How to (Explain) ADHD
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ส.ค. 2024
- What IS ADHD, anyway? And how do you EXPLAIN it to people? We teamed up with the ADHD tribe to bring you simple explanations of the most common ADHD challenges, with metaphors submitted by the community and animated by Edward! Enjoy!
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Working memory in adults: www.ncbi.nlm.n...
Brain development in ADHD: doi.org/10.101...
Emotional dysregulation in children with ADHD: www.ncbi.nlm.n...
Neuroanatomic and Cognitive Abnormalities in ADHD: www.ncbi.nlm.n...
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Barkley, B. A. (2015) Emotion Dysregulation is a Core Component of ADHD. In R. A. Barkley (Eds.), Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder: A handbook for diagnosis and treatment (4th ed.). New York, NY, US: Guilford Press.
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More metaphors we loved!
Melissa Herring:
This is how my brother explained it (maybe not exact wording, but close enough). He said imagine all your thoughts are ball pit balls, and there’s a blower underneath them making them bounce everywhere. You’re not able to grasp onto one single ball because they’re just being blown around too much and there’s too many of them. Then he said that medicine turned off the blower so all the balls would settle, making it possible to pick the ball that he wants or needs.
Talheasin Parker:
People with ADD are often highly intelligent but are unable to utilize their potential. Having an ADD brain is like being the most pristine, best designed rocket on the market, but not having the fuel to get off the launch pad (Russell Barkley).
Jake R Cini:
I explain I have a superhero brain with many different powers, except it’s just I can never choose which power to use for each daily situation: flight, strength, X-ray vision, telepathy, super hearing, sonic voice or armour. So I end up using them all at once or none at all! This then makes me seem like the comic book villain.
Mikayla Thomas:
The best way I can describe it is this: Me trying to cope with ADHD by myself is like trying to put together a puzzle with no corners or edges. Every puzzle is supposed to come with edges! Taking my medication is not having the puzzle done for me. Taking my medication is not giving me an easier puzzle or a puzzle that's better than yours or anyone else's. Taking my medicine is being given the corners and edges because I should be able to finish my puzzle and see how beautiful it can truly be just like you.
ceadmilefailte (Sean): xkcd.com/1106/
Apryl42:
I tell my kids that when they interrupt my “train of thought”, it gets fully derailed. Imagine trying to lift the whole train, engine and all, back onto the tracks. It’s frustrating and exhausting
Emily Leath O’Dell:
For my ADHD learner…it’s like they are all on a train going up a mountain. She’ll come around the mountain, she may be in the caboose but she’ll get to the same summit just as solid as the others. But while the front of the train was heaving singularly focused up to the top, she will have seen the flowers and the clouds and felt the sun on her face :)
How to ADHD Awesome and interesting descriptions...! I'll try to think of one for how it feels for me. And when I don't get back to you on it, you'll know why...😅😅😅
How to ADHD yay! Thank you for sharing my metaphor 💕 I’m so honored.
- Apryl Corey
I would be so happy if you checked your facebook messenger messages
I try but I get really overwhelmed by them, we get lots -- I'll go look for yours :)
These metaphors make things WAY easier to understand. I like the superhero one the most 👌🏾
"The smartest & dumbest, most motivated & laziest person in the room" almost made me cry..
Tiresome! 😶
This. I cried 😕
same! except I actually cried
The one🙌
That bit made me cry too. It hit home.
My favourite analogy is 'that it's like having 20 computer tabs open in your brain at once, and you're not quite sure which one the music is playing from.'
Dude I have 40 tabs open right now.
I need at least 2 monitors for this stuff, and I cram it into quadrants.
Yesssss.....lol
How do you get down to only 20 tabs on your computer? Your real, electronic one, I mean?
Xubuntu47 I have this problem too
I love that analogy
Has anyone else let it get so bad that they're just being dragged along behind their life? You have like no control of where it's going and not enough energy to pull yourself up but life won't stop for you just because you have adhd
Then don't stop either. Find a way to get out ahead of it
Yes.
Yes
100%
omg this has been my experience for 21 years...I'm 21 :l
My mom was frustrated with my ADHD symptoms for years... she urged me to come up with coping strategies & routines so I could function.. Good advice. So, I did. But now she gets irritated with my weird coping strategies. She says "if it's important enough, you should just remember!" Not how it works! We can't just turn off our ADHD for important stuff!
:p Stick to your guns!
True, but these days, we can use things like cell phones to give us a reminder. That is one of my most potent strategies - and don't we love cell phones?
What causes it?
God i love my mom when she tells me to JUST DO IT! when i really _cant_ but I'm trying..
What are some of your coping strategies and routines?
The smartest, stupidest, most motivated, laziest person in the room, all at the same time. That spoke to me in volumes. All the extremes at once all the time. Thank you so much for the video.
Same
Frr
Same
ME TOO
I always felt like a walking contradiction, and I saw that and was like oh god that hit me
I’m always scared to reference my ADHD for my behavior. I feel so sad and guilty talking about it with anyone. Because I feel like it’s just an excuse and not a valid reason for my mistakes... my many many mistakes.
This is how I think of it: I have ADHD, just like I’m short. Saying “I’m short” is an excuse if I say it to get out of having to reach tall shelves. It’s an explanation if I say it to explain why it’ll take me longer because I need to go get a stepstool :)
Thank you 😊 I never thought of it that way
How to ADHD I am using that one!
How to ADHD I am short and have ADHD, so it was always just easier to climb up cabinets. I usually couldn’t remember where I put my step stool or didn’t think it worth the trouble ^_^
Self-Taught Goddess, I feel the same. I've discovered that those of us with mental illness only have one another to turn to. We don't have a gaping wound to point to, so you must carry your load in silence to avoid being rendered altogether useless. I've also made plenty of mistakes, PLENTY. I hope you find it in your soul to love the imperfect version of yourself because that is the same amazing person who will emerge from all this, victorious.
Interesting. I learned so much from my patients over the years, and I reached the same conclusion independently. ADHD is NOT about a deficit in attention. It's about control, or lack thereof. It's about difficulty controlling: 1. attention, 2. impulses, 3. emotions.
ADD is definitely not a deficit in attention , it is an abundance of attention on multiple subjects at once. An analogy I like to use is that if thoughts were music . It is easy for the average mind to listen because their thoughts are a single instrument playing ' Mary had a little Lamb" , while the ADD Brain is listening to a symphony , with multiple instruments playing melodies, counter melodies and Rhythms and asking them to just focus on the notes played on only one string of the 3rd violin.
@@fitzgeraldjamesjjr I love this analogy, thank you
perfectly perfect explanation!
@@fitzgeraldjamesjjr It's funny because I'm a rock n roll musician and i don't have any problem listening to just the drums or guitar or whatever instrument while the rest are playing too. When I started playing guitar in 1985 there wasn't an internet with TH-cam to learn from and no one wanted to show me anything so I tried lessons and that wasn't for me so I learned by ear very slowly but I got better and better at playing and listening to only the guitar parts in songs. Now I hear songs and a lot of time I learn them in my head and already know what to play when I pick up my guitar because I'm so familiar with the sounds. My biggest problem has always been staying focused while I'm in the middle of a song because my mind starts thinking about how green the grass is or if I fed my cat today. Music is my favorite thing in the world and I love playing in a band but I still lose focus a lot while I'm doing it. Too many thoughts flying at me at me at super speeds and they always bump into the one I'm focused on eventually. The only time I focus well is when I'm in an "adrenaline situation"( I call them) like when I was woke in the middle of the night with my house on fire I reacted great while other people were hysterical, or in a fight when I used to be a bartender. I can see everything 3 steps ahead of everyone else and it's awesome but I have to be at " fight or flight" to be that focused and then I'm ahead of everyone else even though they're adrenaline is pumping just like mine.
@@fitzgeraldjamesjjr this is so me - especially when i go to stage plays.
"Internal restlessness" THAT is the best way to explain how it is for me. I appear calm but on the inside I'm running a marathon. Btw, I was always told I was "weird" as well, Jessica. I think a lot of us were told that.
And that marathon leaves me mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausted.
@@librtyordeath1214 And then peers/parents tell you that you are lazy without realizing that your attention is simply misdirected by nature. I had to go through the same thing when I was a kid...
My whole family knows I have ADHD and my sister still says regularly, "You're so weird, Branden." I've learned to just accept and say, "I know" or "I am who I am."
My whole life I’ve been the weird girl. Doesn’t bother me anymore.
When she was talking about how people with ADHD have brains that handle emotions differently, I started crying. I’ve always just felt that I was extra sensitive, and that it was my fault.
Feel u bro
same. i actually just told my dad that i have add and he said some really hurtful things, and proceeded to call me too sensitive. this video really helped me process that, and i'll be sending this to him. i hope he takes it seriously
me too
Right I feel like a cry easily even when things aren’t sad
Same here. I so feel you on this comment. I am 43 and I just learned a lot about this today!
fun party game to play with your adhd friends: get out your old school reports and take a shot every time a teacher wrote "smart, but needs to apply herself better" or "excellent in class, but does no work outside of class"
kiaranah YES GIRL. I aced every test without trying but did like 30% of the worksheets and whatnot. My mom was the type to actually go to parent teacher conferences and they sucked to sit through.
Are you trying to kill us with alcohol poisoning 😂😂😂
kiaranah +25 points if you’ve ever been asked “are you failing on purpose?”
RIP liver.
I think my liver would kill itself before I hit seventh grade
My metaphor: It’s like running a race where the goal is to be last, but you’re the fastest person in the world.
*I am speed*
Bro that is so accurate it’s like, almost causing my body to hurt oml why does that make so much sense for me I don’t even know if I have ADHD
That metaphor is sooo good
yeah but nt ppl will just be offended by that
Why does almost every video make me cry, not in a bad way but in a sadly relatable way that I have never heard from another person...
Thats exsctly how ive been feeling this day too so i understand
Anyone else get reminded of the laundry that's been sitting in the dryer for hours when she mentioned forgetting to change the laundry?
Omg me, right now. Hahahaha
Hours?!? Make that days!! 😁🤷 Leaving it only a few hours before tending to it would be awesome progress for me...
She mentioned forgetting to change the laundry? Until this moment I thought I'd heard every word she said!
Emily Sibert same here I will forget for days
Yep. Just happened a second ago.
“Having ADHD is like my brain is a tv and someone else has the remote.”
I don’t remember where I saw this but it’s what I use every time.
Her speech
Totally adhd?
And they keep turning the channel
and sometimes the remote gets lost and the same channel keeps running for hours
It was in another of her videos.
My fiancée has ADHD. He told me on our second date. I never dated a person with ADHD before, but I liked him before he told me so I continued seeing him. Granted I was very uneducated on this topic, but my guy is the sweetest, kindest, loving and most generous man I fell in love with. Thanks to lots of Q&A between us (without judgement), and videos such as yours, I understand more about what goes on in his head. Do I have moments where I want to scream? Um, yes, but they are rare. He's awesome!
Growing up, I was not diagnosed with ADHD, but had time making decisions and a very hard time finishing projects and taking care of the everyday tasks of life. I developed methodical systems to try and work through the things on my plate, but always got overwhelmed and felt like my tires were in the sand. I knew I was capable of so much, but it seemed I could never move forward. This channel is explaining a lot of my childhood and, indeed, my adult life. I used to think that no one would ever understand the way I tried to get things done, or the whys. Now, I’m so relieved to know I’m not alone. Thank you.
Lmao my parents and teachers are always like “just focus” and I’m like
“You think if I could I wouldn’t of already?”
Wouldn't HAVE!!!!!!!! Have. Have.
honestly
Went I hear someone say just focus I think of the “My goodness why didn’t I think of that.” Meme
Relatable lmao.
@@svetavinogradova4243 shut up
"Even if they are not bouncing around the room, their brain might be."
YOU JUST PUT IT IN THE WORDS. THIS IS THE SENTENCE I WILL USE WHEN I TELL PEOPLE WHAT IS INATTENTIVE ADHD
I want to tell my parents that I might have ADHD, but it's ... complicated. I've been struggling my whole life, but it got even worse now in my teenage life due to my anxiety, depression, and my OCD symptoms. Some other things, like sensory issues, started to get worse and worse, and I started to investigate, I finally felt that I was not alone, but when I told my parents and my psychiatrist that I thought I had something and I explained, but I didn't say anything specific that sounded like I "self-diagnosed", they told me that everyone has symptoms and that I just can't have it because those people are outgoing and open and I'm not. They didn't even ask me why I say that. My parents always say that I am exaggerated or hypochondriac with that things.
I know it's too much I just wanted to let it out. Loved your video btw
Sooo, what about the psychiatrist? Did he/she take it seriously? That's their job...
@@victoriamclachlan4596 Haven't really tried. When I brought up autism she said I couldnt cause Ibwas Smart and a "woman", si I don't have My hopes tío high
@@user-el2gi5ws8d Sounds like you might need to find a new psychiatrist, if you haven't already.
@@SnowySpiritRuby I Haven't but yeah, waiting till I can make My own choices :[
@@user-el2gi5ws8d I hear ya.
I am in tears after watching this video. I am 53 and have only recently realized that ADHD is absolutely what I have. I have all the symptoms. I am in the process of getting diagnosed. I am not on meds and I am struggling. Thank you for making these videos. They are so wonderful!
I don't have ADHD but someone I know does. I was getting super frustrated with her and was about to throw up my hands and just walk away from our friendship. Then I watched this and a few other of your videos and I realized just how unfair and ignorant I was being! We went out the other day and we talked it over and she realized that I was her only Nero typical friend! She never explained her condition to me because she's never had to before! Thank you for making these videos! I'd be one amazing friend less without them.
Omg this is amazing!!! Thank you for being a good friend & taking the time to understand 😄😄😄
❤
Thank you for your patience and willingness to change your viewpoint.
You have made a 46 year old man tear up. Thank you
@@sousay2000 It's been two years and she's now my very best friend. I would have seriously missed out had I allowed my frustrations dictate my actions.
'You're far too sensitive.' 'You're so smart, but you have no common sense.' 'You always give up when things get difficult.' 'You're your own worst enemy.' 'Snap out of it'. 'Pull your socks up.' The repeated mantras I heard as a child and well into adulthood. I'm now middle-aged, and sadly, these words are now internalised as my own inner voice. I'm working on it though. Best of luck to all Brains xx
I am 62. I do understand. I have heard those exact things all my life! I managed to get my BS in nursing. I retired recently and want to do something else. But, terrified because I know I make a great first impression. But, I will appear as the " absent minded professor" soon. And I am hypersensitive to the looks my co-workers will exchange when I my scattered self becomes obvious. I lock my keys in my car for the second time that week, etc. Of course, I hear all those things in my head again. Then I because ok me e be enough more scattered. Or start rambling on making it worse. Sigh.
Oh my, "Snap Out Of It" I didnt realixe till I read that how many times thats been yelled at me.
same here, got diagnosed just recently, in my forties.... and I am since then piecing together scenes of my childhood, adolescence, actually all my life, which were difficult or had a negative lasting impact on me, that can be accounted to ADHD. The question remains: who am I then? Obviously not (only) the one who is always late, always forgetful, doesn't pay attention, doesn't obey, is passive aggressive, doesn't understand the most basic things but somehow managed to get a PhD etc. That's what everybody else sees and tells me and I internalised it. But.... Who am I?
@@stulora3172 Sorry this is so late. You're an amazing person who fought their own brain and earned that PhD. You have superpowers everyone else criticizes because they don't understand them.
The ZoZo Experience bless you. You can do it. Please read the book “power of subconscious mind”
"When our ADHD brains are seen as personality defects".
Man I wish I could send just that part to some people.
I almost cried
same, im always told im lazy, that i dont care or that im selfish
I found your TED talk and was so moved by your vulnerability. I have two kiddos with ADHD and both behave very differently. You have great information and wonderful metaphors to help us understand what is going on. Thank you!
Started this video 7 hours ago, around 200 tabs later, 34 other videos completed, 5 articles read, 3 conversations to long friends I haven't seen in a while, a new business idea, and agreed to buy a desk and camera bag, I'm finally back to finish the last few minutes of this video! What a journey :')
This sounds so accurate in my mid 20s when TH-cam went mainstream lol
Exactly
Lmfao I did the same 🤣🤣🤣
You and me both, while I was supposed to be doing something else ;-) 65 and still I’m not broken….. and getting better every day!
Been there. I was reading something and thought of something similar to what was written, so tldr, I ended up on amazon looking at pencil cases.
"It's like being the smartest, stupidest, most motivated and laziest person in the room" is one of those sentences that made me pause and breathe for a moment because of how much it just Got Me and the way it often feels to have ADHD, especially when you don't know you have it yet or you're still trying to learn how to manage it
Exactly!
Yeah omggg me too... I got teary eyed! Its like wow finally someone gets it. Its soo tiring.
Honestly, her videos make me tear up so often. It's too easy to forget that you're not alone in your internal struggles, but it can very easily feel that way. Especially since adhd isn't taken very seriously by most neurotypical brains.
I was just diagnosed with ADHD today so i’m going to show this to my mom and dad. Thank you for making me not have to explain everything to them myself.😂 :P
6:08 that's exactly how I've been feeling throughout my life.. thinking I was just lazy and depressed with occasional bursts of charisma and motivation! now at 23 I've put my foot down about it and came across this channel! Hopefully I can see someone and get my mind back in order, thankyou so much for the explanation! :)
Not me finding this comment 3 years later.. completely forgot to see someone about it 😂 working on that now.. 😅
It's like being the smartest, stupidest, most motivated and laziest person in the room. I relate a lot to this. As I was typing I had to listen to it four times to make sure I wouldn't forget the next word.
Alba Muñoz SAME.
Me too, it crushed me to many times during school years
I had to rewind some parts 2-3 times to remember lol
I def relate to this as well
Once I was being dumb but looked smart, so I wasn’t paying attention what a surprise (not) and I got called on, I knew what we were talking about so I started giving a random answer off the top of my head and I was correct
Okay, I am actually crying. Ironically because this the first time I've ever heard anyone address that ADHD affects emotional control. Wow, this was just such an accurate description of ADHD as a whole. Thank you.
Literally everything in this video is so relatable. I love that someone else can explain my brain better than I can.
I was uncomfortable with who I was for a very long time. These videos really helped me deal with who I am. A lot better than any doctor could. I’m glad that I am not alone.
My husband and I both use this analogy:
Imagine you are sitting in a room with a wall full of 20 television screens. Each of those 20 screens are on different channels and all of them are playing shows that are at least mildly interesting to you.
NOW imagine that the volume from each screen is different from the next and they are all randomly getting louder and quieter.
NOW imagine that the 20 different shows on the 20 screens (All with varying volume levels) don't stay on the screen they initially were on. The shows are bouncing from screen to screen at random and annoyingly.
Now remember that you are at least mildly interested in each of these shows. You really do wish to give each one the attention it rightfully deserves, and you are desperately trying.
Taking our medication gives us the remote!
But I always lose my t.v remote, literally like once I was looking for multiple minutes all over my room for the remote because I wanted to watch Hulu
Sounds awful tbh. I can only pay attention to one TV at a time...
Wow. Yes.... This. From now on, this is the analogy I'll be using. Thanks you.
That’s perfect!
This description made me feel anxious for a while lol
"The best way to understand someone's brain is to ask them about it." Awesome production thanks guys 👍
I didn't think this was sarcastic but if it was, it would be funny 😂🤣
It’s easy to think about asking someone about their brain….. if they possess that self-awareness they need to talk about it! Think before you speak from one who has it! It took me a long time and without medication and a lot of love .self-love
Man, really wish some of this infermation was avail 20 years ago. If it was I wish someone had put me on to it as I thin it would have made me a MUCH better "adult", son, brother, friend and father. Keep up the great work and I hope your circle keeps you focused on pushing this further!
This video was so helpful to explain to my parents what it’s like just existing. And I’m honestly glad to have found a community of people who have it, too.
How I explain my ADHD?
"Just imagine having Eminem be your train of thought."
It sounds awesome at first but give it time, it'll start sucking.
OML YESS!!
Fr
"Palms are sweaty knees weak mom's spaghetti"
EXACTLY
The smartest stupidest most motivated and lazy person in the world is probably the best description i've heard so far. I've definately thought about this at some point. Thanks so much for this vídeo!
Katherine Polo I related so well to this.
I totally get this!! It's a perfect description. I was diagnosed at 41 and rode this roller coaster blindfolded with no clue why I could feel so many different things at once. Thank you for your videos. They make me laugh and make me cry but best of all they make me better understand ME!!
I am not alone. This is so comforting.
@MelissaBaker: that's the comment I wanted to write. exactly that ^
Exactly what I was going to say xd
I just found out my 9 year old has ADHD. Doctors, Google and most sources could not put it in perspective enough for me to understand the challenges ahead. But thanks to you and your well thought out videos I find my preconceived notions of ADHD dissolving away and a healthier relationship with my boy is emerging. Thank you so much :-)
Revisiting to share with a friend.
This video changed my life and just hit me harder than when when it opened my eyes maybe four years ago.
I don't have the words to express the difference you have made to my life. I can oly hope the some day, I will be able to give you the biggest hug ever.
Thank you.
My latest analogy goes something like: imagine yourself in a room full of people, a party. The room is small and crowded. Everyone has broken up into small groups, each having its own different conversation at different volume levels. You want to join a conversation, but no sooner do you latch on to a few words in one group, than the group behind you gets louder. So you try to join that one, but just as you do the group next to you catches your attention - you end up moving around the entire room, unable to join in any of the conversations. You get frustrated, feel alone in a crowd of people, exhaust yourself, and eventually give up and try to get out of the room. But you can't find the door you came in. The many conversations go on until you find some way to mute them - meditation, medication, whatever works for you. It's a horror show. That's my ADHD brain. Did I mention I also feel like a wind-up toy that's been wound too tight? And I had to stop taking stimulant meds a couple of years ago - I developed heart palpitations (I'm now 62). I'm at a loss as to what to try or do. Anyone else?
Is trying to focus hard for ADHD people or they do not know how to focus
@@omarrezk6089 More like, most of the time, we can't regulate our focus as well as a neurotypical brain, so we may be unable to focus, or may be hyperfocused. If you watch more of her videos, she explains it much better than I can. :-)
Try the keto diet. Works wonders,
I'm sorry but I got distracted 15 words in
Yeah I 100% feel like this. I still cannot manage my brain. I just distract myself with hobbies so I don't go too insane.
This is literally the best channel on TH-cam. One day I’ll watch a video without crying. It resonates so deeply with me and to say I’m thankful for this existing is an understatement.
I'm with you
Omg same!!
When, through Instagram, I realised I had ADHD my life fell into place. My husband had the same realisation about me which has proved to be so much help! I’m mid 70s and getting an ‘official’ diagnosis isn’t something that I want to do.
It’s never to late to get some insight! Love your videos they are so useful for me! Thank you.
This video made me cry. I was diagnosed at 33, waiting to get meds. I can see so much of my struggles in life were due to adhd. Realizing that it's not "normal" and it's ok to acknowledge how hard it is being on the hamster wheel makes it better.
Every metaphor used in this video describes me perfectly. Most of my life i've been told i was lazy, not trying hard enough and so on and i believed it too. I thought there was something wrong with me and i couldn't do the things everyone around me seemed to have no problem accomplish. It actually got worse once i stopped going to school, i couldn't seem to be able to become what they call "a functioning adult". I was depressed for years until finally i got diagnosed and everything started making sense. Thank you Jessica for sharing this with the world, i hope many people see it and learn a bit more about ADHD.
I literally spaced out for two straight minutes during this video. 100% blank on what she said. Must rewind. Yikes!
Welcome to the tribe ☺️
This happened to me too! THE PAIN!!!
I was young there was no rewind button, now I wear mine out.
This is always my case and it doesn't bother me. Everything is SO EASY to re-watch or pause or speed up or down these days. It WAS a problem in the days of VHS and before. Also is why RE-reading/watching any GOOD book/article/posting or video/movie _ALWAYS_ brings a more complete and thorough appreciation of the works and their messages. Don't beat yourself up over it. Accept it and take advantage of the speed dial/repeat features at our fingertips. Cheers!
Her videos are so hard for me to watch all the way through the first time. They’re so interesting, but so are the comments! I keep getting distracted by the comments and having to go back a couple 10 second chunks over and over ^_^
The emotional dysregulation is terrible, especially in relationships.
May I suggest something for you?
@@michaelpayne8691 please?
@@Kakerate2 May I have 5 mins of your morning everyday for a week? After that, if it brings you no peace and clarity then try something else. If you like it, try to work it in more.
Sit comfortablely. Find a object. I prefer round objects i.e. clock, yinyang symbol, or picture of Earth. Find the center of the object with your eye. Stare at it. Concentrate your eye on the center.
Next, take your hands and make your fingers into a ☯️ symbol, circle, or whatever you like. Pull or push on your hands slightly to add tension between your hands.
Now, can you not walk and talk? Grab your breath. Breathe in as yin, breathe out as yang.
You can add more things in to this daily mantra, meditation, or prayer, whichever you prefer to call it. I like to make a hum with my voicebox, up is yin, down is yang. What you are doing with this practice is actively consciously taking control of different parts of your brain at the same time. It may help your brain build connections. It may help bring clarity and peace to your day. It may help regulate more.
@@michaelpayne8691 I'm open to hearing ideas. Please.
You know what I love about this channel, they make their own subtitles so you know exactly what their saying and also helps to focus on it
I propose an acronym change.
A.R.D.
Attention (Regulation, Regulating) Disorder
I like it! ARD is hard! ☺️
Another proposed name is Executive Function Disorder, which is basically that :p
Yeah, 'Executive Function Disorder' is more straight-forward and all-encompassing... but 'ARD' is easier to say than 'EFD'. (Also, the catchphrase Jessica put down is somethin' I'm totally pickin' up.)
Great! I'm going to refer to it as ARD from now. Partly to reframe it and get around false prejuduces, partly just for the fun of seeing a certain kind of some people take the new label for a whole new concept. (How to start a revolution from your bed, or blog...)
I wish there was an official name change of ADHD cause there’s so much stigma around it!
Can I just say how impressive the quality of this video is? Those animations are fantastic! The scripting was well-paced, concise, funny in all the right spots and serious in all the right spots. It was easy to understand, both the words and the balance in the audio. It's obvious you put in a ton of research, as well.
*You guys just keep getting better at something that's already awesome.*
!!! Thank you so much, that was so thoughtful! We worked extra hard on this one, glad it’s noticed & appreciated :)
I always saw my problems as personality defects. Now I understand. Thank you so much you are helping so many people it's incredible.
I heard it explained best as replacing the word "attention" in ADHD with "intention"
I always thought my working memory was okay, but when you mentioned recipes, I realized I TOTALLY struggle with that. I only lasted a month and a half working in a pizza restaurant and a big factor was how difficult it was for me to remember the order I was working on. I'd be running back and forth to look at the ticket to see which topping was next the entire time instead of like........remembering what toppings to put on after reading it once.
me too I just realized that and i'm an older adult , I actually reached out to someone who specializes in ADHD maybe ill figure out what is wrong with me
Well that's how it is everytime I play a Minecraft modpack. I really should get tested but I don't know how.
I find that one thing that helps a lot is tuning out everything else and verbally repeating what you need to remember over and over again. Even if you can't remember the _whole_ thing, you'll probably remember like 2-4 things rather than just 1.
I was diagnosed recently. My working memory is supposed to be extremely good since I did an IQ test with a therapist and had a score of 128 on that category which is above average. That being said, the fact that it was an auditive test, with numbers (which I tend to remember quite easily), and rythm in the way the therapist said it, did helped me. Also I was really focused on what I was doing.
Another time, for some job selection process, I had to remember names of metro stations. This time, it was way more difficult for me and I didn't pass.
So I think working memory does fluctuate, depending on the task and context.
Dude.. a person can tell me their name, and as they say it, I forget.. it’s frustrating.. my weakness is short term.. assuming I Have ADHD.. I think I do. I fit a lot of stereotypes
I've often suspected I have ADHD, but your videos have made me realize just how much my habits and personality are likely effected by it. These videos have inspired me to finally make an appointment with my doctor to get some help. I cannot describe the level of relief and satisfaction I get when I watch your videos because I feel like they have enabled me to make much better sense of my myself and my characteristics; I can't wait to see where this new-found path takes me.
I just got my diagnosis (I'm 35), and this video and channel helped so much in learning about my brain and coping with the condition. Thank you so much for working to raise awareness.
My significant other has ADHD and they have a hard time trying to explain to me what's going on sometimes. Ocassionally I can see that they're frustrated with things that I think are relatively simple, like budgeting for groceries. This video and your channel (although I've only watched this one vid so far) is so invaluable to me in trying to see through their eyes and emotions.
The sunburn analogy really snapped for me because I do tease my S.O. a lot. I have 5 brothers, so to me its harmless, but now I understand why it bugs them so much.
When I was in Middle school, this was my favorite explanation:
Imagine exploring some caves. You have a map, so you can see where each corridor leads. Unfortunately because you are in caves some of the tunnels have caved in, some of them are old, some of them are regularly gone too.
The rooms you most want to get to are things you find of personal interest, or they are easy/quick dopamine reward. The problems with those are that people tell you your interests dont matter. They are "distractions" and are only important if you become famous for them. The things that give you a quick reward: aren't satisfying, are addicting, and not worth it in the long run.
The hardest corridors to get through are the ones others force on you. They aren't fun, but people say you "have to do them". They are school or an assignment. They are anything that get in your way of what you love.
Not to mention, the rooms where these things lie, aren't connected. When we want to go from something we like to a chore, we have to pick up a mental shovel and scoop a whole new tunnel. It's hard. It takes time. We need motivation to do it. We are also sometimes utterly repulsed by doing it.
Everything in this video resonates!
I'd like to point out that I was even diagnosed as a child and still felt like I was just a mess, and that everything was my fault.
Because I was never aware of how conditioning adhd is, and that adults also struggle with it... I spent most of my life without knowing what was wrong with me out of not being aware of its complexity and impact
As a child it was so hard seeing everyone around me succeed while I was failing in class. But people kept saying I was so smart and articulate. I was 7 when I got diagnosed.
Is it weird that I cried out of happiness? Never knew I had this, I was always told that I was weird or lazy. Makes me happy to know that I'm not the only one feeling like this.
Also some suggestions for those of you out there trying to live your best life with ADHD:
1. Keep your keys, wallet, phone if possible each on a separate lanyard. I have found keeping my important items around my neck not in my purse keeps them accessible.
2. Keep an emergency “me bag” for when your brain puts your frequently used items into what I call “the abyss” or in other words you lose them forever to god knows where. I keep a chapstick, lipstick, deodorant, razor, toothbrush and paste, lady items, a copy of my license, keys to my house and car, some Tylenol, a dose of each of my meds, a phone charger, a granola bar and a bottle of water. I keep a bag with each of these items in it in my car, my house, my cubicle at work and in the diaper bag.
3. Go all out on a planner with all the stickers and pens and stuff. Game changer it’s so colorful it keeps my attention
4. Beware that the medications to treat ADHD will aggravate symptoms of bipolar disorder if you have it.
5. Be open with the people around you about it. Spread awareness, I can’t take these meds forever there has to be a permanent solution.
The second made me laugh so much. It's such a good idea
Basically an EDC for ADHD
This is the best and most entertaining video I have ever seen on explaining how my brain has worked for 52 years. I laughed a lot and cried a little at the end because it was like she had the manual to my head. I don't tell anyone about it because where I live it would be seen as an excuse for not excelling in life. Maybe I'm just being arrogant but I'm smarter than most of the people that think that about me so I just keep my mouth shut and agree that I'm a weirdo. For those of you who read this, thanks for the ear. It's nice to be able to vent to people who understand. 😀
Regarding #2 - this is very good and useful. I learned to do this early in life. My backpack is a permanent receptacle for everything I might need and more. It can be bulky but whenever I change it up I always forget something and be regretti spaghetti
For my phone, I have a strategy that it has to be in one of 4 places. In my purse, on my person, on the charger next to the bed, and now that I work from home, my work desk. And I make sure that I have pants with pockets to hold it while on my person and a miniature Fanny pack while at the gym.
Thank you for this! By the way you and a couple other channels were how about six months ago I began to realize I have ADHD. I just got a diagnosis last week. You helped me realize how ADHD in women can manifest itself, some of the stuff you talk about is stuff I was like "wow, I didn't know that was an ADHD thing, I thought it was a Victoria thing". My most visible ADHD trait is how I talk a lot and talk fast and tend to infodump, I tend to keep talking and procrastinating swallowing like "I have a mouthful of spit, I really should swallow it but I have so much to say", sometimes it's so bad my cheeks fill up and my face looks like a goomba from Super Mario Bros. I asked other girls with ADHD if that happened to them, they said yes. Does that ever happen to you? One time it was so bad while telling a story hanging out with friends about my misadventures in paying a parking ticket, a friend texted me "Victoria, swallow your spit, it's dripping out" (she texted me to spare me the embarrassment), glad she caught it, I was seconds away from drooling. I noticed this verbal hyperactivity is rare in guys, mostly women.
I'm a 46yr old just diagnosed with ADHD for the first time after a lifetime of wondering why I was always moving at 100 miles an hour, trying my hardest to do my best for everyone and everything but somehow never quite being appreciated (also criticised, reprimanded, demoted or mocked) because of the chaos I tend to cause along the way, as well as issues with concentration that mean a lifetime of stress never knowing where anything is or what time I should be in that meeting, this video sums it up beautifully. Getting this diagnosis is life-changing and seeing it explained in such simple but effective terms and realising I'm not alone is a huge support. Thanks for this, I have subscribed and will definitely be watching more of this content!
Thank you Jessica. I want to let you know that yesterday I was able to advocate for my child in his IEP meeting at school. I was able to explain to the room full of people that are working together to help my son, what ADD is how it works and how to help people with it. They were surprised to learn much of what I was able to share thanks to you and all of the awesome brains in this community, love and thanks to all. The key person in this meeting had a lot of questions. I will be sharing this and many other videos with her and anyone else who is willing to listen. you are making a difference!
OFFICIALLY diagnosed today....well yesterday. Ugh mine came with anxiety and depression so I was half assed diagnosed back in 2007 and I’ve been struggling ever since. Decided to reach out again to verify and get treatment. I feel relieved yet terrified. 😞
Welcome to the tribe!! It’s quite a journey to get diagnosed, hope you find support here ❤️ you’re welcome to join us on Discord too, lots of newly diagnosed supportive peeps over there :) patreon.com/howtoadhd
Oh hey, me too! I mean, the ADHD diagnosis has always been floating around, but later in my life it helped usher in the development of anxiety and depression! At least, that's one of the working theories. Mood disorders run in my family, so maybe the depression and anxiety were bound to happen no matter what. It's hard to tell. Which is why my new therapist wants me to get tested again... it's been almost ten years since my last bout of testing, and brains change a lot in that time. I just want to pin down what's causing what vs. what is actually a stand-alone disorder so we can maximize treatment efficiency. I've been in a weird kind of limbo ever since I graduated college, and I'm pretty tired of it.
But yeah, you're not alone, friendo. ADHD and anxiety and/or depression often come as a package deal. Don't lose hope though, 'k? I've made it this long, and sure, I don't feel very successful, but I know on an intellectual level that I have done just fine. If you're at all like me, it's easy to feel hopeless, but... just remember, life is never as bad as you think!
Don't be terrified we are some of the best people on the planet
our strengths just aren't the same some times
but we've got them don't let anybody put you down explained I get distracted easily it's not one of my strengths to stay on task
but I have a lot of strengths KNOW that about yourself
Hey! Welcome to the family! I get you, i have social and performance anxiety and chronic depression that goes with it. Have courage! Being officially diagnosed helps with anxiety just but taking a lot of guilt. I'm struggling to accept the diagnosis but i feel quite relieved.
This made me cry tears of happiness because after almost 22 years I finally found a video that perfectly explained myself to me
Thank you so much for this ❤️ I've always known I have ADHD but have just recently started learning about it and I'm 29! Much love and support everyone 🥰
These videos are always the best. They put into words things I've never been able to explain or even understand myself. I think this is one of my favorites, though.
Amazing job! You really honed in on these very real issues that people with ADHD face. We can't wait to share this with our own fans to help spread the word. Thanks so much for the shout-outs!
Thank you so much for reviewing the script and sharing metaphors from your community ❤️ Glad you like how it turned out!
I love your through a child's eye...I got my husband to do it to better understand both our daughter and me.
i’ve always said (only to myself) that ADHD is like paying attention but then realizing you weren’t actually paying attention
I love you videos. Thanks much for helping me. I a 58yr woman and I have struggled my whole life with adhd. I ran across your videos a few months back . You have changed my life in a positive way.
The most hurtful part about having this condition is that the people I love don't care. For YEARS I really thought I wasn't working hard enough or just didn't care. Those are the sentiments I heard for years about myself. I spent a lot of years apologizing for being late or not completing something or not washing the dishes or leaving the toilet seat up. I'd get it from all sides sometimes, I felt pretty worthless although I knew I had some value.
FF to 2014, a great friend suggested maybe I should be checked for ADHD and LOW AND BEHOLD I'm pretty much in the middle of the scale. Now I understood what the problems were! Executive Function! Low Working Memory! Squirrel! All of it wrapped in one chimichunga of confusion and ineptitude. I was so excited I told my friends and family what I'd been experiencing and going through and my plans and how I was going to face it all head on, dammit!
Collectively, I got a "meh". I got to hear that I was just making excuses for being lazy and I just don't care. Long story short, I had to kick them WAAAAY over to the curb. Their negativity was more than I could bear. I don't call or talk to them, I just live my life. If you'r reading this and you get the same input from others about your ADHD, how it's "In your head" and you "just aren't trying", find new friends, you can do bad all on your own.
This made my cry. I’ve struggled with my ADHD all my life. I shoved it so far back I forgot many of my traits are out of my control. I think I’m lazy, dumb, irresponsible, overly sensitive and so on. This made me rethink all that. Thank you.
4 people in our family with ADHD - some of us can sometimes remember multistep directions, some all the time, some never. You always help us so much!!
This mad me cry bc it made it so much easier for me to explain me and how I work to others and left me with a feeling that I'm not alone like I thought. So thank you for this video
if my brain memory is ram yes i would like to buY MORE RAM PLEASE
hahaha right?! wish it was that easy!
Having ADHD is like having a lot of RAM but all of them are consumed by tabs of Google Chrome
I always said that I have a pretty good IQ (intelligence quotient) but a very low MQ (memory quotient) because I can learn almost anything, only I forget it by the next time I have to do it, so I have to learn it all over again. Then again, my ADHD son has an incredible memory for things he's learned. Don't ask him to remember his jacket when it's cold out though, or that shoes need tying.
You and me both friend.
At work I carry a notebook with me everywhere and have learned to keep eye contact while writing down notes during important conversations. External RAM
Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you (there’s not enough internet for them all, but thank you). You are the reason I recognised my ADHD, the reason I sought help, the reason I saw that what was “wrong” with me wasn’t wrong, that my “laziness” wasn’t my being lazy, and that life didn’t have to be this hard and when it was hard, that was ok. You taught me how to (start to) accept that it was ok to fail, you taught me how to start to work with, and not against, my brain. You taught my incredible wife how to understand all of the same and help me be me, without all the messy bits. Even videos like this, help me understand, and I’ve been living with this for 33 years. Never underestimate the power and value of what you do, that you are helping so many people see it’s ok to just “be”, and see that real life doesn’t have to be so exhausting. I accept myself, I understand my difficulties and my strengths and I forgive the world for not quite getting it yet, and I owe that all to you. So thank you :)
I’m not crying you’re crying 😭 😂 So happy I could be a part of your journey and happy to have you in the tribe!!!
Yes, yes, YES! (hmm? should I make the 1st yes all lower case? Then what about the 2nd one, if the third one is to be ALL CAPS?)(🤪🤪)(that's ONE tangent...there are eleventy-seven more...)
"SUPER~BRAIN"
at work attempting to, what was it now? Hmm? Oh yeah, that 2nd YeS...
Looking for a COMMUNITY of other super (friendly) positive BrAiNs...in
NORTHERN CALIFORNIA...
I literally laughed out loud when you said "We have two dials, one that's random and one that goes to 15" That's exactly it.
Unfortunately, at this current time i'm at the "ignore the problem till I have to get it done" stage
This has helped me so much to understand my own emotions.. Being a male born in the seventies I was taught boys don't have feelings but having intense feelings is such a contrast and made me feel something was wrong with me
Having ADHD is like constantly adding strings to my bow, but never firing any arrows.
Thank you for your videos Jessica and the contributions that you and your tribe have made to raising awareness around neurodiverity. 💛
Right!!! The things I know Ive never used is wild.
Absolutely Awesome Video! I am a person with this diagnosis. Being an adult and being challenged with a brain like mine is exhausting. Before learning about ADHD and not being able to understand myself made me turn to Alcohol and Drug Abuse. I needed alchol and drugs like I needed the air to breath for over 15 years. I suffered a lot and lost a lot. The good news is I am close to 4 years sober with the help of a program AA and medication for ADHD. My strength gets even stronger now by watching your videos and learning some Cognitive Behavior Tharapy things. With this video now being so full of information in a short time I believe it is going to break me through this ADHD and Addiction TH-cam Channel I want to create. Thanks so much for being here!
So inspiring, thank you for sharing your story! Looking forward to seeing what you create!
It’s soul destroying being told to try harder when in your head you gave it 150%
This channel is helping me come to terms with who I am and finally recognize what my life has been for the past 25 years. Thank you very much, I sincerely feel like I’m understanding myself more with every video
I’ve always described it as my brain is a computer desktop and I have every single program and app open (but minimised) at the same time. Taking my meds maximises one program at a time and I can close it when I’m finished
Yo, I love this analogy. For me though, it's like random tabs keep getting maximized, and I don't know how to minimize them again until some OTHER tab pops up and takes its place. Sometimes I CAN mimimize tabs, but other times it doesn't work. Then there are the times I try to pretend that I have my monitor totally under control, and then I start saying "hey, I wanted to read that wikipedia article on rhubarb that just popped up and replaced my google doc tab MORE than I wanted to write anyways, so heck, might as well go ahead and read it!" Then I somehow end up spending the next two hours googling evolutionary biology, and my writing never gets done.
... yeah. Fun times.
Great work. Just everyone, make sure to remind yourself that these are metaphors that can help you understand a particular concept. They are not perfect and can get a hell of a lot more complicated when you see the actual system.
#truth
I know I'm PMSing so I'm extra emotional today but this made me cry. Your videos always just make me feel so seen and understood. I wish I'd had them when I was a kid.
I was diagnosed at the age of 8, but have never given it the serious thought for even a single day that it deserved. I didn’t know it was more a mental thing, I was taught unobtrusive ways to stay in motion, tapping my leg and things of the sort. But here I am at 37 finding your channel today and just…..so much makes sense now. And the tools I’ve gained, thank you
i showed this to my mom (i obviously have ADHD)
she replied with "what so is this supposed to be an excuse for forgetting to do your homework?"
like does she not get it?...
OF COURSE ITS AN EXCUSE FOR NOT DOING MY HOMEWORK!
Yeah, I'm like scared to tell my parents that I might have adhd because I'm pretty sure they're going to react badly and I don't want that 😣
@@adhya3114 I felt the same tell them please for ur own good! :(
@@BBWBabeLisa Yeahh I'll try, I'm scared tho, but thank you!
I just tried to explain to my parent What ADHD is and to make them understand the situation as I relate to a lot of the symptoms, but they did not take it well....as in said that "well even I am lazy sometimes",,,so I'm scared to tell them that I think I have adhd and might need to get diagnosed
@@anaghanarippatta5894 That's too bad. I know how it feels like, one time, I forgot to log out my account from youtube into my mom's and my mom got a notification about my comment that I made, and she asked me what it meant, that I had ADHD? I said, "I'm sleepy I'll tell you later." She gave me a look, shook her head, and said, "you kids these days?" Like whaaat? how is that even related? that's why I feel scared to tell them, because they won't understand and just say anything. Just hang in there, it'll be ok.
I'm sorry I have weird question for you, but, are you Indian?
Seriously, thank you for your channel. I have been taking my ADHD, and mental health in general, way more seriously over the last year. It's so hard to try and explain to people what it's like sometimes when they dismiss you. I am pretty good at explaining things if someone is open, but I think there's still so much stigma around this kind of brain. Even people I love very dearly misunderstand how I function and it can be hard to explain when emotions are high. This channel is a great and helpful tool to show people! ❤️ I feel supported by you. Thanks for making these and helping me feel not so alone in the world.
Love the racecar metaphor ! Here's my own :
Having ADHD is like driving an F1 car : great potential but no starter motor, and little accidents result in complete wrecks. I need that external incentive because I have no self-motivation capabilities, and once I wander off-path away from my great team of mechanics that keep the spark alive, I completely shut down.
I just got my ADHD diagnosis today (late diagnosis gang haha) and I wanted to thank you for this channel. It is a huge reason as to why I pushed to get a diagnosis. This channel has informed me about my brain, other brains, why we are the way we are, and most importantly, this channel reminds me that I’m not alone in my struggle. Thank you, Jessica
me : *sends this to my parents in hopes that they'll watch it and finally understand how its like to have adhd, possibly making this the first step into properly getting help (and making them stop seeing adhd as simply being an excuse to drop a subject)*
parents : we'll watch it later dear :)
me, 3 days later: hey mum/dad did ya watch the video i sent
parents tm: what video
awesome video btw!!! thank you so much for the time and dedication you and edward put into researching, scripting, filming, editing and animating this!! your hard work has helped a lot of people, and im really grateful towards you making this amazing channel! KEEP UP THE AMAZING WORK YALL ARE DOING AMAZING SWEETIES
“Just use your brain” was the thing I heard most often as a kid with undiagnosed ADHD. Kind of ironic.
You think they have no brain to use? A little cane - and attention will come.
@@svetavinogradova4243 HA! you think physical abuse would change a person their mental struggle? i hope you never have kids..
@@giocommentary Your channel exposes you as a computer game addict. What you need personally is a broken computer, a year without internet, and some good experience of helping pn a farm( your brain will handle this, not much cleverness will be required)
@@svetavinogradova4243 Buddy. If you seriously think that way, what are you doing under a video that explains what you are rejecting as a condition that people have?
Be more open minded, please. I'm not trying to attack you here.
@@snjert8406 I am not your buddy. But I am willing to explain - ADHD is not a real diagnosis - it is a description of some bad/unfortunate traits of personality. Just the description. Those features are either a product of genetic mental retargation, or, far more ofter, a product of inadequate parenting. "Brat" is as much meaning as "ADHD". The brain of those children (exluding those with mental retardation) is totally helathy and normal, their "condition" is the result of the formed pathological reflexes, and can be undone the same way it was formed - by forming different reflexes and responses. The real damage starts after the child is placed on drugs - they damage the brain.
Thank you for this video. Having a 8yo with adhd and explaining to others what adhd is is like beating your head against a wall. 🤣 I have shared it with several people and just love it!
Can we boost/like this comment so she sees?
Hi Jessica, I just wanted you to know you have changed my life. I think it was on one of your videos I heard that hyperactivity can be mental, not just physical. Between that and the wall of awful and motivation Bridge in particular (though I've been watching your stuff for years thinking I could learn executive function hacks because I'm autistic), I realised I was ADHD and have been applying what your videos have taught me. My life is getting better, I'm learning how I learn, how I work, and I'm performing better in my PhD. Most importantly to me, I've just started meds for ADHD, and it's doing wonders for my depression, like no medication has before. You have changed my life and I'm so grateful! Please keep doing what you do though, I still need help hahaha.
I wish I had this video when I was trying to explain to my parents what ADHD is, its complex and this is VERY real. I identify with a lot of these exact thoughts and harsh things that were said to be, but now that I'm making a more active effort to understand myself instead of beating myself up all the time, I can start to love who I am instead of being frustrated all the time. Thank you for making this. It helps in SO many ways.
the dial from “Random to 15” is so real lollll
made my day
Every time I watch this video, I burst into tears. I'm at 5:41 right now.
I still struggle with my utterly-wrecked self-esteem, but knowing the reason has helped. A lot.
The way your voice sounds when you say "without the right support...." SO much more relaxed and relatable. It's the voice of a conversation vs a lecture. Your content is great but if people feel like they're being talked to rather than at it's the difference between reaching thousands and millions with your important message.