@s t a r d u s t just because people felt like tearing you down doesn't mean you're not a hot girl. People tear others down to make themselves feel better. What people think about you is about them, not you
@s t a r d u s t Some people told me that too - but boys still thought I was a hot girl cause I felt hot in my basic clothes. Be comfortable in your skin and clothes, you don't need to be a leopard in heels to be hot.
@@samsworld1770 ah yes, lets all dress up like 1940’s wives to please NeuroTrip. This individual has evolved all women with a click of their keyboard. Outstanding.
when i was younger i would spend HOURS looking at myself, i loved the way i look, i knew i was pretty, i genuinely thought i was the most beautiful girl in the world. then society kicked in, i got insecure, hated the way i looked, but recently i’ve been back, i admire myself in the mirror and you know what i look damn good and no one can tell me otherwise 😌
Omg I love this. I so proud of you for being able to get back to the way you were and not letting society keep affecting the way you see yourself. Your amazing🥰
I feel the EXACT same way. I was so happy with myself until i was told that I should look differently by people around me (whose opinions i valued a lot) and society in general... i hated my body and face, wouldn't smile etc. but it's gotten so so much better now
don't know anything about being a hot girl, but if you need to compare yourself to somebody, COMPARE YOURSELF WITH THE YOU FROM YESTERDAY. Personally I find this way of thinking keeps me focused in life and helps me live in the present and do my best. It might not be for everyone though so maybe try something else if you're getting bogged down by putting pressure on yourself.
100% ! It’s literally so motivating and easy for improving yourself! Sometimes its hard, seeing so many people that you might look up to, but when you are comparing yourself to yourself you are actually able to improve instead of self gloating and being jealous.
@@deeji6098 well it depends, we have to allow ourselves to have shitty days. For example if you’re trying to get a new house or save up for something, and you were doing good with your money saving yesterday but today you’re forced to buy a new car now you're a few steps back from reaching your goal and that’s not because you’re a shitty unproductive person today compared to yesterday, it’s just that life happened. Or say you want to make friends more often and yesterday you made 2 friends but today you were having a bad day and wasn’t in the right headspace to be friendly. Life happens, making mistakes doesn’t mean you’re not a better person than you were before. We have to think of progress as cumulative. Like yeah you may have not met any friends today but you did yesterday. You may be behind on reaching your saving goal but you would’ve been more behind had you not saved up at all. And like you said you looked at your journal and you notice improvement. I like to think of progress like a graph, there’s some dips in the line but it’s still going up so that’s all that matters.
I agree with what you said self deprecating jokes aren’t funny. I get turned off by guys who get on TikTok and say no one wants them and that they’re ugly.... 🌝 like bruh you’re turning me off by your self pity
I love to do it. I tend to be quiet and people tend to avoid communicating with me as they think I'm stuck up and that I'm the shit. Wearing glasses and saying self deprecating jokes makes me more approachable, humble and reminds me to laugh at myself and not take it too seriously.
that's why i don't call myself ugly anymore. i just know i CAN look better and i have the potential. it's not really fair to be hard on myself just because i can't afford beauty products/services at the moment. effort makes a lot of difference. there are many ways to improve our appearance so don't give up just yet.
Regarding the smiling thing to be hot or seem confident, I would disagree. Precisely because of when you're confident, you don't care about how people perceive you. You don't need people to think you're friendly or positive, or fear them thinking you're mean or negative. Regardless of the mood I'm in, I own those emotions, and the energy is felt in any case. Confidence and hotness is unconditional is what I'm saying basically.
yea, honestly sick of the narrative that you have to be happy and kind all the time to be a nice, attractive person. People have emotions, and it should be okay to show them. Smiling constantly just honestly feels disingenuous?
@@labellelace yeah but also always being negative isn't healthy for anyone, whether it's yourself or others. Being hateful isn't hot either, you don't need to be an asshole to be funny, badass, or confident. It's normally the opposite. Don't be a negative dick and be shocked when you get negative vibes back from everyone, basically. Try to be the better person and try to be positive more often than negative for your own health.
@@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty the alternative to not smiling is not necessarily being negative. You can be neutral/positive without smiling. Life isn't meant to be just positive and toxic positivity is very harmful. No one said anything about always being negative -- if anything, always being positive is the accepted norm.
Hello autistics! I am also autistic. I have a very hard time with eye contact. You could look at the nose or forehead. That makes the illusion of eye contact. Sometimes I hyper focus on eyelashes so that helps me. I hope that you guys have a happy day or night. Love ya 💋💋
@ affirmations & "I" statements around 13:40, James Clear talks about this in atomic habits (really great book, def recommend) and he basically says our brains cannot handle cognitive dissonance, so when we grip hold to something and identify with it so strongly, we will do anything to keep that cognitive consonance, or really manifest those traits. Like for example instead of saying "I want to eat healthy", it's more productive to say & train your brain; "I eat healthy". When we/our brain takes something in as a part of our identity, everything else will fall into place and follow suit whether that place is productive or healthy or not healthy at all. Something else I learned recently was how our self-worth is sort of an internal pillar for our identity. Once your self-worth is involved then shit, it's over from there, or the complete opposite happens & we can really self-actualize.
Wearing too much makeup doesn't necessarily make you look like a clown (Unless you're using clown makeup lol) If you want to wear a sunset eye shadow, if that makes you happy, THEN DO IT! You don't have to use a lot of makeup nor a little bit of makeup JUST to look good for others, do your makeup if you want, if you don't, then don't do it
True, but many people don't realize how bad it is for their skin as well as how it looks when they use too much of a product. You don't need a ton of foundation and it breaks down quicker the more you use. Your face is fine it doesn't need to be completely covered up. When it comes to eyeshadow and eye liner personally I think you can go as wild as you want~ whatever lipstick colors you want~ Just don't think you need half a bottle of foundation to get "full coverage".
When I was 5 years old I genuinely said to my mom that life existed because of me 😳 with these exact words, I truly believed that I was some kind of godess bc I am, we all are
ok hold up. thinking you're trash will never make you trash. thinking you're worthless will never make you worthless. it's okay to not be far along on your self love journey as long as you're working toward confidence and self love and not sulking in your negative emotions.
@@pretty948 I agree to a point. Being confident definitely makes you more competent and a more enjoyable person to be around. But if you don't think you're "awesome" or worthy or good whatsoever, that doesn't mean you lack any of those qualities.
Anything could be a privilege to some extent. What's important is having the ability to filter other people's advices that are clearly based on OTHER people's experiences in a way it would be helpful to YOU and YOUR life.
How to be confident: dont put any energy into situations you have no control over. If you cant control it dont bother, keep your head high and stay tempered
Be careful using coconut oil on your skin. My skin was fine, until I started using it. After a while, my skin got so clogged, took a long time to get rid of the breakouts, not to mention the acne scars left from it.
All natural coconut oil is a real lifesaver if you have eczema, but even then you need to be careful. But if you get dry spots then it might help to apply it lightly.
As an autistic person the "Look me in the eyes" bit triggered me lol, I wouldn't look anyone in the eyes if they paid me to. It just sets something off in my brain
same but then I realized that if I own the fact that I can't make eye contact, I have to be confident in myself despite living in a world that hates my autism. Being unapologetically autistic is the hottest thing you could ever do imo because that takes a whole different level of confidence
probably my best "hot" tip is turning the self deprecating jokes around.as you said, whatever you say about yourself becomes who you are, and even jokes can do that. so yeah, whenever I am about to tell a self deprecating joke I just ridiculously uplift myself. like im about to say "lol yeah im ugly" and then i actually go "wow today I look soo good". and that shit works v well. also, say thank you or yeah I know when answering to compliments. I get not feeling like you deserve it, but like NOT EVERYONE NEEDS TO KNOW
Wow: this girl deserves so much more subscribers for this high quality content and good talks - i watched 3 or 4 videos and thought she was famous but now I looked at the subscribers and her content needs to be shared more!!!
I was in a very bad period full of self-loathing, anger, anxiety when I found your videos and this talk has honestly helped me a lot. I'm kind of drained mentally nowaday because in quarantine I got addicted to Instagram, which has kinda ruined my self-esteem. But I'm getting my shit together! I'm gonna paint and draw tonight, listen to some music or podcasts. So, if any of you feel the same, hold on! Whoever is reading this is a hot fuckin' girl and keep going
I remember a time where i looked pretty much the same as i do now but for some readon ny confidence was on fire those couple of months. I would walk into a room and everyone would look at me, guys would come and talk to me all the time , i would recieve compliments walking down the streets. Then i got insecure af, still look the same, but my mindset changed and it affected how people responded to me. None of the above happened. Thats when i realised it really is a mindset! Confidence is your aura, the energy and vibe you bring into the room.
4:26 this is good for neurotypical people. but for me it really stresses me out to make eye contact as an autistic person. so i think for other nds like me if you dont/cant feel like masking it its just important that you can be content with yourself. a confident aura will work anyway.
im on the spectrum too, and its hard for me to make eye contact, but you just have to work on it. Make a conscious effort to hold eye contact, even if its just a lil bit.
@@fartyfat6539 yeah thats fine for you but my point is if it stresses you out you dont have to. but if you want to its fine. i just think if it makes you feel like that its not worth it just for ither people.
Hey, I'm a super insecure individual but have a habit of ALWAYS looking people in the eyes, and tbh its gets kinda weird, lmao! You don't *need* to always make eye contact, and if you're uncomfortable it will show because you don't like it. If you did decided to "work on it" I'd recommend looking around the face and not the eyes, but sometimes even looking at the persons ear or above their head or at their nose doesn't work and can cause a lot of discomfort so don't worry about following every "step" to confidence, it's about comfort. Not everything works for everyone - esp if you're on the spectrum bc the spectrum is wide as hell. ***edit: just realised i commented on the wrong thing and now it looks like Im just repeating what youre saying lol, sorry. Either way ur right!
@@astroblast2325 I'm glad you agree with me and it is nice to be understood. for me i can usually make eye contact (although sometimes i cant concentrate on what the person is saying because of it) except when im speaking because i can't juggle those two things. i thought that wasnt really relevant because no matter if you're unable to make eye contact or not you shouldn't feel you have to at the expense of your mental health or that everyone can without making themselves feel stressed. not everyone can. anyways thanks for adding to the conversation!
Owning your autistic traits instead of trying to fit in takes a lot of confidence, and confidence is hot girl shit!! Confidence looks different for everyone
Hey, i found your TH-cam Chanel a few weeks ago and i just wanted to say that i love your content. It feels so personal and i really think that you will be very successful with TH-cam. Love from Germany :)
How to be a hot girl: -be unapoliziable you -its a state of mind! -be confident (fake till you make it) -body language: make eye contact, walk with confidence, Thumbs forward, good posture, smile!, do things that make you feel good -be unbotherd (dont worry what others are doing, choose your battles wisely) -choose your friends wisely -dont be a people pleaser ! Not everyone is going to like you, and thats ok -focus on the things/people that serve you -positive self talk! Accept mistakes, affirmations, "would you say that to your mother, stranger or friend ?") -self care! Drink water, Exercise, eat healthy, sleep, Journal, -skincare -learn to do your makeup -dress for your body and for yourself -no compairing! "Comparison is the theif of Joy!" -embrace what you got!
Confidence, and not comparing yourself to others, is SUCH a game changer. When I started actively focusing on myself, things got so much better. I went to therapy to improve my mental health, worked on the parts of myself I could realistically improve (with exercise, balanced eating, clothing/makeup etc), and learned to accept/love the things I couldn't. I also worked on my mind and skills: I draw, play musical instruments, make films, and love to learn. Of course, this is a difficult and ongoing process, but it's so worth it: with everything combined, I feel so much more confident. There are also days when I feel insecure, but that's natural, and I make sure to be kind to myself when I do. The main takeaway is: INVEST in yourself. Invest kindness, compassion, time, and work into yourself. Make sure you value yourself and aren't waiting for other people's validation before thinking you're hot. You are hot. Once you recognise this, so will everyone else.
I love motive on positions, doja's verse hits in a certain way when she goes: "'cuz you got your candy on your arm no need to sugarcoat... say what you want.. " and then her small harmony moment on top, love it
yes!! use natural products for skin care, i cannot stress this enough!! this was a game changer for me. as someone with very sensitive and dry skin, skincare products fucked up my skin even more, but ever since i switched to just washing my face with water and moisturizing it with coconut oil, it looks flawless and it's so so smooth and hydrated! even some soaps irritate my skin, so using just water is the best choice for me.
sorry, but to achieve that "confidence" you need to be a 'hot girl' like you said..realistically... you have to be somehow hot already. And i know it because i've been ugly, and then had a sudden glow up (a time of my life when i lived with confidence applied all the rules you mentioned in the video) and then i got somewhat mediocre, physically and then mentally too (cause i was getting more mature too) and so i know how society treats you at all aspects. And it's actually hard to 'fake' confidence especially when you have to make a big effort to look presentable but you still get not that much attention at all. It's not impossible but you still have to make effort to make friends or get dates, still have to think about what you'll say, still have to be the best you to be treated ok and gain respect, while you can go out with your pijamas and still get noticed. All that shit is too tiring even to think about. Life's unfair, people we are shallow and at the end of the day, the best thing you can do is maybe stop caring.
@@queerlibtardhippie9357 ‘that’s not how human brains are wired’ that’s just a limiting belief you put on yourself. What if you kept telling yourself the opposite and kept believing that you won’t care what people thought of you? You won’t lose anything from trying
I'm going to have to say you are wrong here. Being hot is 100% a mindset and not a physical trait. Over the course of my life, I have been super insecure and full of self-loathing. After a while, I kinda just got tired of it decided that I was done hating myself for no reason. This is with no glow-up, no relationship, hell, it was during a whole global pandemic. If there was anytime to be down bad, this was it. But I didn't let it get to me and now I look in the mirror with confidence because, damn, I do look good. And I believe it -- that's the game changer. So, yeah, I'm still single, still over weight, still short, but feeling hot because I am hot.
Would also like to note that *everyone* has to be conscious of what they say an do. While pretty people may have a slight advantage based purely on their looks, not a lot of people would want to date a rude person. Respect is earned, and that goes for everyone. Prejudice exists, but it can only go so far, y'know.
@Leslie Gutierrez-Gonzalez Is she wrong though? Like don't pretend like overweight girls don't get shit on WAY more cosistently despite being confident - same with dark skin WOC, too. Their confidence becomes "arrogance", their happiness becomes "ignorance", and so on, and so on. Looks matter a fuckton, especially when it comes to how society views girls. Is it fucked up? Yes, so much so. But is pretending like changing your mindset will fix a good majority of your problems also non-helpful and bad? Yes, it is.
💗💗Uhh, eye contact is what I’m working on lately, and it’s a huge step to confidence, (I’ve noticed that looking down or avoiding eye contact is like a pattern that I’m very used to) 🙄so this year I’m working on that, anyway great video, except for the coconut oil as a moisturizer, it can lead you skin problems at future, because it does not moistures at all!!!gurl
Literally everything u said is soooo true & I do everything u said expect the “keep eye contact” I’m really bad at that & I’m gonna try to get better with keeping eye contact with people. But everything else u said I do in my day to day. Staying confident & staying away from negative people & not worrying about another girl & her business & I’m definitely not bothered by a pretty girl. At the most I wanna know what she’s doing to look pretty,learn new makeup tips & workouts & be her friend instead of making a enemy. Loving myself & doing self care & doing things that will make me happy r always on the top of my priority list.
THE FRIEND BIT IS SO TRUE my mantra is you need to be obsessed and in LOVE with your friends. they should be some of the best and coolest people you know and that's WHY they're you're friends!!! boom!
i agree about the self-deprecating jockes.. most people that are close to me do that and it sucks, because i've already been there and i know how shitty it is
Thank you for your video ! As an asexual person I thought I was blocked out of the hot girl trend because I can't even understand what the term means. However, I have my own interpretation now : "hot" being "welcoming, warm, energetic, confident", that sort of thing that makes you shine as a person in general.
Yaaas this tips do wonders! And the comparision tip was on point, I´m a latina, and when i see gorgeous black women or asian women i'm like wow they look amazing, but never really compared myself to them because im not black or asian, but with this eurocentric beauty standars, when I used to see white girls (Madison beer, VS models,etc) I suffered because I didn´t look like them, but I don't have to beacuse IM NOT WHITE, just as it wouldn´t be logical to me wonder why i don't have cute slanted eyes or why I don't have this voluminous beautiful afro hair, is not logical being wondering why i wasn't born with blue eyes and blonde hair. It also happens with the body, why trying to achive the waist that Kendall Jenner has when she is 5'9 and im 5'4? Is not possible. What im trying to say is: If you are looking for "beauty inspo" look at people like you, every day we have more representation, admire the beauty that your race, people with your same features and size has so that you can admire the own beauty you possess.
"you owe it to yourself and to everyone around you to take care of yourself" definitely agree, but I also want to add that as nice as it is to be there for people when they're struggling, the hard truth is that people won't support you if you're not a person they *want* to support. If you're not a good friend to someone, and you're not giving back enough, you will be draining to be around, and you won't keep your friends (at least not good friendships). By taking more care of yourself as opposed to exhausting yourself by worrying about draining people like these, they're gonna have to learn that they need to change the way they are if they want meaningful, equal relationships
I wanna add one more thing that helped me SOOOOO MUCH. If you find yourself being insecure about a certain part of your body/face, pay attention to people that you think are beautiful. I also hope this makes sense lol For example, I have a really rectangular face, it's very long, and my jawline is not the sharpest. Marina and the Diamonds is one of my favorite artists of all time, and she also has a more rectangular face, right? And I've seen her as beautiful for over 10 years. Once I realized that we both have a similar face shape, I was able to also see myself as someone who is beautiful. (not fully, but I am working on it!) So if you're able to find parts of yourself in others that look similar to you and you also think they're beautiful, it can help you not dwell on being someone you wished you looked like. It will help you soooooo much. I still have trouble with my confidence, sometimes I cry after taking photos of myself lol, but I know that time will allow me to feel better about myself.
god every point you made was it! i felt deeply about the people pleaser one. i have a big heart, but healthy boundaries will attract the people who will make me feel loved and i can give them love equally in return. subscribed!
I sometimes rly don't understand it. People tell us to dress according to our body type. That's what I do but I don't like it. If I dress how I like I don't like it either because it doesn't fit my body.
everytime i watch a video about how to be more beautiful and i always expected to the first topic be about being more confident and im always like 👁️👄👁️ because yea i know i knowww but i just I CANTTT
Just watched ur video and I feel in love with ur personality??!!! Can you do a video on mottos or mantras hot girls live by? And ways to glow up physically and mentally? Thank you! Can’t wait to see more of ur content!!!
You know something? Something i do when i'm feeling down is tell someone, so i can get it off my chest, but if you can't tell someone then, just get infront of the mirror and talk to yourself about it, like if you were having a casual conversation with a friend (I do this all the time, even if i'm not feeling down neither in front of a mirror)
yeah I can't help myself send help: *cue scene from teen wolf* stiles: 'yeah, you're like the hot girl that everyone wants' scott: 'I'm the hot girl?' stiles: 'you are the hottest girl' isaac: '... what?' scott: 'I'm the hot girl' (0.0) isaac: 'yes you are' scott: 😊🥰🥰🥰
Haha I love your videos but I cringed at your skin care advice. good that coconut oil works for you, but especially if you have acneic skin I would would avoid, it's pretty high up on the comedogenic (clogs your pores) scale
@@jennymarie7350 cerave moisturising cream for dry skin may work. i have had eczema before but never on my face so i’m not really sure :( skincare youtuber hyram is great for advice and i think he made a video recently about it. maybe give his video a watch
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i once saw a tweet that said the only requirement to being a hot girl is to think you’re a hot girl and it genuinely changed my life
@s t a r d u s t 😭 i think its a difference between being confident and being a brat (not saying u were one)
@s t a r d u s t im saying some people over do it and think they're special when in reality they look basic.(again im not attacking u lol )
@@janessaqua8706 ✅ we're all saying the same thing basically
@s t a r d u s t just because people felt like tearing you down doesn't mean you're not a hot girl. People tear others down to make themselves feel better. What people think about you is about them, not you
@s t a r d u s t Some people told me that too - but boys still thought I was a hot girl cause I felt hot in my basic clothes.
Be comfortable in your skin and clothes, you don't need to be a leopard in heels to be hot.
You shouldn’t want everyone to like you because everyone’s not likeable.
Wait could you elaborate, I love the sound of this
I just mean some people aren’t good people so it’s a good thing if they don’t like you.
@@theblackbutterfly6573 thanks 🥰 I'm gonna take this with me
also nobody is liked by everyone. that's just human nature and compatibility or lack thereof. doesn't mean there's something wrong with u.
agreed. why would you want everyone to like you? you don’t even like everyone aswell
how to be a hot girl: ignore others opinions about you, dress however you want, and show your confidence off.
@s t a r d u s t cuz ppl luv to tear down confident ppl unfortunately. Good thing we keep our heads up regardless
@Lana Joy 💯
Don't dress like a bitch though, just sayin
@@samsworld1770 Welp Neruro since your a professional here please elaborate what dressing like a bitch is :)
@@samsworld1770 ah yes, lets all dress up like 1940’s wives to please NeuroTrip. This individual has evolved all women with a click of their keyboard. Outstanding.
cheers to all of us just being hot 🍷
🍷cheers
@Jeremy S damn the gatekeeper of hotness has arrived
@@chiacharles5490 I'm dead 😂😂😂
@Jeremy S not you calling me out
@Jeremy S this is my sisters acc 😏 nah kidding I actually don’t know if this is a compliment or not 🤌🏻 prolly not since it’s the internet
when i was younger i would spend HOURS looking at myself, i loved the way i look, i knew i was pretty, i genuinely thought i was the most beautiful girl in the world. then society kicked in, i got insecure, hated the way i looked, but recently i’ve been back, i admire myself in the mirror and you know what i look damn good and no one can tell me otherwise 😌
Omg I love this. I so proud of you for being able to get back to the way you were and not letting society keep affecting the way you see yourself. Your amazing🥰
Me too
we all out here tryna be you
YES PERIODT YOU LOOK ABNORMALLY GORGEOUS‼‼😁😁😁
I feel the EXACT same way. I was so happy with myself until i was told that I should look differently by people around me (whose opinions i valued a lot) and society in general... i hated my body and face, wouldn't smile etc. but it's gotten so so much better now
don't know anything about being a hot girl, but if you need to compare yourself to somebody, COMPARE YOURSELF WITH THE YOU FROM YESTERDAY. Personally I find this way of thinking keeps me focused in life and helps me live in the present and do my best. It might not be for everyone though so maybe try something else if you're getting bogged down by putting pressure on yourself.
Facts!!!
100% ! It’s literally so motivating and easy for improving yourself! Sometimes its hard, seeing so many people that you might look up to, but when you are comparing yourself to yourself you are actually able to improve instead of self gloating and being jealous.
tysm for this.
@@deeji6098 well it depends, we have to allow ourselves to have shitty days. For example if you’re trying to get a new house or save up for something, and you were doing good with your money saving yesterday but today you’re forced to buy a new car now you're a few steps back from reaching your goal and that’s not because you’re a shitty unproductive person today compared to yesterday, it’s just that life happened. Or say you want to make friends more often and yesterday you made 2 friends but today you were having a bad day and wasn’t in the right headspace to be friendly. Life happens, making mistakes doesn’t mean you’re not a better person than you were before. We have to think of progress as cumulative. Like yeah you may have not met any friends today but you did yesterday. You may be behind on reaching your saving goal but you would’ve been more behind had you not saved up at all. And like you said you looked at your journal and you notice improvement. I like to think of progress like a graph, there’s some dips in the line but it’s still going up so that’s all that matters.
Thats a great idea
- body language
- STRUT, not walk
- smile!
- hone skills and hobbies
- you are the main character!! REMEMBER THIS.
Your not tho
@@boa9557 bro wtf
@@boa9557 in your own life you kinda are? By definition your life is from your perspective
@@boa9557 you’re** and yes. you are :)
@@starhill6792 no
as a guy, from now on, internally and eternally, I'm...a HOT Girl
Period🤣
Amen
Preach! preach!!!!
Yasss boy
Wow same
I agree with what you said self deprecating jokes aren’t funny. I get turned off by guys who get on TikTok and say no one wants them and that they’re ugly.... 🌝 like bruh you’re turning me off by your self pity
I love to do it. I tend to be quiet and people tend to avoid communicating with me as they think I'm stuck up and that I'm the shit. Wearing glasses and saying self deprecating jokes makes me more approachable, humble and reminds me to laugh at myself and not take it too seriously.
I literally can't not do it.
@@goodgirlgonereal2601 exactly
"empathy without boundaries is self destruction" couldn't agree more :) set your boundaries ladies
Exactly
Also good hygiene goes a loooong way, being meticulous with my nails, hair, smell and teeth improved my appearance like 2000%
that's why i don't call myself ugly anymore. i just know i CAN look better and i have the potential. it's not really fair to be hard on myself just because i can't afford beauty products/services at the moment. effort makes a lot of difference. there are many ways to improve our appearance so don't give up just yet.
Is it u on profile picture?😳😳
U are so beautiful
"I'm the most important person in my life"
"I'm the main character "
Those are amazing affirmations ✨
I feel like there are some exceptions like if you have a kid though.
@@samuelforesta ofc. they're your family
Girls literally what anyone ever thinks of you is THEIR problem. Point blank period, focus on what YOU think for YOU!
Yes definitely!!
wish I could like this comment 5 times
@@sukanya3411 🥺 glad we agree!
Regarding the smiling thing to be hot or seem confident, I would disagree. Precisely because of when you're confident, you don't care about how people perceive you. You don't need people to think you're friendly or positive, or fear them thinking you're mean or negative.
Regardless of the mood I'm in, I own those emotions, and the energy is felt in any case.
Confidence and hotness is unconditional is what I'm saying basically.
yea, honestly sick of the narrative that you have to be happy and kind all the time to be a nice, attractive person. People have emotions, and it should be okay to show them. Smiling constantly just honestly feels disingenuous?
@@labellelace yeah but also always being negative isn't healthy for anyone, whether it's yourself or others.
Being hateful isn't hot either, you don't need to be an asshole to be funny, badass, or confident. It's normally the opposite.
Don't be a negative dick and be shocked when you get negative vibes back from everyone, basically. Try to be the better person and try to be positive more often than negative for your own health.
@@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty the alternative to not smiling is not necessarily being negative. You can be neutral/positive without smiling. Life isn't meant to be just positive and toxic positivity is very harmful. No one said anything about always being negative -- if anything, always being positive is the accepted norm.
Hello autistics!
I am also autistic. I have a very hard time with eye contact. You could look at the nose or forehead. That makes the illusion of eye contact. Sometimes I hyper focus on eyelashes so that helps me. I hope that you guys have a happy day or night. Love ya 💋💋
needed this thankyou
why do i feel like you’d write a really good book lol. the way you articulate your points has me nodding my head in agreement the whole vid 💀
@ affirmations & "I" statements around 13:40, James Clear talks about this in atomic habits (really great book, def recommend) and he basically says our brains cannot handle cognitive dissonance, so when we grip hold to something and identify with it so strongly, we will do anything to keep that cognitive consonance, or really manifest those traits. Like for example instead of saying "I want to eat healthy", it's more productive to say & train your brain; "I eat healthy". When we/our brain takes something in as a part of our identity, everything else will fall into place and follow suit whether that place is productive or healthy or not healthy at all.
Something else I learned recently was how our self-worth is sort of an internal pillar for our identity. Once your self-worth is involved then shit, it's over from there, or the complete opposite happens & we can really self-actualize.
This was really helpful! Do you have any books you would recommend?
yess, i was thinking about doing a whole video on manifestation/law of attraction
@@MadisynBrown please doooo
@@maiz3558 yes i second this
Wearing too much makeup doesn't necessarily make you look like a clown (Unless you're using clown makeup lol) If you want to wear a sunset eye shadow, if that makes you happy, THEN DO IT! You don't have to use a lot of makeup nor a little bit of makeup JUST to look good for others, do your makeup if you want, if you don't, then don't do it
True, but many people don't realize how bad it is for their skin as well as how it looks when they use too much of a product.
You don't need a ton of foundation and it breaks down quicker the more you use. Your face is fine it doesn't need to be completely covered up.
When it comes to eyeshadow and eye liner personally I think you can go as wild as you want~ whatever lipstick colors you want~
Just don't think you need half a bottle of foundation to get "full coverage".
When I was 5 years old I genuinely said to my mom that life existed because of me 😳 with these exact words, I truly believed that I was some kind of godess bc I am, we all are
Omg that's, honestly, a fkn badass thing to say
You blowing up this year!
I'm a gay boy but I still needed this video 😭
as you should
You can be a hot girl too ❤
@@Minicarrotjuice asf 🖤
we have the same last name🤠
@@roselmao1024 Martinez's are the best breed, did I lie?
ok hold up. thinking you're trash will never make you trash. thinking you're worthless will never make you worthless. it's okay to not be far along on your self love journey as long as you're working toward confidence and self love and not sulking in your negative emotions.
Yess💕
The more you tell yourself negative things the more you'll subconsciously believe it, but as a fact it is untrue.
" You're only as awesome as you think you are "
- Wesley
@@pretty948 I agree to a point. Being confident definitely makes you more competent and a more enjoyable person to be around. But if you don't think you're "awesome" or worthy or good whatsoever, that doesn't mean you lack any of those qualities.
Tell that to incels. Their self hatred is low-key what makes them behave in such a hateful AND hateable way.
It's a privilege to be able to walk away from people who frustrate you.
True
Anything could be a privilege to some extent. What's important is having the ability to filter other people's advices that are clearly based on OTHER people's experiences in a way it would be helpful to YOU and YOUR life.
How to be confident: dont put any energy into situations you have no control over. If you cant control it dont bother, keep your head high and stay tempered
Be careful using coconut oil on your skin. My skin was fine, until I started using it. After a while, my skin got so clogged, took a long time to get rid of the breakouts, not to mention the acne scars left from it.
Fr I started using it and I developed cystic acne and it took months for the scars to leave my face
Coconut oil is not for our faces. It should be used on body and hair only :). Learned it the hard way too.
@@tihanablagec9142 well I only used it on my body bc I already knew it was bad for people with acne & it left me fucked up
All natural coconut oil is a real lifesaver if you have eczema, but even then you need to be careful. But if you get dry spots then it might help to apply it lightly.
Yeah same with shea butter! I've got a similar from using shea butter on my face. Luckily it wasn't that hard to clear up but still.
"Hot Girls stay hydrated" I needed to hear that, lol
As an autistic person the "Look me in the eyes" bit triggered me lol, I wouldn't look anyone in the eyes if they paid me to. It just sets something off in my brain
OMG SAAAME
same but then I realized that if I own the fact that I can't make eye contact, I have to be confident in myself despite living in a world that hates my autism. Being unapologetically autistic is the hottest thing you could ever do imo because that takes a whole different level of confidence
That’s very true!
Same, whenever I even think about looking someone in the eyes I just shudder. I hate looking people in the eyes so much-
not autistic but I can't stand eye contact for more than 2 seconds even with my dad
You have literally fucking saved me. I needed this. I will come back to this. I love you, and i love myself
probably my best "hot" tip is turning the self deprecating jokes around.as you said, whatever you say about yourself becomes who you are, and even jokes can do that. so yeah, whenever I am about to tell a self deprecating joke I just ridiculously uplift myself. like im about to say "lol yeah im ugly" and then i actually go "wow today I look soo good". and that shit works v well. also, say thank you or yeah I know when answering to compliments. I get not feeling like you deserve it, but like NOT EVERYONE NEEDS TO KNOW
Wow: this girl deserves so much more subscribers for this high quality content and good talks - i watched 3 or 4 videos and thought she was famous but now I looked at the subscribers and her content needs to be shared more!!!
*furiously takes notes*
omg the "faking until you make it" i've done it my entire life AND IT ALWAYS WORK
I was in a very bad period full of self-loathing, anger, anxiety when I found your videos and this talk has honestly helped me a lot. I'm kind of drained mentally nowaday because in quarantine I got addicted to Instagram, which has kinda ruined my self-esteem. But I'm getting my shit together! I'm gonna paint and draw tonight, listen to some music or podcasts. So, if any of you feel the same, hold on! Whoever is reading this is a hot fuckin' girl and keep going
I remember a time where i looked pretty much the same as i do now but for some readon ny confidence was on fire those couple of months. I would walk into a room and everyone would look at me, guys would come and talk to me all the time , i would recieve compliments walking down the streets. Then i got insecure af, still look the same, but my mindset changed and it affected how people responded to me. None of the above happened. Thats when i realised it really is a mindset! Confidence is your aura, the energy and vibe you bring into the room.
okay but ur so pretty?? literally everyone here is ?? also this boosted my confidence
4:26 this is good for neurotypical people. but for me it really stresses me out to make eye contact as an autistic person. so i think for other nds like me if you dont/cant feel like masking it its just important that you can be content with yourself. a confident aura will work anyway.
im on the spectrum too, and its hard for me to make eye contact, but you just have to work on it. Make a conscious effort to hold eye contact, even if its just a lil bit.
@@fartyfat6539 yeah thats fine for you but my point is if it stresses you out you dont have to. but if you want to its fine. i just think if it makes you feel like that its not worth it just for ither people.
Hey, I'm a super insecure individual but have a habit of ALWAYS looking people in the eyes, and tbh its gets kinda weird, lmao! You don't *need* to always make eye contact, and if you're uncomfortable it will show because you don't like it. If you did decided to "work on it" I'd recommend looking around the face and not the eyes, but sometimes even looking at the persons ear or above their head or at their nose doesn't work and can cause a lot of discomfort so don't worry about following every "step" to confidence, it's about comfort. Not everything works for everyone - esp if you're on the spectrum bc the spectrum is wide as hell.
***edit: just realised i commented on the wrong thing and now it looks like Im just repeating what youre saying lol, sorry. Either way ur right!
@@astroblast2325 I'm glad you agree with me and it is nice to be understood. for me i can usually make eye contact (although sometimes i cant concentrate on what the person is saying because of it) except when im speaking because i can't juggle those two things. i thought that wasnt really relevant because no matter if you're unable to make eye contact or not you shouldn't feel you have to at the expense of your mental health or that everyone can without making themselves feel stressed. not everyone can. anyways thanks for adding to the conversation!
Owning your autistic traits instead of trying to fit in takes a lot of confidence, and confidence is hot girl shit!! Confidence looks different for everyone
this lighting is EVERYTHING
Hey, i found your TH-cam Chanel a few weeks ago and i just wanted to say that i love your content. It feels so personal and i really think that you will be very successful with TH-cam.
Love from Germany :)
How to be a hot girl:
-be unapoliziable you
-its a state of mind!
-be confident (fake till you make it)
-body language: make eye contact, walk with confidence, Thumbs forward, good posture, smile!, do things that make you feel good
-be unbotherd (dont worry what others are doing, choose your battles wisely)
-choose your friends wisely
-dont be a people pleaser ! Not everyone is going to like you, and thats ok
-focus on the things/people that serve you
-positive self talk! Accept mistakes, affirmations, "would you say that to your mother, stranger or friend ?")
-self care! Drink water, Exercise, eat healthy, sleep, Journal,
-skincare
-learn to do your makeup
-dress for your body and for yourself
-no compairing! "Comparison is the theif of Joy!"
-embrace what you got!
Confidence, and not comparing yourself to others, is SUCH a game changer.
When I started actively focusing on myself, things got so much better. I went to therapy to improve my mental health, worked on the parts of myself I could realistically improve (with exercise, balanced eating, clothing/makeup etc), and learned to accept/love the things I couldn't. I also worked on my mind and skills: I draw, play musical instruments, make films, and love to learn. Of course, this is a difficult and ongoing process, but it's so worth it: with everything combined, I feel so much more confident. There are also days when I feel insecure, but that's natural, and I make sure to be kind to myself when I do.
The main takeaway is: INVEST in yourself. Invest kindness, compassion, time, and work into yourself. Make sure you value yourself and aren't waiting for other people's validation before thinking you're hot. You are hot. Once you recognise this, so will everyone else.
MA’AM YOU SNATCHED MY EDGES WITHIN THE 1ST 10 SECONDS 🤦🏾♀️🥵🔥😍
You should have said, “Yeah, you could never compete with her either.”
lmao fr! in my mind i was thinking...ya know what we do have in common tho? neither of us will be f-ing you 😺😺
@@MadisynBrown OML THAT’S SO sAVAGE
I love motive on positions, doja's verse hits in a certain way when she goes: "'cuz you got your candy on your arm no need to sugarcoat... say what you want.. " and then her small harmony moment on top, love it
yes!! use natural products for skin care, i cannot stress this enough!! this was a game changer for me. as someone with very sensitive and dry skin, skincare products fucked up my skin even more, but ever since i switched to just washing my face with water and moisturizing it with coconut oil, it looks flawless and it's so so smooth and hydrated! even some soaps irritate my skin, so using just water is the best choice for me.
I know this channel is about to get biggggg this year. Glad I found it
u r incredibly gorgeous n ur skin is GLOWING
sorry, but to achieve that "confidence" you need to be a 'hot girl' like you said..realistically... you have to be somehow hot already.
And i know it because i've been ugly, and then had a sudden glow up (a time of my life when i lived with confidence applied all the rules you mentioned in the video) and then i got somewhat mediocre, physically and then mentally too (cause i was getting more mature too) and so i know how society treats you at all aspects. And it's actually hard to 'fake' confidence especially when you have to make a big effort to look presentable but you still get not that much attention at all. It's not impossible but you still have to make effort to make friends or get dates, still have to think about what you'll say, still have to be the best you to be treated ok and gain respect, while you can go out with your pijamas and still get noticed. All that shit is too tiring even to think about. Life's unfair, people we are shallow and at the end of the day, the best thing you can do is maybe stop caring.
@@paprikaa.y 'you just need to stop caring' that's not how human brains are wired
@@queerlibtardhippie9357 ‘that’s not how human brains are wired’ that’s just a limiting belief you put on yourself.
What if you kept telling yourself the opposite and kept believing that you won’t care what people thought of you? You won’t lose anything from trying
I'm going to have to say you are wrong here. Being hot is 100% a mindset and not a physical trait. Over the course of my life, I have been super insecure and full of self-loathing. After a while, I kinda just got tired of it decided that I was done hating myself for no reason. This is with no glow-up, no relationship, hell, it was during a whole global pandemic. If there was anytime to be down bad, this was it. But I didn't let it get to me and now I look in the mirror with confidence because, damn, I do look good. And I believe it -- that's the game changer. So, yeah, I'm still single, still over weight, still short, but feeling hot because I am hot.
Would also like to note that *everyone* has to be conscious of what they say an do. While pretty people may have a slight advantage based purely on their looks, not a lot of people would want to date a rude person. Respect is earned, and that goes for everyone. Prejudice exists, but it can only go so far, y'know.
@Leslie Gutierrez-Gonzalez Is she wrong though? Like don't pretend like overweight girls don't get shit on WAY more cosistently despite being confident - same with dark skin WOC, too. Their confidence becomes "arrogance", their happiness becomes "ignorance", and so on, and so on.
Looks matter a fuckton, especially when it comes to how society views girls. Is it fucked up? Yes, so much so. But is pretending like changing your mindset will fix a good majority of your problems also non-helpful and bad? Yes, it is.
Madysin: "so, you want to be a hot girl?"
Me:👁👄👁 yes please
💗💗Uhh, eye contact is what I’m working on lately, and it’s a huge step to confidence, (I’ve noticed that looking down or avoiding eye contact is like a pattern that I’m very used to) 🙄so this year I’m working on that, anyway great video, except for the coconut oil as a moisturizer, it can lead you skin problems at future, because it does not moistures at all!!!gurl
Literally everything u said is soooo true & I do everything u said expect the “keep eye contact” I’m really bad at that & I’m gonna try to get better with keeping eye contact with people. But everything else u said I do in my day to day. Staying confident & staying away from negative people & not worrying about another girl & her business & I’m definitely not bothered by a pretty girl. At the most I wanna know what she’s doing to look pretty,learn new makeup tips & workouts & be her friend instead of making a enemy. Loving myself & doing self care & doing things that will make me happy r always on the top of my priority list.
ur quickly becoming one of my fav youtubers
THE FRIEND BIT IS SO TRUE my mantra is you need to be obsessed and in LOVE with your friends. they should be some of the best and coolest people you know and that's WHY they're you're friends!!! boom!
oh and they have to feel the same way abt you ofc. don't idolise someone and turn it into a one sided friendship.
i agree about the self-deprecating jockes.. most people that are close to me do that and it sucks, because i've already been there and i know how shitty it is
I needed to hear this, haven’t felt myself a while. Gotta snap back to reality, get back to my hot girl self 😤
Every time I feel bad , lost or sad I see this video and my self love just explode
You don’t need to become the hot girl, you already are the hot girl!
Thank you for your video ! As an asexual person I thought I was blocked out of the hot girl trend because I can't even understand what the term means. However, I have my own interpretation now : "hot" being "welcoming, warm, energetic, confident", that sort of thing that makes you shine as a person in general.
Yaaas this tips do wonders! And the comparision tip was on point, I´m a latina, and when i see gorgeous black women or asian women i'm like wow they look amazing, but never really compared myself to them because im not black or asian, but with this eurocentric beauty standars, when I used to see white girls (Madison beer, VS models,etc) I suffered because I didn´t look like them, but I don't have to beacuse IM NOT WHITE, just as it wouldn´t be logical to me wonder why i don't have cute slanted eyes or why I don't have this voluminous beautiful afro hair, is not logical being wondering why i wasn't born with blue eyes and blonde hair. It also happens with the body, why trying to achive the waist that Kendall Jenner has when she is 5'9 and im 5'4? Is not possible.
What im trying to say is: If you are looking for "beauty inspo" look at people like you, every day we have more representation, admire the beauty that your race, people with your same features and size has so that you can admire the own beauty you possess.
Your videos make my day. They're so calming and informative. Thank you for that hottie ❤️
"you owe it to yourself and to everyone around you to take care of yourself"
definitely agree, but I also want to add that as nice as it is to be there for people when they're struggling, the hard truth is that people won't support you if you're not a person they *want* to support.
If you're not a good friend to someone, and you're not giving back enough, you will be draining to be around, and you won't keep your friends (at least not good friendships).
By taking more care of yourself as opposed to exhausting yourself by worrying about draining people like these, they're gonna have to learn that they need to change the way they are if they want meaningful, equal relationships
i really needed to hear all of this.
I wanna add one more thing that helped me SOOOOO MUCH. If you find yourself being insecure about a certain part of your body/face, pay attention to people that you think are beautiful. I also hope this makes sense lol
For example, I have a really rectangular face, it's very long, and my jawline is not the sharpest. Marina and the Diamonds is one of my favorite artists of all time, and she also has a more rectangular face, right? And I've seen her as beautiful for over 10 years. Once I realized that we both have a similar face shape, I was able to also see myself as someone who is beautiful. (not fully, but I am working on it!) So if you're able to find parts of yourself in others that look similar to you and you also think they're beautiful, it can help you not dwell on being someone you wished you looked like. It will help you soooooo much. I still have trouble with my confidence, sometimes I cry after taking photos of myself lol, but I know that time will allow me to feel better about myself.
god every point you made was it! i felt deeply about the people pleaser one. i have a big heart, but healthy boundaries will attract the people who will make me feel loved and i can give them love equally in return. subscribed!
I sometimes rly don't understand it. People tell us to dress according to our body type. That's what I do but I don't like it. If I dress how I like I don't like it either because it doesn't fit my body.
queen please use sunscreen too it's very important for skincare. you can watch hyram's vids about sunscreen :)
@@bluepencil1arts that’s not how it works but okay
"can you tell I've been to cognitive behavioral therapy" LMAOOO
Damn I love how honest you are
everytime i watch a video about how to be more beautiful and i always expected to the first topic be about being more confident and im always like 👁️👄👁️ because yea i know i knowww but i just I CANTTT
I just found your channel and binged all the videos, your content is so good!🙌🏻😍 I can totally see you blowing up on youtube soon ❤️✨
note to self: remember being shy, quiet and introverted isn't that bad.
I am saving this video! Will listen this on repeat till it gets installed in my head
Just watched ur video and I feel in love with ur personality??!!! Can you do a video on mottos or mantras hot girls live by? And ways to glow up physically and mentally? Thank you! Can’t wait to see more of ur content!!!
I just realized how much you and Chloe Bailey look alike😆
omg the giving others too much empathy bit CALLED ME OUT
I learned so much. I can finally love out my dream as a hot girl.
I totally agree, I feel like anyone can be pretty
These comments made me feel so much better
I was about to go look for the style video and you go “NO COMPARISON” and I realized I rly need to finish this video.
You know something? Something i do when i'm feeling down is tell someone, so i can get it off my chest, but if you can't tell someone then, just get infront of the mirror and talk to yourself about it, like if you were having a casual conversation with a friend (I do this all the time, even if i'm not feeling down neither in front of a mirror)
“eye contact isn’t that scary” iM AUTISTIC
That man who said that is a fool lmao
i agree
Megan would be sooo proud
Just watched this and God knows, sis just saved my life 😂😂 love this! 💗
Hot isn’t looking good. It’s all about the exuding confidence and love you have for yourself. And knowing how to rock what you love about yourself.
⚠️listen to me⚠️
1.go drink your water
2.Posture
3.remmber you are awesome
feeling like i just talked to my sis, thank you for the video 💛
omg the sleep part is so important
yeah I can't help myself send help:
*cue scene from teen wolf*
stiles: 'yeah, you're like the hot girl that everyone wants'
scott: 'I'm the hot girl?'
stiles: 'you are the hottest girl'
isaac: '... what?'
scott: 'I'm the hot girl' (0.0)
isaac: 'yes you are'
scott: 😊🥰🥰🥰
Confidence is Key . That's it.thats the comment
“Make eye contact”
My autistic self: well I’ll be damned
😂😂😂
Thank you i really needed to hear this.
And yes mental health is important 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
the intro is perfection
Jeez... i really needed to hear this. Thank u, u inspire me so much
6:36
i really thought she was going to come in there with that skillshare sponsor
loved what you had to say, you got a new subscriber here!
This is like a elder sister giving advice. It's wholesome
I always come back to this video
omg your tips are so good, this is so genuine! i need to be unbothered lolol
Haha I love your videos but I cringed at your skin care advice. good that coconut oil works for you, but especially if you have acneic skin I would would avoid, it's pretty high up on the comedogenic (clogs your pores) scale
do what works for you i’m not a dermatologist ❤️
@@MadisynBrown
even if you have dry skin be careful of coconut oil (it gave me acne once)
@@EmmaxoOCE shame I’m sorry is there anything you can recommend? I have eczema prone skin
@@jennymarie7350 cerave moisturising cream for dry skin may work. i have had eczema before but never on my face so i’m not really sure :( skincare youtuber hyram is great for advice and i think he made a video recently about it. maybe give his video a watch