current company but not under this manager. I tried to seek for other opportunities within the organization but unfortunately the toxic manager sabotage every opportunity I got. I tried confronting her but to no use. Therefore, I decided to quit this job and company once I get an offer from another company. I can't guarantee it's going to be good but all I know I need to know is I have to get out from this toxic situation before my life is affected by it.
How are you doing? Have you found another job?
I finally landed my dream job after 7 years of study, part time work and being a single mum, only to find myself working under 2 toxic bosses! I know I need to leave but studying in a specialised field that I love has left me with very few opportunities in my industry. I'm too exhausted to spend another few years retraining in another field that doesn't interest me. I'm not sure what to do now so I stay at this job. It's like being in a toxic relationship.
Your mental and physical health is the upmost importance. Life is too short. You may just have to settle for a "lower" level job, but you may be surprised by the joy and peace you find! I did❤️
I know I have to quit job but I need money. I recognize there are other jobs otherwise I've been so traumatized at diff wrkplaces esp this one currently I am terrified and disgusted w the idea of putting myself thru more abuse. At this job I developed a fragrance allergy or better known as MCS (MULTIPLE CHEMICAL SENSITIVITY). This was an effect of toxic chemicals namely in air freshener which triggered this condition, never had it before in my life. This has been going on 2 years now. I informed boss before it become full blown but was ignored. So when I come across ppl who choose to wear toxic fragrance ie perfume/cologne/scented lotions, aftershave my lungs can close. I understand many would suggest just get a puffer but what a puffer does is suppress the body's natural response which is a bad idea. Look up steroids and see what it does. Believe you me it does come and bite you in the ass later much like when you suppress or oppress someone long enough shit happens. Or take a pill which once again shows no respect to the body or injections ie EpiPen. Those things are expensive and once again do not resolve the issue. I've temped at other wrkplaces during this 2 years and other places also do not respect this legitimate health issue. It is so very upsetting which is an understatement. I feel hopeless and have learned to really enjoy being alone away from ppl BC my mind has now learned through repetition that being around others will just result in trauma. Most ppl do not care. I've never known so much apathy.
That is extremely insensitive and even inhumane from their side to ignore such a major health issue. Can you report this somewhere else? Maybe with a medical certificate or something else you can file a report with. In any case it's clear that this isn't the company you'd have any future with.
Wow, what a place.
@@myemmotion I couldn't agree more. It has changed me so much as a person. I did get a doctors note and gave it to them but the anxiety is still there. Patients still come in wearing fragrance. They continue to buy fragranced products. People literally have no idea what they are spraying on themselves, rubbing in their skin etc and the impact on the body and possible those around them bc this shit gets into the air we breathe, and if any of us have half a brain wed recognize the great importance of our lungs. I can not even begin to tell you the things that have been said to me by my one coworker who shamed me for it. "SO and so wants to wear fragrance but because of you she cant", "what do you expect, for people to not bath" ," we can not tell patients to not wear fragrance it infringes on their rights and freedoms" - my response "what about my basic need to breathe. This is during a staff meeting and my boss says nothing. Sidenote: I did call Ontario Health and Safety and filed a complaint and the gentleman I spoke to said they can not do anything really, the govt favors businesses over people. He literally said that. He said I can file with human rights bc it is discrimination however it would be long, lengthy process and is my job worth it. Ive worked at other places too, been sexually harrassed by another dentist. STORY-TIME: back in 2009-2010 I developed a lump on my left breast (my mom already had breast cancer) anywho had to leave work early one day to get mammogram, boss says to me why do you have to leave early and naive and people pleaser me answered, I said I have a lump on my breast and need to see what it is: his response: you know what your problem is? your nipples arent being sucked hard enough", being me I uncomfortably played along bc I was so shocked an disgusted but worried my not playing a long would threaten my job. I had to leave after that bc of appt and swept that moment under the rug, just wanted to pretend it didn't happen, same boss a couple months later I had developed a peeing issue where id pee every 15 mins, literally even at night so had no sleep, it was truly exhausting and left me feeling hopeless. I had to leave work early one day for another doctors appt, he once again asks whats going on, I begrundingly told him my symptoms bc he is a doctor (dentist), I said Im peeing every 15 mins and it is disrupting my life... he responds with You know what your problem is? you arent being fucked hard enough. I have had some really traumatizing exps at work. Another dentist told me to stop drinking water bc he frowned upon the reality that I need to pee. It pisses him off that I had to go to the washroom and it inconveniences him. Another one would bark at me when he spoke to me, the patient during a root canal said why are you talking to her like that, he responded if she doesn't like it there's the door. So many stories of absolute apathy and entitlement on bosses part.
@@jaclynh9343 That's really terrible! You need to find a way of protecting yourself from all this negativity and cultivate every positive aspect of your career and life. I hope you manage to get out of there or things ease up at your current job. Best of luck and keep me updated!
This is exactly where I am at. I’ve tried so hard all my life but it has always come down to a toxic boss and no promotion or psychological safety for me. I feel despair and dread my boss.
I left a job after feeling 'pushed out' by a boss who passed me over for a raise, even though I had taken on more responsibilities and done well, skipped every 1:1 meeting we ever had scheduled, promoted a coworker over me, even though I was doing the job longer than her and had more responsibilities. I left for another job within the same company and ended up leaving that one after 6 weeks. I went from boredom and frustration to total stress. Now I'm looking for another job.
Hi everyone . Today I resigned from my job and I'm really proud of myself! Sadly I didn't plan on saving any money before I left but realized my mental, emotional and physical health are the most important! Believe me when I tell you that there are people who get sick or die from the stress that whatever toxic situation there may be such as work, family, friendship can cause. I've been dealing with toxic people for a lifetime, in fact I was born into a family like this and I've had so many red flags about the environment already earlier, but I didn't want to listen to my intuition. Listening to your intuition and gut, can save you from really dire situations. Plan before you leave. Because the longer you stay in these environments and the days go by you find yourself weakened physically, emotionally and without economical resources when the time comes to leave. Even though I didn't plan it properly, I know that everything will be fine and that I will find a solution regardless and I don't regret the choice I made today and that was to leave. My health is precious and I no longer allow anyone to disrespect and bully me. I did it in front of everyone unconsciously but thinking about it maybe it will help one day whoever witnessed this episode to stand up for themselves as well. The manager followed me all over the working place and I told him that I don't tolerate anymore disrespect from anyone. He knew all along what was going on and didn't move a finger to change the situation while the team leader disrespected and bullied. The environment is really toxic and not worth any amount of money .by the way he is also extreme toxic. Some people claim to care about you while backstabbing you on the back. This is related to all toxic relationships. One thing is certain, it takes a lot of courage to do something like this and especially in front of everyone! You demonstrate that you are a person of integrity, moral and with love and respect for yourself. Especially when there are too many secrets and the abuse directed at you is really, really subtle.Obviously when you do it avoid being rude even though I know it's hard, to not show anger or use bad words. He told me:" you can't leave like this"and in return I said "oh yes I can " like "watch me I'm just doing it". I have enough of being the scapegoat for such a sad creatures so they can project onto me all their s..... Is not good being impulsive and leaving but it was absolutely necessary to avoid a breakdown. I needed to calm down . Of course later on I will deal with my reassignment in the proper way which means on paper and documented.Enough of micromanaging, gaslighting, favoritism, preferences, always s....on my performance, not letting me express myself especially when something was done wrong to me ecc.. However. I wish all of you if you find yourself in this situation to find a solid one and to leave as soon as you get the chance.Plan it but secretly. Please inform yourself about GASLIGHTING it can save your sanity.No kidding! For those of you who found the courage to stand up to your bully/bullies, you have all my respect and admiration. Hugs to all of you and never ever give up! There's always a light at the end of the tunnel . And thank you Marat for helping us with tools and knowledge on how to deal in these situations and toxic people! ❤️🤗🤗🤗
This is exactly what a toxic management does. It even came to appoint where they put something on my chair that made me burn because I didn't allow them to break me down. It is such a degrading point where everyone laughs knowing what they did
So I work at a daycare I am I am feeling burnt out. I'm a support teacher but I don't appreciate the owner of growing seeds Kyrie. She has been telling me how to do my job even though I know how to do it I've been in her company for 4 years you know I feel like she's toxic, the reason why I'm staying is I care so much about the kids and the families also I do a lot for the our Union but I am tired and pretty burnt out
I am a people person and get along with everyone. My boss never spoke to me! It wasn’t like she was busy whenever I would ask her a question. When this happened and I rarely asked her something she wouldn’t even make eye contact and just mumble “I dunno”. After this happening several times I would wait for the assistant manager to ask him. He was pleasant. and I felt comfortable around him.
Are you still working with them? Your boss never making an eye contact is a terrible sign.
My boss, pulled me into the office and yelled at me I was in complete shock because she lied and said “we are just gonna talk about availability” then bam starts yelling at me over something that we both could of talk about in a calm manner. I was so angry I’m upset right now that I can’t even sleep because of her this happened today.
It happen to me now, im so stress untill i go back at home. She yell at me infront of another male boss. I guess she is just jealous and not professional. And she put the blame on me. She can discuss it in private before that. I hate to work with her, and when i want to take off day she manipulate and give alot of excuse. She never compliment me. She just looking for my mistake. I cant tolerate with her anymore. Im trying to do my best but it doesnt change. She is jealous with me and she think i will listen to her narcisstic. Hell no soon i will resign.
Thanks so much for all your toxic boss advice. I am the top performer in my area/state and my boss I recently transfered to has stabbed me in the back n sabotage my whole career in my company.
I knew it was insecurity of his capabilities and envy. But your videos helped me regain my emotional stability and dominant/confident attitude really quickly and I learned from them a lot.
My manager is always targeting me
Either because I did something wrong or if I'm 4-6 minutes late
I wake up sometimes in the middle of the night thinking about work
Not to mention he is always saying I'm talking back at him even do I'm talking normally and not even cursing
I have loss of sleep and gaining weight
My job isn't that really hard or heavy it's just my manager is really against me
The other managers are actually nice to me
I really don't know what to do😕
I understand completely. I got a new manager in February and ever since she came she has been ruining things and she has begun picking on me. One time my boss heard her picking on me and he told me not to listen to her but I think it has made her more angry and petty towards me. I think our two options are to stay and make the best of it, become stronger and not let them bother us (you will have to really love your work and everyone you work with to make this worthwhile), or to leave.
I should have seen this video 2 months ago. It would have saved me a lot of heartache. Thanks for making this video for everyone.
I can tell you speak from experience and from heart.
Useful content for anyone who is unsure and in between about leaving a job
I appreciate that my friend! Have a great weekend!
I think for me it's not just the toxicity of one job that goes home with me now it's the fact that I need a job and every freaking workplace is just like this and it never ends.
Such wonderful advice as always. Marat, now that I am happy, the stress weight I gained is melting off like butter, not to mention I get plenty of walking in when I am in the airport! I have a new video up whenever you get a chance to view. Big thumbs up!
Thank you very much, Marie! You have a much more fulfilling career and life right now, so it's wonderful to know how the tables have turned! I've seen the video, always happy to see and read you! :) Have a great weekend!!!
Thank you for all those points.
I’ve seen toxic coworker which then promoted to manager and literally i reached to a point where even looking at that persons face made me feel sick. My sleep cycle, personality, appetites, personal life everything started affecting
No excitement for work, no progress, a company full of 50+ age group with no sign of advancement or any sign of adoption to new technological skills. Same old work everyday.
Spent 6 years in company but still not happy with level of progress i could have made.
Recently left the job thinking about all these points.
Fear is the most and the distress is overwhelming. U just have to pray.
At my job I've been in an entry position for 7.5 years. When my boss first asked me what my goals were I told him what I'd like to do and he told me that people are set in their ways and won't want to train me. Not long after, he put someone who was hired after me to be trained where I said I wanted to be trained. Also everyone in my department seems to have the heads up on important things and I'm left out.
I’m experiencing all… I’m waiting for my hearing out come if I’m not fired il put in my resignation letter day after the outcome
How are you doing?
@@bendietrees I got my 3rd final warning in 4 weeks I’m sad and upset 😢 I’m physically sick so o made up my mind Tomorrow is deed day I’m done
@@leratogao2267 Did you dump them?
@@gladiammgtow4092 I was laid off
I have only been at job a month and l already have had to defend myself with a time line explaining what l have been doing, right now l am dreading going in tomorrow and l am literally in tears right now because we need the medical.
Omg number 6 is me. Bored doing the same thing over and over. No computer. All is me but number 6 makes my quit.
I love the idea of putting in my 2 weeks notice, unfortunately in the UK most reasonably senior roles have at least THREE MONTHS notice...😅
I experienced all these cruel things at my local Catholic Church. The priest and he's co-workers made my life a living hell, being shunned , excluded and stonewalled was torcher. I left the Catholic faith because of this. I am now an Atheist. The Catholic Church destroyed my life.
Oh don’t leave Jesus because of the evil of humans! Then they really have taken everything from you. Leave the human led church not him!! 🙏🏻
Now when i go there i constantly see the timing of when I'm going home,i go to sleep with stress of work next day,i wake up being stressed for being forced to go there,it caused me strees and a lot of anxiety and panic attaks,i want to quit and get a new job so bad
I have been recently been through such a job. Suddenly found myself being diagnosed with hypertension, anxiety and moderate depression.
Im in a toxic environment since approximately 6 months. Ive changed so much mentally, I am getting burnt out, my friends worry about me, I ignore them and isolate myself. I just keep thinking of my work and hie my boss will soon criticise me again. I run away from my thoughts with games and videos and everything, I cant live like this anymore. as soon as I let my emotions out, even just a bit, I start crying although I never just simply cry. I cant take it anymore.
I requested an internal change withing 2-3 weeks and simultanously have a second jobinterview soon. I just cant take any of this anymore. Im doneeeeeeeeeeeeee
I’ve worked in healthcare many years, and witnessed many inappropriate behaviors from managers, nurses, and coworkers. I was also getting physically sick from the stress. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING…document, document, document all the scenarios and facts. When you’ve decided you’re done with the problems, take your complaints to HR. It might not fix things, but you will have a paper trail that you asked for support. Good luck!
I was in warehousing. All your points covered what happened in my workplace. The mistake I made was keep staying and eventually I became fatigued. I almost got sacked for losing focus on my work then I was reported to HR. At this point it was time to walk out but I got offered to move departments. I'm just a production worker now with same pay but much happier
the only reason i am at my job is because i needed one at the time. i am actually suffering from chronic health issues and wasn't able to get disability so i took whatever job i could get. so not only did i already have chronic health issues before i started the job but the job has added more health problems. i have gone to so many doctors since being sick with no help at all so i am stuck in a horrible job and stuck with my health issues as well
I am really sorry to hear that. I know that health issues make job hunting more complicated too, but there are options. Do you work at the office or in remote?
You have to put your health as a top priority and make everything you can so it doesn't worsen.
@@myemmotion I work in retail. I have gastroparesis colitis and gastritis working in retail with stomach issues is a nightmare. I was working sick at my last job too. I thought I could either get disability or start a business with friends which would help make it easier for me. My friends were all talk no action. The doctors were the same all talk no action when it came to helping me. One doctor even said go back to work to get your mind off of being sick when my old job ended. I have to drag myself sick everyday to a job that I don't even want to be at. I am 45 years old and had known what I wanted out of life for years. My health and being stuck in horrible jobs hasn't helped me accomplish anything
@@MrThedr1975 It's an awful situation to be in, but believe me, there is a way out and there are other possibilities out there where these health issues won't interfere with your day to day as much. Take it one day at a time and set a short term goals, so you won't be overwhelmed with all the pressure and the job search.
I really hope things work out well for you. Best of luck and keep me updated!
I am in the exact situation. I hope you found a solution 👍
@@Mii_A9 i hope so too. i just hope it comes soon since my health problems continue to worsen.
Thank you…. I felt you were talking directly to me. Sadly I’v experienced most of the area’s mentioned.
I'm in a toxic environment. It was great until a cmo took over. Controlling and micromanaging and kind of passive dismissive behaviour. I'm freelance and made to report my daily tasks twice a day and daily meetings. I'm ***ked, exhausted, can't sleep and constantly feel sick.
I'm a widow with only 4 months financial cushion. I'm a content strategist, b2b copywriter, SEO writer and case study writer and very good at what I do but I feel broken, my self confidence in tatters.
The toxicity is so insidious but is now making me feel ill every day.
I've worked in a really strange company like that.. took a large bunch of people on... then all of a sudden people are disappearing in large numbers.. one such individual asked me for something via email.. I replied fairly soon and got a "such and such has decided to leave the organisation, we thank them for their time auto response" , so its clear they attended a meeting which they didnt come back from. They dont seem to realise that after ten or so such emails , people know something isn't right. The none toxic company would simply call everyone into a meeting.. discuss exactly why there will be redundancies and then carry them out.
😢.I resigned my dream job 8 years ago.
I worked for a hotel cleaning room , and I was forced to quit
Can't tolerate it anymore... It's toxic.. extremely 😢
“You don’t remember when the last time you saw the blue sky 😢” That is so sad bc it’s reality.
My boss is dating an employee. I was going to his desk and there he was sitting in a chair holding and caressing her hand. Nobody was in the area to catch them. I turned around before they noticed. I can't stand him. I think he thinks I caught them. He avoids me, doesn't talk to me. He praises everyone but me. He's doing it on purpose. The last time he put me down it was so pathetic and unnecessary. Im going to have to go to another shift
Watching how my boss treats my colleague and targets her stresses me out and made my existing mental health issues even worse.
It makes it worse that i heard not good things from other colleagues.
Everyday her presence makes me straighten my back and my hands shake.
I am comfortable with the company as i've been with them for 6 months but it's my 1st month in this new role and with my new boss but i want to leave already.
Can anyone advise me please? I want to go but i worry if im being too rash but i rather leave now then let my mental health deteoriate.
*Please note that im new at this industry and this role but i dont believe this is a safe place for me to learn and grow. But i worry i am being too choosy/spoilt.
Oh boy where do I begin My recent boss is probably the most worse boss/person I’ve ever came across. I will first say it took a complete toll on my mental, physical, and emotional health. Let me just say I’m 5’4 and starting weight 179 finishing weight 127 now if that doesn’t say a lot !! I am EXTREMELY energetic and at this job every single time I walked into work I went above and beyond I literally worked like a dog and in the end that’s exactly what I was treated like a dog!! This toxic back stabbing most unprofessional boss I’ve ever heard of will go out of her way to ruin your whole self and she’s almost completely ran this business into the ground I honestly am quit dumbfounded at the entire situation long story short I got dismissed because she doesn’t like who I talk to and what I do on my days off!!
I've been watching your videos the last 2 weeks, and the things you say are exactly what I'm experiencing.... Now I know I need to leave this toxic place that I work at. Thanks for the info to help solidify what I was thinking.
Just resigned from one of the top MNCs and ofcourse it wasn't because of the company itself but for my insecure managers. Now I realise I should have done this loong ago
Happy for comments.
A new job involved me moving onto a large property where some neighbors several km away were playing other roles. The mger was syphoning $ off my predecessor (a couple of temps) with whom I had a short overlap while I moved in and their handover.
They also said that without owner's permission, the mger moved lots of the equipment from where I would be stationed to their personal home project.
On my FIRST day, mger accused me of damaging my assigned vehicle. She had previously complained to the owners that I called her on her off day, something I apologized for even more graciously than the owner's request. (BTW I hadn't known about her schedule.)
Owner and mger likely didn't know I remained in contact with predecessors who gave me photos of the vehicle long before I arrived on the scene. I was so stressed before knowing this proof existed. Rather than ask the mger to apologize (& I didn't request it), owner asked me to apologize AGAIN to mger over my off duty call from before the vehicle incident. This time, including a script.
She also spoke of how hard it was for mger to take instructions from me. The closest thing to instructions was leaving a message abt my leaving predecessors' linen in front of storage facility for which only she had keys, as I was told to do. (Unsure if this was racial. Possible because I am blk).
It was my dream job! I quickly packed my things, video recorded my own walk through, including showing myself locking myself out and messaged owners that I had left.
My fear was that the accusations cld get worse and I wld no longer have support of predecessors.
I was depressed for 2 months. What cld I have done differently?
During my move to this place, the owner had urgent desire for me to check something in the property before I left. The mger ignored my request as per owner, even though I explained it was the owner's request. When I reported back, the owner was disappointed but said 'go with the flow!'
Was she expecting the same? ... If so, wish she'd assure me she'd have my back re the mger's accusations.
A mistake I made after a crew leader asked me to do a tricky task. It did not go well. I did NOT make an excuse but I DID offer an explanation. It went RIGHT over my supervisors head. I got the silent treatment for 2 days. I asked for a transfer to a different dept. and was recieved well.Wish me luck..I just know I will do better.
I'm going through this and my health is being affected
Please quit. I know somebody that got chronically sick because of this. I've learned that coworkers are ppl that don't give a FCK about us. These are not ur family, they aren't ur friends, so they have little incentive to care about u. Just quit and look for something else if u can.. I've been through it all, I know what I'm telling u.
I have a toxic manager who yelled and berated me recently. I was talking to a colleague about work when he called. I answered and mentioned who I was talking to, and he said “I don’t give a fuck who you were talking to” I asked him calmly to not yell at me and speak to me cordially since we’re at work - not personal friends it’s inappropriate. Apparently he does it to everyone. It really upset me. He also shuts me down in meetings, got annoyed at someone seated at a gembo walk who had bad knees and made him stand. Just a rude toxic man that makes our lives hell.
coworkers and bosses makes us burnt and stressed out
I was told I was defensive at least 15 times in a 30min meeting even though I was not speaking most of the time and was only just listening to my manager speak.. Was told I was exaggerating and passive aggressive (which came out of no where) and that was a total shocker.. all this labelling was exhausting mentally and am having health problems because of the stress that it’s causing me.. made me doubt myself.. classic gaslighting and I didn’t even realize until now!! It was depressing and demoralizing..
One of your best videos. Overcoming a challenge shouldn't turn into a constant suffering and becoming sick at work.
Thank you so much!
Luckily, I don't have that problem with anybody at my current job. My last workplace was a totally different story though. The company had unknowingly hired a con artist who slowly ran the company into the ground. After he was fired it only got worse, and eventually the company permanently went out of business.
Thank you for the advice and guidance. I’m going through a lot of things you mentioned. My company has a zero tolerance for retaliation and bullying but it seems it’s still happening.
You just explained my situation. Even worse when they increase your salary by a few Rands once in 2 years.
I am in a job I love, but my boss is toxic. She has employees she targets and for the time being it is not me. From gaslighting to character assassination promoting a environment where everyone distrusts everyone. I know I have to leave, but is trying to find the right exit strategy. Am trying to get out of this in one piece. Feels like trying to break up in a bad relationship where there is fear of retaliation. The last straw for me was when she asked a 19 year old to spy on the rest of the employees. He is in a state of turmoil and it breaks my heart. Not sure how to get out of this situation when I know if I leave other employees will get the blame for my resignation instead of the toxic manager owning up to her behaviour.
Boss is crucial. My current boss consider me as a great asset to a company and is happy that I joined a team. I am going to stay where I am permanently. My manager is telling me how I can be BETTER as I am already great.
Did the same choice because of a manager, constantly focus on minor mistakes with a lot of time lost to talk about issue that are not issue, ignoring the main topics of the work and stop immediately any desire to increase my knowledge. It is ended up that 90% of my job was trying to do something in a way that he can like, without success obviously. Never a positive or motivational feedback. Interesting though, when I give my resignation, the real boos was wondering why, because I was working very well and "it is for sure a misunderstanding", no way man: 2 years of negative feedback for good work results is not a misunderstanding. For some reason he treated me like a sock even though with the main boss he said everything was ok.
My boss started deleting my work e-mails on my day off, constant comments about my weight and even being noisy about a cookie delivery I received and forced me to give it away
I'm planning to quit my job and change career like work from home trader. I'm already tired waking up early in the morning everyday with alarm clock and working with toxic co workers and bosses also company system. Very limited rest hours and overload work. I have enough savings to start an online trading career. 😁
I'm working on leaving my job, due to my boss micromanaging me. Bombardeding me with too much work, being underpaid. Having to stay when everyone else leaves.
I have just left atomic job. It was a everyday torture!
two points to mention here
1. When you try to a become good leader ,u cannot be a good boss because when u start motivating/appreciating and promoting your subordinates, they will start bypassing you and even one day will surpass u ,that's the fear every boss has, do you any advise on this . I have pushed out my job by my subordinates .
2. can u please teach us how we can stay mentally fit even in toxic environment ?
I work for a company that encourages bullying. They may mention that the company doesn't tolerate hostile work, but as long they are making money, the management looks the other way. The CEO sued his father before his father died. The company doesn't pay their vendors and sometimes we get cut off due to the bills not paid. I have to deal with the lack of organization between departments. How do I explain my reason for leaving the organization? They have a constant revolving door of personnel coming and leaving.
All of your signs were me. I couldn't take my lead yelling or his short joke remarks to me or the micromanage Supervisor. I quit without notice
I am a facility manager I work for a homeless shelter for the youth (aka) young adults it gets a little chaotic when these young adults get destructive I either fix it myself or call a contractor to do the job one of my biggest pet pee is communication. Every Monday morning I get together with my director for one hour it is when it gets to the end of the meeting that she'l says how can we help, or" is there anything we can help you with"and last but not least my door is always open I think they have this last of the conversation just for the paper work and to be supportive lots of staff workers have come and gone and I feel that no matter how many emails I send or texts to my director I get a slow response, but they me expect me to respond to their emails .I think one of the biggest mistake I made is being a yes man( doing this doing that) that's and staff workers and the upper management expected more of for the least amount of pay and think it's time to move forward and I'm not going to base it on personal feelings thanks for inspirational you tube channel.
The problem that I faced is multifaceted. In the technical division of a municipality I had a toxic manager, understaffed department, actually I was the only mechanical engineer. The question is how can you leave a permanent job at the age of 50?