Avoiding Attackers: Tips for Women

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  • @oregonoutback7779
    @oregonoutback7779 6 ปีที่แล้ว +281

    This was an excellent video, you two. As the father of several adult daughters, that have all traveled internationally for business, all have been instilled with my talks on situational awareness. A few years back, one encountered two teenage boys while walking on a beach with a female coworker in South America. She watched them scoping out her and her friend. She removed her purse from her shoulder, wrapping the strap a couple times around her wrist as they broke into a full run towards them. Her companion was totally unaware what was about to happen as she was knocked to the sand and her purse whisked away. My daughter spun around, using her purse, connecting to the side of one assailants head. Shocked and stunned, she proceeded to connect foot to groin, then shin. They rolled on the beach as she scratched and clawed and even got one good finger to eye, before he hobbled away (bloodied) in defeat. Fortunately, the young men had no weapons, relying on speed and surprise as their tactics. My daughters friend chastised her for resisting and not giving up her purse with a very expensive new camera. She told her it wasn't about the purse or camera, it was about not allowing herself to become the victim. They did not remain friends and I was one proud Papa.

    • @notundermywatch3163
      @notundermywatch3163 6 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      " connect foot to groin" love it

    • @user-pv9pv4xf9c
      @user-pv9pv4xf9c 6 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Oregon Outback wow her friend was pissed that she went April O'Neil on their ass's? WTF.

    • @donaldferguson9418
      @donaldferguson9418 6 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Oregon Outback Your daughter did the right thing. They aren't looking for a fight. They only want victims.

    • @WhoWouldWantThisName
      @WhoWouldWantThisName 6 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Yes, good for you for preaching this and training it into her. Good for her for paying attention and following her instincts. As far as her friend goes, there is often this attitude that it isn't worth fighting for "blank". The problem with that, even though I may agree sometimes when given the luxury of hind sight, is that you don't know what your attacker's agenda is. Afterwards you may look back and see, "oh a purse snatcher, yeah just let them take it.", but at the time you don't know what their intentions are and need to assume worst case scenario. If you know they intend to rape or murder you, what would you do? Whatever the answer is to that question, that's the proper response. I'm not saying to shoot them, necessarily, just respond to an unarmed attacker as if they intend to do what harm they can while unarmed. I believe this is why they grabbed her friend's purse and continued without grabbing your daughter's purse. They could see your daughter was paying attention and her purse was also wrapped around her wrist, not an easy target. The friend was likely between them, and they thought they could get away with the purse without being caught and without a fight. They were counting on the victim's mindset of "just take it all".

    • @Stigstigster
      @Stigstigster 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@WhoWouldWantThisName "you don't know what their intentions are and need to assume worst case scenario." This is so important. You only know they 'only wanted your money' after the fact and you are in fit condition to realise that.

  • @lgladsteph
    @lgladsteph 6 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    the way they look at each other at the beginning is just...way too precious, too precious

    • @wadecampbell8109
      @wadecampbell8109 ปีที่แล้ว

      I bet they watch the Discovery channel while they have adult time.

  • @Astonomygirl491
    @Astonomygirl491 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I just love your videos! I had an epiphany a few years back. As a petite woman, I found my self where the hairs on the back of my neck were standing on end in a parking lot at dusk. I realized if I were attacked, I wouldn’t be able to fight someone off. I have decided to take my defense seriously and have my CCW license, and am taking classes to better defend myself and my home. Your insight is truly appreciated!

  • @reptilesgamers00
    @reptilesgamers00 6 ปีที่แล้ว +126

    My sister was at Ohio State when she was approached by a Christian religious group. They asked if she was interested in doing a Bible study with them, which seemed innocent enough at the time. My sister, a Christian, refused as she had school work to do and couldn't spare any time. Later, a warning letter was sent out that human traffickers were using Bible study invitations as a ploy to get young women alone. We're almost certain the same people were talking to my sister. As she recalled they were white with some broken English; nothing suspicious about them or what they asked. Scary stuff tho.

    • @songbirdforjesus2381
      @songbirdforjesus2381 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Wow, trust no one

    • @carlwilliams8354
      @carlwilliams8354 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      That same thing was being done at my daughters college

    • @emelia5163
      @emelia5163 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jessesmith8388 yes

    • @DontLetTheOldManIn
      @DontLetTheOldManIn 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@songbirdforjesus2381 Yes, sadly.

    • @copcuffs9973
      @copcuffs9973 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      As a handsome single Christian man the pastor's daughter invited me to her home group for Bible study, pastors two daughters and a few other single girls.
      "Guys will be here next week."
      After the second week of being the only guy there I politely declined another week, seeking to transfer to another small group bible study with at least a mixed group ♂️&♀️
      One of my guy friends said his small group was good.
      Possibly upset I left the ladies 📖 group
      I was told that "church leadership" decided I could not transfer, to the other group. 🙄

  • @Glitter-Ink-Ammo
    @Glitter-Ink-Ammo 6 ปีที่แล้ว +154

    This topic is so important and I’m so glad you made a video about that. So important to feel comfortable with saying “no thank you” or just ignoring people. You owe no one your time or your attention.

    • @merize1447
      @merize1447 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      +Glitter. Ink. Ammo: I agree for the most part. However I think that it's not about "feeling comfortable" but more so that your words mean something. One of the more important ideas of the book is the aggressor ignoring someone's "No". It's very similar to the idea you learn in a Tactical Response course, and of course one of the reasons I keep taking their classes, is that if you act like prey then that is what you are. No means no and there is no need for saying thank you with it. Saying no politely is wonderful but if you have to continuously repeat yourself then it's aggression.

    • @sirfield
      @sirfield 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes exactly! Be polite but you don't owe anyone anything

  • @magritteetmoncouteau
    @magritteetmoncouteau 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    "It's ok to be rude" The whole french population didn't wait for you to say that
    Greetings from Belgium!

  • @Elocinization
    @Elocinization 5 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    "Yes!" to being rude! I had an uncomfortable run-in with a creepy guy at a grocery store, and the conversation was way longer than it should've been because I was afraid of being impolite.

    • @sheaholloway9537
      @sheaholloway9537 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      That happens to a lot of us! I had a really scary experience, but ok. But when you are nervous, caught off-guard, you do crazy stuff like I did- bent over INTO car to see if I had any change when a man at the gas-station asked me! Like, etc! These vids are invaluable!

    • @jessicatoussaint9140
      @jessicatoussaint9140 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I can relate. In my case I kept trying to dance around the "where do you live" question. He eventually left me alone and I reported him to a cashier. I never saw him again. I want to practice situational awareness and know how to deal with situations effectively. Give me more control

    • @qq84
      @qq84 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jessicatoussaint9140 Yes, you have to learn how to dodge questions. There are different tactics for that. A good tactic is to ask questions yourself, which is also useful to gather information against him. Another, more easy tactic would be just to say "aha" or "yep". And you can ask him why he want's to know that.

  • @GunsNGauze
    @GunsNGauze 6 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Something I’ve noticed in my 8 years working as a full time EMT, most of the sexual and physical assaults I’ve responded to, the perpetrator was known to the victim. And in the case of the young woman whom was raped and murdered in Iowa, the man who killed her knew her as well. So my point is, more often than not the person who may attack you may be someone you know rather than a strange person.

    • @polyscient
      @polyscient 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's why this video is antisocial fear mongering bullshit.

    • @VikingRasbornStrong
      @VikingRasbornStrong ปีที่แล้ว

      You just showed your hand... move along.

  • @gingerhalo
    @gingerhalo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I was taught when someone looks at you, make eye contact, and when you look away do NOT look down, it’s a sign of submission. Look up and away. (PS This video is very informative and I’m glad I found your channel! God bless y’all 😇)

  • @bippie23456
    @bippie23456 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Outstanding! I am a full-time Pastor (30 years) and I also am a firearms instructor, I will be linking this video in the next email to my students!

  • @Fedaykin8
    @Fedaykin8 6 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    I can already hear the angry retorts from people that don't share this mindset, about being rude to people, the anxiety of living in fear constantly, etc... thing is, once you get used to hyper-vigilance and know the best practices of what you should and shouldn't be doing, you actually are not only safer, but you are more calm and confident and have LESS anxiety in your day to day life. Weird how that works. You guys are awesome! God bless! #powercouple #dontbethebacon ;)

  • @teresastorms3774
    @teresastorms3774 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you, thank you! So many women are totally flippin' clueless!! Pay attention and let them know you will fight. I was almost abducted as a high school skinny girl right on a busy street. No one else is going to save you but YOU!! I'm sharing this with everyone!!

  • @steverowe2943
    @steverowe2943 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Well said. People often share too much personal information on social media.

  • @jasondean9626
    @jasondean9626 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Hands down one of the best videos on the subject of self defense. No "tactical"BS, just solid wisdom. I hope you and your family have a blessed day.

  • @Neur0bit
    @Neur0bit 6 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    "Avoid stupid places, at stupid times, with stupid people". Great advice! - Thanks for the video! Will share with wife and daughter.

    • @FreshCoastKnife
      @FreshCoastKnife 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Stupid Choices, get you Stupid Rewards.

    • @sirfield
      @sirfield 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Avoidance and situational awareness is a key factor in good self defense

  • @matthewferrari7643
    @matthewferrari7643 6 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    John, your words and mentality are truly refreshing. You shine a million watts on many situations. Your wife has a million watt smile. It’s clear to see you are both iron sharpening iron.

    • @albaker2667
      @albaker2667 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Matthew Ferrari n

  • @JustLookA7
    @JustLookA7 6 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Interesting podcast. I sent it to my girlfriend. She always thinks everything is OK and nothing will ever happen. And it kind of frustrates me as personally, as a man, I've been in violent situations of attempted robberies and it's not a good feeling if it catches you off guard.
    Personal security should be the number one priority when going out to any place, always.

  • @Amandarecovers
    @Amandarecovers 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Man, you can tell he loves her! The worry on his face in these scenarios thinking about his wife is just powerful ya know? You guys are so cute. Good for you for teaching your wife these things & good for you girl for being open to learning. I know women who don’t care about carrying or being safe and it’s scary.

  • @jeanberube1040
    @jeanberube1040 6 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    I really liked the input about southern hospitality , Georgia and rural Canada is pretty much alike manners wise.

    • @Merb.
      @Merb. 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This rural Canadian can confirm 😂

    • @sirfield
      @sirfield 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Very true, me being from southern Canada

    • @DarlingsDomain
      @DarlingsDomain 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm from the south. I've learned smiling at people backfires and attracts the wrong people.

    •  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Merb. same 😂

  • @thomashoctor8687
    @thomashoctor8687 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is why I don't try to help anyone under the age of 65 when I'm out in public anymore. You don't know me and I don't know you and I like keeping it that way. Love the channel.

  • @SouthernGuns601
    @SouthernGuns601 6 ปีที่แล้ว +270

    Bro.. the way she's looking at you while you talk! I think she is in love with you man..

    • @cindyvining7866
      @cindyvining7866 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      And visa versa.

    • @boitshepopooe4778
      @boitshepopooe4778 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I also think so 🤔

    • @SergioRodriguez-vn1jx
      @SergioRodriguez-vn1jx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Stay with the person who looks at you like the look each other.

    • @jacobwynn9555
      @jacobwynn9555 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      That's something I notice about every video of them together. Its something I hope to have someday.

    • @justinxiao9098
      @justinxiao9098 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      He's married to her.

  • @p.s.shnabel3409
    @p.s.shnabel3409 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    All great points! As a rather small female I've also learned that body language is all important: if a predator thinks you're willing to fight tooth and nail, they look for easier prey. So ladies, up with that chin, take back your shoulders and practice that demon glare.

    • @qq84
      @qq84 ปีที่แล้ว

      And maybe apply some of the male way to analyze situations. That means look at the situation like a chess board and look for movements.

  • @ddaily99
    @ddaily99 6 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    I love at 0:37 how Mrs. Poet looks all lovingly at John and he has his full warrior game face on. LOL

  • @michaeljames2250
    @michaeljames2250 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Great video! I have a wife and 3 teenage daughters that I talk about this all the time. I had them watch the video...it was nice that they heard it from a young female (Mrs Poet”). Thanks!

  • @Koolstorybro765
    @Koolstorybro765 6 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Honestly this information is great for everyone, for guys and gals, but most importantly for the women and children. Great job Mr&Mrs Poet.

  • @burtjustus3342
    @burtjustus3342 6 ปีที่แล้ว +169

    That’s real women empowerment. 👍🏻👍🏻🇺🇸🇺🇸🗽🗽.

    • @bldlightpainting
      @bldlightpainting 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Yep, if you really care about women you'll love them enough to speak the truth, and that is that they are looked at as prey from the many sexual predators in this sin-sick world. More of these aniamals need to be eliminated.

    • @Stigstigster
      @Stigstigster 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Of course there will be radical feminists calling this advice "victim blaming/shaming" but to ignore such good advice based upon that is to ignore reality. Wicked people will take advantage of people who appear to be victimizable. An attacker can just as easily surprise a man walking with headphones in as they can a woman. Try hard not to be that victim with vigilance, awareness and action. It is never the fault of a victim of crime when it does happen as that fault lies squarely with the perpetrator but please, please, do your best to minimise your chances of being that victim. That goes for men and women. Men and women generally face different kinds of threats but the defences against them are very often similar whatever your gender. The advice in this video is good for all even though it may be more specific to women.

    • @LDP-o2b
      @LDP-o2b 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Stigstigster Sir you're mistaking radical feminism (1st, 2º wave feminism) with liberal/midiatic feminism.

    • @Stigstigster
      @Stigstigster 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@LDP-o2b I don't know if I'm mistaking what kind of feminism but I do know there are two basic types. One demands true equality, just give the same treatment and the same rights and equal recognition for equal deeds by both sexes to both sexes. I stand by the right for women to be equal in rights and recognition. I have been married 20 years to a very successful woman and the idea of trying to control her in any way is simply unthinkable (and likely impossible) from my perspective. To control anyone is in fact one of the greatest crimes a person can commit against another. Then there are those that hate men and don't want equality but want the tables turned. Those are the type of feminists I had in mind when I made my comment on responsibility for one's own safety.

  • @soundtw77
    @soundtw77 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Here in Dallas we had some people going around and flattening women's tires then act like they were going to help change the tire at the gas station so they could Rob them and or abduct them . Great video it's always a struggle to protect your daughters or wife from this evil but it is a must

    • @Dillion203
      @Dillion203 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      soundtw77 so you live in Dallas huh?

    • @soundtw77
      @soundtw77 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Dillion203 I smell a troll

    • @bl0ss0mshum4n
      @bl0ss0mshum4n 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Woah. I've never heard of that happening before. Thanks for the heads up. Good thing I can change my own tire

    • @qq84
      @qq84 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's pretty common, not just in Dallas, it's even done way over the pond in Spain.

  • @sharonhench8579
    @sharonhench8579 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for your honesty. I became a victim because I worked with special needs students for over 30 years, I was too trusting and launched into verbal de-escalation when confronted by my stalker.....I did not perceive him as a stalker until four months after his arrest. Forever grateful to the law enforcement officer who took the time to listen to my story and help me process the trauma and move forward.

  • @skipsmith9692
    @skipsmith9692 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I found myself praying that you continue to expand and grow the love in your marriage, care and love for your kids, and above all place each other second only to GOD....great video, I have shared it with several people I know and ordered the book for my wife and I. Keep doing the good works and continue to teach....both of you. John, you have been truly blessed young man with from what I can tell a Proverbs 31 woman...be the man she deserves, I am certain you will. Blessings my friends.

  • @donskiver
    @donskiver 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It's so sweet how the two of you look at each other. You can just tell that you both are still very much in love and that's one of the greatest things in the world.

  • @adviceman5211
    @adviceman5211 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Bravo, John, for getting Mrs. Poet in your videos. One can tell by the way she looks at you that she has YOUR back as much as you have hers !!! No victims here !!!!!

  • @akalilbit08
    @akalilbit08 5 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I’ve seen where women “be cold” or “rude” and creeps with fragile egos get VERY aggressive.

    • @mr.browning7.624
      @mr.browning7.624 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      This is true, there are those predators who will treat it as a challenge and be persistent. But that's where the 2nd level of preparedness comes in, which is protecting yourself from that predator. Whether it be finding a crowded place where that guy isnt going to be tempted to try anything or even In the extreme cases, physically defending yourself

    • @sirfield
      @sirfield 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That is very true! Gotta pay attention to body language to monitor what might happen next

    • @qq84
      @qq84 ปีที่แล้ว

      Don't fear to make them angry, they're already angry at you for not letting them rape and murder you.

  • @stevebriggs9351
    @stevebriggs9351 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Discernment and situational awareness go hand in hand. Not only seeing what is going on around you but being able to correctly interpret it. It is a skill that you must learn and practice to get better at. Also the “inner witness” or gut as you call it is your helper. Practice listening to that small, still voice. A good goal is to be in the right place at the right time doing the right thing for the right reason so you produce the right results.

  • @user-hf7kj9dp1f
    @user-hf7kj9dp1f 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Omg he was looking at her the whole time she was talking.... that's the most precious thing i have seen in a while. Makes me so happy to see two people so in love

  • @project.redacted
    @project.redacted 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    My wife and I enjoy watching these videos together. Great role models and informative!

  • @monterogers
    @monterogers 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I shared the marriage video you did with Mrs. Poet with my wife. She enjoyed the video and we have waited for a series with the two of you. Glad I could share something I enjoy with my wife. Thanks

  • @glitterglueable
    @glitterglueable 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I have always been a very security conscious person, my dad raised me to be that way. I am not paranoid by any means, but your car passes me or a street up ahead on a walk more than once you bet I am going to notice. Obviously that’s just one scenario, but even I have fallen for the sense of obligatory politeness. I was at the dog park about a month ago and struck up a conversation with a guy as our dogs played together, like you do. Very attractive, unassuming, polite, and enjoyable to talk to. Too much so. My dog is afraid of most people so she displayed a typical level of nervousness and I was talking about her being a scaredy cat (only because it was very apparent). I made sure to mention my other dogs (I said plural for effect) do a better job as protectors and security. He was trying too hard to get my dog to like him. He proceeded to ask me about my other dogs and where they were and if they were at my house. I skirted around the question but my warning bells were already going off and I made a polite retreat. I had already continued talking to him too long and knew I needed to leave. He followed behind me (I left him standing alone on the middle of a field so that much was fine) then stayed with the crowd while I headed up the big hill and when I got about half way up he proceeded that way as well. Listening to your gut is the most important thing you can do. This man could have been simply the nicest guy, but let me tell you, he gave off very Ted Bundy vibes as the interaction progressed. The too handsome, too nice, too easy to talk to and tell too much to. And I knew it in my gut I was right. I felt so stupid replaying the conversation in my head, but that was my lesson about feeling the need to be polite and continue to talk to someone after you’ve already gotten a bad feeling from them. Don’t let the conversation go on, just throw up that cold shoulder and retreat.

    • @qq84
      @qq84 ปีที่แล้ว

      And if you're in a conversation, you don't have to answer any questions - you can even turn it around and be the one who asks questions, like an interrogation, where does he come from, what is he doing, what car is he driving aso..
      If he should follow/target you, just film him, so you have something for a Police report.

  • @williammiller5654
    @williammiller5654 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As a married man. I can't stress this type of content enough. I really like what you said John, "there are more sickos out there than you might think"...and Mrs. Poet, when you said, "don't walk into your own death" and "I'd rather be judgmental than dead", couldn't have been said better!!

  • @mikelivingston319
    @mikelivingston319 6 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Appreciate the logic in the nature trail and not alone. I don't under any circumstance tell my wife what she can or can't do, that being said there are a very few things i stand firm on one being she does a lot of craigslist and facebook market place deals and my strict rule there is absolutely NO one comes to our home to pick up or drop off, and she NEVER meets anyone without me, either I go along our I go meet them myself and it blows my mind how many women I've met in these deals that came alone or with their children and most of them presumably unarmed and completely unprepared for the worst case situation

  • @Warrior32one
    @Warrior32one 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just retired after 27 years of law enforcement with the last several years commanding a human trafficking task force. Great video with exceptional ideas! The first 2 stages of trafficking is recruitment and grooming. Mrs Poet and John have a great manner of humor and solid advice.

  • @QQ-hm4nu
    @QQ-hm4nu 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m glad you spoke about the modesty and covering. statistically the immodest fashion industry marketed to women matched with the sick condition of many men now days is responsible for a spike in sexual assault and rape. I lived a few years in some parts of the Middle East and things like this was unheard of due to most girls covering and men having a religious obligation not to look at them.

  • @jaketheripper7385
    @jaketheripper7385 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I was born and raised in Augusta, GA so that will always be "home" for me, but I've lived in Wisconsin since I was in high school. I can tell you that people in general are far more polite and eager to please in general down south, men and women alike. In truth, that was actually a huge part of the culture shock for me. For the years it was difficult for me to make friends in WI and many of my friends parents thought I was so wierd because of how polite I was and how I always made an effort to approach my elders and speak to them while offering thanks and respect for having me in their home. Some appreciated the effort, but many saw it as bizarre and even shady, believing that no one should be so nice and that I likely possessed some kind of nefarious hidden agenda. It was quite disheartening if I'm being honest, but people are just different here. For years I thought everyone just hated me because I was raised with southern manners and an inherent sense of respect for my fellow man, but people up north are just, well, rude lol. They're just more curt, short, and less prone to all the little niceties you're likely accustomed to. I still have yet to fully embrace the northern sensibilities and I doubt I ever will (I'm now 32, so I've lived here for just over 15 years now), but the sociocultural differences between just the northern and southern United States are unbelievably vast.
    At any rate, most everyone up here is already pretty adept at wearing a "f*ck off" type of attitude, and many women up here can be pretty cantankerous by comparison so I think they've got it down. As for those in the south however, I can definitely agree with Mrs. Poet when she says that southern folks probably need to work on their demeanor, attitude, and presentation a bit more when it comes to "stranger danger", so to speak lol. Actually this is something I've been trying to work on with my mother. She was raised in WI, but lived in GA for over 20 years so a lot of that Southern charm rubbed off on her and sruck with her. Even so, she's naturally a very caring and kind person either way (she used to be a social worker before working in the school system with special needs children, so a very compassionate soul at her core) and has a tendency to over-share sometimes. Dad is of course a gun-carrying protector to an extent, but he's far too sociable and frankly a bit too oblivious to truly be effective in the role (talks to everyone and anyone, way too honest with every random chucklef*ck he meets, sees way too much of the "good" in people, etc.), so I've always tried to pick up the slack. I plan on showing mom a few of the videos with Mrs. Poet in the hope that maybe she'll take the word of an experienced and knowledgeable woman a bit more seriously than mine. I just pray that if God forbid anything were to happen that I'm around to stop it because honestly I'm not confident in my mother's ability to protect herself. She refuses to carry a firearm and is less than diligent in consistently carrying the other tools I've provided her. She has a collapsible baton, OC spray, and a double-edged fixed blade karambit. I've taught her the fundamentals in how to use these tools effectively, but she doesn't bother to learn anything but the most rudimentary of basics and she DOES NOT practice or hone any of these skills in any way. I do my best to test her on these things periodically and attempt to teach her other useful skills and tactics, but she thinks it's all pointless and she considered and referred to me as "paranoid" for years until I sat her down on three or four occasions and explained how I'm not paranoid whatsoever because that implies I'm fearful, and that I am not fearful precisely because I'm prepared and vigilant. There's quite a marked difference... I actually became quite angry with her once when the topic came up in conversation with some of her friends and some extended family and I overheard her refer to me as paranoid. That was one of the first times I sat her down and had to explain why I am the way I am and why I do what I do - spoke to her privately of course lol, not like I called her out in front of everyone or anything. Anyhow I do hope that she's able to see things more clearly after hearing some overdue female input on the subject...

  • @tonylewis2503
    @tonylewis2503 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Just made my 16 year old daughter watch this with me. Thank you for putting this out there.

  • @MrNathanDS
    @MrNathanDS 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank You! I just sent this to my Pastor to forward on to a number of girls in the church who are going away to college. I really appreciete this type of content that isn't gun specific. It is stuff I can forward on to people who aren't interested in carrying, but will listen to tips on staying safe and alive. Thanks again!

  • @phillipcsandoval9094
    @phillipcsandoval9094 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    What a blessing is to have both of you:)
    Thank you so much!

  • @kristinwhitaker2983
    @kristinwhitaker2983 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It’s so cute the way you look at each other. Your husband loves you and wants you to be safe it’s adorable

  • @algrimsey
    @algrimsey 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Great video. Winning the fight by never being in the fight. Great topic and good info.

  • @Julian-bq9qv
    @Julian-bq9qv 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    *The video is great - but your wife's smile is totally over the top!!!! It lights up the room! You, John, are a lucky guy!*

  • @FunWithGuns
    @FunWithGuns 6 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    Great vid! Sharing w the gf. You two look like you are on your honeymoon everytime you are together! Great job Mr and Mrs Poet!

    • @EatonEditing
      @EatonEditing 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Literally every time.

  • @joemirasola7466
    @joemirasola7466 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video John, just shared with my wife and daughter. They will appreciate Mrs. Poets perspective and input. Extremely relevant content, nice work!

  • @LionheartSJZ
    @LionheartSJZ 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you so much for this video you two. I'll be sure to share this with all women in my life who are important to me.

  • @waterman308
    @waterman308 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Shared on FB, and sent to my two daughters. Thank you Mrs. Poet for your teaching as well as Mr. Poet. I find it is really helpful in these topics to hear from a woman. Sometimes coming from a guy it is heard in the context of being overbearing or paranoid or chauvinistic.

  • @rongants6082
    @rongants6082 6 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    "Some guy" asks you a question? The answer is ALWAYS "no":
    -Do you have the time? "No".
    -Spare change? "No".
    -Borrow your phone? "No."
    -Can you help me? "No".

    • @superleetmegapunx
      @superleetmegapunx 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      "Do you want to not be raped" - "No"

    • @JohnW-yv6yp
      @JohnW-yv6yp 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@superleetmegapunx That question has never been worded like that come on

  • @BubbaBlackmon
    @BubbaBlackmon 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I could listen to Mrs. Poet talk all day . I am originally from Georgia and I love hearing her accent. And John, you're O.K too. Thank you both for valuable information.

  • @Fightosaurus
    @Fightosaurus 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Great stuff! Keeping our families and communities safe is all in a days work for JL

  • @theresasundwall
    @theresasundwall 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I was totally on point with everything. I practice it & teach my DD... Until the "someone helping you" part. OMGoodness... I did this very thing, when my kiddos & I were moving.
    A total stranger, whom said he lived in our apartment complex, offered to help us move boxes out of the nearly empty appartment, into my truck. I didn't even think about what could have happened, had he chosen to be violent. My daughter was with me too. Shutter to think... Gratefully, the only thing that happened was a sad sob story & request for money. To which I said I had none & quickly got us to my truck. I already thought it was an odd encounter, but was Grateful for the help. Thank You Soooo much for sharing this Helpful video!!! Bless Y'all

  • @jeffreyward9703
    @jeffreyward9703 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amazing video. Showing this to the "Girl of my Dreams" as soon as we have a few minutes to watch it together. Thank you.

  • @lancekilkenny3801
    @lancekilkenny3801 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I can see the love in her eyes when she looks at you! God bless.

  • @BarbaraF6411
    @BarbaraF6411 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I literally have goosebumps by the people pleasing Southern Hospitality topic. I live in the Midwest and have divulged where I live, my work schedule and where I work to different people over time. It has been around friends or people I know but there have been those I didn’t. I just chalked it up to polite conversation. Thank you for this video. I will definitely think about the info I give going forward.

  • @TheMultisportGeek
    @TheMultisportGeek 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Bringing Mrs. Poet is value added. My wife is now into this stuff.

  • @curtwhite876
    @curtwhite876 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Totally agree, trusting your gut is vitally important. You two are VERY complimentary of one another.

  • @cia290
    @cia290 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I don’t know how anyone could dislike this. I think this is great you both getting together and makes videos. Keep it up!!

  • @ladygray4
    @ladygray4 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    EXCELLENT video!! I'm sending it to a few young women who are about to go off to college, our church's youth pastor, and posted a link to it in a FB group for those of us "of a certain age.". I think all women need to hear this!!! Thank you!!!

  • @GUNMETALGUYUSA
    @GUNMETALGUYUSA 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank You. Thank You.. Had to watch video multiple times because I was distracted trying to text this video to every female family member i could think of....Good Job. Well Done. More Videos Together. Again Thanks.

  • @kotklegg3367
    @kotklegg3367 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Mrs. Poet, I watched this with my wife and daughter! You brought up some excellent points. You and your husband have become an every night channel for me and my family. Thanks for all y’all do!

  • @angelpsyche-toy5295
    @angelpsyche-toy5295 6 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    Great video John! Would you ever do a type of woman’s EDC with your Mrs. Poet? I think it would be very beneficial to give some examples to women of flashlights, defense pens, pepper spray, ect. Women carry everyday items in a very different way than man due to the way clothing is for them and such. I think it would be interesting to see! :) take care!

    • @WarriorPoetSociety
      @WarriorPoetSociety  6 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      You bet! Mrs Poet did a blog on it on our website if you want to check it out - warriorpoetsociety.us

    • @angelpsyche-toy5295
      @angelpsyche-toy5295 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks tons!

    • @bigbubbajb5857
      @bigbubbajb5857 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I can't get my wife to EDC much. I finally got her to carry OC spray and a small flashlight, but when I try to get her to carry a gun she says "you will protect me."

  • @jennychristiansen2632
    @jennychristiansen2632 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this is a very helpful video just found it today and sat down to view it, called my kids to watch it with me. tips for young women taken to heart. thank you

  • @ChrisParrishOutdoors
    @ChrisParrishOutdoors 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Sharing this with my wife, we just had several girls locally kidnapped from a grocery store parking lot and at least one was sexually assaulted, luckily they managed to escape the car at some point and the suspect killed himself later....but it was legit just a normal grocery store we've been to dozens if not hundreds of times.

  • @Brooklyn_Powers
    @Brooklyn_Powers 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    As an OTR truck driver, I haul a lot of high value loads. There are people out there that are looking to hijack those loads. Whenever I’m asked what are you hauling I always say I’m empty or when I’m asked where I’m headed, I always say I don’t know, I haven’t been assigned a load yet. This behavior has kept me alive and trucking for 22 years. Thanks for the great video!

  • @mohsy4686
    @mohsy4686 6 ปีที่แล้ว +258

    *John Lovell* Can you make a video on how men can protect themselves from big girls?

    • @WarriorPoetSociety
      @WarriorPoetSociety  6 ปีที่แล้ว +88

      Hahaha

    • @GregHartSk8er
      @GregHartSk8er 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Haha - nah sorry you on your own pal! Big girls are too scary to tangle with!

    • @mohsy4686
      @mohsy4686 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@AndyJackson1776 - My back isn't invincible, so I can't agree ☹️

    • @mohsy4686
      @mohsy4686 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@GregHartSk8er - lol DANG IT.

    • @medicmike4906
      @medicmike4906 6 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Hey, quit being insensitive they all need love brother.

  • @daleswanson1784
    @daleswanson1784 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great, thanks, forwarded this to my granddaughter, 16 with hopes of gradually changing her total awareness and encouraging a. more aware and self defense oriented lifestyle. She's a good kid, but a little naive and approachable and she's away at school without dad or mom to Shepard her daily.

  • @Adam.Rushing
    @Adam.Rushing 6 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    There was a very nice guy, even had a job as a child entertainer...he went by the name of John Wayne Gacy. Good video Poets!

  • @rebmarie90
    @rebmarie90 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love watching these videos with the two of you. So much valuable information. It is great hearing things from a woman’s perspective. I hope one day she starts her own channel

  • @danielgaetzke492
    @danielgaetzke492 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I loved how he put his arm around her when she was talking about the dark parking lot.

  • @lauriestlyon8773
    @lauriestlyon8773 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Always taught my daughter to walk aware of her surroundings.
    The truth is that we all get easily distracted by what is going on in our lives. It takes conscious effort to train ourselves to do it untill we do it without thinking and it becomes effortless.
    I was in conversation with a martial arts teacher who said she got out of teaching women's self defence because all the teachers had the mindset "I could be attacked any minute!" and she did not want to be that way!
    Her husband is also a martial art instructor who said he was walking through a tough neighborhood when a guy tried to mug him! The guy got in a couple of punches while he was giving it "WTF!" (He stands 6ft 2 and is big and mean looking!)) THENbroke the guys arm!
    The reality is you possibly won't ever Experience an assault. With a proper mental attitude and training that possibility evokes an even lower probability!ity!

  • @nmr6988
    @nmr6988 6 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    KEEP TALKING TO WOMEN ABOUT AWARENESS and about making smarter decisions re safety, not stupidly walking into a dangerous situation. My favorite thing? BEING MODEST. It's both comical and sad how many women I see who are dressed like they're going to a pool party, yet they're in the grocery store...

    • @x2z964
      @x2z964 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Nancy M-R I agree. Nowadays people wave it away saying, "you're just victim blaming." No, it's called having common sense and acknowledging bad people exist and will take advantage of an easy situation.

  • @peterk8909
    @peterk8909 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Almost every victim I've dealt with did one thing wrong leading to their victimization...they became a victim, acted like a target.Thanks for the post, kids.

  • @bldlightpainting
    @bldlightpainting 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    "Avoid stupid people"? Yep, that's why I don't live in a city, by on a remote piece of fenced and gated property with multiple security features. Limiting your time with the general public can significantly increase your mental, physical, and spiritual health.

  • @ronjackson1613
    @ronjackson1613 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I totally agree with this. I have been in the EP field for 34 years now and have taught situational awareness classes free to women for the past 20 years. Lot of common sense thinking will help a great deal. Started my daughters training when she was Six years old. Start there training early as the world we live in is not what it once was.

  • @caleblong2918
    @caleblong2918 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm trying to get my girlfriend, sister, mother and really every female I know in my life to watch these videos! Yall are truly teaching some amazing and helpful tactics in order to steer clear of any chance of people becoming victims!! I'd love to train with you John, I truly respect all of your content and have become one of my most favorite youtube channels. Im originally from Houston TX, and would love to know any info on your training courses and details as far as price, location, and a calendar of courses if at all possible. Warrior Poet Society for life!! God bless you two and your family🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
    #2AallTHEway #shallNOTbeINFRINGED #weNEEDtermLIMITS #GOA #keepAMERICAgreat

  • @arapahoetactical7749
    @arapahoetactical7749 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Talking about being rude got me thinking about a story shared by my sister-n-law. She was walking her dog on a suburban street when a guy walked past her then turned and started following her. She didn't make eye contact as he walked past her so she didn't know what he looked like. I feel that lack of eye contact is what gave him the thought that she would be an easy target. So she felt she was being followed but didn't want to turn around to confront him because, "I didn't want to be rude." BE RUDE! Great job Poets, keep it up.

  • @Dribbling_monk
    @Dribbling_monk 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Going to make my Girlfriend watch this as soon as she gets home. Thank you to both of you.

    • @bubbahcpd
      @bubbahcpd 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Try asking your girlfriend to watch the video and give her a brief supportive reason why it is important to you for her safety.

    • @peterdragon6367
      @peterdragon6367 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Malcolm Donovan-Cook first thing she should do is make you a sandwich. Then watch the video. Get her trained

    • @polyscient
      @polyscient 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      If she had watched it before you met her, you probably wouldn't have a girlfriend.

  • @ericdavis6368
    @ericdavis6368 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great tips you two. You work very well off of each other. Very clear and concise so people know exactly what you are trying to get across. Thank you for all your advice.

  • @505thpir
    @505thpir 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Have alternate answers.. you're staying at the Marriott, say the Hilton, you live on jackson st, say you live on Roger's way.. you live in Fayetteville, say spring lake.. etc...

  • @sevenarchers5953
    @sevenarchers5953 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Mr & Mrs Poet, that was spot on. I've got 5 beautiful college aged daughters and am always trying to educate them about these sort of things.

  • @Dakof80
    @Dakof80 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Had one of my daughters fallowed last night she drove to the police station, at her work one of her coworkers almost was taken and we have 3 other situations around out area please pay attention and please do more videos like this

  • @NHlocal
    @NHlocal 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you John AND Mrs Poet!!!
    Excellent video loaded with great information.
    So glad to see both of you posting up videos like
    these. Very practical suggestions/recommendations
    on how to get through life without looking like crispy,
    dripping, delicious bacon.....
    .....now I want bacon. Yay for that.....
    Thanks again Mr. AND Mrs. Poet!
    Be safe!
    Randy

  • @Theron-ff7cr
    @Theron-ff7cr 6 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Listen to your gut. That's the only tip you will ever need.

    • @dennishol699
      @dennishol699 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Theron1480 the premise of Gavin de Becker’s book, the Gift of Fear

  • @smachzman
    @smachzman 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Get mrs. Poet her own channel! My wife would love to hear more advice from a female perspective. Or does she already have one? Keep up the great work you do! I really enjoy your videos.

  • @rambler8870
    @rambler8870 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    "There are dumber ideas, it's just hard to think of them now."
    I will be using this line. Ha!
    I greatly appreciate all the videos. Definitely sharing this one with my wife.

  • @kevinw7995
    @kevinw7995 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Really enjoying your videos. Great to see your wife explaining things from a woman's perspective. Fully plan to ask my wife to watch several of the videos. She's becoming more comfortable with firearms and gaining some situational understanding. She does need to learn that it's OK to not feel compelled to be nice to everyone! Definitely best to make it a relaxed and fun process overall. For example, another couple and us did a date night involving some time at an indoor range and pizza afterward. It was a great time and a good casual learning session. As you've said, don't worry about getting everything perfect but enjoy the experience and teach a bit at a time. Great to see solid faith principles as well. Thank you!

  • @garrettkeefer9416
    @garrettkeefer9416 6 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Love to see Mrs Poet getting in on the action lately. She gives my girlfriend a reason to listen to your terrible dad jokes lol. I come specifically for the dad jokes, so not to worry.

    • @clee975
      @clee975 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I agree . I like him doing video's with his wife . it makes us wives more inclined to watch lol my husband has watched John for a while and Ive heard his videos and my husband has of course got me to watch some ... But I definitely enjoy them more with her ! Lol

    • @andromeda4515
      @andromeda4515 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      isn't that bad jokes?

  • @sicplano
    @sicplano 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Growing up in New Orleans we always were taught to have a peak under the car when approaching to make sure no one is there that can grab your feet and drag you down. Also peak into back seat just before you get in to make sure no one jimmied door lock and got in. The latter is less of an issue today with car alarms. You can also activate the car alarm on your fob as you approach if something looks off. Great video.

  • @bobdecker2446
    @bobdecker2446 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Great video. Amazing now that Mrs. Poet is contributing to your videos my wife no longer refers to them as "stupid gun videos" anymore. LOL

  • @papax4815
    @papax4815 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Awesome advice, thanks Mr. And Mrs. Poet. I will show this to my wife for sure. God bless

  • @02BLACKTAWS6
    @02BLACKTAWS6 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    0:08 My wife stopped looking at me like that a long time ago!

    • @WarriorPoetSociety
      @WarriorPoetSociety  6 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Poet on man! Light that fire!
      All fires die unless fuel is continually added

    • @02BLACKTAWS6
      @02BLACKTAWS6 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You are blessed. Thank you!

  • @ozzmann3217
    @ozzmann3217 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love the idea about not wanting to displease I see that as a major issue with my girl friend as well and it hard to try and explain to someone don’t be nice that’s not well taken but coming from another women I plan on showing her this video because this was fantastic advice and opened my eyes to new threats for the women in my life as well ... fantastic stuff

  • @ericray467
    @ericray467 6 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Be Alert! The world needs more Lerts!

    • @daveharding5874
      @daveharding5874 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Excellent dad joke!

    • @fsmoura
      @fsmoura 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      *_*paternity intensifies*_*

  • @contentofcharacter
    @contentofcharacter 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video Mr. & Mrs. Poet!
    Thanks for taking the time to make it.

  • @OhioPrepperOne
    @OhioPrepperOne 6 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Outstanding, you two are a great team.