I'm 49, I will be 50 in March. I've realize that I much rather be by myself. Too many men are trying to find a place to live. Or he expect you to give him husband privileges, and he is not even a good boyfriend. I'm not taking care of a man child. Nor will I settle just to say I have a piece of man. Nope, it's not worth it.
You are so correct.. A lot of ladies are targets because of our careers..if you have your own home and retirements. There are lots of males not on our same levels. There are afraid of us. Ladies we have to protect our access
I am grateful to have found this ministry. I am 52. Im waiting on my husband. I took 7 years to grow internally - no dating, NO sex, no lies, no games. This is my season and i am clear about what i desire. I am already excited knowing my God-fearing husband is seeking me as well.
@@candace4016 so firstly There is a difference between celibacy and abstinence. I’ve been celibate for six years and a couple of months but I’ve been Practicing abstinence for about five or six months. Celibacy means no form of intimacy no toys gadgets Fondling masturbation or any of that …. No problem for me because I had to overcome trauma in order not to form trauma bonds and to purify myself and removed energies from my downline… however, because I was hurt so many times in the past it was easy to give up. Recently I was afraid that I wouldn’t enjoy sex but I know that being married that’s going to be required therefore I had to learn about tantra sex and the art of making love by understanding my own body. I have still never used any gadgets or toys but I’ve learned a lot more about my body and I’m grateful for the mindset I’m in today. Watch our live show on Sundays at 7 PM central on Facebook.
@@sjay19babybaybay93 Hi Jay, I have a 15 yr old dtr, no dad around ccx raised her on my own, & neither do I bring any man around her, too busy working, schooling and just being her parent. Your words captured my attention, about how you yearned for your fathers presence perhaps dating wisdom. As a single mom, what is your best advice/ wisdom would you share with me, so that I try not to fail in such sensitive time of her life. While I do feel I have a whole lot of wisdom in so many ways, to share with her, & do my best, so far she is a great teen& very respectful, I m sure there are and will be many blind spots& dont want to be caught off guard. It would be nice to hear other women's insight or even those that didn't have a father figure. Thank you
@@dragonfly3015 Don't sugar coat. Be straight with her when it comes to men. Tell not to be so trusting with men and let her know how special she is. In addition to teaching to set boundaries for herself so she can continue to aim high in life. Let her listen to Pastor RC Blakes, he tells it like it is! She needs to see value in herself. That when she encounters feelings for a boy she will know how to conduct herself when she is away from you! Tell her all the games men will play to manipulate her for sex and the mind games men induce to get her to breakdown and give in to their wants
@@sjay19babybaybay93 In agreement Thank you..🤗Im frequently forwarding this stuff and quotes too. So far, Im happy to say, she does listen to what I send her, bcs she will talk about it in our conversations. I pray over her without cease...thank you so much...
Im 50. A veterinary surgeon. Been a single mom for 21 years. Definitely pushed into the masculine role after guys who were not up for the role. That’s been the most eye opening thing. The masculine and feminine. Never thought I could get back to the feminine easily but when you find a masculine man it’s easy :)
Why would should a masculine man settles for an old used up damaged woman when he could find a nice young fertile woman with no miles. Do men a favor and stay away from them.
Am 57 have lived with a man who has never provided for me and my children he is a house husband for 20years now good father now the children are grown and out of the next
There always a lover and a friend out there.. Just just have to open your eyes and look ...You have to give benefit of the doubt.. there is no way all the eggs be rotten they good ones in the basket.. Just look
1. Don't date out of need. 2. Never hide yourself to make a man comfortable. 3. Be aware of masculine n feminine energy. 4. Make your intentions clear. 5. Call a thing a thing. Can't make a husband out of a clown 6. Be with a man of depth.
Hm I feel u yes iam 40 years and I will be honest I have already come to grips that it's me and God I havent achieved much because of my choices running behind men however I am doing it all on my own at this point I will love to be married but waiting on God I am in a relationship but hm it's gone no where for 12 years me and God 2 mths and it will be over cant do it any more cant hope or believe.Wabt to go back to college to improve myself it feels as if I am starting all over and hmm I am ok
After 40 many men are divorced at least once and looking for a girlfriend or housemate but not marriage, unfortunately... and the never married ones are never married for a reason 😔
Jan: Not necessarily, I saw a never-married man whom I had dated through an agency a few years earlier (as he was 47). At that point in time, he was desperate, nervous,, immature, unstable and scruffy-looking. Those few years later he had developed into a dashing, calm, self-confident, smart-looking man, probably through the help of therapy of some kind.
As a single 45 year-old Caucasian woman, i just found this very comforting. No false promises, but some reminders to be strong and avoid compromising on what really matters. Thank you very much, Pastor Blake.
@MB-iv4mq Interesting. Are you asking for my point of view as a woman, or are you asking for validation of your point of view as a man who would like the women he dates to answer his questions? Every marriage should involve partners who bring something to the table. I don't think every date should necessarily have to be about questions like that, though. Sometimes, it's flattering and gives a woman hope to know that a man plans to offer her something if she loves him. I'm not sure why, but if the woman does not have a ready answer to your question about what she brings to the table, it could be because she thought you were trying to court her and impress her, not turn the tables and expect her to do that to you. Hope you meet someone who brings a strong spirit of mutuality to your dates in future.
@@Fillemexicaine36 Hi. I don't remember why I included it, but in looking over the TH-cam channels, you see people who seem to share the same race as the speaker. In mentioning it, which it was of course not "necessary" to do, one might emphasize that his message resonated beyond what might be presumed to be his expected audience. He would probably not be surprised at that. The comment was meant to emphasize unity. I noticed that you include a nationality in your TH-cam identifier. So perhaps sometimes it is worth bringing up cultural and/or racial identifiers. Sometimes it is not. Thank you for reading the comment. Have a wonderful rest of your week. Take care!
Build-a-man are for weak women who don't value themselves. I watched some friends pay half rent/mortgage and the dude is banging out their backs. That is shameful to get your back banged out and you contributing financially for the roof over your head. Hell To The No! My father said. "If a man asks you for $1.00, he ain't no good." Praise God, I have never had a man ask me for money nor given a man a dime. Real men don't pimp women.
You will never be comfortable in something that is too small for you!!!!! Oh Glory! Thank you SO much. I was raised by a woman who taught me it was my duty to please a man under all circumstances. It was my mom! It took me up to 63 years to realize she was clueless. So grateful for these precious videos. Thank you Pastor.
He is establishing Kingdom marriages in this season. If youbare open to getting married, ask Him about it and He will prepare you for the one He created for you too!
I am 54 years old I use to want to be married so bad but now I am so comfortable with my relationship with the Lord and serving him, I don’t have to be married I am in a good place enjoying my life, I love being single❤️❤️❤️
My Mom remarried at 51 they are celebrating 27 years of Marriage, he's a wonderful step dad and GrandDad! My Aunt remarried around 60, and they stayed together until he passed at 80, the stories are endless, just like love.... Thank you for this message and all the others Pastor Blakes!!!!
I married the 3rd time at 53 and he is just like he was the first, my true soulmate we have been married 7yrs now wouldn’t choose no one over him. It will be to death do us part
@@JM-yf5rt Thank you for your wisdom. I am 66 years young and proud of it! Wish I had listened to you years ago❤️🙏. Now I understand the mistakes I have made!
Dating After Forty... 1- Never date out of need. 2- Never hide yourself to make a man comfortable. 3- Be aware of masculine feminine energy. 4- Make your intentions clear 5- Call a thing a thing 6- You've got to ask grown men type questions. I love the "Be on the same frequency" and the bengay tube lawrd A Massi... Love you Bishop and lady Lisa🙏🏾❤️ Once again what a insightful confirmation tools to laying down good foundation for the dating scene, not many touch on this subject I appreciate it... Great Grace to you Bishop and the work ahead, we so🙏🏾for you and your family and ministry...
“Don’t allow yourself to date out of need.” ✔️ I’m grateful that I’m in a good place where I don’t “need” a man but desire to share my life with someone.
I’m 41 I get so angry when I see these young girls driving & the guy’s siting on the passenger side with the seat laid back to the floor, or the woman pulling out her EBT card to pay for groceries & he’s putting them in the basket. I’m sorry (not in all cases) but if a lady has to have an EBT card then why are you there she shouldn’t be receiving food stamps with you in her life as her man/husband! Just some things in our communities today that irritate the heck out of me!
I'm 70, widow and I'm believing to marry again thank you so much for the 7 points great information. I was eight years older than my husband and it worked for us so I'm open and excited to see what God will do for us. I trust God
O m g. How About 🤔 ❓️ 27 year s older in love ❤️ sex👎 👎 we choose to love God and wait . Until we are married. We've been married And devices What says You.
I'm sure your too old to have kids again. What good are you now that you've become aged damaged goods? You don't stand a chance against younger women. Men will look right past you now.
It isn't worth it in the end. Let God bless your dating, engagement & marraige in abundance instead of another ungodly affair. God's got to better for you when we believe, prepare & have a good happy life & love to share & he has it to give to you for you to receive from quality man that's in submission to God you can be ❤ together with on God's good plans he will bless & not sin, foolishness & weakness that pulls us down Be lifted up on the same page for a life time of marraige & the power & enjoyment in your life of good choices with good results for you.😊😀💝
@@narcabusevictimgermany9687 no cause that's about hump & dump, failed Affair & fornicating out side of God's will having sex out side if holy matrimony & it's not holy or blessed & will end sadly for no good reason but being used temporarily & pulling down a woman's & man's self respect & purpose in life. 👎 NO NOT, NO NOT GOOD . FINDING SOME ONE ATTRACTIVE EVEN WHEN YOU DON'T MATCH UP IS COOL. SHUT 🚪 DOOR ON SEXUAL THOUGHT TO JUST USE HER!!!
@@sweetdiva590 We met online. I prayed and asked God for someone to talk to and I beleive he gave me who I am talking to. God has done a great deal in my life. I came from an abusive husband. My husband passed in 2004. I stayed away from.any relationship until now. Now I am able to talk to someone. He encourages me. He adds to my life and I am grateful. Thank you for your wonderful teaching and counseling for women and men. I can tell you and your wife are solid people and firstly jointed together as a three fold cord and that is as it should be. God bless you both.
I totally agree! 48 and proud of my age, I have been celibate for 5 years and I don’t need a man, I am the prize and if he is not worthy of me he can just go away!
It is good that you are proud of your age because you are still young. Being celibate for 5 years is great and if you rather not be with anyone that is your preference. I think being with someone who would love you authentically is a good thing because it is ideal to be with someone to share your lives together in every aspect. However, if he is not what you need and going to be excess baggage then yes he should go away as in "fast." Not worth your time or anyone else's.
‘You cannot equate dating to sex’ - I love this ❤️ & sex often complicates things & it’s actually traumatizing to engage in casually for anyone looking for something deeper
Yes right I have just cut all that out as well realizing finally that if I really want that type of high level spiritual relationship i have to put off sex until i find that
I don’t know how long ago you’ve been teaching women! Wish I had this wisdom many years ago! Thank you for helping women open their eyes and save them from unnecessary pain and heartbreaks! Thank you!! You’ve changed my life in just a few weeks!! I’m worthy and deserve love and Joy!! God is Love! Love oneself always!
If we have to remind him of our value, then he would not have valued us in the first instance. As women, we have to keep our worth and value at the forefront of our minds; lest we allow an unworthy suitor to cause us distress. No more broken consciousness...embrace the queen within and reign graciously with God at the centre of our being.
how many other guys were you "the prize" for? Too bad you don't have what men value in women anymore. You got too many miles on now. Your car from the prize. Your more a liability. The best thing a woman can give a man is her youth.
I’m 44 and dating is hard, Never hide yourself to make a man comfortable 💯 well said I’m going through a lot and is like I was sent to this platform for some spiritual food
Wait, wait, waT waT u just say Did you say it's different for men than it is for woman? Surely not!!! If men can have sex so can a woman!!! Stop double standards. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
My dad told me, if he is not adding to what you already got. You don't need no subtraction. I have a 17 year old son to raise. I am grateful for my father. The best advice he has given me.
I do not consider myself religious in fact normally I have been turned off by religion but when I hear you speak ,I hear logic and reason and I actually recommend you to my female friends who have issues with men treating them badly ,, I just want to thank you for your videos, they have helped me enormously
I just turned 50 last week and I’m single. I was married to a narcissist for 22 years, been divorced for 5 years but went back to him last year and ended after 2 months. I’m still trying to heal. I’m content being alone. Yes, it gets lonely at times, it gets hard.. but, I’m not settling ever again. I thank God for you Pastor Blakes, I’m learning more about myself and my worth.
It’s hard but you’ll heal, it just takes space and time. I survived a 13 year (narcissist )marriage. Happily single over 10 years:) still learning myself, improving my mental and spiritual health# loving me never felt so good😊
Billitra Phillips: I’m sorry that it didn’t go well for you. It hurts. I sympathize. Yes, queen standards say you deserve more. Praying for you. Hang in there. 👍🏽
I’m 45, and divorced after 20 years of marriage. Dating has been an experience. I never really had the chance to date as an adult. I’ve already made mistakes, however I’m grateful I found your teachings early in! I just began dating in the last 6 months.
Happy that you made this video Pastor. I’m 43 and in a new relationship after a divorce four years ago. He is a great man, kind, considerate, hard working, takes care of his kids. He never made me question his intentions even from the first conversation. After three dates he asked to be exclusive so we could focus on us and what potential our relationship could have without distractions. However in between I had many toxic experiences.. married men who lied and said they were single, men in their 40s wanting to be the player type and have a stable of women. Online dating is awful for me! I took some time to be intentionally single and focus on my kids, my faith, finances and career. When I was living my best life and feeling grateful about all of the blessings I’ve been given then along came this new man when I wasn’t even looking.
If he continues to be impressive at some point you’ll have to be honest with him about your reservations and why you have them. By all means don’t jump in head first. Take your time and verify.
I was single for 6 years and was cheated on two weeks ago. During the 6 years I never dated anyone. I was focused on my life, God, passions and my son. He's a 49 year old player! He said he wanted a good woman. Well he had one.🤦♀️ Now I'm healing from heartbreak.
@@RCBlakesJr. thanks pastor. Him and I have had many open and deep conversations about why our past relationships haven’t worked out. About the issues not the specific person. He knows I have hesitation about getting married again as he would like one day. I am taking my time like you said and enjoying the process of spending time together and experiencing new things together. I feel in my heart he is a good man and all of his actions have matched up with his words thus far.
I believe another issue is that women don't do is vet the men properly. Who is his family? What's his relationship like with his mother? Who are his friends? You could be dating Charles Manson.
Having a strong male figure is more important to me than his relationship with his mother, at the end of the day if he has a bad relationship with his mother he more than likely didn't have a strong male figure as well. Even if he did have a good relationship with his mother, if he's a mama's boy with no strong male figure it usually presents a different set of issues.
If a man has an unhealthy attitude or holds resentment towards his mother, he will have unhealthy relationships with every woman he encounters. The same thing with women and their relationships with their fathers. Unhealed trauma begets more trauma.
What a great explanation about women dating younger men. My marriage was not ordained by God, now I'm divorced. I invited God to be my matchmaker in my next relationship.🙂
What man in his right mind would settle for an old used up woman with miles and damage on her when he could find a nice young fertile woman with no miles on her? You don't stand a chance against a younger still fertile woman now.
I’m me,65 yrs old, ready to live life the way God wants. If a man is apart of my life, let it be. But I am not going to settle for anything less than I am
I heard that a lot but everyone dont get their desire in life some women's never find a mate in life I have bad experience with men I a pretty women beauty Is a. Curse
I found this video tonight. I am a woman with male energy. Divorced with a son to raise, I had to wear all of the hats. I want to flip on my feminine energy! Thank you for this video and all of your efforts to help us. 💜
What man in his right mind would settle for an old used up woman with miles and damage on her when he could find a nice young fertile woman with no miles on her? Why should another guy have to raise your kid? It's not fair or of benefit.
I do not want a man who i meet wants to take me to bed. With no commitment no boyfriend type. Surely no husband behavior. THEY wants to wear these masks to protect them from COVID-19 but not afraid of HIV- AIDS. ITS SO CRAZY TO ME.
Yeeeeessss, Ive been saying this to so many people....COVID IS SUCH A BIG DEAL...YET, people forgot about all these other serious STD''s. Oh, and we hear commercials making it sound like having HIV or AIDS is normal and ok...Its stull a serious disease.
Interesting video! We are an active couple in our 80's and are all about healthy aging. We still strive for a healthy body, a calm mind, and a positive outlook. And we feel better than ever! We are doing research for our new TH-cam channel and hope to inspire others. Learned a lot here. Thank you!
I’ve been there and done that. Immediately started living with someone else after our break up and we weren’t even divorced yet. He has always lived with a woman. These men are not strong enough to take care of themselves, but we want them to take care of us. We need to use logic and common sense
A Word in due season. I married at 20, divorced by 30. God was healing me as I raised a daughter, and I was pursuing my God given purpose. Married my BOAZ, at 51. At a point in my life where I was content whether I remarried or not. Widowed at 60, and healing again still content. Going to travel and live life, if God sends another great, if not great!
I’m tuff enough to wait until the day I get who God has for me.. it gets to me emotionally sometimes but I know and trust the process. Thank you for the truth.. and so be it!!!
I wish I had this lesson taught to me a young women. I saw all the red flags, my instincts was always correct. But because what I saw was not what it seemed I continued down the path. I am grateful for the Lord opening my eyes and teaching me what I needed to know. I am very happy being single because it helped me to reflect and evaluate myself. I have boundaries and I understand my worth. I'm in love with the woman I've become ❤️
Being a single mom of 3 for 25 years, the masculine/feminine energy makes so much sense. Like you said, I didn't ask for this", but it's my responsibility to shift my mindset. No wonder I attract underdeveloped boys in men's clothing. I don't want to be hardened anymore...
I truly appreciate this! I divorced after 16 years of marriage and although I don’t know anything about dating the Holy Spirit has guided me and this video is validation. 🙌🏾
What man in his right mind would settle for an old used up woman with miles and damage on her when he could find a nice young fertile woman with no miles on her? Sorry but you don't stand a chance now.
What man in his right mind would settle for an old used up woman with miles and damage on her when he could find a nice young fertile woman with no miles on her? Sorry but you don't stand a chance now.
I never had a dad or brother who guided me, if I had you as a positive role model in My life I could've avoided so many life snafus ! Bless you for sharing your God given wisdom! Watching you now as a grown woman I'm watching as if you're my brother or uncle giving all the golden nuggets of life!! Thank you
This message needs to be played in the church’s. A lot of Christian women are dating and having sex. A lot of men in the church are not looking for a good woman; but a freak that go to church and willing to commit adulterous behaviors to get a man.
It's my last year of the thirties. It is what it is now honey take it or leave it. I am raising my standards. I do have the masculine energy because I do the things that are labeled as a man's job. Finally someone understands why women have masculine traits.
Now I understand why I embody so many manly traits. It was not my intentions but I refused to NEED a man. They were just not reliable at least not the ones I encountered.
Well miss theirs a time and place for a woman being independent and strong! But remember when God sends you a good God fearing man. You going to have too put that masculinity up!🤔🤔🙄
This video’s title needs to be revised: WISDOM FOR WOMEN DATING AFTER THE AGE OF 30 Women at age 30 need to know this and start mentally practicing and knowing these jewels 💎 of wisdom and apply these golden coins of wisdom and common sense to their daily lives. Such as: “Call a thing a thing”; “know your worth”, “let a man be a man”... PERIOD!!!!!! Patience, no settling!!!
This brought tears to my eyes as a 38 year old woman. Thank God for allowing you to teach women like me, some of us don't have fathers or men in the family that they can look up to, thank you
Yes i believe that to.. Rc videos kept coming up on my TH-cam page and i didn't kno who he was. Then one day of recent i click on the video and my life is changing for the better. Many blessings to you sis on your journey.
Yes sis, let them call you what they like cos they mad they couldn't use you. When someone gets mad or bitter cos of that, all it does it shows his true intentions.
I get called names too, Or they assume I'm bitter or some is a wrong with me!!! I just know my worth and too busy being a parent, my career and focusing on bettering myself!!!
I have a whole lot of a masculine energy because I have been alone for so long. So when I meet a man it's difficult at times. It feels weird to meet a masculine man because they take over, it's an awkward situation for real. I have had to learn to pull back. It feels nice not to have to do everything by myself.
I have masculine energy because all the men in my family choose to take a less masculine position. They are okay with a woman taking the lead, but I absolutely despise that! I’ve just come to the realization of how this has impacted all my relationships over the years - including my marriage! In fact, my ex-husband recently declared that I’m just looking for someone to take care of me after he realized that a reconciliation at this stage would entail him having to step up to the plate and position himself as the head of the household - he wasn’t ready! Lord help us!
I love this video Pastor! I’m 38 and that’s always been my mindset. Never feel like you need a man. Pour into yourself and give yourself everything you desire from a man. A man is a chaser/hunter, he knows what his desires are. I’ve learned lessons in relationships. Always let a man be a man, never force anything. When a woman is in tune with herself mentally, spiritually and sexually, she will carry herself as such. It’s nothing wrong with waiting.
I Thank God that you doing this topic I am 43 years old and I am actually afraid to start dating again, I was in a bad situationship 8 months ago I am content in my singleness, will allow God to bring my husband..
@@divinedigitalpro Sis GOD 🙏 is preparing your GOD designed husband, at this precious time enjoy your time with GOD immerse yourself in Our Father presence, glean close to GOD, I love my time with the LORD 🙏 the most important and my best relationship.....
@@divinedigitalpro He did't cheat on you what he did was cheated himself out of a good relationship with you. Cheating is a choice he made all by himself.
This guidance applies to women of all age. Wish I had heard all this when I first started dating. Would have saved me from a lifetime of hurt & disappointment. Lessons learned, better late than never. Thank you! 🙏
Bishop, you truly dropped wisdom seeds and your right on point. There are so many bitter women who wasted their precious times with losers and ignored the warning signs because they were penis possessed. Lord Christ Jesus, bless every women who is on this page recognize her priceless value and choose only a KING!
This WAS me. Love bombed...discarded..Soul Tied to the 10TH POWER...I am in relationship rehab! I'm a Narcissist Abuse Survivor and Pastor Blake's has been guiding me out of this "fog". I CAN SEE CLEARLY NOW!! I will continue on this path...it's hard..it gets LONELY..but at the end of the day...I know...My King Awaits🤴🏾
We must begin to understand that we set the standard. We are the power and to use that power in the way that aligns with godly principles, engineers the kind of men that we long for. But, there are too many women willing to compromise
@@lady6164 Well said, "Far too many women compromise" out of loneliness, fear, desperation, no self-worth or self-esteem, delusional minds wanting to believe these men disrespecting them truly cares about their well-being and welfare. I did a bible study on Menopausal Women lacking on being a role model to younger women by their horrible actions chasing men married and single. There were women who sat in the front row at church before the pandemic with no panties trying to tempt a very single handsome pastor. I witness it all working with many Mega Ministries. It's not always the man's fault some women are completely out of their mind.
It was great listening to you. At 43, all you're saying is accurate. I didn't have that mine set in my 20s and most my 30s. Took learning the hard way. Better late than never
Just discovered these teachings recently. Thoroughly enjoy The Word presented in everyday language and situations. I’m 73; a widow that’s been celibate for (7) years; and have been a QUEEN all of my life. My King/my husband treated me as a Queen for (53) beautiful years - and I WON’T accept ANYTHING LESS! As I say: “YES - I’m SINGLE - and you’ll have to be AMAZING - to CHANGE THIS!”⭐️👑💜 Thanks for your encouraging words, Pastor!🙌🏽😇
@Vondrajones8790 I'm glad to hear you say that, because recently I've been feeling the same way. I thought I needed to be married after 32 years and a divorce. But now somehow I feel like the longer I'm single the happier I am.
This is absolutely refreshing. Why did I not hear this kind of conversations when I was in my twenties? Oh Lord I hope young women listen to you heed your advice. Please keep them coming you are a true blessing Pastor.
I’m in my 30s and I woke up in my twenties to the truth . I often think I’m crazy bc I just want to stay single until my children are grown . I’m also introverted .. so I read energy well and go off of what a man fail to say by his level of conversation and body language . I’m fully vested in my life and spiritual journey and at this level of peace . The only time I’m willing to change my level of peace is if a man can elevate my peace . Life is too short to be here hurting and broken over another’s persons choice . Don’t abuse your heart and soul life that .... blessing and love to each of us and RC Blake you are truly a godsend !!!
Wow sis! I’m so very proud of you. You’re not crazy at all! I strive to get to the place of peace and self sustaining confidence that you have achieved. I’m an empath as well I’m my 30s but I’m just learning myself (after a 17 year marriage of unhealthy codependency) and how to not ignore my instincts when I identify red flags and negative energy. Thanks for sharing your experience. Hopefully I will arrive there soon and we can walk tall and strong in all of our glory together!
I’ll be 58 next month..I was married for 14 years a long time ago..I would love to remarry..I’ve been single a while now..I miss companionship and sharing little things...
Same here ...married for 8 years...divorced since 2010. During that time...I dated several men but nothing to write home about. I am 53 years young. Deep down I'd like a REAL AUTHENTIC connection with a high value man. Meanwhile...I continue to growbspirtually..work on ky health and purpose driven activities. Stay beautifully strong..until Boaz arrives.
Bless you pastor for giving younger women as well as older females whom they are lacking in so much spiritual knowledge which God as given, but they ignore. The enemy has deceive in many ways.
I deserve to be soft, feminine, protected, and provided for by the right man. 🙌🏾
AMEN!
Say It!!
Me too at age 48.
So true!
Me too at 52
I'm 49, I will be 50 in March. I've realize that I much rather be by myself. Too many men are trying to find a place to live. Or he expect you to give him husband privileges, and he is not even a good boyfriend. I'm not taking care of a man child. Nor will I settle just to say I have a piece of man. Nope, it's not worth it.
I hope you will get what your heart desires. I hope I will also. We deserve to love and be loved and in a healthy relationship 💜🙏
Try foreign men, those that have their status okay.
You are very right.
You are so correct.. A lot of ladies are targets because of our careers..if you have your own home and retirements. There are lots of males not on our same levels. There are afraid of us. Ladies we have to protect our access
You resonated what I think.
My mom remarried at 59 & she is still married at 89. So yes its possible to find love.
Impressive
what is the point of getting married late.
That’s a soul mate
Awesome, love can come at any age.
Im 60 and mostly comfortable on my own but I sure would like the company of a nice gentelman. Happy for your mother
I am grateful to have found this ministry. I am 52. Im waiting on my husband. I took 7 years to grow internally - no dating, NO sex, no lies, no games. This is my season and i am clear about what i desire. I am already excited knowing my God-fearing husband is seeking me as well.
Same here,I thank Bishop for the wisdom.
May I ask how you stayed strong in your faith and abstained from sex?
@@candace4016 so firstly There is a difference between celibacy and abstinence. I’ve been celibate for six years and a couple of months but I’ve been Practicing abstinence for about five or six months. Celibacy means no form of intimacy no toys gadgets Fondling masturbation or any of that …. No problem for me because I had to overcome trauma in order not to form trauma bonds and to purify myself and removed energies from my downline… however, because I was hurt so many times in the past it was easy to give up. Recently I was afraid that I wouldn’t enjoy sex but I know that being married that’s going to be required therefore I had to learn about tantra sex and the art of making love by understanding my own body. I have still never used any gadgets or toys but I’ve learned a lot more about my body and I’m grateful for the mindset I’m in today. Watch our live show on Sundays at 7 PM central on Facebook.
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My mother remarried at 83.
won't he do it 💃🏾🙏🏾💕
Wow! Then there's hope for my mom who has been praying for a 2nd husband.
Wow!
God will for fill the desires of your heart! Your mother gives other women inspiration.
Jeannie Gee. Awesome! So happy for your mom. I'm 61 and that gives me hope.
This was a GREAT TOPIC!
My Dad told me when I was in High School if a man can't give you more than what you have you don't need him.
You're so lucky! My dad wasn't around to tell me anything about men. When i was younger especially my teens I yearned for it!
I'm a witness. I didn't have a dad around to tell me that, I had to learn the hard way, but that is the sho nuff truth!
@@sjay19babybaybay93 Hi Jay, I have a 15 yr old dtr, no dad around ccx raised her on my own, & neither do I bring any man around her, too busy working, schooling and just being her parent. Your words captured my attention, about how you yearned for your fathers presence perhaps dating wisdom. As a single mom, what is your best advice/ wisdom would you share with me, so that I try not to fail in such sensitive time of her life. While I do feel I have a whole lot of wisdom in so many ways, to share with her, & do my best, so far she is a great teen& very respectful, I m sure there are and will be many blind spots& dont want to be caught off guard. It would be nice to hear other women's insight or even those that didn't have a father figure. Thank you
@@dragonfly3015 Don't sugar coat. Be straight with her when it comes to men. Tell not to be so trusting with men and let her know how special she is. In addition to teaching to set boundaries for herself so she can continue to aim high in life. Let her listen to Pastor RC Blakes, he tells it like it is! She needs to see value in herself. That when she encounters feelings for a boy she will know how to conduct herself when she is away from you! Tell her all the games men will play to manipulate her for sex and the mind games men induce to get her to breakdown and give in to their wants
@@sjay19babybaybay93 In agreement Thank you..🤗Im frequently forwarding this stuff and quotes too. So far, Im happy to say, she does listen to what I send her, bcs she will talk about it in our conversations. I pray over her without cease...thank you so much...
Golden nugget for me: “Don’t dumb yourself down but calm yourself down”
"Golden nugget" indeed!🙌🏾
🙌🏽🙋🏾♀️ Unfortunately, I did🤦🏽♀️
@@healingonesmindset no condemnation, now you know. God bless you for your confession. You rise 🙌
Hi Dr Blake
A WORD!!!
Im 50. A veterinary surgeon. Been a single mom for 21 years. Definitely pushed into the masculine role after guys who were not up for the role. That’s been the most eye opening thing. The masculine and feminine. Never thought I could get back to the feminine easily but when you find a masculine man it’s easy :)
Why would should a masculine man settles for an old used up damaged woman when he could find a nice young fertile woman with no miles. Do men a favor and stay away from them.
Am 57 have lived with a man who has never provided for me and my children he is a house husband for 20years now good father now the children are grown and out of the next
Sounds like you want a provider not a lover.
There always a lover and a friend out there.. Just just have to open your eyes and look ...You have to give benefit of the doubt.. there is no way all the eggs be rotten they good ones in the basket.. Just look
@@AndyAkpan-wf9kk an old woman's eggs are rotten cuz she's too old. She's not fertile anymore. just damaged goods.
"Call a thing a thing. Don't try to make a husband out of a clown."
Now that's saying something.
Clown, idiot, worthless BS etc etc etc
Lol
Be careful of the one's who call themselves a man of God as well.
They are the worst
Absolutely!!!!
So true!
Most definitely!
Absolutely true
Better to wait long, than marry wrong. The right relationship will negate any ‘lost’ time
Amen
So true!
Yesssss!
Yup!
True
1. Don't date out of need.
2. Never hide yourself to make a man comfortable.
3. Be aware of masculine n feminine energy.
4. Make your intentions clear.
5. Call a thing a thing. Can't make a husband out of a clown
6. Be with a man of depth.
It's not my job to make a man feel comfortable by hiding who I am! That position right there nearly killed my soul...
Hm I feel u yes iam 40 years and I will be honest I have already come to grips that it's me and God I havent achieved much because of my choices running behind men however I am doing it all on my own at this point I will love to be married but waiting on God I am in a relationship but hm it's gone no where for 12 years me and God 2 mths and it will be over cant do it any more cant hope or believe.Wabt to go back to college to improve myself it feels as if I am starting all over and hmm I am ok
@@extrememelonspillageyesyes730 Its It's ok to start over.
@@sweetielee9193 but it's not ok to be trading your d@maged goods for a high quality man.
After 40 many men are divorced at least once and looking for a girlfriend or housemate but not marriage, unfortunately... and the never married ones are never married for a reason 😔
Jan: Not necessarily, I saw a never-married man whom I had dated through an agency a few years earlier (as he was 47). At that point in time, he was desperate, nervous,, immature, unstable and scruffy-looking. Those few years later he had developed into a dashing, calm, self-confident, smart-looking man, probably through the help of therapy of some kind.
@@LA-wv7gf how old is this man u speak of?
these comments are so discouraging.... :(
A lot of men and women not married over 40 for many reasons.
Yes the dusty man child are
I will not hide my age...every day above ground is a blessing!!!
Amen
Amen
God bless you you're doing a great job.
Good advice Reverend Blake's you're backing experience what scriptures from the Bible amen
@@Mnkems lol
As a single 45 year-old Caucasian woman, i just found this very comforting. No false promises, but some reminders to be strong and avoid compromising on what really matters. Thank you very much, Pastor Blake.
@MB-iv4mq Interesting. Are you asking for my point of view as a woman, or are you asking for validation of your point of view as a man who would like the women he dates to answer his questions? Every marriage should involve partners who bring something to the table. I don't think every date should necessarily have to be about questions like that, though. Sometimes, it's flattering and gives a woman hope to know that a man plans to offer her something if she loves him. I'm not sure why, but if the woman does not have a ready answer to your question about what she brings to the table, it could be because she thought you were trying to court her and impress her, not turn the tables and expect her to do that to you. Hope you meet someone who brings a strong spirit of mutuality to your dates in future.
Why is the race mentioning necessary?
@@Fillemexicaine36 Hi. I don't remember why I included it, but in looking over the TH-cam channels, you see people who seem to share the same race as the speaker. In mentioning it, which it was of course not "necessary" to do, one might emphasize that his message resonated beyond what might be presumed to be his expected audience. He would probably not be surprised at that. The comment was meant to emphasize unity. I noticed that you include a nationality in your TH-cam identifier. So perhaps sometimes it is worth bringing up cultural and/or racial identifiers. Sometimes it is not. Thank you for reading the comment. Have a wonderful rest of your week. Take care!
The only projects I'm accepting now deal with creating a home. No more "build-a-man" for me.
Build-a-man are for weak women who don't value themselves. I watched some friends pay half rent/mortgage and the dude is banging out their backs. That is shameful to get your back banged out and you contributing financially for the roof over your head. Hell To The No! My father said. "If a man asks you for $1.00, he ain't no good." Praise God, I have never had a man ask me for money nor given a man a dime. Real men don't pimp women.
Ditto... To no more build a man
Amen!!
NO MORE!!! 🙌🏾
@@blksunshine2206 😂😂😂 that's so real.
I'm 46 and I'm still vibrant, lively, fun, working on my purpose and career, and I want a partner, a King. I don't need one.
Teee... where are you?
Girl!! You don't want a mummy's boy.
With a mommy's boy you'll need a teaspoon and a wheelbarrow.Lol
Me too girl.
Jannett, you are in the recycle teenagers age group.
“We don’t have to make a man comfortable” AMEN!!
So true why make him comfortable when he is suppose to be the provider? Not so!
AMEN!!
@@rosettajones1161 mens don't have to be woman provider
@@ivanfunctionx8431 Absolutely not if he is not married to her. And she shouldn't provide for him either.
@@rosettajones1161 n kk Jim
You will never be comfortable in something that is too small for you!!!!! Oh Glory! Thank you SO much. I was raised by a woman who taught me it was my duty to please a man under all circumstances. It was my mom! It took me up to 63 years to realize she was clueless. So grateful for these precious videos. Thank you Pastor.
She was but you wouldn't blame her... But thank God your eyes got opened
I’m 56 years old and so happy by myself. I have the best king in my which is “Our Lord.”
Me too! But He said He wants to love me through a man also.
I wasn't ready. I am in process of being prepared for the one HE has for me.
He is establishing Kingdom marriages in this season. If youbare open to getting married, ask Him about it and He will prepare you for the one He created for you too!
Amen
"Never concern yourself with running someone off.... You got to be clear"
"If he run off he needed to be run off"
Thank you for the confirmation
True! I state up front what I expect and want and let him choose whether or not he wants to stay!
So right
POWERFUL 💪
truth!
I
NEVER had an issue with my age. In fact I feel more sexier and secure in my skin the older I get. It's called aging with grace! Bless! #40thisyear
Getting 36 this year - but still - have to learn and better earlier than to late.
Me too. Born in 82
Hi I'm 58 and I am more comfortable and love my age now, then I did when I was in my 20s and 30s, I love my body all my curves and my looks
Me too!!! I just turned 40 this past May and honestly I am ready to settle down !!
Amen 🙌🏽💯
I am 54 years old I use to want to be married so bad but now I am so comfortable with my relationship with the Lord and serving him, I don’t have to be married I am in a good place enjoying my life, I love being single❤️❤️❤️
“ You are never going to be comfortable in something that is too small for you..”
Mercy! A whole WORD!!!
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I'm going through that right now with my SMALL job and friendships.
You are so true,
Riight! Girl, a WHOLE WORD!
Yes! TRUTH INDEED
My Mom remarried at 51 they are celebrating 27 years of Marriage, he's a wonderful step dad and GrandDad! My Aunt remarried around 60, and they stayed together until he passed at 80, the stories are endless, just like love.... Thank you for this message and all the others Pastor Blakes!!!!
Thank you! Your comments are inspiring!
This will happen for me 🙏🙏🙏
Sweet. Thanks for sharing. Wonderful to hear.
I married the 3rd time at 53 and he is just like he was the first, my true soulmate we have been married 7yrs now wouldn’t choose no one over him. It will be to death do us part
@@JM-yf5rt Thank you for your wisdom.
I am 66 years young and proud of it!
Wish I had listened to you years ago❤️🙏. Now I understand the mistakes I have made!
Dating After Forty...
1- Never date out of need.
2- Never hide yourself to make a man comfortable.
3- Be aware of masculine feminine energy.
4- Make your intentions clear
5- Call a thing a thing
6- You've got to ask grown men type questions.
I love the "Be on the same frequency" and the bengay tube lawrd A Massi...
Love you Bishop and lady Lisa🙏🏾❤️ Once again what a insightful confirmation tools to laying down good foundation for the dating scene, not many touch on this subject I appreciate it...
Great Grace to you Bishop and the work ahead, we so🙏🏾for you and your family and ministry...
Thank you
@@monaedawson4523 You're very welcome Queen 🙏🏾💞
God bless you for putting that down
@@bitorwaliz2317 🙏🏾You are very much welcome dear
Thank you for capturing these words of wisdom.
“Don’t allow yourself to date out of need.” ✔️ I’m grateful that I’m in a good place where I don’t “need” a man but desire to share my life with someone.
YUPPA!!!! IN TOTAL AGREEMENT WITH THAT POINT!!!!💥💥💥💯💯💯💯 THE ONLY MAN I NEED IS JESUS🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Yes 💯 and it should always be like that at any age.
Amen
I’m so happy you found it useful for ppppppp
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"This is not the day, nor the time, for a woman to depend on a man for her life line."
Yes
It’s not your job to make him comfortable, it’s his job to make you comfortable. Facts 👏🏾
It's no one's job to make either feel comfortable .
An this is the absolute Truth
@@user-im1kr6yy1g wrong, the man needs to.
@@Jane5720 he doesn't owe you a thing other than to act respectful and dignified. Any expectations you might have beyond that are your issues not his.
@@user-im1kr6yy1g and you have the right never to bother with him again
Be careful of feminine men, and masculine women. Today's society is soooo messed up! 😥😢
So true
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Nutritional Balancing Science helps w that
I’m 41 I get so angry when I see these young girls driving & the guy’s siting on the passenger side with the seat laid back to the floor, or the woman pulling out her EBT card to pay for groceries & he’s putting them in the basket. I’m sorry (not in all cases) but if a lady has to have an EBT card then why are you there she shouldn’t be receiving food stamps with you in her life as her man/husband! Just some things in our communities today that irritate the heck out of me!
It's not getting any better
I'm 70, widow and I'm believing to marry again thank you so much
for the 7 points great information.
I was eight years older than my husband and it worked for us so I'm open and excited to see what God will do for us. I trust God
Amen
O m g.
How About 🤔 ❓️ 27 year s older in love ❤️ sex👎 👎 we choose to love God and wait .
Until we are married.
We've been married
And devices
What says You.
I'm sure your too old to have kids again. What good are you now that you've become aged damaged goods? You don't stand a chance against younger women. Men will look right past you now.
Don't mistake a sexualship for companionship or relationship
But it helps if men are interested in having sex with you even if they don’t want a relationship with you.
Perfectly said
Amen!!!!
It isn't worth it in the end.
Let God bless your dating, engagement & marraige in abundance instead of another ungodly affair.
God's got to better for you when we believe, prepare & have a good happy life & love to share & he has it to give to you for you to receive from quality man that's in submission to God you can be ❤ together with on God's good plans he will bless & not sin, foolishness & weakness that pulls us down
Be lifted up on the same page for a life time of marraige & the power & enjoyment in your life of good choices with good results for you.😊😀💝
@@narcabusevictimgermany9687 no cause that's about hump & dump, failed
Affair & fornicating out side of God's will having sex out side if holy matrimony & it's not holy or blessed & will end sadly for no good reason but being used temporarily & pulling down a woman's & man's self respect & purpose in life. 👎 NO NOT, NO NOT GOOD .
FINDING SOME ONE ATTRACTIVE EVEN WHEN YOU DON'T MATCH UP IS COOL.
SHUT 🚪 DOOR ON SEXUAL THOUGHT TO JUST USE HER!!!
I am 73 years old and in a good relationship. I have no problem with telling my age. I love your teaching. We do things together. He is a jewel.
Oh wow. I'm happy for you. How did you meet? I know this was 4 months ago. Sure hope you see this
So happy for you
@@sweetdiva590 We met online. I prayed and asked God for someone to talk to and I beleive he gave me who I am talking to. God has done a great deal in my life. I came from an abusive husband. My husband passed in 2004. I stayed away from.any relationship until now. Now I am able to talk to someone. He encourages me. He adds to my life and I am grateful. Thank you for your wonderful teaching and counseling for women and men. I can tell you and your wife are solid people and firstly jointed together as a three fold cord and that is as it should be. God bless you both.
Go head Ms Dorothy!
@@MoniqueBoea thank you for your support. Coming out of a bad marriage and being single took me some time to trust someone else.
I totally agree! 48 and proud of my age, I have been celibate for 5 years and I don’t need a man, I am the prize and if he is not worthy of me he can just go away!
It is good that you are proud of your age because you are still young. Being celibate for 5 years is great and if you rather not be with anyone that is your preference. I think being with someone who would love you authentically is a good thing because it is ideal to be with someone to share your lives together in every aspect. However, if he is not what you need and going to be excess baggage then yes he should go away as in "fast." Not worth your time or anyone else's.
This is another masculine energy.
Same x
I have been over three years and counting
Good for you, I've been celibate for 15 and I don't need no one to hold me up.
‘You cannot equate dating to sex’ - I love this ❤️ & sex often complicates things & it’s actually traumatizing to engage in casually for anyone looking for something deeper
Very powerful and clear 💪
ON POINT!!!!!! REAL TALK AMEN!!!!!💯💯💯💯💯✊🏾✊🏾
Yes right I have just cut all that out as well realizing finally that if I really want that type of high level spiritual relationship i have to put off sex until i find that
I don’t know how long ago you’ve been teaching women! Wish I had this wisdom many years ago! Thank you for helping women open their eyes and save them from unnecessary pain and heartbreaks! Thank you!! You’ve changed my life in just a few weeks!! I’m worthy and deserve love and Joy!! God is Love! Love oneself always!
Girl!!Yes!
Li bmk
God Bless u much ,You don't know how much you have opened my eyes
Okkkkkk
he's Good
“IF YOU NEED A MAN, YOU DO NOT NEED A MAN!” I AGREE 💯
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Right
Ladies know your worth and don’t be afraid to remind men of your value.
Just tuned into your video, I’m listening.
If we have to remind him of our value, then he would not have valued us in the first instance. As women, we have to keep our worth and value at the forefront of our minds; lest we allow an unworthy suitor to cause us distress. No more broken consciousness...embrace the queen within and reign graciously with God at the centre of our being.
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I refer to what was stated in a previous message about being desperate!
🙏🏿Thank you very much, Bishop..
I've learned in my decades of living to never need a man, but be a woman a man needs..
💃I am THE PRIZE!!!🏆
You are 100 percent right. Bon
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how many other guys were you "the prize" for? Too bad you don't have what men value in women anymore. You got too many miles on now. Your car from the prize. Your more a liability. The best thing a woman can give a man is her youth.
A man need a woman and a woman need man... Reason why eve was created for Adam because they both need themselves
@@AndyAkpan-wf9kk too bad eve messed it up.
I don't need a man but i do want that companion that partner in my life. I'm good on my own and I refuse to settle for less than I deserve.
Yesss girl, I always tell my family members that too; I don’t NEED a man, I WANT a man!
True
If he can't add to me I refuse for him to take away at 41
@@denisecox8683 Exactly @55.
Yes Girl .Me too.
Brilliant Answer 👍
I’m 44 and dating is hard, Never hide yourself to make a man comfortable 💯 well said I’m going through a lot and is like I was sent to this platform for some spiritual food
The same here. I am turning 44 in March.
I have a cousin like this so sad
I love it!!
Wait, wait, waT waT u just say Did you say it's different for men than it is for woman? Surely not!!! If men can have sex so can a woman!!! Stop double standards. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
The shoe example got me hollerin!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I’m 38 but it’s never too early to learn. I’m knocking on 40’s door.
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My dad told me, if he is not adding to what you already got. You don't need no subtraction. I have a 17 year old son to raise. I am grateful for my father. The best advice he has given me.
I do not consider myself religious in fact normally I have been turned off by religion but when I hear you speak ,I hear logic and reason and I actually recommend you to my female friends who have issues with men treating them badly ,, I just want to thank you for your videos, they have helped me enormously
Yes he speaks very good logic I recommend him to my friends too❤
They have helped me also
This theology and philosophy can be for a Christian as well as a secular woman. All women should be following these concepst.
I mimic your sentiment. Love this man's teachings.
I just turned 50 last week and I’m single. I was married to a narcissist for 22 years, been divorced for 5 years but went back to him last year and ended after 2 months. I’m still trying to heal. I’m content being alone. Yes, it gets lonely at times, it gets hard.. but, I’m not settling ever again. I thank God for you Pastor Blakes, I’m learning more about myself and my worth.
Sending LOVE and light to you as you heal. May Divine Love come to you🌞
@@tarabeverly3680 thank you so much ♥️
It’s hard but you’ll heal, it just takes space and time. I survived a 13 year (narcissist )marriage. Happily single over 10 years:) still learning myself, improving my mental and spiritual health# loving me never felt so good😊
I was in a similar situation sis! I feel you. Stay strong and don't compromise your standards!🤗
@@t.jordan2467 thank you so much for sharing it’s refreshing to know I’m not alone♥️ we will get pass this!
Me and the guy I been dating for 15 months today just ended officially today what he had to give was not enough of what I require Im a wife..
Billitra Phillips: I’m sorry that it didn’t go well for you. It hurts. I sympathize. Yes, queen standards say you deserve more. Praying for you. Hang in there. 👍🏽
CONGRATS! you Woke up sleeping Queen
@@andrealmorris8576 lol
I’m 45, and divorced after 20 years of marriage. Dating has been an experience. I never really had the chance to date as an adult. I’ve already made mistakes, however I’m grateful I found your teachings early in! I just began dating in the last 6 months.
AMEN, God Bless You
Your insight and advice are so relevant thank you.
Happy that you made this video Pastor. I’m 43 and in a new relationship after a divorce four years ago. He is a great man, kind, considerate, hard working, takes care of his kids. He never made me question his intentions even from the first conversation. After three dates he asked to be exclusive so we could focus on us and what potential our relationship could have without distractions. However in between I had many toxic experiences.. married men who lied and said they were single, men in their 40s wanting to be the player type and have a stable of women. Online dating is awful for me! I took some time to be intentionally single and focus on my kids, my faith, finances and career. When I was living my best life and feeling grateful about all of the blessings I’ve been given then along came this new man when I wasn’t even looking.
If he continues to be impressive at some point you’ll have to be honest with him about your reservations and why you have them. By all means don’t jump in head first. Take your time and verify.
I was single for 6 years and was cheated on two weeks ago. During the 6 years I never dated anyone. I was focused on my life, God, passions and my son.
He's a 49 year old player! He said he wanted a good woman. Well he had one.🤦♀️ Now I'm healing from heartbreak.
@@divinedigitalpro praying for you. It was him being a grown boy and not a real man. He will regret losing you while you live your best life.
@@RCBlakesJr. thanks pastor. Him and I have had many open and deep conversations about why our past relationships haven’t worked out. About the issues not the specific person. He knows I have hesitation about getting married again as he would like one day. I am taking my time like you said and enjoying the process of spending time together and experiencing new things together. I feel in my heart he is a good man and all of his actions have matched up with his words thus far.
@@divinedigitalpro There is a pastor who helped me and my family with our Problems +(234)90.25.71.21.42 WhatsApp him
I believe another issue is that women don't do is vet the men properly. Who is his family? What's his relationship like with his mother? Who are his friends? You could be dating Charles Manson.
Having a strong male figure is more important to me than his relationship with his mother, at the end of the day if he has a bad relationship with his mother he more than likely didn't have a strong male figure as well. Even if he did have a good relationship with his mother, if he's a mama's boy with no strong male figure it usually presents a different set of issues.
If a man has an unhealthy attitude or holds resentment towards his mother, he will have unhealthy relationships with every woman he encounters. The same thing with women and their relationships with their fathers. Unhealed trauma begets more trauma.
Vetting is critical, people really are not doing this!
I wish I had known that. Another tidbit is learning how he treats his mother and sisters
@@jank358 AMEN!!
10:58 IF YOU NEED A MAN....YOU DON'T NEED A MAN!!!! Whew Chiiile.....#thatsaword💜
Yes, that part !
What a great explanation about women dating younger men. My marriage was not ordained by God, now I'm divorced. I invited God to be my matchmaker in my next relationship.🙂
What man in his right mind would settle for an old used up woman with miles and damage on her when he could find a nice young fertile woman with no miles on her? You don't stand a chance against a younger still fertile woman now.
Cute & fine won't pay the bills.
You better say it! Tuh 😒
Amen!
AMEN TO THAT
height and weight???
@@ericthered1140 go back 2 Kevin Samuels page with that Sir.
Wisdom: Dating is two people coming together to explore each other's soul to seek compatibility. Amen!! 🙏🙏
Good word in season!!🗣🗣🗣
Teach...
"There is someone who will love you for you" R.C Blake
I must start believing and trusting God that it is possible.
I’m me,65 yrs old, ready to live life the way God wants. If a man is apart of my life, let it be. But I am not going to settle for anything less than I am
I heard that a lot but everyone dont get their desire in life some women's never find a mate in life I have bad experience with men I a pretty women beauty Is a. Curse
I found this video tonight. I am a woman with male energy. Divorced with a son to raise, I had to wear all of the hats. I want to flip on my feminine energy! Thank you for this video and all of your efforts to help us. 💜
What man in his right mind would settle for an old used up woman with miles and damage on her when he could find a nice young fertile woman with no miles on her? Why should another guy have to raise your kid? It's not fair or of benefit.
@@ez-g3090Wow…. Your negative opinion was unnecessary…
I do not want a man who i meet wants to take me to bed. With no commitment no boyfriend type. Surely no husband behavior. THEY wants to wear these masks to protect them from COVID-19 but not afraid of HIV- AIDS. ITS SO CRAZY TO ME.
Thank you so much for saying this.
Yeeeeessss, Ive been saying this to so many people....COVID IS SUCH A BIG DEAL...YET, people forgot about all these other serious STD''s. Oh, and we hear commercials making it sound like having HIV or AIDS is normal and ok...Its stull a serious disease.
@@dragonfly3015 very serious disease
That’s true!
Correct we become numb to the fact that these sexual diseases still unfortunately exist
Im afraid of them still.
I feel like I’m having a conversation with my father. Like RC is telling me things that he would tell his daughter.
What’s wrong with that?
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@@niecey7155 It seems like she's saying it in a good way.
Yes indeed!! That is why we're all here, for proper forward moving guidance from our spiritual father
Interesting video! We are an active couple in our 80's and are all about healthy aging. We still strive for a healthy body, a calm mind, and a positive outlook. And we feel better than ever! We are doing research for our new TH-cam channel and hope to inspire others. Learned a lot here. Thank you!
I have officially adopted you as the father I never had, please keep this good advice coming and thank you/bless you
He said " you wake up and realize you don't have a husband you have a son"..🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lawd Jesus I know the feeling!!
I’ve been there and done that. Immediately started living with someone else after our break up and we weren’t even divorced yet. He has always lived with a woman. These men are not strong enough to take care of themselves, but we want them to take care of us. We need to use logic and common sense
@@merrytunes8697 100% correct Sis. I am divorcing my man child as we speak! Lesson learned... LESSON LEARNED!!
Check mate!!!!
Had that. Now free thank God.
A Word in due season. I married at 20, divorced by 30. God was healing me as I raised a daughter, and I was pursuing my God given purpose. Married my BOAZ, at 51. At a point in my life where I was content whether I remarried or not. Widowed at 60, and healing again still content. Going to travel and live life, if God sends another great, if not great!
Hellooo susan
You mind us knowing each other ?
I’m tuff enough to wait until the day I get who God has for me.. it gets to me emotionally sometimes but I know and trust the process. Thank you for the truth.. and so be it!!!
I wish I had this lesson taught to me a young women. I saw all the red flags, my instincts was always correct. But because what I saw was not what it seemed I continued down the path. I am grateful for the Lord opening my eyes and teaching me what I needed to know. I am very happy being single because it helped me to reflect and evaluate myself. I have boundaries and I understand my worth. I'm in love with the woman I've become ❤️
You cannot afford to continue to take on projects. In your 40s and Beyond!
You shouldnt take on a project regardless what your age. The pain is still the same. So lets get over the age thing !
Ever
Being a single mom of 3 for 25 years, the masculine/feminine energy makes so much sense. Like you said, I didn't ask for this", but it's my responsibility to shift my mindset. No wonder I attract underdeveloped boys in men's clothing. I don't want to be hardened anymore...
Believe you can have and deserve a High Quality Man. Yes. A Sucessful Man who can actually help you. Think Big. No more Dusty. 😉
@@joyce1905 I appreciate that. Thank you for your reply.
@@CrystalSicily What's a Dusty?
@@Melly16yr10 A Man with no job or ambitions. Stay far away from them. 😉
Younger men see you as sweet sugar mommy.
I am way past 40 . . . 65, in fact. I appreciate and enjoy your commentaries. Still vibrant, faith-filled and open to love for the next 20-30 years.
Yes indeed.....
Me too at 59
I truly appreciate this! I divorced after 16 years of marriage and although I don’t know anything about dating the Holy Spirit has guided me and this video is validation. 🙌🏾
Thank you for talking to us (female ). Sometimes we settle for a physical relationship.
What man in his right mind would settle for an old used up woman with miles and damage on her when he could find a nice young fertile woman with no miles on her? Sorry but you don't stand a chance now.
@@Idklolhelp at her age she's lucky to get a cat or dog to keep her company.
WOW, I am 41 but I wish I could have heard this 20yrs ago. However you're right... I probably wouldn't have listened. This is so powerful. Thank you
📠 fax. You're not alone.
What man in his right mind would settle for an old used up woman with miles and damage on her when he could find a nice young fertile woman with no miles on her? Sorry but you don't stand a chance now.
@@ez-g3090 I've been married for 17yrs. Just because I wish I could have heard this 20yrs ago, doesn't mean I'm available, clown!
I thank God I’ve learned that, I don’t need a man to validate my womanhood!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
When you know better ACT like it. It's a process but rewarding
So true
It definitely is sis. I've recognized and learned better and it's definitely a process. Hope you're well ❤️
Pastor ,your laughter is so contagious .It’s always such a pleasure to listen to you.Keep up the good work .God Bless you.😊
I never had a dad or brother who guided me, if I had you as a positive role model in My life I could've avoided so many life snafus ! Bless you for sharing your God given wisdom! Watching you now as a grown woman I'm watching as if you're my brother or uncle giving all the golden nuggets of life!! Thank you
This message needs to be played in the church’s. A lot of Christian women are dating and having sex. A lot of men in the church are not looking for a good woman; but a freak that go to church and willing to commit adulterous behaviors to get a man.
Amen!
Thats it🤞
😂, there lukewarm like book of revelation lord speak about the church lukewarm! Carnal minded
churches....
@@ericthered1140 Thanks but you get my point
It's my last year of the thirties. It is what it is now honey take it or leave it. I am raising my standards. I do have the masculine energy because I do the things that are labeled as a man's job. Finally someone understands why women have masculine traits.
I’m like you Candace! Also 39 and have been so self-reliant all these years.
Now I understand why I embody so many manly traits. It was not my intentions but I refused to NEED a man. They were just not reliable at least not the ones I encountered.
@@rhondadbush IKR strings attached and wrong motives. Now I decline any kind of help regardless. Yes, I have been done wrong, but I allowed it.
@@solochica81 👏👏👏
Well miss theirs a time and place for a woman being independent and strong! But remember when God sends you a good God fearing man. You going to have too put that masculinity up!🤔🤔🙄
Im still learning at 64
Me too at 68
@@janellamurphy4212 Me too at the same age...👍🏾
I'm so glad to have found this! Social media discriminates against women over 25 or 30. There is hardly anything positive regarding women over 40.
That's what women get for waiting till they have become damaged goods to try and find a man. Now you have no real value to offer a man.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Im proud of my age, glowing older is a privilege that sadly not everyone gets to have
Amen
TRUE
What about teach the men to Recognizing the real Woman for him
Well I what about teaching the men to recognizing wife material for a man
This video’s title needs to be revised: WISDOM FOR WOMEN DATING AFTER THE AGE OF 30
Women at age 30 need to know this and start mentally practicing and knowing these jewels 💎 of wisdom and apply these golden coins of wisdom and common sense to their daily lives. Such as: “Call a thing a thing”; “know your worth”, “let a man be a man”... PERIOD!!!!!! Patience, no settling!!!
It's like being unequally yoked..I once dated a men who didn't understand my worship and called me extra..I thank God 🙏 I know who I am in you❤️
NO DOUBT..
This brought tears to my eyes as a 38 year old woman. Thank God for allowing you to teach women like me, some of us don't have fathers or men in the family that they can look up to, thank you
This is a good counseling session for all women!
Amen .. wow .. this is breathtaking and such inspirational and motivational.. 🙏🙏
Very true, Pastor Blakes is a great teacher.
Totally in agreement!!!
Dating and desperation are a bad combination!!!!
Absolutely true which is why it is never to show that you are desperate to a man.
"You will never be comfortable in something that is too small for you." Now that's a word RC Blakes!
YOU ARE RIGHT, IF YOU ARE TO DESPERATE , A MAN WILL TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU EVERY TIME IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER
"A man has to intrigue you intellectually". This is deep.
God directed me to your channel! Thank you for the work you do!
Yes i believe that to.. Rc videos kept coming up on my TH-cam page and i didn't kno who he was. Then one day of recent i click on the video and my life is changing for the better. Many blessings to you sis on your journey.
Same here ....
All in God's timing...
I'm about this and I get called defensive all the time because I shuts nonsense down.
Lol, folk forever call women names when we stand up for ourselves & don't act like a dummy..lol
Yes sis, let them call you what they like cos they mad they couldn't use you. When someone gets mad or bitter cos of that, all it does it shows his true intentions.
Good for you!
And continue to shut it down when your spirit tells you that something is not right..
I get called names too, Or they assume I'm bitter or some is a wrong with me!!! I just know my worth and too busy being a parent, my career and focusing on bettering myself!!!
I have a whole lot of a masculine energy because I have been alone for so long. So when I meet a man it's difficult at times. It feels weird to meet a masculine man because they take over, it's an awkward situation for real. I have had to learn to pull back. It feels nice not to have to do everything by myself.
I have masculine energy because all the men in my family choose to take a less masculine position. They are okay with a woman taking the lead, but I absolutely despise that! I’ve just come to the realization of how this has impacted all my relationships over the years - including my marriage! In fact, my ex-husband recently declared that I’m just looking for someone to take care of me after he realized that a reconciliation at this stage would entail him having to step up to the plate and position himself as the head of the household - he wasn’t ready! Lord help us!
I get that. Sometimes people think I'm gay because I hold both roles in some ways. That really hurt.
Yes, I have that same issue. I have to remind myself, when I want to jump out of the car quickly, instead of letting the man open the door.
Yes I know exactly what your talking about
I love this video Pastor! I’m 38 and that’s always been my mindset. Never feel like you need a man. Pour into yourself and give yourself everything you desire from a man. A man is a chaser/hunter, he knows what his desires are. I’ve learned lessons in relationships. Always let a man be a man, never force anything. When a woman is in tune with herself mentally, spiritually and sexually, she will carry herself as such. It’s nothing wrong with waiting.
❤ am 37 years
Truth Indeed AMEN 🙏
I Thank God that you doing this topic I am 43 years old and I am actually afraid to start dating again, I was in a bad situationship 8 months ago I am content in my singleness, will allow God to bring my husband..
Me too. Two weeks ago my ex cheated on me. I was single for 6 years and this mess happened.
Same here as well .
@@divinedigitalpro Sis GOD 🙏 is preparing your GOD designed husband, at this precious time enjoy your time with GOD immerse yourself in Our Father presence, glean close to GOD, I love my time with the LORD 🙏 the most important and my best relationship.....
@@divinedigitalpro He did't cheat on you what he did was cheated himself out of a good relationship with you. Cheating is a choice he made all by himself.
This guidance applies to women of all age. Wish I had heard all this when I first started dating. Would have saved me from a lifetime of hurt & disappointment. Lessons learned, better late than never. Thank you! 🙏
Bishop, you truly dropped wisdom seeds and your right on point. There are so many bitter women who wasted their precious times with losers and ignored the warning signs because they were penis possessed. Lord Christ Jesus, bless every women who is on this page recognize her priceless value and choose only a KING!
Ooooh Mercy- not “penis possessed” I am 💀😂
This WAS me. Love bombed...discarded..Soul Tied to the 10TH POWER...I am in relationship rehab! I'm a Narcissist Abuse Survivor and Pastor Blake's has been guiding me out of this "fog". I CAN SEE CLEARLY NOW!! I will continue on this path...it's hard..it gets LONELY..but at the end of the day...I know...My King Awaits🤴🏾
We must begin to understand that we set the standard. We are the power and to use that power in the way that aligns with godly principles, engineers the kind of men that we long for. But, there are too many women willing to compromise
@@lady6164 Well said, "Far too many women compromise" out of loneliness, fear, desperation, no self-worth or self-esteem, delusional minds wanting to believe these men disrespecting them truly cares about their well-being and welfare. I did a bible study on Menopausal Women lacking on being a role model to younger women by their horrible actions chasing men married and single. There were women who sat in the front row at church before the pandemic with no panties trying to tempt a very single handsome pastor. I witness it all working with many Mega Ministries. It's not always the man's fault some women are completely out of their mind.
@@faithlives5643 jezebels. one of the reasons i dont go to church. the places are riddled with the worst kinds
It was great listening to you. At 43, all you're saying is accurate. I didn't have that mine set in my 20s and most my 30s. Took learning the hard way. Better late than never
Wow the masculine energy with women is real and we won't admit it through no fault of our own but it's true
Balancing your masculine energy as a women is a building block in receiving authentic love. Learning how, is a major 🔑.
"a clown in a crown does not make a king" felt 👏🏾 that 👏🏾 in 👏🏾 my 👏🏾 soul 🤦🏾♀️ whew chile
Just discovered these teachings recently. Thoroughly enjoy The Word presented in everyday language and situations. I’m 73; a widow that’s been celibate for (7) years; and have been a QUEEN all of my life. My King/my husband treated me as a Queen for (53) beautiful years - and I WON’T accept ANYTHING LESS! As I say: “YES - I’m SINGLE - and you’ll have to be AMAZING - to CHANGE THIS!”⭐️👑💜 Thanks for your encouraging words, Pastor!🙌🏽😇
Are you saying you were 13 when you and your king got together? 73-53-7=13.
@Vondrajones8790 I'm glad to hear you say that, because recently I've been feeling the same way. I thought I needed to be married after 32 years and a divorce. But now somehow I feel like the longer I'm single the happier I am.
This is absolutely refreshing. Why did I not hear this kind of conversations when I was in my twenties? Oh Lord I hope young women listen to you heed your advice. Please keep them coming you are a true blessing Pastor.
You are not old once you live your 20s!
I’m in my 30s and I woke up in my twenties to the truth . I often think I’m crazy bc I just want to stay single until my children are grown . I’m also introverted .. so I read energy well and go off of what a man fail to say by his level of conversation and body language . I’m fully vested in my life and spiritual journey and at this level of peace . The only time I’m willing to change my level of peace is if a man can elevate my peace . Life is too short to be here hurting and broken over another’s persons choice . Don’t abuse your heart and soul life that .... blessing and love to each of us and RC Blake you are truly a godsend !!!
Sweetheart, any Mother would be proud to have a Daughter with your level of maturity and understanding of life at your age and stage of life.
Wow sis! I’m so very proud of you. You’re not crazy at all! I strive to get to the place of peace and self sustaining confidence that you have achieved. I’m an empath as well I’m my 30s but I’m just learning myself (after a 17 year marriage of unhealthy codependency) and how to not ignore my instincts when I identify red flags and negative energy.
Thanks for sharing your experience. Hopefully I will arrive there soon and we can walk tall and strong in all of our glory together!
I’ll be 58 next month..I was married for 14 years a long time ago..I would love to remarry..I’ve been single a while now..I miss companionship and sharing little things...
Same here ...married for 8 years...divorced since 2010. During that time...I dated several men but nothing to write home about. I am 53 years young.
Deep down I'd like a REAL AUTHENTIC connection with a high value man. Meanwhile...I continue to growbspirtually..work on ky health and purpose driven activities. Stay beautifully strong..until Boaz arrives.
@@deelightful6124 I will pray for you to connect with your Boaz..and you can pray for me to meet mine lol🙏lol...be blessed and have a great day🤗
@@candimero5634 can I be part of this “ prayer group “? Thank you
@@Chaneldavis779 absolutely!!!!🙏🙏🙏
@@Chaneldavis779 I wish I can get a partner
Bless you pastor for giving younger women as well as older females whom they are lacking in so much spiritual knowledge which God as given, but they ignore. The enemy has deceive in many ways.