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I totally agree with you. Giving your man respect and love is very important and your woman should be the very person in the world you can turn to for safety to express the way you feel. I just wish that all men understood this. I was with a man and I would ask him not to cut me off when I was speaking because I would never to that to him but he would still shut me down when I was trying to tell him how the things he said affected me. Plus when I would ask him what was wrong when he seemed upset he would refuse to talk about it then later on he would get mad at me for something minor and everything would come blurting out.
Thank you for the detailed steps for accountability. I knew I was in the wrong, and apologized, but he shrugged it off. Now i can apologize and he will know i regret disrespecting our relationship and all the effort and support he provides.
Ladies.... don’t bring gifts to men. That’s masculine. Show your appreciation for what he does for you and anything good he does.... show appreciation often and verbally. Gifts for men are for special occasions only.
I don’t appreciate gifts if it doesn’t reflect the quality of our relationship. It pisses me off to get a pretty piece of jewelry when my relationship is dirt. It matters more to me how I’m treated rather than what I’m being gifted. I’m a sentimental person and I don’t keep shit that reminds me that he’s a fuckboy. I dismiss him and his gifts too...
Is it possible for a marriage to work out without trust? Can never trust my hubby, and am here for the kids. He's one liar who claims to love me ,but he thinks he's smart. Am alwasys ahead of him .and he's never proved me wrong.
In Ephesians 5 men are told over and over to love their wives, love her like he loves himself, love her enough to lay down his life for her. WOMEN are told to respect and honor their men. I think the distinction is important. Women love easily; respect and honor are the things we struggle with AND men need that more than they need love. My own opinion is that if I don't have any respect for a man I don't need to be with him because I am going to tear him down and make him miserable
As a Great man, I approve this message. She did me a HUGE....favor by walking off. It took me awhile to heal from the damage of trying to love a, broken, narcissistic woman. Now, I've met the woman that's bone of my bone..., flesh of my flesh. I didn't have to search for her either; we were presented to each other.
I always buy my husband his favorite beer and give him a foot massage when he comes home from work and cook him his favorite food to eat and take with him for lunch at work. I do that not only he's my husband, he's kind, supportive, loyal and he gives me appreciation daily as well, such as flowers, massage, attention, affection and wash dishes after I cook meals.
Have a barber come to the house and clean him up, plus have any outfit laid out ready to go!! ❤🤘😘 Yesss #TeamJaxn You just solved my Valentine Day question!!
Damn Derek, this is probably the best video that I have seen from you. I was trying to figure out why I am so invested in this new female that I have entered into a relationship with. Can you just pinpointed exactly what it is. She has all these qualities. And when I'm with her it's hard to explain, but I feel like I am at home with her. I'm an old-school gentleman type, and she appreciates every bit of the small things that I do to show her how beautiful I think that she is. And she reciprocates her feelings through actions as well. Total opposite of my last relationship. Good looking out!
I don't mind giving this kind of treatment to a man that actually deserves it. Looking forward to the day that I actually run into a genuinely GOOD man.
soluvlyxoxo they exist but the truth is a good man doesn’t not excite women, even against their will they will go after the bad boy cuz they have the emotional need for drama to feel a variety of emotions . Nice guys are boring to them in short.
I needed this reminder to KEEP showing my man that he is my King and working on building love and being consistent. Men need love too! Thanks #TEAMJAXN
The Puppet Boyz Jr. EXACTLY You don’t need four good things. The key is to follow God’s words all of those good things & accountabilities line up with that one Word. If they live of the fear of God. Have to move self out your heart and let the Word move in. Ppl keep going off worldly advice and not godly wisdom Good Man List 1. A woman that show Reverence & fear to God 💯
Jmar385 _ Reverence...food for thought...It’s 2020, evolution is real. Why are we still referring to having fear in God ( real question; I’m really curious of your answer; maybe not real curious but I’ll read it if you respond). God is love which is the opposite of fear. Since God lives in us, through us and around us, fearing God would mean that we fear everything, and everyone; even ourselves. I love and revere the energy and presence of God in you and everyone in this thread. Just to add to the convo at hand, I love and revere the presence of God in my man even when he doesn’t. That’s God, that’s love.
Wow that just hit home for me thank you for this needed to hear this. There is so many things that just go over our heads and we don't stop to think about it and end up hurting someone in the process...learning to do and be better! Thank you for this 👏
Christina's Creative Creations , coming from a man who is with a woman who does everything listed in this video and is living proof of its truth, I applaud your honesty.
To add to that list is encouraging, uplifting and speaking life to him. Every man should feel that he has his woman's full support and that she's s his #1 fan.
You don't see us women complaining saying he's a women basher. I thought this video was very insightful. However, I wish that more men were raised to value women.
And we wish a lot more women were raised to value men. The world is just full of spoiled/damaged people, who are incapable of showing gratitude and respect towards the time and effort another human being puts into a serious relationship (both romantic and platonic). Unfortunately it's just a part of the human condition, which western society reinforces with its focus on shallowness and consumerism (people have pretty much become products at this point).
Kristian Jensen great point. Both men and women have been damaged to a point that they don't know how to love correctly. How do you love correctly? You do unto others what you would like done unto you. However, I was simply responding to the fact that every time Derrick tells men to treat women with respect, the men complain and yes, men should be valued as well.
Yess Finally Perfect Time I Freaking Love Your Videos They Have Helped Me Make Good Choices And To See That I Deserve The Best Thank You So Much For Your Videos ☺️☺️
Lattice Johnson girl yes that was a lightbulb moment for me to the fullest n I'll definitely pay close attention to that in the future cuz my mouth be too turnt sometimes boi!
Everything you said was absolutely correct. And I have my good man! He taught me these things himself. He articulated what he needed from me and explained himself and now he gets it. We both are happy and I dont want for anything. As a matter of fact, I'm getting ready to be his wife. Ladies take heed, there's only a few left. **Best wishes to you***
Karen Cunningham Congratulations! Thanks for sharing your experience as sometimes we don't always listen in the right way. I've been guilty of that. Best wishes to you and your beloved.
Congratulations to you and your man. I am seeing this post a year later I pray that you and he, your king are still in sync with each needs. God Bless.
I agree and i do understand. .. I have a man who is showing me how to do this right now which i never knew how because i always got my way and was very spioled in all of my relationship.
Thank you for this video. You've explained something all of us should understand...so we can love and communicate better. Women frequently take men to task for bad daily behaviors. Men should also have the freedom to discuss the disrespect our culture allows women to do without shame/consequences. Conversations like this promote TRUE gender equality. ❤️
Adge D Your right. Man can abuse woman. But women can also abuse man. Instead we should just surve eachother in a way that is good for the other gender. In that way the whole gender ecuality isue is out of the way. Real gender ecuality comes from acknowledging our difrences. In our self, and in the other gender. And giving love and surfing acording to this nowledge. Thinking we are al the same. And seeing things only in one perspective will only make us all misreble. Sorry for my bed english. I am from the Netherlands.
This is my opinion any real & good woman out here who has a good man & we know truly that you r a good man.A real woman is going to make sure he's good on all levels, from the bedroom to the bank account. I don't know 1 real woman out here who does things just because, if a real woman is acting out towards her man,trust me it's a reason why??? You get what you deposit. Just my opinion
Amen sister! Yep, u get what you give! Sometimes you attempt to offer guidance so the partner won't self destruct and you get told u r a b*tch trying to control him...
Yes! I listened to one of Louis Farrakhan speeches and he said it plain and simple if a woman is no good it’s because a no good man made her that way! We mirror the man we are with! That is absolutely true!
Suggestion..hold sum speed dating to help women out...interview both sides and try to match up ppl...U could BE the next matchmaker sounds like a good business
so on point.. when he's a good, morally sound man, of substance, it is his woman's/wife's pleasure to treat him like 1000% gold, effortlessly & with a smile ❤
1. Respect (BIG deal for men), 2. Accountability (i.e. wrongdoing), 3. Acknowledgement for things he’s doing right, his efforts to please you, etc. 4. Trust
I have a good guy so I wouldn't mind seeing more of these to serve as a reminder and even introduce ideas that I didn't think about. Thanks. We played your game for the first time last weekend and it led to us having intimate conversations that felt originally felt awkward.
When I find the man that I can do these things for I will...but in the meantime it’s tough out here in these streets and finding someone deserving of this King treatment is the challenge. I’m sure Men can relate to that too on the flip side.
That's why you need to pay attention to their actions and not their words. Always, always check in on yourself whether you feel the effort, respect and gratitude you put into a relationship is reciprocated to a somewhat equal level, otherwise you might end up feeling unappreciated and resentful in the relationship. That goes for men and women both, even in platonic relationships.
You've got to be one of the most handsome men I've ever seen in my life, not only on the surface but most importantly underneath. Please don't take my comment as disrespect. You wear your crown very well. I salute you and your Queen.
Interesting there is not a hoard of comments on this, seeing as how all of us ladies need this video after being put thru the ringer with Mr. Wrongs, in any event, this is a great reminder to basically be nice, sometimes I forget that part.
MzSexyLady84 you are right. I know me myself I've been looking 4 certain qualities that I just could not pinpoint. And all the things that he stated in this video my last relationship of two years what problems. Now the woman I just entered a relationship with, has all these characteristics. And this video pin points exactly what I love about her. I never let him this one go. LOL
I agree on these points totally!!!! The only thing is that a vast majority of men who are fuckboys don't deserve this type of treatment. And it's hard to find a man who does. Dudes these days want king treatment why they put in no effort and not trying to commit. A woman has to be patient these days if she wants a king and not a joker. It has gotten to the point where you hav e to give a dude a series of tests to see if he's all about you!!!!!!!!
Same places great women hang out. If you have a woman you admire or a male friend that you respect, get them to intro you. I do it for my women friends all the time.
Derrick where in the world did you get all this mature in- sight.. you're soo meant to continue to flourish and succeed at what you do. This advice is definitely not for little girls but for women. However at the end of the day it's real simple to treat someone the way you would like to be treated.. like you said disrespect on any level is a turn off.. flip that into a turn on and respect your partner. Listen, carry your self as a lady and demand respect but also give it. But none of this works if you don't love each other.. which takes time and work.. Much respect D
Mr. Jaxn Mr. Jaxn Mr. Jaxn...now I don't use this word often within you you videos, but I will for this one. I *love* this video, I'm a older woman (43) not too bad, but I love loving on my man...it brings me joy to be calm and collected in our conversation, arguments, and just friendly disagreements. I'm on the right track... Sincerely, Leslie
I total agree it’s about balancing and acknowledging and treat your bae the way you love to be treated and without being disrespectful 👍🏾 I can never understand why disrespectful is necessary 😒
I love your videos and I was just looking at watches to buy just because the guy I'm with is one of those good men you talk about. It's the little things he does, which I thank him for regularly. I have had some troubled relationships in the past and I know that I had some fault in them and have used your videos to be a wiser and more loving partner! Thanks for sharing!
Amen!!! The sad, yet true fact is that some people would rather hold on to those damaged relationships out of fear of being alone or starting over. Letting go is NEVER easy, but some to most times they would be better off alone or with someone who values them as a whole and not for what they have to offer materialistically.
It’s frustrating when you’re trying to believe in a man, make him feel like a king, telling him he’s a good person...but he doesn’t feel it. I can’t fight someone else’s depression
Thanks for the time dedicated to educate us on how to value ourselves and respect others in a more healthy way. I've learned so much and I keep learning to improve my self-love while teaching my man to love and respect me as I deserve. I got back with my ex and I believe the universe kind of has given us an opportunity to see if we're going to make the same mistakes we did in the past. He was not ready and now his heart is there for me. I do appreciate it, but I've asked him if he's ready to jump with me in a committed relationship because am not jumping alone due to what happened in the past. He said we're going to get a place together, work together and build our family together but no actions yet but in progress being he is quitting an important job to move in with me. I've also made it clear to him I need more than just his words , I need him to help me trust the process. He lives in Uk and I am in the South of France. I hope he jumps quickly or at least investment more emotionally to keep the ball rolling. Thanks for your help!!! God bless
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Thank you for this. I think I may have found that good man and don’t want all my trust and other issues to mess it up. Appreciate your honesty as always
Thank you for this video!!🤗 These are things that my father unfortunately never taught me and being 28 years old, I'm still learning lol I appreciate for being honest and genuine!
I agree with 1 - 3 but 4 still not sure about trust- I haven given trust in the past and the blame came with it was their female friend who I shouldn't have trusted- please bare in mind she was not /never my friend. I gave the trust to him due to her being a friend before I came about, however it turned out she only wanted him cause he had a woman(ME). He chose to ignore my feelings and ignored the signs she was dropping to him!! TRUST IS EARNT AND NOT GIVEN
A good man deserves feeling listened to, respected, loved. If you want him, show him you care for his wellbeing and understand that he may actually be different from all the players you've met before. Give him and yourself and connection the benefit of the doubt. What have you got to lose? If it doesn't work with him, the next one may appreciate your efforts to make him feel valued in the connection.
So what happens when your king is a narcissist ???? He already sees himself as Superior !!! Wouldn't that feed into his ego ?? Let's face it relationships with narcissist are not easy or normal .....
I've been a loving Queen to the men I've dated. I'm ready for a King. I want the man that loves me for me. I can't wait to spoil him with all my love and effort.
How do you do the trust... when they have lied from day 1 and “ hung out “ with chicks and gets digits from women 🤷♀️ then, when you want to address any of that... you get belittled and he flips shit and thinks you shouldnt have feelings about it... thennn if that wasnt enough... when you stood up for yourself and removed yourself from the situation, he says you flaked on him lol. I dont call not putting up with lies, cheating and this behavior flaking. Not putting up with disrespect is what a women should do. Guys want respect, totally get that... but they have to also give it.
What if he says he'll "do anything to prove" to his woman that she can trust him (again), but he does everything except the one thing that will make all the difference - a paternity test?
You know, after a heartbreak I can say I met my best friend and we give to each other. Massages, affection, quality time, we cook for each other and have deep conversations. He’s the real thing and I’m glad to just be in his life and make him laugh. God is so good.
Hi Destinys Life, I used to think the same thing. Where are all the good black men? So, since I wasn't finding them and just plan ole tired, I just stopped trying and learned to enjoy my life alone for more than 5 years! But, God is good and made a way out of no way to send me my soul mate. The story is too long to go into here, but, know, there are still wonderful men out there, maybe right in your "back yard". Mine was.
Damn. He said you need to go from “warrior princess to a loving queen” I needed to hear that
Robyn Harrison because we all know how masculine black women are
Robyn Harrison yesss girl its like a light bulb went on over my head
Robyn Harrison facts
Robyn Harrison Facts. 💯💯💯💯
Andrew Troll Troll trollllllllll......much?
1. Casual respect
2. Real accountability
3. Acknowedment
4. Trust 💯
Moon Struck Nice
Thank you for listing it!
Thanks for listing it!
Right on thank you
Acknowledge.....
I totally agree with you. Giving your man respect and love is very important and your woman should be the very person in the world you can turn to for safety to express the way you feel. I just wish that all men understood this. I was with a man and I would ask him not to cut me off when I was speaking because I would never to that to him but he would still shut me down when I was trying to tell him how the things he said affected me. Plus when I would ask him what was wrong when he seemed upset he would refuse to talk about it then later on he would get mad at me for something minor and everything would come blurting out.
Thank you for the detailed steps for accountability. I knew I was in the wrong, and apologized, but he shrugged it off. Now i can apologize and he will know i regret disrespecting our relationship and all the effort and support he provides.
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Praise and worship session for this 🙌
What we need is real communication. Thats it.
Great advice. I really appreciate your insights. 🙂🤗👍
Real shit powerfulstuff
Speak the King in your man
Thanks bro, points taken. We sometimes forget.
Ladies.... don’t bring gifts to men. That’s masculine. Show your appreciation for what he does for you and anything good he does.... show appreciation often and verbally. Gifts for men are for special occasions only.
I don’t appreciate gifts if it doesn’t reflect the quality of our relationship. It pisses me off to get a pretty piece of jewelry when my relationship is dirt. It matters more to me how I’m treated rather than what I’m being gifted. I’m a sentimental person and I don’t keep shit that reminds me that he’s a fuckboy. I dismiss him and his gifts too...
Is it possible for a marriage to work out without trust? Can never trust my hubby, and am here for the kids. He's one liar who claims to love me ,but he thinks he's smart. Am alwasys ahead of him .and he's never proved me wrong.
How do a man take care of a his. also how do we speck to the king in him. Mr Jackson this needs a deeper discussion and a video of its own
I've been enjoying his vids
In Ephesians 5 men are told over and over to love their wives, love her like he loves himself, love her enough to lay down his life for her. WOMEN are told to respect and honor their men.
I think the distinction is important. Women love easily; respect and honor are the things we struggle with AND men need that more than they need love. My own opinion is that if I don't have any respect for a man I don't need to be with him because I am going to tear him down and make him miserable
Very insightful
So true love it.
Excellent.
new subbie ❤love the videos keep up the great work.
I needed to hear this :-/
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As a Great man, I approve this message.
She did me a HUGE....favor by walking off. It took me awhile to heal from the damage of trying to love a, broken, narcissistic woman. Now, I've met the woman that's bone of my bone..., flesh of my flesh. I didn't have to search for her either; we were presented to each other.
Alhamdulillah
@@Underestimated_Majorly1111 Shukran
I always buy my husband his favorite beer and give him a foot massage when he comes home from work and cook him his favorite food to eat and take with him for lunch at work. I do that not only he's my husband, he's kind, supportive, loyal and he gives me appreciation daily as well, such as flowers, massage, attention, affection and wash dishes after I cook meals.
LovelyMom 1981 love hearing love stories like these
Aaron Alexander whoa.....where that come from bruh?
LovelyMom 1981 hello my beautiful black queen how are you doing well I hope you have a good husband and he have a good wife
So lovely! You make me cry. Thank you for sharing your sweet story. We need to hear more of such.
LovelyMom 1981. Get him cloned please.
Have a barber come to the house and clean him up, plus have any outfit laid out ready to go!! ❤🤘😘 Yesss #TeamJaxn You just solved my Valentine Day question!!
Santana75 Adelle right!! 😂
Ladies, you got the right idea. I hope everything turned out perfect.
Wow I never thought about any of this,now I know more ways to please my future hubby
Damn Derek, this is probably the best video that I have seen from you. I was trying to figure out why I am so invested in this new female that I have entered into a relationship with. Can you just pinpointed exactly what it is. She has all these qualities. And when I'm with her it's hard to explain, but I feel like I am at home with her. I'm an old-school gentleman type, and she appreciates every bit of the small things that I do to show her how beautiful I think that she is. And she reciprocates her feelings through actions as well. Total opposite of my last relationship. Good looking out!
I really liked your comment!! It's great that you found a good woman.
Drew, I'm interested in an update! Are you still with the lady?? 🤔
@@arnellpharr5122 me too!!!!!
Faith's Mom me three!!
Faith's Mom me four!!!
I don't mind giving this kind of treatment to a man that actually deserves it.
Looking forward to the day that I actually run into a genuinely GOOD man.
What city are you in?
soluvlyxoxo this goes both ways
Soluvlyxoxo guys have to avoid toxic women too
soluvlyxoxo they exist but the truth is a good man doesn’t not excite women, even against their will they will go after the bad boy cuz they have the emotional need for drama to feel a variety of emotions . Nice guys are boring to them in short.
I agreed. Those men that you run into that are good men still disrespect you. I think it a case by case. It always on timing.
I needed this reminder to KEEP showing my man that he is my King and working on building love and being consistent. Men need love too! Thanks #TEAMJAXN
If a man doesn’t have God fully in his soul, they will never get it right.
The Puppet Boyz Jr. Thank you
The Puppet Boyz Jr. that sums it up all.
The Puppet Boyz Jr. EXACTLY You don’t need four good things. The key is to follow God’s words all of those good things & accountabilities line up with that one Word. If they live of the fear of God. Have to move self out your heart and let the Word move in. Ppl keep going off worldly advice and not godly wisdom
Good Man List
1. A woman that show Reverence & fear to God 💯
Jmar385 _ Reverence...food for thought...It’s 2020, evolution is real. Why are we still referring to having fear in God ( real question; I’m really curious of your answer; maybe not real curious but I’ll read it if you respond). God is love which is the opposite of fear. Since God lives in us, through us and around us, fearing God would mean that we fear everything, and everyone; even ourselves. I love and revere the energy and presence of God in you and everyone in this thread.
Just to add to the convo at hand, I love and revere the presence of God in my man even when he doesn’t. That’s God, that’s love.
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Wow that just hit home for me thank you for this needed to hear this. There is so many things that just go over our heads and we don't stop to think about it and end up hurting someone in the process...learning to do and be better! Thank you for this 👏
Every single lady who’s transitioning into a relationship needs to watch this!!
That's so true Derrick, I strongly agree with ur points cause there STILL GOOD MEN out there and they want to feel appreciated just like women
Too bad parents don't show it to their kids
Some of these made me a little uncomfortable and that tells me I needed to hear it... thank you
Christina's Creative Creations , coming from a man who is with a woman who does everything listed in this video and is living proof of its truth, I applaud your honesty.
To add to that list is encouraging, uplifting and speaking life to him. Every man should feel that he has his woman's full support and that she's s his #1 fan.
I love your comment!!
Not every man tho..
Absolutely!
You don't see us women complaining saying he's a women basher. I thought this video was very insightful. However, I wish that more men were raised to value women.
And we wish a lot more women were raised to value men.
The world is just full of spoiled/damaged people, who are incapable of showing gratitude and respect towards the time and effort another human being puts into a serious relationship (both romantic and platonic).
Unfortunately it's just a part of the human condition, which western society reinforces with its focus on shallowness and consumerism (people have pretty much become products at this point).
+Brian W huh??!
Kristian Jensen great point. Both men and women have been damaged to a point that they don't know how to love correctly. How do you love correctly? You do unto others what you would like done unto you. However, I was simply responding to the fact that every time Derrick tells men to treat women with respect, the men complain and yes, men should be valued as well.
Sexist and wrong!! Just awful. Sexist!!
WRONG. A woman can still be queen without a king. Sexist.
~You're hitting the ball out the park, with this one Derrick! ⚾🎳❤
Yess Finally Perfect Time I Freaking Love Your Videos They Have Helped Me Make Good Choices And To See That I Deserve The Best Thank You So Much For Your Videos ☺️☺️
For real..... I feel the same way!
I've been waiting on this!!! Accountability is a two-way street.
Yes a women need to respect they man or why u with him if he give all the respect
I've never had a man want to 'protect my heart' in my entire life
Me either...where r they girl?!:/
Me niether
@@aceofmomsyea4502 😂😂😂😂
I said that to females they took it as a joke
@@smellypussyhes8221 o def can go both ways!!
I needed this. Especially the point on respect. Learning to control my mouth.
Lattice Johnson true
Lattice Johnson ..GURL WE LEARNING TOGETHER
Shandra Newell glad I'm not alone. Be blunt sometimes comes off disrespectful and when buttons pushed...omgg. we going to get it together lol
Lattice Johnson girl yes that was a lightbulb moment for me to the fullest n I'll definitely pay close attention to that in the future cuz my mouth be too turnt sometimes boi!
Lattice Johnson when we know better we do better..
Everything you said was absolutely correct. And I have my good man! He taught me these things himself. He articulated what he needed from me and explained himself and now he gets it. We both are happy and I dont want for anything. As a matter of fact, I'm getting ready to be his wife. Ladies take heed, there's only a few left. **Best wishes to you***
Karen Cunningham Congratulations! Thanks for sharing your experience as sometimes we don't always listen in the right way. I've been guilty of that. Best wishes to you and your beloved.
Karen McGirt ...yes, congrats. My love died about 10 years ago. Enjoy your man.
Congratulations to you and your man. I am seeing this post a year later I pray that you and he, your king are still in sync with each needs. God Bless.
I feel a lot of women may not understand or agree...but as a Good Man I have to say I 100% approve this message.
I agree and i do understand. .. I have a man who is showing me how to do this right now which i never knew how because i always got my way and was very spioled in all of my relationship.
Perfect Timing!
Thank you for this video. You've explained something all of us should understand...so we can love and communicate better. Women frequently take men to task for bad daily behaviors. Men should also have the freedom to discuss the disrespect our culture allows women to do without shame/consequences. Conversations like this promote TRUE gender equality. ❤️
Adge D Your right. Man can abuse woman. But women can also abuse man. Instead we should just surve eachother in a way that is good for the other gender. In that way the whole gender ecuality isue is out of the way. Real gender ecuality comes from acknowledging our difrences. In our self, and in the other gender. And giving love and surfing acording to this nowledge. Thinking we are al the same. And seeing things only in one perspective will only make us all misreble.
Sorry for my bed english. I am from the Netherlands.
True queen 💙
This is my opinion any real & good woman out here who has a good man & we know truly that you r a good man.A real woman is going to make sure he's good on all levels, from the bedroom to the bank account. I don't know 1 real woman out here who does things just because, if a real woman is acting out towards her man,trust me it's a reason why??? You get what you deposit. Just my opinion
I agree also.
Amen sister! Yep, u get what you give! Sometimes you attempt to offer guidance so the partner won't self destruct and you get told u r a b*tch trying to control him...
You know it.... real women are like mirrors with men ... we reflect and magnify whatever there be it good be it not so good.
Yes! I listened to one of Louis Farrakhan speeches and he said it plain and simple if a woman is no good it’s because a no good man made her that way! We mirror the man we are with! That is absolutely true!
Athena Hill
I could not say that!! Any better..!! Love those words of inspiration. 🤗❤❤
Suggestion..hold sum speed dating to help women out...interview both sides and try to match up ppl...U could BE the next matchmaker sounds like a good business
Cheryl Mcleod I agree. Maybe he can do a speed dating or match maker type party. I want to come!!!!
I’d go to that!
so on point.. when he's a good, morally sound man, of substance, it is his woman's/wife's pleasure to treat him like 1000% gold, effortlessly & with a smile ❤
1. Respect (BIG deal for men), 2. Accountability (i.e. wrongdoing), 3. Acknowledgement for things he’s doing right, his efforts to please you, etc. 4. Trust
And they keep crying that you never do segments to help the men....smh 😚 #TeamJaxn
Introverted Bliss Calm down, he really doesn't mam...
@@jamal9373 so you don't think this video helps men?
@@sherrylynn3304 he barely does most of his videos are targeted towards women
It's few and far between but whatever's on his heart is what he should be speaking on
@@NikoleMiliano why whatever do you mean: stereotypes and generalizations about men? It's as if you are one of the rare few that recognize this.
#DerrickJacksonforpresident2020
shaunaboo961 nice
Thank you, it goes both ways!!!
My husband and I still say "Thank You" to each other any time we do something nice.
I have a good guy so I wouldn't mind seeing more of these to serve as a reminder and even introduce ideas that I didn't think about. Thanks. We played your game for the first time last weekend and it led to us having intimate conversations that felt originally felt awkward.
When I find the man that I can do these things for I will...but in the meantime it’s tough out here in these streets and finding someone deserving of this King treatment is the challenge. I’m sure Men can relate to that too on the flip side.
Seymone TKO true becsuse d wolves in sheeps clothing will take advantage of this treatment
Seymone TKO yep so true
Seymone TKO facts💯💯
That's why you need to pay attention to their actions and not their words.
Always, always check in on yourself whether you feel the effort, respect and gratitude you put into a relationship is reciprocated to a somewhat equal level, otherwise you might end up feeling unappreciated and resentful in the relationship.
That goes for men and women both, even in platonic relationships.
+Kristian Jensen (SevenSix) you ain't never lied 👐
You've got to be one of the most handsome men I've ever seen in my life, not only on the surface but most importantly underneath. Please don't take my comment as disrespect. You wear your crown very well. I salute you and your Queen.
Facts 💯, she has a grown man and not a grown boy!
Interesting there is not a hoard of comments on this, seeing as how all of us ladies need this video after being put thru the ringer with Mr. Wrongs, in any event, this is a great reminder to basically be nice, sometimes I forget that part.
Yaaaassssss!!! We need more men like you
Amen to that Derrick! This is the kind of thing every man needs to hear!
MzSexyLady84 you are right. I know me myself I've been looking 4 certain qualities that I just could not pinpoint. And all the things that he stated in this video my last relationship of two years what problems. Now the woman I just entered a relationship with, has all these characteristics. And this video pin points exactly what I love about her. I never let him this one go. LOL
+Drew Carter good luck in your New relationship
Is it just me or does Derrick look extra good today? Like fresh from the barber chair smelling like top dollar cologne? Hey Derrick😉
Krystal c right !!
Krystal c ..LET THE CHURCH SAY AMEN
Krystal c He looks good every time I see him in these videos imo😃
I agree on these points totally!!!! The only thing is that a vast majority of men who are fuckboys don't deserve this type of treatment. And it's hard to find a man who does. Dudes these days want king treatment why they put in no effort and not trying to commit. A woman has to be patient these days if she wants a king and not a joker. It has gotten to the point where you hav e to give a dude a series of tests to see if he's all about you!!!!!!!!
Still waiting on him 🙂
Ohio Scratcher Girl stop waiting and let him come to you. You will feel 💕him before you see him.
I am to I pray god gives you a good man by New Years
This reminds me of that meme where this female skeleton wearing a dress and clad in spider webs says " Waiting for Mr. Right".
You too. 😒😒😒😒😭😭😭😭
Where are the good men coach..damn
Exactly! I’m starting to think they don’t exist
Cheryl Mcleod. Somewhere out there.
Same places great women hang out. If you have a woman you admire or a male friend that you respect, get them to intro you. I do it for my women friends all the time.
Cheryl Mcleod we always get over look
Kareem Smith I will not overlook you
Derrick where in the world did you get all this mature in- sight.. you're soo meant to continue to flourish and succeed at what you do. This advice is definitely not for little girls but for women. However at the end of the day it's real simple to treat someone the way you would like to be treated.. like you said disrespect on any level is a turn off.. flip that into a turn on and respect your partner. Listen, carry your self as a lady and demand respect but also give it. But none of this works if you don't love each other.. which takes time and work..
Much respect D
Carmen my beautiful black queen how are you doing well I hope just remember everybody needs love flip that into a turn on I like that
Men need to 👂 this too...
Natisha Kamara We are listening
S. Taylor yesss
Natisha Kamara Right! And listen....👂🏽
Mr. Jaxn Mr. Jaxn Mr. Jaxn...now I don't use this word often within you you videos, but I will for this one.
I *love* this video, I'm a older woman (43) not too bad, but I love loving on my man...it brings me joy to be calm and collected in our conversation, arguments, and just friendly disagreements.
I'm on the right track...
Sincerely,
Leslie
Leslie Lelaind my beautiful queen how have you been well I hope you closer to your Dreams remember everybody needs love.my beautiful black queen
I total agree it’s about balancing and acknowledging and treat your bae the way you love to be treated and without being disrespectful 👍🏾 I can never understand why disrespectful is necessary 😒
I love your videos and I was just looking at watches to buy just because the guy I'm with is one of those good men you talk about. It's the little things he does, which I thank him for regularly. I have had some troubled relationships in the past and I know that I had some fault in them and have used your videos to be a wiser and more loving partner! Thanks for sharing!
There is a whole lot of people in relationships that are seriously damaged.
Amen!!! The sad, yet true fact is that some people would rather hold on to those damaged relationships out of fear of being alone or starting over. Letting go is NEVER easy, but some to most times they would be better off alone or with someone who values them as a whole and not for what they have to offer materialistically.
Amen to that!! Sadly
It’s frustrating when you’re trying to believe in a man, make him feel like a king, telling him he’s a good person...but he doesn’t feel it. I can’t fight someone else’s depression
Thank you Mr Jaxn for this...For the first time I believe I have met a good man...I needed this in case it goes further...😊
You tearin' it up bruh! Keep doing what you're doing!!!!
Good vid, wasnt biased or offensive at all, just helpful 😊
Thanks for the time dedicated to educate us on how to value ourselves and respect others in a more healthy way.
I've learned so much and I keep learning to improve my self-love while teaching my man to love and respect me as I deserve.
I got back with my ex and I believe the universe kind of has given us an opportunity to see if we're going to make the same mistakes we did in the past.
He was not ready and now his heart is there for me. I do appreciate it, but I've asked him if he's ready to jump with me in a committed relationship because am not jumping alone due to what happened in the past. He said we're going to get a place together, work together and build our family together but no actions yet but in progress being he is quitting an important job to move in with me. I've also made it clear to him I need more than just his words , I need him to help me trust the process. He lives in Uk and I am in the South of France. I hope he jumps quickly or at least investment more emotionally to keep the ball rolling.
Thanks for your help!!! God bless
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#TeamJaxn #All2018
LovelyMom 1981 it says if your vagina is all you have to offer I don't want it.
I agree and every woman needs to hear this. Thank you #teamjaxn
Thank you for this. I think I may have found that good man and don’t want all my trust and other issues to mess it up. Appreciate your honesty as always
What does his top actually say?
Liv Royale "If your vagina is all you have to offer then I don't want it"
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Then, I need a shirt that says,”If your penis is all you have to offer, then I don’t want it.” lbvs
I am smart wise and HHOOOTTTT
Damn wish I had a good one to do ALL 4 WITH!!!!
Awesome! Yes and thank you! #TeamJaxn I can't get enough of your insight and guidance!
I am living for those consistent uploads!!
Thank you for this video!!🤗 These are things that my father unfortunately never taught me and being 28 years old, I'm still learning lol I appreciate for being honest and genuine!
I needed this thank you❤❤❤
Preach it!👏🏼
My problem was doing all of the above (the good stuff) for the wrong males...
I agree with 1 - 3 but 4 still not sure about trust- I haven given trust in the past and the blame came with it was their female friend who I shouldn't have trusted- please bare in mind she was not /never my friend. I gave the trust to him due to her being a friend before I came about, however it turned out she only wanted him cause he had a woman(ME). He chose to ignore my feelings and ignored the signs she was dropping to him!! TRUST IS EARNT AND NOT GIVEN
You are spitting game! Learning how to love a King is different from liking a regular 🙌
A good man deserves feeling listened to, respected, loved. If you want him, show him you care for his wellbeing and understand that he may actually be different from all the players you've met before. Give him and yourself and connection the benefit of the doubt. What have you got to lose? If it doesn't work with him, the next one may appreciate your efforts to make him feel valued in the connection.
This is what I've been waiting for...the balance!
If A man Had A Good Women in his face a thousand times.He still wouldn't know what to do.
And often times they do have good women and still fuck up! I’m sorry good men don’t exist!
That goes both ways but there are plenty of good men and women, opposites just normally attract .
So what happens when your king is a narcissist ???? He already sees himself as Superior !!! Wouldn't that feed into his ego ??
Let's face it relationships with narcissist are not easy or normal .....
Exactly, men need to feel like good men. That their efforts are appreciated. We all do. I say treat your man like you would like to be treated.
Oh you was talking to Duh-nay-uhhh (how it’s spelled in her bio🤣🤦🏽♀️) Jackson?
I've been a loving Queen to the men I've dated. I'm ready for a King. I want the man that loves me for me. I can't wait to spoil him with all my love and effort.
I love this one Derrick!!! Understanding things from a mans perspective is so totally great!!
How do you do the trust... when they have lied from day 1 and “ hung out “ with chicks and gets digits from women 🤷♀️ then, when you want to address any of that... you get belittled and he flips shit and thinks you shouldnt have feelings about it... thennn if that wasnt enough... when you stood up for yourself and removed yourself from the situation, he says you flaked on him lol. I dont call not putting up with lies, cheating and this behavior flaking. Not putting up with disrespect is what a women should do. Guys want respect, totally get that... but they have to also give it.
Excellent! I’d like to hear more about a good mans needs.
Thank you for this. I found this exceptionally useful for my life.
Well damn I'm her!! My king is gonna know me when he sees me...im ready..
What if he says he'll "do anything to prove" to his woman that she can trust him (again), but he does everything except the one thing that will make all the difference - a paternity test?
Beautiful words spoken with extreme truth. 😊
You know, after a heartbreak I can say I met my best friend and we give to each other. Massages, affection, quality time, we cook for each other and have deep conversations. He’s the real thing and I’m glad to just be in his life and make him laugh. God is so good.
I honestly believe that these men u speak of are non-existent.
Definitely not in Nigeria 😂
Hi Destinys Life, I used to think the same thing. Where are all the good black men? So, since I wasn't finding them and just plan ole tired, I just stopped trying and learned to enjoy my life alone for more than 5 years! But, God is good and made a way out of no way to send me my soul mate. The story is too long to go into here, but, know, there are still wonderful men out there, maybe right in your "back yard". Mine was.
Women who always claim "there aren't any good men" are highly suspect in my opinion.
Me too, sis... It's really sad.
Andrew are you dating men? How would you know?