Friendly amendment: If you're an idiot, you'll make kids with an idiot. And no amount of wanting to raise your kids right or growing up afterward will undo that. So Trust in Christ and allow him to work in you on being Christlike in your gender role before you even think about marriage. Then, exult Christ in your home. But it's not guarantee that it's your fault if they turn out to be crapholes. It's more complicated than that in a broken world. It's not my fault my son is a rapist. His mom didn't help. She didn't support me trying to help him choose a different path. But still. It's on him. I get what you're saying. And I agree with the generalization. I just know for most of the people I counsel, there's a lot more meat behind that door. Cheers, friend.
Ephesians 5:28-29 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church
That's because of the natural order: The kids receive love from their mother, the wife receives love from her husband, the husband receives love from Christ, Christ receives love from God; God is love.
I agree... I can't say I do this, but I know that children play the game monkey see, monkey do... So if your loving your wife then the kids will learn that... When your stressed and and your about to blow your top. Take a minute keep your cool because your children are watching... They learn it all and yes every second of every day you're working because your the "show" that your children are learning from...tough stuff... I love that you guys are right in the same boat I am... But one thing is a little crazy is the difference between girls and boys and how each role of the parents is different from boys to girls... Crazy
Ultimately, love is a choice. Grow it with lots of love--on purpose. And yes--the best gift an Abba can give his children......is to love their Ema, imo.
“Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained.” ― C.S. Lewis ps, showing this to my fiancee. I'm sure she will enjoy it as much as i did.
You Both really nailed it when you named the success of your Marriage being based on your Faith and Foundation in God.. If you honor God in your Marriage he will Bless your Marriage...
Agreed. It doesn't matter what promotion you got, or what you drive or how much you make a year. If you go home and are completely miserable and emotionally drained because of your significant other you don't love anymore, none of it is worth it and could ever replace that happiness.
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@Charles Lindberg Mormon families stick together. I don’t give a shit what you think about them, personally I think they’re weird as hell, but they do stick together unlike most modern families.
I like the word Courting WAY better than Dating. Dating has a connotation of cheap, careless, sampling that leads to promiscuity whereas Courting has the idea of purpose or intent driven by true love.
Derek Granquist I think John nailed it on the head, we do need more old fashioned today. Courting, not just the word, but the action of a persute of purpose, in this case, for marriage is something I find is almost entirely lost in my generation.
MI’ve been married for 20 years and if there’s are any suggestions I can give it’s these: First don’t fall into “yes dear” mode to shut her up. You need TWO way communication, and i’m not just talking about men. Women also fall into “tell mode” aka nagging. Say what you don’t like, but try and do it with compassion. If you don’t it will explode. Second, don’t slack with staying in shape. It is so easy, as you get older, to get fat. In reality there’s no reason a 50 year old can’t have a six pack. Workout like your sex life depends on it, because it does. I’m 50 and since I dropped the 40s fat, my sex life went through the roof. Set physical goals not just pounds. This year I dropped enough pounds to start doing 10x3 sets of Dragon Flags, and last night I knocked out my first bent arm Planche in 25 years. This matters for health and for quality of life.
When my kids talk back to her, it’s not “Don’t talk to your mother that way,” but rather “Don’t talk to MY wife that way.” They understand that my highest priority is her. And that adds a level of security to their world they couldn’t have if it was all about them.
You and 43 other husbands don't put Christ as their highest priority? You cannot serve two masters. Order of God explained: th-cam.com/video/7UYwFZqmIFc/w-d-xo.html
@@MAGAComedyHour The context of TheRooftopSHOUT's comment is talking about KIDS being disrespectful to their mothers, NOT about the whole context of life, where Christ should always reign supreme. In a man where God reign supreme, he will not tolerate unprovoked disrespect for the central woman of his life and mother of those being disrespectful. Those under God don't enable or tolerate sin or the early beginnings of sin. Ephesians 5:25: “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her." JUST LIKE CHRIST DID!! Even though the Church, like men and women in matrimony, are imperfect sinners, Christ fought (1 John 3:8) and died for us. 1 John 4:20, "Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen". In a real Christian matrimony, no HUMAN that we can SEE is closer than a spouse. It's our Christian duty to love and stand up for them as Christ did for the Church. Your comment is way out of base and context, super narrow minded and only makes us Christians look like fanatical, fundamentalist half-wits.
@@jaceydurland9098 Amazingly and shockingly, it also totally flew over your head that that is exactly what I am talking about. When Christ is first and foremost above all, you totally love your spouse as CHRIST loved and loves the Church and gave His life for her, as the Word says. Why did the God of the Bible choose the relationship of matrimony so many times in the Bible to show the relationship between Him and us? Why does He exalt it so much while you pretend to be more god than God Himself and totally ignore His Holy Word? You can preach what you want to sound super hyper-spiritual, "holier-than-thou", superior or whatever, but: "We ought to obey God rather than men", Acts 5:29.
Mrs Poet is a great addition. She is well spoken and your chemistry is very fun to watch! I want to ask, encourage, and beg you to continue to talk about your faith and how important it is. So many men don't get the concept of being a "christian man". So many men are wired to be heroes/warriors/fighters....and then church tells them they have to be meek, quiet, and passive. There have been very few people that have truly taught men how to be tough for their family, but gentle and loving with their family. The church needs to learn how to cultivate the Warrior Poet in men. The Warrior Poet by John Lovell sounds like a great book. Or going to churches for a Saturday class on the range with a Saturday night or Sunday morning talk. Obviously, you should do what you are called to do, but if that seed is already growing in your mind I just want to encourage you to move forward. We need that in our culture today.
My sweetheart and I will have been married for 42 years May 2019. We are more in love now than ever. We've had tough times. Like me not really understanding that women Must Have Girlfriends! She was so eager to please me that she didn't spend time with her girlfriends because she thought I didn't want her to. I didn't know she was not doing things she wanted to for nearly 20 years. Then the light came on. We've done better since, and our marriage wasn't bad. Now it's exquisite. But until you have a rebellious teenager, you don't know how hard life can be, especially if one of them leaves your faith. Finally though they came back, like Proverbs teaches. We're now empty-nesters... Life's great, except for our health.... That's another story. But we home schooled, and covenanted with God that I'd work my backside off to support our decision for my wife to be a stay at home mom. It's been the best for us. Traditional family life is the secret to happiness. But it has to be unanimous.
Wow! Congratulations! Millions would envy you guys! I wish America was composed only of families like yours. We would be really great and improving as a nation. God bless you.
@@mrspoet9907 I so much appreciate your comment. My sweetheart and I just watched part of this video together and she said, "She looks so young! Are you sure she's not his teenage daughter?" I thought I heard somewhere you're about the same age as John. It's not important and maybe it was in my own head... But, it's in both your eyes that each of you absolutely adores the other. It's so refreshing to see. Thank you for sharing that gift of unity and loyalty. Hollywood definitely isn't America!
I just watched as I have recently discovered your channel, but I love the "Poet" in you. Love is patient. Love is kind. Love keeps no record of wrongs. Preparedness as a married man is not just defending your family from physical harm or intrusion, but service. Serve your partner. Service is sacrificial and a denial of self. Men: Do the dishes. Wash and fold the laundry. Clean. Wash her car. Never ask for accolades, do it because she IS you, and what you do for her you do for yourself. Give to your wife with no expectation of return, and regardless, you'll feel better. Train at these things. Hard.
After being married for years you two have this eye contact that I instantly picked up on and it tells a great relationship in just that. Y'all have something special and keep inspiring us to reach for that.
“Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not love, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not love, it profiteth me nothing. Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Love never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away. For we know in part, and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away. When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known. And now abideth faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love."
My favorite thing about this is their reactions. Watch one while the other is speaking and you can see much they still deeply and genuinely care for each other.
Thank you John. I just discovered Warrior Poet Society about a month ago. I love all the extra stuff just as much as the Guns & tactics. It is also nice to hear someone say "God" in the Tactical community without it being used to swear.
22 minutes in and I had to pause to let you know that this may be THE best video you've done so far. Thank you so much to both of you for putting yourselves out there and sharing your experience and accumulated wisdom over the years. PS: of course I love your regular content (that's why I subscribed years ago and hardly miss a video) but this was an excellent change of pace. Hopefully you feature Mrs poet more often, her insights are truly appreciated.
I remember meeting both of you at the uscca show in Pittsburgh. I was talking to John. One of your kids got sick. The way you two worked together was truly inspiring.
I need to do more poet side of things. 10 years this year, and were drifting a bit. Watching this made me realize the ebb and flow of it all. Thank you for the perspective. The past two years have been harsh for us. I lost my job and had to reinvent myself. Any money at all was not there. It's getting better, still not there yet. Im trying to make date time, but doing that with no money is difficult. I get a raise on Jan1 which will put us back on solid ground where i can go out on dates. Having children really makes it more difficult. It was easier doing train ups for deployment than having a family. Our faith is what has kept us together, and were stronger going for what we have. In her career, she was able to wrangle a speaking gig on a cruise. So we get to go out for 7 days in a few weeks. We're looking forward to it and having a bit of change of pace. It's a turning point and a new season in our lives. Again, thank you for sharing this.
You're exactly right. The thought that love is at its highest when new and fresh is fueled by lust and desire and NOT by Love. True Love grows and matures over time and through trials and hardships.
As an older couple, past both divorced, kids out of the home, you treat your mate with utmost respect, do for them first, put them first, express your love and commitment everyday.
This stuff is gold, I love the unboxing reviews, the training videos, the warrior poet profiles, but tieing in some real life marriage advise with your 12 years of experience is excellent. Don't stop all that you're doing with these videos.
Cool. Possibly homeschooling. My wife and I just completed 28 years of schooling our five children. A great benefit of this is the kids are all best friends. That makes family gatherings a real blessing.
@@torreyintahoe -- Actually, Leo is the joke, can't you tell? Clowns are pretty easy to spot - and speaking of spots, all you need to look for are their Troll-Stripes or Troll-Spots!
My wife is a psychologist (marriage and family therapist) and a very good one at that, We have a 4 yr old daughter and its even tough for us often. Timing of this video couldn't be more perfect for me. Thanks John and Mrs Poet for this.
I am 52 years old I have been through 46 in the 48 Continental States and six of the seven continents. I have heard many people and read many books on marriages and relationships and by far this is the greatest video and downright factual. Everyone of my friends around the world will tell you that these are the truth of marriage and relationship bar none. Listen closely and take notes. Fantastic job you too fantastic job!
This kind of content is what makes WPS the most complete, most applicable, most honest channel I'm subscribed to. Thanks for sharing this. We could all use this kind of information. Not only does it help my shooting it helps me love my wife of 35 years even more!!
Man after 10 years and thousands of dollars spent on classes and dvds my wife and I could have just watched this! Kidding but some truth in this, y’all hit a lot of it right on the head. Lots of similar conversations happened with us. Good stuff, Mrs. Poet and John.
Very good topic, I love that she says "we're INVESTING more INTENTIONALLY on each other" hearing you all talk about this reminds me of my marriage preparation through the church. I wish more couples openly talk more about this and gave guidance on for younger generations. A marriage always takes three; God, husband, and wife! Thank you for sharing valuable information!
I hit "like"...but where's the "love" button? Thank you for this video Mr. & Mrs. Poet! I love learning from you and seeing how you both interact with each other and your kids. It's beautiful and encouraging.
Have been watching and recommending your channel for awhile, and so many times I find myself thinking, "Dude, I need to share this with the guys in my young adults Bible study!" This is one that's relevant to the whole group and hits things we all really need to hear. I'll be showing it to them this Monday night. Thank you both for caring about stuff like this enough to share it with those of us who need it.
I'll be honest brother, this is the first video on your channel I actually sat down with my wife and watched. We are coming up on our second year married, and a total of 8 years together. I most definitely agree with you and your Mrs., still be crazy about each other through it all. Every other Friday night, my wife and I still go on date nights. I am a cop, and work nights. Every other week I'm off Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and on those Fridays, my wife and I go to dinner (heck I still even dress up), I normally buy her roses, we go out for a nice dinner, then we go either shopping or to a movie, and if we go shopping we go fast, then go home and watch movies together on the couch. This has been our life even before we got married. And I completely agree that putting God into the marriage is the biggest culprit of keeping the marriage, because He is the one who binds us. I still every night pray for my wife, and thank God for sending her into my life.
nice to see the family involved in these... and high-five on the homeschooling decision. I was homeschooled k-12 and thank my parents constantly for that decision.
I came to this channel originally for the weapons content, but this... This is bar-none one of the best channels for not only weapons and training, but also for life advice from a traditional perspective. As a Christian, this is not something I see all the time. So, to see this (on TH-cam of all places!) is just awesome! Keep doing what you guys are doing on this channel. It has more of an impact than you realize.
Gotta have respect and faith in your spouse too... my grandfather was an OTR truck driver and he gave my grandmother full access over the family finances because he knew she was level headed and frugal. One day he calls home and she tells him “I bought us a house”... sight unseen his answer was “ok”. ❤️ I have been on dating apps for years and not once did I ever find a woman I could trust like that, most were barely smart enough to make good financial decisions. 😥
Just put the kids down and the wife and I are coloring listening to this video. Been married 17 years Soo nice to hear we are not alone in our struggles and approaches to marriage!!!
This was awesome! My dad always used to say to my sister and I that he loved us very much, but if it came down to it, he’s choosing our mom 100% of the time
Thank you for this video John. Too many of us forget how to prioritize our marriage and our lives, and lose track of the most important partner we've got. But working on that balance is incredibly important. I recently bought my first gun, and your videos have been extremely helpful in my home. From my wife accepting us owning a firearm, to her going out and shooting for her first time ever. THIS video however, may be the most helpful of all. Cheers!
Wow, you nailed it! "When I'm good with her..." I can do ANYTHING. When we're not so okay, I'm lost and feeling rudderless and angry and self doubting. That's not to say that my dependence upon her approval is an addiction, but rather a validation. My wife is wiser than me in MANY ways. I'm good with being productive and protective and doing research and planning for the "what ifs", but she is the guru of making it happen. I whole heartedly respecct and appreciate her abilities. But, I'm the doer, adventurer, "adapt, improvise, and overcome" kind of guy (SemperFi). We butt heads sometimes, but we always try to listen to each other and look for the wisdom in what the other is bringing to the table. My wife is the most important human in my life, even above me. I would die for her without hesitatiion. And, I'm thankful to be able to live with her!
7:00 that eye contact, giggle and body language, wow, they truly are still in love, that's so rare to see in married couples. Definitely my goal in life
I told me wife that when we got married I would bring her flowers every month for the rest of her life. I have not missed a month yet....and we are going on 23 years. We disagree on things and quarrel sometimes but have never fought like you mentioned. Also we never felt anything was really" allot of work" or hard as you mentioned. Maybe if you implement the flower strategy....??
I think constant effort is a good way of putting it... bringing your wife flowers every month for 23 years is a wonderful way to show the effort you’re putting Into your marriage..
Your perception of your arguments and effort does not change the validity of the statement. This is the age old "enjoy your work and you never work a day in your life", your applying it to your marriage. I enjoy plenty of things that are factually a lot of work, we need to get away from the negative connotations of what work is.
Good job sir. My rule is to tell my wife she's beautiful and make her laugh at least once a day, no matter what's going on. Being a good husband (and wife) is something people don't appreciate enough.
Excellent video, it seems yall are an awesome team! I'm in law enforcement and had to work nights years ago. I would have dinner made(or kids fed ChickFila :) ) and gave both kids a bath before wife got home at 6p. Like yall, we said Hi to each other, kissed and handed off duties. She was grateful that she didnt have to cook and wrestle with bath time. Worked great! I love the videos with Mrs. Poet because it makes the dialogue so much more entertaining and she gives a valuable perspective .
You two are way to young to be so wise. I thank you both for putting this together for everyone to see. My wife and I sure do need to try this, and find what works for us. We have fallen into that friend rut. And haven't worked on us in a very long time. Once again Thank you!
Great topic. My wife and I have been married 16 years and have 4 amazing kids. However, our 6 year old son has had major health issues since birth and is now battling a brain tumor. We struggle to find time for each other. With work, military duty and trying to finish my degree I feel like I'm searching for every minute I can squeeze out to spend time with my wife and kids. Thankfully we are Christian and look to Christ. I would love to see more of these videos, John. Would love to meet and speak with you in person one day. You have a beautiful family brother.
I LOVE this, hubster and I have been married 15 years, we still like each other a lot. We homeschool, going into our 7th year. We put each other first before the kids, I relate to so much of this! THANK you for sharing this and being real! YES, TAG TEAMING after a business trip~! Works for us too! Hubs is AMAZING at it too!
John and Mrs Poet, greetings from Warner Robins, GA! Today is our 26 anniversary. While I was not a Ranger, recon marine, seal or other operator, I am retired C-17 aircraft mechanic who still serves as a civilian in the C-17 program office. Enough about me... My wife is an amazing person that allowed me to take her away from family and friends only to be on the road for the next 20 years while she raised our 2 boys. More importantly, she lead me back to the Lord and helped me get back on track. I am so thankful that she loves me in spite of instead because of. God is good all the time and y’all are a wonderful inspiration to all that y’all come in contact with. God bless you and keep on running the race!
I need this stuff more than anyone really ever should...lol. I've been backing off the gun stuff and trying to work on the poet more, but it's freaking HARD! ❤️
Vito Griffin same. Ive come to realize that God doesn't want me to be a badass warrior. God literally told me I need to sell all my guns except my Glock 19. But I'll nag him until he lets me also buy a 17. Haha
My wife and I lead marriage retreats in an effort to revive our town through marriage... massive thumbs up! You werd both spot on throughout this! God, then spouse, then kids!!!
I'm a believer that the husband and wife comes first. . The kids are in the back seat, so to speak. . The kids will learn that the parents hold a leadership role and that over time will provide good structure in their development. . .
A lot of people lose focus on the spouse when children enter the picture. As a couple, you place your children's need very highly, but remember, your children cannot thrive in a toxic household. There's a reason why the flight attendant tells you to put your own mask on first.
Praise the Lord guys! My name is Chris and I'm from Georgia I'm a Christian to. It's great to see that a good marriage didn't come over night. You went through struggles and fights and fun and work. I'm a veteran myself so I could totally relate to having more of the warrior side and less of the poet. I tend to not give my wife enough time bc I also had the mind set that I didn't have me time anymore. May the Lord bless you guys and your family. I love all your videos brother John!
The poet side is also new for me and balance in life with my wife and kids and work and fun but with John's advise I really have became a little more balanced than I was before thanks John!!!
One word, AWESOME! Thank you for this video and I would love to see you do this on a semi-regular basis... maybe once a month. As for me and my house, we serve the Lord and make intentional efforts to keep Him in the center of our family. Great nuggets of truth and wisdom in this video. Kudos!
EXCELLENT!!!!! As a father of 6 children I approve of this message. Sir, you and your lovely wife are correct and please continue with your great work in all the areas you are pursuing.
My brother watches your videos and sent me this. I am married, 7 years on Sept 10, and we have two kiddos, an almost 6 yo girl and almost 2 yo boy. This video was so good. I love ya'll and I love that you took the time be real and honest about marriage. Too many people think that at the first blow of difficulty they need to get out or marriage isn't for them. We planned to have kids but our first came way before we really had it planned out...as in one year Anniversary and then 3 months later we had our first babe. Can you say HARD AS ALL GET OUT!!!! We struggled, but we have made it/ are making it. You are so right. It is all a choice. And there are parts we are still working on and making right. What's love got to do with it??? Alot, but not all of it. And for us too, Jesus is the center. He has to be. Then us. Then errbody else!! Can't wait to watch more of your stuff!!
I've seen a few of your other vids. Thought to myself, knowledgeable guy, but there's already enough of them out there. After this video, I'm more compelled to follow your channel. Good, honest insight. Amazing how uncommon this knowledge is! This kind of info can restore, repair & eliminate divorce if people would listen & TRY!!
This is so true. We've been married 44 years. We raised 3 sons and she was alone with them for extended periods while I was deployed with Marines. Coming home from a year long deployment everybody had to learn everything all over again. Their teen years coincided with our transition to civilian life which was a new dose of stress. We have been empty nesters for about ten years now and I'm still "chasing her around the house". It is HARD work but definitely worth every second. We are at the doorway of retirement and I have my best friend to spend the rest of my life with.
13 years and a lifetime to go. I love the hell out of my wife. This is the best tour of duty I’ve ever had, but it takes communication and a constant self awareness of the love we share. My wife keeps me squared away, the best c/o I’ve ever had. 😄. We’re a work in progress for sure, but a solid faith in god helps a solid faith in each other. Love y’all I hope my little piece a knowledge helps anyone out there.
You all are are awesome.. my wife and I have been married for over 20 years. She's a stay at home mom and home schools our 4 amazing kids. We rely heavy on our lord and savior for guidance. Your sir are very blessed as I am to have such an amazing wife. Keep up the awesome work with your channel . Thank you for all that you do. May the lord bless you and your family.
I can relate to what you said when you were saying “ If your good with her your ok but, if your not ok with her your not ok and nothing else in the world matters.” That is so true in our marriage. She is my rock and my world always seems to spin off of how we are getting along day to day. Our faith definitely is the thing that keeps us together in the tough times along with our love, and respect for one another. Great stuff John, thank you both. My wife and I will enjoy this discussion.
Joe and I had 40 years before the good Lord called him home. We were ranchers, so we worked together and played together 24/7. To quote the late great Texas songwriter Nanci Griffith and her song One Of These Days ... "just a middle aged couple with silver hair, when the nights are cold this love we share is still 102 in the shade" It's been 8 years since he's been gone and there are still days when I miss him so much I can barely breath. It's a joy to watch you two and the looks you share. Wishing you many, many years of loving and growing old together. Be well, be happy, be blessed.
I think a lot of people need this. People don't get told how to make life work by that children, marriage and life balance. If I didn't know this, cause I was lucky my grandfather and grandmother told me when I was a teen what and how to make it work. I just don't think they told my mom or uncle. But they may have never asked them all the questions I asked growing up. They were amazing why my grandfather is my hero!!!
Something that works for me is everyday I hold my wife in my arms and tell her I love her. Everyday. I tell her how wonderful she is everyday. I look for a way to help her or make her smile everyday. I tell her that President Trump and I have a lot in common, we both have supermodel wives. We pray together each day. We help each other with things that are difficult and say I am sorry often and mean it. My wife is a saint. Everyone loves her. I was unaffected and hard and then her example helped me let down barriers and let her in. I am in awe of my wife. I have been blessed.
This is the best video ever. Extremely eye opening and realizing of being there for your spouse and survive through the life of babies and toddlers. We are currently going through the life and struggle of a year old boy and 2 year old girl and boy do we put up a fight. This helped us beyond what you could imagine and my fiancé and I are taking your advice and insight so graciously. Whole heartedly we thank you both and will be looking forward to more true content. ♥️
You're right John; "courting" has the connotation of getting to know someone for the purpose of a life-long marriage, whereas "dating" has devolved into just sexual immorality as in animalistic "mating."
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I “date” if I’m concerned about my pp being stimulated. I “court” if I want a woman in my life. I don’t date.
Remember, King and Queen. Its not Queen, King... you must be a man and take care of business to have a women. Also, a women must be more than just a hot piece of ass
Great stuff. Could not agree more with your take on marriage and parenting. Wish you had more content like this. Seems like it has been about a year since you have put anything out like this.
Great video, Mrs. Poet and John. John hinted at this once, I did my "Warrior" stuff early in life (8yrs.- Rangers Lead the Way.) I believe that worked well for me. I have found that being a "Poet" is much more difficult than being a "Warrior." Now I'm 28.5 yrs. married, I have 1 son that married last month and soon to be a grand father. Can't wait to hear the podcast. Rock on, "THTS." Message Ends.
Having a truly great marriage is not easy. You have to work at it. My wife and I will celebrate our 11th anniversary this year. No things havent been easy, but it has without question been worth it. On point with the view on children and marriage. They will fail miserably at life if they are always the center of everything (I'm not saying to neglect one's children in any way) I feel very fortunate to have a woman that has stayed by my side through really hard times. Times when we had no clue where our next meal would be from, or how we would keep the lights on. It's amazing how much being married to your best friend helps in times like those. Love your channel!
Brother John, Brother Thomas here. Thank you so much for a wonderful and candid explanation of a doable marriage (and you son is so cute, a little hambone, well behaved and you can see the love). Me well i'm still working towards marriage if not a great relationship. You two give great insight into it. Pretty funny scratching your head with the knife...I can relate. But men and women are wired so differently and the balance is definitely having the standard of God's Word hands down. I am truly thankful for that in my life. bless U and do enjoy your vids. I am a warrior patriot too...….
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“If you raise your kids, you can spoil your grandkids. If you spoil your kids you will raise your grandkids.”
Very well said a man with great knowledge you are
Yeah that's one way to put it
Friendly amendment: If you're an idiot, you'll make kids with an idiot. And no amount of wanting to raise your kids right or growing up afterward will undo that. So Trust in Christ and allow him to work in you on being Christlike in your gender role before you even think about marriage.
Then, exult Christ in your home. But it's not guarantee that it's your fault if they turn out to be crapholes. It's more complicated than that in a broken world. It's not my fault my son is a rapist. His mom didn't help. She didn't support me trying to help him choose a different path. But still. It's on him.
I get what you're saying. And I agree with the generalization. I just know for most of the people I counsel, there's a lot more meat behind that door. Cheers, friend.
Very True.
Wow thought provoking, but true.
Our best best man gave the best toast. "May today be the day you love each other the least."
Very well said! Very eloquent words and toast by the best best man👍
That's good. I'm stealing that one. ;-)
That's good stuff. Powerful.
The husband must be on her list of priorities as well. The kids will leave the house.
I heard an old Jewish saying, "The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother."
Ephesians 5:28-29
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church
That's because of the natural order:
The kids receive love from their mother,
the wife receives love from her husband,
the husband receives love from Christ,
Christ receives love from God;
God is love.
....as long as he has authority in his household.
I agree... I can't say I do this, but I know that children play the game monkey see, monkey do... So if your loving your wife then the kids will learn that... When your stressed and and your about to blow your top. Take a minute keep your cool because your children are watching... They learn it all and yes every second of every day you're working because your the "show" that your children are learning from...tough stuff... I love that you guys are right in the same boat I am... But one thing is a little crazy is the difference between girls and boys and how each role of the parents is different from boys to girls... Crazy
Ultimately, love is a choice.
Grow it with lots of love--on purpose.
And yes--the best gift an Abba can give his children......is to love their Ema, imo.
Brothers, if you can get a woman to look at you the way John's wife looks at him, hold on to her and never let go.
I agree
I had this. I fucked it up.
Ranger Chad
Amen!
“Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained.”
― C.S. Lewis
ps, showing this to my fiancee. I'm sure she will enjoy it as much as i did.
You Both really nailed it when you named the success of your Marriage being based on your Faith and Foundation in God..
If you honor God in your Marriage he will Bless your Marriage...
53 years and counting. Couldn't be happier.
Stanley Phillips God bless you and your wife. 53 more.
You look like ham.
Wow
42 and damn happy 👍😎
Are you giving the number of a man with your hand?
"No other success can compensate for failure in the home"
David O. McKay
Agreed. It doesn't matter what promotion you got, or what you drive or how much you make a year. If you go home and are completely miserable and emotionally drained because of your significant other you don't love anymore, none of it is worth it and could ever replace that happiness.
@Charles Lindberg Mormon families stick together. I don’t give a shit what you think about them, personally I think they’re weird as hell, but they do stick together unlike most modern families.
Failure in the home starts with undermining male authority and wrongfully thinking men and women are equal. -- Me
@@stevemcrichards8768 Yes; men are held more accountable for the spiritual success of the family.
Your channel is hitting on all cylinders now. Tough subject but America needs to hear this for sure. Including me.
THanks Stephen
You guys are awesome! Shared this with my daughter and her husband! God bless!
I like the word Courting WAY better than Dating. Dating has a connotation of cheap, careless, sampling that leads to promiscuity whereas Courting has the idea of purpose or intent driven by true love.
I agree!!!!
Derek Granquist I think John nailed it on the head, we do need more old fashioned today. Courting, not just the word, but the action of a persute of purpose, in this case, for marriage is something I find is almost entirely lost in my generation.
Derek that's a good point. When you're courting, the goal is usually to find a spouse. But when you're dating, the goal is usually just to have fun.
After 42 years of marriage and 3 kids. Trust is what is the glue in marriage!
That is a great description, I agree.
MI’ve been married for 20 years and if there’s are any suggestions I can give it’s these:
First don’t fall into “yes dear” mode to shut her up. You need TWO way communication, and i’m not just talking about men. Women also fall into “tell mode” aka nagging. Say what you don’t like, but try and do it with compassion. If you don’t it will explode.
Second, don’t slack with staying in shape. It is so easy, as you get older, to get fat. In reality there’s no reason a 50 year old can’t have a six pack. Workout like your sex life depends on it, because it does. I’m 50 and since I dropped the 40s fat, my sex life went through the roof. Set physical goals not just pounds. This year I dropped enough pounds to start doing 10x3 sets of Dragon Flags, and last night I knocked out my first bent arm Planche in 25 years. This matters for health and for quality of life.
You rock. Great advice
yes
Yes
You let her program you. I'll pour one out for the homie.
@@PaulAmerican oh no, he’s bettering himself for the sake of his marriage to the woman he loves 😐😐😐
Wow a rock solid Christian couple that loves each other I'm surprised TH-cam let you on the air
This is why I appreciate WPS so much. John's not just a tactical guy, he's a how can I improve all areas of my life guy. Keep it up!
Tactical spiritual warfare.
When my kids talk back to her, it’s not “Don’t talk to your mother that way,” but rather “Don’t talk to MY wife that way.”
They understand that my highest priority is her. And that adds a level of security to their world they couldn’t have if it was all about them.
You and 43 other husbands don't put Christ as their highest priority? You cannot serve two masters.
Order of God explained: th-cam.com/video/7UYwFZqmIFc/w-d-xo.html
@@MAGAComedyHour The context of TheRooftopSHOUT's comment is talking about KIDS being disrespectful to their mothers, NOT about the whole context of life, where Christ should always reign supreme. In a man where God reign supreme, he will not tolerate unprovoked disrespect for the central woman of his life and mother of those being disrespectful. Those under God don't enable or tolerate sin or the early beginnings of sin.
Ephesians 5:25: “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her." JUST LIKE CHRIST DID!! Even though the Church, like men and women in matrimony, are imperfect sinners, Christ fought (1 John 3:8) and died for us. 1 John 4:20, "Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen".
In a real Christian matrimony, no HUMAN that we can SEE is closer than a spouse. It's our Christian duty to love and stand up for them as Christ did for the Church. Your comment is way out of base and context, super narrow minded and only makes us Christians look like fanatical, fundamentalist half-wits.
@@philalcoceli6328 You think the notion of putting Christ first makes Christians look bad?
@@jaceydurland9098 Amazingly and shockingly, it also totally flew over your head that that is exactly what I am talking about. When Christ is first and foremost above all, you totally love your spouse as CHRIST loved and loves the Church and gave His life for her, as the Word says. Why did the God of the Bible choose the relationship of matrimony so many times in the Bible to show the relationship between Him and us?
Why does He exalt it so much while you pretend to be more god than God Himself and totally ignore His Holy Word? You can preach what you want to sound super hyper-spiritual, "holier-than-thou", superior or whatever, but: "We ought to obey God rather than men", Acts 5:29.
@@philalcoceli6328 Do you have anger?
Mrs Poet is a great addition. She is well spoken and your chemistry is very fun to watch! I want to ask, encourage, and beg you to continue to talk about your faith and how important it is. So many men don't get the concept of being a "christian man". So many men are wired to be heroes/warriors/fighters....and then church tells them they have to be meek, quiet, and passive. There have been very few people that have truly taught men how to be tough for their family, but gentle and loving with their family. The church needs to learn how to cultivate the Warrior Poet in men. The Warrior Poet by John Lovell sounds like a great book. Or going to churches for a Saturday class on the range with a Saturday night or Sunday morning talk. Obviously, you should do what you are called to do, but if that seed is already growing in your mind I just want to encourage you to move forward. We need that in our culture today.
My sweetheart and I will have been married for 42 years May 2019. We are more in love now than ever. We've had tough times. Like me not really understanding that women Must Have Girlfriends! She was so eager to please me that she didn't spend time with her girlfriends because she thought I didn't want her to. I didn't know she was not doing things she wanted to for nearly 20 years. Then the light came on. We've done better since, and our marriage wasn't bad. Now it's exquisite.
But until you have a rebellious teenager, you don't know how hard life can be, especially if one of them leaves your faith.
Finally though they came back, like Proverbs teaches. We're now empty-nesters... Life's great, except for our health.... That's another story.
But we home schooled, and covenanted with God that I'd work my backside off to support our decision for my wife to be a stay at home mom. It's been the best for us. Traditional family life is the secret to happiness. But it has to be unanimous.
Karl Pearson thanks Karl for following, glad you’re here.
Wow! Congratulations! Millions would envy you guys! I wish America was composed only of families like yours. We would be really great and improving as a nation. God bless you.
@@mrspoet9907
I so much appreciate your comment. My sweetheart and I just watched part of this video together and she said, "She looks so young! Are you sure she's not his teenage daughter?"
I thought I heard somewhere you're about the same age as John. It's not important and maybe it was in my own head...
But, it's in both your eyes that each of you absolutely adores the other. It's so refreshing to see.
Thank you for sharing that gift of unity and loyalty. Hollywood definitely isn't America!
Mr and Mrs Poet you are nailing it
I just watched as I have recently discovered your channel, but I love the "Poet" in you. Love is patient. Love is kind. Love keeps no record of wrongs. Preparedness as a married man is not just defending your family from physical harm or intrusion, but service. Serve your partner. Service is sacrificial and a denial of self. Men: Do the dishes. Wash and fold the laundry. Clean. Wash her car. Never ask for accolades, do it because she IS you, and what you do for her you do for yourself. Give to your wife with no expectation of return, and regardless, you'll feel better. Train at these things. Hard.
So true. I wish I had done more of that.
Powerful ! Thanks for such a great testimony!
After being married for years you two have this eye contact that I instantly picked up on and it tells a great relationship in just that. Y'all have something special and keep inspiring us to reach for that.
Rock solid advice. Thank you for sharing and being so transparent.
A sincere "I'm sorry' works miracles. Truly forgiving and not keeping score of all the times you hurt each other's feelings is REALLY important.
Nancy M-R 7
Nancy M-R it’s really hard to say “I’m sorry” when you are not sorry 😐 and you just want her to shut up. 😉
And beware of the use of words like "always" and "never"
“Love is a verb” & “Love is a choice “ are the best quotes I’ve ever heard!!
“Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not love, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not love, it profiteth me nothing. Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Love never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away. For we know in part, and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away. When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known. And now abideth faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love."
My favorite thing about this is their reactions. Watch one while the other is speaking and you can see much they still deeply and genuinely care for each other.
There's an old Christian song by Don Fransesco that says "love is not a feeling it's an act of your will"
It's an act of man's will.
it is amazing how brutally honest you guys are
Yep, and that's a very good thing.
Thank you John. I just discovered Warrior Poet Society about a month ago. I love all the extra stuff just as much as the Guns & tactics. It is also nice to hear someone say "God" in the Tactical community without it being used to swear.
22 minutes in and I had to pause to let you know that this may be THE best video you've done so far. Thank you so much to both of you for putting yourselves out there and sharing your experience and accumulated wisdom over the years.
PS: of course I love your regular content (that's why I subscribed years ago and hardly miss a video) but this was an excellent change of pace. Hopefully you feature Mrs poet more often, her insights are truly appreciated.
thanks for your support of the society Aaron
Aaron Swartz - Agreed. Change of pace is good sometimes.
I remember meeting both of you at the uscca show in Pittsburgh. I was talking to John. One of your kids got sick. The way you two worked together was truly inspiring.
You two are what people should aspire to be! Thanks for being an amazing role model
Chadd James Agreed!
I can relate to Mrs. Poet on every level. Stay at home mom, homeschooler. Thank you for sharing!
You can see the sparkle in both of your eyes even after years of marriage
Great discussion - Thanks for this y'all :)
My wife approves of shooting now because of this video.
Bhallmed yesssssss so glad!
I need to do more poet side of things. 10 years this year, and were drifting a bit. Watching this made me realize the ebb and flow of it all. Thank you for the perspective. The past two years have been harsh for us. I lost my job and had to reinvent myself. Any money at all was not there. It's getting better, still not there yet. Im trying to make date time, but doing that with no money is difficult. I get a raise on Jan1 which will put us back on solid ground where i can go out on dates. Having children really makes it more difficult. It was easier doing train ups for deployment than having a family. Our faith is what has kept us together, and were stronger going for what we have. In her career, she was able to wrangle a speaking gig on a cruise. So we get to go out for 7 days in a few weeks. We're looking forward to it and having a bit of change of pace. It's a turning point and a new season in our lives. Again, thank you for sharing this.
Ripper13F1V thanks for following. So glad things are working out.
You're exactly right. The thought that love is at its highest when new and fresh is fueled by lust and desire and NOT by Love. True Love grows and matures over time and through trials and hardships.
... just as metal is tempered in the fire.
very Poetic there Derek, thanks for your support
As an older couple, past both divorced, kids out of the home, you treat your mate with utmost respect, do for them first, put them first, express your love and commitment everyday.
This stuff is gold, I love the unboxing reviews, the training videos, the warrior poet profiles, but tieing in some real life marriage advise with your 12 years of experience is excellent. Don't stop all that you're doing with these videos.
thanks for tuning in
Cool. Possibly homeschooling. My wife and I just completed 28 years of schooling our five children. A great benefit of this is the kids are all best friends. That makes family gatherings a real blessing.
Well John, you captured an extremely fine specimen of Womanhood there with brains and an amazing heart. They're not all that way, you done good
I agree. He has managed to find a particularly wise woman, an excellent partner for a wise guy like him.
Kevin Roberts I thought so too.
@Leo Peridot I can't tell if you're joking or serious.
@@torreyintahoe -- Actually, Leo is the joke, can't you tell? Clowns are pretty easy to spot - and speaking of spots, all you need to look for are their Troll-Stripes or Troll-Spots!
Good advice. Thanks for sharing your experience!
My wife is a psychologist (marriage and family therapist) and a very good one at that, We have a 4 yr old daughter and its even tough for us often. Timing of this video couldn't be more perfect for me. Thanks John and Mrs Poet for this.
THanks for following Ric
I am 52 years old I have been through 46 in the 48 Continental States and six of the seven continents. I have heard many people and read many books on marriages and relationships and by far this is the greatest video and downright factual. Everyone of my friends around the world will tell you that these are the truth of marriage and relationship bar none. Listen closely and take notes. Fantastic job you too fantastic job!
Bruce Bailey thanks for following Bruce
This kind of content is what makes WPS the most complete, most applicable, most honest channel I'm subscribed to. Thanks for sharing this. We could all use this kind of information. Not only does it help my shooting it helps me love my wife of 35 years even more!!
Man after 10 years and thousands of dollars spent on classes and dvds my wife and I could have just watched this! Kidding but some truth in this, y’all hit a lot of it right on the head. Lots of similar conversations happened with us. Good stuff, Mrs. Poet and John.
Very good topic, I love that she says "we're INVESTING more INTENTIONALLY on each other"
hearing you all talk about this reminds me of my marriage preparation through the church. I wish more couples openly talk more about this and gave guidance on for younger generations.
A marriage always takes three; God, husband, and wife!
Thank you for sharing valuable information!
I hit "like"...but where's the "love" button?
Thank you for this video Mr. & Mrs. Poet! I love learning from you and seeing how you both interact with each other and your kids. It's beautiful and encouraging.
Angie Wooden glad you’re here Angie
Have been watching and recommending your channel for awhile, and so many times I find myself thinking, "Dude, I need to share this with the guys in my young adults Bible study!" This is one that's relevant to the whole group and hits things we all really need to hear. I'll be showing it to them this Monday night. Thank you both for caring about stuff like this enough to share it with those of us who need it.
Thanks Edwards!
God Bless your family !
This message is so true.
“Wisdom for every Season” that’s some strong Christian vocab there. :)
I'll be honest brother, this is the first video on your channel I actually sat down with my wife and watched. We are coming up on our second year married, and a total of 8 years together. I most definitely agree with you and your Mrs., still be crazy about each other through it all. Every other Friday night, my wife and I still go on date nights. I am a cop, and work nights. Every other week I'm off Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and on those Fridays, my wife and I go to dinner (heck I still even dress up), I normally buy her roses, we go out for a nice dinner, then we go either shopping or to a movie, and if we go shopping we go fast, then go home and watch movies together on the couch. This has been our life even before we got married. And I completely agree that putting God into the marriage is the biggest culprit of keeping the marriage, because He is the one who binds us. I still every night pray for my wife, and thank God for sending her into my life.
Christopher Harpster thanks for following Christopher
nice to see the family involved in these... and high-five on the homeschooling decision. I was homeschooled k-12 and thank my parents constantly for that decision.
I came to this channel originally for the weapons content, but this... This is bar-none one of the best channels for not only weapons and training, but also for life advice from a traditional perspective. As a Christian, this is not something I see all the time. So, to see this (on TH-cam of all places!) is just awesome! Keep doing what you guys are doing on this channel. It has more of an impact than you realize.
Thanks for sharing your life and keeping it real. May God continue to bless your family!
Solid content. The friendship concept is absolutely key…you guys nailed it!
Gotta have respect and faith in your spouse too... my grandfather was an OTR truck driver and he gave my grandmother full access over the family finances because he knew she was level headed and frugal. One day he calls home and she tells him “I bought us a house”... sight unseen his answer was “ok”. ❤️
I have been on dating apps for years and not once did I ever find a woman I could trust like that, most were barely smart enough to make good financial decisions. 😥
Just put the kids down and the wife and I are coloring listening to this video. Been married 17 years Soo nice to hear we are not alone in our struggles and approaches to marriage!!!
This was awesome! My dad always used to say to my sister and I that he loved us very much, but if it came down to it, he’s choosing our mom 100% of the time
Thank you for this video John. Too many of us forget how to prioritize our marriage and our lives, and lose track of the most important partner we've got.
But working on that balance is incredibly important.
I recently bought my first gun, and your videos have been extremely helpful in my home.
From my wife accepting us owning a firearm, to her going out and shooting for her first time ever.
THIS video however, may be the most helpful of all.
Cheers!
Chuck Callaway thanks for following Chuck!
Wow, you nailed it! "When I'm good with her..." I can do ANYTHING. When we're not so okay, I'm lost and feeling rudderless and angry and self doubting. That's not to say that my dependence upon her approval is an addiction, but rather a validation. My wife is wiser than me in MANY ways. I'm good with being productive and protective and doing research and planning for the "what ifs", but she is the guru of making it happen. I whole heartedly respecct and appreciate her abilities. But, I'm the doer, adventurer, "adapt, improvise, and overcome" kind of guy (SemperFi). We butt heads sometimes, but we always try to listen to each other and look for the wisdom in what the other is bringing to the table. My wife is the most important human in my life, even above me. I would die for her without hesitatiion. And, I'm thankful to be able to live with her!
7:00 that eye contact, giggle and body language, wow, they truly are still in love, that's so rare to see in married couples.
Definitely my goal in life
I told me wife that when we got married I would bring her flowers every month for the rest of her life. I have not missed a month yet....and we are going on 23 years. We disagree on things and quarrel sometimes but have never fought like you mentioned. Also we never felt anything was really" allot of work" or hard as you mentioned. Maybe if you implement the flower strategy....??
I think constant effort is a good way of putting it... bringing your wife flowers every month for 23 years is a wonderful way to show the effort you’re putting Into your marriage..
Your perception of your arguments and effort does not change the validity of the statement. This is the age old "enjoy your work and you never work a day in your life", your applying it to your marriage. I enjoy plenty of things that are factually a lot of work, we need to get away from the negative connotations of what work is.
Good job sir. My rule is to tell my wife she's beautiful and make her laugh at least once a day, no matter what's going on.
Being a good husband (and wife) is something people don't appreciate enough.
Excellent video, it seems yall are an awesome team! I'm in law enforcement and had to work nights years ago. I would have dinner made(or kids fed ChickFila :) ) and gave both kids a bath before wife got home at 6p. Like yall, we said Hi to each other, kissed and handed off duties. She was grateful that she didnt have to cook and wrestle with bath time. Worked great! I love the videos with Mrs. Poet because it makes the dialogue so much more entertaining and she gives a valuable perspective .
You two are way to young to be so wise. I thank you both for putting this together for everyone to see. My wife and I sure do need to try this, and find what works for us. We have fallen into that friend rut. And haven't worked on us in a very long time. Once again Thank you!
Great topic. My wife and I have been married 16 years and have 4 amazing kids. However, our 6 year old son has had major health issues since birth and is now battling a brain tumor. We struggle to find time for each other. With work, military duty and trying to finish my degree I feel like I'm searching for every minute I can squeeze out to spend time with my wife and kids. Thankfully we are Christian and look to Christ.
I would love to see more of these videos, John. Would love to meet and speak with you in person one day. You have a beautiful family brother.
Claymore prayed for your Son now ❤️
@@mrspoet9907 Thank you so much. That means the world. Y'all have a blessed Thanksgiving and Merry Christmas.
This is something I have been actively working on. Great to here others knowing it's more than love.
Love you guys. Thanks for the thoughtfulness and effort.
I LOVE this, hubster and I have been married 15 years, we still like each other a lot. We homeschool, going into our 7th year.
We put each other first before the kids, I relate to so much of this! THANK you for sharing this and being real!
YES, TAG TEAMING after a business trip~! Works for us too! Hubs is AMAZING at it too!
Thanks Tess, glad to have you here
John and Mrs Poet, greetings from Warner Robins, GA! Today is our 26 anniversary. While I was not a Ranger, recon marine, seal or other operator, I am retired C-17 aircraft mechanic who still serves as a civilian in the C-17 program office. Enough about me... My wife is an amazing person that allowed me to take her away from family and friends only to be on the road for the next 20 years while she raised our 2 boys. More importantly, she lead me back to the Lord and helped me get back on track. I am so thankful that she loves me in spite of instead because of. God is good all the time and y’all are a wonderful inspiration to all that y’all come in contact with. God bless you and keep on running the race!
I need this stuff more than anyone really ever should...lol. I've been backing off the gun stuff and trying to work on the poet more, but it's freaking HARD! ❤️
Vito Griffin Nothing worthwhile is easy. Keep at it, the rewards worth it.
Cheers to Poeting Vito! cheering you on
God bless you Vito, I am with you
Vito Griffin same. Ive come to realize that God doesn't want me to be a badass warrior. God literally told me I need to sell all my guns except my Glock 19. But I'll nag him until he lets me also buy a 17. Haha
I think is it is more of our attitude toward our weapons. Are they a tools or idols ?
My wife and I lead marriage retreats in an effort to revive our town through marriage... massive thumbs up! You werd both spot on throughout this! God, then spouse, then kids!!!
I'm a believer that the husband and wife comes first. . The kids are in the back seat, so to speak. . The kids will learn that the parents hold a leadership role and that over time will provide good structure in their development. . .
Yuri Del Castillo - I wish my wife thought more like this. She honestly only cares about the kids
Brock Nasty my brother's marriage is awful. He basically has an extra kid to take care of with her.
Very vague and generalizing.
A lot of people lose focus on the spouse when children enter the picture. As a couple, you place your children's need very highly, but remember, your children cannot thrive in a toxic household. There's a reason why the flight attendant tells you to put your own mask on first.
Brock Nasty
Watch this AND LEARN:
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Praise the Lord guys! My name is Chris and I'm from Georgia I'm a Christian to. It's great to see that a good marriage didn't come over night. You went through struggles and fights and fun and work. I'm a veteran myself so I could totally relate to having more of the warrior side and less of the poet. I tend to not give my wife enough time bc I also had the mind set that I didn't have me time anymore. May the Lord bless you guys and your family. I love all your videos brother John!
As someone who has only been married a little over a year, I really appreciated the nuggets of wisdom in this video. Rings very true for me.
The poet side is also new for me and balance in life with my wife and kids and work and fun but with John's advise I really have became a little more balanced than I was before thanks John!!!
One word, AWESOME! Thank you for this video and I would love to see you do this on a semi-regular basis... maybe once a month. As for me and my house, we serve the Lord and make intentional efforts to keep Him in the center of our family. Great nuggets of truth and wisdom in this video. Kudos!
Mark Spivey thanks Mike
EXCELLENT!!!!! As a father of 6 children I approve of this message. Sir, you and your lovely wife are correct and please continue with your great work in all the areas you are pursuing.
My brother watches your videos and sent me this. I am married, 7 years on Sept 10, and we have two kiddos, an almost 6 yo girl and almost 2 yo boy. This video was so good. I love ya'll and I love that you took the time be real and honest about marriage. Too many people think that at the first blow of difficulty they need to get out or marriage isn't for them. We planned to have kids but our first came way before we really had it planned out...as in one year Anniversary and then 3 months later we had our first babe. Can you say HARD AS ALL GET OUT!!!! We struggled, but we have made it/ are making it. You are so right. It is all a choice. And there are parts we are still working on and making right. What's love got to do with it??? Alot, but not all of it. And for us too, Jesus is the center. He has to be. Then us. Then errbody else!! Can't wait to watch more of your stuff!!
So cool you Both would step out and share your experience and insight. Still got that twinkle in eye to each other ! Good sign
I've seen a few of your other vids. Thought to myself, knowledgeable guy, but there's already enough of them out there. After this video, I'm more compelled to follow your channel. Good, honest insight. Amazing how uncommon this knowledge is! This kind of info can restore, repair & eliminate divorce if people would listen & TRY!!
This is so true. We've been married 44 years. We raised 3 sons and she was alone with them for extended periods while I was deployed with Marines. Coming home from a year long deployment everybody had to learn everything all over again. Their teen years coincided with our transition to civilian life which was a new dose of stress. We have been empty nesters for about ten years now and I'm still "chasing her around the house". It is HARD work but definitely worth every second. We are at the doorway of retirement and I have my best friend to spend the rest of my life with.
13 years and a lifetime to go. I love the hell out of my wife. This is the best tour of duty I’ve ever had, but it takes communication and a constant self awareness of the love we share. My wife keeps me squared away, the best c/o I’ve ever had. 😄. We’re a work in progress for sure, but a solid faith in god helps a solid faith in each other. Love y’all I hope my little piece a knowledge helps anyone out there.
Amen. Thank you sure. I'm 19 and I think I've found a traditional God - fearing woman.
You all are are awesome.. my wife and I have been married for over 20 years. She's a stay at home mom and home schools our 4 amazing kids. We rely heavy on our lord and savior for guidance. Your sir are very blessed as I am to have such an amazing wife. Keep up the awesome work with your channel . Thank you for all that you do. May the lord bless you and your family.
I can relate to what you said when you were saying “ If your good with her your ok but, if your not ok with her your not ok and nothing else in the world matters.” That is so true in our marriage. She is my rock and my world always seems to spin off of how we are getting along day to day. Our faith definitely is the thing that keeps us together in the tough times along with our love, and respect for one another.
Great stuff John, thank you both. My wife and I will enjoy this discussion.
Joe and I had 40 years before the good Lord called him home. We were ranchers, so we worked together and played together 24/7. To quote the late great Texas songwriter Nanci Griffith and her song One Of These Days ... "just a middle aged couple with silver hair, when the nights are cold this love we share is still 102 in the shade" It's been 8 years since he's been gone and there are still days when I miss him so much I can barely breath. It's a joy to watch you two and the looks you share. Wishing you many, many years of loving and growing old together. Be well, be happy, be blessed.
I think a lot of people need this. People don't get told how to make life work by that children, marriage and life balance. If I didn't know this, cause I was lucky my grandfather and grandmother told me when I was a teen what and how to make it work. I just don't think they told my mom or uncle. But they may have never asked them all the questions I asked growing up. They were amazing why my grandfather is my hero!!!
Something that works for me is everyday I hold my wife in my arms and tell her I love her. Everyday. I tell her how wonderful she is everyday. I look for a way to help her or make her smile everyday. I tell her that President Trump and I have a lot in common, we both have supermodel wives. We pray together each day. We help each other with things that are difficult and say I am sorry often and mean it. My wife is a saint. Everyone loves her. I was unaffected and hard and then her example helped me let down barriers and let her in. I am in awe of my wife. I have been blessed.
This is the best video ever. Extremely eye opening and realizing of being there for your spouse and survive through the life of babies and toddlers. We are currently going through the life and struggle of a year old boy and 2 year old girl and boy do we put up a fight. This helped us beyond what you could imagine and my fiancé and I are taking your advice and insight so graciously. Whole heartedly we thank you both and will be looking forward to more true content. ♥️
Where was this when I needed it? Please make more vids like these, they're lovely
Micah Lewis more in works Micah thanks for following
You're right John; "courting" has the connotation of getting to know someone for the purpose of a life-long marriage, whereas "dating" has devolved into just sexual immorality as in animalistic "mating."
I “date” if I’m concerned about my pp being stimulated. I “court” if I want a woman in my life.
I don’t date.
You guys said it well! After 19 years of marriage and 3 kids later, my wife and I couldn't agree more. Thanks for this video. Great Job!
If more people had happy marriages the world would be a better place. I consider myself blessed that I have such a loving and caring wife.
Ian Cornell Please tell her.
THat's awesome Ian
Remember, King and Queen. Its not Queen, King... you must be a man and take care of business to have a women. Also, a women must be more than just a hot piece of ass
The world would be a better place if people understood this: th-cam.com/video/uHiEUDyrglk/w-d-xo.html
I agree with Mr clean, we definitely need more people like you two. God bless
John, I've come to love the poet stuff just as much as the warrior stuff. This was a fantastic segment! Thanks Mrs. Poet!
Great stuff. Could not agree more with your take on marriage and parenting. Wish you had more content like this. Seems like it has been about a year since you have put anything out like this.
Great video, Mrs. Poet and John. John hinted at this once, I did my "Warrior" stuff early in life (8yrs.- Rangers Lead the Way.) I believe that worked well for me. I have found that being a "Poet" is much more difficult than being a "Warrior." Now I'm 28.5 yrs. married, I have 1 son that married last month and soon to be a grand father. Can't wait to hear the podcast. Rock on, "THTS."
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Thank you both, I thoroughly enjoyed. Love & Gratitude.
Having a truly great marriage is not easy. You have to work at it. My wife and I will celebrate our 11th anniversary this year.
No things havent been easy, but it has without question been worth it.
On point with the view on children and marriage. They will fail miserably at life if they are always the center of everything (I'm not saying to neglect one's children in any way)
I feel very fortunate to have a woman that has stayed by my side through really hard times. Times when we had no clue where our next meal would be from, or how we would keep the lights on. It's amazing how much being married to your best friend helps in times like those.
Love your channel!
Brother John, Brother Thomas here. Thank you so much for a wonderful and candid explanation of a doable marriage (and you son is so cute, a little hambone, well behaved and you can see the love). Me well i'm still working towards marriage if not a great relationship. You two give great insight into it. Pretty funny scratching your head with the knife...I can relate. But men and women are wired so differently and the balance is definitely having the standard of God's Word hands down. I am truly thankful for that in my life. bless U and do enjoy your vids. I am a warrior patriot too...….