Desperate Too flashy Too troublesome Too broken Too materialistic( don't be a lerper, be a helper. Don't expect too much.) Too picky and choosy. (Don't expect 13 people in one. Don't expect too much. Which one is curly hair 🤔 😅😅😅) Too bossy, rude and controlling. Men don't like another men energy. Don't be rude and argumentative. RESPECT. Too loose or promiscuous. Don't be every body's toy, don't be loose. Don't be too available to everyone. Too good. Only unserious men will avoid a well-put-together woman. Carry your crown well queen. Don't lower your standards.
I love how the man of God wrapped up this video - coz I kept thinking, what if she's just a jolly good fellow and pastor K literally said - 'keep it up, soon you'd find the man that sees you as a plus'. God bless you sir.
Thank you Sir. I so much agree with the last reason. Some unserious men are scared of a serious minded and hardworking lady who is successful, beautiful and reserved. Once they see they can't play their game, they'd just withdraw. So I know that serious men will actually meet serious ladies.
I meet a good Lady sometimes ago but all she was asking is from me is money 💰.I knew her for just a month but she had asked for money for more than 12 times.I just left in peace.
The last comment on being good and put together is it for me...very easy way to eliminate the unserious ones. Even if you drop your standards, it doesn't even make you desirable to them. Better to be yourself and work on any grey area. Simple. Thanks PK for the highlights.
Pastor K. Thank you for adding the last part, and also taking the liberty to specify that it is a good one. Honestly Sir, that is me. I've been saying no to so many guys(not because I'm picky, honestly I'm not.) I'm open-minded. I've had a lot of rich and influential guys ask me out, and each time I decide to give it a chance, it won't seem right either because they are lagging spiritually or mental development which will make me disconnect from them. I'm attracted to majorly the character and not necessarily material possession. I've rejected so many of them that most times I feel bad and also a little scared as to whether the kind of guy that has a good standard and character exist. Your last point encouraged me really 😭💙🙌
Aww 😊 I love people that are teachable and takes to correction. It's a good thing you have realized your wrong. Most of your gender in our dispensation wants a 15 man in a man..... or put in a better way, a man that has it all. No one has it all (male or female) Hmm, innocent, decent, disciplined and good hearted men will come, pass by and leave such ladies. I usually feel bad for most of these guys/men who would have been looked down on and run down by these ladies. I feel for them, because we men go through a lot. And as a result of so much challenges and economic disadvantages men are going through in this generation, many of us have become mentally unstable. Dear, just make amendments and make Holy spirit your number one partner. God will lead you right. Much love 🤭
THANK YOU MAN OF GOD FOR THIS WORD OF COUNSEL. MY EYES ARE OPEN NOW TO WHAT TYPE OF A WOMAN I AM AND WHERE I HAVE BEEN GETTING IT WRONG THINKING I WAS RIGHT... INDEED COUNSELING IS WHAT I NEED TO KNOW WHAT TO DO, AVOID AND SIMPLY BE HENCEFORTH... THIS WORD HAS RESTORED PEACE IN MY LIFE. GOD BLESS YOU SIR AND THANK YOU LORD JESUS CHRIST. 🙏🔥
This was just something I needed clarification on ,thanks pastor. The respect part triggered me a bit..lol But I would like to get more tips on how to respect men.
I had the same question... One of my friends, a guy, recommended a book... "For women only: What you need to know about the inner lives of men" by Shaunti Feldhan... It's really an eye opener to what men interpret as respect and lack of it. Enjoy
Sir I want to appreciate you for what you are doing in the life of the singles, I pray the Lord continue to elevate you in all ramifications. Amen.. God bless you
Thank you pst K.O …This is a rundown life check for many of us especially for me. It’s really helpful at least I have seen now where to work on, fix and adjust myself. I am glad you shared this with us pst K.O . Remain blessed sir. Love and Light ❤
Knowing the difference between desperation and being intentional might also be helpful especially in a world where everyone except you to put your best foot forward.
Desperation comes with anxiety and fear. Desperate people stay in situations where they should walk away. Being intentional comes with knowing that God will give you the best, trusting Him, having standards, loving yourself and personal growth. In a nutshell? It’s a difference between abundance and scarcity mindset.
Thanks PK. My question is with regards to the last reason... What if they are already married to you and then begins to realize that you are too ambitious, what is the person required to do at this point?
Pastor K the last one resonates with me the guy literally said I was too good for him and the last I had due distance had said I was like a bone in his throat. Another, the relationship was too perfect and heading towards what he wasn't ready for my little journey experience in relationship.
Thanks sir. French People are we there ? I listen for improve also my english. Pastor K. Translate some message in French . You have an audience that reaches.
Thank you very much Pastor K. I needed this perspective to understand if i wasn't losing mind, or if I am just being a 'man' indeed. Thanks Pastor K. God bless you
@@davidchinemeremjoshuadavid6535 like you mean you have his books on emotional intelligence? I need it pls. Can I have to titles if you don't mind. Thanks so much. God's blessings.
This topic is very educative. Thank you so much sir. Your teaching has really helped me a lot in relationship matters. I don't know how to thank and PM . May God bless you and your wife.
meaning of 1 Corinthians 7:5? Paul seems to be describing a special devotion to prayer, perhaps during a time of fasting. once that time is concluded, however, sexual activity should resume. Paul seems to assume that human beings who experience strong sexual desire will struggle with self control after a while. Paul also reveals that Satan will take that advantage of that struggle to temp Christians with sexual sin. Struggle with patience will always be rewarded. stay bless in Jesus.”
9:45 I strongly disagree with the bit about men not wanting a woman they can nurture and support. I know a lot of men who have nurtured and supported their wives from nothing to something - emotionally, financially, spiritually, professionally, psychologically etc. As a woman, I can never marry a man with whom I can’t be vulnerable about my insecurities. What’s the point? To pretend like I don’t have them and then open them up in marriage? Because that’s what many women are forced to do, so that they seem “whole” even when they aren’t. There are no finished products, sir. You can meet a woman on a journey and love her on that journey. By not doing this, many have missed good wives too #mytwocents Women do this for men all the time and we are even encouraged to.
there will be time for reaping, time for rejoicing, and time for mourning! time to make love is intimate, but to separate yourself with God is a must specially as Christians. He who puts God second is not worthy Jesus says. work it out with your wife before fasting and stay committed secretly therefore God will rewarded you secretly. stay blessed in Jesus
*What if i am trying to help him become a better person and he thinks I'm pressuring him 😥? *What kind of man should i respect? *How can i be relational? Please help with these questions
Try to know the kind of a man he is and secondly you don't force the help on him.... You have to use your feminism to win him over by respecting him and you will see him natural do what you want him to do
Someone who was trying to pursue me came to my house while I was very sick and he made a comment that he does see space in my life because there was nothing he could add onto me. According to him I had everything in my house
The more reason a man dating you should never come to your house until he is fully sure and declared his stand with you in life.i don't belive in denying myself what I can afford.
@@faitha1075 I seriously don't get o. Is like saying waiting to eat a particular food until a man shows... Biko help! There's a lot a mature man can give beyond physical things or materialistic things Bikonu, eh a woman can never buy everything even if you think she has everything. Bro bring your ATM then you will know... Alot to give... Emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and so on, why should a lady wait till a man comes before she takes care of the needful? Eh, I need fan please 🥺
A number of men don’t realise that what a visionary woman needs the most is leadership (by example). They let materialism dictate their worth. Thankfully, there are lots of men who have it right. One thing I also noticed is that hardly do they mention the Holy Spirit in their decisions concerning the woman.
Good points boss. However, men don't avoid the picky woman, it's the other way round. Women who are picky "can" sometimes miss out on "good" men for just being picky
Not necessarily. Flashiness makes you want to buy the reigning things, the things in Vogue. Flashiness makes one shallow. Get yourself a car if you NEED one
@@nefertiti7482 Buying a good , durable car is not flashiness. If you can afford it, why not. For the kind of business I run, if you don’t have a notably good car, clients won’t entrust you with their money. I suffered this for years after listening to advice such as don’t buy a car because of man. At the end of the day, no client, no man. The moment I made the switch and got my suv, clients became at ease and the quality of suitors changed from the low self esteemed to those who had meaningful value to add. These things aren’t a one size fits all thing. Live intentionally and hear from God.
Great teaching, but ummmm that submissive part. I think religious leaders have interpreted that word wrongly and so a lot of Nigerian men who are misogynistic and chauvinistic by nature have used that word to gas-light and blackmail their female partners. I will never forget Jumoke Adenowo on Kemi Adetiba's "KING WOMEN"- she unpacked that word. Submit is not bullying a woman to silence, it is respecting yourself so she can respect you. So she gave an example, a wife wants to travel somewhere and she asks her husband's permission. A man who respects himself and who knows and acknowledges that this woman can afford to travel on her own money but has chosen to SUBMIT herself by seeking permission will answer her in two ways: 1. Tell her to wait if he wants to travel with her or 2. Grant her request. But most men have bullied their partners so much so that they cannot dare seek permission on anything and if she dares, she is NOT SUBMISSIVE and is trying to throw it in his face that she can afford things. The worst is when such matters are then taken to a religious "leader" and he aligns his "so-called advise" with the insecurities of the man. Please help us unpack that word, too many women have suffered at the hands of wicked men blackmailing them with the word. th-cam.com/video/vG7yo5m_T9s/w-d-xo.html 42:07 seconds
Tak for example a friend of my said in her place of work a guy is coming around her acting as if they ar lover but he still has nt said anytin, if he loves her or he need a relationship, so one day she told him dat d company will employ workers & he will find his speck so d guy said why is she talking like dat, he then said wat abt sometin btw dem So she ask him stin like wat, dat she didnt understand so d guy said ok since she didnt understand she should leave it like dat. Though they still talk play but he has nt said anytin. Wat will she do incase if sone else is coming, it will nt look as if she broke his heart. So she need advice. Thanks.
"If what I'm saying triggers you, you are the people I'm talking about" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Desperate
Too flashy
Too troublesome
Too broken
Too materialistic( don't be a lerper, be a helper. Don't expect too much.)
Too picky and choosy. (Don't expect 13 people in one. Don't expect too much. Which one is curly hair 🤔 😅😅😅)
Too bossy, rude and controlling. Men don't like another men energy. Don't be rude and argumentative. RESPECT.
Too loose or promiscuous. Don't be every body's toy, don't be loose. Don't be too available to everyone.
Too good. Only unserious men will avoid a well-put-together woman. Carry your crown well queen. Don't lower your standards.
Most of my flashy and materialistic friends are married
@@faitha1075 lol. There are exceptions to every rule 😅
@@AliveinChrist247 it’s not an exception it’s manipulations
@@gracemercy28 how so? 🤔
Helper maid
I love how the man of God wrapped up this video - coz I kept thinking, what if she's just a jolly good fellow and pastor K literally said - 'keep it up, soon you'd find the man that sees you as a plus'. God bless you sir.
Thank you Sir. I so much agree with the last reason. Some unserious men are scared of a serious minded and hardworking lady who is successful, beautiful and reserved. Once they see they can't play their game, they'd just withdraw. So I know that serious men will actually meet serious ladies.
I meet a good Lady sometimes ago but all she was asking is from me is money 💰.I knew her for just a month but she had asked for money for more than 12 times.I just left in peace.
My Mum asked me not to buy a car if not men we run away from me. I obeyed her advice and my fiancé still left me one month to our wedding.
Most of the disrespect come in when things are not working well when there is peace respect naturally
The last comment on being good and put together is it for me...very easy way to eliminate the unserious ones.
Even if you drop your standards, it doesn't even make you desirable to them. Better to be yourself and work on any grey area. Simple. Thanks PK for the highlights.
It’s the ‘ultra sheen’ for me 😂😂
The number 2 is for me. May God help me to change.
God today again, I thank you for this woman that you brought into my life. I really can’t thank you enough!
God is gracious
Pastor K. Thank you for adding the last part, and also taking the liberty to specify that it is a good one. Honestly Sir, that is me. I've been saying no to so many guys(not because I'm picky, honestly I'm not.) I'm open-minded. I've had a lot of rich and influential guys ask me out, and each time I decide to give it a chance, it won't seem right either because they are lagging spiritually or mental development which will make me disconnect from them. I'm attracted to majorly the character and not necessarily material possession. I've rejected so many of them that most times I feel bad and also a little scared as to whether the kind of guy that has a good standard and character exist. Your last point encouraged me really 😭💙🙌
Aww 😊
I love people that are teachable and takes to correction.
It's a good thing you have realized your wrong. Most of your gender in our dispensation wants a 15 man in a man..... or put in a better way, a man that has it all.
No one has it all (male or female)
Hmm, innocent, decent, disciplined and good hearted men will come, pass by and leave such ladies.
I usually feel bad for most of these guys/men who would have been looked down on and run down by these ladies. I feel for them, because we men go through a lot.
And as a result of so much challenges and economic disadvantages men are going through in this generation, many of us have become mentally unstable.
Dear, just make amendments and make Holy spirit your number one partner.
God will lead you right.
Much love 🤭
I feel your pain dear. Pls don't lower your standards if you're looking for character. Character is something you can't negotiate.
THANK YOU MAN OF GOD FOR THIS WORD OF COUNSEL. MY EYES ARE OPEN NOW TO WHAT TYPE OF A WOMAN I AM AND WHERE I HAVE BEEN GETTING IT WRONG THINKING I WAS RIGHT... INDEED COUNSELING IS WHAT I NEED TO KNOW WHAT TO DO, AVOID AND SIMPLY BE HENCEFORTH... THIS WORD HAS RESTORED PEACE IN MY LIFE. GOD BLESS YOU SIR AND THANK YOU LORD JESUS CHRIST. 🙏🔥
A video on how women can respect their husbands please sir. thankyou.
Read A-Z of marriage, it's free to download
You can watch any of Pastor Mildred's videos,you'll learn alot of them
@@nakijjobarashidah1252 on where?
I can send it to you check me on Instagram the same name
And how men can love their wives 🧐
This was just something I needed clarification on ,thanks pastor. The respect part triggered me a bit..lol
But I would like to get more tips on how to respect men.
I had the same question... One of my friends, a guy, recommended a book... "For women only: What you need to know about the inner lives of men" by Shaunti Feldhan... It's really an eye opener to what men interpret as respect and lack of it. Enjoy
Nice one sir. Can you talk on how to respect a man and how to be a man's peace of mind????
Sir I want to appreciate you for what you are doing in the life of the singles, I pray the Lord continue to elevate you in all ramifications. Amen.. God bless you
Thank you pst K.O …This is a rundown life check for many of us especially for me. It’s really helpful at least I have seen now where to work on, fix and adjust myself. I am glad you shared this with us pst K.O . Remain blessed sir. Love and Light ❤
I think there's a lot I have to change
Knowing the difference between desperation and being intentional might also be helpful especially in a world where everyone except you to put your best foot forward.
Desperation comes with anxiety and fear. Desperate people stay in situations where they should walk away. Being intentional comes with knowing that God will give you the best, trusting Him, having standards, loving yourself and personal growth. In a nutshell? It’s a difference between abundance and scarcity mindset.
Perfect explanation. Thanks
Pst K of life, welcome sir.
Thanks PK.
My question is with regards to the last reason...
What if they are already married to you and then begins to realize that you are too ambitious, what is the person required to do at this point?
Thank you pastor sir
Pastor K the last one resonates with me the guy literally said I was too good for him and the last I had due distance had said I was like a bone in his throat. Another, the relationship was too perfect and heading towards what he wasn't ready for my little journey experience in relationship.
As a man i really agree with this
Thanks sir. French People are we there ?
I listen for improve also my english.
Pastor K. Translate some message in French . You have an audience that reaches.
Great words Pastor K especially the picky one that’s me, God help me 😂😂😂
Thank you very much Pastor K. I needed this perspective to understand if i wasn't losing mind, or if I am just being a 'man' indeed. Thanks Pastor K. God bless you
Thank you... God richly bless you
Waiting for the Mens Version T for Tenks.
Thank you sir for making me realize the kind of fiance I was having God bless you sir.
It makes sense! Thanks.
@kingsleypst, Sir pls can you do a teaching or a book on Emotions Intelligence in relationships and marriage. God bless you Sir
My dear like your point,i have some his book 📖📚
@@davidchinemeremjoshuadavid6535 like you mean you have his books on emotional intelligence? I need it pls. Can I have to titles if you don't mind. Thanks so much. God's blessings.
I feel so relieved after listening to this video.. thanks to pastor K
God bless you richly. I have been blessed.
Great
Dr Kingsley🔥🔥🔥
Thank you so much sir. I keep getting better learning. Thank you so much for that last part.
Thank you very much Pastor Sir
True💯 God bless you Pastor
This topic is very educative. Thank you so much sir. Your teaching has really helped me a lot in relationship matters. I don't know how to thank and PM . May God bless you and your wife.
You too desperate
You too flashy
You too troublesome
You too broken
Promiscuous
Too good
Too materialistic
Too bossy and rude
@@stephanieokpala5210 I was about to add those lol 👌🏾👌🏾
Too choosy or picky
I just love Pastor Kingsley , man of pure truth😊
Thanks pastor …this is worth the time
Thank you so much ok🙏🙏🙏
Sir maybe you tell us how to behave as a Lady.
Sir thank you so so much for this teaching.
Thank you. Mr. King. Welcome in Kenya 🙏🙏 you are needed 🤗🤗🤗🤗
It’s all related to me 😢
You are just talking to me sir, thank you
Waohhhh thankyou sir for this counsel, thank God for the Testimony with this
There is a lady told me if I don't have land we can't get married until I buy one so I quit the relationship.
Na wa oh
Haba dats bad enough
Land 😘😘
Thank you immensely Sir ..
I know better now. And there's more clarity on my path
who else laughed at that helper - leper illustrations🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
May God help us,some men don't like a woman who takes care of bills all the time,he makes them feel less of a man,this happened even in marriage...h
meaning of 1 Corinthians 7:5?
Paul seems to be describing a special devotion to prayer, perhaps during a time of fasting. once that time is concluded, however, sexual activity should resume. Paul seems to assume that human beings who experience strong sexual desire will struggle with self control after a while. Paul also reveals that Satan will take that advantage of that struggle to temp Christians with sexual sin. Struggle with patience will always be rewarded. stay bless in Jesus.”
9:45 I strongly disagree with the bit about men not wanting a woman they can nurture and support. I know a lot of men who have nurtured and supported their wives from nothing to something - emotionally, financially, spiritually, professionally, psychologically etc. As a woman, I can never marry a man with whom I can’t be vulnerable about my insecurities. What’s the point? To pretend like I don’t have them and then open them up in marriage? Because that’s what many women are forced to do, so that they seem “whole” even when they aren’t.
There are no finished products, sir. You can meet a woman on a journey and love her on that journey. By not doing this, many have missed good wives too #mytwocents Women do this for men all the time and we are even encouraged to.
there will be time for reaping, time for rejoicing, and time for mourning! time to make love is intimate, but to separate yourself with God is a must specially as Christians. He who puts God second is not worthy Jesus says. work it out with your wife before fasting and stay committed secretly therefore God will rewarded you secretly. stay blessed in Jesus
Thank you Pastor K.
*What if i am trying to help him become a better person and he thinks I'm pressuring him 😥?
*What kind of man should i respect?
*How can i be relational?
Please help with these questions
Try to know the kind of a man he is and secondly you don't force the help on him.... You have to use your feminism to win him over by respecting him and you will see him natural do what you want him to do
Thanks so much sir 🙏 am grateful fir this teaching
This is just too good. Thank you soo much
Than you Sir
Someone who was trying to pursue me came to my house while I was very sick and he made a comment that he does see space in my life because there was nothing he could add onto me. According to him I had everything in my house
So women have to lack for them to get a man?
The more reason a man dating you should never come to your house until he is fully sure and declared his stand with you in life.i don't belive in denying myself what I can afford.
@@faitha1075 I seriously don't get o. Is like saying waiting to eat a particular food until a man shows... Biko help!
There's a lot a mature man can give beyond physical things or materialistic things Bikonu, eh a woman can never buy everything even if you think she has everything.
Bro bring your ATM then you will know... Alot to give... Emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and so on, why should a lady wait till a man comes before she takes care of the needful? Eh, I need fan please 🥺
Dear heavenly Father in Jesus name let your mercy speak over every one trusting you. No be by rules. Mercy of God prevails
A number of men don’t realise that what a visionary woman needs the most is leadership (by example). They let materialism dictate their worth. Thankfully, there are lots of men who have it right. One thing I also noticed is that hardly do they mention the Holy Spirit in their decisions concerning the woman.
Thank you sir I really needed this
Thank you PK
Thanks so much sir for this.
Well said sir.
Interesting yes it really helped us thanks sir
Thank you sir. Sir is there a platform where we can send our questions.
Anticipate!!!!!
Good points boss. However, men don't avoid the picky woman, it's the other way round. Women who are picky "can" sometimes miss out on "good" men for just being picky
Thank you for sharing
Thanks PK. God bless you.
Thank you for your Godly Education on us women
Thanks pastor k God bless u sir
Anticipate 😌🔥🔥🔥
Thank You Soo Much Pastor, Grateful 🙏🙏
Bless you sir
I really love this topic. Thanks PK.
I want to get a car to ease my movement and promote my business are you saying it will make men avoid me?
Not necessarily. Flashiness makes you want to buy the reigning things, the things in Vogue. Flashiness makes one shallow. Get yourself a car if you NEED one
In your case , car is a necessity!
@@Bissy291 gbam
@@nefertiti7482 Buying a good , durable car is not flashiness. If you can afford it, why not. For the kind of business I run, if you don’t have a notably good car, clients won’t entrust you with their money. I suffered this for years after listening to advice such as don’t buy a car because of man. At the end of the day, no client, no man. The moment I made the switch and got my suv, clients became at ease and the quality of suitors changed from the low self esteemed to those who had meaningful value to add. These things aren’t a one size fits all thing. Live intentionally and hear from God.
Thank you Sir....
How can I get your books on relationships and marriage...
Awwweeeesssooommmeeee...Thanks Pastor K,this was so enlightening 😁
Thank you sir. can i pick some points and write on my fb account?
Yea
Awesome
🤯Every one of these topics are so true💯💯
YET PEOPLE KEEP SAYING LADIES SHOULD BE FLASHY, THEY ASK MEN OUT ... WHAT SHOULD WE TAKE KWANU
Thank you sir 🙌🏻
thank u very much sir
Thank you sir 🙏🙏🙏
Yes sir, you are very correct sir. This are very true and must have been from experience as you have said sir.
Exactly well said
Anticipating!!!!
Great teaching, but ummmm that submissive part. I think religious leaders have interpreted that word wrongly and so a lot of Nigerian men who are misogynistic and chauvinistic by nature have used that word to gas-light and blackmail their female partners. I will never forget Jumoke Adenowo on Kemi Adetiba's "KING WOMEN"- she unpacked that word. Submit is not bullying a woman to silence, it is respecting yourself so she can respect you. So she gave an example, a wife wants to travel somewhere and she asks her husband's permission. A man who respects himself and who knows and acknowledges that this woman can afford to travel on her own money but has chosen to SUBMIT herself by seeking permission will answer her in two ways: 1. Tell her to wait if he wants to travel with her or 2. Grant her request. But most men have bullied their partners so much so that they cannot dare seek permission on anything and if she dares, she is NOT SUBMISSIVE and is trying to throw it in his face that she can afford things. The worst is when such matters are then taken to a religious "leader" and he aligns his "so-called advise" with the insecurities of the man. Please help us unpack that word, too many women have suffered at the hands of wicked men blackmailing them with the word. th-cam.com/video/vG7yo5m_T9s/w-d-xo.html 42:07 seconds
Sir wat if a man is coming around but he is not saying anytin like he love u. But u can see it in is eye Wat will one do
Let him speak for himself,a man knows what he wants.
Tak for example a friend of my said in her place of work a guy is coming around her acting as if they ar lover but he still has nt said anytin, if he loves her or he need a relationship, so one day she told him dat d company will employ workers & he will find his speck so d guy said why is she talking like dat, he then said wat abt sometin btw dem So she ask him stin like wat, dat she didnt understand so d guy said ok since she didnt understand she should leave it like dat. Though they still talk play but he has nt said anytin. Wat will she do incase if sone else is coming, it will nt look as if she broke his heart. So she need advice. Thanks.
PK sir 🔥🔥🔥…. Thanks a lot. This is really educating 🎉
👌💫
Waiting for the men's side.
If the man loves the woman, and the woman respects the man, the marriage will work - Pastor K
Woow