We made this video on 10 Signs Your Parents are Making You Depressed awhile back. A lot of you resonated with the video very well. Give it a watch afterwards if you haven't seen it yet: th-cam.com/video/tDcvvHeKyuw/w-d-xo.html
When i remember back to being a kid i remember this awful feelings of emptiness that would haunt me, i had no idea what it was. The oldest memory i have of this is that my parents made me a custom advent calendar and i had this wired feeling of ungratefulness, i just felt incredibly empty and sad. Its only gotten worse since.
I am a child and I am going through suicide and I need help but I’m to scared to tell anyone who can I’ve only tell my friends who wont get help because I’ve told them not to I don’t know what to do and I need help can anyone help?
The "children can't get depressed" thing happens so many times in my house, when i start to talk to my parents about what I'm going through, they ignore it by saying "Why you're depressed? Children of your age can't get depressed, it's us who are depressed". They act like depression is a thing that only occurs for adults and not suffering children, they act like childen aren't supposed to get depressed. My whole house is filled with fake superstition and it is so bad.
I’d ask them when does it become serious? Do they want to wait until I’m unalive because of it? Will it be serious enough then? No, because they think their problems are so much worse, that they can’t even have any empathy for their off spring.
If you want them to hear what you're going through, maybe they want you to hear what they are going through as well, make this a moment to talk about things you appreciate and things you don't like on each other and maybe you can fix stuff.
Yeah this video did trigger some memories of what older relatives told me. I became depressed when I was 13, now I'm 26 and my parents wonder why I dont open up to them as much. I found a youth support program and my grandmother's support helpful. They never invalidate my feelings and my self esteem has gotten better ❤.
My mum once said something qlong the lines of "what did i do to deserve kids so lazy", ive still not gotten over it Edit: i feel so guilty about this comment
You think that's bad? My step father said to me when I was eight "you know, your mother could have put you up for adoption because of your blind eye? She could have thought you'd be a burden and an invalid. But she didn't because she loves you".
Depression is bad and I’m glad my mother understands that children can also go through it. She’s always been a very caring mother and I’m happy she is still with me.
I was 7 when i got depression...parents never understand me. Now i am 17, i am after several suicide attempts. I love you, remember, don't change, if nobody's there for you I AM.
I hope you are better now, even when things are hard please don’t you through the suicide method. I don’t know what you’re going through right now but please don’t go through the suicide method
"Children can't get depressed." I've been depressed since I was 12. Now I'm 18 and it's gotten even worse. My parents never took it seriously. Even now they don't and I fear the same thing is happening to my little sister.
“What do you have to be depressed about? You have a roof over your head, food, (etc.)” That’s what my mom says to me, as if depression is only caused by a lack of physical things. It’s very much the opposite where your parents can be there for you physically while completely lacking mentally/emotionally.
Well it sucks to be you, since I'm *_grateful_* for all those things that MY mom gave me, SO MUCH SO that she is WILLINGLY there for me emotionally, TEN TIMES AS MUCH AS THE AVERAGE CARING EMPATHIC PARENT! SUCK IT, LOSER! >:D
then they bring up something about how you should be grateful you arent a starving child in africa or sumthin like its suddenly impossible or stupid to be sad for any reason cause theres a kid in africa starving
@@punishedwhirligig3353 oh she’s done that too and internally it’s like- way to undermine your kid and raise them to internalize you’re toxicity and be traumatized by it.
What they do not understand that we in childhood also play an adult role in life we try to hide our sad feelings and struggles so they don’t worry but if we did it’s just that we are being ungrateful to them. We are grateful for what they did but sometimes it came be that we want to do something for them it’s not only them doing for us we do to by small small things they don’t recognise 😢😢
You can become depressed from a young age from your parents being overly critical and making you believe that you can't do anything right. Bonus points if you have OCD and all of those thoughts hit you out of nowhere all the time...
Sounds like my mom who insisted I couldn't be stressed or depressed because I was "just a kid and didn't have any real problems." Meanwhile I had to get her up for work every morning starting when I was 9 and my sister and I had to clean the house and make dinner by ourselves because she couldn't be bothered.
@@anderstermansen130 I can't tell if this is some sort of sick joke (thanks, autism), or if you're actually just that dense to believe that a child being depressed isn't possible. News flash, 'buddy', people of ALL ages can get depressed. People hiding being trans from relatives, people with abusive relatives, anyone can be depressed. The world isn't all sunshine and rainbows, I know people that are 13-14 that are WELL aware that there's a high likelihood of a civil war starting in America within the next few years. Stop being a dense prick and realize not everyone has life handed to them on a silver platter
You never too young to be depressed. And i have had it since around 6 years old and i once was admitted to a therapist, and my mother was already in denial thinking i don't get depressed since everything is "normal" and she didn't raise "depressed" kids but "normal" kids. Yet she was quick to admit me to a therapist for being "antisocial" when i am not an extrovert like the rest of my family members and prefer my own company compared to theirs
I can't show this to a parent because they will just say "it's fake, don't believe everything on the Internet" so I can't...but now I know that I am depressed..
My mom doesn’t reply to videos I send her and she says that too so I can’t really tell her about anything, so I get what your going through (going by your comment) and I want to say, good luck and I hope you feel better.
Prove them wrong. Show sources from a reliable websites or videos, like health organizations. I might not suffer more than you do, but I hope these could help.
As a 14 y/o with probable depression, I can't explain the frustration that wells inside of me when my parents just don't understand how big of a deal depression is. As a result, I began to distance myself from my parents as they aren't going to understand anyway. Being called "lazy" and "not trying" just makes me feel worse. Much thanks to the Psych2Go team for putting this video out, bringing awareness to such unnecessarily large problems. I owe everything to this channel for helping me through the toughest of times and bringing me information everyone should know.
I feel the same as you feel, dont let yourself down, i am posibly the only one to say this to you but, you are loved by someone, doesnt matter who but someone loves you.
Don't listen to them, I'm speaking from my experience. Talk with someone you know close to your age is a good friend/friends about it. Hang out with them, talk about interests, play with them, do anything with them or someone you like. It helped me with my depression
As someone who's 14 in 11 days this hits the bullseye which is the main reason I just started to draw and write and not share anything with my parents and only a select few
I have a lot of trauma, my bestie committed suicide and my other best friend backstabbed me. So I got stuck in thinking “I’m a bad person” and then “I’m awesome!” Because the friend who backstabbed me made me think I’m horrible but then my other friends said I’m kind and awesome. That’s how I got my overthinking. By thinking whether I’m nice or horrible. I tried telling my parents about it but they didn’t really help. And they yelled at me when I tried talking to them. Which made me scared to talk. It got so bad I didn’t even want to walk to them. They also made me feel I needed to be perfect. They would check my grades and make me feel I’m horrible, so I would do anything to be perfect, but I couldn’t do it which made me cry in class, but I didn’t because I was in a class where my classmates would laugh at you for anything. So I didn’t cry and held it in. I tried telling confronting my parents but every time I did, they got mad. And said “I didn’t do anything!” Meaning they didn’t care or didn’t want to admit it. It made me keep wanting to do bad things cuz it made me so mad that they didn’t care. But if I did, my parents said I couldn’t have a sleepover with my besties. And my besties were one of the only things that made me happy. As my overthinking got worse, I started questioning things like gender and religion etc. I’ll edit this comment if anything else happens, and I hope you don’t overthink or grow depression either. You’re awesome and trying your best. It’s ok to be sad or mad or overthink, it’s ok. Just Remember, you’re still human and Atleast one person will always care about you.
A friend of mine got divorced. She has a 10yo who she tries to help express his emotions as much as possible. 2 days ago, after discussing with him just a little bit, he knew pointing out that he feels lonely and that life is hard. I find that excelent that he knows how to talk about it, but I felt so sad that at this age, he feels such heavy feelings. We HAVE to help and support children and parents if we want to have a healthy future society ❤
@@anderstermansen130 that’s extremely insensitive, just because you cannot comprehend the thought of how it feels or how it’s true it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.
@@anderstermansen130THEY ARE CHILDREN. They have every right to be just as sad, angry, and scared as adults are; even more so, actually. No child should deserve for their problems to be outright ignored. And they absolutely should never have to be subjected to crossing paths with anyone as bitter as you.
Timestamps 1). Children can't get depressed, it's adults only 0:39 2). It's just a phase it will pass 1:48 3). They're glued to that darn phone all the time 2:48 4). It's not depression, they are just lazy 4:11 5). Therapy means my child getting stuffed with meds 6:00 6). If my kid is depressed, it means I'm a bad parent 7:13 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I'm going to send this to my family all over!! Last summer I (20F) had suspicions that a young cousin(10) had depression and I was basically told by everyone to shut my face so to prove I might not have been wrong, since they kept trying to say it was impossible for my cousin to have depression at their age, I'm going to send this for them to digest
I'm that one person who suffered from depression since my childhood. When I was 3 my parents divorced, and to make it worse, I was very attached to my father, since he was kind and understanding, unlike my mother. And after this, I felt like my whole life was crumbling. My mother was quite rude and critical to me, damn, even scolded me for things I didn't even do. She constantly compared myself to others... Not like it doesn't happen now. My mother's ex-husband, not my father, is right now searched by the police and, well, the court hearing to deprive him of parental rights is already prepared, he was the cause of my little sister. After about a year, a whole year of hearing arguments between them, seeing him drunk on the floor, and all the mental abuse, she finally divorced him. But that didn't stop anything. My mother was still pretty much gruff and overly strict to me. Why am I saying "she was" and not "she is"? She died 3 months ago. Not that I feel bad about it... She was the cause of my depression and trauma (I'm now afraid of adults, including my teachers, because I think they'll only shout and insult me, like my mother did). Now I live with my father. Did anything change? No. The only thing that changed is the fact that he constantly scolds me about carrying my phone everywhere. He was that person that brought me to a psychiatrist, though. Since then, I'm now getting stuffed with antidepressants and pills. I was prescribed with severe depression, severe anxiety, and PTSD. This is a 13 year old russian girl typing without using any translators. This may seem hilarious, but I'm serious here. My life is really messed up. (Damn I made this whole comment so long how will people read this)
My parents never took my depression seriously. They were prime definitions of people that would just power through their emotions, but cope using really unhealthy means (drugs, and alcohol). Now that I’m ordering on my own, I’m not repeating their story. Therapy has definitely helped me out along with regularly practicing Jiujitsu. Anybody reading this and struggling, you are not your trauma and you’re not your parents. Be happy and most importantly be you!
What’s really sad though is that in this day and age no one really takes mental health seriously or is given the physical or mental bandwidth to do anything about it 😢
How tragic, the horrors committed by one man’s weakness is blamed on a preexisting condition and the ignorant masses label all that have the condition as dangerous, untrustworthy, and a lost cause
Very late reply but that's exactly why I love the fact that videos like this exist for everyone to watch. I'm currently a 19 yo guy who's been struggling with depression ever since I remember existing and suffered through almost every behaviour listed in this video from my parents who sometimes I still wander if they even know they still have a son. These videos won't reach most of these days parents, but we will eventually have kids on our own, we're gonna eventually become the parents, and if we're any better than those dismissive parents a lot of us have, we can try doing what they didn't with our kids if they ever need it
It is luckily getting better each generation, trust me before the 2000 it was much rarer for depression to be acknowledged. We are progressing slowly but surely. Too many are still oblivious to it but the understanding is spreading
I still remember when I was a kid, I got diagnosed with depression.... I got it at a young age that I had to get medicated at that point. I wasn't just bullied but also isolated and unable to process the world around me.
Neuroticism is a personality trait that can affect a child's interpersonal sensitivity. It's characterized by negative feelings like anxiety, irritability, self-doubt, depression, and emotional instability. Neuroticism levels increase over time, but not all children experience the same change in direction.
Way back in the day when the internet and smart phones were decades away, when I was depressed, which was most of the time, my mother had the reason. Actually, a choice of two: my period or the summer heat. That added insult to injury.
as someone that is probably moderate depressed I find this person so correct and rights kids can have depression to and it actually makes me sad like literally kids dont deserve to be depressed they deserve to be happy :(
Another point I want to make is a phone is it can be an escape for kids. Phones often muffle feelings of depression and helps connect with friends. Assuming the phone is the reason for depression and taking it away all the time can reinforce that same depression
Well, I didnt want to have a phone but they literally anyways shoved it in my face for me, I once even felt that one day I would be so bonded at these kinds of stuff that I would feel depressed if they took it away, I kinda hate it but there's no excuse for "jUsT QuIT" like bro my mindset is always ready to check my phone every morning and i cant stop
Oh and also I said the same to them but they said: It's your responsibility to take care of your phone, like bro just give it away, im not talking bout that 😬
I feel like not enough parents are aware that a lot of children are going through this. Yes, it might be a struggle to fix, but maybe ACTUALLY BEING REASONABLE and not trying to make it worse will fix it.
Unfortunately, plenty of people don't like being reasonable. That's honestly the only reason this is even such a prominent issue when those in question barely even consider thinking about more than just the surface level.
@@cyanthedragon6462 I've been straight up told by somebody that being reasonable was messed up (with a different, not nice word) but they have no memory of it Idk if they were drunk or something but it happened
“You would never let a child walk around with a broken leg bone” my parents made me walk back and forth on a fractured foot for a week before taking me to the hospital in a effort to “walk it off”😭❗️
Okay but here’s the thing, i don’t think my parents would let me get therapy. I feel like they would brush it off and say something like “you don’t need therapy you are fine” but I also feel like it would be nice to have a place to talk about stuff like my feelings to someone like a therapist, even though I don’t know if I have depression or anxiety I think it would just be nice to have someone to talk to in general. I’m just scared of having to be medicated or have to be sent somewhere because of my behavior. I’ve tried talking to friends but they don’t get it.
My child came to me the other day and was brave enough to say that he thinks he has depression. I listened to him as he told me how he felt and we'll be looking for a therapist that will be best suited for what he needs to help
Both my parents (divorced) would not do anything for when one of my siblings had depression and this video covered all the things they both thought about it. I didn’t know what to do and that was a terrible time for all of us. It’s still going to this day and I keep trying my best to see both sides of the issue; I know that it will get better soon but I still have to make sure I am ready for whatever drastic change and/or action may happen during this dark time. I pray for all of you who may have struggled with child depression and probably are now 🙏🏼 Thanks again, Psych2go, for your help
Thank you so much. I dealed with anxiety and depression at a young age, and seeing this video is such an amazing thing. There’s so much people get wrong about mental health in children. I still deal with high levels of anxiety, but seeing this video was reassuring, because people need to be taught more about just how serious stuff like depression and anxiety in children are. I do wish the best for anyone who’s struggling.
As a kid that might have depression and other mental health problems i keep surpessing them thinking "oh youre just trying to be something you arent" or whatever. What really doesnt help is that when my parents arent having a good day they make it so i dont have a good day either. Also the fact that when they make me get off my device they dont really give me anything else to do. They just stay on their phones watching facebook reels or whatever. It just adds on and on and on for other reasons that i dont really want to go into but yeah, its really damaging to a kid going through lots of emotions. Sorry for the vent but the fact that no one knows who i am is a sense if security. Good morning/afternoon/night to anyone that read this.
Same here dude, this kind of parenting made me become more distant than it should be, that I would rather not seeing their face or seeing their existence. (Even though if I tried to love them or not) Though I am kinda anxious of how I am gonna pulling this through when I am gonna turns 18 in my next birthday, simce the wounds and damage I had suffered from them is immeasurable that function normally would be like an dream for me :/
From my xp: to anyone who's ever been a victim of hate / violence because of their appearance, gender, orientation, race : DO NOT ever let a hateful notion 'there's something wrong with me' sink in. Trust me, it's a recipe for self hatred and compulsive anxieties later on. When we suffer and we need a break, it's only natural to think: maybe if I wasn't 'different', if I was 'normal' I would be accepted. No, haters will always find something else to prey upon. I've always had kinda androgynous look, which was a fuel for bullies when I was growing up. I embraced it, used it to my advantage in my acting / modeling career, I was almost the face of Leon in these new Resident Evil games :)
Same for neurodivergent kids like me. To most of society there IS something wrong with me that can’t be fixed. There’s really nothing I can do to change myself. I have gotten mocked at for my whole childhood and was made to believe that there’s something wrong with me.
In the area I live in you can literally stare at anything in the distance and you will immediately be bashed on by everyone calling you “emo” or whatever they be saying now. The worst part is that this is normalized so if you say something about it you will be called “dramatic”.
@@anderstermansen130shut up, you don't even know basic stuff like depression which kids can feel, the bad part is that they are, so the people in their life are failing, even if just a fake friend
2:51 - My Mom Kept Saying That Over And Over Again To Me. But Only My Niece That She Didn't Say That. As This Started When i Was 6 Or 4. And This Feeling Slowly Leading Me To Suicide.
@Piakaya listen. Do NOT kill yourself, no matter how much you want to, don’t. You have so much ahead of you in the future and if you end it now, you’ll just waste it all. If you think that thought is becoming a serious thing, then tell someone, anyone, and hopefully they’ll help you with it.
I've been depressed since I was 11 ☹️ meds didn't help, therapy didn't help - and I was blamed for that. She'd say shit like: "It won't matter in x years!" (If I was upset about something) "Everyone has to go through it!" (School - when I'd talk about it being insufferable) Called lazy, selfish, and ungrateful, and vilified for sewerslide attempts. I used to look up to her, and she would shelter me and coddle me with EVERYTHING else, so I didn't understand why she did that. She said many years later that she wanted me to become independent and do it myself, so basically like walking it off with a broken leg. She isn't an idiot, she's actually wise, so I didn't understand why she saw it so, so wrongly, and continued the same method of trying to make me fix it myself (when meds and therapy weren't enough on their own), when for years it didn't help me AT ALL. Not even once. I'm almost 20, and I'm too anxious to ever drive, too anxious and depressed to work, and I'm sure as hell NOT going to college. She failed to raise me and TO THIS DAY, blames me. It legitimately just tears away at my soul.
Oh my goodness, my friend (who I call kibble in online convos) lacks any self esteem whatsoever. He may be obedient, relaxed, and an understanding man, but what Kyrie did to him made him barely trust anyone, even though only one person ever left him. Just take it one step at a time, you’ll get to a better point.
The teenager me watching alot of these kind of videos so i can be a good mother in the future By the why i love your channel sm, it's very good to have joy and learning at the same time :)
"If my child is depressed, I'm a bad parent." This one is more of how I'm feeling. My parents are great people but I'm depressed. Additionally, the first one is VERY accurate. I feel depressed often but I keep ignoring it as "I'm too young to be depressed, so I'm not."
Thanks alot I'm a child who is 12 and this helps alot I am felling some things mentioned in this video so thanks alot hope this video get more attention. Btw I hide my sadness sometimes so I look happy because nowadays being sad is bad like this video and I appreciate it.
Respect to the parents here! Thank you for paying attention to your child! Message for children out there who need help: rest assured, the parents who actually need to see this will NEVER see it, and if you show it to them they will not understand. ❤ Goodluck! You're not alone and you will make it :)
@@Zeoroark oh I wish my parents said cuss words XD if I got caught saying one I would have to brush my teeth 3 times to "clean my mouth" also i don't know how my parents would react if they knew everything. Im so deep into the lie
"Stop crying before i hit you" and "you only came into this World to make me suffer" is stuff i hear all the time ive stopped trying to open up to my parents and ive stopped crying instead ive just been bottleing up my Feelings bc no one cares abt my Feelings anyways and the first time i opend up to my sister abt school and how all my friends were fake and rude to me she just said "oh.. ok?" And then told my mom and after that they made fun of me for a week saying things like :Mom: "why dont you hang out with your friends?" Sister: "she doesnt have any" and then they would start laughing at me and Tell me im dramatic for being upset they were making fun of me :/
I don't exactly know what to say here right now but I just want to say that you're not alone in this and there is many more other people that suffer like you and my point right now is that you are not alone in this type of he//hole and there's also someone out there that would support you if they found out about your problem, from people on the internet to someone that you might meet in real life, so you don't have to worry if you think that no-one care about you because someone,somewhere care about you and I just want to say I hope you find that person one day. Also I just want to say that I don't really know how to say something positive to help people because I have a hard time being positive and I am just trying to help here but it's okay if you just ignore me.
I’ve been depressed for most of my life and I haven’t said anything to anyone except my boyfriend because I don’t want to be put away or forced to take meds that don’t help
You will not be put away unless your psychologist has evidence you are about to be a serious danger to yourself. And it is entirely your choice to take a prescription if you're not in a facility. If you are an inpatient, you have to advocate heavily to your assigned psychologist when a medication is giving you symptoms of Serotonin syndrome (can be fatal), which typically looks like the beginning of mania. I was put on Setraline and Citalopram, both SSRIs, both gave me the jitters, insomnia and made me aggressive (way out of character, the last one). So far, Mirtazapine has been working, as I have a prolonged circadian rhythm so I need something to knock me out after being awake 30 hours. As I said, you will not be put away in an instant for speaking to someone. Someone in your childhood must have terrified you into believing that "crazy" relative got therapy and now they're in a mental hospital for "no good reason". No, there has to be a very serious reason, such as actively slicing and dicing, giving away multiple personal affects and putting affairs into order in a timeframe which is uncharacteristic. Trust, once you are given a good medication, your life changes for the better. You do not have to take the full tablet, you can split them, ask for a low dose to start and taper if the side effects are even a minor inconvenience. Honestly, the right medications don't have noticeable negative side effects. And if you outright refuse, then and this is going to sound like bogus, drink green tea for two weeks. Brew at 70⁰C with some honey, 14 days. See how you feel.
@anderstermansen130 as hard as it for you to stop being a 56yo in your mother’s basement trying to sound smart and funny when you’re the worst of the gum-chewing, rage-baiter, probably depressed in reality (get some therapy, you need it) simpletons in history.
"You're just lazy, go clean your room now!" "Stop being on that phone the whole time!" "Go study for school now, your friends can wait!" "Go take a shower you lazy kid!" "You won't be 'depressed' if you clean your room more often!" "You can't just stay home because you are 'sad'! You will feel better after school!" I hear this everyday from my parents... sometimes on the bus to school, I hear my favourite music (songs about depression which say things like 'you are enough so don't give up' or sometimes when I feel extremely low 'I sorry I'm a disappointment' which I may not listen to at home because it 'triggers depression') when suddenly my heart starts racing, my legs start shaking, I'm starting to hyperventilate and get a panick attack... as soon as i got home (it also often happens on the way back) I instantly wipe my tears and smile so my parents don't see my panick. "How's school?" "Like always great, mum! Now i know how to find out x!" Then I go to my room, fall onto bed, and the panick attack immediately continues...
I don't tell my parents that i'm depressed i just let it go and just try to suck the depression up and just try to stay positive but i cant and its fine,cuz there is always someone who makes me smile everyday
I remember being depressed in first grade and being suicidal by age twelve. In college I attempted to end my life. I’m in therapy now and am doing better. I’m happier now. Parents, I say this as a once depressed child and ex-teacher: learn about your child and their feelings, love them, listen to them, and please get them help.
Me and my mom got in an argument once. Seconds after, she bursts in my room and yells at me saying "YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT ANYONE BUT YOURSELF!!!" Sure, yeah, it was a long time ago. My mom told me to let it go and let the past be the past. I did. I told my mom that it depressed me and it hurt me for a long time. She told me to suck it up. I did. Now she's a lezi. I'm not made to be alive. I have no purpose to be alive. She's done many other things, but i won't get into that right now. Why am I still alive? It just makes me suffer more.
If life has no purpose find one give yourself something to enjoy. It probably feels hollow coming from a complete stranger but it’s important to have something that you can use to recharge as well as getting help. I wish I could give more or recommend a counsellor but as a stranger on the other side of a screen and possibly the other side of the world there’s not much else I can do besides this. You can give your life meaning beyond what you have now. Please don’t give up on yourself.
@@thebrainoflayne1829 you have lots to live for -the sun -the flowers -fresh air -good memory's -the grass -animals Animals aren't like people they don't get mad at you and insult you like humans Kinda like butterfly's But please don't end your self ): ... Then people who do care will be cased pain and die to..
My parents screamed at me that I had no rights, also they punished me for being outside too much while calling me addicted to screens. But they later wondered why I got depressed and suicidal.
Same. I used to be suicidal and have depression at school. It got so bad that I acc said I wanted to kill myself. After my parents told me that I'll have a concealer. My parents told me that I could lose my family . I almost had a mental breakdown at the fact that I could lose my family. I went through the counseling and was better than ever. I lived a normal life from now on. (BTW this is a really true story)
My parents doesn't even help me despite am depressed they all assume am lazy, inconsiderate and a bad person. Its just adding more fuel to all the stress
After an argument with my mom, she was mumbling to herself and I heard “I already lost a kid, I can lose another one” I’m never getting over it, broke my heart.
the punishment for "being lazy" meant a whole added level of pressure on my depressed soul. glad this is far in my past now. for those who facing this now. in time this will pass for you also. seek help from trusted friends or professionals when you think you need it.
Pressure is a defining factor here. You break under it, you build yourself anew, then break again - until you're stable enough or untill you're crushed. No outside help can do any good.
@@vladcrow4225 No outside help maybe, I had a conversation with myself once, that saved my life. another thing is to, realize that all that hurts is because it is accepted if you really do not care it won't hurt (this is not an answer but reality) a second tip one can adjust one's brain to learn to be more happy. like a road more traveled gets obvious to walk through, like when one smiles you find yourself feeling more happy. but it goes deeper if you imprint how wonderful your day is after some weeks it gets more wonderful. accent the better thing feeling the better things want to be more brave. imprint a moment you felt brave, as your own, claim it, and recall it when you need it I swear this will work.
I know some of this very well, i dont want to sterotype and say "all adults act this way" but most in my life treat kids as if they are stupid and less important than adults and i hated that treatment. I know i don't know things, but there are some i know more than my parents on that they wouldn't consider. Kids are capable of having traumatic events (I'd know) as adults can, and kids are capable of knowing more than adults in a subject because kids learn fast and my have just put their time in different things.
I am an adult and I wholeheartedly agree with you! I feel the parent forgot to remember to put their own shelf in the child’s shoes, or see from that perspective. It is incredibly selfish to only think you know more about something, and also my twins who are five will school me on Pokemon types abilities. 🤷🏻♀️ They DO know more than I do about things. ❤
@@LightningAdrianMost likely referring to how adults at times can take the words and opinions of children with less weight/value due to them believing the child may not know anything about the subject at hand (or anything in general).
When i was 4 years old, i became deppressed,and i still am..i was always too scared to say,im glued and in my room all that time bc I WAS DEPPRESSED.parents never listen to me
I'm not a parent, and I was curious, what I learned is enlightening, but also heartbreaking for me, because this video, coupled with dozens upon dozens of other media, made me realize that I was never at fault, that I was never just lazy, just not smart enough or anything, and that I exhibits a huge amount of prominent ADHD symptoms, and clear signs of depression, thankfully I'm a bit better now, I have a few coping mechanisms, some healthy some not so much, but the point is I'm doing better now, I wish my mom knew English so I could send her this to let her see where me and my sister were or are struggling
Toxic parents who refuse to acknowledge the part they play in their children’s mental health issues are the same ones who wonder why their kids go no contact, use their phone as an escape, etc.
I am not a child anymore I will never forget the way my family made me feel, they told me I becoming lazy and fat and also I needed to fix my depression otherwise a man wouldn’t stay with me.
I can totally relate to this. My anxiety is skyrocketing every single day. Especially in an environment where everyone already has a friend group. I hope parents can be there for their children more. Edit: sent this video to my parents. I hope they understand what im going through
TW: vent/rant?? soo...who else was told "if you wanna be a boy, then stop crying" "your lucky that im not hitting you anymore" "they dont get it" "we like you better when you take ur meds" like mom, your ARE the reason i take meds, like mom you misgender me, hitted me when i was younger, didnt do ANYTHING when i was SA!!?? and you still dont check on me when im sad, im scared to talk with you, you never love me, it like im not ur child, always saying "your always in that dark room on that laptop" like mom, maybe check on me?? i always have to think bout something just to see how you'll react? i just want my mom to love me, at this point, i dont even know if im over reacting, l
I remember being super depressed in 2020… this video definitely reflects on me a lot so it’s good I’m not the only one who experiences this. Keep in mind, I was only 10 when this happened… I lost contact of my crush if you’re wondering… and I was crying for like 2 weeks straight and then the lasting impact was for like most of the year.
#4 is very relatable, unfortunately. "get off your ass and clean your room." "stop being a slob and clean up after yourself." "there's no excuse for your room to be that bad, you're just lazy."
As a 10 year old child with possible depression I find this very useful. One time when I was 9 I told my mother I thought I had depression, my mother replied "Why do you think you're deoressed?" And I didn't have a reason to be depressed nor did I know why I'd be depressed so my mother didn't care much. One thing that also can cause depression is anxiety. I have social anxiety which makes it harder to socialize with other kids my age, and anxiety can make you fearful which makes you feel vulnerable and alone
at 11 i had depression and honestly i wanted to just… not be there… No matter what,when,where or who im with. This was because of my mother who mentally and physically abused me, Child depression is a thing and if not handled correctly it worsens just like any adult with depression. A bit like how a cold or fever gets worse when you ignore it and don’t treat it.
My friend got divorced when her son was 4 years old. I’m most certain he was aware what was going on between his parents. When I was young, I got bullied. This stuff still affects me as an adult. We have to realize things affect children and they compartmentalize depression and anxiety.
Their bickering and the separation were probably the first things he remembers. I would know, my parents split up when I was 4 because of me. It wasn't my fault, I know that, but I am the reason, the straw that broke the camel's back. It's devastating when your parents having a screaming match in the living room about you is the first thing you coherently remember.
I would send this to my mom but I already know she'd just laugh it off and say I'm "just going thru some things and it'll pass", or, "just pray to God it'll pass". Don't get me wrong I LOVE God but it doesn't mean praying to him automatically makes my sadness fade away, he is not magic. Just bc I'm a child in my household my emotional problems NEVER gets acknowledged and they just see it as a phase or compare it to a silly little thing they felt when they were my age and LITERALLY compare my suicidal thoughts to their "oh my ice cream fell and I felt sad" situation, it's literally so draining and is one of the biggest reasons why I NEVER wanna open up again, it's literally no use at all opening up to my family, they literally just mock me later when I seem to be happier and say "oh what happened to ur sadness?" It is literally so DRAINING for me, I literally cry every.single.night. without them knowing bc I know damn well I'll get made fun of or shouted at for not opening up to them or not trusting them enough.
I remember something my nana said in an argument a while back, when i said something about "Its my right!" And she said: "You dont have rights, you're a CHILD" Like, do children just not have rights to privacy or things of their own? Im pretty sure everyone deserves a right to things like privacy, or anything for that matter, even children. And ive never forgotten it.
Well, it works. Get over it, or go off yourself. Saying this as a 33 year old man, who survived a crippling depression, which started in childhood. Mostly through desensitization and random violence.
I always struggled with this my entire childhood. My whole life I always felt the need to fight for my life and my opinion and now when i don't need too... i end up now fighting for a peace that was already won for
even if i tell them they’ll say”its all because of youre phone!” i wish they could understand my mom says “dont worry tel me anything” and when i tell she might sometimes mock me.
My parents always tell me “you’re so lazy why can’t you help me out for once?!” Or “it’s not that hard just get up!” I can’t talk back to them cuz they’d get mad at me but sometime I just wish I could explain that my body feels heavy and it’s extremely difficult to have motivation to do anything.
I watch as the child problem is I cant tell them because if I do, they might be confused on how I even know what depression is (my mom has depression so she understands).
Another lovely video from this lovely channel, the topic is very relatable too, I see myself in similar situations a lot of times… keep the great work Psych2go 👏🏻
"you have no reason to be" (and that's why y decide you're fine). "you are to sensitive" "why do you always dwell on things that happened aeons ago!" All from my mother. My father was not invested to begin with. "Kids stuff" was ridiculous to him. ... The list goes on. And my mental health is a battle field today. I'm mid 30ies and in invalidity pension because of it. I have recurrent depressions and more, with the first episode hitting me likely around age 6. I had to develop severe anorexia at 15 for a TEACHER to step in and send me to the school psych. Which first angered my mother. (Parents divorced at that point, father absent of our lives) Because she completely sheltered our private life from any outsiders, always has. No "stranger" allowed in our home. So even more shaming for me. "Now what do people think about me being such a bad mother to have a child with anorexia?!" The mental iceberg? Invisible from outside, thus not really valid. I hope you are all doing as good as you can. And parents, please take your kids seriously. Remember what was big for you when you were their age. Kids worlds are "smaller", so their problems may seem "smaller" to you. Which is not true. It's a question of proportion. Take perspectives.
I'm an adult male in my late 30's and my depression began when I was 6. My Kindergarten teacher was incredibly mean-spirited and would ALWAYS lash out at me just because I was different from the other students (I was in special education from grade school through high school). She even physically assaulted me a couple of times and whenever I tried to report it, nobody did anything about it. As a result, I got very upset to the point where I eventually just broke down and cried during my classroom's visit to the school library. To add insult to injury, both the school librarian and my mom resorted to gaslighting later that same day by saying, "You're being dramatic." Later, when I was over at my babysitter's house, both her and her husband asked me if I was depressed and I answered, 'yes.' Once my mom came to pick me up and they informed her about it, she replied, "He's not depressed, he's just being dramatic." Of course, that only made things worse. I STILL remember that to this day and it has damaged me emotionally and psychologically.
Who ever said children cantget Depressed want to listen to how we actually feel anyone can get depressed if that was true why do so many of us self Harm at that time of our lives
5:51 this reminds me of something I still struggle with. Avolition. The inability to do the bare minimum to survive. It’s a common symptom of Schizophrenia and is a negative symptom for Schizophrenia. The symptom has haunted me all my life and often I have my siblings screaming at me to do my chores and it’s like I’m aware, but I can’t convince myself to do it. They always got annoyed that I would sit on my butt everyday and my parents always ask them to my chores for me, of course I understand their prospective and my parents shouldn’t have fueled my avolition to make it harder on me, but the best way I could convince myself to do a chore was by constantly hounding myself in my mind to get it done.
Message to parents. ”stop crying before i hit you” and these kinda threats when your child is sad/crying or even depressed will just make it worse. if your child is crying and stopped after you threatneted them. They **will** keep this on their mind for days, or even weeks. They will get sadder eveeytime and maybe will stop loving you the more you threaten them. Instead, ask them what is the reason. The same thing happens with "taking your phone away" or yelling at them when a child is crying. Please actually try to comfort the children when they cry, my mom did this everytime i cried and i cant get over it.
Okay, but seriously, as a neglected child in a household, I KNOW I have depression symptoms but the amount of times I'm told and convinced I'm not made my brain swirl with confusion, making me think that I'm faking it sometimes. Hearing that simple explanation at 1:59 to 2:14 made me genuinely cry, I never heard someone explain it so right it hurts
i tell my dad i think i have depression. “depression is a serious mental illness. you don’t have depression.” my therapist recently diagnosed me with depression
I'm not a parent, I'm 13, I was just curious because I like knowing things (even if I'll easily forget them) and I like your videos. But I was also curious because I've been suspecting that I might have depression. I have no idea the severity or if I actually have it. And I'm not sure I want to bring it up to my mom, because we're tight on money, and I don't want to make her feel like she has to get me into therapy or something. And we're already planning on getting out of our house more, and I feel like that might help. (Even though it brings pure internal panic at the very thought.) I have been feeling this way for about 4 years, it started as just a slight off feeling for the first year (I just thought it was because of the lockdown), then increased to rarely going outside (just excused that as I hated the bugs), and then these past two years seem to really have gotten bad. This last year in particular, I feel like it got to a whole new level. I have only recently been starting to suspect the whole depression thing, but I haven't gotten myself to sit down and research it. Does anyone have any suggestions or knowledge that you could share? I'm unsure what to do, even if I do start to research depression.
im always glued to that phone because i seek friends, they say i cant make friends cause of the phone. In the past, i was seen as a bad kid, always being yelled at by the teacher or made fun of the kids, i got social anixety, if i actually had some friends i wouldnt be glued to my phone, hanging out with them
I once told my mom about my depression symptomes to try and let her know about how I feel an she responded with "Why are you telling me this? Am I supposed to believe you have some kind of deep depression?!" in a tone I can't exactly describe other than angry mocking. Anyways, that day I learned that parents are not to be trusted with anything :D
Six bad misconceptions parents have about child depression: 1) "Children can't get depressed, it's an adult thing" 0:40 2) "It's just a phase, it will pass" 1:49 3) "They're glued to that DARN phone all the time" 2:49 4) "It's not depression, they're just lazy" 4:13 5) "Therapy means my child getting stuffed with meds" 6:00 6) "If my kid is depressed, it means I'm a bad parent" 7:14
We made this video on 10 Signs Your Parents are Making You Depressed awhile back. A lot of you resonated with the video very well. Give it a watch afterwards if you haven't seen it yet: th-cam.com/video/tDcvvHeKyuw/w-d-xo.html
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When i remember back to being a kid i remember this awful feelings of emptiness that would haunt me, i had no idea what it was.
The oldest memory i have of this is that my parents made me a custom advent calendar and i had this wired feeling of ungratefulness, i just felt incredibly empty and sad.
Its only gotten worse since.
I am a child and I am going through suicide and I need help but I’m to scared to tell anyone who can I’ve only tell my friends who wont get help because I’ve told them not to I don’t know what to do and I need help can anyone help?
I wish ther are more videos like this in German so I can show it to my mother. She doesn't understand and maby don't want to.
The "children can't get depressed" thing happens so many times in my house, when i start to talk to my parents about what I'm going through, they ignore it by saying "Why you're depressed? Children of your age can't get depressed, it's us who are depressed". They act like depression is a thing that only occurs for adults and not suffering children, they act like childen aren't supposed to get depressed. My whole house is filled with fake superstition and it is so bad.
I’m sorry 🫶
Technically, anyone in general isn't supposed to get depressed, depression is an illness after all. But it happens and we can't really deny that.
I’d ask them when does it become serious? Do they want to wait until I’m unalive because of it? Will it be serious enough then? No, because they think their problems are so much worse, that they can’t even have any empathy for their off spring.
If you want them to hear what you're going through, maybe they want you to hear what they are going through as well, make this a moment to talk about things you appreciate and things you don't like on each other and maybe you can fix stuff.
Yeah this video did trigger some memories of what older relatives told me. I became depressed when I was 13, now I'm 26 and my parents wonder why I dont open up to them as much. I found a youth support program and my grandmother's support helpful. They never invalidate my feelings and my self esteem has gotten better ❤.
"If you dont stop crying, ill give you something to cry about". That doesnt help. Old attitudes were so harmfull.
that literally made it worse every time
My parents did this all the time..
Old formula to New Problem
Im a crybaby, they always shout and scream at me :]
been there experienced that
My mum once said something qlong the lines of "what did i do to deserve kids so lazy", ive still not gotten over it
Edit: i feel so guilty about this comment
You think that's bad? My step father said to me when I was eight "you know, your mother could have put you up for adoption because of your blind eye? She could have thought you'd be a burden and an invalid. But she didn't because she loves you".
@@audreydoyle5268hey we aren't here to make someone else feel bad I'm not denying your feelings I'm saying they're feelings are valid to
my mom has said things like this as jokes, but she doesn't know how deep her words stick.
@@The-Sarah i was hoping someone would say this, i didnt want to myselg
Alright, let's not compare trauma. Trauma is still trauma, I feel bad for everyone in here but let's not compare, it'll only make things worse
Depression is bad and I’m glad my mother understands that children can also go through it. She’s always been a very caring mother and I’m happy she is still with me.
Can your mother adopt me
Can your mom adopt me too
nah my mom is perfect
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Your mother is so nice wish my mom would be nice as yours...
I was 7 when i got depression...parents never understand me. Now i am 17, i am after several suicide attempts.
I love you, remember, don't change, if nobody's there for you I AM.
No you aren't
I hope you are better now, even when things are hard please don’t you through the suicide method. I don’t know what you’re going through right now but please don’t go through the suicide method
Oh my,you got it when 7,i am so lucky i got it at 12
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Thanks man
"Children can't get depressed." I've been depressed since I was 12. Now I'm 18 and it's gotten even worse. My parents never took it seriously. Even now they don't and I fear the same thing is happening to my little sister.
You have been depressed since you turned 18*
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@anderstermansen130 did you watch the video? Depression can start at an age.
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@@brocklytle3028depression can start at age of 18. Thats when youre an adult.
“What do you have to be depressed about? You have a roof over your head, food, (etc.)” That’s what my mom says to me, as if depression is only caused by a lack of physical things. It’s very much the opposite where your parents can be there for you physically while completely lacking mentally/emotionally.
Well it sucks to be you, since I'm *_grateful_* for all those things that MY mom gave me, SO MUCH SO that she is WILLINGLY there for me emotionally, TEN TIMES AS MUCH AS THE AVERAGE CARING EMPATHIC PARENT!
SUCK IT, LOSER! >:D
My parents have pulled that out their ass before too
then they bring up something about how you should be grateful you arent a starving child in africa or sumthin
like its suddenly impossible or stupid to be sad for any reason cause theres a kid in africa starving
@@punishedwhirligig3353 oh she’s done that too and internally it’s like- way to undermine your kid and raise them to internalize you’re toxicity and be traumatized by it.
What they do not understand that we in childhood also play an adult role in life we try to hide our sad feelings and struggles so they don’t worry but if we did it’s just that we are being ungrateful to them.
We are grateful for what they did but sometimes it came be that we want to do something for them it’s not only them doing for us we do to by small small things they don’t recognise 😢😢
You can become depressed from a young age from your parents being overly critical and making you believe that you can't do anything right.
Bonus points if you have OCD and all of those thoughts hit you out of nowhere all the time...
Sounds like my mom who insisted I couldn't be stressed or depressed because I was "just a kid and didn't have any real problems." Meanwhile I had to get her up for work every morning starting when I was 9 and my sister and I had to clean the house and make dinner by ourselves because she couldn't be bothered.
@@littlesongbird1 sounds like she was also the one who hated her life and was depressed
Uhm no you cant tho.
@@anderstermansen130 I can't tell if this is some sort of sick joke (thanks, autism), or if you're actually just that dense to believe that a child being depressed isn't possible.
News flash, 'buddy', people of ALL ages can get depressed. People hiding being trans from relatives, people with abusive relatives, anyone can be depressed. The world isn't all sunshine and rainbows, I know people that are 13-14 that are WELL aware that there's a high likelihood of a civil war starting in America within the next few years.
Stop being a dense prick and realize not everyone has life handed to them on a silver platter
Um I feel so called out
My mom one day say to me " I'm tired, you know why? Because I had you." that words sill in my mind and can never forget.
That hurt when reading...
i am so sorry about that. you deserve better.
You never too young to be depressed. And i have had it since around 6 years old and i once was admitted to a therapist, and my mother was already in denial thinking i don't get depressed since everything is "normal" and she didn't raise "depressed" kids but "normal" kids. Yet she was quick to admit me to a therapist for being "antisocial" when i am not an extrovert like the rest of my family members and prefer my own company compared to theirs
I can't show this to a parent because they will just say "it's fake, don't believe everything on the Internet" so I can't...but now I know that I am depressed..
My mom doesn’t reply to videos I send her and she says that too so I can’t really tell her about anything, so I get what your going through (going by your comment) and I want to say, good luck and I hope you feel better.
I feel you
Prove them wrong. Show sources from a reliable websites or videos, like health organizations. I might not suffer more than you do, but I hope these could help.
L Parents
same
As a 14 y/o with probable depression, I can't explain the frustration that wells inside of me when my parents just don't understand how big of a deal depression is. As a result, I began to distance myself from my parents as they aren't going to understand anyway. Being called "lazy" and "not trying" just makes me feel worse.
Much thanks to the Psych2Go team for putting this video out, bringing awareness to such unnecessarily large problems. I owe everything to this channel for helping me through the toughest of times and bringing me information everyone should know.
I feel the same as you feel, dont let yourself down, i am posibly the only one to say this to you but, you are loved by someone, doesnt matter who but someone loves you.
Praying for you and yes you are loved more than you could ever know
I feel like a burden when my parents say I'm not trying because I am and my trying just isn't good enough for them I guess?
Don't listen to them, I'm speaking from my experience. Talk with someone you know close to your age is a good friend/friends about it. Hang out with them, talk about interests, play with them, do anything with them or someone you like. It helped me with my depression
As someone who's 14 in 11 days this hits the bullseye which is the main reason I just started to draw and write and not share anything with my parents and only a select few
"if you watched as a parent who suspects your child is depressed," **I am that child**
Bro, same here. Same here…
same
ikr like pfft the parents who need to see this will NEVER see this, rest assured.
Same brother
I was that child I’m an adult now but I still have depression
I remember first watching this as a mostly carefree happy person. Now I have depression and thoughts of hurting myself. Hits hard.
I have a lot of trauma, my bestie committed suicide and my other best friend backstabbed me. So I got stuck in thinking “I’m a bad person” and then “I’m awesome!” Because the friend who backstabbed me made me think I’m horrible but then my other friends said I’m kind and awesome. That’s how I got my overthinking. By thinking whether I’m nice or horrible. I tried telling my parents about it but they didn’t really help. And they yelled at me when I tried talking to them. Which made me scared to talk. It got so bad I didn’t even want to walk to them. They also made me feel I needed to be perfect. They would check my grades and make me feel I’m horrible, so I would do anything to be perfect, but I couldn’t do it which made me cry in class, but I didn’t because I was in a class where my classmates would laugh at you for anything. So I didn’t cry and held it in. I tried telling confronting my parents but every time I did, they got mad. And said “I didn’t do anything!” Meaning they didn’t care or didn’t want to admit it. It made me keep wanting to do bad things cuz it made me so mad that they didn’t care. But if I did, my parents said I couldn’t have a sleepover with my besties. And my besties were one of the only things that made me happy. As my overthinking got worse, I started questioning things like gender and religion etc. I’ll edit this comment if anything else happens, and I hope you don’t overthink or grow depression either. You’re awesome and trying your best. It’s ok to be sad or mad or overthink, it’s ok. Just Remember, you’re still human and Atleast one person will always care about you.
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A friend of mine got divorced. She has a 10yo who she tries to help express his emotions as much as possible. 2 days ago, after discussing with him just a little bit, he knew pointing out that he feels lonely and that life is hard. I find that excelent that he knows how to talk about it, but I felt so sad that at this age, he feels such heavy feelings. We HAVE to help and support children and parents if we want to have a healthy future society ❤
Hey there, hi. I'm dharshan. What's your name?
Uhm no? Childrens problem are neither real, nor relevant.
@@anderstermansen130 that’s extremely insensitive, just because you cannot comprehend the thought of how it feels or how it’s true it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.
@@soggyratttwhat exactly makes you think we are supposed to listen to children? Does children have a grasp how the world works? No? U thought so.
@@anderstermansen130THEY ARE CHILDREN. They have every right to be just as sad, angry, and scared as adults are; even more so, actually. No child should deserve for their problems to be outright ignored. And they absolutely should never have to be subjected to crossing paths with anyone as bitter as you.
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1). Children can't get depressed, it's adults only 0:39
2). It's just a phase it will pass 1:48
3). They're glued to that darn phone all the time 2:48
4). It's not depression, they are just lazy 4:11
5). Therapy means my child getting stuffed with meds 6:00
6). If my kid is depressed, it means I'm a bad parent 7:13
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
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I'm going to send this to my family all over!! Last summer I (20F) had suspicions that a young cousin(10) had depression and I was basically told by everyone to shut my face so to prove I might not have been wrong, since they kept trying to say it was impossible for my cousin to have depression at their age, I'm going to send this for them to digest
so true
Did they agree?
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how'd it go?
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i've been having depression for a while now, i never told my parents, just cry in my room every day.
I'm that one person who suffered from depression since my childhood. When I was 3 my parents divorced, and to make it worse, I was very attached to my father, since he was kind and understanding, unlike my mother. And after this, I felt like my whole life was crumbling.
My mother was quite rude and critical to me, damn, even scolded me for things I didn't even do. She constantly compared myself to others... Not like it doesn't happen now. My mother's ex-husband, not my father, is right now searched by the police and, well, the court hearing to deprive him of parental rights is already prepared, he was the cause of my little sister. After about a year, a whole year of hearing arguments between them, seeing him drunk on the floor, and all the mental abuse, she finally divorced him. But that didn't stop anything.
My mother was still pretty much gruff and overly strict to me. Why am I saying "she was" and not "she is"? She died 3 months ago. Not that I feel bad about it... She was the cause of my depression and trauma (I'm now afraid of adults, including my teachers, because I think they'll only shout and insult me, like my mother did).
Now I live with my father. Did anything change? No. The only thing that changed is the fact that he constantly scolds me about carrying my phone everywhere. He was that person that brought me to a psychiatrist, though.
Since then, I'm now getting stuffed with antidepressants and pills. I was prescribed with severe depression, severe anxiety, and PTSD.
This is a 13 year old russian girl typing without using any translators. This may seem hilarious, but I'm serious here. My life is really messed up.
(Damn I made this whole comment so long how will people read this)
My parents never took my depression seriously. They were prime definitions of people that would just power through their emotions, but cope using really unhealthy means (drugs, and alcohol).
Now that I’m ordering on my own, I’m not repeating their story. Therapy has definitely helped me out along with regularly practicing Jiujitsu.
Anybody reading this and struggling, you are not your trauma and you’re not your parents. Be happy and most importantly be you!
What’s really sad though is that in this day and age no one really takes mental health seriously or is given the physical or mental bandwidth to do anything about it 😢
And other people who do bad things use it as an excuse as well
Thats because mental health doesnt really matter.
How tragic, the horrors committed by one man’s weakness is blamed on a preexisting condition and the ignorant masses label all that have the condition as dangerous, untrustworthy, and a lost cause
Very late reply but that's exactly why I love the fact that videos like this exist for everyone to watch. I'm currently a 19 yo guy who's been struggling with depression ever since I remember existing and suffered through almost every behaviour listed in this video from my parents who sometimes I still wander if they even know they still have a son. These videos won't reach most of these days parents, but we will eventually have kids on our own, we're gonna eventually become the parents, and if we're any better than those dismissive parents a lot of us have, we can try doing what they didn't with our kids if they ever need it
It is luckily getting better each generation, trust me before the 2000 it was much rarer for depression to be acknowledged. We are progressing slowly but surely. Too many are still oblivious to it but the understanding is spreading
I still remember when I was a kid, I got diagnosed with depression.... I got it at a young age that I had to get medicated at that point. I wasn't just bullied but also isolated and unable to process the world around me.
I'm sorry you experienced this😢
Lol right. Children cant have depression.
@@anderstermansen130 💀
@@anderstermansen130 Did you even watch the video?
@@anderstermansen130💀💀💀
4:13 it’s not “they’re lazy” it’s “they’ve slipped into a depressive state”
I have no motivation to do anything and I feel sad all the time but my parents say I'm just lazy so idek
I love how you ALWAYS understand
even a kid can feel depression too.
You are like a therapist to me.. I rlly
trust you and can admit ANYTHIN'
Neuroticism is a personality trait that can affect a child's interpersonal sensitivity. It's characterized by negative feelings like anxiety, irritability, self-doubt, depression, and emotional instability. Neuroticism levels increase over time, but not all children experience the same change in direction.
You tell me it isnt normal to have all of the mentioned feelings?
@anderstermansen130 yes negetive feelings are indeed normal but, some do not face them. They cover them up and ignore them.
@@anderstermansen130 neurosis is a covering up and avoidance of legitimate suffering.
You're too young, you can't be depressed.
You're an adult, you can't be depressed.
You're too old , you can't be depressed.
“You’re a human, you can’t be depressed.” What bullsh*t’s next, “You’re an animal, you can’t be depressed.”?
@@Declanaroosky”you are a tree you can’t have depression”
They say as the tree is dying from dehydration
You are a human, you can't have emotions
Istg people don’t take depression seriously unless they have it themselves
Way back in the day when the internet and smart phones were decades away, when I was depressed, which was most of the time, my mother had the reason. Actually, a choice of two: my period or the summer heat. That added insult to injury.
Congrats I'm proud of you for keeping on going.
As a 12 year old kid that has depression i have to say thank you for helping people understand depression better
as someone that is probably moderate depressed I find this person so correct and rights kids can have depression to and it actually makes me sad like literally kids dont deserve to be depressed they deserve to be happy :(
Another point I want to make is a phone is it can be an escape for kids. Phones often muffle feelings of depression and helps connect with friends. Assuming the phone is the reason for depression and taking it away all the time can reinforce that same depression
Well, I didnt want to have a phone but they literally anyways shoved it in my face for me, I once even felt that one day I would be so bonded at these kinds of stuff that I would feel depressed if they took it away, I kinda hate it but there's no excuse for "jUsT QuIT" like bro my mindset is always ready to check my phone every morning and i cant stop
Oh and also I said the same to them but they said: It's your responsibility to take care of your phone, like bro just give it away, im not talking bout that 😬
I feel like not enough parents are aware that a lot of children are going through this. Yes, it might be a struggle to fix, but maybe ACTUALLY BEING REASONABLE and not trying to make it worse will fix it.
Unfortunately, plenty of people don't like being reasonable. That's honestly the only reason this is even such a prominent issue when those in question barely even consider thinking about more than just the surface level.
@@cyanthedragon6462 I've been straight up told by somebody that being reasonable was messed up (with a different, not nice word) but they have no memory of it
Idk if they were drunk or something but it happened
“You would never let a child walk around with a broken leg bone” my parents made me walk back and forth on a fractured foot for a week before taking me to the hospital in a effort to “walk it off”😭❗️
That's sound painful sorry that happened I kinda understand as something similar happened to me but yeah that sound bad srry that happened
Sorry, this happened to you. I'm pretty sure that the law would consider it child neglect and likely borderline child abuse.
Oh my days, that must have been P A I N F U L.
I feel sorry for you.
you’re parents are evil
Dude that’s literally child abuse. I don’t know why your acting sad and painful about this memory that’s unsure to you. That is literally child abise
Okay but here’s the thing, i don’t think my parents would let me get therapy. I feel like they would brush it off and say something like “you don’t need therapy you are fine” but I also feel like it would be nice to have a place to talk about stuff like my feelings to someone like a therapist, even though I don’t know if I have depression or anxiety I think it would just be nice to have someone to talk to in general. I’m just scared of having to be medicated or have to be sent somewhere because of my behavior. I’ve tried talking to friends but they don’t get it.
My child came to me the other day and was brave enough to say that he thinks he has depression. I listened to him as he told me how he felt and we'll be looking for a therapist that will be best suited for what he needs to help
Respect. King/queen, or person if you're non birany.
Thank you for listening and actually understanding, I'm happy for that kid😊
Amazing job
Great parent
Respect ❤
Both my parents (divorced) would not do anything for when one of my siblings had depression and this video covered all the things they both thought about it. I didn’t know what to do and that was a terrible time for all of us. It’s still going to this day and I keep trying my best to see both sides of the issue; I know that it will get better soon but I still have to make sure I am ready for whatever drastic change and/or action may happen during this dark time. I pray for all of you who may have struggled with child depression and probably are now 🙏🏼 Thanks again, Psych2go, for your help
Im sorry for that dude i hope you are okay now
also the Pxrge flag goes hard
"You're too young to be depressed!"
Well then you're too old to be in debt (☞ ͡ ͡° ͜ ʖ ͡ ͡°)☞
Yep
And then you get deeper into your depression realizing you’re gonna be in the same debt as them in the future
nah avoid it@@PatrioticAmericam
''You're too old to be that naive'' is a perfect response
I dont have the balls to say it
I had depression for a while when I was a kid, and I still do, but this video helped me understand it more.
Thank you so much. I dealed with anxiety and depression at a young age, and seeing this video is such an amazing thing. There’s so much people get wrong about mental health in children. I still deal with high levels of anxiety, but seeing this video was reassuring, because people need to be taught more about just how serious stuff like depression and anxiety in children are. I do wish the best for anyone who’s struggling.
As a kid that might have depression and other mental health problems i keep surpessing them thinking "oh youre just trying to be something you arent" or whatever. What really doesnt help is that when my parents arent having a good day they make it so i dont have a good day either. Also the fact that when they make me get off my device they dont really give me anything else to do. They just stay on their phones watching facebook reels or whatever. It just adds on and on and on for other reasons that i dont really want to go into but yeah, its really damaging to a kid going through lots of emotions. Sorry for the vent but the fact that no one knows who i am is a sense if security. Good morning/afternoon/night to anyone that read this.
The "GET OFF YO DAMN PHONE" wothout giving anything to do also happens to me lol, usually i just do cartwheels lol
Same here dude, this kind of parenting made me become more distant than it should be, that I would rather not seeing their face or seeing their existence. (Even though if I tried to love them or not)
Though I am kinda anxious of how I am gonna pulling this through when I am gonna turns 18 in my next birthday, simce the wounds and damage I had suffered from them is immeasurable that function normally would be like an dream for me :/
I love the visuals of the parents, the more negative acting parents being de-humanized by shadows and more positive being shown in the cartoony form.
From my xp: to anyone who's ever been a victim of hate / violence because of their appearance, gender, orientation, race : DO NOT ever let a hateful notion 'there's something wrong with me' sink in. Trust me, it's a recipe for self hatred and compulsive anxieties later on. When we suffer and we need a break, it's only natural to think: maybe if I wasn't 'different', if I was 'normal' I would be accepted. No, haters will always find something else to prey upon. I've always had kinda androgynous look, which was a fuel for bullies when I was growing up. I embraced it, used it to my advantage in my acting / modeling career, I was almost the face of Leon in these new Resident Evil games :)
Same for neurodivergent kids like me. To most of society there IS something wrong with me that can’t be fixed. There’s really nothing I can do to change myself. I have gotten mocked at for my whole childhood and was made to believe that there’s something wrong with me.
In the area I live in you can literally stare at anything in the distance and you will immediately be bashed on by everyone calling you “emo” or whatever they be saying now. The worst part is that this is normalized so if you say something about it you will be called “dramatic”.
This guy cant spell to experience😂☝️
@@birdyghostlysame but with arguments and not made fun of
@@anderstermansen130shut up, you don't even know basic stuff like depression which kids can feel, the bad part is that they are, so the people in their life are failing, even if just a fake friend
5:30 as someone who doesnt like cleaning or going outside with friends, i do know that positive words do help.
off topic but you’re profile picture is so awesome
@@Vendietti ty !!
Hi Osc someone
Hi another object show fan 😊
2:51 - My Mom Kept Saying That Over And Over Again To Me. But Only My Niece That She Didn't Say That. As This Started When i Was 6 Or 4. And This Feeling Slowly Leading Me To Suicide.
Same…
My grandmother says that, but i know it wasn't meant, cause I think I might have child depression
@Piakaya listen. Do NOT kill yourself, no matter how much you want to, don’t. You have so much ahead of you in the future and if you end it now, you’ll just waste it all. If you think that thought is becoming a serious thing, then tell someone, anyone, and hopefully they’ll help you with it.
I've been depressed since I was 11 ☹️ meds didn't help, therapy didn't help - and I was blamed for that. She'd say shit like:
"It won't matter in x years!" (If I was upset about something)
"Everyone has to go through it!" (School - when I'd talk about it being insufferable)
Called lazy, selfish, and ungrateful, and vilified for sewerslide attempts. I used to look up to her, and she would shelter me and coddle me with EVERYTHING else, so I didn't understand why she did that.
She said many years later that she wanted me to become independent and do it myself, so basically like walking it off with a broken leg. She isn't an idiot, she's actually wise, so I didn't understand why she saw it so, so wrongly, and continued the same method of trying to make me fix it myself (when meds and therapy weren't enough on their own), when for years it didn't help me AT ALL. Not even once. I'm almost 20, and I'm too anxious to ever drive, too anxious and depressed to work, and I'm sure as hell NOT going to college. She failed to raise me and TO THIS DAY, blames me. It legitimately just tears away at my soul.
I am so sorry you are going through this.
Suicide is spelled suicide not sewerslide. Please learn how to write in english.
@@anderstermansen130i think it was on purpose to censor it
Oh my goodness, my friend (who I call kibble in online convos) lacks any self esteem whatsoever. He may be obedient, relaxed, and an understanding man, but what Kyrie did to him made him barely trust anyone, even though only one person ever left him. Just take it one step at a time, you’ll get to a better point.
I got depressed when I was 9 and tried to kill myself when I was 10
The teenager me watching alot of these kind of videos so i can be a good mother in the future
By the why i love your channel sm, it's very good to have joy and learning at the same time :)
Same, hope we will be able to do it in the future. 🤞🏻🥺🤧☺️😊🥰🤍🤍🤍🤍♥️
"If my child is depressed, I'm a bad parent." This one is more of how I'm feeling. My parents are great people but I'm depressed.
Additionally, the first one is VERY accurate. I feel depressed often but I keep ignoring it as "I'm too young to be depressed, so I'm not."
Thanks alot I'm a child who is 12 and this helps alot I am felling some things mentioned in this video so thanks alot hope this video get more attention. Btw I hide my sadness sometimes so I look happy because nowadays being sad is bad like this video and I appreciate it.
Respect to the parents here! Thank you for paying attention to your child!
Message for children out there who need help: rest assured, the parents who actually need to see this will NEVER see it, and if you show it to them they will not understand. ❤ Goodluck! You're not alone and you will make it :)
Not only will they not understand they will most likely punish you calling an ungrateful child and depending on the parent a few cuss words too
@@Zeoroark oh I wish my parents said cuss words XD if I got caught saying one I would have to brush my teeth 3 times to "clean my mouth"
also i don't know how my parents would react if they knew everything. Im so deep into the lie
"Stop crying before i hit you" and "you only came into this World to make me suffer" is stuff i hear all the time ive stopped trying to open up to my parents and ive stopped crying instead ive just been bottleing up my Feelings bc no one cares abt my Feelings anyways and the first time i opend up to my sister abt school and how all my friends were fake and rude to me she just said "oh.. ok?" And then told my mom and after that they made fun of me for a week saying things like :Mom: "why dont you hang out with your friends?" Sister: "she doesnt have any" and then they would start laughing at me and Tell me im dramatic for being upset they were making fun of me :/
Good lord that's awful
Dang the people in replies of ur comment care about u more than your parents
I don't exactly know what to say here right now but I just want to say that you're not alone in this and there is many more other people that suffer like you and my point right now is that you are not alone in this type of he//hole and there's also someone out there that would support you if they found out about your problem, from people on the internet to someone that you might meet in real life, so you don't have to worry if you think that no-one care about you because someone,somewhere care about you and I just want to say I hope you find that person one day.
Also I just want to say that I don't really know how to say something positive to help people because I have a hard time being positive and I am just trying to help here but it's okay if you just ignore me.
Maybe just dont become born next time, eh?
@@anderstermansen130 not funny.
I’ve been depressed for most of my life and I haven’t said anything to anyone except my boyfriend because I don’t want to be put away or forced to take meds that don’t help
Hang in there, friend. It will get better. Seeking help is not a bad or shameful thing. We all deserve love, friends, and safety
You will not be put away unless your psychologist has evidence you are about to be a serious danger to yourself. And it is entirely your choice to take a prescription if you're not in a facility. If you are an inpatient, you have to advocate heavily to your assigned psychologist when a medication is giving you symptoms of Serotonin syndrome (can be fatal), which typically looks like the beginning of mania.
I was put on Setraline and Citalopram, both SSRIs, both gave me the jitters, insomnia and made me aggressive (way out of character, the last one). So far, Mirtazapine has been working, as I have a prolonged circadian rhythm so I need something to knock me out after being awake 30 hours.
As I said, you will not be put away in an instant for speaking to someone. Someone in your childhood must have terrified you into believing that "crazy" relative got therapy and now they're in a mental hospital for "no good reason". No, there has to be a very serious reason, such as actively slicing and dicing, giving away multiple personal affects and putting affairs into order in a timeframe which is uncharacteristic.
Trust, once you are given a good medication, your life changes for the better. You do not have to take the full tablet, you can split them, ask for a low dose to start and taper if the side effects are even a minor inconvenience. Honestly, the right medications don't have noticeable negative side effects. And if you outright refuse, then and this is going to sound like bogus, drink green tea for two weeks. Brew at 70⁰C with some honey, 14 days. See how you feel.
Just stop being depressed and start being happy👍 How hard can it be, sheesh...
@@anderstermansen130your not funny. Depression is key leader in suicide. Geez
@anderstermansen130 as hard as it for you to stop being a 56yo in your mother’s basement trying to sound smart and funny when you’re the worst of the gum-chewing, rage-baiter, probably depressed in reality (get some therapy, you need it) simpletons in history.
"You're just lazy, go clean your room now!" "Stop being on that phone the whole time!" "Go study for school now, your friends can wait!" "Go take a shower you lazy kid!" "You won't be 'depressed' if you clean your room more often!" "You can't just stay home because you are 'sad'! You will feel better after school!"
I hear this everyday from my parents... sometimes on the bus to school, I hear my favourite music (songs about depression which say things like 'you are enough so don't give up' or sometimes when I feel extremely low 'I sorry I'm a disappointment' which I may not listen to at home because it 'triggers depression') when suddenly my heart starts racing, my legs start shaking, I'm starting to hyperventilate and get a panick attack... as soon as i got home (it also often happens on the way back) I instantly wipe my tears and smile so my parents don't see my panick. "How's school?" "Like always great, mum! Now i know how to find out x!" Then I go to my room, fall onto bed, and the panick attack immediately continues...
I don't tell my parents that i'm depressed i just let it go and just try to suck the depression up and just try to stay positive but i cant and its fine,cuz there is always someone who makes me smile everyday
I remember being depressed in first grade and being suicidal by age twelve. In college I attempted to end my life. I’m in therapy now and am doing better. I’m happier now. Parents, I say this as a once depressed child and ex-teacher: learn about your child and their feelings, love them, listen to them, and please get them help.
Me and my mom got in an argument once. Seconds after, she bursts in my room and yells at me saying "YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT ANYONE BUT YOURSELF!!!" Sure, yeah, it was a long time ago. My mom told me to let it go and let the past be the past. I did. I told my mom that it depressed me and it hurt me for a long time. She told me to suck it up. I did. Now she's a lezi. I'm not made to be alive. I have no purpose to be alive. She's done many other things, but i won't get into that right now. Why am I still alive? It just makes me suffer more.
If life has no purpose find one give yourself something to enjoy.
It probably feels hollow coming from a complete stranger but it’s important to have something that you can use to recharge as well as getting help. I wish I could give more or recommend a counsellor but as a stranger on the other side of a screen and possibly the other side of the world there’s not much else I can do besides this.
You can give your life meaning beyond what you have now. Please don’t give up on yourself.
@@digishade7583 I already have a therapist.
@@thebrainoflayne1829 you have lots to live for
-the sun
-the flowers
-fresh air
-good memory's
-the grass
-animals
Animals aren't like people they don't get mad at you and insult you like humans
Kinda like butterfly's
But please don't end your self ): ... Then people who do care will be cased pain and die to..
This is when you unsubscribe to being alive lol.
@@anderstermansen130 lol? I mean, I guess.
My parents screamed at me that I had no rights, also they punished me for being outside too much while calling me addicted to screens. But they later wondered why I got depressed and suicidal.
that is sad i hope you are doing well..
@@plagued3245 I’m a lot better, plus I’m closer to god, I’m motivated and I’m doing a lot of things.
Same. I used to be suicidal and have depression at school. It got so bad that I acc said I wanted to kill myself. After my parents told me that I'll have a concealer. My parents told me that I could lose my family . I almost had a mental breakdown at the fact that I could lose my family. I went through the counseling and was better than ever. I lived a normal life from now on. (BTW this is a really true story)
Your Parents LOVE To Take At Least 345781378458237864 L's A Day Then
My parents doesn't even help me despite am depressed they all assume am lazy, inconsiderate and a bad person. Its just adding more fuel to all the stress
After an argument with my mom, she was mumbling to herself and I heard “I already lost a kid, I can lose another one”
I’m never getting over it, broke my heart.
the punishment for "being lazy" meant a whole added level of pressure on my depressed soul. glad this is far in my past now.
for those who facing this now. in time this will pass for you also. seek help from trusted friends or professionals when you think you need it.
Pressure is a defining factor here. You break under it, you build yourself anew, then break again - until you're stable enough or untill you're crushed. No outside help can do any good.
@@vladcrow4225 No outside help maybe, I had a conversation with myself once, that saved my life. another thing is to, realize that all that hurts is because it is accepted if you really do not care it won't hurt (this is not an answer but reality) a second tip one can adjust one's brain to learn to be more happy. like a road more traveled gets obvious to walk through,
like when one smiles you find yourself feeling more happy. but it goes deeper if you imprint how wonderful your day is after some weeks it gets more wonderful. accent the better thing feeling the better things want to be more brave. imprint a moment you felt brave, as your own, claim it, and recall it when you need it I swear this will work.
Idk how I am gonna come through this when I am basically have little to no trusty or friends here 😓
@@rainbowalex12akanhatduyvu95 I know it is hard but keep up hope and some trust in better times coming.
I know some of this very well, i dont want to sterotype and say "all adults act this way" but most in my life treat kids as if they are stupid and less important than adults and i hated that treatment. I know i don't know things, but there are some i know more than my parents on that they wouldn't consider.
Kids are capable of having traumatic events (I'd know) as adults can, and kids are capable of knowing more than adults in a subject because kids learn fast and my have just put their time in different things.
I am an adult and I wholeheartedly agree with you! I feel the parent forgot to remember to put their own shelf in the child’s shoes, or see from that perspective. It is incredibly selfish to only think you know more about something, and also my twins who are five will school me on Pokemon types abilities. 🤷🏻♀️ They DO know more than I do about things. ❤
What did you mean by Kids are stupid and less important part?
@@LightningAdrianMost likely referring to how adults at times can take the words and opinions of children with less weight/value due to them believing the child may not know anything about the subject at hand (or anything in general).
While it's certainly not every parent, emotional abuse and emotional neglect are actually far more common than people tend to think.
Your voice is so mesmerising 😭
@@Psych2go awwww thannnnkkk youuuu so so so much for reply psy 😄❤️
When i was 4 years old, i became deppressed,and i still am..i was always too scared to say,im glued and in my room all that time bc I WAS DEPPRESSED.parents never listen to me
At this point, I really just want to send this to my parents because they need to know this stuff since they always just think I’m making up stuff.
I'm not a parent, and I was curious, what I learned is enlightening, but also heartbreaking for me, because this video, coupled with dozens upon dozens of other media, made me realize that I was never at fault, that I was never just lazy, just not smart enough or anything, and that I exhibits a huge amount of prominent ADHD symptoms, and clear signs of depression, thankfully I'm a bit better now, I have a few coping mechanisms, some healthy some not so much, but the point is I'm doing better now, I wish my mom knew English so I could send her this to let her see where me and my sister were or are struggling
Toxic parents who refuse to acknowledge the part they play in their children’s mental health issues are the same ones who wonder why their kids go no contact, use their phone as an escape, etc.
Imagine on top of that, to be the middle child of 3. IE, the ignored and unloved one.
I am not a child anymore I will never forget the way my family made me feel, they told me I becoming lazy and fat and also I needed to fix my depression otherwise a man wouldn’t stay with me.
Heh, glad I'm not the only one.
I can totally relate to this. My anxiety is skyrocketing every single day. Especially in an environment where everyone already has a friend group. I hope parents can be there for their children more.
Edit: sent this video to my parents. I hope they understand what im going through
TW: vent/rant??
soo...who else was told "if you wanna be a boy, then stop crying" "your lucky that im not hitting you anymore" "they dont get it" "we like you better when you take ur meds" like mom, your ARE the reason i take meds, like mom you misgender me, hitted me when i was younger, didnt do ANYTHING when i was SA!!?? and you still dont check on me when im sad, im scared to talk with you, you never love me, it like im not ur child, always saying "your always in that dark room on that laptop" like mom, maybe check on me?? i always have to think bout something just to see how you'll react? i just want my mom to love me, at this point, i dont even know if im over reacting, l
I remember being super depressed in 2020… this video definitely reflects on me a lot so it’s good I’m not the only one who experiences this. Keep in mind, I was only 10 when this happened… I lost contact of my crush if you’re wondering… and I was crying for like 2 weeks straight and then the lasting impact was for like most of the year.
#4 is very relatable, unfortunately. "get off your ass and clean your room." "stop being a slob and clean up after yourself." "there's no excuse for your room to be that bad, you're just lazy."
As a 10 year old child with possible depression I find this very useful. One time when I was 9 I told my mother I thought I had depression, my mother replied "Why do you think you're deoressed?" And I didn't have a reason to be depressed nor did I know why I'd be depressed so my mother didn't care much. One thing that also can cause depression is anxiety. I have social anxiety which makes it harder to socialize with other kids my age, and anxiety can make you fearful which makes you feel vulnerable and alone
Have you tried not having depression, and go play Nintendo like normal kids at 10 years old, do?
@@anderstermansen130 bro shut up
@@anderstermansen130 least obvious bait 🙏
Dont go around telling your age online, creeps are out there
@@anderstermansen130ah, yes, I found someone who doesn’t understand anything about anything
at 11 i had depression and honestly i wanted to just… not be there…
No matter what,when,where or who im with.
This was because of my mother who mentally and physically abused me, Child depression is a thing and if not handled correctly it worsens just like any adult with depression. A bit like how a cold or fever gets worse when you ignore it and don’t treat it.
I am fortunate enough to have parents who did everything to help me when I was depressed
My friend got divorced when her son was 4 years old. I’m most certain he was aware what was going on between his parents. When I was young, I got bullied. This stuff still affects me as an adult. We have to realize things affect children and they compartmentalize depression and anxiety.
Their bickering and the separation were probably the first things he remembers. I would know, my parents split up when I was 4 because of me. It wasn't my fault, I know that, but I am the reason, the straw that broke the camel's back.
It's devastating when your parents having a screaming match in the living room about you is the first thing you coherently remember.
Kids are so so much smarter than many of us give them credit for. It’s saddening to see that parents tend to not recognise that.
"Why don't you tell me what's wrong?"
Because if I do you'll tell me a whole paragraph about how lucky I am to even have a house to live in.
I would send this to my mom but I already know she'd just laugh it off and say I'm "just going thru some things and it'll pass", or, "just pray to God it'll pass". Don't get me wrong I LOVE God but it doesn't mean praying to him automatically makes my sadness fade away, he is not magic. Just bc I'm a child in my household my emotional problems NEVER gets acknowledged and they just see it as a phase or compare it to a silly little thing they felt when they were my age and LITERALLY compare my suicidal thoughts to their "oh my ice cream fell and I felt sad" situation, it's literally so draining and is one of the biggest reasons why I NEVER wanna open up again, it's literally no use at all opening up to my family, they literally just mock me later when I seem to be happier and say "oh what happened to ur sadness?" It is literally so DRAINING for me, I literally cry every.single.night. without them knowing bc I know damn well I'll get made fun of or shouted at for not opening up to them or not trusting them enough.
You have my prayers
Reading and church also helps a lot
It's sad that probably most people watching this are probably the children and not the parents
I remember something my nana said in an argument a while back, when i said something about
"Its my right!"
And she said:
"You dont have rights, you're a CHILD"
Like, do children just not have rights to privacy or things of their own? Im pretty sure everyone deserves a right to things like privacy, or anything for that matter, even children. And ive never forgotten it.
« you’re a child you don’t have rights »
nana forgot about 1985 😔
"He just has low self-esteem."
"SORT YOUR FUCKING LIFE!"
Well, it works. Get over it, or go off yourself. Saying this as a 33 year old man, who survived a crippling depression, which started in childhood. Mostly through desensitization and random violence.
Adults dont think that children can be deppresed and can make something new adults think that children cant invent something they ignore children
I always struggled with this my entire childhood. My whole life I always felt the need to fight for my life and my opinion and now when i don't need too... i end up now fighting for a peace that was already won for
even if i tell them they’ll say”its all because of youre phone!” i wish they could understand my mom says “dont worry tel me anything” and when i tell she might sometimes mock me.
My parents always tell me “you’re so lazy why can’t you help me out for once?!” Or “it’s not that hard just get up!” I can’t talk back to them cuz they’d get mad at me but sometime I just wish I could explain that my body feels heavy and it’s extremely difficult to have motivation to do anything.
Same and if i don't get up they schold me and says i'm so lazy and is all because of this phone every thought is not i just cant tell them
I watch as the child problem is I cant tell them because if I do, they might be confused on how I even know what depression is (my mom has depression so she understands).
Another lovely video from this lovely channel, the topic is very relatable too, I see myself in similar situations a lot of times… keep the great work Psych2go 👏🏻
"you have no reason to be" (and that's why y decide you're fine).
"you are to sensitive"
"why do you always dwell on things that happened aeons ago!"
All from my mother. My father was not invested to begin with. "Kids stuff" was ridiculous to him.
...
The list goes on.
And my mental health is a battle field today. I'm mid 30ies and in invalidity pension because of it.
I have recurrent depressions and more, with the first episode hitting me likely around age 6.
I had to develop severe anorexia at 15 for a TEACHER to step in and send me to the school psych. Which first angered my mother. (Parents divorced at that point, father absent of our lives) Because she completely sheltered our private life from any outsiders, always has. No "stranger" allowed in our home.
So even more shaming for me.
"Now what do people think about me being such a bad mother to have a child with anorexia?!" The mental iceberg? Invisible from outside, thus not really valid.
I hope you are all doing as good as you can.
And parents, please take your kids seriously. Remember what was big for you when you were their age. Kids worlds are "smaller", so their problems may seem "smaller" to you. Which is not true. It's a question of proportion. Take perspectives.
I told my mom this and said I’m overreacting and that I should stop seeking attention by staying in my room all day to look depressed
I'm an adult male in my late 30's and my depression began when I was 6. My Kindergarten teacher was incredibly mean-spirited and would ALWAYS lash out at me just because I was different from the other students (I was in special education from grade school through high school). She even physically assaulted me a couple of times and whenever I tried to report it, nobody did anything about it. As a result, I got very upset to the point where I eventually just broke down and cried during my classroom's visit to the school library. To add insult to injury, both the school librarian and my mom resorted to gaslighting later that same day by saying, "You're being dramatic." Later, when I was over at my babysitter's house, both her and her husband asked me if I was depressed and I answered, 'yes.' Once my mom came to pick me up and they informed her about it, she replied, "He's not depressed, he's just being dramatic." Of course, that only made things worse. I STILL remember that to this day and it has damaged me emotionally and psychologically.
Throughout this video i were going like "Am I depressed? Surely not. Yeah not. Wait am I. I am. But wait no this point means im not"
This describes my thoughts during every Psych2Go video
Go doctors have therapy I wish I did that when I was low and sad when I was younger could have helped now I will never know
Who ever said children cantget
Depressed want to listen to how we actually feel anyone can get depressed if that was true why do so many of us self
Harm at that time of our lives
5:51 this reminds me of something I still struggle with. Avolition. The inability to do the bare minimum to survive. It’s a common symptom of Schizophrenia and is a negative symptom for Schizophrenia. The symptom has haunted me all my life and often I have my siblings screaming at me to do my chores and it’s like I’m aware, but I can’t convince myself to do it. They always got annoyed that I would sit on my butt everyday and my parents always ask them to my chores for me, of course I understand their prospective and my parents shouldn’t have fueled my avolition to make it harder on me, but the best way I could convince myself to do a chore was by constantly hounding myself in my mind to get it done.
Message to parents.
”stop crying before i hit you” and these kinda threats when your child is sad/crying or even depressed will just make it worse. if your child is crying and stopped after you threatneted them. They **will** keep this on their mind for days, or even weeks. They will get sadder eveeytime and maybe will stop loving you the more you threaten them. Instead, ask them what is the reason. The same thing happens with "taking your phone away" or yelling at them when a child is crying. Please actually try to comfort the children when they cry, my mom did this everytime i cried and i cant get over it.
Okay, but seriously, as a neglected child in a household, I KNOW I have depression symptoms but the amount of times I'm told and convinced I'm not made my brain swirl with confusion, making me think that I'm faking it sometimes. Hearing that simple explanation at 1:59 to 2:14 made me genuinely cry, I never heard someone explain it so right it hurts
Omg I hope you're okay
i tell my dad i think i have depression.
“depression is a serious mental illness. you don’t have depression.”
my therapist recently diagnosed me with depression
I'm not a parent, I'm 13, I was just curious because I like knowing things (even if I'll easily forget them) and I like your videos. But I was also curious because I've been suspecting that I might have depression. I have no idea the severity or if I actually have it. And I'm not sure I want to bring it up to my mom, because we're tight on money, and I don't want to make her feel like she has to get me into therapy or something. And we're already planning on getting out of our house more, and I feel like that might help. (Even though it brings pure internal panic at the very thought.)
I have been feeling this way for about 4 years, it started as just a slight off feeling for the first year (I just thought it was because of the lockdown), then increased to rarely going outside (just excused that as I hated the bugs), and then these past two years seem to really have gotten bad. This last year in particular, I feel like it got to a whole new level.
I have only recently been starting to suspect the whole depression thing, but I haven't gotten myself to sit down and research it.
Does anyone have any suggestions or knowledge that you could share? I'm unsure what to do, even if I do start to research depression.
im always glued to that phone because i seek friends, they say i cant make friends cause of the phone. In the past, i was seen as a bad kid, always being yelled at by the teacher or made fun of the kids, i got social anixety, if i actually had some friends i wouldnt be glued to my phone, hanging out with them
I am that depressed child and I was watching out of curiosity and wondering how to react as an adult if my kid has depression
I once told my mom about my depression symptomes to try and let her know about how I feel an she responded with "Why are you telling me this? Am I supposed to believe you have some kind of deep depression?!" in a tone I can't exactly describe other than angry mocking. Anyways, that day I learned that parents are not to be trusted with anything :D
Six bad misconceptions parents have about child depression:
1) "Children can't get depressed, it's an adult thing" 0:40
2) "It's just a phase, it will pass" 1:49
3) "They're glued to that DARN phone all the time" 2:49
4) "It's not depression, they're just lazy" 4:13
5) "Therapy means my child getting stuffed with meds" 6:00
6) "If my kid is depressed, it means I'm a bad parent" 7:14
If parents are not the ones to make you depressed, some parents can make your depression worse. Like mines.