nubian coconut Broke men are looking for women to take care of them in this day and age. Like Derrick Jaxn said in this video, this is the new wave now and it's sad!
nubian coconut - Agreed. Any guy who’s broke should not be hooking up with women because, if they can barely pay bills, what happens when they get a girl pregnant.
BUT ...ONLY IF YOU LET THEM....I CALL ALL THE PATRONIZING.".PANNY TALK"...YOU,,,,YOU LADY....HAVE WHAT HE WANTS,,, ..WOMAN...GIVES HIM WHAT HE WANTS,,,..BE A LADY,,,WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE A LADY,,,ACT LIKE A LADY,,,YOU TREAT YOURSELF WITH RESPECT,,,DON'T LET HIM TALK YOU DOWN,,,AND YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN,,,,CARRY YOURSELF LIKE THE BEAUTIFUL LADY THAT YOU ARE,,,IF HE IS INTERESTED IN YOU..HE WILL SHOW IT,,,AND HE WILL STILL WAIT ,,AND IF HE DOESN'T WANT TO WAIT TILL, YOU KNOW HE WANT MORE THAN A ROLL IN THE SHEETS...BUT HEY,,,IF THATS ALL YOU WANT,,GO FOR IT,,TELL HIM TO COME AFTER DINNER,,AND LEAVE BEFORE BREAKFAST,,,,AT THE RISK OF SOUNDING DIRTY,,,DON'T LET HIM TREAT YOU LIKE A TOILET,,,....
BUT HE'S A MAN TOO. IF YOU ASK ME HE IS PROTECTING WOMEN. HE OBVIOUSLY LOVES HIS MOTHER AND ADORES AND RESPECTS WOMEN, SO LET THEM BE MAD, THEY SHOULDN'T MISTREAT AND ABUSE WOMEN.
Personally my thoughts on that comment. I Agree! To me THIS IS A REAL MAN! If I was his mama, I'd be proud as hell! The thing is, if a man feels like he's "against" men, then chances are, he falls under that category of "not a real man!" Yes, he's helping woman. BUT -I feel like he's helping men more! I'll explain: being real, A LOT of these dudes don't got it together and don't care. Take the advice gentleman, this man speaks truth to help YOU! Your going nowhere FAST! It's not cute! There isn't enough good men out there anymore (Personally at times, I feel like giving up, I'm a good woman and daily deal with losers) Stand out! Being a real man will definetly get you a good woman! Listen to this man...he's helping you!!!!!!!! If you CAN'T comprehend, then you'll remain a loser! That shit ain't cute, especially when all your boys are married/families, and you sittin on the sideline (secretly) wishing you had the same. Times valuable, don't waste it! AND stop wasting our time too!
Th3lite yeeees!🎁🙌🙌🙏!But these r things we already saw😶..n knew...we m@y not have known how to articulate with certainty# round of applause to us who dont care how others feel..at the end of the day we have to protect our livelihood🐣coming outta our shells
They are not only looking for help, but looking for a second mom. Nothing but a user. But a lot of females allow it. Insecure men attract insecure women.
Nesha Britwood I'm not an insecure person , but I fell for a guy like that 2 yrs ago until I found out who he really is. We all make mistakes. Some people learn some don't . God is great.
Hey stop shaming some of us who didn’t get a very good start in life. I’m in school right now thus I’m broke. Currently looking for a lady to build with, preferably one with a stable job and nice apartment :)
You not lying, a second mom that they can sleep with. They want to move in with women and expect the woman to cook for them and clean up after them without them paying any bills. They expect all of that and sex while they have nothing to offer but dick🤣
Tamara Garrett, a least you wised up and walk away. You're smarter and stronger now and no other guy can pull that on you again. You'll see them coming from a mile away. Congratulations !
This is so accurate! Unfortunately I fell into this trap... in my 20’s and now I see it coming a mile away. Ladies, if you got your ish together only mess with men who is on the same level!
Yes ma'am just recently disposed of a fuck boy that is no where near where I am at in my life ...and I thought I was being to judgemental not wanting to talk to someone that didn't have the same as me or more .....but I wasn't
SuperPhdiva I ain't stopped living...lol. I'm just annoyed. Years wasted. I'm waiting on him to make his move... so I can do what I already know I should be
HoneyBLuvly. Yes. It's disgusting how SORRY (and alright with being SORRY), and PUNKISH these men(?) of today are. Just had a conversation with a co-worker earlier today who asked me if I would get married ago. I told her 'no', she said I just haven't met the "right " person yet. I had to tell her ---I'M HAPPY and steadily GROWING! To EVERY female out there, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF RIGHT NOW! In doing such, YOU will build YOURSELF UP, so STRONG, a that YOU will not be WEAK and take BS from these(sad) a*** men(?) . GOOD LUCK LADIES. Take care HoneyBLuvly.
SECOND CHANCE!!! thanks love. I am definitely on that. I am working on a masters PhD program right now. I am enjoying myself and my space. just got my driver's license and planning trips. I am excited for my life without relationship bs.
SuperPhDiva. Keep thriving girl. Because when YOU know YOU have something good (in every area) to offer, YOU WILL NOT tolerate a low life man . Traveling is what's up-seeing the WORLD is one of the biggest blessings we participate in.
My ex husband just came back to me after not seeing me for years and asked me for Help!! No child support no NOTHING from him, I slam the door in his face!!
The problem is the wrong mothers being blamed. Its their mothers that are dropping the ball. And then they think we are supposed to be their mothers and raise them. I don't think so!!!!
Maquillame Lily every man wants a woman and ever woman wants a man. Ik those lonely nights in between different guys gets old. No man should be alone, everyone needs someone
Women please watch out for these kind of guys. This sounds just like my ex narcissist bf. He goes around acting that he's a baller but in reality he's been sleeping on other people's couches for years and acts like their a helpless child. These guys get so angry and play the guilt card when you say "no"😒! Be careful just know these guys have other supply to fulfill their childish needs. Please I want everyone to look up narcissistic personality disorder. It might help someone out 🙏🏾😊
Sahara AP the guy was with he would blow up and get angry and he threw a temper tantrum and and yell and curse like a b**** if I said no to him so at one point I became afraid of telling him no but then I felt like s*** inside
I found out the hard way that my ex husband was a narcissist after investing 6 years and going thru hell with him. This is real this is serious stuff I wish I had known about that before!
I felt like I was his mother because I was constantly cleaning up after him and did everything for him. My boys are 27 & 31, he's 50 and they are more responsible than he is. He did the same thing to me - blew up at me, get angry, call me a C... and F...... B...., turn everything around on me and belittled me all the time. I was afraid to say anything to him because I feared he would get angry. I suffer from severe depression so things like this would send me into my bedroom sleeping for days. He is TOXIC and I finally got the strength to be who I need to be and be a strong woman and kick him out. I've tried several times in the past but he just won't leave but this my friend suggested that I call the cops and UBER and have him picked up. LOL
Sahara AP I’ve always wondered how can you tell the difference between a narcissist and someone who really needs help,but using manipulation to get you to help them..I guess the only way you can determine the difference is to wait to see how they will respond if you refuse to give them help and tell them NO..
I'm now married to a wonderful man who made it possible for me to go back to school,I pay absolutely nothing besides attention to my children and schooling!
my entire perspective has changed since following these videos. I just ended a relationship with a guy who accused me of not being down because I think he should have his own apartment at 35. I'm sorry but ladies we can't allow men to guilt us about the life we have built because we are not willing to share our resources with them.
Shaunda C I agree and I also think there's been a shift in the fact that women are more equipped and settled by a certain point in their life so guys don't have to put in work to build themselves when they can walk into a situation that's fully set and just sit and scratch their ass smdh. I truly respect men who know what they want in life not just in a woman too many are seeking perfection and cancel out their own flaws. And it's even sadder the men I see around me in their 40's and 50's are falling apart they had so much in their 20's and have nothing now to show for it and so their kids see them at this low point and have no respect for them.
I've met a few like this lately! After being married for 22 yrs and newly single, I hope this isn't all that's out there! When guys find out I'm not running a bed and breakfast they're gone! 😂 I'm enjoying my peace and reclaiming my time!
Paula Garrison same here. Married 15. Newly single and I gotta tell you, there are some trifling "men" out here. I'm not swapping my new found peace of mind for a pair of pants. 🙅🏽 They can kick rocks! LOL!
I divorced THIS GUY and guess who I ran into next...... You guessed it, another version but THIS time (Thanks to your videos) I peeped game and bounced him. I already have CHILDREN, don't need another one.
You live and you learn! We really need a community that strengthens us, and creates success in the form of working on ourselves. Especially after dealing with people like that. That drain your energy, confidence, and self worth. If we all keep the same mindset of not dealing with this nonsense, they'll have no choice but to get their life together.
And the Guys in Treatment for Drugs or Alcohol, In the rooms of Narcotics, Alcoholics Anonymous are the same way. Try too live of off the Women in the rooms, When I first got clean, I had too fight them off with a Stick. Through the Grace of Yah Elohim and Yahweh Ben Yahweh, I pick up 6 years clean from both Drugs and Alcohol 12/06/12. They are posted looking for Help or a place too stay and ruin your life, I've seen it time and time again.
Okkkk! I had a neigbor like this tried to holler at me i told him all i have is friendship to offer once i found out his situation... I told him i couldnt take him seriously if he wasnt stable financially 1st.. Thing.. He claimed he was...
Yesss......the worst and most worthless piece of shit man seems to put effort into hunting for good women that they can use. Nowadays it is a very sad but true phenomena!
Have been one of the target.. Can't believe he just used me out.. Omg very hard to believe. I still truly love him Just gave and gave him always.. Every now and then
@Robin D. Thanks Robin.. I tried to leave him but now he is not leaving me calls me from all different phone numbers n ol.. Should it be okay if i leave him abruptly.. It had been one and a half yr relationship and i have spent about 80000 giving him.. Pls tell me
Honey had to shut it down today. Talking about we should be together cause our money would be better together I said boy my money good all by itself. Had to laugh he was telling me all the things he going through and been through felt bad for him told him to pray and God will make a way but my house ain't the way.
+Paul Sambula sadly they are not all thugs.Some are well dressed,nice speaking momma's boys whose mom is in it with them since she is tired of being his sponsor to life.So the mom will be his bank as he' spoils" the new potential.My ex and his mom to be exact. The new victim.is of course of 40 , but he has the game down sooooooo good only ME with experience would ever see someone like him coming. He hates me since not only am I married I see right through him and let it be known on any occasion. It's a fatherless boy cycle and doesn't have a race or background destination attached.
Mandy Pandy yess and the guy i was dealing with was very handsome, the relationship was new the more i messed with him the more i found out how he was,about the third encounter he kept asking me to bring him food and asking for 10$everytime i saw him and i notice my attraction for him started to disappear, I learned i was attracted to the fact i didn't know anything about him the mystery had me until i got to know him,i found out he was a lier,he didn't live by himself like he said he lived with his parents 35 years old still at home, I went by one day his dad answered the door my attraction disappeared like a magic trick,had been going to his house for months didn't see no parents,it's sad when a man is super handsome and like this sad
This is my situation right now... and the crazy part is I never asked him to live with me..i just looked around one day and he was completely moved in...don't become trapped ladies, when u see a dude with nothing to offer, RUN... you're not being a gold digger, you're being smart...Don't find yourself home alone, with a bunch of kids, paying all the bills, while getting cheated on the whole time...Women are saints, the shit we have to deal with smh
You are so right.. I'm 59 yrs young.. That's why I stop dating.. Men will make you homeless.. Nobody drives my car.. I live alone.. And it will stay that way.. I like you.. Thanks for sharing.. First time watching your videos.. I will subscribe..
I dated a guy for 5 weeks last year who was just like this. His whole life was a sob story and none of it was his fault . Tried to guilt trip me into doing things for him (from giving him money, to marrying him, and watching my kids. I don't even let certain family members around my kids). Final straw came when he was about to get put out by his cousin and he asked to stay with me "for a few days". I actually talked to my daughters' father about the situation. He told me something that his mother told him: Never set yourself on fire to keep somebody else warm.
My great grand mother told me when ever a man or woman start giving you a sob story how broke they are. Turn it around and start saying how broke you are and how you need help. Keep doing it.. it works..
Vania Thomas He may have a point so long as his “worst” is a season and he’s doing his best to get his life right but if he’s comfortable and is taking it easy, that’s something else..
I've definitely come across dudes like that. They think because you have your ish together and have your own everything you're about to become their sponsor. "You better call Tyrone...call em!"
Don't walk, RUN, post haste in the opposite direction. But please be careful how you tell these fellas 'no', because your life is precious and some of these dudes are mental! I said some😐 Key words: feels comfortable. (asking you for things he should be handling himself) Ladies you know when something ain't right. Don't be guilt tripped into anything! Not having a man is better than this alternative! #rantover
Whew chile!!!! I wish I had heard this 5 years ago. I'm running to divorce court!! The worst part is that I allowed it for so long. To anyone else in this situation, let them beg until their tongues go numb but don't look back once you get the courage to let it go.
You read my mind. Men should not depend on a woman to take care of them.Sometimes I wonder if their mamas raised them to be dependent on women??? It's just sad that there are men out there who behave this way and don't know how to be a real man.
corey L yes Mrs Corey this makes me always analyze their relationship with their mother if he is to much into his mama,and he always getting money from his mama run,if he has problems with his mama run it bad on both parts
I started talking to this dude who said he had his own place, had a job that he loved, etc. Within the first week, he started telling me how he was short on his rent and his mom wouldn't lend him the money. The fact that his own mom wouldn't help him out was a HUGE red flag. Then he said that he lost his job and still didn't have his rent and kept dropping hints because he knew that I make a lot more money than he does. Then he asked me to be his girlfriend and said "I'll love you as long as you love me"!!! I didn't even bring up "love" because at this point, we were only talking for about two weeks. I'm not stupid so I just cut him off. I stopped answering his calls and texts. I knew what he was about so I didn't even feel like he deserved an explanation.
you hit it on the nail. Some men are switching their role as being a provider. Thank you for giving women ensight so they will not be blind to what is going on.
Could also be due to society becoming more feministic and gender roles being seen as useless. Not to make an excuses for the lazy men out there though but you can understand why some men are using this equality thing to benefit themself.
It’s a major turn off when you’re talking to a guy and here he comes trying to put his issues on u.. like brahhhh I got my own shit to deal with.. we aren’t together and my problems is my problem
Its so crazy that i came across this video today, I'm dealing with a guy like this right now, and i feel so played after watching this, i thought was just helping out, it went from can you help with my phone bill, to can you pay for my daughter recital, too something bigger like can you pay for me to move in a new place, just found he stayed with some girl after we been talking for almost a year and truth be told he dont add any value to my life at all, I am cutting all ties with him today!!!!!
Girl it was a nigga I came across like that and it all started with him losing his job first, then his car got towed, then he didn't have money for his rent..... So me being the nice mf that I am i gave him a few dollars cause I felt bad for him..(wasn't much but something)....so then he started asking for more talking about can i borrow 500.00 I told that nigga hell nahhh..... And brought up his job and he got mad...... Had to end that quick..... Next time I won't be that nice to mf's.... I don't give a f'k if we're friends or mf's I'm just talking to.. Won't happen anymore......I heard if a mf ever wants to borrow money or something get something of higher value that they OWN sorta like "COLLATERAL" then do a trade but never ever do shit just cause.... Cause Mf's tend to abuse that shit and have you looking dumb in the end.... KARMA will get that ASS tho so I ain't worried about nothing....😏👏🏽
markiya garner If he got collateral to trade with you, he needs to take his ass to the pawn shop and make things happen first. If he aint your husband, don't loan him a gotdamn thing. This fool asked to borrow money from me and he had absolutely no means of paying me back. I work from home so after I told him "Fuck no!" I explained to him that while I'm working, I watch plenty of court shows all day. The shows are made up of women suing men for loaning them money. I'm not participating in any of it. Let him sell his shit.... or call his mother.
Just to give you guys an update, I don't deal with him anymore, block his number, and made sure he can't contact me again. These past few days have been amazing, so I'm just going to focus on me for a while....
Temeka Nelson aslong as we learn from our mistakes no nigga ever gone try to run that game ever again.. cause we will be up on game before they even try to run it💯💯 real talk!!
There are too many me too's in these comments. :( at one point I was really mad at all of these men's parents who didn't raise them to be independent self- functioning adults. It's sad. But there really are too many of us that can relate to bums, narcissist and homeless fuckboys. We definitely need to start raising our standards. This is kind of depressing.
Can't really blame the parents because when kids get to a certain age they are their own person and they have a lot outside influences that can make them go astray from their parents teaching of being responsible for their own actions and being a responsible adult.
Taryn Great Put the blame where it lies, on those men doing this foolishness. How are you going to blame a woman for what a grown ass man is doing? Some women are just naive. These men are taking advantage of that.
Most men aren't going to say the things that this man is saying in this video, but he is absolutely correct about everything!!! Ladies please know that nowadays a man is not looking for love... he is looking for HELP! God bless!
My brother does it to every women he meet cause the fam won't let him crash no more and I can't for the life of me understand why for 20 years he's been getting away with it. He jumps from women to women, sometimes leaving innocent babies behind. Smh! Ladies just stop it!
My cousin’s baby daddy is just like that. Been jumping from woman’s house to house for years leaving children at each house he lives at. 🤢 He’s quick to say he’s a real man and father. How when you always living off of a female who’s living off government funded housing by the way 🤣
And lets not forget the men who know your heart is kind and giving and they start sharing sh*t they need without asking you in the form of a question because they know you'll offer to help. #guardYourHeart!
I just lived this. After two years of helping him through no license, probation, etc. He ups and leaves, making it official with someone else that very same day. Lesson learned!!!
1. IT HAPPENED TO ME! 2. I SHUT HIM DOWN 3. HE GOT MAD. 4. I LEFT TOWN FOR 45 DAYS (to keep my Son's from getting involved) 5. CAME HOME AND NEVER COMMUNICATED WITH HIM AGAIN, PERIOD! GET OUTTA HERE, USER!😔
Yes ..there are a lot of lonely women and most of the time their loneliness actually causes them to become weak and user ..no good men has a radar for weak women ...like sharks seeking prey in the water....men can sniff them out
Yep I am one of them.... Its time to say goodbye... It's gonna hurt. I need to get some self ESTEEM... To think i disliked that word once apon a time. The evidence shows i have to start loving me like really Loving mE
I DON'T KNOW WHO YOU ARE BUT I'M GOING TO CALL YOU MY BIG BROTHER AND THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR LOOKING OUT FOR THE SISTERS. I HATE I MISSED OUT ON YOU YEARS AGO BUT BETTER LATE THAN NEVER. THANK YOU MR MAN OF THE HOUSE. LOVE JANICE.
That's why I love the block and delete feature on my phone...I had a similar experience...red flag....he ask if I lived alone...I'm grown...of course....then he was trying to create a scenario to come over...he wanted to show me how to cook a traditional dish....i said video it. After his sob story about he just lost his job....must have been the same day cause I ran into him twice at his job (my car dealership) the he starts telling me how handy he is a jack of all trades...every conversation he wanted to try and come over my house...I told him I know ppl for over 10 years and they have never been to my house so why do feel privy...block and delete
Dziko Muah So he was a "jack-of-all-trades" and probably a master of none! Furthermore, if he always wanted to come to your house, he most likely didn't have a place of his own...smh
I just went through this but the guy found another desperate chic to take him in. A 38 old man with no kids, told me I wasn't there to support him. We had a good relationship but he was always trying to move in. He really wanted financial support. I don’t take care of men!! My lesson to myself: A man has to have equal or more than I do to date me. Drop the mic......
Man without assets doesn't know how to take care of them. Man who does not invest has no respect for what he gets. He'd make you his bf and his gf. You'd start cleaning way more often,because men are not orderly as women. You'd start cooking different food and more if it, because their dietary needs are different than ours. You'd start dieting or get ohysically ruined by him. With the mindset he has,you'd become his sister and his mother,I mean emotionally as well. He's looking for family help, not to be a provider and create his own family, at least not using his own means by creating one.
Never let a man move in. I don't even let a man hang out at my house. I always go to his place. It's would be too exhausting to entertain him in my home. Going to his place also lets me know if he's having another woman over. If he is seeing another woman, he will slip up eventually and I will find out.
My husband. He was the best father, provider, and friend.. since his death 4yrs ago. I just can't bring myself to date any one.. they don't make em like him anymore.. I'll focus on me once my youngest is out the house.. I love myself to much to waste time or play games.. Love ur videos
Sorry for your lost. People will never truly understand what you are experiencing. No one truly knows. And you having to compare men to a person that may have been your soul mate or who you were meant to be with at that time. Will never measure up to what you had. Until a higher power sends someone designated and designed for you.
missy1e23 and i was guilty of thinking that at one point. But those types of sayings are part of why men today arent men anymore, they know if one women tries to change them, they can dip out and find an insecure one that will let him walk all over her.
This was 100% on point. I bought this guy something to eat on purpose to see where he was at. He took the bait! I couldn't find where he lived. The dumbest move was he complained about his credit. He had 2 caes and was living with his brother. He got another loan, not for a place to live but for a 3rd car! Baby I was done. I left him alone before he even had the chance to ask could he stay with me or 4 a favor!😂😂😂😂
Well my bible says lol... They are the kind who work their way into people's homes and win the confidence of vulnerable women who are burdened with the guilt of sin and controlled by various desires. 2timothy that word the truth!
It sounds like she just dodged a Narcissist. Good for you girl! You're smart. I just got out of a three year relationship that started out just like this. I wish that I was following Jaxn back then, so that I could recognize game.
Chavas Noelle me too, narcissist are the worst! it's all about what you can do for them. sadly I have three children for one. very good manipulators they are. I wish I was following him around the time I met him.
Chavas Noelle this helps me because I recently got out of a relationship with a guy like this. I thought if I stayed true then it would be one of those stories where a man will value the one who stood by him but... I slowly learned he didn't want to build with me, he just wanted my help building him! It's painful... but you live and you learn.... he is very charming but I guess that's why he used to be a pimp... I shouldn't have trusted him but I did. Wish I had Derrick back when we met last year! I was 26, 2 degrees, and a year into my career.... he would tell me he don't deserve me but I guess that was apart of the manipulation.... now I'm dating a nice guy and wonder why I'm easily turned off by them??? I am trying my hardest
@@GiselleLeger Because its a sign that will not do for themselves. Now if he's their to help her that's different. But, if he's their mooching and not helping with anything as man. How can he be a husband to you.
@@sadepayne my boyfriend(33) (I'm 26) of 2 years moved back in with his parents after 8 years university-no degree. He helps around the house in ways(but his mom is controlling&hoarder) but is not paying rent because he's trying to pay off student loan debt. He wants us to "shack up" but my gut/intuition refuses until he can stand on his own 2 feet. But after 2 years...? How much longer until I get the Real commitment I want?:(
@@audrymoore7757 of course not, but why would he want to marry me anyways? I want to break up with him, and what sucks is that he'll ONLY change if I leave him?!? Like, wtf?
Had a boyfriend for two years that I spent thousands of dollars on, and he never even took me out for a nice dinner, not even one time. And he ended up cheating on me on top of everything else. I was 19 when we got together. Young, naive, and love struck..
We learn from lessons . Never ever entertain men who are using you for what they can get out of you. It's not a balanced relationship. Couples build together . Not take from another person and you get nothing in return. Avoid parasites and leeches.
You’re never supposed to take care of a man unless he has first taken care of you! Never do something like that unless you know for sure he would do the same for you.
I'm literally going through this right now. I had to go no-contact with this guy. He tried to suck me dry emotionally and financially. I ended up in the hospital for exhaustion and an anxiety fit.
Users hate on you when you don't let them use you for their convenience. It's better to have them be left all mad at you. Than you kicking yourself cuz you let them fool you and they got their way.
I’m kicking one out right now as we speak always,blaming everyone for his financial problems 33 years old and still can’t get his stuff together making up excuses to not work .I changed the locks and he is irate I don’t care it’s funny how I’m everything in the book now I’m kicking him out telling me I’m leaving him homeless not my problem living in his car will be his new home.i am staying alone for the rest of my life I’m done dating relationships is not for me too much headache.
Exactly ain't happy single but same sure ain't happy in a relationship they take a vulnerable situation and see opportunity and from there creep in lol
You go girl. If you decide to ever date and want a strong , educated, and smart man who will appreciate your good deeds then give me a buzz. Am worth it!! name Ty 646-712-1806
I dealt with someone exactly like this for too long cuz I have a good heart. He still tries to contact me but I don’t give him my time. It’s much too valuable to waste.
any dude that's broke shouldn't be dating period.
6400 boc Thank You!!!!!
6400 boc
Facts🙌
6400 boc HELLO that's the damn truth
Seriously, I would be to scared even think about dating
6400 boc EXACTLY!
"A man ain't got no business asking a woman for money!" ~ Dad (1930 - 1990)
Sheila Witherspoon yep
Sheila Witherspoon 👏👏👏👏for..."DAD"'s....WISDOM!🙏🙏🙏
AND mind you he said a....
"MAN"! 👍👍....😊🙏
precisely I just experienced this a few days ago from an acquaintance off FB. I politely declined 😀
Yes mamm!
that goes visa versa too I hope you know that.
Hobosexual, a man who gets into a relationship to avoid being homeless.
Raquel Jasper a what???????? Girl I had to read that comment over and over again!! Yesssssss!!! That's my new word! Hobosexual!! 😂😂😂
Raquel Jasper #hobosexual!!!😂😂😂
Raquel Jasper the word of the day is Hobosexual...girl...I'm done! lol!
I like it, perfect word to describe them
Raquel Jasper LMAO, I love it!!!!😂😂😂
A real man never takes anything from a woman!
Well it’s not bad to take in love but it’s bad to use someone just to take something and then leave them
When a guy asks you to do something go halfsy or use your car for it . Huge red flag he is a user.
@@asgharakram What if he support her and every, his car just broke
they are not looking for help, they are looking for permanent sponsorship. meanwhile Her life is falling all apart.
Charnelle Ford exactly 👏👏
Charnelle Ford Yes sister you telling the whole truth 👏👏👏👏👏
HoneyBLuvly 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
Charnelle Ford 👍👍👍😂👌
Charnelle Ford this was me 3 years ago
I believe a real man would never ask a woman anything.
Why do people put pictures of babies on their comments.
Nicole Bailey I love her
Your King shouldnt have to ask his Queen. His queen know when to step in. For what action jackson is speaking of is Facts those are str8 clowns😳
I believe that too
HA!!!
Any man that's broke shouldn't be worried about looking for women he should be looking to get his life together
nubian coconut Broke men are looking for women to take care of them in this day and age. Like Derrick Jaxn said in this video, this is the new wave now and it's sad!
Looking for a come up.not a girl
Amen
nubian coconut - Agreed. Any guy who’s broke should not be hooking up with women because, if they can barely pay bills, what happens when they get a girl pregnant.
Amen
Unfortunately i felt for this 3 years ago. Ladies NEVER date a man that is below your level. Has soon as they get a come up they dispose you.
ReaLlllll
never ever. he just gonna use u for a come up.
True...I learnt it through experience
FO REAL
Amen! Been there too xx
Being a woman is exhausting. Male friends, love interests, colleagues, often trying to get something from you.
I think that goes for everyone. I can imagine it being more tough for women tho.
Absolutely
BUT ...ONLY IF YOU LET THEM....I CALL ALL THE PATRONIZING.".PANNY TALK"...YOU,,,,YOU LADY....HAVE WHAT HE WANTS,,, ..WOMAN...GIVES HIM WHAT HE WANTS,,,..BE A LADY,,,WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE A LADY,,,ACT LIKE A LADY,,,YOU TREAT YOURSELF WITH RESPECT,,,DON'T LET HIM TALK YOU DOWN,,,AND YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN,,,,CARRY YOURSELF LIKE THE BEAUTIFUL LADY THAT YOU ARE,,,IF HE IS INTERESTED IN YOU..HE WILL SHOW IT,,,AND HE WILL STILL WAIT ,,AND IF HE DOESN'T WANT TO WAIT TILL, YOU KNOW HE WANT MORE THAN A ROLL IN THE SHEETS...BUT HEY,,,IF THATS ALL YOU WANT,,GO FOR IT,,TELL HIM TO COME AFTER DINNER,,AND LEAVE BEFORE BREAKFAST,,,,AT THE RISK OF SOUNDING DIRTY,,,DON'T LET HIM TREAT YOU LIKE A TOILET,,,....
@@ronnieevers5115 please go lay down in a park somewhere!
You are making it exhausting! KNOW YOU, KNOW YOUR WORTH, SHUT IT DOWN FROM THE THE GATES. RESPECT YOURSELF! YOU ARE WOMAN..
It's crazy how far a man will go to ruin you if you let him.
RIGHT ?!!??!.. I LIVED IT. 😐
Kea Bird Preach!!!!!
They'll go all the way in if you let them.
Don't settle or allow that in your life
Relatable! Learn that the hard way.
I understand why some men don't like you. it's because you're exposing them.
Th3lite Ha! Oh well, as he should. 😂
Th3lite was thinking the same thing while watching the video
BUT HE'S A MAN TOO. IF YOU ASK ME HE IS PROTECTING WOMEN. HE OBVIOUSLY LOVES HIS MOTHER AND ADORES AND RESPECTS WOMEN, SO LET THEM BE MAD, THEY SHOULDN'T MISTREAT AND ABUSE WOMEN.
Personally my thoughts on that comment. I Agree! To me THIS IS A REAL MAN! If I was his mama, I'd be proud as hell! The thing is, if a man feels like he's "against" men, then chances are, he falls under that category of "not a real man!"
Yes, he's helping woman. BUT -I feel like he's helping men more! I'll explain: being real, A LOT of these dudes don't got it together and don't care. Take the advice gentleman, this man speaks truth to help YOU! Your going nowhere FAST! It's not cute! There isn't enough good men out there anymore (Personally at times, I feel like giving up, I'm a good woman and daily deal with losers) Stand out! Being a real man will definetly get you a good woman! Listen to this man...he's helping you!!!!!!!!
If you CAN'T comprehend, then you'll remain a loser! That shit ain't cute, especially when all your boys are married/families, and you sittin on the sideline (secretly) wishing you had the same. Times valuable, don't waste it! AND stop wasting our time too!
Th3lite yeeees!🎁🙌🙌🙏!But these r things we already saw😶..n knew...we m@y not have known how to articulate with certainty# round of applause to us who dont care how others feel..at the end of the day we have to protect our livelihood🐣coming outta our shells
If u wanna know how a man really feels about u, just make him mad enough & he will definitely tell u how he feels about u 💯
They are not only looking for help, but looking for a second mom. Nothing but a user. But a lot of females allow it. Insecure men attract insecure women.
Nesha Britwood I'm not an insecure person , but I fell for a guy like that 2 yrs ago until I found out who he really is. We all make mistakes. Some people learn some don't . God is great.
Hey stop shaming some of us who didn’t get a very good start in life. I’m in school right now thus I’m broke. Currently looking for a lady to build with, preferably one with a stable job and nice apartment :)
You not lying, a second mom that they can sleep with. They want to move in with women and expect the woman to cook for them and clean up after them without them paying any bills. They expect all of that and sex while they have nothing to offer but dick🤣
You're kind of harsh at the end there. I guess you never had issues in your relationships. Then again, you're here, so...
@@bxndo5ive facts
News flash ladies: some of them will goes as far as to marry you just to get a nice place to stay! I’ve seen it done! 😒
Jen Owens , that's very true. I've seen it too.
I'm sorry to say that is a situation I just got out of. Life lesson learned.
Tamara Garrett, a least you wised up and walk away. You're smarter and stronger now and no other guy can pull that on you again. You'll see them coming from a mile away. Congratulations !
or try and get you pregnant, LOL!!!
Jen Owens word up 💯
This is so accurate! Unfortunately I fell into this trap... in my 20’s and now I see it coming a mile away. Ladies, if you got your ish together only mess with men who is on the same level!
Yes!!!!
Yes ma'am just recently disposed of a fuck boy that is no where near where I am at in my life ...and I thought I was being to judgemental not wanting to talk to someone that didn't have the same as me or more .....but I wasn't
Oh Yes, Amen.
SO TRUE !!!
I've fallen for it too.. I really appreciate this wise brother sharing his wisdom with us!!
I had a man try to do this to me. I refuse to be a man's boyfriend.....smh
Me too. Driving a camaro but water getting shut off.
Same, I flipped the script and he flipped the bitch switch.
@@sophiem7734 They always curse us out when we stand firm on NOT accepting their BS, no skills, lies, stupidity.
@@amymorale1379 Yep, some of us don't want be sister wives. No man is worth fighting over, especially when he belongs to the streets.
I'm eating Mac and cheese and chicken. I almost choked.
if this ain't God giving me a sign, smh
Ashley Emeaña you better take that sign
SuperPhdiva it really makes me sad, smh...But I've always been blessed and taken care of by the Higher Powers...I am heeding this sign.
Ashley Emeaña I know it is hard. believe you me I've been there. but you have to live this life for you.
SuperPhdiva I ain't stopped living...lol. I'm just annoyed. Years wasted. I'm waiting on him to make his move... so I can do what I already know I should be
Ashley Emeaña yes
when a man is in dire straights the last thing he should be doing is looking for a woman
SupeerPhDiva. Agreed! He needs to "get himself right" FIRST!!!
HoneyBLuvly. Yes. It's disgusting how SORRY (and alright with being SORRY), and PUNKISH these men(?) of today are. Just had a conversation with a co-worker earlier today who asked me if I would get married ago. I told her 'no', she said I just haven't met the "right " person yet. I had to tell her ---I'M HAPPY and steadily GROWING! To EVERY female out there, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF RIGHT NOW! In doing such, YOU will build YOURSELF UP, so STRONG, a that YOU will not be WEAK and take BS from these(sad) a*** men(?) . GOOD LUCK LADIES. Take care HoneyBLuvly.
SECOND CHANCE!!! thanks love. I am definitely on that. I am working on a masters PhD program right now. I am enjoying myself and my space. just got my driver's license and planning trips. I am excited for my life without relationship bs.
SECOND CHANCE!!! yup. no buts
SuperPhDiva. Keep thriving girl. Because when YOU know YOU have something good (in every area) to offer, YOU WILL NOT tolerate a low life man . Traveling is what's up-seeing the WORLD is one of the biggest blessings we participate in.
My ex husband just came back to me after not seeing me for years and asked me for Help!! No child support no NOTHING from him, I slam the door in his face!!
Well done, well proud of you. Hope your happy in your life smile and thrive, bless you. Wishing you all the best for the future.
Wow. What a disgrace to the human race.
neeka Love you ...u should have kicked him in his butt too.
Next time talk to the the peep hole
@@Spacepuddin 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lots of men dont know their role as a man
Oh they know it's desperate women that don't know.Why blame mothers for another woman's stupidity.
The problem is the wrong mothers being blamed. Its their mothers that are dropping the ball. And then they think we are supposed to be their mothers and raise them. I don't think so!!!!
This goes for friendships as well! Complete users!
I want to be with a man that doesn't need me at all and I don't need him either, we are together because we want to be there
Maquillame Lily every man wants a woman and ever woman wants a man. Ik those lonely nights in between different guys gets old. No man should be alone, everyone needs someone
These men first try to drain you emotionally and physically before they hit up your pocket. That's the first sign. Resist and desist.
Chocolate Divine yes
Got rid of my ex-husband who did that. Living my best life now! 😀
Lisa Jamison me too gesh!!!
Me Too ..Lawd I Was In Misery...Now I'm So Happy
Girl me too! Living my best life
Same here after 20 years of marriage
Me too girl!!!
This why I stay single. A man or so call man rather use and abuse a woman than to love her down and cherish her abilities
*PERIOD* 😔
Trust I don't blame is best to be single than to be in a wrong relationship.
Those are not men. They’re old a** boys!!!💁🏽♀️💚
True
FACTS shi* is frustrating especially when you want kids!!!
Women please watch out for these kind of guys. This sounds just like my ex narcissist bf. He goes around acting that he's a baller but in reality he's been sleeping on other people's couches for years and acts like their a helpless child. These guys get so angry and play the guilt card when you say "no"😒! Be careful just know these guys have other supply to fulfill their childish needs. Please I want everyone to look up narcissistic personality disorder. It might help someone out 🙏🏾😊
Sahara AP the guy was with he would blow up and get angry and he threw a temper tantrum and and yell and curse like a b**** if I said no to him so at one point I became afraid of telling him no but then I felt like s*** inside
I found out the hard way that my ex husband was a narcissist after investing 6 years and going thru hell with him. This is real this is serious stuff I wish I had known about that before!
I felt like I was his mother because I was constantly cleaning up after him and did everything for him. My boys are 27 & 31, he's 50 and they are more responsible than he is. He did the same thing to me - blew up at me, get angry, call me a C... and F...... B...., turn everything around on me and belittled me all the time. I was afraid to say anything to him because I feared he would get angry. I suffer from severe depression so things like this would send me into my bedroom sleeping for days. He is TOXIC and I finally got the strength to be who I need to be and be a strong woman and kick him out. I've tried several times in the past but he just won't leave but this my friend suggested that I call the cops and UBER and have him picked up. LOL
Sahara AP I’ve always wondered how can you tell the difference between a narcissist and someone who really needs help,but using manipulation to get you to help them..I guess the only way you can determine the difference is to wait to see how they will respond if you refuse to give them help and tell them NO..
Sahara AP. YES!!! If you are not very, very strong and can see this, they will destroy you. On purpose!!!!
I'm now married to a wonderful man who made it possible for me to go back to school,I pay absolutely nothing besides attention to my children and schooling!
Sharon Pointer congrats!!!
AtlantaITGirl Thanks Boo
Stoney B
Blessed! 💯
"What a man, what a man, what a man, what a mighty good man!" Praise GOD you got your King!!
This is deep!!!
He doesn't want me he wants my help.😔
Sad but true
my entire perspective has changed since following these videos. I just ended a relationship with a guy who accused me of not being down because I think he should have his own apartment at 35. I'm sorry but ladies we can't allow men to guilt us about the life we have built because we are not willing to share our resources with them.
Shaunda C I agree and I also think there's been a shift in the fact that women are more equipped and settled by a certain point in their life so guys don't have to put in work to build themselves when they can walk into a situation that's fully set and just sit and scratch their ass smdh. I truly respect men who know what they want in life not just in a woman too many are seeking perfection and cancel out their own flaws. And it's even sadder the men I see around me in their 40's and 50's are falling apart they had so much in their 20's and have nothing now to show for it and so their kids see them at this low point and have no respect for them.
Shaunda C A-MEN!!!
Shaunda C It's not like i have alot. But apparently, i had just enough for him.
Shaunda C They like playing on our Hearts. We are too good & caring to allow anyone to take advantage of us. Forget that!!
PFPSocialMedia Right, right...
I've met a few like this lately! After being married for 22 yrs and newly single, I hope this isn't all that's out there! When guys find out I'm not running a bed and breakfast they're gone! 😂 I'm enjoying my peace and reclaiming my time!
Paula Garrison same here. Married 15. Newly single and I gotta tell you, there are some trifling "men" out here.
I'm not swapping my new found peace of mind for a pair of pants. 🙅🏽
They can kick rocks! LOL!
It's not even worth getting a piece these days.....double AAs on deck 😂😂
Paula Garrison hi lady..my situation sounds very similar
Paula Garrison me too lol
Paula Garrison f
Translation: He wants a mother and your bank account.
DeeLishish0991. You summed it all up!!
I once had a guy to start out telling me his financial hardships. I shut that down quick.
😂
😂👌🏽
As you should💪🏽
I divorced THIS GUY and guess who I ran into next...... You guessed it, another version but THIS time (Thanks to your videos) I peeped game and bounced him. I already have CHILDREN, don't need another one.
StartingOver2017 Good For You!!
StartingOver2017
You live and you learn! We really need a community that strengthens us, and creates success in the form of working on ourselves. Especially after dealing with people like that. That drain your energy, confidence, and self worth. If we all keep the same mindset of not dealing with this nonsense, they'll have no choice but to get their life together.
Yes! Guys in jail and prison are notorious for this.
TheBlessedDriver can v%kiuuqeaataeeee😃😃💋🐩🐩🐩🐩🐩🐩🐩🐱👕🐱🐱
TheBlessedDriver And foreigners from third world countries
And the Guys in Treatment for Drugs or Alcohol, In the rooms of Narcotics, Alcoholics Anonymous are the same way. Try too live of off the Women in the rooms, When I first got clean, I had too fight them off with a Stick. Through the Grace of Yah Elohim and Yahweh Ben Yahweh, I pick up 6 years clean from both Drugs and Alcohol 12/06/12. They are posted looking for Help or a place too stay and ruin your life, I've seen it time and time again.
TheBlessedDriver Yes! They are!! Been down that Road! I will tell every young lady to run!!!
Okkkk! I had a neigbor like this tried to holler at me i told him all i have is friendship to offer once i found out his situation... I told him i couldnt take him seriously if he wasnt stable financially 1st.. Thing.. He claimed he was...
i find it completely disqusting when a man can fix his mouth to ask a woman for money...
Veronica Smith I agree
especially. if they don't know that woman very well
“They don’t want you, they want help” THIS! 🔥
I been saying this. Especially women who have their shit together be careful! These men are out here hunting for those type!!!
msdominique and they will suck you dry if you let them.
Yesss......the worst and most worthless piece of shit man seems to put effort into hunting for good women that they can use. Nowadays it is a very sad but true phenomena!
Have been one of the target.. Can't believe he just used me out.. Omg very hard to believe. I still truly love him
Just gave and gave him always.. Every now and then
@Robin D. Thanks Robin.. I tried to leave him but now he is not leaving me calls me from all different phone numbers n ol.. Should it be okay if i leave him abruptly..
It had been one and a half yr relationship and i have spent about 80000 giving him.. Pls tell me
YESSSSS!
THEY ARE!
Honey had to shut it down today. Talking about we should be together cause our money would be better together I said boy my money good all by itself. Had to laugh he was telling me all the things he going through and been through felt bad for him told him to pray and God will make a way but my house ain't the way.
Lisa Worsley 😂😂😂😂😂
Lisa Worsley 😅😅😅😅
Lisa Worsley I laughed so hard
LMAO
Yup! Dude I was dating did the same thing!!!! #Free
This must be a new trend because I have come across a few of these dudes. I'm not trying to be a foster mom to a grown ass man!
nopopparazieplz I been noticing this to lately with guys.
nopopparazieplz it's not a trend stop dating thugs and low lives that's y'all who you choose to date he just telling y'all what you want to hear
+Paul Sambula sadly they are not all thugs.Some are well dressed,nice speaking momma's boys whose mom is in it with them since she is tired of being his sponsor to life.So the mom will be his bank as he' spoils" the new potential.My ex and his mom to be exact. The new victim.is of course of 40 , but he has the game down sooooooo good only ME with experience would ever see someone like him coming. He hates me since not only am I married I see right through him and let it be known on any occasion. It's a fatherless boy cycle and doesn't have a race or background destination attached.
Karen Green I agree with you
This generation is full of them!!!! 2019 🤦🏻♀️
what a way to turn me off is to start asking for money :(
Salome B 👏👏👏Yasss
Salome B yesss. A guy can go from being 100% attractive to not attractive at all for this move.
Mandy Pandy yess and the guy i was dealing with was very handsome, the relationship was new the more i messed with him the more i found out how he was,about the third encounter he kept asking me to bring him food and asking for 10$everytime i saw him and i notice my attraction for him started to disappear, I learned i was attracted to the fact i didn't know anything about him the mystery had me until i got to know him,i found out he was a lier,he didn't live by himself like he said he lived with his parents 35 years old still at home, I went by one day his dad answered the door my attraction disappeared like a magic trick,had been going to his house for months didn't see no parents,it's sad when a man is super handsome and like this sad
p.s I got the dick and never called his ass again no thanks i need all my coins :(
Salome B 😂
His people put him out? he can't live with me. Kick rocks, homie. He stranded. Hit the homeless shelter. I'll give him the number!
Vana Phill 😂😂👌
Vana Phill 😂😂😂😂😂 bruh "kick rocks"
Vana Phill LOL!
Vana Phill hahaha
Vana Phill LMAOOOO.....IM DEAD 😂😂😂😂😂
This is my situation right now... and the crazy part is I never asked him to live with me..i just looked around one day and he was completely moved in...don't become trapped ladies, when u see a dude with nothing to offer, RUN... you're not being a gold digger, you're being smart...Don't find yourself home alone, with a bunch of kids, paying all the bills, while getting cheated on the whole time...Women are saints, the shit we have to deal with smh
YanniBarnes Maybe not a bunch of kids, but a kid could come out of that situation, yes. If there is no protection being used.
YanniBarnes right but he force himself on me because I told he have to leave and I told no a brunch of times too
Ravenna Morgan call the cops and get him out. No man can force his way to living in your house.
Ask for help... and prepare to go out... there are dreaming of loving someone like you.
YanniBarnes Exactly would just happen to me ☹
So True 💯 . Then Get Mad At You When You KNOW THE GAME ! He gets Mad When you Cant Be FOOLED , Nows HES THE JOKER 🃏 !
Good one girl
You are so right.. I'm 59 yrs young.. That's why I stop dating.. Men will make you homeless.. Nobody drives my car.. I live alone.. And it will stay that way.. I like you.. Thanks for sharing.. First time watching your videos.. I will subscribe..
My ex used to drive my car but it was always with me in it.
Smartest woman on this thread!Congratulations!
Septina Willis 👌
Truth.. The signs always there. Pay close attention ladies.
I don’t want no scrubs 😆 ty TLC
these men been doing thst... that's Y that song came out
I think TLC admitted to being broke on live tv. They were the real scrubs
Quinton Mcrae what lol??
Lol
a scrub is a guy that can’t get no love from me🥱
That's what separates the men from the boys. 💪💪💪
I dated a guy for 5 weeks last year who was just like this. His whole life was a sob story and none of it was his fault . Tried to guilt trip me into doing things for him (from giving him money, to marrying him, and watching my kids. I don't even let certain family members around my kids). Final straw came when he was about to get put out by his cousin and he asked to stay with me "for a few days". I actually talked to my daughters' father about the situation. He told me something that his mother told him: Never set yourself on fire to keep somebody else warm.
Glanedys Alexander #facts
Glanedys Alexander smart lady
Ughh so many guys full of sob stories as if it’s our responsibility to get their shit together. Good for you for kicking him to the curb.
Wow. I like that
When he cry broke so do I. I got bills.
Jesstine
Exactly! 💯
My great grand mother told me when ever a man or woman start giving you a sob story how broke they are. Turn it around and start saying how broke you are and how you need help. Keep doing it.. it works..
*I KNOW THAT'S RIGHT*
Lol!
Mines told me that if I can't be with him at his worst , then I don't deserve him at his best. 😒. So when or what is his best🤦🏽
Adios you dodged a bullet
Vania Thomas He may have a point so long as his “worst” is a season and he’s doing his best to get his life right but if he’s comfortable and is taking it easy, that’s something else..
😂😂😂 what a lowlife 🙄🙄
Looooool
😃😃😃😃
Two years later and I still come back to Derrek’s videos for a re-fresher course.
I've definitely come across dudes like that. They think because you have your ish together and have your own everything you're about to become their sponsor. "You better call Tyrone...call em!"
“And tell him come on help you get yo shit!” Lol
Tre Bella Lnao
Don't walk, RUN, post haste in the opposite direction. But please be careful how you tell these fellas 'no', because your life is precious and some of these dudes are mental! I said some😐
Key words: feels comfortable. (asking you for things he should be handling himself) Ladies you know when something ain't right. Don't be guilt tripped into anything! Not having a man is better than this alternative! #rantover
Hats off to the queen who raised you! My first time watching your videos. You look very young to be so mature. Keep up the good work!
Yes!!
Whew chile!!!! I wish I had heard this 5 years ago. I'm running to divorce court!! The worst part is that I allowed it for so long. To anyone else in this situation, let them beg until their tongues go numb but don't look back once you get the courage to let it go.
AMEN!!!
Sis, you ain't lied yet. Get that divorce and close that chapter in your life. Better things await.
Common sense should've told you not to date down
@@ThePhoenix3712 and you're perfect right? People make mistakes. The important part is learning from them. That's where common sense kicks in!!
Wish I heard this 6 month ago. This is so important because women are natural nurtures.
You read my mind. Men should not depend on a woman to take care of them.Sometimes I wonder if their mamas raised them to be dependent on women??? It's just sad that there are men out there who behave this way and don't know how to be a real man.
corey L yes Mrs Corey this makes me always analyze their relationship with their mother if he is to much into his mama,and he always getting money from his mama run,if he has problems with his mama run it bad on both parts
I have come across a guy like that. I told him I'm not looking for a first born he needs to man up and take care of his responsibility.
tpbrowneyes 😂😂👌
tpbrowneyes I tell them quick... If u looking for someone to take care of u, u need to go talk to your momma. Im not taking care of no grown ass man.
Lmao "i'm not looking for a first born" I'm dying at this!
Mandy Pandy That's right they want us to be their emotional toilets and ATM. They should go back to their mama and finish breastfeeding and grow up.
I was eating a chocolate chip cookie when I read this comment. I started laughing so hard it pushed some of the cookie out of my mouth, lmao!!!!
That's all True! They just want another mother to take care of them...and offer no value at all to the woman! Single free and At Peace!
I started talking to this dude who said he had his own place, had a job that he loved, etc. Within the first week, he started telling me how he was short on his rent and his mom wouldn't lend him the money. The fact that his own mom wouldn't help him out was a HUGE red flag. Then he said that he lost his job and still didn't have his rent and kept dropping hints because he knew that I make a lot more money than he does. Then he asked me to be his girlfriend and said "I'll love you as long as you love me"!!! I didn't even bring up "love" because at this point, we were only talking for about two weeks. I'm not stupid so I just cut him off. I stopped answering his calls and texts. I knew what he was about so I didn't even feel like he deserved an explanation.
you hit it on the nail. Some men are switching their role as being a provider. Thank you for giving women ensight so they will not be blind to what is going on.
Could also be due to society becoming more feministic and gender roles being seen as useless.
Not to make an excuses for the lazy men out there though but you can understand why some men are using this equality thing to benefit themself.
reading the comments shows there's an epidemic with men taking advantage of women or there are just really 5 dudes that got us on wash cycles.
We need a website and put their names and info on there so we can avoid them.
It’s a major turn off when you’re talking to a guy and here he comes trying to put his issues on u.. like brahhhh I got my own shit to deal with.. we aren’t together and my problems is my problem
Its so crazy that i came across this video today, I'm dealing with a guy like this right now, and i feel so played after watching this, i thought was just helping out, it went from can you help with my phone bill, to can you pay for my daughter recital, too something bigger like can you pay for me to move in a new place, just found he stayed with some girl after we been talking for almost a year and truth be told he dont add any value to my life at all, I am cutting all ties with him today!!!!!
Girl it was a nigga I came across like that and it all started with him losing his job first, then his car got towed, then he didn't have money for his rent..... So me being the nice mf that I am i gave him a few dollars cause I felt bad for him..(wasn't much but something)....so then he started asking for more talking about can i borrow 500.00 I told that nigga hell nahhh..... And brought up his job and he got mad...... Had to end that quick..... Next time I won't be that nice to mf's.... I don't give a f'k if we're friends or mf's I'm just talking to.. Won't happen anymore......I heard if a mf ever wants to borrow money or something get something of higher value that they OWN sorta like "COLLATERAL" then do a trade but never ever do shit just cause.... Cause Mf's tend to abuse that shit and have you looking dumb in the end.... KARMA will get that ASS tho so I ain't worried about nothing....😏👏🏽
markiya garner If he got collateral to trade with you, he needs to take his ass to the pawn shop and make things happen first. If he aint your husband, don't loan him a gotdamn thing. This fool asked to borrow money from me and he had absolutely no means of paying me back. I work from home so after I told him "Fuck no!" I explained to him that while I'm working, I watch plenty of court shows all day. The shows are made up of women suing men for loaning them money. I'm not participating in any of it. Let him sell his shit.... or call his mother.
Just to give you guys an update, I don't deal with him anymore, block his number, and made sure he can't contact me again. These past few days have been amazing, so I'm just going to focus on me for a while....
april marie go head sistar!
Temeka Nelson aslong as we learn from our mistakes no nigga ever gone try to run that game ever again.. cause we will be up on game before they even try to run it💯💯 real talk!!
There are too many me too's in these comments. :( at one point I was really mad at all of these men's parents who didn't raise them to be independent self- functioning adults. It's sad. But there really are too many of us that can relate to bums, narcissist and homeless fuckboys. We definitely need to start raising our standards. This is kind of depressing.
I totally agree, this is an epidemic with these hobosexuals.
Can't really blame the parents because when kids get to a certain age they are their own person and they have a lot outside influences that can make them go astray from their parents teaching of being responsible for their own actions and being a responsible adult.
Women are the reason why guys like this exist. Standards at their damn feet.
Taryn Great Put the blame where it lies, on those men doing this foolishness. How are you going to blame a woman for what a grown ass man is doing? Some women are just naive. These men are taking advantage of that.
Yes.... I believe i am still there even though I know the truth. I think it is time to jog on ....
They can put all that work in yo get help from a female but can't put all that work into getting a decent job or homework? Lol silly
Im glad i learned this by 29 and can enjoy my 30s. I got zero time and know the difference.
Most men aren't going to say the things that this man is saying in this video, but he is absolutely correct about everything!!! Ladies please know that nowadays a man is not looking for love... he is looking for HELP! God bless!
My brother does it to every women he meet cause the fam won't let him crash no more and I can't for the life of me understand why for 20 years he's been getting away with it. He jumps from women to women, sometimes leaving innocent babies behind. Smh! Ladies just stop it!
I'm sorry but that's a piece of s**t
My cousin’s baby daddy is just like that. Been jumping from woman’s house to house for years leaving children at each house he lives at. 🤢 He’s quick to say he’s a real man and father. How when you always living off of a female who’s living off government funded housing by the way 🤣
Shamiah is that u?
And lets not forget the men who know your heart is kind and giving and they start sharing sh*t they need without asking you in the form of a question because they know you'll offer to help. #guardYourHeart!
ListenWithMyHeart yes yes yes!!!
Those 488 dislikes are the dudes mad they’re getting exposed
yep, they mad that they getting exposed, but ain't no body want to deal with their sorry asses.
Exactly
I just lived this. After two years of helping him through no license, probation, etc. He ups and leaves, making it official with someone else that very same day. Lesson learned!!!
Sundays With Sablee I know girl. Just got out of it
You have taught us well Mr. Jaxn.
True, true
1. IT HAPPENED TO ME!
2. I SHUT HIM DOWN
3. HE GOT MAD.
4. I LEFT TOWN FOR 45 DAYS (to keep my Son's from getting involved)
5. CAME HOME AND NEVER COMMUNICATED WITH HIM AGAIN, PERIOD!
GET OUTTA HERE, USER!😔
I’ve heard this from a relative . He’s been with his girl for almost 8 years and still haven’t married her. He only got with her for a place to stay
Keepadagroov reason such as?
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That's my situation currently smh
Lmfao
Sadly, there are many lonely ladies that are easily exploited.
Bocha Salveska I need to find me a few where they at 👀
Yes ..there are a lot of lonely women and most of the time their
loneliness actually causes them to become weak and user ..no good men has a radar for weak women ...like sharks seeking prey in the water....men can sniff them out
Yep I am one of them.... Its time to say goodbye... It's gonna hurt. I need to get some self ESTEEM... To think i disliked that word once apon a time. The evidence shows i have to start loving me like really Loving mE
I DON'T KNOW WHO YOU ARE BUT I'M GOING TO CALL YOU MY BIG BROTHER AND THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR LOOKING OUT FOR THE SISTERS. I HATE I MISSED OUT ON YOU YEARS AGO BUT BETTER LATE THAN NEVER. THANK YOU MR MAN OF THE HOUSE. LOVE JANICE.
That's why I love the block and delete feature on my phone...I had a similar experience...red flag....he ask if I lived alone...I'm grown...of course....then he was trying to create a scenario to come over...he wanted to show me how to cook a traditional dish....i said video it. After his sob story about he just lost his job....must have been the same day cause I ran into him twice at his job (my car dealership) the he starts telling me how handy he is a jack of all trades...every conversation he wanted to try and come over my house...I told him I know ppl for over 10 years and they have never been to my house so why do feel privy...block and delete
Dziko Muah u kno 😂😂👌
Dziko Muah 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾!!
Dziko Muah you go girl. if us women stop taking trash from men all at once, they will man up and realise is either fix up or die alone.
Girl you dodged a bullet, that fool was trying to move in!
Dziko Muah So he was a "jack-of-all-trades" and probably a master of none! Furthermore, if he always wanted to come to your house, he most likely didn't have a place of his own...smh
Wish I saw this video 5yrs ago.
I'm good now. And learned a valuable lesson from my experience.
*ME TOO* 😔
*BEEN THERE* ☝
*TRUST and BELIEVE*
*IT WON'T* 👎
*HAPPEN AGAIN* ⏪
Me too!!!!
Him: So you gonna leave a Brotha stranded? Me: Yep ... Good luck. #HangUpThePhone
Omg I'm dying laughing that's definitely something I'd do
LISA C JENKINS for real 😂😂
I've had to do the same thing.
I just went through this but the guy found another desperate chic to take him in. A 38 old man with no kids, told me I wasn't there to support him. We had a good relationship but he was always trying to move in. He really wanted financial support. I don’t take care of men!! My lesson to myself: A man has to have equal or more than I do to date me. Drop the mic......
This situation sounds very familiar.
Tiffany Jamison
You were smart not to let him move in. He would’ve just drained you dry. He should be able to support himself.
Man without assets doesn't know how to take care of them. Man who does not invest has no respect for what he gets. He'd make you his bf and his gf. You'd start cleaning way more often,because men are not orderly as women. You'd start cooking different food and more if it, because their dietary needs are different than ours. You'd start dieting or get ohysically ruined by him. With the mindset he has,you'd become his sister and his mother,I mean emotionally as well. He's looking for family help, not to be a provider and create his own family, at least not using his own means by creating one.
That’s my newbie as well I’ve always took in took care of. NOMORE!! Classy Woman. Especially if they don’t Respect there own MOTHER.....
Never let a man move in. I don't even let a man hang out at my house. I always go to his place. It's would be too exhausting to entertain him in my home. Going to his place also lets me know if he's having another woman over. If he is seeing another woman, he will slip up eventually and I will find out.
My husband. He was the best father, provider, and friend.. since his death 4yrs ago. I just can't bring myself to date any one.. they don't make em like him anymore.. I'll focus on me once my youngest is out the house.. I love myself to much to waste time or play games..
Love ur videos
Bridget Boston hug...
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Sorry for your lost. People will never truly understand what you are experiencing. No one truly knows. And you having to compare men to a person that may have been your soul mate or who you were meant to be with at that time. Will never measure up to what you had. Until a higher power sends someone designated and designed for you.
aKa the Jezebel spirit men can have it too.
*NARCISSIST* 😠
🔽🔽
*SELFISH*
*SELF SEEKING*
*INSECURE*
*SNEAKY*
*NO EMPATHY*
*WOMANIZER*
Google User been saying this for years
LOL that's not a new trend. That's been going on for ages. It's part of that idea that a piece of a man is better than no man.
missy1e23 😐
missy1e23 and i was guilty of thinking that at one point. But those types of sayings are part of why men today arent men anymore, they know if one women tries to change them, they can dip out and find an insecure one that will let him walk all over her.
missy1e23 ...That's What BATTERIES Are For Darlin!!! LMAO
You are right it's an old idea promoted by Narcissistic men and miserable women who want company in misery.
Poppa was a rolling stone.
Requirements a job a car place of his own. Background check no ex felon. Basic
This was 100% on point. I bought this guy something to eat on purpose to see where he was at. He took the bait! I couldn't find where he lived. The dumbest move was he complained about his credit. He had 2 caes and was living with his brother. He got another loan, not for a place to live but for a 3rd car! Baby I was done. I left him alone before he even had the chance to ask could he stay with me or 4 a favor!😂😂😂😂
Well my bible says lol... They are the kind who work their way into people's homes and win the confidence of vulnerable women who are burdened with the guilt of sin and controlled by various desires. 2timothy that word the truth!
Hmmm would like to look up more of that...it sounds interesting
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Dear Derrick, you just described the guy I was involved with 2 yrs ago. I totally believe that God intervene like He always does in my life.
It sounds like she just dodged a Narcissist. Good for you girl! You're smart. I just got out of a three year relationship that started out just like this. I wish that I was following Jaxn back then, so that I could recognize game.
Chavas Noelle. me too!
Chavas Noelle me too, narcissist are the worst! it's all about what you can do for them. sadly I have three children for one. very good manipulators they are. I wish I was following him around the time I met him.
Chavas Noelle this helps me because I recently got out of a relationship with a guy like this. I thought if I stayed true then it would be one of those stories where a man will value the one who stood by him but... I slowly learned he didn't want to build with me, he just wanted my help building him! It's painful... but you live and you learn.... he is very charming but I guess that's why he used to be a pimp... I shouldn't have trusted him but I did. Wish I had Derrick back when we met last year! I was 26, 2 degrees, and a year into my career.... he would tell me he don't deserve me but I guess that was apart of the manipulation.... now I'm dating a nice guy and wonder why I'm easily turned off by them??? I am trying my hardest
Kimyatta Williams he fired me once then when he noticed I didn't care he came back begging.... but then did the same ish smh
Chavas Noelle following you gf
This sermon that touches me, "He Doesn't want you, He wants help". Well, God sends a messenger with the truth. Amen.
or getting insulted because you havent replied to his message. lol yep that i have 1 child to take care of. i refuse to take care of a grown BOY!
When they still live with there mother. Is a major red flag
Why is it a red flag?
@@GiselleLeger Because its a sign that will not do for themselves. Now if he's their to help her that's different. But, if he's their mooching and not helping with anything as man. How can he be a husband to you.
@@sadepayne my boyfriend(33) (I'm 26) of 2 years moved back in with his parents after 8 years university-no degree. He helps around the house in ways(but his mom is controlling&hoarder) but is not paying rent because he's trying to pay off student loan debt. He wants us to "shack up" but my gut/intuition refuses until he can stand on his own 2 feet. But after 2 years...? How much longer until I get the Real commitment I want?:(
Summer kay, don't let him talk you into Marriage.
@@audrymoore7757 of course not, but why would he want to marry me anyways?
I want to break up with him, and what sucks is that he'll ONLY change if I leave him?!? Like, wtf?
Had a boyfriend for two years that I spent thousands of dollars on, and he never even took me out for a nice dinner, not even one time. And he ended up cheating on me on top of everything else. I was 19 when we got together. Young, naive, and love struck..
Sarah Brown I am so sorry that happened to you. You deserve better.
We learn from lessons . Never ever entertain men who are using you for what they can get out of you. It's not a balanced relationship. Couples build together . Not take from another person and you get nothing in return. Avoid parasites and leeches.
Sarah Brown fuck him he is trash
I have been there too. I am so tired of these bums
You’re never supposed to take care of a man unless he has first taken care of you! Never do something like that unless you know for sure he would do the same for you.
And the moral of the story is: Only mess with guys that have sh*t to lose.
craftreesie 👏👏👏👏
Yes. Like their own place and vehicle.
I'm literally going through this right now. I had to go no-contact with this guy. He tried to suck me dry emotionally and financially. I ended up in the hospital for exhaustion and an anxiety fit.
pinkchiffonluv he must have been a little biotch
Please take care of yourself. You deserve a great life. Hugs.
I️ know this is some time ago, but I️ hope you’re doing much better ❤️
Happens in a long distance relationships too , happens online.
Happens when people are lonely.
Men or women ,no matter.
Nothing more disgusting than a dry begging behind man. 🤣🤣🤣 I have blocked men ASAP, don't try me EVER.
Nique Cherry show bet not attempt to put your lips together to ask for shit
Users hate on you when you don't let them use you for their convenience. It's better to have them be left all mad at you. Than you kicking yourself cuz you let them fool you and they got their way.
I’m kicking one out right now as we speak always,blaming everyone for his financial problems 33 years old and still can’t get his stuff together making up excuses to not work .I changed the locks and he is irate I don’t care it’s funny how I’m everything in the book now I’m kicking him out telling me I’m leaving him homeless not my problem living in his car will be his new home.i am staying alone for the rest of my life I’m done dating relationships is not for me too much headache.
Robin D. Thank you so much I feel like a big weight got lifted off my shoulders
Ms Unusual
You don’t have to stop dating, just make sure you’re dating someone who’s compatible, which means he has his own shit just like you.
Exactly ain't happy single but same sure ain't happy in a relationship they take a vulnerable situation and see opportunity and from there creep in lol
Me too i think it's a epidemic of Scrubs, but I just can't raise no Man sorry I'll just b single
You go girl. If you decide to ever date and want a strong , educated, and smart man who will appreciate your good deeds then give me a buzz. Am worth it!! name Ty 646-712-1806
I dealt with someone exactly like this for too long cuz I have a good heart. He still tries to contact me but I don’t give him my time. It’s much too valuable to waste.