Women should never RELY on the good behavior of men for their own safety and security. Ask yourself, if the men around me behave BADLY, how will I protect myself? Whenever I see a story about a young woman going missing after a solo night out at a club or bar, I immediately think, "Yep, she's gonna turn up dead." She didn't live circumspectly, and women are vulnerable. Here's a statistic for you. There are 5,000 men in Georgia who regularly pay for s3x with children. Understand that this is not a safe world. There are predators everywhere. Live accordingly.
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Women are way too trusting, it's true. And we often do things we're uncomfortable with because we don't want to be rude. I will never forget a story I heard from a self-defense trainer once. He talked about a time he had his dog with him and they needed to take the elevator in a garage. When it opened up there was a shady looking guy in a dark hoodie in the elevator. The dog took one look at this dark figure, and immediately sensed danger (they both did) and while the guy was willing to still get into the elevator, the dog refused; he couldn't drag him in. We should all take lessons from that dog. Who cares if you come off as rude, trust your gut.
I don’t think women are more trusting then men. There are too many trusting people in this world that don’t think crime will happen to them……on another note we are perpetuating distrust in our fellow man day by day. People have always been evil, it’s just today there are more people and social media and the news to make you more aware of it…. Remember when people got away with murder easily because there wasn’t DNA testing or video cameras everywhere?
Again, I’m a 62 year old grandmother that carries AT ALL TIMES INCLUDING AROUND THE FARM WITH MY HOG CANNON within arm’s reach. It’s my responsibility to keep me safe and the police officers responsibility to do the paperwork and carry off the bodies.
"The Gift of Fear" is a must-read for everyone, but especially women. We do not get the luxury of relaxing. I don't think there's such a thing as too cautious. I'd rather feel guilty for misjudging a man than put myself in harm because I lowered my guard. I have a few things that I don't do without my husband -- chief among them being going for walks by myself or going to stores in the evening. I'm not the most assertive person naturally, but simply being observant and aware can go a long way.
Agreed! My kids are 11 and 7, but we already have reading lists that they get paid for finishing and recounting to us. The Gift of Fear is one that they must both complete before they're allowed to date.
buy any micro 380 or 9mm with a safety so they can off body carry or use it in a belly band or something like that. it's light enough you don't need a rigid belt. and yes, killing criminals, is part of the solution
I read this book 25 years ago and I still remember so much about it. As a 6 foot 1 man with a large build, I was drawn into this book when it opened with asking men when the last time it was that they felt afraid or vulnerable while walking through an empty garage, and I remember thinking to myself... "Huh... Never." It made me realize how differently women have to navigate life from men. And for that story she told about the woman being pushed into her apartment, the end of that story is the most important lesson. After being raped in her bedroom several times, the man told her to stay in the room and that he was going to basically leave. But she had a gut feeling that he was lying, so against all of her fears, she got up and quietly followed him down the hall and when he turned into the kitchen (to get a knife to kill her with) she kept going straight and ran right out of her apartment. It was that "gut" feeling that saved her life... Always trust your gut.
Even as a large frame man certain situations and locations should definitely get your guard up and make you feel somewhat afraid. Fear and awareness can keep you alive. We live in a much more violent world now from when the book was published. Men are targets as well no matter your size.
@@carbonking53 You’re 100% spot on. I was 25 when I read it in 97, so of course (at the time) I was invincible. I only mention my size because at that time, men of that size didn’t worry about being abducted or sexually assaulted. But you’re right, in this day and age, situational awareness is imperative for all people… But still with sex trafficking being such a big thing these days, women still have it harder than us guys.
I'm an army brat. Born & raised at Ft. Bragg & in good old Fatalville so I was raised to always have my head on a swivel. To always be highly aware of what was going on around me & who was near me. I can't remember ever entering a building without immediately looking around to find other exits. As kids we were taught to try to spot trouble before it started & get the hell out of Dodge. To walk with our heads up & with a purpose. To have our car or door keys out and ready to use well before we reached the car or the door. (BTW keys carried in your fist, so the ends come out right below your knuckles make an excellent weapon & I often carry mine that way when returning to my car.) To look back frequently to make sure no one is following us. To be aware of anyone who's paying you more attention than is normal. To have a clearly defined personal space & call out anyone who violates it the instant they do. And most importantly to never ever worry about offending someone or looking foolish by taking action if you feel uncomfortable or threatened in any way. Now I realize that to most people it might seem that living in that mindset is exhausting but it's become second nature. I do it without thinking about it. Never having lived any other way I have nothing to compare it to. It's just ingrained in me. I can say though that 99% of the people I encounter might as well have "Easy Victim" tattooed on their forehead mainly because of their lack of awareness & their incredibly slow, usually wrong, response when something does happen. You want to empower your girls? Train them to protect themselves. It's never too early or too late to start.
I am not in the army and as a woman i do the swivel regularly. I also look up regularly in cafes when I read the newspaper and I see men looking at me and then turning away
I really love to see Mrs. Poet in the show! It actually helps a lot in the mindset and encourages not only women, but men too, like, this lady is clearing houses on her own! As a woman without the background of John.
Side note: I definitely encourage people who have USCCA to look at their contract terms and agreements. It states that coverage will be denied if you are charged with a crime....yet many officers who aren't on your side may charge you with assault/murder/manslaughter if things don't happen to look right at the crime scene regardless of the circumstances. In this case, USCCA could deny your request for an attorney since you are technically charged with a crime or a "criminal use" of your firearm. In their terms that sort of use is not covered even if you have only been charged and not been to a hearing yet. I caution you to consult with your personal attorney and see, because my attorney definitely had to point these out to me. I now am looking into other insurances like Firearms Legal Protection and others. Be safe friends
Love what you guys are doing as a couple! I read the Gift of fear about four years ago and thought it was something my daughter needs to read. She now 14 years old and she is reading it as we speak! Godspeed
A huge supplement to go a security system is a camera system. One time I woke up and the front door was wide open. I immediately checked the camera footage and saw I didn't latch it or lock it and the wind blew it open and no one came in or out
Love it. I heard once of a man who went on a jog early morning and left the door unlocked, someone got in and killed his wife before he returned from the jog. Scary. Large indoor dogs are a huge plus and a bit of a deterrent, at the very least it slows an intruder down. Then there’s the lady at Walmart in San Antonio that just tried to walk out with another lady’s cart and child!!!!! “Just because she’s your child doesn’t mean I can’t take her” 🤮
I remember the first time you guys covered this about 2 years ago. This is something that I'm glad you guys are repeating. It's important to remind us guys and gals that we are a team and both need to be Warrior Poets.
Love it!❤. I especially liked hearing Becka using John’s lingo; “time to go to work” “go time”. I got such a giggle envisioning her clearing rooms, nice.
I don't think you would have been laughing if she had found you in the house. I would rather face 3 big dogs than an attractive woman with a gun in her hand and kids behind her that was scared of me in a place I didn't belong.
I took a lot away from this video. I loved it when she said “Its my responsibility to keep myself safe.” Im the “crazy” gun guy in all of my friend groups and I can not get my friends to understand that their safety is their responsibility and should be taken seriously. They think society is so peaceful and they shouldn’t have to worry about attackers. Just because you shouldn’t have to doesn’t me you get that luxury.
I grew up in “the hood” as did most of my friends and strangely I can not get them to understand why I carry a gun daily even tho we all know people who have been killed. I have friends that don’t know why I carry daily and I have friends who even 16 years into legal daily gun carrying can’t understand that I don’t shoot everyone I get in a disagreement with or everyone that cuts me off in traffic.
Just be careful not to blame the victim. Punish the attacker at least three times as hard as you tell the victim, "I told you so"/"you shouldn't have....." Make punishing the attacker the priority. Punish first, heal the victim, then train the victim to prevent future incidents.
I also shouldn’t have to wear a seatbelt, but I do. One morning on way to work some guy should not have run a stop sign, but he did. Without seatbelt rollover could have ended badly. With seatbelt, witnesses, insurance, “first” responders, and a friend willing to pick me up for work it turned into a nonevent. Shouldn’t need seatbelts, shouldn’t need to pay for insurance, police or firefighters - but we do because it is just common sense. Training and carrying a gun is easier and cheaper than those things and just as sensible.
@@Evergreen1400 Good for you for bucking the trend and being willing to defend yourself. Honestly, I'm always surprised by those folks who think that just because you carry, you're going to BLOW UP and use your gun at the least provocation. Honestly, I think this is projection on their part. When I think of those people owning a gun, I think, "YOU are the exact type of person that SHOULDN'T carry, if you're worried about losing your temper."
Great book! One of the lessons that stuck with me that I pass on frequently is that, if you NEED help, you pick the person to ask, don’t wait to be asked. The chances the you will pick a predator are significantly lower than whether an opportunistic predator will choose you to offer “help”. I’ve even offered that advice to women and girls that have asked me for help in the past. I guess I’m just one of those guys who seems safe to ask but I still offer it (if it feels appropriate).
Thank you Mrs Poet! This was GREAT! I would love to see another video about tips for increasing our kids situational awareness or how as a mom to be aware and protect our kids!! 👍👍👍
Great video! My wife and I have had many talk like this. A wife a mother needs to be just as prepared as a husband dad because more often they are the target. I hope this video reaches a lot of woman out there. Great job warrior poet family!
Whenever I go into “situational awareness,” my wife writes it off as PTSD and that I am overreacting (again.) But I do trust her gut, as she does, and thankfully when we are apart I know she knows how to handle whatever comes her way.
Because of your videos my wife is really getting involved more and this will transfer to my adult daughters . Thank you guys so much for doing these videos it has become more inviting to our households. You guys have truly reached another level of Excellence!!!!! Your wife is a powerhouse of truth for all women . Truth delivered in love AWESOME Example !!!!!👍👍👍👍👍
Trust your gut instinct and always situational awareness. After twenty five years of law enforcement I seen plenty of victims say, " I knew something wasn't quite right". Good information Mr. & Mrs. Poet.
Retired LEO here...BRAVO. The story about the basement door and clearing the house, right there with you 100%. Some people think that is crazy behavior, absolutely not...especially with children in the home. Love you guys for taking the time to make these videos and hopeful it will sink in with viewers.
Rather than clearing the house herself, wouldn't it have been wiser to have called Law Enforcement to do the sweep? Shouldn't her first action have been leaving the home, and then calling 911?
@@bp6877 personally no, but whatever your level of comfort is I suppose. I suspect she is more competent with her rifle and has more training than any law enforcement officer in her area (trng. with her husband, former Ranger, weapons expert, hand to hand combat expert etc), just my two cents
I try to teach my wife, daughters, sister in Laws, their daughters other family, friends and others to keep there eyes out of their phones, keep them on the look out for trouble and to keep their heads on swivel. But most times it’s like trying to herd cats. I try to teach them what to look out for and how to be safe but it’s hard to get them to do anything other than my oldest daughter that was in front line combat in the GWOT in Afghanistan and even she misses a lot of things sometimes. That’s why if you made the vows to God the Father the son and the holy sprit that you were going to be there for your wife as a married man it’s your responsibility to be there to keep your eyes open and your head on a swivel looking for troubles to protect her from because they just don’t always seem to careful enough. Good luck with that. Thanks again for another very good insightful video and I’ve passed it along to all of the chicks and some husbands of them because this is a very helpful video.
You two are so frickin awesome!!! I’m sharing this with all 4 of my kids and all over social media for all my female friends to soak in! And be more aware!!!!
pulled over on the interstate to help a young woman with her flat tire. As soon as i walked up i gave her my business card and said "text this to your parents right now. Also, get on the phone with them and keep them on the phone until i start and finish changing your tire." she did just that. hopefully she learned what to do if anyone else ever stops to help her. i had my phone in the car videoing the entire time. (that was for my protection).
Everything Mrs. War Poet said describes my wife. I’ve tried talking to her, using situations in the news to explain and even a few in our home town. Nothing. The “it won’t happen to me” attitude is deeply ingrained in her brain. She hasn’t even carried her weapon or light in months. I’m lost on how to combat this attitude of unpreparedness. She can’t even really fight. She grew up very sheltered. Our situations were different. I grew up fighting and know exactly what people think and how fast things can go sideways. She just doesn’t think anything will ever happen and I can’t seem to break through.
I recognized that story immediately. He shamed her for attempting to place boundaries, and it worked. "There's such a thing as being too proud" and she fell for it. I've avoided blue on blue sexual violence several times, because I'm a bitch. My 7 year old daughter is learning to be the same way. She already has som incredible sass, and we are only teaching her to modulate that, NOT eliminate it. Pretty girls can't afford to be nice! She is naturally inclined to be very kind, but that is NOT the same as being nice, or overly polite. We are 100% weaponizing every strength that little girl has! We are teaching our son the seriousness of violence as well.
John, here's an idea for the next evolution level of your training. How about a couples weekend training where you and your wife tag team to work with other couples. There could be portions of training for the couples together as well as with them separate.
Watched this with the wifey. We're both retired, in our mid'60's, so no kids at home. Lots of good info that still pertains to us! Your videos are always informative! Thanks!
I was at a book store recently & saw two copies of “the gift of fear” for $0.50 each so I grabbed both to regift. The author may be a anti-2A fool, but his other thoughts are valid. I would encourage others to look at his book “protecting the gift” too
His anti 2A bend is my only criticism as well. What's hilariously ironic is that de Becker now runs a personal security company of armed bodyguards (which as I understand rival the US Secret Service).
kind of weird how someone can be so sensible about the additional vulnerability women face in society from violent attackers and yet also be an anti self defense nut job.
I read The Power of Awareness recently and I thought it was great and gave it to my mom and sister to read! I’ll have to check out The Gift of Fear as well
Such a beautiful couple. Thank you for protecting our country and thank your wife for taking care of your loved ones while you protect our country. We forget about the loved ones who get to worry and stay strong at home till the loved ones come home. We will never forget all the sacrifices our warriors and family’s of those warriors make. Bravo you two are a perfect all American family. Our world is a better place with your family in it. Thank you.
Thank you! Very timely given a recent situation my wife told me about where she was trying to be nice to a stranger she came in contact with. Forwarding to her now and together we will convince her to carry!
I came for the quad nods. Stayed for the life lessons. Just bought my fiancée a P365xl, so she can be part of the defensive equation. Love the content!
Great video and solid advice. Trained in martial arts for many years. So, I get questions from women on the best one thing for self defense. I have been giving this exact advice to women for years now. I tell women trust that gut instinct ! If you have a bad feeling about a someone in a store and they are following you out the door. Turn around and head back in to the store. Get a manager and ask for a male employee to escort you out. If someone is being pushy or getting in your personal space. Get loud and tell them to back off. Attract attention to yourself and the situation. Parking lots , If your cornered and or weapon is displayed . The fight is right now! Again get loud and fight to create distance.
The book, "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin DeBecker covers this topic in detail and in great scope and depth. It is so good I buy used copies to gift to young women going to college or heading into the world of work. Please, everyone needs to read this book. It is good for men and women as it raises your awareness of the pre indicators of violent behavior. Especially if you are on the safety team of your church.
Love this kind of discussion. My wife is almost completely there, with the exception of carrying a gun. It’s mostly how to do it comfortably. If anyone has any ideas, I’d appreciate it.
Be ready to holster shop/ spend money. Try checking out the TH-cam channel to called 'she equips herself'. She does a bunch of reviews on different types of holsters and paraphernalia. Neo mags, can-can holsters, and flashbangs are popular choices. But also, I found it really helpful when somebody said no matter what you're always going to be somewhat uncomfortable. Carrying a gun is a lifestyle choice and you have to make certain sacrifices in order to enjoy that privilege. So I found it very helpful to also manage my expectations on what carrying a gun would be like. I hope that was succinct and helpful.
About two days ago I was having this conversation with my fiancé, teaching her some points, and just now I come across this video, had to share it with her. Thank you
Love your work guys. Two things ive preached to the women in my life. "Its better to act on instinct and look the fool." And when it comes to people being stupid in nature. I blame Walt Disney. Blue birds are not going land and your shoulder and whistle along to your song.
When I was working at an elementary school, it amazed me how little some of these teachers and staff were aware of their surroundings, especially the younger ones. I guess they thought that the 2 or 3 unarmed men (public school) would be able to protect them. Not that we wouldn't try, but.... I will text my wife asking about the doors and other areas, just to make sure, she's usually great about it.
I worked in security for a decade and purchased this book to endure living in constant fear. I would recommend this book to smarter female medical professionals, to get them to think about their own personal safety issues. I own an audio and print copy.
I tell my wife this all the time; assume everyone else is an idiot and that everyone else is hostile unless I am there with her. Suspect everyone and never let anyone come within your arms reach, not even close to it. Head on a swivel, eyes and ears open all the time. It's healthy to have a sense of high alertness and its not paranoia.
If you daughters are old enough and not already 40 or something, buy them the book. It is a great read and one that everyone should really read but especially women.
My girlfriend who is retired law enforcement officer said “too many women want to slap and shove during a fight for their life. More of them need to learn how to throat punch”
As a God Fearing Southern Gentleman hearing Mrs Poet tell women to fear men enraged me! But she's right! I tell my wife the same thing! It is so disheartening that is the world we live in...and I am not jealous of young men trying to date in today's world...
This is a fantastic video & we were so happy to see your wife share as well! My husband & I watch your channel all the time with our two children. You guys are a family friendly channel & we greatly appreciate that. I share these things with my lady friends & family often & most of the time they think I'm to paranoid. It is so important & most definitely worth it to always be aware & have the mindset that you can not trust people you don't know
My wife was attacked by a scumbag, thank God she wasn't raped and or killed(she could have been easily) she was armed but grabbed by the neck from behind. If she pulled her gun out he could have used it against her....fortunately he is off the street and going to prison. That really doesn't make me feel much better because he put his hands on my wife. There is no excuse for even touching a women.
Women are TOO skittish, though. I've had women act like I'm following them around the grocery store. I've literally had to go out of my way to avoid women in grocery stores when women look at me, first. When someone looks at you, instinctively, you look back. I've literally had to change my pattern of shopping in the grocery store because of this. I'm a very large man because I'm a former offensive linemen. How are people supposed to meet one another if everyone thinks men are murderers? This is NOT the world we want to be living in. We're going to have more single people and less families if everyone is afraid of men.
Exactly, I do the same thing. I ain’t trying to have my life ruined just because I might wanna actually date again after 2 years. It’s just not worth it for me. And I despise the fact that it’s come to that.
@@seneca1932 I know, brother. It's a tragedy. You can't build trust with anyone. I lost everything over an accusation. I lost my job, my home, my career and I've never been the same. I tried going into a new career and trouble kept following me around. Before this incident, I had never been without work OR I had never had a problem on the job. I feel like God turned His back on me. I'm a literal husk of the man I once was. It's a symptom of a larger disease and this nation is going to crumble because of it. It's happening all around us. They're just playing right into the globalists' hands by besmirching men's reputations.
@@tacticalmattfoley I hope you were able to read my reply to your reply before somebody decided to hide it. If not, there are certain channels on here who deal with mens’s issues like yours and mine. Ones where old “grunts speak” clearly on such things. I would search those words here on this platform. Just know that you are not alone and there is an entire “$phere 0f M€n” who can help, just as they have helped me and countless other men. See you there, brother.
Living in Canada we are limited in ways we can protect ourselves and our loved ones, being diligent in awareness is even more important. Thank you both for highlighting key things my wife can do to keep herself a little safer
This is so wonderful and very informative. Thankfully I’ve been been paranoid all my life so I’m consistently seeing threats everywhere. Even so, please refrain from ever using the phrase “she was asking for it.” That phrase needs to die and for good reason. I also think we shouldn’t say it’s our responsibility to keep ourselves safe or that their is dual responsibility between us and the person committing the crime against us. You are never responsible for someone choosing to commit a crime. The only people who will see you as a target are the criminals. Someone who has no intention of hurting you will not see people as targets, just people. It’s a good idea to be on alert and be aware of your surroundings and trust your gut, but never let anyone convince you that if someone hurts you that you are somehow responsible for the horrible thing THEY chose. You are not.
Awesome video John and Mrs. Poet. Sharing with all our female friends. We unfortunately have to assume the worst until we know better in the sinful world we live in. Happy to have people like you two to help spread the word!
Great advice! I'll be pushing the book on my wife and daughter. I'll also let them know if they come home and something is out of place, leave and call the cops. Let them do the room clearing.
Traveling alone in a VW bus for a while in the 90's I didn't own a firearm...always had a knife and got a stun gun and always had my gut instinct I got out of situations that were insane but always sit at a corner always look bigger and badder than you are I was 90lbs but people saw I was feisty and not to be screwed with! Great info thanks guys this video is needed as I see girls just plain dumb and not knowing their surroundings or their nearest exit points! I got to know that very young and instilled in me because of the stupidity I did like thumbing everywhere etc... But always be aware vigilant and know your scenarios!
Thankful for the mentor types in my life warning me about these sorts of things, and teaching me how to walk with purpose when out and about. I've learned how to be polite but also how to notice red flags and respond accordingly.
I really like the way your wife explained the things she was explaining specially the bluntness when she said you could be put out put in a trunk and out to the woods and you're done more women need to realize that
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Women should never RELY on the good behavior of men for their own safety and security. Ask yourself, if the men around me behave BADLY, how will I protect myself?
Whenever I see a story about a young woman going missing after a solo night out at a club or bar, I immediately think, "Yep, she's gonna turn up dead." She didn't live circumspectly, and women are vulnerable.
Here's a statistic for you. There are 5,000 men in Georgia who regularly pay for s3x with children. Understand that this is not a safe world. There are predators everywhere. Live accordingly.
This is ACTUAL empowerment for women. Thank you both for doing this video: unfortunately it's become so much more relevant.
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Not just women - on line everybody has to pay attention to any vague distrust of websites, links, etc.
It's insane that some people would call this victim blaming. It isn't. This is arming people with the means of preventing and fighting off a threat.
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Breath of fresh air to know that NOT ALL WOMEN ARE CLUELESS when it comes to being situationally aware of their surroundings!!!
That was so cute when she said " I grabbed the AR & cleared the house" that's awesome
"You cannot Apologize dead in the Woods" That's awesome advice Mrs. Poet.
Women are way too trusting, it's true. And we often do things we're uncomfortable with because we don't want to be rude. I will never forget a story I heard from a self-defense trainer once. He talked about a time he had his dog with him and they needed to take the elevator in a garage. When it opened up there was a shady looking guy in a dark hoodie in the elevator. The dog took one look at this dark figure, and immediately sensed danger (they both did) and while the guy was willing to still get into the elevator, the dog refused; he couldn't drag him in. We should all take lessons from that dog. Who cares if you come off as rude, trust your gut.
Animals can pick up on people quicker than humans. Sometimes they're wrong. But the majority of the time they're right about humans
I don’t think women are more trusting then men. There are too many trusting people in this world that don’t think crime will happen to them……on another note we are perpetuating distrust in our fellow man day by day. People have always been evil, it’s just today there are more people and social media and the news to make you more aware of it…. Remember when people got away with murder easily because there wasn’t DNA testing or video cameras everywhere?
....always trust your dog
Don't make me be Rude..
That's Rude.
It will not be pretty!
The dog just / mostly reads your body language and acts on it. You didn't want to go in there so your dog also didn't want to go in there.
Again, I’m a 62 year old grandmother that carries AT ALL TIMES INCLUDING AROUND THE FARM WITH MY HOG CANNON within arm’s reach. It’s my responsibility to keep me safe and the police officers responsibility to do the paperwork and carry off the bodies.
"The Gift of Fear" is a must-read for everyone, but especially women. We do not get the luxury of relaxing. I don't think there's such a thing as too cautious. I'd rather feel guilty for misjudging a man than put myself in harm because I lowered my guard. I have a few things that I don't do without my husband -- chief among them being going for walks by myself or going to stores in the evening. I'm not the most assertive person naturally, but simply being observant and aware can go a long way.
That’s on my shelf- I gotta read it for sure, thanks for the reminder.
Agreed! My kids are 11 and 7, but we already have reading lists that they get paid for finishing and recounting to us. The Gift of Fear is one that they must both complete before they're allowed to date.
I agree I read it and it was an awesome read even for a guy
buy any micro 380 or 9mm with a safety so they can off body carry or use it in a belly band or something like that. it's light enough you don't need a rigid belt. and yes, killing criminals, is part of the solution
@@cagneybillingsley2165 Recidivism is greatly reduced once a violent offender achieves room temperature. Controversial? Perhaps. True? Absolutely.
My husband just had me watch this and this was definitely a reminder that I need to be more careful when I’m out and about
I read this book 25 years ago and I still remember so much about it. As a 6 foot 1 man with a large build, I was drawn into this book when it opened with asking men when the last time it was that they felt afraid or vulnerable while walking through an empty garage, and I remember thinking to myself... "Huh... Never." It made me realize how differently women have to navigate life from men. And for that story she told about the woman being pushed into her apartment, the end of that story is the most important lesson. After being raped in her bedroom several times, the man told her to stay in the room and that he was going to basically leave. But she had a gut feeling that he was lying, so against all of her fears, she got up and quietly followed him down the hall and when he turned into the kitchen (to get a knife to kill her with) she kept going straight and ran right out of her apartment. It was that "gut" feeling that saved her life... Always trust your gut.
Even as a large frame man certain situations and locations should definitely get your guard up and make you feel somewhat afraid. Fear and awareness can keep you alive. We live in a much more violent world now from when the book was published. Men are targets as well no matter your size.
@@carbonking53 You’re 100% spot on. I was 25 when I read it in 97, so of course (at the time) I was invincible. I only mention my size because at that time, men of that size didn’t worry about being abducted or sexually assaulted. But you’re right, in this day and age, situational awareness is imperative for all people… But still with sex trafficking being such a big thing these days, women still have it harder than us guys.
@@carbonking53 yea I mean a large man’s body is just as squishy as a woman’s is when faced with a knife or gun
@@xx_mysticwolf_xx1492 mines a lot more squishy now than in my 20's😂
@@lifebythehorns lmao I’m 27 dreading my 30s
I'm an army brat. Born & raised at Ft. Bragg & in good old Fatalville so I was raised to always have my head on a swivel. To always be highly aware of what was going on around me & who was near me. I can't remember ever entering a building without immediately looking around to find other exits. As kids we were taught to try to spot trouble before it started & get the hell out of Dodge. To walk with our heads up & with a purpose. To have our car or door keys out and ready to use well before we reached the car or the door. (BTW keys carried in your fist, so the ends come out right below your knuckles make an excellent weapon & I often carry mine that way when returning to my car.) To look back frequently to make sure no one is following us. To be aware of anyone who's paying you more attention than is normal. To have a clearly defined personal space & call out anyone who violates it the instant they do. And most importantly to never ever worry about offending someone or looking foolish by taking action if you feel uncomfortable or threatened in any way. Now I realize that to most people it might seem that living in that mindset is exhausting but it's become second nature. I do it without thinking about it. Never having lived any other way I have nothing to compare it to. It's just ingrained in me. I can say though that 99% of the people I encounter might as well have "Easy Victim" tattooed on their forehead mainly because of their lack of awareness & their incredibly slow, usually wrong, response when something does happen. You want to empower your girls? Train them to protect themselves. It's never too early or too late to start.
I am not in the army and as a woman i do the swivel regularly. I also look up regularly in cafes when I read the newspaper and I see men looking at me and then turning away
"You can't apologize dead in the woods..." My wife and I love this network and what these two started!!
I really love to see Mrs. Poet in the show! It actually helps a lot in the mindset and encourages not only women, but men too, like, this lady is clearing houses on her own! As a woman without the background of John.
Side note: I definitely encourage people who have USCCA to look at their contract terms and agreements. It states that coverage will be denied if you are charged with a crime....yet many officers who aren't on your side may charge you with assault/murder/manslaughter if things don't happen to look right at the crime scene regardless of the circumstances. In this case, USCCA could deny your request for an attorney since you are technically charged with a crime or a "criminal use" of your firearm. In their terms that sort of use is not covered even if you have only been charged and not been to a hearing yet. I caution you to consult with your personal attorney and see, because my attorney definitely had to point these out to me. I now am looking into other insurances like Firearms Legal Protection and others.
Be safe friends
Love what you guys are doing as a couple! I read the Gift of fear about four years ago and thought it was something my daughter needs to read. She now 14 years old and she is reading it as we speak! Godspeed
Watch out for scammers! Be aware of their methodologies and know the workings!
Protecting the gift is the second to this book.
“The Gift of Fear” is a great book. It’s a dry read at times but the information is second to none. Highly recommend it for both men and women.
Most of the truly worthwhile books are pretty dry at times. I’m going to take a look at this one based on the value and recommendations. Thank you.
A huge supplement to go a security system is a camera system. One time I woke up and the front door was wide open. I immediately checked the camera footage and saw I didn't latch it or lock it and the wind blew it open and no one came in or out
Ladies, never let the fear of being rude compromise your safety. Great info Mrs. Poet!
Love it. I heard once of a man who went on a jog early morning and left the door unlocked, someone got in and killed his wife before he returned from the jog. Scary.
Large indoor dogs are a huge plus and a bit of a deterrent, at the very least it slows an intruder down.
Then there’s the lady at Walmart in San Antonio that just tried to walk out with another lady’s cart and child!!!!! “Just because she’s your child doesn’t mean I can’t take her” 🤮
I remember the first time you guys covered this about 2 years ago. This is something that I'm glad you guys are repeating. It's important to remind us guys and gals that we are a team and both need to be Warrior Poets.
That feeling in your head... that's your guardian angel. Always listen to that voice!
Yes WPS you asked for suggestions and you delivered! Mrs Poet doing it for us ladies 💪
Love it!❤. I especially liked hearing Becka using John’s lingo; “time to go to work” “go time”. I got such a giggle envisioning her clearing rooms, nice.
I don't think you would have been laughing if she had found you in the house. I would rather face 3 big dogs than an attractive woman with a gun in her hand and kids behind her that was scared of me in a place I didn't belong.
I took a lot away from this video. I loved it when she said “Its my responsibility to keep myself safe.” Im the “crazy” gun guy in all of my friend groups and I can not get my friends to understand that their safety is their responsibility and should be taken seriously. They think society is so peaceful and they shouldn’t have to worry about attackers. Just because you shouldn’t have to doesn’t me you get that luxury.
Agreed. I don't like having to be prepared for the possibility of violence any more than anyone else, but it's the nature of reality.
I grew up in “the hood” as did most of my friends and strangely I can not get them to understand why I carry a gun daily even tho we all know people who have been killed. I have friends that don’t know why I carry daily and I have friends who even 16 years into legal daily gun carrying can’t understand that I don’t shoot everyone I get in a disagreement with or everyone that cuts me off in traffic.
Just be careful not to blame the victim. Punish the attacker at least three times as hard as you tell the victim, "I told you so"/"you shouldn't have....." Make punishing the attacker the priority. Punish first, heal the victim, then train the victim to prevent future incidents.
I also shouldn’t have to wear a seatbelt, but I do. One morning on way to work some guy should not have run a stop sign, but he did. Without seatbelt rollover could have ended badly. With seatbelt, witnesses, insurance, “first” responders, and a friend willing to pick me up for work it turned into a nonevent. Shouldn’t need seatbelts, shouldn’t need to pay for insurance, police or firefighters - but we do because it is just common sense. Training and carrying a gun is easier and cheaper than those things and just as sensible.
@@Evergreen1400 Good for you for bucking the trend and being willing to defend yourself. Honestly, I'm always surprised by those folks who think that just because you carry, you're going to BLOW UP and use your gun at the least provocation. Honestly, I think this is projection on their part. When I think of those people owning a gun, I think, "YOU are the exact type of person that SHOULDN'T carry, if you're worried about losing your temper."
The Gift of Fear is a MUST read for all! It was amazing and opened my eyes to a lot!
As a wife and mom of 4 I couldn't agree with this more. My husband is gone for work frequently, and it is up to me to protect my kids.
it is also up to parents to educate their offspring not to rob and attack people
I love this book, I read it years ago and I've kept this information in my head everywhere I go since. Another great book is Left of Bang.
Your responsibility to be ready for the fight never ends.
Love your channel in general, Mrs Warrior's attendance takes it up a notch.
Great book! One of the lessons that stuck with me that I pass on frequently is that, if you NEED help, you pick the person to ask, don’t wait to be asked.
The chances the you will pick a predator are significantly lower than whether an opportunistic predator will choose you to offer “help”.
I’ve even offered that advice to women and girls that have asked me for help in the past. I guess I’m just one of those guys who seems safe to ask but I still offer it (if it feels appropriate).
I’m glad you brought that up man! Great reminder
@@josephgipson7469 Thanks, man. Much appreciated
Thank you Mrs Poet! This was GREAT! I would love to see another video about tips for increasing our kids situational awareness or how as a mom to be aware and protect our kids!! 👍👍👍
Your wife is incredible. Very well spoken individual.
Great video! My wife and I have had many talk like this. A wife a mother needs to be just as prepared as a husband dad because more often they are the target. I hope this video reaches a lot of woman out there. Great job warrior poet family!
Whenever I go into “situational awareness,” my wife writes it off as PTSD and that I am overreacting (again.) But I do trust her gut, as she does, and thankfully when we are apart I know she knows how to handle whatever comes her way.
Because of your videos my wife is really getting involved more and this will transfer to my adult daughters . Thank you guys so much for doing these videos it has become more inviting to our households. You guys have truly reached another level of Excellence!!!!! Your wife is a powerhouse of truth for all women . Truth delivered in love AWESOME Example !!!!!👍👍👍👍👍
I tell my wife this all the time. Life is rainbows and butterflies for her, and everyone is just wonderful. I need to get this book for her.
"so i went to the bedroom and grabbed the AR"
YEAHHHH! get some, Mrs. Poet Society!
Great book! Had my wife and daughter read it years ago. Having good situational awareness for women and men is an easy first step for self defense.
Thanks, this is good advice- not just for women. Everyone, in a more general way, can be taken advantage of if they don't practice caution.
Mrs. Poet crushed it!!! I sent this video to my wife.
Trust your gut instinct and always situational awareness. After twenty five years of law enforcement I seen plenty of victims say, " I knew something wasn't quite right". Good information Mr. & Mrs. Poet.
Retired LEO here...BRAVO. The story about the basement door and clearing the house, right there with you 100%. Some people think that is crazy behavior, absolutely not...especially with children in the home. Love you guys for taking the time to make these videos and hopeful it will sink in with viewers.
Rather than clearing the house herself, wouldn't it have been wiser to have called Law Enforcement to do the sweep? Shouldn't her first action have been leaving the home, and then calling 911?
@@bp6877 personally no, but whatever your level of comfort is I suppose. I suspect she is more competent with her rifle and has more training than any law enforcement officer in her area (trng. with her husband, former Ranger, weapons expert, hand to hand combat expert etc), just my two cents
I try to teach my wife, daughters, sister in Laws, their daughters other family, friends and others to keep there eyes out of their phones, keep them on the look out for trouble and to keep their heads on swivel.
But most times it’s like trying to herd cats.
I try to teach them what to look out for and how to be safe but it’s hard to get them to do anything other than my oldest daughter that was in front line combat in the GWOT in Afghanistan and even she misses a lot of things sometimes.
That’s why if you made the vows to God the Father the son and the holy sprit that you were going to be there for your wife as a married man it’s your responsibility to be there to keep your eyes open and your head on a swivel looking for troubles to protect her from because they just don’t always seem to careful enough.
Good luck with that.
Thanks again for another very good insightful video and I’ve passed it along to all of the chicks and some husbands of them because this is a very helpful video.
Always be aware of what's around you. Good job guys.
You two are so frickin awesome!!! I’m sharing this with all 4 of my kids and all over social media for all my female friends to soak in! And be more aware!!!!
Thanks Tania!!
pulled over on the interstate to help a young woman with her flat tire. As soon as i walked up i gave her my business card and said "text this to your parents right now. Also, get on the phone with them and keep them on the phone until i start and finish changing your tire." she did just that. hopefully she learned what to do if anyone else ever stops to help her. i had my phone in the car videoing the entire time. (that was for my protection).
Really enjoyed the Mrs Poet videos lately! These are so good
Everything Mrs. War Poet said describes my wife. I’ve tried talking to her, using situations in the news to explain and even a few in our home town. Nothing. The “it won’t happen to me” attitude is deeply ingrained in her brain. She hasn’t even carried her weapon or light in months. I’m lost on how to combat this attitude of unpreparedness. She can’t even really fight. She grew up very sheltered. Our situations were different. I grew up fighting and know exactly what people think and how fast things can go sideways. She just doesn’t think anything will ever happen and I can’t seem to break through.
I recognized that story immediately. He shamed her for attempting to place boundaries, and it worked. "There's such a thing as being too proud" and she fell for it. I've avoided blue on blue sexual violence several times, because I'm a bitch. My 7 year old daughter is learning to be the same way. She already has som incredible sass, and we are only teaching her to modulate that, NOT eliminate it. Pretty girls can't afford to be nice! She is naturally inclined to be very kind, but that is NOT the same as being nice, or overly polite. We are 100% weaponizing every strength that little girl has! We are teaching our son the seriousness of violence as well.
100% you could not be rude enough to turn a normal guy into a rapist. But you can easily be rude enough to deter someone who already is a rapist.
Love this. It's a wonderful reminder that other people ought to be nice, but our safety is ultimately our responsibility.
John, here's an idea for the next evolution level of your training. How about a couples weekend training where you and your wife tag team to work with other couples. There could be portions of training for the couples together as well as with them separate.
You didn't win a damn thing. But, this is a great idea. Bravo to you.
@@frankkerst5367 It's a spammer. I just reported his post for spam.
Watched this with the wifey. We're both retired, in our mid'60's, so no kids at home. Lots of good info that still pertains to us! Your videos are always informative! Thanks!
I was at a book store recently & saw two copies of “the gift of fear” for $0.50 each so I grabbed both to regift. The author may be a anti-2A fool, but his other thoughts are valid. I would encourage others to look at his book “protecting the gift” too
His anti 2A bend is my only criticism as well. What's hilariously ironic is that de Becker now runs a personal security company of armed bodyguards (which as I understand rival the US Secret Service).
@@simonostinelli187 they are spam
kind of weird how someone can be so sensible about the additional vulnerability women face in society from violent attackers and yet also be an anti self defense nut job.
Love it!!! AMEN!!! HS mom here and my family’s protection is my responsibility when hubby isn’t home
I read The Power of Awareness recently and I thought it was great and gave it to my mom and sister to read! I’ll have to check out The Gift of Fear as well
Yes, good book as well.
Such a beautiful couple. Thank you for protecting our country and thank your wife for taking care of your loved ones while you protect our country. We forget about the loved ones who get to worry and stay strong at home till the loved ones come home. We will never forget all the sacrifices our warriors and family’s of those warriors make. Bravo you two are a perfect all American family. Our world is a better place with your family in it. Thank you.
Great info as always! I wish more women were security aware as Mrs. Poet.
Thank you! Very timely given a recent situation my wife told me about where she was trying to be nice to a stranger she came in contact with. Forwarding to her now and together we will convince her to carry!
I came for the quad nods. Stayed for the life lessons. Just bought my fiancée a P365xl, so she can be part of the defensive equation. Love the content!
Good purchase
I gave my wife my 365. Know I get to buy another one.
Great video and solid advice. Trained in martial arts for many years. So, I get questions from women on the best one thing for self defense.
I have been giving this exact advice to women for years now. I tell women trust that gut instinct ! If you have a bad feeling about a someone in a store and they are following you out the door. Turn around and head back in to the store. Get a manager and ask for a male employee to escort you out. If someone is being pushy or getting in your personal space. Get loud and tell them to back off. Attract attention to yourself and the situation.
Parking lots , If your cornered and or weapon is displayed . The fight is right now! Again get loud and fight to create distance.
The book, "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin DeBecker covers this topic in detail and in great scope and depth. It is so good I buy used copies to gift to young women going to college or heading into the world of work. Please, everyone needs to read this book. It is good for men and women as it raises your awareness of the pre indicators of violent behavior. Especially if you are on the safety team of your church.
That’s such a good idea.
My husband is. thanks for the suggestion. I’m going to look into it now.
This is a perfect example of “Your responsibility to be ready for the fight…Never Ends!” -James Yeager
Love this kind of discussion. My wife is almost completely there, with the exception of carrying a gun. It’s mostly how to do it comfortably. If anyone has any ideas, I’d appreciate it.
Can’t speak from experience, but I’ve heard great things about the enigma holster system 👍
Be ready to holster shop/ spend money. Try checking out the TH-cam channel to called 'she equips herself'. She does a bunch of reviews on different types of holsters and paraphernalia. Neo mags, can-can holsters, and flashbangs are popular choices. But also, I found it really helpful when somebody said no matter what you're always going to be somewhat uncomfortable. Carrying a gun is a lifestyle choice and you have to make certain sacrifices in order to enjoy that privilege. So I found it very helpful to also manage my expectations on what carrying a gun would be like. I hope that was succinct and helpful.
She Equips Herself also has the Armed & Confident Academy that is excellent.
About two days ago I was having this conversation with my fiancé, teaching her some points, and just now I come across this video, had to share it with her. Thank you
Love your work guys. Two things ive preached to the women in my life.
"Its better to act on instinct and look the fool."
And when it comes to people being stupid in nature. I blame Walt Disney.
Blue birds are not going land and your shoulder and whistle along to your song.
That is Awesome advice. I tell my daughter and son that all the time.
My rules of life. Feelings don't matter. Friends are way over rated. Trust no one/everyone has a motive.
Shit I'm 34 and only have 2 friends. I have been that way pretty much all my life.
Which is why I live alone and have no friends!!!
agreed, and don't trust your partners
My daughter (almost 15 years old) will be getting this seconds after I finish this message. Thank you, Mrs. Poet.
When I was working at an elementary school, it amazed me how little some of these teachers and staff were aware of their surroundings, especially the younger ones. I guess they thought that the 2 or 3 unarmed men (public school) would be able to protect them. Not that we wouldn't try, but....
I will text my wife asking about the doors and other areas, just to make sure, she's usually great about it.
I worked in security for a decade and purchased this book to endure living in constant fear. I would recommend this book to smarter female medical professionals, to get them to think about their own personal safety issues. I own an audio and print copy.
I tell my wife this all the time; assume everyone else is an idiot and that everyone else is hostile unless I am there with her. Suspect everyone and never let anyone come within your arms reach, not even close to it. Head on a swivel, eyes and ears open all the time. It's healthy to have a sense of high alertness and its not paranoia.
Agree!!
agreed.
This is wise and appropriate for this world. I will be forwarding this to neighbors and friends who are clueless.
The Gift of fear is a great book.
“ Can’t apologize dead in the woods.“ Awesome Mrs. Poet. Keep it up sir & ma’am.
As a Man, a husband, father of 2 daughters this really bothers me. Good subject, thanks Mr and Mrs Poet!
If you daughters are old enough and not already 40 or something, buy them the book. It is a great read and one that everyone should really read but especially women.
Great video. Things I taught my daughters 30 years ago still hold true today. More so.
My girlfriend who is retired law enforcement officer said “too many women want to slap and shove during a fight for their life. More of them need to learn how to throat punch”
Your Responsibility to be Ready for the Fight NEVER Ends!
As a God Fearing Southern Gentleman hearing Mrs Poet tell women to fear men enraged me! But she's right! I tell my wife the same thing! It is so disheartening that is the world we live in...and I am not jealous of young men trying to date in today's world...
agreed, I fear men
This is a fantastic video & we were so happy to see your wife share as well! My husband & I watch your channel all the time with our two children. You guys are a family friendly channel & we greatly appreciate that. I share these things with my lady friends & family often & most of the time they think I'm to paranoid. It is so important & most definitely worth it to always be aware & have the mindset that you can not trust people you don't know
My wife was attacked by a scumbag, thank God she wasn't raped and or killed(she could have been easily) she was armed but grabbed by the neck from behind. If she pulled her gun out he could have used it against her....fortunately he is off the street and going to prison. That really doesn't make me feel much better because he put his hands on my wife. There is no excuse for even touching a women.
Thank you Mrs. Poet you are able to reach women that would otherwise tune out when security issues are brought up.
Women are TOO skittish, though. I've had women act like I'm following them around the grocery store. I've literally had to go out of my way to avoid women in grocery stores when women look at me, first. When someone looks at you, instinctively, you look back. I've literally had to change my pattern of shopping in the grocery store because of this. I'm a very large man because I'm a former offensive linemen. How are people supposed to meet one another if everyone thinks men are murderers? This is NOT the world we want to be living in. We're going to have more single people and less families if everyone is afraid of men.
No one is saying be afraid of men there saying be alert to your surroundings and if you can help it don’t be around strangers when you are alone.
Exactly, I do the same thing. I ain’t trying to have my life ruined just because I might wanna actually date again after 2 years. It’s just not worth it for me.
And I despise the fact that it’s come to that.
@@longgone9869 that’s pretty much what they’re insinuating, whether they intend to or not.
@@seneca1932 I know, brother. It's a tragedy. You can't build trust with anyone. I lost everything over an accusation. I lost my job, my home, my career and I've never been the same. I tried going into a new career and trouble kept following me around. Before this incident, I had never been without work OR I had never had a problem on the job. I feel like God turned His back on me. I'm a literal husk of the man I once was. It's a symptom of a larger disease and this nation is going to crumble because of it. It's happening all around us. They're just playing right into the globalists' hands by besmirching men's reputations.
@@tacticalmattfoley I hope you were able to read my reply to your reply before somebody decided to hide it. If not, there are certain channels on here who deal with mens’s issues like yours and mine. Ones where old “grunts speak” clearly on such things. I would search those words here on this platform.
Just know that you are not alone and there is an entire “$phere 0f M€n” who can help, just as they have helped me and countless other men.
See you there, brother.
Thanks for posting this John. Immediately shared it with my wife.
Thanks for this video! As a father of 4 grown daughters and now mother's I sent them this great awesome video
Living in Canada we are limited in ways we can protect ourselves and our loved ones, being diligent in awareness is even more important. Thank you both for highlighting key things my wife can do to keep herself a little safer
This is so wonderful and very informative. Thankfully I’ve been been paranoid all my life so I’m consistently seeing threats everywhere.
Even so, please refrain from ever using the phrase “she was asking for it.” That phrase needs to die and for good reason. I also think we shouldn’t say it’s our responsibility to keep ourselves safe or that their is dual responsibility between us and the person committing the crime against us. You are never responsible for someone choosing to commit a crime. The only people who will see you as a target are the criminals. Someone who has no intention of hurting you will not see people as targets, just people.
It’s a good idea to be on alert and be aware of your surroundings and trust your gut, but never let anyone convince you that if someone hurts you that you are somehow responsible for the horrible thing THEY chose. You are not.
Awesome video John and Mrs. Poet. Sharing with all our female friends. We unfortunately have to assume the worst until we know better in the sinful world we live in. Happy to have people like you two to help spread the word!
I’ve handed out dozens of copies of this book to women I care about. Excellent advice. Thank you for bringing this to the front.
Great advice! I'll be pushing the book on my wife and daughter. I'll also let them know if they come home and something is out of place, leave and call the cops. Let them do the room clearing.
I needed to hear that. Thank you Mrs. Poet! You are a great example for us women. Keep up the good work!
Traveling alone in a VW bus for a while in the 90's I didn't own a firearm...always had a knife and got a stun gun and always had my gut instinct I got out of situations that were insane but always sit at a corner always look bigger and badder than you are I was 90lbs but people saw I was feisty and not to be screwed with! Great info thanks guys this video is needed as I see girls just plain dumb and not knowing their surroundings or their nearest exit points! I got to know that very young and instilled in me because of the stupidity I did like thumbing everywhere etc... But always be aware vigilant and know your scenarios!
Thankful for the mentor types in my life warning me about these sorts of things, and teaching me how to walk with purpose when out and about. I've learned how to be polite but also how to notice red flags and respond accordingly.
Like it JOHN! Good to see the Mrs involved. There is life in everything you do. God bless you my man.
I really like the way your wife explained the things she was explaining specially the bluntness when she said you could be put out put in a trunk and out to the woods and you're done more women need to realize that
Gave it to my wife and she said that it was a real eye opener and a great book.
Glad to see Mrs. Poet on giving good advice to women (and men). I think both of you rock!
After all these years it turns out Mrs. Poet has a first name! 😀 Thanks for making this video. I'm going to have my wife and four daughters watch it.
Very important to share this video. Thank you both. God bless.
I love this book. I read it, and recommended it to some close friends years ago